That banner image at the top of your page here is highly misleading. It implies this is the place to come to get celebrity interviews. Anyone who's still subscribed now knows that this is now the place to come for shock docs telling you unless you change everything in your life you'll be dead in no time at all. Only 1 out of the last 20 videos here was anyone you'd vaguely call a celeb, and he's only a youtuber. UNSUBSCRIBED !!
Im looking for the poem that a guest (if it’s not Adam)?shared about “isn’t doing it"… ie: making a list is not doing it…announcing you’re going to do it is not doing it…Was it Adam or a different guest?
As somebody who suffers from lots of imposter thoughts, I really appreciated the idea that if a handful or more people believe in you, we should believe them. I will try to remember that as much as possible going forward
Man, I really Iike this guy. A psychologist and neuroscientist here. I will be reading his books from now on. Really enjoy content Ike this. Thank you Stephen. I love DOAC and I get so much out of your channel.
Successful people don't become that way overnight. most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life, 🙏🙏🙏
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time
yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
The insights on procrastination were spot on! For entrepreneurs, it's crucial to break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each. This approach reduces the overwhelm and makes it easier to start, which is often the hardest part.
Break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each. Break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each. Break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each. Plain and simple but oh so effective. I have set a reminder on my phone to remind me this every day . Thank you☺
@TheDiaryOfACEO Steven, there are so many famous/popular podcasters around but you are truly one of the best, if not the best I've come across. You allow your guests to speak without interrupting and ask intelligent questions at the right moment. Kudos and thanks for the great content. Really look forward to your podcasts.
Adam Grant has a resting smiley face. Love listening to him but looking at his face light up every time he cites his sources gives me even greater joy 😀
Didn’t we celebrate 4M subscribers two seconds ago? I blinked and we’ve hit 5M! So proud to be part of this family ❤ thank you for bringing incredible content every episode
@@indochinaconnex4308 I hope you heal from whatever hurt you. There’s no need to be nasty. The video was released 12 days ago and has 250K views which is incredible because it will continue to reach audiences as the days and months go by. Thanks for the engagement, you’re helping the channel 🤩🤩🤩🤩
After listening to Adam's discussion on disagreeable givers, I had a moment of clarity realizing that I fall into that category. Despite my genuine care for others and my proactive nature in wanting to assist them, I often find myself labeled as negative when I take initiative to rectify injustices or make positive changes. This insight has been invaluable in helping me understand myself better, acknowledging the complexity of my character and motivations. Thanks Adam!
That "you're negative" comment is BS, it takes awareness and insight to identify issues and takes TRUE positivity to improve the issue. Its a complete inversion of reality but its the prevailing perception and you have to find a balance or just be around folks that get it.
I think when you’re describing moderate or effective procrastination, it’s really what I think of as a “brain break”. If you keep pushing at something when you’re stuck, or tired, you won’t make progress in a positive direction. But, if you give yourself a “brain break”, you come back to it with some “fresh-ness”.
Would like to know more about "only children" as an only child. A professor and a writer. I wrote my first book in 6 months, but have been writing my second novel over 14 years. A combination of trying to write a sequel and standalone book that does have significantly better writing, but because of several personal losses (my mother's death, a direct hit by Cat 5 hurricane, and trauma at work), has meant disruptions to the creative progress and a nasty case of writer's block has made it feel like a Herculean task. I am going to finish this book because it drives me nuts leaving something so important to me uncompleted, but the anxiety, fear of failure, and self doubt have to go. Nothing is perfect and I have to give myself grace to finish the novel.
25:46 Loved this episode with Adam Grant. The understanding of perfectionism was really helpful to me. If I hadn't addressed my real struggle with perfectionism, I wouldn't take the risks that I have in my career. Imperfection still brings me anxiety. It's hard wired and a continuous process.
@TheDiaryOfACEO Adam did briefly mention survivorship bias a bit before talking about how surviving uncomfortable positions increases tolerance to discomfort. I wish he'd gone more into the way that the trauma for some does lead to heightened anxiety for risk taking because when a person lacks privilege they often can not afford risk. Adam only very briefly mentions the marshmallow study, and it seems important to expand more on aspects of privilege in relation to repeated trauma. When you've experienced the bad things over and over, you might just try to cope by attempting to not end up back there, rather than pursuing your full potential, or you might lack the energy for pursuit. That seems like it could indicate some difference between trauma or even capital T Trauma, versus repeated capital T Trauma, which can cause changes in the brain and body that are permanent or more difficult to overcome. There's probably an unknown bell curve formula of amount of trauma combined with privilege that a person is able to have before the effects are more negative than positive. I feel both motivated and dejected by this talk, because I recognize in myself the natural capacity for many of the qualities Adam points to in originals, but I started in poverty, never got out of poverty, and I've lost more than one job for too openly questioning authority because something they suggested didn't even make sense by their own purported morals and goals. At this point, I'm 31 years old and experiencing burnout so badly that my psychiatrist thinks I actually have undiagnosed autism, so I'm on a waitlist for testing, while the symptoms have already become fairly disabling from the toll of pushing myself for 31 years. Elon Musk, who also exhibits obvious signs of autism, some of which correlate to Adam's concept of an original, never had to deal with poverty or an abusive mother with schizophrenia or any of the other numerous challenges in my life that I'm not going to waste space listing. Elon Musk is a rich man, and I'm a poor woman, who has experience with being disliked by the financially secure men above me. My own resilience leads me to the hope that I can get back in the game and do something satisfying in the future. 31 isn't too old to have some measure of success. However, the fact that I'm currently disabled by autism symptoms after I've fought my whole life for improving my situation makes me really pissed off at the roles repeated trauma and privilege do play in this, and I think that it's morally necessary to spread that information to the Elon Musks of the world. Edit: I guess his focus is on analyzing the successes, so it makes sense that Adam wouldn't focus as much on the circumstances of "failures". It can just be frustrating to see things on the other side, knowing a large percentage of people will blame people like me for my own failure, because people without nuance believe that I either don't possess many of these qualities or that I have some innate flaw or made poor choices, and those things have led to my failure, making it entirely my own responsibility rather than a failure of larger society.
