My Doctor Didn't Believe My Pain
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- Опубліковано 1 вер 2017
- Have you ever had a time a doctor didn't listen to your pain?
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"Why wouldn't you want attention when you're in extreme pain" is something I've never thought about but a great point
@Sydney Alpers Why does this have no replies
TaraIsAnExtraTerrestrial well, now it has two 😊
Ive also never thought abt this actually. I always thought i would be overreacting and ppl would think i would fake depression and ppl would laugh at me. But i just realised maybe its good to open up. Idk if i will tho prolly not
I quoted her whole statement at the end because it is so true
Thisssss
that doctor with the pin is actually psychotic
all doctors are psychotics with God complexes.
no shes probably over worked and traumatized and was disgusted about someone seemingly crying over something that in comparison to what shes gone through is nothing. I mean remember these guys face death everyday and they see people during their most vulnerable times and doctors and nurses are human and as humans its a lot to take in to constantly see people suffereing and that can drive you mad and that does drive people mad.
thanks freud...
Ashley ASHLEYM
Meh, they chose the job. Reap the cons, if you will.
Ashley ASHLEYM anyone that's witnessed any amount of death (1, or 10) has the right to be sad. It all can be equally traumatizing. Seeing death and sickness to any degree is a lot to handle. Never is it "nothing" compared to what someone else has been through.
I was 5 and I went to the hospital and
They told me I was faking for attention and to stop. I went to another doctor and I was diagnosed with kidney failure
Maryam rashid thats so sad i hope you're alright now btw are you arabic cause your name seems to be :)
Hope you are okay now xx
Hope you are ok now Xx
Maryam Rashid Doctors think all kids are only in pain because they want attention 🤦🏼♀️
@@daliladoherty5353 YES! All of this is so relatable for me
Literally my hairdresser was more concerned about my dry scalp than any of these doctors were about pain.
Exactly
My friends : OMG !! go to the ER !!
F ... doctor : try to change your diet.
No god but Allah
Islam way for peace and real monotheist
Search about the truth with honest heart .
It's infuriating how doctors decide their own pride is more important than a patient's credibility.
Melcatsite and their job. If that one girl decided not to wait a year and get a second opinion as she should have, that dr. would have lost his medical license and tons of money. He could have been sued for medical malpractice.
Amanda Titus it's not always just the doctor's pride. The hospital may be understaffed. They may have other patients to attend to (who appear to have more urgent situations). Not to mention the massive rates of depression and suicide among doctors.
Amanda, that's if they get lucky to have a good lawyer. Doctors are protected by an association in North America, that is securely protected by the alliance of insurance companies. My son was paralyzed during delivery, due to the doctor using all his adult male weight to push down on his head (there is a lot more to it but I won't elaborate). Many years later it was dismissed because even though the evidence was strong, all doctors refused to testify. The court room was in the insurance company building, and so was the judge. Sad system.
Lisa, If I was working in a system that looks to benefit the profits of its investors over the betterment of people, I'd probably kill myself too.
Amanda Titus he would've deserved to lose his job.
My grandma's sister actually died because her doctor didn't take her seriously. She kept having abdominal pains, first the doctor said "It's period pain" then he was like "She just doesn't want to go to school". In the end he wouldn't even come anymore because he thought she was just seeking attention. She died of a ruptured appendix, age 14. He said it was the biggest mistake he ever made and he regretted it for the rest of his life that he didn't take her seriously. This was almost 100 years ago but apparently, some things don't change!
niffler09 my grandmother went to the doctor complaining about abdominal pains. She actually had pancreatic cancer and she died last year and I hate when doctors brush off pain
Nyaziah Lovelace I'm sorry for your loss
There are so many examples of people's pain being brushed off, not just in the past, and expecially so for women. It's always, are you sure it's not pms. Like, I know what my periods feel like, I've had them before, this is not it. It's infuriating that this can still persist. I've seen the results of a study (would have to google to look it up) where doctors actually admitted to counting the pain of a woman lower (ie, if a woman says it's 8/10 the doctor counts it as a 6/10). This is terrifying, people die because of this.
niffler09 3years ago I had abdominal pain, excruciating pain! Went to 2 different doctors and kept telling me it was gastritis. The following day I could move my leg and they rushed me to the hospital. Turned out it was a ruptured appendix!
Rochelle Rive not to sound rude about it as your appendix is rare to burst when your older than 9 so they often rule it out I am not a girl so they never said period pains but they thought I did not want to go to school most off the time and I got brushed off until I collapsed in pain at home and I got sent to hospital and they decide it was probably my appendix busting.
imagine you have a cyst burst at school and the nurse is like “u want some ginger ale? might help.”
Actually it almost happened to me. They ignored me and told me I was fine so went to the hospital and had two cysts removed from my ovary that had flipped. Emergency surgery
Best advice ever, sport helps with period pain . . . . I can't even stand, throw up pure bile and am halfway passed out cause the pain is so intense and you dare telling me I should exercise now?! . . . . It might help, with "weak" cramps . . . but not with that!!!
I bled in my abdomen for two weeks from ruptured ovarian cyst. They thought i was faking. All of my bloodwork was normal. I went to my parents...got on a plane ...yes! My Dad is a doctor so i kind of got heard. Made them do a laparoscopy...they were horrified at the amount of blood...given that my hemoglobin was normal.
Morgan Falk Where was this?
bts trash you know what true. I had a migraine at school once and they gave me some Panadol and told me to go back to class. IT DOESNT WORK LIGHT THAT SIS, WHEN A GORLS ABOUT TO FAINT, YOU GOTTA GET HER TO SIT DOWN A SEC!
When i was 14 and in biology class i got a shooting pain in my abdomen and it was so paralysing that i blacked out and when i woke up i was in the school office and i was in so much pain i couldn’t respond and the shouts of “say something” or “wake up” were echoing in my head but all i could say was call 999 (im british). They said i was overreacting and sent me back to class. The same thing happened in are and maths that day and i wasn’t allowed to go to the hospital and they said it was just my period. Fast foreword a year, two operations and a lawsuit later, im 15 and have had 6 cysts burst in my ovaries. We sued the school and got around 10,000 in compensation. :)
Slytherin Snape that’s insane, i hope you’re doing better!
Slytherin Snape it’s crazy how the world is now. Nobody can trust anyone these days.
Good for you.
Good for you :)
You go girl! You are so strong!
This video seriously pissed me off, especially the doctor that made here wait to avoid legal action
Dainella I know. That was absolutely disgusting
once my sister had plastic surgery to correct her chin after an accident and the surgery didn't work because the implant the doctor chose was too big for her face and it was just a poorly done surgery overall, stitches wise. He told her it was her fault it didn't work, that she probably touched her chin and screwed it up or her body was just bad at healing. Btw, she was super careful after the surgery because she wanted it to work so badly, she did everything she was supposed to do. These kind of doctors just sicken me... There are so many amazing ones that absolutely love what they do, and that are given a bad name because of those that become doctors only to say they are doctors and have no compassion for people and their health.
Dainella, It is a HUGE problem in the US, and worse in Canada. It is so dark and protected by them and the insurance companies, it is easier for you to win the lottery, than to get justice for medical malpractice.
Talk about "First world problems".
It was completely wrong and I felt disgusted
Albert Schweitzer
Basically what happened to Tan:
"It's your period"
"It's your period."
"It's your period."
"Probably cancer."
Like how TF does that happen
Jaclyn Liming 💐🌷🌸🌹🌻🌼it's called owning a uterus🌼🌻🌹🌸🌷💐
Lauren Worley yup
Jaclyn Liming it happened to me. They first said it was a drinking problem, I don't drink they just saw my native last name, and then it was cancer but it was really endometriosis.
Teya Braun wow
L
Lady: Has unbearable pain in your stomach
Doctor: iTs sAdNesS
I find it astounding that the doctor didn't even examine her.
4 years of infertility. 6 different doctors. 3 miscarriages (all of which my doctor told me were just bad periods). 7 months of constant, heavy bleeding (I'm talking filling up 3 overnight monster pads in 30minutes) and blood clots the size of grapefruits every day. 2 months of daily fainting spells. 3 emergency room visits (two of which turned me away to say I just had abnormal bleeding). And my 6th doctor told me I was just fat and stressed. It took the 3rd emergency room visit when I could no longer feel my skull because of the high level of blood loss for them to take things seriously. Turns out, I had a hemoglobin level of 5 (a healthy level is 13) and cancer in the lining of my uterus. They said had I continued for a month or less without surgery, I would have died from blood loss.
Doctors, please listen to your patients!
They don’t give 2 F.....
They do this for the money and the prestige.
They have no common sense anyway.
I'm so glad you're okay. Nobody should have to go through that.
Eat a plant based diet it'll help
Those doctors needs to get their license taken.
Blaster Master In Canada to.
