I've always been a hard person. Never had a strong male figure to make me feel safe and then I was repeatedly assaulted and honestly I don't trust men. I want to be more feminine and start trusting again, would you make a video on that? I'm not sure how but there's an idea. Love your content
First give your life to Christ Jesus,cry unto him pour your heart before your heavenly father and ask him to forgive you,then all these feminine things will come naturally to you.Just remember Jesus Christ loves you so much more than you can ever imagine
Iove how you explore the topic of softness, without making me feel powerless as a woman. Being a hard person is exhausting, this is such an important message 🤲
I am a Catholic and appreciate your videos sooo much! They have slowly transformed me to the woman I've always dreamed of being :) I am from the North so my temperament can be rough and I had a very Neurotic pants wearing mother who taught me to not rely on men. I found myself a very masculine man who loves God and has shown me what true submission looks like. I still battle with softness and finding your chanel has helped me immensely! Even my husband is noticing a beautiful difference in me. Thank you so much for your feminine series, God bless you sister ❤️
I am a very introverted and calm person. And can only be myself with people I click with. All my life people tell me in school and work that i am not good enough because i am too calm. this always hurts me because i feel rejected on my character. I now find it difficult to set boundaries and I quickly feel personally attacked and can quickly become angry or I don't say anything. now I'm in a healing process and now I'm starting to see I'm good the way I am. Thanks you for your videos🙏🏼
I LOVE what you bring up about cultivating humility (12:03)! I literally just finished studying how Esther won favor with the king (both Xerses & God) through her natural obedience and humble submission. She was easily corrected, instructed and advised and always sought wisdom from those in authority before moving forward. Many “modern women” (including myself at one point) don’t realize how averse we are to any kind of humility, submission or obedience. As you said, these are all qualities essential to building value within ourselves and throughout every aspect of our lives. What I believe it comes down to is having poor examples of masculinity or authority (an expression of masculinity). When we have not fully healed our relationship to our masculine counterparts; men & fathers, we cannot fully submit to the essential instruction or direction that may help us advance in every aspect of life. Thank you for shedding light! Blessings 💕🕊
I want to thank you for the difference between "true" and "right". I was in a situation just this morning where I spoke my truth and people challenged it -- but I stopped, took a deep breath, and thought, I've spoken my truth. I don't need to persuade these people I am also right. God knows, and God will sort it out, and God is who matters most in the end. Being right would have taken me into a space that is not Christlike at all. God doesn't want that for his daughters.
I just wanted to say that I think the classical music in the background of your videos is so calming and helpful. I've been watching a few of your videos and I am definitely trying to work on being softer and opening up to the idea of vulnerability but also what u said about being present and not multitasking is a big one for me. I almost robotically never do just one thing at a time and thinking about it now, it has definitely distracted me away from feeling or responding to things correctly. Your spirit seems so peaceful and I wish I had more women like you around me physically to draw from. I hope you continue to bloom in life and that God really does something with this platform you created and the love he's given you to share. -Alana
Even though I had been a Christian for 13 years, it wasn't until I found the Orthodox church that my heart was ready to see how much hardness and gender disorder I still harbored. I began wanting to become fully human in the way God intended - including fully woman. It's an ongoing journey! But as the Orthodox church has become such a healing place for me (truly a hospital for souls) I was encouraged to find a fellow Orthodox woman on the other side of a video that "randomly" popped up in my feed (a video that the old me never would have clicked on, btw ;)) Thanks for bringing this content, it is so vital in our times.
@@Mel.me. The Orthodox church is eternally beautiful & is enriched with so many time tested tools & traditions for spiritual growth. I went from Protestant TO Orthodox for years TO Jesus Christ & the church is bigger than Protestant vs Catholic vs Orthodox. The Orthodox church is amazing & eternally beautiful. Jesus Christ can transform & show you his transforming love weither or not there is an close Orthodox church. Praying for you sis! 💗
It’s so wonderful you’re interested in Orthodoxy. I encourage you to read “The Orthodox Way” & use the Orthodox Study Bible & get an Orthodox prayer book. Also, some authentic Orthodox icons to set up an icon/prayer corner (you can order them online). If you can ever make time to visit an Orthodox church, get into contact with the priest ahead of time. Even if you’re only able to go a couple times a year, it can greatly help. It could even be considered a pilgrimage! 💕☦️ Blessings to you & yours
Thank you for this very informative video! I have to agree that most aggressive, rude or otherwise "hard" people have to emotionally purge. More often than not negtive emotions boil down to fear. Fear of not being good enough, of being abandonned, of being recognised even, of being ridiculed or viewed negatively, so they act preemptively as in "rather i give them a reason to view me negatively on purpose rather than them viewing me negatively for who I am" I've been hard myself and tried to guard myself from judgement, but in reality, people will judge anyways, so I'd much rather be soft and vulnerable and find strength in my weaknesses instead of giving away my strength in exchange for coldness
This is so beautiful. Due to circumstances I became hardened. I have been praying to God for answers. This is so helpful. It is beautiful and godly to have humility and be feminine.
You're so right with 15:43. I didn't know this back when I was younger but started realising it as I got older! It helped me a ton with interactions with people who go out of their way to offend me. I still can't quite bring myself to feel pity for them (I lack empathy in that regard) but even knowing at 'rational' level that they are probably insecure makes me feel stronger emotionally and respond calmly.
