Our Birth Story (IVF, C-section & our NICU journey)

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  • @Secular-Serenity
    @Secular-Serenity 2 місяці тому +951

    I SO appreciate Eamon’s honesty about how challenging parenting can be. Many people aren’t comfortable being honest fearing they’ll be judged.

    • @cei0219
      @cei0219 2 місяці тому +39

      100% I am new to parenting with a 3 year old and I love that kid so damn much but doesn’t mean it’s not so fn hard. I wish more people were less fake about it and more real with parenting. It being extremely difficult and extremely rewarding can co-exist.

    • @jourdanconaway718
      @jourdanconaway718 2 місяці тому +19

      I have a 10 month old son and my husband loves him so much and has always wanted to be a dad and it's still the thing that gives him the most purpose but he will tell everyone how much of a burden our son is and said people need to be more honest about how much harder it can be but also doesn't mean you don't love your baby

    • @anneliesjoss
      @anneliesjoss 2 місяці тому +15

      I would like to add, how challenging and totally life and body changing pregnancy is, and then imagine being forced to go through this, not wanting it?

    • @leahpeterson39
      @leahpeterson39 2 місяці тому +1

      Like your new format

    • @christybeal5356
      @christybeal5356 2 місяці тому +10

      Being a first time parent is so shocking. It’s true nobody tells you what it is going to be like and that it’s not all magical moments and easy so I understand what you mean by how you feel. It gets easier is all I can say.

  • @eamonandbec
    @eamonandbec 2 місяці тому +785

    Thank you all for being here for this intimate story 💕💕. We are so incredibly grateful for each of you! We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below xxx Bec.

    • @heathermonette1821
      @heathermonette1821 2 місяці тому +9

      I love your positivity. I'm dealing with anxiety and depression, to see how positive you are every day I am doing my best to follow your example. I have started with meditation and rethinking the way I start and approach my days. Love you both Frankie and Oso.

    • @mrsh2016
      @mrsh2016 2 місяці тому +5

      How much did Frankie weigh at birth? My twins were also born emergency c-sec 6 weeks and 2 days early! Loved listening to your parenting journey so far ❤

    • @TheDoconnor1266
      @TheDoconnor1266 2 місяці тому +4

      Thank you for sharing your story ! Births are all different and challenging. Yet, You are an amazing warrior Bec! Keep on the positive energy wave. You are both stronger through this. Make sure to nurture your relationship and have date nights once a week when she takes her naps or sleeping. It’s so important !

    • @Pikitere
      @Pikitere 2 місяці тому +5

      Thank you for sharing your story. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia when I started high school, and my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I started college. It was so hard to see two people who are so strong entities in my life look so vulnerable, but even though it was a horrible time we are grateful to be on the other side, grateful with the learning and growth from it. They are both cancer free for more than 10 years now. So happy to see Bec better 🥰I’m 35 years old. I do not know if I want to have kids, but sometimes I’m scared to bring a kid into a world that is so scary but seeing my nephews flourish in the world motivates me. I honestly am so happy to be able to see your beautiful family and everything you share. God bless.

    • @jayleigh_bee
      @jayleigh_bee 2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you so much for opening up about all the journeys you travailed in order to get your sweet Frankie! It’s incredible how all these paths crossed at just the right time and in the right way to have this come together to accomplish this amazing goal! Incredible is not a big enough word! Hugs…

  • @h.y.w.6932
    @h.y.w.6932 2 місяці тому +447

    I honestly wasn't expecting this level of insight and depth from your podcasts. I thought this would be a light-hearted chat show type of vibe. But damn, do I ever appreciate the level of openness and vulnerability you've shown. Your story is so compelling, yet relatable. Thank you for this. You're very right in saying that you have a dedicated base of fans who are already interested in hearing what you've got to say, despite your thumbnails, and I'm one of them.

    • @cherylsmith2345
      @cherylsmith2345 2 місяці тому +3

      I couldn’t have said it any better. ♥️

    • @kandicemcgough4762
      @kandicemcgough4762 2 місяці тому +7

      Seriously and I love that they have different opinions and can move on without actually getting mad/fighting with each other.

  • @vievedejoy
    @vievedejoy 2 місяці тому +199

    Your first podcast merch should be shirts with "I'm so proud of me" on them. I'll get one for everyone I know. I'm so proud of you too, and every woman should say that to herself in the mirror every day. You remain an inspiration, Bec ❤

  • @penelopebrown871
    @penelopebrown871 11 днів тому +1

    Bec & Eamon thank you for sharing your beautiful birth story.
    I would like to share with some anxiety that I had lost both my Mum & Dad 8 monthsprior to the birth of my fourth child with the doctor saying he wouldn’t like to try & save me again. I had nearly died after or during each of my prior births. I had heart issues all my life with one Cardiologist writing a letter for me to keep to show doctors as he thought some doctors would not believe what my ECG would show. this time my husband wasn’t allowed in & I was fully asleep & didn’t get to see my son for over 12 hours. But I survived again & my baby again was perfect. ! I have now been diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease & am doing what I can to ease my way through the many & varied effects of this. My babies have given me so much joy outweighing all the ache. Life is a learning curve with no book of instructions so enjoy each day & find joy in simple things. . I send you strength , Love & Hugs Pen x

  • @strahbs
    @strahbs 2 місяці тому +189

    As a new mom, it’s honestly refreshing and super validating to hear Eamon talk about becoming a parent. It’s incredibly challenging to be able to express yourself honestly without people misunderstanding or judging you.
    You guys are doing great ❤️

    • @reginacampbell6245
      @reginacampbell6245 2 місяці тому +1

      We are an amazing design that only God could do.
      Here is the way I’ve been taught. We have a Soul, We live in an earthly body, and we have a Spirit!❤

    • @KirstyNZ
      @KirstyNZ 2 місяці тому

      I've stopped getting notifications for your channel (yes they are turned on), had to actually search for this, so unsure if this is impacting your engagement?!

  • @Livinginthegrayarea
    @Livinginthegrayarea 2 місяці тому +282

    In Eamon’s defense… finding out I’m autistic/adhd at almost 40, really restructured how I show up in my life. When we try too hard to fight the adhd “needs” like lack of eye contact, we tend to lower our abilities elsewhere. It’s like having a bunch of water cups that we need to make sure none spill over as we move the water to different cups. You both are so strong for opening up in such a beautiful way. The amount of love you both have is truly inspiring. ❤ So grateful for this podcast. Sending love to you, Bec 💕 🙋🏻‍♀️

    • @cclose8007
      @cclose8007 2 місяці тому +13

      Yes the spoon theory and the fork theory.
      You can’t choose not to be neurodivergent
      And
      You can meet yourself and others with love and compassion and acceptance so it’s not all resistance and negativity x

    • @kathydebby606
      @kathydebby606 2 місяці тому +35

      Love Eamon and Bec HOWEVER, how you " identify" is not ADHD . It is a diagnosis. If you are neurodivergent, often you get eye contact or you get our attention. Eye contact often does dysregulates/dismantles our focus because holding eye contact takes all our focus so it is difficult to listen. So if we aren't making eye contact, we can listen better. People that take no eye contact as a direct insult need to understand it has nothing to do with respect when in fact we are trying to be the most respectful we can by adapting to listen and be there for the person. Does that mean we don't need a reminder and a check, we absolutely do and we have the ability but understand that it does not mean we don't love you, care about what you are saying, that we dont want to connect.

    • @braylens1822
      @braylens1822 2 місяці тому +5

      Found out about my ADHD when I was 43. lol it’s a rough diagnosis

    • @SP-os9pf
      @SP-os9pf 2 місяці тому +16

      As a recently diagnosed ADD 40+, I've always struggled with eye contact as I don't know what I'm supposed to be looking at - one eye, both eyes? What if they have an interesting facial feature, I then fixate and worry they are aware of what I'm looking at.. in the meantime I haven't listened to a word they have said to me.. it's a mine field !!!

    • @nicolekb12
      @nicolekb12 2 місяці тому +1

      @@kathydebby606 i went through a 'diagnostic' process with an adhd professional, who was himself diagnosed with adha in the 80s. i went through hours and hours of computerized tests - the results of which were compatable with adhd and generalized anxiety. the doctors conclusion though was to say - 'I do not like the word diagnosis, this is not who you are, the brain is changeable.'

  • @DrEsq
    @DrEsq 2 місяці тому +127

    The absolute rawness of this chat was just...superb. Thank you two for being human and not forgetting it.

