Dear Future Wifey Podcast 109: Timing Is Everything (K.C. Fox)

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  • @antonnishingles2412
    @antonnishingles2412 3 роки тому +42

    She is simply being honest that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. Doesn’t means she’s hurt, guarded, etc. Until she is ready, she’s being responsible to not involve herself with anyone knowing she’s not in that place. It’s possible to be single and complete.

    • @TOwens132
      @TOwens132 Рік тому

      I agree. It kind of bothered me hearing it be said that her being her genuine self was “sad” some people really do have the gift of singleness. I commend her.

  • @faithlcockrell2332
    @faithlcockrell2332 4 роки тому +58

    I can totally relate to KC. Sometimes you can be soo comfortable with your life being peaceful that it’ll take a very special someone to make you entertain even the thought of a relationship ☺️

    • @cherylpgh9155
      @cherylpgh9155 Рік тому +1

      Exactly! I was cruising the last 11 years, peaceful and happy before I met someone who I knew would compliment me and safeguard my peace.

  • @ktpris5754
    @ktpris5754 4 роки тому +66

    I totally agree with her. I've been saying I don't want to get married since age eight. Date for what? Not everyone has the goal of being a wife or mother or the desire to be sexually active. Unfortunately, society influences women to believe that our only value is to play prescribed roles that have nothing to do with our desires and purpose. If it's not what you desire, do not conform. Do not live someone else's life due to societal pressure.

    • @lukemawiatherton9882
      @lukemawiatherton9882 3 роки тому +2

      I completely understand because my aunt’s life was devoted to living for Jesus and serving. She dedicated her life to helping children in our family. I was the last child because of her love and obedience to Christ. Jesus is my Lord and savior today. Amen

  • @Doug5614
    @Doug5614 3 роки тому +24

    As smart and lovely as she is, she's not relationship material. As long as she's mentally prepared to remain alone. There's nothing wrong with that as long as she embraces her truth.

  • @laj4186
    @laj4186 4 роки тому +33

    There are a number of loners and introverts who are truly happy this way.

    • @amymcgraw9656
      @amymcgraw9656 3 роки тому +3

      Remain true to yourself !!! it’s a beautiful thing !!!

    • @RoyallyHis
      @RoyallyHis Рік тому

      👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • @joe103060
    @joe103060 4 роки тому +32

    That was so good. I can relate to her in so many ways. I like that she doesn't waste men's time having useless dates. Her intentions are honest from the beginning. What more can you ask for? Honesty. I love your love letters at the end. I am starting to watch these videos before I rest for the night. Truly enjoying them. Thank you for this content. Never know who you are touching. Keep up the good work.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +4

      Jozette, I really appreciate that. You're right... I don't know who I'm touching. Feels great to make a difference and offer a bit of peace and wisdom along the journey.

  • @reshaundaliv9176
    @reshaundaliv9176 4 роки тому +42

    I love her honestly, she havnt meet the guy she is truly interested in yet... And she's not attractive to the guys she meet. Once she do, things will change. Until then she's happy. I call that Happy within..

  • @thelonewolf848
    @thelonewolf848 3 роки тому +11

    Being single is not bad. Sometimes you may miss the presence of a partner but most of the time it feels better to be single and feel that than being with someone and wanting space.

  • @Womenswell022
    @Womenswell022 3 роки тому +14

    She is an INFJ. Please don't push her, no pressure, no hurries. Time is certainly everything for her. INFJ don't believe in being late. When the time is ripe, she will meet the person. INFJ never start what they can't finish. They are ruled by justice, fairness, rightness and compassion. I think I know her. If she ever find her true love, she will never stop loving that person. Her friends are few, but they will never trade her for any other person. Why? She is a loyal, trusted, dependable person.

  • @janenshuti
    @janenshuti 4 роки тому +62

    im so happy about this, she sounds exactly like me. like i always thought i was weird, sometimes i get so drained by people, i then go and switch off my phone and everything for a week so that i can have my me time. im happiest when im alone in a quiet place but my family just cant let me ahahah. when i go offline everyone assumes something is wrong and my mum just starts sending people to my place to check up on me while al i need is to simply be alone.

    • @candaceellison7147
      @candaceellison7147 4 роки тому +5

      This is sooo me.

    • @GEORGIOARCADE
      @GEORGIOARCADE 4 роки тому +12

      There's nothing wrong with wanting alone time especially if you deal with a lot of people, have a buncha responsibilities, or you care for someone. I do think it's important to communicate that to people early on or as often as possible so they know that there isn't a issue with them or you.
      Just say hey there will be times where i need to be alone to recharge for a few days. When I'm done, I'll contact you. This will make things easier for you and those who love you. Just thought i share some advice 😊🙏🏼

    • @thokozanimkhize7617
      @thokozanimkhize7617 3 роки тому

      You and me, same WhatsApp group 😂

    • @RoyallyHis
      @RoyallyHis Рік тому

      Same

  • @olinzia
    @olinzia 4 роки тому +17

    I came across this chanel yesterday and I've been binging on it. Much love from Kenya.
    Dear future husband, I'm half baked meet me when God is finished with me.♥️

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +2

      Amen! Thanks for your support!

