Why I will ALWAYS be an Alcoholic even in Sobriety
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- In tonight’s video, I talk about why I will always refer to myself as an alcoholic and why that is OK with me. Let’s try to put an end to the stigma.
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You are correct. Acceptance of being an alcoholic is important. It will keep you sober.
Hi Brent. I'm an alcoholic and it's 2 years 4 months for me sober. Great to watch your videos. So open and honest. Keep up the good work.
I'm 2 years 4 months sober too. God bless.
Hi Bren, 8 years sober alcoholic, thank God. Thanks for your good message. Denise
Nice, Denise!
40 years living the 12 steps. It’s the foundation of my entire life. Love your mindset. Keep trudging. You inspire me.
Week after week I saw him sitting there with that damn smile on his face.. 🙂
That is fantastic, I am 28 years sober. 🙏🏻
I have come to grips with the fact that I will be an alcoholic for the rest of my life. It doesn’t go away for me. The reality is life is about managing my recovery and sobriety until I leave this earth. Thank you for your prospective and my best wishes go out to you on this journey.
I have 17 years sober by the grace of God. I'm an alcoholic and will always be one. I love this video. ODAAT!
Wow. Congratulations on your sobriety. Can’t imagine what it must be like to be sober that long.
Hiya! I'm a grateful addict! Very grateful for the disease and for the recovery within it. Being an addict has taken me to places Id never have gone otherwise. Good and bad. I don't regret any of it and all I do is wake up each day thankful for another 24 hours sober.😊
I support this message 100%.
I am a 22 year sober alcoholic. I no longer feel, nor have I for a long time, felt the compulsion for alcohol. I always have to remember that I have the disease, because I slipped after 12 years the first time around. Just being aware of my consequences is enough for me!
Excellent video! No shame and moving forward into all God has planned for you- one step at a time!
Yes, gratitude every day is key. 11 years for me. Thanks for the chat . Maybe in a future video ( or just few well placed comments ) we can talk about what we’ve got stashed in our tool belts. Stay safe Friend ❤
Stay strong. We love you ❤️
You can not choose to not have a disease. But you can choose not to drink. It took me 30 years to make the DECISION with God's help to stop drinking. I have no desire anymore and I'm thankful for that! 🙏
I'm 36 years old and i want to quit drinking. But when I'm bored i find excuses to drink. Then i regret it later
Lounge lore from the guy that we adore. Keeping it real doesn’t make you a bore. Hell nah. It’s that skipping the liquor store lifestyle that makes you strong at the core. Slam the door so a better one can open. You know the score. Live better. Live more. C’mon. Let me hear ya roar.
Now this made me laugh 😂 Thank you!
*just insert your favorite beat and Boom…we rappin out here! 😁😉
@@SooperTrooper100Yes! That is what’s up. ✌️
Unless people have walked in your shoes and experienced your chapters in life, perhaps they won't understand. You continue to stand guard at the door of your mind, share your story, be authentic & vulnerable, and by doing this, you're helping a lot of people who are suffering in silence. Proud of you, your journey, and your message. God Bless my friend and much love from Canada as always.
Good for you. Admitting it is half the battle. That little voice you hear in your head is the voice of the Devil. He wants nothing more than to see you give in to alcohol again. He seeks for those he can devour. My dad died and brother -in- law died young from alcoholism. My father -in- law was saved from his alcoholism in his latter years when he became a Christian. What a testimony to what the Lord can do when you commit your life to Him. Proud of what you are doing. My prayers are with you. You can do this!!
Thanks for sharing!
a relative lost their life to alcohol and it shook the family for decades. I always wondered why but this explains alot.
Hello Im an addict, my drug of choice wasn’t alcohol but you are right, you are always an addict ! But damm bro you got 10k subs in 3 months That’s crazy!
U just got a personality that is fun to watch you could take this channel to the next level. I would say you should travel and make cool videos of you going places but you already said you can’t do that, maybe recovery videos would be best, you have potential tho, keep it up bro stay sober !
I will be doing some gigs logs and talk videos for now, those are adventurous.
Congratulations on 9 months… I had 16 years clean and relapsed on prescribed pain medication for a surgical procedure…. That was all it took… that was in 2009… I’m still not clean again… it sucks
@@WanderingBonnie-ck1eu hey I have 4 days clean now… you can do it! It’s never too late, I have to forgive and love myself again 🙏
My dad would say he was a recovering alcoholic.