  • @daniellecroce7
    @daniellecroce7 2 місяці тому +57

    I am crying so hard at the Yellow part and Frankie being born at 2:22 which is an angel number bc they say people who we’ve lost try to communicate through frequencies and it’s as if Lee was saying, “here she is” through the music and time and gahhhh I’m just losing it all over again! This is not the birth story or journey to parenthood either of you would have wished for or expected but it sure id special none the less and I just wish nothing but the best, healthiest and happiest lives for you two and your family ❤

    • @_Rose94
      @_Rose94 2 місяці тому +1

      That is such a beautiful part right! I just posted my comment, I'm a person who sees numbers as colours and 2 is yellow!

  • @GabrielleLynn13
    @GabrielleLynn13 2 місяці тому +45

    When Bec said “we didn’t actually beat it… which is heartbreaking” my heart just broke…. As Bec was going through her cancer journey, my mom was also fighting breast cancer. It was helpful to me seeing her positive perspective and I tried to carry that over to my mom’s journey as well. Her chemo was completed, radiation completed, and the doctors thought she had responded really well. She was told she was in the clear, just like Bec… then 6 months later she was at the ER for some pain due to a kidney stone, my mom had back pain most her adult life so having back pain wasn’t odd for her, she had also broken ribs/clavicle 2 weeks after radiation ended cause a drunk driver hit the car she was in. They thought the pain was all just from that… The doctor saw her chart, saw she’d was 6 months post treatment and asked her if her team was aware of the lesions in her bones… we were not. The ER doctor from the car accident was in a different city and had not said anything either (but later reading the X-ray reports the lesions were noted and it was assumed my mom was aware so they said nothing). My mom thought she had beat cancer (her lymph nodes were also clear) and she too found out 6 months later cancer had spread to her bones and she was stage 4. Her cancer was a rarer form, more aggressive, and didn’t respond to treatment, she eventually stopped treatment and went on hospice and she crossed to the spiritual world on August 15th. Thank you for being brave and sharing your cancer story Bec, it’s been so impactful for me and I appreciate you so much for sharing. ❤️

    • @kafitty
      @kafitty 2 місяці тому +4

      I am so sorry for your loss. Truly devastating to have it work out that way. Sending you lots of internet stranger love.

    • @wilmabrock5462
      @wilmabrock5462 2 місяці тому

      Me too! I feel for you and all of us who lose our loved ones to cancer.

  • @skipthecultureshock5474
    @skipthecultureshock5474 2 місяці тому +235

    Never forget how amazing you are Bec! You fought cancer in your breast and beat it. You beat the odds and conceived a child naturally. You fought cancer in your bones and delivered a baby through it all. And now you hold everything together while being the best mom ever. You support Eamon, you project love and kindness and radiate pure goodness. But the most important thing for you to remember about yourself is that the only love that matters is your own. Let your love for yourself be the secret that carries you through whatever it is life throws at you. Always know you are worth it.

    • @007nadineL
      @007nadineL 2 місяці тому +4

      Beat it? Why are you saying that?

    • @marybrooks4486
      @marybrooks4486 2 місяці тому

      ​@007nadineL why not... what is your problem

    • @JoHart-q2x
      @JoHart-q2x 2 місяці тому +5

      She has stage 4. Not being cruel just a fact. She hasnt beat it its terminal

    • @KayRay1966
      @KayRay1966 2 місяці тому +1

      Don't let the facts get in the way of a good narrative!

    • @jonap5740
      @jonap5740 2 місяці тому

      @@JoHart-q2x National Breast Cancer Foundation says some women live ten years and longer with stage four. It is possible. "Geisler, a retired UW-Madison director of outreach development, has lived with breast cancer for 40 years and with metastatic cancer (meaning it spread to her bones) for 36 years. Her story inspired UW Carbone Cancer Center oncologist Mark Burkard, who now is hunting the world for other survivors like her." Source: University of Wisconsin-Madison.

  • @linf525
    @linf525 2 місяці тому +118

    Dear Bec and Eamon, your story was so beautifully told. You are both heroes, and Frankie is the luckiest baby!!
    My cancer story began 22 years ago when I was 60(am 82 now). I was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer and doctors predicted 1 to 5 years to live. They were off by at least 21 years!! Additionally, I gave birth to my second son in 1966, 12 weeks early! No one expected him to live more than 20 years, but he survived till age 53, dying of sepsis in 2020. He was the most amazing person who brought us so much love. I have an older son age 60 and daughter age 55. Listening to your story brought back so many memories. Thank you for sharing your courageous stories. Love, Linda

    • @sallysampson628
      @sallysampson628 2 місяці тому

      🥰🙅‍♀️

    • @debbiecuthbert4286
      @debbiecuthbert4286 2 місяці тому +8

      Wow I needed to read that. I’m also stage 4 ovarian and it gives me hope 💕💕

    • @cw7368
      @cw7368 2 місяці тому +1

      thank you for sharing

    • @linf525
      @linf525 2 місяці тому +1

      @@debbiecuthbert4286 so glad you are fighting. I will pray for you❤️

    • @lucyfahy869
      @lucyfahy869 2 місяці тому +1

      Amazing to read this! I am a stage 4 ovarian cancer thriver, diagnosed aged 29, 16 years ago. Absolutely no chance was given for me lasting more than a couple of years, yet here I am :) Love reading about people like you even further ahead than me :)

  • @jennykothbauer5910
    @jennykothbauer5910 2 місяці тому +212

    Please don’t shy away from sharing the cancer treatment you’re currently doing or what menopause symptoms you have. You have a microphone to help people. There is nothing wrong if someone needs conventional treatment to help heal. I had no idea about many of these things until I joined breast cancer groups on my journey. Dr. Joe never says not to do chemo or anything of that sort. This is why it’s important to tell both sides of what you’re doing conventionally and integrative. Blessings to you.

    • @a.life.reimagined
      @a.life.reimagined 2 місяці тому +7

      She will do as she wishes. She's setting herself free from the stress of constantly keeping everyone up to date. Dr. Joe doesn't tell them to seek treatment. But, if they do, he wants them to keep using it. Totally up to her.

    • @BéatriceSullivan-h7h
      @BéatriceSullivan-h7h 2 місяці тому +16

      Bec always ends up sharing what she went through but once the chapter is closed for her. So maybe in a few years we will be able to hear it and it will help others. I belive the reason why she isn't sharing those information with us in "real time" is because she doesn't want to bring more focus on those negative experiences and will hinder her healing journey. She's trying to preserve her healing, positive frequencies. Like she said what you focus on grows.

    • @tinadawson238
      @tinadawson238 2 місяці тому +12

      I’m interested in this part of the journey too, but of course, if and when Bec wishes to talk about it.

    • @DanielleGlick
      @DanielleGlick 2 місяці тому +7

      I am also looking forward to the cancer update. This podcast left me wondering if removing the ovaries helped, what happened with the tumor on her forehead, and so much more!

    • @aubreyeyre-bohne8241
      @aubreyeyre-bohne8241 2 місяці тому +1

      I’d love to see you share the choices you make in your journey as it will help others. As a healthcare provider, I’m so grateful for the grace you’ve shown all the people that have walked with you through this. We are imperfect people trying very hard to be superhuman and often we fail. My personal issue, that I hope you’ve figured out, is how to walk the fine line between choosing not to let fear guide but also preparing for the future as well. I’m so excited to see where your joy takes you both!

  • @7dancerbaby
    @7dancerbaby 2 місяці тому +21

    As a music therapist, I can promise you that singing to Frankie is connecting you in ways that words can’t. You’re both amazing parents! ❤

    • @cassandrar8153
      @cassandrar8153 2 місяці тому +1

      LOVE seeing another music therapist chime in, I had the same thought! Hi from an MT-BC in San Diego 👋🏻😊

  • @ladyfae4797
    @ladyfae4797 2 місяці тому +17

    I cried so much hearing Frankie's birth story. My daughter's birth plan went so very wrong, and I had no support. My daughter Alicia will be 27 in December and I don't think I've ever mourned that whole experience. She is the light of my my life and she is profoundly disabled. I thank you for sharing and in doing so aloud me to cry over all that happened. Alicia has taught me to be present and to find joy in the small things.

