If your pet is coming to the end of their life for any reason but euthanasia is not yet needed then appropriate palliative care is something to seriously think about and a topic I discuss in detail here: ua-cam.com/video/DeGnBMeYRy8/v-deo.html
I’ve done this twice, it sucks at the moment but it’s a relief at the end of it. Your loved pet is not suffering anymore. Remember you gave your loved pet a happy home for many years.
Thank you very much for this, as it's helped me a lot. I had my 14 year old dog euthanized last weekend and it was the hardest thing ever, but your video has put my mind at rest. She was suffering, couldn't walk without collapsing and could barely get up without help. She had lost all her vitality and love of life. I was with her, which I am glad about, as she had no anxiety or fear. It was a beautiful, peaceful death actually, but so hard.
Same experience. My roommate's dog was euthanized last night. He was suffering for a really long time, almost no vitality, flinch in pain at almost any touch, no ability to control his bowels, back legs didn't work, covered in tumors, collapsing most to the time when he tried getting up, falling down stairs, regularly collapsing into and not being able to get out of puddles of water and urine, and every symptom of CCD, plus the owner getting ready to leave him behind at the house for 3-4 weeks. My roommate said once the drugs started to kick in, it was the first time he looked really happy and peaceful in months. It's difficult but also a relief not to see him suffer so much every day.
If you are happy to watch your pet suffer with no chance of improvement despite trying to make them as comfortable as possible then I feel sorry for your pet and personally believe that is the cruel thing to do. And throwing the accusation of murder as replies to comments like this is also cruel. Shame on you
@@OurPetsHealth Thank you Dr.,, my Wife and I have been struggling with this most difficult decision for a week or so. Our little pet is suffering, we feel so badly for her and do not want to lay her to rest but listening to your video and reading other pet lovers comments are helping us as we struggle with this. We have an appointment with her vet tomorrow morning. I feel we must allow her a graceful departure from our lives. We're in our 70's, she's a rescue and has been our friend for the last 10 of her 14 years. We will miss her most likely the rest of our lives but for her, I believe we must. Thank you for your response to the person who does not agree with euthanasia.
I had my dog of 14.5 years down 4 days ago. I have an enormous amount of guilt that I did it to early, I clicked on this video for reassurance that I did was the right decision. I got Jerry as a puppy 3months old and right after I did I broke both of my legs and became homeless with him, we have been through a lot together and I miss him so much. I know I made the right decision.
What kind of society let’s you become Homeless after you break your legs? There is something seriously wrong with human beings nowadays, I feel that I belong on another planet. Some years ago I took a homeless girl in with her cats and she stayed eighteen months, got educated and found a good home. She just needed a new start. It wasn’t too difficult and so worthwhile. I hope your are in a lovely home now. If not go to Lewis Howes utube and watch his,interview with Rhonda Byrne, author of The Secret and The Greatest Secret. She has some good ideas that worked for her and many of her readers! Namaste 🙏
I absolutely hate the fact that I had to watch this video, I am heartbroken. I am on my way now to the Vet to say goodbye 😭 But your video really helped me to know its for the best. THANK YOU 😭
I made the decision 2 weeks ago. My dog had most of the symptons described in several videos. I hated saying goodbye. He was an old foster mix. I took him in in 2010. At that time he was about 5 or 6. I had him for almost 10 years. He was never adopted so I formally adopted him in 2016. I miss him now.
I had my 9 yr old doggie put to sleep two days ago and was very difficult. She was a larger breed, highly trained, and my best friend. She slipped a disc and although had a good prognosis she quickly fell into body paralysis, stopped eating, stopped drinking, and would hardly take take water from a syringe. She then started bleeding profusely from her backside, and have hours of body tremors. Laying next to her one night I knew it was time and she was having such a hard time hanging on. When we got to the emergency vet I spend a few hours with her and there was a calming feeling, she took a nap for the first time in three days.. During the procedure I held her looked into her eyes and told her I loved her and that it was alright, and I thanked her for everything. Afterwards when she was picked up blood gushed from her backside, I've only seen this much blood from a battlefield femoral artery injury. I was told "I'm sorry for your loss" and I said I'm glad I could give my best friend a death that was respectful, clean, and quiet not one based around suffering and my own ego. Ill miss my baby but maybe when I die the rainbow bridge won't be far off.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You made the impossible decision for her and should take great comfort in letting her ease out of this life. I'm sure she'll be waiting for you on the other side. Take care of yourself
That was an aweful & very traumatic experience ! So sorry for your dog & you had to go through w/ that !!! I do have many traumatic experiences in my life including loss of my dogs & cats in very very hard ways . One was poisoned by my family friend . Many misdiagnoses in my dogs's/ cats's lives . One w/ domino organ failures at the end ,she had a hip disc issue as well. My cat ,my true bestfriend with suffocation w/ his own tail furs which was also misdiagnosed, I once saved him by giving him CPR, so on myself ! The other cat w/ kidney failure from lower urinary tract disease went to an extended bladder ,then a kidney failure ,then a heart attack & died in my arms ! I regret so many . So, I can relate to your experience. You seem like you are in a medical field ,or you had been to a war zone ,so , might be a soldier ? Facing to our beloved animal friends's deaths never get easy ! Lots of love & hugs to you from L.A. 💜💜💜💜🥁🎵🐉🎤🎶💖💕💞
Yesterday was my last day with my dog and it was so heart wrenching cause of how quick they it was. If felt like I didn't get to say bye in time and see him scared killed me so much. But I really do hope I get to see you again Tanner. I love you so much Tanner 5/3/22
@Three Aces my dog was still eating too but knowing he was in pain was the reason we made the decision. I'm sure it was right decision. I'm sorry for your Missy
Thank you for this video. I’ve been struggling with my decision to call the vet to set a time to go in to let my baby go. I keep doubting myself and thinking that it’s too early and he still has time but this video really helped. The part where you say a week too early is better than a day too late really helped my heart. Thank you thank you thank you for this video.
