Secrets to a Happy Healthy Marriage (this is what works for us!)

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  • Here are some ways that have helped us have a happy healthy marriage. Please share your ideas in the comments.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 114

  • @SoulfulRose
    @SoulfulRose 4 місяці тому +4

    The best gift I can give my children is to love my spouse. 🙏🏿

  • @kayleebaginski
    @kayleebaginski 11 місяців тому +99

    29 year old unmarried woman here. I know I'm not married yet, but I don't think it's a bad idea to prepare my heart and soul for marriage. Your videos give me an example and help me to grow in holiness. Thank you!

    • @Thais_n
      @Thais_n 11 місяців тому +5

      Same thing here! I'm 29 too and love these videos. I actually like anything about the whole process - from dating to marriage. I think all single people should watch them because there is so much to learn, improve and even heal before getting into a relationship.

    • @562Omar
      @562Omar 11 місяців тому +2

      Prayer is the best way!!!!

    • @christya.9329
      @christya.9329 11 місяців тому +3

      Ladies, let's stand together in prayer. May God bring us to the perfectly prepared husband's he has made for each of us.

    • @MartinGonzalez-rt5dd
      @MartinGonzalez-rt5dd 6 місяців тому +3

      John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

  • @maryfrey
    @maryfrey 11 місяців тому +45

    47 years married for me. Definitely ups and downs! 🙃 It would be nice if our parishes had a program like the pre-marriage program, only for people who have been married awhile. Long-married, happy couples could teach it...sort of to prepare us for married life after kids, retirement, aging, etc. Love you and your videos. ❤

    • @tmaffeo
      @tmaffeo 11 місяців тому +1

      Been together 49 yrs married 45 . I agree my honey and I went to a marriage encounter about 30 yrs ago it was so
      Amazing . In
      msgr from our parish wanted us to be in charge of “ precana” classes for pre wedding couples . As soon as an older couple gives it up . I was so honored to be asked . But your right after kids are gone retirement sets in what now ???? 🌻🌻🌻

    • @monicamontoya1578
      @monicamontoya1578 11 місяців тому +1

      What a beautiful ministry that would be! Such a great idea! Maybe it’s something you can aspire to leading in your Church?

    • @christinem6621
      @christinem6621 11 місяців тому +1

      What a great idea!!

  • @tmaffeo
    @tmaffeo 11 місяців тому +28

    I try to do this every day “ What can I do to make my husbands day better “ it could be a cute note that he finds , his fav meal , redoing his drawers , his fav dessert etc
    we are married 45 yrs this past June . He is truly my best friend 🌻🌻🌻

  • @terriwhite3372
    @terriwhite3372 11 місяців тому +19

    Almost 35 years here. I think it comes down to saving your best manners for your spouse. Thank them for what they do, compliment them, show others how lucky you are to have them at your side. Now, have I always done this? Nope. I’m not perfect…..

  • @brookekirchberg
    @brookekirchberg 11 місяців тому +38

    Heather, I wanted to let you know how much of a blessing you've been to me. I'm not usually one to comment on UA-cam videos, but I came across your channel this spring when I started my RCIA journey. You've helped me learn so much about Catholic theology. I'm on track to receive my first communion in about a month. God bless you 🙏🏻

  • @icyangel13
    @icyangel13 11 місяців тому +34

    I'm called to chastity and I love my vocation, but I really enjoy watching your videos because it's so good to see God at work in your marriage! So uplifting in a world that is so corrupt. Thanks for giving a good example!

  • @culies8
    @culies8 11 місяців тому +31

    So needed this right now! I've been married almost a year to my husband in Mexico. I've converted to Catholicism, we have had a baby, going through the green card process, its been a lot! Your videos are so so helpful, thank you!

    • @ppia5700
      @ppia5700 11 місяців тому +4

      Love this video, thank you for sharing!💕✨

  • @pamelaruiz3303
    @pamelaruiz3303 11 місяців тому +20

    I was praying to God to find a good show to watch. I’m learning English and usually the traditional show rare horrible and God gave me your UA-cam Chanel. Thank you. I have learn English and a lost of catholic teaching. You are so cute and beautiful ❤❤❤❤ Thanks

    • @ACatholicMomsLife
      @ACatholicMomsLife  11 місяців тому +8

      I love how God does that! I am so glad you are here!