  • @telasims233
    @telasims233 2 місяці тому +333

    So glad you shared this. I was diagnosed with the same Cancer as Bec, there's never been a history of cancer in my family, so I was lost, and being diagnosed during COVID, there was NO support groups because the world shut down, hospitals were on lockdown, and even treatment, we couldn't have that ONE person come with us the first day of chemo.. I found Bec on UA-cam with the caption I HAVE BREAST CANCER!!! Not only did our cancer have the same biology, Estrogen receptor positive, we had other things in common, I always ate healthy, I NEVER eat McDonald's, Burger King or fast food. i have a sports background and like to know what's in my food.. Bec sharing her story Was our SUPPORT GROUP.. we were in treatment without family or friends, so our cancer center put Eamon & Bec on the flat screen so we'd STOP talking to each other, during Covid they wanted us to keep our distance.. Sweetie you are SO BRAVE, and it meant so much to so many people. Thank you❤ Hugs💕

    • @cathyhudson3448
      @cathyhudson3448 2 місяці тому +1

      This!

    • @notgivingupyet
      @notgivingupyet 2 місяці тому

    • @KaitlinJL
      @KaitlinJL 2 місяці тому +14

      That’s insane! This story alone is proof that even if it’s so hard to share your story, that it can make the biggest life impact on so many people, beautiful and so moving!

    • @Daisymaysvlogs
      @Daisymaysvlogs 2 місяці тому +5

      sending healing your way!! I hope everything is going well :)

    • @UnBoxItwithMaureen
      @UnBoxItwithMaureen 2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you for sharing - how beautiful.

  • @fleurenklaar8848
    @fleurenklaar8848 2 місяці тому +23

    You just made me realize: I should be very proud of myself! My husband has an incurable brain tumor and we are struggling with infertility for over 4 years now. I had 3 miscarriages in the past 4 years and developed rheumatism because of the stress. We worked very hard to feel healthy, good and happy despite of the sh*t show that is our lives. But! We did all that! We went through it and are stronger than ever. Thank you for this lesson. I follow you (from the Netherlands) with a lot of love and feel connected because life challenges us in a simmular way. Please keep sharing positive energy ánd the struggle and sadness. You are both troopers. Much love!

  • @cchheellsseeaaaaaaaa
    @cchheellsseeaaaaaaaa 2 місяці тому +54

    Bec and Eamon - I ran into you yesterday at the airport with my son Wes. I was pretty nervous and just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to come over and say Hi.
    You guys inspired me to convert a short bus and travel in 2016, and your cabin reno videos helped me through the long stretches of covid. I just found out I was pregnant when you guys announced your pregnancy with Frankie so it was very cool to watch you go through that at the same time.
    Thank you so much for all the positive content you put into the world. So happy the podcast is back. ❤️

  • @tracypickett6424
    @tracypickett6424 2 місяці тому +17

    When Eamon took the moment to mention he feels for those trying to conceive, my heart contracted. It's been a year for me and each month I am disappointed all over again 😅
    Thank you guys for diving into this topic and being vulnerable. ❤

    • @kaetimm
      @kaetimm 2 місяці тому +1

      Sending baby dust! ✨

  • @bethgable3564
    @bethgable3564 2 місяці тому +6

    Frankie was a gift from God . He wants you to know He sent His son to die on the cross and rise again on the third day for just you. I wanted to let you both know how much he loves you .
    I been watching you for quite a while now I started watching you when you were both loving van life . When you were dealing with cancer I prayed for your healing . I lived adventurous thru you both because I was going thru chronic back pain and was trusting God for a healing . Whether I get healed or not I still trust him and love him. I really enjoy watching you life on You tube because I’m sixty this year and I live vicariously through you guys. My kids are both getting done with high school. My son graduated justice past year and our daughter is going to be graduating this next summer so we’re dealing with kids at two different ages. Yours is a baby and ours are graduating from high school and it brings back so many memories, so if you ever have any questions, you can ask me I’d love to help you. I look forward to someday being a grandmother. Frankie’s going to turn out great with set of parents like you too you guys are cool and you’re great and I love y’all even if you don’t fall in love with Jesus right away I still believe that you know that you you can and will. Well that’s all for now. Look forward to seeing you guys again. God bless bye.😊❤

  • @dabailey1000
    @dabailey1000 2 місяці тому +42

    I am a woman in my 70s and I love listening to your UA-cam channel. It is hard to find raw honest conversation these days. Please keep it up even oldies love it. Sending love to Frankie ❤

    • @lisathomas6724
      @lisathomas6724 2 місяці тому +2

      I’m 62 and love listening to these 2 lovely souls tell us about their journey.

  • @jennydavis2749
    @jennydavis2749 2 місяці тому +14

    The part about Bec waking up surrounded by love had me in tears. What a journey. Thank you for choosing to share with a whole world of strangers that are rooting you on from afar❤

  • @saltyaircrazyhair7269
    @saltyaircrazyhair7269 2 місяці тому +51

    "I'm proud of myself" that just hit. Bec, you are amazing.

  • @_Rose94
    @_Rose94 2 місяці тому +5

    I cried during that moment where Eamon describes how he was crying and suddenly stopped when yellow was playing and it was 2:22. So touching! And coincidently, I'm a person who sees numbers as colours and 2 is yellow for me. Beautiful moment❤

    • @laurenmata6926
      @laurenmata6926 2 місяці тому

      I instantly sobbed before they even said what happened 222 is my angel number and I got full body chills

  • @tapper1980
    @tapper1980 Місяць тому +1

    Girl, you're so not alone! Our fifth was an emergency c-section and I was totally knocked out. When I woke up later, I came to shivering and in so much pain. I didn't get to hold our baby for a while there because I kept falling asleep. What a miracle though! So happy for you both having little Frankie. ❤

  • @lilysophia7317
    @lilysophia7317 2 місяці тому +18

    A tear jerker today. I am so proud of how strong and courageous you both are. I can’t wait for Frankie to see how strong her parents are. You overcame things no one should go through and were so authentic throughout.

  • @teaganjoanparke
    @teaganjoanparke 2 місяці тому +31

    My Mom recently went through menopause and spoke so often about how it is not spoken about. How she wishes more women talked about menopause, more studies were done etc. In your own time, I think your voice on menopause is one that so many women would find value in. Thank you

  • @peggyhansen4516
    @peggyhansen4516 2 місяці тому +49

    Eamon. You made a couple of comments that I would like to reply to. First, thank you for your honesty about how you felt with the chaos of having a newborn. When I had my first child 33 years ago, our first night home from the hospital and our baby cried and screamed the entire time. Late into the evening my husband says “ what did we do? We ruined our life!” I was so angry, tired and disappointed, I called my mom and she was able to get our baby to calm down. The thing is I was thinking the same thing, but I was angry because he said it out loud! It wasn’t until last week, 33 years later I told him how it made me feel and confessed I was feeling the same way. Feelings are complicated and so is parenting.
    Second. My mother had cancer that was estrogen driven. When hers was discovered she was 72. The cancer had eaten through her pelvic bone. Long story short she had a terrible diagnosis, unknown primary stage 4. They gave her 24 weeks to live and was going to do nothing but “wait and see”. Being that finding primary sites of cancer was what I did for a living, that answer was outrageous! I took my mom to MD Anderson in Houston. They suppressed her estrogen with drugs. I was surprised since she was post menopausal and I didn’t think she would have any estrogen. The specialist there told me that the adrenal gland produces a small amount of estrogen and any estrogen feeds her type of cancer ( which they felt probably started in her breast, but before her immune system was able to take care of all of it it went somewhere else.).
    My mom lived another 7 years and did not die from cancer. Please have Bec reconsider drug suppression.
    Thank you for all you share.

  • @lindsaykendall3696
    @lindsaykendall3696 2 місяці тому +7

    Eamon, thank you for your candor. I had my daughter when I was 24, single and alone, living far away from family and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I had no idea what I had signed up for. The amount of sacrifice and WORK parenthood was was something I was woefully unprepared for. I appreciate you speaking your truth. My daughter is 13 now and special needs. It's still extremely difficult but it gets easier with each stage. Thank you both for sharing your story. 💛

  • @maryana09
    @maryana09 2 місяці тому +4

    Just wanted to say, I sat and watched your ivf video and balled my eyes out. My husband and I had been trying for years to have a baby but had unexplained infertility. After watching your video I was finally confident enough to go through with ivf and now I’m sitting here watching this video feeding my 3 month old!! Thank you❤ Ivf was scary to me and I wanted to keep things natural but you guys just made me feel a lot more comfortable with it after you documented your journey 🙏🏻

  • @nicoleleanne2751
    @nicoleleanne2751 2 місяці тому +51

    I can't wait to hear how Eamon feels about parenting when Frankie is 2 and talking. I have a 2 year old and it's amazing. Once they learn to sleep through, no more bottles and their personality really flurishes, its everything being a parent!

