DON'Ts: 1. Over compensating: Attracts lazy lovers trying to maximum your effort to ignore your disappoint. 2. Taking the result personally 3. Letting your imagination taking control over your logic: Daydreaming about people you don't even know/ meditating about them/ if you have to imagine, you don't even know him. Instead Deal with reality!! 4. Prepayment sexually, hoping you'll get love. Don't give too much too soon! DO: 5. Cut unfit men off quicker. Date intentionally, don't waste time with a lazy guy. Date with strategy.
@@tlhogid663 I think we all have at some stage but some people never learn. My take? Lust is an instant infatuation from emotionally safe distant space. Love takes time, it unfolds as we peel back the layers of ourselves, getting closer and simultaneously expose our true selves to another. It's scary but freeing at the same time.
I diid this a couple of months ago, I knew better but I didn’t choose better. It was the fantasy for me the 6”4 dimples 230 , lusted for about 10 years but didn’t know really nothing about him. But I snapped out of that quick after the fact.
It went both ways with me. I've had sex too soon (not to just please them but to treat myself too) and still got disappeared on. And there's been times I withhold sex and they still lose interest and disappear. Idk I can accept rejection but guys tend to play games and act like want me just to use me or play games. I had dating burnout after using dating apps. Most of the men on there are never serious and just put on an act when they really just wanna play games or just hookup. I deleted all my dating apps and I've been doing better. In person guys tend to show interest (say hi, stare, or smile and keep going) sometimes but never approach me. But now idc how long it's been since I've had sex, I'm not giving it up anymore for a guy to just play me afterwards. A moment of pleasure isn't worth the trauma that comes after. Idc if I never have sex again for the rest of my life, it is what it is. Edit: I just came across your video you did a year ago about abstinence before commitment. You're right, u may come across f boys who still leave after withholding sex, but it's more disappointing and less traumatic. 👍🏾. I can see that. I do think there is some men who will still look forward to getting to know u even if u have sex too soon, I've just never ran across those. And out of my 30 years I can only think of 3-4 male friends I had who were actually interested in me who didn't try to have sex with me or pressure me about it, so that was always a rare thing to find.
That’s exactly how I feel except I’m not even dating! I can’t even find anyone I like enough to date. Most men that are interested in me I’m not interested & the ones I’m interested in don’t seem to be interested or they just want sex. That’s exhausting enough w/o actually even dating.
He’s telling the truth. I’m in a situation with a guy who I am not interested in for many reasons. He came on too hard too fast. I tried to look past his desperation but I couldn’t. But he has very strong feelings for me and I asked him why. He couldn’t really answer because I have not earned that spot in his heart. Even though I’ve been genuine and honest about my feelings he is still trying to change my mind. I told him I was emotionally unavailable and too selfish to be in a relationship, and he said he didn’t care and he still wanted to be with me. Please people never be this desperate. Move on there are better people out there for you.
Everyone should be dating with intention, but unfortunately that's not the case. That's how 💔 happen. I've had a lot of broken hearts myself, but I took time to work on myself and no more broken hearts here. This video is straight up good information and facts
Thank you for this video. This just confirmed everything I am doing is right. I do cut low effort men off very quickly. I feel something is up, I question it up front and if I get a roundabout answer or not a straight forward answer, I am gone. Can't be doing with time wasters. I have family members constantly telling me that I ditch people far too quickly and that my dating strategy (the one you've just described, dating with a purpose) is wrong. Thank you for confirming that my dating with a purpose is correct and I am on the right track. Not felt the dating fatigue yet and I not going to. I know God has a husband in mind of me and he will send him to me. Thank you Kev! You're a star!
I had to learn these the hard ways and am at the burn out stage. Luckily I’m young (26) so I’m gonna take some time off, focus on myself, learn the game and jump back in when I’ve caught my wind lol. Thanks Kev. You’re the big brother I never knew I needed
That’s right honey take a breather and hit reset! Who knows after you do some self care you may attract exactly what your heart desires🥰 may the odds be in your favor.