As the oldest of four, I've always felt like the "cowcatcher" of the family, the first to try and experience EVERYTHING, and to pass down to the others what I learned so they wouldn't make the same mistakes I made because I just didn't know going in.
@@123shotassame, the eldest in mine follows others blindly, doesn't question... often stuck with quite bizarre way of thinking without backed rationales
Dear Stephen, Before I discovered your channel, I had been thinking that CEOs must be inhumane, not necessarily because of their nature, but because you have to make so many difficult decisions that you become kind of desensitized. Also, power and money can spoil even the best people. You have, however, have shattered my illusions about that. You're always so compassionate and supporting, it's just a joy to see. Thank you.
Another possible theory regarding birth order could be that younger children experience more authority with older siblings and parents and look to "rebel" a bit more. Fantastic talk!
Omgggg yessss Adam Grant ❤❤❤ “You build your confidence by taking the leap 🙌 you become ready by putting yourself in situation that you don’t think you can excel at yet.” Huge fan of your books. I love how open you are about your experiences with diving and the kind of fear you’ve faced. Hearing about this from my hero gives me courage to have a bit more faith in myself to go outside of my comfort zone and try the things I’ve always said I wanted to do. thanks for another great interview Steven!!
When he said “if you have techniques for making discomfort less uncomfortable or if you know how to get comfortable being uncomfortable” my mind went 🤯🤯🤯 OMG!!! Huge nugget of perspective!!
100% true that most leaders are surrounded by “yes” people who never challenge them. I Love that Adam points this out and encourages challenge networks. Brilliant!! Fantastic interview!! 👏🏼👏🏼
Three important takeaways I often forget to live by: 1. Use skill power, not willpower: My gloss on this is that deferring gratification is more about developing skills to make doing the right things easier. For instance, engineer your environment to (a) add friction to starting time-wasting activities and (b) minimize distractions. 2. Know how good is good enough for the task at hand. Your time is limited and must be allocated across different projects. Where will additional effort or quality yield the highest long-term ROI? A perfectionist mindset is often a poor investment of time and effort. 3. Everyone has different life experiences and something to teach you if you're prepared to listen and learn.
Great guest, a pleasure to listen to him. Clear, Funny, positive, knowledgeable, well spoken - sets the standard for other speakers and you can see this in the cute spontaneous interactions as well
I have never considered mulling over a problem as procrastination. In the sewing community, when we come to a point where we are stuck or the project isn’t come out the way we envisioned, we put the project in a corner somewhere and come back to it at some point in the future, often reimagined.
Dreams are a huge help to me. I solve problems and conceive new ideas while I sleep. I find it saves time because I'm working and sleeping at the same time. The saved time gets used to implement ideas or to move ahead past where I was stuck.
I think risk taking can also be the result of being inexperienced and or younger, resulting in a kind of naive risk taking where you are unaware of the actual magnitude of the actual risk. Not knowing what you don't know. Risk taking can also be a result of desperation. Not just being desperate, but also having the kind of temperament that is good at innovating and "thinking outside the box", by people who naturally have a non conventional way of looking at a problem. A solution may seem to be riskier to others. because it's not familiar and not the conventional way of doing the thing. Wow, I followed you right down that rabbit hole. Thanks for the fun!
This channel was on 400,000 subs when I subscribed. Absolutely blew up. These conversations have helped me grow in so many ways as I know they will have in soooo many people. So I just wanted to say thank you to Steven and the DOAC team!! 💙🙌 x
I’m a painter and have never believed in “creative blocks.” I’ve always incorporated what I called productive procrastination into my painting practice.
I'm listening to this and I'm 21:20 mins into it, and can relate to ALL of it. From procrastination to using Google and questioning the status quo. Had to stop to write this so I can focus on the remainder of the talk.
Among other things, this inspired me to ask a few former staff, colleagues, and supervisors for input & advice about our time working together. New leadership level unlocked! Thank you! 🙏🏻
As the oldest sibling, my experience is also that I have grown up to be the most responsible of my siblings. I think a big part of the reason comes from me as the oldest having to take responsibility if something happens when I was together with any of my siblings. So even though I might not necessarily be the reason something goes wrong, because I am the oldest, I was the one who "should have known better". Was basically how it worked. So you start to think about managing risk for other people while growing up, because you know you will be at the line of fire by the end of the day.
I comment and like for the algorithm, so that more people listen this great conversation!!! I enjoyed it so much and learned so much! It was entertaining and light-hearted as well, with the jokes in between. Thank you Adam & Steven! 🙏
I love Adam! He doesn't know it but man the impact he had on my view of self and society has been phenomenal ever since I read Originals. He's one of those people that you just want to absorb every single word they say! Thank you, Steven and The DOAC team, for inviting him over! 💙
Mega interesting. Some points that resonates: The perceived tension between loyalty and honesty. Brainstorming vs Brainwriting. Pairing people to promote anonymity. Getting it right vs being right. Knowing what you are bad at. The importance of a Challenge Network. Being a more agreeable disagreeable giver :). And so forth. So many valuable thoughts. Thank you.
I'm a proscatinador who in addittion is very hard on himself... I am a reseacher so for me, everything is a project; at work and in life. Your concept about procastrination made me realize my procastination is not me sabotaging his flow. My procrastrination is indeed me planning, me researching. In many cases my procastrination is my analisis, my planning phase ;). Great invite, very nice epidosie. Thanks!
