6 Painful Struggles INFP Go Through (that people don't hear about)
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When they’re in their game, it seems like no one will outdo an INFP. What is more, their constantly reeling imagination would always create visions of perfection.
These Dreamers are creative, compassionate, and driven by their values. However, despite their positive qualities, INFPs struggle with a few things in life.
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As a very healthy INFP (I know! Shocker!) in university, my best advice to fellow INFPs is to focus your life on cultivating your strengths: your intuition, your imagination, your creativity, and your ability of empathy. Keep these at your core, and don’t give a s*** about if anyone gets it or not. Know that being misunderstood isn’t a weakness, but it is our advantage and our secret. Take it as an opportunity to individuate yourself further, and strive to be different from those around you, rather than conform to the contemporary vulgarity of the average person!
These are such a accurate words 🙏😭thank you for them 💜
So true. Tysm
I’m also at college and just started to be and feel more like who I really am… But it’s sometimes still a struggle. What is your major?
Love this!!! And yesss for our secret weapons!!
You have such good insight I’m much older in my 30,s and really struggled being”odd” and thinking differently to most others when I was younger. Strange thing was I didn’t actually want to fit in either and preferred to spend a lot of time in my imagination. I often thought other people just thought in a common way logical/ practical that I didn’t get I’m more creative/abstract and I find living in the real world,real life tv boring or just too much emotionally, I can’t watch the news. As I’ve got older I try and see my infp brain as a superpower.Yes I’m crap at spacial awareness and although I’m a very good people reader I don’t have the gift of the gab. I’ve learnt to adapt at work in a boring meeting I can be riding a dragon but at the same time be able to answer questions on health and safety and have trained myself to move my head around and not just stare into space when I’m daydreaming.
Does anyone else talk to themselves like all the time? My boyfriend always catches me taking to myself and says normal people don’t do that 😂
I do that but I learned to not to do it loud if there's possibility someone will catch me, but yes I talk with myself.
@@Rossellinique Sometimes I slip and end up doing just that lol
Sounds like it’s time for a less judgemental partner. They shouldn’t be giving shade for you being who you are… as if “normal’ is some sort of goal/ideal. Hopefully, that’s just an anecdote which doesn’t represent how they really regard you.
Normal people are boring anyway.
@@ruthbennett7563It's probably just a joke... my parents mock me a lot about the fact that I talk to myself, but we all laugh about it. Personally, I'm not normal and I'm proud of it.
Am I the only one who has been labelled as a crybaby? I cry helplessly at any uncomfortable, frustrating beyond words situation. Hyper sensitivity has been a true challenge. Even though I do know it won't solve the problem, that it makes no sense for an adult, and that I will end up dealing with the hardest migraine afterwards, I end up crying unstoppable rivers !
nope babe yiu are not the only one
Definitely not the only one!
It's okay, crying is a normal thing to do, and emotion are sometimes uncontrollable and that's okay! We're supposed to feel and express that, i cry a lot too crying makes it less heavy and it makes me feel better after.
i would like to cry a bit more tbh. i didnt learn that for myself and instead i suppressing my feelings inside...
there is a lot going on in our inner world of feelings and hyper sensitivity makes is even harder, but if you learn to differentiate from other persons a bit, its the most stengthful talent you can imagine.
Probably you are an INFP and HSP , I'm also .....I got stressed and panicked in many challenging situations. When I m the centre of talk either in work or when someone is asking questions which I have to think and answer I get too frustrated and overhelmed and then cry a lot , I cry a lot on stupid things also , I'm so much sensitive also . it's oky to be like this , we are not alone or weird, It's just us ...We are like this....❤️
It gets easier as you get older. INFPs are late bloomers and as we age we become confident and care less about other people’s opinions (while still remaining empathetic). Just hang in there and set small, achievable goals for your creative projects. Then see them through. You’ll also find a handful of people you click with. Stay in touch with them for life and don’t be afraid to lean on them when you need to. We are awesome, it just takes us a while to realize that. 😊
I can relate!
Im 24 still living at my parents place..
Thanks. 😊🙏
I'm 27 year old female infp, let me tell you, it's so damn hard being an INFP, currently I feel so stuck, I don't know what i want in life, which career to persue, this just so frustrating I wish I can just pick a career, run with it and be happy
I cuss myself everyday, thinking why was I born this way..
I feel the same, it's really hard to find my place in the world
@@ashirbad3299 please don't feel that way about yourself, I used to feel that way about myself but now I have grown to accept myself the way I am, because there's a special reason why INFP's are the way they are, every person is in this world or every personality type is important in this world ❤️
@@kagontleserutle5775 I dunno, I'm 27 as well, but it has been very difficult for me throughout my life to create strong bonds and friendships that'd last forever, I see at people and I think to myself why dont I have that quality to sync with people effortlessly, am I holding myself back, would I be able to change if I tried hard enough, life has been a struggle where every time you do something, you're worried about how your actions would affect others rather than how it'd affect yourself..
I am also 26yo m infp and I am going back to college. I am writing down many reasons why I should stick through it. I'm just scared I'll give up and fail again..
The part where you said that we infp try so hard to fit in..I felt that..always trying to act like an extrovert to fit in but it just drains my energy
I too find myself using my all energy to try to be “extroverted” and fit in. But really it’s only because I don’t want to stand out. 😩 idc about fitting in but I hate being noticed or having any attention on me so I try to blend in
So real. The first thing I do when meeting new people is try to be super friendly, and then eventually I just burn out as a result. Long sigh
So true..
