Even after years of being no contact, the narcissist showed up unannounced & uninvited, left a note on my door and scampered away (middle mid-ranger). I threw the note in the trash without even looking at it! I couldn't have done that without HG ❤
Why if we are mere appliances? Isn’t that boring? But i get it, mine sees us as existing despite 7 years separation. I refuse to shut done my business phone or email for $$$ reasons. But he must get bored in time if I never respond right?
Yeah I didn't realize that myself and years ago I looked on fb. Next thing I know the bastard is sending me emails, demanding that I "Respect him enough to blah blah blah." My own fault, I knew better, but emotional thinking had me nosy.
25yrs after divorce & 15yrs after no contact (I had no idea about narcissism then) our daughter was getting married. He continually tried to upset me & as I somehow managed to ignore it & tried to not show my fear, he left me alone & started provoking my partner. It ended up that he was thrown out & hasn't contacted our daughter since -7yrs ago. After finding HG & listening to a lot of his videos I undertook 2 of his 'questionnaires' & had a great sense of relief with the outcome. It was him & my mother who are narcissists. I had actually stopped contact with my mother for 2yrs prior to contacting HG. A life saver - I no longer think it's 'me' or I have a duty to keep contact. At times I relisten to HG's advise to keep me in check.
Mother was a narcissist. I started taking a break but then she got a terminal diagnosis. That ended that. I must say my life had less drama after she passed. But it took HG for me to realize that my ex is also a narc. I will only be in contact if there's an emergency with our sons that makes it unavoidable. I have learned a lot. 😊
It is indeed, however tempting it is to kick it. I had to "no contact" a couple of people at work. Quite tricky because you sometimes have to deal with them for work purposes. My strategy was to ignore them totally on a personal level (no hello, no talk, no look, almost on the fringe of impoliteness). If obligated I would use mails, preferably including other co-workers, try not to work on the same projects... Internally, I tried and told myself I did not know these people at all since they were different from what I used to think. To consider them as total unappealing strangers made it easier not to be emotionally involved. I only blamed myself to be a fool whose imagination and feelings had created some non existent people. At the end of the day, it worked. When being targeted for a hostile hovering, I just used any work regulation and custom at my disposal to keep them at bay. On the whole, not very cosy but manageable (I was lucky to be an international civil servant with a permanent contract). Nevertheless I was glad and relieved when I retired.
I utilized no contact many years ago. He always thought I'd be there waiting for him whenever he came back. Though we have both been married to other people for almost 40 years. He would, on occasion, drive by my house on a dead-end road a couple of times a year. He has only, within the last 3 or 4 years, finally stopped. He always said he would turn up when you least expect him. He has tried, but I have, in effect, vanished. He has nothing from me, and I want nothing from him. Now I know why he behaves in the way he does, and I utilized your work without knowing.it was the right way to go. I am no longer on his radar, I'm sure he has other victems, he is a hunter after all and very successful at it.
Tip for fellow survivors in post-escape phase who established very solid no contact: whenever you’re having flashbacks about horrible things that he/she did, just remember that there was a moment when they were trying to reach/contact/call you and they realised you blocked them and/or changed your number 😂 imagining the shock and anger on his dumb face always makes bad memories go away ❤
😂Good one! I am 14 years free, after 26 years and luckily I have put the physical abuse in a box in my head and I've lost the key. I find it's the mental abuse that has stayed with me. The impact it had on my self esteem. I still cannot take compliments or anyone thanking me for helping them 🤦🏼♀️even though I am happily married now. Weird isn't it after all this time 🙄😅 x
@@HellBelle666 but it’s understandable because it’s often traumatic. And I think narcs can sense our insecurities and strike in a spot when it hurts. In my case: no contact for more than 1 year who wasn’t even my boyfriend but I still struggle with insecurities about my body because of the things that he said to me
@roughroughmagicx I know exactly what you mean. Yes, they obviously do say things that hit specific nerves with each of us. If I had a penny for the times he used to say things like "God you are ugly" and "you need to loose weight" (im a size 8) 🤦🏼♀️ Anyway, I try to look at the positives in life - I am FREE! And I am HAPPY! 💯🥰❤️✨️🤩
@@HellBelle666 yeah I think forgetting about the narcissist and lies they had been telling us is the ultimate revenge 😌 and you have true love in your life now - something that narcissist can never have and will never have
The amount of videos that you have provided today between your channels is extremely impressive, which led to a thought popping into my head… you blow my mind, HG… Which led to another thought, of Doug. In Doug voice, you blow my frickin mind, HG. If Doug was still with us I know that he would be congratulating you and wishing your new channel success. Sending you love, HG ❤
Lovely comment about Doug! I agree and also remember H.G. and Doug airing their frustrations about algorithms and prominence of certain channels over others. Doug would be so pleased for H.G. with this new channel x
The beginning of these new videos are sooooooo cool HG dude, the child's distorted voice sounds like Carol Anne when she's stuck in the spiritual realm, in the classic, and brilliant Steven Speilsberg supernatural horror film "Poltergeist." Thanks HG. Saint Anger Master Empath
Yeah I did something stupid a few years ago, I looked one up on FB, didn't know he could see it. Well, he created a whole profile for "ME" with his last name, and a picture that wasn't me. He started talking to himself like it was me, sent me an email, demanding I "respect" him enough to tell him private family business. My own stupid fault, been fully no contact now for years. Lesson learned I don't wanna know who he's torturing now.
