The fact he didn't even realize his daughter was on track to win some prestigious award, something that more than likely would be talked about very frequently, says volumes about his involvement in her life
OP, 1) at 32 has affair with 20-yr old. 2) does not tell her he is married with a child. 3) divorces wife for the affair partner 4) gives daughter's college fund to new wife 5) hides from his wife where that money came from 6) Rubs this in his daughter's face when he could just have denied that such a fund ever existed But he is surprised that his life blows up in his face!!!!!!
@@VanityZERO Okay, I'll give him that much. Though, in some ways, that makes it worse. He created an expectation in his new wife that they could play happy families. An expectation she probably would not have had if she knew what was actually going on.
@@VanityZERO he told her about the daughter because he can’t lie about having a daughter lol. You can’t hide her, you CAN hide the fact that your married long enough for the new girl to be so in love that she’s stuck in a hard place and hope she just forgives and forgets. What a coward
@@TheDelethar I see what you're saying, but yes, he could've hid his daughter. LG's latest video is even about how a man hid two separate families from each other and there are plenty of other stories like that on this channel and Reddit. Only reason he didn't hide his daughter is because he was shopping for a new mom/wife for her and himself. He even said as much. Which is of course, horrible and disgusting. I can't even with this OP.
@@gaaraxnaru it takes guile and balls to cover up having a daughter for a significant amount of time, neither of which this dude has. Tho you’re right it can be done, just not by this quack.
I cant believe he expected a pre-teen to know what they wanted to do with their life and used that as an excuse to take her college fund, what a crap parent!
I know this is 2 years old but- I know right?! I thought when he was talking about her not wanting to go to college that his daughter was almost graduating - to learn she has several more years of school left before she graduates really hit home what a dick her dad is. He had a fund and used it on his new wifey then rubbed it into daughter’s face when she was trying to connect with her dad about stuff going on and include him in future planning then says she started making a scene after he told her? What a jackass.
More likely, he doesn't really know his daughter. Doesn't know her likes or interests or plans or school progress. How come did he not know she was up for a science reward?🤔 Beauty school? She probably said that to provoke him, and noticed that he didn't care or react. 🙄
"She has to accept my wife as family" No she doesnt. You married your wife. You chose that. She doesnt have to accept YOUR wife as HER family. Shes not.
I don't understand how he figures showing his daughter what a disrespectful jerk he is by cheating would make he and his daughter even closer. Even though my mom was an abusive POS I still was protective of her when she was in my life. Also, the stepmom is either really dumb, or he's lying. But fr, I wish my stepmom had wanted me 😂
@@J_e_s_s And I figured out that when the daughter “hated her mom”, she was about 12 or 13. Strife between mothers & daughter isn’t unheard of during pre-teen/teenage years. He took her 13yo “I want to be a cosmetologist because college is dumb” as fact; I wouldn’t be surprised if he had taken an “I hate you!” during an argument as proof that he is her best friend, and she hates her mom with all her heart. And I have such a hard time believing that his wife was toxic and abusive based solely on the fact that OP thinks _he_ is the good guy whose “heart is in the right place” and “loves his daughter and doesn’t resent her at all”. I am truly curious what “toxic” looks like to him because I have discovered that toxic people LOVE to call the person confronting them the toxic ones.
he probably thinks it was toxic that his ex-wife didnt drop everything she worked hard for to scramble back to the place she was lonely and miserably in for his sake. She endured it for years, he couldn't even do one before starting the guilt-trip. He's so emotionally immature its painful.
I like how he says how wonderful she is yet she was cheating with a married man?? OP said she didn't know at first, yet when she found out all was forgiven, yeah your wife's a real peach OP.
His mental gymnastics could win him the olympic gold medal. Seriously. How do you rationalize lying to everyone, and then still try to play the victim... Just wow.
Met someone like him before, he was an absolute spineless little man that is to say he had a small mind (allegedly by him he has a baby carrot too, long story on that one) in a big body. He would lie constantly even about the most insignificant things he couldn't realize or maybe he didn't care how much he hurt everyone around him with his baleful tongue because he always tried to play victim. On more than one occasion when he was caught in a lie he tried to change the subject and shift the blame onto his younger brother, he knew he couldn't try that shit with me and learned quick I wouldn't let him get away with trying it on his younger brother. Even still in a separate conversation his brother sent me he was trying to berate him for not going through with his lies. People like this are to be kept at an arms length at minimum.
Refuses to accept it even after his family, the entire Reddit community and even his current wife, literally everyone points out to him, why and how he is wrong…. He still goes “it doesn’t feel like I am wrong”…. He is not here to ask for advice, he posted this to get validation for his wrong actions, which (surprise!) he didn’t get, so he’s still rambling on
And condescendingly says 'She'll get a scholarship _if she's so smart.'_ as the response when he refused to believe that a child's opinion on further education could (gasp!) _change_ as they matured & developed a more realistic view of their possible future. He took that 'She said she wants to be a makeup artist' thing (coupled with his apparent lack of any current knowledge of her as a person) & ran with it as some sort of BS justification. Just the _worst_ sort of person.
@@KyrieChii yeah, kid barely teen talks about what she wants when she grows up and he takes that as sure thing. That age you have your life decided maybe for a day and prob have plans for tomorrow. Daughter and new wife has smaller agegap than OP and wife. New wife was barely legally adult when they started dating and he expects her to be treated like mother? She also continued relationship with married man so no, she isn't innocent and saint. But at the least now she is starting to realize what pathetic loser she has married. A man who blames everyone else for his own screwups.
@@duckeh1952 Yeah, I'm definitely not going to 'defend' OP's new wife. She became wrong when she decided to keep seeing OP after he finally admitted he was cheating on his wife. But I will say that it looks like she had very little idea what a mess she was walking into. She didn't seem at all happy with his taking the daughter's college fund, I do believe her that he wasn't open with her about that when he offered it to her. I think she's starting to realize how dishonest, manipulative & self centered this guy is. Maybe she can get out before any more children are dragged into it.
I gave my daughters college fund to the women I cheated with and now I’m threatening to take away the rest if she doesn’t start treating her like family. I don’t know why she doesn’t love my wife like I do.
OP also married a woman who is much younger and close to his daughter's age. Anyone sane will not accept an affair "mother" who is nearer to her age than her dad's. It's literally common sense. Also the OP actually expects a young teen of 14 years old to decide on her future to determine whether to take away her college fund, and she is now only roughly 16 years old. The father doesn't live in reality and expects everything to goes his way or his mentality.
Remember hearing this story earlier but without all the updates and the ex-wife's story, thanks Lost Genre. So the ex-wife moved for him and his job for almost a decade and then when it came time for her to achieve her life goals of becoming a doctor he became a whiny, little brat. Uses that to justify having an affair. Lied to the affair partner/new wife in the beginning by not telling her about his marriage. Then he lied/misled her again by taking his daughter's college fund to use on the mistress/wife. Whatever thin, tiny relationship those 2 ever had or could have had OP destroyed, burnt to the ground and salted the earth. No wonder the mistress/wife left his butt. Honestly it's rare to say this but everyone including the mistress/wife deserve better than this man.
@@MrJpaynebbthat is is so true. the mistress/wife is clearly one of the victims basing on the fact that he crumpled and stomped on the foundation of any relationship, trust. He showed that he cannot be trusted in more than one occassion
Near the beginning of this post, as soon as OP wrote, _"she took her mom's side"_ I instantly KNEW he was resentful of his daughter not "taking his side" and "not accepting" his affair partner. It's like he's actually trying to JUSTIFY why giving away money earmarked for his _child_ to his mid-life crisis is 'okay'. This guy is AWFUL and deserves to be alone.
This man is weird. At one point it seemed like he tried to replace his affair partner as a mother figure over her own mother just because she's his ex-wife. What? Why did he think people were going to accept the 20 year old affair partner of a 32 year old man?
OP was 18-20 when he had his daughter and then decided to get another 20 year old because he wanted a do-over family. He's such a great father he didn't know his daughter was smart and an honor student? He took the word of a 12 year old about what she wanted to do for the rest of her life and made a decision her college fund on that? Good lord 🙄
My jaw freaking DROPPED when he said that. How can people like this possibly justify their behavior?? I can't even be mad at the AP, she didn't have nearly enough life experience to know how messed up this all is. He probably played the whole, "Oh, my marriage is already over, I'm so unhappy, we don't love each other anymore, so this affair isn't really that bad," narrative on her.
@@BitterSimplicity And that's why she packed up her crap and went back to Mom! She's a bonafide lawyer and can get a fantastic divorce lawyer and nail this stupid OP to a cross, turn it upside down - ans keep shaking until she pulls the lint out of his pockets!
Ok everyone is rightfully roasting op on the affair and college fund, but can we also appreciate how he apparently knew so little of his daughter that he didn't even realize she was doing well at school?!
Wait, wait, wait...So his new wife used to be his mistress? That's what I got from this story. And he's mad because his daughter took her mother's side. Really? Geez! He's a real a-hole!
@@damaris4630 I mean that I feel bad that he met her standards. And that she fell into the trap as well. What she did was messed up, but at least we know she had limits.
Not just his mistress but she was fresh out of high school 20 years old at the time and he paid for her college with his daughters college fund. His daughter was a 12 at the time when he did it expecting a 12 year old to know exactly what they want to do with their lives is not reality.
Isn't it crazy how much he has degraded his daughter on his posts and put his co-cheater barely adult new wife to a pedestal? Tells you who he really is.
Let me get this straight. He: - called his daughter a little B for not liking his affair partner. - held her college fund for ransom until she acted the way he wanted towards his AP. - took the career ambitions of a 12-13 year old girl as concrete and argued when two years later she changed her mind and started working towards a college degree. - Lied to his daughter and his new wife by using her college fund to pay for his wife's studies without either's consent or knowledge. And wondered if he was an Ahole? The lack of empathy is downright appalling. He doesn't see these women beyond the ideals and stabdards he sets for them. Fuck their own emotions and perspectives, they should be vibrant and young and thankful for the things I did for and to them.
YEP! You put it perfectly. I also love how he just assumes his daughter was stupid and probably failing school because she didn’t enjoy it. NO ONE ENJOYS SCHOOL AT THE TIME! And then the antagonistic line, “if my daughter’s *really* so smart she can get a scholarship.”?! Wow OP. Who’s the teenager here again? He can’t even stop calling his own daughter names!
The stepmother is, what, 6 years older than the daughter? THEYRE closer in age than the OP and his second wife!! And he took a 14 year old's word that she wanted to go to makeup school and that college is stupid as justification for giving away her college fund????
“Please hear me out” (proceeds to explain how he’s even worse than what I first thought.) OP is a terrible father and should never live down what he’s done
He keeps claiming that he and his daughter are close but clearly has no idea what is actually going on in her life. As the AP, her relationship with the daughter was never going to be good and you can't force that. She is closer in age to the daughter than him for crying out loud! You wanna know why she and her mom fought? Probably because she's the only one who was acting like a parent!
