there're many statements we use that are approximately like this, just not so explicit. - "i like to think that I am" is the more usual way of doing this, and it's usually done for positive, potentially over inflated thoughts. "i like to think I'm really good at it, but I'm not." - For the negative thoughts sometimes people learn to say, "my depression makes me think that I'm worthless" but that's less common. - in more general use Some people will say, "my brain gets stuck in these cycles even though I know better" or refer to their lizard brain. They're all pretty commonly used phrases but I wonder how often they're used by people with different severity of different mental health conditions.
I think it's a 50/50 based on context phrase I hear people say this often, but in a bad way. "My mind made me treat my partner like shit" is literally something I've heard before instead of the person just owning up to their decision and making a genuine change. Not providing a counter-argument at all in the slightest though, I think Dr. K's suggestion of this approach is still appropriate and effective, it just has to be done genuinely
it's because therapy, like everything in this country, is a business and businesses aim to keep their customers satisfied at the point of interaction and coming back to the provider to generate recurring revenue. True growth and enlightenment of the customer is antithetical to the aims of the business.
@@iamsuperflush worst take ever lol. I know a lot of people who were graduated from therapy. I personally think they were graduated too soon, but ya know. They were not forced/encouraged to stay in therapy because therapists are people more often than capitalist cogs. The reason why this specific statement isn't used more often is because Dr. K came up with it and other psychologists think other statements work just fine. However, he's made the case for his statement being more precise and thus more overtly useful.
Yes. But it ALSO can come in words of self aggrandisement "I'm the best", could be factually correct, but the mind will turn it into building of a self image (ego).
This sounds insane but I promise it works better than you'd think. If I'm struggling with something like a decision or depression I will manifest a character (some fictional character like Vegeta for example) in the room with me and talk to them about my thoughts. I'd then imagine their response and in doing this I actually end up having a very deep discussion with my own mind. It actually helped me realize some deep trauma from a breakup a few years ago I never even realized I was still holding onto.
Love this. A couple of times some wiser voice within me has abruptly called me out and I've felt like I was having a real conversation with myself, and I've meant to cultivate that (gave that facet-of-myself a nickname and everything) but really haven't worked at it like I wish I had. Maybe instead of thinking of her as a more ideal version of me, I should just assign her a more creative unrealistic visual avatar or fictional character or something lol
I feel like 6 years of therapy kind of fucking wasted my time because no one asked me shit like this or suggested shit like this I don’t know, maybe it’s a matter of training but I end up feeling a lot of the time that I spent talking didn’t push me forward as much as some of these videos. It might be the nature of these videos answering these questions that made it easier and I have yet to find other little bits of metaphorical mental glass in my mind that I haven’t sought out.
Dr k I realized after watching you a while that my ego is WAY overgrown and is obsessed with being intelligent and capable of tasks. I appreciate your work, you help a lot
So I've been trying to completely ignore my ego. This video makes me think it's better to consider what your ego is saying, but don't internalize it and instead consider where the ego is coming from
Yep, this is what the bias part of research studies is supposed to be for. You can't eliminate bias, but you can be transparent about it and account for it.
You already internalized it, it's in your mind at this point, isn't it? The point is to figure out, with a little distance, that what you identify with - a thought (pattern) - is not real and what you are can neither be a failure nor the opposite. Sometimes you win, sometimes not. Nothing to it either way. Easy come, easy go. See ya, Space Cowboy!
Holy fuck! Ten years ago my therapist commented on how I talked about what "my mind" or "my brain" does, I took it as a negative and stopped drawing that distinction right away. As you can guess, my depression didn't get any better after that.
I can 100% vouch for this! I discovered that I was not my thoughts on my own as a teen, and while it took close to a decade to truly get better, everytime time I thought "my mind says I am x" was a little pebble more on the pile that would eventually become a mountain of "I have a decent life!"
