I dated a guy who was accused and convicted of r@pe. He spent just over 5 years in a horrible prison before the girl came clean and admitted she'd lied. Even though he was released and his record was expunged, many family members and former friends still treat him like a criminal and won't believe he is completely innocent. This happened over 40 years ago so when OP's husband is saying people will never truly believe him, he's so right.
He sould have sued the girl, the general attorney and the judge for convicted him on false accusation. that make them accomplice of a crime and they should pay.
@tomjoad1363 The girl was charged and convicted of perjury but only served a couple months of jail time. I tried to talk him into suing her but she had nothing, no job, no assets, and he just wanted to put it all behind him and live a peaceful life.
@@terriwetz6077 Thank you for the update on your story. I can understand his reaction. It must be a nightmare and really exhausting. Sincerly I think I would do the same. It's easier to be vindicative behind a screen and a keyboard. ^^ But laws must change so perjurers are punished more heavily. A beginning would be some kind of public list, like the same for s.x predator.
There is something which has a fancy psychological term I can't remember which is based around the idea that people believe what they hear first. It's dumb.
I feel the most bad for the husband. He is a true innocent in this. The OP still sounds like she is making this about her. “I don’t want to lose him. He’s the only man that ever cared for me.” The important thing is this poor man is being labeled a s@xual predator for life now, regardless of what anyone says.
It's sad because OP will be left with nothing. She lost her husband, she lost her daughter and her family. One decent person and a toxic family. And no one will date her again because of her daughter. She's in a no win situation. There are no winners, only losers
Plus I'm fairly sure she's lying when she says she just made up scenerios with the niece. She already tried to lie to OP claiming he didn't knock, until OP told her she heard him knock. Only THEN did she confess she wore earpods She wanted attention, she got it.
While I have sympathy for OP, she handled the situation poorly. The moment the daughter refused to tell the truth ( a bit later) should have confronted her again and recorded the conversation secretly with audio and video. That way the family can't claim, that OP pressured the daughter to defend the Husband. But OP didn't understand how terrifying it is for men to be confronted with such an accusation. Well, now she knows.
@@Goliath_mindsetas if parents were the only influences people can have I work in a school Decent parents can have horrible teens And horrible parents can have little angels for children And even if what about the daughters father and other family members? Or do you just want to hate at mothers/women?
There’s no way to fix this. Husband needs to leave because his livelihood is in grave danger. Daughter needs to learn actions have consequences. OP is stuck in a terrible situation.
Even the innuendo at his work will haunt him. People will only remember the accusation, and his divorce will only reinforce their thoughts. “Yup, she’s not staying with that creep”.
@@juliearmfield2634Precisely why there needs to be legal consequences for people like this. And it should carry the same sentence as the crime she accused him of.
The daughter ruins the man’s reputation, relationship, life, mental security, AND trust in others, yet said man will STILL pay some of her intuition? She not only chased away- but traumatized a Step-Dad most people have DREAMED of! He will never be the same again and will never trust the same way again. This is why false accusations should be punished by the court of law. Maybe she would have spoken the truth if consequences for her were immediate.
bathroom door is closed, lights are on, daughter isnt anywhere else in the house. who tf swings the door open? especially l when you know your wife as a 19 year-old daughter. you have to be more carful. as a woman i dont even do that. i check where everyone is in the house or I open the door a crack.
@@dobbierealsyou don't pay attention to the story much do you? He knocked on the door multiple times. He called if anyone was in there. Have you never left the light on in a room when you've left. This is the daughter's fault for not correcting the mistake her cousin made
@dobbiereals i disagree. If i had to run through the house to account for everyone else in the house before I go to the bathroom, the bathroom would probably be freed up and then taken by someone else by then. It's faster to knock (as OP's husband did). People should be locking bathroom doors, especially if they're changing. Not to mention, it's not unusual for doors to be closed in my house (and I'm sure for others) even if there's no one inside. And people can leave the lights on too even when they're not there, much to my mom's frustration 😂 not that it's always obvious that lights are on unless you crawl to the floor and look under the door
@dobbiereals oh BS! The husband knocked 6 times! Nobody answered, she's lucky he didn't just walk in cause the door was unlocked.. You see how that works, you lock the door when you use the bathroom.. 👏 I highly doubt if the stepdad was standing naked in an unlocked bathroom and the daughter walked in after knocking multiple times you'd be blaming her... I mean according to you she should have to run around and check every room in the house to find him before going to the bathroom.. Your's has to be the DUMBEST idea possible... Your really suggesting that the step dad should have gone up to her room and cracked the door and made sure she was there!? Why? So he could see her naked in her room... and look like a even bigger "creep".. "I had to go to the bathroom so I went to my step daughters room cracked the door and peaked and saw her naked".. Ya that's a good suggestion.. You blame the husband and suggest he put himself in an even worse situation.. so smart.. 😂😂😂
The daughter just wrecked OP's life and I completely agree with the soon to be ex-husband putting distance between himself and the family. That accusation is already threatening to ruin his life and that's before any formal charges. Daughter's toxic and has little remorse. Sad but OP's marriage is a casualty of the daughter's actions.
It's smart to protect yourself. The problem is that there are a lot of people who date parents to get access to the kids. I swear, if my husband was somehow not in the picture, I wouldn't date until my youngest was grown
My husband knows someone who dated a woman with a teen daughter, was falsely accused, was proven innocent afterward to court with evidence of his innocence and it still ruined the guys life. It's why people like me who survived actual abuse have such a hard time coming forward and getting justice. OPs daughter deserves jail time
bathroom door is closed, lights are on, daughter isnt anywhere else in the house. who tf swings the door open? especially l when you know your wife as a 19 year-old daughter, you should be so reckless. as a woman i dont even do that. i check where everyone is in the house or I open the door a crack.
I heard this earlier this morning on different channel and let me tell you those Reddit comments that was defending the daughter and calling OP the A-hole are people who would most likely pull the same stunt as the daughter.
There are sadly way too many people who take a (not illogical) dim view of men as a whole and then don't understand that men are also still individuals.
@@Yume10605Yes because no one ever actually gets abused and sexually harassed. This is not the case here, but can't brush the whole movement away with such shitty take.
The husband explained it concisely: the whole situation is broken beyond fixing because of daughter's lies. When OP described him crying in his car, her daughter weeping on the floor and OP herself just disassociated and broken... A telling snaphot of the whole thing. I pray they all are able to recover from this fully, especially the husband.
The daughter has nothing to recover from. She us a sociopath who pretty much got away with running a man's life which is what she wanted. OP could have cleared his name up but decided to wait for her daughter to do it
As a survivor of CSA, I wish I had a family half as supportive and protective as OP's daughter's. And that's what makes the story even sadder: it's situations like this that play a big part in why actual victims aren't listened to.
It's true, there needs to be more consequences for people that make false allegations but their also need to be tougher consequences for people that commit SA. sadly some people will use a story like this as a reason to not believe victims. I'm sorry fir what you had to go through.
Actual victims are listened to, and every time someone says that under a video like this enrages me to no end. Victims aren't listened to? That's fucking ridiculous. Accusations are essentially convictions. People's lives have been ruined with 0 evidence provided.
@@Tengokuchiaccusations can absolutely ruin lives, has happened many times where someone is ruined based on accusations alone. And yet, MANY victims have not been listened to or dismissed outright because many people falsely assume the victim is lying. Two things can both be true.
In Reddit a woman can literally kill a man and she will be the innocent and the man obviously did something to make her do it... Even if she literally kills him just for fun
Exactly. She’s not a dumb little teenage making stupid mistakes. She’s an adult and has to live will adult consequences, even if that means her entire family and mother shuns her out because no one will ever truly believe her again
Sue her for what? She’s got nothing. If anything, he’s got a case against family members who tried to ruin his livelihood. Regardless if the daughter was the root cause.
@@acgearsandarms1343 He'd sue for slander and defamation. Having an official court document saying she was lying could go a long way toward restoring his reputation, even if he gets no money from it.
@@Laura-gb1jv But that costs a fortune, and becomes public record. To accomplish what? More ruin for the daughter and OP and spreading the lies even further. And some people think that where there's smoke, there's fire. There's plenty of smoke that the daughter created, even if her lies were smoke and mirrors. A lawsuit could be brought against the family who tried to get him fired, but that would have the same results: legal debts on both sides, further spreading of the lies and trauma and deeper alienation between OP and everyone else. Lawsuits cost a huge amount and it's better to settle problems without them if possible.
My post didn’t seem to save, so I’ll try again. Consequences need to rain down for the POS daughter and the cousin. Also OP should disown and move away from everyone including her child. What the hell was wrong with the daughter - the man got her a car and paid for her school and she spreads disgusting lies about him?!
@@groofromtheup5719Oh they do, i agree. I heard another story where a high school boy accused a female teacher as revenge for smthg stupid. He didn't confess until the whole situation went too far.
Wouldn't blame her AT ALL for disowning the daughter. Poor woman is gonna have to move to a new city and start over with zero family or friends On further thought, I'm actually kinda not so happy about the STBX husband either. He would possibly hold it against her if she disowned her daughter? Over something like this that isn't abandonment, the daughter is an adult that committed a terrible act and frankly the poor woman could have at least used him as support as she is gonna restart life anyway with or without him.
I agree I don’t think I could ever forgive or look at my child the same if they did something like this, I would always love them but I think it would have to be at a distance from that point on because how could I trust my child not to the same to me again in the future?
OP has lost everything because of her daughter’s lies. Her wonderful husband, her family, her home. I’m trying to put my own daughter in that situation where I absolutely knew she was in the wrong. She didn’t try to fix the situation. At 19 she’s responsible. I would have thrown her out. I may have met up with her over the years far away from husband but this was also his home not hers. How devastating to all the girls and women that really have gone through abuse. Shame on her, she’s wicked. I don’t understand why he didn’t call the police on her. They had the evidence.
How is it a police matter that a teenager lies about her stepfather? She didn't call the police on him, and with the video evidence that he knocked repeatedly, and her statement that she was wearing earbuds, there's zero evidence of a crime and there is evidence that the stepfather and OP were telling the truth. Gossiping teenagers who spread lies aren't committing crimes either. It was OP's family who committed crimes by harassing him at work and were probably attempting to get him fired, or prosecuted.
How much of an accident was it? She was standing naked and presumably it wasn’t after a shower because neither husband or OP heard it. I think he was setup.
They didn't because the camera had no audio. She said she answered when he knocked. People aren't going to believe op saying she didn't hear because she's married to him.
@@SherwoodyI don't think it's that deep. You've never stood naked in front of a mirror before? You never had your earbuds in while someone was calling you and you didn't hear?
S1) daughter flat out told the cousin a lie, they weren’t talking about different scenarios. She will now have to live with the consequences of her actions for the rest of her life. Her mother, who had loved her and provided for her up until that point will never look at her the same way again, there will always be this chasm full of resentment between them. She will have to see the shell her mother becomes because of the lie she told. She will have to watch her mother pull away from her entire family because of the lengths they went to before the truth finally came out that led the husband with no choice but to leave. She only thinks she sorry now, but when things only get worse from here on out for her mom she will only then begin to understand the true full ramifications of her actions. This will haunt her for the rest of her life,
This infuriates me, because the daughter got away scot-free without any consequences. She literally feels no remorse and doesn't care about the well being of her mother. If I was her mother, the minute the daughter is 18, I would disown her. That's a sociopath she raised.
I’m not sure if stepdad will have a case to sue since the outcome while bad didn’t result in him losing his job/being shunned by the community, etc. he could probably get something for emotional distress but idk. If OPs family were really sorry, they should call his workplace and apologize for their drama
@@ComaLies225 I think you can still make the case for reputational damage. That it will be very difficult to get a new job given the rumors surrounding him. That sort of thing. In any event, suing the family is probably just the right thing to do.