But in the end i was only around wrong people
thats so true, and then they are texting and calling like that dude was so extrovert and nice i wanna meet him again, well that was not me so i wil ignore their text haha@@aiiiia9971
I didn't know all these emotions are felt by my fellow infps too😭 all this time I've felt so alone
The part about really struggling with transitioning from school to a career is SO TRUE and hard on my mental health. As an INFP I am not good with practical things and handling adult responsibilities and self-motivating and am SO sensitive to perceived demands and pressure. I get overwhelmed and burnt out so quickly, and it feels so unfair that we have to fight against who we are to be seen as professional, competent, confident, assertive etc. in the typical work world.
I'm legit having a perpetual crisis over here. 😭 It feels impossible sometimes. I wish I didn't have to try this hard.
"we have to fight against who we are to be seen as professional, competent, confident, assertive etc" - very well said!
The adult responsibility part 😮😮😮 I’m terrible at the mundane adulting.
This is so me😢 i just want to own a bookstore or study languages but i am forced to work in companies i hate, and I genuinely know that I will never be good enough there (nor that i want to be good enough for them)
I feel seen right now knowing that I'm not the only one who feels like this.
you summed it up so well, we really have to wear a whole mask to “fit in” or earn any kind of respect
Bro that money stuff hits so real. I literally do not care about money. Only freedom
Top much freedom is paradoxical, so beware. Look up playground theory and paradox of choice. People think they want freedom but a good amount of troubles come with it.
Money is freedom in this world
Yes, and when I see literally every one around talking about money all the time, I can't bear them sometimes
Exactly, I'm infj,totally agree
@@justsomerandompenguinwitha9650 yes...get a bit of money so you have freedom...you don't really need that much tbh
I was standing in shock at the part where when we mature we dont care about other's opinions. I literally changed and now dont care about being "understood" like i used to. This hit hard 😮
I envy that.. I'm almost 50 and I still worry about being understood or how I'm perceived by others, maybe not as much as I once did but still, its there. Even tho I know logically no one ever sees us as we see ourselves, I still get hung up on my imperfections and not being "good enough".
@@dorrianstone7264do you mind if you share life story after school pls, im in that part of life and kinda need guideline on what feeling will comes to me.
I’m well into my 50s and am right there with you. I’d like to not care what others think, although I don’t know how that works.
Me too!!
I'm only 21, but I realized that I cared less when I found someone that did understand me or at least made a seemingly real attempt to. I'm convinced that it literally just takes one to make a difference. I can't say that I could be okay having no one because I'm still human and require some sort of meaningful social interaction, but having a singular person has helped.
I'm a mature infp. Just do what's right for the situation you are dealing with and try to shut off people pleasing
Emphasis on the people pleasing thing.
I feel that pleasing people thing so hard. I always helped people with their mental struggles and even relationships yet they never gave anything back when i was in dark places and literally ghosted me... I learned from that and as much as i love helping people it does the opposite for you often times since many people dont value it.
@@ybsheep I understand and feel that.
@@ybsheep Who cares? Don't over think it! Doing good to others is a way of life, we shouldn't be expecting anything in return anyway. It's a nice gesture when it does happen. That's not to say to keep letting the same people take advantage of you repeatedly. But to help those who appreciate it when it counts. As someone once said, "happiness is achieved when we forget ourselves in the service of others, and go to work!"
Me: How accurate can you be😮
Mathias corner: yes 😂
too real😭
True😆
I would add one, or maybe it could be a corollary to number 6: anger at your own personality for being too much of a pushover.
When you meditate, i've learned, is to become a pushover .... Ne users are pushovers, right?
noo/?@@lunarious87
Hmm I never felt like a pushover, because I know my limits and the point at which I will not conform. If somebody oversteps their welcome I am very quick to withdraw from them and cut them off. Maybe it's just a problem for shy infps? Idk I could never let people walk over me because it just feels inauthentic to me
I never realized how much is "why" so important to me
it all makes sense now. these are the exact struggles i am constantly dealing with, multiplied by depression, anxiety, and mild ADHD, even leading me to suicidal ideations. ive never once felt more understood and seen than in this very moment. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for making this video. i have a reason to live.
BrodyHarlan1331- Hang in there! You’ve come this far and that’s a great achievement. I pray you keep increasing your light and shine your gifts on this planet and the world.💫
It's quite painful to read this, I can understand you. I hope you're okay
exactly feel like this for years.. always wondering what’s wrong with me but deep down I know I‘m not crazy I‘m just different.. tried to understand my own mind so much that I always questioned which of my thoughts were ever real … I think INFP live more in their head than in the reality
I'm in a similar boat buddy, hang in there and keep trying. It's harder than anyone knows but you're worth it. Hugs!
"Unsupportiveness" STORY of my entire life...
same with the friends subject
yeah, feel that too
Sameee
I myself am torn all the time. My biggest struggle is logic vs emotions. What to do in life.I feel like I’m never good enough because I never reach my own goals. After looking into my own personality more I just realize that a lot of the stuff I struggle with is just… a common thing. It’s nice to know I’m not alone
This vid is very accurate
Same here , I really have a hard time accomplishing my goals in life and what to do in present and future situations I also thought I was the only one struggling in this world with these problems but after I watched this video I knew that there are ppl out there struggling with the same problem. It’s just a very common thing of our personality .
Agreed it is spot on
I’m over 50 now and I’m only now starting to feel better in my own skin. I’ve spent all of my days alone due to being a INFP. Didn’t even know I was one until a few months ago. I now understand so much more of why I am the way I am and why its been so difficult to make friends and I’ve only had two lovers who didn’t remain with me for more than a year. Complaining I was to strange and just not what they wanted. These days I’m just trying to find peace in myself. Even if it means being alone.
If you’re like me. Know you’re not alone.