Just wanted to say Dr. K I've been watching you for about 3 years now on UA-cam exclusively. I've become so much more of a healthier individual because of you. Thank you so much for this channel. :)
I would usually say "I feel like a failure" because I know the feelings are there but aren't necessarily true or reasonable. Not sure that creates distance with the ego or not but I feel like that's what I usually do.
on a similar note, when I'm having a rough day and people ask if I'm okay, I usually something like "I'll be fine in a few hours," bc even if you feel GODAWFUL rn, this too will pass
Yeah I personally separate Rational Truth and Emotional Truth. Sometimes my emotional truth is that I feel like a failure and everything sucks, but I know my rational truth conflicts with that, and I accept that they don't have to reconcile/match all the time and can coexist in conflict and it's okay. Really helps me be more aware of and better manage my emotions
Watching Dr K has definitely strengthened my mind and improved how I deal with things. And I was in a fantastic place before I started watching. So he hasn’t fixed problems for me but he has given me even more tools than I had to help me improve when I want to improve. Just fantastic.
I still thought of a video or movie clip quote (paraphrasing) "Brain is just an organ that produce thoughts, that's just the brain doing its thing, those thoughts are not you. It is the reaction you get from those thoughts that defines who you are" Helped me a lot to separate me from my thoughts.
This is the best advice this guy has ever given in my opinion. Not that I’m saying the other stuff isn’t true, but I’m blown away abt how simple something can be to really own yourself and your actions. “You cannot conquer anyone until you conquer yourself”
one thing that I needed to, and in turn forced myself into thinking, was that I needed to understand why part of me wanted to help a parent who didn't truly want to help me. I didn't know it at the time but saying aloud to friends "my brain can't accept that *my* [parent] is so [bad at being a parent]" truly allowed me to detach from [parent]. though, to be fair this is the first time I've ever felt forced (had the opportunity) to really open up to my best friends. Could be bias, but I'd like to imagine that thought alone helped a ton.
spent a lot of time in the last couple years not doing this specifically, but employing other strategies to distance myself from my thoughts. It sounds corny at first but it really spares your self worth if you have a tendency towards negative ideation like I do. Listen to Dr. K.
A few weeks ago my son just did that out of nowhere without ever hearing from this concept. It made me extremely happy to see that he already discovers a lot more healthy ways to deal with himself than what I have grown up with.
My mind is more of "you are.." than "i am". There are two voices in my head and every impolsive thouaght i have is just one if the voices bully the other.
Appreciate it, I lokey struggled with confidence, my mind tends to think of worse case scenario quite often. Dr. k wishing you good luck on your streamy!
I say "Other people say" usually, I don't really create an ego of myself, any word I use to percieve myself may create a bias I trust like it's permanent and doesn't account for how I feel or change.
I think it's better to use "my mind" over "people". Using "people" for pals with social anxiety isn't good. After all, the only person you can completely trust on this planet is yourself.
@@zmitter4844 Well, I told myself my mom wasn't calling me a faliure for most of my life, and me blocking out this possibility because I believed I was overreacting caused me to never realize she was genuinely being manipulative. So yes when I tell myself "people call me a faliure" it's what they are telling me.
@@zane1242 I think this demonstrates that you can’t trust yourself, either. You have to pay attention to all of your perceptions to decide what is most true.
Heard some podcasters talking about some book once, about the notion "you are not your thinker". What made it click for me was the question (paraphrasing) "If you could just sit back and have all your doings taken care of for a week, if your body was moved and taken care of for you and your duties got done and all your deciding and behaving was done for you and the real You got to just take a week off, what would You do with that time?" and that really hit me profoundly and has helped me feel much more healthily detached ever since. Of course, as a huge fan of Animorphs, the idea of my true consciousness taking a backseat and my body/brain being driven for me is nothing new to me and usually has terrifying connotations involving alien slugs lol ... But it's all well and good/very different in this real context 😂
Story I heard from a lecture on vedanta online: The merchant went to the himalayas and told the swami, "I am suffering all the time! Please help me to find peace". The swami replies "Are you suffering, or are you the one experiencing suffering?" Later the merchant comes back and says "Swami you were right. Now that I know I was simply the one experiencing suffering I am at peace" The swami sternly replies "Are you at peace, or are you the one experiencing peacefulness?"