So there's a movie in my country called The Hunt, about a rural town where everyone knows everyone. An elementary school teacher's best friends daughter has a crush on him. Mind you she's 5, it's a puppy dog crush. He turns her down very gently because well she's just a kid. Shes upset and due to her brother showing her a nude pic from an adult magazine, she describes it later in a way that makes it sound like he flashed her. He is rather brutally shunned, even his 14 year old son gets the same treatment. The entire neighborhood is on him. Now that girl operates on child logic. If a kid flashes a teacher, he gets a timeout. She didnt realize that does not apply to an adult. Even when she comes forward, and says shes upset other kids are now also lying about him(they claim he had his way with them in his basement....his house doesn't have a basement), they won't hear it, insisting she's 'repressing things' Granted when all is resolved he does forgive her(this is a movie so realism gets bent), and they go on a hunt, which is common with his town, like a rite of passage for boys, someone tries to shoot him. They miss, but it proves the damage can never be undone. Someone will ALWAYS be doubting him Point is OPs daughter's 19, not a 5 year old girl, and her actions had severe consequences. Even if she's genuinly sorry and would never do it again, there's no coming back from this. It sucks for OP, it really does, my heart bleeds for her...But this is too broken. There's no winners here. No happy outcome, no nothing. her daughter ruined everything. Hope the attention was worth it
Don’t forget just how vile and crappy all the townsfolk were. Perfectly encapsulated by OPs family. They coerced the daughter into “confessing” and the other teacher spreads the story like wildfire before even alerting the police or who was being accused. And just like the ending of that movie, no matter how vindicated the husband will be, there will forever be an air of doubt. Those accusations will follow them forever.
Does anyone else think this was on purpose? She was in the bathroom naked, didn't lock the door, and ignored knocking loud enough that OP could hear it.
@@rileynailling2498I can hear knocking through headphones at full volume. I imagine earbuds are easier. The daughter knew what she was doing. I call bs on ear buds as a reason for not hearing it. She wanted to try something to have a story to tell. Well she got it and ruined several lives. OP needs to name her kid bc she hasn't learned sht.
I had a,creep SD no one believed me about. This girl is too old to not know the extent of her actions and how impact ful that is. And given the extent of which he takes care of her??? Wow
I would say for whatever reason people seem to underestimate how much of a creep woman are capable of beginning. (And for those, of course I don’t mean all women. Just like most men aren’t creeps).
@@natashahenry5044 Ohh no as a woman I know full well how creepy women can get and they think it's totally fine because they're never called out for it.
When I was a teen my wife's older (adult) sister kept creeping on me. I don't know how many times I saw her either shirtless of nude. She kept it up until I was in my early 20's, and I know it all was a trap. She even made an ironic accusation about me because I wouldn't fall for her. She then married a M A P.
And that's the shit situation, for every 10 accusations if 1 is false people will take the route of "Cry Wolf". Society will make it harder and harder to get creeps because we can't punish innocent people. And the same "steps" that is done to protect innocent people would be used as a cover up from real creeps. making it harder for victims to come forward because "no one will believe them". That's why I always say false allegations hurt not only men, but also women, because men will protect themselves, and women will find it harder to have justice that they should expect. Everyone loses.
@@LegendStormcrowOh my God for a second I read it as your wife's oldest DAUGHTER. I was wondering "A teen is married to an older woman that has a child?" That would've been terrible.
This story is so heartbreaking to listen to. The wife did everything right and still lost everything. How can someone come back from that? It was her daughter that ruined everything and because of it, she lost it all. Feels bad man. And that goes double for the soon to be ex husband, who has every right to leave. He's traumatized, his reputation is in ruins, and he was betrayed in one of the worst ways possible. Both the ex husband and wife are blameless and deserved better and yet they lost the most. As for the daughter, she needs serious help, either that or let her fully face the consequences of her actions.
I have to disagree that OP did everything right. OP did everything wrong. As soon as OP learned of the lie and the slander against her husband she should have been all over the daughter about the lie and to correct it NOW. But she trusted the liar to correct the situation . As soon as the daughter stated she didn't want any blow back on her (the daughter) OP should have been "tough you are an adult." But OP was stupid and let the lair delay and delay until the damage was to much.
@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64 op barely did anything. Why the hell did she wait for the daughter to send the video to the family? Why couldn't she? She waited for wayyyy too fucking long for her daughter to apologise and did nothing besides saying "no he didn't, I also have video proof but I'm not gonna share it"
Women like OP's daughter are exactly why real victims of SA are no longer taken seriously. I have seen this happen way too often in the last few years in communities and professional environments.
@@DayumSonny there were 3 rape accusations that happened in my wider circle growing up. 2 ended up being false. How do I tell my own daughters that I'll believe them no matter what with this crap in the back of my mind and knowing that they lie to me about stupid crap? I try to teach them about the long term consequences of dishonesty, but kids only think of the short term and the easy way to get what they want.
That is NOT the reason why real victims os SA are not taken seriously. It is the reverse. Women were, and often still are, called liars and berated by the police for what they were wearing or where they were, walking down a deserted street, etc. It is only in the past forty years where laws have been changed so that a woman's past sexual behavior is not allowed in a trial, as if that has something to do with whether or not she was accosted.
Except, they were NEVER taken seriously. Get your head out of your fantasy world and back to the real one where Brock Turner was caught in the middle of the assault, held until police got there, was 100% at fault and his father argued that HIS life shouldn’t be ruined for “twenty minutes of action” where the judge gave him six MONTHS, of which he served THREE, because Brock was a good swimmer and the judge didn’t want to ruin HIS future. Where r ape kits have been found to be just placed in storage because the cops decided it wasn’t worth their time because “they’d never catch the guy”, and when the decade worth of kits was finally processed, guess what. Serial assualters were found. A man assaulted his daughter from 10-14 and the judge gave him 12 years instead of the recommended decades, why? “He’s a good Christian man.” These aren’t new cases. Look at the abuses by the church. Accusations for decades and no one did anything but deny it
@@shells500tutubolet's play devil's advocate. People's past behaviors should be taken into account. If a guy we all knew was legitimately guilty of a lot of petty theft crimes and they were picked up for burglary or armed robbery it's not that great a stretch but they may be capable of the crime they are accused of. The problem with SA is, as I see it, it is consent-based. If we consented it is not a crime. If one of the parties does not consent then it is a crime. So the problem becomes the word of two people if there is no evidence of a physical struggle or injuries. All a rape kit is going to show is whether or not semen is present. And if both parties admitted that there was no condom usage but one person said it was consensual then the rape kit will standard procedure in most places is going to provide a useless piece of evidence. Navigating claims of SA is that much harder because of the nature of consent being the determining factor of whether a crime took place. Honestly a woman's sexual history in this case would be less relevant than her history of lying. The problem is that it'd be really hard to support or deny in court. And the internet is inundated with stories of habitual liars claiming they were SA'd, of drunk people having a one night stand blaming they were SA'd in a moment of panic to avoid consequences, and a wide variety of other circumstances for false claims of SA. Many cases of SA are dropped due to the lack of evidence beyond yeah these two people had sex. Many cases of SA are dropped because the accuser recants their story. And I realize I have begun to ramble so I'll leave this here for now.
What about her husband? You know the guy who who her daughter falsely accused. OP should have cleared his name instead of waiting for her daughter to do it
@@johnbradbury8610 dude try relistening to even reading the story yourself before commenting the same wrong thing everywhere. The OP TRIED to tell them the truth, she told her sister what actually happened when she first called! She tried telling the rest of the family when it spread! They all just turned on her for siding with him and attacked her for "lying" to protect him! That's why she needed the daughter to tell the truth! They didn't believe it from the OP!
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@ianesgrecia8568 1. You can have sympathy for more then 1 person. 2. You can teach someone something all day long. But it's their choice to follow yours or outside influences. They have free will, and you can't control what other people do, even if you teach them what they should.
It's telling that the daughter willingly lied and knows what she did but doesn't want to take responsibility for her actions because she doesn't want to look bad. It's fine if she made her stepdad out to be a monster but, she can have anyone see her in a bad light. She's a child in a grown woman's body.
Ops monster daughter cried wolf , hopefully nothing happens to her because no-one will believe her again after this. Poor op and her husband, I hope op gets a place a cutes the family out of her live and gets therapy. I really hope she doesn't take it out on herself
Exactly. If, heaven for id, something bad happens to the daughter by someone else, no one will believe her and they will question it and likely tell her she is just making it up. This is also why people like myself who survived actual abuse have such a hard time coming forward. We know people like the daughter lie about it and we know people will be less likely to believe us because one dumb teen wanted attention. Shame on her.
Those who were saying that OP should have gone with her daughter or supervised her as she told the truth forgot that OP's family already accused her of siding with her husband over her daughter. If OP was there when the daughter confessed, they'd say it was coerced and then even the daughter taking it back would not fix anything. She would have to WILLINGLY go and fix it on her own, which she already made clear wasn't going to happen because "she didn't want to look bad". This situation was screwed the moment the daughter didn't willing jump to rectify it. The only reason they believed her at the end, after the damage was done, was because she went on her own with the evidence to disprove her own accusation. But, like said, the damage was done.
I will say, I don't blame redditors for blaming op for raising a monster daughter because I had to think that op had to raise her mostly by herself if that is the case, then I ask how much did she baby her? This attitude isn't form out of nowhere.
OP could have brought the tape, she should not have waited on her daughter to fix things. It might have made a difference. I still don't know how OP can stay with her 19 year old daughter.
@@johnbradbury8610 , I agree OP is also at fault. OP should have put out the video of the hallway right away. Op should also have pushed the daughter to fix it NOW. You don't wait on a lair, that doesn't want to be shown to be a liar to fix their lie.
The ex husband now needs to get a lawyer and start suing some of the family for doing what they're doing. They have caused harm to his credibility and his brand he could actually get money from some of these people.
This sounds like a setup. I don't think that her husband and daughter got along as well as she thought they did. I think the daughter has an issue with him and she decided that this is the best way to get him out of the house. What a skunk move. She just cost her mom a good man. I hope she's happy. 🤬
Dang! This is so unfortunate! A man can never fully get rid of the stink of that kind of accusation. At most, we can hope that the daughter has learned her lesson about lying.
yeah... not gonna happend. Chances are she will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
Hopefully someone else in the family who feels remorseful will pull any future boyfriends aside and warn them so they can break up with her. I understand to a point where the family is coming from. If my niece told me her stepdad did that to her, I'd believe her. But if I was shown actual evidence that she lied, I'd of course apologize and try to make it right. They should have immediately apologized when OP showed them proof that the daughter was lying @@ianesgrecia8568
Wow I'm so sorry for OP. I'm just in full shock, that girl just blew up everyone's life. Their relationship will never be the same it's unforgivable. Like no amount of therapy will make you forget what could have been. I feel so bad for OP
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@@linkinlady06 I feel worse for the Husband or ex. That label is gonna follow him around forever. There is no amount of damage control that can fix it.
@truthbringer-6748 not to mention the broken trust and damage this will carry into any future relationships he might have from here in out. This was "How to turn a genuinely good man into a broken mess in 1 easy step".
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@ianesgrecia8568 my sympathy goes straight to her because she's the one writing the story. But of course yes my sympathy goes for the husband as well because he's also losing someone he dearly loves because of a lie I'm not favoring one over the other....
It's also an example of no good deed going unpunished because OP was always on the right side, actively tried to help her husband, and got her life ruined anyway.
I have been in this situation before 18yrs ago with an _EXTREMELY_ close friend. It really hurts beneath my heart because the pain is just that bad still.. Even if _THE LIAR_ comes clean, there will ALWAYS be many that believe it was pressure to change their story... I am a _SURVIVOR_ I have _NEVER_ been a victim so when I hear stories like this, THAT is what makes my heart break. I have always wondered, if he didn't "blade" me and my screams alerted so I had witnesses, would I have been believed because it was a BELOVED in my family for 22 years for them.....
I don't. But in our house the doors aren't really closed unless there's a reason. And people knock. And they ANSWER if their in there and you can't come in.
I don't and I live with my mom, my brother, and dad. They knock and I say that I'm still changing and they wait til I open the door. I am questioning why the daughter is wearing earpods while taking a bath but that's besides the point. The lying is what is bothering me. Why make an embarrassing accident to be a very serious crime? I was 19 and nothing like that ever crossed my mind
Daughter not only ruined a marriage, wrecked husband's life but her mother's as well...and damaging her own in the process. What a POS. So sad. You can't fix stupid.
If I were OP I'd tell her she's out of my life until I got my husband back, just to really rub it in that she screwed up. Daughter doesn't deserve OP taking the high ground.
@@nightmarefanatic1819 Chances are she will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
s1: NTA. she's lucky stbxh hasn't tried pressing charges for defamation and emotional distress. she's 19 and still cries when she's called out on her lies? she's more worried about her reputation if she fesses up, than that of stbxh once this spreads outside the family and escalates further? she shouldn't just be banned from the house, she should be banned from your life. update: OH, so she was just "MaKiNg Up SoMe ThiNgS wiTh HeR cOuSiN" was she? literally, OP, i don't see how you can or even want to keep in contact with her after this - that wasn't some harmless fun, that was a successful character a*****ination that escalated until daughter saw the consequences in full. too little, too late from all of them, and OP? he loves you, but he can't be with you while you have those vile people in your life. that's why he didn't make the ultimatum, even if he might have wanted to.
and yet when op said she would cut her family and her daughter out her life and go with him wherever he went, he said he wouldn't be able to look at her the same way if she abandoned her daughter for him.