    • @leiye5100
      @leiye5100 2 місяці тому +4

      Yes, I can resonate so much. Our son was a colic baby. Crying non-stop for 6 months straight. Even daycare and grandparents couldn't handle it. My husband had to take time off work because he wasn't doing well because of all the stress and I wanted to go back to work.
      But now our son is almost 2.5yo and it's such a nice time❤ He is so happy, energetic and smart. He says such funny things and just seeing him evolve from this very unhappy baby is amazing. I really love it now!

    • @missindependent1973
      @missindependent1973 2 місяці тому +2

      @@leiye5100my little brother was colic 😳 every single picture of him as an infant, he’s red and screaming his head off. It’s so hard to deal with.

    • @bethanysummers3377
      @bethanysummers3377 2 місяці тому +1

      I found age 3-4 very challenging also for different reasons. Juggling the discipline side of things with tantrums etc.

  • @RJ-bj8ic
    @RJ-bj8ic 2 місяці тому +9

    35:45 "I'M JUST SO PROUD OF ME" So much to be proud of!!! What a beautiful moment 💛💛💛

  • @alisonshellum9870
    @alisonshellum9870 2 місяці тому +24

    Id love to hear more about Eamon’s ADD journey and what impact he feels it has on his approach to everything, his lightbulb moments the more he learns about it, etc. I can fully relate to needing to look away to focus on thinking without distractions 😊

  • @idbek
    @idbek 2 місяці тому

    Amazing episode. Incredibly powerful. I am so in awe of Bec. It’s a total miracle that she made it through 37 weeks with such a horrible resurgence and that she and Frankie are fine. What is so amazing at 35:00 is the look on Eamon’s face….he is in awe of that experience and Bec too. That whole experience is mind blowing and must have been incredibly transformative.

  • @Bindismom
    @Bindismom 2 місяці тому +9

    Wow, what a wonderful podcast! I’m a 81 yr old great grandmother and I SO agreed with everything you were saying! You are very spiritually beautiful and advanced. What lovely children you two will raise. You have been through so much in your 30 years but instead of bringing you down to a victim mentality, you have grown and grown spiritually, mentally and with so much love and compassion. Thank you for sharing this deeply emotional time with us. Believe me, for those that have ears for it, you have taught deep spiritual lessons. I’m just so proud to know you and thankful that I came across you. The only thing that bothers me is when you say “ my cancer” or “ your cancer”…..I would not claim it at all. Substitute the word “the” for “my”.
    Love, hugs and light always.❤️👍👍🙏🙏

  • @cassidyj3
    @cassidyj3 2 місяці тому +35

    Being neurodivergent definitely impacts eye contact. It can be very difficult. Props to Eamon for trying so hard! I can see him fighting hard not to look away. Even a few seconds is such an accomplishment!

  • @kimchikatharinaho8590
    @kimchikatharinaho8590 2 місяці тому +56

    I was debating whether to comment bc I love you guys.
    Still it is important to make it clear for your followers. Pregnancy right after hormone positive breast cancer has a very high risk of cancer recurrence. Especially because one needs to be skipping anti hormonal treatment.
    It was your doctor’s responsibility to warn you about the risks and potentially even advise against pregnancy.
    I am also a gynecologist and this is basic knowledge.
    Sometimes a Doctor’s job is to tell you a very hard truth, that you don’t want to hear ❤❤❤😢

    • @Questioneverything8888
      @Questioneverything8888 2 місяці тому +2

      Getting the jab also increases it !!

    • @tara6094
      @tara6094 2 місяці тому +2

      Did no one tell them that?
      If it's hormone based and pregnancy increases your hormones like crazy. .
      Isn't there a 5 year window?
      I'm asking as someone in the 5 yr window myself.

    • @tara6094
      @tara6094 2 місяці тому +2

      Bec if you see this. .
      IM SO PROUD OF YOU!
      I KNOW how hard it is! I've been where you've been. . People don't grasp it until they go through it. I wish you would have had someone who was in medicine advocate for you. And explain things better. Mine was triple negative and i was 9 months pregnant. .I'm One year out. 🙏's for me and I'll keep you guys in my prayers as well.

    • @alisalaska1786
      @alisalaska1786 2 місяці тому

      That is so sad :(. Humans make mistakes but that’s why it’s called a care TEAM. That is a huge mistake for a doctor to make.

  • @ashleyvandokkum
    @ashleyvandokkum 2 місяці тому +12

    I 100% understand where Eamon is coming from. My entire life I wanted to be a mother. I was always the mother friend of the group and I would joke about having so many kids that I would have my own soccer team. I worked with kids with autism and was a special education teacher. I really thought I was ready. Then I had my son and nothing could have prepared me for it. It was so much harder than I could have ever imagined and anxiety completely took over my life. He’s 7 now and has a 3 year old sister, and it is still so challenging. I’m now the Eamon in the group that tries to warn everybody about how hard it is. I love my children to death and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. But I do think most people could not imagine the reality of parenting until they are in it.

  • @bethhhh16
    @bethhhh16 2 місяці тому +4

    Your birth story brought me to tears. Like you, a C-section was worst case scenario for me. I had watched heaps of positive birth stories and actively avoided the c-section ones as I didn’t want to carry that with me into labour. I had never been to hospital or had any sort of medical procedure.
    I had an emergency C-section back in July at 41+6 weeks and had to be put under as the spinal didn’t work. My daughter was taken to SCBU afterwards, and I woke up in a room alone unsure why me throat hurt, or where my daughter and husband were. I didn’t know what SCBU was at the time and no one explained it to me. My daughter was born at 11.29pm and I didn’t meet her until 4am the following morning. I was alone the whole time minus a few minutes with nurses checking on me. Every time I asked where my husband and daughter were, I was told SCBU and that they could get my husband to come to me. I kept refusing because I wanted him to be with her, but I never thought to ask what SCBU was.
    My advice for anyone who is pregnant is to research all aspects of labour. I wish I had been more aware and prepared for a c-section as it took me a few weeks to process the trauma and the fact that I missed so many special moments in the first 4.5 hours of my girls life

  • @sing101allison
    @sing101allison 2 місяці тому +5

    I’m literally crying the whole time watching this podcast! I’m a labor and delivery nurse, and this just makes my heart burst! The positivity and warmth that both of you exude is so inspiring. Bec you are such a light and Eamon you are such a rock 🤍

  • @bohoxplorer840
    @bohoxplorer840 2 місяці тому +12

    OMG the part where Bec woke up to all those loving hands comforting her..
    she is so blessed to have such loving family friends there for her.
    I was sobbing this was so beautiful OXOXOOXO

  • @elizabethmendoza4203
    @elizabethmendoza4203 2 місяці тому +22

    Your base is always going to be here for you! Thank you for sharing your journey! My 6 yr old was diagnosed with leukemia in April and honestly watching you deal with your cancer journey has given me as a mum so much love and light. The only thing worse than hearing you have cancer is hearing your child has cancer. It’s a true out of body experience. I love how you’re choosing joy and I will be trying to implement that in my day to day cuz it is a choice.

    • @missindependent1973
      @missindependent1973 2 місяці тому

      Oh man, that’s a hard one. It’s hard for anybody to deal with cancer but kids? You must be a strong mama ❤

  • @megwansong
    @megwansong 2 місяці тому +4

    I also love Eamon's honesty speaking about becoming a parent. I think he's not alone in that feeling but I understand the guilt of not wanting or thinking you should share those thoughts so I'm grateful he feels comfortable to share them and knows that it doesn't take away from the love he has for Frankie and the gratitude that he has.
    Same with you Bec, gosh I just love your open honesty about everything. Thank you for willing to share this online... it's a choice you guys have made and I am really enjoying listening/watching your convo's.

