Sally Field is an amazing actress, and this was one of her best performances. If you'd like to see more, I'd definitely recommend Places in the Heart, and her Oscar winning turn in Norma Rae. Wonderful reaction!
When Sally walks thru the halls of the hospital.... by herself... speed walking... and not knowing what is happening. Is one of the loneliness and scariest walks one can take. Beautiful Movie ... every actress was phenomenal but man. Sally just RIPS your heart out. Love Her.
This is based on a true story: one of Shelby's brothers wrote the play. He wrote it to pay tribute to his sister, so her son had this about his mom, and the relationships that got his mom and sister through it. The pastor who officiates Shelby's wedding is her real brother who wrote this. M'lynne's house is the family's real home and they filmed in the real town. His mom was on the set everyday. Shelby was not his sister's real name; he changed all the names. One other thing: when Sally Fields does that whole meltdown scene: she did it all in one take. Amazing
Not to mention, the doctors and nurses who attended to "Shelby" in the hospital were the ones who actually attended to Susan Harling (whom Shelby is based on) in HER final days.
This was based on a play written about the playwright’s sister’s life. The playwright played the minister. His mother was on set when they did the Shelby dying scene. When asked why, she said she wanted to see Julia get up and not be dead. 😢
This story was in the 80s- before continuous glucose monitors or auto-insulin pumps. It was a lot harder to control diabetes- even the insulin was different and less effective then. Did you notice the flowers on her casket were pink and pink?
I played Annelle in a stage production of Steel Magnolias years ago, and we cried off some of the most stubborn stage makeup while rehearsing the breakdown scene. We got stronger stuff for the real shows, and I swear that mascara and liner took an hour to wash off.
Sally Field's mourning her daughter, Dolly Parton being the best hairdresser in the world, and every second of Olympia Dukakis and Shirley McClane needling one another made this film so great. And how they made Daryl Hannah look homely is also pretty amazing! Great reaction as always
Shirley Maclaine could go toe to toe with the original rat pack. She was unofficially their 'mother' for a time during the Vegas years. Her and Olympia Dukakis spitting barbs at each other as well as her scenes with Tom Skeritt were definitely my favourites
What the movie doesn't show (unfortunately) is Shelby is a Type 1 Diabetic (diabetes since birth) who already had some long-term medical issues with her kidneys ~ chronic kidney disease. Pregnancy can take a lot out of any woman, but in Shelby's case, it was complete kidney failure. Her mother donated her kidney, but Shelby's body rejected the healthy kidney and soon, her other organs had shut down. (Even in a coma, there is no regaining life once other organs shutting down happens.) Shelby was a nurse who went against her doctor's advice and mother's wishes because she simply wanted a baby. To her, it was her body, her life, her choice, and eventually, her little boy. Also, in then 80's, there were less treatments available for Type 1 Diabetics. It's gotten somewhat better, thanks in part to this movie shining such a big light on the subject...especially since it was based on a true story.
Btw, yes a Groom's cake is and always was a thing at weddings, and still is today. The bridal/wedding cake is usually a large, tiered, and very fancy cake, the one the bride and groom cut together and feed to each other. The groom's cake is a wedding tradition supposedly originating in Victorian England, but it was observed more often in the modern age mostly in the American South. In the South, many groom's cakes incorporate chocolate or fruit (my dad's went the full traditional way by incorporating both, being a chocolate-iced cake topped with both real and candy "fruit"). While the frosting tends to be chocolate, the cake itself can be any flavor, such as carrot cake, red velvet cake, sometimes cheesecake, etc. These days, the cake and icing tend to be any flavor the groom prefers/chooses, and they are decorated to reflect the groom's hobbies or interests--everything from college or pro sports teams to outdoor activities like fishing and hiking to his favorite geek obsession like Star Wars or Lord of the Rings. Some are done in the shape of his favorite car, a team helmet, fave pet, etc. The groom's cake is often served at a table separate from the wedding cake if it is served at a wedding reception; it gives guests another flavor option if the couple decide to take that route. But since it tends to be "smaller" (generally the size of a regular birthday or all occasions cake) it most often is served at the wedding breakfast or as a dessert for the rehearsal dinner since that tends to only be the bride and groom and their families as well as their attendants (groomsmen/bridesmaids) and whatever guests/family the attendants are allowed to bring to the dinner.
This movie has a special place in my heart. I am from Louisiana, and I did this play my freshman year of high school. When I learned that it was a true story, it hit close to home for me. I ended up going to a boarding school in high school that was in Natchiotches, LA where the story actually takes place AND they filmed the movie. A lot of the area looks exactly the same, and they actually converted the house in the beginning into a Steel Magnolia's Bed & Breakfast.
This is very cool. Thank you for sharing. I was in high school and know in my heart it was the first time I cried in a movie. Water works. Lol Your story is amazing and touching. The town being the same. Beautiful. Cheers.
Brittle diabetes is a severe form that is hard to control and creates wide swings from hyperglycemia to hypoglycemia lots of unpleasant symptoms, and can lead to death.
Grooms cakes are traditional in the south, usually the brides cake is all pretty and floral and WHITE and the grooms cake is usually what ever the grooms favorite cake is…chocolate, strawberry etc. My brother in law had a chocolate and Reese’s peanut butter cup cake at my sisters wedding lol
This movie is such an underrated masterpiece. I think one of the biggest Oscar screwups is that when this came out and awards season came around it was almost completely ignored. Sally Field should have WON an Oscar for that performance, she wasn't even nominated. It wasn't nominated for Best Picture either. The only nomination it got was Julia Roberts for supporting actress... and she lost. It deserved so much more credit than it got back then... the scene in the hospital as they turned off the machines was heartbreaking, but so well done. Every little detail of how they showed it, from the doctors hands to the heart monitor ticking down, then panning over to her mothers face... and it was silent. No music to affect the mood, they just let you dwell in the moment, because it was powerful enough on it's own. Props to the director for those choices.
Yeah, in the 80's "women's movies" weren't taken very seriously. I remember reading a review when the film first came out complaining that it was too melodramatic and "a celebration of ACTING rather than genuine performances". It still p*sses me off to this day.