In most of the countries, this happens. I have been having loads of health issues since three years and they diagnose me with depression lol. Because I persisted and forced them to write tests now I'm on the verge of getting a diagnosis (either cancer or autoimmune disorder)
Shweta It’s not fair that someone suffering severe pain has to advocate for themselves. It’s abuse when doctors gaslight us! It should be a criminal offence. These doctors are victimizing us. 😡
There would be very few doctors left
@@elizabethmcleod246 😕😕😕
This is actually a real problem. Very often when women say they're in pain, people mock them and say they're being dramatic or just want attention. I started loosing my hearing years ago and I just got my hearing aids this week because people thought I was being dramatic for literally years
Edit: yeah yeah obviously it happens to men, too, but this is much more of a problem for women. We get told we're just sad or on our period and hardly ever get taken seriously
JacAttack hardly believable story, if you tell your doctor your loosing your hearing they will test you for it...now if you came with some bs story, diagnosis or anything but your symptoms and the answers to his questions then you shouldn't complain
Does any1 care about men?
I've been mocked by doctors
JacAttack The thing is, doctors have to guess if your are telling the truth or not. Unfortunately because of people that try to get painkillers for reasons other than medical purposes, doctors have to decide whether to give patients the medicine or not. We live in a world where it is hard to tell if people are telling the truth or not and because of this people are suffering because of this.
JacAttack It is not just women though. I have had tons of problems which nobody cared to help me with but my partner as well. With the most recent being that he has 2 tumors in his back which may be non cancerous and they may be cancerous but the doctors didn't care until we finally got a good one who is now doing her best to find out.
JacAttack It's not just women, it's happening to my dad too
When doctors dont believe your pain you literally feel crazy. Like you feel insane
Understand that they are insane, not you.
Makes me think they believe I'm just a junkie wanting pills. Can't make it clear enough to them that I want to get away from them asap.
It's genuinely the worst. I just got out of a visit with my doctor and was sitting on the car with my dad sobbing because she said it was "probably just anxiety"
A female gynecologist blew off my pelvic pain as depression and/or anxiety. As soon as got home, I doubled over in pain and went the to the ER. 12 cm ovarian cyst was found in seconds during a pelvic ultrasound. A week later it ruptured and I had emergency surgery.
Raven Fox I’m so sorry
My story all too well. We are in this together.
Speaking from experience as well doctors literally know 0 about anything pelvic pain related.
howtopasstime And why is that? It’s because they use males for research! It’s time they did research on females.
@@tinyelephant4318 Thanks so much Tiny Elephant, and I'm sorry you went thru this as well. Had to wait 2 more years and move to another city before I got the hysterectomy at age 30 I desperately needed from severe endometriosis. It's a miracle I have had a boy and a girl. Docs refused even though I've had my tubes tied because I was young. Duh lol. I hope you're better now; sorry for very late reply.
If someone told me to say goodbye to someone who passed and that I was just "sad" I would've slapped them and left the room
Lena Brennan wow okay
Lena Brennan I would too it's not there position to take something thing off u, there there to help you, not to take something special to you
People truly have no respect for those who pass tragically.
I had a fiancé who had a tough struggle with cancer and sadly eventually passed away. Three months later, I was still heartbroken and doing my best not to break down and my mom caught me in my room crying with a plush dog he had given me and she just snaps "Oh my GOD, it's been MONTHS. Get over it you little baby!"
People don't realize how horrifyingly hard the death(s) of someone around you in your life hits you to your very soul.
That woman who told her to say 'goodbye' was so insensitive it disgusts me.
Lena Brennan same
One time I fell back on to my hand and my dad said I was just being dramatic. After 4 days of excruciating pain he took me to an orthopedist and when the x-ray came back it was revealed that I broke my wrist.
Mitochondribruh That is what happened to my brother. He was in football and fell back on his hand. He heard a loud snap and grit his teeth so he wouldn't scream. He went to the hospital and had a cast for weeks. Sometimes parents can do the same sadly. Especially if your parents are hard asses.
Mitochondribruh that dp tho...
Mitochondribruh My brother had a stomachache and he complained about how it hurt alot. I thought it wasn't anything serious and that he just has a low pain tolerance. I thought he was just being whiny and it was gas or something.I then found out he had to get his appendix out. I felt so bad and disgusted with myself. I then apologized for downplaying what he was going through.
Love your profile pic XD
ROSEpetal52 that happened when I had to get my appendix out no one beloved me and I was in hospital for 2 days
one of my good friends was having a horrible pain in her side during class and none of the teachers let her go to the nurse/home. I eventually had to get my mom (a teacher at our school) to get the principal to let her leave. It turned out her appendix was about to burst.
arkspeli Same thing happened to me as well. Hopefully she is doing better.
Wow that’s terrible I don’t understand why the teachers would ignore an obvious medical emergency:/ her parents should sue big time.
That is so messed up. I have told my children if a teacher ever treats them this way and refuses to let them go to the nurse or the rest room to just get up and walk out of class.
No god but Allah
Islam way for peace and real monotheist
Search about the truth with honest heart .
That "teacher" and maybe even the $chool are in $incere need of $ome $pecial attention and taught $ome very important le$$on$ concerning our children we intu$t to them on a daily ba$i$.
Wow and then you have to pay thousands of dollars on tests bc the insurance system sucks? I'm never moving to America
Jiq Don’t. They’re killing us here. You have to pay to live
Canada. *whispers* free health careeeee.
we americans can only dream of that
Yeah don't do that to yourself. And a lot of us are stuck here, too broke from our medical costs to move out
The health care industry is money making its why so many Drs and when tests are ordered some are unnecessary
school nurses be like "here have an ice pack and mint"
Northy Lastly my school doesn't even have mints smh we get whatever water is left after the ice melts
Northy Lastly mine is like
Here's panadol I'll totally help
Leg broken? PANADOL!!!
Northy Lastly
They cannot give you drugs or medicines if you do not have the prescription sent to the school in a bag. It is illegal and for your saftey.
Northy Lastly me: **BROKEN RIBCAGE** Nurse: Here have a warm cup of water
Ikr .
I feel like abdominal pain in women isn't taken as seriously as it is in men. It's always "It's just period cramps", but we, as women, know what our period cramps feel like. If you don't get period cramps and suddenly theres an excruciating pain in your abdomen, something is definitely wrong. Doctors just don't know the female anatomy as well as they know males, and it frustrates me to death!
Pocket Neko I have periods and I don't have cramps haahhah bitches
Pocket Neko it's not really the anatomy but more that the belief that women are just "whiny" and "it isn't that bad" but it is bad when somebody brushes off somerhing he can't feel
Pocket Neko
I had a bad abdominal pain ( turned out to be the stomach flu )
When I was describing the pain to the school nurse her first question was "are you on your period"
It seems like a question you ask every girl who has abdominal pain but I hadn't my had period yet
Pocket Neko you know there are female doctors as well,right?
Pocket Neko are you triggered because a man knows males anatomy better than woman's , you know that there are female doctors , right?
I have a rare disease and this video hits home. Time and time again doctors didn't believe my pain and treated me like scum until they found I was at deaths door in a very strange way. This has happened over and over again. Watching this video makes me feel less alone. Love this!
I hope you are okay now!
@@nova_wen1350 check her liked videos shes liked something from 2 weeks ago. I think she's doing well
Crystal methany oh that’s great
Doctors who makes patients feel like they’re crazy need to have their license taken away from them. I have suffered mental issues for years over this problem.
I was sick for about 3 years trying to get a diagnosis. I even had a doctor send me for a psych eval "just to be sure" I wasn't looking for attention or trying to get pills. The very next doctor discovered I had heavy metal poisoning and was 6 months away from dying. I look for every possible reason to not go to the doctor now because of the trauma. I wasn't crazy then, and I'm not crazy now, but I always panic before going that they'll just think I'm crazy.
@@melodyholli I love how the doctor had to send you for a psych eval “just to be sure”….. as if running medical tests and examining you for your obviously stated and becoming extremely worsening symptoms and biological health LIKE ITS HIS ONE BASIC JOB ON THIS PLANET TO DO AS A DOCTOR (like the one reason you even exist (as a doctor) but whatever……) wouldn’t MAYBE HELP “just to be sure” that it was an ACTUAL MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS (and life threatening critical issue- which I am so thankful that you were actually treated for by the way!!!!!!) Like isn’t that WHY you’re *there* and NOT at a psychologists office *in the first place* ????? Lol. Crazy 😵💫🙄🤣🥰
When my sister was 5, she had excruciating migraines but doctors refused to do a MRI. My mom pitched the fit of a lifetime and they finally conceded. Turned out she had a tumor growing on her optical nerve. She had surgery and lived, but they wasted precious time denying that her pain existed. Because of their lax attitudes, she now has permanent medical issues.