That is the contention isn't it? Modern psychology tells us that the sense of self comes from the ego. But the yogi's point out that when we meditate (or use drugs) the sense of self can go away but there is still something there doing the observing. So does the ego create the self or is the self a distinct instance being run in the brain?
@@FTLNewsFeed Perhaps it's just an empty shell, a mindless husk temporarily suspending the "ego" process and freeing up the memory it occupied, not thinking, not judging, just being, observing, taking in sensory data that flows from the Universe and through you, as soon forgotten as it enters, like a timeless existence in the blink of an eye. Like an invisible force that's always there, connecting us all together to the one-ness of everything always. Ok ok, I'm sorry but I couldn't resist 😂 I was just BS-ing. Or was I...? I'm not sure anymore. Anyway, move along, this isn't the comment you are looking for. You can go about your business.(Had to retype my impromptu comment as I lost it due to scrolling🙄)
Getting the concept of cognitive diffusion and self as observer helped me. But I don't think in words, so restructuring the words of my thoughts didn’t work. Acceptance Commitment Therapy really helped
Fuuuuuuuck thank you once again doctor. Taking all your tips has been helpful but at the same time I feel as tho, I've hit a wall jn my mind. And now I have a slightly better tool to use to help ease the storm that always follows. I'm glad I can try to make more.progress in my mental.recovery
I always overestimate myself always whenever i with at something. i hate it because i know i should be bettering myself instead i choose to be shit and wait till i lose before doing anything i hate it. Thats why i intentionally just lose without even trying to win
what I get from all of this, and not just this video but everything else is that; you have to learn to separate yourself from your mind which can also be or IS your ego, from your consciousness or ability to be aware, the observer. And the more you get in tune with the observer part of yourself, you get more in tune with the oneness of the universe….. I think ? feel free to drop some knowledge and insight on me lol
If you want a more detailed explanation of how the seer is separate from the seen and how this realisation leads to enlightenment and freedom from suffering, it is covered in one of the core texts of advaita vedanta, the drg drsya viveka an inquiry into the nature of the seer and the seen. The book is a little hard to understand so if you look up 'drg drsya viveka swami sarvapriyananda" you will find these really clear lectures about the concept, that my dad recommended to me. In my eyes it is really practical stuff that helps in daily life
Look within too see that you are not actually the ego. Your mind is seen from an even more fundamental place. Mind=ego as it is your mental construct of who you are. Not what you are fundamentally.
Huh, this video kind of surprised me. The method described in this is just how my brain processes stuff. I always assumed that that layer of separation would be seen as a bad thing but its interesting to have it be presented as a positive way of thinking (at least in terms of ego)
what i feel is missed in these statements, while speaks truth, what is neglected is where self loathing thoughts come from, and they're allways downstream from emotions. while thinking positively might be helpful, the source of self loathing emotions needs to be dealt with. they are most likely unfelt feelings locked up by not feeling unconditional love and safety. If you can find the unconditional love for your self within yourself you can release the unfelt emotions and heal the source of negative thoughts.
This reminds me of the beginning of the book “The power of Now[...]” by Eckhart Tolle, where there’s a part in which he says to himself “I can’t live with MYSELF”, and then he goes on to talk about how that enlightened him, and who is I and MYSELF and are there two of me? It’s a cool read, but check the reviews and what’s it about if you’re interested before you buy. Good luck to all of ya’ll :)
Idk if this has any backing or it’s just my experience, but when writing in a diary or journal instead of “I” write “you”. It puts a bit of distance between your brain and yourself if that makes sense. Like pointing to your inner monologue as a different entity. My mind likes to say that we’ve become a much more humble and at peace because of this simple change.
