I knew a rich guy who would always borrow money from his family just to appear poor (he would pay it back after a few weeks). that kept his friends and family from asking him for money
@@WIZA327 Hollywood says sweat pants + hoodie = drug dealer, so you must've had some money and/or drugs on you. Not really, but you know how dumb criminals can be sometimes? The mugger might've settled for the phone. 1, you can't get blood out of a turnip and 2, leaving a man naked could attract too much attention. More risk, like $100+ in fines and other legal costs, and for what, $20 reward if the local consignment shop is generous?? The cheap/worn jeans and T-shirt concept is tried and true, though. I can vouch for that.
Absolutely wrong. A lot of “poor clothes” is cotton/ polyester based, which is ok. Truly comfortable clothing is ELS cotton, merino wool, cashmere, silk, etc. Theres a noticeable differs you’ll enjoy when wearing these. You spend most of your life wearing clothes.
I've noticed that people treat you different depending on the clothes you wear (cheap vs expensive). I like to wear or look poor because I can see clearly who are the genuine people versus the plastic people. I walked in my real estate agent office looking poor and asked to see the manager. The person asked me if I had an appointment. I replied "no". She said to come back and make an appointment. I said it will only be for a brief moment. She said "the manager is in a meeting." I said "I'll wait." She said "The manager is very busy and not sure when the meeting will finish. You can check our website online, book appointments, fill in forms for rent, auctions, etc..." So I stood there thinking for a moment in silence... She said "are you looking to rent, all the details online are very easy to follow." I replied... "No... I'm the landlord."... I counted, 3mins the manager came to see me.
Imagine if you were the manager or boss and met with every single small fish coming in the door and answered every phone call. You’d never get stuff done. That’s her job - to screen calls and visitors. If you aren’t forthcoming about who you are, why should you expect him to make time to see you? You make time for family, not every person in the world. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person for favoring your family. In business, clients are your family.
@@zarnoffa That is true but in this case, Jane Smith is referring to how the receptionist assumed who she was based on her look. This mistake could be easily avoided if the receptionist just asked who she was before judging what she was there for based on her look. Of course the manager can't see everyone, but asking doesn't seem too hard or too time consuming.
Most people are misanthropes if they have theyre needs satisfied and given the truth about the world, the rest go crazy because theyre poor, lied to, had injustices on them, and worst of all manipulated.
This reminds me of a fun story my great uncle told me. He was a very decorated combat flyer in WW2 but never wanted to talk about the war and was very humble in general. Right after the war he went to college. He said although by then he was sick of the military that he went ahead anyway and signed up for ROTC. Apparently it offered some sort of additional credit. First day of training he showed up in a sweat suit instead of whatever he was supposed to be wearing. The person in charge, himself only a student thoroughly chewed out my uncle for 5 minutes as to what a disgrace he was and from now on he had better show up in proper uniform. My uncle didn’t say a word. Next day may uncle showed up in his real full USAAF uniform complete with Captains bars, medals, combat ribbons, everything. Upon seeing my uncle in full uniform, the hot shot in charge there turned pale and went silent. After that I think everyone left my uncle pretty much alone.
+The Technoclast Huh, do people believe you? Usually there are signs that are dead giveaways. Rich guy dressing poor would not want to tell anyone. So the act of saying so means something is not right.
Yes, that's useful to a point, but good women also want to protect themselves from low-quality sperm, so if you want to be able to get a nice young woman, you will still want to keep up good hygiene and keep your clothing coordinated and intact. It can still be quite plain and "poor"-looking, but you do not want to be mistaken for a homeless man at an inopportune moment.
@@shirin8609 Dressing poor doesn't mean bad hygiene and looking homeless. At the same time, there are also nice women who are on the same wavelength. They don't stand out in how they dress, but their finances tell a different story.
one thing I learned from being fairly poor is that new clothes are so so much better, especially throwaway items such as white t's, underwear, shirts, pants, shoes. These things are considered consumebales as they lose good smell, looks rugged. That's one of the main thing I would splurge on if I made good money. But when it comes to things such as cars, I'd go with something like a Camry.
Dressing poor gets me lower prices at the flea market , garage sales and anywhere that people haggle about the price - which is usually too high to begin with anyway.
BeatTheBush or just become a badass, who knows marshal arts, and learn to protect yourself, and be independent of fear witch the world offers, be the lion amongs the wolf's
@@marcus.H Me too ! I trying to ask for directions and the girl interrupted me, saying "Sorry I don't have cash". My eyes lit up, both in amusement and realization. I have never been bothered by gold diggers since then 😂
Whenever I go to the men's section at a department store wearing a t-shirt, shorts and sandals, I usually get ignored by the sales staff but whenever I wear my work clothes which consist of a suit, a tie and dress shoes, the sales staff are tripping over each other to help me. To be honest, I rather be left alone.
I like looking poor because I realized looking rich gives you superficial friends and people around you! Looking poor means you see the bad and the good people at the same time!
Looking rich and presentable does not give you superficial friends.. Only you can choose your friends.. Wear nice close and still choose down to earth friends.. MA if you did not know its up to you who you keep in your life.. Every year evaluate the people around you and keep the relationships you think are of benefit to you and your life
I call bullshit if he collects cans and is a millionaire, why do it, its a waste of time and he doesnt need the money from the can’s I get youre comment!!!
I know your video is older but SO important. I like to take 2-3 days a week of just riding ONLY my bicycle to the store/errands because it has this synergy of humbling me, teaching me to think/be slower (than a car), and also getting cardio. It's crazy how many things you notice in your neighborhood when by bicycle or walking. A lot of friends/family think down on it, like you HAVE to have a car, but I find it so humbling.
Homeless people can actually be really interesting to talk to. Don't dismiss someone because you can't "get something" from them. I dress in whatever I have and I don't really care what I look like because I'm not trying to manipulate anyone one way or another. Sounds like that is what this video is about, using your clothing to manipulate others. I am who I am.
I LOVE my 20 year old rusty car. I don't have loads to spare, but more importantly, I don't want those struggling to think people like me are the reason.
I've always dressed poor for the reasons in this video, but also because I'm a minimalist, frugal, and worn-in clothes are comfy. People leaving you alone is a bonus. It's also a great way to filter out fake and shallow people and meet genuine people. A downside to dressing poor includes while you're shopping: some people think you're a thief. I've been approached and accused of stealing three or four times already, and it's always when I'm wearing sweats and a t-shirt.
There are many reasons for this. We don't blend in well due to haircut, general appearance and attitude, but what can help is going in groups (battle buddy) Whether that person is part of your service or an allied service. Target is a definite issue in any situation, but situation awareness is part and parcel of the training of a warrior.
For females, dressing too poor makes one look like an easier target for violence. In my experience, it's important not to look homeless (a.k.a. desperate, addicted, troubled, poor self-worth, etc.). But looking too rich can also make one a target. Blending in is good while traveling.
True of men, only a bit more flexible as the key is to blend in with the majority. Have nice for nice places. Eyes are where the lies are. Peoples assumptions are real so use this to win in life. Note, I dress down too. Live in a ghetto area. I like my freedom of walking for example.
First read: 'The Millionaire Next Door' and live below your means. You wont live below your means once you accumulate your money if you don't practice it now.
My mom, who grew up in a blew collar family in post WWII France, always said "Neatness and cleanliness are the only luxury the poor have". She could take simple furniture and cheap yards of fabric and make a home out of that. Or look put together with a few simple items of supermarket clothing. She never allowed any member of the family to go out with holes in their clothes. We would sit down on week-ends and she would teach me how to mend clothes. Today, our family is more affluent, but I always kept that philosophy. I find it offensive to suggest that poor people are automatically dirty and sloppy. Wearing jeans with holes in them is something the rich do (and they will pay a ridiculous amount of money to buy jeans that have been distressed for them). If I see someone wearing a worn shirt from a technology trade show and torn jeans, I will assume that it is some rich guy on his way to Lowe's to buy supplies for a week-end project on his half a million dollar home.
Growing up poor in England, 1950's, has made me live frugally which I carry over into all aspects of life. My mother used to say ' What you never had, you never miss". Living in the USA the culture of grab, greed and instant gratification used to be so widespread, however, the 'new car every two year' has taken a backseat of late, indeed, with the loss of 'lifetime employment and careers' making do and mend has become more the norm for the average person.
I respect your high standards. At the same rate, I think there's something to be said for appealing to stereotypes if you live in a rough area. I've personally experienced the difference between looking stereotypically well-off VS stereaotypically poor n a few areas I've lived in. Enough to know that I feel like looking my best, but it tends to attract gold diggers and/or criminals. Enough to know that when I dress down, I tend to attract more down to Earth, friendly and genuine types of people. Problem is, I've out grown my lust for gold-diggers, I prefer honest people, I don't want to be compelled to defend myself against criminals again, but I also prefer nicer clothes, and either type of outfit tends to cost about the same. It's a catch-22. Fortunately, I got used to dressing down to some extent when/where necessary, found a place to live that I like, and the most crime we get here tends to be bike thieves, shoplifters, pedophile creepers (still a significant issue, but likely not for long if a recently busted local pedo cop gets ousted), casual drug users who don't usually bother anybody but themselves and their buddies, and telephone tough guys who don't do much except spread rumors and make threats they never seem to follow through on. I'm guessing you live in an area you at least perceive to be safe?
Orlie John The whole point of that, is for the poor to get rich. Dressing poor, while being poor, won't get you a high paying job, and it sure as hell won't help you get ahead in this world. You have to fake it, until you make it. Once you get rich, you can then kick back, and look as poor as you want, because by then, it won't matter.
Don't forget to repair things too. If you have basic sewing skills you can make clothes last pretty much forever. If not, a tailor can usually patch small holes and things for a fraction of the price of buying new.
