People Didn't Believe My Mental Illness
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- "I know I seemed fine...but I felt like a monster."
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All of these girls are survivors, I have depression and anxiety and people dont think it’s not a big deal, but it is.
Anxiety and depression are huge things. Don't let negative people make you doubt your diagnosis.you have to accept it before you can claw your way out to the light.no cure but can be managed,it's hit n miss at times, just hang in there and be honest regarding how you feel.find and stay with a trusted dr. Who can help you navigate the turbulent waters of pharma. Feeling better doesn't happen overnight,just don't give up,believe in hope,dismiss negative persons, reach out for help
There is always hope. Reach out time and again until you find it
Me too.
I feel so down all the time that it actually gets frustrating.
I didn't used to be like this. I used to be much more fun to be around but now I just pretend.
Pretend all day long that I'm fine because I know no one will understand.
What even hurts the most is people stigmatizing against it. I remember an aunt of mine even asked me "What's the matter with you?" which was barely helpful.
I have anxiety and depression as well and it sucks I wish it never existed.
As someone who struggled/struggles with an eating disorder, it's comforting to know that I'm not alone.
Megan Hodes I hope you get better. I can't relate to your situation, but just know that you are beautiful just the way you are and you don't need to change.
You never walk alone
Victoria Diaz bts reference 💕
Yeah
You're going to be ok, and I believe that you can get through this☺
What hurts the most is being called crazy and being told to just get over it. This made me cry.
I consider myself crazy but being told to get over it made it worse
dylan wall Exactly
You're not crazy, you'll get through it in a good way, don't give up please, sorry you're going through this😊
I hope karma triggers and they can get a taste of it themselves. Then hear what they have to say.
People toss that word around like it's nothing. Only I can call myself crazy (or occasionally family or other "crazies", in good spirit)
This video made me tear up! I've lived with mental illness for 10+ years and have hit many highs and lows. Hearing other peoples struggles just hurts my soul because I know how hard it can be and how never ending it can feel. Just ride the lows and live for the ups, because the ups will come.
Molly Burke Hey Molly! I love you! You’re an awesome influencer. No, I’m not blind, but I have been trying to recover through ED. You make me feel like I can get through anything. Thank you, genuinely.
Your comment needs more likes, ppl need to realize you're a very special person in this UA-cam community. You deserve more😊
Love you molly i hope you see my reply😳😍🙂
I was kind of confused reading this as your blind then I realized XD
Wow thx for the insight Molly Burke!!!!!!!!
The pain in Sheridan's voice was palpable & made my cry. I'm so glad she's being heard now & getting the help she deserves.
Kimberly G. I started crying when she talked. It's a mirror of me
Gracie ... I hope you're getting help and understanding now too! {{hugs}}
My anxiety got so bad that I started to get scared of falling asleep in fear of the unconsciousness
same
Wow. I'm the complete opposite. I'm so afraid of people in everyday life that I welcome going to sleep and just being away from them and meeting fictional characters in my dreams.
This recently started happening to me. Now I have sleep paralysis...
Mine is getting better overtime since I get really tired from school and when I come home I just pass out.
Jane Hervilla I have really bad anxiety, but I love to sleep.
"the key to healing is taking away the shame" ✊🏼
This is why it’s important to be honest about having anxiety and depression. So many people are quietly suffering because in the larger society those issues are brushed off and minimized. Sometimes my friends think I’m being dramatic when I say what really gives me anxiety and they make jokes about it but it’s literally the truth. I’ve be able to help people understand it more by being very honest and open though and I refuse to let anyone dismiss it because by me being open I want to make others feel more comfortable being open about it to.
Some people don't want to talk about their mental illnesses because whether you think so or not, people tend to look at them different...
They are not your friends
Yeah I grew up with really bad anxiety and I have took loads of tests saying that I have really bad anxiety and its hard man
020ctmarie I am quietly suffering
I overheard a conversation once. A classmate was talking to another about a person who had panic attacks. She said: “ She told me she couldn’t go because she was having a panic attack and then I told her that she can move her legs so she is just overreacting and want attention.”
In that moment my eyes were in tears. The fact that shocked me was that she was proud of herself like her answer to that person was the best and everybody should take her example.
As a person who suffers from social anxiety i was scared to speak up. I have regularly panic attacks and I know how hard it is to deal with them...i don’t want to imagine what that person felt when she heard that she “want attention “ and is “overreacting”.
I really wish a had the courage to say something...
Mary Y I've heard these conversations in hospitals from nurses and doctors. Sometimes they aren't even qualified to any kind of legal standard.
Ironically, just like in school, you're encouraged to find logical ways of dealing with these situations. Sadly, the structure can't always fix itself so you have to tell it about the structure. This can mean more abuse, or a full reversal.
Mary Y mate as a fellow social anxiety disorder sufferer I wouldn’t have sat by and hear that exchange. I may have trouble in more places then others that’s just how it works with “SAD” but I can certainly speak my mind when needed.
I was sexually assaulted 4 years ago and I was blamed for it not the person who did it. I was depressed since then I self harmed a lot I struggled with an eating disorder.i also hung out with the wrong crowd of people during my middle school years and then my freshman and sophomore year of high school I felt like I needed to be someone different and I still hung out with the like cool people that were still bad though and I was pressured into a couple of bad things that I regret. I am bi and I don’t have any friends that I can trust in completely everything. But now I have gotten closer to god I know that he likes me for me and made me like this I now have defeated my eating disorder and I don’t self harm anymore I still have rough patches in my life. And I still don’t have any friends to rely on but I’m fine with it and i am now a better person now i only mildly struggle with anxiety. I have become my better self and I’m proud of it. ❤️ (sorry for the rant.)
You do not have to apologize for sharing your story. You are fighting and you are winning. Keep your chin up, little warrior. 😊
You are lovely and loved. I empathise with you and understand your pain. Love to you 🤗🤗🤗🤗
You should watch Devin's assault story on Buzzfeed's UA-cam channel. I think that will help you a lot. You are not alone.
Never apologise. Ever.
Its ok we are all here for you.
Your a girl..... Like me I'm a girl..we get blamed for being touched..
"What were you wearing" ?
"Did you drink that night"?
"You asked for it"
im sorry for you..
I struggle with social anxiety in particular.. and the pressure that you put on yourself or what you think others are putting on you is unbearable sometimes. I would use things like making my friends laugh or do something good for them to make them smile, was my way of telling myself that I was good enough, that this was normal. I continued to do this everyday and even categorize the good days and bad days based on how much I made them laugh or smile... this on going cycle went on for years, and I’m getting better with dealing with it to this day but still have those oppressing thoughts. For anyone who suffers from social anxiety, anxiety in general, or just any type of mental illness, just keep fighting! People who don’t suffer don’t understand the fact that your brain is fighting you and pushing you down... just keep fighting cause the worst is behind you!!
I’ve had doctors, psychiatrists, and therapists who didn’t believe in my mental illness. It’s awful.
Same. It's a horrible system and I honestly believe that those therapists are just taking the easy road.
I am a very friendly, well-mannered, well articulate person.
When I told them nicely what's wrong with me, they said "You're fine, what's your problem, you don't seem ill"
When I couldn't bear it anymore and freaked out about their lack of help, I got told "You're so hyper, you don't want help and you don't want to work with us."
My last inpatient experience was the most traumatic event of my life. I will never again do this to myself...
System K I have Crohn's disease, and my mom and I waited months to get into a specialist to find out what was wrong with me (before we found out I had Crohn's) and when we got there it took all my effort to get there, he told me it was just my bipolar depression and my anxiety. I cried all the way home, my mom and I knew that something was wrong with me, that I was sick. Luckily my pediatrician knew I wasn't well and persisted to help us find out what was wrong so we could treat it.