I hear ya. I totally agree. But #3, a lot of us do...to a certain extent. Maybe not that deeply like saying I'm in love or whatever...but I've definitely asked the right questions...or so I thought...and she seem like she got Exactly what I'm looking for...for a nice good solid relationship....so yes, I did that before...seeing that possible future with them early on...instead of relaxing and staying in the moment...since its very early. My actions is...but my mind sometimes can't help but visualize and look to the future. Thats just how I am. But yes, I will work on not doing that with a potential mate. I realized that before. But I will do better next time...instead of just trying to do that. Thanks bro
@@Noname19980 Yeah, just gotta get out of these bad habits. Some things are easier said than done. But if we know it can be a possible detriment to us...we should try to change these habits if possible.
I don't think there's wrong with lusting after someone. That's basically what it is. It seems like you really wouldn't be interested or show interest if u didn't. U can lust after someone but be smart about getting to know them
Your words cut deeper than a knife. I've been protecting myself for a long time and dating no one, but recently I have been trying to search for love and get some dates with a guy. But I am not sure he is the right person for me, and I must admit that I feel like I've done a big MISTAKE choosing him. I was too desperate to be loved and to love. I am already tired of trying. I am an emotional wreck. You are right. That's why it's hurting me so much 😭😭😭
My dear I seek a healthy partner too but if your WOMEN intuition is telling you to go just leave him alone. It not easy way easier said then done but it so promising in the end focusing and growing from your lessons will lead you somewhere peaceful
Regarding#5. I met a man. He invited me somewhere(public place), and offered to take me. I thanked him for the offer, told him I have my own car, and that I do not get in cars with strangers. Buddy was offended. Years ago I would have missed that and kept engaging. NOW…I couldn’t cut him off fast enough. When a man has a problem with your boundaries …run
Holy dude! You cleared up a ton of confusion I’ve been experiencing lately! Thank you for your wise words and taking the time to share them. Profound ! This chat was exactly what I needed. I shared this with 5 of my gf’s ! You truly are a rare man kev. Nothing but appreciation and love for you. Monique
For me this vid emphasizes the need to see the unavailable person that you're dating. Cautioning you to wake up and shake yourself out of YOUR fantasy and start making moves away from the guy. Truly when Rev Kev says move on and get away from this guy, it is easier said than done (I repeat), but I think its necessary to save yourself from total annihilation which these broken and improperly raised men can do to you .Self preservation... Is the first law of nature and I believe me its natural to want a man that makes you feel whole. but at the same time he's detroying you as you envision his potential with you. He's not panning out or attending to your needs and desires. Believe me, I suffer with you.
Another Anointed video as usual, Kev. From experience, the drain happens Fast, Faster than we're prepared to process. The guy may reveal who he is Faster than we're ready to accept and manage. We may rationalize it as an accident or mistake and the guy needs time to come around. BIG Mistake. Believe him the first time, and get out.
You are appreciated kev. I surely would love to have had this knowledge in my younger years. But it's still very much needed now never too old to learn.
Wow, I REALLY needed to hear this... I have been feeling this way over the past few months- "burned out" & emotionally exhausted from what Kev just described- being SO disappointed from the results I've been getting in dating.... Yes, I am seeking an actual "relationship", but things are NOT working out, over & over again... A guy seems to be interested, but then ends up just dropping off & disappearing, feeling "rejected", feeling like I put forward MORE effort, etc, etc.... 😥 😞
Kevin! You’re a dating genius I love your videos. The topic of dating burnout among modern women is not traditionally covered by dating coaches. It’s a fantastic and much needed issue to address. Just one of the opening lines where you mentioned being sick of people who “breadcrumb and minimal effort you to death” made me feel a lot better. It really helped me to depersonalize it indeed since this must be a common issue. I found this video soothing and will probably watch it more than once, thank you!
