1. They never let you have an opinion. 2. They make fun of you as a "joke" way to often. 3. They always think they are right and never admit they are wrong.
1. You aren’t happy, in-fact you feel worse about yourself after talking or hanging out with them 2. They tell you about all the problems you have ( to make you feel like its your fault they treat you the way they do )
My ex bestfriend call me ugly and short I got upset and she said she was jk but I have a feeling that she's not joking. And she literally said "your kind and Christian but you're behavior" she's so racist too and when I say to her "aren't we friend sorry, from now on I will Assume that you are dead (it's like I'm gonna ignore her)". And she literally put it on her status and took a picture that she is cry I was like"DON'T ACT THAT IT'S NOT YOU'RE FAULT" she literally said to my other friends "L wanted me to kill myself" I didn't even told her to kill herself it's so annoying! And she said she wanted to punch me
1. They dump all their issues on you without asking if you can handle it first 2. You feel like their opinion is the only one that matters and they dismiss your own 3. They get mad if you talk to other people besides them
This is so true 😔 my friend is super toxic and I can’t leave. She’s really popular and if I don’t want to be friends anymore she will turn everyone against me. Even my other friends.
@@Fern_the_wild_therian awww... sorry to hear that. If you don't feel comfortable with her, just try and have a conversation how her behavior is making you feel if you haven't. If you can't and the friendship is only damaging you, honestly I'd suggest leaving but as you said you can't..... so I wish the best for you. But if you can leave, please do. And if your other friends are real, they will stick with you. Chances are some of them might feel the same way about her as you do but are just better at hiding it, so you calling her out and standing your ground might help not only you but some of your other friends leave the toxic friendship. Even if you can't, I really hope it gets better eventually 💚
I’m scared to like dump my toxic friend because she always says the flaws in me and never tells me what’s good about me and whenever she gets made I my friend group she always tells me and not the rest of the group which puts all the pressure on me
@@andrealopez8461 it's hard. I've had to do it too. Some peop,e aren't inherently bad, but toxic friends can actually be both bad with just being a horrible person and good, good people who don't know how to be a good friend. Try to confront them on their behavior, make their flaws known to them, and see if you can get them to understand how they make you feel. It's best to try to work things out. Though if you can't, it's not your fault and it is 100% okay to get out of a friendship that is mentally draining... you don't have t9 explain yourself to them for that. And if your other friends are your real friends, they'll still stick with you no matter what happens. People like your friend just like control, and if you won't submit to what they want or get under their pressure they have no control over you. If you can.. try to work things out and call them out on their behavior, but if you can't, it's not a bad idea to leave. Then again, that's your choice. Sorry u got a toxic friend tho. They re a pain
@@andrealopez8461end it. Do not settle for the less. No company is better than bad company. Real friends compliment you and praise you and enjoy your company. I just ended my friendship with my toxic bsf of 8 years and I never felt better
#4 they lack empathy for you going thru hard times #5 they’re hypocrites. They do bad stuff and if you do it just once they get upset. #6 hold your past against you. We all do this I think but a true friend wouldn’t. I’m guilty of this but i try let it go and help people now #7 they don’t truly give 2nd chances.
Friend and I split for years but reconnected during covid. We vowed never to talk about the negative past. Lately, she's been going there throwing things up in my facel, stuff I can't change that I've already apologized for...
1. They never admit they are wrong and always think their right. 2. They ghost you and never really tell you why. 3. They don't like when you hang out with other people and exclude you because of it. Coming from someone who experienced this..🙁
1. You aren’t happy when you hang out with them ☹️ This happens to me, I got invited to a birthday sleepover. But I said I was sick, Cause I didn’t want to go. I just felt sad and nervous about going. Now we’re not friends and I don’t regret leaving her one bit
I was meant to meet with my friends but went shopping with my sister for an hour or two first (I needed stuff and I wanted to delay meeting them) when I actually did meet up with them I felt like I wasn't there and it was so draining. I can't wait to get away from them all
1. They are in competition with you and when things are going well for you, they are not happy 2. They make everything about them. Even your misfortune. 3. They want to be pursued all the time and can not fathom that you have emotional needs as well.
my friend had one of her friends call me ugly on discord and instead of defending me she said “REAL.” and what’s worse is that my other friend in our trio showed me and the one that said it didn’t even care. she just said “haha” as if it were funny that her and her friends were talking about how ugly i am
True she never defends me I always defend her but now I stopped I asked her once why don't u defend or help me that u should probably do she said," why should I even do that?"
FR. I had a friend that had this friend who always picked on me for no reason and at the time I was rly sentsitive, and I always argued with her and told her “THEYRE A TOXIC FRIEND AND THEYLL PROB LEAVE YOU” and we all know what happens next… *I WAS RIGHT.*
1. They talk bad about your friends or their friends to you 2. They never want to fix arguments without YOU apologizing first 3. They make fun of you as "jokes" way to much (all from experience)
And that toxic friend will always uses your things carelessly and his things preciously😈😈. But my true friend will always protect my things even when I'm not there ❤😢
One sign of being in a toxic friendship. They make you not quit a bad habit because your “friendship” was because of that one bad habit you had in common.
1. They correct you about everything they can so they can feel better about themselves 2. They always guilt you for not helping them but get annoyed when you do 3. Always making things about them and what they want. I speak from experience.
The first one hits, I’m literally annoyed with that friend rn, always talking people down and even trying to “correct me” and when I saw something about it, they’d start acting like “Oh it’s only because I care about you.” When it has always been about inflating their ego.
And the second one hits me. So basically, since a few months, One of my friend is coming late and saying that she doesn't have anywhere to sit so we should move in and give her some space. So we called her in our 2 seater bench, I was in the corner so I was always being pressured with the wall and the girl beside me. After this happened for like a month, I had enough, I said her to go back and sit, and she got angry and didn't talk to me. The other girl is also saying that I can't even compromise for a friend. So I broke my friendship today. One girl is a use me sign who wants to help everyone and if someone refuses, they are bad, other uses their friends in the name of friendship, and when someone refuses, she calls them selfish. I hope I did the right thing.