This movie was originally a play based on real life, Shelby’s brothers wrote it. In real life she was put under anesthesia for a routine surgery and never woke up 😥
This is a beautiful movie and Sally Field was amazing in this role…just like she is in every role. Can’t not mention the incomparable Dolly Parton! I watch this when I need a good cry!
to be fair with Shelby's mother, my sister doesn't have diabetes, but she has severe kidney problems and the doctors also told her she shouldn't have children. She tried five times, and every time I hated her. Every one ended in miscarriage and she almost died. As someone close you don't want to lose them, so when they endanger their own life you can't help to feel angry and helpless.
Very fair, definitely a scary game you're playing It's sad because I genuinely wish I could give my own friggen uterus to someone else; I don't plan to have my own children for a number of reasons and will most likely be, at some point, adopting in the future so I wish there was an easy transplant for this :/
I absolutely love the dude that helped make this movie. Not only did he help create Steel Magnolias, but he also help made the movies “Sister Act” and “Soapdish” straight gay icon ❤ well, maybe not straight 😂
This movie means a lot to me. It was my favorite movie to watch with my mother. I named my Daughter Shelby. We’re from Florida and we’re back in Florida now, but we moved to Texas for a few years and our drive on the way to Texas. We stopped in Natchitoches Louisiana because I had to see the Steel Magnolia house (is what they call it). Anyway, this scene is completely heart-wrenching.
Shirley MacLaine (Weezer) has had an amazing career. She was a singer/dancer in her early career. Warren Beatty is her brother. You should see “Postcards from the Edge.” MacLaine + Meryl Streep. And it was written by Carrie Fisher - Princess Leia herself! Really funny movie very loosely based on Fisher’s life and relationship with her mother, actress Debbie Reynolds.
This is one of my fave movies and was surprised that hardly anyone has reacted to it on UA-cam. My favourite line is when she says if you can’t say anything nice about anybody come sit by me. Healthy women can become diabetic while pregnant and Shelby had the more severe type of diabetes and the doctors said she shouldn’t have kids because it is so hard on the kidneys.
After first seeing Sally Fields in Ms. Doubtfire when I was nine, I had no clue just how good of an actress she is until I finally saw this movie last year at the age of 37. Lost my stepdad in 2019, and that scene at the end knocked me emotionally into another dimension.
Those low blood sugar moments scare me. I’ve also seen my mom’s blood sugar get so low she was literally talking in gibberish looking like a toddler. We didn’t have orange juice so instead we gave her corn syrup, sugar, and milk to raise it up quickly. Nurse note the brain wasn’t getting enough sugar to function properly, so yeah it can be scary. Another tale my mom told me when she was just diagnosed at 12 years old is how my grandma would stuff Twinkies and any other sugary foods down my moms throat, whenever her blood sugar was low in the middle of the night.
I dare you to rewatch this movie followed by Terms Of Endearment, then Beaches. When these movies came out on DVD they supplied you with an antidepressant for afterward. Powerful films about real life.
My favorite part of this movie is that Shelby isn't some "too good for this sinful earth" martyr. She's horrible to her mother who only wants to help her, and goes against every bit of medical advice she's ever given. This makes her feel much more like a real person whose situation you can get far more invested in, and feel the pain when she finally reaches her inevitable end.
Totally agree. I'm sure the happiness Shelby felt when she did the onx thing she was warned repeatedly not to and feeling of being "normal" gave her son feel great about being raised now without his mother and who prob wont even remember.
Totally disagree. Like most people, she felt like she just needs to "stop being weak and push through". It's human nature to believe "it won't happen to me". Meline said at the beginning that normality was important to Shelby. She wanted a baby and said "30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special." I'm glad they didn't make her a martyr either but let's not pretend we have listened to every piece of advice, including medical, that we are given. That's what made her relatable. She wasn't horrible to her mom. They had bad moments
I LOVED your reaction today, and if you haven’t seen Fried Green Tomatoes…This 51 year old from Seattle, WA highly recommends it! Also, The Fisher King with Robin Williams hasn’t been done by anybody and it is incredible. All my love to you and yours. Cheers!
Great reaction. If you want more Dolly Parton films, I would suggest 9 to 5, Straight Talk, Rhinestone, The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas, Unlikely Angel (a Christmas movie) and Coat of Many Colors (another Christmas movie)
Saw this movie for the first time when I was about 20. Then my son was diagnosed with Type 1 (what Shelby has) and it was a very long time before I could watch it again. Still one of my all-time favorites though.
I see a few have mentioned "Terms of Endearment" (1983). Shirley McClain is in that one as well as Steel Mags. Jack Nicholson plays a retired astronaut in "Terms." Super tear-jerker, it was nominated for eleven Oscars, it took home five: best Picture, Director, Adapted Screenplay, Actress for Shirley, and Supporting Actor for Jack.
19:45 Sally Fields was so brilliant in her outburst here it almost takes my breath away. When my middle sister died of breast cancer back in 2010 the home hospice service chaplain came to the house within a couple hours to speak with us and offer us counsel. My parents and my sister and I are all Progressive Christians, but my uncle was one of _those_ hardcore Evangelical Southern Baptists as well as a Gideon (the people who put the Bibles in hotel rooms). He pulled that same shit, saying, _"She's in a better place now up with the Lord"_ as though that was supposed to be comforting at that moment. As though ANYTHING could be comforting after not only holding my sister's hand and watching her die but also having to stand in front of my 6'1" father's chair and cradle his head against my middle while he clung to me and _sobbed_ because one of his babies had just died right in front of him. The chaplain actually stopped my uncle and gently told him, _"I know you mean well... and while that is indeed true, it isn't helpful right now. Now is the time for them to mourn their loss."_ I've always been so thankful to him for saying that so I didn't have to (we asked him to officiate her funeral after that, which he did a WONDERFUL uplifting job of). I _hate it_ when people say shit like that after a death because no matter what you personally believe, it _isn't_ helpful. All it really does is invalidate the pain of the ones who were left behind, basically implying they shouldn't be as upset as they are and dumpling THAT on top of the emotional clusterfuck they're already dealing with inside. Which, again, Sally Fields did a _phenomenal_ job of portraying.
