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How do you go on to marry a man with all this!? Sometimes women are too blame. Were you marrying the mother or sisters? It's important to walk out early than later because it will hurt more. You can't manipulate a man into love/marriage. It will never work🤧
@@peterlonyait4101 boss! One thing I know, men are hunters naturally. When a woman takes that role, he looses interest and goes for others. When they started having problems and she kept running to his mother, that was wrong. No man appreciates that, and none can be forced into loving you. This behaviour pushed him further away.
Wow !!! It was way too open that the man had no feelings for this lady , in kikuyu culture a man’s mother can’t call the son’s girlfriend to meet without the son’s introduction .
Darling, be strong and all will be well,I chose the wrong person twice but I left everything to God's hand and I was blessed with the right person and my wedding is next month,take your time and you will be fine...
Parents! Parents! Parents! , welcome your daughters back from broken marriage and advise them that is not the end of life than waiting to see her in a coffin or with wounds and pain. A woman saying one day enough is enough that is the end of her pain as she walks away . Promise you no other day you will never hear and see her again 🔙
@@sarahnyokabisallitah lol, good, but that's no license that you shouldn't look well before going into another one. 'Return to sender' is not a good stigma as well.
I have a friend who went through a similar situation. Too many red flags, everything just went wrong after wrong after wrong. May God heal her and restore her relationship with her father.
This lady's story has touched my heart because I also wedded weeks before her and the day she wedded is the I was coming from honeymoon but my marriage ended on 28th September 2020 because of my Ex-wife was cheating on me with a matatu driver, it affected me to a point where I distant myself from God and wanted to revenge but God has a way of ya kurudisha mtoto kwa laini, now I am healed and my relationship with God is do tight than with any human being and I will serve Him till my last breath because He rescued me from the wrong marriage.
My ex husband started abusing me from our honeymoon last year. I left him just after 4 months of marriage because it was too toxic for me. I had to save myself from verbal,emotional and physical abuse.
One red flag is when a mother to a boyfriend really puts you close n pushes you to marry the son. In most cases the mother covers bad behaviour of son and just uses you to tame him.
THIS IS SO TRUE 💯. Been a victim of it but lucky enough I called off the wedding 2weeks before. The mother has tried witchcraft on me and all kind of things but when you trust God and make him the center of it all he wins the battle for you.
I want to believe there's no tear a person will shed because of someone else and go unpunished. Take heart, let God take control.. He won't embarass you
If you witness an accident, you'll realize that some victims are screaming for help, ignore them , give priority to the one that is silent, they are the most hurting......your father's love for you is deep
🤣🤣 looking back I just laugh . I had this toxic X ! weeh . He was asked who is she ? He said "just a friend." Then after 1 year 6 months dating , I called it quits . 3 days later he had gotten another lady pregnant. 🤣Weeh ! Ogopa wanaume ! Years later he still regrets the decisions he made. I am now happily married and outside Kenya .
@@wambui185, imagine! He told the gf that I’m married to some man from Nyeri and had two kids. The girl called me, after some time she had a son with him too. We both later struggled as single mothers😛
You are young and beautiful. Love yourself more, cry, let go. Better now than later. God has something greater and better for you. Keep the faith , trust God. You will look back one day and thank God for getting you out.
I am so sorry for what this lady has gone through. In future it would also be nice to watch positive stories of good marriages so we can also see that it is possible. I am sure Kenya has such couples. These negative stories can be discouraging.
As a mother with married daughters I want them to hold onto their marriages and make things work. However, if my daughter or son indicates that they are unhappy with the relationship I will drop everything to give them an ear. And yes, if all indications is that it's not working it's not working! My child's happiness is what matters even when they are sixty!
Am sorry for everything....but on the same these are men of nowadais,you could have not leave the marriage...na kuavoid the phone ya wazee😭they are sons of jezebel...
Woiye aki watu hupitia through alot in this life😔😔 sorry mama and if possible just cry cry it out, lia uchungu wote uishe...iknow it's not easy but God's preparing something good for you, from now onwards your life with never be the same again.
The lesson I learned here I will never force relationship weeee huyu aliforce everything had wedding but sory for tht without challenge huez kua strong.