I think replace the word mind with ego. That was easier for me to disconnect myself from. My ego says I'm lonely. Why is my ego saying that? Because my ego needs people to love me so I don't feel worthless. But DO people love me? No. That's what my ego says but actually..my family, my daughter, my friends all love me. Ah. My ego thinks if a man doesn't love me then I'm worthless. Am I still of value to the world without being loved by a man? Ego probs says no. But me, I think I can see my value just as a human. Maybe remembering this I'll attract a better partner instead of my ego trying to present me to the world as a person who's alone bc she's worthless.
Then how do I regard my failures in the right way? I think I over-identify with my failures because I don’t want to be in denial of them. My failures are real, and I don’t want to lose sight of that… Although sometimes I think maybe it doesn’t matter.
I had a therapist once who, whenever I said "my brain thinks this/convinces me that" (bc the word "mind" is the same as "spirit" in French, so I find it confusing to use) would correct me saying "not the brain, the brain [insert what the brain actually does" It's one of the reasons it didn't click with him. Dude, you get why I said it this way, you don't need to correct me every time... Were you even trying to understand what I was saying, or...
I actually do this without even realizing I'll say stuff like 'my brain did this' and I say it cuz ultimately I know that my brain doing stuff and me doing stuff aren't the same thing.
I find my self resistant to this type of stuff when doing it in ifs like “a part of me thinks/feels…..xyz” like sometimes it just feels unnatural. Any thoughts?
So, is this technique the mind observing the mind or is it the mind being observed by a seat/seats of consciousness (other than what we would call "mind")?
man casually drops enlightenment
Dr. K: Anyway, here’s how to get enlightened in a easier way than the classic way.
Actually this is pretty much the classic way.
He always casually drops the most life changing shit
Its also a technique from ACT therapy if you want more info
like?!?!!!!!
It is basically a degree of seperation and detachment from mind and ego, basically.
…basically, basically
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Yeah, basically what hes saying… basically?
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I'm surprised the "my mind says" phrase isn't used more often.
there're many statements we use that are approximately like this, just not so explicit.
- "i like to think that I am" is the more usual way of doing this, and it's usually done for positive, potentially over inflated thoughts. "i like to think I'm really good at it, but I'm not."
- For the negative thoughts sometimes people learn to say, "my depression makes me think that I'm worthless" but that's less common.
- in more general use Some people will say, "my brain gets stuck in these cycles even though I know better" or refer to their lizard brain.
They're all pretty commonly used phrases but I wonder how often they're used by people with different severity of different mental health conditions.
@@steggopotamusgood point. I hope it's the same thing! I've personally used "my brain lied to me" when talking about my anxious thoughts.
I think it's a 50/50 based on context phrase
I hear people say this often, but in a bad way.
"My mind made me treat my partner like shit" is literally something I've heard before instead of the person just owning up to their decision and making a genuine change.
Not providing a counter-argument at all in the slightest though, I think Dr. K's suggestion of this approach is still appropriate and effective, it just has to be done genuinely
it's because therapy, like everything in this country, is a business and businesses aim to keep their customers satisfied at the point of interaction and coming back to the provider to generate recurring revenue. True growth and enlightenment of the customer is antithetical to the aims of the business.
@@iamsuperflush worst take ever lol. I know a lot of people who were graduated from therapy. I personally think they were graduated too soon, but ya know. They were not forced/encouraged to stay in therapy because therapists are people more often than capitalist cogs.
The reason why this specific statement isn't used more often is because Dr. K came up with it and other psychologists think other statements work just fine.
However, he's made the case for his statement being more precise and thus more overtly useful.
When I learned that ego can come in a form of negative thoughts about yourself, I realized so much. Thanks to dr k, of course.
Yes.
True! Never thought of that aswell
Yes. But it ALSO can come in words of self aggrandisement "I'm the best", could be factually correct, but the mind will turn it into building of a self image (ego).
This sounds insane but I promise it works better than you'd think. If I'm struggling with something like a decision or depression I will manifest a character (some fictional character like Vegeta for example) in the room with me and talk to them about my thoughts. I'd then imagine their response and in doing this I actually end up having a very deep discussion with my own mind. It actually helped me realize some deep trauma from a breakup a few years ago I never even realized I was still holding onto.