No, your uncle was a REAL Christian while you and your parents and sister are sadly self-deceived. You can be "progressive" or you can be Christian but you CAN NOT be both since the root of Progressivism is an outright denial of the literal inspiration and inerrancy of the Bible being the ONLY Word of God. Yes, your uncle was saying the right thing at the wrong time and grieving is a natural part of life but while he was spending his life giving out the Word of God to a fallen world who needs it, you’re on here cursing and bashing a child of God because he was actually following what that book said. Your Progressivism is a false religion and makes a mockery of Christ and His Gospel.
@@Akihito007 You read my entire comment and THAT is what you reply with. Did the point whistle as it flew over your head? Did you feel a breeze from it? 🤦♀️ ALL OF US have been lifelong Christians, you heartless self-righteous pompous sanctimonious _doorstop._ We were within the first hour or so of mourning a very traumatic death. I'm _still_ thankful that the chaplain was capable of understanding that, unlike you. He gave us grace in a time of intense grief. _Unlike you._ I can't fathom having the self-important audacity to say something like that in response to a story like this. I'm legitimately _embarrassed_ for you.
Herbert Ross had quite a neat and unpredictable life story. He started as a dancer on Broadway in the 1940s, and graduated to choreographer for a while, then took up film directing where he specialized in just these kinds of movies that are mostly comedies until something majorly tragic happens. This includes Play It Again Sam (notably one of the few films starring Woody Allen that he didn't direct himself), The Sunshine Boys, The Goodbye Girl, The Turning Point (also with Shirley MacLaine), Pennies From Heaven, and Footloose.
Great movie and great cast. Saw it when I was living in Puerto Rico as a nanny. (1987-1991) I saw tons and tons of movies during that time, because the lady of the house had gotten HBO, Cinamax and the Disney channel. (which also included MTV and a few other awesome channels) I cried the first time I saw it and still sometimes cry, but I have gotten better at not crying all the time. LOL. BTW My niece is named after the character Shelby in the movie, cause it's one of my sister's favorite movies. She turns 25 in April.
So I am banned from watching this at home when my husband is home. There are 2 reasons for that, first is I recite the movie verbatim, and second I ball my eyes out. Growing up with an older brother who had diabetes, the similarities with Shelby’s issues hit too close to home. Especially the coma and turning off the machines.
So I grew up loving this movie. Then when I was 23, I had something happen to make me almost need a full hysterectomy. I don't have kids. I haven't used protection with my husband since and we've never been able to get pregnant. I had to take about 5 years coming to terms with my infertility, then I was okay with watching movies like this. But that line, "I'd rather have 30 seconds of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special. And at the end...there's a little piece of immortality." But it was also that I had a lifetime of health issues. While some things are different, they still try not to adopt out children to people who have health problems...specifically like mine.
So, the guy that wrote the original play (Robert Harling) wrote it as a catharsis after losing his sister Susan in similar/same circumstances as the character of Shelby. It only took him 10 days to write it.
Stellar cast and Stellar writing. The creator is the brother of Shelby...so this was personal. I have only not cried 3 times from Sally Field's funeral outburst, out of the hundreds of times I've seen this.
This movie hits close. My stepmom and I are super close and she has lupus and is on dialysis. In April of 2020 both her kidneys failed and she flatlined. Luckily she is still here but I fear she could be leaving this world soon. This movie was shown to me after the situation and I cried like a baby.
@@OGBReacts thank you. She’s staying strong and seems to be doing ok. It is definitely scary and hard but I’m going to come out of it much stronger than ever before. ❤️
You got through this one like a trooper! I bawled my eyes out the first time I saw it. I have seen this prolly 5-6 times now and still can't get through it totally dried eyed. Great reaction as per usual. 🙂
Bruh that scene can make me cry every time it's so real and raw, the acting from Sally Fields, amazing. You gotta check out Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya sisterhood if you haven't seen it already. I feel like it's kinda flew under the radar but it's a good movie with a nice cast.
I'd say you did pretty well overall. I've seen people just completely melt over the section about Shelby. Understandbly. Well, next stop youuv'e gotta watch Fried Green Tomatoes. Another really good movie that feels like it exists in a similar space. I've seen the two of them grouped together a lot. P.S. Golden Girls is amazing. Period. 🙂
I was so happy to find your reaction to Steel Magnolias, Sam. One of my all time favorites. My best friend and I can recite the whole thing. LOL. Great reaction (and I'm sorry for your loss) Thank you! ❤
Time for a string of happy films. It hurts my heart to see you cry. I lost a 15 yo nephew in a similar way, so I can relate a little. Losing people just sucks.
Favorite tissue movies... In order of the tissues I went through. 1. Beaches (crying while hearing "You are the Wind Beneath my Wings" put this at #1 without that it would be #3 2. Steel Magnolias 3. Fried Green Tomatoes 🍅 But all had a lot of laughter in them as well. All three are great friendship movies.
This has long been one of my favorite movies of all time, I'm so glad you shared this reaction with us. I ADORE Ouiser and Clairee together and to this day still quote "You know I love you more than my luggage." 25:37 This movie hit me so much harder today than ever before because, (TW) Because I got a call last night that we lost a friend of ours. And it was so close to Shelby, because his wife couldn't get ahold of him and raced home from work to find their one-year-old on the floor crying and he was slumped over. He was already gone. Watching that scene with Shelby And yeah... I just broke down right there.. and with M'Lynn as she broke down. It hit so close to home. I needed the cry.