Congrats on your year, Dude! I’m a new subscriber because you live in the car I bought for camping. But this! This is what I needed to hear this morning because I am a food binging sugar addict. Lately, I’ve been very frustrated because I’ve been five months without any sugar or even the taste of sweetness, but I am still very strongly addicted. I fight my car steering wheel whenever I drive past a bakery. It’s something people will not understand! The addiction is real, I love your message because it’s the same no matter what the addiction. Let’s keep up the good fight!
My dad had a sugar problem, he was type one diabetic. Sugar is hard one to get over. All the best!!
Thank you for sharing Bren & being transparent. I respect your honesty & your talks with us. ❤
" If I cut that little bastard any slack at all .." Great job !
Gee, it doesn't seem that long ago I was watching and there weren't many of us out here. I'm elderly and was very sick at the time and your stuff made me feel better. My family asked me why was I watching you so intently. I explained to my family, " Well, he reminds me of our family" One son's a recovering alcoholic,ex military who attempted suicide over and over before finding peace. My other son's lives life to his own beat; he has your love of action figures, story telling and sense of humor and adventure. When I see you, I feel them. Your mixture of truth and honesty such a powerful blend. And to speak your truth on this forum where so many can learn and be helped. God bless you child. God bless you and your son and brothers and sister and Mom. Your videos make the world a better place. Don't pay any attention to your rising viewer count. It'll always be the same small group with a few more added on. Let God continue to lead. Peace.
I appreciate those words. I’m glad to hear my vids help. God bless*
Keep fighting the good fight!! We your fans are here to support you
9 months is awesome! You are killing it! I only drink on Fridays when I go to the casino but the older I get I can't handle the hangover anymore. Sober is the best way to go!
Dear Bren,
You Rock! 🤟😎🌈☮️
Gratefully,
Me (aka Christopher… haha!)
Loving the look of the lounge brother! Keep doing you! You’re doing awesome in your sobriety and acceptance! You got this!
The Lounge is a vibe, thank you!
Proud of you!!! I’m 4 years sober from alcohol and I still say I’m an alcoholic cause if I ever had it, it would ruin my life. Just cause I’m not drinking ever again, doesn’t mean alcohol isn’t a problem for my well being. Love the content! Hope you’re well!
If you know, you know! Glad you are here.
I appreciate you. You're committed, disciplined, organized, and a role model this 69 year old strives to emulate. A true inspiration. Thank you!!!
Be proud to be a recovering alcoholic. You're doing great! Keep it up❤
Congratulations on 9 months Bren. I came to a point where I have absolutely no desire to drink. The desire was taken away. But, I do know that if i drank again I would drink the same way I used to...and things may get ugly. I'm healthier, happier, more content and accepting, and less anxious about everyday stuff. And I sleep so much better. I'd be a fool to go back to that lifestyle. I like having a clear, sober mind. Over 5 years sober and its a much better life. Stay humble, caring and empathetic for others. I can tell you're a good man, Bren. Always enjoy your channel and I see you're over 12K subscribers now. Amazing!!!
Appreciate your candor..your self-discipline and focus is inspiring 👍
Congrats on 9 months mate from Australia 🇦🇺. Someone on an addiction support group said to me WE CAN DO HARD THINGS
You are inspiring . Keep fighting and be strong 👍 ✌️ Hi from Sweden 🇸🇪
Sweden! Very cool, thanks.
People who haven't lived it won't understand it. I don't understand it, so I defer to you. You are being successful, so keep doing what is working for you. If you ever need help, please reach out for it. I may be a stranger, but I would help you in any way I can.
Bro i respect you more and more for your knowledge and acceptance . I was in treatment with a fellow like you and we went all 90 days side by side and we still rocking it to this day . Stay strong and keep.the content coming bro 🙏 💪
Thank you!
U R telling from the heart... and now talk about the benefits of finding activities with purpose ... Ann, wanna B artist in Florida 😊
Great video idea! Wanna b artist is still an artist! I’m a wanna be b content creator. All I have is my iPhone 😉
Hi Bren, new subscriber here with 7 years sober. I support your journey all the way.
Go Bren go.:)
A good friend of mine hasn’t used drugs for 3 years, and she likes “In recovery”. It gives her a goal. I am so proud of her on her path, and you on yours!
Brent.. Iam an alcoholic. Iam 32 yrs sober. I remind myself daily as one of the most important symptoms of this disease is denial. Glad to meet u!
You also. I’m glad there are so many addicts in this comment section who can relate.