That sounds cool, I'm gonna try that
I’ve done something similar as a result oF EMDR in therapy. A lot of my trauma processing has been through movie memes.
Definitely will try it. I've a huge tendency to engage in daydreaming and fantasy, so it's sounds right in my alley
Love this. A couple of times some wiser voice within me has abruptly called me out and I've felt like I was having a real conversation with myself, and I've meant to cultivate that (gave that facet-of-myself a nickname and everything) but really haven't worked at it like I wish I had. Maybe instead of thinking of her as a more ideal version of me, I should just assign her a more creative unrealistic visual avatar or fictional character or something lol
Welcome to the world of parts work!
My mind says... this video is awesome
What is perceiving that, and is that a failure??
My mind says ... This video is awesome.
Haha :)
I feel like 6 years of therapy kind of fucking wasted my time because no one asked me shit like this or suggested shit like this
I don’t know, maybe it’s a matter of training but I end up feeling a lot of the time that I spent talking didn’t push me forward as much as some of these videos. It might be the nature of these videos answering these questions that made it easier and I have yet to find other little bits of metaphorical mental glass in my mind that I haven’t sought out.
Dr k I realized after watching you a while that my ego is WAY overgrown and is obsessed with being intelligent and capable of tasks. I appreciate your work, you help a lot
So I've been trying to completely ignore my ego. This video makes me think it's better to consider what your ego is saying, but don't internalize it and instead consider where the ego is coming from
Good insight
Yep, this is what the bias part of research studies is supposed to be for. You can't eliminate bias, but you can be transparent about it and account for it.
You already internalized it, it's in your mind at this point, isn't it?
The point is to figure out, with a little distance, that what you identify with - a thought (pattern) - is not real and what you are can neither be a failure nor the opposite. Sometimes you win, sometimes not. Nothing to it either way.
Easy come, easy go.
See ya, Space Cowboy!
Ye, theoretically. But practically its not that easy.
The ego is important, it’s what keeps you alive and functioning in the world. It’s just good to use it as a tool instead of identifying with it
Holy fuck! Ten years ago my therapist commented on how I talked about what "my mind" or "my brain" does, I took it as a negative and stopped drawing that distinction right away. As you can guess, my depression didn't get any better after that.
I can 100% vouch for this! I discovered that I was not my thoughts on my own as a teen, and while it took close to a decade to truly get better, everytime time I thought "my mind says I am x" was a little pebble more on the pile that would eventually become a mountain of "I have a decent life!"
Just wanted to say Dr. K I've been watching you for about 3 years now on UA-cam exclusively. I've become so much more of a healthier individual because of you. Thank you so much for this channel. :)
I would usually say "I feel like a failure" because I know the feelings are there but aren't necessarily true or reasonable. Not sure that creates distance with the ego or not but I feel like that's what I usually do.
on a similar note, when I'm having a rough day and people ask if I'm okay, I usually something like "I'll be fine in a few hours," bc even if you feel GODAWFUL rn, this too will pass
Yeah I personally separate Rational Truth and Emotional Truth. Sometimes my emotional truth is that I feel like a failure and everything sucks, but I know my rational truth conflicts with that, and I accept that they don't have to reconcile/match all the time and can coexist in conflict and it's okay. Really helps me be more aware of and better manage my emotions
Watching Dr K has definitely strengthened my mind and improved how I deal with things. And I was in a fantastic place before I started watching.
So he hasn’t fixed problems for me but he has given me even more tools than I had to help me improve when I want to improve. Just fantastic.
Ur never a failure unless u stop trying.
I still thought of a video or movie clip quote (paraphrasing) "Brain is just an organ that produce thoughts, that's just the brain doing its thing, those thoughts are not you. It is the reaction you get from those thoughts that defines who you are"
Helped me a lot to separate me from my thoughts.