This is my go to movie when I need to cry. I watch it at least 4x a year, usually around anniversaries of things and holidays. One of my favorite films :)
Hey Sam, firstly I'm so sorry for the loss of your Uncle. That kind of stuff is hard to go through. I've been to my share of funerals in my life. It's in a way strange to know that in this moment I've outlived an Aunt of mine by a few years already. ( She passed at 52.) Onward, I was surprised that I liked the movie when I first saw it in 89, the portrayal of each of the women were very well done. My favorite character was Olympia's, just loved her sense of humor. And for a gal from NY, she carried off the Southern accent quite well. I should know being from GA.,lol. Just like Julia Roberts, this was her breakout role when she first got to be known. ( Just FYI- She has a well known brother who's an actor--Eric Roberts, and his daughter/ Julia's Niece -Emma Roberts is a known actress.) This movie was a huge hit at the time and I think won a few awards. I found it funny you linked this some with Golden Girls, as only 1 of the characters in it was from the South.😛 Glad you enjoyed the movie!
Great reaction 👏Rest in peace to your uncle 💞I played Annelle in a dinner theater production of Steel Magnolias and treasure the experience always. It was tons of fun, but watching our M'Lynn have her outburst at the end and then performing Annelle's emotional monologue 36 times was quite a challenge. If you get a chance to see the play, it keeps the focus on the women only and within the beauty shop itself. Mostly all the same dialogue, but an interesting take. I also love the movie though b/c it fleshes out their lives and integrates their families and the town. Beautiful story about love and loss and written from a real life experience of the playwright losing his sister Susan to diabetes. 💔 Edit: our Ouiser in the production actually made us a bleedin' armadillo cake during the run of the show. On the outside, he was much cuter than the one in the movie. Once we cut him open, well...🤣
This is such a good movie. It's funny, it was only this Wednesday I asked three of my colleagues (all 40+ women) if they had ever seen it, and NONE OF THEM HAD!! THIS is the negativity I deal with on a daily basis! Now watch Fried Green Tomatoes :)
That was a wonderful reaction sam. This movie holds a special place in my heart because it was my first Julia Roberts movie and she is my favorite actress. It's a beautiful, sad and funny film. Shirlie mcClane is the scene stealer for sure. Thx again for sharing an amazing video with us. 😀
One of my favorite movies! This reminds me so much of what my family went through with my aunt. I don’t care how many times I see it I always cry. I think Ouiser and Clairee are my favorites. My sister’s middle name is Melynne after M’lynn.
After mom showed me this I looked at her and said, "I don't appreciate having my emotions messed with that way. And you knew it would happen." She just laughed and said eat shit, and die lmfao God I love her!!
Oh, I'm so sorry you've had a similar experience! That can definitely make it hurt more, I'm sure. But the wonderful message to take away from the film is that life goes on and we can find new sources of joy and new things to live for. The way the whole community comes together there at the end in support of the Eatenton family's loss, and again when the DeSotos (Annelle and Sammy) are about to have their baby. The author wrote the play to come to terms with the 1985 death of his sister from diabetic complications after the birth of her son and the failure of a family member's donated kidney, dramatizing the experiences of the author's family and friends. Still a fave movie in my family, and we quote these lines to each other all the time, even though we haven't had to actually *watch* it in years. Never fails to make us laugh, and Sally Field's monologue in the cemetery *still* brings tears to my eyes no matter how often I see it. But I try to see it as a celebration of family and friendship, and how having those things can get us through the roughest times. ♥
Aw this movie is EVERYTHING!! Clairee is played by Olympia Dukakis, a legendary actress
Sally Field is an amazing actress, and this was one of her best performances. If you'd like to see more, I'd definitely recommend Places in the Heart, and her Oscar winning turn in Norma Rae. Wonderful reaction!
When Sally walks thru the halls of the hospital.... by herself... speed walking... and not knowing what is happening. Is one of the loneliness and scariest walks one can take. Beautiful Movie ... every actress was phenomenal but man. Sally just RIPS your heart out. Love Her.
This is based on a true story: one of Shelby's brothers wrote the play. He wrote it to pay tribute to his sister, so her son had this about his mom, and the relationships that got his mom and sister through it. The pastor who officiates Shelby's wedding is her real brother who wrote this. M'lynne's house is the family's real home and they filmed in the real town. His mom was on the set everyday. Shelby was not his sister's real name; he changed all the names. One other thing: when Sally Fields does that whole meltdown scene: she did it all in one take. Amazing
Not to mention, the doctors and nurses who attended to "Shelby" in the hospital were the ones who actually attended to Susan Harling (whom Shelby is based on) in HER final days.
This was based on a play written about the playwright’s sister’s life. The playwright played the minister. His mother was on set when they did the Shelby dying scene. When asked why, she said she wanted to see Julia get up and not be dead. 😢
Heartbreaking! ❤️🩹
Also, the doctors and nurses who attended to "Shelby" were the same ones who attended to Sudan Harling (whom Shelby is based on) in HER final days.
This story was in the 80s- before continuous glucose monitors or auto-insulin pumps. It was a lot harder to control diabetes- even the insulin was different and less effective then.
Did you notice the flowers on her casket were pink and pink?
RIP Olivia Dukakis who passed away last year
cannot watch the cemetery scene without bawling each AND EVERY TIME, Sally Field really knocked it out of the park
It cuts deep
I have the exact same reaction. Every. Time (and I've seen it many many times).
I played Annelle in a stage production of Steel Magnolias years ago, and we cried off some of the most stubborn stage makeup while rehearsing the breakdown scene. We got stronger stuff for the real shows, and I swear that mascara and liner took an hour to wash off.
It’s okay to cry during movies. No need to apologize. ♥️
Sally Field's mourning her daughter, Dolly Parton being the best hairdresser in the world, and every second of Olympia Dukakis and Shirley McClane needling one another made this film so great. And how they made Daryl Hannah look homely is also pretty amazing!
Great reaction as always
So much awesome talent is in this movie. It's just great. Even if it does make me cry.
Making Daryl Hannah homely was a humongous feat ...I often have to tell people " did you know that Daryl Hannah " and they always say no way
Shirley Maclaine could go toe to toe with the original rat pack. She was unofficially their 'mother' for a time during the Vegas years. Her and Olympia Dukakis spitting barbs at each other as well as her scenes with Tom Skeritt were definitely my favourites
I adore Olympia!
To me, a perfect movie. And behind the scenes, Dolly had the whole script memorized. She knew how important this film was.