Steven, thank you so much for having this conversation. I'm a relatively new entrepreneur looking to build a company in the TTRPG space that not only permits creatives to lead successful careers and elevate their level of professionalism, but that also subverts the hackneyed uncaring, rigid business model.
This guy was so good! He’s got an incongruity in his face? He does have a kind of friendly (goofy) muppet’s? face, but when he stops talking, your side angles as he’s listening shows a searing intelligence in those eyes! He’s very intelligent and I can imagine on sight, it’s not immediately apparent! Those ice breakers he mentioned would really work for him!
Thank you so much. Your questions are perfectly aimed, you lead the interview in a way that the listener can follow & builds the concept & makes sense. You're a good listener. Straight thinking. I appreciate it!
I really loved this episode. I learned so much from the both of you. Just stumbled upon this podcast not so long ago and you share so many interesting people and topics work us! Thank you!
* I don't really blame people who panic. Lack of information can be a big hurdle. I've been making more than $21k passively by just investing through an advisor, and I don't have to do much work. Inflation or no inflation, my finances remain secure. So I really don't blame people who panic.
This is an amazing interview ❤. Adam, Steven; thank you! I’m not even done listening and I had to stop to comment (@1:12). I could write a few paragraphs on the learning. Going to have to listen again for sure 👍🏾.
“I thought I had to build my confidence in order to take the leap. That’s was completely backwards, you build your confidence by taking the leap.” Oof this hits hard for me. Currently starting my own business and having self doubt..
20:00 firefox better performers they stick longer 33:45 skills to choose such as endurance for getting out of comfort zone 52:00 everyone can be your teacher 1:23:00 seek teir advice and make them coaches 1:28:50 1:30:40 1:34:30 values vs beliefs identity, sense of self
Next week - how siblings outperform the first born . Week after that - how only child’s are child prodigies , & the week after that how’s its really better to not be born at all .
Thanks Steven, thanks Adam. Really good stuff. This video game me a lot of insight on the hidden potential in us, as well as a different perspective on leadership and integrity. Peace
Such a joy to listen to a) the intellectual expertise of someone like Adam. I know he teaches this stuff and writes books about it, which brings that fluency and depth of understanding that is beguiling. He is a true geek (a total compliment), a fellow introvert (yay) and someone who has and is making a significant contribution to our understanding of the human condition. And b) the annoying, yet also beguiling verbal reasoning skills of Stephen. I am not sure I have seen anyone truly listen so deeply and then come back with a counter comment so readily. Thanks both. It's slightly annoying to have given 1 hour and 46 minutes of heartbeats to this, but I'm so glad I did...
I did not realize the potential that I had until I took risks and faced my fears. Now I feel wonderful because I was bold and passionate. I was not afraid of failure. Only my uncle believed in me and my talent. I did not know that had had it😂
love the message " true leaders are the ones who help others succeed". The videeo game story took me back to the days my boys played all the time and I thought they were becoming zombies!
At the end, I immediately restarted this video and am already hearing concepts that I didn’t retain the first time. Thank you! You inspire me! Challenge me! Excite me! Thank you! On the journey to being a world class human!
It's again much about good old PARETO principle - on return on invested affects and on how much the specific topic or achievement matters at all, depending on context ofc.
Hello from sunny south of France ! I have not listen to the complete video yet but I stopped to remind any listener of the gratuit quote from the Host : "I've always wondered if my life is the poursuit of my potential or if my life is the creation of my potential". Sophie
"A true leader elevates..." Well, that's a first hearing that outside my head from someone else. I got a Switch on a projector screen and two controllers. I learned to lead in the military - by example. Take care of your peeps and they just take care of you like ya taught them something. They like to stiffle musicians, and I end up playing Godsmack only. Playing Godsmack with a classical twist on the piano - fun! Not a quiet way to rid the room of Narcissists, but it works. Alternatives? I'm all ears. Listening is one art I like to think I mastered. K, continuing on, I need to know how to stop attracting narcissists!
My three sons got scholarships. They had to maintain good grades to keep the scholarships. Graduated out of two of the best schools in my state. My father was one of eight siblings. All very smart.
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This 2% number is entirely based on your definition of success! By my definition, good quality of life and relationships, most people are successful!!!
Ronaldo’s style of play may invite debate, it’s undeniable that his presence elevates the performance of those around him and contributes to the overall success of his team. In the end, the true measure of his teamwork lies not only in statistics but also in the tangible impact he has on his teammates and the team’s achievements!
stats to do not say that about Ronaldo in particular.... do your research@@chrisgault87 . Every team he has been in has gotten better and won more trophies.... except when ten hag was there. that guy was the problem. look at his team now
The thing with Ronaldo is that he played in one of the greatest teams of all time at Real Madrid where he won everything multiple times. Going to Juventus and and Manchester United (which are World famous clubs and have had past success) is a downgrade not only in skill but in mentality. The guy is a born winner and is the most competitive person around and expects his team to deliver for him( because he scores the goals) He can become easily frustrated when things don’t go his way which I guess can cause tension within a team setting. Side note: CR7 and LM10 play in different positions and have different styles, let’s just appreciate that we had this time to enjoy the 2 best players around at the same time.
A great episode; I hope I can remember all of the many lessons herein. If I were to offer some advice to Adam Grant, I would say "be confident!". He has amazing insights and should deliver them with confidence. He brings to mind Alex Pearson with the book "Curious, Creative, Connected". It's important to remember when an interaction requires logic, and when it requires empathy. p.s. I am very jealous of his guns. A wise man once said "don't ask who you admire, ask who you envy". And I envy his biceps.
Shouldn't have used an inaccurate statement about Ronaldo's game. One of the things the athlete is lauded for is how he raises the level of every team he has played at. Entire teams player at a higher level collectively when he joins them. This is well documented. You can be a focal point for the attack of a team and simultaneously elevate each and every attribute of the entire team when you are the type of athlete that he is.