  • @laarnilapuz5247
    @laarnilapuz5247 11 місяців тому +6

    This December, my husband and i are celebrating our 33rd wedding anniversary and everyday we are grateful for God's grace and mercy. Everything you said is just on point. I pray for your marriage to last a lifetime. God bless 💞🙏

  • @elizabethbrink476
    @elizabethbrink476 11 місяців тому +4

    I am not an affectionate person but I want my children to see their parents’ love each other.

  • @carinamcquilkin926
    @carinamcquilkin926 11 місяців тому +3

    13 years married here. Thank you for the tips, sometimes we know and we forget as time passes. Nice to be reminded of these little things that usually come so naturally while dating. 😊

  • @carmenwyoming5610
    @carmenwyoming5610 4 місяці тому +1

    You are a beautiful, glowing testament to God’s love and joy that He has for women who wholeheartedly give themselves to the wifely vocation! This video was such an encouragement to me today! You hit a lot of important points… solid wisdom! I’m hoping to marry my best friend someday too! Thank you for sharing the joy!

  • @Sara-hd8co
    @Sara-hd8co 5 місяців тому +1

    Hi Heather. I cant believe this video is recommensded to me today. I suggested my husband to get a divorce after a long struggle in our marriage. God is divine

  • @elizabethdavis3417
    @elizabethdavis3417 11 місяців тому +4

    After 12 years my husband and I finally got away for an overnight without kids - it was magical. We should have been doing this more and definitely will more! It's not easy to get the 5 kids taken care of, but very worth it!

  • @user-dd6hw9ch5q
    @user-dd6hw9ch5q 11 місяців тому +2

    One of the pieces of advice my husband and I were given by the person who married us was "Be a champion for each other." That was truly inspired as my husband and I are from two different backgrounds as well as cultures (including countries). It's very much like the advice being a cheerleader, but it's also about defending one another especially when others criticize your spouse, don't understand them, and so on.

  • @sunnygem21
    @sunnygem21 11 місяців тому +10

    Thank you Heather. It's our four year wedding anniversary tomorrow. So perfect timing! We've gone through a hard year with things happening around us and we just had a miscarriage with our third baby. These gentle reminders how to love one another are very helpful.

    • @BugsyB1979
      @BugsyB1979 11 місяців тому +1

      I'm so sorry about losing your baby. Miscarriage is very difficult ❤

  • @colleenc1586
    @colleenc1586 11 місяців тому +4

    Love the hair and headband

  • @CFW1
    @CFW1 11 місяців тому +13

    Such a positive, affirming video on marriage. You do such a great job communicating these suggestions and giving helpful examples. 😊

  • @saratran16
    @saratran16 11 місяців тому +11

    I find it hard with so many little ones to remember to be this way. I find I’m just exhausted by life with 4 little kids, especially with homeschooling.

    • @angelamcf6335
      @angelamcf6335 11 місяців тому +2

      Don't do home-schooling, dear lady! As a teacher, I think children miss out so much in terms of friendships, social ability, sports, fun and games with other kids.
      You will remain exhausted and worn-out! Get them to school!

    • @MariaIpp30
      @MariaIpp30 11 місяців тому +4

      Keep homeschooling! Build those strong attachments with your children ❤ of course they will still have friendships, sports etc keep those children safe with you. Its worth it and will get easier

    • @rachelpops9239
      @rachelpops9239 11 місяців тому +5

      Moms are exhausted with kids in school or homeschooled my dear Angela. Each mother has to make the best decision SHE can make

    • @LB-ku6ry
      @LB-ku6ry 11 місяців тому +3

      You do what you want with your children! I’d you want to home school, home school!!!!

  • @keedee3104
    @keedee3104 11 місяців тому +3

    Love the background. So beautiful

  • @MaryScarpati
    @MaryScarpati 11 місяців тому +6

    I loved this video so much. I’m only married 2 years and in a lot of ways am still in the honeymoon phase. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. ❤

  • @nathalierich9519
    @nathalierich9519 11 місяців тому +3

    We decided to stop at 5 children - more would have destroyed us - it was the best decision we ever made ❤

  • @MaureenBrady-qc4ik
    @MaureenBrady-qc4ik 11 місяців тому +3

    Beautiful video and amazing advice! I never put it together, but my husband became the spiritual leader of our family right after we did the Marian consecration too!

  • @victoriacugini9147
    @victoriacugini9147 11 місяців тому +2

    Confession!! When I notice I’m getting particularly grumpy or harsh towards my spouse, it’s always when I’ve been away from confession for too long.

