Hey everyone! These soundbytes from Josh are 9 short minutes from a 2 HOUR personality interview that we did with him. I also know him in real life and we also later talked with him for another 4 hours to teach him about his personality interview and how they work. Basically we’ve spent a long time with Josh and that is where INFJ came from. This one video alone is not enough to type anyone. Josh’s descriptions in this video are just him genuinely sharing about his perspectives with no prior knowledge of functions. He isn’t trying to represent INFJ’s or present definitions of Ni. These were just some interesting sound bites from our personality interview that we thought we’d like to share with you all for fun! In regards to him “sounding Ne”, I do understand the confusion. There are a lot of unfortunate stereotypes out there of what the functions look like that we wanted to flesh out. We thought it would be interesting to show that Ni types also feel like they consider lots of possibilities too, and that “seeing possibilities” isn’t automatically an Ne thing but more of just an N thing. In retrospect, I wish I had added in some extra commentary with extra explanation or context to explain the patterns more clearly. We plan to be more careful with that going forward. If you want to check out the full interview with much longer sound bytes in context, you can find it on the website. It’s a really fun interview and in it you can see Josh’s personality preferences much clearer and consistently for yourself. Regardless if that’s the right fit for you, we hope this conversation was still able to help you appreciate and understand others a little better today! Best wishes!
These are probably the most concrete example of the inner-workings of Ni that I've seen in a while! It's honestly special to listen to another Ni-dom who has introspected so deeply about their processes and shared their findings. Because there's so little information out there about Ni, it can be hard for me to identify the extreme nuances between my own functions. I'm already surprised by how much we have in common (as an INTJ). Can't wait to watch the full video. Thanks for this!
I feel like INFJs can become so precise on their inner functioning once they develop their Ti function enough. It helps a lot to convey so complicated things clearly.
Primary lens of the INFJ is NiTi. But that "becoming so precise and clear when they develop Ti". Would be more likely when INFJs dip from NiTi to SiTi for example. Remember in Jung's words Ni is a "irrational" function. It doesn't assign logic or values to anything by itself. Nature of NiTi would be highly conjectural and theoretical in contrast to SiTi. Internal scope of Ni is broad and holistic, while internal scope of Si is more narrow and precise. Like memories for a start, what data has been concretely known and can be preserved through time. What are values that are absolute and meaningful. Si can be much more intense and deep in comparison to Ni, Si-doms would oftentimes find their internal world quite fascinating to explore in.
The primary lens of INFJ are NiSe, the lens functions as Young calls them. I was mostly talking about self-comprehension and accuracy regarding the communication of the internal process to others. Additionally, this would also concern being more precise on predictions and explaining metaphysical things. So NiTi, not SiTi. It's very unlikely an INFJ will ever become good at using Si I think. Yes, I know what Jung says about Ni but people rarely understand the extent of it however. You should know that according to Jung, Si is also an irrational function like all the perceiving functions. So it isn't more likely with SiTi in any way. But I'm sure you know Ti does assign logic by itself however. That's exactly what I'm saying actually, the nature of NiTi would be highly conjectural and theoretical but by basing it upon and confronting it to logical information for more accuracy, just like it would give more accuracy for SiTi actually. Not really, the scope of Ne is broad and holistic when the scope of Ni is narrow and holistic. It's narrow similarly to Si. That's why Ni and Si are usually compared. A main difference is just that instead of using sensory data, Ni uses meaning data that have been known through sensory experiences and will always be preserved through time. Also the values that are absolute and meaningful. No, it's just the same and as deep and intense as Ni can be really. People who have met actual INFJs can tell about the intense insights. You probably wouldn't believe it but Ni-doms will usually find their own internal world fascinating to explore as well and probably spend as much time exploring future outcomes. It doesn't really make sense to evaluate one compared to the other because that's just two sides of the same coin at the end of the day, the past and the future, the abstract and the concrete, just like Ne is for Se actually.
@@kyurei4478EXACTLY. In other words an explanation of INFJ is more understandable than that of an INTP, let's say. There is always a sense of urgency, gravity, certainty and conviction.
@@ferventbrawn Well, it's true that INTPs aren't typically focused on being practical. I would say most INFJs are probably better than INFPs, INTPs, ENFPs and ENTPs in that regard in general cause they're a bit more. Now INTPs are still very logical individuals so I'm not really sure.