This is the best advice this guy has ever given in my opinion. Not that I’m saying the other stuff isn’t true, but I’m blown away abt how simple something can be to really own yourself and your actions. “You cannot conquer anyone until you conquer yourself”
My parents always comparing me to my older sister:🤬
Their face when I tell them I've always bottled this sense of low self esteem:😮
my mind says im a serial tax evader
you are a failure ❤
My mind says im a pro at elden ring
Why does your mind says that? There is have to be reasons...?
@@kiranfemboy**your mind is a failure
my mind is the zodiac killer
my mind lives in a society
Creating separation is a really good way of being objective and you can utilize this strategy to almost anything to get a less subjective POV.
Brilliant use of words to show this truth.
"My mind says I'm retarded"
😂😂😂
You won🎉😂
one thing that I needed to, and in turn forced myself into thinking, was that I needed to understand why part of me wanted to help a parent who didn't truly want to help me. I didn't know it at the time but saying aloud to friends "my brain can't accept that *my* [parent] is so [bad at being a parent]" truly allowed me to detach from [parent]. though, to be fair this is the first time I've ever felt forced (had the opportunity) to really open up to my best friends. Could be bias, but I'd like to imagine that thought alone helped a ton.
spent a lot of time in the last couple years not doing this specifically, but employing other strategies to distance myself from my thoughts. It sounds corny at first but it really spares your self worth if you have a tendency towards negative ideation like I do. Listen to Dr. K.
My mind said Dr.K is great help 😊 Thank you for your channel
I've actually figured out how to do this on my own some how awhile ago and it works wonders!
Love you Dr.K ❤
this is incredible.
wow this was truly wonderful thank you
30 second therapy great stuff I've noticed my mind dose create many I am statements I will work on this. Thank Dr. K
A few weeks ago my son just did that out of nowhere without ever hearing from this concept. It made me extremely happy to see that he already discovers a lot more healthy ways to deal with himself than what I have grown up with.
My mind is more of "you are.." than "i am". There are two voices in my head and every impolsive thouaght i have is just one if the voices bully the other.
I think the “I am” voice is you receiving and accepting the “you are” assertion of the mind.
I'm watching for the thoughts when the *I am* and *You are* and the ones that use my name or nicknames..who is who and what are they saying..
"my mind says I think she's unhappy with me because I did something wrong, my mind wonders what I did wrong."
Appreciate it, I lokey struggled with confidence, my mind tends to think of worse case scenario quite often. Dr. k wishing you good luck on your streamy!
I say "Other people say" usually, I don't really create an ego of myself, any word I use to percieve myself may create a bias I trust like it's permanent and doesn't account for how I feel or change.
But do other people say you are a failure? Or is that just your mind's interpretation of their words?
I think it's better to use "my mind" over "people".
Using "people" for pals with social anxiety isn't good. After all, the only person you can completely trust on this planet is yourself.
@@zmitter4844 Well, I told myself my mom wasn't calling me a faliure for most of my life, and me blocking out this possibility because I believed I was overreacting caused me to never realize she was genuinely being manipulative. So yes when I tell myself "people call me a faliure" it's what they are telling me.
@@zane1242 If I use "my mind tells me I am wierd" I am putting it as a lack of confidence rather than how some bully thinks of me.
@@zane1242 I think this demonstrates that you can’t trust yourself, either. You have to pay attention to all of your perceptions to decide what is most true.
Heard some podcasters talking about some book once, about the notion "you are not your thinker". What made it click for me was the question (paraphrasing) "If you could just sit back and have all your doings taken care of for a week, if your body was moved and taken care of for you and your duties got done and all your deciding and behaving was done for you and the real You got to just take a week off, what would You do with that time?" and that really hit me profoundly and has helped me feel much more healthily detached ever since.
Of course, as a huge fan of Animorphs, the idea of my true consciousness taking a backseat and my body/brain being driven for me is nothing new to me and usually has terrifying connotations involving alien slugs lol ... But it's all well and good/very different in this real context 😂
Story I heard from a lecture on vedanta online:
The merchant went to the himalayas and told the swami, "I am suffering all the time! Please help me to find peace".
The swami replies "Are you suffering, or are you the one experiencing suffering?"