But thank goodness for lioness mothers
Julia Paige to think your sister might had died if not four your mother
I am very happy for you and your family that your mother could stand up against unbelieving doctors. It is infuriating that it had to take so long, a bit further upthread some people mentioned family members who did not have such an advocate and didn't survive. This kind of BS costs lives.
I'm starting my masters in medicine in less than 3 weeks. I promise I'll do good by all my patients. For all of those wronged by a doctor who was overconfident or simply incompetent.
longlivethebook good luck
longlivethebook I wish you the best of luck! I bet you will be great!
wish you the best of luck!
Good luck💗💗💕💕
longlivethebook I'm glad that you have that goal and mindset for your medical career. I also would like to advise that you also concentrate on changing the medical system. The system we have in place today is motivated by quick turn around and deeply for profit that I've seen patients get lost in the system. Keep going and good luck! You're almost done!
I understand these stories so well that it sickens me. I have endometriosis and it made me infertile because doctors didn't take me seriously. I had an irregular period (once bled for a year, a YEAR) and I was told to take meds for the pain. I became anemic from the blood loss, and they told me to take vitamins. Never ever did they consider "hey maybe she's not bullshitting us". Several times during my teens, my mom wanted to take me to the ER because I was doubled over in pain at two in the morning. They put me on Prozac for anxiety...um what??
Never give up. You deserve to be listened to, heard, and believed. If it's any consolation, know that I believe you.
ThePieFairy91 omg.... I hope you never get to live through something like that again.
just got diagnosed a couple weeks ago with endo after years, and finally being treated for it feels wonderful- i've taken my first pill for it, and though it hasn't started working yet, but just knowing it'll start working makes me want to cry with happiness.
insert name ....sorry to be invasive, which pills are you taking and they working?
I hear that! Sexism is a BIG issue in healthcare even in Canada! Also the anti opiate hysteria is killing chronic pain patients.
I’ve gotten lectures on smoking weed (never from physical doctors, always mental health experts). I had 4 surgeries in 18 months and didn’t touch one opiate. Bias is alive and well in the medical field.
Yes!!! It took everything i had today not to slam an ER doctor to the floor and just jump up and down on his back and ask him, now who needs narcotics you sob?!!!
Yes, as a chronic pain patient, not only are patients taking their own lives due to not wanting to be in pain anymore, and doctors not prescribing stronger pain meds. But people who are desperate enough, could start turning to illegal substances, which are a LOT more likely to get them addicted/killed than a doctor prescribing medications that (lord forbid) might actually help!
It makes me insanely angry.
That, and the fact that people "can't be in pain" or "aren't allowed stronger pain meds" because they're young. Youth doesn't equal health, and people of all ages deserve proper care and treatment options.
It sucks that people pay so much money just to be told that their pain is not real and just make the patient feel crazy....😔
Tru...
Isabelle BBUUURRNNN that's why I'm glad to live in the U.K.! It's free here!
Isabelle BBUUURRNNN It's free in my country!!!
Jungshook same
Anna kitty in germany its the same
it's especially hurtful when it's other women telling you. your pain is anxiety.
happened to me... a woman dr said my pain is from depression and im probably imagining it because "the mind is a powerful thing" like... the pain that comes with being depressed does not feel the way i do, and anxiety has a very specific type of pain as well
Yes!!!!!
Medical misdiagnosis is one of the leading causes of death in the U.S. this is a problem, guys. WE NEED TO FIX THIS!
About a year ago I had a pain in my chest so I went to a doctor and they said “oh it’s nothing its cause you were running” so I shrugged it off as nothing. It soon got worse and I went to about 5 different doctors. They all said the same thing until I went to one doctor she finally found something It turns out I had a heart condition. If I didn’t keep pushing and going I probably would have never figured it out and it would have been worse. Always follow your instinct. You know your body better then anyone else. Don’t let anyone try to tell you what you are feeling!
Key word the last doctor SHEEEE
What was the heart condition
Same thing happened to me
When my appendix ruptured when I was 19 and was in excruciating pain, I went to the ER had to wait HOURS to be seen, and when they asked my pain level, I told them it was 10, they laughed and said "10? Really? Be more realistic." it took a CT scan and bloodwork after me begging for them to do something to realize "oh, she's not making this up" and I needed emergency surgery asap. They had to cut my open in more than one spot since they waited so long. I can't believe how horrible our medical system can be.
Lauren M its not the medical system, its the people.
christa hammons THE PEOPLE in the medical system
Elise Regans that's what I meant haha. I was really drowsy when writing this. :)
Lauren M, Me too! I had to wait 6 days before they did anything here in the UK, I now have a lovely 4 inch scar and a whole tonne of other problems due to their mistakes not seeing a really common problem! At least our appendixes can only burst once! x
I have a nice scar on my back because my rare form of spina bifida was brushed off as a "Fatty lump" which had my THE NERVE TO MY LEFT LEG coiled up in it.
I'm making post cards from my diagnostic laparoscopy for the doctor that told me I was "overreacting".☺ I had Endometriosis.
Kaiwon Jackson You go girl! 👊
What's that? I hope you're okay though
amazing
Same thing happened to me
Kaiwon Jackson one doctor put me in a 3 day psych hold for coming back so many times with 'imaginary pain' I sent her simple note saying I think she should quit medicine immediately. And that her she's lucky I'm not coming for her to compensate me for those 3 days. It was 3.5 years ago but I'd still slap her right in her stupid face if I ever saw her. Send your postcard girl!
I truly feel the pain of your experiences!
I am 51.
As a Dessert Storm Veteran, I and many of us are still experiencing an assortment of pains and issues that we are still trying to convince Dr's that we actually have.
I spent years telling my Primary Dr. that I was having this random, severe, throbbing pain around both of my kidneys. One day I got a new Dr. who didn't believe me either, but ordered X-Rays and a CT scan just to ease my mind. The X-Rays showed that I had degenerative disks in my lower back (L5-S1), but the CT showed that I have what is called an Aortic Dissection (a tear in the lining of my Aorta). I could be dead right now.
Another time, I spent months complaining of pain in my wrists and hands. Eventually, X-Rays showed that I have Arthritis in both hands and wrists.
Just last month, I finally convinced them to X-Ray my shoulders, neck and mid back because of pain. Shoulder X-Rays didn't show anything (but I still have pain in both), but they did show I have Arthritis, Bone Spurs, and pinched nerves in my neck (C4-C5) and Arthritis and Bone Spurs mid-back (L4-L5).
One would think, that when a person goes to a Dr. complaining of pain, they would do something other than make general assumptions.
Given my history, one would think, that I wouldn't still be trying to convince my Dr's that I still have pain in my Shoulders, Elbows and Knees.
I know this video is about women and how Dr's routinely ignore and/or misdiagnose female problems and declare them to be just that. I posted the above to show that, as a male, in a way, I truly understand what you are going through.
I love that your showing boy power!
I love that you’re trying to show that sometimes men aren’t taken seriously either and in a way yeah that’s true but most of the time women won’t even get properly looked at because doctors don’t believe them. For a male at least they were like “let’s ease your mind” but for females it’s “try midol” “try taking a hot bath next time” and never “let’s just check to be sure” it truly sucks regardless of who or how doctors throw people away sometimes
When I was 12 I was in a wheelchair, unable to move, and became temparerally mute (I was too exhausted to speak) for about a year because of my ME/CFS and had a doctor tell me to my mum and I's face that I was doing it for attention, I just didn't want to go to school and that I would only get better if I wanted too. This is only one time doctors have ignored my illness, told me it was all in my head or straight out told I'm making it up. I'm now 16, I am better now (No thanks to doctors). I have a walking stick and almost never leave my house, but hey at least after 4 years of fighting I got an official diagnosis and I'm getting to the point of health where I'm looking to go to college.
I am happy you are better, and I hope you only improve.
i'm so happy you've been able to improve. i have chronic pain and chronic fatigue, and i'm being tested for all sorts of things, but i wonder if it's ME/CFS. i check every box. i brought it up to a doctor (and bless my doctors, they all believe me) but she was incredibly behind on CFS information. she believes its a psychosomatic condition still, and basically- none of my doctors know CFS. they think its not "really a condition" from the way they act. i just itch to tell them that not all conditions have a blood test! if my latest tests come back clear, then i'm going to really pursue a doctor who understands CFS to see about a diagnosis.
@@insertname1857 60+ years later I finally understood that I have ME/cfs. No cure but at least I understand what this has been and is. It would have surely been very different for me had I been listened to when I was in my teens. I also had tremendous problems with ovarian cysts and endometriosis throughout my life. I'm a fighter so I'm still here but how different it could have been for me. I would at least have had sympathy for myself and not continually pushed and pushed destroying my health both physical and mental. And the abuse and gaslighting. 😓💜
What's ME?
@@piaaadah M.E. stands for myalgic encephalomyelitis and CFS stands for Chronic fatigue syndrome.
