How to End a Conversation | The Art of Manliness
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- Ever get stuck talking to someone and just can't get away? Well, here are some ways you can diplomatically end an conversation.
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"I just shit my pants." Works every time.
Mason Jones Hahahaha
made my day
Mason Jones I exhaled out of laughter through my nose, and a bit of snot came out
I needed that
Mason Jones Not exactly "Most dignified" 😂
"I just shit my pants."
*makes a face*
-Me to.. ;)
"Anyway I don't want to occupy all your time."
"No no, it's alright I have tons."
fuck.
Josh Strutt lmao right? paradox
Josh Strutt this is your life now.
mando18 so true hahaha
I cringed because I realised how many times people have said that to me, and I've responded with, 'Nah, it's cool' and carried on talking.
*mr krab looking around desperately meme*
"i have to return some videotapes"
Yes. Just....Yes
+Lane Williams Be kind rewind!!
+Lane Williams American Psycho
+lane Why the fuck is this so funny? XD
+lane Just watched the movie and laughed so much at your comment. Nice.
Laugh at a joke. Then say "Well, it's good seeing you man." Shake hands. Exit.
God tier.
Super good
I’ve always said those words in this situation
Yep.......that's what I do. Works like a charm.
offer them a mint. thats a huge conversation killer.
omg
Steven C but everyone wants to be friends with mark the mint man
hahah top meme
Savage
"I refuse to waste anymore of my time in this conversation" Is the real man's way to end a conversation
At first I laughed, but honestly, this is the way to go, especially if the other person is being obnoxious.
U are correct,but it is not a polite way to end a conversation
@@mrsbuksh9087 he didn't say it was the polite way he said it was the real man's way
@@charlieniven6558 real men are polite
@@charlieniven6558 real men don't offend people if they don't have to.
A woman asking a guy if he wants to go for a drink with her? Hah, that's the beginning of a whole new conversation my friend!
happens to only rich guys :D
The D is silent.
If a woman asks me out for drinks, I just clarify that she's getting the first round. Otherwise she's asking me to buy her a drink, which is an entirely different question.
haha that's funny because sex
just fart really loud. usually the other person will just walk away and not bother you for the rest of the night.
+DoomFinger511
Along with everyone else in the near vicinity lol.
+Richie Rich well sometimes its a good thing
You force a fart to be hard, then a second later you found that something wet just come out.
+Richie Rich The solution: Just tell them you sharted. Then stare at them in the eye until they walk away.
2/10
They thought it was funny and now we're friends. Would not recommend
This is like a training video for robots or AI. Human Conversation 101
+The2005rwb the thing is they work and don't seem as computer-like IRL even they seem funny and awkward here
+The2005rwb It's hard to digest the fact that people feel like they need this kind of schematic instructions. But unfortunately these are just the first consequences for spending lives in office captivity which is itself disturbing from the beginning..
+DJLO It is by realising this video actually exists that we realize living outside as much as one can starts to migrate from healthy to absolutely essential. Especially these days I believe.
+The2005rwb For some reason I don't understand, people have been mean to me. Like I've been cussed out at work over petty things. And that sort of lead me to looking around for videos like this, think I'm a little disconnected over how things work with people.
***** It's called Aspergers Syndrome. I'm glad the videos help, though.
That mustache is looking epic!
+JRSPlay Yeah like dudes from Blue Oistrich bar had in Police Academy? :).
+TabZa123 The stache has my vote. That's a rare gift to be able to grow that shape. My hair color is light brown so it doesn't look that great when it grows out. Black facial hair has better definition in my opinion.
+TabZa123 I wish I could get my to look so thick and luxurious. I guess facial hair just isn't for me.
Like a modern Grover Cleveland
+TabZa123 Why does everybody here look like they belong in a 90's soft porn movie.
"I need to go ask the host something before he leaves"
I need to go ask THE HOST something before he LEAVES
lol
Mi Cu yeah that does not make Sense at all
Solution: Replace "he" with "I"
........ You're welcome.