You made me fall down in tears because I stopped being friends to my best friends and now am alone I was planning to do this and I did but I can’t let it out after all the memories we had together😢
I love her so much and I don’t want to let go, but she treats me like crap. All of these comments described her and I just don’t know what to do. She’ll go off on me because everyone else tells her she’s not wrong when she is, and I let her know when she’s wrong cause I want to be a good friend and help her not make the same mistakes. I told my therapist about all of our problems, most of which I’m not gonna post about for her privacy but my therapist says that she is being overly-sensitive and very toxic. She makes me feel bad about myself, excludes me, always thinks she’s right and will never admit when she’s wrong, and never wants to hear my side of the story. Whenever she does apologize, it’s fake and she never says what she’s sorry for and just says, “Oh I didn’t mean it” “Oh it’s just hormones” I guess it just never feels sincere. She also blames me for her problems and makes me cry so, so much. But the worst thing is, I’m used to it. I’m used to having to apologize cause I miss my old friend. I’m used to being walked all over, and when I finally tell her how I feel she gets angry. She makes it about her instead, when everything is always about her and her problems. My therapist helped me realize this behavior is toxic, and I should break off our relationship but I just can’t. It would ruin so many friend-groups, and just cause a lot of drama. I miss my old best-friend.
A few days ago, i became friends with our new classmate girl, she seemed sweet, but later on right now, whenever we talk, i always let her talk first, cus i never wanna seem rude, but whenever I wanna talk, or tell her some she always interrupts me. But i don't wanna cut our friendship, she always tells me im her only friend in the entire school.
Personally, I don't think that's a toxic friend. I would just give them time to adjust and make more friends. They probably feel left out most of the time so that might be why they act like that. Again, this is what I think and I can be wrong.
-Can't genuinely admit that they were wrong, even in important events. -Gives fake apologies, "I'm sorry that what I did, hurt your feelings," instead of I'm sorry for doing that."
same plus i’ve been best friends with her for 7 years so far and she started getting kinda toxic recently, idk what to do now cause she is clearly bringing me down and talking to her makes me mad cause she always ignores my feelings and opinions on stuff..
@@whos.mayy13do it. Have respect for yourself, trust me you will feel better. Remember no company is better than bad company. Put God first and He will send you the best of blessings.
To all those on a toxic friendship I'm so sorry I was in one and I know how hard it is to get out of it. They will guilt trip you make it seem like you were the bad friend and them try to make you come back because they like to use you. One sign that you could be in a toxic friend ship is if your friend hits you. Now its OK for like friendly pushes and that kinda stuff but its not OK to punch hard pinch pull hair etc. Another sign is that they will guilt trip you and make you say sorry first every time and make you feel bad and hurt you. They will also only talk about them self and only do the things they want to do. And if you suggest an idea they will so no I don't like that game or no I don't want to do it. And if you do t want to do what they are doing they will say you never do what I like Also if you you get into a fight then they will most likely ignore you instead of resolving it. And they will also bump into you. And lastly get mad at you for no reason. Like not doing anything at your break time. You not coming to them when they are upset but if you do come they get mad at you. You just never get a break. Now how to peacefully get out of this toxic relationship is to not talk to them. You guys will hopefully drift apart from each other. You can say it over text but keep it short and simple. Now you might thing that saying over text is not the right way but its so easy. And them in if you do it in person then they will try to make you change there mind. And last way in person. Like I just said it can not really turn out well but if they try to make you change you mind then just ignore them. I really hopes this helps you guys
i have a question, its fine if u cant answer it My "bestie" dumped me yesterday for "copying" her, she's an irl friend and only friend, i have no friends anymore.. I tried being friends with her again but she never replied to my text.. so heres the question, if u had no friends like me, what would u do?
@@wecanbeherosjustforoneday you can try to put yourself out there more and be nice to people then try to engage in conversation and eventually you should be able to join a friend group
And if your in a friend GROUP and they all blame you for problems and stuff you never did and never really was apart of, and if they team up on you, so they all are collectively mad at you and try to put you down. I’ve realized my trio became a group of 8 and they all get mad at me and blame me for things I didn’t do
Ive been going through this for awhile now. All my friends try to correct everything I do and act totally different around other older kids. They act like my friends for a minute and then the next thing you know, they’re laughing at me because I suck at a game.
My two best friends met each other and started to talk about me behind my back and they lied to me and about me. I decided to give them one more chance because they begged me and I don’t know what to do. I have NO other friends so if I lose them I’ll be lonely. One of them I thought I could still trust but she spilled all the things I told her to my other friend. And the other doesn’t laugh at my jokes, Act like they didn’t hear me when I talk, and are ALWAYS mad at me and doesn’t have a reason to be. Please give me advice I don’t know what to do. ⚠️‼️
I find myself second-guessing my concerns I bring up bc this person always get very emotional and attacked feeling. I feel like maybe I am the bad friend sometimes. I’m trying to get out of the friendship but it’s hard to completely cut contact even tho you know it’s what’s best. It’s harder when they’re part of multiple friend groups :
1. they are quick to criticise but slow to support 2. they try to guilt trip you just to make you feel bad 3. they manipulate you to do what they say 4. they only want to talk about themselves 5.whenever they get in trouble,they try to blame you without ruining their reputation. 6. they start talking to your friends or act like they have been in your place as if they knew them since they were born. 7.they make fun of you and call it a “joke” 8.they backbite about people to you. 9. if they don’t have the same opinion as you,they get mad 10. they backbite you to others 11. they say all the bad actions they did were done by you i’m very sorry for whoever had to go through this,you’ll get through😊
One is that they think they're always right!! I'm in a whole fg with them and they constantly do things to the group, like discriminating or bodyshaming others and brushing it off as a 'joke'. We decided to confront her yesterday (tho I didn't say anything) and she came crying to me repetitively saying how fake they are and how she didn't do anything wrong??
i have this friend rn, we’ll call her sofie and she is being a brat. she is talking behind my back, not hugging me but giving the biggest hugs to my other friend, she cancels plans so quickly, and she stopped talking to me and went and sat with a random kid at lunch. maybe as much as i loved her, it’s time to let her go.🫶
When time and time again they make something out of nothing and throw it in your face as a form of jealousy. When you respond, they accuse you of overthinking things and blame the situation on you.