GOSO really works. HG offers unrivaled advice. Get your empath and narc detectors, book your consults, it's a modest sum well spent in the grand scheme of things. No one's advice has had such a profound immutable impact on my perspective like HG. I can understand the motivations of narcissism now instead of projecting blame upon myself for being unable to satisfy the impossible. Thanks HG 🦈☁️🌬️☁️🦈
Sept 03, I arrested my husband. Was the only way to get him to leave the house! Bc he hacked our devices, I closed them, and got new phones with new numbers. He has NI CONTACT with either me or the children. He asked his lawyer to demand the kid’s numbers, and I have been strong in letting my lawyer know that I will NOT! I mentioned that he can get the kids flip phones to communicate, which is inexpensive. But he’s threatening to bring me to court.
@TheLastHopefulPlace Yeah, it's a bit more complicated than normal but have taken steps towards it. They no longer have control of my finances and my decisions. I'm trying to get my credit back and next month I will be able to apply for the loan I need. I'd have to do this anyway because of their age and due to the fact that I have not any family or friends that will take me in. They ran off the support system I had. And those who I met through them I'm in contact with 1 and I don't feel comfortable asking for help with him
@WitchWithin i vanished. I left while he was at work, taking my 3 children and a kettle. I had no money until benefits started several weeks later, so often went without food in order to look after my children. I'm not going to lie, it was really hard. He did find me eventually. But by then I felt stronger to deal with him. I think he saw the children a handful of times, but he got bored very quickly. My children are all grown up now and left home. All of then have not seen their father for decades. Although he sends a Happy Birthday message to our youngest every year (he s 29)😂 Never had a penny child support off him. I brought then up all by myself and proud of it. You can do it sweetheart! 🤗🤗🤗🙌💯
@HellBelle666 Seeing what did as a child of knowing that my life could be worse. I have been told by a friend of ours that "but they do this and that for you " and for years it made me think and feel that I was being difficult. It's all about what you are willing to tolerate and no one should ever try to convince anyone to live with someone because they are their friends. They are not there when they are ugly and don't hear them say " I hope you are unlived first" My reasons are that I have not no real opinions without giving up some freedoms. I'm hoping that I can get the financial help to do this I deeply appreciate your encouragement and support ❤️ I'm very grateful I found HG
Hi HG Do narcissistic/ narcissist mothers treat their daughters worse than their boys? I believe they do but it is only based on my mother 🤢 Have not have contact with her for 3-4 years, and is the best thing I have ever done
Even after years of being no contact, the narcissist showed up unannounced & uninvited, left a note on my door and scampered away (middle mid-ranger). I threw the note in the trash without even looking at it! I couldn't have done that without HG ❤
Well done you & a thank you to HG.
🎯🎯🎯
Huge accomplishment, congrats! 🥳
👏👏👏 well done sweetheart! 🙌💯🥰
Why if we are mere appliances? Isn’t that boring? But i get it, mine sees us as existing despite 7 years separation. I refuse to shut done my business phone or email for $$$ reasons. But he must get bored in time if I never respond right?
Mine hates my absolute authentic joy. 😂😅 And i give her none of it. Tee Hee.