I once walked into a new car sales yard wearing scruffy clothes and flip flops whilst being unshaven and generally looking somewhat poor. The sales guy came up to me and initially answered a few of my questions, but he assumed I was just a time waster and decided to shutdown the interaction and walk away. I then went next door to another dealership and ended up buying their top of the line model (different brand of vehicle of course). Before heading home I went back into the first dealership and showed the guy my sales receipt. I'll never forget the look on his face. Priceless!!!
BeatTheBush I dress poor for many reasons ,people in my family worked very hard to become supervisors, managers ect and they push us to work hard for our own stuff.I do like the way they are raising us.I get 1 (sometimes 2) pairs of shoes every year 3 pairs of pants every year (i have multiple pairs that can still fit me hence the reason they dont buy me more) 1 sweatshirt and 2 t shirts.At this point I know how to save money and invest, just a few minutes ago my aunt was talking to me about real estate😂😂
Same thing with cars. I drive a Toyota economy car that is 14 years old. I own many shares of Toyota stock. The dividends help with the maintenance. I love that Lexus has devoted fans. They help my stock.
Kind of like "the millionaire next door" vs "the 30,000 dollar millionaire." Highly leveraged, poor people like to look rich. Many self made rich people wouldn't waste money on insignificant things like fancy clothes.
Agreed. It's people who work hard for their money knows every dollar took a lot to earn it so it is not to be wasted on frivolous things just to show off.
Well, at least wealthy people with common sense and a good frugal mindset! Many of my friend's parents were wealthy, but very frugal and low key. The nicest people I could have known. We both work, but we are still considered the working poor. And I guess since I don't care about material things, I would not waste money on flashy clothes to impress anyone. Would rather spend money on first-edition banned books.
It happened to me. During the grunge era of the 90's I dressed the part and looked like a street bum. I went into Dillard's to buy a gift for a friend and security trailed me throughout that store. As soon as I pulled out my credit card to pay for the gift they took off. I complained about it to my daughter and she said, Well you look like your homeless in that get up. No wonder they followed you.
I mean if all I had to do was collect rent I wouldn't bother dressing up either. Since there is no dress code as a landlord if it was cold outside you'd see me showing up in jeans and a hoodie.
I once dressed rich and went with a dude that was dressing rich, sunglasses and shit; to the immigration affairs building, asked for a business visa, and got it. I was homeless then.
I love dressing up every single day! I wear designer brands as well as high street, and cheaper brands. People do treat me differently and I get more respect. I don’t think it’s okay for women, especially women of color, to dress down in some instances because people feel like they can mistreat, abuse, and verbally attack an unkempt woman. The only negative I see is individuals thinking that I am wealthy and stuck up ( I’m on my way to being wealthy through savings and investments though.)
I agree when i used to wear old clothes people thought i was homeless and i got no respect! Women have to dree nicely to get treated well. I dress in not flashy but new clothes and get respect.Women are looked down on when they dont dress well, it doesnt have to be designer, though!
The thing is, when you have money, you really don’t care how other people treat you. You have the luxury of not caring. I used to dress up all the time when I was younger and poorer because I needed other people’s approval. Now that I have enough money, I don’t care what other people think, so I buy 7 pairs of the exact same sweat pants and T-shirts in bulk during black friday sales and wear them until they disintegrate.
I was at a friend's party and was dressed casually, nothing special. I had someone who was dressed more nicely who was talking arrogantly to me. He told me his name. I kept the conversation going trying to "place" in my mind where I knew him from. No success. Then on the way home I remembered that at 4:55 pm that same day my sales director had handed me a document. I didn't have time to read it. But I did glance at it. It was this guy's resume.
But when someone looks poor, they also receive poor treatment. I saw a guy whose outfit was humble (as were his friends' outfits) and he passed out on the sidewalk. NO ONE stopped to help him even though his friends were calling out to people around them for help. Part of me believes that is because of the bystander effect and because the guy looked poor.
That's why when I travel, I try to keep in mind the city/country I'm going to and look up what the culture is like so I can fit in. I think the key is dressing for the right occasion. If you want great treatment at luxury stores or restaurants dress the part. If you want to be left alone, dress that part too. But I think the best default is jeans and a shirt (plain solid colors). It's an in between look. You never really know what's behind all that. 👍😋
More like dressing for the desired effect as fitting in the right occasion might not be what you are after. Dress like a million dollars at a luxury store a plus if you want good treatment.
It works great when going to car dealerships, no annoying sales people. Although, when visiting some stores I've had security follow me around; if I'm in the mood and they're annoying me I'll walk fast, run, or sometimes even hide if the environment allows it - I'd never steal anything, just giving them what they want, which is to make their job a bit exciting.
Years ago when I was looking for a vehicle we went to a Toyota dealership to check out new vehicles. Initially we were ignored for several minutes as the sales agents assisted people that came after us. Eventually one person came to us and when I mentioned wanting to look at a Tundra he started talking about used vehicles. When I asked to see a new one he showed us where they were on the lot then said he had to go back to help some other customer... and he never came back. Due to that experience I replaced my Camry with a car from a different manufacturer.
I used some old clothes and a little trash as “theft deterrent” to cover up my stereo system when I was clubbing in Miami during my college years. It worked better than expected as both cars parked next to me had their windows smashed when I got back. It’s called “security by obscurity”.
My boyfriend did this when we traveled to Italy in March. I dressed like I normally do (not super nice, but not ratty either). Beggars followed me around asking for money, but they took one look at my boyfriend and didn't pay any attention to him. I may need to try this if we travel outside the country again. Saying no to beggars in other countries always makes me feel bad, especially when I travel to Peru. :\ My parents grew up in poverty in Peru, so it hits a bit too close to home. By the way, my boyfriend and I also apply this strategy to choosing which car to drive to certain places. We both bought our cars cheap with cash, but his car definitely looks nicer than mine. He has a 2004 350z, and I have a 2003 Accord that looks rather plain (also has a few minor dents and scratches on the bumper from the previous owner). Whenever we drive downtown or to other sketchy areas, we take my car because there's much less of a chance that someone will break into my car.
For those things you can just switch its really great to choose the attire and car appropriate to where you are going. Sometimes you don't want to draw too much attention and other time, well, maybe you want to draw as much attention as you can.
When I was in my teens and early twenties, I dressed in such good taste that people tended to think I was RICH when really I was poor. This was NAUSEATING! After that happened for a while, I decided to almost always dress somewhat DOWN. I also learned to LOOK at how others are dressed. Rich people often dress down (even sometimes on dates!), but if you look at them closely you can see they're rich. And, yes, you can also spot people like I used to be: those of good taste and seemingly fine clothes who are really dirt poor.
@@YoungerThuggg I believe, the person speaks of people entering exclusively superficial relationships with you, and yours,solely for the purpose of attaining greater social status.
Clothes are a costume. Always have a purpose for wearing them. I dress nice for nice occasions. However, anytime I have to negotiate a cash deal I dress it down by a lot. Because of this, jewelry, estate sales, car transactions are most of the time better than I expected.
I wear a particularly ragged hoodie on occasion as I’ve had it for about 20 years and I still love it. One day I was at grocery self checkouts and the attendant gave me a package of pita bread saying it was free. She singled me out from 4 or 5 others there, I thought it was weird but took it anyways. Once I got back to my car it dawned on me I likely looked poor and in need. Staff have also looked suspiciously at me too thinking I’m likely to steal which is annoying, but I love the sweater.
Predators go after the prey. Simple as that... It works whether the predator is a hungry cat picking among the mice, the lion choosing among gazelle in a herd, or a mugger picking out the right target in a crowd on the street... The cat tries for the fatter slower moving mouse... He won't chase the dog for food, because that pit-bull will just hand him his ass. The lion will choose a slower, easier gazelle that still offers meat. They don't usually even go after hippos because they're so dangerous... Like the cat vs dog, the hippos have a far better chance of handing even a group of lions their collective ass. The mugger measures folks on the street, by their clothes, the things they carry, and by their posture, body language, stride... SO wearing shabby clothes, and behaving like a rich kid "slummin' " in the bad part of town is an easy way to get killed. Moping along like the rest of the "used up" masses while in decent, but not particularly good clothes tends to work better... In either direction (finance to motif) dress too pretentiously and you risk being caught at it. So the "dressing down" helps, but only so much. Sooner or later, you may have to return to your car, and the only high-dollar car in the city is definitely still going to bite you in the metaphoric ass. :o)
I have always dressed poor because I'm not superficial and don't care about fashion. My whole life it was never a problem, until I moved to London, and some shop owners started acting like I might steal something. I was even asked to leave one shop one time because I took a few minutes to decide what I wanted to buy. Another shop owner said, "you know, you don't have to come here every day." I found it pretty shocking that people would judge me that way... Anyway, that's life. They lost a paying customer through being too judgemental I guess.
I've been wearing the same clothes for about 10 years. 10 shirts, 5 jeans, and 2 hoodies is all I have other than a suit for for when I need it. I have money, I just don't like spending money on things I don't care about. in the last year I might of spent a couple hundred bucks not counting underwear or socks on clothes. I have a work uniform I got for free that I wear every day to work, and I don't even own a cell phone.
A handyman in our office building, little I knew he actually owns the (3) 2-story office buildings which I designed when I related his face to his name. He was already multi-millionaire 20 years ago. Holes on the T-shirts for better ventilation, and more comfortable.
Definitely works while car shopping. Never go shopping for a new car driving a really nice car. Drive a beater and dress shabby then they are more likely to take a lowball offer. If you have any kids dress them shabby, and get them dirty, don't feed them breakfast, and take with. Then they will start whining about being hungry during the deal.
Huh... there are lots of way to annoy the sales person to hurry the deal up and give you a lower price. I just hope they do away with this and sell cars like they do with potato chips, fixed price like Tesla.