This is me my whole life. I’m 45F, quit my job because I was miserable and it felt meaningless and not fulfilling. Having existential crisis right now.
Same here
49F, new decent city job, struggling to not quit because it’s “not quite right “. Like, what is going to be “right” at this point Lol 😅
I'm 38F and working for an idiot right now. I'm about to quit my job and live in a van until I figure things out. Good luck everyone
My si has had to develop due to my life and having to deal with things alone, so for me life is a constant battle of what I want to do vs what I should do. It's hell
Working in 2 similar jobs one where my values align (in education) and the other where it doesn't exactly go against them but don't align as much (more of a profit focused organisation) so I love and hate working at same time
48F have a pretty cool creative job but I have to constantly work with the public. My work buddy is also extremely fast and creative so I feel like I can’t keep up and I’m exhausted all the time 😩
As an INFP I've struggled to find a career that is both fulfilling and pays the bills.
Same. I'm pushing 50 and it's been a life long struggle. Right now, for first time (1 ½ years), I have a career that pays very well but it is unfulfilling and kinda kills my soul. It has a ton of good things about it. Actually, it only has 2 bad things but 1 of them is massively bad and is probably an INFP'S worst nightmare.
Ux/ui designer!
@@YuukineaI’m literally pursuing that!
As an ESFP with two INFP best friends, I know what it was like to have these problems as a teen, so I do my best to help other introverted people when they’re struggling. INFPs deserve all the love and protection and they should have someone recognise how great they are 💕
Us INFPs really are deeply contrary creatures. Cause the thing is... I love that part of myself, I love my emotional intelligence and sensitivity. But it is awful because it makes daily life all the more challenging.
My emotions deeply influenced how I interact with the world. And this means that for me to accomplish the mundane tasks, I must first be emotional about it. Which is ridiculous, but I simply do not know how to accomplish the things I want to do without involving my emotions
The indecisiveness is a huge problem for me, and too many goals. I wrote 4 novels in a book series, and I still can't decide if I want to publish. I think I'm too ambitious. It's a good series too, like I know it will do well, that's how sure I am. I just have no faith in myself. I have no friends, so I have no support system, so it's not like I can go to anyone for advice.
Publish it
I think you should publish it. What are you waiting on?
As an infp myself, I have been trying to write a book for years, but my indecisiveness has caused me to bounce between so many different projects at once that I never finished a single one.
So you have any idea, what a huge accomplishment you have made? FOUR BOOKS! You can't let this opporunity pass you by
Please publish them...I would love to read your work❤
@@aiiiia9971 I would like to publish at least the first novel. I just get so much anxiety and I worry that no one will like it honestly and the best novels I've ever
Written.
@@martinam7956 I think a lot of it has to do with anxiety. Then I fear it won't be any good. The book is about 5 characters who struggle
in life, then die and return to earth to learn how to face fear. I should probably take a lesson from them because there are several fears they face, and I'm too afraid to publish a book, lol
From one INFP to another, thanks for making videos, to further understand this personality of ours, which encourage us to embrace it rather than to reject it 😊
INFP = beauty.
Please befriend an INTJ. We want you in our lives and want to do whatever we can to help you realise your vision.
Thanks, I really needed to hear that.
@@Deathfairy76-us1xk You're very welcome. You'll probably end up with one of us at the next party you get dragged along to anyway, as we both look for a port in the storm. 🙂
Thanks but it’s hard to find nice and open minded souls like u :(
@@NatsuDragneel-pi7cs And yet you always find as at the party, when the humans become too overwhelming. We're the dark technical person you follow around. We like you, it's mutual.
I never felt more understood ever. This video alone explains my whole 24 years of existence. 😂
Same bhie
as infp, the word "why" is literally my bane. what I do in my life the most is asking myself "why?"
Powinieneś zostać ux/ui designerem w takim razie :D
I have found that sometimes accepting that it doesn't get easier helps to make it easier to cope with life.
It is my personal opinion that life isn't supposed to be easy in the first place but at the same time we just need to do what we can to not add additional layers of unnecessary difficulty.
Love to you my fellow brothers and sisters out there.
We may not know the exact nature of each others individual struggles but we should at least take some comfort in knowing that there are others like us out here who can understand and empathize with us.
I share whatever positive energy and well wishes I can with you all.
I love you all my separate yet universally connected echoes.
What is unnecessary difficulty?
@@isaza5716
It could be anything from as simple as trying to be someone we're not for other people or thinking that we can change other people so that they can make us happy.
Taking time for introspection helps a lot.
Really in a hard time right now.. I found this video on UA-cam because I’m looking for a job that suits me(INFP).. being unemployed and playing games all day must be many people dream but I need to get out from this.. I need to find a job 😭 many people suggest me many kinds of job but from my POV I can’t do that job wih full of my heart and it will suffers me a lot. But from their POV I’m just a lazy person 😢I really need to find a job that suits me, so I can proof to them that I’m not a lazy person😌
Keep going, you're on the right path. :) Commit to finding something which you are truly fascinated by. Of course it's easier said than done when you have bills on the way.
@@DjokovicIsOurLordAndSaviourthanks for your support 😊😍
You are not alone, I'm in that struggle too,
@@kagontleserutle5775 For me it's been digital product design. It's a field where you have a high variety of tasks, and endless things to learn and you can genuinely have a positive impact on the people using whatever software.
Plus, tech companies generally have great compensation etc.
I think that the key is to find something which you could see yourself enjoying for a long period of time. If you have some kind of natural affinity for it too, great. But, I've found that practice and perseverance trump talent nearly all of the time.
same 😊
This is so spot on it is almost scary! It is a rare thing to feel like someone understands you.