  • @elizabethbrink476
    @elizabethbrink476 11 місяців тому +5

    All great advice. Refreshing to get a peek into your marriage…truly helps to know that marriages are not perfect but they are work! And that’s good. Sanctifying us all! ❤

  • @Elopes85
    @Elopes85 11 місяців тому +5

    I am marriage for 46 years 🙏🙏

  • @ProducersGroupProd
    @ProducersGroupProd 11 місяців тому +10

    I Love Your Channel! Thank you ! Great Videos! 🙏🏽😊

  • @JillRice
    @JillRice 11 місяців тому +5

    This Christmas it will be for my husband and I 25 years. Our whole relationship changed when our children left home. Its was kinda traumatic for us both in different ways. We found that we were alot different together after they left. We are also much older so our personality is drastically different. Now starting premenstrual/ menopause we are finding it to be very difficult to travel this new way of living. We started counciling based on the book man of my dreams woman of his a christ centered marriage Its been very helpful. But it's been drastically different today in our relationship vrs just a few years ago. My husband and I are completely opposite too. But using our individual strengths to add to eachother is good. But 45 it's tough. We only had two children who were only a year apart so that also plays a part. If we had more
    children maybe the transition wouldn't have been so drastic.

    • @melianna999
      @melianna999 11 місяців тому

      When children leaves home it is traumatic nearly for every parents. It's been called "empty nest syndrome"
      It will last for a while. We were very young parents of two so when they left we still had our jobs.
      My husband played golf and still does and I took up painting when my menopause started.
      Best thing for depression. I never had interest in painting but I still continue and I am amazed with
      my progress. We are also two different individuals but thanks to our religious life we understand and love
      each other. I can imagine how hard time it is for you but you will be fine after some time.

  • @katrinao8902
    @katrinao8902 11 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for the wonderful tips Heather! I read “The Five Love Languages” and it was very interesting. My husband and I have a lot in common BUT receive and give love differently. It’s important to keep love strong and would recommend that book to all couples. ❤

  • @HopeLaFleur1975
    @HopeLaFleur1975 11 місяців тому +2

    It is true absolutely true to show affection to your husband. But saying that if your husband's behavior is not healthy it's hard.

    • @tommifriedman7591
      @tommifriedman7591 4 місяці тому

      Recently came across a book by Leslie Vernon called The Emotionally Traumatic Marriage for people who are in a different sort of marriage than this presenter's

  • @faithwisdom788
    @faithwisdom788 11 місяців тому +3

    I'm waiting on God for marriage so this hurts to watch but it is good to be prepared.

  • @jazzbeau507
    @jazzbeau507 11 місяців тому +5

    A lot of good insights; thank you for sharing.

  • @katiedubuque7481
    @katiedubuque7481 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the tips❤️ I am so excited to get married in June of 2024!!

  • @danamarie2270
    @danamarie2270 11 місяців тому +1

    Love this topic. It’s a great reminder to be each others biggest cheerleaders in this world. I strive to be my husband’s soft spot to land and keep our home a place of comfort. Its so affirming to hear your thoughts and see other marriages alive and well! ❤

  • @jessiebaillargeon4191
    @jessiebaillargeon4191 5 місяців тому

    It's so funny! You should mention that movie because couple weekends ago he was going through you too and he watched it. I was very surprised. It had Kirk Cameron in it and just so everybody knows Kirk Cameron would not kiss the actress in the movie. So at the end that's his wife wearing a wig. I thought that was very sweet of him

  • @judgmentaltoast
    @judgmentaltoast 11 місяців тому +2

    You are so sweet. You're advice is perfect, thank you!

  • @bonniemcgrath2406
    @bonniemcgrath2406 11 місяців тому +3

    I really like watching your videos..
    You are a wonderful example of how God can transform us by how you live a life of faith.
    God Bless you!