I was kidding about the dirty kids, and more thinking about individual sellers. At a dealership once they run you credit application they know what you can afford. I just bought a brand new 2017 4Runner, and sold my wife's old Mini Van. It had 245K on it and needed some things to boot. I was asking $1000 for it. A woman answered the add and came out. She was a divorced single mom with three kids. Driving a beat up truck with worn out tires. She drove the van liked it and handed me $1000. I took it, but I would have given it to her for 500 if she had countered, or even free, because In my mind she is probably broke, but who knows she may be loaded. Dressing down and looking less well off can definitely play a part in deal making I think. It plays on human emotion. Not always but sometimes.
So true, other thing is, complain about how bad you have it. Tell em your sick and you really don't want a car, but though you might look around. This will do a few things for you, one they will think you really are too poor to buy and leave you alone in the lot. 2 when you go to buy and negotiate they will give you a better deal cause they think your broke and sick and see your poor clothes and feel bad for you. I did this before for my car saved 4k from Toyota 3 year old car. Mind you already marked down 10k from original sticker price, with 27000 miles. I got a great deal because I did as I just told you, gotta make the feel bad for you. It works!
Yes I did the same and got a used car and haggled the hell out of them. Once I wrote them the check they gasped, but I'm like, "Do I look like I can afford to be in major debt?"
Looking poor is actually sometimes a gift, especially in the poorest places where theft is so common that they would literally chop off your hand brutally just to steal that time-watch on your hand.
So here's a story my dad told me once. He was working at a shipyard and in this case they were at an exhibition trying to sell a yacht. He saw some poorly dressed guy go up to the their competition and he was flat-out turned down. He wasn't even allowed on the boat. He than came to them and was shown the boat. He then left and when he came back a bit later, bought the thing in cash. That'll teach you to judge people by their looks :P
This happens a lot it seems. And what's surprising is that this is pretty typical. People judge others by how they look. As a sales, it's understandable because they are trying to optimize their time so that they get the most sales for their effort. Hence they try to not spend any that appears to not bring them sales. So they really need to figure out if some dude in rage really has money to spend or not.
I dress rich when I deal with clients or sell stuff on craigslist so they buy my junk, I dress poor when I buy stuff on craigslist so I can offer less, I even drive an older truck. Its all about perception. I have enough money that I dress how I want regardless but I have been doing this trick for years. I also dress down around some of my poor friends or family... I also commute in a old beat up truck almost daily, I love this truck though, best truck ever (even better than my brand new expensive truck) I don't even lock the doors BUT Often Times I may have 5k cash in the center console and I think who the heck would ever thing theres anything of value in this truck and laugh..... Really
Lol, that would 100% get stolen where I live. Here, beat up old student cars get robbed for just a tiny bit of change from the cup holder. I even had my houseplants stolen when I put them outside for a bit of sun. :( Nothing special, either. One of them didn't even have a real pot. I only kept them around in the first place for the sentimental value, since most were gifts, and one I'd had for 8 years.
Out Of The Box WoodWorks my grandfather taught me this when I was growing up in used to be embarrassed as a kid but now it makes so much sense he always stayed humble even though he made plenty of money.
I prefer to dress "poor" and act "poor" to keep my family from asking me for money. But the fact that I bought a Mercedes (STUPID DECISION), I HATE THE ATTENTION, that kind of makes it hard for them to think I don't have it.
Hahahahahahahahaha. Family should always comes first! If a member of my family needs money or anything at all, i give what i can. They wouldn't ask if they weren't desperate. Due to the downturn in the job market and the redundancies that are rife at the moment in the North East, many families have had to pull together at this time of financial uncertainty On that note, an easy solution for anyone with an expensive car to hide, is to sell the car and buy a bicycle. :)
Sakurakuro It depends. Some people leech of the more successful person in the family and guilt you to giving in on the account that you're "family". You can keep "helping", but in the end, you're just enabling them. This happens way too often these days. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
You'll have to look to help or not in a case by case basis. Family is family after all and cannot be replaced. But you'll know something is wrong when they are not trying to help themselves just as much as you are helping them.
I can only agree with you to a certain degree. In the prepping field there is the Grey Man - where you want to completely blend in to your surroundings and not call any attention to yourself. As for mugging I think if you are aware of the situation and environment where you are in that will not happen, walking with confidence and a powerful body language helps. I have dressed in T shits and jeans for years but since I started upping my style with classic clothing I get more respect and get better treatment form everyone. If you are a minority like me it makes an even bigger difference. First impressions are make very quickly and can take a long time to change. If you are single it seems that the time when you just finished the oil change on your car and you just go out to the store for some bottled water or something you will run in to that old high school cheerleader and you will get asked how are you doing? With the "Are you living under a bridge" kind of look. I think dressing poor has only a very few times when you should do it, I think it has a downgrading effect on your self confidence. Just my thoughts. Keep the videos coming.
You see, dressing up is for one purpose, dressing down is for another. Sure you can use confidence and powerful body language to deter mugging but dressing down is also another way to do it. So when you dress down, don't expect to make new friends easily and you might just run into someone you know, lol. So it's not for doing all the time but for specific circumstances like shopping in peace or theft deterrent while vacationing. I think if you are financially independent, the confidence comes from that and easily overcomes looking raggedy.
Yes - dress to fit your objective. Back when I didn't have a Costco membership, when I had a craving for a Costco hotdog I'd piggyback off a customer as a guest. But not this one time. I approached a woman in the parking lot and she quickly, fearful kept walking without talking to me like I was trying to recruit her for my cult or I was begging for money. I forgot I had my oversized ragged hoodie on and hadn't shaved a few days. Mission failed.
How true! As a frequent visitor to Brazil (Rio) I dress poor down there-you have to, because if you display any trappings of wealth (nice clothes, jewelry, watch) you stand a good chance of being robbed. It happened to me one day (I was wearing a nice looking fake Rolex)-three guys came up behind me , pinned my arms and stole my watch-the cop who helped me told me i was lucky they didn't harm me.
Right! My Brazilian friend gave me strict orders to not even take out my phone while out on the street in Rio! Guys ride by on bikes and grab the phone out of your hand!
When I was young an old farmer from my church gave me a job working on his farm, shoveling horse poop, feeding the chickens and and weeding his huge garden. I liked him he let me drive his beat up old pickup on the farm doing chores. One day we were driving to the feed store and the old truck was overheating. we pulled into the local garage and the mechanic told him the bad news that the engine needed to be rebuilt. We walked down the street to a restaurant named the breakfast place and had the hotcake special. then we walked to an auto dealership showroom and was looking at the new trucks. A young man in a nice suit and tie came out and gave us the brush off cause he had on an old pair of farmer jeans a tee shirt and a straw hot. We walked back to the mechanics place and he told the mechanic to rebuild the engine. I told my daddy about what happened and he just started laughing. My dad told me that the old man owned a strip of land 660 yards deep the length of a road that was 7 miles between two junctions on a local highway. You would never have guessed that in a million years
My wife and I do this all the time. We shopped for a new Toyota and looked liked bums and no one bothered us. We found the one we liked and came back the next day dressed up and bought it. Everyone treated us differently
I feel the same way about how I landscaped my yard. Quite a few of my neighbors competed to show off fancy landscaping which attracted burglars. I kept my landscaping neat but plain. Also I keep interior decorating simple so nothing of value can be taken. Awesome video 😁
I just personally hate fitting in with the trend. On the issue of designer clothes, I hate that. I'd never pay a company more money to advertise their own clothing.
That's exactly why I prefer clothing with no visible brand names. If you expect me to be a walking advertisement, pay me to wear it. Otherwise, I'm taking my money elsewhere.
I make decent money but i enjoy dressing more poor then i look. Reason is most people dress nice and overspend to get people to like them more or fit in better. I prefer to be more transparent and show my true self which i usually gain more respect in the long run :)
I dress poor because I'm completely disinterested in what anybody thinks of me - There are higher priorities than the rags that adorn the body - for me it is travel, seeing new places and cultures, meeting interesting people and contributing to making the world a better place. Thumbs Up if you're with me :)
Really I dress as well as I possibly can! Bespoke Jacket, Rolex watch, Goodyear Welted shoes! I don’t like foreign cultures and find they don’t like me or tourists in general. We raise prices in their cities and make it hard for local people to compete in their economy.
I was always thin growing up. About 15 years ago I gained a bunch of weight. Now, looking more unattractive, I'm blatantly ignored and treated with much less respect. It's amazing how people can be treated so differently by the way they look, in so many different respects.
Perception is reality until reality changes perception. Looks are important. That's why first impressions are important. Try to use it to your advantage when possible. My plan is to work out and look better, physically, in a year from now. In many cases, those who look better tend to have an advantage in life. At the very least, I'm doing it to improve my health.
Dress for the position you want to be in... dress in suit or business clothes - get that promotion... dress like your going to the gym or going to Home Depot....
I think rich folks own the business, they do not care about position and promotion. If you need to impress someone else with your outfit, you are probably not that rich. But it might be sound advice for a lot of employees who are busy climbing the ladder.
Good advice! I am Caucasian living in China. It is difficult enough to not stick out too much as it is. So I dress as low profile as possible. People dress much more casual here and foreigners who don't get that literally look all the time like they are fresh off the boat.
I love this. Let me tell you my story going along with this topic. I have been looking to get roofing estimates on my properties (I own 2 houses, 1 of them is an investment property by a ski resort). I would like to put on metal roofs because of icing here in Maine, had a lot of problems over the winter with ice damming. I have had several roofers come out and look at my primary residence roof to write up an estimate. I've noticed that if I dress poor looking and not let on that I have 2 beautiful houses that I am looking to have metal roofs put on. That they will offer me discounts and tell me about special promotions. For instance, I asked 1 guy if he also serviced the area where my other house is.. he unfortunately would not drive that far (over 2 hrs from here). He ended up not offering me any special deals or any good pricing.. he was over $5,000 more than any of the other 6 estimates I got!! Since I am only 22 this helps me as well, people assume a 22 yr old would not have money.. so I get offered deals a lot more often if I just let them assume.
It's a sad reality and I see you understand why this is important. But then again... 6 samples isn't enough to justify the effects. The pricing people give on home repair estimates vary so wildly, it's crazy.