OP: “I’m no longer going to take away my daughter’s college money.” Also OP: “My daughter won’t get the college money until she apologizes to my AP and accepts her as her family.” This guy is giving me so much whiplash that I could be technically decapitated
He's written a whole fantasy tale where he did nothing wrong and no one is hurt and they are all one big happy family, anyone and anything that doesn't fit that narrative is wrong. So that's just par for the course, I'm not taking something from her (because that would be ME doing something bad), she just cant have until she plays by my rules (so it will be her fault she doesn't get it, plus he gets to spin it as him defending his new wife).
He's a manipulator and I'll be honest I wouldn't be surprised if he was an abuser of some sort. He's trying very hard to paint a pretty picture to hide the bad. and the more he talks the more is revealed.
If daughter only has 3 years left in high school, then she's almost 16, which means the custody agreement means nothing. OP doesn't seem to get this. But its his own daughter who revoked his visitation, NOT ex. He won't be able to contest it because the daughter herself will refuse. That's what happens when you play games.
He seems to have a high paid job as a technician. I really wonder about that. His post is full of illogical association and lack of intelligence while thinking he is smart enough to gaslight the reader. Why did he even post? For his own ego? Did he want a pat on the back? Nothing gets through to him and he is just so delusional about himself I wonder if he is always like that and if so, how do people at his working place put up with him?? He doesn't care about his daughter. I don't believe that for a second. He is all about apparency and how he looks to others. This custody nonsense is again about his ego.
I think he's probably more concerned about having to pay child support than having actual custody or a relationship with his daughter, at this point. He honestly seems to have emotionally washed his hands of her completely, & is just saying what he hopes will sway people's opinions. Maybe his attitude towards his own kid has even caused his new wife to rethink the relationship.
I seriously wish his ex wife would start a gofundme for her daughter so I could help donate to her college fund. I’d happily pay as much as I can so she didn’t have to see her toxic “dad” ever again
I’m so surprised that daughter doesn’t accept the woman who went to college at daughter’s expense. She doesn’t “deserve” her college fund? You can’t “gift”something that belongs to someone else.
I agree, but the daughter can't demand something that belongs to someone else. The daughter isn't entitled to a college fund. I think the daughter should just cut the dad off and live a much better life.
@@RT42-v6z Actually, depending upon the jurisdiction, college funds belong to the child/recipient. It's why in these jurisdictions, when it is clear that a parent is stealing money from that fund, a judge can demand the money to be returned. If OP lives in a jurisdiction where this is considered theft, he will be in a lot of legal trouble. However, I do agree with you. Daughter should cut this toxic POS from her life. He degrades her constantly, even in his post you can see how vile and toxic he is. 'if my daughter is so smart', implying that he thinks that his daughter is stupid and just had these stupid dreams that have become a nuisance to him.
@@RT42-v6z it depends on the way it’s set up and where the person lives. I have RESPs that are set up for my children and tied to their SIN cards. So while, if I really wanted to, I could access some of the money, there’s a chunk of it that I couldn’t and only they can use for school.
This jerk is a total narcissist. Everything is about him. His daughter is better off without him. And it's too bad for him that she has him all figured out. I hope the best for the daughter. You have a bright future.
I showed my dad this story, and he was pissed off at the dad and for the daughter. My dad has a gf, and I am in college and he said he could never imagine giving away my college fund for anything or anyone, unless I give permission in an emergency (extremely needed medical kind of emergencies). He also called this dad a POS who doesn’t deserve to have a kid in his life if he will treat his daughter like that.
I’m a mom and the only way I could imagine giving up my kids’ college funds to my boyfriend is if it was a dire financial need. I did have to stop putting away money for the college funds for a bit because we ran into financial hardships and once we’re out I will start saving again, but never once did we pull money from them that was already saved.
Its confusing to me cuz I love my daughter more than anyone or anything in this world even more than my mom and I'm a mommy's boy. She use to always ask me when she was little how much I love her and I always tell her that I would face a grizzly bear head on and fight like a madman just to give her the time to get away. I've since come to realize not all parents love there kids this way.
Dont even have kids and im pissed this man was allowed to breed. He reminds me of my sperm donor. Mom and him broke up when she found out she was pregnant but he decided he would just keep threatening my mom with taking me away in order to get out of child support when he got his fancy new job and the payments went up. Between that and the controling abuse he doesnt get why i refuse to see or call him. I had to see him over the holidays cuz he was at my grandparents house but im cool going another 11 yrs without seeing him.
The first story was tough to hear. My dad - one of the kindest, most supportive people I’ve ever known - was my best friend from my college years until he passed away. It’s so horrible to know that there’s a terrible dad out there who deludes himself into thinking that he has the kind of relationship with his daughter as Daddy and I *actually* shared.
I do like how the new wife did call the ex-wife to say hey you need to put your daughter's college fund into account that this jerk doesn't have any access to. Sad that she cares more for the daughter than the dad.
Sadder still that Mom refused it. Talk about putting you hate for the other child above your love for your own child. That is the biggest red flag WRT Mom.
@@adriancarrillo2749 no doubt she is far from a saint. I said elsewhere that I hope she fails the ethics portion of the Bar review after she graduates if she doesn't immediately divorce this guy for pulling this garbage.
@@groofromtheup5719 I didn’t take it that way. Mom is a doctor, so if she wants to pay 45k herself to put her kid through school so that her daughter doesn’t have to deal with strings from her toxic father that sounded like a good call to me. There was never the impression that the daughter was going to be denied her schooling, just that mom would handle it.
I remember this guy. The part that really gets me is that after all that he actually threatened to try to force his daughter to spend more time with him. How dense can someone be?!
@@Jerseybytes2 Honestly, if the account wasn't nuked, it seems Viktor would have already posted a new update where his new wife divorced him, given that she seemed to have enough of his bs in Viktor's final post.
@@fabiocandelori9163 if what he said about her was legit and not just sugarcoating for the sake of making his choice look better, then I really wish the best for the affair wife, clearly he lied to her about being married and about the money which wasn’t his but for his daughter, I think she’s as much a victim of OP as his ex and daughter, really hope she got to dump him for someone 100x times better
Stolen College Fund: My father cheated on my mom (at least 4 times that we’re aware of)…when I met the AP that he left mom for…I didn’t hold back and made sure that piece of garbage knew what I thought of her. I made her cry. My father was furious…but I smiled at seeing her in pain. I know that was wrong. But I don’t care.
As someone who also has a narc father, I just hope that Rachel knows she's stronger than she thinks she is and that cutting him off is a good choice. They never do change or get better. I wish you nothing but luck for the bright future you have ahead of you. Also, the fact a 32 year old man is going after a 20 year old is such a huge red flag. There's certain circumstances where I think big age gaps are fine, but that's not one of them. I hope the wife drops him too.
It sucked SO much to see Rachel's mother saying her idiot POS father's treatment of her has caused her emotional consequences. The poor kid has already been through so much because her Dad is a selfish tool.
OP's wife could be a great friend to his daughter - yeah, because they are almost the same age. I hope the best for his daughter despite her toxic father.
@@pepper922 No arguments here. And while she will _always_ be wrong for continuing to see someone who kept her in the dark about the fact that he was married, then chose to stay with him after, she really doesn't seem to like how he's treated his daughter, & I don't think she accepted that money with ANY knowledge that it was daughter's college fund. I do think she was genuine in wanting to return what she could & being angry with OP. She's no saint & I'm not defending her beyond this, but I do think she actually cares & knows her husband is (& always has been) wrong.
This! I was hoping the last update would be him saying something like “my wife is divorcing me now, are you all happy!?” I’d have been like, yeah, extremely actually
This guy is a piece of work. All grievance and no responsibility for his actions. “I did everything right and these other people are horrible and deserve what they get.”
Aw poor op, why can’t his daughter and the world forgive him already for betraying his family, lying to his side piece, force a happy family image on his daughter and not expect her to retaliate against the man and woman who broke her family, give away his daughter college fund to his new woman without telling anyone because she “deserved it more”, prove on and on again how much he resents his daughter and loves his new woman over her, and just overall be a shitty human being. Yeah, I hope he ends up alone.
I think its worse then that, he wants to believe that he did and is doing nothing wrong, and absolutely refuses to believe anything other to that. Thus they should be all one happy family by default. Any decision he's made that has bad outcomes is because someone else misled him (last I knew she probably wouldn't even get to collage, let along an advanced degree), or was just meant to be (he didn't mean to groom and have an affair with someone almost half his age). Which is standard romance movie BS whenever an existing relationship gets discarded.
I don’t believe a single thing he said about how his wife was tormented. The fact that he’s an extremely unreliable narrator alone is enough for me to not 💯 believe what he wrote.
It’s been over a year and I feel like I need an update. Did Victor finally pull his head out of his a$$? Did his daughter get a college fund? Did Victor’s sweet new wife wise up about the man she was sleeping with and leave him because of all his lies? The world may never know…
so, dude cheats on his wife with a 20 year old (sketchy!!), marries her, then gives the college fund intended for his daughter to his ap? also disparages his daughters intelligence every chance he gets? but he has such a great relationship with his daughter and he's such a great person. whatever he's on, i want it, because it is one hell of a trip.
The fact his ex has full custody tells us everything we need to know. Courts don't just do that unless one parent literally cannot take care of the child, or the kid flat out refuses to stay with that parent. So either way, he's a shit dad even without the new issue of the fund.
It is also possible he didn't even fight and just wanted to ride off into the sunset with his shiny new 20yo wife, dude is like if cringe was an actual person, no matter the spin he proceeds to explain what a shit human he is.
@@AAJillSandwich Very true, but no sane person would ever give a child to OP, from the moment he opens his mouth out come red flags, the post didn't even read like a man in his thirties, more like a very entitled teen with a shaky grasp of reality outside himself.
@@mackenzieramdeen849 OP seems like a neglectful parent to say the least Id agree the daughter is better off with the mother. My point in my original comment is that the courts have no issue taking children away from good father's and giving them to bad mothers or worse. So no these custody decisions have little to no regard of the competency of the parents in a lot of cases.
@@AAJillSandwich not when the child is old enough to tell the court with whom they choose to stay. Usually before age 8, the court would more lean giving the right to the mom unless it can be proven the mom unfit. I assumed OP child is old enough to actually say to the court which parent she want to stay with.
It sounds like the second wife is not a bad person. She didn't know he was married until after they got together, and gave him the business, and even left him when she found out about the college fun fiasco!
Eh, I'll give to her that she doesn't seem to be utterly rotten to the core, but she stayed after finding out she was the other woman, I wouldn't call it being a "good person".