anytime i try to talk to them about how they’re making me feel they always turn it around on me and say that i do that to them all the time when i know for a fact i dont
1.They make you feel like you are not enough 2.They make you change 3.They make fun of you insecurities and when you are crying they laugh Also to all the comments thank y’all and this vid tysm
I only searched this up cuz my so called “friends” r tripping me over and laughing at me while spreading rumours that i like teachers they also kick the ball at my face but idk how to leave the friend group
My best friend told me i was wasting my life because i chose not to work out like her (we’re literally 12) and she’s always talking about losing weight because she knows i’m insecure about my weight and i know i shouldn’t start with her but she’s basically the only thing i have let and i don’t want to lose her because if i do she will spread rumors about me and say bad things about me and i really can’t deal with it anymore but i will never forgive myself if i lose her
One of my “friends” got in a fight with my other friend and after the fight my “friend” told me to stay away from her…I’m honestly afraid she will catch me hanging out with the other girl and force me to play with her at recess and force me to obey her. 😢
1- they don’t invite you to things then they get mad that you don’t invite them 2- they make plans with others in front of you 3- they talk about you badly behind your back 4- they pull aside people that your hanging out with so they can talk to them privately (If they do this then they are prob talking about you) 5- tell everyone your secrets that you trusted them with 6- they make fun of you in public 7- they take you for granted ( like they use you for money, food, friends) 7- they tell you about what they hate about you 8- they leave you out 9- they say there busy when you ask to hang out then they post a pic or vid with someone else (usually says last minute plans) or they post a pic of them at home (usually says # bored or something) 10- if they physically, mentally, or emotionally hurt you Just saying I know this because I’m going through a very toxic friendship that I don’t know how to end. Also if your scared that your friend did any of this to you, don’t be everything I listed were examples on how I found a few of my friends to be toxic. Please everyone stay safe. Love y’all
Hello! I feel terrible that your dealing with a bad friendship, I already been through one too. Don’t worry I’m on the same page. and from seeing this comment, I kind of want to tell you a story about what happened in my friendship. (And no I’m not trying to make the topic all about me) but what happened was I had a best friend that I would never leave behind for almost 4 years since I was in kindergarten. She later went to a different school and me and met new friends. She always left me out and said insults behind my back. The only reason I knew is cause one of my other friends who is in the same group chat secretly added me in there, but had a hack to where it doesn’t show that they added me. Later in the span couple months, they start talking about me behind my back, but are super nice to me. When they talk to me. and later a fight broke out between my friend. Jacob and Ansley Ansley was. Jacob was trying to cure the fight by helping us focus on the future and then Ansley said these. “Yeah and you won’t shut up about” and “idc what you do” and I was very sad that she had changed ever since she met new friends and later one night me and her were talking and a little fight broke out. Ansley said that when she met her other friends, she knew what a actual true friend was, but I always helped her push through terrible arguments and backed her up in text fights. I always trusted her and helped her push through hard times that she had, and ever since her friends joined she no longer appreciated it, and then clarified that she never liked me and never trusted me, and then told me a list of things that she did, and clarified the truth. I understand that this is a lot to read. Sorry about that. But what’s crazy is that she broke our friendship because I trusted and helped her. after that I felt super bad. Thinking of what I did wrong and one night cried myself to sleep. The same night I texted my friend Jacob, and he said that I should not cry about Ansley because she backstabbed me. And I do believe that. But I know she is a fake friend when I noticed that she was talking really bad about my friend Jacob.
@@ThisGameDominantI’m gonna tell you the story of how the toxic relationship between my friends is still going on and it’s getting worse So basically a few months ago these two girls O and S were best friends with B then they just all of a sudden turned on her and kept yelling at her because B liked to hug them and call them Pookie and stuff like that to show them that she really appreciates them as friends then O and S after around three years of being best friends with B they decided to take a break from their friendship Then, a few days later, I witnessed the B crying in the library and obviously I comforted her and then the next day I found her crying in the bathroom so I comforted her there two (everything that happened definitely affected her mental health.) Then later B and her only other BFF got into a huge fight that coned them to stop talking (they still don’t talk) obviously I comforted her and became her BFF and honestly she is the best person I have ever met Then fast forward two weeks a judge group of people turned on O and S because whenever they invited someone else to join their friend group they would kick them out two days later so everyone was saying bad things about them. (also a few things they were saying was O changed for this one guy C then they started to date so S changed for O and also said C kept talking really bad about O and they are in a toxic relationship.) also the group that started talking about about O and S had 17+ People H,H,G,C,D,C,L,K,H,Z,L,M,B,J,L,C,C… etc also only 27 people know about this drama. And ya there is a lot more but I’m to lazy to keep typing lol I am so sorry that this was so long but It was definitely really good to talk about and not keep it to myself.
They do hear my side of story but with less interest and always think like they're suffering from much bigger problems and that they're the most unfortunate, idk why maybe to look cool idk I hate that tho
YESS IT'S EXACTLY THAT! and they also explain their bad tamper with their past experiences and "Traumas" but when it comes to you trying to explain one of your behavior like they do (saying that it's past trauma) they just denigrates it and tells you that your pas has nothing to do with it
@@myliss6100 yeah you're right, I hope you find better ppl in your life, I, thank god, got rid of these type of ppl and I'm living a much peacefully now
@@astrophilehere..343 I'm currently in this kinda friendship and it's so tiring mentally, it's hard but I'm trying to let go of them rather than sticking to bad people. I'm so happy that things went well for you!
@@myliss6100 yeah, ig it's good to have these kinda friendships at some point in life so that you can learn how to choose ppl to be with. 8 months ago when I wrote that comment, I could've given anything to get rid of those ppl but now I think it wasn't that hard to get away from them. Just move away swiftly and yk not by causing problems so if you meet them in future (which I hope you don't lol), you don't cause any trouble to each other. NEVER EVER LET ANYBODY RUIN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH, value it more than them
@@astrophilehere..343 As you said I have to put my mental health before anything else, and at least I learned something from it and they also gave me some good memories at some point and kept me company, but time passes and people change so our mentality might've changed and make it harder to understand each other I guess, I can't expect form people to change so I just need to let go. Also, thank you! Your comment actually helped me a lot to figure things out more and clear my mind!
Can anyone give me an advice? My male bsf bad mouthed about me. His female friends asked him if I was his bsf and he's like : "Ew Ew, who'll hang out with her? Who'll stay with her?" When the girls (who heard this convo) told me about this convo, my whole world almost shattered. I loved him with all my might. I left crying from there. Every moment we had, every talk, every chat - was everything fake? I remember the way he used to look at me. How could he? Should I confront him or get distant?
I recommend you to distance yourself from him or even cutt off your friendship with them. It's better to be alone tha being surrounded by people who make you feel less.