I think allowing people to take care of me even in small gestures is something I struggle with. I know I'm too much of a people pleaser and I don't know how this mindset even developed, but even when people offer to do THE SMALLEST thing for me, I feel like a burden and often try to do things for myself. Your words are so comforting though it made me emotional to realize this mindset is so healthy and positive. I hope I can take this into practice a bit more and open up to accept people's thoughtful help
Yes being present is what ive been working on.. Ive actually learned to slow down and enjoy the moment.. Especially when im with my kids doing stuff like cooking or cuddling I take a moment to thank God for that exact moment that he allows me to just relax love on and enjoy my kids 💕👣👶 its blissful 😍
Your content is so inspiring. Moving from “feminist” to “feminine” has changed my life, I’m so grateful for the women standing up and bravely embracing their femininity. 💕
I'm so veryyyy glad I came across your page!! I use to have softness instilled in me it was who I naturally was how I was taught to be but after after along term toxic relationship and also having to play the male and female role it caused me to become very guarded and hardened now my masculine man has found me and it has caused conflict and unintentional hurt bc I am not allowing him to walk in his role 😢 so I'm doing some soul searching and much prayer and watching videos like yours to get back in touch w my feminine softer side I appreciate you and your channel!! You exude grace and femininity!!
I love your voice and how you explain things!! Very relaxing and informative. I was wondering if maybe you could post your skincare routine? Your skin is practically glowing!
Just discovered your channel, this is the second video that I'm watching and I hear the word "Orthodox" and that made my eastern european heart happy!.☦️One more reason to follow your channel; I completely relate to that part, working to gain souls and not "being right"
When you started the video about being present, you made me put my phone in airplane mode, get cozy, and just focus on the video and self reflect. It was very refreshing. I really enjoy your videos and am very happy to have found your channel! I will share with my friends. Thank you so much!
🌸Thank you for your gentle and wholesome videos. I can appreciate the tone, the pace and calmness presented. 🦋This rarity among woman like us are like soft yellow and pink orchards in a field🧚♀️
This was such an eye opening video! Thank you for bringing these points to light. I really enjoyed hearing these perspectives and can see how valuable they are! I will definitely be implementing them into my life and striving to be more soft. So well said 💕
I just read your description and saw that you were married. Initially I was like : 😵😵😵 After the shock , I was like “ of course she would be married, I could listen to her videos all day “ love your energy 💆🏾♀️🤎☺️
I love the level of your speech! You are truly Powerful on a soft and stable way. Such an inspiration. Gob bless you my orthodox sister . Greetings from greece
ugh you're right, my weaknesses, and strengths are mine and they contrast well with others in my life, all of our strengths and weeknesses are unique to us, and make us special for each other.
I relate so much with the media aspect you mentioned especially! I find myself enjoying watching\listening to more wholesome things and find it more helpful too
Hahah I come from a Catholic/Coptic Orthodox background and that's how I used to be about debating Protestants as I'm passionate about Church history and Theology. Now, I just rest in my truth and spend my energy in loving other fellow Christians and being the best Catholic/Orthodox I can be. Only the Holy Spirit converts anyways. P.S. love your channel. We need more of this.
Thank you, so very much, for making your videos. I'm very grateful that I've found them❤️. I consider myself to be very soft spoken, but I lack the gentle, feminine confidence that I feel I need in order to dissuade my people pleasing habits. Everything in life is a balance, and I feel as though I haven't quite found that balance yet. But you've motivated me to keep trying. You've motivated me not to connect with my feminine side in order to garner favour with those around me...but to heal, and come to peace with who I am, and who I'm meant to be. Thank you so, so, very much for this❤️. Your channel is greatly underappreciated.
I’m so glad I came across this video!! Instantly subscribed! This video is such a breath of fresh air because so many women find it “old-fashioned” to be submissive or humble nowadays and then they wonder why men don’t want to be with them. No, it’s not about getting/keeping a man in your life but there is a correlation. In general, I feel my most beautiful when I’m feminine (with my softness, my soft way of dressing and style of hair) so it makes sense to learn even more about having a soft and feminine disposition. I’m also excited to see someone from your generation teaching on this…you’d think that only older women would understand this but it’s great you live this way and can influence and/or teach your generation. So excited for your teachings!
1. Presence- being delighted in a new space and experience. Things that make me smile, and adding to the experience. 2. Being true vs. Being Right - I'm still working on this, but what I have gained on this is that I love being wrong because my mind gets blown when I learn something I have never thought about or was ever educated on. Learning, is hella fun. 3. Letting people take care of me- sometimes it is beautiful, to see how the other values you and the things you care about. My father taught me to let a man walk you on the inside of the sidewalk or hold the door open for you, as a way to honor your safety. And my mother taught me, let a masculine feel masculine caring for you 4. Tactfulness - there is a time and place to say and do certain things, and respect the sensitivity of the environment. Unless you absolutely need, to shake "shit" up. My mother taught me, "Always find a graceful way to say things, without sarcasm." 5. Rest- Hard people, come for you when you are warm and kind. There will be a time when they break down, and need that compassion since they chased everyone else off. Show yourself, some compassion always. Feel your feels without judgement, and understand those feelings as my therapist would always say. Or my grandfather taught me to sit in silence, without extra stimulation 6. Harmful media - I stopped listening to alot of certain artists music, because I hated feeling like crap after. I'm Sensitive unapologetically, so I need safe stimulation unless there are certain times my moods require alignment with whatever art activities I will be engaging in. I prefer uplifting or mood balancing media outlets most times. I hate emo rap 7. Humility - humility keeps me safe from drama, and allows me to surrender to the process of strengthening my weaknesses and knowing how to cooperate with my strengths and coordinate successfully with others 8. I love masculine energy, because it allows me to comfortably soften and be as bubbly and comfortably subservient. I have a reason to wear more dresses. However, it needs to be earned. 9. Social Conflict - if you don't get ignored, or assisted with some love and support. You will get your ass dealt with, and compassion runs out when they continuously over step my boundaries seeing that I'm trying to respect their emotional space. 10. Boundaries, make great fences for social neighbors. It preserves the integrity, of our connection without disrespecting the other's individuality. I will apologize like a young gold hearted lady raised with some manners, and home training. I don't wanna hear "you apologize too much" *or don't worry about it" if I know, I did do something wrong even on accident. *I offer my Southern Belle etiquette, without being a pushover. I'm as soft as they come, I'm just not easily bullied. And there will be problems, if you try it.