It's sometimes difficult for someone with NI (I'll put it that way) to separate physical reality from the mind, because the internal experience is so meaningful to him or her.
3:58 Wow! What a poignant example of highly developed Ni; showing us others non-Ni dom’s that still use plenty Ni how it’s REALLY done: Where he starts with seeing a picture behind the interviewers, can envision a context, then it expands all the way to him envisioning an entire book! Thanks all 3!
Really interesting! I mostly resonated with him, except for when he said that he spends so much time thinking that he never _does_ stuff, and he needs to remind himself to get out and _do_ things. I'm the opposite - it's easy for me to just _do_ stuff, but I have to remind myself to stop and look at the bigger picture... which would make a lot of sense, since I suspect that I'm an ENTJ.
Interesting indeed. When it comes to PERSONAL stuff, I would put it off until the last minute, when it is actually life or death. Like getting a haircut for example. I really hate how my hair looks when it is freshly cut. I would then wear a cap for two weeks until it grew out on just the perfect "growth". And no, cutting it on this length to begin with won't work either. It has to have grown out. LOL. But when it comes to other responsibilities asked of or imposed on me, I'm actually efficient. I have to do it first before doing anything else. But it is mostly with the mindset of "the sooner I can get this done, the sooner I could get back to my Austrian Alps vacation daydream". LOL.
I'm an INFJ, and I don't like making tough decisions, but I hate decision limbo more, so I eventually just pick an option and run with it to close the endless loop of back and forth. I'm definitely a doer and completionist, despite spending so much time in my head.
When I listened to music years ago, within the melody my mind automatically created choreography. I wasn't trying, I just can't listen to something without associating some idea with it. And it's exhausting as hell. Seems like sensory simulation takes away from me energy doubled than from people around me. I would be called lazy because I get tired so fast.
The big yes he said for not seeing other opportunities is because his self is at the lowesr point and he understand opportunities for others and not for him.sorry fr my english
Not even recognizing other opportunties ... that was me all of my twenties. And I think w Ni doms therefore take 'failure' much than many other types. Because we have invested so much more in this one vision.
First 6 minutes he was showing Ne, it's only at 6:40 where he explains how he sees the Ne as "useless", the big ball of mush, the "chaos" and then how he post processes it to come to a conclusion. This is actually showing your innacuracy in the assessment you made in the video describing (Ni) that you have to type based on quality and not quantity. If the guy is doing Ne all day every day as a mental process, and he is actually extremely confident at his ability to come up with ideas on the fly to create songs (creative abstract inventions in the moment) and then after 2 months has an Ni realisation, then chances are, actually he's an Ne user. Not arguing against this typing with so little evidence, but it's poor evidence to show INFJ as a type in a video.
@@hackpo1015 An INFJ in particular like condensing everything into singular ideas, they'll be asking questions and listening attentively. There are situations in which this dynamic changes which involve asking the INFJ questions or pressuring them to perform in a particular context, like this one.
U have very wrong assumptions about how Ni works. Ni is capable of viewing different ideas, it just doesn't jump around btw ideas cutting one off, but it combines them in structure. We see different outcomes of ideas and along build them in complete structures
For the record, this guy is a textbook ENTP. his whole game where you pick something, and he's able to make stories about them is Ne. Not being decisive, because you see all the possibilities... again, ENTP. INFJ will know the exact right time to be decisive, because they are focusing on a singular path. For ENTPs, there is so much potential (Ne) that any decisive action they take is taking away from their dominant function. It's more fun to ideate about potential than enacting their vision. They are both very similar types in many ways, but different in the ways I explained.
Yessss that's Ne! I was looking for this comment as I am experiencing it all day long the 100 ideas, and can relate with the midnight stroll, also the part of picking out random things to expand into a career topic, it comes naturally. NeTi is very handy when I worked as a radio announcer and MC lol
there're a lot more nuances in the full interview. it did feel like Ne at first when he talked abt his ideas and stuff, but this is only a 9 min video so there's a lot left that we dont know.
@@thefirstofitskind895 it’s not just Ne though. This is Ne from an Ne dom’s perspective. You are right that this is not enough to definitely type someone, but the video’s title is still blatantly wrong.