Omg that was so interesting and insightful for me, so many of the things I do and the way I look at and accomplish things that I have looked at as more negative character traits are because I am very much a creative and questioning. (how and why we do things that way and can we do it better!😮🤯 Maybe I should be less down on myself. I guess it comes from old school reports saying things like "he is a daydreamer" in a -ve way when it should have been seen as a +ve!! Omfg just shows how school experiences can mold a young mind to thinking they will never amount to anything when, if channeled correctly could have helped drive or propel me!) Well onwards and upwards! Thank you DOAC team for yet another amazing interview. ❤️⏳
Google for email or browser is a hard no for some people, and it isn’t because we aren’t creative. Depends on what people believe about digital narrative and manipulation of the public thoughtform. Other than that - super edifying to listen. Grateful. Cheers!
Yeah it's hard to find a more simplified analysis I hope to hear better in the rest of the vid. It's like saying people who go more to the restaurant have more culinary taste. What about finances?
This is fuuull of gems,and should be watched over and over trough out your experience,you can allways pull out something new. Amazing👌 Great questions,answers,perfect match of two of you, and SUCH an important subjects touched. I am so grateful it found me👏 Thank you
Video games, like most things we use, have different effects depending on how we use them. I don’t know which research he is referring to, but not being able to stop playing is the opposite of discipline, for example. And that I have seen a lot of when it comes to video game use. I have even seen it go as far as kids (and grownups) becoming antisocial because their main focus was video games. Another thing is that skills learned within a virtual environment don’t necessarily translate to real life. And then there is the specific motivation that drives kids wanting to play video games because it provokes a chemical drive and reward cycle that is not easily found in real life, and that is considered dangerous because it is addictive. I therefore sincerely doubt that the benefits outway the bad sides.
Games have always had a dopamine cycle that has potential dangers. One counter argument is kids learning destructive real world behaviours to derive dopamine in similar fashion (one particularly stupid way for slightly older kids in my area was jumping off bridges). There is a stronger argument than ever against videogames as many of the mainstream games have been optimised to provide unhealthy reward loops with less difficulty. This on top of predatory gambling mechanics can really damage brains at a young age.
Fascinating.. my son (take it from my previous comment) got hooked on the games and we couldn’t do anything to take him away from gaming.. I wanted him to go outside in the nature more and play with other kids but he get’s depressed and frustrated how we handled him that way. But thru all that.. he excelled in school.. first honors and sums cum laude in college. And till to this day, he is competing in games all over the place. And I also know someone who is older than my son and had this Nintendo in his hands every time we see his family.. then now, he makes his money from technologies and got his own website and up and running.. traveling the world and get to taste the lavish lifestyle of a millionaire.. 😊
Such a great episode, well done Steve. Extremely useful with direct application to real world especially in the workplace environment. Honestly, I had enough of the guests with contradicting views on diets, fats and sugars...
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That banner image at the top of your page here is highly misleading. It implies this is the place to come to get celebrity interviews. Anyone who's still subscribed now knows that this is now the place to come for shock docs telling you unless you change everything in your life you'll be dead in no time at all. Only 1 out of the last 20 videos here was anyone you'd vaguely call a celeb, and he's only a youtuber. UNSUBSCRIBED !!
Why is the unsubscribed number always stuck at 69%? 😏
What a great conversation and amazing insight. On a side note, GGMU 🙏
I’m subscribed but why do you think that less than 70% subscribe? The figure has not changed since I subscribed a few months ago !
Im looking for the poem that a guest (if it’s not Adam)?shared about “isn’t doing it"… ie: making a list is not doing it…announcing you’re going to do it is not doing it…Was it Adam or a different guest?
As somebody who suffers from lots of imposter thoughts, I really appreciated the idea that if a handful or more people believe in you, we should believe them. I will try to remember that as much as possible going forward
@jessicamcloughlin8587then you must believe in yourself. And it doesn’t hurt to get feedback from everyone as to why they don’t believe in you. Lol
Tengen toppa gurren lagan style: Listen, Simon. Don't believe in yourself. Believe in me! Believe in the kamina who believes in you!
Man, I really Iike this guy. A psychologist and neuroscientist here. I will be reading his books from now on. Really enjoy content Ike this. Thank you Stephen. I love DOAC and I get so much out of your channel.
Successful people don't become that way overnight. most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life, 🙏🙏🙏
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time
People should remember: poverty is not an accident, a coincidence or an inevitability. It is something which is manufactured by the ruling class.
yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
Obviously these investment requires much cash and concentration to start?
Not really so bro, it depends on the how much you want to start with and with the advice or guidance of a good expert you will surely be successful
1:06 Honesty is the highest expression of loyalty.
Criticize yourself out loud.
The insights on procrastination were spot on! For entrepreneurs, it's crucial to break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each. This approach reduces the overwhelm and makes it easier to start, which is often the hardest part.
Break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each.
Break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each.
Break tasks into smaller steps and set specific deadlines for each.
Plain and simple but oh so effective. I have set a reminder on my phone to remind me this every day . Thank you☺
@TheDiaryOfACEO Steven, there are so many famous/popular podcasters around but you are truly one of the best, if not the best I've come across. You allow your guests to speak without interrupting and ask intelligent questions at the right moment. Kudos and thanks for the great content. Really look forward to your podcasts.
Adam Grant has a resting smiley face. Love listening to him but looking at his face light up every time he cites his sources gives me even greater joy 😀
Didn’t we celebrate 4M subscribers two seconds ago? I blinked and we’ve hit 5M! So proud to be part of this family ❤ thank you for bringing incredible content every episode
The saying, 'you get what you ask for' works. He askes for the subscribers, and they listen and deliver.
