How to write a eulogy | Bret Simner | TEDxBasel

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  • Most people have never thought about what they would do in the moment if they were called upon to deliver a eulogy. Bret Simner tells not only how you can structure and deliver a eulogy but also why you should do it. Bret Simner was born in New York City and has lived in Basel for over 17 years. His education includes bachelor and master’s degrees from the Juilliard School and a doctorate from Stony Brook University. His eclectic work experience ranges from milking cows and bailing hay to playing music on stages such as Carnegie Hall and Versailles. When not teaching music at the Swiss International School, Bret spends his time trying to keep up with his daughter’s scooting and his son’s fastball. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @JohnJones-gu3rs
    @JohnJones-gu3rs Рік тому +226

    i’m 20 years old and writing a eulogy for my sister, I can’t stress enough how much this video helped me. thank you

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +10

      I’m so glad it helped and so so sorry for what you’re going through. ❤️

    • @dirkhaesevoets
      @dirkhaesevoets Рік тому

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    • @ninagracie7771
      @ninagracie7771 Рік тому +3

      I
      I wish you lots of love and healing ❤️

    • @siriuslysims
      @siriuslysims Рік тому +6

      I'm sorry for your loss. I'm writing my Dad's. So I'm here too. Glad it's useful.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +2

      @@siriuslysims Hang in there. You've got this.

  • @abrahamifroze8775
    @abrahamifroze8775 2 місяці тому +21

    I'm 17, preparing a Eulogy for my Father. Wish me luck everybody.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 місяці тому

      That's way too young to have to do that. So sorry for your loss. Hang in there.

    • @marydavis3764
      @marydavis3764 8 днів тому +2

      How did it go?

    • @carlymonster9
      @carlymonster9 7 днів тому +1

      Sending love

  • @iemandanders6471
    @iemandanders6471 2 місяці тому +4

    Im 34 years old writing the eulogy for my mother, my only family member. I will do everytthing in my power to make it work

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 місяці тому

      I'm sure you will be amazing. Good luck and hang in there! B

  • @Deaky13
    @Deaky13 2 роки тому +105

    I'm 26 years old preparing to write my husband's eulogy, and this was so helpful. Thank you.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +13

      Wow, I'm so so sorry. I'm glad that this was helpful and wish you strength and warmth in this difficult time.

    • @finshady227
      @finshady227 2 роки тому +6

      I’m so sorry

    • @bighairswagg
      @bighairswagg 2 роки тому +4

      Sorry for the lost of your husband may you continue to heal

  • @salvatorecreative2902
    @salvatorecreative2902 Рік тому +18

    I delivered a Eulogy for my mother's funeral. It was the proudest moment of my life

  • @OrlandoMGarcia
    @OrlandoMGarcia 3 роки тому +33

    My Grandfather died yesterday, what a great advice to make honor to his memory

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 3 роки тому +4

      I'm so glad. That's why this talk is here--for those who need it.

    • @OrlandoMGarcia
      @OrlandoMGarcia 3 роки тому +3

      @@bretsimner754 Thank you Brent!!

    • @noahnavarrete3412
      @noahnavarrete3412 2 роки тому +5

      Sorry for your loss

    • @deesabee
      @deesabee 2 роки тому +2

      Me too. Grandpa died yesterday. Loved hearing these words.

    • @rickd4900
      @rickd4900 2 роки тому +1

      @@deesabee my grandfather passed a week ago so I’m in the same position 😓

  • @shahzadperez942
    @shahzadperez942 2 роки тому +13

    THIS HAS SO MUCH VALUE!!! Thank you for sharing this slice of such experienced wisdom for a difficult moment!

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much, Shahzad. I'm so glad that this was a help to you.

    • @kellogs342
      @kellogs342 Рік тому

      ever played football ?

  • @swankehlou
    @swankehlou 2 роки тому +16

    Thank you so much for this, Bret. My grandfather passed away yesterday, and we cremated him and deposited him into his crypt today. My emotions and thoughts are all over the place, but after watching this, it has helped me cope and write a great eulogy to honor him.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +3

      I'm so so glad that this was a help for you. Those first days are w whirlwind where it's difficult to think straight. Bravo to you for finding the energy and clarity of mind to honor your grandfather one last time.