He seems more INTP-like to me. Just from the vibe I got from him - but it's hard to see when you only watch him in profile. And he could be a more Ti leaning subtype of INFJ I guess.
From this video - especially with him looking deadpan sometimes and where I didn’t focus on showing his Fe and Ti, I could see that! I realize now I should have put a better disclaimer in the front that this video wasn’t meant to focus on proving his type, just providing some casual concrete Ni soundbytes we found interesting from our 2 hours talking and verifying his type with him. I think Josh happens to be a lot better with his words and explaining his Ni thought process bc of his years of writing and making content - not always common for Ni Dom’s to be this comfortable describing their inner perspectives in words for others. Anyways, a nice example of how I think we always have to be careful of vibe typing from body language too quickly!
@@ThinkMoreDeeply Thank you for the carification. Yes, you're right. I'm almost always doing it from the vibes I get from people, because I don't have the skills to be systematic with it (my intuition is just way too visceral). That's the skill you have as an INTP 🤗.
Especially at 7:58 when he talks about not seeing other possibilities. An INFJ is a knower and if they don't have enough information, they'll want to obtain it first but by exploring one instinct, not several.
Is the "but I also see 20 other ways" part still Ni working? I relate to that a lot and I thought it’s the reason I might be using Ne more than Ni, I thought Ni would just know the one way or see only one way and Ne is the one that makes you see multiple ways or possibilities. I also relate a lot to "exploring all the ideas feels unhelpful & chaotic", but I DO get many ideas about many things that’s the problem, I don’t like it but my mind keeps doing it, and all of them seem interesting, usually I like narrowing down but it starts by expanding and the expanding part I don’t like, if it’s work related it’s brainstorming as if I have 200 years left to live, like what am I going to do with all those ideas I have to know which one is the best, then after a while I get kind of "angry" and just go with the one that feels best for now and my Ni or Ne or whatever it is is like my child and it’s kinda sad that I didn’t consider all the other ways or ideas. Could I still be using Ni? I get typed as INTJ and ISTJ but I doubt the INTJ one because of this
Ni has their own way of projecting forward and making guesses to try to prepare for what's coming. I think you may be overthinking it. Just take your time with learning about your natural preferences and functions. The more you learn about the framework with more real life examples, the clearer it'll become! If you try to force things into a box or one definition too quickly before seeing the bigger picture, it'll get confusing!
This is a wildly spread wrong assumption on Ni in mbti community. Ni isn't just creating ideas inside. It collects information, analysing it to one way, complete idea, coming to conclusions. Not endlessly collecting new ideas after one another, not making endless paths.
Would you guys consider finding a female version for this video and so on and so forth for the other “cognition function irls” you guys made? What you guys are doing is golden. Never seen it done this way and it feels like a privilege getting to learn from your content
Ugh INFJs think they can figure people out so easily and quickly but in reality they struggle when it comes to understanding and figuring out Ne doms. I'm a Ne Dom who uses Ni and INFJs to try and put me in a Ni box, which I can never seem to fit exactly.
NE doms don't like boxes in the first place, so even if an NI dom gets to the root of "you", you might mentally rebel and deny just to not be placed in a box. NE doms thrive on being unpredictable.
it was like hearing myself (or my inner voice) speak. so fun, so comforting hahah thank you for this!! all of it, the "i see the way(s), so i'm too patient/prone to indecisiveness" and "it could be turned into a book" and the metaphors and the "it's not helpful" and. just everything. even the way he confirms the hunches omfg
Hey everyone! These soundbytes from Josh are 9 short minutes from a 2 HOUR personality interview that we did with him. I also know him in real life and we also later talked with him for another 4 hours to teach him about his personality interview and how they work. Basically we’ve spent a long time with Josh and that is where INFJ came from. This one video alone is not enough to type anyone.
Josh’s descriptions in this video are just him genuinely sharing about his perspectives with no prior knowledge of functions. He isn’t trying to represent INFJ’s or present definitions of Ni. These were just some interesting sound bites from our personality interview that we thought we’d like to share with you all for fun!
In regards to him “sounding Ne”, I do understand the confusion. There are a lot of unfortunate stereotypes out there of what the functions look like that we wanted to flesh out. We thought it would be interesting to show that Ni types also feel like they consider lots of possibilities too, and that “seeing possibilities” isn’t automatically an Ne thing but more of just an N thing.
