1. You're giving too much, too early. 2. When they pull back, women pull harder. 3. Overlooking the red flags 🚩in the early stages. Don't be exclusive too early. 4. Looking at potential instead of reality! 5. Basing relationship on feelings/emotions. 6. U Don't heal yourself before daing..
Wow... this is deep. 🤔The one who needs healing depletes your energy, and the one who needs intimacy increases your energy. That's the highlighted part for me. Thank you. I'm learning a lot from you.
I have to tell you that I'm over 50 years old and I want to thank you for all the wisdom you share . I wish you had been around 20 years ago. I would have spared a lot of heartaches . I am now living the best years of my life, but I learned the hard way
This is my mantra,, The one who increase ur frequency deserves ur intimacy,, the one who decrease ur energy is the one who needs healing,,,, powerful this is my mantra
You said that! And I Got that! “If he decreases your energy, he needs healing-leave that man alone! If he Increases your energy he is ready for intimacy- Date Him!” Know the Difference!! 💯
Could it be not so much women are in their feelings but that so many men were taught and told to stop crying, suck it up, man up, you're weak, you're soft, quit acting gay, the list goes on and on which hinders healthy communication? So many women didn't have a positive role model from a man. And visa verse. So many men are raised by unhealed women that later take their unresolved issues into their relationships , and visa verse. If we would stop trying to mold people to be what our inner child didn't get as children and take responsibility for our own self care and love, then we can decide whether our feelings are exactly what is needed to pay attention to. Quit giving tax breaks to people that aren't good for you. I appreciate your videos and advice.
You gave a sermon! Omggg do you know how many people have told me about my light?? I just give and give openly. They connect to me on social media and get their supply through my light with nothing in return. Wow. You just gave me an epiphany. Go private, and be selective about my light bc people will use it feel good and give to so many other women. In your words verbatim, “The one who wants intimacy is the one who increases your frequency and the ones who need healing are the ones who decrease your energy” AND the stronger you attach, the stronger the pain. Thank you sir. Thank you thank you 🙏🏾
This is by far the most insightful Information I have heard in a long long time ! I just love your voice it’s so comforting 😊 when you’re speaking a hard truth … it’s incredible to me how this very segment seems to speak directly to me Thank you Kirk I now have the tools to move forward with a healthier mindset in the dating arena. You are a gem a man filled with the goodness of God !
That's absolutely my problem. I'm always in my feelings, and I definitely have to work on when my discernment tells me no about a guy. Stop re-guessing myself when I already know my decernment is on point!
I just found your channel the other day and I'm really loving your videos. They're so on point. I love your bluntness. It's loaded with truth and genuine concern. After watching one of your videos, following some self-reflection, I realized that I had trauma, something that I was completely unaware of. I've begun my healing journey. THANK YOU!
Ohhh you're speaking my thoughts. ❤ I'm on the other side. Communicating my boundaries that I'm not into fast paced interactions. It is so exhausting always to be in alert mode because guys don't respect my no.
“I think you all dont know what you all doing” 🤣🤣😍😍❤❤ LOOOVE the raw truth!!!! LOVE!! LOVE!! And I LOVE that you made your baby gurl a hot dog during your last live! ❤❤ Precious!!!
I’m a female living in masculine energy (default). I’m not giving anything! Especially not to a man that doesn’t value me! He won’t have long to prove it! They can attempt to manipulate and play! I will pull the mask off (expeditiously). Sad to say too many men living in feminine energy! Mommy issues and/or childhood neglect! I observe subtle energy (covert) narcissism etc.. When you show me who you are I believe it 🤷🏽♀️
.. thank you for your advice .. my husband of 25 years died a couple'a years back and I don't have a clue on what to do when I get attention from someone I'd like to get to know better .. your message really helps.. 🙏
@@SunQueen-d7l ty but when it comes to dating it is..the healing and fixing everything that goes wrong is always put on women. While males get to continue being their unhealed messed up selves. It gets worse as most males age bcus they are psychologically unhealthy immature 50 plus acting 25 dating 30yo's and not wanting to traditionally date or marry. It's truly hard out here for those of us who want true monogamous companionship.