Later the merchant comes back and says "Swami you were right. Now that I know I was simply the one experiencing suffering I am at peace"
The swami sternly replies "Are you at peace, or are you the one experiencing peacefulness?"
Yooooooooooo fckin' banger comment, this hit me right in the I-needed-that
cognitive diffusion is such a good tool to help with the sense of ego.
the irony is that the thing doing the looking is still constructed by your ego, but I do think this is still effective and genuine regardless
That is the contention isn't it? Modern psychology tells us that the sense of self comes from the ego. But the yogi's point out that when we meditate (or use drugs) the sense of self can go away but there is still something there doing the observing. So does the ego create the self or is the self a distinct instance being run in the brain?
@@FTLNewsFeed Perhaps it's just an empty shell, a mindless husk temporarily suspending the "ego" process and freeing up the memory it occupied, not thinking, not judging, just being, observing, taking in sensory data that flows from the Universe and through you, as soon forgotten as it enters, like a timeless existence in the blink of an eye. Like an invisible force that's always there, connecting us all together to the one-ness of everything always.
Ok ok, I'm sorry but I couldn't resist 😂 I was just BS-ing. Or was I...? I'm not sure anymore. Anyway, move along, this isn't the comment you are looking for. You can go about your business.(Had to retype my impromptu comment as I lost it due to scrolling🙄)
Over thinking
Over analyzing
Separates the body
From the mind
How?
*I'm not the body, I'm not even the mind* - Isha Kriya.
This should be your motto
Thanks Doc
Stellar advice. My inner voice is so negative.
Thank you
Getting the concept of cognitive diffusion and self as observer helped me. But I don't think in words, so restructuring the words of my thoughts didn’t work. Acceptance Commitment Therapy really helped
You have just explained detachment. Genius
Fuuuuuuuck thank you once again doctor. Taking all your tips has been helpful but at the same time I feel as tho, I've hit a wall jn my mind. And now I have a slightly better tool to use to help ease the storm that always follows. I'm glad I can try to make more.progress in my mental.recovery
Wow, game changer content as always
I always overestimate myself always whenever i with at something. i hate it because i know i should be bettering myself instead i choose to be shit and wait till i lose before doing anything i hate it. Thats why i intentionally just lose without even trying to win
what I get from all of this, and not just this video but everything else is that; you have to learn to separate yourself from your mind which can also be or IS your ego, from your consciousness or ability to be aware, the observer. And the more you get in tune with the observer part of yourself, you get more in tune with the oneness of the universe….. I think ? feel free to drop some knowledge and insight on me lol
If you want a more detailed explanation of how the seer is separate from the seen and how this realisation leads to enlightenment and freedom from suffering, it is covered in one of the core texts of advaita vedanta, the drg drsya viveka an inquiry into the nature of the seer and the seen.
The book is a little hard to understand so if you look up 'drg drsya viveka swami sarvapriyananda" you will find these really clear lectures about the concept, that my dad recommended to me. In my eyes it is really practical stuff that helps in daily life
@@somerandomnoob100I’ll try and give a look, thank you for the reply
Look within too see that you are not actually the ego. Your mind is seen from an even more fundamental place. Mind=ego as it is your mental construct of who you are. Not what you are fundamentally.
I just get alot of you should do this and then I have to remember to not stress and stay in the moment and move one step at a time
Huh, this video kind of surprised me. The method described in this is just how my brain processes stuff. I always assumed that that layer of separation would be seen as a bad thing but its interesting to have it be presented as a positive way of thinking (at least in terms of ego)
what i feel is missed in these statements, while speaks truth, what is neglected is where self loathing thoughts come from, and they're allways downstream from emotions. while thinking positively might be helpful, the source of self loathing emotions needs to be dealt with. they are most likely unfelt feelings locked up by not feeling unconditional love and safety. If you can find the unconditional love for your self within yourself you can release the unfelt emotions and heal the source of negative thoughts.
Damn. Thanks.