Thank you for this video. I really loved your three things to remember. You have helped me and I know I’m doing the right thing….. However, I still can’t stop crying.
Doing the right thing doesn't always make it easier I'm afraid, but it will allow to look back and remember all the good memories knowing you made the best decision possible. I'm sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry if you’re at this point with you pet. It’s tough to grieve,but be easy on yourself and carry their light through the world as they watch over you ❤️
Are dear sweet golden Toby (15) had a good last day, collapsed, was not really lucid and we took her in. I don't think after she collapsed that she recognized us, but we spoke loving words into her ear until she passed gently. We always hoped she'd "let us know", and she did. Healing from this loss is going to take a long time. So much love given and received.
@@scoobydadog246 as if I need to explain to someone my circumstances but here we are listen lady, my pup was not having the quality of life she deserved, she fell down a flight of stairs and almost injured herself bad, not to mention prior instances. So before you go attacking someone for their decision think about the struggle. Shame on you for even bringing this up as if it didn't hurt bad enough. This world has become so hateful 😔 I mean read these stories its heartbreaking 💔
@@NAMASTEONELOVE I'm no lady, I'm a dude.. and when people get old, what you call "quality of life changes".. You are in public group chat. The point is there are other options Life changes as humans and dogs age. Now it is not the same for you when you are 80, as when you are 20 . I haven't euthanized any relatives who have a history of falling, stairs or not. Why now get a baby gate to block off the stairs. We can make adjustments for our senior dogs. You don't have to be hateful if you don't want to be! The vet industry for a long time only knew about killing older and chronically ill dogs. I'm sorry if you feel guilty, but don't blame me for simply pointing out to others who are reading that there are other options. And who are you do determine what is an acceptable quality of life. I haven't been able to do a full flight of stairs for years now. I've got a great life!
@@scoobydadog246 first of all dude..how are you even going to act like you knew what I did to prevent this from happening unbelievable, she had a gate and knocked it down, but why im explaining this to you i have no idea, so tired of nebby people like you get a life and let others do what they want stay out of mine. Don't try and deflect shit on to me quit responding to my comments.
Who do you think you are telling someone about their own pet have some respect! not only was this post a year old but she also still grieves her beloved dog.
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear all of this. My dog is 13 and a half, she has reached her end stages of life. I’m crushed, but I know now it is my last act of kindness to give to her.
I had to make this horrible decision about a month ago. My cat who was my constant companion for the past 12 years just started losing weight rapidly and then he'd go through phases where he'd stop eating all together and then start getting better and spring back I tried all types of different foods and he responded well and put some weight back on and he had a bout with fleas and we got rid of the fleas and he was finally starting to look better but the last 6 months or so he started declining again and I couldn't get him to eat and I took him to the vet and he told me that I had to either treat him with all these expensive treatments or put him to sleep... I thought about his future and his wellbeing..... I thought about how hard it would be on him and they were not even 100% certain that's what it was and I just wanted him to die with dignity and not end up coming home from work and seeing him dead... Even after all the treatments. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make by myself. I had nobody there to tell me what to do. I just had to give him the act of kindness and relieve him of the suffering that he was starting to go through. I felt like an executioner and I felt guilty and horrible but I was put in an impossible position and I miss him so much. I cry for him even a month later... but I know in my heart I did the right thing... If I held on it would only be for MY sake and he wouldn't be happy nor would he be the same. I gave him the chance to leave this world with comfort abnd love........ The last thing that he heard was me whispering in his ear how much I loved him and how uch I was going to miss him. I don't think I'll ever get another cat ever again....... I can't go through this again. I've lost other cats before but this time was so different.. So I completely understand what you're going through. It's hard but you have to look at the good times you spent with them and not let the last moment be the sum total of the cat's life. I remember all the fun and good times rather than the end... I know it's hard.... but God gave me comfort in knowing I did the right thing...
My puppy was put down today... It's was hard, but this video helped me with the terrible experience. It was an act of kindness and compassion... Thanks for the guidance.
