On Pity

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  • Опубліковано 1 тра 2024
  • Talking about pity (and why it's not always a good thing)from a disabled perspective.

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  • @tlholegomophule
    @tlholegomophule 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank You❤

    • @ACrownofFlowers
      @ACrownofFlowers  2 місяці тому +2

      You're welcome. I should be recording that video on being lonely pretty soon for you. I remember you asked me about that.

  • @mariemerchel2508
    @mariemerchel2508 3 місяці тому +7

    Interesting and intelligent thoughts. Thank u for sharing.

  • @Hankuu
    @Hankuu 3 місяці тому +2

    Bro got bigger forearms than even mee
    Bro not only got the brains but superior muscle mass too. Also, very good video about your thoughts.
    Keep going king ✊👑👑

  • @JordanAfifi
    @JordanAfifi 2 місяці тому +3

    From the definitions I believe you could have pity, compassion, and respect all at the same time and it'd still make sense but most times pity is all that can take place because there's nothing you can do to change the situation which is the main reason pity happens most times

    • @ACrownofFlowers
      @ACrownofFlowers  2 місяці тому +2

      Well, I guess I'm arguing the exact opposite. Most of the time there is stuff people can do to change the situation-they just don't want to. It doesn't have to be as drastic as say-making me walk or something, but I just mean checking up on me or coming to visit me, or inviting me out to do something.

  • @wodtozack1347
    @wodtozack1347 2 місяці тому +3

    yea, lots of people do it to feel better off themselves, but there is still people that does things good things not for pity but for altruism is what i think, even if there is almost no one that follows that ideology xd

    • @ACrownofFlowers
      @ACrownofFlowers  2 місяці тому +1

      I agree. I wasn't trying to make it seem like those people don't exist-but as you say-they are few and far between.

  • @patricksullivan1827
    @patricksullivan1827 2 місяці тому +3

    My thoughts: I guess there is a certain part of me that feels pity for you, for example. I feel bad that you struggle more than i do, i think. But in a way i think that that makes it more about me then you. I cant sit with the discomfort that i project.
    I think everyone has their own trip or life suffering, journey or whatever. I guess rather than pity i could just be open to Others perspective and i could allow for the other that i felt pity towards to just open up and express themselves however they know how. Perhaps that's where the compassion comes in. Like a live and let live scenario. You might be feeling good and thinking about them cats of yours, haha. Meanwhile i come in and make things awkward by pitying you... Sort of ruins a moment hey!
    Haha, i wonder if too much suffering is from worrying about Others in a way that is more like the Other in our head doesn't get what we want them to, so we feel bad. So its like i put on a mask and run that mask as a character in my faery tale.
    There is some empathy still i think because human experience is common enough. We all want to have intimacy with another and be loved. But in this way pity merely acts as a another person (in my mind) that i subject or compare my suffering to... Maybe it makes us feel somewhat social and understood.... But we should call it what it is... Pity then seems more about the person pitying. Thats sort of what i think your saying.
    I appreciate you doing these vids pal. Interesting perspective. You have my blessings and i think ive gotten rid of the pity and move on to just me wishing you well. I hope you enjoy those certain beautiful moments life throws at all of us from time to time...
    Like a cozy metaphysical blanket and spirit that flickers by and winks just enough to keep the mystery going. 😮🎉😊

    • @ACrownofFlowers
      @ACrownofFlowers  2 місяці тому +2

      I get what you're saying. Like I said, I think pity, just like every other human emotion has its place. It's just that people don't really act on it after the initial feeling is gone-it's more about whether or not you use pity to permanently change your behavior-that's what I'm primarily concerned with here. And I appreciate that, I hope this video allows you to reach out to disabled people in your community.

    • @patricksullivan1827
      @patricksullivan1827 2 місяці тому +2

      @@ACrownofFlowers oh ok..actually that part I was kind of confused.. but you definitely cleared it up now. The action part I mean. Nice 👍🙂, actually that works with any emotion now that you mention it.

    • @ACrownofFlowers
      @ACrownofFlowers  2 місяці тому

      @@patricksullivan1827 😁😺

    • @godgetti
      @godgetti 7 днів тому +1

      @patricksullivan1827 Deepest comment on this vid, I enjoyed it! Isn't cool that Gabe provides this space for us to process these thought! I wrote a poem recently, I think you'd like it:
      At the edge of Edgeless,
      burdens became vapor,
      enemies a mirage,
      truths griffonage.
      For the Edgeless has no edge.
      -chris