I'm lucky, because two of my friends in school are also infps and one advocate so I can talk to them. Only now do I notice how carefully I selected my friends at the beginning.
This is so comforting ... I turned 38 last week and watching this video now has just made me feel validated for who I am.
Thank you.❤
I'm an intj (don't even know why I watched this video) but I relate a lot regarding the career choice and traditional work environment. I feel frustrated in my current career and tired of how the corporate world works.
Watching videos like this are really comforting. The point you made about INFP's agonizing over decisions for days/weeks, a major example of this happened with me in work about a month back which caused the most amount of stress and anxiety that I've ever experienced in my life. The decision I made and the impact it had stuck with me for over a month and, even as I'm typing this, still partially sticks with me.
As an INFP, I've found it very powerful to adapt stoic philosophy. You don't control what happens, you control how you respond.
Wow this video is so comforting. I live in a family of thinkers with excellent judging skills and its just really hare to fit in. I recieve many criticism from my parents telling me that im "abnormal" and that I need to get my life together. Instead of agreeing I cry every night thinking of how everyone hates me. My final exams are around the corner and all that crying and sleepless nights never help me. Im so glad that I found out that there are more people like me
💜💜Hope u're doing well, I also live in a family of T's so I can relate
Next to caring about other people's opinion is caring about your own opinion. The constant fight between my feelings and thoughts is tiresome.
That moment when you hit bullseye on every one of these things ... I feel lost, alone, stuck, not understood and left out ... I often realise that I procrastinating a lot without actually doing anything helpful ... Struggling with love life is just a nail to the coffin ...I am so exhausted by all this ...
This is so true with the family wants me to become an educator (which runs in the family tree) and I just graduated with an education degree. The experiences of me dealing with people drained me so much during my teaching internship. Despite of the challenges in dealing with socialization, it felt really rewarding to see that students learn and them engaging with you. But overall, in that experience i really don't think I have the guts in me to really deal with people again. There are times that I feel happy, i feel disappointed, and exhausted when I was teaching. It felt like I have not been my authentic self. I always wanted to be a psychology major student or a film student but sucks because of financial problems and all and the pressure of our reputation and expectation was that i should be an educator. Now I am reviewing for my board exams for my license as a teacher-i still dont know yet the future but still failures and disappointment is still there. But hey, i am still learning. I really love teaching other people but it socializing drains me so much. I love arts but I really don't think I could be able to do that in this lifetime :'))))))
I'm in a very similar situation right now. Being a teacher is as an INFP is extremly draining in my case the socializing I must do outside the classroom is what exhaust me the most, dealing with bosses, planing, grades, schedules becomes really overwheling. Teaching is fun sometimes but I just don't feel this is what have the most afinity to. I'm always dreaming for the momento in which I can persue something realated to story telling whether writing, comics or film. But the financial situation is a real obstacle although right now I refuse to lose hope. I think it is possible some way or another. I hope you get to feel the same and find your way into what you really want!
My husband and I (both INFPs) had the exact same experience. We both had a teacher-parent and ended up with a teaching degree. We both stopped teaching as it utterly drained us. Also, we both felt like we could explain things so much better on paper than in words, even when it concerned subjects and matters that we were familiar with...
I deeply relate to almost everything in the video except crying. I’m not a crying person, but the description of what it feels like to be an infp and what an infp goes through mentally, really cut me to the core. I’ve had to tell myself that it is not ok to go through life in a state of “existential crisis”. At some point you have to be a bit more sure and settled in life. Still, I struggle to rectify daily hardship and the grind with the better world that exists in my mind.
Shouldn't we start a movement?
I believe the world would be a much better, happy, beautiful and peaceful place if the idealist INFP is allowed to function as they should. We have the ability to change the world for better. The ideal is what is fair
Yes. Fair means Pale / White in British English. There's a beauty product which is called Fair and Lovely. I think Pornstars are Fair and Lovely. ... *Fast Forward* Everyone should be Slaves or Servants to Allah and/or the higher good. Injustice is called Darkness in Arabic and Qur'an. And Believers are marked by Light (read: Whiteness) emitting from their Face and Hands.
However I don't know wheither to Adopt white Masters and Mistresses, or adopt Allah as God and Master. I think genuinely Allah is a better Master than white Supremacy.
In the world of sensors and thinkers the intuitive are like sheep walking among wolves. Why a pack of wolfs would allow a sheep to thrive and prosper? Just to eat it in the end. Our world doesn’t deserve INFPs!
@@constantin1483 I don't see INFP as a sheep. It's more of a force of nature and nature always prevails. Wolfs are just a part of something bigger and I believe that 'idealistic' part is also responsible for seeing the big picture and being the change.
@@chosensomeonelse Okay in other words then; in a world of competitors those who seek cooperation are like…deers among lions…prey among hunters…you name it…what I try to say is that the traits that define them the most like idealistic dreamer, strong moral conduit, highly empathic and altruistic; all of that are pretty much weaknesses in our world ( and yes, I know you don’t agree with me, but it is true, I mean…you know I am right…you just have a different point of view, more optimistic one, which I will gladly crush!!!).
A force of nature usually is something with high and wide impact over the world…ehemmm…INFPs hardly care about this world, they are more concerned about their inner worlds. As a contradiction of their entire being, they poses the vision and the ability to observe what is wrong within this world and even envision ways of change in better, but they are motivated enough to do nothing about it. Why to act when you can dream about acting? Nature indeed always prevails but INFPs are more of a freak of nature. Those hardly prevails.