@@fabiocandelori9163 Meh she would have been 22. When I was 22, I totally would have bought into the tragedy of sad older man enduring a dead marriage and who met me and was transformed like a romance novel. I was dumb and totally believe that other young ladies might be just as stupid
@@fabiocandelori9163 not a good person, per se, just not really a bad one either. She definitely made mistakes herself, but attempted to correct the worst ones.
@@meganfenton856 Agreed. When OP mentioned that she was thinking of leaving over him using the daughters college fund on her and was actively trying to give it to the daughter despite OP telling her not to, I thought that the wife was actually okay. OP lied to her multiple times about huge things. I wonder how many other things he's lying about to her. To all of them.
My dad would never betray me like that; but he's an actual dad not a walking talking midlife crises funding his dating life by stealing from a child, his child!
My dad took half my paycheques throughout high school and put them away in my fund. No matter how much I fought with my step mom he never threatened to take my money away from me because it’s MY money!
He was 32... That was not a "mid-life crises"... It's just that he's that kind of Narcissist. Only in it for himself, and delusional as to his own motivations... And will never change anything but partners.
I remember this story, his new wife didn't know any of this, is divorcing him and apologized about the money, I think she was divorcing him too. She felt like shit because she was under the impression he just had money sitting around and wanted her to use it, she had no idea it belonged to his daughter and was never told that. Edit: I never heard the exes story though, I feel so bad for her.
Remember, the golddiger of his wife had no problems accepting the money of his daughter. "I didn't know" is bs bc she only cared when she faced the consequences.
My e got upset when our daughters didn't send his wife a mother's day card! He wasn't even with her until they were both past 17! And never lived in the same house.
On the other hand, OR Shouldn't worry. Very soon he will have no women bothering him. Cos the "wife" will disappear as well as soon as she's through law School.
@@ditzyhere3138 depending on the state as young as 10 have a say on where they go. Shes 14 and hates him and his wife. Hes going to have to prove his ex wife is abusive and have more money than her to win that legal fight.
That was a ride lol That guy seriously needs help - that level of ignorance is one step away from being mental. Good for the daughter that she does not need to rely on daddy for money
Of course the daughter wouldn't go with him. She idolized him and he essentially betrayed her trust. Now he's confused about why being a petty douche is messing up his life. He was "honest" about the college fund to get back at her. That's it.
Ugh. Every section read, you can see just how little OP gave a shit about his daughter. Like, even when she was 12/13 and said she wanted to be a make up artist, he belittled that as if it wasn't anything. The poor girl had to see that her father ripped apart the family for someone that was barely older than her and was being forced by him to accept her, or suffer the consequences. Then to find out that hey, she had a lot of serious dreams that required private school as well, and- what was that? She HAD a college fund, but because she was hurt by what her dad did, he gave it to his new wife? Of course she wouldn't want to touch it after that. It sounds like the new wife/AP was horrified after finding out the entire truth. SHE tried to get the money moved into hands of people that actually cared about Rachel. It was the ex wife's choice (and daughter's) to reject it, but at least she made the attempt! There's no way the OP stays married through all of this.
Wait til his new wife gets a job and he starts getting "depressed" and goes out to get a new wife. How do we publicly identify POS? New wife should RUN.
Wait until wife has her law degree paid for by the sugar daddy and looks around and realizes she can do a lot better than a mid 30s guy with a daughter and mother that hates her.
The dad says he doesn’t hold it against his daughter, but he very clearly does. And if he is so close with his daughter, why doesn’t he know anything about how she’s doing at school
He stated that when he was out with his daughter he told the "truth about the college fund", I had to ask myself why? But, after listening to this entire story his updates and his ex-wife's side of this story, I got my answer. It was to punish his daughter for not picking him in the divorce. Whether anyone realize it or not, I believe that is the reason for all his actions after the divorce and his marriage to this young woman who is studing to be a lawyer. And, wife #2 ( and his future wives because there will be future wives) should take note on how self centered, he shows himself to be what you see him doing now to his ex wife and daughter, he will do to you and any children you have with him.
Probably something the second wife caught on to. I kinda forgive her her first mistake (forgiving him after learning that she was being stringed along as the affair partner) and when she saw the second attempt to manipulate everyone it sounds like she called it quits.
Second wife sounds as a decent person, fresh out of high-school no less, she has her entire life ahead of her and dumping this AH will be the best decision imo. I mean she even tried to get along with his EX FOR FUCKS SAKE, how many people do that? Hell i think even the EX, although dislikes her for what she represents (the AP), but doesnt resent her as a person since she didnt even know that she was an AP.
Wow, how can that dad not see how him cheating on his then wife (mom of his daughter) would affect the daughter. 'OH I'll cheat and dump my wife and my daughter will be so happy and we can be a loving family with my new wife'... Sorry dude, you are delusional and things do not work out that way. You should of thought of how your daughter would react before hand. Sounds like your current wife is nice, but this is coming from you who can't see how this whole thing affected your daughter. You and your daughter need to go to counseling. Do not 'punish' your daughter for what you did and caused to happen.
I know! It’s so messy, but the *drama* of it all is addicting! It’s like watching a train wreck. You feel like you’re not supposed to be looking at this, but you just can’t turn away and stop watching as someone’s world burns.
Let's put it this way 'AITA for cheating on my wife and giving away my daughter's college fund to the new hot young 😺 so that she can pursue law at the expense of my daughter's future'. This man is so NOT involved in his daughter's life that he didn't even know that his daughter has an inclination for science, won scholarship and awards and grew out of MUA phase. I mean how would he know he is busy with his new hot young chick. Edit: Yeah, same age old tactic some men used. If your wife call you out on your bs call her toxic and crazy.
The funny part to me is that he could have just said that he had a small college fund for her, and never said anything about taking money out to pay for the wife's law school. He's such an idiot, he alienated his daughter when it wasn't necessary.
I love how he then puts conditions on the money, after already being told he is an asshole that "she has to apologize to my wife and try to be a family" she really doesn't. I would never accept money from a dad like that, you know he will hold it over her head forever.
.... Oh my god. This story is insane and I'm horrified. "My heart is in the right place!" He deserves everything he's getting and more. His daughter is never going to forgive him and it looks like his AP-turned-wife is starting to realize who she actually married. He's a garbage human being (she's no saint either, but it seems like she seriously had no idea where this money came from). It's a shame that there's almost zero chance he'll come back to fill us all in on how is life spirals out of control after this. He was living in a delusion and it finally caved around him. Maybe the ex, who posted her story at the end, will let the world know after.
Some will say “you should feel sorry for her because she was 20 when they met” but to that I say “Bull!” because even after she _knew_ he was married she not only stayed but also married him. I’m not saying she deserves *ALL* the hate she’s getting but she’s not getting any of my sympathy, maybe this will teach her to focus on her studies instead of chasing after the next guy to fix her obvious daddy issues? 😒😒😒
@@LadyLeomon Yeah, exactly. Most kids are raised to know that cheating is a major no-no and if they dated in school, chances are they or someone they knew had to deal with it. By staying with him after finding out he was already married, she went from unwitting affair partner to homewrecker (though OP was far worse in that regard, since it was his home he was wrecking and he showed absolutely no remorse).
his heart or more like his dick is in the right place, he has a thing for 20 year olds, hes a creep and is justifying his bad behaviour. this is insane on so many levels.
Dude, if your own mother has given up on you, there's hardly any hope anyone else could have on you "if she's so smart, why doesn't she get a scholarship" And I pray to God, she gets a new and real father too!! What an absolute pos
"I didn't tell her I was married, but I didn't feel like I was" mmmmm but legally you were and as far as your then wife was aware, you absolutely were. Being depressed and "not feeling" like you're married isn't an excuse. "My wife isn't an AH" if she hadn't known she was an affair partner I'd be more willing to cut her some slack, but she _did_ know. She was fully aware and chose to stay, so yes, she's an AH too, the only reason she isn't as much of one as OP is because she was _20_ when he was _32_ so I'm not going to go as hard on her. Edit: Bro if she didn't know she even had a fund then that was your chance to _not say anything._ You would still be an AH, but at least you wouldn't have hurt your daughter by blatantly telling her that you picked your affair partner over her in terms of whose future you decided to support. You decided to screw over your _child_ who is still _young,_ in school, and unable to get a full time job in favor of an _adult_ who is _older,_ out of school, and perfectly capable of getting a full time job but just didn't want to, and then you _told your daughter about it_ and you have the _AUDACITY_ to call her bitter and try to take away what little money she has left in her college fund.
Laughing about ex wife's post (not at her). So they move for Victor and even though it's taking a toll on her mental health he doesn't want to leave because he likes it there, then they move for her and she's getting better, but because now he's unhappy, she has to uproot everything in order to care for him? Typical narcissistic behavior, doesn't care if it affects others but if it affects them then it's a problem that needs immediate attention and fixing.
To be fair to the new wife, she seemed quite reluctant to take the money even to begin with (start of the story, even before she knew where the money was coming from, he had to convince her to let him fund her education). It also sounds as though he only told her after the divorce, so she was probably still angry but no longer the affair partner but just a girlfriend (I.e. she was never actively the affair partner, he stringed her along too). The only part it does get really iffy is the accepting it after learning that her stringed her along as his affair partner, I am a bit more forgiving of that but I do understand the revulsion.
Also, the whole you're-too-dumb-to-get-into-college thing! OMG, the update only made it worse!!!!! She was 20, OP was 32, and he omitted the fact that he was married?!?!?!? OP broke up his family. His daughter is acting like a grieving 14 year-old, but OP wants her to be more mature than he is. And he just KEEPS GOING!!!!! Wow! What a complete AHat!
I’m sorry but the new wife is just as crappy as OP. She married him KNOWING he was cheating on his wife. That’s why she’s so nice because she knew she was wrong. I don’t care how young you are, 5 year olds can tell you cheating is wrong. The July smart thing she did was leave. I guarantee you OP would have done the same to her. She would become a lawyer, have to work insane hours and he would complain just as he did in his first marriage. He’d cheat on her and then say something like “you’re always working, I don’t even feel like we’re married anymore”. To quote Dr. Phil “if they’ll do it WITH you, they’ll do it TO you.
I(early 50's) lost my family exactly one week after my 12th bday. The following week, my dad asked me what would I think about him having a girl friend. After I got home, I asked my mama if dad had been cheating. Her eyes got huge. That was all I needed to see to know the truth. My dad married three days after the divorce. I wasn't invited. My dad and step mom are still married. I did forgive my dad, because, well he is my dad. I have ALWAYS kept pleasant attitude. After they married, I no longer could see my dad without step mom. It was hard, but I'm here to say, I can be proud of myself for not engaging their drama that step mom tried to start. After the divorce, my mama moved on with her life and never looked back even tho my step mom on 2 occasions tried to get my mama in drama. I have the best mama who NEVER spoke ill of either one of them. She stood tall and never let the divorce stop her. This story brought back some hard feelings and all I can say is the daughter HAS every right to be angry. OP, you are an idiot. After seeing all the responses that called you on your BS, you still don't get it. You will never get it.