  • @mariedubois6102
    @mariedubois6102 11 місяців тому

    Hi Heather
    It's the first time that I'm writing to you. I hope my english will be well because I'm french !
    I just love your channel and I really want to thank you for all you are sharing to us.
    Here in France, it's hard to find a catholic mom channel.
    I'm converted since 3 years. I met my husband at church, the same day that the Lord delivered me from an illness that I had since 10 years. My husband was first my best friend, he is the one that teached me about faith as I knew nothing ! We married on April 2023, the day before the Mercy Sunday and I'm now pregnant of our first child.
    I really want to thank you because you really help me to improve my relationship with the Lord and to become a mother.
    I want also to thank you about what you share especially in this video because even though I'm not married since a long time, your advices are precious.
    My husband, since the beginning, says this : "The more we are caring first about us as a couple, the more all that we can have will go well"
    May our dear Lord bless you and our Mother Mary be with you

  • @lindsayanne5023
    @lindsayanne5023 11 місяців тому +2

    I love this video! You look radiant and perfect, Heather 😊❤️

  • @lamarquescoleman9747
    @lamarquescoleman9747 11 місяців тому +1

    Yes, very well put. If women and men both thought this way so many marriages would be thriving! We default to this is the norm everyone marriage is just blah, not everyone. There are some working thriving marriages. Everyone take part and do what they need to do, men emotional connection hand holding and listen, women physical intimacy and less criticizing!

  • @paulacastro7661
    @paulacastro7661 11 місяців тому +2

    Hi! I'm from Brazil and i love your videos!

  • @irishmclass2042
    @irishmclass2042 11 місяців тому

    I awoke to your video this morning very early. Your key words are “a Holy Relationship!” We’ve been married 47 years and from the beginning we’ve been partnered with our Lord in all things to maintain a cohesive, loving and giving relationship. Yes, we’ve had ups and downs, in all we count our many rich blessings! Your encouragement is a beautiful gift! God bless you & Eric!

  • @katyl
    @katyl 11 місяців тому +4

    I so needed to hear this. Thank you.

  • @elizabeth.annrose
    @elizabeth.annrose 11 місяців тому +1

    Excellent, Heather! Congratulations on 14 years!

  • @gardenofgraceoils
    @gardenofgraceoils 11 місяців тому +3

    This is a great reminder for me! My husband is a couple years younger than me so I still struggle with the respect part. The way you describe your husband sounds a lot like mine. I'm definitely more headstrong than my husband so it can be challenging at times. But I try to focus more on showing my love for him as much as I can. Thank you for this timely video!

    • @BugsyB1979
      @BugsyB1979 11 місяців тому

      There is a book called The Surrendered Wife that you may consider reading ❤

  • @BugsyB1979
    @BugsyB1979 11 місяців тому

    My friend recommended a book called "The Surrendered Wife". I thought I was already submissive and respectful but there is still room for improvement!! I recommended anyone who thinks their husband is like another child read it. Actually, everyone should read it! It might be a bit triggering to start with but it is worth an experiment at least!!
    I also recommend the film "War Room". All about praying for your spouse (for the husband in this movie). Also a bit cheesy but very inspirational.

  • @esteph154
    @esteph154 11 місяців тому +2

    Beautiful advice Heather ❤️

  • @Blingbesties
    @Blingbesties 8 місяців тому

    You look like Mrs. Rachel and you look even more like her with this headband! Lol You are gorgeous🥰😍✨❤️ God Bless❤️

  • @butterification
    @butterification 11 місяців тому

    Amen 🙏🙌🙏❤️ Love what you said about building up your spouse and being his BIGGEST FAN 💖 AND CHEERLEADER 😍

  • @melianna999
    @melianna999 11 місяців тому

    Next month / 22.10./ we will be celebrating 46th wedding anniversary. Marriage is big school of forgiveness and love.
    I would say LOVE is very important. And together with God, and Sacraments of catholic church it's possible for
    every marriage fight any problems.

  • @foodfoodandfood9589
    @foodfoodandfood9589 11 місяців тому

    Can i just say how freakin georges you look on that front picture of the video! I mean wow😍 Great video and advices also, and Sorry to comment from my daughters UA-cam😅
    Greetings from Denmark🇩🇰

  • @mariek5766
    @mariek5766 11 місяців тому

    To all moms and dads who have lost a child!!
    Our children, who died far too early, in the womb or later, are at our side and fight for us together with the heavenly army.
    The Vatican needs a lot of fighters these days.
    Let us ask our little children
    together with her angels,
    that they stand with the Holy Father and all the bishops during this SYNOD ,
    pray for them
    and fight for the truth and our church.
    May each of our children adopt a bishop and may a heavenly army defend our Church in Rome.
    Please share this.