In retrospect, I wish I had added in some extra commentary with extra explanation or context to explain the patterns more clearly. We plan to be more careful with that going forward.
If you want to check out the full interview with much longer sound bytes in context, you can find it on the website. It’s a really fun interview and in it you can see Josh’s personality preferences much clearer and consistently for yourself.
Regardless if that’s the right fit for you, we hope this conversation was still able to help you appreciate and understand others a little better today! Best wishes!
Can u do a video analyzing the Sturniolo triplets?
These are probably the most concrete example of the inner-workings of Ni that I've seen in a while! It's honestly special to listen to another Ni-dom who has introspected so deeply about their processes and shared their findings. Because there's so little information out there about Ni, it can be hard for me to identify the extreme nuances between my own functions. I'm already surprised by how much we have in common (as an INTJ). Can't wait to watch the full video. Thanks for this!
Can relate a lot as an INFJ, especially about not seeing obvious alternatives. The price we pay for being so focussed on narrow goals or visions.
I feel like INFJs can become so precise on their inner functioning once they develop their Ti function enough. It helps a lot to convey so complicated things clearly.
Primary lens of the INFJ is NiTi. But that "becoming so precise and clear when they develop Ti". Would be more likely when INFJs dip from NiTi to SiTi for example. Remember in Jung's words Ni is a "irrational" function. It doesn't assign logic or values to anything by itself. Nature of NiTi would be highly conjectural and theoretical in contrast to SiTi. Internal scope of Ni is broad and holistic, while internal scope of Si is more narrow and precise. Like memories for a start, what data has been concretely known and can be preserved through time. What are values that are absolute and meaningful. Si can be much more intense and deep in comparison to Ni, Si-doms would oftentimes find their internal world quite fascinating to explore in.
The primary lens of INFJ are NiSe, the lens functions as Young calls them. I was mostly talking about self-comprehension and accuracy regarding the communication of the internal process to others. Additionally, this would also concern being more precise on predictions and explaining metaphysical things. So NiTi, not SiTi. It's very unlikely an INFJ will ever become good at using Si I think. Yes, I know what Jung says about Ni but people rarely understand the extent of it however. You should know that according to Jung, Si is also an irrational function like all the perceiving functions. So it isn't more likely with SiTi in any way. But I'm sure you know Ti does assign logic by itself however. That's exactly what I'm saying actually, the nature of NiTi would be highly conjectural and theoretical but by basing it upon and confronting it to logical information for more accuracy, just like it would give more accuracy for SiTi actually. Not really, the scope of Ne is broad and holistic when the scope of Ni is narrow and holistic. It's narrow similarly to Si. That's why Ni and Si are usually compared. A main difference is just that instead of using sensory data, Ni uses meaning data that have been known through sensory experiences and will always be preserved through time. Also the values that are absolute and meaningful. No, it's just the same and as deep and intense as Ni can be really. People who have met actual INFJs can tell about the intense insights. You probably wouldn't believe it but Ni-doms will usually find their own internal world fascinating to explore as well and probably spend as much time exploring future outcomes. It doesn't really make sense to evaluate one compared to the other because that's just two sides of the same coin at the end of the day, the past and the future, the abstract and the concrete, just like Ne is for Se actually.
@@kyurei4478EXACTLY. In other words an explanation of INFJ is more understandable than that of an INTP, let's say.
There is always a sense of urgency, gravity, certainty and conviction.
@@ferventbrawn Well, it's true that INTPs aren't typically focused on being practical. I would say most INFJs are probably better than INFPs, INTPs, ENFPs and ENTPs in that regard in general cause they're a bit more. Now INTPs are still very logical individuals so I'm not really sure.
It's sometimes difficult for someone with NI (I'll put it that way) to separate physical reality from the mind, because the internal experience is so meaningful to him or her.
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3:58 Wow! What a poignant example of highly developed Ni; showing us others non-Ni dom’s that still use plenty Ni how it’s REALLY done:
Where he starts with seeing a picture behind the interviewers, can envision a context, then it expands all the way to him envisioning an entire book! Thanks all 3!