I’d not forgive him for being a piece of shit. You do that and they never learn. Besides who cares if he’s your dad. Blood don’t mean shit when it’s connected to trash.
@@serpentinewolf7085 Our definition of trash is different. One's who learn from their mistakes are not trash. The dad in this story does not have the ability to see beyond his own face. After 30 years I am thankful I was able to get past the mistakes of my dad. Im glad I didn't live with anger and hate. These are wasteful and would have ONLY hurt me. I will never let those who have TRIED to hurt me EVER see that it did.
@@pauletteandvincentforbes8806 I just wouldn’t be stupid to let those that hurt me or my loved ones (especially that bad) back into my life. They ain’t shit and don’t deserve it. If I mattered to them 1/100 what they did to me they wouldn’t have done that. Some man thinking with his penis doesn’t deserve “second chances”. He can get that with the broad he cheated with.
Also, the only reason he wouldnt tell his wife where the money came from is if he knew on some level that it was wrong and that she’d have an issue with taking it. The fact he lied to her proves he knew exactly how shitty it was and that this was an act of spite against his daughter.
Sounds like a narcissist to me....can't even be mad just hope that the daughter will go to that private college so she can afford all the therapy she'll be needing. Speaking from experience, OP must have attended the same college of nonsense and uselessness as my dad.
I really hope his AP wife saw both posts and when she actually finishes developing her brain at 25 realizes what a horrible excuse for a man she married. It disgusts me to see age gap relationships greater that 5 years that started before the younger one was 25. The part of your brain responsible for judging the long term consequences of your actions isn't fully developed until you're 25. It's why you can't rent a car until then, and why your insurance rates go down after that. So when he just casually implied that he started his affair when she was 20 and he was 12 years older, I almost threw my tablet across the room! Ihope when she divorces him she cleans him out and puts everything in a trust for his daughter.
That is incorrect. There is point where the brain is suddenly considered "mature". The 25 age of that is every bit as arbitrary as the age of adulthood, drinking, consent to sexual activity or even run for political office. In all of these we recognize that there is a process that changes you from one state to another. However, there is no real indication of when that state has changed and it varies greatly from person to person. Thus in all these cases we determine an arbitrary age that is sort of a statistical mean of the age we judge that this process has occurred. Oh and the car rental thing are not separate examples. They are cause and effect. A rental agency insures its cars. Because most insurance agencies drop rates for drivers over 25 the rental agencies go after the lower rates. The rates dropping at 25 is not due to a specific change. It is again a statistical mean of were driving habits combined with driving experience cause accident rates to drop. Like the previous examples it reflects a statistical average, not a specific change. You are also not accounting for personal preferences either. In my late teens and early 30s I almost exclusively pursued women in their early to mid 30's. I must have been quite the unfortunate victim by your philosophy.
"My wife offered to pay for my daughters fund. See, my wife has my daughter's best interest at heart"......well, I guess someone has to because the OP sure as hell doesn't. And, just to try to get the math right here, OP was 32 when he met his now wife who was 20, and if I heard right, his daughter was 12. Meaning the AP is 8 years older than the daughter while the husband is 12 years older than his now wife. Anyone else weirded out that the wife is closer in age to the daughter than the husband?
“She wasn’t even serious about school 2 years ago.” Dude, are you really justifying taking her college money over something she probably said in passing two years prior? At that age, teens are often still trying to decide what they want to do with their lives, and since you didn’t say it was something she was passionate about, she more than likely was just entertaining the idea of cosmetology as a “what if.” OP had no right to take college off the table before she could officially turn it down herself.
That’d be like being a kid and my parents taking everyone but me on a trip to Italy because I didn’t like the pasta at this one place we went to years ago.
and as op said his daughter is currently 14, he straight up decided to give away the fund for a comment made by a *12yo*. the kid wasn't a teen yet, actually she wasn't even a pre-teen, she was literally a child wtf imagine your parents deciding not to fund your education because you said you wanted to be barbie when you were 10 lmaoooo
It’s ok. If she’s “so smart she can get a scholarship.” Seriously, that “man” is disgusting. I can’t count how many times he insulted his daughter’s intelligence and morality, calling her a piece of crap. But you guys! He loves her, and his heart is *totally* in the right place.
@@j_g9109 well did you hear what he said he said if his daughter so smart she can get a scholarship well if his wife is so smart she can get a scholarship
Even if we accept that OP is telling the truth about his wife, SHE thinks he’s an asshole. This apparently perfect saint whose smarts smell like cotton candy is calling him an asshole and he STILL doesn’t get it?
Every important female figure in my life hates my new wife. I can’t fathom why! My daughter called my wife out for being with a married man and I just don’t understand why she is angry at her! They were supposed to be friends! Poor me and my POS ways, my wife is so toxic because I cheated on her so you have to believe me that she’s really the villain and she turned my daughter against me because she eeevvvvviilllll (said in mermaidman’s voice)
He was clueless to the fact that the more he explained his situation the worst he proved himself to be. I'm not surprised a horrible husband was also a horrible father. His ex is not brainwashing his daughter against him, OP being a d___ is what's turning his daughter against him.
The fact he didn't even realize his daughter was on track to win some prestigious award, something that more than likely would be talked about very frequently, says volumes about his involvement in her life
In the same words of the first OP about his daughter: If the new wife is "so smart, she should be able to get scholarships."
OP,
1) at 32 has affair with 20-yr old.
2) does not tell her he is married with a child.
3) divorces wife for the affair partner
4) gives daughter's college fund to new wife
5) hides from his wife where that money came from
6) Rubs this in his daughter's face when he could just have denied that such a fund ever existed
But he is surprised that his life blows up in his face!!!!!!
He didn’t tell AP he was married but he did tell her that he had a daughter
@@VanityZERO Okay, I'll give him that much. Though, in some ways, that makes it worse. He created an expectation in his new wife that they could play happy families. An expectation she probably would not have had if she knew what was actually going on.
@@VanityZERO he told her about the daughter because he can’t lie about having a daughter lol. You can’t hide her, you CAN hide the fact that your married long enough for the new girl to be so in love that she’s stuck in a hard place and hope she just forgives and forgets. What a coward
@@TheDelethar I see what you're saying, but yes, he could've hid his daughter. LG's latest video is even about how a man hid two separate families from each other and there are plenty of other stories like that on this channel and Reddit. Only reason he didn't hide his daughter is because he was shopping for a new mom/wife for her and himself. He even said as much. Which is of course, horrible and disgusting. I can't even with this OP.
@@gaaraxnaru it takes guile and balls to cover up having a daughter for a significant amount of time, neither of which this dude has. Tho you’re right it can be done, just not by this quack.
I cant believe he expected a pre-teen to know what they wanted to do with their life and used that as an excuse to take her college fund, what a crap parent!
I know this is 2 years old but-
I know right?! I thought when he was talking about her not wanting to go to college that his daughter was almost graduating - to learn she has several more years of school left before she graduates really hit home what a dick her dad is.
He had a fund and used it on his new wifey then rubbed it into daughter’s face when she was trying to connect with her dad about stuff going on and include him in future planning then says she started making a scene after he told her?
What a jackass.
More likely, he doesn't really know his daughter. Doesn't know her likes or interests or plans or school progress. How come did he not know she was up for a science reward?🤔 Beauty school? She probably said that to provoke him, and noticed that he didn't care or react. 🙄
"She has to accept my wife as family" No she doesnt. You married your wife. You chose that. She doesnt have to accept YOUR wife as HER family. Shes not.
What would the ah do if his ex wife gets child support thrown on him guess who will be paying for daughter to go to college if that happens
I don't understand how he figures showing his daughter what a disrespectful jerk he is by cheating would make he and his daughter even closer. Even though my mom was an abusive POS I still was protective of her when she was in my life. Also, the stepmom is either really dumb, or he's lying. But fr, I wish my stepmom had wanted me 😂
@@J_e_s_s And I figured out that when the daughter “hated her mom”, she was about 12 or 13. Strife between mothers & daughter isn’t unheard of during pre-teen/teenage years. He took her 13yo “I want to be a cosmetologist because college is dumb” as fact; I wouldn’t be surprised if he had taken an “I hate you!” during an argument as proof that he is her best friend, and she hates her mom with all her heart.
And I have such a hard time believing that his wife was toxic and abusive based solely on the fact that OP thinks _he_ is the good guy whose “heart is in the right place” and “loves his daughter and doesn’t resent her at all”. I am truly curious what “toxic” looks like to him because I have discovered that toxic people LOVE to call the person confronting them the toxic ones.
he probably thinks it was toxic that his ex-wife didnt drop everything she worked hard for to scramble back to the place she was lonely and miserably in for his sake. She endured it for years, he couldn't even do one before starting the guilt-trip. He's so emotionally immature its painful.
I like how he says how wonderful she is yet she was cheating with a married man?? OP said she didn't know at first, yet when she found out all was forgiven, yeah your wife's a real peach OP.
“I don’t FEEL WRONG.”- THAT is the problem. I’ll bet you NEVER feel wrong, “dad”.
-cheats, steals daughter's college fund, lies to everyone about everything
-no one wants to deal with him anymore
surprised pikachu face
My favorite part was when wife #2 left for her parents'. Looks like she's finally starting to see through the bs.
The account was his, not his daughters
@@peeonthe3rdrail414 "my daughters college fund" he knew and had a purpose but took it out of spite.
@@bluedragon8762 Still doesn't change the fact that it's his and funded by him. She is not entitled to that money.
@@peeonthe3rdrail414 Oh, I see we have a Victor in the comments. She is also wrong for not taking the cheater's side, right?
Literally everyone in his life cuts him off and all of Reddit tears him apart. Last words from him “I don’t feel wrong.”
🤦♀️
I bet his lawyer wife left him as well and now he has no child and the two women in his life saw what a jerk he was and left him and now he is alone.
@@ElCid48wife left after she got her school paid for
OP is a psychopath.
His mental gymnastics could win him the olympic gold medal. Seriously. How do you rationalize lying to everyone, and then still try to play the victim... Just wow.
Met someone like him before, he was an absolute spineless little man that is to say he had a small mind (allegedly by him he has a baby carrot too, long story on that one) in a big body. He would lie constantly even about the most insignificant things he couldn't realize or maybe he didn't care how much he hurt everyone around him with his baleful tongue because he always tried to play victim. On more than one occasion when he was caught in a lie he tried to change the subject and shift the blame onto his younger brother, he knew he couldn't try that shit with me and learned quick I wouldn't let him get away with trying it on his younger brother. Even still in a separate conversation his brother sent me he was trying to berate him for not going through with his lies. People like this are to be kept at an arms length at minimum.