  • @SerendipitySpoke
    @SerendipitySpoke 2 місяці тому +6

    At 35, I went into full menopause. I want you to know that it gets better. The hot flashes get better, but they occasionally flare up. I will encourage you to be test for osteoporosis and make sure that this is add to your care regimen. I wish I had fought harder for early testing and not let some doctors talk me out of it. It was recently discovered. I still can change it, but I know that I should have advocate better for myself. I’m so happy that you have learned to advocate for your physical and mental health. You have such an amazing mindset, It’s truly inspiring! ❤

  • @raw8565
    @raw8565 2 місяці тому +127

    Yea thank you eamon for saying that!!! She had an estrogen driven cancer and she wasn’t watched more closely by doctors or heard out for being in excruciating pain with her bones. The doctor should have took that complaint more seriously and did everything possibly before just telling bec it was just the pregnancy growing pains. AND YES BEC you should be so proud of yourself for growing a human and delivering her safely❤ ugh im crying watching bec cry 😢

    • @plannergirljones2551
      @plannergirljones2551 2 місяці тому +11

      Having a baby without doing the 5 year cancer prevention pills and KNOWING her cancer was oestrogen driven is the most irresponsible stupid thing I’ve seen a couple do it’s literally unaliving yourself

    • @plannergirljones2551
      @plannergirljones2551 2 місяці тому +2

      Having ivf and a baby within a year of oestrogen driven cancer was so irresponsible stupid and your basically unaliving yourself

    • @rikkemeek1506
      @rikkemeek1506 2 місяці тому +6

      They went to Mexico right after her treament finnished and she didn't see a doctor for 6 months. I think she should have stayed home and being more vigilant with her health instead of getting pregnant.

    • @khorns1
      @khorns1 2 місяці тому

      @@plannergirljones2551thank you! Finally someone says it! Especially when she’s aware she was STAGE 3 already!!

    • @bethanysummers3377
      @bethanysummers3377 2 місяці тому

      ​@@plannergirljones2551it seemed the doctor told her she was all good to get pregnant. She trusted the doctor.

  • @ajajaja926
    @ajajaja926 2 місяці тому +6

    This conversation was so cathartic. My birth experience definitely didn't go as planned and I still, two years later, haven't found the time or space to fully process it. Listening to your experience and your perspective on it while things were changing one moment to the next, and now seven months later as you've reflected on everything, it is just food for the soul. Delicious, nourishing, incredible food for the soul. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It's a gift to mama's like me. 🧡🧡

  • @kaylagreene664
    @kaylagreene664 2 місяці тому +7

    Bec is such a beautiful soul inside and out. She radiates love and light and is 10x more of all of that in person rather than on screen. The next generation that both Eamon and Bec are raising together are going to be the best people. I cannot wait. We love you guys so much too.
    -Kayla G

  • @heidivarnham5648
    @heidivarnham5648 Місяць тому +1

    I remember watching you guys speaking to one of your consultants on the phone and telling him that you were pregnant. You were both upset that he told you this wasn’t a good idea, that he wouldn’t recommend you get pregnant. I am so grateful that you have shared your story, the good and the bad parts. It’s heartwarming to hear how positively you choose to live. Thank you ❤x

  • @angelaarnold4255
    @angelaarnold4255 2 місяці тому +6

    Listening to this conversation…. Oh my gosh you guys! You’ve helped me not feel crazy. I have breast cancer. I’m 67, I have Scoliosis, and chronic back pain. I’m a Diabetic. I walk with a cane. But if I have to stand and walk, I have about a 3 minute timer on how long before I have to be finding a place to sit. My Oncologist knew with everything I’ve been going through with my back, Chemotherapy would kill me. So we treated my cancer with hormone therapy. My lump was shrinking. Everything was looking good. Then my body stopped responding to the hormones and my lump started rapidly growing. Last week my areola started hardening. It felt like a thin plastic poker chip. Every morning when I wake up, the hardness around my areola is getting bigger and bigger. Years ago I tore the rotator cuff in my left arm. I knew what I did to damage that. So no wondering what happened. So 3 days ago, I woke up in excruciating pain in my right arm. My lump is also in my right breast. Felt like my rotator cuff injury. But I’d done nothing to hurt myself. At the end of August, I had a CT Scan. It showed my cancer had metastasized to my liver, to my L5 in my spine and my L1 had a compound fracture in it. So where my spine is bone, I seriously think the cancer has moved to the bone in my arm and shoulder. My family thinks I’m crazy. Hearing you say your cancer came back in your back and how bad the pain was…. BECCA!!!! I feel validated and heard. Thank you so much. I see my Oncologist on the 24th of October. We are hoing to have a serious talk! Thank you so much!! Oh and your little Frankie is amazing. What a sweetheart!♥️♥️♥️

  • @carolynsimmons3987
    @carolynsimmons3987 2 місяці тому +7

    Don’t feel alone with the shock of how much energy this little human can zap from you! Everyone is thrown for a loop! You think you know what to expect but you can’t until you experience it first hand! However at the end of the day,they are the deepest love you will ever have. I just can’t imagine having the cancer worries on top of having this brand new baby!❤ Big hugs!

  • @spn_girl4life774
    @spn_girl4life774 2 місяці тому +10

    I’m crying because I too had to have an emergency C section. I struggled with the emotions of no one being there the moment my son came into the world. I didn’t get my moment with him. I was sobbing as they were putting me under for the surgery. I had to have a complete hysterectomy at the age of 40 & that’s been a trying time all in itself. So thank you for validating my feelings that I still to this day fight. Our boy is now 23 & he is just recently engaged…..I’m blessed

  • @FamilyofDreamers
    @FamilyofDreamers 2 місяці тому +17

    Thank you for speaking the truth, always. I was the Eamon for my friends. TV, movies and a lot of people make having a baby and parenting seem so dreamy but it's incredibly difficult. It rocks your world and I never wanted the people I love to be blindsided by it. But what I learned is that you go through so many phases as a parent and it's okay to not enjoy every phase of parenting but still absolutely love the crap out of your kid(s) and be an amazing parent. Give yourself a lot of grace, raising kids is hard. When things are hard, I love the quote "this too shall pass." Thank you guys again for telling your story with nothing but honesty.

  • @laurenm1369
    @laurenm1369 2 місяці тому +4

    Being a new parent is HARD. The way your life flips upside down is extremely difficult to adapt to and no one talks about it enough. Ivf is also extremely challenging but somehow empowering. I said I would never do it. I did 107 injections by myself. I’m extremely thankful they put me to sleep for the egg retrieval. I had 70+ follicles. Kissing ovaries caused me incredible back pain. Anyone on the ivf journey is f*ing STRONG. no matter why you are going through it. Thank you both for sharing such depth of your story 🩷🤍

  • @ElizabethsManyAdventures
    @ElizabethsManyAdventures Місяць тому

    Because of you two I call my kids, grandson, random babies, plants, my cats and random insects ALL Buddy! ❤ This last summer I picked a grasshopper out of our pool and said "Awww, buddy!" And put him on the side. The next weekend my 8 year old daughter did and said exactly the same as she saved an insect from drowning in our pool! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 The light you project! ❤

  • @michyd7981
    @michyd7981 2 місяці тому +87

    I was so nervous when you said you were pregnant. I couldn't understand why the doctors would let you, with estrogen positive cancer get pregnant so early. I was flabbergasted and I remember being so mad at your doctors. When you disappeared from UA-cam, I had a sinking feeling.
    But Frankie is a blessing. She's beautiful and I do truly believe she is meant to be here. You are beautiful and your journey is far from over. I love your calmness and the new zen energy you put out. It's amazing. You are so inspirational and strong!! You should be very proud of yourself!!! XOXO

    • @NLR759
      @NLR759 2 місяці тому +12

      Yes, my mom had estrogen fed breast cancer and they put her on an estrogen blocking medication (not tamoxifen) for 5 years after her lumpectomy. Even though my
      Mom had already gone through menopause. She was 58 at the time. This was 20 years ago, my mom had a lumpectomy and radiation, no chemo. We live in Canada too, but in Vancouver BC. I can’t understand why Bec’s doctors didn’t do the same for her. It’s a really dangerous lack of care.

    • @michyd7981
      @michyd7981 2 місяці тому +4

      @@NLR759 Agree.
      My daughter is currently on hormone blockers for 5 yrs...possibly 10.
      I'm glad she's now getting care in Toronto.

    • @ctgctg1
      @ctgctg1 2 місяці тому +6

      Doctors don’t let a patient get pregnant. They would have told Bec the challenges and dangers of getting pregnant with her type of cancer.

    • @KayValero
      @KayValero 2 місяці тому +6

      @@plannergirljones2551 Are you okay? You keep making nasty comment after nasty comment about someone’s terminal cancer, which is quite disgusting of you. Get off the internet and get a hug from someone. Stop being so mean.