I responds this on another video but, this is why there should be consequences for false allegations. It holds everyone involved accountable. False allegations destroys people’s lives.
When there are "consequences for false allegations" they don't fall on people like OP's stepdaughter. They get exercised on the poor minority girl who dared even suggest the rich, popular boy would even think about corrupting his golden dick by getting it anywhere near her, no matter what the evidence may say. Laws are always, always used primarily as weapons against the weak.
@natashahenry5044 No. That could have unintended consequences. Imagine being raped, making the allegation, not being able to make a successful case before the court, and then possibly being punished for making "a false allegation".
@karendavies7510 so what should happen then, what do you think the solution should be? False allegations destroy people's lives all the time, and even when the truth comes out, it is almost nearly unrecoverable for those falsely accused.
@@karendavies7510 so you believe that a person can lie and accuse someone of rape, cause that person's life to be destroyed, in some cases these people are arrested and in prison they are beaten, raped, get diseases or are killed and still nothing should happen to who made the false accusation?
@@notevenlistening6072the ex husband (or soon to be ex) has a good case against her as this did affect his life. I hope he does sue her but I doubt he will.
Well, she just lost her uni tuition, and somehow I don't see OP letting her land where she washes up. And I bet her relatives will be quick to deny her a place.
OP really needs to disown and have the daughter live on her own to punish her for the way she destroyed OP’s marriage, repeatedly lie to everyone about the whole incident and made a false version of the story, and basically ruined the soon to be ex-husband’s reputation to the family and put his job at risk. OP needs to show her daughter that actions have consequence and go NC with her daughter and is old enough to know better. I still don’t agree with the way the soon to be ex-husband still is gonna pay for the ungrateful brat’s college tuition after what she did
@@user-de2wv8ri8n Dude, please stop talking and actually learn how to form a coherent sentence. 😑 The MeToo movement did not in fact make every single person on this planet believe all women. The courts still screw over women and girls when it comes to cases with actual proof. Predators are still protected, especially those in power. In fact, especially over here in the states, the current political climate and future leader is currently working on truly securing that more and more women and girls will lose basic human rights and is currently appointing predators to his cabinet. Y'all really believed that the movement magically made everyone believe actual victims, lol.
Aside from the big issue, it's funny how OP is asking if she's the AH for telling the daughter that she will have to move out of HER house if she get divorced but it turns out the house is stbx husband's before marriage. He's even solely paying for step-daughter's tuition! He had graciously and generously left the house instead of kicking them out. Letting them stay find home during divorce and still gonna pay for the next semester. What a stand up guy even when OP's daughter and family spread out lies and harassed him.
Story one is heartbreaking,but OPs hisband did the only right thing after OPs daughter and family totally screwed him over. At 19 years old,her daughter should've known better and how she made up stories with her cousin is just plain evil. I fully understand OPs husband doesn't want to be anywere near her daughter ever again and her extremely toxic family. It is so sad OP is going to loose her husband,but he simply can't risk it OPs daughter and family ruin his life even more. What a sickening situation all round and it clearly shows the prroblems men face against made up stories and accusations. No matter what,the man his life is ruined.
The unfortunate repercussion to this lie is that OPs daughter will now be ignored if she accusses someone else of assault of this nature even if it (the scenario) is true.
@@dyamariv3628 I really hope you're not implying that the daughter will deserve assault and no justice because of what she did. No one, and I repeat, NO ONE deserves to be assaulted as a way of punishment for what they did. Not even prisoners deserve to be assaulted just because they're in jail. The daughter did a horrible thing and absolutely deserves to be kicked out for it, BUT that's only for the false accusations. She should still have help and justice if the same happened to her. Let's not completely lose our humanity with statements like that, shall we?
@@nightmarefanatic1819 Read my comment again and actually read it this time. Don't bother responding to me again because I'll already have you muted. Have a good day! ✌️
You know the biggest problem? The husband will never sue ther, the family or the daughter for defamation as HE SHOULD. If every false acusation was actually met with CONSEQUENCES, women would be less likely to make those false acusations and make every REAL case less credible
Dude was willing to sacrifice his own happiness to prevent the woman he loves from losing her unworthy daughter. What an amazing guy. Tragic that the daughter is so vile.. she needs to grow up.
why the hell did OP not send the video herself. 😑 she didn't really take any action to defend him. Just said her daughter needed to clean up the mess and make it right. Like, really? She would have been out on her ass the second she found out that her daughter lied. And then she would have corrected everyone. Anyone wanting to still treat his some kind of perv/creep can be cut off. And honestly, if I were the husband I'd have been pushing for him to press defamation charges against the ones who called his job(fortunate the jobs is backing him up) She way under reacted to this situation.
According to what OP said, her daughter described what happened as “He knocked, I said “I’m in here”, and he still came in and did something.” OP said that their cameras either don’t record sound or wasn’t recording sound at the time, so it would just showed him knocking, waiting, then entering. Which would correlate more with what the daughter told her cousin. Sending the vid wouldn’t have helped. Hell she addresses that in the beginning of the update
That and SHE could've recorded her daughter confessing to the lie... like if you knew you were going to interrogate her and new the truth you could recorded her yourself before your family went crazy.
Honestly, I think this would have still ended in divorce. This is too much to come back from, one of those lies that is so dark and twisted in nature that it’s just as hard for people to believe that someone could lie about it as it is to believe he did absolutely nothing wrong once it’s out there. Poor guy smh.
This is where I get the redditor comments accusing her of being a horrible mom because with how the daughter acted, tells me a lot of what its like before the husband came in.
The thing that pisses me off the most is that after Husband chose to leave, Daughter shared the footage of what happened and all of a sudden OP's family believed it. Why on earth wouldn't OP share that footage knowing that this accusation could end Husband's entire life? Why did Daughter only admit to it when Husband's and OP's marriage was already broken way beyond repair?? I do not understand any of this.
It's pretty simple. OP's family already decided that she was covering for husband. No amount of her explaining was going to change their minds, yet she still tried anyway. The footage would have had to have audio in order to prove without a doubt that her daughter's story didn't add up and even then, they may have chosen not to believe that he was innocent.
I know parents choose to have their kids, but imagine giving birth, sacrificing just about every part of yourself for another life, just for them to ruin any chance of your happiness. Parenting is thankless work. I'll never do it.
I read the update on Reddit and the post was near unintelligible because of the run on sentences and spelling mistakes. Thanks for going through that made the story coherent.
What worries me more is the fact that if the daughter can make lies about the husband there a high possibility that the she's lied and gotten other people in trouble.
Even if she didnt before, chances are she will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
19 is old enough to know not to lie about stuff like this. It’s life ruining for the person being accused + once the lie is revealed real victims of real crimes suffer bc no one believes them/
First story One problem is this feeds the imagination of those idiots who say that there is no smoke without fire. If OP's husband has been keeping these poisonous texts cant they be used in a prosecution against the senders.I would certainly look into it.Natural justice demands repercussions against these individuals.
The frustrating part is that OP and especially the daughter seem to think that this is easily fixable and that somehow counseling will help. His reputation is ruined. Another false accuser gets away with everything. Reminds me of that one reddit story in TIFU from the father's perspective when he had a son whose life he ruined for his lying stepdaughter.
Well, girlie IS about to be homeless and lost her uni tuition. And if the relatives have any sense of self preservation, they won't be giving her a chance to pull this on them.
@@thedorkone1516 Chances are that the trash daughter will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
That poor man. This could destroy him. Since the people where he works already know, he will eventually be ostracized. His only hope is to move far away, but even that might not be enough. One of his former coworkers might take it upon themselves to report him to his new employer. This is so heartbreaking. This is the kind of situation that makes some people decide to end things. I hope he finds peace wherever he goes.
Honestly, the main story was just so sad and awful that hearing the mood booster after it didn’t feel right. Hard to boost your mood when such awful things happen.
🤨 To even call his job and tell HR for something they had ZERO proof of, is disgusting. She’s lucky he didn’t take them all (except the wife) to court for defamation and/or slander, with emotional distress. He could’ve won that easily, from the video and wife’s testimony alone. We don’t punish false accusations enough, because who’s the comfortable allowing a lie to spread that fast?
14:53, He has compartmentalized. He's wants to get this over with as soon as possible. It's not that he doesn't care about the relationship ending, but he has to keep his composer else nothing will get done, in his eyes. He's either already greaved the relationship or will once both the mother and daughter move out. On top of that, hopefully the daughter learns to take accountability from this and never lie about someone like this again. It was a harsh lesson, but hopefully, she becomes a better person.
The daughter just ruined 3 relationships that hers and her mother, her and the stepfather, the ops and her husband all because she couldn't tell the truth. For any man that's been accused of any kind of assault their reputation is immediately destroyed there's no coming back from that he needs to leave and protect himself.
OPs actions are completely understandable. She's not a cheater who doesn't deserve to be in his life, she is a loyal woman who's being punished for the actions of someone else and she's desperate to not lose the only good person in her life.
@@nightmarefanatic1819 Darling. She thought this could be solved by COUNSELING. And as if runing away to another state would make the accusation disappear. It would NOT. They called HIS JOB. This was marked ON SOCIAL MEDIA. That man will forever be marked with this and HE did the only think he could: Protect himselve by getting away. OP on another hand should have put the daughter ON BLAST with the actual evidence. The family just 'apologise' after the daughter posted the camera evidence. She should be getting her daughter to JAIL for it.
If there was any hope of fixing this, there should have been immediate and severe consequences for the daughter. Just telling her to fix it and waiting- eff that! If OP had immediately posted the camera video and blasted her daughter all over social media, and disowned her then, maybe her marriage could've been saved. But even that is doubtful- there could still be family members who would still have believed it, and still harassed the husband by calling his workplace. It's heartbreaking for OP, but no amount of counseling will fix this. Her ex husband will have this following him forever and he has no choice but to protect himself by keeping his distance. Daughter rang that bell, it can't be un-rung. Nothing short of a time machine and a very thorough tongue lashing to the stupid, selfish daughter before she did all this, will fix it. She should have learned by age 19 that saying 'sorry' can't fix everything, and how serious her false accusations were. She definitely needs some kind of mental health treatment to figure out why she thought for a second that this was ok. Actually, they all need therapy of some kind, individually. OP and her ex are going to need help to process what they've been through as well. No marriage counseling, though. Sadly that ship has sailed.
Not quite the op literally suggested going no contact and moving faraway together, leaving the daughter behind. Her husband refused that because he doesn’t want to be married to someone willing to abandon their kids regardless of age nor be close to the daughter himself. Truthfully the marriage could have been salvaged as the daughter was 19. They could have forced her to become independent which is something common among 18 year olds. Sad reality is the op’s husband’s family values f’d her in the end as he wouldn’t accept abandoning the daughter nor accept being near the daughter. If not clear the point isn’t that the husband is wrong for divorcing. It is that there was actual realistic options outside of divorce that got rejected because of ethics.
@ I don’t really blame the wife she actually did everything she could,the daughter lied for no reason and her family tried getting him fired from his job so having any interaction with them seems out of the question.She offered to leave it all behind but I think he believes one day she would change her mind and he didn’t want her to do something so extreme for him.
@@darth3911 Darling, the fact that you believe the marriage couls be salvage and tries to blame the husband just shows how you STILL dont understand how grave the acusations were and its repercusions.
She decided to confess now because she got what she wanted. OP’s ex husband should have taken that car back and never paid another dime towards her tuition.
OP's first course of action should have been to take her daughter and cousin along with the video evidence to the family members, and confronted them and set the record straight. OP's second course of action should have been to, kick her daughter out of her husband's house. Instead she waited relaxing on her butt for everything to take its own course of time, and yes, it splendidly backfire OP. OP wants her daughter to set the record straight, how can you believe that her bish daughter who destroyed everything by lying is somehow voluntarily going to set record straight. OP's daughter is 19 yrs old and she needs to face the consequences. OP needs to go as well, and let her 100% sure Ex to live his own life.
I feel so bad for the mother. I feel so bad for the step dad. They were both put in a no win situation. Counselling wont work because the issue was not with the marriage. And the outside issue cant be fixed he can never trust the daughter nore should he. And he cant live with the fact that the woman he loves will have to lose her daughter to stay married to him. It is completely understandable and shows what a truly great person he is. Aometimes in life there is no good options. I hope op dise not kick her daughter out not because the daughter does noylt deserve it just because i dont want OP to lose everyone. But i would never give her that advise because it really is understandably if she could never forgive her. I know in that position i couldnt.