Girl if he is talking about your back , badmouthing you , and etc . He is breaking your trust , he is just trying to break your heart , your trust . You should just leave him , life is a beautiful journey , where you can always get new friends. So just break your friendship , dear, your life is in your hand , you have to decide what you should do. Btw , don't overthink about this matter Just move on girl
my(so call friends). they are never there for my at the worst time of my life. they always use my feelings as a joke to them. they don't even looked at me if i ask for help even just helping me find something. i was always i first one to help then but when i asked for help they work away until i tell them i would give something to them then they would help. they never realize that they hurt me. i even had a break down at school just because of one of my friend and then didn't even realize they hurt me they don't realize i even had a break down even if they saw mw crying so hard then the next day they act like nothing happen and if they knew i stop contacting with then the would always team up with other people that i hate and they even had the audacity to team up with them and say(you don't even have proof that i was a fake friend)they would hurt me till i walk back to(continue the friendship again i always feel sad all the time 30% of the time i mostly cry at home because of them. i feel like im suffocating and i don't know what to do im dying in their grip what do i do im sharing this with the whole world because im tired of keeping it in my heart im tired of keeping it in my brain this has gone to far and this just happen to me today at school i need help with this pls tell mw what i should do(this is long but this is my true feeling so pls read this to the end)
It’s crazy to me reading these comments and seeing the common and consistent themes in everyone experiencing bad friendships. We can’t escape meeting them, but at least we know that the signs are usually very similar in nature and can be avoided.
Had to deal with this 3 months ago but im finally free from them they didnt allow me to have my opinion saying it was invalid and made fun of me not having a job and being bad at a game we all played together so i finally had enough and just left them because their just people who wont change and never be aware of what they do because their miserable people.
If your “friends” talk shit about you in your face then they are real friends and they are just joking, but if they talk shit about you behind your back they are fake.
Main: they try to act too friendly to you, some people will fall into their trap, and they can't identify the toxic friends, and tell their secrets to them and those toxic friends will share it with their friends in the absence of them 😢😢😢😢
So true , someone who came out of a toxic friendship, iet this friend in my second year of college when we hung around together she either mentioned im too boring to hang around or i never make the effort in the friendship, when i do try and talk and check up on her. It was always about her alll the time. When she talked to a guy on the bus but was upset when she found out he already has a girlfriend and he mentioend their can be a tbree way relationship. Ive been their for her a reassured her that their always much handsome guys around. And then next week she comes more upset saying i was never ther efor her when she was crying over this guy
ngl, i know im in a toxic friendship but my hand are tied, her dad is powerful, shes everywhere and she has connections with powerfull people not to mention she also touches me in ways i dont want to be touched.
1. They wouldnt leave to talk to someone else while talking to you. 2. Always makes fun of you and always says its a joke 3. Always say "Im just joking!!!" When they realise theyre wrong
1. They never let you have an opinion.
2. They make fun of you as a "joke" way to often.
3. They always think they are right and never admit they are wrong.
Do u know my toxic friend?
Tell me about it😢
True
So my 5 y-years of bestie is fake🙂
Well my only friend is a toxic friend welp ima make new friends then
1. You aren’t happy, in-fact you feel worse about yourself after talking or hanging out with them
2. They tell you about all the problems you have ( to make you feel like its your fault they treat you the way they do )
That is the exact description of my best friend…..
@@dakiwicat5522 bestie 💀
My ex bestfriend call me ugly and short I got upset and she said she was jk but I have a feeling that she's not joking. And she literally said "your kind and Christian but you're behavior" she's so racist too and when I say to her "aren't we friend sorry, from now on I will Assume that you are dead (it's like I'm gonna ignore her)". And she literally put it on her status and took a picture that she is cry I was like"DON'T ACT THAT IT'S NOT YOU'RE FAULT" she literally said to my other friends "L wanted me to kill myself" I didn't even told her to kill herself it's so annoying! And she said she wanted to punch me
Omg... Exactly. I feel it
My friend told me to km$ and when I said I well he said “great” is this a toxic friendship?
1. They dump all their issues on you without asking if you can handle it first
2. You feel like their opinion is the only one that matters and they dismiss your own
3. They get mad if you talk to other people besides them
This is so true 😔 my friend is super toxic and I can’t leave. She’s really popular and if I don’t want to be friends anymore she will turn everyone against me. Even my other friends.
@@Fern_the_wild_therian awww... sorry to hear that. If you don't feel comfortable with her, just try and have a conversation how her behavior is making you feel if you haven't. If you can't and the friendship is only damaging you, honestly I'd suggest leaving but as you said you can't..... so I wish the best for you. But if you can leave, please do. And if your other friends are real, they will stick with you. Chances are some of them might feel the same way about her as you do but are just better at hiding it, so you calling her out and standing your ground might help not only you but some of your other friends leave the toxic friendship. Even if you can't, I really hope it gets better eventually 💚
I’m scared to like dump my toxic friend because she always says the flaws in me and never tells me what’s good about me and whenever she gets made I my friend group she always tells me and not the rest of the group which puts all the pressure on me
@@andrealopez8461 it's hard. I've had to do it too. Some peop,e aren't inherently bad, but toxic friends can actually be both bad with just being a horrible person and good, good people who don't know how to be a good friend. Try to confront them on their behavior, make their flaws known to them, and see if you can get them to understand how they make you feel. It's best to try to work things out. Though if you can't, it's not your fault and it is 100% okay to get out of a friendship that is mentally draining... you don't have t9 explain yourself to them for that. And if your other friends are your real friends, they'll still stick with you no matter what happens. People like your friend just like control, and if you won't submit to what they want or get under their pressure they have no control over you. If you can.. try to work things out and call them out on their behavior, but if you can't, it's not a bad idea to leave. Then again, that's your choice. Sorry u got a toxic friend tho. They re a pain
@@andrealopez8461end it. Do not settle for the less. No company is better than bad company. Real friends compliment you and praise you and enjoy your company. I just ended my friendship with my toxic bsf of 8 years and I never felt better
This saying really helps if anyone needs it. "You shouldn't care about people talking behind your back. There is a reason they are behind you."
my best friend since 2nd grade and my only friend for like 8 yrs does this stuff..
@@MintTori78 sameeee i had friends who are with me since grade 1 and grade 6 and they do this shit.