    • @tflem1120
      @tflem1120 4 роки тому

      Me as well!!!!!

    • @sharonwangari3693
      @sharonwangari3693 4 роки тому +1

      Hi @Olinzia Kamairoh me too discovered it earlier this week. Interesting discussions, already listened to other topics on the podcast.

    • @olinzia
      @olinzia 4 роки тому

      Very interested discussions.

    • @carleenwilliams6202
      @carleenwilliams6202 4 роки тому

      Me too

  • @angelaashby4420
    @angelaashby4420 4 роки тому +21

    Very insightful interview. Although I’ve enjoyed all of your podcasts and get some nuggets from each one, this one was the most intriguing for me. K.C’s perspective and story challenges the socialized norms of women in general, especially around marriage being a woman’s “goal”. I find that empowering.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +3

      K.C. is so out of the box in her thinking. That's my homie. Love her.

    • @melaninqueenfit
      @melaninqueenfit 4 роки тому +1

      Well said Angela!

  • @OeGrantAccess
    @OeGrantAccess 3 роки тому +4

    God’s timing is everything! I was emotionally unavailable for many years! I was told by many dates I think like a male. Unattached and career driven. I hide behind my introvert and need for mental stimulation. If I meet my husband before my heart was open I would of missed him. God will send her husband when her heart is open! In the mean time she is correct in focusing on her career and self awareness and healing.

  • @royalt1113
    @royalt1113 4 роки тому +29

    He said “ I’m a lil doper than that, I want a wife”! 🗣come on sir!!! #covenant🙌🏽🙏🏽

  • @prettypursemedia9
    @prettypursemedia9 Рік тому +4

    Her mindset is excellent. That is why she is so successful. Great guest!

  • @DaraVRose
    @DaraVRose 3 роки тому +5

    Ok loved this episode. K.C. was so funny when she said she wants her man to be there when she wants him to be there. I know that a lot of people agree with her. But she is so wise and understanding what she wants and what she doesn’t want at this point in her life. I commend her for that. She does not want to play any games. Thank you Laterras for sharing the difference between temporary workers and full time workers. Those benefits are the truth. Thanks KC for your service.

  • @avisgardner4094
    @avisgardner4094 4 роки тому +14

    That was me. Not until a couple months ago did I decide, I'm ready now. I wanted to build my travel business. I wanted to spend time with me. I didn't want the distraction of a man. It took me 3 years to get here, but now I'm ready.

  • @alextrotman5013
    @alextrotman5013 4 роки тому +90

    I would of appreciated hearing about her possible childhood trauma, her relationship with her parents (her Father) or more about her "bad relationship" experiences, especially those 2 called-off engagements. No disrespect, I respect her as a human being and she is a beautiful looking woman, but I would of liked to hear more details. Her delivery is polished in this video, but I hear with more than just my ears. She almost convinced me of her "happiness" until she said she wants men to be in her space when she wants them to. First, let's distinguish "happiness" and "coping happiness". One is real and the other is "almost real", at least that's what the one who is in coping mode rationalizes and tells themselves. I'm not going to diagnose her but I would love to hear the truth about her concerning these questions: What about the men and their feelings? Men want to feel like a priority and not an option as well. Did a man ever make her an option? Where did she develop this way of thinking and relating? She appears to be highly functional in her awesome career, but what about her romantic relationship life? Has she heard of functional dysfunction? Dumping your energy into your career does not heal relational issues, it suppresses them and makes you worse. Is she "saved"? If not, then this may not apply, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him". There is no other love reflective of the love God has for us than that love between a man and a woman. Some of us even buy animals to substitute this kind of love and I'm just going to go ahead and say it, that's not healthy (I'm not saying K.C. bought an animal. I'm just making an additional point). Overall, and K.C. can choose whether this applies to her or not, we all need to cut it out and say what we're really dealing with. If we're hurt, we need to say that. If we're emotionally wounded, we need to say that. If we're mentally unstable in an area, we need to admit that and seek the proper help. If we're spiritually drained, "off" or disillusioned with love and relationships, we need to confess that. Most normal people struggle spiritually, mentally, emotionally and in relationships. If you're perfect please send me the wine that you're sippin', I would love a life-time supply LOL. God will give you more than enough signs and send more than enough people to tell you that you need to surrender to healing. K.C. did mention that her closest friend told her that she has commitment issues. If you unpack relationship "commitment issues" you can navigate some deeply rooted pain. God is a healer. (This is not a message to send folk to a church. In fact, the wrong church or other form of spiritual guidance can make you worse.) But it is time to stop avoiding what can truly help you. Keep seeking help. My strategy is to seek ye first the Kingdom of God. I've had some major break-through during this Covid season and guess what God met me in my home to do it. I had no church to go and fake a hallelujah to. Just God, my issues and I, face-to-face. Fight for your healing if it's important to you. Truth makes you free. All hit-dogs can feel free to eat me alive! LOL Like I wrote, I made no final assessment of K.C. All I wrote was that I would like more DETAILS. This podcast is amazing by the way. Real and raw. Keep up the good work!

