What To Do With A Guy That Is Emotionally Unavailable?

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  • @J33SS
    @J33SS Рік тому +61

    honestly the best thing to do is walk away… and find someone who’s actually ready and willing for a relationship. in my experience waiting around, adapting and acting like u dont want more just leads to dissapointment, him being complacent and taking u for granted.

    • @IAMPOETRY7
      @IAMPOETRY7 7 місяців тому +1

      Right

    • @karrysmi8923
      @karrysmi8923 6 місяців тому +1

      💯Agree!

    • @mohmohammed-mh9xi
      @mohmohammed-mh9xi 4 місяці тому

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  • @XoxoMS
    @XoxoMS Рік тому +41

    Honestly, if you find yourself being attracted to emotionally unavailable men, and then trying to adjust your own behavior in hopes of winning his affection, earning his love or somehow changing him (to become someone who finally feels, sees you and openly shows love for you?), then it might be a good idea to reflect on your childhood and ask yourself why you’re doing this..

    • @vivhiggins5656
      @vivhiggins5656 5 місяців тому +3

      All true!

    • @alenaadamkova7617
      @alenaadamkova7617 5 місяців тому +3

      Even if he is unavailable....
      Nobody says you are supposed to get him as a partner, but your classy attitude and non-aggressive attitude will show him and make him remember
      that one day as he gains his emotional strength and willigness, its possible for him to find true purpose in relationhip
      no matter whether it will be with you or with some other classy woman.
      He will remember: I met few classy women who did show me a way, but at that time I wasnt prepared for relationship
      but he will feel happy that such classy good women exist, who dont punisdh him, who dont force him to be with you, but who give him option to chose from
      If you remain calm and classy and give him option, to believe in love,
      it has many values
      you start liking yourself for being classy calm, not pushy woman, non-judgmental woman, who is able to maintain being calm and happy for your own mental strength
      second it will make you realise, this way you really inspire men to change and have option, to really chose good women and nolt following some apps
      you will inspire other women to be classy, not pushy, not judgmental about men and their mental transformation
      you will increase the possibility to really attract someone who has the same attitude and mindset about relationship.
      and even if you wouldnt attract good guy, you know that with right mindset you may remain happy
      even women without man, are able to live happilly, because they have classy and nice girlfriends.

  • @barbarap.2527
    @barbarap.2527 Рік тому +28

    My situation now and he's in and out. Smh I'm shutting down and not putting no more effort just basic friendship. If he wants me, he needs to put in the work

  • @ellenmorse8559
    @ellenmorse8559 Рік тому +18

    Run….as fast as you can!

  • @breonaharrison732
    @breonaharrison732 Рік тому +25

    Why deal with that guy! Just move on…..

    • @rachelpalmer5496
      @rachelpalmer5496 2 місяці тому +1

      Because anxious attachment get off on men like this..speaking from experience..

  • @coco8386
    @coco8386 5 місяців тому +12

    With emotionally un- available guys, it's really important to talk..........about the weather. And when you want to go deep....ask him... exactly what kind of weather does he like?

  • @edzisach2048
    @edzisach2048 Рік тому +11

    it's excatly my situation now...thanks Alex for this info...

  • @uchemaureen46
    @uchemaureen46 Рік тому +4

    Thanks again, Alex…
    You helped me yesterday through one of your videos. Instant help! The table turned and I’m here now, a happy woman equipped to know herself more and find her happiness in a relationship and marriage. Thank you, please.

  • @kristinanrs7712
    @kristinanrs7712 Рік тому +7

    he was 3 years emotionally unavailable and then it turned out he slept all this time with mother of his kids. Im done.

  • @laremi3577
    @laremi3577 Рік тому +15

    Emotionally unavailable means he wants sex with no commitment.
    In reply, just cut his sex meetings, meet in public places, do nonsexual activities and have fun yourself.

  • @noulee7772
    @noulee7772 6 місяців тому +4

    I’m going through that situation now. He admitted he is hurt from his previous relationship, he scares to be in a relationship. I back out and told him to just want to be friends and not more. Not giving him more than what you cannot handle

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  6 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much for watching! I hope this video was able to help you out!

  • @raphaellaamorim1876
    @raphaellaamorim1876 8 місяців тому +2

    I've done exactly what you teach here, without knowing! When he said he need a break, he need to breathe, I said to him that I understand, that I have a lot going on in my life too, my job, my hobbies, blablabla. When we talk, we keep a light conversation. He isn't in love again, but he still talking to me, I hope he really change his mind.