Thanks for the great message. Its also really important when talking about strategy that these guys all have strategy... theyre usually not out here with heart on sleeve desperately wanting to love someone... theyre all playing. If you could do a video on the most common strategiea and tactics men use on women (even the good men) and how to spot, avoid and shut those down so we can more quickly tell who is the real deal and who actually wants us, thatd be helpful. Tyia.
5:25 I'd appreciate a video on this specific thing. What happens when you DO let this other person invalidate you, i.e. the effects on a woman, and how to lessen these effects after the fact. And if it happens again on a date, what to think to yourself while it's happening: like analyses you could do on possible things they say, and affirmations to give to yourself. For example, I've had guys bring up other "super hot" women they've been with or hooked up with recently to make me jealous (I'm guessing), talk down at me, condescend, patronize, and generally make me feel small and not enough. I almost cried after because they made me feel so bad. I did a lot of self work on this, but I'd like to hear you speak about it. Thanks. PS -I think your audience should know about Gavin DeBecker, Lundy Bancroft, and Dr. Alice Miller. The first 2 are male authors who wrote the standards on picking out abusive men (Why Does He Do That?; The Gift of Fear) based on their clinical work. Dr. Miller writes on childhood PTSD and how that could affect adult trauma (The Gifted Child). Your audience should also know to avoid Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk. His book The Body Keeps The Score is traumatizing to women and steals from Dr. Alice Miller's The Body Never Lies. His book is often recommended but people who don't know his history. He was also fired from his own clinic due to employee abuse.
Man, you know how you're like 1 hp in an fps game, and just as you're about to finish healing yourself up some random sniper finishes you off. That's how i feel atm. And that feeling is more devastating when you are so close to getting the win. It fucking sucks, but this video helped me understand what I've been doing wrong. Thanks a lot.
Stop meditating on these guys! WOW I’m older and thinking I definitely needed you around when I was younger! Keep up the good work your words are priceless!
I learned to do that a little while ago nd it's so liberating nd less time consuming! First thing is go to God and do what's necessary! Thanks for the reassurance Kev. Some of these men are pretending to look for something serious until you figure out they're not and call them on it so you can have a peace of mind to move on.
I made this mistake and failed 2 relationships. Both times the guy was not someone I thought he was. And those two were honest about themselves from the very start but I kept the fantasy alive na date them until I saw that heart breaking pattern in their behavior. It's not because they were bad guys. They both are still in contact with me and talk to me with respect. the fault was mine for creating the image of them as someone I wanted them to be.
All I can say about Kevin is he is a genius every woman should write his lectures in gold I am so happy to listen to all his lectures he is an absolute genius
Thank you so much, you really helped me. I came threw this video randomly , and that same day I was very disappointed/heartbroken by a guy who started dating another girl. But now I realize that I actually have NO IDEA who is really that guy. We have 200 streaks on snapchat but you know what? We never had a true conversation, I know nothing about him, his personality etc. And you want to know even more? I just realized that I only saw him 8 times since I met him 😂 We were friends but he was flirting low key the entire time, so I wanted to give him a chance. But now I realize that I was giving a chance to a STRANGER who was giving me 0 efforts. I know him for about half a year, but he never initiated plans/tried to know me more! We really need to wake up sometimes and after watching your video I Did. Thank you
Great casino analogy with not cutting your losses early. So true though. Ladies, yall really gotta do better in that. IJS. I see a lot that don't cut their losses early. Then I see a few that maybe cut off too soon...cause she's a runner...she cut off for little sh*t and small sh*t thats not even red flags...but to each their own. IJS
@@lizswanson426 Ma, relationships are not perfect...so Sh*t is Always gonna come up. Its how you handle it moving forward...in a relationship, dating or whatever. So I'm not sure why you acting like relationships gotta be perfect for. This isn't fairytale ma. This is real life. There's No Perfect Relationship. Issues and Problems will always arise. Like I said, as long as its not red flag issues, I will be able to handle it. But everybody is different in what they like and what they can handle or not handle. It is what it is
Positive and creation energy to you Sir. This was soo helpful. Thank you for insite. Would you be open to speaking on best brakeup/ cutoff practices? I have respectfully stepped back from a few interactions with men. And untimely had to block them in some way in order for them to respect my boundaries. I really don't care to have to go to such extreme lengths. It seems like I'm holding a grudge energetically. When, I'm not mad at all. I just don't want to continue to be contacted by the person going forward.