Never underestimate the power of narcissists to deny reality at every turn.
Gold medal? Are you kidding? They'd have to make up a NEW medal just for him!
@@elisabethrankin7702 and having a huge ego.
@@cgecko3 ok, I want to hear about the little carrot story.
Refuses to admit he's wrong even after he's lost everything. He reminds me of my mother
Refuses to accept it even after his family, the entire Reddit community and even his current wife, literally everyone points out to him, why and how he is wrong…. He still goes “it doesn’t feel like I am wrong”…. He is not here to ask for advice, he posted this to get validation for his wrong actions, which (surprise!) he didn’t get, so he’s still rambling on
So he “loves” his daughter, but also refers to her as a “little piece of crap” two sentences later?
But he meant "little piece of crap" in the most lovingly way, right???
And condescendingly says 'She'll get a scholarship _if she's so smart.'_ as the response when he refused to believe that a child's opinion on further education could (gasp!) _change_ as they matured & developed a more realistic view of their possible future. He took that 'She said she wants to be a makeup artist' thing (coupled with his apparent lack of any current knowledge of her as a person) & ran with it as some sort of BS justification. Just the _worst_ sort of person.
@@KyrieChii yeah, kid barely teen talks about what she wants when she grows up and he takes that as sure thing. That age you have your life decided maybe for a day and prob have plans for tomorrow.
Daughter and new wife has smaller agegap than OP and wife. New wife was barely legally adult when they started dating and he expects her to be treated like mother?
She also continued relationship with married man so no, she isn't innocent and saint. But at the least now she is starting to realize what pathetic loser she has married. A man who blames everyone else for his own screwups.
It's the Alec Baldwin style of parenting. You know, "tough love".
@@duckeh1952 Yeah, I'm definitely not going to 'defend' OP's new wife. She became wrong when she decided to keep seeing OP after he finally admitted he was cheating on his wife. But I will say that it looks like she had very little idea what a mess she was walking into. She didn't seem at all happy with his taking the daughter's college fund, I do believe her that he wasn't open with her about that when he offered it to her.
I think she's starting to realize how dishonest, manipulative & self centered this guy is. Maybe she can get out before any more children are dragged into it.
This dad is an abuser. He's a financial abuser. He needs to be away from everyone for everyone's safety.
I gave my daughters college fund to the women I cheated with and now I’m threatening to take away the rest if she doesn’t start treating her like family. I don’t know why she doesn’t love my wife like I do.
And the wife left too
OP also married a woman who is much younger and close to his daughter's age. Anyone sane will not accept an affair "mother" who is nearer to her age than her dad's. It's literally common sense.
Also the OP actually expects a young teen of 14 years old to decide on her future to determine whether to take away her college fund, and she is now only roughly 16 years old.
The father doesn't live in reality and expects everything to goes his way or his mentality.
And he deluded himself into thinking that he was his daughter's favourite when really it was because her mum was at med school and busy.
Remember hearing this story earlier but without all the updates and the ex-wife's story, thanks Lost Genre. So the ex-wife moved for him and his job for almost a decade and then when it came time for her to achieve her life goals of becoming a doctor he became a whiny, little brat. Uses that to justify having an affair. Lied to the affair partner/new wife in the beginning by not telling her about his marriage. Then he lied/misled her again by taking his daughter's college fund to use on the mistress/wife. Whatever thin, tiny relationship those 2 ever had or could have had OP destroyed, burnt to the ground and salted the earth. No wonder the mistress/wife left his butt. Honestly it's rare to say this but everyone including the mistress/wife deserve better than this man.
@@MrJpaynebbthat is is so true. the mistress/wife is clearly one of the victims basing on the fact that he crumpled and stomped on the foundation of any relationship, trust. He showed that he cannot be trusted in more than one occassion
Holy shit! I have never seen someone so self-centered and so unaware at the same time!!! It is jaw dropping.
Near the beginning of this post, as soon as OP wrote, _"she took her mom's side"_ I instantly KNEW he was resentful of his daughter not "taking his side" and "not accepting" his affair partner. It's like he's actually trying to JUSTIFY why giving away money earmarked for his _child_ to his mid-life crisis is 'okay'. This guy is AWFUL and deserves to be alone.
Just like he was resentful when his ex wife wouldn't just drop everything in med school for him after a year because he was 'unhappy'.
This man is weird. At one point it seemed like he tried to replace his affair partner as a mother figure over her own mother just because she's his ex-wife. What? Why did he think people were going to accept the 20 year old affair partner of a 32 year old man?
@@videofan1010 What's more the ap is only like 8 years older than his daughter.....
He's too young to be having a mid-life crisis. Early 30's - just sayin'.
@@rickraber1249 With the way he's going he's gonna be gone before then
OP was 18-20 when he had his daughter and then decided to get another 20 year old because he wanted a do-over family.
He's such a great father he didn't know his daughter was smart and an honor student? He took the word of a 12 year old about what she wanted to do for the rest of her life and made a decision her college fund on that? Good lord 🙄
I was confused when he said, “when it’s *her turn* to go to college,” but it makes sense finding out the new wife is barely out of high school!
Couldn’t,t be a reason dtr doesn’t anything to do with his new wife. Nope, apparently OP knows how all females feel all the time. GMAFB 🤦🏼♀️🙄
She (2nd wife) was 20 and he was 32 when they met!!! Let's put it this way: SHE WAS 8 WHEN HIS DAUGHTER WAS BORN!!!! Talk about The Power of P!
My jaw freaking DROPPED when he said that. How can people like this possibly justify their behavior?? I can't even be mad at the AP, she didn't have nearly enough life experience to know how messed up this all is. He probably played the whole, "Oh, my marriage is already over, I'm so unhappy, we don't love each other anymore, so this affair isn't really that bad," narrative on her.
@@BitterSimplicity And that's why she packed up her crap and went back to Mom! She's a bonafide lawyer and can get a fantastic divorce lawyer and nail this stupid OP to a cross, turn it upside down - ans keep shaking until she pulls the lint out of his pockets!
@@DarqueQueen7 LOVE your descriptive qualities! 🤣 I only hope she does. This AH truely deserves it!!
Op is the worst father. He doesn't deserve to be around his daughter for what he has done.
Once the new wife starts trying to get what she wants in life, op is gonna go shopping for a new young wife to control
That's the power of karma.
And "Mommy 3.0" will probably be younger than the daughter, who OP will try to force to accept.
I have a feeling that is going to happen. Since current wife was 20 when OP met her when was 32. Yikes.
@@rosiesummer2711 wife #3 is probably going be one of daughter's bullies with how self-absorbed op is.
You said it! This OP is such a POS...
Ok everyone is rightfully roasting op on the affair and college fund, but can we also appreciate how he apparently knew so little of his daughter that he didn't even realize she was doing well at school?!
Wait, wait, wait...So his new wife used to be his mistress? That's what I got from this story. And he's mad because his daughter took her mother's side. Really? Geez! He's a real a-hole!
Is it weird that I feel bad for all the women in this story, including the new wife?
That is crazy ain't it? That's what I was picking up. Victor OP is burnt up tripping.
@@kateglitter1413 Feel bad for affair partner? Oh pleaseeeeeee
@@damaris4630 I mean that I feel bad that he met her standards. And that she fell into the trap as well. What she did was messed up, but at least we know she had limits.
Not just his mistress but she was fresh out of high school 20 years old at the time and he paid for her college with his daughters college fund. His daughter was a 12 at the time when he did it expecting a 12 year old to know exactly what they want to do with their lives is not reality.
Isn't it crazy how much he has degraded his daughter on his posts and put his co-cheater barely adult new wife to a pedestal? Tells you who he really is.
Yep. I'm sorry but a "saint" doesn't have an affair with a married man.
@@jgw5491 in fairness she didn't know he was married, he lied to her about it.
Let me get this straight. He:
- called his daughter a little B for not liking his affair partner.
- held her college fund for ransom until she acted the way he wanted towards his AP.
- took the career ambitions of a 12-13 year old girl as concrete and argued when two years later she changed her mind and started working towards a college degree.
- Lied to his daughter and his new wife by using her college fund to pay for his wife's studies without either's consent or knowledge.
And wondered if he was an Ahole? The lack of empathy is downright appalling. He doesn't see these women beyond the ideals and stabdards he sets for them. Fuck their own emotions and perspectives, they should be vibrant and young and thankful for the things I did for and to them.
YEP! You put it perfectly. I also love how he just assumes his daughter was stupid and probably failing school because she didn’t enjoy it. NO ONE ENJOYS SCHOOL AT THE TIME!
And then the antagonistic line, “if my daughter’s *really* so smart she can get a scholarship.”?! Wow OP. Who’s the teenager here again? He can’t even stop calling his own daughter names!
called her a little shit for not liking the new wife LOL
Also made out daughter was stupid & hadn't been taking school seriously whilst daughter was justifiably upset.
I hope his new wife leaves him as well. And that his daughter never speaks to him again.
@@amelianekomimi1936 But he "loves" his daughter. HA! AH doesn't knowing the meaning of the word!
The stepmother is, what, 6 years older than the daughter? THEYRE closer in age than the OP and his second wife!!
And he took a 14 year old's word that she wanted to go to makeup school and that college is stupid as justification for giving away her college fund????
“Please hear me out” (proceeds to explain how he’s even worse than what I first thought.) OP is a terrible father and should never live down what he’s done
Dude, I wanna fight OP after that story
IIRC, the only story when "Please hear me out" actually worked was the photographer who deleted the wedding photos. Oh, and I also want to fight OP.
He should be publicly shamed, like The Scarlett Letter type shaming.
This guy has issues and probably doesn’t have any money saved.
@@danihomes7697 TAN - THIEVING ADULTEROUS NARCISSIST!!!🤬
He keeps claiming that he and his daughter are close but clearly has no idea what is actually going on in her life. As the AP, her relationship with the daughter was never going to be good and you can't force that. She is closer in age to the daughter than him for crying out loud! You wanna know why she and her mom fought? Probably because she's the only one who was acting like a parent!
She was a child when you asked her about college. What a dufess!
He is not just a dufus! He is also a POS.
yeah I remember asking my daughter at 7 what she wanted to be when she grew up, her answer was a Badger
My niece wanted to be a tree doctor when she was 12. Now she wants to be a doctor at 14.
OP: “I’m no longer going to take away my daughter’s college money.”
Also OP: “My daughter won’t get the college money until she apologizes to my AP and accepts her as her family.”
This guy is giving me so much whiplash that I could be technically decapitated
He's written a whole fantasy tale where he did nothing wrong and no one is hurt and they are all one big happy family, anyone and anything that doesn't fit that narrative is wrong.
So that's just par for the course, I'm not taking something from her (because that would be ME doing something bad), she just cant have until she plays by my rules (so it will be her fault she doesn't get it, plus he gets to spin it as him defending his new wife).