Nice robot comment. 5 mil and only 250k views.
@@indochinaconnex4308 I hope you heal from whatever hurt you. There’s no need to be nasty. The video was released 12 days ago and has 250K views which is incredible because it will continue to reach audiences as the days and months go by. Thanks for the engagement, you’re helping the channel 🤩🤩🤩🤩
And we are now at 6M+
After listening to Adam's discussion on disagreeable givers, I had a moment of clarity realizing that I fall into that category. Despite my genuine care for others and my proactive nature in wanting to assist them, I often find myself labeled as negative when I take initiative to rectify injustices or make positive changes. This insight has been invaluable in helping me understand myself better, acknowledging the complexity of my character and motivations.
Thanks Adam!
That "you're negative" comment is BS, it takes awareness and insight to identify issues and takes TRUE positivity to improve the issue. Its a complete inversion of reality but its the prevailing perception and you have to find a balance or just be around folks that get it.
I think when you’re describing moderate or effective procrastination, it’s really what I think of as a “brain break”. If you keep pushing at something when you’re stuck, or tired, you won’t make progress in a positive direction. But, if you give yourself a “brain break”, you come back to it with some “fresh-ness”.
Would like to know more about "only children" as an only child. A professor and a writer. I wrote my first book in 6 months, but have been writing my second novel over 14 years. A combination of trying to write a sequel and standalone book that does have significantly better writing, but because of several personal losses (my mother's death, a direct hit by Cat 5 hurricane, and trauma at work), has meant disruptions to the creative progress and a nasty case of writer's block has made it feel like a Herculean task. I am going to finish this book because it drives me nuts leaving something so important to me uncompleted, but the anxiety, fear of failure, and self doubt have to go. Nothing is perfect and I have to give myself grace to finish the novel.
25:46 Loved this episode with Adam Grant. The understanding of perfectionism was really helpful to me. If I hadn't addressed my real struggle with perfectionism, I wouldn't take the risks that I have in my career. Imperfection still brings me anxiety. It's hard wired and a continuous process.
Wow!! Really happy this conversation resonated with you. Thank you for sharing! Team DOAC 🙏
@TheDiaryOfACEO Adam did briefly mention survivorship bias a bit before talking about how surviving uncomfortable positions increases tolerance to discomfort. I wish he'd gone more into the way that the trauma for some does lead to heightened anxiety for risk taking because when a person lacks privilege they often can not afford risk. Adam only very briefly mentions the marshmallow study, and it seems important to expand more on aspects of privilege in relation to repeated trauma.
When you've experienced the bad things over and over, you might just try to cope by attempting to not end up back there, rather than pursuing your full potential, or you might lack the energy for pursuit. That seems like it could indicate some difference between trauma or even capital T Trauma, versus repeated capital T Trauma, which can cause changes in the brain and body that are permanent or more difficult to overcome. There's probably an unknown bell curve formula of amount of trauma combined with privilege that a person is able to have before the effects are more negative than positive.
I feel both motivated and dejected by this talk, because I recognize in myself the natural capacity for many of the qualities Adam points to in originals, but I started in poverty, never got out of poverty, and I've lost more than one job for too openly questioning authority because something they suggested didn't even make sense by their own purported morals and goals. At this point, I'm 31 years old and experiencing burnout so badly that my psychiatrist thinks I actually have undiagnosed autism, so I'm on a waitlist for testing, while the symptoms have already become fairly disabling from the toll of pushing myself for 31 years.
Elon Musk, who also exhibits obvious signs of autism, some of which correlate to Adam's concept of an original, never had to deal with poverty or an abusive mother with schizophrenia or any of the other numerous challenges in my life that I'm not going to waste space listing. Elon Musk is a rich man, and I'm a poor woman, who has experience with being disliked by the financially secure men above me. My own resilience leads me to the hope that I can get back in the game and do something satisfying in the future. 31 isn't too old to have some measure of success. However, the fact that I'm currently disabled by autism symptoms after I've fought my whole life for improving my situation makes me really pissed off at the roles repeated trauma and privilege do play in this, and I think that it's morally necessary to spread that information to the Elon Musks of the world.
Edit: I guess his focus is on analyzing the successes, so it makes sense that Adam wouldn't focus as much on the circumstances of "failures". It can just be frustrating to see things on the other side, knowing a large percentage of people will blame people like me for my own failure, because people without nuance believe that I either don't possess many of these qualities or that I have some innate flaw or made poor choices, and those things have led to my failure, making it entirely my own responsibility rather than a failure of larger society.
As the oldest of four, I've always felt like the "cowcatcher" of the family, the first to try and experience EVERYTHING, and to pass down to the others what I learned so they wouldn't make the same mistakes I made because I just didn't know going in.
I feel the same exact way as an older sibling 😅
As the youngest sibling I'm the one in this role
I finally feel seen. Damn. Too many mistakes but I’ve lived though😂😂 time to get serious
@@123shotassame, the eldest in mine follows others blindly, doesn't question... often stuck with quite bizarre way of thinking without backed rationales
Dear Stephen,
Before I discovered your channel, I had been thinking that CEOs must be inhumane, not necessarily because of their nature, but because you have to make so many difficult decisions that you become kind of desensitized. Also, power and money can spoil even the best people. You have, however, have shattered my illusions about that. You're always so compassionate and supporting, it's just a joy to see.
Thank you.
Another possible theory regarding birth order could be that younger children experience more authority with older siblings and parents and look to "rebel" a bit more. Fantastic talk!
Omgggg yessss Adam Grant ❤❤❤ “You build your confidence by taking the leap 🙌 you become ready by putting yourself in situation that you don’t think you can excel at yet.” Huge fan of your books. I love how open you are about your experiences with diving and the kind of fear you’ve faced. Hearing about this from my hero gives me courage to have a bit more faith in myself to go outside of my comfort zone and try the things I’ve always said I wanted to do.
thanks for another great interview Steven!!