#4 they lack empathy for you going thru hard times
#5 they’re hypocrites. They do bad stuff and if you do it just once they get upset.
#6 hold your past against you. We all do this I think but a true friend wouldn’t. I’m guilty of this but i try let it go and help people now
#7 they don’t truly give 2nd chances.
You're supposed to hold your people's past against them. That's why it's important that you do fair business. And do people right at all times
@@thegreat444 what about forgiveness? I don’t want hold peoples past against them.
Friend and I split for years but reconnected during covid. We vowed never to talk about the negative past. Lately, she's been going there throwing things up in my facel, stuff I can't change that I've already apologized for...
My friend said the other day abt someone: “ I feel forced to be friends with her now” and that’s what I feel like with her.. hypocrite isn’t it?
1. They never admit they are wrong and always think their right.
2. They ghost you and never really tell you why.
3. They don't like when you hang out with other people and exclude you because of it.
Coming from someone who experienced this..🙁
I think that person mite be a narcissist
1. You aren’t happy when you hang out with them ☹️
This happens to me, I got invited to a birthday sleepover. But I said I was sick, Cause I didn’t want to go. I just felt sad and nervous about going. Now we’re not friends and I don’t regret leaving her one bit
Fr
I was meant to meet with my friends but went shopping with my sister for an hour or two first (I needed stuff and I wanted to delay meeting them) when I actually did meet up with them I felt like I wasn't there and it was so draining. I can't wait to get away from them all
1. They are in competition with you and when things are going well for you, they are not happy
2. They make everything about them. Even your misfortune.
3. They want to be pursued all the time and can not fathom that you have emotional needs as well.
They never defend u when other people are talking sh1t to ur face and they are just watching
Yes one time she sat there and watched me get called fat, etc and then they said her hair was in 3 dimensions and she told 6 different teachers..
my friend had one of her friends call me ugly on discord and instead of defending me she said “REAL.” and what’s worse is that my other friend in our trio showed me and the one that said it didn’t even care. she just said “haha” as if it were funny that her and her friends were talking about how ugly i am
True she never defends me I always defend her but now I stopped I asked her once why don't u defend or help me that u should probably do she said," why should I even do that?"
FR. I had a friend that had this friend who always picked on me for no reason and at the time I was rly sentsitive, and I always argued with her and told her “THEYRE A TOXIC FRIEND AND THEYLL PROB LEAVE YOU” and we all know what happens next…
*I WAS RIGHT.*
1. They talk bad about your friends or their friends to you
2. They never want to fix arguments without YOU apologizing first
3. They make fun of you as "jokes" way to much
(all from experience)
And that toxic friend will always uses your things carelessly and his things preciously😈😈. But my true friend will always protect my things even when I'm not there ❤😢
Yes, true. 😢❤
They will always pretend to be the victim in every sinareo.
They won't let you hang out with any of you other friends 😢
This is exactly what I'm dealing with right now!!
Going thru the same thing rn girl
If I hang out with my other friends or by myself it’s considered “not wanting to be their friend anymore”
One sign of being in a toxic friendship.
They make you not quit a bad habit because your “friendship” was because of that one bad habit you had in common.
Friend got pissed because I started exercising during covid. She claimed she didn't have time, therefore I shouldn't work out. Yes she has time.
1. They correct you about everything they can so they can feel better about themselves
2. They always guilt you for not helping them but get annoyed when you do
3. Always making things about them and what they want.
I speak from experience.
The first one hits, I’m literally annoyed with that friend rn, always talking people down and even trying to “correct me” and when I saw something about it, they’d start acting like “Oh it’s only because I care about you.” When it has always been about inflating their ego.
And the second one hits me. So basically, since a few months, One of my friend is coming late and saying that she doesn't have anywhere to sit so we should move in and give her some space. So we called her in our 2 seater bench, I was in the corner so I was always being pressured with the wall and the girl beside me. After this happened for like a month, I had enough, I said her to go back and sit, and she got angry and didn't talk to me. The other girl is also saying that I can't even compromise for a friend. So I broke my friendship today. One girl is a use me sign who wants to help everyone and if someone refuses, they are bad, other uses their friends in the name of friendship, and when someone refuses, she calls them selfish. I hope I did the right thing.
4. They call you a ‘bad friend’ or ‘f*cking selfish’ when you stand up for yourself because of all their injustice towards you
Fr tho I have friends that call me fat,annoying and yell at me I kinda hate them now💔💔💔 but I cant leave and idk why😢😢😢
Exactly 💯
You made me fall down in tears because I stopped being friends to my best friends and now am alone I was planning to do this and I did but I can’t let it out after all the memories we had together😢
They never appreciate what we do for them
They make you feel outcast when they are with people with more fun
because of a toxic friend I became so much more silent and shy, even lowered confidence
Third is when you stop being their friend they say idc
Fourth is that they post their drama story
“Check the pinned comment” bruh where 😂
Its sarcasm for the 3 point he never pinned
I have this in mine
When they are nice when you guys are alone but when other people are their they don’t care about you
This pinned comment is deep
Mabye he is writing it,this video was uploaded today
Ya
@@celesteInes07 When its been 6 months 💀💀💀
@@ItsJovie FR
@@ItsJovie it’s been a year it’s 2023 now
damn that pinned comment made my timbers shiver
cau u pls tell what was the pin comment all about cause it's not visible now
@@agamyasingh471 There's no pinned comment... it's sarcasm.
@@unluckellie that jerk!!!😭 jk it's ok I'm very forgiving
@@sugarcubefam LOL
@@unluckellieyou still alive?
I love her so much and I don’t want to let go, but she treats me like crap. All of these comments described her and I just don’t know what to do. She’ll go off on me because everyone else tells her she’s not wrong when she is, and I let her know when she’s wrong cause I want to be a good friend and help her not make the same mistakes. I told my therapist about all of our problems, most of which I’m not gonna post about for her privacy but my therapist says that she is being overly-sensitive and very toxic. She makes me feel bad about myself, excludes me, always thinks she’s right and will never admit when she’s wrong, and never wants to hear my side of the story. Whenever she does apologize, it’s fake and she never says what she’s sorry for and just says, “Oh I didn’t mean it” “Oh it’s just hormones” I guess it just never feels sincere. She also blames me for her problems and makes me cry so, so much. But the worst thing is, I’m used to it. I’m used to having to apologize cause I miss my old friend. I’m used to being walked all over, and when I finally tell her how I feel she gets angry. She makes it about her instead, when everything is always about her and her problems. My therapist helped me realize this behavior is toxic, and I should break off our relationship but I just can’t. It would ruin so many friend-groups, and just cause a lot of drama. I miss my old best-friend.