I feel so bad for OP she is losing her marriage after she did everything right the only thing she could’ve done better was just send the camera footage to the “family” but she didn’t start this mess why is she the one expecting to clean it up? OP’s daughter really ruined her mom’s happiness all because she wanted to look like a victim to her cousin and then refused to put out the fire she started. If I were OP I would never be able to look at her the same after that
Honestly it sounded like they were so dead set against husband they would probably try to make excuses for it anyway. They only believed the footage because it was coming from the person making the accusation.
The camera doesn't record sound, though. OP said it wouldn't have proven anything bc daughter could still claim she told step dad she was in the bathroom and pretended not to hear her
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
I have read sooo many reddit stories.. but the first one here really broke my heart.. this is the only video where i really needed that mood booster.. my heart goes out to OP.. what a terrible situation to be in.. that daughter screwed up 3 lives, including hers..
I'm actually worried about OP in story one. I'm scared because she's pushing away all her family. I'm not sure if she can ever forgive her daughter, and she is losing the love of her life when she did nothing wrong. If anything she did everything right from defending him, to showcasing evidence to planning on leaving it all behind and leave with her and hubby. After such a horrible thing happening, losing her home and having no more support structure left (unless she has some really good friends) there is a chance she could do something drastic... I know I would be considering as such if such a horrible thing happened to me...
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@ianesgrecia8568 Bitch please. I can feel sorry for two people. But also, its been 5 years and the daughter NEVER did something like this before tbat we know of. There was no pattern of bad behavior. And the bitch is 19. She is old enough to take responsibility for her actions without it reflecting poorly on her mother who raised her. For whatever reason, sometimes we all do shit things. And it has nothing to do with how we're raised. Further more, I am sad for this man, but he is doing what's right for him. When this divorce is done he still has his family. He can transfer jobs. This will not follow him wherever he goes because daughter finally DID fess up at the end and he is getting apologized to by everyone. Everyone knows the daughter was the problem and he can continue his life safely from here on out. There will be no backlash. He was traumatized but he will make a clean escape, safely and without any baggage holding him down. But what will OP have at the end of this? She has lost the love of her life. Her daughter has broken their family. Betrayed her! She is pushing all other family away for how they treated her love. She will lose her home. Her life style. Her person. And every item she has in a divorce will only be a reminder that she was happy and she lost everything through no fault of her own. What more could she have done to solve the problem she never caused?! She talked with and punished her daughter when the incident first happened. She spoke out immediately to her friends and family. She took her husband's side. She provided evidence. She defended him to EVERYONE even her family, when they were turning against her. She gave him space when he needed to leave. And she made plans to escape and never return, to cut off her friends and family to protect him! All this she did on her own without any prompting and none of these things are easy to do! WHAT MORE COULD SHE HAVE DONE?! I'M GENUINELY ASKING?! Now, when this is all said and done, she will have nothing. She loses EVERYTHING and EVERYONE she ever loved. The people most dear to her heart! How is she supposed to carry on?! Who is she to move on with, when the man she adores is right there still loves her, but can not feel safe due to her family. The child who she birthed, loved and provided for, has cost her EVERYTHING for NO REASON. And did it all on a whim when she REFUSED to see the bigger picture, DESPITE OP's warnings! And even though that child NOW knows what she did was crap (if you read the whole story and not the first 2 min, you see she FINALLY pulled her head out of her ass), its too late. There is nothing left to fix. And then she has trolls like you blaming her and telling her "welp that sucks but you gotta let him go. Its not about you anymore." When it has EVERYTHING to do with her!!! This is her story! Her life! Her loves! When you have no support structure, no friends, and no reason to live, bad things happen! She could do bad things to herself! I am HOPING, BEGGING that OP has SOMEONE to be there for her at the end of the day because if not, she may not make it out. The husband has his family. The daughter has hers. OP has no one. And that is dangerous.
story 1 there's one thing that makes the situation super sus. WHY WAS THERE APPARENTLY NO LOCK ON THE BATHROOM DOOR?! EDIT: OK so there was a lock, so daughter sus.
Her daughter ruined their lives...him getting out is the ONLY option, getting away from that horrible girl is the ONLY option. He may still love OP but I agree with him, he can't risk being anywhere near her daughter ever again. And yeah, he would look at OP differently if she just abandoned her daughter. But I also think she SHOULD abandon her, and give up on ever getting him back. Her daughter can go live with other family and OP needs a TON of therapy to get through this.
There is nothing more damaging a man can be called is a child predator. That kind of reputation can literally destroy your life, and get you attacked on the street. False accusations like that need to have serious consequences.
The only reason the husband wasn't arrested and thrown in jail as a pedo was because the daughter was a legal adult when she lied, she's 19. Imagine how much more horrific this would be if the daughter had been just a couple years younger! It's so sad for OP and the husband, but there is no fixing this. He can never trust the daughter again and can never be around her. I suspect the daughter got mad at step-dad for some dumb teenage reason and decided to get back at him by lying. Or maybe she just didn't like him all that much. She ruined his, her mom's, and her own life as a result - who does she think is going to pay for her college once the year is up, lol? Will her mom even let her live with her, in whatever apartment she manages to get now that they're both out of stepdad's house? What a selfish, stupid brat.
Doesnt the bathroom have a lock, why wasnt it locked? "She didnt spread it, she only told" In otherwords she spread it, telling 1 person or 100 it is still spreading.
I'll tell you one thing if I was OP I'd help him sue my daughter & family for slander & harassment. When we won I'd tell them all that I no longer have a family cuz I refuse to deal with such hateful, misandrist, harassing, pos. I'd tell them the little lying 💩 is their problem now & forever. I'd never let her anywhere near me for the rest of my days. I'd also make darn sure any boy she's with knows precisely what will happen to him if she decides it'll get her attention.
story 1: i hope the husband sues for defemation, false accusations should be punished by the same punishment of the crime accused, i don't care how old she is; that and also he should sue for defamation the extended family harassing him. Ops STBX is safest FAR away from OP and the see you next tusday of a daughter. edit: good on the husbands op for recording the conversation with the daughter as soon as she rushed down "crying", he should never stay in any place alone with that...girl.
Title story: such a sad story. The daughter hopefully wakes up and won't do crap like that again. But something in the husband died and probably can't be fixed...
Chances are that the trash daughter will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
This reminds me of that story of the guy that was engaged & her ex coached their daughter to make a false allegation. When it was all sorted out she stupidly thought they were just gonna stroll back into the OP house but he obviously broke up with her & she was acting just the extended family of aholes. This is a prime example of why we as men CANNOT take the risk of dating single mothers. There's just way too many risks. To any single moms out there sorry for your struggles but this is the reality we live in. Blame all the other women that made excuses for those that made false allegations before & saw zero consequences while innocent men's lives were still ruined even after being vindicated.
I remember that story. At least there, the daughter was a manipulated pre-teen, so it could be argued that she wasn’t entirely at fault. Not so for the daughter here: she’s wasn’t manipulated by a toxic ex, and she’s old enough to know that her actions have consequences. A lot of people are slagging the OP for raising the daughter that way but I dunno: both the OP and the husband seemed blindsided by the whole episode, so it seems plausible enough that it came out of the blue. Too bad for OP and especially her husband, they get to suffer the consequences for the daughter’s bad actions. This is not fixable.
@JosieJOK Oh absolutely I applaud OP for standing up to her daughter, should've done it more forcefully though. Regardless both of these stories really illustrate precisely how men have only one option once false allegations are levied. Personally he was too kind to her afterwards & OP should've helped him sue her daughter & family. Idc if she FINALLY did the right thing if I was OP I'd never speak to my daughter again. She ruined the marriage, the family, & everyone's lives. Hope lil liar never has another day of peace for rest of her days.
LG didn't go over it, but in the comments OP did say sent the video to some family members, but they essentially dismissed and blame her for sticking up for the husband
This one's a mess, and most of the blame lies at the daughter's feet. But... I'm side-eyeing OP as well. When this first went down, she had literal, physical evidence that her husband wasn't a creep in the form of a video showing him knocking and entering an unlocked room. But this wasn't shown to the family until her daughter did it, at which point.. the family immediately understood he was innocent! But by then, it was already broken. OP had sat on her hands and let her husbands life unravel because 'my daughter needs to come clean herself.' She didn’t have his back. Her daughter may have learned passivity from her mom, and it's gone off in the worst way possible. I can't even wholly blame the family; they were going to bat for what they thought was a victim of abuse. If the daughter hadn't lied, their actions would be admirable, if a little overzealous. And they stopped _the second_ they saw the proof. The proof that OP had all along.
I dated a guy who was accused and convicted of r@pe. He spent just over 5 years in a horrible prison before the girl came clean and admitted she'd lied. Even though he was released and his record was expunged, many family members and former friends still treat him like a criminal and won't believe he is completely innocent. This happened over 40 years ago so when OP's husband is saying people will never truly believe him, he's so right.
He sould have sued the girl, the general attorney and the judge for convicted him on false accusation. that make them accomplice of a crime and they should pay.
@tomjoad1363 The girl was charged and convicted of perjury but only served a couple months of jail time. I tried to talk him into suing her but she had nothing, no job, no assets, and he just wanted to put it all behind him and live a peaceful life.
@@terriwetz6077 Thank you for the update on your story.
I can understand his reaction. It must be a nightmare and really exhausting. Sincerly I think I would do the same. It's easier to be vindicative behind a screen and a keyboard. ^^
But laws must change so perjurers are punished more heavily. A beginning would be some kind of public list, like the same for s.x predator.
It rarely ever happens but when it does the liar should get the sentence that the accused person would have gotten/did get.
There is something which has a fancy psychological term I can't remember which is based around the idea that people believe what they hear first. It's dumb.
I feel for the wife and her STBX. They both got screwed by the daughter. I hope OPs daughter lives with the guilt for the rest of her life
Not just the daughter but the entire family too. They sent horrid messages and ended up breaking it their family members marriage and happy family
I feel the most bad for the husband. He is a true innocent in this. The OP still sounds like she is making this about her. “I don’t want to lose him. He’s the only man that ever cared for me.” The important thing is this poor man is being labeled a s@xual predator for life now, regardless of what anyone says.
What's STBS
@@قريهكلاش-غ3و. STBX means “Soon To Be Ex(wife or Husband)”
@@قريهكلاش-غ3وsoon to be ex
It's sad because OP will be left with nothing. She lost her husband, she lost her daughter and her family. One decent person and a toxic family. And no one will date her again because of her daughter. She's in a no win situation. There are no winners, only losers
And her home. She has to move out. Daughter is 19. NINETEEN. I knew better than that at the age of 12.
Plus I'm fairly sure she's lying when she says she just made up scenerios with the niece. She already tried to lie to OP claiming he didn't knock, until OP told her she heard him knock. Only THEN did she confess she wore earpods
She wanted attention, she got it.
No sympathy for Op. She raised that daughter and it bit her in the butt. Sounds like karma for something in the past.
While I have sympathy for OP, she handled the situation poorly. The moment the daughter refused to tell the truth ( a bit later) should have confronted her again and recorded the conversation secretly with audio and video. That way the family can't claim, that OP pressured the daughter to defend the Husband.
But OP didn't understand how terrifying it is for men to be confronted with such an accusation. Well, now she knows.
@@Goliath_mindsetas if parents were the only influences people can have
I work in a school
Decent parents can have horrible teens
And horrible parents can have little angels for children
And even if what about the daughters father and other family members?
Or do you just want to hate at mothers/women?
There’s no way to fix this.
Husband needs to leave because his livelihood is in grave danger.
Daughter needs to learn actions have consequences.
OP is stuck in a terrible situation.
She needs to accept the fact that because of what our daughter did to her husband she will never be able to fix that marriage.
Its done.
Even the innuendo at his work will haunt him. People will only remember the accusation, and his divorce will only reinforce their thoughts. “Yup, she’s not staying with that creep”.
@@juliearmfield2634Precisely why there needs to be legal consequences for people like this. And it should carry the same sentence as the crime she accused him of.
The daughter saying "I thought this would just blow over" and the OP just wants the husband leaving to be temporary, there's a similar denial here.
@robinkholmes7127 that girl is Beyond delusional
The daughter ruins the man’s reputation, relationship, life, mental security, AND trust in others, yet said man will STILL pay some of her intuition?
She not only chased away- but traumatized a Step-Dad most people have DREAMED of!
He will never be the same again and will never trust the same way again.