    • @joareboo6253
      @joareboo6253 2 роки тому +1

      bret is my school music teacher lol

  • @walker675
    @walker675 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you so much for this. I have to give the eulogy at my grandmother's funeral. Im so scared of breaking down. Ill practice and practice to try and keep the emotions buried until im finished.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 4 місяці тому

      This is a tricky one: On the one hand you don't want to totally keep the emotions buried, however, on the other, you want to be able to physically make it through the moment. In the past, I chose to stay humorous and warm until the final thoughts. However, after presenting this talk, I had to give the eulogy for my mother. There, I let the emotional material come earlier, not following my own advice. That is a mistake that almost cost me....I had to take a break, then a deep breath---only then I was able to get back on track. Sorry that you're going through this; I'm sure you were great.

  • @albertlopez4307
    @albertlopez4307 Рік тому +6

    Bret,
    I watched your video the day before I had to give my dad's Eulogy. I had already my thoughts on paper, but "bringing them back to life" was what I was missing. Thank you and I am sorry for your loss as well.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +2

      I'm so glad that this was helpful. So sorry for the loss of your father.

  • @caleb-zq2jy
    @caleb-zq2jy 2 місяці тому +1

    Im 18 preparing an eulogy for my best mate whos just passed this has helped so much

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 місяці тому +1

      I'm so so sorry that you have to go through that. Hang in there.

  • @lxdeuropeanlifebydesign1616
    @lxdeuropeanlifebydesign1616 Рік тому +5

    this video really helped me write my eulogy for my dad i cant thank you enough

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      I’m so glad this helped. Hang in there-one day at a time….

  • @taylorschaefer8927
    @taylorschaefer8927 2 роки тому +6

    Hey, this was a great video. I am preparing to give my first eulogy tomorrow, and this video was super helpful. Thank you.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +2

      I'm so glad that this was helpful to you.. Cheers to you for sharing with those close to you. You've got this! :)

  • @sebastiansmith52
    @sebastiansmith52 2 роки тому +2

    My best friend has just passed away today(he was 17). I couldn't talk to him for a few months. My school is in another state. And when her mom said to me he died. I felt broken. I wanna say something at his funeral. And your video helped me a lot. Thank you.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +2

      I‘m so sorry for what you’re going through. I’m glad this helped a bit. This is an immense amount to go through at any age, not even to mention 17. Hang in there and give yourself time to process and heal.

  • @DK-rk8ie
    @DK-rk8ie 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this talk. It helped a ton when I was trying to write my brother's eulogy. I appreciate you for what you do.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 11 місяців тому +1

      Your brother? That's a difficult one. So glad that this was helpful.

    • @DK-rk8ie
      @DK-rk8ie 11 місяців тому +1

      @@bretsimner754 he was also 32 years older than me, so he was both a father figure and a brother.

    • @DK-rk8ie
      @DK-rk8ie 11 місяців тому +1

      @@bretsimner754 you do a wonderful service with this talk.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 11 місяців тому +1

      @@DK-rk8ie Thanks so much for your supportive feedback. This talk was supposed to be just that--support for those who need it when they don't know where to start.

  • @maxbryk6948
    @maxbryk6948 Рік тому +1

    Almost finished the eulogy now and I kinda hit all the points. I have some zingers in there and my catholic grandpa may get mad at me but she was my mom and I know how she would have wanted everything

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      You know her better than anyone! You've got this!

  • @lisaz6832
    @lisaz6832 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much ❤

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 місяці тому

      You're welcome. I'm so glad that this was helpful.

  • @Patatashh
    @Patatashh Рік тому +1

    What about writing a eulogy for your self?

  • @monaiannucci9434
    @monaiannucci9434 Рік тому +1

    Amen thank you

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      Thanks to you for watching and for your support.