@@lh4639 aww ty for your kind words. But when you're well over 40 trying to fix and heal things after your best years are behind you is disenchanting. When you see the state of relationships now it's hard not to lose hope. I don't wanna be Sara's age finding love that's like a slap in the face. I spent my entire adult life doing what I thought were the right things. Working, going to college, saving, loving, and showing love only to find out that I'm the reason why no one loves me and all my relationships failed. I'm clean, a great cook, a good mom, and all the while everything I did to show someone I loved them was the reason they dog walked me and wiped their feet on me like a floor mat.
@@aquafina6544 nope! Men will love ya sweetie!! Make them chase you and keep being the fabulous queen you’ve ALWAYS been! They love to chase and give! Make ‘em do it! You’re the prize!!
Yups, all six thinking and feeling mistakes I am accountable for. I need to rewire myself for sure. Yesterday I have been discarded like trash, you was nothing, after two months in unsure where I stand… O yeah, not doing this waiting patiently for a men’s decision anymore! Thank you for this deep wisdom. I surely will get back to it frequently to remind myself in how to live my life for the better with more peace of mind and better discernment. Growing pains are damn hard! When will I learn.. this talk was on point for sure! Greets from the Netherlands.-S
Good message - from the 1 min to the end! - VERY true and VERY needed! I see my fellow women falling hard for, mostly nr2. , it is sad, I wish this was taught in schools, because damn sure in most families parents don't share this with their daughters.....they got to learn on their own trial and error....too often unhealthy examples around of how women handle men!
🙏 thank you 😢my energy is strong And need to learn to harness my light to not only help others but myself. I hate to love this about myself but it is Wht it is. A gift in need of better discernment
All these things I did and I knew I started to see him slowly fading with his communication. No matter what I did or said my feelings got more involved. And that didn't matter to him. He still was becoming more distant. Then it got to the point where I found myself constantly texting and calling and he was no longer returning no form of communication at all. I was nothing but nice and respectful to him. None of that matter to him what so ever. Lesson learned 😔I was finding myself ALWAYS asking him what took him so long to respond. Why you're not calling me. Are you ignoring me, Did you get my texts. I did it all to try to save him from fading away...and it still happened. All of this was just within 5 months time frame.
Wow !That way, great. When u said if he backs up, u do the same. I tried that, and it stayed the same. What do u do then? The guy I was seeing wasn't into phones, period, and said so. Drove me nuts! I loved u said, Dont think with feelings. That's what I always did, and I now try not to. Hope u talk more about all 6. I'm a little older than u and still learning. It's rough out here. Thanks, Kirk! Much appreciate U!
And watch out for the natural relationships with his mom.... I was love bombed by him and his mom! She even told me "he told me your the one" but she never stood up for me.... she tried grooming me into doing the things she did and I thought she was helping me 😂 whole time she was seeing what he can get from me without too much talk back.... this man is correct! Do not operate from Feelings! Feelings isnt always reality
Sometimes, it's hard not to show my feelings because I wear my heart on my sleeves. But I have learned a lot in my 2 Marriages iam 60 yrs old I don't want to give too much to soon..not my body but my affectionate
Most women are nurturers and loving by nature and genuine and giving.. so that may be her love language.. but definitely not too fast too early on.. but always find another giver.. especially if you are a giver yourself.. also always vet .. always..
Oh yes so true....women always put feelings before common sense and logic Yup the one who needs healing deplits your energy....again allot of women go for this guy Thank you ....I said this before I trust your advise coming from a man....u got this
Thank you for having Christ Consciousness - only real man will be able to overcome his own ego and protect women and children’! To overcome the lust of being serve but serving other for the betterment of humanity! I think thats the greatest thing man can do in his life! You might not be rich or whatever but if you protect women and children if you’re a man you already fulfilling your great destiny! Life is short it’s not what you achieved but what you overcome
1. You're giving too much, too early.
2. When they pull back, women pull harder.
3. Overlooking the red flags 🚩in the early stages. Don't be exclusive too early.
4. Looking at potential instead of reality!
5. Basing relationship on feelings/emotions.
6. U Don't heal yourself before daing..
‘It’s not all men, it’s the men on your frequency.’ ❤
If you're not heal,you will attract the same spirit just in a different body...be careful out here ladies❤❤
Thus is true. Sometimes you are anxious to have someone. You make bad decisions and bad choices.