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +21

      Alex, you went in. Real talk. I appreciate that. You presented valid points. I'll tell K.C. to read this and hopefully she'll respond.

    • @ANGEL-ne6ue
      @ANGEL-ne6ue 4 роки тому +6

      I absolutely love your assessment! Great points made...

    • @hs-qk9qf
      @hs-qk9qf 4 роки тому +10

      I thought that I wasn't going to read all of your comment...well I did. Some valid points😁🤣.

    • @alextrotman5013
      @alextrotman5013 4 роки тому +1

      @@hs-qk9qf I'm long-winded. I know.🤷🏾‍♀️😆

    • @hs-qk9qf
      @hs-qk9qf 4 роки тому

      @@alextrotman5013 🤣

  • @havefaith3251
    @havefaith3251 4 роки тому +37

    Beautiful woman..extremely accomplished. But I know hurt when I see it.

    • @quinntheqt4281
      @quinntheqt4281 4 роки тому +2

      People seek & find significance where they can.

    • @karendavis5988
      @karendavis5988 3 роки тому +2

      💯💯 I totally agree

    • @THEPEERPATH
      @THEPEERPATH 3 роки тому

      Yes

    • @jessikajane4967
      @jessikajane4967 3 роки тому +6

      Agreed! I hope this lovely woman gets the therapy she needs. There's a lot of hurt, fear (of being vulnerable and of failure), and denial going on here. She's as busy as she wants to be. She also may have issues bonding with men. Not necessarily anything to do with her sexuality, but it has to do with her natural way of being. She's also purposefully operating in her masculine energy all...the...time to intentionally repel men (but it doesn't work as well as she would like because she's pretty🤣).
      Until this beautiful successful woman does some real self work (ongoing with a licensed mental health professional) to address and unpack her stuff, she won't even have real peace. The "staying busy" will lose it's luster after a while in terms of fulfillment.
      I get this woman on so many levels and know that the self-work is hard! But ultimately she needs to do it for herself...and if she attracts her soulmate that will be a bonus😁

  • @latishacole8140
    @latishacole8140 3 роки тому +4

    I’ve been there but I think you hit the nail on the head when said you “can stay so busy that you busy yourself out of those emotions.” I did that until that “one guy” came into the picture and made me realize that I wanted all the love, affection and intimacy that comes with a relationship.

  • @liwonamajavie6238
    @liwonamajavie6238 3 роки тому +9

    I understand her so well. But I must say listening to her it reaffirms to me that I don’t want to be this closed to love anymore.

  • @Djwizjeepjams
    @Djwizjeepjams 4 роки тому +17

    Oooowwwwweeee...this interview was intriguing! I would like to know the unknown of her story. I hope her answers were not personally scripted or a narrative that has been directed based on her experiences. I want more!

  • @Everythingrelentless
    @Everythingrelentless 4 роки тому +5

    Another great show...L you let her off the hook. She clearly has been hurt and she has not gotten over it. In my opinion she needs to heal. That healing from the Lord!!! Such a fine ass woman who is a leader but she is not expressing herself or hiding some pain. Listen you are right marriage is not for everyone but we all crave that person to love us and so we can love!!! Deep

  • @helenmyers3737
    @helenmyers3737 3 роки тому +1

    K.C. your a the beautiful model of what a powerful strong black woman looks like. I admire your integrity. Commitment is definable within your work ethics. I was with my ex- husband for 25years & still employed with my company for 27yrs.

  • @Taytimethursday
    @Taytimethursday 3 роки тому +4

    As a happily divorced woman I must admit I love being married & I can’t wait to do it again. Just because it didn’t work out with my ex husband doesn’t mean I can’t hv the joy of love & marriage again. All things are possible in Christ 🤗

  • @Chanel5-q5o
    @Chanel5-q5o 4 роки тому +19

    Lol I could see men being more attracted to her because of her stance. A good challenge ! No pressure and not stressed. They probably think it’s too good to be true

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +10

      That's the story of her life. But then they get frustrated when they can't have her. My friend is more than just a challenge, she an impossibility. 🤣😂🤣

    • @shaniqueenglish109
      @shaniqueenglish109 4 роки тому

      @@DearFutureWifey 😂 oh boy!

    • @cochrancochran66
      @cochrancochran66 4 роки тому +1

      Yes... I can relate to her loner behavior when it comes to dating. Men do think it’s too good to be true and some assume that you’re a player.