My journey and growing relationship with God, with Christ beyond religion has healed my in sooo many ways and gently undressed layers of hardness. I've been learning and growing into much of what you shared. I look back sometimes and I don't recognize myself. My pain had become my fortress and I was it's hardened prisoner. I can also vouch especially for the content that I consume and being humble. Oh the joys and beauties of being woman 🥰 thank you for this precious, illuminating video 🙏🤍
As a Catholic, I really admired your words about the difference between being true vs right I. Regards to theology. Before I was Catholic that was something I really struggled with when I’d talk with others about theological differences, and even in my personal life up to about a week ago, it was revealed to me just how prideful and stubborn I am. I’m working earnestly to transform with the strength of God and His grace. Thank you for your content, from one believer to another, you are inspiring!
I loved what you said about being influenced by media. As women, we have the capacity for extreme empathy, and when we direct that empathy toward immoral characters in literally fantastical and imaginary situations, it can mess with your head.
beautiful video , thank you for sharing! The heart of my podcast is being in your divine feminine which holds so much softness. One of my first episodes is about being a soft woman! Keep sharing your light ✨
Wow the more truth instead of right is so amazing. I love that and I love when you said for conflict..I have an issue with speaking back out.of anger cause of someone insulting me..
I’ve been desperately searching for good resources to help reinforce and inform developing the right type of femininity within myself. I think in one video you said the delicate balance between confidence and humility. And it’s just so spot on, and a difficult thing to develop as an orthodox Christian in today’s world. I always find myself asking God to help me become the woman he intends me to be and to help me to discover what my true calling and role as a woman is. Anyhow, I’m really grateful to have found you and to learn that you are also a young married Orthodox Woman on the same journey. Thanks for your willingness to share. God bless you and Panagia be with you!
I'm on my journey in life to become happy and I need and want the relationships I have to see my soft and true side. I am so glad I came across your videos.
Excited to implement your last bit of advice! Really struggle with finding the right words to use instead of a harsh reaction. I'm always looking for phrases to help me soothe over tence situations. I'm definitely going to, in the future tell, somebody when I felt the way they worded something was harsh and that I felt disrespected.
You speak absolute truth and I appreciate it so much💕 I’ve recently on a feminine journey and your videos have been so helpful. I got my hormonal IUD removed which was the first big actionable step. My reason for starting this journey is to find more unity in my life, recurve, play and let go of guilt for all of this. Thank you for creating this content!
Hi, I discovered your videos not too long, and I really like your content ! You are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I look forward to your future videos 💕
Thank you so much! this was so helpful especially 17:42 I am facing difficulty with some rued people in my life and I am a very sensitive and emotional person and lashing out on them not only takes a toll on my relationship them but my mental health.
I’m Catholic and I’ve always been very traditional anyways, but I realized lately that I need to work on my feminist and put aside my pride. I never thought I struggled with letting men lead or take care of me bc of my value system, but it was humbling to see that it is something I need to work on. I think all women could benefit from this message.
This is such beautiful christian sharing! Glad I discoverd you to share with young ladies I know. My wife is a jewel as well and has many of these traits.
Omg I’m so glad I found your channel I resonate with a lot of the things you said and truly believe your presence on UA-cam is refreshing and needed for young women thank you!
I love your videos Jasmyne!☺️ I completely agree with you on everything, I’ve been on this journey towards feminine and godly womanhood for some time also, recently I felt like I’ve gone backwards instead of getting better, but I do think who or what we are surrounding ourselves with is probably most important for me personally. I’m an Orthodox Christian convert also btw☺️ Christ is in our midst ☦️
Hi Jasmyne! Thanks for this insightful talk 🤗 I would love and appreciate hearing your views on how to approach the - for lack of a better term- push and pull between a man and woman at the very start of dating like you alluded to here! 😊
Yes i am happy this video exists because now a days media shows femininity in a wrong way they call them feminist n supports a woman who can rule over man . Whereas it's actually about equality n we can be strong n bold with our feminity too
We women always working on ourselves. That itself is being humble. In a world where you’re forced to be masculine and Damned if you’re not you’re also damned if you are. It’s no win. I find myself quiet feminine but I am also strong. I came from a violent upbringing and being poor everything I am and have healed myself is because of me. That makes me proud so naturally I have some strength and wisdom now. I don’t want to downplay myself to be feeling feminine but In a world where most men just like to drink, party, choose the easy way rather than the right way I feel more courageous or brave than them. I would feel more masculine in a relationship with such a man. I am sure he would find himself cheating on me because he wouldn’t feel enough. I strive for more in life but struggle to meet a man that also does feel this way. That’s an equal man for me. I also met a men a while ago that had build something for himself and because I don’t have the same social status I was accused of his friends that I was being a gold digger. How do you even win in this kind of world?