It's sad when people around don't believe you, but when therapists and phychiatrists don't believe you I think it's worse.
They all believed me but they thought I was too "unstable" to get better. When your mental illness is so terrible that people give up on you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
It's crazy, right? I mean, it's their job, especially psychiatrists and therapists to know these things!!
As a woman who has PMDD, I have to say that this is totally accurate. Before medication, I spent just a bit over two weeks every month hating life, and shifting between violent rages, to hysterical sobbing, to complete exhaustion and then over again. It's not as simple as mood swings, it is a layered and frankly scary cycle.
What is PMDD
Anna Smith is that what I'm going through?
I also have pmdd and it's awful. I feel like there are two totally different versions of myself and when I'm in the "bad stage" I just spend all my time wishing I could feel like me again. The dread of it coming back after you feel better is also so hard to live with.
Essie. A pre menstrual dysmorphic disorder
I agree. Forget trying to have any type of relationship either. I would hit such a low it was scary. I love when she said do not listen to your mind when it tells you you are a loser. You are not a loser!
Time to throw my story Into the ring.
So for years I tried to tell people, friends, family and professionals alike, that there was something wrong with me because I was slowly losing the ability to handle life. I hated everything, I found no joy in things I used to. And most importantly I hated myself. No one tried to actually help me until I attempted to commit suicide this past summer. Now suddenly some people care. I was so pissed off when my mom and aunt told me that I should have told them how much pain it was in. I am getting a bit of help now but there are people who still don't believe me like my dad. I tried to explain to him that I'm not ready to go back to work yet but he just tells me that I am physically able to work so I should be fine.
Found myself in a similar situation although I didn't fall so far. I'm lucky that my family are very supportive. I'm so thankful you survived, and I know you'll get stronger 💚 for me, focusing on myself is what's made my journey easier. I don't tell friends or family about the little things I do to make things better unless it comes up. And I don't take their opinions to heart. Médiation saved me. People snigger when I say that, but it doesn't change the fact I was having daily panic attacks and that I'm not anymore. Youre not alone, and your journey is yours alone. You can do this, and you will 👊👊👊
You can get through this! I’m here for you I don’t know you but I’m here
I’ve been struggling with mental illness since I was 13. 10 years of my life has been devoted to this struggle. Up until I was a senior in college (2 years ago) my parents did not believe me. I had been initially diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety. But things got so much worse in my second year of college. As a senior I was taking antidepressants, and they made everything worse. I ended up in the hospital twice due to breakdowns and suicidal ideations within 8 months. The second time I was in the hospital I was pushed into an outpatient program and finally had a real diagnosis.
I’ve been living with a bipolar disorder diagnosis for 2 and a half years now. And I’m finally exactly where I’ve always wanted to be. Reaching out and getting help can really change your life. And don’t ever brush friends, or family off when they’re trying to help. They might not understand, but they’re doing the best they can.
I suffer from Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome and I was miss diagnosed with acid reflex for the first 6 years of my life because the doctors said I was faking it but no one understands how hard it is to live with this disorder because at one moment you could be fine and the next you'll be screaming in pain because you feel like knifes are stabbing at your stomach. I am 13 years old and I have lived with this disorder for 13 years and I've almost wanted to end my life until I got a new doctor in 2013 and he has been amazing sense then and he's helped me cope with stress and how to distract myself from this. I am glad I am still alive and that I have good friends that love me and I'm glad that I have two friends that have disorders and know exactly what I'm going threw, my friend Akaysha suffers with depression and she came to school the other day with a jacket on and I asked " why are you wearing a jacket?" And she pulled me into the bathroom and pulled up one of her sleeves and there were cut marks on her arm, she thought I was gonna be mad at her but I just gave her a hug and told her that I wasn't mad at her. My other friend Brook suffers with anxiety and when she is upset she always comes to me for help because she knows that I can help her get threw it.
Rhiannon Griego weird, I'm 13 and was also diagnosed with acid reflux, can't even imagine what that whole situation must've been like though. Stay strong x
i generally come off as a happy and content person and this leads to no one believing that i have bad social and performance anxiety.
Reagan Labiak same
I understand to, I try to act Happy on the outside around people or I'm gonna make them feel bad, even though on the inside I feel like I'm just gonna burst out crying.
I am an 11 year old with a lot of mental health issues and since most of my family understand , i cant realate but i hope that people realise that mental heath is no joke , it is a very serious matter and we need to take it seriously.
Hello Ginger you’re insanely beautiful
I’m 13 and relate very much
And there are always people who say, "it's just hormones, it'll go away." They're dismissing the fact that, even if it *is* -just- a hormonal imbalance, it's still affecting you, it can still ruin your life and development, it's still something that requires help.
I started to have ED/SH habits and major depression and (probably) social anxiety at age 10, when puberty hit me like a hurricane. I want to cry for my younger self, because if I had gotten into therapy THEN AND THERE (and found a good match--not everyone is going to be good for you), I may not have had to put up with an abusive home, I may not have taken the bullying as hard as I did, and I may have stopped my destructive behaviors before they came back with a vengeance at ages 17 and 19 and 23. Things were almost okay at 13 and 14, but I was living with my mom, who cared and listened and didn't judge. She even had some helpful tips, like breathing exercises.
I'm 24 and a half, now, and I can tell you that *it can get better,* it will probably be hard, and you will be fighting yourself for a long time. The best weapons are patience, kindness, and consistency.
Mental illness is like an abuser, one who lives inside your head and never leaves, even if they may shut up for awhile. I understand, and I believe you.
Therapy, and for awhile, medication, were amazing for me, and I think they could work for you, too. If you have access to apps, _Wysa_ is a free app that can be like therapy. It has resources, and it helps you improve your self-talk. I also recommend exercising (moderately) and drinking enough water. Meditation has been amazing, too, and there are many free guided meditation resources, even here on youtube.
Also, I recommend checking out Kati Morton's youtube channel--she has loads of videos on nearly every disorder under the sun, usually topical, tho with ED/SH, she specializes.
TL;DR
You are not alone. There are resources and people who *want* to help you, have even gone through what you're experiencing.
definitely.
I remember last year when I ate 300 calories or less a day and I can confirm that the difference in my mental state was staggering- I couldn’t concentrate on anything and I felt numb. It was horrific yet my life seemed to be running smoother than ever before, the starvation almost masked the depression and anxiety I have battled for so long. I felt so weak and frail- my parents would continually make comments on my eating habits and how boney my shoulders were, as Christmas approached I began to stop logging my calories as much but I gained weight quickly, it truly is terrible how this mentality can take such a toll on your body and mind, and although I’m certainly far from recovered I hope you can reach out and gain the help you need
last year, i broke down at school & i had to go to the counselors. it was something my parents said, & my mom still tells me those things. i’ve told the counselor how i felt & all these things that i hate myself & that i want to die & it was a big deal for like 3 days but my parents never took it seriously bc they don’t get it. the counselor recommended therapy & my dad said i didn’t need it bc i have all the happiness in the world & all my friends think that i’m just crazy & weird for feeling this way but really i’m just extremely unhappy & i hate myself so much & i want to die & this has been going on for 4 damn years & i’ve been trying to get help but i don’t know how bc no one will help me & now every time i talk about this i don’t feel sad anymore i just feel empty bc i’m so used to the feeling & oh my god
stephanie I'm sorry you go through that. I'm lucky enough to have a dad that understands my mental health issues. If you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me. My wattpad is AmePsychoFOB if you ever want to talk.
I havent gone through as much as you but i understand , keep trying, and if it dosent work pop down into the comment sections of videos like these and you have found a community of people who understand .