You can extend this further to change the appearance of your nationality. I read an account of a Polish woman in Nazi-occupied Poland who had no ID papers. She traveled by changing her nationality. Going through a Polish checkpoint, she was openly Polish. But when she came to a German checkpoint, she switched to her fluent German and became German. Doing that, she was able to do without papers. Of course it also helped that she was young and pretty. Traveling, it often helps to look local to blend in and not be hassled as a tourist. Dress like they dress. Act like they act. I don't do what tourists do, i.e. stare at things and look lost.
I dress down as a woman to deter attention from men. I wear baggy clothes, and look a bit sloppy on purpose. That way I have less chance of being picked up for sex trafficking, walk confidently etc. And of course, yes there are certain occasions for dressing up, or down. Love the camera in a beat up bag idea!
From my own experiences, it’s the opposite. When I dressed sloppy, I tended to attract low-quality men because people do judge others. It’s like, they already judge you that you have very low-self esteem, and so on. That’s why dressing down may not help. In my case, those guys thought I was an easy target and I was so desperate. Dressing up always safe us from those creepy guys. Always dress your best, ladies!
I wonder about your thoughts on this: I am from UK but I went to San Fran, near to the airport suburbs and as I was walking past a gas station, a car I presumed was letting me cross, so I waved to say thank you. He just got annoyed and did the shoo wave to get me to go as if I was asking for money or something. I thought it was pretty rude.
Many Californians are rude, especially when driving. There is a heavy narcissistic spirit in California. Next time, go to Texas... much friendlier people!
BeatTheBush nah, I own a carpet cleaning business. Some people just assume every business is big and think everyone who works in their home is an employee... when they come across that way I just roll with it and take the tips I get
Yeah... I guess I would assume so as well. Since you are doing the manual labor part of it. But if it's a one man band then you would still do your own cleaning.
I totally agree. If youre successful dress super humble and if your family or friends ask you hows life...always say its going terrible and that you have all of these bills and that youre in massive debt (this way they dont ask you for money). And if they ask you, well how did you buy that suit...say Goodwill. and if they say "Yeah right" you say Im for real...not goodwill from the Hood...Goodwill from the rich neighborhoods.
Sure if you have wads of cash just laying around in your house of course. My family wont know whats in my wallet nor bank account unless I tell them which I wont. If you have assets you can easily fabricate a story saying you got it off Ebay for dirt cheap or auction. Why would you want to splurg money to your friends unless you have self security issues. I always say those that show off are the ones who have the least.
My dad was offered clothing from a Chinese man when he went to buy tiles from a tile store because he had a torn shirt on and wore torn pants. The Chinese man thought my dad was a homeless dude haha
Great way of thinking about how to dress! My husband and I run a mobile clothes bank where we give clothes away for free to low income areas, and homeless shelters in the winter. We are lower income ourselves, both being on disability, but have nice clothes because of the clothes bank. We have found that in certain areas we go into, we dress down quite a bit, so that the people we serve will feel more comfortable to come talk to us, and know they can relate to us, and us to them….and we can. We definitely know what it’s like to be in lack, but thankfully, now we have plenty, and a way to share it!
I knew a rich guy who would always borrow money from his family just to appear poor (he would pay it back after a few weeks). that kept his friends and family from asking him for money
A frickin' genius!
I would like this comment a couple more times If could
Omg 😂
So his family were willing to lend him money? But he concocted his scheme to stop them from asking him the same? Sounds like a douche
Smith wtf
"Poor" clothing is comfortable. And it keeps people away? That's a win-win!
Lol... They need good looking comfy clothes.
Not always true. I was mugged in sweatpants and a ripped hoodie, with a $50 phone on me and nothing else. They still took my phone too...
@@WIZA327 Hollywood says sweat pants + hoodie = drug dealer, so you must've had some money and/or drugs on you. Not really, but you know how dumb criminals can be sometimes? The mugger might've settled for the phone. 1, you can't get blood out of a turnip and 2, leaving a man naked could attract too much attention. More risk, like $100+ in fines and other legal costs, and for what, $20 reward if the local consignment shop is generous?? The cheap/worn jeans and T-shirt concept is tried and true, though. I can vouch for that.
Absolutely wrong. A lot of “poor clothes” is cotton/ polyester based, which is ok. Truly comfortable clothing is ELS cotton, merino wool, cashmere, silk, etc. Theres a noticeable differs you’ll enjoy when wearing these. You spend most of your life wearing clothes.
Le Enderman ikr
I've noticed that people treat you different depending on the clothes you wear (cheap vs expensive). I like to wear or look poor because I can see clearly who are the genuine people versus the plastic people.
I walked in my real estate agent office looking poor and asked to see the manager. The person asked me if I had an appointment. I replied "no". She said to come back and make an appointment. I said it will only be for a brief moment. She said "the manager is in a meeting." I said "I'll wait." She said "The manager is very busy and not sure when the meeting will finish. You can check our website online, book appointments, fill in forms for rent, auctions, etc..." So I stood there thinking for a moment in silence... She said "are you looking to rent, all the details online are very easy to follow." I replied... "No... I'm the landlord."... I counted, 3mins the manager came to see me.
Awesomeness spotted.
Wow! must have been fun for you to watch her get her act together and run for her life....lol!
Imagine if you were the manager or boss and met with every single small fish coming in the door and answered every phone call. You’d never get stuff done. That’s her job - to screen calls and visitors. If you aren’t forthcoming about who you are, why should you expect him to make time to see you? You make time for family, not every person in the world. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person for favoring your family. In business, clients are your family.
@@zarnoffa That is true but in this case, Jane Smith is referring to how the receptionist assumed who she was based on her look. This mistake could be easily avoided if the receptionist just asked who she was before judging what she was there for based on her look. Of course the manager can't see everyone, but asking doesn't seem too hard or too time consuming.
Most people are misanthropes if they have theyre needs satisfied and given the truth about the world, the rest go crazy because theyre poor, lied to, had injustices on them, and worst of all manipulated.
This reminds me of a fun story my great uncle told me. He was a very decorated combat flyer in WW2 but never wanted to talk about the war and was very humble in
general.
Right after the war he went to college.
He said although by then he was sick of the military that he went ahead anyway and signed up for ROTC.
Apparently it offered some sort of additional credit.
First day of training he showed up in a sweat suit instead of whatever he was supposed to be wearing.
The person in charge, himself only a student thoroughly chewed out my uncle for 5 minutes as to what a disgrace he was and from now on he had better show up in proper uniform.
My uncle didn’t say a word.
Next day may uncle showed up in his real full USAAF uniform complete with Captains bars, medals, combat ribbons, everything.
Upon seeing my uncle in full uniform, the hot shot in charge there turned pale and went silent.
After that I think everyone left my uncle pretty much alone.
Wished your story was longer. It's very entertaining. =D
I like to look poor when I visit broke family members. This will stop them from asking me for money.
It's great to be able to hep family members when they need it. But they also need to help themselves. Camouflage works with almost everyone. =D
This reminds me of the episode from the cosby show when dr. went to go buy a car for theo.
That makes me sad. I feel family should help one another.
Speechiegirl1 lmaoo that's the truth
Keisha, is that you? This uncle ray. That’s messed up niecey, let me hold $100 you know your cousin Marcus ain’t shit!
I'm a billionaire but I dress like a millionaire to deter theft.
Serious? That's pretty nice!
lol I wish!
cornbobbber lol
Why be a millionaire when you can be a THOUSANDaire? Muwahahahahaha!! - Dr Evil
😂
I dress poor because I AM poor but I tell people I'm a rich guy in disguise. I'm like on a whole nother level.
+The Technoclast Huh, do people believe you? Usually there are signs that are dead giveaways. Rich guy dressing poor would not want to tell anyone. So the act of saying so means something is not right.
Haha I was just kidding sir! :P
The gov has plenty of nipples, go get you some.
The Technoclast 😭😂😂🤣
Haha.
Whole "nother" I like that.
I dress poor because I really, really do not want to attract the wrong kind of woman. Been there, done that
This is very true because I used to get a lot of attention wearing a company uniform. The same experience wearing a suite or designer clothes.
Yes, that's useful to a point, but good women also want to protect themselves from low-quality sperm, so if you want to be able to get a nice young woman, you will still want to keep up good hygiene and keep your clothing coordinated and intact. It can still be quite plain and "poor"-looking, but you do not want to be mistaken for a homeless man at an inopportune moment.
This is the absolute IW truth.
@@shirin8609 Dressing poor doesn't mean bad hygiene and looking homeless. At the same time, there are also nice women who are on the same wavelength. They don't stand out in how they dress, but their finances tell a different story.
@@TheFirstRealChewy I never said that, but nice reach
Sometimes I dress poor just because I don't want to waste my nice clothes on certain things. Also, my old clothes are more comfy.
My default would be normal for most times and poor and rich looking very sparingly.
I only dress rich if there's a nice event I'm going to, any other time I dress poor.
one thing I learned from being fairly poor is that new clothes are so so much better, especially throwaway items such as white t's, underwear, shirts, pants, shoes. These things are considered consumebales as they lose good smell, looks rugged. That's one of the main thing I would splurge on if I made good money. But when it comes to things such as cars, I'd go with something like a Camry.
Dressing poor gets me lower prices at the flea market , garage sales and anywhere that people haggle about the price - which is usually too high to begin with anyway.
So you have to fake it until you make it. Once you make it, you gotta start faking it again?
Ummm yes. If you don't want to get robbed. Either that or hire a bodyguard.
BeatTheBush or just become a badass, who knows marshal arts, and learn to protect yourself, and be independent of fear witch the world offers, be the lion amongs the wolf's
Better yet, get a CCW!