We win by continuing to work on ourselves and by celebrating who we continue to become. We take great care of ourselves because we love ourselves and in this we are also setting the standard for what we accept from others. Those men you describe are not fully matured and are not fit to fill a role in your life. A man is not swayed. A man knows what he wants, sees that you are a rare beautiful treasure, and seeks you out. He does all that he can to show you that he is worthy of your magnificence. It is his gift to you. And it is your gift to him that you graciously receive it. In the meantime, we live richly and beautifully. We enjoy our friends, our families, our hobbies/interests.. we enjoy our own company. We treat ourselves wonderfully.. We buy gorgeous flowers for ourselves and prepare our favorite dish (just for us).. we revel in the time we have for and with ourselves. And when a mature man shows up, we make space for him so that he can show that he's worthy. This takes time. Anyone can put on a charade for a short time. But when we allow things to progress slowly, we learn critical things that let us know whether we will let him in..... things like he has a quick temper or he's cheap or he has wandering eyes or he chews with his mouth open... or that he's affectionate and generous and that although he misses you when you take a girl's trip, he appreciates that you live a balanced life and he lovingly caresses you when you return. When we wait, we discover all the things we need to determine if he's a good fit. In this way, we protect ourselves and we safeguard our value. I'm not a religious person but I do find tremendous wisdom in the bible. One of my favorite verses is Matthew 7:6 when Jesus said "do not cast your pearls before swine".
We don't really win but we get glimpses of joy through God's holy spirit which is irreplaceable, the holy spirit is how we make it through this world God is how we make it, praying and asking God to help me is often the one thing that makes everything better no matter how bad the situation and I know when I am weak he is strong!
The way you speak I can clearly tell your a high value woman. This world is messed up. People who want genuine lovable relationships are almost non existant. I'm a young man who's working on himself. Hopefully I meet a high value girl like you one day
I stumbled onto this video and I’m so glad that I did. How lovely! You for me are a great example of how to teach or guide with love and softness. I look forward to following and watching more of your content.
Where’s your top from?😭Honestly we need an outfit ideas/try on haul video because I got rid of a lot of my immodest, masculine clothing and I’m struggling trying to build a more feminine wardrobe and I love your style😭💗
you slightly favor the actress Yara Shahidi. lovely eyes btw❤️ your voice is very melodic and nice to listen to. as one lady to another, softness is indeed powerful
I love your videos and have been watching them daily now to remind and courage myself of how beautiful it is to be a woman and to know that my identity is in Christ alone.
I would appreciate more practical tips on how to stand up for yourself. Im naturally introverted and aggreeable. But I find the only way I know how to stand up for myself is with anger. I try to patiently respond to others but they dont listen until I lose my temper. Help please:) ❤
I relate to all of this so intimately. Right down to watching OITNB/ similarity salacious media and absorbing many strange ideas from then. I too had to eschew many of my former TV habits! There’s a reason it’s called programming. I appreciate your wisdom, sister! ☦️🙏🏼🌸💕
This is true tho. Not having a father growing up i felt i needed to protect myself and i had to toughen up for me and my mother. Seeing many friends as well right now who are the same because their fathers were not good protector and providers. It really does matter having a loving father be there for you.
“You dont realize how bad something is until you start doing better” so so true and relatable to me, wow
"Garbage in Garbage out" was my dad's favorite saying. I totally agree about watching and consuming trash media.
Good saying!!
My mom said that too! I need to focus on it more ❤️
I've always been a hard person. Never had a strong male figure to make me feel safe and then I was repeatedly assaulted and honestly I don't trust men. I want to be more feminine and start trusting again, would you make a video on that? I'm not sure how but there's an idea. Love your content
I love that you’re trying ❤️ we women are so strong…
Blessings for your journey in being being blissfully softened.💝
sending you so much positive energy
First give your life to Christ Jesus,cry unto him pour your heart before your heavenly father and ask him to forgive you,then all these feminine things will come naturally to you.Just remember Jesus Christ loves you so much more than you can ever imagine
@@rachaelbempomaaapenteng4888 thank you
Even the way you dress is so soft and feminine. You radiate peace.
She is so adorable !
I agree!
Humility isn't about thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself, less.
Iove how you explore the topic of softness, without making me feel powerless as a woman. Being a hard person is exhausting, this is such an important message 🤲
20 minutes of softness, love and femininity. I Thank God for allowing me to learn from someone like you!
Amen 🩷
Such a wonderful point.. this world doesn’t prime us to be soft.. it teaches us to be hard and self serving.. lean in to the softness
I am a Catholic and appreciate your videos sooo much! They have slowly transformed me to the woman I've always dreamed of being :) I am from the North so my temperament can be rough and I had a very Neurotic pants wearing mother who taught me to not rely on men. I found myself a very masculine man who loves God and has shown me what true submission looks like. I still battle with softness and finding your chanel has helped me immensely! Even my husband is noticing a beautiful difference in me. Thank you so much for your feminine series, God bless you sister ❤️
I’m in the north too and women are so aggressive here. I felt out of place for not having that but now I know I’m just who I need to be!
I am a very introverted and calm person. And can only be myself with people I click with. All my life people tell me in school and work that i am not good enough because i am too calm. this always hurts me because i feel rejected on my character.