    • @rikkemeek1506
      @rikkemeek1506 2 місяці тому +5

      Her doctors did tell her it was dangerouse but they didn't listen. They went to Mexico for 6 months without seeing a doctor and came back and found out they were pregnant.

  • @BSNHef
    @BSNHef 2 місяці тому +10

    Hearing bec say “I saw a picture of you before I met you” validated so much in my soul. My daughter was born by emergency c section at 29 weeks and was whisked away before I could see her because I was having a medical emergency. I didn’t meet her until 32 hours later and hold her 13 days later and the trauma I have knowing I wasn’t able to give her the love right away is something I have to work daily on to redirect my brain into the positive. But ya know every day that I give her all she needs just helps to rebuild what was broken in my heart. ❤❤❤❤. Thank you for sharing your birth story. It’s amazing more than you will ever know.

    • @marieh442
      @marieh442 2 місяці тому +2

      I'm so sorry you went througth that

  • @ali-yc2uu
    @ali-yc2uu 2 місяці тому +11

    “I’m just so proud of me”.. girl and so you should be! what a beautiful moment of gratitude to yourself. You’re an incredible human being and we could all learn a lot from you Bec. So much love to you x

  • @catherinebrown9119
    @catherinebrown9119 2 місяці тому +3

    I am so happy that your story brought you your sweet baby girl. I had an emergency c-section with my first son. He was in distress and I was rolled in and put out immediately. No one knew I would have a difficult time coming out of anesthesia and I was OUT for a long time. I remember starting to wake up in my room. I could not open my eyes. I could whisper to my husband. Then, I heard my baby. In the hall. I said, “That is my baby Sam.” And it was!. With every ounce of power I opened one eye ,because by golly, I was going to see my baby on the day he was born. I knew it was him. ❤ Love to all.

  • @kayciehulett9615
    @kayciehulett9615 Місяць тому

    Love watching you guys...I had an emergency C-Section in 1981 and was put to sleep and had a horrible birth experience...several complications, stayed in the hospital for a week...it took 10 years for me to have another one but was sooo worth it and much less traumatic the second time...love seeing Frankie, a true little miracle!!! Side note - Ms Rachel is amazing! LOL...baby number 3 from my 1981 C-Section son can be crying at the top of her lungs and we turn on Ms Rachel and all is good!!!! 🙂

  • @lindafisher8441
    @lindafisher8441 2 місяці тому +13

    Eamon, your honesty is refreshing...it is harder than we ever knew..72 yrs old 2 sons grown and I wonder what I would have done if I really thought it through. Doesn't mean we don't love them, just means it's more work and it never really ends.

  • @lauram4124
    @lauram4124 2 місяці тому +14

    So proud of you Bec!❤
    My husband and I went through 9 years of fertility treatments. We had many losses and one ectopic. We almost lost our marriage because there was no help with insurance. So we were so far into debt we were both working two jobs. We almost lost our marriage!
    Well, here we are after being married 25 years and only through God did we get our miracle baby by private adoption.
    We have never been anywhere without her, not a lunch, not a dinner, or a vacation. It might sound crazy but when you have to go through all the hell of treatments. We have no reason to ever want to be without her! We miss her when she is at school.
    It was such a long journey.
    The one thing I can say, is after all the suffering it was worth it all. I had lost my will to believe in God and when I got to cut the cord for my baby, I had to run out of the room discreetly and go to another hallway in the hospital and fell to my knees I just couldn’t believe that she was my daughter. I actually hurt my knees and was crying hysterically, a man walked up to me and said mam, what’s wrong do you need help? This is a hospital we can help you, but I couldn’t talk, I was crying so hard but didn’t want the Birth mom to know. I had to hold it together during the labor for hours and I guess I was just holding my breath! I love her more than any daughter who could have come from me! I love her more than life itself!
    No one can understand your story and the way you feel about your experience and what you have gone through.
    Love you guys 💕
    Sending all the love, health and happiness to your beautiful family!!

  • @buriedinherbook
    @buriedinherbook 2 місяці тому +14

    I know I am just one of a million plus people who watch your content, but I just want to say that you guys are amazing. On the note of the thumbnail and worrying about how things are perceived by your community. I think its safe to say other people think like me as well. You all could literally put up a black screen for thumbnail and not even title the video and I would still click and watch it. You guys are comfort creators for me. it's so obvious how genuine and loving you guys are and how much you care about your community, we are so proud of you all❤ try not to stress about us, we will be here 🫶🏻

  • @Aya-nc4ro
    @Aya-nc4ro 2 місяці тому +19

    ADHD and neurodivergence is a completely valid reason to not make eye contact. Making eye contact is not automatically better. It’s just what some cultures consider more socially acceptable. Your beautiful brain is literally processing the world differently and taking in so much information. The way you do things naturally is not wrong, Eamon. It can be so easy to assume that when you’ve received messages that there’s something wrong or different about the way you do things your entire life, but that doesn’t mean you need to change yourself. What you are describing, forcing I contact, is a form of masking (lots of info online on this), which has its place and can be super helpful and keep people safe, but is can also be exhausting and super detrimental. To some extent, it’s up to you when and where and how you would like to choose to intentionally mask or unmask (not all of it is intentional, and this is very intersectional), but I just hope you know that if you have safe spaces, you don’t have to. The way that works for other people, doesn’t have to be the box that you force yourself into. Sending Lots of Love from one ADHDer to another. 💙

  • @emilyfuller6260
    @emilyfuller6260 2 місяці тому +3

    This is honestly so beautiful! Just all the times you can see Lee shining and looking over you and Frankie. Sobbing my little heart out but feel so blessed that you chose to share this. Thank you x

  • @Skainzee93
    @Skainzee93 2 місяці тому +9

    I’m so proud and glad for the both of you. And I don’t want to discredit Eamon, but Bec… you are one hell of a powerhouse. An inspiration. You show up every day, for yourself, Frankie, Eamon, your family and friends. And you take yourself seriously and know when to take care of yourself. ❤

  • @EleanorEngland-j1t
    @EleanorEngland-j1t 2 місяці тому +4

    I love the honesty on becoming parents. My husband recently got asked at work what it's like having kids, and he said it's the best and worst thing you'll ever do, and people always get so defensive, but it's true

  • @Luna_meadow16
    @Luna_meadow16 2 місяці тому +11

    You two humble me. The grace you show with the chaos that surrounded you is so amazing. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @anartistryy
    @anartistryy 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing all of this with us. Bec you are so strong. I hope everyone who left mean comments while they took a break from posting think twice next time before commenting and give creators some grace. You never know what someone is going through. It’s hard enough becoming a new mum but Bec has had to balance so much more. You’re amazing, Bec. A true light on this earth, and you’re a wonderful mum. ❤

  • @carlikieran123
    @carlikieran123 2 місяці тому +2

    I've watched you both from the beginning and becs strength and journey takes my breath away! I became a mum at the same time and honestly I can feel the fight within bec, becoming a mum takes your fight to a whole new level, your heart triples, quadruples, its truly a transformation and i feel like frankie will heal bec physically and emotionally and it's miraculous and so so beautiful ❤

  • @01bolden
    @01bolden 2 місяці тому +46

    I’m see Eamon’s view on some of the parenting blind sides. Before I had my daughter, I listened to other moms talk about this magical bond that you’ll have with your baby, the moment you set eyes on them. I loved her instantly, yes…but the bond…no. I remember crying because I didn’t have this magical moment and thinking, “anyone could come and steal my baby and she would never know who her real mom is! “ Everyone gave me false hope. She’s 16 now and the greatest kid and we have had the best time, but the beginning was hard.

    • @Mel.H_
      @Mel.H_ 2 місяці тому +1

      Mama Dr Jones is an OB and has a youtube channel. She experienced the same thing. Not everyone automatically bonds with their babies❤❤❤

    • @stacycamacho59
      @stacycamacho59 2 місяці тому +1

      Not everyone experiences a bond right away. My youngest was no exception either. Now it is so strong as she is 2 and non verbal, looks for me everywhere and I panic when she is quiet and getting into everything. My oldest kids absolutely adore her.

  • @ellensiniscalchi1482
    @ellensiniscalchi1482 2 місяці тому +4

    I am so blown away, so impressed, respectful and in awe of your honesty, openness. I am understanding now your freedom in speaking the word cancer over and over again without restraint, not holding it in and not giving in to fear. Bravo to you both, your wisdom is awesome in the truest sense of the word.