I feel you. I honestly don't know if I have depression and anxiety. I sometimes feel crappy and want to die. Go online and do these tests that say whether or not you have depression. Your parents are abusive. Use online therapy. I am trying to help you out.
Ps I am not being rude to you at all.
Therapy. Tell your counselor and friends that you need help finding a therapist. If someone says "it's all in your head," you can say, "Yeah, imagine if all throughout your head, with every thought, you just wanted to hurt yourself. Isn't the brain, aside from the heart and lungs, the most important organ to have working properly?" It's real, and to quote Amy Poehler, "you will someday feel at least 51% okay" if you are able to get professional help and be kind to yourself. You are loved and valuable, even though it doesn't feel that way.
You will be ok and depression is difficult to get through but you will always be you, and there is another side eventually. You are NOT crazy or weird for being ill, and those who believe it are 100% mistaken. If you can find more positive and understanding people to surround yourself with then please do, if not just know that I understand depression and I had similar issues to you and I know how horrible and overwhelming it is, and I know you wish it never developed. Lots of love xxx
My mom doesn’t believe I have a problem either. When she found out I had been self harming, she brushed it off and told me that I was attention seeking. She said I had absolutely no reason to be feeling like this, making it seem like it was wrong. A while later she said I’d speak with someone, but I never end up actually seeing anyone. My friends don’t take it very seriously either, they usually just keep quiet. I have had many suicidal thoughts but I haven’t ever attempted.
I have hypothyroidism. I felt like I was going insane before I found out. I was having daily severe panic attacks and I would break down for no reason. I was so low and upset and my family couldn’t afford therapy so I couldn’t get the help I needed. I had a panic attack before I had my blood drawn to find out what was wrong with me. When I found out there was a medical reason for the way I felt. So I’m medicated for my thyroid but lately that’s not been the issue. I’ve been injured for over 2 months now and I haven’t been able to do what I love. I started a new school and had to completely start over.
And my anxiety and depression has been getting worse and worse. It seems that whenever one thing starts to be going better, something else gets in the way and pushes me down even harder than before. I don’t know what to do anymore. My family can’t afford therapy and I just need help. I don’t know what more I can do to help myself. I feel like I’m dying and that nothing will be okay again.
Morgan Cloutier can you try chanting? And affirming yourself? I understand what you are going through, i am a depression patient myself. But when I sit in a place with no clue where to go and who to turn to, my mind automatically chants god. Chant something, it will be a release. Release of all those pent up things inside you. Let it out.
Research if there are any free clinics/ hospitals around- although for those sometimes there are income requirements. In nyc there are a few, usually run by universities and their students but it might help. There should also be some hotlines to talk to someone, sometimes it helps to talk to someone that believes and understands you
Hi Morgan. I just wanted to let you know that I was finally diagnosed with hypothyroidism at 15. It was actually a severe case known as Hashimotos. I'm 31 now. At the time I felt a lot of anxiety and depression and even though my health improved when I finally got the right dosage, I continued for some time with the mental illnesses. I've heard that the stress on the body of an autoimmune disease is very strong and it takes a while for things to settle down once your on the right treatment. My advice to you from someone who has been in the same position is to try and find the help you need. You've sorted your physical health out but the stress has led to your mental health being challenged. I was hoping too that when I got the right dosage that my depression and anxiety would disappear but it wasn't the case. It's something you have to work on for a full recovery, I'm afraid. :( Sending you hugs and love xx
Nyssa thank you so much. It’s so nice to hear from someone who went through exactly what I’m going through right now. Best wishes to you as well. 💛
I have hypothyroidism too, I was diagnosed 6 years ago. And I can totally relate with you. It was horrible. Doctors tell me I will never be able to have kids, the pain, the anxiety, the panic attacks. But I swear to you, it gets better. When the medicine start making changes in you, you can tell the difference. I was struggling for a year before start feeling human again. Now I have two kids, and barely no bad days, so I like to think I'm winning. You're not alone!! Big hugs from México
I have dissociative identity disorder due to several traumatic experiences I couldn't cope with. there have been so many people who think I'm delusional, including my mother. my first therapist wanted to integrate my alters and I didn't want that because they are like my family, they protect me, they're always there. now I'm 18, functioning normally with my alters still here, we set time aside for them, and I'm proud to prove the people in the mental health profession that think integration is the only cure.
sinhalite i agree with not intagrating the alters cause they are definitely family, with my condition it is similar to Dissociative except if the situation is so dire it requires qualities from all 5 alters they will become a collective where they are all "awake" at the same time. But rarely there has been a situation that extreme. I'm just gonna finish up with: Keep on going!
I hope both of your systems are doing well!
I have DID too, and long story short, existing is very hard for me.
Lyra Evergreen crazy club.
I have anxiety,depression and anger issues. People don’t believe me. I told someone then they talked behind my back and said “If someone really had depression they wouldn’t go telling everyone.” Well I hope they realize that I didn’t go to the hospital for a week and one day for nothing.
Edit: Also I’ve gotta add that the fact that my mom has arthritis, a port going into her heart, OCD, anxiety, and has had over 5 surgeries. My Older sister has ulcerative colitis, OCD and anxiety, and my second oldest sister has Crohn’s disease and depression. That puts my brother and I at a very high risk for those diseases as well. My brother has ADHD and anger issues. My dad has a hernia that he can’t pay to get fixed at the moment because we are already paying so much for medication, doctors appointments, and surgeries. I try to appreciate what I’ve got in life but it’s hard when my parents barely have any money because of all the things we pay for, and because of how unfortunate my families health is.
Urpupdixie I think you are my personality twin. I also have depression, anxiety and anger issues. Wow! But the same exact thing happens to me.
Wow, poor you turning to UA-cam for sympathy
Nikkiyya Cooper - Evans UA-cam comments is not the place to reach out for help considering you are anonymous
Nikkiyya Cooper - Evans you have become best friends with people whose names aren’t even known to you? How even? Besides, everyone has issues and maybe this persons issue is lying to people on UA-cam comments who are suckers, like you.
And now, if you are done reasoning with an idiotic genius who is going through their awkward phase( hence my extremely flawed logic) then have at it, after all, I’m only an emotionally detached 13 year old in the midst of my parents’ raging divorce, but hey, if that’s not what makes psychotic sociopaths, then what does?
This videos are incredible please make them with men next. i really want to hear a story about a man that has suffered from eating disorders and maybe not beleived I trust you will present it well BuzzFeed
Eating disorders in men isnt really talked about but it definitely needs to be so I agree
it didn't even occur to me but it would have been nice to have a couple of guys in this video, even if not necessarily about eating disorders but any other mental health struggles. Hopefully there is a counterpart video coming out, because I imagine in a lot of situations, as a man, there is even more of a stigma of getting help because they feel like a failure for giving up.
In Know what it feels like, I have OCD, and Mild hints of ADHD, ADD and other things, sometimes I do the randomest things in class, because of my OCD. I wont go into detail of them, its personal. But I remember when my "friend' leaked it out to the school. I was called names like, "attention seeker" and "fake". My heart shattered into smaller pieces everytime I heard that. Rumors went arounds our school, and somehow spread to the next town over. I just stopped trying, and gave up a little on life. Kids would make of me, and do things with my OCD just to see me do it. I suffered a lot at that time and I still suffer from those disorders, and from those people. Just so you know, your situation will get better. :)
I've got depression, not many people know i do because i keep a smile on my face so people don't worry
that's exactly what i do
Minker Bell Me too
when i was 13 my mom and school counselors put me in therapy for cutting and not communicating and due to my mental illness and the reasons i would be cutting they would either tell me i was lying for whatever reason i gave them, and when i said i didn't remember they said i was lying. if no matter what i said was a lie then why was i even going? i got kicked out of therapy for 'shutting the therapist out'
Thank you BuzzFeed for sharing and for shining the light on mental illness and the way it’s perceived in even in our doctor’s offices. Thank you for the resources and the reminder that I am not alone
I have anxiety....