I now find it difficult to set boundaries and I quickly feel personally attacked and can quickly become angry or I don't say anything. now I'm in a healing process and now I'm starting to see I'm good the way I am. Thanks you for your videos🙏🏼
I LOVE what you bring up about cultivating humility (12:03)! I literally just finished studying how Esther won favor with the king (both Xerses & God) through her natural obedience and humble submission. She was easily corrected, instructed and advised and always sought wisdom from those in authority before moving forward. Many “modern women” (including myself at one point) don’t realize how averse we are to any kind of humility, submission or obedience. As you said, these are all qualities essential to building value within ourselves and throughout every aspect of our lives.
What I believe it comes down to is having poor examples of masculinity or authority (an expression of masculinity). When we have not fully healed our relationship to our masculine counterparts; men & fathers, we cannot fully submit to the essential instruction or direction that may help us advance in every aspect of life.
Thank you for shedding light! Blessings 💕🕊
Thank you 💕
I want to thank you for the difference between "true" and "right". I was in a situation just this morning where I spoke my truth and people challenged it -- but I stopped, took a deep breath, and thought, I've spoken my truth. I don't need to persuade these people I am also right. God knows, and God will sort it out, and God is who matters most in the end. Being right would have taken me into a space that is not Christlike at all. God doesn't want that for his daughters.
I just wanted to say that I think the classical music in the background of your videos is so calming and helpful. I've been watching a few of your videos and I am definitely trying to work on being softer and opening up to the idea of vulnerability but also what u said about being present and not multitasking is a big one for me. I almost robotically never do just one thing at a time and thinking about it now, it has definitely distracted me away from feeling or responding to things correctly. Your spirit seems so peaceful and I wish I had more women like you around me physically to draw from. I hope you continue to bloom in life and that God really does something with this platform you created and the love he's given you to share.
-Alana
i appreciate you so much im 17 and i aspire to be feminine like you at some point in my life.😁💕
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I'm 17 too ! Do you want to be friends for starting our journey together? 💕
@@twice.supremacy yessss i would love that how should we connect.? Sorry I'm only seeing this now
Even though I had been a Christian for 13 years, it wasn't until I found the Orthodox church that my heart was ready to see how much hardness and gender disorder I still harbored. I began wanting to become fully human in the way God intended - including fully woman. It's an ongoing journey! But as the Orthodox church has become such a healing place for me (truly a hospital for souls) I was encouraged to find a fellow Orthodox woman on the other side of a video that "randomly" popped up in my feed (a video that the old me never would have clicked on, btw ;))
Thanks for bringing this content, it is so vital in our times.
A hospital for souls! So true. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment this. God Bless you! Christ is risen! 💝
@@JasmyneTheodora Truly He is risen!!!
Oh! Which country do you reside in if I may ask?
@@Mel.me. The Orthodox church is eternally beautiful & is enriched with so many time tested tools & traditions for spiritual growth. I went from Protestant TO Orthodox for years TO Jesus Christ & the church is bigger than Protestant vs Catholic vs Orthodox.
The Orthodox church is amazing & eternally beautiful. Jesus Christ can transform & show you his transforming love weither or not there is an close Orthodox church. Praying for you sis! 💗
It’s so wonderful you’re interested in Orthodoxy. I encourage you to read “The Orthodox Way” & use the Orthodox Study Bible & get an Orthodox prayer book. Also, some authentic Orthodox icons to set up an icon/prayer corner (you can order them online). If you can ever make time to visit an Orthodox church, get into contact with the priest ahead of time. Even if you’re only able to go a couple times a year, it can greatly help. It could even be considered a pilgrimage! 💕☦️ Blessings to you & yours
Thank you for this very informative video!
I have to agree that most aggressive, rude or otherwise "hard" people have to emotionally purge. More often than not negtive emotions boil down to fear. Fear of not being good enough, of being abandonned, of being recognised even, of being ridiculed or viewed negatively, so they act preemptively as in "rather i give them a reason to view me negatively on purpose rather than them viewing me negatively for who I am"
I've been hard myself and tried to guard myself from judgement, but in reality, people will judge anyways, so I'd much rather be soft and vulnerable and find strength in my weaknesses instead of giving away my strength in exchange for coldness
This is so beautiful. Due to circumstances I became hardened. I have been praying to God for answers. This is so helpful. It is beautiful and godly to have humility and be feminine.
You're so right with 15:43. I didn't know this back when I was younger but started realising it as I got older! It helped me a ton with interactions with people who go out of their way to offend me. I still can't quite bring myself to feel pity for them (I lack empathy in that regard) but even knowing at 'rational' level that they are probably insecure makes me feel stronger emotionally and respond calmly.
I think allowing people to take care of me even in small gestures is something I struggle with. I know I'm too much of a people pleaser and I don't know how this mindset even developed, but even when people offer to do THE SMALLEST thing for me, I feel like a burden and often try to do things for myself. Your words are so comforting though it made me emotional to realize this mindset is so healthy and positive. I hope I can take this into practice a bit more and open up to accept people's thoughtful help
You’re so soft and dainty!!!! If I can give up the kind or energy you’re giving I’ll be soooo fulfilled
Yes being present is what ive been working on.. Ive actually learned to slow down and enjoy the moment.. Especially when im with my kids doing stuff like cooking or cuddling I take a moment to thank God for that exact moment that he allows me to just relax love on and enjoy my kids 💕👣👶 its blissful 😍
Your content is so inspiring. Moving from “feminist” to “feminine” has changed my life, I’m so grateful for the women standing up and bravely embracing their femininity. 💕
I'm so veryyyy glad I came across your page!! I use to have softness instilled in me it was who I naturally was how I was taught to be but after after along term toxic relationship and also having to play the male and female role it caused me to become very guarded and hardened now my masculine man has found me and it has caused conflict and unintentional hurt bc I am not allowing him to walk in his role 😢 so I'm doing some soul searching and much prayer and watching videos like yours to get back in touch w my feminine softer side I appreciate you and your channel!! You exude grace and femininity!!