When I was 15 years old I was in class and and I just remember feeling like my lower abdomen had exploded then I passed out for a solid 45 seconds I wasn’t breathing and was just laying on the floor in class when I woke up the boys in my class just erupted with laughter I started screaming because the pain I was in was causing my chest to tighten up I couldn’t feel my legs. Next thing I knew I was in the office and had been handed a bag of ice ‘for the pain’ I told them I need to go to hospital, call my parents please help me, but they refused I knew something was wrong the pain was getting worse I screamed again unable to contain myself, I was told to shut your just on your period don’t worry they said we called your mum. Not only now was I in excruciating pain but I was so angry they just kept telling me he quiet, your just pmsing ( I want on my period btw) I gave in and fell asleep in the office when my mom arrived she came rushing in she was yelling at our deputy “my daughter can’t you see call an ambulance the screaming echoed through my head I couldn’t stand the pain I squirmed and shook the last thing I remeber was getting driven to hospital because “ambulances are only for emergencies” I remember getting rushed in to the emergency room and seeing my mom running along side me then I passed out and didn’t wake up until after my surgery 4 days later, because I had a cyst inside my womb. When I tried to return to my school they told me I had been expelled for swearing at a teacher, we sued the school I was allowed to return to my school I was so embarrassed but I knew I shouldn’t have been.
This is such a crazy story... This should’ve never happened! I’m so sorry it did happen to you
Rosie Berry suing the school was a good thing to do.
I agree with doodthenoodle,suing the school was the right thing to do.Why would the school teachers tell u that u were just on ur period and furthermore,i bet the teachers would have screamed too if they were suffering the pain u had that time.
Thank goodness for your mother. I would have done the same thing.
Rosie Berry you should write a book your so good at explaining it correctly and giving us details! 👍🏾
I like how doctors number 1 solution to every problem is DRINK MORE WATER. And then you get charged $100 for consultation
Peter Ambrose sounds like my school nurse lmao
Peter Ambrose that's why NHS is amazing
Tara my school nurse as well. I once asked for plasters cause my new shoes were giving me really bad blisters and she just told me to drink more water.
Drinking water actually saved my life once...
Peter Ambrose my dad😒
In the uk the healthcare is free it’s weird seeing everyone paying for it
FREE?! When I grow up, I'm outta this junk pile and moving to the uk
WHAT?! That's unbelievable 😔
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If that's true then you probably have to pay higher taxes to make up for it like Canada
Literally in every country beside usa
Me : having breathing problems
School nurse : drink some water and breath some fresh air then go back to class
Xoxx I couldn’t breathe once and the school nurse told me that and I said to her that’s the thing, I CANT BREATHE!
For some reason this comment made me laugh😪😂 they somtimes can be so careless
the only medicine that helps my chronic pain is an opioid. my school said i was lying (while i was in a wheelchair) and tried to expel me.
Caitlin Morrison that's just horrible
Hope you have a good week :)
Caitlin Morrison Yeah. Opioids are so complicated and can be dangerous. It's really tricky to navigate. I hope so badly you can move on from this pain. Good luck ❤
S Claw thank you ❤️
Leolivia yeah, i've been recovering slowly but surely. but there's no excuse for trying to expel me for simply managing my pain. i don't need them every single day now- i'm almost recovered- but addiction is not something i'm genetically predisposed to and it is much harder to get addicted than people say.
I'm a medical student, and this video really taught me on the importance of giving a listening ear to the patients. It is really hurtful to see people, especially women, belittled and chucked aside by healthcare workers and even doctors when all they need is some medical attention and respect given to them. Also, many doctors make the mistake of generalising their patients. Just because, they have seen 9 cases with similar symptoms, they cannot simply diagnose the next incoming case with similar symptoms as the 10th one.
EDIT: Thank you for all the replies and likes to my comment! I definitely aim to be a patient advocate at all times and definitely will share this video with my peers :)
Also, one thing I would like to say is that, it is definitely alright for patients to seek the attention of the medical staff. It is like the classic case of two hungry babies, one which is crying loudly and the other doesn't. The mother will most definitely attend to the crying baby since it calls for attention. Naturally patients all want the due attention from others, as that is the only way to get prompt help!
medical student..listen mr. mrs. doc agonnabe, you're always going to be a student...never a master, even you're professors are students, I am so glad I did not go to med school, I have to sleep sometime, I couldn't live with the guilt.
Wes, my thoughts exactly. Priyanka, I hope you got in it because you genuinely care for people, not because of your parents or money. That's the real problem in the medical system. All that aside, if you really care for people, you won't be very happy with the system in North America. It's a sad reality.
Yes! I saw a doctor during flu season and the first thing I told him was, "I know this is flu season and you're going to hear me and want to diagnose me with the flu, but I don't have flu symptoms." I then went on to tell him that I'd feel my heart race and "something like fainting" would happen but it was not the same. I had no fever, chills, etc. He diagnosed me with the flu. He wasn't my regular doctor, who was out that day. He sent me home from work for 3 days. Before returning to work, I was able to see my regular doctor. It turns out I had developed stress-related narcolepsy. That's so not the flu.
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now there will be a doctor who will actually listen to you :D
I had a flu, then bronchitis, then pneumonia, I had them all at the same time! I went to my primary doctor, I was not believed. A few days later my mom had to drive me down to the emergency room, I couldn't stop throwing up, over, and over, until I was just choking over a bucket. I was too weak to walk. I came I in a wheelchair, throwing up twice in the 5min wait. They bought me in, they gave me fluids, and the medication I actually needed, if only they did that a while ago!
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I had a couple of horrible doctors also, Instead of being kind to us they just tell us we are addicted. No compassion , we are guilty before we are in pain.
Laura "Being addicted" is what medical personnel call being on medication here. Yeah, like eating food is starving.
I'm 16, and I've had severe pain in my spine, and hips. I went to 7 doctors and several hospital visits. They all refused to take any tests done. I've gone through this pain for YEARS. No one believed me, to the point I stopped believing it. I thought I was crazy. And most of them just told me to move more. And when I did, it made it much worse. Years later, I FINALLY get an MRI done, and I found out I had 3 major problems with my spinal cord..And 1 severe problem with my hip. And it upsets me so much that they all didn't believe me..And this happens all the time..
Something similar has happened also with my knees. Like, this happens all the time. This is disgusting that this happens..
When I was little ( like 3) my pediatrician said like nothing was wrong meanwhile my balance was off, my head hurt every single day of my life unbearably, my legs were always hurting. Then I went to a different doctor in the city (a neurologist) (I was 8) I ended up needing brain surgery some doctors are great some such😂🤘🏼
Emma Alvino Yup..Gotta love them. :/
Do you have a diagnosis for why this keeps happening to you? If you don't I really suggest that you research JHS (joint hypermobility syndrome) and EDS (ehlers danlos syndrome hypermobility type) they are health conditions which cause joint pain and damage and lots of other symptoms as well often including spinal problems. Your doctors may not recognise them because they are health conditions about which there is not much knowledge yet, though that is slowly changing. I was diagnosed a few years ago due to someone mentioning it is a possibility to my mum, and us taking our research to the doctor. I really suggest you research it and see if your symptoms match. If they do, then I would print out the information and then take it to the doctor. I hope this helps and your health improves soon! xxx
Autumn I have both of these and my doctor discharged me for 10 years because they thought I was fine. Now, I experience really bad pain as I have developed severe hip dysplasia and need a massive surgery to correct it.
Autumn Thanks for letting me know Autumn! And so far, I've found out I have 2 sever herniated disc's on my L4 and L5 in my spine. I also have flat back syndrome, and hip bursitis. But, I may have other problems as well. Hope everything goes well for you. Xx
My family is so lucky to have the doctor we have now.
We left the family doctor we had for years because I was having horrendous pain in my stomach, not eating, and lost about 30 pounds in one month. I was seventeen and we had just moved to a new school, so he said "You're nervous about being at a new school, do you have an eating disorder, are you SURE you don't have an eating disorder?" And didn't really do anything for months. My parents switched doctors after several months of nonsense (and me dropping 80 pounds). It turned out I had severe chrons disease coupled with complicated symptoms from a fast growth spurt (I grew four inches in one month).
broadwaymelody33 I have severe Crohn's disease as well. For me they could not find the right medication to settle it and it took 4 different ones to find the right one. After a year of having it I started getting pain in all of my joints. I couldn't go to school I couldn't walk I couldn't do anything. For 6 months they just said it was part of the Crohn's. But I now know that it was chronic pain caused by the amount of pain I had due to my Crohn's. I am feeling like my self again . But the road to getting to myself took 4 years. During 3 of those years I grew 1cm .