Gibberish Mike lol
Walter Strong said it right
"Sometimes if you dress too poor, people will try to give you money"
I like the way you elaborate on this very interesting topic😂
lfn1016 lol ikr
I have been mistaken for being homeless a couple times 😂😂😂
I find it hilarious 😂
@@marcus.H Me too ! I trying to ask for directions and the girl interrupted me, saying "Sorry I don't have cash".
My eyes lit up, both in amusement and realization. I have never been bothered by gold diggers since then 😂
@@maloxi1472 😁
Whenever I go to the men's section at a department store wearing a t-shirt, shorts and sandals, I usually get ignored by the sales staff but whenever I wear my work clothes which consist of a suit, a tie and dress shoes, the sales staff are tripping over each other to help me. To be honest, I rather be left alone.
I prefer to be left alone as well. But I prefer them to be present so when I need something I can flag them down to help me when I ask. =D
I like looking poor because I realized looking rich gives you superficial friends and people around you! Looking poor means you see the bad and the good people at the same time!
Truly more down to earth. But then perhaps looking 'normal' is best for most times.
Just be is always best! No sweat!
Looking rich and presentable does not give you superficial friends.. Only you can choose your friends.. Wear nice close and still choose down to earth friends.. MA if you did not know its up to you who you keep in your life.. Every year evaluate the people around you and keep the relationships you think are of benefit to you and your life
M A Tru Dat
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Rich guy was trying to teach everyone a lesson. He collects cans, not can'ts.
Most underrated comment on this video.
You, sir, have made my day. :')
Hahahahahaha
word #facts
I call bullshit if he collects cans and is a millionaire, why do it, its a waste of time and he doesnt need the money from the can’s
I get youre comment!!!
I know your video is older but SO important. I like to take 2-3 days a week of just riding ONLY my bicycle to the store/errands because it has this synergy of humbling me, teaching me to think/be slower (than a car), and also getting cardio. It's crazy how many things you notice in your neighborhood when by bicycle or walking. A lot of friends/family think down on it, like you HAVE to have a car, but I find it so humbling.
Gotta have that thick skin or even turn around and brag how great it is to ride the bike.
i like looking homeless because the homeless people are nice to me and call me brother
=D Always good to have people be friendly towards you. =D
LMAO
heheeeee
Homeless people can actually be really interesting to talk to. Don't dismiss someone because you can't "get something" from them. I dress in whatever I have and I don't really care what I look like because I'm not trying to manipulate anyone one way or another. Sounds like that is what this video is about, using your clothing to manipulate others. I am who I am.
I LOVE my 20 year old rusty car. I don't have loads to spare, but more importantly, I don't want those struggling to think people like me are the reason.
I've always dressed poor for the reasons in this video, but also because I'm a minimalist, frugal, and worn-in clothes are comfy. People leaving you alone is a bonus. It's also a great way to filter out fake and shallow people and meet genuine people.
A downside to dressing poor includes while you're shopping: some people think you're a thief. I've been approached and accused of stealing three or four times already, and it's always when I'm wearing sweats and a t-shirt.
Oh my. For that reason, it might be better to dress slightly nicer if you know you're going to go shopping. Just good enough to pass.
But now, Clothes with holes in cost like $150.
In general yes. But it seems like the clothes with holes are more strategic in hole position.
It make you poor ^^. Just cut some holes. I have trousers that have wholes due to being worn out. I use such even during winter.
The ones with holes at the seams where your crotch is don't! ;-)
I been selling my old shits they still worth mad cash yo
*shirts
I am American and when I travel to foreign countries I dress poor. I learned this while in the military.
=D Just to blend in and not be an obvious target.
There are many reasons for this. We don't blend in well due to haircut, general appearance and attitude, but what can help is going in groups (battle buddy) Whether that person is part of your service or an allied service. Target is a definite issue in any situation, but situation awareness is part and parcel of the training of a warrior.
Trust me, there are way more pickpocketers and criminals in europe way more than in Asia. Been there, done that.
For females, dressing too poor makes one look like an easier target for violence. In my experience, it's important not to look homeless (a.k.a. desperate, addicted, troubled, poor self-worth, etc.). But looking too rich can also make one a target. Blending in is good while traveling.
Yes....its a fine line. Agreed!
good points!! If female, it's good to look average -- not too poor or too rich. Just blend in with wherever you are going to be.
Dame if you do and dame if you don’t. Totally agree. Such is real life.
True of men, only a bit more flexible as the key is to blend in with the majority. Have nice for nice places. Eyes are where the lies are. Peoples assumptions are real so use this to win in life. Note, I dress down too. Live in a ghetto area. I like my freedom of walking for example.
Sharette yep
I wish I was a millionaire just to look homeless and collect cans.
Haha
Or designer bags, o wait thats probably why im broke.
where millionare starts at: 1 or
First read: 'The Millionaire Next Door' and live below your means. You wont live below your means once you accumulate your money if you don't practice it now.
Someone asked my dad "Joe..why don't you dress like a millionaire?" He replied, "What for? I am one."
professor IKR
Genius
@@kashedgaming Kimbo IKR
For what? So you can get treated like one, unless you don’t go out much in that case you can dress like a bum
@@Jluna16 Luna I can live with that
My mom, who grew up in a blew collar family in post WWII France, always said "Neatness and cleanliness are the only luxury the poor have". She could take simple furniture and cheap yards of fabric and make a home out of that. Or look put together with a few simple items of supermarket clothing. She never allowed any member of the family to go out with holes in their clothes. We would sit down on week-ends and she would teach me how to mend clothes. Today, our family is more affluent, but I always kept that philosophy. I find it offensive to suggest that poor people are automatically dirty and sloppy. Wearing jeans with holes in them is something the rich do (and they will pay a ridiculous amount of money to buy jeans that have been distressed for them). If I see someone wearing a worn shirt from a technology trade show and torn jeans, I will assume that it is some rich guy on his way to Lowe's to buy supplies for a week-end project on his half a million dollar home.
Growing up poor in England, 1950's, has made me live frugally which I carry over into all aspects of life. My mother used to say ' What you never had, you never miss". Living in the USA the culture of grab, greed and instant gratification used to be so widespread, however,
the 'new car every two year' has taken a backseat of late, indeed, with the loss of 'lifetime employment and careers' making do and mend
has become more the norm for the average person.
"blew collar" 😂😊
1000 subs with no videos - Beat the Bush and I are in the SF Bay Area. $500K won’t even buy you a condo here, let alone a house. 😂😂
I respect your high standards. At the same rate, I think there's something to be said for appealing to stereotypes if you live in a rough area. I've personally experienced the difference between looking stereotypically well-off VS stereaotypically poor n a few areas I've lived in. Enough to know that I feel like looking my best, but it tends to attract gold diggers and/or criminals. Enough to know that when I dress down, I tend to attract more down to Earth, friendly and genuine types of people. Problem is, I've out grown my lust for gold-diggers, I prefer honest people, I don't want to be compelled to defend myself against criminals again, but I also prefer nicer clothes, and either type of outfit tends to cost about the same. It's a catch-22. Fortunately, I got used to dressing down to some extent when/where necessary, found a place to live that I like, and the most crime we get here tends to be bike thieves, shoplifters, pedophile creepers (still a significant issue, but likely not for long if a recently busted local pedo cop gets ousted), casual drug users who don't usually bother anybody but themselves and their buddies, and telephone tough guys who don't do much except spread rumors and make threats they never seem to follow through on. I'm guessing you live in an area you at least perceive to be safe?
@@TestMeatDollSteak Yeah, I want to believe there's a dirty joke in there somewhere, but I just can't find it. Yet.
Having more money = Dress like poor
Having less money = Dress like rich
Preach it!
Orlie John The whole point of that, is for the poor to get rich. Dressing poor, while being poor, won't get you a high paying job, and it sure as hell won't help you get ahead in this world. You have to fake it, until you make it. Once you get rich, you can then kick back, and look as poor as you want, because by then, it won't matter.
Man! Those homeless people must be billionaires! lol.
thats how girls are tricked ha ha
yup ... :/
Poor or Rich, Be Clean and Tidy.
Or be dirty if you really want to repel someone.
No, that's just disguisting.
LOL. This video was really interesting but made me laugh more than anything.
Nally yepper
@@Rebassed Rebassed you have got to be committed to pull that off.
I just hate shopping and wear my clothes until they fall apart
That's a great way to get the most bang out of the clothes.
IKR? Thing's got to look faded AF before I start regulating it to lounge wear only :-D
Don't forget to repair things too. If you have basic sewing skills you can make clothes last pretty much forever. If not, a tailor can usually patch small holes and things for a fraction of the price of buying new.
Particularly underwear or the lack of it anyway. HA HA HA
I do this as well. My pants are 6 years old lol
I once walked into a new car sales yard wearing scruffy clothes and flip flops whilst being unshaven and generally looking somewhat poor. The sales guy came up to me and initially answered a few of my questions, but he assumed I was just a time waster and decided to shutdown the interaction and walk away. I then went next door to another dealership and ended up buying their top of the line model (different brand of vehicle of course). Before heading home I went back into the first dealership and showed the guy my sales receipt. I'll never forget the look on his face. Priceless!!!
Lol most people watching this video don't need any help dressing like a poor person because they actually are poor.
It does seems so. Although it seems like a 60/40 split of people who have no choice and people who agree.
Well you would never know it because you can't judge a book by its cover.
BeatTheBush I dress poor for many reasons ,people in my family worked very hard to become supervisors, managers ect and they push us to work hard for our own stuff.I do like the way they are raising us.I get 1 (sometimes 2) pairs of shoes every year 3 pairs of pants every year (i have multiple pairs that can still fit me hence the reason they dont buy me more) 1 sweatshirt and 2 t shirts.At this point I know how to save money and invest, just a few minutes ago my aunt was talking to me about real estate😂😂
Same thing with cars. I drive a Toyota economy car that is 14 years old. I own many shares of Toyota stock. The dividends help with the maintenance. I love that Lexus has devoted fans. They help my stock.
Lol... use the dividends from the company. It's pretty interesting to do that.