  • @TheBubbleBia
    @TheBubbleBia 2 місяці тому +16

    I totally respect Bec's choice of not letting the medical system make us live in fear. Amazing choice ❤

    • @plannergirljones2551
      @plannergirljones2551 2 місяці тому +8

      Are you kidding she wouldn’t be dying if she’d listened to them! It was unprofessional of any doctor to tell you it was ok to not only do ivf but to also have a child when your cancer had been confirmed as being grown be oestrogen so so inappropriate you could have adopted and now your stage 4 and no time left a child without a mother a husband who couldn’t cope being a single dad just pure irresponsible

  • @Jacqueline-es5yb
    @Jacqueline-es5yb 2 місяці тому +4

    You SHOULD be SO proud of yourself Bec...you are simply incredible. And you are a great partner Eamon. Re bringing up children, we have 3 sons now in their 30's. All VERY different, we brought them up to follow their hearts. We told them that as long as they 'carry their weight in the world' they can do whatever they choose for work, I would rather they got paid less and woke up on a Monday morning and went to a job that made their heart sing, than to spend 5 out of every 7 days miserable and being paid well. As long as they didn't break the law they would have our support. It's important to teach your children HOW to think, not WHAT to think.

  • @janetbrock8240
    @janetbrock8240 Місяць тому

    Having a baby was hands down the best thing we've done..my baby is 19 years old and I'll always hold close the first day we met..I by no means want to say it was easy..but how fulfilling..you guys are great parents..enjoy the journey...

  • @NMV-ej4zd
    @NMV-ej4zd 2 місяці тому +38

    American RN here (my late mother was a kind and stoic Canadian) The point @ 34:44 Bec: so heartbreaking, so poignant, so moving, and yes, you should be proud of your self, proud of suffering through unknown, cancer induced bone pain and trusting at some point a doctor would order diagnostic imaging and labs to check for the potential source of pain, and finally discover ugly cancer recurred. It happens in America to a lot of females- they hear medical staff dismiss many new, worrisome symptoms as being benign, without prudence and due diligence by staff to order diagnostics! No one has magic vision, that is why diagnostics should be ordered for a new or persistent issue. DO NOT SETTLE LADIES, be persuasive with symptoms and what you believe you need ordered. You are amazing Bec: beautiful inside and out and courageous. Enjoy sweet Frankie Lee.

    • @9eyeswideopen
      @9eyeswideopen 2 місяці тому +2

      @NMV-ej4zd sadly it’s not only women who are not listening to. My husband had been telling his doctor. He didn’t feel alright only to be told it was on his head. He was a hypochondriac and get his s**t together it’s not all about you. He was even pushing me to commit him to a psych ward. Sadly he was diagnosed with cancer. We lost him within weeks. When he was asked how he felt regarding the treatment he had received from his GP he said he should’ve given me a loaded gun. It would’ve been more merciful. After his death we obtained his medical records a scan had picked up the cancer even his bloodwork it was all there and his doctor did nothing he failed him

    • @tbelsom
      @tbelsom 2 місяці тому +2

      @@9eyeswideopenI’m so sorry this happened to you. A very similar situation happened with my husband who is now deceased. It’s heartbreaking.

    • @9eyeswideopen
      @9eyeswideopen 2 місяці тому +2

      @@tbelsom so sorry for your loss 💔We carried out my husband’s only wish to take legal action against his doctor. After many years we obtained the justice he deserved, but that only highlighted what his doctor attempted to do he even falsified his records. In doing so it only proved how neglectful he was.

    • @bethanysummers3377
      @bethanysummers3377 2 місяці тому +3

      I can't believe they didn't question her pain more and do tests with her medical history. It doesn't sound like the Drs gave her great advice for after chemo care either, so sad.

  • @jessmundo
    @jessmundo 2 місяці тому +13

    8.5 months postpartum and even though we don’t know each other I was so excited to be pregnant at the same time as Bec! I was also slapped in the face with the reality of the challenge those first months with a baby. It hit me HARD. And I waited until 36 years old to have my first. I haven’t understood why more people don’t talk about how hard it is. So I started to think maybe I wasn’t qualified for this at times. I really appreciate Eamon’s honesty on that.

  • @mmamallama1827
    @mmamallama1827 2 місяці тому +8

    Responding with love to your child’s crying will give her security that will last her a lifetime. That security will become strength and it will be her super power ❤️🙌

  • @shirleyproppe7353
    @shirleyproppe7353 2 місяці тому +3

    I SO appreciate your honesty. Eamon: Thanks for pointing out how difficult being a parent is. It's one of the most important "jobs" a person can take on and should be approached thoughtfully. Bec, you are a warrior. Love and positive energy to you both!

  • @katelyngeorge2743
    @katelyngeorge2743 2 місяці тому +3

    Bec I just want to say that you truly touched me when you said how it feels to see your baby threw a picture before you ever got to meet them. I had the same experience and I've never heard or seen someone talk about it before. Thank you so much and so much love to our partners that's took care of our babies before we could.

  • @lynne1973
    @lynne1973 2 місяці тому +11

    Bec, you are of course not alone with your birth experience. My daughter was born a week early by emergency C-section, cord around her neck, barely alive, whisked off to NICU where she remained for four days hooked up to machines. I had an anaphylactic reaction to the epidural, could barely breathe and couldn't see my daughter for several hours, not knowing if she would make it. It felt like falling through a black hole in the universe. When I was finally taken to see her (I told them I would crawl there otherwise) I burst into tears. But it was precisely this awful experience for her and me that bonded us, we warriors got through it together, and now she is a 100% fit, healthy and intelligent 14 year old and we are very close . There is more than one way to bond with your newborn. Not just the fairytale birth. Yes you should be proud of yourself, everything your body has been through these last couple of years and here you are, radiant, chosen by the energies of this world to be Frankie's mum because they knew that you would be the best possible one precisely for her. And Frankie knows it too.

  • @chantellenew2331
    @chantellenew2331 2 місяці тому +4

    I had 4 daughters in 5yrs. You do have the capacity. You can hold, comfort and love 2 crying babies at once. Some days you're crying with them. And when you are, you'll feel a little hand touch your face. That's when you get that they are comforting and loving you. You'll see them do it for each other all the time, to this day as they are all in their 40's.

  • @cadin78
    @cadin78 2 місяці тому +15

    I cried. I laughed. And I'm thinking about how to infuse my 76 year old life with your energy and positivism.

  • @daniellehammer6000
    @daniellehammer6000 2 місяці тому +2

    I'm sitting here almost 6mon pregnant feeling this all on such a deep level after a year full of some really tough health diagnoses, and then becoming pregnant after all of it. Crying with you!

  • @theginacohen
    @theginacohen 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing all of this! I have five kiddos, most are adopted through foster care. My youngest shares a biological Mom with my middle child. Their first Mom told me she was going in for a C-section and invited me to visit. The first time I saw my youngest was a photo as well. She did end up going into foster care and I brought her home from the hospital. Six years later, that photo still absolutely melts me when it pops up on memories. It is a different story but one full of love all the same.

  • @chrisellsworth6345
    @chrisellsworth6345 2 місяці тому +6

    when you talked about Lee holding Frankies hand in the spirit world it brought tears to my eyes for many reasons. Awesome podcast