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  8 місяців тому +3

      It's good that you keep the conversation light. Let's hope he changes his mind :)

    • @raphaellaamorim1876
      @raphaellaamorim1876 8 місяців тому +2

      @@FrenchRelationshipExpert thank you! I'm watching your videos, and I can say I've been learning more with you, than any other coach in my country, in my mother language!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @maryhawker5003
      @maryhawker5003 4 місяці тому

      @@raphaellaamorim1876any update? Did he come back around?

    • @MyAngelina123
      @MyAngelina123 4 місяці тому

      I'm in the same situation with an avoidant man. He shows interest and initiates all calls and messages but we're not together anymore. He asked to stay friends so I'm being a good friend but he still calls and chats with me in same manner and frequency as when I was his gf. He even introduced me to his childhood besties. I am trying not to be hopeful but it's hard some days 😅😅😅

  • @valengracevalenzuela522
    @valengracevalenzuela522 11 місяців тому +5

    Alex Tnx you a lot to be honest becouse of you I realize my mistake about relastionship I'm so needy and begging now I slowly understand kick out that kind of emotion I have

  • @mamaknow8056
    @mamaknow8056 8 місяців тому

    This is great Alex, gotta enjoy the moment yes 🥰

  • @blackcarriebradshaw
    @blackcarriebradshaw Рік тому +4

    Agreeing that he should take his time allows him space to see other women.

  • @rachelpalmer5496
    @rachelpalmer5496 2 місяці тому

    Your video makes the most sense in my current situation

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  2 місяці тому

      Glad to hear it! Hope it helps you navigate through what you're going through. Sincerely coach Alex

  • @janetstraw191
    @janetstraw191 Рік тому +4

    I simply wouldn’t waste my time!🤷‍♀️

  • @kaseymoscoso8238
    @kaseymoscoso8238 6 місяців тому

    Great advice, so much to remember! Omg! I’m soaking it in! Thank you

  • @RosieMewan-fg5it
    @RosieMewan-fg5it 6 місяців тому +1

    Honestly Alex you are doing well,well done png girl ❤❤❤❤

  • @angelinazimmerman9519
    @angelinazimmerman9519 6 місяців тому

    Thank you Alex for helping!

  • @elizabethgarcia6160
    @elizabethgarcia6160 6 місяців тому

    Wow!!!!!! Something I was going through yesterday with a spiritual friend 😢he obviously doesn’t trust after his last relationship

  • @alaalfa8839
    @alaalfa8839 11 місяців тому

    stoicism and blocking emotions are two different thigs.
    but its true that when you have goal, job, or household stuff, you need to focus on goal with happy emotions, love empathy gratitude
    and healthily resolve negative emotions by not being attached to them, which makes you feel negative emotions are short term, which makes your heart blissful.

  • @niharikaverma5927
    @niharikaverma5927 6 місяців тому +3

    My bf was doing exactly the same things ...he is emotionally unavailable.....nd I was doing the same mistake 😮

  • @kammyo8660
    @kammyo8660 8 місяців тому +1

    Enjoying the moment with someone who is unavailable will cause to be put in friends with benefit drawer…

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  8 місяців тому +1

      Yes! Do not accept a 'friends with benefits' relationship if you are looking for something more serious.

  • @easytosketch5464
    @easytosketch5464 5 місяців тому +2

    Honestly I really love your advice dearest may God keep blessing you

  • @PowerHarmonySolutions
    @PowerHarmonySolutions 7 місяців тому

    So true. I can relate ..😢

  • @elizabethgarcia6160
    @elizabethgarcia6160 6 місяців тому

    The worst thing to do as well is sleeping with someone and then 2 months later what you’re describing happens!! So first impressions tell me everything! Enough time to walk away!!! 😢

  • @princess377
    @princess377 Рік тому +4

    Hi Alex Why are men so complicated they are hard work. Life itself is stressful and then to have more stress from a man. I’m just looking for a connection with a man fall in love and live happily ever after.

  • @SilentPhilly
    @SilentPhilly 8 місяців тому

    Soo, we have two opposite ways, how to deal with men, when they're not enough into us.. and how can we tell, if he's emotionally unavailable or just lost interest?

  • @musicwithlovie4838
    @musicwithlovie4838 5 місяців тому

    Ah! Thats why he called me narc , because i feel that he's really emotionally unavail. Ill flirt with him one time. Then he gets mad, exactly what he said im narc 🤣🤣, he's insane. I met him dating online. He's so sensitive turn me off , but he is really very handsome, tall, but very sensitive like woman🥴🥴

  • @Karimamaraghni
    @Karimamaraghni Рік тому +1

    Bonsoir Alex

  • @madika555
    @madika555 4 місяці тому

    Hi.
    8 years with unavailbe man. We broke up 1.5 month ago. He didn't even said it. He just said he had no time. 😂
    I tried no contact. But we talked about giving things back. He gave last thing yesterday. What to do?
    He didn't want to talk. It was only 2 min. Any chances there?
    Or it's over for ever. It was me who always started to talk to him after break up. And it resulted in another breakup couple months later.