Cool
Kind of like "the millionaire next door" vs "the 30,000 dollar millionaire." Highly leveraged, poor people like to look rich. Many self made rich people wouldn't waste money on insignificant things like fancy clothes.
Agreed. It's people who work hard for their money knows every dollar took a lot to earn it so it is not to be wasted on frivolous things just to show off.
Well, at least wealthy people with common sense and a good frugal mindset! Many of my friend's parents were wealthy, but very frugal and low key. The nicest people I could have known. We both work, but we are still considered the working poor. And I guess since I don't care about material things, I would not waste money on flashy clothes to impress anyone. Would rather spend money on first-edition banned books.
Be careful with dressing poor a lot of store owners see a poorly dressed person and thinks thief.
It happened to me. During the grunge era of the 90's I dressed the part and looked like a street bum. I went into Dillard's to buy a gift for a friend and security trailed me throughout that store. As soon as I pulled out my credit card to pay for the gift they took off. I complained about it to my daughter and she said, Well you look like your homeless in that get up. No wonder they followed you.
Try being black lmao
Or maybe not help you because you look poor and they think you are window shopping. I experienced this before.
Who cares?
lol ..... how true? The seediest looking guy who came into the bank is actually the owner of the building the bank rents. Nobody could believe it.
That's just a landlord uniform.
I mean if all I had to do was collect rent I wouldn't bother dressing up either. Since there is no dress code as a landlord if it was cold outside you'd see me showing up in jeans and a hoodie.
I once dressed rich and went with a dude that was dressing rich, sunglasses and shit; to the immigration affairs building, asked for a business visa, and got it.
I was homeless then.
Huh... lol! Dressing rich works great too. =D
Felishia González
while I was in Poland I used to pull out my American Express platinum card hmmm the stuff these girls were willing to do in bed
Thanks, girl, saved a life there
Dave Ramsey would Freak out with joy if he met you "live like no one now, so you can live like no one later"
Ben Brown i know right!! Dave Ramsey would want to adopt him!
Lol, he does have a Cash only attitude though. I use cards like crazy.
Ben Brown DR is a fucking imbecile.
Why do you say that
Thomas you are the GREAT imbecile!!
I love dressing up every single day! I wear designer brands as well as high street, and cheaper brands. People do treat me differently and I get more respect. I don’t think it’s okay for women, especially women of color, to dress down in some instances because people feel like they can mistreat, abuse, and verbally attack an unkempt woman. The only negative I see is individuals thinking that I am wealthy and stuck up ( I’m on my way to being wealthy through savings and investments though.)
I agree when i used to wear old clothes people thought i was homeless and i got no respect! Women have to dree nicely to get treated well. I dress in not flashy but new clothes and get respect.Women are looked down on when they dont dress well, it doesnt have to be designer, though!
The thing is, when you have money, you really don’t care how other people treat you. You have the luxury of not caring. I used to dress up all the time when I was younger and poorer because I needed other people’s approval. Now that I have enough money, I don’t care what other people think, so I buy 7 pairs of the exact same sweat pants and T-shirts in bulk during black friday sales and wear them until they disintegrate.
:) In other words it's very wise to be like a chameleon, to know how to blend in the environment in order to not be attracting unwanted attention.
That's a nice way to put it. Sometimes blend in, other times not.
That's a metaphor I've been using for a year now
I have seen poor people take from poor people...
Might need other defense against that type then.
I was at a friend's party and was dressed casually, nothing special. I had someone who was dressed more nicely who was talking arrogantly to me. He told me his name. I kept the conversation going trying to "place" in my mind where I knew him from. No success. Then on the way home I remembered that at 4:55 pm that same day my sales director had handed me a document. I didn't have time to read it. But I did glance at it. It was this guy's resume.
But when someone looks poor, they also receive poor treatment. I saw a guy whose outfit was humble (as were his friends' outfits) and he passed out on the sidewalk. NO ONE stopped to help him even though his friends were calling out to people around them for help. Part of me believes that is because of the bystander effect and because the guy looked poor.
but the real question is did you help him? If not you'r just of the same kind you despite
I hope you helped him
Not in America, maybe in some commie countries.
That's awful! Where was this?!
When you dress well , the ladies check you
That's why when I travel, I try to keep in mind the city/country I'm going to and look up what the culture is like so I can fit in. I think the key is dressing for the right occasion. If you want great treatment at luxury stores or restaurants dress the part. If you want to be left alone, dress that part too. But I think the best default is jeans and a shirt (plain solid colors). It's an in between look. You never really know what's behind all that. 👍😋
More like dressing for the desired effect as fitting in the right occasion might not be what you are after. Dress like a million dollars at a luxury store a plus if you want good treatment.
I just wear a black tshirt and jeans. It's cheap, it looks good, and it's easier to do laundry.
One look?
The Steve Jobs look.
F Fuentes good idea lol
Thanks for the tip, babe
It works great when going to car dealerships, no annoying sales people. Although, when visiting some stores I've had security follow me around; if I'm in the mood and they're annoying me I'll walk fast, run, or sometimes even hide if the environment allows it - I'd never steal anything, just giving them what they want, which is to make their job a bit exciting.
Sometimes when you provoke the security you might find yourself in unwanted situations or danger.
Years ago when I was looking for a vehicle we went to a Toyota dealership to check out new vehicles. Initially we were ignored for several minutes as the sales agents assisted people that came after us. Eventually one person came to us and when I mentioned wanting to look at a Tundra he started talking about used vehicles. When I asked to see a new one he showed us where they were on the lot then said he had to go back to help some other customer... and he never came back. Due to that experience I replaced my Camry with a car from a different manufacturer.
I used some old clothes and a little trash as “theft deterrent” to cover up my stereo system when I was clubbing in Miami during my college years. It worked better than expected as both cars parked next to me had their windows smashed when I got back. It’s called “security by obscurity”.
I dress like this all the time. I get trashed by family and friends
You need to have enough self confidence to not car what they think.
If you get trashed by them they are not really friends are they?
Story of my life...I feel you.
My boyfriend did this when we traveled to Italy in March. I dressed like I normally do (not super nice, but not ratty either). Beggars followed me around asking for money, but they took one look at my boyfriend and didn't pay any attention to him. I may need to try this if we travel outside the country again. Saying no to beggars in other countries always makes me feel bad, especially when I travel to Peru. :\ My parents grew up in poverty in Peru, so it hits a bit too close to home.
By the way, my boyfriend and I also apply this strategy to choosing which car to drive to certain places. We both bought our cars cheap with cash, but his car definitely looks nicer than mine. He has a 2004 350z, and I have a 2003 Accord that looks rather plain (also has a few minor dents and scratches on the bumper from the previous owner). Whenever we drive downtown or to other sketchy areas, we take my car because there's much less of a chance that someone will break into my car.
For those things you can just switch its really great to choose the attire and car appropriate to where you are going. Sometimes you don't want to draw too much attention and other time, well, maybe you want to draw as much attention as you can.
They always prefer women, it's not about the clothes..
lmao
I love how you optimize everything...
=D Now that you say that this is indeed an optimization. =D
When I was in my teens and early twenties, I dressed in such good taste that people tended to think I was RICH when really I was poor. This was NAUSEATING! After that happened for a while, I decided to almost always dress somewhat DOWN.
I also learned to LOOK at how others are dressed. Rich people often dress down (even sometimes on dates!), but if you look at them closely you can see they're rich. And, yes, you can also spot people like I used to be: those of good taste and seemingly fine clothes who are really dirt poor.
How you dress doesn't directly related to how much money is in the bank but most automatically think that way. Strange.
I learned this during college to avoid getting mugged and avoid social climbers.
Some seem to be offended by this though.
Anon 3303 I'm 6'4 and weight 250 pounds, no way I'm getting mugged in school lol plus i live in L.A. so meh
No one is “rich” in college. 🤣😭👍🏼
Anon 3303 what is a social climber
@@YoungerThuggg I believe, the person speaks of people entering exclusively superficial relationships with you, and yours,solely for the purpose of attaining greater social status.
Clothes are a costume. Always have a purpose for wearing them. I dress nice for nice occasions. However, anytime I have to negotiate a cash deal I dress it down by a lot. Because of this, jewelry, estate sales, car transactions are most of the time better than I expected.
Exactly. You use it for a purpose. =D
#facts preach
This is asian wisdom that my mom taught me when i was little
=D
Much respect to y'all Asians. Y'all make opportunity happen and take advantage of it while working hard. Wish I could say the same about us Blacks.
My Latino parents taught me this too. 😉👍🏼
im indian and I learnt this on my own growing up in Africa
I'm American and this is common sense
I wear a particularly ragged hoodie on occasion as I’ve had it for about 20 years and I still love it. One day I was at grocery self checkouts and the attendant gave me a package of pita bread saying it was free. She singled me out from 4 or 5 others there, I thought it was weird but took it anyways. Once I got back to my car it dawned on me I likely looked poor and in need. Staff have also looked suspiciously at me too thinking I’m likely to steal which is annoying, but I love the sweater.
People who rob others don't give a shit on who they rob.
+DMalenfant1 Statistically speaking you'll lower you chances of getting robbed this way.
Predators go after the prey. Simple as that... It works whether the predator is a hungry cat picking among the mice, the lion choosing among gazelle in a herd, or a mugger picking out the right target in a crowd on the street...
The cat tries for the fatter slower moving mouse... He won't chase the dog for food, because that pit-bull will just hand him his ass.
The lion will choose a slower, easier gazelle that still offers meat. They don't usually even go after hippos because they're so dangerous... Like the cat vs dog, the hippos have a far better chance of handing even a group of lions their collective ass.
The mugger measures folks on the street, by their clothes, the things they carry, and by their posture, body language, stride... SO wearing shabby clothes, and behaving like a rich kid "slummin' " in the bad part of town is an easy way to get killed. Moping along like the rest of the "used up" masses while in decent, but not particularly good clothes tends to work better...