I told my mom...
She just told me that..It's all in my mind..
I cried so hard remembering how hard it is to live without anyone believing you..
I had depression because of that..i dont cut myself because i know they wont even worry they would just scold me....I tried killing myself but still hesitated because i still have a dream...
And i remember having a panic attack in school and they just laughed...and laughed...
And now i have symptoms for PMDD..
So sorry to read that.
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Joyce Magnate I'm sorry that you're going through this. Just know, that even if no one around you listens, there's a whole community out there that had passed and it's passing through the exact same thing and will understand you. I'm with them. Be okay please
With as much as buzzfeed jay tries to be viral, it's so awesome that they do important videos like this too.
Im so glad people are out there talking about mental health. For the past year I have really been struggling with harm OCD, I thought I was crazy and I went to see a therapist right away. I couldn't believe I had OCD because I thought only "neat" people had OCD. I cant believe how uneducated i was on mental health and i'm glad people are trying to get it out there that mental health is a problem and so many people struggle with it. Its more than just being a little sad or anxious or liking things to be neat.
I agree, i couldn't get out of bed with mine. I deal with relationship OCD and my biggest one was thinking he was abusive even though he's never hit me, sexually assaulted me, or said anything bad about me. Funny how it twists things..
I honestly have the same thing and it was debilitating
I have ocd and social anxiety. I hope you're doing better
Once my ex boyfriend told me I chose to be bulimic. That I am doing this to myself and that I only have to choose to be fine again for it to stop. That I am weak. I've been fighting it for years but apparently I only like attention. We were still dating back then but I broke up eventually.
Fiona MG Glad you broke it off.
So am I. Thank you very much :)
I've got PTSD,depression,anxiety, and a learning disability so for me its nice to know I'm not alone..
Ticci Toby I'm glad to not be alone anymore
9:12 .... thank you
It's funny how the only thing that stopped me from being bulimic is that i realised i was wasting money i really couldn't waste.
Still, an eating disorder makes you feel so ashamed of having it, I really wanted to get over it but I couldn't... Worse part is that I was never skinny, so no one realised until I talked about it...
"Oh, get over it." - I can't.
"Everyone is sad sometimes." - I am not just sad.
"Just get help..." - I can't even pick up the phone.
Undrcovr Zombae yes. This! My “boss” had a “conversation” with me about my major depression disorder (which is debilitating) and said “just snap out of it, and leave it at the door.” Um, if it was that easy, I’d be free of my MDD and PMDD and OCD and Misophonia.
Undrcovr Zombae I had that whole conversation with a doctor and sometimes a nurse. Does get help mean get help from someone who can help me, or be able to? Is my question.
Undrcovr Zombae As a professional 66 year old male I really understand completely.
"Don't be sad!" Wow, I wish i had thought of that one! lol
me and my friends who don't understand except for one of them who has the same struggles as me. stay strong
Thank you for this! "the key to healing is taking away the shame"
this video made me so sad.. ;( I am always so afraid of telling people that I have mental illness because they don't believe what I feel.. depression is making me so weak.. people think I m ok because they can't see what I feel inside my head. :(
This is so beautiful. I struggle with mental illness a lot . I have really bad social anxiety I've struggled with depression etc and this is so beautiful
Anxiety, depression and OCD... Yup... I know how it feels when no one understands you... And when they tell you that it's all in your head...
Sheridan seems so vulnerable in this video that I just wanna give her a big hug.
I have maladaptive daydreaming and no one believes me because “everyone daydreams! Your not different”
"And then he became my husband" I'M SOBBING 😭
Mental health problems are really hard to communicate to others who have never experienced it. One of my supervisors obviously has never dealt with someone with anxiety because any time I have a panic attack or get super down he just says "It's going to be okay", or some variation to that effect. One of my closer coworkers also doesn't seem to get that it's not a choice - whenever I start to get upset or my self-confidence takes a hit from somebody (usually someone says something about my work ethic, and then my traitorous brain starts agreeing with them), he just tells me to stop caring about what other people think. That's only half the problem dude. Thanks for making this video ladies. Thanks for coming forward and telling us we're not crazy. :)
All the people in this video and the people on the comment section who went through this stuff are so strong, I aspire to have such strength to go through that
I had severe depression through all of middle school and the beginning oh high school. The worst time in my life was the second half of sixth grade, when I had just gotten my period and was being told that my mood swings and hopelessness was due only to the fact that I was becoming a woman. I was happiest when I was alone. I stopped eating, stopped wanting to go to school, and stopped wanting to do anything at all. My best friend started cutting, and I followed shortly after, not even sure of what I was really doing, just looking for a way out. I remember sitting in the cafeteria surrounded by kids I had loved talking to mere months before and not being able to say anything. I would cry for hours for no reason and fell into an academic slump.
In a desperate attempt to get me out of the house, my mother made me audition for a community theater production of the Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe. I got the leading role of Lucy and my life turned around. That production made me so busy that I had no time to think. Even though I had no one to invite to birthday parties or sleepovers, I had my rehearsal friends. There was a built in family there with me for four hours every day.
I can honestly say that theater saved my life. I always auditioned for new shows and continued to make real friends. I was happy again. In eighth grade things got worse again, then they got better. I have been free from depression for almost two years, but I know that it could happen again at any time. I never told my family or friends what was going on with me. I just said I was sick. I only now realize how bad things had gotten. I could have died. So for anyone who says that kids can't have depression. I will prove you wrong, I was 11. I am now 17 and emotionally scarred but happy. So thanks to the few people who gave me support. I know how everyone in this video feels in one way or another. Thank you guys for helping me remember and cope. :)
I have panic disorder, anxiety, and depression. I struggle with extreme paranoia and ptsd symptoms, but I haven't been diagnosed. I have multiple physical disorders such as Elhers danlos and fibromyalgia. Between the physical and mental pain, It takes time to get me to do things. I have frequent panic attacks and occasional hallucinations. I'm on antidepressants and antianxiety medication. (Hence why I'm up at 5:40. I haven't slept in 48 hours) my father dismisses it all, saying it's all in my head. It's very real. Consider what everyone says. Everyone is validated. Self diagnosing isn't what you should do, but don't be afraid to do some research! EVERYONE IS VALIDATED
Waters Edge The worst part is that people don't take seriously mental illness. "It's all in your head" they say. Yeah, sure it's in my head but it's damaging my brain, it's ruining my life, it's killing me slowly... people take more seriously something like a broken arm than they take mental illnesses and seeing that is pretty painful to me as I'm also suffering. I truly hope things will get better for you, just don't lose hope, keep fighting and know that there are many people out there (including me) who believe in you❤
"[Insert mental illness here] is all just in your head. You're fine!"
Literally the same as someone saying
"Asthma is all just in your lungs you're fine"
i have multiple mental and physical illnesses too, one of which is also eds!
if anyone needs help don’t be afraid to speak up, i was afraid but now i’m getting help for my anxiety and bipolar. your not alone you will get through it stay strong you are loved and beautiful💓
I'm pretty late, but I'm glad they made a video like this. I have social anxiety generalized anxiety and panic disorder and my teachers didn't believe me and said that my panic attacks were just to get people to pity me. They said I lied to everyone about it. It's hard to keep going when people important to you don't trust something really serious.
Somebody Somebody you can’t have two different anxiety disorders also stop self diagnosing
Ya Boi that's not true, there's a lot of people who have GAD and also OCD, which are both anxiety disorders
He/she is just trying to bother people...