    • @Chanel5-q5o
      @Chanel5-q5o 4 роки тому +1

      lol let’s this be a lesson to thirsty women. Less is more 😂

  • @TheArriella
    @TheArriella 4 роки тому +2

    I love this... K.C. Is living her best life. She is living a fruitful life and impacting more lives as a single then if she was married. God is pleased with her making the most of her singleness. Not all are called to marriage

  • @NapturallyPecanBrown
    @NapturallyPecanBrown 4 роки тому +4

    She spoke much of my heart 💯. I have so much going on; building & managing businesses, plus I'm an introvert. Companionship would be nice, but I'm enjoying my "me" time. The *right* man will be the only one to convince me to trade my singlehood for committment.... and even in that instance, he'll be patient, understanding, and supportive. Until then, I'm living my best life! 🙌🏾🥰

  • @GEORGIOARCADE
    @GEORGIOARCADE 4 роки тому +2

    Hi man, i love the vibe of your show and the spiritual aspect that you incorporate from a non judgmental aspect. The one thing that stuck with me from this episode with K.C. is that love, marriage, relationships doesn't have to be one thing. It can be whatever is good for the person or people involved.
    I respect that this woman of God knows what she wants, doesn't like to lead men or anyone on. She keeps it real and you know what you are getting up front. I love how strong she is and how determined she is to accomplish her goals.
    I personally feel you don't have to be married to be happy. I respect people views on that subject regardless. God bless you, K.C., and your viewers 🙏🏼💫

  • @ThisGirl_Tan
    @ThisGirl_Tan Рік тому

    This woman knows exactly what she wants who she is. She knows her value and her worth and refuses to settle. I admire and respect this woman and she will have the desires of her heart.

  • @shegotstandards
    @shegotstandards 4 роки тому +6

    Ms Casey Fox is a woman with a good head on her shoulder. With all that's on her plate a relationship would not fit for now. When you are doing all she does you need clarity. At this point in her life she needs clarity in her hustle and not the interruptions a relationship can bring. She seems to know what season of her life she's in and taking advantage of it.

  • @angelawilliams5532
    @angelawilliams5532 2 роки тому +2

    I love her! Why do we have to want a man?! She’s self fulfilled and I don’t see anything wrong with that! Kudos to her!💜

  • @LuvMiwrite
    @LuvMiwrite 3 роки тому +26

    She’s definitely emotional unavailable. She has a lot of healing to do. She was really guarded.

  • @menaj2954
    @menaj2954 4 роки тому +11

    I do not share her perspective but respect her truth. She seems content with her life and her success. I also wonder if she has not meet someone who has stimulated her mentally to the point of ACTUALLY dating him. Maybe she will get there, maybe not. Enjoyed the conversation and her perspective.

  • @verrickalamb8244
    @verrickalamb8244 4 роки тому +12

    I like that she is honest and don't want to play games when she knows she doesn't want it.... #asformeandmylifemarriage

  • @cleaningcrew6657
    @cleaningcrew6657 4 роки тому +1

    Great how she put you on and encouraged you. What a good friend. May all her hopes and dreams continue to manifest. Thank you for your service LADY GENERAL.

  • @delilahspeaks2519
    @delilahspeaks2519 3 роки тому +1

    Mr. Dear Future Wifey. I love the example of the temp and permanent worker! So true. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

  • @dawnbynature
    @dawnbynature 4 роки тому +1

    I connected so much with KC. Thank you! I am happy to know that I am not the only woman who feels this way. I am introverted as well and love my own company. And with all the demands on me, time by myself recharges me.

  • @everythingtierramonique3219
    @everythingtierramonique3219 4 роки тому +3

    Great episode. There is something else not being said by K.C. Yes, being satisfied with yourself and your singleness is fine but when a woman "has it all" she can push out the need and want for a man because she probably doesn't feel she needs a man. That's something she has to work out on her own. So it's better for her to be where she is if she wouldn't be open to let a man be a man in their relationship and bring to the table what she never thought she needed. That would cause a problem. She may need a session with Rebecca Lynn Pope 😁
    Laterras your reason was on point. The analogy of a temp versus a full time employee was so clear relating to long term relationships and marriage.

  • @chelseascott8488
    @chelseascott8488 4 роки тому +5

    That was a Great interview. It is not hard to feel the way she does when you don't want foolishness in your life. After being married before, you do grow to love yourself more and set your standards according to what GOD wants 💕

  • @makedacharles6650
    @makedacharles6650 4 роки тому +2

    I like the title too busy to love. Love how K.C does not feel rushed to get into a relationship. We don't have to create in isolation though. Readiness is everything. Always wondered about people like K.C who are a lot for themselves, and what another person would bring to their lives. I think keep business separate from the relationship to have your own thing.

  • @teatimewithfelisakaye2442
    @teatimewithfelisakaye2442 4 роки тому +1

    Watching you process and analyze your guests answers is so interesting. Eyes are the window to the soul... Your show is one of my favs...keep doing what your doing..it's blessing us

  • @diamondunicorn2421
    @diamondunicorn2421 4 роки тому +31

    She must be an Aquarius 🤣 it’s how we live our lives and the way she seems... yeah 🤣

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 4 роки тому

      2/4 💜

    • @diamondunicorn2421
      @diamondunicorn2421 4 роки тому

      Glamrocs Makeup amazing, I’m also 2/4!