I lost my husband to alcohol he was 40 years old thank you for this video and congratulations on your sobriety.
All your hardship was for this moment in life. You're coming into your mission. You are guiding others and being an inspiration of hope. People are seeing a way out.
I meant to mention. Bob Beck invented a brain tuner. He helped many celebrities overcome addiction. It works on frequency. You could research it if you're interested.
Yep, it's a lifelong condition. I am approaching my 10 year anniversary since my last drink, and I know that no matter how long it's been, I would still be right back where I was if I decided to drink again.
True sh*t. Congrats on a decade! Wow.
Yeah i tried telling myself i accepted myself as an alcoholic so i should be ALLOWED to drink. LoL. The state of georgia said fine but fighting in the street, drinking and driving, being violent period, falling out on the beach??? No those things werent allowed.
You're so positive its infectious! I used to take my friend Donna to meetings, even when we would visit my Dad on Block Island! She would always come out of the church so energized and she had a great saying, One is too much and a thousand is never enough. You're a light to us moths Bren! Thankyou for making these videos! I look forward to them when I come home from work!
See you after work then!
Hi Bren. I’m a grateful alcoholic who has been sober for 7 1/2 years. Kudos to you for sharing this video and congratulations on maintaining your sobriety ☺️ Really enjoying your channel. Keep on keeping on ❤
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you for your very honest and insightful thoughts. Many of us struggle with unhealthy habits, and I can see how easy it is for it to tip over into a full-blown addiction. I lost my estranged uncle to alcoholism and I worry about a friend who has problems with obesity and alcohol but isn't yet ready to face the truth of his addiction. Congratulations on your sobriety and I wish you all the best for the future.
9 months! Awesome! I am doing my best to quit drinking. I know it poisons everything in my Life. I want to kick ass and take names!
Your videos are helping me. Thank you.
I'm not an alcoholic, but I'm an addict as well. My struggles are with gambling, unfortunately. It's constantly a struggle, and I know that it will probably be a lifetime issue.
I’m so glad I am refer to this video on days when I need extra support, like today. Thank you for your inspiring words, that give me something different every time I hear them.👍🏻💯👏🏻
I’ve been sober since 02/01/2024 (4 months)
Thank you for sharing your story, and thank you for making these videos.
Nice!! Stay strong
props to you man. i have an eating disorder and in many ways it's similar. We are in recovery but it's never very far from our minds. it takes so little to reactivate those behaviors. I have to be so vigilant to make sure I don't backslide.
I have backslid so many times. Stay up man!
You got this Bren. I love seeing you do your deliveries, do not feel you have to be wise every time, Driving around seeing the country side is great too.
Thank you for saying that, I needed to hear that.
Your son must be so proud of you
Great video. I'm an alcoholic, and I've been sober for 7 years. It's freeing
Nice!!!! Thanks for sharing
Have a good day!😊
Alcoholism Maybe a gift for hard-headed people. If you're lucky enough to come to the realization that alcohol actually detracts from who you actually are and makes you act like somebody you're not. Once you take a perspective of alcohol is poison and not a viable crutch. You have the strength to make the right decision, tell yourself that, you deserve the best.
Agreed!
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Addiction in all its forms is a chronic disease and that cant be forgotten , whether you tell the world or keep that to yourself is a personnel choice. In ten years from now you will be in a much better place and person and most importantly you will have been ( and will be ) be a far better father and role model than if you let the addiction win
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Wise words, Bren! Thanks again for sharing! 💯 ❣️
You are Awesome Brother! I am a fellow alcoholic!
sober, I hope! Lol 👊
Wishing you all the best, Bren. 🤜🏻🤛🏻
I just found your channel from your car living videos and was pleasantly surprised when I heard you say youre also in recovery. This video right here really hit hard because I agree with and feel you 100%. Thanks for putting yourself on here. Also I love your subaru 😂
what a really sweet video by a really sweet guy......Bravo!
Praise God u got this bren one day at a time
I'm watching your videos form Morocco.
Keep it up brother! 💪💪💪💪
So very proud of you Bren❤ you are a true blessing. The fight is real...and absolutely worth every ounce of the fight. One year, 7 months, 8 days today (this time around)🙏
I share over and over, "Going back out is so not worth it", oh where I'd be if I would've stayed the course several years ago.
You mentioned shame. I found an unexpected and unknown, beginning of healing (from lifelong depression and anxiety) when I read John Bradshaw's book "Healing the Shame that Binds You". One of the only self-help books I actually read through to the end.