  • @holliewood55
    @holliewood55 2 місяці тому +19

    Watching this with tears streaming down my cheeks and neck. As a 45 yr old woman, coming up on a year cancer-free from stage 3 metastatic, estrogen-positive breast cancer that had spread to my lymph nodes, I am extremely shocked that they didn't have you on any preventive meds and didn't see a problem with you getting pregnant so quickly, or at all, tbh. While I am older and was done having children, I was still considered on the younger side for stage 3 breast cancer. It was extremely aggressive. I found a tiny lump above my nipple and immediately scheduled my 1st mammogram ever. It took a little over a month before my appt and in those few weeks, that tiny lump grew the size of 13 cm and was in half my breast, closest to my armpit. They found 3 cancerous nodes in my armpit during my biopsy. I started a very strong regimen of chemo and suffered through the red devil and then months more of a less aggressive chemo. Then I had surgery followed by radiation. I was immediately put on oral chemo and hormone therapy to put me into menopause so I won't create as much estrogen and be less likely to have a recurrence. I will be on oral chemo for at least 5 years and hormone therapy for 10 years. I also get a shot in my butt once a month! They have impressed upon me how important this is and how my chances of getting cancer are significantly reduced because of these preventative measures. I am just so shocked that they didn't put you on any preventive meds! Then didn't monitor you extra carefully during your pregnancy!!! This makes me so angry for you. The fact they didn't tell you to use a surrogate is crazy to me! I cannot even begin to imagine the emotions that you went through finding out the cancer came back while pregnant. The extreme highs and lows you dealt with! The rollercoaster your mental health rode through this time. You are AMAZING, Bec!!! Just being pregnant is emotional, then you throw in cancer, stage 4 cancer!! I'm sobbing for you after the fact! You deserve everything positive and good that is coming your way! I'm so proud and I don't know you personally! ❤ Baby Frankie is a miracle and she is so blessed to have you as her Mommy! The strength that you exude is next level, girlfriend! I can't wait to watch you enjoying motherhood and watching Frankie Lee grow up! She is the cutest 😍 I pray that your body heals again from cancer, and that you live to have a long, loving life, and that Franky gets to have her Mom in her life thru all the milestones into adulthood and beyond. If anyone can beat this, it's you! Show yourself and your body grace and take care of yourself 1st and foremost so you can be there for your daughter and family like you no doubt want to be. You are an inspiration and your daughter is blessed to have you as her role model. #Fukcancer 🎀 💗 💞

    • @StancyTalk
      @StancyTalk 2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, so scary that while she was looking at her positive pregnancy test, she was waiting for a biopsy result. Can’t even imagine.

    • @holliewood55
      @holliewood55 2 місяці тому +3

      @StancyTalk Me neither! I feel anxious just thinking about it! I'm so irritated with her doctors. Everything I've been thru and still going thru, I have some peace because my doctors are sooo amazing! I feel like her doctors dropped the ball and should've been way more concerned with her getting pregnant. At the very least they should've been monitoring her frequently. It shouldn't have gotten to point it did. Bec is amazing though! You would never tell by looking at her and Frankie that she's been thru everything that she has and is still dealing with it. 🩷

    • @StancyTalk
      @StancyTalk 2 місяці тому +2

      @@holliewood55 can you imagine an OB gyn telling this beautiful young woman shortly after she finishes treatment to go ahead and get pregnant? They need to be sued. Yes, she is the personification of healing. And that precious baby, oh my gosh such a cutey pie

    • @holliewood55
      @holliewood55 2 місяці тому

      @StancyTalk Estrogen positive breast cancer!! It defies logic to me! I'm not a doctor so hopefully they know way more than I learned after I was diagnosed, 😉 but.... It just doesn't add up to me.

    • @robynhumphries7467
      @robynhumphries7467 2 місяці тому

      @@holliewood55 Me neither - I wonder if the communication from the Dr was misinterpreted.

  • @lollipopgumdropitlikeitsho5836
    @lollipopgumdropitlikeitsho5836 2 місяці тому +16

    this podcast is so freaking amazing! I feel like I’m getting to know them on a whole completely different level 🤣🤣 also as a American viewer, please go on amazing race oh my God I would literally buy cable again
    ps
    BEC!!!! I cannot even express enough, how much of an inspiration you are. The joy you bring in the self reflection is so inspiring!!!

  • @martagw8938
    @martagw8938 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your personal and such an emotional journey of Frankie’s birth as well as your journey. I respect your silence and thank you so much for opening up to us. We adore you both, have so much respect and love you all.

  • @spiceywolfey
    @spiceywolfey 2 місяці тому +17

    As someone who is childfree by choice it's so refreshing to hear a parent be honest about the struggles of parenthood. Everyone tries to make it seem like it's all sunshine and rainbows and childfree by choice is just insane.

    • @yunichairani2117
      @yunichairani2117 2 місяці тому +1

      It has sunshine and rainbows..the most beautiful sunshines and rainbows. But it also has thunders and winds and gloomy days. Embrace it!

  • @magdalenanikolovska9892
    @magdalenanikolovska9892 2 місяці тому

    when you said that you would teach her: "it's okay to dissapoint me." a part of my heart healed. thank you for being amazing people and sharing your love with the world 💛🫂

  • @tawfeeqa2197
    @tawfeeqa2197 2 місяці тому +12

    Eamon tells the truth_ it is challenging to have a child and it uproots your life. It it is also a blessing

  • @Sarah_x_x_x
    @Sarah_x_x_x 2 місяці тому +3

    Hi Bec, I am also a cancer survivor. I got cancer when I was 25 years old, but it was not the same as yours. Even still, I remember my doctor telling me that I absolutely could not get pregnant for at least 5 years.
    My cancer was not a hormone driven cancer, but he let me know that he has a patient that had breast cancer and she got pregnant very soon after finishing treatment and unfortunately her cancer returned very aggressively.
    I still remember the pit I had in my stomach while watching your video when you told us that you were pregnant.
    I am in the states and I’m not sure how different things are here versus in Canada medically but I am just so surprised that they gave you the greenlight to try to conceive so soon after treatment. I am so incredibly happy for your family and that Frankie is here with you, but I urge you to look more into it before you try to have another 🫶🏼 big hugs. I love your videos and your family. I have been watching you since Van life

  • @helenmedlow2764
    @helenmedlow2764 2 місяці тому +5

    Wow, I cried thru this whole Podcast and all I could feel is Joy and then you said it ❤ I feel you in the selfworth healing, I too have had to move thru this, and the past year has been the biggest internal layer that has bought me back to Worth and Self Love, I hear every unspoken word in your energy and I'm sooo super Proud of you and all of us that are actually healing this for all of humanity...what we heal together goes into the collective energy field and I absolutely LOVE YOU and your vulnerability in sharing. Also Eamons beautiful honest sharing of the 'truth' of bringing a baby into one's life, bravo because too many people stay quiet and it makes people feel like they are doing something wrong. So proud of you both, you are the first Podcast I've ever listened too and I'm hooked, the emotional release is heart warming, I've cried so much with you, I AM truly Grateful to you both ❤ much love from Sydney ❤❤❤

  • @lakinkoester2212
    @lakinkoester2212 28 днів тому

    I’m at 56:00, you guys are so inspiring omg just wow I have chills🙏 The way you both think and communicate is wise and beautiful

  • @doris1826
    @doris1826 3 дні тому

    My first baby was a C section under general anesthesia. I met my son 3 hours after his birth -- after 34 hours of labor. A huge disappointment after planning for a "beautiful " birth experience. BUT...had we had this birth experience 100 years earlier, my son & I both would have died. So 2 days of H-E-double-hockey-sticks of bad vs. the 38 years we've had, my daughter-in-law and two grandchildren! Perspective is a huge gift!

  • @lizziebennet2700
    @lizziebennet2700 2 місяці тому +4

    Bec - you are an absolute warrior! Birth is so worrying in the best circumstances, and you had a very different experience from the one you wanted. I have had 4 c-sections and it's so hard afterwards as well. And you're dancing, cuddling, being amazing. Warrior queen. I hope when you're 94, you can look back at this podcast and think 'damn, I was awesome'!

  • @TheBubbleBia
    @TheBubbleBia 2 місяці тому +24

    Requesting a meditation podcast pls!!! I'd like to know Bec's tips for daily meditation, specially for good mental and physical health ❤ Love you guys!!

  • @BowmanMoran
    @BowmanMoran 2 місяці тому +7

    When you had cancer the first time, I wasn’t that interested. Then, I was diagnosed with breast cancer HER2 triple positive. I went back and watched your cancer journey and it really helped me! I was 76 when I was diagnosed so I didn’t feel it was a big deal but I did feel that it was so terrible that you were so young with cancer. Anyway, you two are such an inspiration!!

  • @alynn1590
    @alynn1590 2 місяці тому +1

    I love the openness about this podcast. My wife and I are 30, 32 and we have strongly decided we don’t want kids. Like he said no one tells you the negatives. It wasn’t until my sister in law had her son and told us the major downs about it that I woke up and realized we have a choice we don’t HAVE to do this. We made this decision when I was 24 and I haven’t been doubtful for one sec that would parenthood is not for us.

  • @lucybamber5895
    @lucybamber5895 Місяць тому

    These podcasts are just incredible! I'm laughing and crying with you and just hanging onto every single word. The energy you both put out is so infectious and exactly what I need to sit in at this point in my life. I would love love love to hear an episode all about your meditation journey and how you can into it all. I'm so interested in starting myself but like you both said in your previous episode, it feels so foreign in the beginning.