I have a friend who's struggling with anorexia & depression, I'm doing my best to help her. No matter what, I'm going to help her get better. I wish the same to everyone with mental illnesses, to get better & live the happiest life you can
I have depression, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, ocd, and ptsd. I was diagnosed with these in 2016. I knew I wasn’t mentally well. I understand my brain very well- but having ANOTHER PERSON validate that I wasn’t crazy, that what I was feeling was legitimate- it was life changing.
" it was a month or two of me not leaving my bed, me starting to cut, Blacking out" she just explained me -.-
Told my mom I'm struggling not to self harm among other things. She told me she 'understands' but it's just a state of mind and a psychiatrist would tell me the same. When I said theres a good chance I might have borderline she responded with 'well I hardly think so, but if you need a psyc to tell you you're wrong then by all means.' Luckily I could remove myself from the situation by staying with an uncle and am now on a waiting list to see help. This is painfully relatable thanks for getting it out there.
I’m glad they had someone with PMDD. I have it and when I tell people they usually don’t hear about it, or just believe it’s pms.
Ava Yrrech I have it too people dismiss it and act like it's just an excuse I use to cry and be cranky like I'm in pain like ball up and cry hurt and then I have no control over my emotions I want to be pleasant and sweet 24/7 sometimes I can't help just crying for a long time
Bryndís Bridget Smith the worse time was that I was in school and I had such bad cramps I fainted in class, and when I woke up I couldn’t move. I wasn’t even on my period, it was just cramps
That's rough I feel for you girl
Bryndís Bridget Smith we got this ❤️
after watching this video, i think i’m gonna look for help.
I’ve struggled with my mental health for some time now. I never addressed the issue with my family because I’ve heard them (on several occasions) make fun of and mistreat people who suffer from mental illnesses and/or disorders. My mental health has affected my life greatly. When I turned 18, I took a trip to the doctor and was diagnosed with anxiety. My doctor prescribed me with some medication and I’m seeing a psychiatrist once a week. I still haven’t discussed anything with my family yet; I’m not sure how they’ll react. Anyway, I’m proud of myself for building up the audacity to find a solution to my problem. I’m not exactly where I want to be in life but I’m progressing, that’s all that really matters.
Both my therapist and my psychiatrist suggested I'm an attention seeker though my depression and anxiety were over the roof. Yes, the shame! The shame from not being able to wake up and go to work because of my chronic insomnia, from putting on weight because of my eating disorder, for not being the same again! Wish I got help, but I didn't and I don't. I gave up on people who were so mean to me and I can say I feel better. To all the people who go through this, you are not alone. I am not alone. We are not alone 🤗♥️!
I have severe depression and anorexia and when I told my parents they laughed and said I was just on my “period” and that I was “ being over dramatic”. When I heard that I felt useless and not worth help. I started cutting and stopped eating. I couldn’t talk to my best friends because I knew she was only my friend because of pity and that me being around her was causing her pain.i constantly feel trapped and worthless. Watching this makes me feel hopeful to talk to someone
"I have anxiety"
Who wouldn't believe that it's common
Pro Player 1⃣ I have anxiety too.
maxine chan
Me too
I have social anxiety
Pro Player 1⃣ been there. And yeah it is but there's varying degrees of it and it's not always so easy to be treated
no one
Me too
I’ve been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and borderline personality disorder. When I found out I have PMDD, it all tied together. Just antidepressants wasn’t 100% helping and I just thought “Well this is just your life, I guess.” Now with proper medications I live a much better life. Please don’t stop until you feel like you can live your happy life. Don’t let others tell you what you feel isn’t valid.
THANK YOU for this. Also, thank you to the ladies in the videos for speaking out. Mental health stigma HAS TO END. People are literally dying from it. One Love 💜💙💚💛🧡❤
When I tell people at my school that I do not want to go to a party because I have a lot of homework and I have anxiety which multiplies my stress they tell me "Oh you are so stupid, that is no reason to skip a party" or " you act like an old lady". My health is more important to me than my social life, please do not judge me
The worst combination for me is social anxiety and paranoia (since I have it)
That's not good when your name is psycho killer.
Thank you so much for making this video! ❤ all of you lady's are strong beautiful women. I am bipolar and struggle with my mental illness, it helps break the stigma that surrounds mental illness when we are open and speak up! Xoxo
This is such a powerful video
I'm anxious and panicky all the time, and a combo of anxiety and depression is causing me physical sickness, which are all making it very hard for me to do well in my college classes, and knowing that my parents finding out I'm not doing well academically will get me punished makes me even more anxious and depressed, which is not helping at all. It is painfully sad to know the teachers in my faculty have more real interest in helping me keep my well being than my own parents, and I still can't wrap my head around that.
I just want to give all of them a hug❤️
Preach it girls! People tell me, you look normal, but they never believe me when I tell them I have a problem.
I have extreme anxiety. It’s tough because unlike most teenage girls I have more anxiety than depression. I went to a therapist and a group therapy but nobody was struggling with anxiety like I was. Not to say they didn’t have problems, but I just didn’t find help there. I couldn’t make it through even one class in school. My mind raced and I held back tears even if I didn’t know what was wrong. I felt like I was screaming in my mind. My therapist didn’t help me with many coping skills, she just told me “stop missing school”. I’m homeschooled now and haven’t gone to therapy since. I know I need help but don’t know how or where to get it
the hardest part of having any type depression or mental illness, is staying silent for so long because bothering other people with your problems is so much worse than suffering through it alone.
hnnah ayee. My biggest problem even with being diagnosed is bottling up my feelings. I try so hard not to feel anything and focus on their problems because I got into the habit of thinking "I don't want to burden anyone. Because they wont really get it" I'm learning.... that doing that hurts me more then being missunderstood
I thought I was the only one.....
And when you do you still feel guilty about even bothering them with your problems and it just goes full circle each time
It's the biggest reason why most people live with it for so long. I'm going on 6 years now with depression and only got help a couple of weeks ago. All because I met a girl that saw I wasn't alright and even though she didn't know me that well yet, she still helped me. She is now one of the only reasons I'm still fighting for a future.
I always has mixed feelings talking about my bipolar disorder (mainly depressive periods). Most of my friends and family know about it now and I tried to explain it, but it's hard. I feel guilty to bother them and I know they can't understand if they don't have this experience. You can't translate feelings into the words. The only person who truly understand is my mum, because she has the same disorder, but I don't want her to worry about me, so I'm usually silent.
Can buzzfeed make a part 2 of this but with men included? I feel like guys out here with eating disorders and other stuff need to know that it's a real thing for them too and that they're not alone
I second this motion
psychedseer I third this motion
I fourth this motion
I fifth this motion
im not a man but i agree, men go through stuff like that too....
"My boyfriend sat me down and said, 'you don't have to talk to me, but you have to talk to someone.' Later, that boyfriend became my husband"
Me: AWWWW
We should all be that lucky to have someone that smart and insightful in our lives.
+Kristen I'm still waiting for mine :')
I may have started crying at that moment
"you have such a good life, how can you be depressed?"
The first thing my mum said to me when I was diagnosed with depression.
That's something I bet my mum can say and thats the only reason I haven't confronted to anyone.
I was told "why are you depressed you own a house?"
This is how everyone acts around me
My mom said that to me tooa and after that I was cutting my hand immediately cause I felt so much pain.
mine did too
me during a crying meltdown: what if the neurotypicals are right and i can control my thoughts and i am Faking It right at this very moment
s a m e!!! i think everyone does that to a certain extent
Same :(
I always think that my mind is just making up everything wrong with me..