I didn't catch that the first time! Lol
Didn't even catch that, well done
I always end my conversation with this end line.
"As much as I would love chit chat with you until the inevitable heat death of the universe, I literally have a million better things to do."
Like what? Play on your Xbox?
@@Saber23 Well I was thinking of constructing a tournament ring and hosting a tournament to decide the fate Earth, but you've changed my mind.
@@Ryder-wt9tk I’m glad to hear I could offer some advice on how to PROPERLY spend your time my friend 🙏
DBZA?
so punching them in the mouth is frowned upon?
Hahahahha, or telling them to STFU. Hhahahaha thanks man.
That depends, if the other person is bigger or meaner than you then yes, smering your blood in the host's furniture it's frowned upon in most cultures.
+ObnoxiouslyHappyDude is that bony from Gorillaz !
Let's see what Emily Post has to say about that... hmm...
boss, it's not frowned upon if you injure them so they're incapable of moving their mouth muscles
I usually have the opposite problem--I end conversations habitually even when I'm enjoying them.
+Tzadeck Is this a case of FOMO?
+benjovi55 hahaha!!
***** How do you know? He could end conversations because he thinks there are better conversations to be had.
+Tzadeck That's not a bad thing, necessarily. Better to end a conversation when it's still good rather than when it goes stale. At least there's a bigger chance the other persone will engage in a conversation with you next time as well.
Respects to that guy with spects,
Who beautifully played ""ANNOYING GUY"" in the video.
ow many can do that?? (while knowing that)
i always carry two drinks too. but both are for me
Well drink it and say I have to get another one.
My man! The two fisted drinker!
That masculine voice is charming.
I just treat people the way I want to be treated. No small talk, no random bullshit just tell me. So I end conversations with "Excellent! good speaking with you" and I walk away.
Dude... I swear I see you everywhere.
Love your trash terrain by the way.
Perfection
"I LEFT MY WINDOW OPEN AT HOME"
I'm really good at silent but deadly farts. So I just bust one out and ask "Ugh. Did you do that?" Always a good way to end a discussion.
what the fuck
Perfection
How many celebrities are in this reply section? The last saiyan AND captain falcon?
RAZZA Am I a celebrity?
Action of a foolish man.
That first dude's voice is godly
So you're telling me that saying fuck off is not appropriate..?
The Dapper Discussion lol
The Dapper Discussion It is not if you wish to be manly.
The Dapper Discussion no of course not, just make sure that you did it politely and make sure you really meant it :p
Aye, real gentleman would use "Bugger off, mate" instead
I hope I'm not the only one that was interested in hearing more about hedgehogs.
Jake Day Williams To my great shame.
Jake Day Williams NO! NO hedgehogs oooookay?
literally as soon as they stopped about hedgehogs I was bored. some dude with a moustache telling me how to do the simplest thing in the world
how to end a conversation... in 8 minutes
Callum Ross it's a fucking explanation you dipshit
DBS LLama It's a fucking joke you dipshit
Callum Ross didn't seem like it dipshit lol
Callum Ross yep if you were telling the truth you wouldn't react that way dipshit lol
Well... uh it's been great reading this
Just run in the opposite direction ...
+GladX Scream in fear for bonus points.
+GladX screaming
almost all these tips are just awkward as fuck
Can't believe I had to scroll down this far to find someone saying this. These were terrible lines, except for a handful which were okay.
Vegard Magndal
In all honesty, it's only as awkward as you make it. The way you approach any of these lines with your tone is key because it can make a notable difference.
As a ProDrunk, I must say the Dual Wielding of the drinks is brilliant and overlooked.
So i am guessing my two techniques arent up to scratch then.
If the first fails then my second is last resort and works unless they chase me.
Option 1; Explain that you may have defecated in your trousers, or similar conversation killer, hell keep it relevant to what the person has been yabbing on about, hedgehogs for example, say you ran one over on the way to the party, and walk away.