This is why false accusations should be punished by the court of law. Maybe she would have spoken the truth if consequences for her were immediate.
bathroom door is closed, lights are on, daughter isnt anywhere else in the house. who tf swings the door open? especially l when you know your wife as a 19 year-old daughter. you have to be more carful. as a woman i dont even do that. i check where everyone is in the house or I open the door a crack.
@@dobbierealsyou don't pay attention to the story much do you? He knocked on the door multiple times. He called if anyone was in there. Have you never left the light on in a room when you've left. This is the daughter's fault for not correcting the mistake her cousin made
@dobbiereals i disagree. If i had to run through the house to account for everyone else in the house before I go to the bathroom, the bathroom would probably be freed up and then taken by someone else by then. It's faster to knock (as OP's husband did). People should be locking bathroom doors, especially if they're changing.
Not to mention, it's not unusual for doors to be closed in my house (and I'm sure for others) even if there's no one inside. And people can leave the lights on too even when they're not there, much to my mom's frustration 😂 not that it's always obvious that lights are on unless you crawl to the floor and look under the door
@@dobbiereals How do you see the light on during the day or in a lit hallway?
@dobbiereals oh BS! The husband knocked 6 times! Nobody answered, she's lucky he didn't just walk in cause the door was unlocked..
You see how that works, you lock the door when you use the bathroom.. 👏
I highly doubt if the stepdad was standing naked in an unlocked bathroom and the daughter walked in after knocking multiple times you'd be blaming her...
I mean according to you she should have to run around and check every room in the house to find him before going to the bathroom..
Your's has to be the DUMBEST idea possible...
Your really suggesting that the step dad should have gone up to her room and cracked the door and made sure she was there!?
Why? So he could see her naked in her room... and look like a even bigger "creep"..
"I had to go to the bathroom so I went to my step daughters room cracked the door and peaked and saw her naked"..
Ya that's a good suggestion..
You blame the husband and suggest he put himself in an even worse situation.. so smart.. 😂😂😂
The daughter just wrecked OP's life and I completely agree with the soon to be ex-husband putting distance between himself and the family. That accusation is already threatening to ruin his life and that's before any formal charges. Daughter's toxic and has little remorse. Sad but OP's marriage is a casualty of the daughter's actions.
I know men who refuse to date woman with children. Some state fear of similar scenarios like this as a possibility. Very valid.
It's smart to protect yourself. The problem is that there are a lot of people who date parents to get access to the kids. I swear, if my husband was somehow not in the picture, I wouldn't date until my youngest was grown
@notevenlistening6072 Sad part is, I feel there are more good dudes than bad dudes. But it runs it for all dudes.
My husband knows someone who dated a woman with a teen daughter, was falsely accused, was proven innocent afterward to court with evidence of his innocence and it still ruined the guys life. It's why people like me who survived actual abuse have such a hard time coming forward and getting justice. OPs daughter deserves jail time
@Jenkinscraftingco2.0 Without any serious consequences people rarely change for the better.
bathroom door is closed, lights are on, daughter isnt anywhere else in the house. who tf swings the door open? especially l when you know your wife as a 19 year-old daughter, you should be so reckless. as a woman i dont even do that. i check where everyone is in the house or I open the door a crack.
If that was my daughter, she'd be disowned. Gone forever.
I heard this earlier this morning on different channel and let me tell you those Reddit comments that was defending the daughter and calling OP the A-hole are people who would most likely pull the same stunt as the daughter.
There are sadly way too many people who take a (not illogical) dim view of men as a whole and then don't understand that men are also still individuals.
I would disown my daughter if she pulled this stunt
@@Dmitrisnikioff Of course that’s an illogical view.
Yup this is why I hated the me too movement. That movement was never about justice but about clout and fame.
@@Yume10605Yes because no one ever actually gets abused and sexually harassed.
This is not the case here, but can't brush the whole movement away with such shitty take.
The husband explained it concisely: the whole situation is broken beyond fixing because of daughter's lies. When OP described him crying in his car, her daughter weeping on the floor and OP herself just disassociated and broken... A telling snaphot of the whole thing.
I pray they all are able to recover from this fully, especially the husband.
@@pinkiepower1968 He'll never recover. He will always be thinking about how he is a false accusation away from prison and being professional ruined
The daughter has nothing to recover from. She us a sociopath who pretty much got away with running a man's life which is what she wanted. OP could have cleared his name up but decided to wait for her daughter to do it
@@johnbradbury8610 Ya i'm gonna be honest, I think op might of baby her long before meeting this person and never thought she be this awful.
@@pippo17173yeah, she kept waiting for ger daughter to fix it when she should have taken the tape and dragged her to the familes house
@@johnbradbury8610 Exactly. The daughter is 19 years old. This wasn't a case of a child who didn't understand what she was saying.
As a survivor of CSA, I wish I had a family half as supportive and protective as OP's daughter's. And that's what makes the story even sadder: it's situations like this that play a big part in why actual victims aren't listened to.
It's true, there needs to be more consequences for people that make false allegations but their also need to be tougher consequences for people that commit SA. sadly some people will use a story like this as a reason to not believe victims. I'm sorry fir what you had to go through.
Actual victims are listened to, and every time someone says that under a video like this enrages me to no end.
Victims aren't listened to? That's fucking ridiculous. Accusations are essentially convictions. People's lives have been ruined with 0 evidence provided.
@@Tengokuchi Exactly
@@Tengokuchi, if the CSA victim you're commenting to was listened to, they probably wouldn't have made this comment. Just a thought.
@@Tengokuchiaccusations can absolutely ruin lives, has happened many times where someone is ruined based on accusations alone. And yet, MANY victims have not been listened to or dismissed outright because many people falsely assume the victim is lying.
Two things can both be true.
I remember most comments defended the daughter saying she was doing this for a reason and she's the real victim here
Literally excusing her evil
In Reddit a woman can literally kill a man and she will be the innocent and the man obviously did something to make her do it... Even if she literally kills him just for fun
This involved his work, and now it's likely out in public beyond there. If it were me, I'd get a lawyer and sue her. She's an adult.
Exactly. She’s not a dumb little teenage making stupid mistakes. She’s an adult and has to live will adult consequences, even if that means her entire family and mother shuns her out because no one will ever truly believe her again
Sue her for what? She’s got nothing. If anything, he’s got a case against family members who tried to ruin his livelihood. Regardless if the daughter was the root cause.
@@acgearsandarms1343 He'd sue for slander and defamation. Having an official court document saying she was lying could go a long way toward restoring his reputation, even if he gets no money from it.
@@Laura-gb1jv Exactly this.
@@Laura-gb1jv But that costs a fortune, and becomes public record. To accomplish what? More ruin for the daughter and OP and spreading the lies even further. And some people think that where there's smoke, there's fire.
There's plenty of smoke that the daughter created, even if her lies were smoke and mirrors. A lawsuit could be brought against the family who tried to get him fired, but that would have the same results: legal debts on both sides, further spreading of the lies and trauma and deeper alienation between OP and everyone else.
Lawsuits cost a huge amount and it's better to settle problems without them if possible.
My post didn’t seem to save, so I’ll try again.
Consequences need to rain down for the POS daughter and the cousin. Also OP should disown and move away from everyone including her child.
What the hell was wrong with the daughter - the man got her a car and paid for her school and she spreads disgusting lies about him?!
He's being a great step father and this is how he's repayed. I'd never date a single mom with a daughter for this reason exactly! Not worth the risk
@@dyamariv3628 you think a boy wouldn't do the same these days?
@@groofromtheup5719 not really ...
the idiot child was seeking drama. why else would she have lied from the get go?
@@groofromtheup5719Oh they do, i agree. I heard another story where a high school boy accused a female teacher as revenge for smthg stupid. He didn't confess until the whole situation went too far.
It’s her daughter but I don’t know how the OP could ever look at her daughter the same.
I wouldn't!
Wouldn't blame her AT ALL for disowning the daughter. Poor woman is gonna have to move to a new city and start over with zero family or friends
On further thought, I'm actually kinda not so happy about the STBX husband either. He would possibly hold it against her if she disowned her daughter? Over something like this that isn't abandonment, the daughter is an adult that committed a terrible act and frankly the poor woman could have at least used him as support as she is gonna restart life anyway with or without him.
I agree I don’t think I could ever forgive or look at my child the same if they did something like this, I would always love them but I think it would have to be at a distance from that point on because how could I trust my child not to the same to me again in the future?
@@zacharyjackson1829 It's called being conflicted. He did nothing wrong.
@@zacharyjackson1829 I also thought the same
OP has lost everything because of her daughter’s lies. Her wonderful husband, her family, her home. I’m trying to put my own daughter in that situation where I absolutely knew she was in the wrong. She didn’t try to fix the situation. At 19 she’s responsible. I would have thrown her out. I may have met up with her over the years far away from husband but this was also his home not hers. How devastating to all the girls and women that really have gone through abuse. Shame on her, she’s wicked. I don’t understand why he didn’t call the police on her. They had the evidence.
Because any kind of doubt would land him in jail.
How is it a police matter that a teenager lies about her stepfather? She didn't call the police on him, and with the video evidence that he knocked repeatedly, and her statement that she was wearing earbuds, there's zero evidence of a crime and there is evidence that the stepfather and OP were telling the truth.
Gossiping teenagers who spread lies aren't committing crimes either.
It was OP's family who committed crimes by harassing him at work and were probably attempting to get him fired, or prosecuted.
How much of an accident was it? She was standing naked and presumably it wasn’t after a shower because neither husband or OP heard it. I think he was setup.
They didn't because the camera had no audio. She said she answered when he knocked. People aren't going to believe op saying she didn't hear because she's married to him.
@@SherwoodyI don't think it's that deep. You've never stood naked in front of a mirror before? You never had your earbuds in while someone was calling you and you didn't hear?
S1) daughter flat out told the cousin a lie, they weren’t talking about different scenarios. She will now have to live with the consequences of her actions for the rest of her life. Her mother, who had loved her and provided for her up until that point will never look at her the same way again, there will always be this chasm full of resentment between them. She will have to see the shell her mother becomes because of the lie she told. She will have to watch her mother pull away from her entire family because of the lengths they went to before the truth finally came out that led the husband with no choice but to leave. She only thinks she sorry now, but when things only get worse from here on out for her mom she will only then begin to understand the true full ramifications of her actions. This will haunt her for the rest of her life,
This infuriates me, because the daughter got away scot-free without any consequences. She literally feels no remorse and doesn't care about the well being of her mother.
If I was her mother, the minute the daughter is 18, I would disown her. That's a sociopath she raised.
@@jessicatsao92The daughter is 19.
@@jessicatsao92 daughter is literally 19 in the story lol
That girl really ruined her mother's life for a bit of drama. and damn near had a man who treated her well in jail
or worse, self deletion.
she didn't just bite the hand that fed her she broke it and took a finger with her
Husband needs to sue that family shit like this is why actual victims aren’t taken seriously
I’m not sure if stepdad will have a case to sue since the outcome while bad didn’t result in him losing his job/being shunned by the community, etc. he could probably get something for emotional distress but idk.
If OPs family were really sorry, they should call his workplace and apologize for their drama
@@ComaLies225 I think you can still make the case for reputational damage. That it will be very difficult to get a new job given the rumors surrounding him. That sort of thing.
In any event, suing the family is probably just the right thing to do.
@@ComaLies225 alienation of affection, everything is on record via texts, ez lawsuit
@@ComaLies225 Sue the relatives who called your work.
@@MrModamanReviewscan't really sue them for believing a lie. The only person he could sue would be the daughter and she doesn't have anything.
So there's a movie in my country called The Hunt, about a rural town where everyone knows everyone. An elementary school teacher's best friends daughter has a crush on him. Mind you she's 5, it's a puppy dog crush. He turns her down very gently because well she's just a kid. Shes upset and due to her brother showing her a nude pic from an adult magazine, she describes it later in a way that makes it sound like he flashed her. He is rather brutally shunned, even his 14 year old son gets the same treatment. The entire neighborhood is on him.
Now that girl operates on child logic. If a kid flashes a teacher, he gets a timeout. She didnt realize that does not apply to an adult. Even when she comes forward, and says shes upset other kids are now also lying about him(they claim he had his way with them in his basement....his house doesn't have a basement), they won't hear it, insisting she's 'repressing things'
Granted when all is resolved he does forgive her(this is a movie so realism gets bent), and they go on a hunt, which is common with his town, like a rite of passage for boys, someone tries to shoot him. They miss, but it proves the damage can never be undone. Someone will ALWAYS be doubting him
Point is OPs daughter's 19, not a 5 year old girl, and her actions had severe consequences. Even if she's genuinly sorry and would never do it again, there's no coming back from this. It sucks for OP, it really does, my heart bleeds for her...But this is too broken. There's no winners here. No happy outcome, no nothing. her daughter ruined everything. Hope the attention was worth it
@MiraTheWarlock The Hunt is a great film. Hard to watch, but brilliant in it's execution. 10/10
Don’t forget just how vile and crappy all the townsfolk were. Perfectly encapsulated by OPs family. They coerced the daughter into “confessing” and the other teacher spreads the story like wildfire before even alerting the police or who was being accused.