This is my exact experience. I’ve been distancing but decided to hang out today and I feel mad and upset once again afterwards.
A few days ago, i became friends with our new classmate girl, she seemed sweet, but later on right now, whenever we talk, i always let her talk first, cus i never wanna seem rude, but whenever I wanna talk, or tell her some she always interrupts me. But i don't wanna cut our friendship, she always tells me im her only friend in the entire school.
Personally, I don't think that's a toxic friend. I would just give them time to adjust and make more friends. They probably feel left out most of the time so that might be why they act like that. Again, this is what I think and I can be wrong.
One of my friends used to twist their words to always be in the right, frame others, and tell people what they don't want to hear
the thing with number 2 is that you'll never know if they are talking about you behind your back.
For the first one, it's always only talking about me and never about them like they just don't have anything to say or share I guess
-Can't genuinely admit that they were wrong, even in important events.
-Gives fake apologies, "I'm sorry that what I did, hurt your feelings," instead of I'm sorry for doing that."
This is so accurate
When a fake friend stabs you they act like they are the one who is bleeding
This is so true, but if I got rid of them, I wouldn’t have any friends
same plus i’ve been best friends with her for 7 years so far and she started getting kinda toxic recently, idk what to do now cause she is clearly bringing me down and talking to her makes me mad cause she always ignores my feelings and opinions on stuff..
@@whos.mayy13do it. Have respect for yourself, trust me you will feel better. Remember no company is better than bad company. Put God first and He will send you the best of blessings.
He starts the drama but he tells his mom like he’s the victim
1. They get close to your close friends
2.They bad thing about u around your friends
3.u feel disowned or stager or more pushed around with them
The worst one is they make fun of you just to have fun
I used to have a friend that made me feel like i had to walk on eggshells
"Check the pin commitment" what pin commitment I looked 10 time😭
It is on tiktok
To all those on a toxic friendship I'm so sorry I was in one and I know how hard it is to get out of it. They will guilt trip you make it seem like you were the bad friend and them try to make you come back because they like to use you.
One sign that you could be in a toxic friend ship is if your friend hits you. Now its OK for like friendly pushes and that kinda stuff but its not OK to punch hard pinch pull hair etc.
Another sign is that they will guilt trip you and make you say sorry first every time and make you feel bad and hurt you.
They will also only talk about them self and only do the things they want to do. And if you suggest an idea they will so no I don't like that game or no I don't want to do it. And if you do t want to do what they are doing they will say you never do what I like
Also if you you get into a fight then they will most likely ignore you instead of resolving it. And they will also bump into you.
And lastly get mad at you for no reason. Like not doing anything at your break time. You not coming to them when they are upset but if you do come they get mad at you. You just never get a break.
Now how to peacefully get out of this toxic relationship is to not talk to them. You guys will hopefully drift apart from each other. You can say it over text but keep it short and simple. Now you might thing that saying over text is not the right way but its so easy. And them in if you do it in person then they will try to make you change there mind. And last way in person. Like I just said it can not really turn out well but if they try to make you change you mind then just ignore them.
I really hopes this helps you guys
i have a question, its fine if u cant answer it
My "bestie" dumped me yesterday for "copying" her, she's an irl friend and only friend, i have no friends anymore.. I tried being friends with her again but she never replied to my text..
so heres the question, if u had no friends like me, what would u do?
@@wecanbeherosjustforonedayig u could try to talk to others and then become their friend ?
@@ii_Ashlyn oh ok ill try, ty!
@@wecanbeherosjustforoneday you can try to put yourself out there more and be nice to people then try to engage in conversation and eventually you should be able to join a friend group
@@TessLambert-cq2nc oh yeah! Thanks for all the support!!
They always think everything is a compitition and they ignore you😢
And if your in a friend GROUP and they all blame you for problems and stuff you never did and never really was apart of, and if they team up on you, so they all are collectively mad at you and try to put you down. I’ve realized my trio became a group of 8 and they all get mad at me and blame me for things I didn’t do
Ive been going through this for awhile now. All my friends try to correct everything I do and act totally different around other older kids. They act like my friends for a minute and then the next thing you know, they’re laughing at me because I suck at a game.
Me who always alone at school :
My two best friends met each other and started to talk about me behind my back and they lied to me and about me. I decided to give them one more chance because they begged me and I don’t know what to do. I have NO other friends so if I lose them I’ll be lonely. One of them I thought I could still trust but she spilled all the things I told her to my other friend. And the other doesn’t laugh at my jokes, Act like they didn’t hear me when I talk, and are ALWAYS mad at me and doesn’t have a reason to be. Please give me advice I don’t know what to do. ⚠️‼️
I find myself second-guessing my concerns I bring up bc this person always get very emotional and attacked feeling. I feel like maybe I am the bad friend sometimes. I’m trying to get out of the friendship but it’s hard to completely cut contact even tho you know it’s what’s best. It’s harder when they’re part of multiple friend groups :
1. they are quick to criticise but slow to support
2. they try to guilt trip you just to make you feel bad
3. they manipulate you to do what they say
4. they only want to talk about themselves
5.whenever they get in trouble,they try to blame you without ruining their reputation.
6. they start talking to your friends or act like they have been in your place as if they knew them since they were born.
7.they make fun of you and call it a “joke”
8.they backbite about people to you.
9. if they don’t have the same opinion as you,they get mad
10. they backbite you to others
11. they say all the bad actions they did were done by you
i’m very sorry for whoever had to go through this,you’ll get through😊
I lost 2 best freinds they were both toxic 1 of them stole my crush behind my back and started spreading lies
the first one sounds like my parents 😂
i loved that part where he said the third sign haha lol
One is that they think they're always right!! I'm in a whole fg with them and they constantly do things to the group, like discriminating or bodyshaming others and brushing it off as a 'joke'. We decided to confront her yesterday (tho I didn't say anything) and she came crying to me repetitively saying how fake they are and how she didn't do anything wrong??