I love your voice and how you explain things!! Very relaxing and informative. I was wondering if maybe you could post your skincare routine? Your skin is practically glowing!
Just discovered your channel, this is the second video that I'm watching and I hear the word "Orthodox" and that made my eastern european heart happy!.☦️One more reason to follow your channel; I completely relate to that part, working to gain souls and not "being right"
When you started the video about being present, you made me put my phone in airplane mode, get cozy, and just focus on the video and self reflect. It was very refreshing. I really enjoy your videos and am very happy to have found your channel! I will share with my friends. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for sharing my channel!! I'm so glad you enjoy the content.
🌸Thank you for your gentle and wholesome videos. I can appreciate the tone, the pace and calmness presented.
🦋This rarity among woman like us are like soft yellow and pink orchards in a field🧚♀️
Embracing a life of ease and softness has been a game changer for me. I love it 💕💕
This was such an eye opening video! Thank you for bringing these points to light. I really enjoyed hearing these perspectives and can see how valuable they are! I will definitely be implementing them into my life and striving to be more soft. So well said 💕
I just read your description and saw that you were married.
Initially I was like : 😵😵😵
After the shock , I was like “ of course she would be married, I could listen to her videos all day “ love your energy
💆🏾♀️🤎☺️
I love the level of your speech! You are truly Powerful on a soft and stable way. Such an inspiration. Gob bless you my orthodox sister . Greetings from greece
ugh you're right, my weaknesses, and strengths are mine and they contrast well with others in my life, all of our strengths and weeknesses are unique to us, and make us special for each other.
I relate so much with the media aspect you mentioned especially! I find myself enjoying watching\listening to more wholesome things and find it more helpful too
Hahah I come from a Catholic/Coptic Orthodox background and that's how I used to be about debating Protestants as I'm passionate about Church history and Theology. Now, I just rest in my truth and spend my energy in loving other fellow Christians and being the best Catholic/Orthodox I can be. Only the Holy Spirit converts anyways. P.S. love your channel. We need more of this.
Thank you, so very much, for making your videos. I'm very grateful that I've found them❤️. I consider myself to be very soft spoken, but I lack the gentle, feminine confidence that I feel I need in order to dissuade my people pleasing habits. Everything in life is a balance, and I feel as though I haven't quite found that balance yet. But you've motivated me to keep trying. You've motivated me not to connect with my feminine side in order to garner favour with those around me...but to heal, and come to peace with who I am, and who I'm meant to be. Thank you so, so, very much for this❤️. Your channel is greatly underappreciated.
I’m so glad I came across this video!! Instantly subscribed! This video is such a breath of fresh air because so many women find it “old-fashioned” to be submissive or humble nowadays and then they wonder why men don’t want to be with them. No, it’s not about getting/keeping a man in your life but there is a correlation. In general, I feel my most beautiful when I’m feminine (with my softness, my soft way of dressing and style of hair) so it makes sense to learn even more about having a soft and feminine disposition. I’m also excited to see someone from your generation teaching on this…you’d think that only older women would understand this but it’s great you live this way and can influence and/or teach your generation. So excited for your teachings!
1. Presence- being delighted in a new space and experience. Things that make me smile, and adding to the experience.
2. Being true vs. Being Right - I'm still working on this, but what I have gained on this is that I love being wrong because my mind gets blown when I learn something I have never thought about or was ever educated on. Learning, is hella fun.
3. Letting people take care of me- sometimes it is beautiful, to see how the other values you and the things you care about. My father taught me to let a man walk you on the inside of the sidewalk or hold the door open for you, as a way to honor your safety. And my mother taught me, let a masculine feel masculine caring for you
4. Tactfulness - there is a time and place to say and do certain things, and respect the sensitivity of the environment. Unless you absolutely need, to shake "shit" up. My mother taught me, "Always find a graceful way to say things, without sarcasm."
5. Rest- Hard people, come for you when you are warm and kind. There will be a time when they break down, and need that compassion since they chased everyone else off. Show yourself, some compassion always. Feel your feels without judgement, and understand those feelings as my therapist would always say. Or my grandfather taught me to sit in silence, without extra stimulation
6. Harmful media - I stopped listening to alot of certain artists music, because I hated feeling like crap after. I'm Sensitive unapologetically, so I need safe stimulation unless there are certain times my moods require alignment with whatever art activities I will be engaging in. I prefer uplifting or mood balancing media outlets most times. I hate emo rap
7. Humility - humility keeps me safe from drama, and allows me to surrender to the process of strengthening my weaknesses and knowing how to cooperate with my strengths and coordinate successfully with others
8. I love masculine energy, because it allows me to comfortably soften and be as bubbly and comfortably subservient. I have a reason to wear more dresses. However, it needs to be earned.