I have viewed many of search stories & I have noted something common, "the guy looked handsome" my kind advice to ladies, appearance will never matter if it does not correspond with a right character... Check out for the right virtues & values of the person.... its like choosing a beautiful cup & not minding if its content is poisonous or healthy, the content in the cup is what that matters the most , the beautiful cup should comes as an added advantage … another thing marriage is not a product of society, so never mind what people will say, if you are in a messed up marriage just exit, time is irreversible, the only treasure that you should not let any one waste is your time.... most times after exit you'll find peace, so my dear sisters just move & never look back. God will restore & make you shine...Isaiah 60:1-2
We are visual creatures and nothing wrong with noticing the outer beauty. You meet the face first before you meet their character. Unless you are on common ground and ovlbserve them all the time. It's upon you to get to know the person beyond the physical appearances. Again we all have our tastes and yes all those her/his smile,his/her body looks good are okay to look out for.
Hugs mummy....this gal is soo cute 🥰🥰she deserves a good person.....all will be well kui...trust God ...it's painful but dad will come back to his senses soon woiye 😭,.....
Their were RED flags,the man said I don't want a wedding,he wanted come we stay,he left the lady plan the wedding all by herself.This guy is a narcissist.God is in control all will be well with u,atleast u left early,1yr not 20 yrs later.
i wish you all knew way what you talking off you sooo supportive yes but come to think of her back of the story,,,y all abt the man and not of hers,wacha kumpaka tope kwenye mgongo wa chupa,atupe her blunders as well.
The toxic marriage hurt her but the problem with her dad has devastated her. Keep going my sister. I applaude you for beiing strong and leaving before it got worse. I applaud you for looking out for your Precious Rose. Daddy if you are seeing this Fathers are very important to daughters so please reach out to your daughter.
The man gave her all the red flags before the wedding but she still went on with it. When will women stop compromising with wrong men all because they want to be married. Marriage is not a life achievement and no man can make you happy if you can't make yourself happy.
I know another female like that. They already had 2 kids together. He was having sex with an old classmate of his while engaged and messing with other women. Barely 1 year after their wedding he messing with that old classmate flame and seeking out other lose women. It will destroy her soon. She knew who this man was
You're strong lady . Don't let anything pull you back. Walking out of the toxic marriage was the best decision you made for you and your girl. Keep on holding onto prayers and your relationship with your Dad will be restored.
Men are able to read other men. Your father knew and he knows what you went through and he is hurting...his little gal was hurt. When men hurt, they stay away coz if the anger build up, they might do something they will regret. Give your dad time to calm down.
Hugs girl, just pray for ur dad he might also be going through Alot u know how the society judges but it reaches a time it is just u n ur God when I was in such situation I came to sing " on Christ the solid rock I stand...all the other ground is sinking sand"
Gal, I understand your position. I personally was born a mistake!! At least this is what my mother kept communicating to me both in words and actions. That hardened me from childhood where I knew so early that in this world, no-one is there for me. I grew up used to the fact that I am not loved. I have worked so hard to reach where iam. I have never known anything like a father figure in my life!!!!
God calls you previous in His sight. Fearfully and wonderfully made. The Apple of His eye. He loves you with an everlasting love. You are worthy of love and shame on those who didn't see your worth.
I remember when broke up a courtship in 2020 on basis of character defects, I gathered courage and went home in person to explain it to mum and dad that the most anticipated wedding was not coming forth!!! It was hard yes, but my parents understood me!!! I have seen enough bad marriages to sign up for one in the broad daylight!! I am a daughter in that home and not a single day can I be denied access!! Some actions require boldness... Bring them to speed and let them understand why you made that decision
They Normaly care when they know their son is useless. Ukipendwa na inlaws think twice. Ujue that son is a problem u will live with. They will do anything to ensure u stay with him juu no one else will.
Toxic marriages have become the norm for most of the involved. And they injure the victim and the children mostly. Getting out is the best option because there’s no rehearsal in life and don’t think about what others think and say. It’s all about you the individual. Perseverance only hurts you and makes you a prisoner.
I feel your hurt, however I understand your Dad is hurting too because of the outcome of a daughter he treasured, he needs time to heal, just give it time, all gonna be well.
You're a strong seeking approval from a weak man (your father) that's a toxic move. Don't chase him, he will return when he needs you.. Live your life you have your own family but never seek approval from weakness, you will leave in shame and stress.
Go strong mammy, believe that one day those who rejected you ,those who ignored you, will come back for your help. Let love lead in the body of Christ..Pray and leave the rest to God.
MAIN WORD NI "LEAVE" HAPA....AS IN CHOREA MAPARO, Ndio dad ameondokea. Wisdom hio... Matthew 19:4-5 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ?6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Somewhere she said she has always been dad's girl. He was the first to learn about her pregnancy after her boyfriend. She hoped for a different outcome but got something else.... It hurts
So proud of you for walking out of a marriage that was definitely a non starter. I truly hope your dad talks to you!! He should not allow someone to come between the two of you.