Friends will exploit others for money
me with my bestfriend
No.1: no sides are heard cause we keep laughing
No.2: we are mean to each others faces but its hilarious
i have this friend rn, we’ll call her sofie and she is being a brat. she is talking behind my back, not hugging me but giving the biggest hugs to my other friend, she cancels plans so quickly, and she stopped talking to me and went and sat with a random kid at lunch. maybe as much as i loved her, it’s time to let her go.🫶
they are always there when they need you but then when you need them, there no where in sight
When time and time again they make something out of nothing and throw it in your face as a form of jealousy. When you respond, they accuse you of overthinking things and blame the situation on you.
anytime i try to talk to them about how they’re making me feel they always turn it around on me and say that i do that to them all the time when i know for a fact i dont
bro really said number 1, number 1, number 3
1.They make you feel like you are not enough
2.They make you change
3.They make fun of you insecurities and when you are crying they laugh
Also to all the comments thank y’all and this vid tysm
It's very true, that RELATIVES.....NEVER WANT TO HEAR YOUR SIDE OF THE STORY TOO.
Thank you Dan your video helped me drip my so called “friend” he always blamed me for his parents divorce even though his 20 siblings died
I only searched this up cuz my so called “friends” r tripping me over and laughing at me while spreading rumours that i like teachers they also kick the ball at my face but idk how to leave the friend group
Most important point they dont wanna have a rivalry with you instead they wanna put you down so that they dont have any competition
I just lost some valuable friends and I don’t know what to do. 😭😭😭
Look for people with similar interests and are kind
@@clairefranklin8459exactly
They make you hate yourself and feel you're weak
Don’t say “it’s a joke.” It stays on their heart.
second one is quite the opposite lmfao
My Friend Never Hears My Stories, He Just Ignores Them.
My best friend told me i was wasting my life because i chose not to work out like her (we’re literally 12) and she’s always talking about losing weight because she knows i’m insecure about my weight and i know i shouldn’t start with her but she’s basically the only thing i have let and i don’t want to lose her because if i do she will spread rumors about me and say bad things about me and i really can’t deal with it anymore but i will never forgive myself if i lose her
My problem too. Not that bad as yours, but if I left my "friends" I would be lonely.
One of my “friends” got in a fight with my other friend and after the fight my “friend” told me to stay away from her…I’m honestly afraid she will catch me hanging out with the other girl and force me to play with her at recess and force me to obey her. 😢
they apologize verbally but not their actions that’s one I’ve experienced
1- they don’t invite you to things then they get mad that you don’t invite them
2- they make plans with others in front of you
3- they talk about you badly behind your back
4- they pull aside people that your hanging out with so they can talk to them privately (If they do this then they are prob talking about you)
5- tell everyone your secrets that you trusted them with
6- they make fun of you in public
7- they take you for granted ( like they use you for money, food, friends)
7- they tell you about what they hate about you
8- they leave you out
9- they say there busy when you ask to hang out then they post a pic or vid with someone else (usually says last minute plans) or they post a pic of them at home (usually says # bored or something)
10- if they physically, mentally, or emotionally hurt you
Just saying I know this because I’m going through a very toxic friendship that I don’t know how to end. Also if your scared that your friend did any of this to you, don’t be everything I listed were examples on how I found a few of my friends to be toxic. Please everyone stay safe. Love y’all
Hello! I feel terrible that your dealing with a bad friendship, I already been through one too. Don’t worry I’m on the same page. and from seeing this comment, I kind of want to tell you a story about what happened in my friendship. (And no I’m not trying to make the topic all about me) but what happened was I had a best friend that I would never leave behind for almost 4 years since I was in kindergarten. She later went to a different school and me and met new friends. She always left me out and said insults behind my back. The only reason I knew is cause one of my other friends who is in the same group chat secretly added me in there, but had a hack to where it doesn’t show that they added me.
Later in the span couple months, they start talking about me behind my back, but are super nice to me. When they talk to me. and later a fight broke out between my friend. Jacob and Ansley Ansley was. Jacob was trying to cure the fight by helping us focus on the future and then Ansley said these. “Yeah and you won’t shut up about” and “idc what you do” and I was very sad that she had changed ever since she met new friends and later one night me and her were talking and a little fight broke out.
Ansley said that when she met her other friends, she knew what a actual true friend was, but I always helped her push through terrible arguments and backed her up in text fights. I always trusted her and helped her push through hard times that she had, and ever since her friends joined she no longer appreciated it, and then clarified that she never liked me and never trusted me, and then told me a list of things that she did, and clarified the truth.
I understand that this is a lot to read. Sorry about that. But what’s crazy is that she broke our friendship because I trusted and helped her. after that I felt super bad. Thinking of what I did wrong and one night cried myself to sleep. The same night I texted my friend Jacob, and he said that I should not cry about Ansley because she backstabbed me. And I do believe that. But I know she is a fake friend when I noticed that she was talking really bad about my friend Jacob.
All these signs yet I don’t want to be alone in school
@@hayley-oi9vgya same
@@ThisGameDominantI’m gonna tell you the story of how the toxic relationship between my friends is still going on and it’s getting worse
So basically a few months ago these two girls O and S were best friends with B then they just all of a sudden turned on her and kept yelling at her because B liked to hug them and call them Pookie and stuff like that to show them that she really appreciates them as friends then O and S after around three years of being best friends with B they decided to take a break from their friendship
Then, a few days later, I witnessed the B crying in the library and obviously I comforted her and then the next day I found her crying in the bathroom so I comforted her there two (everything that happened definitely affected her mental health.)
Then later B and her only other BFF got into a huge fight that coned them to stop talking (they still don’t talk) obviously I comforted her and became her BFF and honestly she is the best person I have ever met
Then fast forward two weeks a judge group of people turned on O and S because whenever they invited someone else to join their friend group they would kick them out two days later so everyone was saying bad things about them. (also a few things they were saying was O changed for this one guy C then they started to date so S changed for O and also said C kept talking really bad about O and they are in a toxic relationship.) also the group that started talking about about O and S had 17+ People H,H,G,C,D,C,L,K,H,Z,L,M,B,J,L,C,C… etc also only 27 people know about this drama. And ya there is a lot more but I’m to lazy to keep typing lol
I am so sorry that this was so long but It was definitely really good to talk about and not keep it to myself.