  • @MichaelCalvillo-s9g
    @MichaelCalvillo-s9g 13 днів тому

    Alfred Stravenue

  • @RoyWeinberger-s6q
    @RoyWeinberger-s6q 14 днів тому

    Donnelly Brook

  • @HughJessica-h9q
    @HughJessica-h9q 14 днів тому

    Cremin Cliffs

  • @HertyElmer-i1c
    @HertyElmer-i1c 10 днів тому

    Seamus Inlet

  • @LanceWhite-g1t
    @LanceWhite-g1t 9 днів тому

    Madyson Wall

  • @KarenZepeda-z9m
    @KarenZepeda-z9m 9 днів тому

    Beer Expressway

  • @ErikaCordoba-e5n
    @ErikaCordoba-e5n 8 днів тому

    Kreiger Springs

  • @PamelaSimmons-v8e
    @PamelaSimmons-v8e 13 днів тому

    Irma Forks

  • @darrenabel4613
    @darrenabel4613 Рік тому

    And/or "he's dead now any prayers" yep

  • @KimberlyKing-w1x
    @KimberlyKing-w1x 26 днів тому

    Mertz Parkways

  • @SylvainSybaris
    @SylvainSybaris 5 місяців тому

    Bringing up that horrible Dem/Lib Opooprah person caused me to end this video.

    • @doug3512
      @doug3512 3 місяці тому

      That's ok. You wouldn't have understood the point anyway.

    • @SylvainSybaris
      @SylvainSybaris 3 місяці тому

      @@doug3512 ... There is no logic with Dems & Libs, and they all lie, so sure, it's futile to even attempt to comprehend a Dem/Lib, and thus, there is no valid "point" as you say.

  • @doug3512
    @doug3512 3 місяці тому +20

    In the last 4 years, I have been tasked with eulogizing my father and my mother.
    I think one important piece that is missing is that it's completely normal and ok to have some moments where your emotions are overwhelming. With that said, it's also important to know your limits. If you can't get through it, please ask someone else to do it. There's no shame in saying, "I don't think I can do this at this time."
    If you're reading these comments because you're sitting down writing the eulogy for a loved one, I am sorry for your loss and wish you peace.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 3 місяці тому

      Dear Doug, thanks so much for adding this thought and for being part of the conversation. I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. B

    • @normabridges1724
      @normabridges1724 Місяць тому

      Thank you

  • @evastood4539
    @evastood4539 Рік тому +71

    3:27
    1. Bring them back to life
    2. Tell a story
    3. Say what they meant to you

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +6

      Thanks for this!

    • @terrinicolee8969
      @terrinicolee8969 2 місяці тому

      Ouuu thank you so much I needed this I’m taking public speaking and I have to write a eulogy and 4 other types of speeches

    • @drshaw5562
      @drshaw5562 28 днів тому

      ...Or just sit still and watch a four-minute video.

  • @Burritosarebetterthantacos
    @Burritosarebetterthantacos Рік тому +31

    Im reading my Fathers eulogy tomorrow. Im a nervous wreck but it must be done. My dad deserves it. Its a tight 10 minute tribute.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +6

      10 minutes is plenty. I'm sure it was amazing.

  • @claudiah.2935
    @claudiah.2935 2 роки тому +96

    Gave my first eulogy at my grandpa’s funeral a few hours ago and I can say with 1000% certainty that it would not have been as powerful had I not watched this video a few times before I wrote it. I can’t thank you enough for your help, Bret. Your wisdom has impacted so many people! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +3

      Dear Claudia, I'm so very glad that this was helpful to you. 😍It is so hard to put something together and deliver it while going through the first stages of mourning. Cheers to you for managing. Wishing you all the best for all the firsts of that year after losing a loved one. Sincerely, B

    • @momzilla9491
      @momzilla9491 Рік тому +5

      @claudiah.2935
      Thank you for sharing. My husband's funeral is this Friday.
      Right now I am so traumatized that all I can see/feel/hear was that awful moment that feels like it will never end. Like you, I'm going to watch and rewatch
      this lesson so my eulogy isn't about my grief, it's about the greatest man I have ever know.