AJ Burbank Right! I do that too. Im so scared that I'm just making things up for attention or something, which is stupid but yea
No they are ignorant
"The key to healing is taking away the shame" Well said
psychedseer the key to depression is anime (at least it made me happier)
I feel like this is true for almost every mental illness, not even just eating disorders. like, i went in a pretty big downward spiral for a while, and then I just sort of...got out of it after getting a lot of help but not really even changing anything about my life. People would ask me what i did to get better, and looking back i think the only thing was I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed and embarrassed. I stopped apologizing for my feelings and instead would just tell people about them. i still have a long way to go, but taking away the shame really stopped me from destroying myself
The key is acceptance bc it’s taking away the shame and Love at the same time
if someone doesn't believe when i mention my anxiety disorder, or when i had clinical depression, i tell them how lucky they are that they've never been in a position to.
Well i told someone about my anxiety and depression and they said i was a liar and began bullying me
they never believe me ether, because I am outgoing and happy, and funny. But they never look into the details.. isn’t it weird I never have ever talked to ANYONE who I have not known for 2 years.
They think there is only one type of anxiety.😂😐 what idiots,
Dark Pink Falcon don't tell anyone that
eyes. why?
I had a psychiatrist tell me "you don't look like you have anxiety." She made me feel like I was wasting her time.
Not even professionals take mental illness seriously - and it's leading to people killing themselves. We need to do better.
Dana Gricken as I am reading this I feel hopeless and why do I even exist lol that sums up my whole life lol so what now god please just take me away lol
Ah yeah same but he said that I was exaggerating
There’s so much hype in FB about going to professionals about mental health but when you go to a psychiatrist they just dismiss you
Botchers. That's what they are. Had to face them plenty of times.
Just like how are you supposed to look like?
The first time I tried to explain my anxiety to somebody other than my husband, I received the response "Well it's not cancer. You're not dying."
No, it's not cancer and no, I'm not dying. But I am not okay. And you are the reason I no longer talk about this.
Dingle Technically, you are dying - we are all dying. We're born dying. Haha, sorry for being pedantic, I wish you the best and hope you overcome your anxiety. It sucks.
This is very true! I'll tell them that next time :)
:)
SAME! Except I got "well it's not like you've got schizophrenia" .. 😑
Julia Bergdoll I feel you girl :)
"Some people might not believe you, but I believe you," - Sheridan.
That was it. That was the point where I broke down crying my eyes out.
Tinkili it was really touching
Smol Bean the moment she said that I burst into tears
Smol Bean I needed to hear that so bad.
Smol Bea
I’m currently in the hospital battling bipolar, anxiety, EDNOS, and ADHD and watching this made me feel less alone
You're not alone...
ednos sucks :( i feel you, stay strong and know that you can do this
Anna L non specified eating disorder
Honest question, what is EDNOS? I feel like I’ve heard it I just don’t remember what it is? And no you aren’t alone. I have bipolar, ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression. You got this. You can do this
Sophie Boertjes eating disorder not otherwise specified. Basically if someone has an eating disorder that doesn’t match all the criteria for a specific one.
Im a doctor.. and im so embarassed that some doctors are so rude.. and they dont understand.. i would never do that to one of my patients
Im glad you are a doctor- just based on this I can tell you are a good doctor
I believe that you are a good doctor.. just because you have Eteeweetee in your profile pic🙌🏻
I have bipolar and a psychiatrist tried to convince me that I was just a normal teenage girl and that there was nothing wrong with me and that I just need to go home, get some sleep, lose some weight. He told me that exercise would work wonders but it hasn’t. I was medicated on Lovan for a little while but I told them it wasn’t working at all and they said that maybe medication wasn’t the right route for me and that I need to take care of it in a natural way when I was already doing that. I’m now medicated and going to therapy to try and manage it.
My neurologist had referred for me to see a therapist because of my MS and my depression I was so let down after my first session. I never went back and still haven't been able to find someone who understands MS and depression.
I would doubt that you are a doctor cuz ur on buzzfeed
No one believes me either. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
I believe in you! Let's fight together. :)
I believe you.
If you don't mind me asking, what do you suffer from?
mysticismlover I believe you ❤️! I do know I have anxiety and mild depression. Whenever I tell my mom or even one of my best freinds, they haven't believed me... my mom said it's "your being a drama llama!"... oh well enough about me :), Let's get through this together!
I believe you.
Metal health has been a struggle in my life since I first attempted suicide at age 12. I literally had a doctor tell me "you should just stop cutting yourself," and "you're too young to have mental illness." It was so invalidating and hurtful, and now I'm 16 years old and finally getting the care I need. Give things time, recovery isn't an event, it's a process.
Beth CK so wise for 16. Ultimately your struggle makes you a more compassionate person.... which makes you cool. I appreciate "recovery is a process not an event", good one.
Beth CK that's so relatable. I'm 12 and have had anxiety, depression and seasonal affective disorder all of my life and I heard that type of stuff all the time. I just try to remember that mental health doesn't discriminate and anyone can be a victim of it.
Beth CK this comment was comforting for me as I am 11 and I've attempted suicide many times. I felt like I wanted to die every day and no one understood. I'm glad someone understands my mental illness . It also annoys me when people say can't depression just go?? Like the heck it can't just go when you have depression you have depression. You can't help it
It sucks, I’m 13 and have attempted almost three times and every time I try to talk to anyone they avoid it, and compare my situation to others and call me selfish for being in that mental state. Nobody does anything until it’s too late, they don’t care until it is. Like your surrounded by people, but your so alone and nobody wants to deal with you. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to this stuff, people need to get their head around it.
Beth CK I feel as if the comments are a safe place. I'm 13 and in the past year, I've attempted suicide just about six times. All failing and hurting and damaging me all the while. My parents are to ignorant and stuck up to realise their "perfect" baby isn't so perfect. I barely trust anyone. Life seems pointless and like I should be somewhere else. I feel obligated to keep my bloodline going. Both my parents know that im bisexual, I mostly like females so I feel as if I cant keep my family going. Even with all of this, before the first attempt, I had done no self harm. Untill people noticed the scar on the back of my neck (failed suicide. Rope burn turned into a scar) and thats when I knew I needed help. Hurting myself feels so right. But it still hurts. I cant take life anymore and I know I have no purpose. I thank you for letting me ruin your day with my sad life. I'm truly sorry.
I have depression But I'm sick of telling people I'm depressed because they never understand ....
Heidi Galdamez i feel you,girl...I have Depression and bipolar disorder.When i tell my family,they wont believe me at all...All they say is 'I have lots of stress more than you so you shouldnt say you have depression' the thing is they don't know what is depression and bipolar disorder is..They take it lightly...Right now,im just being in my room almost all the time and just come down to eat and give my cats food.that all...This sickness is not something they just take lightly.It worst and can lead yourself to bad thing 😔 They think they understand but actually they not....💔
Me too...
Same....
Heidi Galdamez same..
Misxzhaylelxx94v same here 😣
No one believes me about my anxiety and depression...and whenever I go into the school nurses office they just tell me I’m faking my stomach aches and head aches. I go to the nurse 5 times a month and whenever I go they still refuse to call my parents.
I believe you honey! I have Schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety. I can relate to how hard it is. Remember you have the power to seek help. I know what it feels like to be powerless and scared. Tell your parents yourself. Easier said then done, but YOU can do it. If they don’t help, find someone who will. Believe me, there is always someone. Everything will be okay 👌🏽 ❤️
Have you told your parents about their refusal to send you home? If so, what is their response? As a parent I would want to be consulted. My daughter and I would discuss a plan for how to handle these days, etc. I hope you have parents who would advocate for what you NEED.