I personally think it's normal to daydream and think of scenarios with someone you're interested in. Men do it too. Just don't use those thoughts to dictate reality because you literally might not even know them.
DON'Ts:
1. Over compensating: Attracts lazy lovers
trying to maximum your effort to ignore your disappoint.
2. Taking the result personally
3. Letting your imagination taking control over your logic:
Daydreaming about people you don't even know/ meditating about them/ if you have to imagine, you don't even know him. Instead Deal with reality!!
4. Prepayment sexually, hoping you'll get love. Don't give too much too soon!
DO:
5. Cut unfit men off quicker.
Date intentionally, don't waste time with a lazy guy. Date with strategy.
Many people break their own hearts by loving a fantasy not the person that stands before them. Thank you for this.x
True 🙏
I did this every single time!
Never again 🙂
@@tlhogid663 I think we all have at some stage but some people never learn. My take? Lust is an instant infatuation from emotionally safe distant space. Love takes time, it unfolds as we peel back the layers of ourselves, getting closer and simultaneously expose our true selves to another. It's scary but freeing at the same time.
I diid this a couple of months ago, I knew better but I didn’t choose better. It was the fantasy for me the 6”4 dimples 230 , lusted for about 10 years but didn’t know really nothing about him. But I snapped out of that quick after the fact.
In love with a version I created in my head.
So pretty much don't give until they show something.
The relationship should be mutual. Just match the energy. Simple like that. If the energy isn't matching...then you know whats up.
Yep! Mannnnnnnnnn I bear trapped myself with these situations. 🙃🙃🙃
Damn, he cracked my glasses canaries with a rock hammer.
Yeah, they won’t give until you do. They MIGHT give to you even when you give to them.
We are no longer looking at potential. It’s either you’re ready or not.
Yep. We will not proceed 2022 with grown boys…
It went both ways with me. I've had sex too soon (not to just please them but to treat myself too) and still got disappeared on. And there's been times I withhold sex and they still lose interest and disappear.
Idk I can accept rejection but guys tend to play games and act like want me just to use me or play games.
I had dating burnout after using dating apps. Most of the men on there are never serious and just put on an act when they really just wanna play games or just hookup. I deleted all my dating apps and I've been doing better. In person guys tend to show interest (say hi, stare, or smile and keep going) sometimes but never approach me.
But now idc how long it's been since I've had sex, I'm not giving it up anymore for a guy to just play me afterwards. A moment of pleasure isn't worth the trauma that comes after. Idc if I never have sex again for the rest of my life, it is what it is.
Edit: I just came across your video you did a year ago about abstinence before commitment. You're right, u may come across f boys who still leave after withholding sex, but it's more disappointing and less traumatic. 👍🏾. I can see that.
I do think there is some men who will still look forward to getting to know u even if u have sex too soon, I've just never ran across those. And out of my 30 years I can only think of 3-4 male friends I had who were actually interested in me who didn't try to have sex with me or pressure me about it, so that was always a rare thing to find.
I totally understand this statement.
That’s exactly how I feel except I’m not even dating! I can’t even find anyone I like enough to date. Most men that are interested in me I’m not interested & the ones I’m interested in don’t seem to be interested or they just want sex. That’s exhausting enough w/o actually even dating.
Sameeeee
Yes!!!!