    • @claudiah.2935
      @claudiah.2935 Рік тому +2

      @@momzilla9491 I am so sorry for your loss and can’t imagine what you must be going through right now. Tell everyone about the wonderful man who you had (have) the privilege of loving. Share the sweet things that no one else got to see; your best memories together, the silly little things he did. It may be one of the most heart-wrenchingly difficult things you’ll ever do, but you only have to speak your eulogy one time. Just once. And you will feel some weight lifted off of you when you’re up there smiling and speaking so adoringly of him. You are going to do great. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. So many hugs to you and your loved ones during this devastating time. ❤️

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +1

      @@momzilla9491 I'm just seeing this now. So sorry and I am sure it was from the heart.

    • @JensTVMusic-lvo7u
      @JensTVMusic-lvo7u 8 місяців тому

      I literally watched this video more than once when I read your comment! I'm now so glad I watched this video more than once and I see what you mean! Thank you for saying that!

  • @ParadoxBoxx
    @ParadoxBoxx Рік тому +39

    I never thought I would be giving a eulogy for my my mom at 21 but I'm here nonetheless. Thank you so much Bret for this easy to digest and concise video. Hoping for the best.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      You'll be great. This is way too early for you to have to do this. Get through the day. The real mourning starts in the year of firsts afterwards. You've got this.

    • @Mptappin12
      @Mptappin12 Рік тому +2

      I’m writing one for my dad I’m 16

    • @ParadoxBoxx
      @ParadoxBoxx Рік тому +1

      @@Mptappin12 I’m sorry for your loss

  • @DavidBrown-xo3ql
    @DavidBrown-xo3ql Місяць тому +2

    Bret,
    Thank you for posting such a positive and inspiring video. It was an enormous help.
    For a short moment, you helped me to bring my father-in-law back to life.
    I shared a few great stories of him with a room full of family and friends, and then I said my final goodbye.
    For me, it was an emotional roller coaster, a mixture of happiness and joy, and then finishing with the last paragraph, a barely controlled sensation of grief and loss.
    It was hard but worth every second, and which I am proud to have been able to say that day.
    You sir, helped to get me through it, and I cannot thank you enough, you too should be proud.
    Thank you.😊

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Місяць тому

      Hello David, I am proud indeed to cone into contact with such amazing people like you!

  • @kk-zb6ue
    @kk-zb6ue Рік тому +8

    I’m reading a eulogy for my wife tomorrow, wish me luck !!

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +1

      Good luck. That's a tough one. Hugs to you. You've got this.

  • @chriscollins48
    @chriscollins48 3 місяці тому +2

    I've given eulogies for both parents and high school buddy and now I'm giving one for my brother in two days. (6/17/24). I'm most anxious about the microphone quality in the facility and whether people will be able to hear me ok. It's hard to do but my brother deserves it. He was so courageous battling a brain tumor for 15 months.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 3 місяці тому

      I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I'm equally sorry that you've had to do this so many times. Nonetheless, bravo to you for honoring your loved ones so nobly. Sincerely, Bret

    • @chriscollins48
      @chriscollins48 3 місяці тому +1

      @@bretsimner754 Thanks Bret. I thought I might get emotional towards the end of my talk but the emotion came much quicker. Ended up using a hand held mic which turned out well. I received a lot of nice compliments and one guy even told me he wants me to give his eulogy. So glad I did it even though the anxiety leading up to it was significant.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 місяці тому

      @@chriscollins48 So proud of you for pulling it off!

  • @johnlocke4715
    @johnlocke4715 5 місяців тому +6

    Incredible. Thank you so much Mr. Simner for your help. My Grandmother passed away and I’m still in shock, as she meant so much to me, but I wanted to say something at her funeral tomorrow. This was incredible helpful.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 5 місяців тому

      Dear John, It's really humbling to hear that this was helpful to you. I'm really sorry for the loss of your grandmother.

  • @Berriesinthewoods
    @Berriesinthewoods 20 днів тому +2

    These comments are heart wrenching - we are here together, thank you for sharing your love and sincerity.

  • @AlvinBattle33
    @AlvinBattle33 Місяць тому +2

    This really helped. Thank You!

  • @elysiadesire
    @elysiadesire 2 роки тому +10

    So sorry for everyone’s loss here in the comments. My 2yr old cousin just passed away from brain cancer and I’m trying to right something really special..

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +1

      My gosh, that is a horribly profound lost. Here's wishing you strength in this difficult stretch.