And just like the ending of that movie, no matter how vindicated the husband will be, there will forever be an air of doubt. Those accusations will follow them forever.
Does anyone else think this was on purpose? She was in the bathroom naked, didn't lock the door, and ignored knocking loud enough that OP could hear it.
@@rileynailling2498I can hear knocking through headphones at full volume. I imagine earbuds are easier.
The daughter knew what she was doing. I call bs on ear buds as a reason for not hearing it.
She wanted to try something to have a story to tell. Well she got it and ruined several lives. OP needs to name her kid bc she hasn't learned sht.
I had a,creep SD no one believed me about. This girl is too old to not know the extent of her actions and how impact ful that is. And given the extent of which he takes care of her??? Wow
I would say for whatever reason people seem to underestimate how much of a creep woman are capable of beginning. (And for those, of course I don’t mean all women. Just like most men aren’t creeps).
@@natashahenry5044 Ohh no as a woman I know full well how creepy women can get and they think it's totally fine because they're never called out for it.
When I was a teen my wife's older (adult) sister kept creeping on me. I don't know how many times I saw her either shirtless of nude. She kept it up until I was in my early 20's, and I know it all was a trap.
She even made an ironic accusation about me because I wouldn't fall for her. She then married a M A P.
And that's the shit situation, for every 10 accusations if 1 is false people will take the route of "Cry Wolf". Society will make it harder and harder to get creeps because we can't punish innocent people. And the same "steps" that is done to protect innocent people would be used as a cover up from real creeps. making it harder for victims to come forward because "no one will believe them".
That's why I always say false allegations hurt not only men, but also women, because men will protect themselves, and women will find it harder to have justice that they should expect. Everyone loses.
@@LegendStormcrowOh my God for a second I read it as your wife's oldest DAUGHTER. I was wondering "A teen is married to an older woman that has a child?" That would've been terrible.
This story is so heartbreaking to listen to. The wife did everything right and still lost everything. How can someone come back from that? It was her daughter that ruined everything and because of it, she lost it all. Feels bad man. And that goes double for the soon to be ex husband, who has every right to leave. He's traumatized, his reputation is in ruins, and he was betrayed in one of the worst ways possible. Both the ex husband and wife are blameless and deserved better and yet they lost the most. As for the daughter, she needs serious help, either that or let her fully face the consequences of her actions.
I have to disagree that OP did everything right. OP did everything wrong. As soon as OP learned of the lie and the slander against her husband she should have been all over the daughter about the lie and to correct it NOW. But she trusted the liar to correct the situation . As soon as the daughter stated she didn't want any blow back on her (the daughter) OP should have been "tough you are an adult."
But OP was stupid and let the lair delay and delay until the damage was to much.
@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64 op barely did anything.
Why the hell did she wait for the daughter to send the video to the family?
Why couldn't she?
She waited for wayyyy too fucking long for her daughter to apologise and did nothing besides saying "no he didn't, I also have video proof but I'm not gonna share it"
Women like OP's daughter are exactly why real victims of SA are no longer taken seriously. I have seen this happen way too often in the last few years in communities and professional environments.
And don't forget the internet, there nobody forgives.
@@DayumSonny there were 3 rape accusations that happened in my wider circle growing up. 2 ended up being false. How do I tell my own daughters that I'll believe them no matter what with this crap in the back of my mind and knowing that they lie to me about stupid crap? I try to teach them about the long term consequences of dishonesty, but kids only think of the short term and the easy way to get what they want.
That is NOT the reason why real victims os SA are not taken seriously. It is the reverse. Women were, and often still are, called liars and berated by the police for what they were wearing or where they were, walking down a deserted street, etc. It is only in the past forty years where laws have been changed so that a woman's past sexual behavior is not allowed in a trial, as if that has something to do with whether or not she was accosted.
Except, they were NEVER taken seriously. Get your head out of your fantasy world and back to the real one where Brock Turner was caught in the middle of the assault, held until police got there, was 100% at fault and his father argued that HIS life shouldn’t be ruined for “twenty minutes of action” where the judge gave him six MONTHS, of which he served THREE, because Brock was a good swimmer and the judge didn’t want to ruin HIS future.
Where r ape kits have been found to be just placed in storage because the cops decided it wasn’t worth their time because “they’d never catch the guy”, and when the decade worth of kits was finally processed, guess what. Serial assualters were found.
A man assaulted his daughter from 10-14 and the judge gave him 12 years instead of the recommended decades, why? “He’s a good Christian man.”
These aren’t new cases. Look at the abuses by the church. Accusations for decades and no one did anything but deny it
@@shells500tutubolet's play devil's advocate. People's past behaviors should be taken into account. If a guy we all knew was legitimately guilty of a lot of petty theft crimes and they were picked up for burglary or armed robbery it's not that great a stretch but they may be capable of the crime they are accused of.
The problem with SA is, as I see it, it is consent-based. If we consented it is not a crime. If one of the parties does not consent then it is a crime. So the problem becomes the word of two people if there is no evidence of a physical struggle or injuries. All a rape kit is going to show is whether or not semen is present. And if both parties admitted that there was no condom usage but one person said it was consensual then the rape kit will standard procedure in most places is going to provide a useless piece of evidence.
Navigating claims of SA is that much harder because of the nature of consent being the determining factor of whether a crime took place.
Honestly a woman's sexual history in this case would be less relevant than her history of lying. The problem is that it'd be really hard to support or deny in court. And the internet is inundated with stories of habitual liars claiming they were SA'd, of drunk people having a one night stand blaming they were SA'd in a moment of panic to avoid consequences, and a wide variety of other circumstances for false claims of SA.
Many cases of SA are dropped due to the lack of evidence beyond yeah these two people had sex. Many cases of SA are dropped because the accuser recants their story.
And I realize I have begun to ramble so I'll leave this here for now.
I cried for the OP she lost everything because of her daughter’s lies and selfishness. She lost her husband, her home, her daughter and her family.
What about her husband? You know the guy who who her daughter falsely accused. OP should have cleared his name instead of waiting for her daughter to do it
@@johnbradbury8610 dude try relistening to even reading the story yourself before commenting the same wrong thing everywhere. The OP TRIED to tell them the truth, she told her sister what actually happened when she first called! She tried telling the rest of the family when it spread! They all just turned on her for siding with him and attacked her for "lying" to protect him! That's why she needed the daughter to tell the truth! They didn't believe it from the OP!
@johnbradbury8610 she tried to. They didn't believe her because they thought she was just protecting her husband.
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@ianesgrecia8568 1. You can have sympathy for more then 1 person.
2. You can teach someone something all day long. But it's their choice to follow yours or outside influences.
They have free will, and you can't control what other people do, even if you teach them what they should.
It's telling that the daughter willingly lied and knows what she did but doesn't want to take responsibility for her actions because she doesn't want to look bad. It's fine if she made her stepdad out to be a monster but, she can have anyone see her in a bad light. She's a child in a grown woman's body.
Ops monster daughter cried wolf , hopefully nothing happens to her because no-one will believe her again after this. Poor op and her husband, I hope op gets a place a cutes the family out of her live and gets therapy. I really hope she doesn't take it out on herself
Exactly. If, heaven for id, something bad happens to the daughter by someone else, no one will believe her and they will question it and likely tell her she is just making it up. This is also why people like myself who survived actual abuse have such a hard time coming forward. We know people like the daughter lie about it and we know people will be less likely to believe us because one dumb teen wanted attention. Shame on her.
Those who were saying that OP should have gone with her daughter or supervised her as she told the truth forgot that OP's family already accused her of siding with her husband over her daughter. If OP was there when the daughter confessed, they'd say it was coerced and then even the daughter taking it back would not fix anything. She would have to WILLINGLY go and fix it on her own, which she already made clear wasn't going to happen because "she didn't want to look bad". This situation was screwed the moment the daughter didn't willing jump to rectify it.
The only reason they believed her at the end, after the damage was done, was because she went on her own with the evidence to disprove her own accusation. But, like said, the damage was done.
I will say, I don't blame redditors for blaming op for raising a monster daughter because I had to think that op had to raise her mostly by herself if that is the case, then I ask how much did she baby her? This attitude isn't form out of nowhere.
OP could have brought the tape, she should not have waited on her daughter to fix things. It might have made a difference. I still don't know how OP can stay with her 19 year old daughter.
@@johnbradbury8610 , I agree OP is also at fault. OP should have put out the video of the hallway right away. Op should also have pushed the daughter to fix it NOW. You don't wait on a lair, that doesn't want to be shown to be a liar to fix their lie.
The only thing worse than doing evil is lying about it. This is one of the saddest stories I've heard.
The ex husband now needs to get a lawyer and start suing some of the family for doing what they're doing. They have caused harm to his credibility and his brand he could actually get money from some of these people.
To be honest after da story, not even da mood booster actually changed da mood my derp
Same I'm just depressed now.
Same. That was the saddest story I’ve heard on here.
This sounds like a setup. I don't think that her husband and daughter got along as well as she thought they did. I think the daughter has an issue with him and she decided that this is the best way to get him out of the house. What a skunk move. She just cost her mom a good man. I hope she's happy. 🤬
Pretty stupid of her while he is paying for her car and schooling.
And it wasn't even their house!
Op needs to disown her daughter and go full no contact.
Dang! This is so unfortunate! A man can never fully get rid of the stink of that kind of accusation. At most, we can hope that the daughter has learned her lesson about lying.
yeah... not gonna happend. Chances are she will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
Hopefully someone else in the family who feels remorseful will pull any future boyfriends aside and warn them so they can break up with her. I understand to a point where the family is coming from. If my niece told me her stepdad did that to her, I'd believe her. But if I was shown actual evidence that she lied, I'd of course apologize and try to make it right. They should have immediately apologized when OP showed them proof that the daughter was lying @@ianesgrecia8568
Wow I'm so sorry for OP. I'm just in full shock, that girl just blew up everyone's life. Their relationship will never be the same it's unforgivable. Like no amount of therapy will make you forget what could have been. I feel so bad for OP
What about the husband he wasted his time and money on a sociopath
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
God my heart breaks for Op, she lost everything over her daughter's lie there's no coming back from this smh
@@linkinlady06 I feel worse for the Husband or ex. That label is gonna follow him around forever. There is no amount of damage control that can fix it.
@truthbringer-6748 not to mention the broken trust and damage this will carry into any future relationships he might have from here in out.
This was "How to turn a genuinely good man into a broken mess in 1 easy step".
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@ianesgrecia8568 my sympathy goes straight to her because she's the one writing the story. But of course yes my sympathy goes for the husband as well because he's also losing someone he dearly loves because of a lie I'm not favoring one over the other....
first story is a prime example of "actions have consequences". a story to tell to someone if they think a little lie like that is 'hamrless"
It's also an example of no good deed going unpunished because OP was always on the right side, actively tried to help her husband, and got her life ruined anyway.
I have been in this situation before 18yrs ago with an _EXTREMELY_ close friend. It really hurts beneath my heart because the pain is just that bad still.. Even if _THE LIAR_ comes clean, there will ALWAYS be many that believe it was pressure to change their story...
I am a _SURVIVOR_ I have _NEVER_ been a victim so when I hear stories like this, THAT is what makes my heart break. I have always wondered, if he didn't "blade" me and my screams alerted so I had witnesses, would I have been believed because it was a BELOVED in my family for 22 years for them.....
Who changes clothes without locking door and lying on top of that something up with this daughter
I don't.
But in our house the doors aren't really closed unless there's a reason. And people knock.
And they ANSWER if their in there and you can't come in.
I don't and I live with my mom, my brother, and dad. They knock and I say that I'm still changing and they wait til I open the door.
I am questioning why the daughter is wearing earpods while taking a bath but that's besides the point. The lying is what is bothering me. Why make an embarrassing accident to be a very serious crime? I was 19 and nothing like that ever crossed my mind
Daughter not only ruined a marriage, wrecked husband's life but her mother's as well...and damaging her own in the process. What a POS. So sad. You can't fix stupid.
OP Daughter is a monster who does not deserve sympathy, forgiveness, nor a "second chance"
I really hope OP disowns her.