I am so proud of you of walking away of this toxic marriage. Good on you girl. Dad where are you for your daughter. You are missing on your granddaughter . Keep your spirit on girl.
The lady is hurting, not because of moving out of her marriage but because of the dad... How I wish tuko mngeweza kuintervrne, you've aired/ heard her story, follow up and hear from the dad and probably know what's happening. If the dad is comfortable. You can reconcile the two... In such interviews, let it not stop here..try to provide a solution.
Bilha take heart. You don't have to stay in a toxic marriage to please anyone. Irrespective of what he was told, he will eventually know the truth. You do not have to pressure him.
Girl be strong. You are not alone for many women out here have graphic stories....start by giving yourself the inner strength, be yourself and realize the world is full of crazy issues. Kaa ngumu mama, don't force your father to talk to you if he doesn't, he could be battling his silent demons but at the right time he will talk but never force it for it will hurt more. Love yourself, love your baby and focus on personal development. We are on earth for a while: do not stagnate in stress but live life oh.
Bilha! Be strong and have courage dear, your life and your daughter is very important than the life of that fool. God will lift you up and you'll live a happy life which was planned for you. Take heart.
Don't cry sweeety,as long as you never did your parents wrong waache Mimi I can cut off anyone including my parents if they are not giving me peace I let them go😒I choose me always..strong girl keep going
This guy was a narcissit. They are addicted to see,they lie, have no emotions,are manipulative in short they are demonic. I thank God you left him. Who will educate pple on narcissits. 👹 Get educated on narcissits and with time you will heal Your father should also learn on narcissits and understand all about this story.😫😫
The dad really?????? He is such a pain,,,how can he go mute on his daughter?????at such a time,,,hugs baby girl ,,you are a gem and you are yet to meet a man who deserves you,,,who will love you as you are meant to be loved,,,there are still good men out there❤️❤️❤️❤️
This guy is the real definition of a narcist, what they do is identify the person you are closest to then go and make you look so bad in their eyes …I am assured that God will restore your relationship with dad, just hang in there for a little longer
Very true , my ex tried to poison my mum's mind on how bad of a woman I was ,but mum chose to stand for the truth , she defended me and that was the end between and him , parents always should chose their kids no matter what
If someone has nothing to hide in their phone,they don't keep the phone away from their spouse.I think apart from insecure people,the rest who snoop are given a reason to,there must be a trigger.Its not insecurity,its finding the truth ,which will set you free ujipange mapema.Too many fake people these days,no need to persevere man made problems.
I have no words to say let me pray that your father may know what you are passing through ,my dear God will bless you take courage,you are awoman of destiny
I feel you,but according to ur story there where red flags but u ignored, Am wishing u happiness and heal ur wounds first be4 allowing someone in yourlife .Am lucky Benjamin zulu had real open eyes for many who watch and following his channels ,He's just an inspirational to our society.
There were many Red Flags from the beginning but you choose to Ignore all of them??? It's a high time to listen to Benjamin Zulu classes and stop acting Desperate for love.
Dear bilha.. when going through these comments ..please take only the positive ones...ignore negative comments... watu wengine hawawezi elewa what you feeling.. just ignore negative energy... and congrats you did the right thing for you... thank God ulitoka kwa hiyo wedding
He is a destroyer he is not willing to be in light. He won't wants because he destroy her intetionally. Your comment s is like asking Police to negotiate with mafia the crimes they did is illegal haaha
Aki some women are so strong I seriously don't know how I'd handle a heartbreak! Have never been heartbroken and I fear it alot! Am a very fragile person I just don't let people walk over me just like that I'd rather be single😔😔😔
This is so painful how can a father allow the word of someone he new through her daughter to separate him from her daughter. Please dad talk to your daughter. No appearance or even so called divorce must separate both of you. Your daughter needs you now more than ever
The father may be embittered by how things have turned out in your life despite his efforts. Remember children are crowns to many parents and a failure in the child is taken by some parents as a failure for them. Try and understand you dad and maybe talk to an elderly man he respects to speak to him
Your dada forsaw what you the victim could not visiualize. They want happiness for you regardless, irrespective. So your dad decided to keep off your decision. He is hurting to an extend of no words
What message do you have for Ann Bilha Wahome? You can reach her through her number 0711314071.
To share your story with us, send an email to yvonne.kawira@tuko.co.ke or eucabeth.mukami@tuko.co.ke.
Bilha my namesake your are too beautiful it's well with you gal.
How do you go on to marry a man with all this!? Sometimes women are too blame. Were you marrying the mother or sisters? It's important to walk out early than later because it will hurt more. You can't manipulate a man into love/marriage. It will never work🤧
@@joanmiksabel3598 Huyu dada alikuwa amependa kweli ..wish Sisi tungepewa Wazuri ka yeye.