Thisss
He’s telling the truth. I’m in a situation with a guy who I am not interested in for many reasons. He came on too hard too fast. I tried to look past his desperation but I couldn’t. But he has very strong feelings for me and I asked him why. He couldn’t really answer because I have not earned that spot in his heart. Even though I’ve been genuine and honest about my feelings he is still trying to change my mind. I told him I was emotionally unavailable and too selfish to be in a relationship, and he said he didn’t care and he still wanted to be with me. Please people never be this desperate. Move on there are better people out there for you.
Tnx dearr
Aren’t you desperate too, to be with a person like this ?
I’m screaming sis 🤣🤣
EXACTLY!!! Stop Pre-paying men for Relationships. Please Stop This Ladies. IJS
Everyone should be dating with intention, but unfortunately that's not the case. That's how 💔 happen. I've had a lot of broken hearts myself, but I took time to work on myself and no more broken hearts here. This video is straight up good information and facts
This has to be one of the best pieces of content from you!! Makes so much sense.
Needed this. His excuse "I'm busy". People make time for what they want. Ain't nobody that busy. I'll be busy with the next.
Even friendship?
Thank you for this video. This just confirmed everything I am doing is right. I do cut low effort men off very quickly. I feel something is up, I question it up front and if I get a roundabout answer or not a straight forward answer, I am gone. Can't be doing with time wasters. I have family members constantly telling me that I ditch people far too quickly and that my dating strategy (the one you've just described, dating with a purpose) is wrong. Thank you for confirming that my dating with a purpose is correct and I am on the right track. Not felt the dating fatigue yet and I not going to. I know God has a husband in mind of me and he will send him to me. Thank you Kev! You're a star!
I had to learn these the hard ways and am at the burn out stage. Luckily I’m young (26) so I’m gonna take some time off, focus on myself, learn the game and jump back in when I’ve caught my wind lol. Thanks Kev. You’re the big brother I never knew I needed
That’s right honey take a breather and hit reset! Who knows after you do some self care you may attract exactly what your heart desires🥰 may the odds be in your favor.
I say this everytime but you really are like the big bro I never had❤️
I hear ya. I totally agree. But #3, a lot of us do...to a certain extent. Maybe not that deeply like saying I'm in love or whatever...but I've definitely asked the right questions...or so I thought...and she seem like she got Exactly what I'm looking for...for a nice good solid relationship....so yes, I did that before...seeing that possible future with them early on...instead of relaxing and staying in the moment...since its very early. My actions is...but my mind sometimes can't help but visualize and look to the future. Thats just how I am. But yes, I will work on not doing that with a potential mate. I realized that before. But I will do better next time...instead of just trying to do that. Thanks bro
I do the same
@@Noname19980 Yeah, just gotta get out of these bad habits. Some things are easier said than done. But if we know it can be a possible detriment to us...we should try to change these habits if possible.
Same
I don't think there's wrong with lusting after someone. That's basically what it is. It seems like you really wouldn't be interested or show interest if u didn't. U can lust after someone but be smart about getting to know them
Ladies we need to rewind and listen to this 3 times. Thanks for bringing this to our awareness Kevin.
Too late, Sweetheart! I've just listened to it five times in a row...and I am going to share it...and I'm going to listen five MORE times!🥂😂
I'm in burnout space from cutting them off early. Had me feeling like an ice queen dealing with so much disappointment over many years.
Your words cut deeper than a knife. I've been protecting myself for a long time and dating no one, but recently I have been trying to search for love and get some dates with a guy. But I am not sure he is the right person for me, and I must admit that I feel like I've done a big MISTAKE choosing him. I was too desperate to be loved and to love. I am already tired of trying. I am an emotional wreck. You are right. That's why it's hurting me so much 😭😭😭
WOW!!! Damn!!!
Wish you the best though.
