Wow this is good. I listened to this but from a different angle. I knew someone a man who I accused of trying to use this woman. He was. But now they're getting married last I heard. And the reason is because he learned this lesson. He didn't choose her because of her looks because she's not physically attractive He didn't choose her because of her sex he told her as much He chose her because he put her through the ringer and she stayed there and took the abuse. Bought him everything he asked for Did everything he wanted her to do and basically proved herself to him by his standards. Now if she were my friend I would shake my head and feel bad for her. But if He were my friend I would say bravo! Because he did exactly what this man here said one should do. He stopped looking for the pretty girls He stopped looking for the women that he was attracted to physically He stopped worrying about his feelings and decided to get him a woman that made sense for his life. Personally I would not settle to be either one of those people. I would not be the woman that's so desperate that she allows herself to be used and go through the struggle of trying to prove herself. And I would not be the man that settled for a woman that I was not 100% into but that makes sense. I don't feel one should have to settle either way. But thank you for this video because it makes sense whether you're a man or a woman. It helps me to understand other people's side of things. And the bottom line is if two people are ok with each other and no one has a gun to anyone's head who am I to disagree.
I’ve been the giver and couldn’t understand why the man I felt pity for didn’t want me.. 😢 wow, just reflecting back on this has lowered my frequency. That was a tough lesson I needed to learn. I’ve yet to find someone who wants me (for the right reasons) because a lot of the time, the men who have wanted me are married, divorced, or separated. & for me that is a Hell NO. I would like to meet someone who I can experience a true love with. However, I am not accepting no bullshit. I am open to experiencing a serious, exclusive, loving, respectful, faithful, loyal, kind, caring, romantic, thoughtful, fun, funny, compassionate, strong & beautiful type of ❤Love.
"When we are teenagers, the feelings feel good!" "In our thirties and forties, that feeling is not supposed to dictate our decisions anymore." That's exactly where I messed up. Spent my adult life being emotionally immature and waiting for relationships to shift to a level that didn't have me anxious and stressed out. Adding to the chaos: me being a supportive and encouraging empath. Kirk, finding your videos and being on my own for many months has been priceless! I'm a different woman and a stronger woman!
You're so right on this topic.Do what makes sense. Just hearing a lot of wise people keep saying this, and it's coming from older adults. U speak facts.
I'm not going to waste my time to please someone who doesn't appreciate me or value me or want me. Period. It's a horrible feeling when someone doesn't value you. I rather be by myself and focus on myself and my family then to lose myself in a senseless relationship that's going nowhere.
Why waste so much time and energy with someone who is clearly the wrong person? There are so many people to choose from. And in the meantime, work on yourself. When you love yourself, you exude confidence. And confidence is VERY ATTRACTIVE. Believe me, you'll have no trouble attracting a person worthy of your attention.
Why please someone who has no interest in being pleased?why not just walk away?I love listening to you talk.you are a wise man.Thank you I learned a lot from you I value myself I learned if something is not going to be mine just let it go.
This responds is most likely learned early on in your family. As a child, you had no choice.... as an adult you HAVE a choice and not participate in this anymore... remove yourself of that kind of situation! 🙏❤️🙏
But when I got with someone I didn’t like that liked me, wasn’t my type, I grew to like him, he got cocky, thinking he can do better. It’s no way to know. If a person is a bad person it’s nothing you can do to change that
I agree that you shouldn’t chase someone that doesn’t want you. On the other hand, you just can’t be with a person because they are a good person and they love you. That’s not how life works. Most of the time it doesn’t work. You should be attracted to the person and enjoy who they are. This doesn’t mean they are the most attractive, just attractive to you. Men and women are different so you can’t say it’s not about how you feel. It is for a woman. Now it shouldn’t be based on feelings if the person is using or manipulating you. Obviously, you shouldn’t be with that person and choose yourself over your feelings. But, to say just pick him because he loves you is not realistic. What if you never grow to love them. If you want a marriage of convenience that’s fine. Some of us don’t want a loveless relationship.