Be blessed today, stay blessed, and stay true❤ much love, respect, and a loving (Sisterly) hug Bren😊
I think in terms of recovering, sober or something to find accountability within. I appreciate the dialog you put forth and be well.
Awareness, acceptance, action…..congratulations….ODAT
This is fantastic that your are sharing/ you are helping sooooo many with your wisdom
Wow! This video blew my mind. I always thought that if you say “I’m an alcoholic” I meant you are actively drinking. Let me explain. As someone who was born and grew up in Europe, actually, in a small town in Spain, it’s always been normal for me to see men drinking an espresso and cognac for breakfast, and I mean most of the men did it. Then drinking wine for lunch. After work beer, tapas, followed by a light dinner followed by a few hard licor drinks. For lunch and dinner women did it to (still do it now). But I never heard anyone refer to them as alcoholics. They never blacked out or thought they had a problem. Growing up there was no drinking age. My mother served red wine for lunch everyday and the kids also got wine with fresh plain water in a small glass. Even with all that exposure to wine and drinking my brother never drank much as an adult unless it was a special day. I do like to drink but only do it socially. I never understood why in USA people drank at home watching tv and sometimes alone. Ever since I became an adult I have drank when we go out but never to get drunk. Just enough to relax and enjoy the drink and meals. I know I’m making this long p, but boy, oh boy, your video was quite informative for me. Thank you again.
You are not an alcoholic, simple. Enjoy your few drinks and thanks for watching! 😊
It's not about the alcohol, it's about my attitude AA ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT every day, my attitude has caused me significantly more pain than alcohol ever did
Hey Bren, I don’t usually comment but I wanted to say thank you for sharing your perspective and for your vulnerability.
I’d like to share my perspective with you. I have addictive tendencies which I believe stem from trauma I experienced during my childhood. Physiologically, the addiction is a result of our minds subconsciously reliving that trauma, and our brains trying to “escape” those experiences through certain neural pathways, or “circuits”.
So this brings the question, how do you resolve traumatic experiences once and for all? I’ve studied various forms of “dealing with trauma” for years, and the most powerful concept I’ve come across is called “reintegration”. It involves traveling back to the points of past traumatic experiences in your mind, and essentially facing them with reason instead of disassociation. I encourage anyone reading this to research this process.
Now where we agree is that resolving trauma is often a lifelong process. It involves observation of one’s triggers, and mindful, truly meditative reflection on the times and places of events that caused that trigger, often involving traveling back to the same place multiple times, each time discovering something you may have missed.
Through the recent scientific discovery of neuroplasticity in combination with methods like reintegration, there is evidence that it is actually possible to physiologically “rewire” these destructive circuits.
Therefore, I believe that while it is essential to own one’s past behaviors, experiences and beliefs, as well as where we are in the present moment, addiction may not be a lifelong “disease” as once was thought. Personally, I believe that by putting in the work to resolve our trauma, it unlocks the potential to reach levels of self-awareness, joy, peace and love that even non-addicted people in todays society may never experience, because many have not yet found the reason to seek this level of healing.
I wish you all the best and will continue to follow your journey. Much love brotha.
I appreciate your input, thank you for sharing and for watching!
My husband, who retired from the Navy and drank in every port, then drank an 18pk almost every weekend said that was a true statement about an alcoholic always being an alcoholic. I started giving him 3 types of vitamins and he hasn't craved beer in over 2 years. They were B complex, NAC and TMG. He thought he'd done it on his own, so I let him think it.
Whatever helps him off the booze. You are a good wife!
@@brenpgrace Thanks!
If we could remove that shame stigma, wouldn't it be interesting to see how many more people would come out and ask for help?
Your doing good job❤ ❤ ❤ baby steps.
Saying "former" means denial if you're using or not. You keep hour focus one day at a time.
Agreed
9 months sober awesome. You ROCK Bren!
Great talk
Amen! God is large and in charge, once a pickle never a cucumber again!
I was like that, drinked to blackout, now i can just drink 1 or 2, just takes time , and its all in your head. i was an alcoholic but i was done with it and i stopped.
Was also addicted to many drugs and also stopped that. no help from anyone i just stopped everything cause i was done with it, and thats the main point to quit any addiction , for yourself you need to see the light that you cant go on that way. Only then you can quit it
I’m truly happy for you, sir Bren! I really wish my brother and Dad could kick the habit! They are consistent “functioning” alcoholics…if that’s a thing…they do nothing outside of work but drink. It gets quite old.