When he said “if you have techniques for making discomfort less uncomfortable or if you know how to get comfortable being uncomfortable” my mind went 🤯🤯🤯 OMG!!! Huge nugget of perspective!!
Thumbs up if you clicked this because you're a first born and wanted to feel validated by the video. 😅
😂 Hahaa... No.. I think humans study what already exists to unpack as much data?!😊🙏🏼
Yes! I'm sharing it with my sisters too 😂
Yeah that’s me 😂
I sent it to my siblings even before I watched 😂
Heck yeah !! 😂😂😂
100% true that most leaders are surrounded by “yes” people who never challenge them. I Love that Adam points this out and encourages challenge networks. Brilliant!! Fantastic interview!! 👏🏼👏🏼
Three important takeaways I often forget to live by:
1. Use skill power, not willpower: My gloss on this is that deferring gratification is more about developing skills to make doing the right things easier. For instance, engineer your environment to (a) add friction to starting time-wasting activities and (b) minimize distractions.
2. Know how good is good enough for the task at hand. Your time is limited and must be allocated across different projects. Where will additional effort or quality yield the highest long-term ROI? A perfectionist mindset is often a poor investment of time and effort.
3. Everyone has different life experiences and something to teach you if you're prepared to listen and learn.
Great guest, a pleasure to listen to him. Clear, Funny, positive, knowledgeable, well spoken - sets the standard for other speakers and you can see this in the cute spontaneous interactions as well
I have never considered mulling over a problem as procrastination. In the sewing community, when we come to a point where we are stuck or the project isn’t come out the way we envisioned, we put the project in a corner somewhere and come back to it at some point in the future, often reimagined.
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Dreams are a huge help to me. I solve problems and conceive new ideas while I sleep. I find it saves time because I'm working and sleeping at the same time. The saved time gets used to implement ideas or to move ahead past where I was stuck.
I think risk taking can also be the result of being inexperienced and or younger, resulting in a kind of naive risk taking where you are unaware of the actual magnitude of the actual risk. Not knowing what you don't know.
Risk taking can also be a result of desperation. Not just being desperate, but also having the kind of temperament that is good at innovating and "thinking outside the box", by people who naturally have a non conventional way of
looking at a problem. A solution may seem to be riskier to others. because it's not familiar and not the conventional way of doing the thing.
Wow, I followed you right down that rabbit hole. Thanks for the fun!
This channel was on 400,000 subs when I subscribed. Absolutely blew up. These conversations have helped me grow in so many ways as I know they will have in soooo many people. So I just wanted to say thank you to Steven and the DOAC team!! 💙🙌 x
Wow! How long ago was that?
This is basic benefits you’d get from high level networking. I’m glad you guys can benefit from it. See you in the other side of the tax bracket.🤝
I’m a painter and have never believed in “creative blocks.” I’ve always incorporated what I called productive procrastination into my painting practice.
Do explain! ☺️
Would love to hear more about that process!
I'm listening to this and I'm 21:20 mins into it, and can relate to ALL of it. From procrastination to using Google and questioning the status quo. Had to stop to write this so I can focus on the remainder of the talk.
I got the most smiles in any of your episodes I've watched, and very much toward the end. Thank you!
Among other things, this inspired me to ask a few former staff, colleagues, and supervisors for input & advice about our time working together. New leadership level unlocked! Thank you! 🙏🏻
As the oldest sibling, my experience is also that I have grown up to be the most responsible of my siblings. I think a big part of the reason comes from me as the oldest having to take responsibility if something happens when I was together with any of my siblings. So even though I might not necessarily be the reason something goes wrong, because I am the oldest, I was the one who "should have known better". Was basically how it worked. So you start to think about managing risk for other people while growing up, because you know you will be at the line of fire by the end of the day.
I comment and like for the algorithm, so that more people listen this great conversation!!! I enjoyed it so much and learned so much! It was entertaining and light-hearted as well, with the jokes in between. Thank you Adam & Steven! 🙏
I love Adam! He doesn't know it but man the impact he had on my view of self and society has been phenomenal ever since I read Originals. He's one of those people that you just want to absorb every single word they say!
Thank you, Steven and The DOAC team, for inviting him over! 💙
Practice does not make perfect. Practice promotes learning. Perfect practice makes perfect. Perfect practice stunts growth and dissipates creativity.
Mega interesting. Some points that resonates:
The perceived tension between loyalty and honesty.
Brainstorming vs Brainwriting. Pairing people to promote anonymity.
Getting it right vs being right.
Knowing what you are bad at.
The importance of a Challenge Network.
Being a more agreeable disagreeable giver :).
And so forth. So many valuable thoughts.
Thank you.
I'm a proscatinador who in addittion is very hard on himself... I am a reseacher so for me, everything is a project; at work and in life. Your concept about procastrination made me realize my procastination is not me sabotaging his flow. My procrastrination is indeed me planning, me researching. In many cases my procastrination is my analisis, my planning phase ;).
Great invite, very nice epidosie. Thanks!
Steven, thank you so much for having this conversation. I'm a relatively new entrepreneur looking to build a company in the TTRPG space that not only permits creatives to lead successful careers and elevate their level of professionalism, but that also subverts the hackneyed uncaring, rigid business model.
This guy was so good! He’s got an incongruity in his face? He does have a kind of friendly (goofy) muppet’s? face, but when he stops talking, your side angles as he’s listening shows a searing intelligence in those eyes! He’s very intelligent and I can imagine on sight, it’s not immediately apparent! Those ice breakers he mentioned would really work for him!
Thank you so much. Your questions are perfectly aimed, you lead the interview in a way that the listener can follow & builds the concept & makes sense. You're a good listener. Straight thinking. I appreciate it!