Exactly!!! I totally agree as an INFJ also. He is as an INFJ explaining perfectly!! Thank you for sharing! ❤
Really interesting! I mostly resonated with him, except for when he said that he spends so much time thinking that he never _does_ stuff, and he needs to remind himself to get out and _do_ things. I'm the opposite - it's easy for me to just _do_ stuff, but I have to remind myself to stop and look at the bigger picture... which would make a lot of sense, since I suspect that I'm an ENTJ.
haha that's awesome! I always feel like I have a type "crush" on ExTJ's and how they can get so much cool stuff done!
Interesting indeed. When it comes to PERSONAL stuff, I would put it off until the last minute, when it is actually life or death. Like getting a haircut for example. I really hate how my hair looks when it is freshly cut. I would then wear a cap for two weeks until it grew out on just the perfect "growth". And no, cutting it on this length to begin with won't work either. It has to have grown out. LOL.
But when it comes to other responsibilities asked of or imposed on me, I'm actually efficient. I have to do it first before doing anything else. But it is mostly with the mindset of "the sooner I can get this done, the sooner I could get back to my Austrian Alps vacation daydream". LOL.
I'm an INFJ, and I don't like making tough decisions, but I hate decision limbo more, so I eventually just pick an option and run with it to close the endless loop of back and forth. I'm definitely a doer and completionist, despite spending so much time in my head.
When I listened to music years ago, within the melody my mind automatically created choreography. I wasn't trying, I just can't listen to something without associating some idea with it. And it's exhausting as hell. Seems like sensory simulation takes away from me energy doubled than from people around me.
I would be called lazy because I get tired so fast.
The big yes he said for not seeing other opportunities is because his self is at the lowesr point and he understand opportunities for others and not for him.sorry fr my english
Not even recognizing other opportunties ... that was me all of my twenties.
And I think w Ni doms therefore take 'failure' much than many other types. Because we have invested so much more in this one vision.
First 6 minutes he was showing Ne, it's only at 6:40 where he explains how he sees the Ne as "useless", the big ball of mush, the "chaos" and then how he post processes it to come to a conclusion. This is actually showing your innacuracy in the assessment you made in the video describing (Ni) that you have to type based on quality and not quantity. If the guy is doing Ne all day every day as a mental process, and he is actually extremely confident at his ability to come up with ideas on the fly to create songs (creative abstract inventions in the moment) and then after 2 months has an Ni realisation, then chances are, actually he's an Ne user. Not arguing against this typing with so little evidence, but it's poor evidence to show INFJ as a type in a video.
What would an actual Ni user look like?
@@hackpo1015 An INFJ in particular like condensing everything into singular ideas, they'll be asking questions and listening attentively. There are situations in which this dynamic changes which involve asking the INFJ questions or pressuring them to perform in a particular context, like this one.
U have very wrong assumptions about how Ni works. Ni is capable of viewing different ideas, it just doesn't jump around btw ideas cutting one off, but it combines them in structure. We see different outcomes of ideas and along build them in complete structures
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For the record, this guy is a textbook ENTP. his whole game where you pick something, and he's able to make stories about them is Ne. Not being decisive, because you see all the possibilities... again, ENTP. INFJ will know the exact right time to be decisive, because they are focusing on a singular path. For ENTPs, there is so much potential (Ne) that any decisive action they take is taking away from their dominant function. It's more fun to ideate about potential than enacting their vision.
They are both very similar types in many ways, but different in the ways I explained.
Completely agree, what this guy is describing in the video is extraverted intuition NOT introverted intuition.
Yessss that's Ne! I was looking for this comment as I am experiencing it all day long the 100 ideas, and can relate with the midnight stroll, also the part of picking out random things to expand into a career topic, it comes naturally. NeTi is very handy when I worked as a radio announcer and MC lol
there're a lot more nuances in the full interview. it did feel like Ne at first when he talked abt his ideas and stuff, but this is only a 9 min video so there's a lot left that we dont know.
@@thefirstofitskind895 it’s not just Ne though. This is Ne from an Ne dom’s perspective. You are right that this is not enough to definitely type someone, but the video’s title is still blatantly wrong.
@@__D10S__ agreed, Ne recognize Ne, especially Ne dom like me
Great video!
He seems more INTP-like to me. Just from the vibe I got from him - but it's hard to see when you only watch him in profile. And he could be a more Ti leaning subtype of INFJ I guess.