  • @blessedlife7581
    @blessedlife7581 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for posting this. We need more videos like this ! May God bless you ❤

  • @teraguest6252
    @teraguest6252 11 місяців тому

    Your videos have helped me so much. So grounding for me. Thank you for giving to the Lord. ❤

  • @felixsantamaria2648
    @felixsantamaria2648 11 місяців тому +4

    AMEN

  • @mariasilviacirelli7799
    @mariasilviacirelli7799 11 місяців тому

    Love this video!!! And I can understand you about work out, my husband and I are the same 😂

  • @patriciag6127
    @patriciag6127 11 місяців тому +1

    Amen, sister! 🙏

  • @user-wg4ty7or1d
    @user-wg4ty7or1d 11 місяців тому +1

    God Bless you..✝️🌷🌻🙏🏻 ..Please Pray for me for finding my other half🌹 for Marriage🙏🏻
    Greetings from Indonesia🇮🇩
    Ignatius Rico 🙏🏻

  • @kyliewilken4796
    @kyliewilken4796 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for making these videos!! You are a blessing!

  • @Almondamande
    @Almondamande 11 місяців тому +1

    ❤Thank you sister ❤

  • @catherineslovak7606
    @catherineslovak7606 11 місяців тому +1

    So good! Thank you! ❤

  • @ethanandrewe4393
    @ethanandrewe4393 5 місяців тому

    I am exactly like you when it comes to being with my husband 😊...

    • @ethanandrewe4393
      @ethanandrewe4393 5 місяців тому

      We are now married 13 yrs and by Gods grace we are blessed with 2 beautiful kids and we are having a healthy relationship.

  • @michalinarus9497
    @michalinarus9497 10 місяців тому

    Thank you for your ministry Heather 🤗💐🙏

  • @lou4663
    @lou4663 11 місяців тому +3

    I'm praying for you.

  • @Lorraine152
    @Lorraine152 9 місяців тому

    More videos like this please 🙏🏼

  • @rachelkivarkis1801
    @rachelkivarkis1801 11 місяців тому

    Beautiful tips, God bless you.
    😘👍🙏🌟✨❤️🌻✝️💫🍁🧡🍂

  • @nicoleyoshihara4011
    @nicoleyoshihara4011 11 місяців тому

    Lovely would love marriage and courting advice ❤💕

  • @monicamontoya1578
    @monicamontoya1578 11 місяців тому

    Great topic! ❤ Thank you for the movie recommendation and I look forward to watching with my husband, of 26 years!
    God Bless Heather 🙏🏽

  • @carolinet-s4866
    @carolinet-s4866 11 місяців тому

    Loved Fireproof

  • @user-ik4kb4tv9g
    @user-ik4kb4tv9g 9 місяців тому

    Amen ❤❤❤

  • @timetocool
    @timetocool 11 місяців тому

    Lovely video

  • @RGRGIS
    @RGRGIS 11 місяців тому +2

    Like!

  • @lisachristinaconfirmed5067
    @lisachristinaconfirmed5067 7 місяців тому

    What if your husband puts their mother before their wife? Not sure how to be a big cheer leader for that.

    • @ACatholicMomsLife
      @ACatholicMomsLife  7 місяців тому +1

      That would be so hard! My friend has the same problem and it’s very painful for her! Not sure what I would do😕

  • @everlynecherotich605
    @everlynecherotich605 11 місяців тому

    Halo Heather, thank you for sharing what works for you.
    I'd like to get in touch with you one on one - how do I? Your contact please.
    I'm a Catholic mum from Kenya (Africa)

  • @subyjeff314
    @subyjeff314 11 місяців тому

    What if he does,ntluke to show any affection

  • @bear8smylene
    @bear8smylene 2 місяці тому

    you're a cute holy couole God bless u more!

  • @golondrinaviajera6280
    @golondrinaviajera6280 11 місяців тому +2

    Tu esposo h tu don diferentes porque tú eres mujer y el hombre.

  • @faithwisdom788
    @faithwisdom788 11 місяців тому +1

    It's sad how women would refer their husband as being a third child. Maybe they don't mean it in a evil way but wives have to learn not to disrespect their husbands. Wouldn't want your husband to call you his third kid would you? Be more considerate ladies❤ don't speak evil of your husband in public too. Treat him how you'd want to be treated

    • @melianna999
      @melianna999 11 місяців тому +1

      The way media and movie present men / as a scared boy in the kitchen/ add to emancipation movement today.
      Last four years / specially during lockdowns/ I was receiving tons of jokes on my mobile phone about
      "how stupid men are". "how smart women are".

    • @faithwisdom788
      @faithwisdom788 11 місяців тому

      ​@@melianna999💔

  • @veganix6757
    @veganix6757 11 місяців тому

    You should be vegan. Debate me