If option 1 fails, simply shout I SAID GOOD DAY SIR and fucking run
How about that awkward interaction for the remainder of the party each time you bump into that person again? When you both pretend like you didn't just connect eyes again... How do you deal with that? Those awkward post-conversation encounters basically ruin the conversation you previously had. It almost proves the conversation was a complete waste of time and of no value to one or both of the individuals.
ilg2012 good advice ^
You've been smoking too much pot, over-analysing everything. Just say "hey man!" or do something weird like "I'm gonna take a duuuuu-uuump!" with a funny voice.
Let them over analyze it while you stop thinking about it.
"I made it a goal to meet 3 people tonight" sounds like a perfect way to break that guys heart! lol
Dude look like Clark Kent who just ate a fajita for two and a pitcher of Margarita. Yall turn the air conditioner on next time yall filming.
Poor guy
Got that see through shirt on
Defaultradio No.
Defaultradio Hahahahaha...very true.
This guy look like Freddie fucking Mercury.
Sooooo true!
+TheSqueezedLemon freddie mercury? or freddie fucking mercury?
+TheSqueezedLemon
Incorrect. He looks like Richard fucking Benjamin.
+TheSqueezedLemon thats my steam avatar
+booby b Someone who looks like they wan't to fuck Freddie Mercury!
Best way to end conversation
Just say ok then be awkward
Casually walk off while they are still mid sentence and treat them as if they don't exist unless they start talking to you again?
That's kinda rude lol... I remember me and my friend tried to talk to a very quiet girl and she wouldn't speak so yeh we stop trying
Ending a conversation isn't easy?
We are more dumber than I realized.
the irony^
I feel like this is a joke. Damn poe's law.
It's a true joke they exist everywhere just look around for example Yuki Whedbee and Joji Chinisi
Ending a conversation is easy. You "can" say: "well c ya nerd" and walk away.
Doing it with politeness and giving good vibes to the other person may be a little less simple. I think that's the issue that's been treated in the video.
No it's simple: you say something like "thanks, but I have to go maybe we'll meet later"
case closed
I start coughing without covering my mouth then they leave, don't have to say a word
You spread the coronavirus
😷
This dude was ahead of his time.
That's some good advice. Looks like I picked up most of this stuff already on my own, but I learned a few more pointers. One of my favorite things to do is if the conversation becomes one sided because I've lost interest, I leave off with my own string of sentences, so it looks like I'm the one who wants to do all the talking. Then I say, "Well, I'll let you go", so they feel I've tied them up, and allow them to move on. Works like a charm.
damn that dudes voice is manly as hell
These tips saves lives and relationships.
How could they not specifically cover the "French Exit", where you just turn tail and book it when someone is in mid sentence? I've actually had to do that a few times when all other more diplomatic options failed, including the slightly more polite "good day" exit discussed.
Then creep up from behind 10 minutes later and Whisper in their ear " it was a pleassssssssure "
Maxwelhse I LOVE IT
I always just walk off without saying anything.
People say it's fucked up, but I do the same thing.
It also makes me giggle when I think about it at the end of the day.
Joseph Smith I do that when I'm in a group of people and realise no one talked with me for the last 5 minutes
Joseph Smith just spit in his face
u guys are pieces of shit.
Except Catdisc, that's fair.
Joseph Smith best way to do it, you have to be assertive
Best way to end a conversation? Don't go to the party and avoid it all together in the first place.
So basicly my life is a tactic on how to avoid a conversation.
Genius
Best way is to stay home and watch youtube.
I love you
Is it OK just to quietly press a gun to his heart and discretely silence him?
Maybe preface the trick by saying, oh, "You know, there are plenty of ways
of silencing a firearm, for instance, by using someone's body to muffle it."
Then slip away from his stinky feet like a ninja...
+tomken8dy Trust your feelings, Luke. You know it to be true.
*****
NOOOOOOO!!!! * falls into abyss *
I usually just walk away. Is that wrong?