I know this comment is kinda old, but I had the same problem in high school. I know it’s tough, but don’t give up. Push and push and fight until you get the help that you want/need. You are your biggest advocate. I didn’t keep pushing, I just started to bottle it up and keep it to myself, which was a huge mistake and I regret it to this day, because now my anxiety and depression are ten times worse, and I’m having to learn healthy coping mechanisms and work through years of problems at 23. I know that fighting for treatment is super hard when it comes to mental illness. People from the outside looking in don’t see anything physically wrong, but they have no idea what’s going on mentally. Just know that even if the school nurse, or your friends, or your family doesn’t believe you, so many other people do. So many other people know it’s real, and so many people care about you. There are a ton of free resources that you can use. There are hotlines and online websites that can set you up with an online counselor. Or there’s a chaplain or a priest or a pastor. Even if you aren’t religious, they’re more than happy to help. If ever I’m having a hard time, I go to my ships chaplain instead of the psychiatrist, because I know they care and want to help me, and others like me.
life hack sue the school! (jk hope its gotten better i dont have either but ive seen both in others and it's definitely real)
Charlotte Marie go to the counseler not the nurse
One time I told my dad that I was overwhelmed and about to have a panic attack because he was yelling at me, he told me to get over it. When he left I broke down into tears. Everyone deserves to be heard, you are important no matter what.
My mom would screamed at me "So it is my fault?! I've never done right with you, it is all my fault" then she proceed to cry loudly. Then I felt guilty for having panic attacks and asking for a break.
I wish to time-travel I’m so sorry
I wish to time-travel never feel guilty about having a panic attack. It's not your fault.
c 8 hey so i dont know much about your story, but I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. though i truly hope that isnt the case and that was just a low point for him and he's changed since then!
I wish to time-travel I already said this to c 8 but i definitely feel the need to say this to you even more so: I came from an abusive household and that's possibly where i get a lot of my depression and anxiety from (i also suffer c-PTSD from this). you might want to look up signs of abusive parents, or parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) just to make sure that might not be the case for you. like, im no doctor, but my parents are very narcissistic with their abuse and this sounds a lot like something my N mother has said to me before.
Nobody believes me when i say I have anxiety and I never say I have depression cause I know people would treat me completely different
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The thing is that if you saw me I dont look like I have anything wrong with my mental state but dont judge a book by its cover
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I am so sorry you have to deal with people not believing you. I also have anxiety/panic disorder and depression. It's so hard to talk to people who don't understand. I am here if you ever need to talk.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl yeah I understand... my family says things so hurtful and offensive about depression I can barely even talk about it.
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl i know how you feel, i have depression and i try to put on a shield and hide it because i don't want others to know and judge. And for the longest time i would be scared to tell my parents because i thought they would be mad
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl and if i talked to my dad he would just tell me to bottle it up. And ive had thoughts of hurting myself but i dont want to tell my family because i dont want to be treated differently, i just want to be "normal"
gamer,youtube and wattpad girl I know what youre going through. No one believes me when i tell them i have anxiety.
When I told a person I trusted about my ED, she secretly told my mom (which I see in a positive way nowadays but back then I hated her for it)... whatever my mom was like "oh she just wants attention, it's puberty" and never confronted me or anything... so 5 years later I'm even a lot deeper into my ED, fighting so hard against it but I'm still in the beginning of recovery and my mom is like "if I only knew about it, you never told me, you lied to me, etc." 🙄
My friends also went behind my back, telling the school guidance counselor, who called my dad. He immediately believed her and started making sure I was eating breakfast. It helped for awhile, but it didn't stop the voice in my head. I still didn't have good coping skills.
I needed therapy, and when I finally started going to a counselor at uni when I was 18, things actually started to sustainably improve. When I stopped, tho, things took awhile to get bad again, but they did, and now I don't have the insurance to afford therapy, except that I might be able to go to low-cost therapy, but... I'm so anxious about finding an abusive therapist. Or one who refuses to listen. Or care. I've had such good luck with the past 3, I feel like a bad one is due.
There are definitely people who care and want to help, and if they're easier to find for you, Yay! If not, keep looking, even online.
Kati Morton is a youtuber who is a licensed therapist who specializes in ED. Please check out her videos. They've helped me recognize when I'm getting bad, again, and help me to climb out. It's easier when someone is helping you climb out, tho, so if you have someone you trust who is willing to help you stay accountable to recovery, let them. Please.
That is terrible.I'm sorry.I am here for you
My best friend who I trusted with my life told my mom that I wasn’t eating at school and was cutting. Now my life if completely messed up. I really hope your doing ok!
I feel like the common misconception people have with mental illnesses (esp. depression) is that they expect you to be sad 24/7 which is not the case at all. You can be happy, laugh, have fun when you're at school/work or around friends & family but have an emotional breakdown when you're alone. That's what I hate the most about manic depression (bipolar disorder), some days I can be really okay and happy but then it gets really bad out of nowhere. It's tough but knowing you are not alone and people around the world are being strong too is so comforting, really.
edit: I am aware that manic depression is bipolar disorder. It means having extreme mood swings. During the depressive episodes of bipolar disorder, a person may experience a severe form of depression that is similar to major depression.
I actually had a discussion about this just today. I was talking with two people diagnosed with depression (at least that is what they claim and I will believe them) and they were saying what's the use of during Happy my argument was to spread positivity and they tried to argue you can't with depression. You very much can just because it is hard does not make it impossible. You can be positive with depression don't let it take over you're going to have to fight it. Try to be positive challenge yourself to be positive. It is possible. (Sorry had to get that off my chest)
yes I'm exactly that way I suffer with depression an anxiety myself when I'm working or with my bf I'm happy an I'm fine but the min I'm alone I break down but the mistake I made was becoming dependant on others so that's what I'm working on presently I'm trying not to be too dependant on my bf cause as of lately he's taking my illness as a joke by fuel it.😞
Mica yeah! Uhg I hate it so much! I think it makes it harder for other people to understand that I'm actually depressed, especially since I (with help of meds because I wouldn't even make it though school without them) am able to put up a mask. I can pretend.
China Berry I think I'm slowly falling into a similar situation...
Mica true everyone thinks that , I am depressed sad and crying one night happy the next week
This video made me feel less alone
Sofia Kokkino same! 😊
You aren't alone, don't ever believe that. You matter a lot.
me too !
Don't try to solve their problem for them. If they have Depression, don't tell them it's getting old or that they should just get some fresh air or that it'll pass as if it never happened. Motivate them, tell them they really do mean something to you, love them. If they have Anxiety, don't push them, don't tell them to man up or that they're overreacting.Sit with them, wait for them to calm down at their own pace and reassure them. If they have Anorexia, don't tell them to just eat some food. Help them get help from experts, tell them they're beautiful just the way they are and that they don't need to change. Be there by their side. Encourage them. Change you're perspective. Have some empathy and look at it from their stand point. Don't try to solve their problem for them.
That is beautiful
you're a one of a kind person....I started crying because of this,I am really small and my friends think I have anorexia,witch I think I don't,maybe I eat a little bit less then everyone but I eat how much I can.My friends ALWAYS say eat more your small,does your mom feed you...And its so heart breaking to me...I cryied a couple of times because of that,and noone is there for me to help....
Elisabeth Mason thank you alot! those few words makes me feel so much better🙂
Elisabeth Mason so nice to hear that your doing good and want to help people!
Your friends are just worried about you. Don't get me wrong, their approach in telling you is all wrong but don't misjudge their intentions. As long as you are taking care of yourself mentally and physically what they say won't matter. You are beautiful and you don't need to change.