This is probably careless of me to say but I wish I'd lose weight that fast lol
but I really hope you're doing well now Stay Strong 🙏🏼
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I have Crohn's as well. I was diagnosed at a very young age, and it never got that bad, but I do understand you to an extent. I'm glad you have a better doctor now!
I can't believe this. This is truly outrageous.
I'm planning on being a doctor when I grow up and I will definitely keep this in mind. I would never belittle my patient's pain, like if they say it hurts to the point it feels like they are dying then BELIEVE THEM.
Same. Med student here. This video will serve as a reminder for me to listen to future patients
Thank you both, for your passion and commitment to help people! Please remind yourself of these stories when the job wears you down & you occasionally see people who do genuinely have conditions like factitious disorder or health anxiety.
The best rule you could live by as a doctor is to always believe your patients & treat them in a collaborative effort - even if they DO have factitious disorder or health anxiety, it doesn't negate their need for care.
Ask your patients what their ideal outcome is, even if it's not realistic - ask what they want & need. It doesn't mean you'll be able to deliver this ideal outcome (i.e. cure their stage IV cancer) but then you know what their expectations are & can address them appropriately. That simple act can make the biggest difference. 🫀♥️
If your patients are more educated than you on a rare condition THEY have, please don't take offence or let your ego take over - open your mind & listen to them. Chances are that they've been left with no choice but to become an expert on their condition because no one else seems to be. (Speaking from personal experience)
Validating patients experiences and symptoms (even if their tests later prove something different) will literally make you one of the top & most sought after in your chosen fields. Such a simple but mostly foreign concept to many physicians.
We are all human and vulnerable to bias & compassion fatigue. I wish you both the very best of luck!! ✊👏😁
I have had two doctors in the 58 years I’ve been alive, believe me when I told them I was in pain. Every time a doctor dismisses my pain, it has turned out to be something awful.
Me: *turning blue from no air*
My mom: The reason your like that is because your always on your phone.
Me: *falls over dead*
My mom: I'm gonna start limiting your electronic time
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Literally last week, I started getting pain in my abdomen in the middle of the day but brushed it off as period cramps since my period pain was usually more painful that others anyways. When I got home from school, the pain intensified and I spent the next 2 hours in agonising pain, non-stop crying, experiencing pain was beyond any I've ever felt before. It got to the point where I genuinely believed dying would hurt less, I was literally going insane. My parents called the ambulance and when they arrived after the longest 10 minutes of my life, I felt so incredibly relieved. However, my relief completely crumbled when the paramedics basically told me I was wasting their time - "we're here to help dying people, not girls with period pain". They promptly left and I spent the rest of the night in and out of sleep, trying to get over this pain on my own. The next day I woke up, the intense pain had subdued and I still don't know what was wrong with me that day. But my perspective on the emergency services have definitely changed, and I can't see them as a reliable part of my society anymore.
EDIT: Hello friends, it is currently January 2020 so it's been more than 2 years after my original comment. Thank you for all the support and suggestions as to what may have occurred that night. Fortunately, I haven't felt that same abdominal pain since that day but have also yet to experience any pain as searing as that. I have many medical problems (some diagnosed, some undiagnosable as of current) so yes, while I was extremely disappointed in the two paramedics who arrived at my house - especially since the one who said "we're here to help dying people, not girls with period pain" was a woman herself, it was a momentary emotive anger. I still appreciate the work of all emergency services as they play an underrated role in sustaining our society. I apologise for generalising all emergency field workers - I was 16/17 years old back then and was just expressing the distress I felt. I will soon be entering my second year as a university student studying a Bachelor in Social Work and plan to locate in my services in a hospital setting. Have a good day x
Peachy Jenn very similar to my childhood but I and my parents for some reason didn't bother to get or even ask for medical aid. We should have. Always demand the care you deserve, you have to stress to them that this isn't normal!
You could have PCOS.
I'm so sorry. :( I have the same kind of pain month to month, because of my copper IUD.
You could try to go to the gynecologist to get checked for cysts or endometriosis. It's so hard to get diagnosed... 😰 But I hope you find your cure. ❤️ Hang in there, you're not alone.
Peachy Jenn i feel you the samething happened to me every doctor believed that i was lying. crying in my own. feeling alone when your dealing with this. knowing that I will always going through the samething every single month for the rest of my life is scary. i have been like this since i was twelve and now i am 25 and still going on. its hard
That's just.. I don't even have words!! Horrible people - How can they really live with themselves?!
I often have insane pain in my stomach/lower stomach because of my endometriosis. I have been at the hospital, screaming of pain. They don't do anything. They let me wait several hours before I even get to see a doctor - for 2 min.. The hospital system in Denmark is just horrible. And the nurses on the hospitals are ICECOLD!
The 1.5k are doctors that didnt believe their patients
I seriously hate healthcare in our country. I have multiple stories like this.
I hate when doctors do this. They dismiss your pain and never believe you and you have to keep making appointments over and over again and over exaggerate your pain and say it's unbearable before they finally give you an X-ray or MRI or do anything else.
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I have scoliosis and my doctor doesn't believe me when I say it hurts?
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Many doctors kept telling me "No you're too young to have arthritis" when I kept telling them I feel like I have it they kept dismissing me turns out I did have it.
BOOTYBALLS THEGOD you know you can go to private hospitals and they won't turn you down as long as your able to pay.
I went to the doctors with my knee at least four times and every single time I was told there was nothing wrong with it. At the end I sat down on the floor crying, begging the doctors to scan me. Turns out I had a legit hole inside my knee. Worse is there was nothing to do about it
well, I clicked on this video for the sake of wasting time and here I am feeling so much more responsibility to study harder.. I'm a medical student.. thank you for such an amazing video
Thank you!! AND good Luck!!!
Mai same. I want to study in the med. field.
Mai Same I'm not going to be a doctor but I'm going to study to become a nurse.
Bless you, you are so pure❤
Me: I am going to throw up right now!!
School nurse: here eat these salteans.
This happened to me. Suffered terrible gastro pain for years. One doctor told me it was pms and put me on birth control, another told me it was ibs and told me to take probiotics, another told me it was due to my diet but I was not convinced and demanded to be referred to a gastro specialist. A year later I finally saw a specialist and a year after that I had a colonoscopy where they found a massive polyp sitting on a nerve. They did a biopsy and it was pre cancerous. The specialist said if I had waited only 6 more months I would have had colon cancer! He said it’s a good thing i spoke up for yourself.
I can relate to this so much. I fell off my horse last year and went to hospital where they said I fractured my shoulder & had a concussion. My mum repeatedly told them it must be something more because I could barely speak or remember anything. I was discharged and a week later I ended up in a coma because they missed a fracture on my Basel skull which got infected and caused me to get a brain injury. I'll never be the same again, doctors need to listen & unfortunately patients need to keep pushing
Oreo life Doctors have a liability to not order unnecessary tests. Unfortunately, sometimes this results in people not being taken as seriously.
This is part of why I'm going to school for obstetrics and gynecology because female reproductive health is so important and not enough people care about it.
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We need more doctors that take these issues seriously. Please let us know where you practice. I, for one, am willing to move to another state or country to get proper medical treatment.
Si. And women are forced to hide that part of their health, which they wont talk about in exchange for misunderstanding and worse treatment. Patients know they have to hide nothing from me (I'm a fully graduated medical doctor).
Thank you 😊
Monique Evette yessss!!!👍👏👏👏
Imagine going to school for years and not doing anything when someone asks you to actually use that knowledge to help them, I hate humanity sometimes
Omg this is EXACTLY the thought that always crosses my mind too when I hear these stories!!!!!! Literally at this point we actually SHOULD trust the WebMd “multi-symptom” checker more than most of these (and so many other) doctors and medical professionals out there because AT LEAST it’s not saying for all “possible diagnoses with your symptoms” : “error: please seek mental health attention” or “nothing exists with those symptoms, try not thinking about it since it’s all in your imagination.” Lol
Wow. It makes me think about when I had started with pains around my lower abdomen and my pediatrician told me it was probably constipation and I took meds for about 5 days. Didn't go away. By that time I already had a month with the pains. Then around three more months passed and I was at school in gym class. It was unfortunately fitness day and we were doing like 30 sit ups at a time and I couldn't bear the pain. I told my teachers and they said that exercise would make it better. An hour later I was crying in the nurses office in pain. She said she couldn't do anything and that I was fine. I called my dad and he took me home and then to the hospitals. About an hour after arriving and having x rays and ultrasounds. They told me I was gonna have an emergency surgery because I had a cyst on my ovary and it had flipped so circulation was being cut off. After surgery they told me that had actually found two cysts the size of eggs. Recently I felt similar pains and I decided not to wait so I got an ultrsound and guess what. I have two more on my other ovary. I learned a very good lesson and it's not to ignore what you know is wrong with your body.
This is why im in nursing school. To make sure every patient gets the correct medical care which includes listening to my patients and making sure that this doesnt happen. This breaks my heart.