What the movie doesn't show (unfortunately) is Shelby is a Type 1 Diabetic (diabetes since birth) who already had some long-term medical issues with her kidneys ~ chronic kidney disease. Pregnancy can take a lot out of any woman, but in Shelby's case, it was complete kidney failure. Her mother donated her kidney, but Shelby's body rejected the healthy kidney and soon, her other organs had shut down. (Even in a coma, there is no regaining life once other organs shutting down happens.)
Shelby was a nurse who went against her doctor's advice and mother's wishes because she simply wanted a baby. To her, it was her body, her life, her choice, and eventually, her little boy.
Also, in then 80's, there were less treatments available for Type 1 Diabetics. It's gotten somewhat better, thanks in part to this movie shining such a big light on the subject...especially since it was based on a true story.
Btw, yes a Groom's cake is and always was a thing at weddings, and still is today. The bridal/wedding cake is usually a large, tiered, and very fancy cake, the one the bride and groom cut together and feed to each other. The groom's cake is a wedding tradition supposedly originating in Victorian England, but it was observed more often in the modern age mostly in the American South. In the South, many groom's cakes incorporate chocolate or fruit (my dad's went the full traditional way by incorporating both, being a chocolate-iced cake topped with both real and candy "fruit"). While the frosting tends to be chocolate, the cake itself can be any flavor, such as carrot cake, red velvet cake, sometimes cheesecake, etc.
These days, the cake and icing tend to be any flavor the groom prefers/chooses, and they are decorated to reflect the groom's hobbies or interests--everything from college or pro sports teams to outdoor activities like fishing and hiking to his favorite geek obsession like Star Wars or Lord of the Rings. Some are done in the shape of his favorite car, a team helmet, fave pet, etc.
The groom's cake is often served at a table separate from the wedding cake if it is served at a wedding reception; it gives guests another flavor option if the couple decide to take that route. But since it tends to be "smaller" (generally the size of a regular birthday or all occasions cake) it most often is served at the wedding breakfast or as a dessert for the rehearsal dinner since that tends to only be the bride and groom and their families as well as their attendants (groomsmen/bridesmaids) and whatever guests/family the attendants are allowed to bring to the dinner.
This movie is insane! I don't think I've EVER watched a movie where I was crying and laughing hysterically at the same time!
Fried Green Tomatoes has a similar feeling. But much more different.
Would you have hit Ouizer?
This movie has a special place in my heart. I am from Louisiana, and I did this play my freshman year of high school. When I learned that it was a true story, it hit close to home for me. I ended up going to a boarding school in high school that was in Natchiotches, LA where the story actually takes place AND they filmed the movie. A lot of the area looks exactly the same, and they actually converted the house in the beginning into a Steel Magnolia's Bed & Breakfast.
This is very cool. Thank you for sharing. I was in high school and know in my heart it was the first time I cried in a movie. Water works. Lol Your story is amazing and touching. The town being the same. Beautiful. Cheers.
Kaytlin: Has a special place in my heart too.Im from the Dominican Republic.Another place in your heart? STEALING HOME( Mark Harmon, Jodie Foster).
This movie is now so hard for me to watch. I lost my oldest son in 2018. Her breakdown after the funeral tears me up every single time.
I’m so sorry for your loss ♥️
Brittle diabetes is a severe form that is hard to control and creates wide swings from hyperglycemia to hypoglycemia lots of unpleasant symptoms, and can lead to death.
Jeeeeeeeez...
My mother had this condition she lost several children before me. She died in 1983 when I was 5. The treatments weren’t what we have today.
Grooms cakes are traditional in the south, usually the brides cake is all pretty and floral and WHITE and the grooms cake is usually what ever the grooms favorite cake is…chocolate, strawberry etc. My brother in law had a chocolate and Reese’s peanut butter cup cake at my sisters wedding lol
This movie is such an underrated masterpiece. I think one of the biggest Oscar screwups is that when this came out and awards season came around it was almost completely ignored. Sally Field should have WON an Oscar for that performance, she wasn't even nominated. It wasn't nominated for Best Picture either. The only nomination it got was Julia Roberts for supporting actress... and she lost. It deserved so much more credit than it got back then... the scene in the hospital as they turned off the machines was heartbreaking, but so well done. Every little detail of how they showed it, from the doctors hands to the heart monitor ticking down, then panning over to her mothers face... and it was silent. No music to affect the mood, they just let you dwell in the moment, because it was powerful enough on it's own. Props to the director for those choices.
Yeah, in the 80's "women's movies" weren't taken very seriously. I remember reading a review when the film first came out complaining that it was too melodramatic and "a celebration of ACTING rather than genuine performances". It still p*sses me off to this day.
This movie was originally a play based on real life, Shelby’s brothers wrote it. In real life she was put under anesthesia for a routine surgery and never woke up 😥
This is a beautiful movie and Sally Field was amazing in this role…just like she is in every role. Can’t not mention the incomparable Dolly Parton!
I watch this when I need a good cry!
to be fair with Shelby's mother, my sister doesn't have diabetes, but she has severe kidney problems and the doctors also told her she shouldn't have children. She tried five times, and every time I hated her. Every one ended in miscarriage and she almost died. As someone close you don't want to lose them, so when they endanger their own life you can't help to feel angry and helpless.
Very fair, definitely a scary game you're playing
It's sad because I genuinely wish I could give my own friggen uterus to someone else; I don't plan to have my own children for a number of reasons and will most likely be, at some point, adopting in the future so
I wish there was an easy transplant for this :/
I absolutely love the dude that helped make this movie. Not only did he help create Steel Magnolias, but he also help made the movies “Sister Act” and “Soapdish” straight gay icon ❤ well, maybe not straight 😂
This movie means a lot to me. It was my favorite movie to watch with my mother. I named my Daughter Shelby. We’re from Florida and we’re back in Florida now, but we moved to Texas for a few years and our drive on the way to Texas. We stopped in Natchitoches Louisiana because I had to see the Steel Magnolia house (is what they call it). Anyway, this scene is completely heart-wrenching.