My mind thinks i am the greatest person I know and am capable of changing the world unlike everyone else who is dumb and stupid and greedy
❤ Next time please put the captions a little above so it's visible
Bro woke up
This reminds me of the beginning of the book “The power of Now[...]” by Eckhart Tolle, where there’s a part in which he says to himself “I can’t live with MYSELF”, and then he goes on to talk about how that enlightened him, and who is I and MYSELF and are there two of me? It’s a cool read, but check the reviews and what’s it about if you’re interested before you buy. Good luck to all of ya’ll :)
Idk if this has any backing or it’s just my experience, but when writing in a diary or journal instead of “I” write “you”. It puts a bit of distance between your brain and yourself if that makes sense. Like pointing to your inner monologue as a different entity. My mind likes to say that we’ve become a much more humble and at peace because of this simple change.
Today I also noticed that I didn't use " *I* ' that much/never use . I always write like Im talking to me as another entity/person.
My mind says I am Batman.🦇🦇🦇
Full video link?
good advice
My mind says this is just trickery
Where is the full video please?
"You have to achieve failure"
I think replace the word mind with ego. That was easier for me to disconnect myself from. My ego says I'm lonely. Why is my ego saying that? Because my ego needs people to love me so I don't feel worthless. But DO people love me? No. That's what my ego says but actually..my family, my daughter, my friends all love me. Ah. My ego thinks if a man doesn't love me then I'm worthless. Am I still of value to the world without being loved by a man? Ego probs says no. But me, I think I can see my value just as a human. Maybe remembering this I'll attract a better partner instead of my ego trying to present me to the world as a person who's alone bc she's worthless.
you are not your identity in society, you are just you
Then how do I regard my failures in the right way? I think I over-identify with my failures because I don’t want to be in denial of them. My failures are real, and I don’t want to lose sight of that…
Although sometimes I think maybe it doesn’t matter.
You are genius!
full video pls?
Amazing.
Travis from fear the walking dead
thank you 😢😢 i never think like this. . l want learn it fo myself
Wow, amazing 🤩
Life saver
NICE! "I've been practicing this for a couple weeks now," it confabulates.
Dr K should pierce his ears.
"Oh lord of my own ego, you are pure illusion. You do not exist. The Earth is my witness.” -Little Buddha (1993)
I already do this, but instead I tell my mind to duck off and to stop ducking with me.
yes "honest sharing" ^^
I had a therapist once who, whenever I said "my brain thinks this/convinces me that" (bc the word "mind" is the same as "spirit" in French, so I find it confusing to use) would correct me saying "not the brain, the brain [insert what the brain actually does"
It's one of the reasons it didn't click with him. Dude, you get why I said it this way, you don't need to correct me every time... Were you even trying to understand what I was saying, or...
What someone thinks about you is none of your business
You are not the voice in your head
You're the one who listens to it
Exactly, and you are definitely not the voice in someone else head.
@@noahwig500 Jesus loves you and so do I 💟
I actually do this without even realizing I'll say stuff like 'my brain did this' and I say it cuz ultimately I know that my brain doing stuff and me doing stuff aren't the same thing.
Separate my brain from me is not something I had on my list
My mind says this is too simple
I just had the weirdest feeling the moment i repeated the phrase “my mind says” in my head
Dude is so smart lol
Can you apply this same logic to someone who is egotistical or has an inflated ego?
I find my self resistant to this type of stuff when doing it in ifs like “a part of me thinks/feels…..xyz” like sometimes it just feels unnatural. Any thoughts?
my mind says i am useless and nothing but a burden
Maybe I've been doing this, though I don't call it that
My mind says that I'm dumb for listening to it
So, is this technique the mind observing the mind or is it the mind being observed by a seat/seats of consciousness (other than what we would call "mind")?
Suggestion: because the word "my" is still possessive, and tied to the sense of self, try "this mind says" instead.
What video is this from!?
Full vid?
Never was taught this by my father
I do the same, but instead I say "I think ...".
Anyone have a link to the original video?
My mind is a grumpy old man with Walter Matthau's face. Whenever it starts with its rants, I notice it and reply "Yeah yeah, whatever".