+Defx10 It depends. It's usually kinda rude
*****
I own a book called "What You Think of Me is None of My Business." I've never read it, but the title seems pretty self-explanatory.
*****
Oh, excuse me. I mistook you for someone who replied to my comment.
+Defx10 more rude than wrong honestly
+Defx10 It depends. If there is a long lull in the conversation and everyone is just looking around.. I'll walk away and straight to someone else I intend to talk to. If they're in the middle of explaining something painfully boring then I usually tell them I'm trying to meet someone important, or just *any* plausable excuse to leave. Asking them where the restroom is can be used anywhere pretty much. If you're walking away in the middle of someone who's speaking about something then yeah, I'd totally think you were on drugs or autistic to some degree, or stupendously arrogant.
Was about to ask how to accomplish this w/o lying b/c I hate lying, but then you immediately addressed that issue after your first point. Bravo. Helpful.
that dude has a good Bruce Wayne voice
I found that turning 360 degrees, and walking away is a simple, yet effective way to politely end a conversation.
if you turn 360 degrees you would still be facing the same person. it would be hilarious to see you do that however xD
This is comparable to falling forward in a boat when scuba diving, instead of backwards. Good initiative, bad judgment.
Lost.
the two drinks is a win win, if the conversation is good you get to drink more
Is it OK to just say "You are one boring fuck, and I am going to talk to someone else."?
+Casey Vee works every time for me.
+Casey Vee if you want to leave an impression that you have no self-control similar to a 6-year old boy.
+A Jalapeño somethin tells me hes not gonna care much about what that borin fuck thinks of him..
asdf So right.
+Casey Vee I've recently reflected upon this topic and I came to the conclusion that I already have enough people around me that I like and that like me. So I don't need to play the hypocrite in front of every annoying fuck.
GOOD DAY SIR *swoosh of cape*
+charlie hernandez too late i already swooshed *swoosh*
4:19 That is a really good one, I must say
You deserve so much more recognition. Cheers to you, good man.
"I'd like to continue to listen to you talk, it is very captivating, but life is too short and I don't want to". Works all the time.
"Anyway" is rude full stop. Not a polite transition, may as well just say "shut up"
just say "oops I think I just sharted", it works evertime
"I got to go to the toilet" Works every time like a charm. By the time you come out the person has moved on or is talking to someone else.
This was immensely helpful to me, I watched this video before going to my first large scale Cristmas party and my friends were told how nice and pleasant I was.
I honestly thought most of these were not very nice. Some seemed rather abrupt.
Because this is for men.
and men are not nice or can't be subtle? :S
Johan van den Berg Correct.
Johan van den Berg Yes we have to, but I believe in being direct with the person and end it quick instead of trying to slide out.
In that case I think it would be most honest and nice to just say "I'm sorry I don't find this topic very interesting."
It's been fun, I haven't laughed this hard in a while.
Anyways, thank you for these great tips, I'll be sure to use them soon.
I'm gonna go ahead and subscribe to your channel so I can know when you have new videos up.
GOOD DAY, sir.
The video cut out at 0:54, and I thought it was on purpose.
" There are a few things you can do to disengage in the smoothest - " and then silence.
Touche, Art of Manliness. That WAS smooth.
"I....I...I have crippling depression" shuts people right up.
There was this this thing about common sense not being common anymore... so true!
I thought the same. 50 years ago this stuff was the most basic stuff an individual learned in their social life.
I like how u say that like u lived the time 50 years ago
Enoch H
Hahaha, you're fucking lame. Do you know something called OLDER PEOPLE? Look around....they're everywhere. And they can be a lot of fun too. Turn off the iphone and enjoy a conversation with your grandpa sometime. It'll be good to you.
rafasounds2010 50 years ago they had social people and people who were not social. nothing is different today.
Enoch H
Manners were more valued. Yes, there were the ones who were naturally more skilled, but the less skilled ones couldn't hide behind their phones or just pretend they're a social problem and get away with that.
the guy in the glasses looks like Dexter from Dexter's laboratory
erick vargas He does!...ha!