Wolfs are…sensors and thinkers…I think…I don’t want to go this way tho…to divide the world in two specific groups…I may end up creating a new form of racism…but for clarification they are the majority in this world while the intuitive feelers are unfortunately a minority ( I hope no one would call me on that, you can check any statistics you like or even simply go outside).
And here is the trick, INFPs don’t need wolves above them nor to be a minority to have the ability to perceive the world as ugly as it is, they are doing it naturally, and in their imagination they are making it worse, usually exaggerating the negative parts of it. And…I am not completely sure about this one…even if one of them may end up changing/improving the world, they will still be unsatisfied and dream even of a better one.
At the end you are a bit confusing for me but I have to call you on your last words “being the change”?! Well if you manage an INFP to share his idealistic views with someone and then that someone to push them into action, MAYBE, but is a huge maybe!! That “someone” must be a monster! From my point INFPs are not big on change, actually they are quite the opposite. Stubborn in their ways and morals to the point where fallowing them hurts them and they still do.
What do you think a sheep’s among wolves would dream about?
@@constantin1483 so what the fuck of mbti you came from... 😏😏
these illustrations are sooo beautiful🥰
I've identified as an INFP for so long that i haven't really looked back and considered the changes I've made. I feel different, more confident, and much louder in voice. Mabye, I've overcome these struggles and become a whole different personally type. So, to the question of people who have overcome these, we are doing well.
This entire video was basically me rn as an infp male in a job i hate but must keep to pay bills, but desperately in trying to locate the secret code to happiness and escape..
Honestly, I started to be a much more happy, balanced and mature INFP after I left christianity and realized the HUGE ignorance that surrounded me. But I accepted it. I accepted life, events and people and I don't try to change them anymore. I realized that acceptance is the essence of peace; contentment is the essence of joy and joy is the essence of life. So yeah 😇 now I know the secret formula for a better life.
Realizing that religion was just manipulation was possibly the best thing to ever happen to me.
@@StudlyStudmuffin Religion works through manipulation but it's not just about that. Religion can offer hope - that's why it is so irresistible. But it can also be toxic. It makes you ignorant of the reality and can promote a toxic perfectionism that drains you. When I was a Christian I always felt.. immature. Since I left Christianity I no longer feel that way.
I’m an INFP. I’m still a Christian but I have had a lot of Christian people leave me and essentially betray me. I often felt misunderstood in my Christian friend group. I always felt drained when going out with them and was told by the closest one to me that I was too quiet and so much more. I really tried, but I just couldn’t fit in. The thing is, I could be angry at them or at Christianity as a whole and could make the argument that they were hypocrites and that the religion is hypocritical, but you know what? Whatever. I’m not a Christian because of the people. If my walk as a Christian depended on other people and the bad stuff such as manipulation, toxicity, and backstabbing that I’ve seen and personally experienced, I would have left. But you know what? My walk isn’t dependent on any of those things. My walk is depended on my personal relationship with God. And when those people left me? And when I felt so bad about myself and how I am as a person and how I can’t fit in, God personally told me that He would never leave my side and He made me this way for a special purpose. Although they may have thought I was boring, He told me that I am not. Although they misunderstand me, God told me that He understands me. When I felt unseen, He told me that He sees me. Religion is a dead end. A personal relationship with God is the way. You cannot be the best version of yourself without the One who created you. You were created to be close to Him and enjoy His presence while He enjoys yours. Jesus loves you 💖 Religious people put Jesus on the cross. God wants a personal relationship with you.
@@victoriaaj758 Is beautiful to see your religion as a relationship with God. I can empathize with you more than you can imagine. I was there. I wasn't a Christian because of people. I also realized that no matter how hypocrites people are, that doesn't change the truth. I wanted to be genuinely good and loving and.. right. I also enjoyed spending time in prayer and meditation. And I used to think about God and see the world considering him every day and, when I was closer to him, every hour I was awake.
But the things we believe as truth can shape our mindset and, considering my background, my mindset eventually made me feel pretty miserable. I had my doubts, my frustrations, my disappointings, my falls, depression, anxiety and misery in the past - but I always covered them up. I wasn't paying enough attention to them. But I arrived at a point when I felt is not worth it - so I left God though it was not an easy choice.
Later I learned that some things I thought were true are probably not. I started to see the world in another light and I realized more and more how much I blinded myself. So I became an agnostic. It was the truth I discovered and the choice I made that made me leave Christianity, not the people.
What's more - I realized that every time I thought God is supporting and encouraging me, every time I wanted to grow and be good - it was actually me all along. God was a reflection of the mature figure I wanted to have in me. I wanted to have a person - a God, who can offer me love and support and a purpose and who can give suffer a meaning. When I no longer had a God who can offer these things to me, I offered them to myself. I was growing since then and the feeling of immaturity vanished. And I think that's because I become the adult I was seeking in God.
I don't want to invalidate your feelings. I could be wrong. Maybe there is a God who has a plan for my life and He saw I had a bad mindset and knew that the best thing He could do for me is letting me down so I can leave the faith and fix my mindset and become a better person. After all, I did pray for maturity and peace.
@@victoriaaj758 Amen
All of these things are so damn relatable. As a teenage INFP, I struggle with making authentic friends. Once, I had a close set of friends where I finally felt at home with, but two of them got into a fight and the group dissolved. I find it hard because I understand the circumstances of why it happened, but all I want is for them to be friends again and for the group to stay together. Even now, I’m struggling with it and idk what to do.
Why these comments are so relatable..😭... I wish we all find the right path and learn to handle these overflowing emotions.
True, true and true. Thank you for shedding some light on this matter
I struggle with most of these problems. My husband died in January and I am struggling with that loss. I definitely feel disillusioned. We were married for 52 years. I expected everything to continue on and on.