😁
This story gave me so much pain
Hahaha love your comment
He's a manipulator and I'll be honest I wouldn't be surprised if he was an abuser of some sort. He's trying very hard to paint a pretty picture to hide the bad. and the more he talks the more is revealed.
Had a feeling OP was lying about how “hostile” the wife and daughter were
If daughter only has 3 years left in high school, then she's almost 16, which means the custody agreement means nothing. OP doesn't seem to get this. But its his own daughter who revoked his visitation, NOT ex. He won't be able to contest it because the daughter herself will refuse.
That's what happens when you play games.
He seems to have a high paid job as a technician. I really wonder about that. His post is full of illogical association and lack of intelligence while thinking he is smart enough to gaslight the reader. Why did he even post? For his own ego? Did he want a pat on the back? Nothing gets through to him and he is just so delusional about himself I wonder if he is always like that and if so, how do people at his working place put up with him??
He doesn't care about his daughter. I don't believe that for a second. He is all about apparency and how he looks to others. This custody nonsense is again about his ego.
Did you catch the fact that his daughter is 16 years old and his new current wife is 20
I think he's probably more concerned about having to pay child support than having actual custody or a relationship with his daughter, at this point. He honestly seems to have emotionally washed his hands of her completely, & is just saying what he hopes will sway people's opinions. Maybe his attitude towards his own kid has even caused his new wife to rethink the relationship.
@@toniclarke7398 to be fair, the wife is like 23-24 ish based off the post. She WAS 20 when they met, so still really fucking gross.
I seriously wish his ex wife would start a gofundme for her daughter so I could help donate to her college fund. I’d happily pay as much as I can so she didn’t have to see her toxic “dad” ever again
Victor is a piece of work! Glad Mom has the means to pay for daughter’s college. Best to them!
Cheater logic is a rabbit hole that is best avoided.
The mental gymnastics they go through to try and justify that they did nothing wrong is astounding.
This should be on a framed piece of needlepoint. It gets right to the heart of the matter.
More like a jackalope hole, or other small burrowing cryptid. This was practically demented.
He claimed his first wife was toxic, sounds like if she was he made her that way being selfish in their relationship.
I’m so surprised that daughter doesn’t accept the woman who went to college at daughter’s expense. She doesn’t “deserve” her college fund? You can’t “gift”something that belongs to someone else.
I agree, but the daughter can't demand something that belongs to someone else. The daughter isn't entitled to a college fund. I think the daughter should just cut the dad off and live a much better life.
@@RT42-v6z Then the dad shouldn't call it a college fund. He should just call it his own personal savings.
@@RT42-v6z Actually, depending upon the jurisdiction, college funds belong to the child/recipient. It's why in these jurisdictions, when it is clear that a parent is stealing money from that fund, a judge can demand the money to be returned. If OP lives in a jurisdiction where this is considered theft, he will be in a lot of legal trouble.
However, I do agree with you. Daughter should cut this toxic POS from her life. He degrades her constantly, even in his post you can see how vile and toxic he is. 'if my daughter is so smart', implying that he thinks that his daughter is stupid and just had these stupid dreams that have become a nuisance to him.
honestly I wanted to punch the dad with his update honest how can someone be so ignorant.
@@RT42-v6z it depends on the way it’s set up and where the person lives. I have RESPs that are set up for my children and tied to their SIN cards. So while, if I really wanted to, I could access some of the money, there’s a chunk of it that I couldn’t and only they can use for school.
This jerk is a total narcissist. Everything is about him. His daughter is better off without him. And it's too bad for him that she has him all figured out. I hope the best for the daughter. You have a bright future.
I showed my dad this story, and he was pissed off at the dad and for the daughter. My dad has a gf, and I am in college and he said he could never imagine giving away my college fund for anything or anyone, unless I give permission in an emergency (extremely needed medical kind of emergencies). He also called this dad a POS who doesn’t deserve to have a kid in his life if he will treat his daughter like that.
That's because you have a great human as a Dad❤️God Bless you both. Sounds like he raised a wonderful adult❤️
I’m a mom and the only way I could imagine giving up my kids’ college funds to my boyfriend is if it was a dire financial need. I did have to stop putting away money for the college funds for a bit because we ran into financial hardships and once we’re out I will start saving again, but never once did we pull money from them that was already saved.
Its confusing to me cuz I love my daughter more than anyone or anything in this world even more than my mom and I'm a mommy's boy. She use to always ask me when she was little how much I love her and I always tell her that I would face a grizzly bear head on and fight like a madman just to give her the time to get away. I've since come to realize not all parents love there kids this way.
Dont even have kids and im pissed this man was allowed to breed. He reminds me of my sperm donor. Mom and him broke up when she found out she was pregnant but he decided he would just keep threatening my mom with taking me away in order to get out of child support when he got his fancy new job and the payments went up. Between that and the controling abuse he doesnt get why i refuse to see or call him. I had to see him over the holidays cuz he was at my grandparents house but im cool going another 11 yrs without seeing him.
wiw, what a surprise...a sane person...well, now that we can compare, its even more obvious.
The first story was tough to hear. My dad - one of the kindest, most supportive people I’ve ever known - was my best friend from my college years until he passed away. It’s so horrible to know that there’s a terrible dad out there who deludes himself into thinking that he has the kind of relationship with his daughter as Daddy and I *actually* shared.
I do like how the new wife did call the ex-wife to say hey you need to put your daughter's college fund into account that this jerk doesn't have any access to. Sad that she cares more for the daughter than the dad.
Sadder still that Mom refused it. Talk about putting you hate for the other child above your love for your own child. That is the biggest red flag WRT Mom.
@@groofromtheup5719 none of these would have happened if the AH “dad” kept it in his pants rather than fcking a 20 yr old lol
@@groofromtheup5719 That’s what OP said and I don’t trust his word 100%. I doubt the mistress is a “saint “
@@adriancarrillo2749 no doubt she is far from a saint. I said elsewhere that I hope she fails the ethics portion of the Bar review after she graduates if she doesn't immediately divorce this guy for pulling this garbage.
@@groofromtheup5719 I didn’t take it that way. Mom is a doctor, so if she wants to pay 45k herself to put her kid through school so that her daughter doesn’t have to deal with strings from her toxic father that sounded like a good call to me. There was never the impression that the daughter was going to be denied her schooling, just that mom would handle it.
I remember this guy. The part that really gets me is that after all that he actually threatened to try to force his daughter to spend more time with him. How dense can someone be?!
Loved hearing both sides. He will make his new wife's life miserable once she starts disagreeing with him.
And find a new young woman to power over
in 4 years he's going to be posting another update where his current wife finishes law school and dumps his ass for someone younger than him
@@Jerseybytes2 Honestly, if the account wasn't nuked, it seems Viktor would have already posted a new update where his new wife divorced him, given that she seemed to have enough of his bs in Viktor's final post.
@@fabiocandelori9163 if what he said about her was legit and not just sugarcoating for the sake of making his choice look better, then I really wish the best for the affair wife, clearly he lied to her about being married and about the money which wasn’t his but for his daughter, I think she’s as much a victim of OP as his ex and daughter, really hope she got to dump him for someone 100x times better
The home wrecker wife seems to have grown a conscious and left the loser.
Stolen College Fund: My father cheated on my mom (at least 4 times that we’re aware of)…when I met the AP that he left mom for…I didn’t hold back and made sure that piece of garbage knew what I thought of her. I made her cry. My father was furious…but I smiled at seeing her in pain. I know that was wrong. But I don’t care.
As someone who also has a narc father, I just hope that Rachel knows she's stronger than she thinks she is and that cutting him off is a good choice. They never do change or get better. I wish you nothing but luck for the bright future you have ahead of you.
Also, the fact a 32 year old man is going after a 20 year old is such a huge red flag. There's certain circumstances where I think big age gaps are fine, but that's not one of them. I hope the wife drops him too.
It sucked SO much to see Rachel's mother saying her idiot POS father's treatment of her has caused her emotional consequences. The poor kid has already been through so much because her Dad is a selfish tool.
OP's wife could be a great friend to his daughter - yeah, because they are almost the same age. I hope the best for his daughter despite her toxic father.
@@pepper922 No arguments here. And while she will _always_ be wrong for continuing to see someone who kept her in the dark about the fact that he was married, then chose to stay with him after, she really doesn't seem to like how he's treated his daughter, & I don't think she accepted that money with ANY knowledge that it was daughter's college fund. I do think she was genuine in wanting to return what she could & being angry with OP.
She's no saint & I'm not defending her beyond this, but I do think she actually cares & knows her husband is (& always has been) wrong.
This! I was hoping the last update would be him saying something like “my wife is divorcing me now, are you all happy!?”
I’d have been like, yeah, extremely actually
This guy is a piece of work. All grievance and no responsibility for his actions. “I did everything right and these other people are horrible and deserve what they get.”
Aw poor op, why can’t his daughter and the world forgive him already for betraying his family, lying to his side piece, force a happy family image on his daughter and not expect her to retaliate against the man and woman who broke her family, give away his daughter college fund to his new woman without telling anyone because she “deserved it more”, prove on and on again how much he resents his daughter and loves his new woman over her, and just overall be a shitty human being. Yeah, I hope he ends up alone.
I think its worse then that, he wants to believe that he did and is doing nothing wrong, and absolutely refuses to believe anything other to that.
Thus they should be all one happy family by default. Any decision he's made that has bad outcomes is because someone else misled him (last I knew she probably wouldn't even get to collage, let along an advanced degree), or was just meant to be (he didn't mean to groom and have an affair with someone almost half his age). Which is standard romance movie BS whenever an existing relationship gets discarded.
I don’t believe a single thing he said about how his wife was tormented. The fact that he’s an extremely unreliable narrator alone is enough for me to not 💯 believe what he wrote.
iris olivas.....He will be all alone. And it will be okay 👍
It’s been over a year and I feel like I need an update. Did Victor finally pull his head out of his a$$? Did his daughter get a college fund? Did Victor’s sweet new wife wise up about the man she was sleeping with and leave him because of all his lies? The world may never know…
so, dude cheats on his wife with a 20 year old (sketchy!!), marries her, then gives the college fund intended for his daughter to his ap? also disparages his daughters intelligence every chance he gets?
but he has such a great relationship with his daughter and he's such a great person.
whatever he's on, i want it, because it is one hell of a trip.
I have to question how much is he taking because they're taking OD levels here.
What kills me is he was all surprised Pikachu face that his daughter didn't choose his side when she found out about the affair.
It's called narcissism.
@@nela3986 that's exactly what I intended to say, too...(!)
This is an actual type of person.
Watch for any of those red flags, the others are often not far behind.