Thank you so much you have know clue how much this helps
1. They critisize you for no reason at all
2. Always talks behind our backs
I never do that but I still consider myself worst friend
I actually just got out of a friendship cuz they called me childish and when I tried to confront them they tried to slap me in the face
The thing is my freind in straight foward and i over think so its really hard for me but i dont want to leave
They do hear my side of story but with less interest and always think like they're suffering from much bigger problems and that they're the most unfortunate, idk why maybe to look cool idk I hate that tho
YESS IT'S EXACTLY THAT! and they also explain their bad tamper with their past experiences and "Traumas" but when it comes to you trying to explain one of your behavior like they do (saying that it's past trauma) they just denigrates it and tells you that your pas has nothing to do with it
@@myliss6100 yeah you're right, I hope you find better ppl in your life, I, thank god, got rid of these type of ppl and I'm living a much peacefully now
@@astrophilehere..343 I'm currently in this kinda friendship and it's so tiring mentally, it's hard but I'm trying to let go of them rather than sticking to bad people. I'm so happy that things went well for you!
@@myliss6100 yeah, ig it's good to have these kinda friendships at some point in life so that you can learn how to choose ppl to be with. 8 months ago when I wrote that comment, I could've given anything to get rid of those ppl but now I think it wasn't that hard to get away from them. Just move away swiftly and yk not by causing problems so if you meet them in future (which I hope you don't lol), you don't cause any trouble to each other.
NEVER EVER LET ANYBODY RUIN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH, value it more than them
@@astrophilehere..343 As you said I have to put my mental health before anything else, and at least I learned something from it and they also gave me some good memories at some point and kept me company, but time passes and people change so our mentality might've changed and make it harder to understand each other I guess, I can't expect form people to change so I just need to let go.
Also, thank you! Your comment actually helped me a lot to figure things out more and clear my mind!
1. if ur friend and the fake friend talks with each otherand ur left out
2. they talk behind ur back
3. they never want to hear ur side of ur story
I lost my friend today because all that was happening
Can anyone give me an advice?
My male bsf bad mouthed about me. His female friends asked him if I was his bsf and he's like :
"Ew Ew, who'll hang out with her? Who'll stay with her?"
When the girls (who heard this convo) told me about this convo, my whole world almost shattered.
I loved him with all my might. I left crying from there.
Every moment we had, every talk, every chat - was everything fake?
I remember the way he used to look at me. How could he?
Should I confront him or get distant?
I recommend you to distance yourself from him or even cutt off your friendship with them. It's better to be alone tha being surrounded by people who make you feel less.
Girl if he is talking about your back , badmouthing you , and etc . He is breaking your trust , he is just trying to break your heart , your trust . You should just leave him , life is a beautiful journey , where you can always get new friends. So just break your friendship , dear, your life is in your hand , you have to decide what you should do.
Btw , don't overthink about this matter
Just move on girl
my(so call friends). they are never there for my at the worst time of my life. they always use my feelings as a joke to them. they don't even looked at me if i ask for help even just helping me find something. i was always i first one to help then but when i asked for help they work away until i tell them i would give something to them then they would help. they never realize that they hurt me. i even had a break down at school just because of one of my friend and then didn't even realize they hurt me they don't realize i even had a break down even if they saw mw crying so hard then the next day they act like nothing happen and if they knew i stop contacting with then the would always team up with other people that i hate and they even had the audacity to team up with them and say(you don't even have proof that i was a fake friend)they would hurt me till i walk back to(continue the friendship again i always feel sad all the time 30% of the time i mostly cry at home because of them. i feel like im suffocating and i don't know what to do im dying in their grip what do i do im sharing this with the whole world because im tired of keeping it in my heart im tired of keeping it in my brain this has gone to far and this just happen to me today at school i need help with this pls tell mw what i should do(this is long but this is my true feeling so pls read this to the end)
It’s crazy to me reading these comments and seeing the common and consistent themes in everyone experiencing bad friendships. We can’t escape meeting them, but at least we know that the signs are usually very similar in nature and can be avoided.
This is all true on my bestie…….bro I’m crying
when u tell them something ur excited about and they either look at there other friend like ur crazy or just look at u weird.
Had to deal with this 3 months ago but im finally free from them they didnt allow me to have my opinion saying it was invalid and made fun of me not having a job and being bad at a game we all played together so i finally had enough and just left them because their just people who wont change and never be aware of what they do because their miserable people.
When they never talk/text to you one on one, but you see them irl they’re like hey what’s up and it hurts like h*ll
if you and your friends insult slurs at each other is a sign of a positive friendship
If your “friends” talk shit about you in your face then they are real friends and they are just joking, but if they talk shit about you behind your back they are fake.
I was in a toxic friendship but I got out of it
Actually I just got out of a friendship because they called me childish and when I tried to confront them abt it they tried to slap me in the face…😢
Can’t have a toxicfriend when I don’t have any 😎
Lol
One time my “friend” thought it was funny to pretend that she was mad and pretend to not be my friend
Main: they try to act too friendly to you, some people will fall into their trap, and they can't identify the toxic friends, and tell their secrets to them and those toxic friends will share it with their friends in the absence of them 😢😢😢😢
Thanks for this, I just found out my 2 friend was talking behind my back and now I’ve lost complete contact with them but my hearts feels empty now… 😞
This weekend I am gonna tell off a toxic friend and I have no clue how to
My friend just punched me in the stomach cuz I wanted him to shake my hand💀
I’m sorry
That must’ve hurt
Then that’s definitely not yo friend
Then that’s definitely not yo friend
seems like a lost a toxic friend and I'm glad about it...!😔
So true , someone who came out of a toxic friendship, iet this friend in my second year of college when we hung around together she either mentioned im too boring to hang around or i never make the effort in the friendship, when i do try and talk and check up on her. It was always about her alll the time. When she talked to a guy on the bus but was upset when she found out he already has a girlfriend and he mentioend their can be a tbree way relationship. Ive been their for her a reassured her that their always much handsome guys around. And then next week she comes more upset saying i was never ther efor her when she was crying over this guy
That happened to me and you were right thank you I really need to know that.
ngl, i know im in a toxic friendship but my hand are tied, her dad is powerful, shes everywhere and she has connections with powerfull people not to mention she also touches me in ways i dont want to be touched.
Me:
90% fake friends
10% real friends
My friends fit all of these descriptions in the vid and the comments
1. They wouldnt leave to talk to someone else while talking to you.
2. Always makes fun of you and always says its a joke
3. Always say "Im just joking!!!" When they realise theyre wrong