In either direction (finance to motif) dress too pretentiously and you risk being caught at it. So the "dressing down" helps, but only so much. Sooner or later, you may have to return to your car, and the only high-dollar car in the city is definitely still going to bite you in the metaphoric ass. :o)
😂😂😂 I was hesitant to watch. But EXCELLENT advice!!! I dress poor 90% of the time. It REALLY does minimize attention. And I can save money!
"Kind of like a 'honey badger'". Lol.
I like their attitude. The the perfect way to describe the attitude to have to not care about what people think.
There is a video about it
cf. the honey badger of "intellectuals" (a term he loathes) with @#$%-you money: Nassim Nicholas Taleb 😝
Liz, I was watching Animal Planet and they did a piece on the honey badger. They gave a nod the viral video.
Can you link video to ep?
I have always dressed poor because I'm not superficial and don't care about fashion. My whole life it was never a problem, until I moved to London, and some shop owners started acting like I might steal something. I was even asked to leave one shop one time because I took a few minutes to decide what I wanted to buy. Another shop owner said, "you know, you don't have to come here every day." I found it pretty shocking that people would judge me that way... Anyway, that's life. They lost a paying customer through being too judgemental I guess.
I've been wearing the same clothes for about 10 years. 10 shirts, 5 jeans, and 2 hoodies is all I have other than a suit for for when I need it. I have money, I just don't like spending money on things I don't care about. in the last year I might of spent a couple hundred bucks not counting underwear or socks on clothes. I have a work uniform I got for free that I wear every day to work, and I don't even own a cell phone.
I might have spent close to zero! Wa ha hah ah. Wait... maybe
What if you're poor, but dress rich. A lot more ppl do this to make them seem like they are important.
Then you will stay poor.
If you can't learn to live below your means you will never ever be IW (Independently Wealthy)
That's so ridiculous that it just might work.
It does and you have many examples of it working from what is reported in the comments.
Lol is that quote from master of disguise? Genius.
A handyman in our office building, little I knew he actually owns the (3) 2-story office buildings which I designed when I related his face to his name. He was already multi-millionaire 20 years ago. Holes on the T-shirts for better ventilation, and more comfortable.
Also, when you get older (past middle age) you won't care as much what people think of you...
It seems a trait that is learned which increases happiness I think.
I like dressing poor when I go to the dentists clinic they give me discounts.
Interesting... I never thought about that one. I should do that too! =D
Definitely works while car shopping. Never go shopping for a new car driving a really nice car. Drive a beater and dress shabby then they are more likely to take a lowball offer. If you have any kids dress them shabby, and get them dirty, don't feed them breakfast, and take with. Then they will start whining about being hungry during the deal.
Huh... there are lots of way to annoy the sales person to hurry the deal up and give you a lower price. I just hope they do away with this and sell cars like they do with potato chips, fixed price like Tesla.
I was kidding about the dirty kids, and more thinking about individual sellers. At a dealership once they run you credit application they know what you can afford. I just bought a brand new 2017 4Runner, and sold my wife's old Mini Van. It had 245K on it and needed some things to boot. I was asking $1000 for it. A woman answered the add and came out. She was a divorced single mom with three kids. Driving a beat up truck with worn out tires. She drove the van liked it and handed me $1000. I took it, but I would have given it to her for 500 if she had countered, or even free, because In my mind she is probably broke, but who knows she may be loaded. Dressing down and looking less well off can definitely play a part in deal making I think. It plays on human emotion. Not always but sometimes.
So true, other thing is, complain about how bad you have it. Tell em your sick and you really don't want a car, but though you might look around. This will do a few things for you, one they will think you really are too poor to buy and leave you alone in the lot. 2 when you go to buy and negotiate they will give you a better deal cause they think your broke and sick and see your poor clothes and feel bad for you. I did this before for my car saved 4k from Toyota 3 year old car. Mind you already marked down 10k from original sticker price, with 27000 miles. I got a great deal because I did as I just told you, gotta make the feel bad for you. It works!
Yes I did the same and got a used car and haggled the hell out of them. Once I wrote them the check they gasped, but I'm like, "Do I look like I can afford to be in major debt?"
Lol
Looking poor is actually sometimes a gift, especially in the poorest places where theft is so common that they would literally chop off your hand brutally just to steal that time-watch on your hand.
So here's a story my dad told me once. He was working at a shipyard and in this case they were at an exhibition trying to sell a yacht.
He saw some poorly dressed guy go up to the their competition and he was flat-out turned down. He wasn't even allowed on the boat.
He than came to them and was shown the boat. He then left and when he came back a bit later, bought the thing in cash.
That'll teach you to judge people by their looks :P
This happens a lot it seems. And what's surprising is that this is pretty typical. People judge others by how they look. As a sales, it's understandable because they are trying to optimize their time so that they get the most sales for their effort. Hence they try to not spend any that appears to not bring them sales. So they really need to figure out if some dude in rage really has money to spend or not.
I dress rich when I deal with clients or sell stuff on craigslist so they buy my junk, I dress poor when I buy stuff on craigslist so I can offer less, I even drive an older truck. Its all about perception. I have enough money that I dress how I want regardless but I have been doing this trick for years. I also dress down around some of my poor friends or family... I also commute in a old beat up truck almost daily, I love this truck though, best truck ever (even better than my brand new expensive truck) I don't even lock the doors BUT Often Times I may have 5k cash in the center console and I think who the heck would ever thing theres anything of value in this truck and laugh..... Really
Omg, that sounds mighty dangerous to leave that much cash in the car.
Lol, that would 100% get stolen where I live. Here, beat up old student cars get robbed for just a tiny bit of change from the cup holder. I even had my houseplants stolen when I put them outside for a bit of sun. :( Nothing special, either. One of them didn't even have a real pot. I only kept them around in the first place for the sentimental value, since most were gifts, and one I'd had for 8 years.
Out Of The Box WoodWorks my grandfather taught me this when I was growing up in used to be embarrassed as a kid but now it makes so much sense he always stayed humble even though he made plenty of money.
Out Of The Box WoodWorks Where did you say that truck is again? Lol
You got the idea of how people think.
I prefer to dress "poor" and act "poor" to keep my family from asking me for money. But the fact that I bought a Mercedes (STUPID DECISION), I HATE THE ATTENTION, that kind of makes it hard for them to think I don't have it.
MrHighProfyle You could store it somewhere, and drive it, without having anyone your familiar with, from knowing.
MrHighProfyle Just pay for private parking, and go to the car when you need it. If anyone asks, just say its a rental.
Hahahahahahahahaha. Family should always comes first! If a member of my family needs money or anything at all, i give what i can. They wouldn't ask if they weren't desperate. Due to the downturn in the job market and the redundancies that are rife at the moment in the North East, many families have had to pull together at this time of financial uncertainty On that note, an easy solution for anyone with an expensive car to hide, is to sell the car and buy a bicycle. :)
Sakurakuro It depends. Some people leech of the more successful person in the family and guilt you to giving in on the account that you're "family". You can keep "helping", but in the end, you're just enabling them. This happens way too often these days. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
You'll have to look to help or not in a case by case basis. Family is family after all and cannot be replaced. But you'll know something is wrong when they are not trying to help themselves just as much as you are helping them.
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The stuffed toys are a dead giveaway that you're wealthy, dude.
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I think I really screwed up with this video. Not wealthy though, just very frugal.
And the clean white furniture.. xP
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I can only agree with you to a certain degree. In the prepping field there is the Grey Man - where you want to completely blend in to your surroundings and not call any attention to yourself. As for mugging I think if you are aware of the situation and environment where you are in that will not happen, walking with confidence and a powerful body language helps. I have dressed in T shits and jeans for years but since I started upping my style with classic clothing I get more respect and get better treatment form everyone. If you are a minority like me it makes an even bigger difference. First impressions are make very quickly and can take a long time to change. If you are single it seems that the time when you just finished the oil change on your car and you just go out to the store for some bottled water or something you will run in to that old high school cheerleader and you will get asked how are you doing? With the "Are you living under a bridge" kind of look. I think dressing poor has only a very few times when you should do it, I think it has a downgrading effect on your self confidence. Just my thoughts. Keep the videos coming.
You see, dressing up is for one purpose, dressing down is for another. Sure you can use confidence and powerful body language to deter mugging but dressing down is also another way to do it.
So when you dress down, don't expect to make new friends easily and you might just run into someone you know, lol. So it's not for doing all the time but for specific circumstances like shopping in peace or theft deterrent while vacationing. I think if you are financially independent, the confidence comes from that and easily overcomes looking raggedy.
Yes - dress to fit your objective.
Back when I didn't have a Costco membership, when I had a craving for a Costco hotdog I'd piggyback off a customer as a guest. But not this one time. I approached a woman in the parking lot and she quickly, fearful kept walking without talking to me like I was trying to recruit her for my cult or I was begging for money. I forgot I had my oversized ragged hoodie on and hadn't shaved a few days. Mission failed.
I don't call it dressing poor. More like dressing comfortably.
+J Gamble I would replace the jeans with shorts or sweatpants for more comfort, :D
BeatTheBush I agree. Cargo shorts, Tshirt and flip flops. Smiles.
By the way, your videos are very informative. New Sub Alert! 😊
I want to modify this by what I call " The importance of looking modest"!Not poor!Modesty is the best policy!
How true! As a frequent visitor to Brazil (Rio) I dress poor down there-you have to, because if you display any trappings of wealth (nice clothes, jewelry, watch) you stand a good chance of being robbed. It happened to me one day (I was wearing a nice looking fake Rolex)-three guys came up behind me , pinned my arms and stole my watch-the cop who helped me told me i was lucky they didn't harm me.
Yup... yeah... at least it's a fake rolex.
or how about don't visit stupid places at all?
Unfotunately in Rio even having that foreing look gives you much greater chances of getting robbed.