@@jayc5756 thank you
@@thirteen7349 You're welcome
My dear I seek a healthy partner too but if your WOMEN intuition is telling you to go just leave him alone. It not easy way easier said then done but it so promising in the end focusing and growing from your lessons will lead you somewhere peaceful
Regarding#5. I met a man. He invited me somewhere(public place), and offered to take me. I thanked him for the offer, told him I have my own car, and that I do not get in cars with strangers. Buddy was offended. Years ago I would have missed that and kept engaging. NOW…I couldn’t cut him off fast enough. When a man has a problem with your boundaries …run
"Well, yes. Yes I can." 😍
- Kev Hicks
Don’t let no man get close to u ladies just meet them and keep on moving ❗️❗️ until someone proves❗️❗️ themselves
Holy dude! You cleared up a ton of confusion I’ve been experiencing lately! Thank you for your wise words and taking the time to share them. Profound ! This chat was exactly what I needed. I shared this with 5 of my gf’s !
You truly are a rare man kev.
Nothing but appreciation and love for you. Monique
Thank you for sharing with your girls sis! Bless!!! 🙏
For me this vid emphasizes the need to see the unavailable person that you're dating. Cautioning you to wake up and shake yourself out of YOUR fantasy and start making moves away from the guy. Truly when Rev Kev says move on and get away from this guy, it is easier said than done (I repeat), but I think its necessary to save yourself from total annihilation which these broken and improperly raised men can do to you
.Self preservation... Is the first law of nature and I believe me its natural to want a man that makes you feel whole. but at the same time he's detroying you as you envision his potential with you. He's not panning out or attending to your needs and desires. Believe me, I suffer with you.
Every video you post is another chapter of the book of my life ! Your videos make me realize what a burdened soul I've become through living life.
Hugs
Another Anointed video as usual, Kev. From experience, the drain happens Fast, Faster than we're prepared to process. The guy may reveal who he is Faster than we're ready to accept and manage. We may rationalize it as an accident or mistake and the guy needs time to come around. BIG Mistake. Believe him the first time, and get out.
You are appreciated kev. I surely would love to have had this knowledge in my younger years. But it's still very much needed now never too old to learn.
Wow, I REALLY needed to hear this... I have been feeling this way over the past few months- "burned out" & emotionally exhausted from what Kev just described- being SO disappointed from the results I've been getting in dating....
Yes, I am seeking an actual "relationship", but things are NOT working out, over & over again... A guy seems to be interested, but then ends up just dropping off & disappearing, feeling "rejected", feeling like I put forward MORE effort, etc, etc.... 😥 😞
Kevin! You’re a dating genius I love your videos. The topic of dating burnout among modern women is not traditionally covered by dating coaches. It’s a fantastic and much needed issue to address. Just one of the opening lines where you mentioned being sick of people who “breadcrumb and minimal effort you to death” made me feel a lot better. It really helped me to depersonalize it indeed since this must be a common issue. I found this video soothing and will probably watch it more than once, thank you!
Thanks for the great message. Its also really important when talking about strategy that these guys all have strategy... theyre usually not out here with heart on sleeve desperately wanting to love someone... theyre all playing. If you could do a video on the most common strategiea and tactics men use on women (even the good men) and how to spot, avoid and shut those down so we can more quickly tell who is the real deal and who actually wants us, thatd be helpful. Tyia.
I watch literally all your videos, but for some reason this was one of my favorites. 🥰So glad you’re touching on this
Whew! That record deal analogy! 🎤 drop 💃🏼🙌🏼
Burn out and bitterness is not the same. Keep up the good work Kevin you always keep it 💯💯
Burn out is the first stage then Bitterness sets in when you've become numb.
@@msve3730 yea I get it but some people are not set up like that
👏🏽 no fantasy thinking my goodness. That’s harder for us natural dreamers but so so necessary 💯
Can we have a vid on how to build strategy?
THANK YOU! I feel like I heard a big brother remind me of what everyone else in the family told me: you’re the prize.