After I was diagnosed with ADHD, my own dad denied it. He said it was an excuse to not hold still and ignore the things around me. Denying it WON'T. MAKE. IT. GO. AWAY.
I feel that 💔
I am sorry. Both of my sons have ADHD, I know how difficult that things can be.
2 people before told me you don’t have ADHD that was so annoying especially since one of them has ADHD and told me I don’t have it as if I’m faking it
People don't understand my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and people just think everyone has OCD, no they don't.
Just because you like a clean room doesn't mean you're OCD. Being OCD could be needing to wash your hands every 10 minutes to the point where you scrub off your skin on a daily basis...
TheFluffFactor Exactly. It runs in my family and we all have different types. I personally get horrible intrusive thoughts and I have to do things or I get anxiety attacks.
Bambi Kun I was diagnosed with the more mental aspect like you talked about where you have impulsive thoughts
Yeah, I used to take the term OCD with a grain of salt because people used it so loosely. Then I made a friend who had been diagnosed with OCD and my entire view on the illness changed. One example of its manifestation within him is he must have bottles being drunken from placed on their side because if not he believes everyone around him will start choking. OCD is not a need to keep things tidy it is a legitament issue that should be recognised.
spectical speckle Yeah, so it annoys me when people throw around the term OCD like it's nothing. I hope your friend is well!
i have mishophonia, a brain disorder that makes me extremely mad about small sounds like chewing, breathing, typing on you phone and that sorts of stuff. When me and my family sat around our diner table to eat, i would always have a war inside my head if i should storm to bedroom or just cry. My parents didnt belive me when i said i couldnt sleep with her inthe same room because of her breathing. So i always cried myself to sleep.
i just want to say that mishophonia is a real brain condision, people who have it where born that way and should be respected more!
girlyperson one i heard there was someone who learned to live with it normaly,she took therapy classes and meditatet dayily. but sadly shes the only one.. yet
kajsa van der ploeg noises drive me insane but what u have is crazy I feel sorry for ya
kajsa van der ploeg I have it too and hate it
*misophonia and I have it too, I’ve been diagnosed and manage it much better than I could 5 years ago. Just takes time
kajsa van der ploeg stop self diagnosing
Ive been trying to tell my parents for so long that I think somethings up. After doing my research I have many symptoms of Anxiety, ADHD, and Bipolar Disorder. My mom is just now starting to help me find ways to contol it and my doctor already reccomended I see a therapist. Im so happy to know that some people understand.
For me after my brother was diagnosed with ADHD, I noticed I shared a lot of the things he had and being that siblings were more likely to have it I told my parents and finally after a few months I was diagnosed
I have Bipolar (cyclomania specifically) disorder, anxiety is just part of that if you have it. I can see some symptoms of ADHD resembling the disorder too. In a high phase i get jittery, my thoughts buzz around so fast I end of walking around in circles because Im so restless. I cant stop moving. I also talk a lot and fast, and cant focus on one things for longer than ten seconds. In a low, I will cry for 5 hours straight, my body will get so anxious ill physically shake. Which then becomes painful because my muscles are so tense. And every problem on my brain is unbelievable impossible to deal with. I cant eat, or even speak sometimes.
I say all this with the hope that if any of this sounds like you, you're not alone. It is a terrible issue but it gets better and you can manage it. Learn your cycle, when your feeling down tell someone you trust right away, that you are having a bad day. And most importantly do what you need for yourself. If you need to lay in bed and cry all day, do it because forcing yourself to pretend you are okay for others isn't going to make you okay.
I hope your therapist visit goes well and you can begin to heal. :)
I have ADHD and can tell you it has nothing to do with Anxiety, or bipolar disorder.... Or at least for me
Nubpai I wasnt saying that it did, Im just saying thats how it is for me. Anxiety came first and then I started showing adhd symptoms, and then bipolar. Whatever the case, thats my life right now and it kinda sucks
Your Everyday Walrus Friend thats how it is for me! im usually a straight A student but its become harder and harder for me to achieve that. my focus is out of whack and i have to ask my teachers to constantly re explain even after they just did. Im 13 and ive just been doing research and looking on websites and reading books to see if thats what it is or if theres anything i can do. background noise does help me focus a bit, so i usually think of songs in my head if my teacher doesnt allow music (or even ask the teacher to play music that will keep you focused but wont disrupt the entire class or something)
I have anxiety and depression but people are always like “but your so happy and loud all the time!” “You always have a smile on your face” and then the people who actually see me for who I am ask me when I’m looking sully or quiter than usual but instead they say “don’t worry, it’s a phase you will get through this.” Nope.
So true!
Same! Everyone thinks I’m an extrovert, friendly, and outgoing etc. But I’m not because it is a complete act. I am an introvert, prefer to be alone, etc. It took me such a long time to realize I needed help.
Me too. I was voted "Always happy" as a superlative in my senior year book. It makes it really hard to talk about my anxiety and depression. I really wish that there wasn't such a stigma around mental illness making it "taboo" to talk about this and making it hard for so many people as well as myself to let their guard down and just drop the act. I myself am trying to be more vocal about my own struggles in hopes that it can become somewhat of a "social norm." I wish the best for you and hope you know that you're not alone :)
They see the smile but they don't see what's behind it ore what's on the other time.......
I have it too. I have a extremely high diagnosis of anxiety and depression though.... I have a high problem of my suicidal behaviours.
I just got out of my therapy session for struggling with severe anxiety and depression and all I have to say is please understand that people have issues even if they smile when they speak to you or everything seems alright, you don't know what people are going through. When it comes to mental illnesses, just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean it's not there.
Have u gotten better? Im bearly starting therapy for anxiety
Bushra Islam Thanks for posting this. I am one of the people who completely change their face to look fine, when in reality I'm breaking inside. Your comment was encouraging.
Vanessa Aguilar I know you didn't ask me, but I've been in therapy for about a month (for a depressive disorder and GAD). It has helped me a lot so far. It helps me to be able to tell someone about all my problems without worrying about if they'll judge me or tell someone else. A good therapist will not breach that trust. Also, if you're open to it, I'd consider taking medication along with therapy. A lot of people claim it doesn't help, but several of my friends have gotten a lot better because meds give them that extra boost and stability they needed. It really depends on the person.
Vanessa Aguilar I've been in therapy for 8 months now, and i have to say that in the beginning it was exhausting and it took such a big mental toll on me to have to open myself and express myself and actually acknowledge the feelings and thoughts that I was having. Even after all these months I'm still struggling with myself and have just gotten a breakthrough into the things that may have triggered certain breakdowns but i have had so much improvement because of these sessions. I'm so thankful for therapy and I'm really hopeful that it'll help you too😊
For me, being told "are you doing it for attention or what?" hurt worse than actually going through depression. Like why would I, someone who hates attention, go that far for negative attention...
Pippi la Peach I’m the exact same, I’m not diagnosed but I’m very sure I have it, I have told a few people but people say “I don’t believe you” and it hurts.
Imogen-mahni Hayward yeah. I'm sorry you have to go through that as well :(
Pippi la Peach yeah, no need to feel sorry for me though, but it’s very kind that you do so thank you. You worry about you’re own problems:) oh btw I’m subscribing!
Imogen-mahni Hayward alright haha & thank you.
Subscribing to me? :o
Pippi la Peach no problem, great someone understands! I was diagnosed with anxiety and stuff and people don’t believe me on that either :o and thank you for thanking me (wow, I really am another person when I comment!)
My depression has been laughed at, and I'm tired now. I lay awke till 3 a.m., and cry only when I'm alone, because I'm sick of making my family miserable. I don't have many friends, and those I do have never dealt with this, or felt so deep in the darkness that you stop wanting to find the light.
It'll be okay. Everything will be alright.