It’s very much a thing. I could function in a black out. Very scary when u wake up the next day.
I enjoy all your videos. You do such a good job with all your topics!
Thanks Dianne!
Stay strong buddy .you have come a long way
Good word, Bren.
🫶🏼 We love you. Keep up the content!
God Bless, Stronger man than myself. Much respect to you 🙂
This is something non-alcoholics/non-addicts will never understand. I'm always, going to be a recovering alcoholic and drug addict (at best.) Because if I sit down and start drinking, I'll keep drinking, then I'll go get some drugs, and then I'll do the same the next day. I'm almost 4 years into sobriety, and I still make a point of syaing "I don't drink" and if they ask why I say "I'm an alcoholic." I meet people who say "why not just stop at two?" and I'm like "you don't get it."
We would be better off talking to a brick wall 😂😂 thanks for sharing!
I wanted to make a suggestion, but first bear with me while I tell you a little story. I came from parents who were alcoholics, and when my big brother (only brother) got out of his teens, he became an addict of drugs, alcohol and even food. Seemed he couldn't get enough of any of it, although with food it was a binge thing. After I grew up from a troubled childhood, with parents divorced when I was 12, I watched my mother continue to drink (beer). But when she was much older, I guess the doctor told her to stop drinking and smoking. In spite of my begging for years to no avail, the doctor apparently had an inside track. She stopped both. But what she did was she took to chocolate. My father, in his brief episodes of sobriety later in life, he also took to chocolate, but also just plain sugary junk foods. I have read a bit about chocolate and it's complicated chemistry, and reasons why alcoholics are often also chocoholics. It's a brain chemistry thing.
My mother HAD to have her chocolate every night. She was almost religious about her diet - low fat, lots of fresh foods, low sugar - until nighttime came, and she had finished her dinner. About two hours later it was ice cream time. She always had the chocolate low fat ice cream. One or two big bowls of it. Never skipped a night unless she was ill. Even after surgeries in the hospital she would call me and ask me to bring her a bunch of chocolate bars - Snickers and Milky Way were her favorites. So I dutifully would take them to her. If she didn't get her chocolate on time, she would get irritable, critical, snappish and angry at everything and everyone. But when her chocolate had been consumed in whatever form, you could see a transition of calm come over her. She would become more pleasant, she would laugh, and she would relax.
I just read an article about chocolate and alcoholism. I knew of chocolate's ability to sooth the cravings for alcohol due to it's chemical components, but I didn't know that chocolate is recommended in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. I know that during times of stress, coming through the checkout at the grocery store, my impulse was to grab a chocolate bar or two. I'm not a sweets eater so much, but my brain would recognize my need, and I would snatch that Snickers or whatever off the shelf. No candy but chocolate - no Payday, no Skittles, just chocolate.
Well, I write a lot, as it's a hobby, so I've written more than enough here to make the obvious suggestion of dark chocolate (as dark as you find still tasty). It also has other health benefits, as it's an antioxidant, and is good for your heart. Blessings!
I am currently dealing with chocolate and cookie cravings. It’s a brain reward kinda thing, similar to booze. Thanks for sharing.
@@brenpgrace halo top (had to change how I wrote it so it doesn't get taken down) ice cream is a great tasting low carb ice cream that has gotten great reviews. I have not tried it, but there are other keto ice creams too. No artificial sugars, just alternative sugars that don't spike your blood sugar. But cookies or chocolate won't mess with your life.
Great words!
Stay strong brother. Love your channel. Keep it up
👣👣👣👣 keep going buddy....proud of you 😊😊😊
Congratulations on your sobriety! Keep up one day at a time…
Thank you so much!!
Thanks 🙏🏾 you are right.
Thank You for your honesty. Many of us relate to you even more. P s. You are so entertaining. ❤
Thank you!
6 years sober for me and YES I am an alcoholic.
In recovery every day 🙏
Living life on lifes terms!!!
Is number one in recovery
And im a addict!!!! who has been clean for 5 yrs!!
Thanks for the pep talk. Needed to hear that or appreciate everything that you said❤
Once in a while you may get the truth. Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. And not something else. The first nine steps will get you sober and the last three steps will keep you sober. Can't get anybody drunk, can't get anybody sober. A day at a time works fine.
Thank you for sharing the video. You make a lot of sense.👍😊