Loves when he quotes Grant's book like if it was the bible. They're the cutest combo ♥
Can’t speak highly enough about this episode, guest and relatable questions. Will be rewatching
I really loved this episode. I learned so much from the both of you. Just stumbled upon this podcast not so long ago and you share so many interesting people and topics work us! Thank you!
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .
😱Sounds familiar, I have heard her name on several occasions.. and both her success stories in the wall Street journal!
The economic hardship, recession, unemployment and the loss of job caused by covid pandemic is enough to push people into financial ventures.
* I don't really blame people who panic. Lack of information can be a big hurdle. I've been making more than $21k passively by just investing through an advisor, and I don't have to do much work. Inflation or no inflation, my finances remain secure. So I really don't blame people who panic.
This is helpful beyond my own studying process capability! Thank you so much Adam, Steve & Team! Bravo!
Adam grant is always my fave guest on every podcast 😂
This is an amazing interview ❤. Adam, Steven; thank you! I’m not even done listening and I had to stop to comment (@1:12).
I could write a few paragraphs on the learning. Going to have to listen again for sure 👍🏾.
I like the fact that Adam Grant doesn’t hesitate to speak what is hard to hear to some people.
i can hear it with the volume low.
A very well rounded man. I need to find one of his books. I'm sure my husband would enjoy it.
this was soooo goooooood.
aware not a particularly detailed insight or feedback but that's all I felt as this ended! SO GOOD! THANK YOU!
Incredible episode. Wanted to write down every other sentence ❤. Genuinely thought provoking! Thank you Steven and Adam!
We don't have a deal, because your podcast can't get better, it's perfect!
“I thought I had to build my confidence in order to take the leap. That’s was completely backwards, you build your confidence by taking the leap.” Oof this hits hard for me. Currently starting my own business and having self doubt..
What an outstanding interview! Adam Grant knows his craft. Thank you.
20:00 firefox better performers they stick longer
33:45 skills to choose such as endurance for getting out of comfort zone
52:00 everyone can be your teacher
1:23:00 seek teir advice and make them coaches
1:28:50
1:30:40
1:34:30 values vs beliefs
identity, sense of self
I can't execute every idea I have! But you've made me aware that I turn to find approval before moving forward.
To clarify - he is saying how aiming for full excellence is not always best - know when you are ready to stop & launch & progress…
Loved this interaction and sharing of knowledge. Thank you Alan and Steven.
Politician, preacher and prosecutor approach/scientist. Useful.
Next week - how siblings outperform the first born .
Week after that - how only child’s are child prodigies ,
& the week after that how’s its really better to not be born at all .
The sibling competition spiral 😂 love my siblings so much
I watched one where they said the youngest become the richest
Thanks Steven, thanks Adam. Really good stuff. This video game me a lot of insight on the hidden potential in us, as well as a different perspective on leadership and integrity. Peace
One of the most interesting guests ever. Thank you
Such a joy to listen to a) the intellectual expertise of someone like Adam. I know he teaches this stuff and writes books about it, which brings that fluency and depth of understanding that is beguiling. He is a true geek (a total compliment), a fellow introvert (yay) and someone who has and is making a significant contribution to our understanding of the human condition. And b) the annoying, yet also beguiling verbal reasoning skills of Stephen. I am not sure I have seen anyone truly listen so deeply and then come back with a counter comment so readily. Thanks both. It's slightly annoying to have given 1 hour and 46 minutes of heartbeats to this, but I'm so glad I did...
I did not realize the potential that I had until I took risks and faced my fears. Now I feel wonderful because I was bold and passionate. I was not afraid of failure. Only my uncle believed in me and my talent. I did not know that had had it😂
Another banger episode where I wrote down so many inspiring and intriguing thoughts. Thank you guys :)
I absolutely loved this episode.
I’m an inventor. this guy really understands inventors and the process.
What a responsive answer to the last question! I never saw that coming either! Very...original.
love the message " true leaders are the ones who help others succeed". The videeo game story took me back to the days my boys played all the time and I thought they were becoming zombies!
This guy is so interesting. I will look for his work because I need to hear what he has to say. Useful would be an understatement. Thank you.
At the end, I immediately restarted this video and am already hearing concepts that I didn’t retain the first time. Thank you! You inspire me! Challenge me! Excite me! Thank you! On the journey to being a world class human!
This was so interesting and thought provoking.🙏 for all you do.
This one is my favorite so far that I’ve seen. Perfectly aligned with my interests at this point of my life. 🔥🔥
Amazing original thinking Adam Grant. Thank you and thanks to the Diary of A CEO for delivering his amazing insights to us.
Great episode! Very insightful. I miss the business episodes though Steven. Please do one every so often.
It's again much about good old PARETO principle - on return on invested affects and on how much the specific topic or achievement matters at all, depending on context ofc.
Loved this podcast. Brilliant from start to finish
Hello from sunny south of France ! I have not listen to the complete video yet but I stopped to remind any listener of the gratuit quote from the Host : "I've always wondered if my life is the poursuit of my potential or if my life is the creation of my potential". Sophie
"A true leader elevates..." Well, that's a first hearing that outside my head from someone else. I got a Switch on a projector screen and two controllers. I learned to lead in the military - by example. Take care of your peeps and they just take care of you like ya taught them something. They like to stiffle musicians, and I end up playing Godsmack only. Playing Godsmack with a classical twist on the piano - fun! Not a quiet way to rid the room of Narcissists, but it works. Alternatives? I'm all ears. Listening is one art I like to think I mastered. K, continuing on, I need to know how to stop attracting narcissists!
My three sons got scholarships. They had to maintain good grades to keep the scholarships. Graduated out of two of the best schools in my state. My father was one of eight siblings. All very smart.