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 4 роки тому

      Diamond Unicorn Hey birthday Twin ♒️💜

    • @shonjackson9395
      @shonjackson9395 4 роки тому

      Hey 💎 🦄 ....I resemble that remark...lol

    • @k.devlyn5398
      @k.devlyn5398 4 роки тому +2

      I was thinking Capricorn. All the Aquarius I know are super hard workers but are also in love with love

  • @Shiks2
    @Shiks2 4 роки тому +3

    I am 38 and used to say the exact same words.
    About 4 years ago, I began a spiritual journey with God and He began to prod me to allow Him to break down some walls I built up in childhood that caused me to be afraid of intimacy.
    He showed me that I shied away from being loved by someone including Jesus because it meant that I'd have to take down my defenses for closeness with Him.
    It has been painful but I am grateful for the healing journey that God has me on.
    The Holy Spirit is teaching me that I can have both and. Meaning that I can be both strong and loved. I do not lose my identity by allowing someone else to love me and intentionally sharing my heart with them long term. It strengthens me.
    God is teaching me that He created me in love, through love, by love, for love and to love and because His Kingdom thrives on giving and receiving love. He gave His best for me in Jesus. Being loved and loving is a natural inclination that God inbuilt in us (in His nature) and when we attain God's revelation of His Love, relationships will never be the same again.
    There is strength in love.
    I see you deeply loved and you loving deeply in return KC.🌹🌹🌹

  • @sunnydaze80
    @sunnydaze80 4 роки тому +1

    This was comforting. Starting over after an abusive relationship, I don't know that I would ever want to get married, even once I've healed. There may come a time where I'll seek companionship, but I enjoy calling the the shots for now. I've never had this level of control and I can't imagine giving that away.

  • @Lauren-fl8mc
    @Lauren-fl8mc 3 роки тому +3

    Love this....women are getting it done.....we are out here...fighting the fight ...some with our men....many without...we love the peace that comes from our sanctuaries.....let noone in...who is not worthy 💙💛✊

  • @livingjoyful7330
    @livingjoyful7330 4 роки тому +17

    She must be a Virgo, Capricorn, Scorpio or Aquarius. Im a Virgo and am a loner to a fault. Completely understand her I can go DAYS without any social interaction.

    • @GEORGIOARCADE
      @GEORGIOARCADE 4 роки тому +4

      She might be a Cancer or (have water placements in her birthchart) because I'm a Cancer and we often take on a lot of responsibility or care for so many people so we need to recharge our energy. It's not a bad thing that you or her is that way. You just have communicate your needs to those you care about. If they truly value you; they'll understand and compromise

    • @tmarie9609
      @tmarie9609 4 роки тому +1

      Scorpio here and I agree! I’m so over the whole relationship analysis thing.... my thoughts these days, “ I’ll know it when I feel it”.💪🏾😂

    • @Erika-be9hq
      @Erika-be9hq 4 роки тому +2

      I’m a Capricorn and I fully understand this. I love my family and friends. I love social interaction. But it’s a must that I have my own space and time alone. I’ve always been this way. There’s nothing “wrong”. I’m not mad or angry. I just truly enjoy being alone at times.

    • @Taytimethursday
      @Taytimethursday 3 роки тому +1

      Virgo here & I’m a social butterfly 🦋

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften 3 роки тому

    I’m quiet myself, yet I’ve learned that it’s our nature to be in relationship with others and that this is when we grow the most and get to know ourself more.

  • @justinaragland3025
    @justinaragland3025 3 роки тому +3

    HER PURPOSE IS GREATER THEN HER BEING MARRIED!!! SHE KNOWS SHE WILL HAVE TO CHOOSE ONE!!! HER PURPOSE HAS TO MUCH SACRIFICE AND BECAUSE OF HER MITLITY TRAINING AND THE WAY GOD MADE HER AS A INTROVERT IT WOULD CONFLICT THE MISSION!!! MAYBE, WHEN HER MISSION IS OVER SHE WILL DECIDE TO BE ABLE TO GIVE TIME TO A RELATIONSHIP. I KNOW A WOMAN FOR THE FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE GOT MARRIED, IN HER 70's. LIKE HE SAID TIMING IS EVERYTHING!!! FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO SAID SHE WAS HURT SHE NOT!!! NOR, IS SHE LIKE A MAN ITS PURPOSE!!! SHE CLEARLY STATED WHY WOULD I LEAD HIM ON !!! NOT LIKE SOME WHO KEEP THE WOMAN AROUND BUT NEVER COMMIT TO HER!!! SHE KNOWS HERSELF!!! STAYING FOCUS ON THE MISSION, WITH NO DISTRACTION!!! HER MISSION IS TO GREAT!!!

  • @SheelahA74
    @SheelahA74 2 роки тому +1

    I definitely understand where she is and it’s no need in wasting anyones time if you feel you’re not in a head space to be in a relationship. I get it and appreciate her honesty with guys and herself. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @eileendennis540
    @eileendennis540 3 роки тому +1

    Our hurts, and disappointments in life both physical and emotional can ready and position us for our purpose In life. I commend this young lady as well as applaud her for all she is doing. Chasing monsters today is very, very real. Today’s struggle is not against flesh and blood but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. I look forward to reading her book “ Chasing Monsters.”