OP’s update is hilarious omfg I’m crying. “He doesn’t feel wrong” 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 oh kay pos
The fact his ex has full custody tells us everything we need to know. Courts don't just do that unless one parent literally cannot take care of the child, or the kid flat out refuses to stay with that parent. So either way, he's a shit dad even without the new issue of the fund.
It is also possible he didn't even fight and just wanted to ride off into the sunset with his shiny new 20yo wife, dude is like if cringe was an actual person, no matter the spin he proceeds to explain what a shit human he is.
Courts have always had a bias against men whether they're good parents or not.
@@AAJillSandwich Very true, but no sane person would ever give a child to OP, from the moment he opens his mouth out come red flags, the post didn't even read like a man in his thirties, more like a very entitled teen with a shaky grasp of reality outside himself.
@@mackenzieramdeen849
OP seems like a neglectful parent to say the least Id agree the daughter is better off with the mother.
My point in my original comment is that the courts have no issue taking children away from good father's and giving them to bad mothers or worse.
So no these custody decisions have little to no regard of the competency of the parents in a lot of cases.
@@AAJillSandwich not when the child is old enough to tell the court with whom they choose to stay. Usually before age 8, the court would more lean giving the right to the mom unless it can be proven the mom unfit. I assumed OP child is old enough to actually say to the court which parent she want to stay with.
“One huge a-hole with arms and legs.” I choked on my Sprite when I heard that line, it was so funny. 😂🤣😂
It sounds like the second wife is not a bad person. She didn't know he was married until after they got together, and gave him the business, and even left him when she found out about the college fun fiasco!
Eh, I'll give to her that she doesn't seem to be utterly rotten to the core, but she stayed after finding out she was the other woman, I wouldn't call it being a "good person".
@@fabiocandelori9163 Meh she would have been 22. When I was 22, I totally would have bought into the tragedy of sad older man enduring a dead marriage and who met me and was transformed like a romance novel. I was dumb and totally believe that other young ladies might be just as stupid
@@fabiocandelori9163 not a good person, per se, just not really a bad one either. She definitely made mistakes herself, but attempted to correct the worst ones.
@@meganfenton856 Agreed. When OP mentioned that she was thinking of leaving over him using the daughters college fund on her and was actively trying to give it to the daughter despite OP telling her not to, I thought that the wife was actually okay. OP lied to her multiple times about huge things. I wonder how many other things he's lying about to her. To all of them.
The level of this man's idiocy is so staggering, I lack the vocabulary to describe it.
My dad would never betray me like that; but he's an actual dad not a walking talking midlife crises funding his dating life by stealing from a child, his child!
My dad took half my paycheques throughout high school and put them away in my fund. No matter how much I fought with my step mom he never threatened to take my money away from me because it’s MY money!
@@tegantalks9612 that's because you can sue him if he did that.
He was 32... That was not a "mid-life crises"... It's just that he's that kind of Narcissist. Only in it for himself, and delusional as to his own motivations... And will never change anything but partners.
I remember this story, his new wife didn't know any of this, is divorcing him and apologized about the money, I think she was divorcing him too. She felt like shit because she was under the impression he just had money sitting around and wanted her to use it, she had no idea it belonged to his daughter and was never told that.
Edit: I never heard the exes story though, I feel so bad for her.
“I wOn’T hAvE My DaUgHTeR tUrN oUt LiKe My eX” lmao would he rather have her turn out like him? 🤣
I rather her be bitter than a lying narc.
He probably wants her to be like his wife: ignorant, non-confrontational and easily to manipulate.
Considering he's a narcissist, yes he wants her to turn out exactly like him because he is so perfect his daughter should turn out perfect as well
The comment about Dante's Inferno just works so well considering it must be a dark, terrifying black hole where the OP's empathy should live!
I knew someone whose stepdad used her college fund to pay for his new wife’s “ta-tas”. This OP is just as big of a jerk.
That was either a small college fund or some exceptional ta-tas. :-o
Do we know the same person or is this just super common?
Remember, the golddiger of his wife had no problems accepting the money of his daughter. "I didn't know" is bs bc she only cared when she faced the consequences.
I'm so glad that OP ended up alone in the end. All is right with the world 😁
My e got upset when our daughters didn't send his wife a mother's day card! He wasn't even with her until they were both past 17! And never lived in the same house.
The stepmother is what, 6 years older than the daughter? Can’t imagine that helps at all…
On the other hand, OR Shouldn't worry. Very soon he will have no women bothering him. Cos the "wife" will disappear as well as soon as she's through law School.
Hopefully without being knocked up meanwhile.
I feel that Ol' Jack Burton would ask Victor, "Are you crazy? Is that your problem?"
How is one single person able to hold in so much BS? Op is a massive AH and I hope his daughter and ex have an amazing life far away from him.
And that idiot is pursuing custody. AH
@@joanamartins5083 if she’s 16 then the daughter would have a say in where she goes and it definitely isn’t going to be to him lol
@@ditzyhere3138 depending on the state as young as 10 have a say on where they go. Shes 14 and hates him and his wife. Hes going to have to prove his ex wife is abusive and have more money than her to win that legal fight.
@@joanamartins5083 Probably to get out of paying child support and make first wife pay him child support to spend on the bitch he married
5:47 "not that you guys deserve any additional information" well you don't really deserve a family which you cheated on
The fact that his new wife was 20 is kinda gross.
Of course the daughter doesn’t accept her as a step mom. Not only was it an affair, but she’s more like a step sisters age, honestly.
@@cassandra2382 Yeah way too close in age they were never going to get along.
That was a ride lol
That guy seriously needs help - that level of ignorance is one step away from being mental. Good for the daughter that she does not need to rely on daddy for money
Of course the daughter wouldn't go with him. She idolized him and he essentially betrayed her trust. Now he's confused about why being a petty douche is messing up his life. He was "honest" about the college fund to get back at her. That's it.
I didn't even have to do the math to tell that his wife was an AP with the way he tip toed around the topic...
Ugh. Every section read, you can see just how little OP gave a shit about his daughter. Like, even when she was 12/13 and said she wanted to be a make up artist, he belittled that as if it wasn't anything. The poor girl had to see that her father ripped apart the family for someone that was barely older than her and was being forced by him to accept her, or suffer the consequences. Then to find out that hey, she had a lot of serious dreams that required private school as well, and- what was that? She HAD a college fund, but because she was hurt by what her dad did, he gave it to his new wife? Of course she wouldn't want to touch it after that.
It sounds like the new wife/AP was horrified after finding out the entire truth. SHE tried to get the money moved into hands of people that actually cared about Rachel. It was the ex wife's choice (and daughter's) to reject it, but at least she made the attempt! There's no way the OP stays married through all of this.
First poster - I won't be surprised when new wife leaves him.
I read this post when it was new on aita, I didn’t know the wife called him out in a separate post though! Can’t wait to hear it lol
Talk about emotional and financially blackmail....
daddy cheated, and daughter get pressed to accept cheater as mommy dearest!!
Wait til his new wife gets a job and he starts getting "depressed" and goes out to get a new wife. How do we publicly identify POS? New wife should RUN.
she probably did and her first step was leaving him for her parent's house.
Wait until wife has her law degree paid for by the sugar daddy and looks around and realizes she can do a lot better than a mid 30s guy with a daughter and mother that hates her.
The dad says he doesn’t hold it against his daughter, but he very clearly does. And if he is so close with his daughter, why doesn’t he know anything about how she’s doing at school
He stated that when he was out with his daughter he told the "truth about the college fund", I had to ask myself why? But, after listening to this entire story his updates and his ex-wife's side of this story, I got my answer. It was to punish his daughter for not picking him in the divorce. Whether anyone realize it or not, I believe that is the reason for all his actions after the divorce and his marriage to this young woman who is studing to be a lawyer. And, wife #2 ( and his future wives because there will be future wives) should take note on how self centered, he shows himself to be what you see him doing now to his ex wife and daughter, he will do to you and any children you have with him.
Probably something the second wife caught on to. I kinda forgive her her first mistake (forgiving him after learning that she was being stringed along as the affair partner) and when she saw the second attempt to manipulate everyone it sounds like she called it quits.
Second wife sounds as a decent person, fresh out of high-school no less, she has her entire life ahead of her and dumping this AH will be the best decision imo. I mean she even tried to get along with his EX FOR FUCKS SAKE, how many people do that? Hell i think even the EX, although dislikes her for what she represents (the AP), but doesnt resent her as a person since she didnt even know that she was an AP.
Wow, how can that dad not see how him cheating on his then wife (mom of his daughter) would affect the daughter. 'OH I'll cheat and dump my wife and my daughter will be so happy and we can be a loving family with my new wife'... Sorry dude, you are delusional and things do not work out that way. You should of thought of how your daughter would react before hand. Sounds like your current wife is nice, but this is coming from you who can't see how this whole thing affected your daughter. You and your daughter need to go to counseling. Do not 'punish' your daughter for what you did and caused to happen.
Like i said before I love when a lying OP gets called out in another post/subreddit!
*watches eating popcorn as op sets himself on fire then pulls a pikachu face when he gets roasted*
Aren’t those the best?!
I know! It’s so messy, but the *drama* of it all is addicting! It’s like watching a train wreck. You feel like you’re not supposed to be looking at this, but you just can’t turn away and stop watching as someone’s world burns.
I legit search them up and binge them
Let's put it this way 'AITA for cheating on my wife and giving away my daughter's college fund to the new hot young 😺 so that she can pursue law at the expense of my daughter's future'. This man is so NOT involved in his daughter's life that he didn't even know that his daughter has an inclination for science, won scholarship and awards and grew out of MUA phase. I mean how would he know he is busy with his new hot young chick.
Edit: Yeah, same age old tactic some men used. If your wife call you out on your bs call her toxic and crazy.
🥴😂 his cheating partner is like four years older than his daughter!!! This gets worse with every detail lmao
No, the second wife is 10 years younger than the daughter, but also 12 years younger than her husband. Which is all kinds of icky.
The funny part to me is that he could have just said that he had a small college fund for her, and never said anything about taking money out to pay for the wife's law school.
He's such an idiot, he alienated his daughter when it wasn't necessary.
I love how he then puts conditions on the money, after already being told he is an asshole that "she has to apologize to my wife and try to be a family" she really doesn't. I would never accept money from a dad like that, you know he will hold it over her head forever.
Tellme you are a narcissist without telling me you are a narcissist.
.... Oh my god. This story is insane and I'm horrified. "My heart is in the right place!" He deserves everything he's getting and more. His daughter is never going to forgive him and it looks like his AP-turned-wife is starting to realize who she actually married. He's a garbage human being (she's no saint either, but it seems like she seriously had no idea where this money came from). It's a shame that there's almost zero chance he'll come back to fill us all in on how is life spirals out of control after this. He was living in a delusion and it finally caved around him. Maybe the ex, who posted her story at the end, will let the world know after.
He will be the biggest victim when that daughter graduates and forever goes NC, since she now realizes that he never did actually love her.