This was personal.... Never realized I was INFP😐
Finally found someone who understands me
I'm 32 years old and over the past 3 years i slowly understand whats important for me and where i have to slow down or be more realistic. I guess the most powerfull is to know what are your values in life and defend them. Thats more of a guidance for myself and often i struggly with the idealism against the reality, but kinda slowly i learn that perfectionism isnt always good.
So keep your mind up, speak with your true friends about your inner feelings and try to break down your idealisms into the real world. Hard to do so, i know, but a worthy work.
I had such a bad day today
Thank you i needed this❤
It’s so difficult in life 😢. I hope others are doing well 💪
Okaaaay, I didn't sign up to being fucking called out-
TBH So far the only compromise I found is keep working the god-awful dead-end job, assume everyone around you is an idiot, and work on your passions in private.
Which, surprise surprise, doesn't work. You get overwhelmed and upset, and everything falls apart (Take it from me who has been unemployed for a year and can't get back into the work force coz doesn't seem like anyone needs customer support workers anymore!).
If someone has good solutions for this "I will fucking die here alone, forgotten and haven't done anything of worth" mentality - I'd love to hear it, coz goddamn, it ain't getting easier by the day...
I’m sorry to hear
That must be so tough
But so are you
Even if you don’t feel it
Deep down
Your heart
Soul
Special ting there
Anyway
Patience and prayer
AYOOWW!! You are so MEEE with that 1 year unemployment and customer support as previous job
Well, this may seem like a small point compared to your overarching concern, but I believe it’s important: do away with the “assume everyone around you is an idiot” part. Having a negative opinion of others is never going to serve you well. They are wired differently, they have different priorities and perhaps even extremely different values. But you might be surprised how much of a difference it will make just deciding to love and appreciate those around you for who and what they are.
@@padthai2226 Oh, honey, that's not what I meant! I meant like in customer service! If work with orders in an online store, right? And often I get customers complaining that their order went to god knows where and when I check, it is because they put in their address wrong and the zipcode doesn't match. When I first started working, I fretted over "how could this happen, oh you poor thing" etc etc etc... And ultimately, emotionally burned myself out, because I was trying to empathize with that customer too much and spending all my energy on a customer that spent the better part of the conversation cursing me out and calling me a bitch and a moron, when I personally had nothing to do with this! So in the end, I just decided to go with the "Assume the customer is an idiot" and it made it easier to let their insults over my head. They are an idiot who can't get their own address right, why would their opinion of me matter?
In my day to day life and with my coworkers, I don't think that way, but in my day to day life, I don't get called a bitch every other word about something I had no involvement in! It's more so a defence mechanism against shitty customers, not a general way of life for me!
That being said, looking back on it, I understand how my initial wording may have been confusing, so sorry about that!
This has been quite a day. I got into the rabit hole of personality types, and I didn't know a lot about them, but I wanted to see which category my personality would fall into because to be completely honest, It's hard to tell who I am sometimes, I thought I was just "Strange" like I've been called my entire life. I take the quiz and it lands on INFP so I did more research on it and I'm so emotional right now because I thought I just wasn't a normal person. I've been struggling with all 6 of these, for a really long time. I've battled severe depression, anxiety and adhd for years and years. For the first time I feel like I'm finally understood and I'm not alone in all of this
You are not alone. Best of luck friend
The quitting job is so spot on me.. i got soo much work experience and whenever i felt i lost the purpose i just left,
I never felt so understood until now 😭😭😭 Thank-you!!!
As an INFP when I have to do things that I don’t like or the things that requires more effort to do,I often think why do I have do these things?,what am I getting from this? And when I do it I’m not self conscious of what I’m doing as well as I procrastinate and I get overwhelmed. No matter how much I try I can’t find the reason for me being like this. I feel so disgusted to see how much cruel people can be.
Omg this couldn't be more true. TYSM for making this, it makes me feel better that I'm not the only weird brain who feels this way. :')
So do I , I'm 21 and it's hard to stick to one thing , I want something to do which is purposeful , and benefit for the humanity and the earth , sometimes I crave to learn a musical instrument, sometimes to become a dancer , many time to learn a new language, love being a photographer, I get exhausted early by doing these things for a while then jump to a new interest , btw my interests are around these things, which come up in a cycle , one day I'm motivated, fierce , 100 percent productive and the next I spend my day doing nothing . I proscratinate and I need much time to get myself mentally prepared for everything.
It's really hard to be an infp when it comes to finding a career. Do I have to pick just one? It's hard to balance self care with helping make the world a better place and helping other people. I usually choose to help others. And when I burn out, I pull away for very long periods of time (like I am doing now) and feel quite bad about it because I know others don't understand. If I explained it, it would sound like I am blaming them but I know it's not their fault. I am just so drained and need a whole lot of me time to heal and recharge. I love my own company. But I can also get stuck there and anxiety can creep in when I try to go back out into the world and be social aside from my job. And when I do go back out, I usually choose to hide from my closest friends and venture to see some others that I am not so close to just so I can do a whole baby-step thing back into socializing. I feel bad about doing that too. I hate that I feel bad a lot when others wouldn't give it a 2nd thought. Then I feel like I am being selfish but honestly, who isn't to one degree or another?
Dawn this hits home all the way.I feel pretty much the same way too.the constant feeling bad, the j constant i wishes.damn you are like a soul friend or smth
Pls know that you are not alone!
Would definitely love to connect and know more about you!
We need direction and encouragement, like popping a clutch on a car.
Procrastination is our weak point, and when we're stuck in a ditch? We're *STUCK* in that ditch until someone lifts us out.
We have a lot to offer, but we don't hold the key to open that door.