You're in nursing school and you can't use apostrophes? Bad handwriting, spelling, and grammar can be detrimental to patients.
SummerTime This is my personal time. I don't have to type professionally if I dont want to. Now please run along you sad internet troll.
Makayla Brown most of them didn't do anything wrong they are going to start with the most likely cause. That would be like having a headache and being mad they didn't check for a brain tumor. The jaw one is completely different
Makayla Brown I love this. Be an advocate. I'm in nursing school as well, but I've had to take time off because my health has taken a turn for the worst. The most awful thing in the world is to know there is something wrong with your body and to have a doctor stand there and tell you it's all in your head, or you just need to lose weight. They don't run any tests and it's almost impossible to get any answers. I've had several instances in the past month that I probably should have gone to the ER, but I would rather die than be belittled by another doctor.
SummerTime congrats on being a horrible person
I've dealt with chronic pain/illness for over 1 year now, and it is so incredibly challenging. I relate to this on such a deep level. Thank you for this video, BuzzFeed.
Mandy Meehan *Boldy not BuzzFeed. 🙃😉
i.am.raija Boldly*
i.am.raija Boldly is from buzzfeed
Galaxy Dream HAHAHAHA! I SPELLED IT WRONG!😂😂😂😂
C. Osborne I know. They changed the name. I was just pointing it out. 😊
Student explodes*
Nurse: you’ll be fine have a mint, go back to class your over reacting!
Girls at the doctors
Doctor: oh it’s just period pain take some Advil
Girl: *on the floor passed out because of the pain shes in*
Boys at the doctor:
Doctor: oh no we’re going to do some blood tests and some cat scans and we will find out what’s wrong with you!
Boy: I just have a cut
Thedestructivemuffin Ik 🤬🤬🤬 so stupid
Thedestructivemuffin I hate how us girls are treated like peasants and men are treated like kings 🙄🙄🙄😒
@@gwendalynnalvarado8277 Are you sure that you are not the stupid one
Damayanti Roy yes,girls are way stronger emotional and physically when it comes to pain (scientifically men are stronger muscles wise) but women have a better pain tolerance bc God made us to birth children.
@@gwendalynnalvarado8277 Yeah that's totally right but you're against it according to your comment
i feel so bad for Kelsey. she literally had her nerve cut cuz the doctor did a bad job, now she has to deal with this extreme pain :( i mean she would've be FINE AS A NORMAL HUMAN BEING IF THE DOCTOR WHO WAS SUPPOSED TO *HEAL* HER DIDN'T DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE AND CUT UP HER FURCKING NERVES AND BASICALLY RUINED HER LIFE FOR HER
She should sue
markalocases jr She can't. He made her wait for more than a year and now legally she can't 😔
I bet he delayed purposefully. Disgusting. :/
markalocases jr Exactly. 😔😔😔
Skyla Helbig you lose feeling when you have massive surgery. I had foot surgery on both my feet and still don't have feeling in them, which is to be expected. She knew the risks, and it didn't work
I feel so bad for these people
AppleJuice happy without uteruses and ovaries, duh 😒
AppleJuice maybe men don't go through this because they get the attention they need without being asked if they had a bad breakup
Noel L Just because some medical staff were slightly sexist, doesn't mean men don't go through medical horror stories -_-
Stephanie Xo don't twist my words, i never said they didn't, but let's not pretend we don't know that the purpose of the video which is to show the subconscious sexism we, as women, face sometimes
Noel L I Agree!
they should’ve sued all of these doctors
I’ve been to the emergency room so many times for the pain. I was told it’s just your period, I had an std or I was med seeking for pain killers. I hate opiates! In the end I had an internal ultrasound and they saw the cyst and the endometriosis. 2 surgeries later and I’m better but still suffer pain and erase whole weeks out of my life. Why is this so common but science has no real solutions?!
7 year old me: Mom my legs hurt.
Mom: You’re just growing.
13 year old me: Mom my legs hurt.
Mom: You’re just growing. You’re fine.
40 year old me: Mom my legs hurt.
Mom: You’re just getting old.
Me: 😒
Lindsay Renay wait is it just growing and age, or is there a real problem?
Im curious was there something wrong or was she right.
My son gets pain in his legs & thats what i was told "growing pains"
Yeah this is my life.
Kasha be aware it could be just growing or juvenile arthritis
I remember when I went to the beach at 8 years old, my breasts hurt. It was hurting a lot. My parents said I was growing.. I guess that was some puberty thing..
When I got my wisdom teeth out I had such a bad pain I couldn't sleep for 3 days and the dentist kept telling me it was normal ,I knew something was wrong so I went to another dentist who said the sewing was wrong and I had gotten dry socket and it had damaged the nerves but they couldn't heal it bc the stitching was wrong my gum was over my teeth so I had to wait 2 more weeks with pain , the old dentist kept saying "oh it normal you are just over extracting "
Memex1 that sucks :/ also u spelled diseases wrong
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thunder blade I laughed at that I feel guilty
mysticismlover omg i had the same thing happen to me
i had a filling without the proper disenfection it caused me severe pain and an abcess and the tooth had to be removed 😣
mysticismlover no omg I feel so sorry for u
My intestines clasped on its self I was in the er howling for 8 hours till they finally tested me I was rushed into surgery
I once had this building up pain in my arms and legs with the feeling of nausea while I was in my class. I put my head down for a while but still didn't feel good. So, my friend came with dropped me at medical room (since I was super dizzy & barely able to walk). There, the doctor was available (surprisingly) coz she was never there. I told her about the pain I was feeling and light-headedness. She said, "oh you have no pain coz you're laughing (my friend made me laugh on the way to lighten me up)" She sent me back. One period later, I had extreme pain in the abdomen and fever at the time. I went again, this time determined to prove her wrong but the doctor wasn't there (as I told ya). Thankfully, the nurse gave me medicines & called my father to pick me up. My uncle is a doctor, turns out I had an infection in my stomach.
Why do doctors dismiss us everytime, it wasn't like she got tired of so many patients in the school??
When I was a junior in high school, I started to get sick every time I ate. It got to the point when I’d get halfway through a meal and experience such bad nausea, I thought I would vomit and food started to look inedible. I told my parents, and we spoke to the doctor. They asked me if I was feeling more stressed lately, and I said no. They also asked if I felt pain, which at the time, I didn’t. They didn’t do anything else. So after a few months, I went back and told them again and they started to ask me if I was feeling depressed or wanted to be thinner. So I felt like they were suggesting I had anorexia. They still didnt do anything. For the next two years, I thought that it was all in my head, I was psyching myself out before I ate, or that I even might have anorexia. I started waking up sick in the night with burning in my stomach. Finally, my mom got sick of it and ordered a scope for me, where they put a camera down to my stomach. I was so scared that they would tell me I was crazy. The doctor finally came to me and said that he was shocked that I hadn’t been sent earlier; I had over ten stomach ulcers and a growth called a polyp just beneath my esophagus. I’ve been on anti nausea pills and other meds since then, and in the first few months, I gained ten pounds and now I finally weigh enough to give blood. I heard of a girl my age moving on from anorexia who mentioned she was too thin at 108 pounds. I had weighed 102 for so long, I thought that that was normal. I’m getting better now, but if my mother hadn’t ordered the test herself, we wouldn’t have known. So don’t be afraid to challenge your doctors and try to get tests for yourself if you think you need it. It can really help. For the first time in two years, I can eat a meal without being sick and I’m so grateful for my mom’s help and insistence.
That’s lovely end to a story I’m glad you can blood now
My sister had chronic pain in her abdomen. She went to multiple doctors and all told her there was nothing wrong, some even asked her is she was just pregnant and even got her to take a pregnancy test and surprise, surprise! She wasn't pregnant. We decided to give it another go and went again to a different doctor. Still he didn't see anything wrong. He even pressed onto her stomach hard and after that her pain just increased to the point where she found it incredibly hard to move and she couldn't stop crying. We rushed her to the hospital where they did ultrasounds and found out that she had a hernia and the doctor pressing her stomach had caused it to burst so she was then rushed into surgery. The doctor later told us that they should have known it was a hernia from her symptoms and the bulge that you could feel if you lightly pressed in her lower stomach and that even if they didn't know they still should have booked her in for an ultrasound. Sometimes I really wonder how some doctors even passed medical school.