Some will say “you should feel sorry for her because she was 20 when they met” but to that I say “Bull!” because even after she _knew_ he was married she not only stayed but also married him. I’m not saying she deserves *ALL* the hate she’s getting but she’s not getting any of my sympathy, maybe this will teach her to focus on her studies instead of chasing after the next guy to fix her obvious daddy issues? 😒😒😒
@@LadyLeomon Yeah, exactly. Most kids are raised to know that cheating is a major no-no and if they dated in school, chances are they or someone they knew had to deal with it. By staying with him after finding out he was already married, she went from unwitting affair partner to homewrecker (though OP was far worse in that regard, since it was his home he was wrecking and he showed absolutely no remorse).
His heart IS in the right place . Inside the pile of trash he is :D
his heart or more like his dick is in the right place, he has a thing for 20 year olds, hes a creep and is justifying his bad behaviour. this is insane on so many levels.
Dude, if your own mother has given up on you, there's hardly any hope anyone else could have on you
"if she's so smart, why doesn't she get a scholarship"
And I pray to God, she gets a new and real father too!!
What an absolute pos
"I didn't tell her I was married, but I didn't feel like I was" mmmmm but legally you were and as far as your then wife was aware, you absolutely were. Being depressed and "not feeling" like you're married isn't an excuse. "My wife isn't an AH" if she hadn't known she was an affair partner I'd be more willing to cut her some slack, but she _did_ know. She was fully aware and chose to stay, so yes, she's an AH too, the only reason she isn't as much of one as OP is because she was _20_ when he was _32_ so I'm not going to go as hard on her.
Edit: Bro if she didn't know she even had a fund then that was your chance to _not say anything._
You would still be an AH, but at least you wouldn't have hurt your daughter by blatantly telling her that you picked your affair partner over her in terms of whose future you decided to support.
You decided to screw over your _child_ who is still _young,_ in school, and unable to get a full time job in favor of an _adult_ who is _older,_ out of school, and perfectly capable of getting a full time job but just didn't want to, and then you _told your daughter about it_ and you have the _AUDACITY_ to call her bitter and try to take away what little money she has left in her college fund.
Laughing about ex wife's post (not at her). So they move for Victor and even though it's taking a toll on her mental health he doesn't want to leave because he likes it there, then they move for her and she's getting better, but because now he's unhappy, she has to uproot everything in order to care for him? Typical narcissistic behavior, doesn't care if it affects others but if it affects them then it's a problem that needs immediate attention and fixing.
To be fair to the new wife, she seemed quite reluctant to take the money even to begin with (start of the story, even before she knew where the money was coming from, he had to convince her to let him fund her education). It also sounds as though he only told her after the divorce, so she was probably still angry but no longer the affair partner but just a girlfriend (I.e. she was never actively the affair partner, he stringed her along too).
The only part it does get really iffy is the accepting it after learning that her stringed her along as his affair partner, I am a bit more forgiving of that but I do understand the revulsion.
Op was 32, THIRTY TWO, and the wife was 20. A TWENTY YEAR OLD HAS BARELY GOTTEN OUT OF HIGH-SCHOOL.
WHAT THE HELL, DISGUSTING
Also, the whole you're-too-dumb-to-get-into-college thing!
OMG, the update only made it worse!!!!! She was 20, OP was 32, and he omitted the fact that he was married?!?!?!?
OP broke up his family. His daughter is acting like a grieving 14 year-old, but OP wants her to be more mature than he is.
And he just KEEPS GOING!!!!!
Wow! What a complete AHat!
I’m sorry but the new wife is just as crappy as OP. She married him KNOWING he was cheating on his wife. That’s why she’s so nice because she knew she was wrong. I don’t care how young you are, 5 year olds can tell you cheating is wrong. The July smart thing she did was leave. I guarantee you OP would have done the same to her. She would become a lawyer, have to work insane hours and he would complain just as he did in his first marriage. He’d cheat on her and then say something like “you’re always working, I don’t even feel like we’re married anymore”. To quote Dr. Phil “if they’ll do it WITH you, they’ll do it TO you.
I(early 50's) lost my family exactly one week after my 12th bday. The following week, my dad asked me what would I think about him having a girl friend. After I got home, I asked my mama if dad had been cheating. Her eyes got huge. That was all I needed to see to know the truth. My dad married three days after the divorce. I wasn't invited. My dad and step mom are still married. I did forgive my dad, because, well he is my dad. I have ALWAYS kept pleasant attitude. After they married, I no longer could see my dad without step mom. It was hard, but I'm here to say, I can be proud of myself for not engaging their drama that step mom tried to start. After the divorce, my mama moved on with her life and never looked back even tho my step mom on 2 occasions tried to get my mama in drama. I have the best mama who NEVER spoke ill of either one of them. She stood tall and never let the divorce stop her. This story brought back some hard feelings and all I can say is the daughter HAS every right to be angry. OP, you are an idiot. After seeing all the responses that called you on your BS, you still don't get it. You will never get it.
I’d not forgive him for being a piece of shit. You do that and they never learn. Besides who cares if he’s your dad. Blood don’t mean shit when it’s connected to trash.
@@serpentinewolf7085 Our definition of trash is different. One's who learn from their mistakes are not trash. The dad in this story does not have the ability to see beyond his own face. After 30 years I am thankful I was able to get past the mistakes of my dad. Im glad I didn't live with anger and hate. These are wasteful and would have ONLY hurt me. I will never let those who have TRIED to hurt me EVER see that it did.
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I just wouldn’t be stupid to let those that hurt me or my loved ones (especially that bad) back into my life. They ain’t shit and don’t deserve it. If I mattered to them 1/100 what they did to me they wouldn’t have done that. Some man thinking with his penis doesn’t deserve “second chances”. He can get that with the broad he cheated with.
@@serpentinewolf7085 ok. Have a great day. 🙂
@@pauletteandvincentforbes8806
You too sister.
The fact he thought his daughter would accept his new wife as a new mother when she’s young enough to be her sister.
Also, the only reason he wouldnt tell his wife where the money came from is if he knew on some level that it was wrong and that she’d have an issue with taking it. The fact he lied to her proves he knew exactly how shitty it was and that this was an act of spite against his daughter.
Lost Genre: Let's check the timeline, shall we?
Me: GIT EM!!
Or "Let the ass kicking commence!"
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Sounds like a narcissist to me....can't even be mad just hope that the daughter will go to that private college so she can afford all the therapy she'll be needing. Speaking from experience, OP must have attended the same college of nonsense and uselessness as my dad.
I really hope his AP wife saw both posts and when she actually finishes developing her brain at 25 realizes what a horrible excuse for a man she married. It disgusts me to see age gap relationships greater that 5 years that started before the younger one was 25. The part of your brain responsible for judging the long term consequences of your actions isn't fully developed until you're 25. It's why you can't rent a car until then, and why your insurance rates go down after that. So when he just casually implied that he started his affair when she was 20 and he was 12 years older, I almost threw my tablet across the room! Ihope when she divorces him she cleans him out and puts everything in a trust for his daughter.
And then you turn around one day at 26 and realize that with 2 kids and their father in the room you are the only adult.
That's not likely to happen!
That is incorrect. There is point where the brain is suddenly considered "mature". The 25 age of that is every bit as arbitrary as the age of adulthood, drinking, consent to sexual activity or even run for political office. In all of these we recognize that there is a process that changes you from one state to another. However, there is no real indication of when that state has changed and it varies greatly from person to person. Thus in all these cases we determine an arbitrary age that is sort of a statistical mean of the age we judge that this process has occurred. Oh and the car rental thing are not separate examples. They are cause and effect. A rental agency insures its cars. Because most insurance agencies drop rates for drivers over 25 the rental agencies go after the lower rates. The rates dropping at 25 is not due to a specific change. It is again a statistical mean of were driving habits combined with driving experience cause accident rates to drop. Like the previous examples it reflects a statistical average, not a specific change.
You are also not accounting for personal preferences either. In my late teens and early 30s I almost exclusively pursued women in their early to mid 30's. I must have been quite the unfortunate victim by your philosophy.
"My wife offered to pay for my daughters fund. See, my wife has my daughter's best interest at heart"......well, I guess someone has to because the OP sure as hell doesn't. And, just to try to get the math right here, OP was 32 when he met his now wife who was 20, and if I heard right, his daughter was 12. Meaning the AP is 8 years older than the daughter while the husband is 12 years older than his now wife. Anyone else weirded out that the wife is closer in age to the daughter than the husband?
“She wasn’t even serious about school 2 years ago.”
Dude, are you really justifying taking her college money over something she probably said in passing two years prior? At that age, teens are often still trying to decide what they want to do with their lives, and since you didn’t say it was something she was passionate about, she more than likely was just entertaining the idea of cosmetology as a “what if.” OP had no right to take college off the table before she could officially turn it down herself.
That’d be like being a kid and my parents taking everyone but me on a trip to Italy because I didn’t like the pasta at this one place we went to years ago.
At 13, my niece was going to be a world famous pop star and actress. At 17, she wants to be a nurse. This guy is an imbecile.
and as op said his daughter is currently 14, he straight up decided to give away the fund for a comment made by a *12yo*. the kid wasn't a teen yet, actually she wasn't even a pre-teen, she was literally a child wtf
imagine your parents deciding not to fund your education because you said you wanted to be barbie when you were 10 lmaoooo
It’s ok. If she’s “so smart she can get a scholarship.”
Seriously, that “man” is disgusting. I can’t count how many times he insulted his daughter’s intelligence and morality, calling her a piece of crap.
But you guys! He loves her, and his heart is *totally* in the right place.
@@j_g9109 well did you hear what he said he said if his daughter so smart she can get a scholarship well if his wife is so smart she can get a scholarship
The funny thing about this is that the dad thinks his child will be ok with the fact that he cheated with someone who could be her sister
the fact that he cheated with someone, period
Who wants to bet he's headed to divorce court for the second time?
Even if we accept that OP is telling the truth about his wife, SHE thinks he’s an asshole. This apparently perfect saint whose smarts smell like cotton candy is calling him an asshole and he STILL doesn’t get it?
Every important female figure in my life hates my new wife. I can’t fathom why! My daughter called my wife out for being with a married man and I just don’t understand why she is angry at her! They were supposed to be friends! Poor me and my POS ways, my wife is so toxic because I cheated on her so you have to believe me that she’s really the villain and she turned my daughter against me because she eeevvvvviilllll (said in mermaidman’s voice)
He was clueless to the fact that the more he explained his situation the worst he proved himself to be. I'm not surprised a horrible husband was also a horrible father.
His ex is not brainwashing his daughter against him, OP being a d___ is what's turning his daughter against him.
The absolute audacity of this man. The daughter has a right to be pissed. Now he's emotionally blackmailing his daughter to get the college fund.