I have ASD. A lot of the characteristics of INFP seem similar to Autism. A little research seems to suggest these are often confused with each other. Of course a person with Autism might have the personality type INFP and visa-versa.
I was just thinking of that - specially the indecisiveness and not knowing which path to pursue
Hi, I truly liked the video, thanks. But the biggest reward for me was finding out there was a word I don't know (propensity). I know its weird but I am excited I learned a new word 😂
I am 20 years old and i just today found out about there are 16 different personality types i thought i was the weird one always stuck always dreaming good to know people like me exist in world 🎉
The idea that I chose my friends is a bit funny cause I always felt like I was adopted by them, but I suppose I did chose to stay with them
Same, I wait for people to come to me and see if they adopt into their group. 😅
As a 20M INFP, it's so scary how I relate so much to all of these! Btw thank you so much for this video although i'm a year late, reading through these comments make me feel that i'm not alone and we can relate to each others struggle. I wish all INFPs all the very best in life! 😄
May parents are actually supportive of me..😭 and I achieve nothing.. it somtimes sucks being infp
I cannot agree more to you after hearing all of these especially the fifth and the last one as well, as of right now I am having a hard time deciding what career do I want in college and to pursue that life I want, and I am also struggling
Same boat here!
same 😅
Underrated video and the editing is so good
As an INFP-T this is 100% accurate 😢
Me roo
This is so true.... I really relate
Read the book , " what colour is your parachute" it will help u find ur goals
I relate a lot with this. I put so much pressure on myself to make the good choice, trying to just not make mistakes all the time so much so that I often felt paralyzed. I guess that growing up was kind of difficult, it was hard because I did not have many friends or felt understood and I just thought that once I grew up I would be able to fufill my dream. Then I started to study Design but it fell flat, like it did not have any meaning to it and I just wanted to learn more. So I switched to study Pharmacy. Everyone looks at me as if I were crazy because it’s completely different, but I just have always been so curious. However after working for a few years in the clinical research industry I had a huge burn out and a new existencial crisis. The reason was mostly due to high workload, as the job is very demanding and I am a perfectionist, but also, I have always had doubts about my career choice and felt that I did not stay true to myself and my inner creative side. However after that time, I started to realize that my life purpose is not my job. I think that’s a big problem with society nowadays, not just INFPs. I am a millenial and honestly mostly everyone I talk to will be telling you about their doubts and what they should do in life next and how they are not sure about their choice. The thing is that at some point someone told us that work was the meaning of life and we should all accomplish something huge. But it really is not all there is to it. Now I am happy with my salar, I don’t need to earn more, I prefer having time for myself, my family and my selected friends (who indeed I realize, I chose as I grew older and are now actually a lot), and I realize I cannot just love every minute of my day but I do love the days when I can just write reports or perform actions by myself without social interactions, and I really like the purpose behind it all that makes it ok when I have to face conflict or perform tasks I’d rather not do, because I love the fact that I might just be able to help getting new meds to people who need it. But the most important thing is to be aware that you and your health are more important than anything in the world and stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Just enjoy.
Hey, I'm an INFP myself and I've worked as a Graphic Designer for almost 10 years, gradually losing drive due to capitalistic ways of doing EVERYTHING and monotonous approaches. I love to draw, write, rap and create mixed-media art. I'm stucked now because I need to find a job again and pay my debts to my gf and I feel just so tired. I'm trying to work on my persistence, time mgmt and planning of activities to get more done. Hope we can all make it, because we have so much to give!
Thank you for sharing your insight as a former graphic designer and as an infp 🙇🏻♀️
I used to like the idea of being a graphic designer, but given the lack of attractiveness and/or harmony in my graphic designing attempts, and the fact that the industry often expects graphic designers to churn out their ideas like a factory, I simply gave up
Best wishes for your future endeavours! ✨️
I wanted to be a librarian growing up but there were a lot of obstacles preventing me from becoming one. From everyone in my life talking down the profession since "Libraries are a dying industry and you will never make enough money to comfortably live off of" to the people in charge prioritizing candidates with teaching degrees. I don't want to waste my time and money on a teaching degree. If I fail to get a librarian job, I'd have to take up teaching to justify having one and I do NOT want to be a teacher. I thought about working in a bookstore instead but that is a highly competitive field to get hired in. I've been unfortunately going from crappy job to crappy job ever since because I can't find any other job that lives up to either of them.
Don’t let go of the things you are interested in. take advice from people, I’m sure they mean well, but don’t let their words keep taking you back to square one. Do your best to protect your dreams and be grateful for what you already have. You make the library. You can make it happen. ( 😊 I’m telling myself the same things, and I know it’s hard. Before this I was watching productivity videos and asking myself what went wrong in life)
Anyone who says libraries are a dying industry has probably not stepped foot in a library in over 2 decades, if at all. Libraries will always be relevant and they’re constantly evolving into the current climate. It’s not all just about books. Also remember that there are more than just public libraries that exist like in universities, hospitals, government offices, prisons, museums. So yeah don’t listen to anyone who says not to become a librarian because they clearly know nothing about libraries
I don't want to deal with stressful situations, because my previous experiences are bad and I'm afraid to get panicked and messed up things and then blame myself to not did it so well , I regret a lot and for a long time , It's hard for me to let go anything . I want a peaceful life without worry, anxiety, stress , panic situations and working under pressure, I want to do something peaceful and for the sake of humanity, I want something soulful to do, I want to satisfy my soul with my work without any pressure and burden.