From this video - especially with him looking deadpan sometimes and where I didn’t focus on showing his Fe and Ti, I could see that! I realize now I should have put a better disclaimer in the front that this video wasn’t meant to focus on proving his type, just providing some casual concrete Ni soundbytes we found interesting from our 2 hours talking and verifying his type with him.
I think Josh happens to be a lot better with his words and explaining his Ni thought process bc of his years of writing and making content - not always common for Ni Dom’s to be this comfortable describing their inner perspectives in words for others.
Anyways, a nice example of how I think we always have to be careful of vibe typing from body language too quickly!
@@ThinkMoreDeeply Thank you for the carification. Yes, you're right. I'm almost always doing it from the vibes I get from people, because I don't have the skills to be systematic with it (my intuition is just way too visceral). That's the skill you have as an INTP 🤗.
@@ThinkMoreDeeplythe problem is this isn’t Ni. It’s Ne that he is exhibiting.
I think this explain kim hanbin as an infj. I want to analyse the personality of people but i think I still need to learn more.
Seems more INTP than INFJ. Ne on display, not Ni.
Especially at 7:58 when he talks about not seeing other possibilities. An INFJ is a knower and if they don't have enough information, they'll want to obtain it first but by exploring one instinct, not several.
I was kinda getting that as an INFJ not everything resonated quite like other INFJs I know but obv I could just be missing details
So I can usually finish anyones I know decently well’s sentence, is this a form of Ni? Or is that Ne?
not any particular function. Maybe just pattern recognition or liking to speculate which can come from many different perceiving functions.
Is the "but I also see 20 other ways" part still Ni working? I relate to that a lot and I thought it’s the reason I might be using Ne more than Ni, I thought Ni would just know the one way or see only one way and Ne is the one that makes you see multiple ways or possibilities.
I also relate a lot to "exploring all the ideas feels unhelpful & chaotic", but I DO get many ideas about many things that’s the problem, I don’t like it but my mind keeps doing it, and all of them seem interesting, usually I like narrowing down but it starts by expanding and the expanding part I don’t like, if it’s work related it’s brainstorming as if I have 200 years left to live, like what am I going to do with all those ideas I have to know which one is the best, then after a while I get kind of "angry" and just go with the one that feels best for now and my Ni or Ne or whatever it is is like my child and it’s kinda sad that I didn’t consider all the other ways or ideas. Could I still be using Ni? I get typed as INTJ and ISTJ but I doubt the INTJ one because of this
Ni has their own way of projecting forward and making guesses to try to prepare for what's coming. I think you may be overthinking it. Just take your time with learning about your natural preferences and functions. The more you learn about the framework with more real life examples, the clearer it'll become! If you try to force things into a box or one definition too quickly before seeing the bigger picture, it'll get confusing!
He is getting mixed up between Si and N @@ThinkMoreDeeply
This is a wildly spread wrong assumption on Ni in mbti community. Ni isn't just creating ideas inside. It collects information, analysing it to one way, complete idea, coming to conclusions. Not endlessly collecting new ideas after one another, not making endless paths.
As an INTJ women, I can definitely recognize myself in many of his statements
Would you guys consider finding a female version for this video and so on and so forth for the other “cognition function irls” you guys made?
What you guys are doing is golden. Never seen it done this way and it feels like a privilege getting to learn from your content
Awww yes! That’d be so cool!
Thanks for the super sweet comment - really happy you enjoy!
Ugh INFJs think they can figure people out so easily and quickly but in reality they struggle when it comes to understanding and figuring out Ne doms. I'm a Ne Dom who uses Ni and INFJs to try and put me in a Ni box, which I can never seem to fit exactly.
NE doms don't like boxes in the first place, so even if an NI dom gets to the root of "you", you might mentally rebel and deny just to not be placed in a box. NE doms thrive on being unpredictable.
Can you please add Turkish subtitles to the last 2 videos for the ni function, chrome is corrupted and Turkish subtitles are not working
You guys are all sjs what's so wrong about being that ? Why the self hate this isn't a movie
he seems to be isfj, not sure about his partner though
boring chat no useful info
It's Ne not Ni
it was like hearing myself (or my inner voice) speak.
so fun, so comforting hahah thank you for this!! all of it, the "i see the way(s), so i'm too patient/prone to indecisiveness" and "it could be turned into a book" and the metaphors and the "it's not helpful" and. just everything. even the way he confirms the hunches omfg