9. Social Conflict - if you don't get ignored, or assisted with some love and support. You will get your ass dealt with, and compassion runs out when they continuously over step my boundaries seeing that I'm trying to respect their emotional space.
10. Boundaries, make great fences for social neighbors. It preserves the integrity, of our connection without disrespecting the other's individuality. I will apologize like a young gold hearted lady raised with some manners, and home training. I don't wanna hear "you apologize too much" *or don't worry about it" if I know, I did do something wrong even on accident.
*I offer my Southern Belle etiquette, without being a pushover. I'm as soft as they come, I'm just not easily bullied. And there will be problems, if you try it.
My journey and growing relationship with God, with Christ beyond religion has healed my in sooo many ways and gently undressed layers of hardness. I've been learning and growing into much of what you shared. I look back sometimes and I don't recognize myself. My pain had become my fortress and I was it's hardened prisoner. I can also vouch especially for the content that I consume and being humble. Oh the joys and beauties of being woman 🥰 thank you for this precious, illuminating video 🙏🤍
As a Catholic, I really admired your words about the difference between being true vs right I. Regards to theology. Before I was Catholic that was something I really struggled with when I’d talk with others about theological differences, and even in my personal life up to about a week ago, it was revealed to me just how prideful and stubborn I am. I’m working earnestly to transform with the strength of God and His grace. Thank you for your content, from one believer to another, you are inspiring!
Thanks for putting out this content ❤ I am just beginning my inner feminine healing journey, and your content has been so helpful
I loved what you said about being influenced by media. As women, we have the capacity for extreme empathy, and when we direct that empathy toward immoral characters in literally fantastical and imaginary situations, it can mess with your head.
beautiful video , thank you for sharing! The heart of my podcast is being in your divine feminine which holds so much softness. One of my first episodes is about being a soft woman! Keep sharing your light ✨
The so-called "divine feminine" is a demon in disguise, that makes women selfish and narcissistic.
Wow the more truth instead of right is so amazing. I love that and I love when you said for conflict..I have an issue with speaking back out.of anger cause of someone insulting me..
You're lovely!😊
Thank you for saying kindness is not weakness. I am constantly seen as weak because I am patient and kind to people.
I’ve been desperately searching for good resources to help reinforce and inform developing the right type of femininity within myself. I think in one video you said the delicate balance between confidence and humility. And it’s just so spot on, and a difficult thing to develop as an orthodox Christian in today’s world. I always find myself asking God to help me become the woman he intends me to be and to help me to discover what my true calling and role as a woman is.
Anyhow, I’m really grateful to have found you and to learn that you are also a young married Orthodox Woman on the same journey. Thanks for your willingness to share. God bless you and Panagia be with you!
I never thought I needed this change. So glad to have found your channel! 🙏🏻💕
I'm on my journey in life to become happy and I need and want the relationships I have to see my soft and true side. I am so glad I came across your videos.
Excited to implement your last bit of advice! Really struggle with finding the right words to use instead of a harsh reaction. I'm always looking for phrases to help me soothe over tence situations. I'm definitely going to, in the future tell, somebody when I felt the way they worded something was harsh and that I felt disrespected.
Heyy💞! I’m starting my journey of healing my femininity. And your videos are being helpful. I’m too masculine,but I hope to make it!❤
You speak absolute truth and I appreciate it so much💕 I’ve recently on a feminine journey and your videos have been so helpful. I got my hormonal IUD removed which was the first big actionable step. My reason for starting this journey is to find more unity in my life, recurve, play and let go of guilt for all of this. Thank you for creating this content!
Hi, I discovered your videos not too long, and I really like your content ! You are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I look forward to your future videos 💕
Me too
Loved this 🥰
Thank you so much! this was so helpful especially 17:42 I am facing difficulty with some rued people in my life and I am a very sensitive and emotional person and lashing out on them not only takes a toll on my relationship them but my mental health.
Just watched 2 videos of yours and you're already helping me a lot. Thank you so much! I love your soft spoken voice.
Just came across your channel, I love this content thank you for reminding us of who we are supposed to be as women.
I’m Catholic and I’ve always been very traditional anyways, but I realized lately that I need to work on my feminist and put aside my pride. I never thought I struggled with letting men lead or take care of me bc of my value system, but it was humbling to see that it is something I need to work on. I think all women could benefit from this message.
oh shoot I need this, I've always valued being tough and now in my adult years I feel self conscious about it I feel i'm scary.
I don’t know if you’ve ever watched Lana Blakey videos but you two have a similar vibe and clear, eloquent, relaxing way of speaking.
This is such beautiful christian sharing! Glad I discoverd you to share with young ladies I know. My wife is a jewel as well and has many of these traits.
Omg I’m so glad I found your channel I resonate with a lot of the things you said and truly believe your presence on UA-cam is refreshing and needed for young women thank you!
I love your videos Jasmyne!☺️ I completely agree with you on everything, I’ve been on this journey towards feminine and godly womanhood for some time also, recently I felt like I’ve gone backwards instead of getting better, but I do think who or what we are surrounding ourselves with is probably most important for me personally.