This so very true. Wake up and smell the coffee you're pot is burning 🔥. Men let you know by they're interest. If you have to keep reminding them you are there he or she is just using you. God gives you 5 senses use them. 😂
I have seem it with my own eyes the chase and win it depends on the person some men love the chase I have seen people to get married it's mind blowing talk can be cheap but action is powerful I have seen many things I have seen a married man destroyed his whole family Dr k You still have alot to seeand and learn some things u say is true but there is alot to see in this life u will continue to learn as you go along love the person who loves u attration means alot some times Don't let the looks of a woman's make u turn from her that woman can be a go getter no what you think sometime can be wrong because who doesn't dress nice is a go getter u must go by talk img actions you must learn more about certain woman u have been merring the wrong woman I want to talk more about the looks some of your thinking is wrong I can show u better then talk 🎬 ACTIONS😊
How do you know who wants us? Bcus I have NEVER EVER came onto a guy. All of them came onto me to the point of chasing me. I've never known any man that loved me except one guy who was so ugly visually and physically that I could not look at him. Why do I have to force myself to be with someone who makes me throw up in my mouth. I'm good looking why can't I have a good looking guy.. im wife material, im affectionate loving, financially responsible keep a good clean home a very good cook and a good mom to an adult man.
Aw laWd JESUS!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😂😭😆😭😆😭🤣😭🤣😭😆😭😆😭😭😆😭😆😭😆😭😆😭😂😭😂😩😂😭😆 OMG!! I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND U!!! HE MAKES US FEEL LIKE CAUSE THAT PERSON HAS BEAUTIFUL ENERGY, BUT NOT ATTRACTIVE TO ME ON THE OUTSIDE, LIKE WE CAN'T HAVE BOTH! 😭😭😭😆😆🤣😆🤣😭😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩🧲😤
I have a Busy life, but I take my time to hear your voice. As we age, it is logic behind actions instead of feelings and reactions. Thank you!! 🫶🏻✨❤ Unique soul, you went through everything to help and teach others how to escape the tunnel.
Sometimes we love who doesn't want us but in saying learn to love who wants us, isn't that setting the other person up to love someone who doesn't want them? It feels circular.
I hope you can understand that the people you are addressing have held on in hope that their heart's desires will reassign or what have you... Will learn to love them. That's why they doing the most. Did the women who wanted you that didn't want you do the most before you readjusted to consider them
A lot of time, we are here to help others mature, but we try to put them in a love prison.....Who love you : Is You .. When the student is ready the teacher will appear....do we have relationships with our teachers?😊 hhmmhhh....Love yourself & Know ThySelf 😊
I love your video but you don't resign feeling we are suppose to die to the flesh the body and into spirit because God is only one who has real genuine love we suppose to get rid of all emotions and feeling spirit is truth
I have been listening to you lately, and you make a lot of sense. This hit home with me. WOW! What I want I know for a fact that I can’t have it, but yet I have many others after me.🫤
✨ The Longer You Entertain What’s Not for You the Longer you Postpone What Is 💯💃🏾✨
Beautiful ❤
I ain't even watched this video. I just read your comment that was meant for me. ❤️💯
Love is not just about the feeling it is also about the actions. Love is also about commitment, loyalty, compatibility, growth and security
Being attracted is'nt the only thing that should make an relationship.Put your feelings into something that makes sense.Words to live by.
Yesssss. Make it make sense
" it's stupid" period. = Best therapy ever. 😅 Efficiency 101
You should never stay where not loved, appreciated or respected under no circumstances You need to love and respect yourself at all times
"Reassign your feelings" ... Make it make sense!
Wow this is good. I listened to this but from a different angle. I knew someone a man who I accused of trying to use this woman. He was. But now they're getting married last I heard. And the reason is because he learned this lesson. He didn't choose her because of her looks because she's not physically attractive He didn't choose her because of her sex he told her as much He chose her because he put her through the ringer and she stayed there and took the abuse. Bought him everything he asked for Did everything he wanted her to do and basically proved herself to him by his standards. Now if she were my friend I would shake my head and feel bad for her. But if He were my friend I would say bravo! Because he did exactly what this man here said one should do. He stopped looking for the pretty girls He stopped looking for the women that he was attracted to physically He stopped worrying about his feelings and decided to get him a woman that made sense for his life. Personally I would not settle to be either one of those people. I would not be the woman that's so desperate that she allows herself to be used and go through the struggle of trying to prove herself. And I would not be the man that settled for a woman that I was not 100% into but that makes sense. I don't feel one should have to settle either way. But thank you for this video because it makes sense whether you're a man or a woman. It helps me to understand other people's side of things. And the bottom line is if two people are ok with each other and no one has a gun to anyone's head who am I to disagree.
For that poor woman's sake, I hope that guy learns to truly love and appreciate her.