@@peterlonyait4101 boss! One thing I know, men are hunters naturally. When a woman takes that role, he looses interest and goes for others. When they started having problems and she kept running to his mother, that was wrong. No man appreciates that, and none can be forced into loving you. This behaviour pushed him further away.
Wow !!! It was way too open that the man had no feelings for this lady , in kikuyu culture a man’s mother can’t call the son’s girlfriend to meet without the son’s introduction .
Darling, be strong and all will be well,I chose the wrong person twice but I left everything to God's hand and I was blessed with the right person and my wedding is next month,take your time and you will be fine...
Do you have kids pls? If u have then you are twice lucky....all the best in your wedding...u deserve happiness...
you deserve it swty
Wish u success after the wedding. From stories all over, it seems all hell breaks loose after the wedding.
Very nice
The interviewer is doing it right. Giving a listening ear. Keep it up
Thank you so much
Yes, without too much interjection.
Very true
May God have mercy upon you Anne
That’s right
The interviewer is a qualified counselor. Good listening skills,and there for for the client
Parents! Parents! Parents! , welcome your daughters back from broken marriage and advise them that is not the end of life than waiting to see her in a coffin or with wounds and pain. A woman saying one day enough is enough that is the end of her pain as she walks away . Promise you no other day you will never hear and see her again 🔙
After kuvumilia sana na kuishiwa na kila kitu.....alileta another woman na kunifukuza....😥🥲😭
Thanks to my parents they welcomed me back... parents please give your children that should to lean on 🙏.. please
The stigma is really i was there once they blame the ladies but I owe nobody an apology for the decisions i made am so proud of myself
@@sarahnyokabisallitah lol, good, but that's no license that you shouldn't look well before going into another one. 'Return to sender' is not a good stigma as well.
@@sarahnyokabisallitah I am thankful my mother welcomed me back home.
I have a friend who went through a similar situation. Too many red flags, everything just went wrong after wrong after wrong.
May God heal her and restore her relationship with her father.
Ooh I see😥🙏❤️
This lady's story has touched my heart because I also wedded weeks before her and the day she wedded is the I was coming from honeymoon but my marriage ended on 28th September 2020 because of my Ex-wife was cheating on me with a matatu driver, it affected me to a point where I distant myself from God and wanted to revenge but God has a way of ya kurudisha mtoto kwa laini, now I am healed and my relationship with God is do tight than with any human being and I will serve Him till my last breath because He rescued me from the wrong marriage.
Sorry. Glad God saw you through
Hugs
@@sharonmbithe74 Thanks.
@@felicityncube1007 Thanks
My ex husband started abusing me from our honeymoon last year. I left him just after 4 months of marriage because it was too toxic for me. I had to save myself from verbal,emotional and physical abuse.
I just need to hug this lady for like five minutes. She needs a shoulder to cry on.
Let's cut down this habit of raising broken children in the name of keeping marriages.
True
One red flag is when a mother to a boyfriend really puts you close n pushes you to marry the son. In most cases the mother covers bad behaviour of son and just uses you to tame him.
THIS IS SO TRUE 💯. Been a victim of it but lucky enough I called off the wedding 2weeks before. The mother has tried witchcraft on me and all kind of things but when you trust God and make him the center of it all he wins the battle for you.
Weh, you're so right🎯🎯! Was almost getting into such a mix. But who is God who revealed his true character and got me out of it
@@NazarofGod If God be on our side who can be against us
I second you,my marriage ilikuwa hivyo
This is true 💯 percent
Coz they know their useless sons will be zombies and wrecks if you leave them. Know it too well.
I want to believe there's no tear a person will shed because of someone else and go unpunished. Take heart, let God take control.. He won't embarass you
She's crying because of the dad.
Wedding can not hold a man.
@Mrs Inziani Mwambie..sometimes huwa hawakui punished 😂😂😂
Very very true
Amen
If you witness an accident, you'll realize that some victims are screaming for help, ignore them , give priority to the one that is silent, they are the most hurting......your father's love for you is deep
🤣🤣 looking back I just laugh . I had this toxic X ! weeh . He was asked who is she ? He said "just a friend." Then after 1 year 6 months dating , I called it quits . 3 days later he had gotten another lady pregnant. 🤣Weeh ! Ogopa wanaume ! Years later he still regrets the decisions he made. I am now happily married and outside Kenya .
Waoooooo 👏
Wow that nyc God has a purpose for everone
My experience with an ex is the funniest; he told his girlfriend I’m his landlord (he lives in my servants quarter)!