Shirley MacLaine (Weezer) has had an amazing career. She was a singer/dancer in her early career. Warren Beatty is her brother. You should see “Postcards from the Edge.” MacLaine + Meryl Streep. And it was written by Carrie Fisher - Princess Leia herself! Really funny movie very loosely based on Fisher’s life and relationship with her mother, actress Debbie Reynolds.
The Apartment with Jack Lemmon is one of my favorites of her earlier films.
I loved Shirley in "Two Mules for Sister Sarah."
This is one of my fave movies and was surprised that hardly anyone has reacted to it on UA-cam. My favourite line is when she says if you can’t say anything nice about anybody come sit by me.
Healthy women can become diabetic while pregnant and Shelby had the more severe type of diabetes and the doctors said she shouldn’t have kids because it is so hard on the kidneys.
After first seeing Sally Fields in Ms. Doubtfire when I was nine, I had no clue just how good of an actress she is until I finally saw this movie last year at the age of 37. Lost my stepdad in 2019, and that scene at the end knocked me emotionally into another dimension.
The way I Cried when I saw this film! An absolute classic.
Those low blood sugar moments scare me. I’ve also seen my mom’s blood sugar get so low she was literally talking in gibberish looking like a toddler. We didn’t have orange juice so instead we gave her corn syrup, sugar, and milk to raise it up quickly. Nurse note the brain wasn’t getting enough sugar to function properly, so yeah it can be scary. Another tale my mom told me when she was just diagnosed at 12 years old is how my grandma would stuff Twinkies and any other sugary foods down my moms throat, whenever her blood sugar was low in the middle of the night.
I think you would like Fried Green tomatoes, another movie about friendships. One of my favorites.
I dare you to rewatch this movie followed by Terms Of Endearment, then Beaches. When these movies came out on DVD they supplied you with an antidepressant for afterward. Powerful films about real life.
Steel Magnolias, Terms of Endearment and Beaches triple bill?...... most viewers would be a cried out husk of a person
YES. What a great and horrible suggestion. :) All fantastic movies.
Sorry ... but the music ALONE in Brian's Song (1971) will rip your heart out.
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My favorite part of this movie is that Shelby isn't some "too good for this sinful earth" martyr. She's horrible to her mother who only wants to help her, and goes against every bit of medical advice she's ever given. This makes her feel much more like a real person whose situation you can get far more invested in, and feel the pain when she finally reaches her inevitable end.
Totally agree. I'm sure the happiness Shelby felt when she did the onx thing she was warned repeatedly not to and feeling of being "normal" gave her son feel great about being raised now without his mother and who prob wont even remember.
Totally agree. Like I want a child of my own! Doesn't matter if I'll live to raise him. He'll be fine. Fine show of selfishness.
Totally disagree. Like most people, she felt like she just needs to "stop being weak and push through". It's human nature to believe "it won't happen to me". Meline said at the beginning that normality was important to Shelby. She wanted a baby and said "30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special."
I'm glad they didn't make her a martyr either but let's not pretend we have listened to every piece of advice, including medical, that we are given. That's what made her relatable.
She wasn't horrible to her mom. They had bad moments
I LOVED your reaction today, and if you haven’t seen Fried Green Tomatoes…This 51 year old from Seattle, WA highly recommends it! Also, The Fisher King with Robin Williams hasn’t been done by anybody and it is incredible. All my love to you and yours. Cheers!
Hello fellow Seattleite!
Great reaction. If you want more Dolly Parton films, I would suggest 9 to 5, Straight Talk, Rhinestone, The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas, Unlikely Angel (a Christmas movie) and Coat of Many Colors (another Christmas movie)
Definitely 9 to 5! I really want someone to react to that, and don't worry Sam, it's a full on comedy 😁
I just want to know how many stage productions really did sell t-shirts saying "I Slapped Ouiser Boudreaux"...
Saw this movie for the first time when I was about 20. Then my son was diagnosed with Type 1 (what Shelby has) and it was a very long time before I could watch it again. Still one of my all-time favorites though.
I see a few have mentioned "Terms of Endearment" (1983). Shirley McClain is in that one as well as Steel Mags. Jack Nicholson plays a retired astronaut in "Terms." Super tear-jerker, it was nominated for eleven Oscars, it took home five: best Picture, Director, Adapted Screenplay, Actress for Shirley, and Supporting Actor for Jack.
My mom had diabetes for over 50 years. She loved this movie. I watch it once every few months in honor of her
19:45 Sally Fields was so brilliant in her outburst here it almost takes my breath away.
When my middle sister died of breast cancer back in 2010 the home hospice service chaplain came to the house within a couple hours to speak with us and offer us counsel. My parents and my sister and I are all Progressive Christians, but my uncle was one of _those_ hardcore Evangelical Southern Baptists as well as a Gideon (the people who put the Bibles in hotel rooms).
He pulled that same shit, saying, _"She's in a better place now up with the Lord"_ as though that was supposed to be comforting at that moment. As though ANYTHING could be comforting after not only holding my sister's hand and watching her die but also having to stand in front of my 6'1" father's chair and cradle his head against my middle while he clung to me and _sobbed_ because one of his babies had just died right in front of him.
The chaplain actually stopped my uncle and gently told him, _"I know you mean well... and while that is indeed true, it isn't helpful right now. Now is the time for them to mourn their loss."_
I've always been so thankful to him for saying that so I didn't have to (we asked him to officiate her funeral after that, which he did a WONDERFUL uplifting job of). I _hate it_ when people say shit like that after a death because no matter what you personally believe, it _isn't_ helpful. All it really does is invalidate the pain of the ones who were left behind, basically implying they shouldn't be as upset as they are and dumpling THAT on top of the emotional clusterfuck they're already dealing with inside. Which, again, Sally Fields did a _phenomenal_ job of portraying.
No, your uncle was a REAL Christian while you and your parents and sister are sadly self-deceived. You can be "progressive" or you can be Christian but you CAN NOT be both since the root of Progressivism is an outright denial of the literal inspiration and inerrancy of the Bible being the ONLY Word of God. Yes, your uncle was saying the right thing at the wrong time and grieving is a natural part of life but while he was spending his life giving out the Word of God to a fallen world who needs it, you’re on here cursing and bashing a child of God because he was actually following what that book said. Your Progressivism is a false religion and makes a mockery of Christ and His Gospel.