    • @MontyRaeSp8
      @MontyRaeSp8 2 роки тому +1

      My mother passed away from brain cancer as well. I hope that you're able to help and find peace.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +1

      @@MontyRaeSp8 So sorry.

    • @justinneilsonn2665
      @justinneilsonn2665 2 місяці тому

      Was she vaxxed? It's crazy what they do to newborns.

    • @joannemcnamara4272
      @joannemcnamara4272 Місяць тому

      @@justinneilsonn2665wtf is wrong with you.

  • @ryanmarksfishlord654
    @ryanmarksfishlord654 Рік тому +10

    17 years old had to give a eulogy for my father thanks for the tips, had to write a quick one but it was simple and powerful, especially since I was the only one whose gave a speech it was pretty awesome 😊

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      17. Wow, that's early to have to do this. Glad the video was helpful. Hang in there and all the best to you for getting through the first year.

  • @Glaucomacarecenter
    @Glaucomacarecenter 3 роки тому +18

    Bret you are amazing. Such clarity and wisdom in just a few short minutes. Thank you!!

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 3 роки тому +4

      Thanks so much! II wanted this to be short since those who might be looking for the info shouldn't have to sit through anything long.

  • @We_play_PoGo
    @We_play_PoGo Рік тому +6

    My teacher is goated I love that he’s helping people

  • @jonestraloma
    @jonestraloma Рік тому +10

    Thank you for this. I’ve told dozens of speeches. Won awards and contests. But this has been the hardest one I ever had to write.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      That's the thing: It doesn't actually get any more difficult than this. Hang in there, B

  • @billwright5347
    @billwright5347 Місяць тому +1

    Hi Bret, Thank you so much for such amazing advice. Had to write my mom's eulogy and deliver it today. Your thought process was incredibly helpful. Kindest regards!

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Місяць тому

      So glad this helped. Losing a mother is really rough. Warmest thoughts to you. B

  • @JohnJApanovitch
    @JohnJApanovitch 2 роки тому +10

    My great grandfather passed away literally just recently, and I wanted to write and deliver a eulogy in his memory and honor. As a writer, I know I didn't have to, but he was so close to me, so I felt obligated to.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +4

      I'm sure you did a great job. So glad you went for it. So sorry for the loss of your great grandfather.

  • @georginaohanlon1259
    @georginaohanlon1259 2 роки тому +8

    I'm writing my beloved Mother's eulogy at this moment, very nervous of the delivery - thank you for the advice Bret. I hope I do her proud.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +1

      Dear Georgina, I'm sure you will!❤

    • @georginaohanlon1259
      @georginaohanlon1259 2 роки тому +4

      @@bretsimner754 I did it! Thank you so much for your inspirational words.

  • @itsgeorgeoliver
    @itsgeorgeoliver 3 дні тому +1

    Damn I have no idea how you ended up making a ted talk on this subject, but this was great. Very helpful and cleary for a lot of other people. Thank you Bret

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 дні тому

      I only did this because there was so little information out there on the topic and I wanted people to have it. :)

  • @justicebuster9871
    @justicebuster9871 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you, preparing to write my fathers .. still very much stuck. This helps.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +3

      I'm so glad. That's why I wanted to put this out there. Remember: Leave the emotional material for the end... That will make it easier to pace yourself on an extremely emotional day. You've got this. B

  • @davecoug2000
    @davecoug2000 5 місяців тому +1

    I let others do a eulogy for my father because it was too overwhelming. I'm doing one this weekend for my best friend who passed. Your video has helped me immensely. I wish I had seen it upon my dads passing because I would have done it.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 5 місяців тому

      It's all a process---we're evolving along with our capabilities. Glad this helped and even more glad that you went for it!

  • @rsanchezfin
    @rsanchezfin Рік тому +9

    I just did my First Eulogy for my Dad. Could not have done it any better without seeing the video a couple of times. Ty!