Love the channel man! keep up the good work
Another well done video! This one really helps me. I've always had speech problems and problems with conversation, so this really helps. :)
that boring guy was actually funny ahahah
"Well, please fuck off"
THIS CHANNEL HAS EVERYTHING I HAVE EVER WONDER HOW TO DO IT MANLY!!
I usually end the conversation with appreciation. Works all the time-ONLY when used appropriately of course
I have a question to ask the host before he leaves?
Where is the host going from their own party? :s
hell yeah more vids!
My standby is *look at watch* "Hey, it was nice talking to you!" And just walk off nodding as they continue.
Also, the ending to this was expected but still genius. Great work, AoM.
I'm not a man but your blog is my FAVORITE! Thanks for all the good stuff.
twist your mustache bruh
+Deep Indr ...This is definitely a "betyár" style mustache! Typical Hungarian way of look !!
Ending on a slightly dismissive witty or comical remark is another good way out of conversational bear traps.
I tend to use "Is there anything else..." to let annoying people know I have talked my fill and will apologize and say what I have to do with someone who is not annoying. Apologizing and stating the need to leave shows the person you enjoy talking to them, but have something you must attend to.
My goal is to not offend anyone, but not pretend to like someone if I don't. I simply wrap it up, say "Have a nice day Sir" and move on. :)
That must make the situation so akward
Not at all. It is just being honest. I don't want someone spending time with me if they do not want to and I am the same by others. :)
Cool video bro. Anyway, yea, thanks for posting. I look forward to the next one. Take care.
I love these lessons and really appreciate them, especially as someone who has mental illnesses that sometimes make it hard for me to feel confident in conversations.
However, if I can give a respectful piece of advice, I think it would greatly help if you refrained from referring to people who have a hard time in conversations as "insane people" just because there's a lot of baggage there that you might not realize the impact of. A lot of people with formal thought disorders (like myself) and some people who are autistic use videos like these to learn from. It can be alienating as a viewer to have people talk about others in ableist ways, and doesn't help the confidence at all.
If you are speaking with someone who is socially overwhelming to interact with, or someone is taking up a lot of your social energy, that's okay to say. Being mentally ill isn't always the problem. (I know "insane" is usually intended to be a figure of speech, but often this is not how it lands - which is what I'm intending to address here.)
Some people have a hard time noticing when they are domineering conversations. There's polite ways to point this out as well, if you are interested, but it's important to not leave the struggling folks behind if they don't know who else to talk to. Usually we know when we aren't the best conversationalists or if the topic is just dry then you can gently say, "honestly I am more interested in [tangential topic]." And ask a follow up question that will lead to a more comfortable territory.
Some other advice I have for conversations with people who don't know how to hold them:
- try to veer the conversation in the direction of something that is more interesting for you to hear about. If you've just met them, maybe ask about pets. People love talking about their pets and if you have one, you might be able to make the conversation two-sided again if that's an issue.
- try to keep a mental note of where conversations have gone off the rails in specific, and ask a question that leads back into it.
- if they are someone who deals with "pressure of speech" (you might want to google that one, but it's helpful to know about) the issue is probably that they feel like they need to communicate everything because of a compulsion. In these cases, reassure them that they can slow down or that you can talk about whatever it is another time if they need.
If you're in a conversation that's in a meeting format, it can be a good idea to write notes for the conversation on what they want to touch base on ahead of time and ask them to do the same. This might have a weird tone in some dynamics, but I do this a lot when I need to resolve a conflict. It shows you take the other person seriously and have carved out time and effort for them even if they aren't around. It takes the pressure off because the other person knows you are considering the things they say and feel even when you aren't currently having a conversation with them. And when everyone has notes, no one is competing to say something before they forget. Because the stuff that feels important is written down ahead of time. And if someone has a thought of something to add while you are still speaking, they can write a short prompt down to get to when you are done, without interrupting you or ending up listening with the sole purpose of responding.