Thanks again, Kev!
5:25 I'd appreciate a video on this specific thing. What happens when you DO let this other person invalidate you, i.e. the effects on a woman, and how to lessen these effects after the fact. And if it happens again on a date, what to think to yourself while it's happening: like analyses you could do on possible things they say, and affirmations to give to yourself. For example, I've had guys bring up other "super hot" women they've been with or hooked up with recently to make me jealous (I'm guessing), talk down at me, condescend, patronize, and generally make me feel small and not enough. I almost cried after because they made me feel so bad. I did a lot of self work on this, but I'd like to hear you speak about it. Thanks.
PS -I think your audience should know about Gavin DeBecker, Lundy Bancroft, and Dr. Alice Miller. The first 2 are male authors who wrote the standards on picking out abusive men (Why Does He Do That?; The Gift of Fear) based on their clinical work. Dr. Miller writes on childhood PTSD and how that could affect adult trauma (The Gifted Child). Your audience should also know to avoid Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk. His book The Body Keeps The Score is traumatizing to women and steals from Dr. Alice Miller's The Body Never Lies. His book is often recommended but people who don't know his history. He was also fired from his own clinic due to employee abuse.
Sorry, not sorry, to avoid dating burnout…don’t date. It’s easy for me. Old woman wisdom. 💛
That’s where I’m at.
I always have an issue with saying no it's like I'm trying too hard to please but I'm also tired how do you do it
Kev I love how you make you're points with elaboration then have this ability to wrap it up in less than 15 minutes without rambling!!
13:14 save your energy for better prospects...
You should just upload this weekly. Needed this glad I ran across it..
Discernment matters. If you have to try hard to make it fit why force it?
Man, you know how you're like 1 hp in an fps game, and just as you're about to finish healing yourself up some random sniper finishes you off. That's how i feel atm. And that feeling is more devastating when you are so close to getting the win.
It fucking sucks, but this video helped me understand what I've been doing wrong. Thanks a lot.
My pleasure 😇
Oh wow this is so eye-opening . Thank you Kev for sharing this painful yet valuable information. It is definitely the raw truth.
Stop meditating on these guys! WOW
I’m older and thinking I definitely needed you around when I was younger! Keep up the good work your words are priceless!
I learned to do that a little while ago nd it's so liberating nd less time consuming! First thing is go to God and do what's necessary! Thanks for the reassurance Kev. Some of these men are pretending to look for something serious until you figure out they're not and call them on it so you can have a peace of mind to move on.
Good topic. I'm fighting being burned out by it myself. 😔
I really needed this today. Thanks Kevin, I was literally saying myself that I was done...so burnt out!!
How I wish my best friend could understand English, your videos are very clear and your words do not sugarcoat the reality. Thanks Kev xx
Kevin is so wise! Love your channel, please continue your work and telling truth to women.
I made this mistake and failed 2 relationships. Both times the guy was not someone I thought he was. And those two were honest about themselves from the very start but I kept the fantasy alive na date them until I saw that heart breaking pattern in their behavior.
It's not because they were bad guys. They both are still in contact with me and talk to me with respect. the fault was mine for creating the image of them as someone I wanted them to be.
👏🏽🙌🏽…👏🏽🙌🏽…👏🏽🙌🏽…👏🏽
🤣 yep. I been tryin to tell em. Hopefully they listen to you. I hope you have a page for guys on how to treat women.
#3! So incredibly insightful! 🙌
Solid advice, as usual...thanks so much, Kev 💜
Disappointment is not the word.
All I can say about Kevin is he is a genius every woman should write his lectures in gold I am so happy to listen to all his lectures he is an absolute genius
This man is an expert. Love his advice. Very helpful.