  • @oyanamoorer7877
    @oyanamoorer7877 2 роки тому

    She is an incredibly strong woman who knows what she wants and what she doesn’t want. Like she said…she was trained to be that way. When the “one” comes along…the walls will come down and she’ll be more open to receive. Timing is definitely everything. Peace and blessings to you KC!

  • @camilleorr7029
    @camilleorr7029 11 місяців тому

    Along with her honesty, I absolutely admire how humble she seems.

  • @t7cooley420
    @t7cooley420 Рік тому

    Absolutely love the story you gave about watching the grandfather clock as a toddler. Now 2 years later.. there truly is no words that can describe our Lord and Savior. Look at how God has kept you ~ Timing is truly everything. One love in Christ 🫶

  • @mykingthoughts2224
    @mykingthoughts2224 4 роки тому +24

    I love it a strong women but listening to to why she isn't settled down or interested is Interesting, I just did a video about Martha aka Busy Body , she was so focused on being busy and messed out on the blessings right in front of her . I like that fact that she is involved with the community but nothing like the power of one a cord the power of two ... I think she is scared and everything is the excuse why she isn't ready but I understand but let's call it what it is not hide behind being busy .......Luke 10:38-42

    • @takeauthority30
      @takeauthority30 3 роки тому +2

      Nowadays ppl are all about titles, what they own and what projects they'll be doing for the next 3 years. It's just the generation of what I do vs who I am. It's not rocket science....ppl are hurt and trust money over love. There's a fake security in money and the vulnerable it takes to simply love is too much for a lot of people.

    • @xxvfbdbfnfbhdhhrjffx
      @xxvfbdbfnfbhdhhrjffx 3 роки тому

      True, I wrapped myself in my career and my startup business. I missed out on several great men who tried to date me. Now that I'm in my 50's I regret not allowing marriage again.. Sometimes professional women are reluctant to allow another failed marriage or relationship. I hope she rethinks her relationship plan.

    • @justinaragland3025
      @justinaragland3025 3 роки тому +1

      That not it Sir. Its her purpose. She doesn't need casualties. Her mission and those that opposes her will use tactics to come to those closest to her. We have seen this to many times. She has a big heart plus she strategic . She clearly said what level of training she had.

    • @justinaragland3025
      @justinaragland3025 3 роки тому +1

      SHE HAS A GREATER PURPOSE NOT A CARRER. TO DIFFERENT THINGS!!!

  • @tabathaparham9813
    @tabathaparham9813 4 роки тому +1

    Bless you Sis-Queen! Sending light, love, joy & peace to you and your family.

  • @gloriamccoygl
    @gloriamccoygl 4 роки тому +20

    She doesn't need a man or want what a man can provide. Nothing wrong with it. Know thy self is best.

    • @alexsmoth793
      @alexsmoth793 4 роки тому

      That's true because as I get older u going to need a companion I have seen it as I work in the seaner home its sad because these people put their jobs first and money and at there age there regret and lonely some dont even have children

  • @thokozanimkhize7617
    @thokozanimkhize7617 3 роки тому +1

    I relate to K.C. so much! Im seeing/hearing so many similarities in her life especially the relationship/marriage topic.

  • @thelifeofcar8119
    @thelifeofcar8119 4 роки тому +2

    This is the first full episode I watched and it was amazing!!!

  • @tinalneely1745
    @tinalneely1745 3 роки тому +1

    She is STRONG! Almost ALPHA in all areas & I feel that the romantic side of it is overshadowed by her strength in other areas. She is beautiful. Intelligent and Confident! Girl, when love slap you up side your head, your whole mindset is going to change! LOL Im excited for you!

  • @indrao6171
    @indrao6171 3 роки тому +1

    Beautiful woman, very much accomplished and I'm glad she's okay with where she's at even in relationship wise.

  • @RoyallyHis
    @RoyallyHis Рік тому

    I see how others view it as weird but it is absolutely possible to be the way she is. I'm exactly that way & I'm 65, so telling her when she gets in her 60s she's going to be lonely is a negative. We have to remember that everyone's different & not everyone feels loneliness. I haven't dated in 8 yrs after becoming a widow, (after a 34 yr marriage), have never felt lonely, don't crave or lust after any of the things you asked her about & adore my own company. Love reading, working on my book & helping two others with theirs. I'm as feminine as they come, nothing "dude-ish" about me. I just love my life! Blessed beyond belief! Beautiful guest. It's so interesting how people try to get women like us to date/marry/open up/spend time with etc... the opposite sex. Like Ms Fox, I'm an introvert & have turned down dates because it would be unfair to a man, knowing I want nothing to come of it. In agreement that your wife will be in your arms, by your side, on your team & in your heart forever, before your 50th birthday Mr. Whitfield🌹

  • @icshawnie
    @icshawnie 4 роки тому +6

    This could be me in the interview chair. Glad to hear a similar perspective!