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. So glad that this was helpful. I intentionally made the video as short as possible seeing as people would want something compact when dealing with the circumstances. Hang in there. B

    • @theresemcnerney7961
      @theresemcnerney7961 Рік тому +2

      My husband passed away October 3rd of 2020..I did my Eulogy quite honestly on FB while he was still alive.. My children all spoke so eloquently at His funeral and I was so impressed with their strength to do such and yes some tears were shed but lots of laughter too. My heart goes out to us all at such times of enormous sadness but may the Lord bless us all as we give honor to our loved ones as I will now have to at one of my best friends’ funeral. I have know her for 56 years and it is going to be so difficult but this summary is helping me to structure a meaningful tribute to a truly great friend/sister..Thanks

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +1

      @@theresemcnerney7961 My gosh, what a story. I'm really humbled to be able to help in any way. Hang in there. Sincerely, Bret

  • @Ozzedwall
    @Ozzedwall Рік тому +4

    I have to write a eulogy for my public speaking class. using this to figure it out, wish me luck.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +2

      Good luck. That is a rather unusual assignment. I'd love to hear how the journey unfolds for you.

  • @DonzellLampkins
    @DonzellLampkins 8 місяців тому +4

    I am giving a eulogy for my mother today at 11 am cst. I am honored, yet still in disbelief. Thank you for this video.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 8 місяців тому

      You're welcome. I'm so glad that this was helpful. I trust that you did an amazing job.

  • @brendonwertz7257
    @brendonwertz7257 Місяць тому +1

    I’m 21 years old. One of my childhood best friends passed away when we were both 17 from Covid in 2020. I never got to attend her funeral because I moved 3 hours away. I never got to say goodbye. So this is more than a grade to me. It’s me getting to say goodbye to my best friend. To a room full of people who never had the honor of knowing her is a little weird but I guess it’ll do.
    Update: I asked her for a sign the day I delivered my speech. She sent me the most beautiful rainbow and sunset I’ve ever seen

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Місяць тому +1

      Do it! You'll be great!

    • @brendonwertz7257
      @brendonwertz7257 Місяць тому +1

      @@bretsimner754 I did it and I got an 89 and it was one of the hardest college classes I’ve taken so far. I thought I was gonna fail 😭

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Місяць тому

      @@brendonwertz7257 To be fair, that would be pretty heartless for a teacher to not recognize your bravery. Hats off to you for both doing this and for taking such an important step in the mourning process.

  • @balboa4092
    @balboa4092 Рік тому +4

    This is awesome. My dad is dying and asked me to talk in front of hundreds about him I'm so scared to do this, and hope I wont cry and ruin it.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      You've got this. So sorry for what you're going through.

    • @sashamarie266
      @sashamarie266 Рік тому +1

      You will prepare yourself so you don't have anxiety...eat something and breath..I'm preparing myself to write my aunts

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      @@sashamarie266 So sorry.

  • @gititgiitit5450
    @gititgiitit5450 2 роки тому +3

    When I die I'm going to give me the best eulogy and in closing I'm going to say "I only wish I had enough time to erase my search history."

  • @eyeamking3333
    @eyeamking3333 Місяць тому +1

    I'm Writing my Mother's Eulogy Today and Needed this Pep Talk and Direction. Thanks 🙏🏿

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Місяць тому

      So sorry. I'm really glad that this helped. Hang in there.

  • @donnamj69
    @donnamj69 2 роки тому +5

    My Dad just asked me to do his eulogy. It is a strained relationship and I am not sure why he picked me. Other that to remember that he was a good guy in the end. Thank you for your help with the cadence of how it should be done.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +5

      I hear you. This is particularly difficult when there are unresolved issues. I was going to mention this but wanted to keep the talk compact. The actual mourning process, in my opinion, starts after the funeral and the eulogy. This talk was intended to be a tool to get through the funeral. After that comes the year of "first times" without the person you lost. This is the most challenging part. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. 🙂

  • @imcoolness.
    @imcoolness. 7 місяців тому +1

    i have to write one for my school on the outsiders about johhny and dallas

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    @dukeelmers6045 10 днів тому

    Johathan Divide

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    @BackTony-z4w 23 дні тому

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  • @rronanmac
    @rronanmac 2 роки тому +5

    What was the quote for your fathere?

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +6

      Thanks for asking. This is my point--that we only need to be able to say (or write! 🙂) a eulogy one time!