Also, this is just a general charisma advice for interacting with people who may have mood disorders: you don't need to echo their mood in order to validate and respect and be there for them. And if somebody is angry, you don't have to meet them with the same gravity of emotion. It can get draining to do so and it's not necessarily going to solve anything just by having two people spiralling into extreme emotions. It's taken me a long time to rewire my automatic behaviour in those situations, but it's helped me so much to learn.
Okay
Keeping calm all the time is harder thing to do
Hmm, what's your advice for someone who has no social life, never finds a party to go to, and stays home all night playing video games. Please make a video about feeling alienated in a big city and maybe present some tips on how to make new social connections that are meaningful. Thanks!
Pursue things that interest you and find others like you in places where other people like you are likely to be.
Great video and great tips, as always!
I love your blog, I don't know why I haven't suscribed to your channel earlier.
Or just walk away and run.
Sebastian Olivas I use hairworks too man
I never knew there was such thing as middle aged hipsters
Loved the video, the outtakes especially were ace
This is a totally valid posting frankly.
In my experience I think as we are now firmly in the 21st Century it is vital to be realistic. People simply do not trust people's "exits", reasons or even when people do actually engage back in a conversation these days. If one is faced with a prolix personality especially on a topic that is completely random and useless to most I find saying " How extraordinary" and smiling and walking away the best thing. I also find myself also saying "Well that's interesting idea/notion" and then remove myself physically.
Trying to have a win win simply is just not as possible these days as most chat's are just not realistic. I find a coded response and physical exiting gets the message forward. People are very rebellious and it is very trying to make up stories or lies to exit, or even making them feel included. Because they still will know that they are rejected and then often just hunt you down for more attention at another dealing.
Validating attention in social situations is a difficult business really. The old etiquette comes across as rather fake and almost desperate point scoring against the dullard. And yet complete decimation of the leagues of babble people with superficial and or dull convro's would be cruel.
I find being wry and a little humorous goes a long long way. But by all means do ninja out right after saying it. Woosh!!
+Daniel Raphael Hell, I usually just keep my conversations short & to the point. I'll rarely ask more than a question or two and wait for others to approach me. If they find me interesting on the approach, then they'll engage in conversation. Otherwise, IF they're looking at me as if I'm the invisible man & I detect that type of response or body language, then I ignore them. My time & thoughts have value & I will not waste it on the uninterested.
"The value menu is the best" in what motherfucking world is a Mcdouble better than Big Mac?
GOUST WILLIAM in my world whichever one is damn cheaper
GOUST WILLIAM the sesame buns on big mac are disgusting so yes.
GOUST WILLIAM a combination of a mcdouble and a junior chicken is higly superior than the big mac, even without the big mac sauce
GOUST WILLIAM mcdouble with big mac sauce is $1. big mac is $5. im poor
Look, though big macs are overpriced, and they threw out the 2 macs for $5, you still gotta admit FLAVOR wise the big Mac is superb
i go with the "uh huh" *turn off disinterested and walk away*
I really appreciate the bloopers at the end! Haha! Great video! Thanks!
I love Brett's light hearted videos, I love his serious ones... my favourite ones are when he does both :)
+whisper012 Oh and Brett, you forgot to mention the most important part - Practice, practice, practice.
Why am I watching this , I can't even start a conversation
"im really pregnant" sorry gbye
Haha. I don't mind you being pregnant, I've got latex gloves and gallons of lub.
Thanks for the chat, Mario!
Excellent advice, terrific channel.
that main actor seems sarcastic af no matter what he says
don't start one
Where did the video series go!? Why haven't we seen a new one in a half a year? Wish yall the best.
The best way to end a conversation is to say something funny in the lull, and then walk away while they are laughing and after a few steps, look back over your shoulder and smile and give a little wink as a way to let the person know they are cool, even if they're not.
4:45 was such a dick move! Lmao!
Commander Shepard: "I should go."
"I have to go, take care." Firmly and clearly said. I think when people aren't quite self aware it's convenient to give them a slight shock
This is fantastic, thank you