    • @Godsgraceish
      @Godsgraceish 4 роки тому

      She’s 23. It’s easy for her to say no to marriage at this point. Let’s see what she says in her 30s and 40s.

  • @LaRennEstherTV1985
    @LaRennEstherTV1985 4 роки тому +2

    Wow that ending!! I Pray when you meet your beautiful wife.. Share her reading those letters!!

  • @meshawilson7591
    @meshawilson7591 Рік тому

    I love that you said with two we can build an empire!! That is so real!! I definitely have the same mindset for me and my future hubby 🙌🏽

  • @danielapearson350
    @danielapearson350 4 роки тому

    It’s so important to stress the therapist factor. So many look down on it ....saying it’s not for us! If we paid more attention to our mental health....our livelihood can/will improve. Don’t be afraid to exercise your mind. 🙌🏼

    • @oweedn6657
      @oweedn6657 4 роки тому +1

      A disciplined woman. 👑. When that king shows up - she will know, until then, a QUEEN maintains her space. I am refreshed from this interview, thanks for this water.

  • @JoseyTurn17
    @JoseyTurn17 4 роки тому

    Exactly. relationships require time. Prioritizing is a responsible act, and not to behave reckless.

  • @thamimaimela2471
    @thamimaimela2471 2 роки тому

    This was such an interesting interview. I identified a lot with some of the things KC said. With that being said, It is possible to be a nurturer and an introvert at the same time. It’s ok to not desire a relationship and marriage and that’s not spoken of enough.

  • @n2resiliency
    @n2resiliency 4 роки тому +1

    "I would want him there, when I want him there."
    WOWWW! I'm so glad to know that someone feels the same as I do. It's complicated, I know, but that's exactly how I feel. It's gets worse the older I get and the more time I spend alone.

  • @HBSugar1106
    @HBSugar1106 3 роки тому

    Great analogy!!!! With wanting a committed long term and fulfilling marriage. You don't want a temporary employee. You want an employee who wants to stay with their company long-term and permanently. That's explains a lot about our society. Are we willing to only commit to a short-term assignment (temporary relationship) or can you fully commit to a permanent job and long term marriage too. A lot of millennials we do have that mentality these days. That explains a lot about how we need to view marriage in this generation. Reevaluate our careers and the need for a long term partner. Great interview!

  • @titilolaakintaju1314
    @titilolaakintaju1314 Рік тому

    Absolutely real and insightful. Timing is truly everything. 😍

  • @oatmealbrownie09
    @oatmealbrownie09 Рік тому

    This is one of the most amazing women I've seen, ever. This man has the dopest friends, apparently. I love the comparison/analogy of the regular employee versus the temporary employee. I never thought about how are commitment in work can mirror our personal relationships. Interesting.

  • @raquelday7917
    @raquelday7917 4 роки тому

    Those letters at the end are everything! Keep blessing us

  • @christinehenry3817
    @christinehenry3817 4 роки тому +1

    I needed to hear that. Thank you. I’m now convinced that it’s worth my time listening to you. I will now subscribe.

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 How many videos did you watch before you became convinced?

    • @christinehenry3817
      @christinehenry3817 4 роки тому

      Dear Future Wifey I watched three videos ❤️❤️

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  4 роки тому +1

      @@christinehenry3817 Glad I won you over

  • @SD-hs2pk
    @SD-hs2pk 2 роки тому

    Great way to explain the difference between life partner vs mariage! And why one is best

  • @latonyasmith6108
    @latonyasmith6108 Рік тому

    Timing is EVERYTHING!! Amen

  • @twiggiear7534
    @twiggiear7534 3 роки тому +1

    KC is amazing. She knows what she wants and she’s doing it. Nothing is wrong with not wanting to get married. If that’s what God wants for her, she good. Not everyone was designed to be married. Some of us were put here to accomplish a lot for the Lord without having a spouse. She might be one of those people.

  • @jaijailindor5527
    @jaijailindor5527 3 роки тому +2

    If she ant my twin...from military and all. People refused to believe that i am happily single. I value my me time and I need my soul mate to meet me at an intellectual level. I won't entertain any man if we can't vibe at that level.

  • @goldenlady1108
    @goldenlady1108 Рік тому

    I have been married twice. I can emphatically relate to her every point. I think relationships can become a distraction for a person who is driven, ambitious, and purposeful-driven Relationships are an investment and commitment liken to a career just with different benefits. Not all women desire to have children and a family because they're driven by something other than maternal instincts. If I had learned what truly drives me which is career/lifestyle, and independence. I would have delayed marriage.

  • @beulahjamali8233
    @beulahjamali8233 25 днів тому

    She is in a comfortable space... Uuuuuuhhhh i loved that eg about a permanent employee and a temp... ...open and insightful conversation...great work she is doing. Wwoooowww the letter to your future wifey highlights the importance of Gods timing.... 'Thank you for this episode. God bless you

  • @missc541
    @missc541 Рік тому

    I completely relate to this woman, I am the same way. It's not stubbornness, or weird or wrong - she's very intune with herself (wholesome) - she's right!