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    @MorleyMalcolm-m9r 9 днів тому

    Kassandra Tunnel

  • @chenaraseepersad3482
    @chenaraseepersad3482 11 місяців тому +1

    Well here I am at 11:43 the night before my husbands funeral trying to figure out the words to say

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 11 місяців тому

      I'm so so sorry that you're going through this. I hope and trust it went well. Feel free to share with others here how it went. Hang in there.

  • @tinag4200
    @tinag4200 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for this Bret. Currently writing my brothers eulogy. It's hard to find the words.. Sound advice here

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому +1

      Dear Tina, I'm so glad that this was a help. So sorry to you for the loss of your brother. That's a rough one for sure.

  • @darrenabel4613
    @darrenabel4613 Рік тому +1

    Mu eulogy "well he was a good man" that's if friends show up😊

  • @tj921able
    @tj921able 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this. I am preparing to write ✍️ a eulogy for my brother. This was very informative and helpful. God Bless You and stay safe 🙏 ❤️

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 5 місяців тому +1

      Blessings to you as well. I'm so very glad that this was helpful to you. The loss of a sibling is a particularly difficult one to take.

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    @HarryGuzman-r6k 3 дні тому

    Cremin Plain

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    @NoddinSummit-r9l Місяць тому

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  • @courtney3974
    @courtney3974 2 роки тому +4

    I have watched many videos about this topic, and this was the most helpful. Thank you for this. Incredibly grateful.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +1

      I'm so glad. I have to deliver my mother's eulogy today, so I get to put this into practice again. 🤞

    • @courtney3974
      @courtney3974 2 роки тому +2

      @@bretsimner754 I'm so sorry about your mother. May her memory be a blessing.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +2

      @@courtney3974 Thanks so much!

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    @BelleWill-d4z 3 дні тому

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    @ArchibaldEli-u1u 14 днів тому

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  • @jonahonyeuko9250
    @jonahonyeuko9250 Рік тому +1

    Writing one for my father at 21. This is my first step in becoming a man.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 Рік тому

      Though that's what they say, it still doesn't male it any easier. So sorry you have to do this so young.

  • @brycepeddicord6763
    @brycepeddicord6763 2 роки тому +2

    My best friend died at 27. I think I wrote a better eulogy than this. It's light then gets dark then stays dark but I learn and we learn from the darkness and get a little light

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +1

      That's a great thought, Bryce. Thanks for sharing.

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    @RossBenefiel-w2l 8 годин тому

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    Parisian Creek

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    @ShayneBarbian-r4q День тому

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  • @shekharmoona544
    @shekharmoona544 2 роки тому +4

    I'm literally writing my grandmother's eulogy right now. I probably only spent 5 weeks of my entire life with her that I recall. At first I felt that I couldn't encapsulate her legacy accurately. Here I am persevering the same way she did.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +2

      Every situation is different. There is no "right" experience and no "correct" way to deal with this time. Hang in there; you've got this.

    • @interdimensionalentity2134
      @interdimensionalentity2134 2 роки тому +2

      I’m in a very similar situation right now. If you’ve held it already can you maybe give me some tips?

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 2 роки тому +3

      @@interdimensionalentity2134 Wait--isn't that what the talk was about? :) Seriously though, just be sure to leave anything emotional until the very end., That way, you can be sure that you have the capacities to deliver the whole thing. Hang in there. B

    • @interdimensionalentity2134
      @interdimensionalentity2134 2 роки тому +2

      @@bretsimner754 yeah haha thanks

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    @MarcusFerrell-t2d День тому

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    @StephenBeverly-r6k 5 днів тому

    Verdie Avenue

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    Hollis Parkways

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  • @projectstoicism
    @projectstoicism 7 місяців тому +1

    Giving the Eulogy at the funeral for my childhood best friend in two days. This gave me some things to think about.

    • @bretsimner754
      @bretsimner754 7 місяців тому

      I'm so glad this helped. So so sorry that you have to go through this.

    • @projectstoicism
      @projectstoicism 7 місяців тому +1

      @@bretsimner754 We all have to go through these things multiple times. All that we can hope to be is useful for those in need.

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