If I were OP I'd tell her she's out of my life until I got my husband back, just to really rub it in that she screwed up. Daughter doesn't deserve OP taking the high ground.
@@nightmarefanatic1819 Chances are she will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
s1: NTA. she's lucky stbxh hasn't tried pressing charges for defamation and emotional distress. she's 19 and still cries when she's called out on her lies? she's more worried about her reputation if she fesses up, than that of stbxh once this spreads outside the family and escalates further? she shouldn't just be banned from the house, she should be banned from your life.
update: OH, so she was just "MaKiNg Up SoMe ThiNgS wiTh HeR cOuSiN" was she? literally, OP, i don't see how you can or even want to keep in contact with her after this - that wasn't some harmless fun, that was a successful character a*****ination that escalated until daughter saw the consequences in full. too little, too late from all of them, and OP? he loves you, but he can't be with you while you have those vile people in your life. that's why he didn't make the ultimatum, even if he might have wanted to.
and yet when op said she would cut her family and her daughter out her life and go with him wherever he went, he said he wouldn't be able to look at her the same way if she abandoned her daughter for him.
@@gwdzee which showed how good of a man he was and why OP loves him. He didn't deserve any of that crap
Your daughter is 19 she is old enough to know actions have consequences and she has 0 excuse for what she did
I see why she's trying to hold onto him. He's amazing
I responds this on another video but, this is why there should be consequences for false allegations. It holds everyone involved accountable. False allegations destroys people’s lives.
When there are "consequences for false allegations" they don't fall on people like OP's stepdaughter. They get exercised on the poor minority girl who dared even suggest the rich, popular boy would even think about corrupting his golden dick by getting it anywhere near her, no matter what the evidence may say. Laws are always, always used primarily as weapons against the weak.
@natashahenry5044 No. That could have unintended consequences. Imagine being raped, making the allegation, not being able to make a successful case before the court, and then possibly being punished for making "a false allegation".
@karendavies7510 so what should happen then, what do you think the solution should be? False allegations destroy people's lives all the time, and even when the truth comes out, it is almost nearly unrecoverable for those falsely accused.
@@karendavies7510 so you believe that a person can lie and accuse someone of rape, cause that person's life to be destroyed, in some cases these people are arrested and in prison they are beaten, raped, get diseases or are killed and still nothing should happen to who made the false accusation?
@@karendavies7510 No, they had video and this is a proven false accusation
Yikes, no coming back from that.
And yet there are no real consequences for the daughter. She should be in jail.
Yes
@@notevenlistening6072the ex husband (or soon to be ex) has a good case against her as this did affect his life. I hope he does sue her but I doubt he will.
Well, she just lost her uni tuition, and somehow I don't see OP letting her land where she washes up. And I bet her relatives will be quick to deny her a place.
This exactly!!
What's worse is that she is on a college campus
OP really needs to disown and have the daughter live on her own to punish her for the way she destroyed OP’s marriage, repeatedly lie to everyone about the whole incident and made a false version of the story, and basically ruined the soon to be ex-husband’s reputation to the family and put his job at risk. OP needs to show her daughter that actions have consequence and go NC with her daughter and is old enough to know better. I still don’t agree with the way the soon to be ex-husband still is gonna pay for the ungrateful brat’s college tuition after what she did
I'm assuming that it was too late for him to get his back money anyways since school is already going
This is why victims are never taken seriously. That poor man...
Huh in the me too movement society the daughter is seen as the victim not the husband you statement that the victim is not taken seriously is a lie
@@user-de2wv8ri8n Dude, please stop talking and actually learn how to form a coherent sentence. 😑 The MeToo movement did not in fact make every single person on this planet believe all women. The courts still screw over women and girls when it comes to cases with actual proof. Predators are still protected, especially those in power. In fact, especially over here in the states, the current political climate and future leader is currently working on truly securing that more and more women and girls will lose basic human rights and is currently appointing predators to his cabinet. Y'all really believed that the movement magically made everyone believe actual victims, lol.
Except the husband was the victim not her.. so no the vitcim was not taken seriously.. the liar was taken seriously..
@@user-de2wv8ri8nthis doesn't make the many victims of SA assult liars.
@@jtmarshall wooosh that is the point going over your head
Aside from the big issue, it's funny how OP is asking if she's the AH for telling the daughter that she will have to move out of HER house if she get divorced but it turns out the house is stbx husband's before marriage. He's even solely paying for step-daughter's tuition! He had graciously and generously left the house instead of kicking them out. Letting them stay find home during divorce and still gonna pay for the next semester. What a stand up guy even when OP's daughter and family spread out lies and harassed him.
I’ve already heard this same story on two different channels and hearing it is still infuriating. Poor stepdad 🙁
Story one is heartbreaking,but OPs hisband did the only right thing after OPs daughter and family totally screwed him over. At 19 years old,her daughter should've known better and how she made up stories with her cousin is just plain evil. I fully understand OPs husband doesn't want to be anywere near her daughter ever again and her extremely toxic family. It is so sad OP is going to loose her husband,but he simply can't risk it OPs daughter and family ruin his life even more. What a sickening situation all round and it clearly shows the prroblems men face against made up stories and accusations. No matter what,the man his life is ruined.
The unfortunate repercussion to this lie is that OPs daughter will now be ignored if she accusses someone else of assault of this nature even if it (the scenario) is true.
Not unfortunate, it's called actions have consequences
@@dyamariv3628 I really hope you're not implying that the daughter will deserve assault and no justice because of what she did. No one, and I repeat, NO ONE deserves to be assaulted as a way of punishment for what they did. Not even prisoners deserve to be assaulted just because they're in jail. The daughter did a horrible thing and absolutely deserves to be kicked out for it, BUT that's only for the false accusations. She should still have help and justice if the same happened to her. Let's not completely lose our humanity with statements like that, shall we?
@@sadtitties222 She'll deserve nobody believing her.
@@nightmarefanatic1819 Read my comment again and actually read it this time. Don't bother responding to me again because I'll already have you muted. Have a good day! ✌️
@@sadtitties222 your the type of person that if someoen said they hated water you would ask why do they want to see kids dying of thirst in africa
You know the biggest problem? The husband will never sue ther, the family or the daughter for defamation as HE SHOULD.
If every false acusation was actually met with CONSEQUENCES, women would be less likely to make those false acusations and make every REAL case less credible
I’ve never need a mood booster post so bad
Dude was willing to sacrifice his own happiness to prevent the woman he loves from losing her unworthy daughter. What an amazing guy. Tragic that the daughter is so vile.. she needs to grow up.
why the hell did OP not send the video herself. 😑 she didn't really take any action to defend him. Just said her daughter needed to clean up the mess and make it right. Like, really? She would have been out on her ass the second she found out that her daughter lied. And then she would have corrected everyone. Anyone wanting to still treat his some kind of perv/creep can be cut off. And honestly, if I were the husband I'd have been pushing for him to press defamation charges against the ones who called his job(fortunate the jobs is backing him up) She way under reacted to this situation.
According to what OP said, her daughter described what happened as “He knocked, I said “I’m in here”, and he still came in and did something.” OP said that their cameras either don’t record sound or wasn’t recording sound at the time, so it would just showed him knocking, waiting, then entering. Which would correlate more with what the daughter told her cousin. Sending the vid wouldn’t have helped. Hell she addresses that in the beginning of the update
That and SHE could've recorded her daughter confessing to the lie... like if you knew you were going to interrogate her and new the truth you could recorded her yourself before your family went crazy.
Honestly, I think this would have still ended in divorce. This is too much to come back from, one of those lies that is so dark and twisted in nature that it’s just as hard for people to believe that someone could lie about it as it is to believe he did absolutely nothing wrong once it’s out there. Poor guy smh.
This is where I get the redditor comments accusing her of being a horrible mom because with how the daughter acted, tells me a lot of what its like before the husband came in.
The thing that pisses me off the most is that after Husband chose to leave, Daughter shared the footage of what happened and all of a sudden OP's family believed it. Why on earth wouldn't OP share that footage knowing that this accusation could end Husband's entire life? Why did Daughter only admit to it when Husband's and OP's marriage was already broken way beyond repair?? I do not understand any of this.
It's pretty simple. OP's family already decided that she was covering for husband. No amount of her explaining was going to change their minds, yet she still tried anyway. The footage would have had to have audio in order to prove without a doubt that her daughter's story didn't add up and even then, they may have chosen not to believe that he was innocent.
This is something you never get over
I know parents choose to have their kids, but imagine giving birth, sacrificing just about every part of yourself for another life, just for them to ruin any chance of your happiness. Parenting is thankless work. I'll never do it.
I read the update on Reddit and the post was near unintelligible because of the run on sentences and spelling mistakes. Thanks for going through that made the story coherent.
What worries me more is the fact that if the daughter can make lies about the husband there a high possibility that the she's lied and gotten other people in trouble.
Even if she didnt before, chances are she will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
19 is old enough to know not to lie about stuff like this. It’s life ruining for the person being accused + once the lie is revealed real victims of real crimes suffer bc no one believes them/
This actually one of your saddest stories smh sad situation
First story One problem is this feeds the imagination of those idiots who say that there is no smoke without fire.
If OP's husband has been keeping these poisonous texts cant they be used in a prosecution against the senders.I would certainly look into it.Natural justice demands repercussions against these individuals.
The frustrating part is that OP and especially the daughter seem to think that this is easily fixable and that somehow counseling will help. His reputation is ruined.
Another false accuser gets away with everything. Reminds me of that one reddit story in TIFU from the father's perspective when he had a son whose life he ruined for his lying stepdaughter.
Well, girlie IS about to be homeless and lost her uni tuition. And if the relatives have any sense of self preservation, they won't be giving her a chance to pull this on them.
I remeber that story. Back then I felt it was a d@mned if you, d@mned if you don't situation.....
You think the OP doesn't know this isn't easily fixable? Are we listening to the same post and update?
That may be the one where it has an update from the son about the OP self deleting.
@@thedorkone1516 Chances are that the trash daughter will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
there's no mood booster good enough to fix the sour taste from the first story.
The trust between parent and child is sacred. The daughter broke that trust. OP will never trust her again.
That poor man. This could destroy him. Since the people where he works already know, he will eventually be ostracized. His only hope is to move far away, but even that might not be enough. One of his former coworkers might take it upon themselves to report him to his new employer. This is so heartbreaking. This is the kind of situation that makes some people decide to end things. I hope he finds peace wherever he goes.
Honestly, the main story was just so sad and awful that hearing the mood booster after it didn’t feel right. Hard to boost your mood when such awful things happen.
🤨 To even call his job and tell HR for something they had ZERO proof of, is disgusting. She’s lucky he didn’t take them all (except the wife) to court for defamation and/or slander, with emotional distress. He could’ve won that easily, from the video and wife’s testimony alone. We don’t punish false accusations enough, because who’s the comfortable allowing a lie to spread that fast?
I stumbled on the update yesterday. This is such a sad story.
14:53, He has compartmentalized. He's wants to get this over with as soon as possible. It's not that he doesn't care about the relationship ending, but he has to keep his composer else nothing will get done, in his eyes. He's either already greaved the relationship or will once both the mother and daughter move out.
On top of that, hopefully the daughter learns to take accountability from this and never lie about someone like this again. It was a harsh lesson, but hopefully, she becomes a better person.
The daughter just ruined 3 relationships that hers and her mother, her and the stepfather, the ops and her husband all because she couldn't tell the truth. For any man that's been accused of any kind of assault their reputation is immediately destroyed there's no coming back from that he needs to leave and protect himself.
Just 3? So we are ignoring the whole trash family too?
@ianesgrecia8568 no for that one the trash took itself out but you are still correct.
Needed the mood booster so hard after this story cause literally nothing will be the same in these people's lives
OP needs to leave the poor guy alone!
OPs actions are completely understandable. She's not a cheater who doesn't deserve to be in his life, she is a loyal woman who's being punished for the actions of someone else and she's desperate to not lose the only good person in her life.
@@nightmarefanatic1819 and she is causing the "love of her life" more pain for no purpose.
@@nightmarefanatic1819 Darling. She thought this could be solved by COUNSELING. And as if runing away to another state would make the accusation disappear. It would NOT. They called HIS JOB. This was marked ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
That man will forever be marked with this and HE did the only think he could: Protect himselve by getting away.
OP on another hand should have put the daughter ON BLAST with the actual evidence. The family just 'apologise' after the daughter posted the camera evidence. She should be getting her daughter to JAIL for it.