@@nahyialetomia9284 😅😅hiyo ni kali
@@wambui185, imagine! He told the gf that I’m married to some man from Nyeri and had two kids. The girl called me, after some time she had a son with him too. We both later struggled as single mothers😛
Hugs from your villagemate. Really loved your mum, my teacher. Thanks for sharing your story. Surely marriage is not a ticket to heaven!
Thankyou for giving me a platform to encourage someone going through the same
Thanks for coming over to our channel
We appreciate you
TUKO family let's support this girl's channel too. She super blessed.
Take heart dear. I feel the pain.
You are young and beautiful. Love yourself more, cry, let go. Better now than later. God has something greater and better for you. Keep the faith , trust God. You will look back one day and thank God for getting you out.
you're a strong, beautiful woman
You're a strong woman.
Tuko pls tupatieni story zingine sio broken marriages only, ladies huku nje hata wameogopa kuolewa.
😂😂😂kama mm hapa
You are not forced to watch
You were a beautiful bride,please dnt cry....Lakini what kind of man was that🥺🥺
This girl has reminded me sooo much about myself. This has hit so differently
I am so sorry for what this lady has gone through. In future it would also be nice to watch positive stories of good marriages so we can also see that it is possible. I am sure Kenya has such couples. These negative stories can be discouraging.
Absolutely true
True. It's become a trauma channel
Hadi mtu anakua private investigator kwa relationship
True
Eish you are so right.
Don’t cry over a fool who doesn’t respect or care about you.
Crying heals
Yes... That is what I have learnt with time
Never put a wedding ahead of a man's personality and character. Most ladies believe a wedding is everything.
Ever been on her shoes take heart bilha
Ever been on her shoes take heart bilha
True because they concentrate more on public image. Friends, neighbours and Family.
It's due to societal pressure
We are losing Christianity wedding is good, despite all challenges, problems will never end, more aee coming
Tuko always remember to have with you serviettes or wipes for the guests. It doesn't look good when the guest is in tears and you can't provide.
That's why we love linny
True
True
And Lnny always provides
@@marthashimwaka5853 what do mean this is not Lynn know how to talk on people's platforms
I know what it feels to be rejected by a father.
God is more than a father
Dad please listen to your daughter….she loves you
Never beg for love
Nothing hurts than knowing the person you love is cheating on you,this is the reason why i fear getting married or being in a relationship
Overcome that fear My Sister
😭painful
Am not alone I fear relationship alot
Talk to God, He is faithful, He will give you your husband
Painful 😭😭
I love weddings but hearing things people go through in the name of weddings gives me chills....
hahaha weddings are overrated
It gives me chills too
Same wueeh
As a mother with married daughters I want them to hold onto their marriages and make things work. However, if my daughter or son indicates that they are unhappy with the relationship I will drop everything to give them an ear. And yes, if all indications is that it's not working it's not working! My child's happiness is what matters even when they are sixty!
Thank u
Am sorry for everything....but on the same these are men of nowadais,you could have not leave the marriage...na kuavoid the phone ya wazee😭they are sons of jezebel...
True mama
I'm already crying because I'm also that girl's dad despite being married to a man that I love deeply. I really love my dad so so much
Woiye aki watu hupitia through alot in this life😔😔 sorry mama and if possible just cry cry it out, lia uchungu wote uishe...iknow it's not easy but God's preparing something good for you, from now onwards your life with never be the same again.
The lesson I learned here I will never force relationship weeee huyu aliforce everything had wedding but sory for tht without challenge huez kua strong.
I have viewed many of search stories & I have noted something common, "the guy looked handsome" my kind advice to ladies, appearance will never matter if it does not correspond with a right character... Check out for the right virtues & values of the person.... its like choosing a beautiful cup & not minding if its content is poisonous or healthy, the content in the cup is what that matters the most , the beautiful cup should comes as an added advantage … another thing marriage is not a product of society, so never mind what people will say, if you are in a messed up marriage just exit, time is irreversible, the only treasure that you should not let any one waste is your time.... most times after exit you'll find peace, so my dear sisters just move & never look back. God will restore & make you shine...Isaiah 60:1-2
Well said brother...
We are visual creatures and nothing wrong with noticing the outer beauty. You meet the face first before you meet their character. Unless you are on common ground and ovlbserve them all the time. It's upon you to get to know the person beyond the physical appearances. Again we all have our tastes and yes all those her/his smile,his/her body looks good are okay to look out for.
Handsome is relative to everyone
You seem right👏
Hugs mummy....this gal is soo cute 🥰🥰she deserves a good person.....all will be well kui...trust God ...it's painful but dad will come back to his senses soon woiye 😭,.....