  • @tiffanyRN504
    @tiffanyRN504 4 роки тому

    Loved this! Yall stop pressuring K.C....Timing is everything remember! She is living in her purpose & God will present her husband when the time is right! Thank you so much for everything you are doing for the people ❤

  • @malcole1
    @malcole1 7 місяців тому

    I love your analogy with the temp vs permanent worker when answering the question about the benefits of marriage vs life partnership.
    The covenant of marriage is not only sacred and significant from a cultural and religious standpoint, but it contributes to societal stability as it a framework for personal growth and family building, creating a structured environment.
    It typically involves a commitment to lifelong partnership, mutual support, and shared responsibilities. This commitment provides a stable foundation for emotional and financial security, fostering a deep sense of trust and intimacy between partners.
    Life partnership offers flexibility in relationships and can interfere with commitment, and lacks the sacredness as well. #malcole

  • @nb5346
    @nb5346 4 роки тому +3

    Your letter to your future wifey has moved me. This segment message has me asking God on your behalf to prepare F.W.
    Mould her so you both come Aligned in this lifetime and ready to continue the purpose God has birthed in you. Blessings brother. Honour,truth,light and guidance Empressdivine

  • @takeauthority30
    @takeauthority30 3 роки тому +3

    Third time trying to watch this interview. It's sad .....if wearing a mask was a person.

  • @vyeo9750
    @vyeo9750 4 роки тому +1

    I love that you know what you want and why. For both of you really. Being sure is attractive.

  • @LuvMiwrite
    @LuvMiwrite 3 роки тому

    This is the only episode I didn’t care for so far. But I won’t unsubscribe 😊😊

  • @1HLYWD
    @1HLYWD 4 роки тому +1

    WOW...LATERRAS YOUR PODCASTS ARE AWESOME!! I'VE LEARNED SO MUCH...ESPECIALLY LOVING THE SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION! THANK U :-)

  • @reshaundaliv9176
    @reshaundaliv9176 4 роки тому +1

    Amen, The scenario you gave about Covenant is Awesome

  • @travelchannel304
    @travelchannel304 3 роки тому

    I love that idea! A business partner you can get with when you can. Its possible to not miss anything physical & not even think about it! And i like the physical alot !

  • @tenacioustm
    @tenacioustm 4 роки тому +1

    I’m a newbie here and this was very enlightening. I can’t wait to catch up on the ones I have missed.

  • @seanspence1454
    @seanspence1454 3 роки тому

    Thanks man for this T.I.E. that wears comfortably around my very valuable fragile neck that connects my head to the rest of me. 🤔🙂 I always feel like I'm not just listening and learning, but participating through my heart. I really love when a woman knows what she wants and is never deterred, but still open to change. Powerful, my brother.

  • @keenyah1218
    @keenyah1218 4 роки тому

    I love 💕 what he said about desiring a wife and not a life partner! Casuals/temps do not receive the same benefits.

  • @latonyasmith6108
    @latonyasmith6108 Рік тому

    I love her honesty

  • @Kami0879
    @Kami0879 3 роки тому

    If you are content and satisfied without a "relationship", you are VERY BLESSED. Stay this way until God stirs something else up in you. 🤍👑

  • @veewalker4472
    @veewalker4472 4 роки тому +2

    She is so normal in my circle. Women who are whole don't easily allow people into their hearts, she can't process risking what she's built for a man who doesn't do right and they so often don't based on what we see. She's going to find a great love when she's in her mid 60's and a little more settled in her accomplishments. I totally get it. I'm 52 never married, no children and I'm not really sure I want to marry but I want a great lover, friend and partner to travel and laugh the night away. I get her because unfortunately men are not making any impact that makes her ponder. I personally struggle to remember their names, I don't feel any excitement when they call, I have a high sex drive when I'm connected but men I'm meeting literally don't ignite anything in me at all. I'm really looking forward to a great love journey, but I can relate to her so much. I realized I'm a sapiosexual and men don't stimulate my mind, so therefore I feel nothing for them and I think she's very similar.

  • @heirtotheking2338
    @heirtotheking2338 3 роки тому +1

    I want to get married, but I like my space and peace TOO MUCH! Do you think we can live in separate homes? LOL

  • @lukemawiatherton9882
    @lukemawiatherton9882 3 роки тому +2

    Everything was confirmed why she seem confused about developing commitment to marriage. Commitment starts with God. She’s a great individual but I believe she need Jesus to heal her and soften her heart. 🙏🏾♥️

  • @lindaspicer4036
    @lindaspicer4036 2 роки тому

    I admire her sometimes I wish I could have retreated when it came to love wait no not love just feelings

  • @kimberlycarter5317
    @kimberlycarter5317 4 роки тому

    Great letter of wisdom to your future wife! And I hope that you meet her at the Right Timing😊