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Ally Bree some cheats there way through which is horrible
As a child i always suffered with body aches, and i just assumed that’s all they were. With them, I’d get excruciating pain in my head that made it to the point where i literally would have to lay under a blanket with all the lights off and my hands over my ears because any sound or light would make it worse. I couldn’t go down stairs my legs hurt so bad, it’d hurt to reach up To get something out of the pantry. Sometimes when someone hugged me, it’d hurt. Sometimes the pain was every where, other times it was in a specific place. Everyone said it was normal. And i wondered. “Did every one of my classmates feel this way after gym?” “Am i just being a baby?” BUT i knew, it wasn’t normal. My mum would take me to the doctor time and time again, and every time it was, “you probably just pulled something.” “Maybe you twisted it, put ice on it. Use Advil.” No one took me seriously. This went on until i was about 14, when i started high school. My hands started turning blue during football games or band practice. They were bright blue, freezing, and i couldn’t feel them. I would be in so much pain in my entire body that i couldn’t walk. My mom finally demanded I’d be seen by a rheumatologist. It took six months to be seen. And when i was, i was told i had severe fibromyalgia, raynauds syndrome, and amplified pain syndrome. I later went to a neurologist and was told i had severe chronic migraines and insomnia. I was told this when i was 15, I’m now 16 and a sophomore in high school. While I’m still working to find relief, it’s nice that someone finally listened. However I’m still told by my teachers and other family that my pain isn’t real and that I’m being a baby. But at least i have my mom. Sadly, there’s no real treatment for minors with fibromyalgia and amplified pain syndrome. Fibromyalgia means something is wrong with your nerves, it’s chronic, wide spread pain in your entire body. Medicine can’t fix that. Any meds they have are only for adults and are pretty experimental, but I’m managing. It’s just nice to finally know what’s been wrong with me all these years, and while i have a plethora of other health issues to hurdle, it’s nice to have one out of the way.
Fibromailger is evil iv had it 16 years. Try cbd oil its amazing
Same thing happened with me when I had appendicitis it took so long for them to check that my appendix burst during my cat scan.
To be fair, I like your appendix’s very “oh really? I’m not rupturing???? Watch this!” ON CAT SCAN approach to proving to your doctors that they were all idiots and completely wrong and that is what was in fact actually happening lol 🤷🏻♀️💕
If you think something serious is wrong with you, go to a doctor. If that's doctor says you're being over dramatic or they're just brushing it off, go to another doctor. Keep seeing people and get an answer. Don't let a doctor tell you you're wrong until they can absolutely prove themselves right with medical evidence and tests. Even then try and get help. Do your own research and get your own evidence. You have every right to press on and ask questions and NEVER feel like you're a being a burden.
Unfortunately, doctors cost a lot of money in the US. Testing does too. If a doctor is dismissive, sometime you just don't know enough to argue. There's sometimes not a whole lot you can do to get better help.
Rin, agree. And it amazes me that Americans were against universal healthcare, and that they think that the new system is meant to benefit them.
Lena Brennan And when you have US insurance, you have to go to doctors who are in network with your insurance. It's a pain.
Lena Brennan When I was 12 My heart was beating weirdly and apparently my sister's was too but I didn't know that, so we went to the heart doctor and he said my sister had something wrong(not very serious though)and he said mine was fine and that I was probably copying my sister even though it started to beat weirdly before I knew my sister was having trouble. After a while mine went back to normal but it took a long time so I guess something wasn't permanently wrong but they definitely just told me It was in my head and that I was copying my sister and it was so frustrating😐 My mom at least believe me
YES. I had unbearable pain especially gastro and couldn't eat and vomiting 20+x a day. told for 2 years it was just stress or anxiety. Today currently im in an intestinal failure ward my oesophagus, stomach and bowel are all paralysed. Doctors aren't god, they just guess but you can feel everything going on in your body. If I didn't keep pushing I would have starved to death. NEVER GIVE UP.
Between the ages of nine and twelve I experienced excruciating pain in my head. Imagine your worst headache but 100 times worse. I visited many, many doctors all of which diagnosed me with migraines and told me to take Advil and that my so called migraines would go away after puberty. Nobody would take me seriously. My parents called me attention seeking and didn't believe me. Every day I would feel this pain, and I honest to god thought that every day was going to be my last. It made me spend a few of my childhood years in my room. It had to be pitch black and there had to be no noise or my headaches would become even worse. The headaches didn't need a reason to come, but one of the many things that would always trigger them was laughing. So, I was a ten year old who trained myself not to laugh. I lost all sense of humor. Nothing was funny to me, a child any longer. Every single night I prayed to God, asking him, begging, that I wouldn't wake up in the morning. Finally when I was twelve years old I went to a children's hospital to see the most amazing neurosurgeon. He ran multiple, multiple scans on my brain and finally diagnosed my with a chiari malformation. My parents finally saw that something was wrong with me. I was so relieved. I then had brain surgery and I'm good now!
Thank you so much for this video it really touches home.
Eva Kristine I also have chiari, so glad you got diagnosed!
Eva Kristine I have horrible headaches sometimes and it hurts like heck and I hate it
I went to the doctor being extremely tired, so tired I couldn't get out of bed, and vertigo and no-one believed me, finally, one doctor finally listened and did a cat scan (no one, not even the hospital would do one) and it turned out I had a 2-inch cyst in my head and that the rocks in my head were knocked so that's why I had vertigo, also the cyst was bone-eating and ate a lot of my bone in my head so they had to cut some nerves and now if I feel something in my ear I feel it inside the left side of my mouth and tongue.
me: mom my legs hurt so bad
mom: it’s because of that damn phone
me: bruhhhhh
This sent chills throughout my entire body.
Sadly, there is a pyschological influence called, authority. It is mostly seen in doctors, teachers, adults vs children, etc. And most of these people tend to use this against people who are seen as "less" than them. It is heart-wrenching and awful.
Please, never give up because your health is so incredibly important. Don't let people tell you that you are dramatic or ridiculous or "its mental". Do not stop until you get the answers and treatment that you deserve.
I am so terribly sorry that each of you went through these horrible experiences. Thank you for sharing your stories, I know it will open up the eyes of so many.
Anyone who's a doctor here? If yes , then please never make this mistake of ignoring your patients 😭😢
Chris News shut up
Chris News please correct yourself first ! People can improve, they needn't die for everything!!!
Anu Sorry, but you're kind of contradicting yourself there. I see where you're going at though
Aqua ikr .
Lmao you be a doctor then
Y'all have no clue how mad I'm getting while watching this...
Thank you for sharing your story, I’ve had a similar one where my doctor didn’t believe me either my friends didn’t believe me. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one that’s gone through this.🖤
This happened to me with my foot. For several months, I had severe pain whenever I walked on it. I went to the emergency room about 3-5 times. All of them said it was nothing. A couple weeks later, a doctor told me I had actually fractured 3 bones.
yourfaceisbridget that sounds horrible!! ): hope ur better now
yourfaceisbridget that's so sad I hope you get your foot fixed.
I had the same exact thing happen to me but different. I had extreme pain in my ankle and the first doctor told me that I had a tiny fracture and it wasn't that severe and they put me in a cast and told me to take Advil. It got worse and I went to a different doctor and they said that I had broken my ankle in 3-5 places and that one of them was across my growth plate. If I hadn't gone to that doctor, I would have a permanent limp and pain my entire life.
this happened to me aswell, whenever i walk the ball of my foot gets a sharp pain and sometimes i cant even stand on it its so painful and all the doctors ive been to said its nothing and i just need shoe insoles when i know its more than that
Wow!!!!!
I felt like I haven't seen Daysha in the longest time!
Charlie I think the point was that she was ignored because she was a girl (she mentions all the sexiest comments). I mean they wouldn't take her so she still probably doesn't know what happened to her.
I have had constant nausea for at least a year. And everyone says it’s just my anxiety. I know that it’s not, I just have this gut feeling that this isn’t just my brain playing tricks on me. I don’t know what to do anymore because even my mum is starting to believe that it’s just my anxiety. It’s getting to the point where it’s hard to eat and it’s been like that for months. It’s hard to go to school because sometimes moving around makes me feel so so much worse. I just don’t know what’s wrong and it’s like no one believes me anymore. Please if anyone is going through something similar share with me, I feel so helpless and I just want to know that I’m not alone again
that sounds like gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD)! that's exactly how my symptoms were until I started taking a ppi and it helped immensely. I was able to eat again, and I even put on some weight I didn't even know I needed! talk to your GP if you need a referral, but if you don't just go straight to a gastroenterologist. they'll get you medication and may schedule an endoscopy to make sure there isn't anything abnormal within your digestive system
Me:*leg gets cut off*
School nurse: ohh just put a bandage and ice pack on it
😶
This is a problem in the mental health industry as well. I have Autism and was misdiagnosed with ADD, ADHD, and several other blanket terms for "troubled children". I had one phycologist tell my mother that I should try to get work in theater because the people there were "different". I was given several medications that turned me into a zombie, then was told nothing was wrong and I was a "drama queen", an actual professional used that term. This really hurt my relationship with my family. Because of these doctors, they thought I was acting out to get attention, being selfish or lazy, or actively trying to hurt them. I wasn't diagnosed till I was a week from my 29th birthday, nearly 30 years. 30 years of being punished by teachers, having my siblings be ashamed of me, and making my parents cry. Because of these stupid, sexist stereotypes girls with Autism are 4 times more likely to be misdiagnosed, if they get a diagnoses at all. This needs to change, before our daughters are the next victims.