No contact means no telephone calls, no emails, no texts, no Facebook or Instagram or X communication allowed. None!
Yeah I didn't realize that myself and years ago I looked on fb. Next thing I know the bastard is sending me emails, demanding that I "Respect him enough to blah blah blah." My own fault, I knew better, but emotional thinking had me nosy.
Correct.
Only talking to those closest to you about the narc to.
25yrs after divorce & 15yrs after no contact (I had no idea about narcissism then) our daughter was getting married. He continually tried to upset me & as I somehow managed to ignore it & tried to not show my fear, he left me alone & started provoking my partner.
It ended up that he was thrown out & hasn't contacted our daughter since -7yrs ago.
After finding HG & listening to a lot of his videos I undertook 2 of his 'questionnaires' & had a great sense of relief with the outcome. It was him & my mother who are narcissists. I had actually stopped contact with my mother for 2yrs prior to contacting HG.
A life saver - I no longer think it's 'me' or I have a duty to keep contact.
At times I relisten to HG's advise to keep me in check.
Mother was a narcissist. I started taking a break but then she got a terminal diagnosis. That ended that. I must say my life had less drama after she passed. But it took HG for me to realize that my ex is also a narc. I will only be in contact if there's an emergency with our sons that makes it unavoidable. I have learned a lot. 😊
Avoiding kicking the hornets nest, so helpful. Thank you, HG
It is indeed, however tempting it is to kick it. I had to "no contact" a couple of people at work. Quite tricky because you sometimes have to deal with them for work purposes. My strategy was to ignore them totally on a personal level (no hello, no talk, no look, almost on the fringe of impoliteness). If obligated I would use mails, preferably including other co-workers, try not to work on the same projects... Internally, I tried and told myself I did not know these people at all since they were different from what I used to think. To consider them as total unappealing strangers made it easier not to be emotionally involved. I only blamed myself to be a fool whose imagination and feelings had created some non existent people. At the end of the day, it worked. When being targeted for a hostile hovering, I just used any work regulation and custom at my disposal to keep them at bay. On the whole, not very cosy but manageable (I was lucky to be an international civil servant with a permanent contract). Nevertheless I was glad and relieved when I retired.
Leave a skunk alone...you won't get sprayed...
No Contact also means no asking about the narcissist through their friends or family.
Good one 💯🙌🥰
Solid advice and makes sense to me.
H. G, Thank you for the new purer channel chock full of helpful information, and the information is easily understood.
I utilized no contact many years ago. He always thought I'd be there waiting for him whenever he came back. Though we have both been married to other people for almost 40 years. He would, on occasion, drive by my house on a dead-end road a couple of times a year. He has only, within the last 3 or 4 years, finally stopped. He always said he would turn up when you least expect him. He has tried, but I have, in effect, vanished. He has nothing from me, and I want nothing from him. Now I know why he behaves in the way he does, and I utilized your work without knowing.it was the right way to go. I am no longer on his radar, I'm sure he has other victems, he is a hunter after all and very successful at it.
I had to see my ex. Arc at my son’s wedding. I ignored him.
Tip for fellow survivors in post-escape phase who established very solid no contact: whenever you’re having flashbacks about horrible things that he/she did, just remember that there was a moment when they were trying to reach/contact/call you and they realised you blocked them and/or changed your number 😂 imagining the shock and anger on his dumb face always makes bad memories go away ❤
😂Good one! I am 14 years free, after 26 years and luckily I have put the physical abuse in a box in my head and I've lost the key. I find it's the mental abuse that has stayed with me. The impact it had on my self esteem. I still cannot take compliments or anyone thanking me for helping them 🤦🏼♀️even though I am happily married now. Weird isn't it after all this time 🙄😅 x
@@HellBelle666 but it’s understandable because it’s often traumatic. And I think narcs can sense our insecurities and strike in a spot when it hurts. In my case: no contact for more than 1 year who wasn’t even my boyfriend but I still struggle with insecurities about my body because of the things that he said to me
@roughroughmagicx I know exactly what you mean. Yes, they obviously do say things that hit specific nerves with each of us. If I had a penny for the times he used to say things like "God you are ugly" and "you need to loose weight" (im a size 8) 🤦🏼♀️ Anyway, I try to look at the positives in life - I am FREE! And I am HAPPY! 💯🥰❤️✨️🤩
@@HellBelle666 yeah I think forgetting about the narcissist and lies they had been telling us is the ultimate revenge 😌 and you have true love in your life now - something that narcissist can never have and will never have
@@roughroughmagicx 😂🙌😍 agreed!😘😘😘😘😘
The amount of videos that you have provided today between your channels is extremely impressive, which led to a thought popping into my head… you blow my mind, HG…
Which led to another thought, of Doug.