Choose the fireplace vs the firecracker… 🧨
I’ve been the giver and couldn’t understand why the man I felt pity for didn’t want me.. 😢 wow, just reflecting back on this has lowered my frequency. That was a tough lesson I needed to learn. I’ve yet to find someone who wants me (for the right reasons) because a lot of the time, the men who have wanted me are married, divorced, or separated. & for me that is a Hell NO. I would like to meet someone who I can experience a true love with. However, I am not accepting no bullshit. I am open to experiencing a serious, exclusive, loving, respectful, faithful, loyal, kind, caring, romantic, thoughtful, fun, funny, compassionate, strong & beautiful type of ❤Love.
Remember...that one is YOU...all others are extras😊
Don't speak that into existence. Speak life not death. He's out here.
THIS IS DEEP BUT SO TRUE, MY KING IS ON THE WAY 🙏🏾
If he’s not interested… walk the fck away ‼️
🎺😂You Are Telling The TRUTH! No Matter How Much You Do For Anyone That Doesn’t Appreciate You DOES NOT MATTER! Gotta Preserve Yourself…
And that goes for people in general 😊
It dont matter if u check all their boxes if they dont want it from u
I wish my father would of given me this talk 😢 Thanks UA-cam Dad!!!❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾
"When we are teenagers, the feelings feel good!"
"In our thirties and forties, that feeling is not supposed to dictate our decisions anymore."
That's exactly where I messed up. Spent my adult life being emotionally immature and waiting for relationships to shift to a level that didn't have me anxious and stressed out.
Adding to the chaos: me being a supportive and encouraging empath.
Kirk, finding your videos and being on my own for many months has been priceless! I'm a different woman and a stronger woman!
You're so right on this topic.Do what makes sense. Just hearing a lot of wise people keep saying this, and it's coming from older adults. U speak facts.
U r a rare breed indeed. Not many r conscious.
Make it…Make sense 💯💯💯
I'm not going to waste my time to please someone who doesn't appreciate me or value me or want me. Period. It's a horrible feeling when someone doesn't value you. I rather be by myself and focus on myself and my family then to lose myself in a senseless relationship that's going nowhere.
Hello Kirk; you're an amazing young man and we appreciate you🙏
You can't please him... he wants you to fail so you'll give up and leave him alone
I just wished they stayed away instead of coming back to mess with your head
Words so simple yet so powerful! Love it!
Why waste so much time and energy with someone who is clearly the wrong person?
There are so many people to choose from. And in the meantime, work on yourself. When you love yourself, you exude confidence. And confidence is VERY ATTRACTIVE. Believe me, you'll have no trouble attracting a person worthy of your attention.
Thank you so mich for this, sometimes we just keep trying hard , where we are not wanted. May the Lord help on thos one,
When someone SHOWS you who they are BELIEVE them !! Stop wasting your time .. I don’t want nobody who don’t want me !! 💯
Perfect advice. Thank you ❤
Thank you for this! So timely 🙏🏾
Draining your energy and your bank account won't help you keep someone that's long gone!😊
Interesting...I read the title of your video and instantly asked myself, "Why ever would I wanna do that?"
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Why please someone who has no interest in being pleased?why not just walk away?I love listening to you talk.you are a wise man.Thank you I learned a lot from you I value myself I learned if something is not going to be mine just let it go.
One-sided relationship!
This responds is most likely learned early on in your family. As a child, you had no choice.... as an adult you HAVE a choice and not participate in this anymore... remove yourself of that kind of situation! 🙏❤️🙏
Needed this thank you
Keep on keeping it real
But when I got with someone I didn’t like that liked me, wasn’t my type, I grew to like him, he got cocky, thinking he can do better. It’s no way to know. If a person is a bad person it’s nothing you can do to change that
I agree that you shouldn’t chase someone that doesn’t want you. On the other hand, you just can’t be with a person because they are a good person and they love you. That’s not how life works. Most of the time it doesn’t work. You should be attracted to the person and enjoy who they are. This doesn’t mean they are the most attractive, just attractive to you. Men and women are different so you can’t say it’s not about how you feel. It is for a woman. Now it shouldn’t be based on feelings if the person is using or manipulating you. Obviously, you shouldn’t be with that person and choose yourself over your feelings. But, to say just pick him because he loves you is not realistic. What if you never grow to love them. If you want a marriage of convenience that’s fine. Some of us don’t want a loveless relationship.
you mistake love for excitement and surface attraction
like Kirk said, in old times folks didn't go with emotions
you totally missed the point of what he was even saying! Listen again - he does make perfect sense indeed!!! super sobering message and ON POINT!!!