Thank you so much, you really helped me. I came threw this video randomly , and that same day I was very disappointed/heartbroken by a guy who started dating another girl. But now I realize that I actually have NO IDEA who is really that guy. We have 200 streaks on snapchat but you know what? We never had a true conversation, I know nothing about him, his personality etc. And you want to know even more? I just realized that I only saw him 8 times since I met him 😂
We were friends but he was flirting low key the entire time, so I wanted to give him a chance. But now I realize that I was giving a chance to a STRANGER who was giving me 0 efforts. I know him for about half a year, but he never initiated plans/tried to know me more!
We really need to wake up sometimes and after watching your video I Did. Thank you
Great casino analogy with not cutting your losses early. So true though. Ladies, yall really gotta do better in that. IJS.
I see a lot that don't cut their losses early. Then I see a few that maybe cut off too soon...cause she's a runner...she cut off for little sh*t and small sh*t thats not even red flags...but to each their own. IJS
Little sh*ts & small sh*t is still SH*T. 🤣
Stop & miss them with the Sh*t altogether.
Move differently.
Move with purpose.
@@lizswanson426 Ma, relationships are not perfect...so Sh*t is Always gonna come up. Its how you handle it moving forward...in a relationship, dating or whatever. So I'm not sure why you acting like relationships gotta be perfect for. This isn't fairytale ma. This is real life. There's No Perfect Relationship. Issues and Problems will always arise. Like I said, as long as its not red flag issues, I will be able to handle it. But everybody is different in what they like and what they can handle or not handle. It is what it is
This hit me in my face hard!!!!!! Thank you!!!!!
Hard to hear, but true
Yes the volume is a bit low
I love your advice!! You’re awesome ☺️
Excellent kev
Thank you for making it so simple and clear where I'm going wrong. Best sound advice,I am willing to for the right guy who will value me.
How very right you. Thanks for this ♥️
I don't see my message to you. 🤔
POW 💥 Dang Kev, another hard hitter… truth a lot of us need to hear. Straight, no chaser.
Is anyone else sheading tears while watching this. Just me?
I enjoy listening to you I agree with you on this video 🤝🏼
I hope it helps too
This is good Kev!!! Amen
You’re skin looks great ❤️
Your*
Thanks for truth saying!!
Oh my goodness.. yes! Spot on again. Thanks Kev.
Very True Coach Kev,Thank u for dedicating yourself to help women 👏
It’s tight but it’s right Kev!
I have to take a break because it's too time consuming to keep constantly meeting or talking to new people
Positive and creation energy to you Sir.
This was soo helpful. Thank you for insite. Would you be open to speaking on best brakeup/ cutoff practices? I have respectfully stepped back from a few interactions with men. And untimely had to block them in some way in order for them to respect my boundaries. I really don't care to have to go to such extreme lengths. It seems like I'm holding a grudge energetically. When, I'm not mad at all. I just don't want to continue to be contacted by the person going forward.
This is good. Thank you. 💕🦁
Wow this vid was so helpful as purrr, saw this at the right time aswell.
Great message! 💜
I wish I would have gotten this advice 30 years ago. I'm burnt out and there is nothing that can relight my fire😓
Your biggest fun THE KOTIENs FAMILY thanks for your advice 😊
Thank you. Great information
this is a very important video.
This video is gold
Well put Kevin!!
Thank you so much
MAY God guide and protect you 🙏🙏
The realest information out here
Big facts!!! Thanks so much!
Sir Hicks, you are such a blessing 💖💖💖
All points taken but I love number 5
I needed to hear this
Thank you soooo much Kev! FACTS..
I personally think it's normal to daydream and think of scenarios with someone you're interested in. Men do it too. Just don't use those thoughts to dictate reality because you literally might not even know them.
Good Stuff!!
Wisdom!!! 💯 Thank you for this video!!
Lord he was speaking to me
Excellent topic and fantastic advice. X
Great video topic!
Ouch on #3😩😩😩😩🙏🏿😩😩😩😫!
It is true. Thank you 🙏🤗❤️