So 👍
Wow... this is deep. 🤔The one who needs healing depletes your energy, and the one who needs intimacy increases your energy. That's the highlighted part for me. Thank you. I'm learning a lot from you.
Beautifully said ❤
Profound
" A MAN'S EFFORT IS A DEMONSTRATION OF WHAT HE FEELS ABOUT YOU, & A MAN'S BEHAVIOR WILL ACTUALLY TELL YOU EXACTLY HOW HE FEELS."
I have to tell you that I'm over 50 years old and I want to thank you for all the wisdom you share . I wish you had been around 20 years ago. I would have spared a lot of heartaches . I am now living the best years of my life, but I learned the hard way
Well said! Heal in Al areas of life first. Don't date while grieving.
The “men on your frequency” so true 😊
Loving your t shirt 🙏🏽
Damn... I've Had It All Wrong & That's Why I'm Single
Wow...such wisdom on young shoulders man! 61, single & loving my life & learning FAAAAST from you ..thanks 😊❤
This is my mantra,, The one who increase ur frequency deserves ur intimacy,, the one who decrease ur energy is the one who needs healing,,,, powerful this is my mantra
You said that! And I Got that! “If he decreases your energy, he needs healing-leave that man alone! If he Increases your energy he is ready for intimacy- Date Him!” Know the Difference!! 💯
Could it be not so much women are in their feelings but that so many men were taught and told to stop crying, suck it up, man up, you're weak, you're soft, quit acting gay, the list goes on and on which hinders healthy communication? So many women didn't have a positive role model from a man. And visa verse. So many men are raised by unhealed women that later take their unresolved issues into their relationships , and visa verse. If we would stop trying to mold people to be what our inner child didn't get as children and take responsibility for our own self care and love, then we can decide whether our feelings are exactly what is needed to pay attention to. Quit giving tax breaks to people that aren't good for you.
I appreciate your videos and advice.
I'm so sorry that I didn't come across this channel earlier. Kirk you are so right😢
Brilliant analysis Kirk!!!
Oh we’re definitely “gonna learn today” Kirk lol. Whether it’s the hard way or the healed version of ourselves.. 🥴🙂 Thank you for teaching us ladies.
❤️❤️ heyyy Sheena.
You gave a sermon! Omggg do you know how many people have told me about my light?? I just give and give openly. They connect to me on social media and get their supply through my light with nothing in return. Wow. You just gave me an epiphany. Go private, and be selective about my light bc people will use it feel good and give to so many other women. In your words verbatim, “The one who wants intimacy is the one who increases your frequency and the ones who need healing are the ones who decrease your energy” AND the stronger you attach, the stronger the pain.
Thank you sir. Thank you thank you 🙏🏾
❤️❤️
At work anxiously watching to see how I've been screwing this up! 😂
Definitely gained knowledge.
Thank you
lol. Did you find any you might have violated?
I carry that kind of energy and l keep attracting the healing types....hmmmm lessons learnt
My God!!! This is so true… I am of light…. I had to learn this after healing .. I’m not your therapist go get therapy then come back to see me… 😂
facts over feelings! 🫡💯❤️
Believe those red flags waving because its an indication to run.
Perfectly said
🎉u r energy & energy has NO expiration date, so its never ever to late!!!
This was a ministry to me!❤ love your straight to the point truth !
Sending blessings your way
❤️❤️❤️ thank you
This is by far the most insightful Information I have heard in a long long time ! I just love your voice it’s so comforting 😊 when you’re speaking a hard truth … it’s incredible to me how this very segment seems to speak directly to me Thank you Kirk I now have the tools to move forward with a healthier mindset in the dating arena. You are a gem a man filled with the goodness of God !
That's absolutely my problem. I'm always in my feelings, and I definitely have to work on when my discernment tells me no about a guy. Stop re-guessing myself when I already know my decernment is on point!
I definitely need to hear this. Great advice that I will implement. I'm 36 and hearing this advice for the first time.
Thank you so much dearly Kirk. This message is for me
You are so welcome❤️❤️
God bless you Kirk, that's all I can say , you have no idea how this video saved me a mess I was about t land in 🙏🙏
Powerful Message. I am working on more of number 6
Thank you for words of wisdom! Greatly appreciated🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
Facts straight feelings gets in the way look at things more logical thanks Kirk for this ✍🏾👏🏾
I just found your channel the other day and I'm really loving your videos. They're so on point. I love your bluntness. It's loaded with truth and genuine concern.