@@originalmix2546 - I’m older
@@originalmix2546 - no I didn’t, just doesn’t work for me.
Preach the truth!
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
I pray I have chemistry with the person who is best for me. It’s not fair to be in a relationship with someone you aren’t excited about.
This so very true. Wake up and smell the coffee you're pot is burning 🔥. Men let you know by they're interest. If you have to keep reminding them you are there he or she is just using you. God gives you 5 senses use them. 😂
Why would I want to do that, especially when he doesn't want me???
I want it to make sense and have the chemistry as well. I want a mutual exchange of effort and energy.
Thank you, really helpful!
Hello from Ukraine!
I love you see your light from within ✨️ Thank you for your heart felt content
I have seem it with my own eyes the chase and win it depends on the person some men love the chase I have seen people to get married it's mind blowing talk can be cheap but action is powerful I have seen many things I have seen a married man destroyed his whole family Dr k You still have alot to seeand and learn some things u say is true but there is alot to see in this life u will continue to learn as you go along love the person who loves u attration means alot some times
Don't let the looks of a woman's make u turn from her that woman can be a go getter no what you think sometime can be wrong because who doesn't dress nice is a go getter u must go by talk img actions you must learn more about certain woman u have been merring the wrong woman
I want to talk more about the looks some of your thinking is wrong I can show u better then talk 🎬 ACTIONS😊
How do you know who wants us? Bcus I have NEVER EVER came onto a guy. All of them came onto me to the point of chasing me. I've never known any man that loved me except one guy who was so ugly visually and physically that I could not look at him.
Why do I have to force myself to be with someone who makes me throw up in my mouth. I'm good looking why can't I have a good looking guy.. im wife material, im affectionate loving, financially responsible keep a good clean home a very good cook and a good mom to an adult man.
Aw laWd JESUS!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😂😭😆😭😆😭🤣😭🤣😭😆😭😆😭😭😆😭😆😭😆😭😆😭😂😭😂😩😂😭😆
OMG!! I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND U!!!
HE MAKES US FEEL LIKE CAUSE THAT PERSON HAS BEAUTIFUL ENERGY, BUT NOT ATTRACTIVE TO ME ON THE OUTSIDE, LIKE WE CAN'T HAVE BOTH! 😭😭😭😆😆🤣😆🤣😭😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩🧲😤
Love ur teachings
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣but they are garbage! I just hollered 😂🤣😂🤣I am laid out 😂😂😂
Not sure i agree with this one being with someone you dont really want is horrible
He blaming women for not being wanted after being misled
Don't... leave 👋🏽
I have a Busy life, but I take my time to hear your voice. As we age, it is logic behind actions instead of feelings and reactions.
Thank you!! 🫶🏻✨❤
Unique soul, you went through everything to help and teach others how to escape the tunnel.
Thanks so much I need to hear this it's so true God bless 🙏
simple truths. thanks :)
Sometimes we love who doesn't want us but in saying learn to love who wants us, isn't that setting the other person up to love someone who doesn't want them? It feels circular.
Teach !!!😊
It’s garbage!!!😂😂😂Lmao
Truth!
Hello Mister Kirk!!
So very true facts
Right breadcrumbs... Not worth it learned this lesson years ago thank God never again I know my worth now and so do they haha
In other words, pick someone with sone substance, someone that both of yall can leverage off of
Truth
Preach
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I hope you can understand that the people you are addressing have held on in hope that their heart's desires will reassign or what have you... Will learn to love them. That's why they doing the most. Did the women who wanted you that didn't want you do the most before you readjusted to consider them
True ❤
A lot of time, we are here to help others mature, but we try to put them in a love prison.....Who love you : Is You
.. When the student is ready the teacher will appear....do we have relationships with our teachers?😊 hhmmhhh....Love yourself & Know ThySelf 😊
🙌🏾🙌🏾🤴🏾💯💯🔥🔥
Yassss
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❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
I love your video but you don't resign feeling we are suppose to die to the flesh the body and into spirit because God is only one who has real genuine love we suppose to get rid of all emotions and feeling spirit is truth
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Seriously? How do please God? By denying yourself and man.!
I have been listening to you lately, and you make a lot of sense. This hit home with me. WOW! What I want I know for a fact that I can’t have it, but yet I have many others after me.🫤