I'm more angry with the dad ,than the ex-husband.
Me too so sad
Same
True
😁
Sure
Their were RED flags,the man said I don't want a wedding,he wanted come we stay,he left the lady plan the wedding all by herself.This guy is a narcissist.God is in control all will be well with u,atleast u left early,1yr not 20 yrs later.
Good interviewer.....
i wish you all knew way what you talking off you sooo supportive yes but come to think of her back of the story,,,y all abt the man and not of hers,wacha kumpaka tope kwenye mgongo wa chupa,atupe her blunders as well.
Si naccist is a fornicator and is very dangerous. Men of today for them to keep their morals NI ushamba kwao.
Good intro Yvonne, good work. Let the grind roll
A parent stands by his/her child no matter what....that father needs to talk to his daughter
My mother did not speak with me after my divorce. She died in 2020 before she could. I basically lost my mom 2yrs before her death
It depends with the child some children they dont listen to parents
She is at peace with her ex husband but for her father thats where her heart is broken in pieces
It's OK not to be OK.I walked out of a very toxic relationship and am doing just great!! Just cry and for you to heal and also give yourself time💝💝
We celebrate your courage to walk out of a toxic marriage Mildred.
You are a true hero.
Soo sorry dr
@@YvonneKawiraTuko thanks mum♥️
@@khadijahamisi9470 am good dear
The toxic marriage hurt her but the problem with her dad has devastated her. Keep going my sister. I applaude you for beiing strong and leaving before it got worse. I applaud you for looking out for your Precious Rose. Daddy if you are seeing this Fathers are very important to daughters so please reach out to your daughter.
The man gave her all the red flags before the wedding but she still went on with it. When will women stop compromising with wrong men all because they want to be married. Marriage is not a life achievement and no man can make you happy if you can't make yourself happy.
I know another female like that. They already had 2 kids together. He was having sex with an old classmate of his while engaged and messing with other women. Barely 1 year after their wedding he messing with that old classmate flame and seeking out other lose women. It will destroy her soon. She knew who this man was
True.
Amen so true,u have spoken facts n thruth🤗
😪😪true may God help us
😭😭😭😭😭 I found myself in tears 😭 aki watu are so heartless....Bilha don't worry your future is great don't worry about that ex husband .
You're strong lady . Don't let anything pull you back. Walking out of the toxic marriage was the best decision you made for you and your girl.
Keep on holding onto prayers and your relationship with your Dad will be restored.
Men are able to read other men. Your father knew and he knows what you went through and he is hurting...his little gal was hurt. When men hurt, they stay away coz if the anger build up, they might do something they will regret. Give your dad time to calm down.
Hugs girl, just pray for ur dad he might also be going through Alot u know how the society judges but it reaches a time it is just u n ur God when I was in such situation I came to sing " on Christ the solid rock I stand...all the other ground is sinking sand"
The lady is beautiful 😍😍 we all make mistakes
Gal, I understand your position. I personally was born a mistake!! At least this is what my mother kept communicating to me both in words and actions. That hardened me from childhood where I knew so early that in this world, no-one is there for me. I grew up used to the fact that I am not loved. I have worked so hard to reach where iam. I have never known anything like a father figure in my life!!!!
God calls you previous in His sight.
Fearfully and wonderfully made.
The Apple of His eye.
He loves you with an everlasting love.
You are worthy of love and shame on those who didn't see your worth.
I remember when broke up a courtship in 2020 on basis of character defects, I gathered courage and went home in person to explain it to mum and dad that the most anticipated wedding was not coming forth!!! It was hard yes, but my parents understood me!!! I have seen enough bad marriages to sign up for one in the broad daylight!! I am a daughter in that home and not a single day can I be denied access!! Some actions require boldness... Bring them to speed and let them understand why you made that decision
The mother in law was caring .
They Normaly care when they know their son is useless. Ukipendwa na inlaws think twice. Ujue that son is a problem u will live with. They will do anything to ensure u stay with him juu no one else will.
@@terryray3147 sad truth 😭😭😭😭😭
Toxic marriages have become the norm for most of the involved. And they injure the victim and the children mostly. Getting out is the best option because there’s no rehearsal in life and don’t think about what others think and say. It’s all about you the individual. Perseverance only hurts you and makes you a prisoner.
Parents break hearts too but nobody's ready for this conversation....This is hurting😭😭😭😭watching this with wet eyes
hugs mama,sometimes we go through hell to get a testimony, good things a coming your way
My daughter is my strength too , through going out of toxic marriage,finally am at peace ✌
I feel your hurt, however I understand your Dad is hurting too because of the outcome of a daughter he treasured, he needs time to heal, just give it time, all gonna be well.