Right! My Brazilian friend gave me strict orders to not even take out my phone while out on the street in Rio! Guys ride by on bikes and grab the phone out of your hand!
You forgot to mention gold diggers. You start looking like a baller and those women come out of nowhere. Don't get trapped
You can't really judge people's financial situation from the way they dress, it could be either or. Society is really annoying.
You cant but most do.
When I was young an old farmer from my church gave me a job working on his farm, shoveling horse poop, feeding the chickens and and weeding his huge garden. I liked him he let me drive his beat up old pickup on the farm doing chores. One day we were driving to the feed store and the old truck was overheating.
we pulled into the local garage and the mechanic told him the bad news that the engine needed to be rebuilt.
We walked down the street to a restaurant named the breakfast place and had the hotcake special. then we walked to an auto dealership showroom and was looking at the new trucks. A young man in a nice suit and tie came out and gave us the brush off cause he had on an old pair of farmer jeans a tee shirt and a straw hot. We walked back to the mechanics place and he told the mechanic to rebuild the engine. I told my daddy about what happened and he just started laughing. My dad told me that the old man owned a strip of land 660 yards deep the length of a road that was 7 miles between two junctions on a local highway. You would never have guessed that in a million years
My wife and I do this all the time. We shopped for a new Toyota and looked liked bums and no one bothered us. We found the one we liked and came back the next day dressed up and bought it. Everyone treated us differently
Yup. You get treated the way you look, that's how it works sadly.
Throughout the years, being & looking low profile save me from lots of trouble. Less trouble, less obstacles, more success!!!
Interesting how you agree it saves you trouble and other think it's just being fake. Oh well.
I feel the same way about how I landscaped my yard. Quite a few of my neighbors competed to show off fancy landscaping which attracted burglars. I kept my landscaping neat but plain. Also I keep interior decorating simple so nothing of value can be taken. Awesome video 😁
Competing to show off fancy landscape??? =_= Geez. I also enjoy having very little of value. Makes you worry less.
I just personally hate fitting in with the trend. On the issue of designer clothes, I hate that. I'd never pay a company more money to advertise their own clothing.
I am the same, I would never be a walking billboard and following fashion is for the Sheeple.
That's exactly why I prefer clothing with no visible brand names.
If you expect me to be a walking advertisement, pay me to wear it.
Otherwise, I'm taking my money elsewhere.
Upvote for using uglify in a casual sentence :) Good advice though !
=D Its so effective, its not even funny.
Yeah, That's even the first time I heard that word
Sometimes I just dress for comfort. Combine that with not caring about brand names and "dressing poor" comes pretty easy :-)
You still need to dress rich for some cases and poor for other tho.
That fly got me. You win.
I make decent money but i enjoy dressing more poor then i look. Reason is most people dress nice and overspend to get people to like them more or fit in better. I prefer to be more transparent and show my true self which i usually gain more respect in the long run :)
I love living below my means. Financial independence surely beats showing off any day.
I wear sweat pants and t shirts all the time. I never dress to impress, that's a waste of time.
+Hiram Guerra Sometimes you might want to dress nice to do business or to get advantages offer to people who look the part.
He doesnt do business, he left that part out, thats why he is always wearing sweat pants...
Great comedic timing on that "which guy would get mugged?"
-the monk way, investment videos
Oh ha! Thanks!
I dress poor because I'm completely disinterested in what anybody thinks of me - There are higher priorities than the rags that adorn the body - for me it is travel, seeing new places and cultures, meeting interesting people and contributing to making the world a better place. Thumbs Up if you're with me :)
I think there is a place for dressing poor and also a time for dressing rich. Very different reasons for each.
Really I dress as well as I possibly can! Bespoke Jacket, Rolex watch, Goodyear Welted shoes! I don’t like foreign cultures and find they don’t like me or tourists in general. We raise prices in their cities and make it hard for local people to compete in their economy.
Your right
If you got the money help people that realy need help
I was always thin growing up. About 15 years ago I gained a bunch of weight. Now, looking more unattractive, I'm blatantly ignored and treated with much less respect. It's amazing how people can be treated so differently by the way they look, in so many different respects.
Perception is reality until reality changes perception. Looks are important. That's why first impressions are important. Try to use it to your advantage when possible.
My plan is to work out and look better, physically, in a year from now. In many cases, those who look better tend to have an advantage in life. At the very least, I'm doing it to improve my health.
Dress for the position you want to be in... dress in suit or business clothes - get that promotion... dress like your going to the gym or going to Home Depot....
I think rich folks own the business, they do not care about position and promotion. If you need to impress someone else with your outfit, you are probably not that rich. But it might be sound advice for a lot of employees who are busy climbing the ladder.
Business owner here, yeah, we dress the way we want but for the average underminded older entrepreneurs, this could work for employees.
I dress like a bum as often as possible because I want to be disgustingly wealthy pretending to be poor.
Good advice! I am Caucasian living in China. It is difficult enough to not stick out too much as it is. So I dress as low profile as possible. People dress much more casual here and foreigners who don't get that literally look all the time like they are fresh off the boat.
Lol... fresh off the boat in china? Well... fresh off the 747 since typically, Caucasians will arrive in one vs a boat before.
in 2012 my brother gave me his long sleeve shirt that he wore for a few years and i'm still wearing it now...
Nice. =D Good to have things last. =D
I love this.
Let me tell you my story going along with this topic.
I have been looking to get roofing estimates on my properties (I own 2 houses, 1 of them is an investment property by a ski resort). I would like to put on metal roofs because of icing here in Maine, had a lot of problems over the winter with ice damming.
I have had several roofers come out and look at my primary residence roof to write up an estimate. I've noticed that if I dress poor looking and not let on that I have 2 beautiful houses that I am looking to have metal roofs put on. That they will offer me discounts and tell me about special promotions. For instance, I asked 1 guy if he also serviced the area where my other house is.. he unfortunately would not drive that far (over 2 hrs from here). He ended up not offering me any special deals or any good pricing.. he was over $5,000 more than any of the other 6 estimates I got!!
Since I am only 22 this helps me as well, people assume a 22 yr old would not have money.. so I get offered deals a lot more often if I just let them assume.
It's a sad reality and I see you understand why this is important. But then again... 6 samples isn't enough to justify the effects. The pricing people give on home repair estimates vary so wildly, it's crazy.
You can extend this further to change the appearance of your nationality. I read an account of a Polish woman in Nazi-occupied Poland who had no ID papers. She traveled by changing her nationality. Going through a Polish checkpoint, she was openly Polish. But when she came to a German checkpoint, she switched to her fluent German and became German. Doing that, she was able to do without papers. Of course it also helped that she was young and pretty.
Traveling, it often helps to look local to blend in and not be hassled as a tourist. Dress like they dress. Act like they act. I don't do what tourists do, i.e. stare at things and look lost.
Omg... the craziness of it all. You can only blend in so much if you match the color of local though.
i dress poor cuz I'm too tired to care how i look.
Only works to look poor if you normally dress normal which makes the need to purposely dress poor.
lol
I dress down as a woman to deter attention from men. I wear baggy clothes, and look a bit sloppy on purpose. That way I have less chance of being picked up for sex trafficking, walk confidently etc. And of course, yes there are certain occasions for dressing up, or down. Love the camera in a beat up bag idea!
From my own experiences, it’s the opposite. When I dressed sloppy, I tended to attract low-quality men because people do judge others. It’s like, they already judge you that you have very low-self esteem, and so on. That’s why dressing down may not help. In my case, those guys thought I was an easy target and I was so desperate. Dressing up always safe us from those creepy guys. Always dress your best, ladies!
lmao you're more likely to be picked for trafficking if you dress tomboy
Do what works for you.
I wonder about your thoughts on this: I am from UK but I went to San Fran, near to the airport suburbs and as I was walking past a gas station, a car I presumed was letting me cross, so I waved to say thank you. He just got annoyed and did the shoo wave to get me to go as if I was asking for money or something. I thought it was pretty rude.
Many Californians are rude, especially when driving. There is a heavy narcissistic spirit in California. Next time, go to Texas... much friendlier people!
I own a small business and some times will act like an employee and get tips... it’s a little game for me to break up the monotony
Lol... not a problem to be a waiter I assume? But then I guess you could just let it run and do something else?
BeatTheBush nah, I own a carpet cleaning business. Some people just assume every business is big and think everyone who works in their home is an employee... when they come across that way I just roll with it and take the tips I get
Yeah... I guess I would assume so as well. Since you are doing the manual labor part of it. But if it's a one man band then you would still do your own cleaning.
I totally agree. If youre successful dress super humble and if your family or friends ask you hows life...always say its going terrible and that you have all of these bills and that youre in massive debt (this way they dont ask you for money). And if they ask you, well how did you buy that suit...say Goodwill. and if they say "Yeah right" you say Im for real...not goodwill from the Hood...Goodwill from the rich neighborhoods.
Hummmm I guess this depends if you really want to hide your money from friends or family. If they know you well enough it's sort of hard to hide.
Sure if you have wads of cash just laying around in your house of course. My family wont know whats in my wallet nor bank account unless I tell them which I wont. If you have assets you can easily fabricate a story saying you got it off Ebay for dirt cheap or auction. Why would you want to splurg money to your friends unless you have self security issues. I always say those that show off are the ones who have the least.
lol
Omg hahaha
"Which i wont"
My dad was offered clothing from a Chinese man when he went to buy tiles from a tile store because he had a torn shirt on and wore torn pants. The Chinese man thought my dad was a homeless dude haha
Great way of thinking about how to dress! My husband and I run a mobile clothes bank where we give clothes away for free to low income areas, and homeless shelters in the winter. We are lower income ourselves, both being on disability, but have nice clothes because of the clothes bank. We have found that in certain areas we go into, we dress down quite a bit, so that the people we serve will feel more comfortable to come talk to us, and know they can relate to us, and us to them….and we can. We definitely know what it’s like to be in lack, but thankfully, now we have plenty, and a way to share it!