If there was any hope of fixing this, there should have been immediate and severe consequences for the daughter. Just telling her to fix it and waiting- eff that! If OP had immediately posted the camera video and blasted her daughter all over social media, and disowned her then, maybe her marriage could've been saved. But even that is doubtful- there could still be family members who would still have believed it, and still harassed the husband by calling his workplace. It's heartbreaking for OP, but no amount of counseling will fix this. Her ex husband will have this following him forever and he has no choice but to protect himself by keeping his distance. Daughter rang that bell, it can't be un-rung. Nothing short of a time machine and a very thorough tongue lashing to the stupid, selfish daughter before she did all this, will fix it. She should have learned by age 19 that saying 'sorry' can't fix everything, and how serious her false accusations were.
She definitely needs some kind of mental health treatment to figure out why she thought for a second that this was ok. Actually, they all need therapy of some kind, individually. OP and her ex are going to need help to process what they've been through as well. No marriage counseling, though. Sadly that ship has sailed.
Talk about a no win situation...
He has no other choice but to divorce,no matter what happens the daughter and her family that tried ruining his life will be around.
Not quite the op literally suggested going no contact and moving faraway together, leaving the daughter behind.
Her husband refused that because he doesn’t want to be married to someone willing to abandon their kids regardless of age nor be close to the daughter himself.
Truthfully the marriage could have been salvaged as the daughter was 19. They could have forced her to become independent which is something common among 18 year olds.
Sad reality is the op’s husband’s family values f’d her in the end as he wouldn’t accept abandoning the daughter nor accept being near the daughter.
If not clear the point isn’t that the husband is wrong for divorcing. It is that there was actual realistic options outside of divorce that got rejected because of ethics.
@ I don’t really blame the wife she actually did everything she could,the daughter lied for no reason and her family tried getting him fired from his job so having any interaction with them seems out of the question.She offered to leave it all behind but I think he believes one day she would change her mind and he didn’t want her to do something so extreme for him.
@@darth3911 Darling, the fact that you believe the marriage couls be salvage and tries to blame the husband just shows how you STILL dont understand how grave the acusations were and its repercusions.
She decided to confess now because she got what she wanted. OP’s ex husband should have taken that car back and never paid another dime towards her tuition.
OP's first course of action should have been to take her daughter and cousin along with the video evidence to the family members, and confronted them and set the record straight.
OP's second course of action should have been to, kick her daughter out of her husband's house. Instead she waited relaxing on her butt for everything to take its own course of time, and yes, it splendidly backfire OP.
OP wants her daughter to set the record straight, how can you believe that her bish daughter who destroyed everything by lying is somehow voluntarily going to set record straight.
OP's daughter is 19 yrs old and she needs to face the consequences. OP needs to go as well, and let her 100% sure Ex to live his own life.
If I was OP from the 1st story, I'd never speak to my daughter again. Her lies cost her mother EVERYTHING.
I feel so bad for the mother. I feel so bad for the step dad. They were both put in a no win situation. Counselling wont work because the issue was not with the marriage. And the outside issue cant be fixed he can never trust the daughter nore should he. And he cant live with the fact that the woman he loves will have to lose her daughter to stay married to him. It is completely understandable and shows what a truly great person he is. Aometimes in life there is no good options.
I hope op dise not kick her daughter out not because the daughter does noylt deserve it just because i dont want OP to lose everyone. But i would never give her that advise because it really is understandably if she could never forgive her. I know in that position i couldnt.
I feel so bad for OP she is losing her marriage after she did everything right the only thing she could’ve done better was just send the camera footage to the “family” but she didn’t start this mess why is she the one expecting to clean it up? OP’s daughter really ruined her mom’s happiness all because she wanted to look like a victim to her cousin and then refused to put out the fire she started. If I were OP I would never be able to look at her the same after that
Honestly it sounded like they were so dead set against husband they would probably try to make excuses for it anyway. They only believed the footage because it was coming from the person making the accusation.
The camera doesn't record sound, though. OP said it wouldn't have proven anything bc daughter could still claim she told step dad she was in the bathroom and pretended not to hear her
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
This is one of the many reasons why many guys won't consider dating a single mom
I have read sooo many reddit stories.. but the first one here really broke my heart.. this is the only video where i really needed that mood booster.. my heart goes out to OP.. what a terrible situation to be in.. that daughter screwed up 3 lives, including hers..
I'm actually worried about OP in story one. I'm scared because she's pushing away all her family. I'm not sure if she can ever forgive her daughter, and she is losing the love of her life when she did nothing wrong. If anything she did everything right from defending him, to showcasing evidence to planning on leaving it all behind and leave with her and hubby.
After such a horrible thing happening, losing her home and having no more support structure left (unless she has some really good friends) there is a chance she could do something drastic... I know I would be considering as such if such a horrible thing happened to me...
I love how your simpathy goes to the woman that didn't teach her daughter respect instead to the man falsily acused that will probably have to deal with this for his whole life.
@ianesgrecia8568
Bitch please. I can feel sorry for two people. But also, its been 5 years and the daughter NEVER did something like this before tbat we know of. There was no pattern of bad behavior. And the bitch is 19. She is old enough to take responsibility for her actions without it reflecting poorly on her mother who raised her. For whatever reason, sometimes we all do shit things. And it has nothing to do with how we're raised.
Further more, I am sad for this man, but he is doing what's right for him. When this divorce is done he still has his family. He can transfer jobs. This will not follow him wherever he goes because daughter finally DID fess up at the end and he is getting apologized to by everyone. Everyone knows the daughter was the problem and he can continue his life safely from here on out. There will be no backlash. He was traumatized but he will make a clean escape, safely and without any baggage holding him down.
But what will OP have at the end of this? She has lost the love of her life. Her daughter has broken their family. Betrayed her! She is pushing all other family away for how they treated her love. She will lose her home. Her life style. Her person. And every item she has in a divorce will only be a reminder that she was happy and she lost everything through no fault of her own.
What more could she have done to solve the problem she never caused?! She talked with and punished her daughter when the incident first happened. She spoke out immediately to her friends and family. She took her husband's side. She provided evidence. She defended him to EVERYONE even her family, when they were turning against her. She gave him space when he needed to leave. And she made plans to escape and never return, to cut off her friends and family to protect him! All this she did on her own without any prompting and none of these things are easy to do!
WHAT MORE COULD SHE HAVE DONE?! I'M GENUINELY ASKING?!
Now, when this is all said and done, she will have nothing. She loses EVERYTHING and EVERYONE she ever loved. The people most dear to her heart! How is she supposed to carry on?! Who is she to move on with, when the man she adores is right there still loves her, but can not feel safe due to her family. The child who she birthed, loved and provided for, has cost her EVERYTHING for NO REASON. And did it all on a whim when she REFUSED to see the bigger picture, DESPITE OP's warnings! And even though that child NOW knows what she did was crap (if you read the whole story and not the first 2 min, you see she FINALLY pulled her head out of her ass), its too late. There is nothing left to fix.
And then she has trolls like you blaming her and telling her "welp that sucks but you gotta let him go. Its not about you anymore." When it has EVERYTHING to do with her!!! This is her story! Her life! Her loves! When you have no support structure, no friends, and no reason to live, bad things happen! She could do bad things to herself!
I am HOPING, BEGGING that OP has SOMEONE to be there for her at the end of the day because if not, she may not make it out. The husband has his family. The daughter has hers.
OP has no one. And that is dangerous.
story 1 there's one thing that makes the situation super sus. WHY WAS THERE APPARENTLY NO LOCK ON THE BATHROOM DOOR?! EDIT: OK so there was a lock, so daughter sus.
Her daughter ruined their lives...him getting out is the ONLY option, getting away from that horrible girl is the ONLY option. He may still love OP but I agree with him, he can't risk being anywhere near her daughter ever again. And yeah, he would look at OP differently if she just abandoned her daughter. But I also think she SHOULD abandon her, and give up on ever getting him back. Her daughter can go live with other family and OP needs a TON of therapy to get through this.
Op has to disown the daughter
Yet another innocent man's life ruined by false accusations.
There is nothing more damaging a man can be called is a child predator. That kind of reputation can literally destroy your life, and get you attacked on the street. False accusations like that need to have serious consequences.
The only reason the husband wasn't arrested and thrown in jail as a pedo was because the daughter was a legal adult when she lied, she's 19. Imagine how much more horrific this would be if the daughter had been just a couple years younger!
It's so sad for OP and the husband, but there is no fixing this. He can never trust the daughter again and can never be around her. I suspect the daughter got mad at step-dad for some dumb teenage reason and decided to get back at him by lying. Or maybe she just didn't like him all that much. She ruined his, her mom's, and her own life as a result - who does she think is going to pay for her college once the year is up, lol? Will her mom even let her live with her, in whatever apartment she manages to get now that they're both out of stepdad's house? What a selfish, stupid brat.
Doesnt the bathroom have a lock, why wasnt it locked?
"She didnt spread it, she only told" In otherwords she spread it, telling 1 person or 100 it is still spreading.
I'll tell you one thing if I was OP I'd help him sue my daughter & family for slander & harassment. When we won I'd tell them all that I no longer have a family cuz I refuse to deal with such hateful, misandrist, harassing, pos. I'd tell them the little lying 💩 is their problem now & forever. I'd never let her anywhere near me for the rest of my days. I'd also make darn sure any boy she's with knows precisely what will happen to him if she decides it'll get her attention.
This is my favorite morning, coffee companion! Thank you for this!
story 1: i hope the husband sues for defemation, false accusations should be punished by the same punishment of the crime accused, i don't care how old she is; that and also he should sue for defamation the extended family harassing him.
Ops STBX is safest FAR away from OP and the see you next tusday of a daughter.
edit: good on the husbands op for recording the conversation with the daughter as soon as she rushed down "crying", he should never stay in any place alone with that...girl.
Title story: such a sad story. The daughter hopefully wakes up and won't do crap like that again. But something in the husband died and probably can't be fixed...
more likely the daughter will rationalize her behaviour rather than accept responsibility
Chances are that the trash daughter will realise in a few months how she got away with this free of charge with a free car and paid tuition and probably do it again with some bf or man that wrong her in the future
This reminds me of that story of the guy that was engaged & her ex coached their daughter to make a false allegation. When it was all sorted out she stupidly thought they were just gonna stroll back into the OP house but he obviously broke up with her & she was acting just the extended family of aholes.
This is a prime example of why we as men CANNOT take the risk of dating single mothers. There's just way too many risks. To any single moms out there sorry for your struggles but this is the reality we live in. Blame all the other women that made excuses for those that made false allegations before & saw zero consequences while innocent men's lives were still ruined even after being vindicated.
I remember that story. At least there, the daughter was a manipulated pre-teen, so it could be argued that she wasn’t entirely at fault. Not so for the daughter here: she’s wasn’t manipulated by a toxic ex, and she’s old enough to know that her actions have consequences. A lot of people are slagging the OP for raising the daughter that way but I dunno: both the OP and the husband seemed blindsided by the whole episode, so it seems plausible enough that it came out of the blue. Too bad for OP and especially her husband, they get to suffer the consequences for the daughter’s bad actions. This is not fixable.
@JosieJOK Oh absolutely I applaud OP for standing up to her daughter, should've done it more forcefully though. Regardless both of these stories really illustrate precisely how men have only one option once false allegations are levied. Personally he was too kind to her afterwards & OP should've helped him sue her daughter & family. Idc if she FINALLY did the right thing if I was OP I'd never speak to my daughter again. She ruined the marriage, the family, & everyone's lives. Hope lil liar never has another day of peace for rest of her days.
Sad first story. Good mood booster.
If I were stepdad, I'd think about taking legal action. Because this can ruin his life.
WTH didn't they show the footage to the family right at the start???
It was so infuriating. Just show them the damn video.
Even with physical evidence, people still believe what they want.
@@ericwilliams1659 After watching the video everyone did reach out to apologize
LG didn't go over it, but in the comments OP did say sent the video to some family members, but they essentially dismissed and blame her for sticking up for the husband
This one's a mess, and most of the blame lies at the daughter's feet. But... I'm side-eyeing OP as well. When this first went down, she had literal, physical evidence that her husband wasn't a creep in the form of a video showing him knocking and entering an unlocked room. But this wasn't shown to the family until her daughter did it, at which point.. the family immediately understood he was innocent! But by then, it was already broken. OP had sat on her hands and let her husbands life unravel because 'my daughter needs to come clean herself.' She didn’t have his back. Her daughter may have learned passivity from her mom, and it's gone off in the worst way possible. I can't even wholly blame the family; they were going to bat for what they thought was a victim of abuse. If the daughter hadn't lied, their actions would be admirable, if a little overzealous. And they stopped _the second_ they saw the proof. The proof that OP had all along.