@@Akihito007 You read my entire comment and THAT is what you reply with. Did the point whistle as it flew over your head? Did you feel a breeze from it? 🤦♀️
ALL OF US have been lifelong Christians, you heartless self-righteous pompous sanctimonious _doorstop._ We were within the first hour or so of mourning a very traumatic death. I'm _still_ thankful that the chaplain was capable of understanding that, unlike you. He gave us grace in a time of intense grief. _Unlike you._
I can't fathom having the self-important audacity to say something like that in response to a story like this.
I'm legitimately _embarrassed_ for you.
21:46 Best turn from tragedy to comedy ever. 🙂
Herbert Ross had quite a neat and unpredictable life story. He started as a dancer on Broadway in the 1940s, and graduated to choreographer for a while, then took up film directing where he specialized in just these kinds of movies that are mostly comedies until something majorly tragic happens. This includes Play It Again Sam (notably one of the few films starring Woody Allen that he didn't direct himself), The Sunshine Boys, The Goodbye Girl, The Turning Point (also with Shirley MacLaine), Pennies From Heaven, and Footloose.
You really gotta do a reaction to "Guarding Tess". You'll love it.
I promise, there's no terribly painful parts, but it's full of comedy & humanity.
One of my favourite 80s movies
One of my all time favorite movies. Shows that life goes on through bad and good times. Just watching the highlights had me laughing and crying.
Sally. F*cking. Field. I mean, a great cast overall but Field's performance in this was incredible.
Great movie and great cast. Saw it when I was living in Puerto Rico as a nanny.
(1987-1991) I saw tons and tons of movies during that time, because the lady
of the house had gotten HBO, Cinamax and the Disney channel.
(which also included MTV and a few other awesome channels)
I cried the first time I saw it and still sometimes cry, but I have gotten better at
not crying all the time. LOL.
BTW My niece is named after the character Shelby in the movie, cause it's one
of my sister's favorite movies.
She turns 25 in April.
The gentleman who plays the minister was the playwright/screenwriter of the movie
A groom's cake is still a thing. It's particularity helpful if the couple can't agree on a wedding cake.
we all cry at this film no matter how many watches... a lovely heartfelt reaction.
The creator of the armadillo cake, Ann Wedgeworth, is the pride of my hometown, Abilene Texas!
So I am banned from watching this at home when my husband is home. There are 2 reasons for that, first is I recite the movie verbatim, and second I ball my eyes out. Growing up with an older brother who had diabetes, the similarities with Shelby’s issues hit too close to home. Especially the coma and turning off the machines.
Ouiser is my spirit animal
So I grew up loving this movie. Then when I was 23, I had something happen to make me almost need a full hysterectomy. I don't have kids. I haven't used protection with my husband since and we've never been able to get pregnant. I had to take about 5 years coming to terms with my infertility, then I was okay with watching movies like this. But that line, "I'd rather have 30 seconds of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special. And at the end...there's a little piece of immortality." But it was also that I had a lifetime of health issues. While some things are different, they still try not to adopt out children to people who have health problems...specifically like mine.
So, the guy that wrote the original play (Robert Harling) wrote it as a catharsis after losing his sister Susan in similar/same circumstances as the character of Shelby. It only took him 10 days to write it.
I lived with a bloke years ago (a bricklayer so pretty blokey) who liked to watch this when he was hungover lol it made him feel warm and fuzzy.
Stellar cast and Stellar writing. The creator is the brother of Shelby...so this was personal.
I have only not cried 3 times from Sally Field's funeral outburst, out of the hundreds of times I've seen this.
That movie was an emotional rollercoaster
This movie hits close. My stepmom and I are super close and she has lupus and is on dialysis. In April of 2020 both her kidneys failed and she flatlined. Luckily she is still here but I fear she could be leaving this world soon. This movie was shown to me after the situation and I cried like a baby.
Oh goodness, I know that must’ve been terrifying
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that
I hope your mom continues to kick butt ♥️
@@OGBReacts thank you. She’s staying strong and seems to be doing ok. It is definitely scary and hard but I’m going to come out of it much stronger than ever before. ❤️
8:43 "i could nevah my KNEES could nevah" relatable lol
Absolutely favorite movie of mine for over 30 years. I’m probably gonna be Ousier one day😅
You got through this one like a trooper! I bawled my eyes out the first time I saw it. I have seen this prolly 5-6 times now and still can't get through it totally dried eyed. Great reaction as per usual. 🙂
19:40 Yeah. Unfortunately, losing someone important to us tends to be an experience that far too many of us can identify with. Sorry about your uncle.
Bruh that scene can make me cry every time it's so real and raw, the acting from Sally Fields, amazing. You gotta check out Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya sisterhood if you haven't seen it already. I feel like it's kinda flew under the radar but it's a good movie with a nice cast.
I'd say you did pretty well overall. I've seen people just completely melt over the section about Shelby. Understandbly.
Well, next stop youuv'e gotta watch Fried Green Tomatoes. Another really good movie that feels like it exists in a similar space. I've seen the two of them grouped together a lot.
P.S. Golden Girls is amazing. Period. 🙂
Heh, I just recommended this movie without seeing your comment first :D
I saw this in the theater with my great grandma and grandma and their sisters. It was incredible.
From sobbing to laughter. Genius!!!!
I was so happy to find your reaction to Steel Magnolias, Sam. One of my all time favorites. My best friend and I can recite the whole thing. LOL. Great reaction (and I'm sorry for your loss) Thank you! ❤
“You look like hammered shit” I die at that line all the time lolol
Time for a string of happy films. It hurts my heart to see you cry. I lost a 15 yo nephew in a similar way, so I can relate a little. Losing people just sucks.
Oh goodness, I'm so sorry for your loss
Oh no. I’m so sorry. 15 is way too young to leave the world. All my hugs and love to you.