In Doug voice, you blow my frickin mind, HG.
If Doug was still with us I know that he would be congratulating you and wishing your new channel success.
Sending you love, HG ❤
Lovely comment about Doug!
I agree and also remember H.G. and Doug airing their frustrations about algorithms and prominence of certain channels over others. Doug would be so pleased for H.G. with this new channel x
@@Amanda-ec4rz ❤️
The beginning of these new videos are sooooooo cool HG dude, the child's distorted voice sounds like Carol Anne when she's stuck in the spiritual realm, in the classic, and brilliant Steven Speilsberg supernatural horror film
"Poltergeist."
Thanks HG.
Saint Anger
Master
Empath
Yeah I did something stupid a few years ago, I looked one up on FB, didn't know he could see it. Well, he created a whole profile for "ME" with his last name, and a picture that wasn't me. He started talking to himself like it was me, sent me an email, demanding I "respect" him enough to tell him private family business. My own stupid fault, been fully no contact now for years. Lesson learned I don't wanna know who he's torturing now.
GOSO really works. HG offers unrivaled advice. Get your empath and narc detectors, book your consults, it's a modest sum well spent in the grand scheme of things. No one's advice has had such a profound immutable impact on my perspective like HG. I can understand the motivations of narcissism now instead of projecting blame upon myself for being unable to satisfy the impossible.
Thanks HG 🦈☁️🌬️☁️🦈
Thankyou HG.❤️🌻
Magnificent new channel. I was hoping you'd do something like this. 🎉
Good luck on your new channel H.G.
Sept 03, I arrested my husband. Was the only way to get him to leave the house! Bc he hacked our devices, I closed them, and got new phones with new numbers. He has NI CONTACT with either me or the children. He asked his lawyer to demand the kid’s numbers, and I have been strong in letting my lawyer know that I will NOT! I mentioned that he can get the kids flip phones to communicate, which is inexpensive. But he’s threatening to bring me to court.
I want to vanish
@TheLastHopefulPlace Yeah, it's a bit more complicated than normal but have taken steps towards it. They no longer have control of my finances and my decisions. I'm trying to get my credit back and next month I will be able to apply for the loan I need. I'd have to do this anyway because of their age and due to the fact that I have not any family or friends that will take me in.
They ran off the support system I had. And those who I met through them I'm in contact with 1 and I don't feel comfortable asking for help with him
I have vanished. It is possible.
Total no contact regimen = total freedom. Consult with HG.
Good luck 💙
@WitchWithin i vanished. I left while he was at work, taking my 3 children and a kettle. I had no money until benefits started several weeks later, so often went without food in order to look after my children. I'm not going to lie, it was really hard. He did find me eventually. But by then I felt stronger to deal with him. I think he saw the children a handful of times, but he got bored very quickly. My children are all grown up now and left home. All of then have not seen their father for decades. Although he sends a Happy Birthday message to our youngest every year (he s 29)😂 Never had a penny child support off him. I brought then up all by myself and proud of it. You can do it sweetheart! 🤗🤗🤗🙌💯
@HellBelle666 Seeing what did as a child of knowing that my life could be worse.
I have been told by a friend of ours that "but they do this and that for you " and for years it made me think and feel that I was being difficult.
It's all about what you are willing to tolerate and no one should ever try to convince anyone to live with someone because they are their friends.
They are not there when they are ugly and don't hear them say " I hope you are unlived first"
My reasons are that I have not no real opinions without giving up some freedoms.
I'm hoping that I can get the financial help to do this
I deeply appreciate your encouragement and support ❤️
I'm very grateful I found HG
Good luck, Mr. Tudor, with your new channel! 👏🏻❤️
Hi HG
Do narcissistic/ narcissist mothers treat their daughters worse than their boys?
I believe they do but it is only based on my mother 🤢
Have not have contact with her for 3-4 years, and is the best thing I have ever done