After watching one of your videos, following some self-reflection, I realized that I had trauma, something that I was completely unaware of. I've begun my healing journey.
THANK YOU!
Another profound share. Blessings !
Thank u so much helpful
Decrease energy- healing
Etc
I'm glad I found your channel...real talk.
Ohhh you're speaking my thoughts. ❤ I'm on the other side. Communicating my boundaries that I'm not into fast paced interactions. It is so exhausting always to be in alert mode because guys don't respect my no.
Your advice is spot on. Thank you.
“I think you all dont know what you all doing” 🤣🤣😍😍❤❤ LOOOVE the raw truth!!!! LOVE!! LOVE!! And I LOVE that you made your baby gurl a hot dog during your last live! ❤❤ Precious!!!
❤️❤️❤️
Where were you when i needed these advise.. Im Glad I came across your channel
You're appreciated sir. Thank you for sharing your perspective from a male's point of view❤
🎉just the FACTS mam, just the FACTS!!! bc ur feelings ain't got nothing to do w/the facts.
Good advice.
I am really loving your videos. Thank you.
I agree with you,
I appreciate your insight
Women really appreciate men like you. You really care about us. Thank you. Stay safe ❤ ❤
It is so strange people leave me and finds their way back and I don't understand their logic and why I talk to them anymore.😢 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😅
I’m a female living in masculine energy (default). I’m not giving anything! Especially not to a man that doesn’t value me! He won’t have long to prove it! They can attempt to manipulate and play! I will pull the mask off (expeditiously). Sad to say too many men living in feminine energy! Mommy issues and/or childhood neglect! I observe subtle energy (covert) narcissism etc.. When you show me who you are I believe it 🤷🏽♀️
.. thank you for your advice .. my husband of 25 years died a couple'a years back and I don't have a clue on what to do when I get attention from someone I'd like to get to know better .. your message really helps.. 🙏
I’m sorry to hear that 🙏🏾
I appreciate this now understand a little about men
So true facts that Part 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Dude...thanks for this ministry...you are God sent
I need to differentiate why someone is approaching my light!!!
Intimacy or attention
Learned lessons. #6 hit home. Thank you ❤
Wowww this is soooooo on point , I have learnt this the hard way , thanks for the knowledge
Very informative❤❤
Glad it was helpful!🙏🏾🙏🏾
DAMNIT! I did all this except 6. I didn't know any better. No one teaches us this stuff. Now, I'm old. and it's to late.
🎉it's never to late bc u don't have an expiration date!!!
😂 @ “Damnit” you got it queen.. you aint old!! And it aint too late!!! You got it mama!!!!
@@SunQueen-d7l ty but when it comes to dating it is..the healing and fixing everything that goes wrong is always put on women. While males get to continue being their unhealed messed up selves. It gets worse as most males age bcus they are psychologically unhealthy immature 50 plus acting 25 dating 30yo's and not wanting to traditionally date or marry. It's truly hard out here for those of us who want true monogamous companionship.
@@lh4639 aww ty for your kind words. But when you're well over 40 trying to fix and heal things after your best years are behind you is disenchanting. When you see the state of relationships now it's hard not to lose hope. I don't wanna be Sara's age finding love that's like a slap in the face. I spent my entire adult life doing what I thought were the right things. Working, going to college, saving, loving, and showing love only to find out that I'm the reason why no one loves me and all my relationships failed. I'm clean, a great cook, a good mom, and all the while everything I did to show someone I loved them was the reason they dog walked me and wiped their feet on me like a floor mat.
@@aquafina6544 nope! Men will love ya sweetie!! Make them chase you and keep being the fabulous queen you’ve ALWAYS been! They love to chase and give! Make ‘em do it! You’re the prize!!
Yups, all six thinking and feeling mistakes I am accountable for. I need to rewire myself for sure. Yesterday I have been discarded like trash, you was nothing, after two months in unsure where I stand…
O yeah, not doing this waiting patiently for a men’s decision anymore!
Thank you for this deep wisdom. I surely will get back to it frequently to remind myself in how to live my life for the better with more peace of mind and better discernment. Growing pains are damn hard! When will I learn.. this talk was on point for sure! Greets from the Netherlands.-S
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Really good advice all of these points are the truth.