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I love Adam Grant!! Great guest ❤
Great to hear the difference between Self Promotion vs. Idea Promotion 💡
This 2% number is entirely based on your definition of success! By my definition, good quality of life and relationships, most people are successful!!!
Mines is the number of lives you support and help. ❤ Thanks for sharing
Ronaldo’s style of play may invite debate, it’s undeniable that his presence elevates the performance of those around him and contributes to the overall success of his team. In the end, the true measure of his teamwork lies not only in statistics but also in the tangible impact he has on his teammates and the team’s achievements!
According to the stats on this show, every team he's joined has gone downhill. Just saying. I have no idea who the guy is.
Stats say no. That’s not opinion it’s the truth
it's such bullshit@@lorrie000
stats to do not say that about Ronaldo in particular.... do your research@@chrisgault87 . Every team he has been in has gotten better and won more trophies.... except when ten hag was there. that guy was the problem. look at his team now
The thing with Ronaldo is that he played in one of the greatest teams of all time at Real Madrid where he won everything multiple times. Going to Juventus and and Manchester United (which are
World famous clubs and have had past success) is a downgrade not only in skill but in mentality. The guy is a born winner and is the most competitive person around and expects his team to deliver for him( because he scores the goals) He can become easily frustrated when things don’t go his way which I guess can cause tension within a team setting.
Side note: CR7 and LM10 play in different positions and have different styles, let’s just appreciate that we had this time to enjoy the 2 best players around at the same time.
A great episode; I hope I can remember all of the many lessons herein. If I were to offer some advice to Adam Grant, I would say "be confident!". He has amazing insights and should deliver them with confidence. He brings to mind Alex Pearson with the book "Curious, Creative, Connected". It's important to remember when an interaction requires logic, and when it requires empathy.
p.s. I am very jealous of his guns. A wise man once said "don't ask who you admire, ask who you envy". And I envy his biceps.
When you truly believe in something, you will go all out and do your best to achieve it.
Shouldn't have used an inaccurate statement about Ronaldo's game. One of the things the athlete is lauded for is how he raises the level of every team he has played at. Entire teams player at a higher level collectively when he joins them. This is well documented. You can be a focal point for the attack of a team and simultaneously elevate each and every attribute of the entire team when you are the type of athlete that he is.
Super episode! Rushing to get all of Adam’s books now, the content of this was so informative and interesting ❤
Omg that was so interesting and insightful for me, so many of the things I do and the way I look at and accomplish things that I have looked at as more negative character traits are because I am very much a creative and questioning. (how and why we do things that way and can we do it better!😮🤯 Maybe I should be less down on myself. I guess it comes from old school reports saying things like "he is a daydreamer" in a -ve way when it should have been seen as a +ve!! Omfg just shows how school experiences can mold a young mind to thinking they will never amount to anything when, if channeled correctly could have helped drive or propel me!) Well onwards and upwards! Thank you DOAC team for yet another amazing interview. ❤️⏳
I think this has been favourite of your guests so far.
I have learned a lot
Unbelievable amount of wisdom thank you thank you I had lots to think about and I solved lots of problems I didn't know I had.
Google for email or browser is a hard no for some people, and it isn’t because we aren’t creative. Depends on what people believe about digital narrative and manipulation of the public thoughtform.
Other than that - super edifying to listen. Grateful. Cheers!
Yeah it's hard to find a more simplified analysis I hope to hear better in the rest of the vid. It's like saying people who go more to the restaurant have more culinary taste.
What about finances?
Yet another episode I'll be listening to again!
This episode is absolutely insightful and thought provoking thank you so much Adam and Steven
Such a great episode!! Loved his insights and the research findings shared.
This is fuuull of gems,and should be watched over and over trough out your experience,you can allways pull out something new. Amazing👌
Great questions,answers,perfect match of two of you, and SUCH an important subjects touched. I am so grateful it found me👏 Thank you
Great Podcast, I love this kind of research based analytical conversation.
Video games, like most things we use, have different effects depending on how we use them. I don’t know which research he is referring to, but not being able to stop playing is the opposite of discipline, for example. And that I have seen a lot of when it comes to video game use.
I have even seen it go as far as kids (and grownups) becoming antisocial because their main focus was video games. Another thing is that skills learned within a virtual environment don’t necessarily translate to real life. And then there is the specific motivation that drives kids wanting to play video games because it provokes a chemical drive and reward cycle that is not easily found in real life, and that is considered dangerous because it is addictive. I therefore sincerely doubt that the benefits outway the bad sides.
Games have always had a dopamine cycle that has potential dangers. One counter argument is kids learning destructive real world behaviours to derive dopamine in similar fashion (one particularly stupid way for slightly older kids in my area was jumping off bridges).
There is a stronger argument than ever against videogames as many of the mainstream games have been optimised to provide unhealthy reward loops with less difficulty. This on top of predatory gambling mechanics can really damage brains at a young age.
Fascinating.. my son (take it from my previous comment) got hooked on the games and we couldn’t do anything to take him away from gaming.. I wanted him to go outside in the nature more and play with other kids but he get’s depressed and frustrated how we handled him that way. But thru all that.. he excelled in school.. first honors and sums cum laude in college. And till to this day, he is competing in games all over the place. And I also know someone who is older than my son and had this Nintendo in his hands every time we see his family.. then now, he makes his money from technologies and got his own website and up and running.. traveling the world and get to taste the lavish lifestyle of a millionaire.. 😊
Thanks for such a great episode! You both were excellent
This is definitely an itch I need to scratch! Loved this one ❤️
Huge fan of Adam grant, learned so much from him 🎉
Such a great episode, well done Steve. Extremely useful with direct application to real world especially in the workplace environment. Honestly, I had enough of the guests with contradicting views on diets, fats and sugars...