Noooooo...parents shouldn't have such expectations from their children that's why there's alot of suicide
Dad plis talk to your daughter. She needs you today more than never.
I’m only 30 minutes into this but I love this woman! I’m praying for you and your beautiful baby girl❤️
Same here... I love her for free
Aaaaaw darling!!!
I was part of your wedding doing decorations!!
You are the most strongest person i know! Hugs love!
Say no to toxic relationship. Let God take the wheel of your life gal
You're a strong seeking approval from a weak man (your father) that's a toxic move. Don't chase him, he will return when he needs you..
Live your life you have your own family but never seek approval from weakness, you will leave in shame and stress.
Go strong mammy, believe that one day those who rejected you ,those who ignored you, will come back for your help. Let love lead in the body of Christ..Pray and leave the rest to God.
Red flags all over. You forced yourself on this man! May God bless your mom inlove!
Maybe she feared the dads doctrines..... She wanted a family
For sure she forced... Soooo many red flags 💔💔
Notice Although this story she has not cried only when talking about her dad? That is where the trauma is
yes, she's hurt because of her dad's rejection
MAIN WORD NI "LEAVE" HAPA....AS IN CHOREA MAPARO, Ndio dad ameondokea. Wisdom hio...
Matthew 19:4-5
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ?6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Marie Njuguna - Kimani her only pillar has crumbled.....so 😢
Somewhere she said she has always been dad's girl. He was the first to learn about her pregnancy after her boyfriend. She hoped for a different outcome but got something else....
It hurts
So proud of you for walking out of a marriage that was definitely a non starter. I truly hope your dad talks to you!! He should not allow someone to come between the two of you.
Mow you are wiser. Thank God hukupata mtoi mwingine na ur ex.. wed
The HOST is so gracious. I like her❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am so proud of you of walking away of this toxic marriage. Good on you girl. Dad where are you for your daughter. You are missing on your granddaughter . Keep your spirit on girl.
Of course without a child from that guy.
I like how you conduct your interviews Ivonne. Doing an amazing job. Keep it up
Thank you so much. I truly appreciate your support.
@@YvonneKawiraTuko
Hey great Job.Kindly be carrying or providing Tissues for emotional moments.😊
@@consolataogola976 okay I will. Asante
The lady is hurting, not because of moving out of her marriage but because of the dad...
How I wish tuko mngeweza kuintervrne, you've aired/ heard her story, follow up and hear from the dad and probably know what's happening.
If the dad is comfortable.
You can reconcile the two...
In such interviews, let it not stop here..try to provide a solution.
I second you
I third you
Bilha take heart. You don't have to stay in a toxic marriage to please anyone. Irrespective of what he was told, he will eventually know the truth. You do not have to pressure him.
Girl be strong. You are not alone for many women out here have graphic stories....start by giving yourself the inner strength, be yourself and realize the world is full of crazy issues. Kaa ngumu mama, don't force your father to talk to you if he doesn't, he could be battling his silent demons but at the right time he will talk but never force it for it will hurt more. Love yourself, love your baby and focus on personal development. We are on earth for a while: do not stagnate in stress but live life oh.
Bilha! Be strong and have courage dear, your life and your daughter is very important than the life of that fool. God will lift you up and you'll live a happy life which was planned for you. Take heart.
Toxic marriages, toxic relationships.. marriage seems to be a scary institution...
It's cheaters who complicate it it's supposed to be a sweet thing
If he didn't appreciate your daughter he ain't worth your tears. He's a beast.
Toxic marriages are not to go by. Just go bila kuangalia nyuma
Don't cry sweeety,as long as you never did your parents wrong waache Mimi I can cut off anyone including my parents if they are not giving me peace I let them go😒I choose me always..strong girl keep going
It's such an emotional story,this girl has gone through so much. Yaani I can imagine what she feels aki
Life is spiritual. This Girl needs the Father to forgive her. And then utter blessings over her Life. She is beautiful. And she will be restored
This guy was a narcissit.
They are addicted to see,they lie, have no emotions,are manipulative in short they are demonic.
I thank God you left him.
Who will educate pple on narcissits. 👹
Get educated on narcissits and with time you will heal
Your father should also learn on narcissits and understand all about this story.😫😫
The only perfect tr Benjamin Zulu
I dated one imagine i.sent him packing Mimi.siwezi.kubali.kuzalia vinyangarika
@@lifting599 🤔😂😂😂
The dad really?????? He is such a pain,,,how can he go mute on his daughter?????at such a time,,,hugs baby girl ,,you are a gem and you are yet to meet a man who deserves you,,,who will love you as you are meant to be loved,,,there are still good men out there❤️❤️❤️❤️
Marry for happiness n not desparation
Kabisa.the man was not in love frm the word go
😮Can we get the Dad here to hear his side. So he can bless this Girl
Sometimes stories get emotional. Always have some tissue atleast. Otherwise this was deep. Thanks
True ...