  • @candygirl1990
    @candygirl1990 Рік тому +2

    I always attract emotionally unavailable men. How do i stop alex? X

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  Рік тому +1

      Hi there! I have a vide on my channel that can help you with this! I hope you find the time to check it out: ua-cam.com/video/FsSxTmIDm10/v-deo.htmlsi=LxTizrqD5jvF06Mz

  • @IAMPOETRY7
    @IAMPOETRY7 7 місяців тому

    In this video you say one should communicate emotional things but the first video of yours I watched before this one you said to NOT communicate emotions because it will push him away.

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  7 місяців тому +1

      My guidance is customized to address various scenarios related to this topic. Should you seek personalized advice tailored to your specific circumstances, I invite you to schedule a coaching call. This way, I can gain a deeper understanding of your situation and provide you with individualized guidance during our one-on-one session.
      www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @SalomeKimutai-i3y
    @SalomeKimutai-i3y 9 місяців тому

    Now Couch Alex., i don't know if he will be back again . At first he was emotionally unavailable. But another girl got his timing. Introduced her his family, went to their family, ...and now he says to me that he only loves this girl that he cheated on me with. Do i really still have chance here??, Please, i need help.# I'm so much heartbroken... I can't do without him

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  9 місяців тому

      Hi there!
      I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. I know coach Alex would love to help you with this situation but he would need to know a little more information before he helps you with this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link!
      www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @MichelleShellHolliday
    @MichelleShellHolliday Рік тому

    As in why is he keeping the letter. He hasn't put it inside a drawer...

  • @Callie0818
    @Callie0818 8 місяців тому

    How long do we go along and keep doing this before he actually becomes emotionally available?

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  8 місяців тому +1

      Patience is a virtue, especially in love. Each person evolves at their own pace, and pushing someone to open up before they're ready can be counterproductive. To foster an environment conducive to emotional openness, focus on creating a safe space where your partner feels supported and understood, without pressure or judgment. It's also important to communicate openly about your own needs and feelings while remaining receptive to theirs.

  • @elizabethgarcia6160
    @elizabethgarcia6160 6 місяців тому +2

    But I finally drew him out making him laugh it’s that simple!! 😂

  • @karrysmi8923
    @karrysmi8923 6 місяців тому +1

    Better single 💯

  • @yenkimthingoc4842
    @yenkimthingoc4842 Рік тому

    Hello Alex!.
    I meet exactly this men. I need help from you.

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  Рік тому

      Hi there!
      I know coach Alex would love to help you with this. I hope you can book a coaching session with him using this link: www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @vernita0216
    @vernita0216 Місяць тому

    Leave. Immediately.

  • @jana07100
    @jana07100 8 місяців тому

    Its my siruation now and few days i think about hos can i finish with him. I feel me emitter, feel i gave so much and have no energi entmore.

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  8 місяців тому

      I'm so sorry to hear about this!

    • @jana07100
      @jana07100 8 місяців тому

      @@FrenchRelationshipExpert its ok), im very very strong . Its only good for me, i tale it as a big big lessin like in highscool.☺️ but your videos is realt hjelps people and it give like a push a wake up and tale a responsibility for own life. Only i can change it like i want and like i wish☺️

  • @fatimasalie3911
    @fatimasalie3911 Рік тому

    Yeah his emotional unavailable😮🙄

  • @cindysantos9300
    @cindysantos9300 3 місяці тому

    I do not need to help anybody with such an type of behavour. I left him i am out of this kind of man. Nobody need to put his bss ans problems to other people. Never again

  • @juvyvargas6911
    @juvyvargas6911 Рік тому

    Hi alex please I need your help

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  Рік тому

      Hi there!
      If you want one on one advice, I would highly suggest you book a coaching call with him using this link: www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @dilrubakhanam258
    @dilrubakhanam258 Рік тому

    👍

  • @MichelleShellHolliday
    @MichelleShellHolliday Рік тому

    I sent my ex an accountability letter. He has read it, he is keeping it. He has it on top of his drawers. We have been split 6 weeks
    Do you know why?

    • @Adelina24244
      @Adelina24244 8 місяців тому

      Girl I hope you left that man if he didn’t give you an answer. Find love in yourself babe and keep doing your thing