KBGazer my cousin was misdiagnosed with ADHD and they prescribed medicine, and he is now physically and mentally disabled because of it. My other cousin has his teachers tell him he had autism and that he was an idiot. HE WAS 5. Thankfully they did test and told his teachers that he just wasn't much of a talker. Sometimes these people who are supposed to care for us just don't
I'm so sorry that u went through that
In the case of girls at large, it usually isn't sexism. Girls are much better at "hiding" symptoms than boys. So it is usually the girls that slip through the cracks.
You're not alone. I was also misdiagnosed with ADHD as a child when I was actually autistic. In regards to another commenter, there are sexist biases in the heath field. You wanna know why we hide our pain? Because we afraid of people calling us drama queens. Because we live in a sexist world.
Thank you everyone for sharing and for being kind. It is wonderful that we can all share stories and support, raising awareness of these issues is the first step to changing them. As for girls "hiding" symptoms, there have been several studies that show most girls are naturally more verbal then their male peers. One of the symptoms of autism can be limited or slow to learn speech, so it can be harder to recognize in girls. That being said, another symptom can be poor ability to understand and deal with emotions, which gets boys help and girls ridiculed, i.e.; "She's just sensitive." "Girls are so overemotional, just ignore it." or "She needs to learn not to be such a drama queen, you should punish her for that attitude." So it's mostly a bit of column A, bit of column B situation. Thanks again for sharing your stories and discussing this serious problem.
When I was 12, I had undiagnosed type one diabetes. I was so fatigued and sick, that my mom rescheduled my doctors appointment so that I could go the next day instead of waiting a week. I described all my symptoms (honestly for a doctor it should have been pretty obvious that I had diabetes) and she kept telling me that I had bulimia since my most noticeable symptoms were severe weight loss and fatigue. I kept telling her that I didn't have an eating disorder, but she didn't believe me. My mom basically forced her to take a blood test, where she saw that I had an a1c of 12.9. Several doctors told me that it was a good thing that I had such a great mom, because I would have been dead within a week. I had type one diabetes, while my doctor was convinced I had bulimia and would have just sent me home anyway. Doctors make mistakes, but they should always remember that the patient knows themselves better than anyone else.
Jay that was more than just a mistake. That was a doctor looking at you and using his/her own personal issues on you. They saw your face and judged on that only. That isn't a mistake, that's breaking the oat taken the day he/she graduated.
I have seen female doctors dismiss other females in the basics of rivalry, and male doctors treat kids like they are overreacting because they are kids. It is a really sad system we live in, misled that is is supposedly good for us.
I was misdiagnosed when I had diabetes, Three weeks later, in dka, the next day I probably would have been in a coma, the doctor said that it was "an unusual presentation of diabetes" yeah no, I had pretty much all the signs and the doctor ignored my weight loss which he claimed was because he knew I was a ballerina from a previous appointment, my mum believed I had an eating disorder because high blood sugar makes me feel anxious and depressed and I wasn't eating because I felt too ill, she almost took me to the hospital for that, but after I said I had drank 5 litres in one day, she finally realised it was diabetes and hot me a second appointment
As a woman with Fibromyalgia, PCOS, cfs, GERD, cysts in her head and multiple other diagnosises this video made me cry. Hits home. Took me years, many doctors, tests, and money to find it what was wrong because the medical Community just kept telling me I was over reacting. Videos like this are needed for us so we know we aren't alone. 2e aren't the only ones going through this.
Mine along with others Anxiety and Depression is horrible I tell people about it "You're just nervous" "You're just a little sad" "You'll get over it" "It's all in your head" but in reality saying anxiety is you just being a little *nervous* or depression is just a little bit *saddess* is like someone saying oh you have cancer you're just a little sick, I guess my point is, is that "Not all pain is visible, sometimes the worst types of pain is the one that hides"
My mom's doctor didn't listen to her for two months. Her limbs would go numb, she couldn't sit straight, she was tired all the time and she had back pain. He prescribed her some back-massages to ease the pain instead of listening to her and properly examining her. On September the 3rd, 2016, my mom had a heart attack followed by two more cardiac arrests. She was in a kind of coma for months until the 27th of January 2017 when she passed away. It's been exactly a year since it happened. Miss you, mom.
EDIT: Hello everyone. Thank you so much for all the love and support, it means a lot; it really does! I'm sorry if I don't get to answer your questions. I wrote an open letter to my mom as a coping tool as I know I will never talk to her again and I'm going crazy talking to myself all the time - the letter might answer some of your questions.
rebelforkicks.com/2017/09/02/dear-mom/
If you have any questions regarding the matter, if you're going through something like this or just want to talk, feel free to message me directly, I'm more than happy to talk to you. I've been there, maybe I can help you with things nobody is telling you. Take care. Much love ❤️
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Petra Nyíriová stay strong!
JohnnyThe9th ! Thank you.
Petra Nyíriová sorry for your loss. Stay strong
Petra Nyíriová I'm so sorry for your loss!
this makes me want to cry... i just had an ovarian cyst removed. at first i was also told off by a doctor, given some painkillers... until it grew to a huge torsioned mass thanks to which most of my ovary is now gone. how can doctors not immediately run ultrasound tests when a woman says she has a blinding pain in her lower abdominal? that is so beyond me...
specially because it's not a expensive and time-consuming test
I’m currently going through it currently, it hurts so much to move
Same here. I’m going through this pain but I think it’s my endometriosis
I remember being sad when the first doctor(free, or more like payed by a gov) told me I need to get my cyst removed, and the second one told me that was the only way, and the third one that removed it. Now I appreciate them being so.. forward, is this a word?
But also I had a bad experience with a 911 operator not believing me *hanging up* and I felt like dying. In fact there was a reason huh.
Love this video thanks for all the women and everyone putting it together.
My mom thought I was okay, when I was in extreme pain in my stomach. I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease A YEAR later.
Two years ago I slipped in PE, I didn't cry because I was at a new school and didn't want to be seen as a crybaby. My foot really hurt though, but the nurse looked at me like I was stupid and over exaggerating, so I believed her when she said nothing was wrong. She said ice could fix it. Turns out I broke two bones in my foot. Still angers me.
Emma Saenz my friend had such a similar situation a year ago. She was in P.E and someone stepped on her toe. She asked the teacher if she could go to the nurse to make sure everything was alright, so she went and the nurse told her that it was a minor strain and that if she would put ice on it it would get better soon. She had fractured her toe in 8 different places. I'll let you decide if appropriate action was taken at the nurses office.
Emma Saenz omfg same thing happened to me. i was in school while i tripped and fell onto the pavement on the track really badly. my knee was bloody and my finger wasn't even facing the same direction. the school nurse had said that "everything was fine" when in reality i had to get surgery on my finger 🙃🙃🙃
Once I was in a after school program and I fell off the playground and fell on my arm. It hurt so bad. The teacher that was watching me just gave me ice. An hour later my dad picked me up and took me to the hospital because my srm was super swollen. Turns out my arm was broken.
just so you know a lot of school nurses aren't licensed professionals. all they can do is give you ice or if its obviously broken call an ambulance
I hope you went to that nurse and told her, make her looke stupid.
I got sent home not once but twice at the ER and was told I was wasting their time and they're only their to help if someone's dying.. a day later I went into emergency surgery at another hospital, turns out it was cancer.
i hope you're coping alright, truly infuriating how people are treated as such
I know the feeling. I had a similar situation.
how are you now??
Will you be ok? I hope you'll be ok! Good luck! You'll get through it!
Jordan Link I had went through 3 more surgeries and 4 months of chemo. As of this past April I'm officially in remission!
I chipped a tooth a few days after my dad did, and my mom just said "she's just saying that bc you chipped a tooth, Matt. Don't listen to her,she's a child"
I just might specialize in ob/gyn ....gotta be there for my people with uteruses 😍
Im actually feeling kinda skeptical about doing my residency in the us now..
Edit. Spelling
Lol.. uterii* ?
Good job and good luck! I’m a 4th year medical student studying in the UK, and I would hate to work in the US where I know my care could bankrupt someone
@@anieee96 As someone who was born and raised in the U.S. who is considered middle class (between 200%-400% above our federal poverty level) I am eligible for significant assistance in most U.S. hospitals. I've always had ER and hospital bills covered at at least 60%. I recently had to visit the ER 3 times and those visits will be forgiven completely. If you are poor and impoverished - you can absolutely get help - and usually will not have to pay a dime out-of-pocket. There is also free insurance for those who qualify. The only difference between socialized healthcare and healthcare in the USA is that I don't have to wait to be seen.