This guy is the real definition of a narcist, what they do is identify the person you are closest to then go and make you look so bad in their eyes …I am assured that God will restore your relationship with dad, just hang in there for a little longer
Very true , my ex tried to poison my mum's mind on how bad of a woman I was ,but mum chose to stand for the truth , she defended me and that was the end between and him , parents always should chose their kids no matter what
@@annewairimu5926 They are another level of crazy
If someone has nothing to hide in their phone,they don't keep the phone away from their spouse.I think apart from insecure people,the rest who snoop are given a reason to,there must be a trigger.Its not insecurity,its finding the truth ,which will set you free ujipange mapema.Too many fake people these days,no need to persevere man made problems.
I have no words to say let me pray that your father may know what you are passing through ,my dear God will bless you take courage,you are awoman of destiny
Toxic ,insecure,my wedding, my honeymoon, my my planning wedding alone the guy was not ready even for kids.TUKO BRING THE BOYCHILD PLEASE.
Yes... I know the guy.. I need the guy here
Sorry my dear
I too share your thoughts...unless you here from the other party, judgement and condemnation isn't right
@@mbogawalter3819 thankyou
@ Grace Sankei...tell us more
I feel you,but according to ur story there where red flags but u ignored, Am wishing u happiness and heal ur wounds first be4 allowing someone in yourlife .Am lucky Benjamin zulu had real open eyes for many who watch and following his channels ,He's just an inspirational to our society.
Ye women always ignore the red flags and when you tell them, they turn on u saying you are just jealous of the relationship
Very true,let people learn from others mistakes
When it comes to Benjamin Zulu I feel like recording
@@nakamijunic5844 Benjamin his just a vibe to our so called society
Yvonne you are growing as an interviewer good job keep it up.
Yes she gvs space for the whole story
How does a parent's love for their child change😥?was this dad pretending to love his daughter before😏.This is so heart breaking 💔💔
Sorry mummy, just know God saved you from that toxic marriage for a better one. May the almighty heal you and strengthen your heart.
There were many Red Flags from the beginning but you choose to Ignore all of them??? It's a high time to listen to Benjamin Zulu classes and stop acting Desperate for love.
Hi, it's not the end, keep your head up. You fallen twice, collect yourself, take time to reflect, rise up the future a head looks bright!
Dear bilha.. when going through these comments ..please take only the positive ones...ignore negative comments... watu wengine hawawezi elewa what you feeling.. just ignore negative energy... and congrats you did the right thing for you... thank God ulitoka kwa hiyo wedding
Hi Janet ! You’re looking absolutely fabulous. Can you and I get acquainted?
@@provocateurplus173 absolutely...
I just wonder why negative comments🙃😎
interview men too,we need equal stories kindly
He is a destroyer he is not willing to be in light. He won't wants because he destroy her intetionally.
Your comment s is like asking Police to negotiate with mafia the crimes they did is illegal haaha
They interview people who've written to them and would like to be interviewed
God choose the right husband for me and a dad to my daughter
Amen
Really????????????
@@mercymudara7431 yeah really put your n God he will never fail you you will testify one day I'll pray for u..
Amen
Amen
Aki some women are so strong I seriously don't know how I'd handle a heartbreak! Have never been heartbroken and I fear it alot! Am a very fragile person I just don't let people walk over me just like that I'd rather be single😔😔😔
This is so painful how can a father allow the word of someone he new through her daughter to separate him from her daughter. Please dad talk to your daughter. No appearance or even so called divorce must separate both of you. Your daughter needs you now more than ever
I say a lot that love yourself first and know that life is short, be happy and live your life. Nobody knows how you feel but yourself.
The father may be embittered by how things have turned out in your life despite his efforts. Remember children are crowns to many parents and a failure in the child is taken by some parents as a failure for them. Try and understand you dad and maybe talk to an elderly man he respects to speak to him
It's so heartbreaking but please TUKO bring the boy child also and even the father so that we get full and deeper truth
I feel the same let's be fair to boychild
Your dada forsaw what you the victim could not visiualize. They want happiness for you regardless, irrespective. So your dad decided to keep off your decision. He is hurting to an extend of no words
This is very painful. Hugs and ❤️ to this lady.