I’m an Orthodox Christian convert also btw☺️
Christ is in our midst ☦️
so present in the moment of baking and filming at the same time nice nice
Hi Jasmyne! Thanks for this insightful talk 🤗 I would love and appreciate hearing your views on how to approach the - for lack of a better term- push and pull between a man and woman at the very start of dating like you alluded to here! 😊
Yes i am happy this video exists because now a days media shows femininity in a wrong way they call them feminist n supports a woman who can rule over man . Whereas it's actually about equality n we can be strong n bold with our feminity too
Need a whole video on TACT because I can’t help but be sassy and cold sometimes
this was really awakening, thank u so much Jasimine❤❤
We women always working on ourselves. That itself is being humble. In a world where you’re forced to be masculine and Damned if you’re not you’re also damned if you are. It’s no win.
I find myself quiet feminine but I am also strong. I came from a violent upbringing and being poor everything I am and have healed myself is because of me. That makes me proud so naturally I have some strength and wisdom now. I don’t want to downplay myself to be feeling feminine but In a world where most men just like to drink, party, choose the easy way rather than the right way I feel more courageous or brave than them. I would feel more masculine in a relationship with such a man. I am sure he would find himself cheating on me because he wouldn’t feel enough. I strive for more in life but struggle to meet a man that also does feel this way. That’s an equal man for me. I also met a men a while ago that had build something for himself and because I don’t have the same social status I was accused of his friends that I was being a gold digger. How do you even win in this kind of world?
We win by continuing to work on ourselves and by celebrating who we continue to become. We take great care of ourselves because we love ourselves and in this we are also setting the standard for what we accept from others. Those men you describe are not fully matured and are not fit to fill a role in your life. A man is not swayed. A man knows what he wants, sees that you are a rare beautiful treasure, and seeks you out. He does all that he can to show you that he is worthy of your magnificence. It is his gift to you. And it is your gift to him that you graciously receive it. In the meantime, we live richly and beautifully. We enjoy our friends, our families, our hobbies/interests.. we enjoy our own company. We treat ourselves wonderfully.. We buy gorgeous flowers for ourselves and prepare our favorite dish (just for us).. we revel in the time we have for and with ourselves. And when a mature man shows up, we make space for him so that he can show that he's worthy. This takes time. Anyone can put on a charade for a short time. But when we allow things to progress slowly, we learn critical things that let us know whether we will let him in..... things like he has a quick temper or he's cheap or he has wandering eyes or he chews with his mouth open... or that he's affectionate and generous and that although he misses you when you take a girl's trip, he appreciates that you live a balanced life and he lovingly caresses you when you return. When we wait, we discover all the things we need to determine if he's a good fit. In this way, we protect ourselves and we safeguard our value. I'm not a religious person but I do find tremendous wisdom in the bible. One of my favorite verses is Matthew 7:6 when Jesus said "do not cast your pearls before swine".
We don't really win but we get glimpses of joy through God's holy spirit which is irreplaceable, the holy spirit is how we make it through this world God is how we make it, praying and asking God to help me is often the one thing that makes everything better no matter how bad the situation and I know when I am weak he is strong!
The way you speak I can clearly tell your a high value woman. This world is messed up. People who want genuine lovable relationships are almost non existant. I'm a young man who's working on himself. Hopefully I meet a high value girl like you one day
Yayyyy, I need another video abou4 being soft ☺️
I stumbled onto this video and I’m so glad that I did. How lovely! You for me are a great example of how to teach or guide with love and softness. I look forward to following and watching more of your content.
watching you feels like therapy 🥰
This video is wonderful! Thanks 💜
Where’s your top from?😭Honestly we need an outfit ideas/try on haul video because I got rid of a lot of my immodest, masculine clothing and I’m struggling trying to build a more feminine wardrobe and I love your style😭💗
you slightly favor the actress Yara Shahidi. lovely eyes btw❤️ your voice is very melodic and nice to listen to.
as one lady to another, softness is indeed powerful
I love your videos and have been watching them daily now to remind and courage myself of how beautiful it is to be a woman and to know that my identity is in Christ alone.
You are wonderful! Learning every day ❤
You’re so beautiful, eloquent and intelligent. I just subscribed 💕
It feels so good to hear this information, thank you!
finallyy found perfect place to learn something related to embracing feminism.❤❤❤❤
This is amazing. I need help with this so so much!!!
This was beautiful- thank you✨
You are so wise, smart and beautiful. 🌿♥️🙌🏻
Thank youuuu 😍😍
Thank you Jasmyne for another wonderful and informative video. 🤍
Hi! I just found your channel and you are helping me so much! Thank you☺
I love this. Keep them coming 🤍
I will!! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much Jasmyne so spot on
Subscribed! Love this and love that you speak from experience 💕
I would appreciate more practical tips on how to stand up for yourself. Im naturally introverted and aggreeable. But I find the only way I know how to stand up for myself is with anger. I try to patiently respond to others but they dont listen until I lose my temper. Help please:) ❤
Thank you for this really nice video Jasmyne🤍🕊God bless you
Loved this!
I love your channel🤗 thank you for sharing.
Could you make a video about finding a masculine man? Great video!
Definitely!
Haha "anxiety" love your messages
I relate to all of this so intimately. Right down to watching OITNB/ similarity salacious media and absorbing many strange ideas from then. I too had to eschew many of my former TV habits! There’s a reason it’s called programming. I appreciate your wisdom, sister! ☦️🙏🏼🌸💕
This is true tho. Not having a father growing up i felt i needed to protect myself and i had to toughen up for me and my mother. Seeing many friends as well right now who are the same because their fathers were not good protector and providers. It really does matter having a loving father be there for you.
you are amazing! thank you so much. You helped me inmensely
wow thank u so much.it was really constructive
So glad!
your videos are so helpful🥺💞
❤️❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for watching!!