I regard the infantilisation of disabled people like a micro-agression, so whilst it's not as bad as out-right hate, these little micro-agressions can build up and get to you and potentially mess you up to the point of affecting how you see yourself. Imagine if adults randomly patted other nondisabled adults on the head in the middle of M&S - they'd be like "what the bleep are you doing?!". It's always odd to me how we are often seen as non-sexual beings - like they do know we're human right?! lol. This was a great talk Gem!
Gem, you've given another enlightening video. I'm sure that your being open about your feelings and experiences are helpful not only to yourself but to others. You are human, with the same feelings, ambitions and desires everyone else has. You have as much right as anyone to be loved, respected and understood. You have much to give to the world, and to anyone who seeks to share a life with you. Please continue this dialogue. All the best to you.
Hi Gem, thanks for being so open and honest. Lots of what you said resonates, even as a disabled man. Hearing your experiences reinforces that society really needs to stop accepting this open aggressive sexualisation of (disabled) women. The fact that people are still feeling unsafe because of such things are a testament for the need to do something
As a BBS person as well I have similar. Its the norm people don't ask me about having a girlfriend, job etc. I think a lot of it is people being scared to ask in case they hurt feelings etc. On another angle, seems to be less of an issue in the US, people were much more comfortable with at least some of those conversations when I visited that country a lot a few years ago.
I regard the infantilisation of disabled people like a micro-agression, so whilst it's not as bad as out-right hate, these little micro-agressions can build up and get to you and potentially mess you up to the point of affecting how you see yourself. Imagine if adults randomly patted other nondisabled adults on the head in the middle of M&S - they'd be like "what the bleep are you doing?!". It's always odd to me how we are often seen as non-sexual beings - like they do know we're human right?! lol. This was a great talk Gem!
Gem, you've given another enlightening video. I'm sure that your being open about your feelings and experiences are helpful not only to yourself but to others.
You are human, with the same feelings, ambitions and desires everyone else has. You have as much right as anyone to be loved, respected and understood. You have much to give to the world, and to anyone who seeks to share a life with you.
Please continue this dialogue. All the best to you.
Aw I really appreciate that thank you Herbert 🥰🩷
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Hi Gem, thanks for being so open and honest. Lots of what you said resonates, even as a disabled man. Hearing your experiences reinforces that society really needs to stop accepting this open aggressive sexualisation of (disabled) women. The fact that people are still feeling unsafe because of such things are a testament for the need to do something
Thank you for your support, it means a lot!
As a BBS person as well I have similar. Its the norm people don't ask me about having a girlfriend, job etc. I think a lot of it is people being scared to ask in case they hurt feelings etc. On another angle, seems to be less of an issue in the US, people were much more comfortable with at least some of those conversations when I visited that country a lot a few years ago.
Being young visually disabled woman does seem to show public at their worse. And that mix of being a child and sexual comments etc.
Yeah it can be tiring sometimes but it’s nice to be able to share it now as I’m older
hello, how are you doing today mate gem?