Thank you❤️
Good message - from the 1 min to the end! - VERY true and VERY needed! I see my fellow women falling hard for, mostly nr2. , it is sad, I wish this was taught in schools, because damn sure in most families parents don't share this with their daughters.....they got to learn on their own trial and error....too often unhealthy examples around of how women handle men!
Thank you❤️
Whew! You're always spot on! Thank you. Have a great Day as well!
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Men that come to you is GOING TO HAPPEN EVERYDAY!
ITS UP TO YOU
WHO
TO
ENTERTAIN!
Facts ! Exactly 💯
God bless u, you make sense always
🙏 thank you 😢my energy is strong And need to learn to harness my light to not only help others but myself. I hate to love this about myself but it is Wht it is. A gift in need of better discernment
Good information😊 thanks
All these things I did and I knew I started to see him slowly fading with his communication. No matter what I did or said my feelings got more involved. And that didn't matter to him. He still was becoming more distant. Then it got to the point where I found myself constantly texting and calling and he was no longer returning no form of communication at all. I was nothing but nice and respectful to him. None of that matter to him what so ever. Lesson learned 😔I was finding myself ALWAYS asking him what took him so long to respond. Why you're not calling me. Are you ignoring me, Did you get my texts. I did it all to try to save him from fading away...and it still happened. All of this was just within 5 months time frame.
Very very wise advice!!
Just to say thank u for spreading the knowledge!
Thnx again bro😊
So nice of you. My pleasure ❤️
This info is so good
Thank you so much
Good topics
This popped up right on time. Thank you 😊
Just came across his channel!! Great insight!
Thank you❤️❤️
I really appreciate this 🙏🏽🌙
Wow !That way, great. When u said if he backs up, u do the same. I tried that, and it stayed the same.
What do u do then? The guy I was seeing wasn't into phones, period, and said so. Drove me nuts! I loved u said, Dont think with feelings. That's what I always did, and I now try not to. Hope u talk more about all 6. I'm a little older than u and still learning. It's rough out here. Thanks, Kirk! Much appreciate U!
❤️❤️ I just might
I feel genuine energy and when a man is attempting to love bomb and be disingenuous! It’s called discernment 😇
Your shirts are always 🔥😍
Can you give me an example of how I can tell if a man needs intimacy or healing?
And watch out for the natural relationships with his mom.... I was love bombed by him and his mom! She even told me "he told me your the one" but she never stood up for me.... she tried grooming me into doing the things she did and I thought she was helping me 😂 whole time she was seeing what he can get from me without too much talk back.... this man is correct! Do not operate from Feelings! Feelings isnt always reality
God bless you good sir! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sometimes, it's hard not to show my feelings because I wear my heart on my sleeves. But I have learned a lot in my 2 Marriages iam 60 yrs old I don't want to give too much to soon..not my body but my affectionate
That last part is me. I'm the light and I heal a lot of people. I made a mistake of mixing my healing with intimacy. Not EVER again.
Great video and total truth
Love this guy❤
That ending though 👌🏾
Hmmmm you are so deep, keep the good work up
Yep I learnt 😅
4:45 Comparing which red flags are worst 😩
I'm tired and made mistakes, and I'm good
Yes facts over feeling I agree
Excellent video
This is an amazing word.
Everything he said was SPOT ON
Thank you for sharing your knowledge l am learning so much from your channel it's fantastic ❤
Thank you so much for watching ❤️❤️
Facts and potential
This is real 100% just as it is. Alot of truth in this video
HALLELUJAH!!!!!!!!
💯
Most women are nurturers and loving by nature and genuine and giving.. so that may be her love language.. but definitely not too fast too early on.. but always find another giver.. especially if you are a giver yourself.. also always vet
.. always..
Oh yes so true....women always put feelings before common sense and logic
Yup the one who needs healing deplits your energy....again allot of women go for this guy
Thank you ....I said this before I trust your advise coming from a man....u got this
Preach, Kirk!
Thank you for having Christ Consciousness - only real man will be able to overcome his own ego and protect women and children’! To overcome the lust of being serve but serving other for the betterment of humanity! I think thats the greatest thing man can do in his life! You might not be rich or whatever but if you protect women and children if you’re a man you already fulfilling your great destiny! Life is short it’s not what you achieved but what you overcome