Hoping you recognized Shelby's mom as Sally Field, who was also the mother in "Forrest Gump". Thank you for a heartfelt reaction.
Yes!! She also played the wife in Mrs. Doubtfire!
Fun Fact: The play on which this is based has an all-female cast. The male characters are mentioned but never actually appear on stage.
And it all takes place in Truvey's shop (I've done the show before)
Favorite tissue movies...
In order of the tissues I went through.
1. Beaches (crying while hearing "You are the Wind Beneath my Wings" put this at #1 without that it would be #3
2. Steel Magnolias
3. Fried Green Tomatoes 🍅
But all had a lot of laughter in them as well. All three are great friendship movies.
This has long been one of my favorite movies of all time, I'm so glad you shared this reaction with us.
I ADORE Ouiser and Clairee together and to this day still quote "You know I love you more than my luggage."
25:37 This movie hit me so much harder today than ever before because, (TW) Because I got a call last night that we lost a friend of ours. And it was so close to Shelby, because his wife couldn't get ahold of him and raced home from work to find their one-year-old on the floor crying and he was slumped over. He was already gone. Watching that scene with Shelby And yeah... I just broke down right there.. and with M'Lynn as she broke down. It hit so close to home. I needed the cry.
Sally Field's another very interesting movie is "Not Without My Daughter" - based on a true story. Consider reacting.
This is my go to movie when I need to cry. I watch it at least 4x a year, usually around anniversaries of things and holidays. One of my favorite films :)
You never get over losing a loved one, you learn to cope a little better and laugh but it still hurts.
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry for your loss. You do a great job with your videos. Much appreciated.
I LOVE this movie! It reminds me so much of my grandma and her sisters🤣
Hey Sam, firstly I'm so sorry for the loss of your Uncle. That kind of stuff is hard to go through. I've been to my share of funerals in my life. It's in a way strange to know that in this moment I've outlived an Aunt of mine by a few years already. ( She passed at 52.) Onward, I was surprised that I liked the movie when I first saw it in 89, the portrayal of each of the women were very well done. My favorite character was Olympia's, just loved her sense of humor. And for a gal from NY, she carried off the Southern accent quite well. I should know being from GA.,lol. Just like Julia Roberts, this was her breakout role when she first got to be known. ( Just FYI- She has a well known brother who's an actor--Eric Roberts, and his daughter/ Julia's Niece -Emma Roberts is a known actress.) This movie was a huge hit at the time and I think won a few awards.
I found it funny you linked this some with Golden Girls, as only 1 of the characters in it was from the South.😛
Glad you enjoyed the movie!
Title: _Steel Magnolias_ First Time
My reaction: Yep. Let's go see people emotionally and mentally break down.
One of my all time favorite movies. I love this group of ladies so much! And what an amazing cast! It really is heart wrenching though.
I love the cast in this movie💝Dolly Parton is a Legend!
Great reaction 👏Rest in peace to your uncle 💞I played Annelle in a dinner theater production of Steel Magnolias and treasure the experience always. It was tons of fun, but watching our M'Lynn have her outburst at the end and then performing Annelle's emotional monologue 36 times was quite a challenge. If you get a chance to see the play, it keeps the focus on the women only and within the beauty shop itself. Mostly all the same dialogue, but an interesting take. I also love the movie though b/c it fleshes out their lives and integrates their families and the town. Beautiful story about love and loss and written from a real life experience of the playwright losing his sister Susan to diabetes. 💔
Edit: our Ouiser in the production actually made us a bleedin' armadillo cake during the run of the show. On the outside, he was much cuter than the one in the movie. Once we cut him open, well...🤣
This is such a good movie. It's funny, it was only this Wednesday I asked three of my colleagues (all 40+ women) if they had ever seen it, and NONE OF THEM HAD!! THIS is the negativity I deal with on a daily basis!
Now watch Fried Green Tomatoes :)
Soon soon!
Love this movie, but it is definitely painful. Great reaction!
Ouiser and Drum play a married couple in 1977's 'The Turning Point'- they had wonderful chemistry.
This movie gives me leaky eyes every time! I recommend Mask with Cher and Sam Elliott ❤️
Yep.. You have witnessed one of the best cinematic moments in history.. Laugh thru your tears!
That was a wonderful reaction sam. This movie holds a special place in my heart because it was my first Julia Roberts movie and she is my favorite actress. It's a beautiful, sad and funny film. Shirlie mcClane is the scene stealer for sure. Thx again for sharing an amazing video with us. 😀
One of my favorite movies! This reminds me so much of what my family went through with my aunt. I don’t care how many times I see it I always cry. I think Ouiser and Clairee are my favorites. My sister’s middle name is Melynne after M’lynn.
After mom showed me this I looked at her and said, "I don't appreciate having my emotions messed with that way. And you knew it would happen." She just laughed and said eat shit, and die lmfao God I love her!!
FRIED GREEN TOMATOES must be next!!!!
A few other similar flicks from the era: "The Goodbye Girl" (1977), "Ordinary People" (1980), "The Big Chill" (1983),
Welcome to Louisiana. We have fun and heart.
Oh, I'm so sorry you've had a similar experience! That can definitely make it hurt more, I'm sure. But the wonderful message to take away from the film is that life goes on and we can find new sources of joy and new things to live for. The way the whole community comes together there at the end in support of the Eatenton family's loss, and again when the DeSotos (Annelle and Sammy) are about to have their baby.
The author wrote the play to come to terms with the 1985 death of his sister from diabetic complications after the birth of her son and the failure of a family member's donated kidney, dramatizing the experiences of the author's family and friends.
Still a fave movie in my family, and we quote these lines to each other all the time, even though we haven't had to actually *watch* it in years. Never fails to make us laugh, and Sally Field's monologue in the cemetery *still* brings tears to my eyes no matter how often I see it. But I try to see it as a celebration of family and friendship, and how having those things can get us through the roughest times. ♥
I remember watching this for the first time last year and I fell in love with it
Your reaction is platimum and thank you!
Terms of Endearment! Or Fried Green Tomatoes another great one.