Wow, this hit me hard. Especially the quitting jobs and now knowing what I’m do with my life 🥹 I want to pursue arts but I don’t know where to start and Ppl just think I’m crazy, but it’s the only thing that brings me joy, and If I can help anyone with my art that would make me the happiest 🤧🤧
I’m back and I got layed off from my job I disliked- I am now trying to become an actor, I passed the first round of auditions. I hope this will open up some more doors for me in the arts. It’s funny I was feeling so down the nigh before crying bcs I felt lost and then I basically got fired so If this isn’t the universe telling me something I don’t know what is
Keep going!
I often write down my NEGATIVE emotions and then think about whether they are right or wrong and how to face those emotions next time, love you all thank you for reading❤
I have to kind of find my goals with a reverse thought stream? If that makes sense? I literally make a list of things I want in my life (not my job) amd how I want to live. I then look at some careers/jobs that I thought I might like amd match them to the list. Will job a give me independence or come with a micromanagement (I'm also honest at interviews. It doesn't suit anyone to come off as what we're not, I'm assessing the company just as much as they are me. It's like dating but more structured 😅)
I don't know why or how this is soooo accurate but thank you so much for this video and expecting more of this amazing stuff ❤
thanks for this video! it's nice to feel seen and understood and not the only one...
Want to be a writer, graphic design and photography.
I am sorry, are you spying on me?
I constantly write, I am currently in a graphic design course and I will be doing photography course after that too.
haha.
Thank you very much for the video and the feeling of understanding. I recognized myself in all points.
Infp and libra sun sign ✨ 😎....my very existence is a textbook definition of overthinking
Sister!!!! I really ask myself these questions. Thanks for sharing this and putting strength in me❤❤❤❤
Can't say how accurate everything you said is.
Thanks for your videos.
Acknowledging these problems really helps ❤
My husband and daughter are INFP and probably my son too. They are all creative and definitely march to their own drummer. Money doesn't mean much. They are all good comp
y if you can manage to catch them..not easy. I am ENTP so we have some things in common at least. But introverts are definitely a challenge to an extravert mother.
OH MY GOD IM ACTUALLY NOT ALONE HI GUYS I THOUGHT I WAS CRAZY I LOVE YOU ALL I SEE YOU
Thanks, this is so helpful ❤
Wow this is the most relatable video ive seen ever on my situation and my thoughts thats been going on for one year. I always questioned myself, asking wjats wrong with me. I didnt even know what mbti i was but now i think i now😅
I think other types experience many of the same issues, these are not specific to INFPs. Especially the part where reality doesn't live up to fantasy-- who hasn't experienced that? That's why it's called "fantasy"! I think Introversion limits INFP's interactions with people so that they don't know that other people experience the same challenges, and even worse challenges than we do. I really think we INFPs are much better off than we sometimes think we are. Another observation, about feeling "unsupported". Others can perceive us as independent and self-supporting (which we may very well be) so they don't think we need support. Instead, they often come to us for support! This is why we are also called "mediators", because we often seem calm and collected in the middle of the storm and don't lose our heads like other types. This is a trait that works decidedly to our advantage. I would like to see a video on "struggles" that INFPs do NOT have, that other types do!
As an INTJ, thanks for helping me understand INFPs a little bit better.
Wow, that's so relatable..
As an infp I can confirm Very Accurate. Especially the last one 😅 currently going through a bit of that rn
Yes me too😅
Is this why I feel this emptiness 😃
it REALLY is SO frustrating, I'M 14 and MY parents WANT me TO be An engineer... UGHHH i HATE the IDEA of IT... but I'VE given UP...
What you are doing is all but a good idea. If you pursue this dream who isn't yours, one day you will explode and have a very huge existential crisis. Why do they want you to be that? Anyway it is your life not theirs, one day or another you will be forced to fight them to be happy, may the force be with you!
For the moment you can at least try to figure out what YOU want to do with your life, without telling them (#silencious rebellion), or try to find less toxic people to help you.
I wanted to do Arts when I was 13 but my mom forced me to take Biology. Her point was I shouldnt waste my time learning Arts which runs in the family it will come naturally but science can only be learnt. Secondly I also scored well. 20 yrs down the lane im so thankful to my late mom cz science made me very analyticl and logical and it balanced my emotional side very well. Now I'n the best of both worlds Arts & Science :)
I know it will be difficult right now but in the long run you'll shine :)
Trust your parents
@@HinaAjmal-trust your parents" is not a good advise, because why trust them? Because of YOUR very specific and personal experience with YOUR parents? You're projecting here and that has no real worth for the individual problem of someone else. Most parents are unconscious and therefore projecting on "their" children all the time, too. They raise children by shoulds and a should is always a projection and dismissing the authentic reality and potential of the other self. And what worked for you can harm the other.
@@NathalieRydell hmm.. you have a point.. thanx for bringing this perspective for me
@@HinaAjmal- thank you for your conscious and kind reply, I truly appreciate that so much!
I’m an ENFP, but I could identify with a lot of things you said
Why is this sooo accurate 😮😮😮
As a struggling INFP, I am crying watching this video
After a long professional struggle, I found out that I could only be happy running my own business. I thought the struggle would end there but it had only just begun. Clients would not trust my creative, intuitive approach or would ask things of me I considered unjust. I was the worst business manager, would not charge enough money or shower customers with too many giveaways, ... Not a month goes by that I don't think of quitting everything I've worked for to start a completely different path. But then, after much agonizing, I just end up right where I was, in a struggling business, because at least it's ours. Our kids will not grow up rich but they are surrounded with lots of love. So right now my very inspiring INFP motto is: "Keep swimming and you might not drown." 🙂
Not to be a downer but we can only swim so much before we drown anyway..
..unless someone else noticed us and are dedicated enough to quickly rescue us