Had to do this yesterday to Dexter, my 12yr old Pointer. Mentally he was fine, but his back legs were just collapsing underneath him. He could get about, but only just. His front end was fine, but it was like his back end was a staggering drunk. It was obvious he had to go, but the fact that he was mentally sound made the decision just that little bit harder. I rang the vets on the Tuesday and booked him in for the Thursday. I cried after I'd booked him in, but knew it was the kindest thing I could do for him. Wednesday night was awful, as I knew what was coming the next morning. I spent the night on the sofa with him that night and cooked him a big steak for his last tea. The morning came and I felt physically sick. Took him to the vets and fortunately the vet let me come in with him (corvid restrictions were being slackened, but still in place). The catheter was already in his front leg when I was allowed in, and the vet had put an extension onto the tube so that he could distance himself from me. I sat Dexter down in front of me and sat on the floor with him, cuddling him the whole time. The vet let me know that he'd started with the process, and within seconds I could feel Dexters' head starting to go heavy on my arm so I laid him down in front of me, stroking him and talking to him the whole time. I put my hand on his chest and could feel that his heartbeat had stopped (obviously the vet did his own checks). The vet then said I could spend as long as I wanted to say my goodbyes, so I gave him a final stroke and a kiss on the head and stroked his eyes shut. Yes, it was a horrible experience, but it was also a relief both for Dexter and for me. He doesn't have to drag himself round any more, and I don't have to feel sorry for what was once such a proud and athletic dog having to struggle to stand up. The process was over in a matter of seconds, and very peaceful. It's the day after now, and whilst I'm still sad while I write this, I know that Dexter will have thanked me for helping him on his way. A small part of me went away with Dexter yesterday, but an even bigger part of him will be staying with me. Thanks for the good times Dexter. Gonna miss you.
@@Rae-lh7ex Thanks. It's an awful thing to go through, but I just wanted to reassure other people out there having to make this awful decision is more than likely the best for both parties and how quick and painless (physically) the procedure is.
I took our 14 year little staffy Ellie yesterday and it was one of the most heart breaking things to have to do. She had almost lost all hearing, eyes were becoming milky, constantly shaking, hadn’t eaten for two days and night before she had a terrible fit and vomited, it was time. Her quality of life wasn’t there anymore and she wasn’t enjoying anything day to day. She had a brilliant life with long walks, played with other dogs and loved absolutely everyone. I’m in pain today but what gives me comfort is knowing I was able to stop the suffering and be there with her as she went
Just lost my 19yr old jack Russell girl,it's the most devastating thing ever.we were hoping she made xmas then we hoped for new year which she just managed but she was very tired and quiet,went off her food and never got out of bed when my son walked in the room as she would normally mug him for sausages she couldn't even do this in the end and slept a lot. On the 3rd of Jan she lay and spent the whole day just staring at me not closing her eyes once.i knew what needed to be done but still prayed for more time but that look was like she was trying to get into my head to say now is the time.i think she new and needed me to know more. Her breathing started to go funny within an hour and rushed her to vet and sent her to rainbow Bridge calmly. I've sent her away to be cremated and I'm now waiting for her coming home. My heart is so broken right now I feel losing a pet is harder to understand than a person I don't know why but it does. Goodnight and godbless my baby girl hollie- bouch we will love you for eternity 💗 😭xxx
Thank you for posting this, I had to make the decision today to put my dog of 15 years to sleep. She was one of the sweetest, most loving friends you could have. I found your video and while it was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make, your "three simple statements" @ 06:54 helped me keep some perspective. The vet was very supportive, but seemed more interested in giving her drugs to "make her comfortable" to prolong the inevitable with the only potential solution having more side effects, risks and potential pain then I was willing to put her through. I urge you to please stay with them until the end, you'll be able to comfort them so they don't feel scared or unsure of what's happening. The most important thing is how they feel leading up to that moment. They've been with you through so many things, it's the least you can do, no matter how you feel. If it's available in your area, I highly recommend you find a vet that will perform the service in you and your pets home. In my case, she was on her favorite chair laying under her favorite blanket when she went. I know she felt right at home as she was sleeping on her own right up until it was time. Its hard enough, I can't imagine having to go through this at a vets office.
Thank you for your advice. My dog is at his last months but not suffering yet, still happy. But he has an ulcer and is 14 years. He's always so anxious at the vet's office. I hadn't even thought about this so I will discuss it with her to do it at his most safe place at home on the couch lying next to me🙏💗
Thank you so much for this. My little Jess Fox terrier has had a lump and stones removed from her bladder in February. Turns out the lump was Cancer and will return, probably around 6 months. I need to be strong and think only of her going forward.. she is loving life right now but I know that as soon as I see her struggling to pee.. that is the time I need to do what's right. As you so rightly say.. a week too early is better than a day too late.
This video was very informative. Thanks for your sensitivity in explaining the process of making the difficult decision to say goodbye to our pet. My family is doing so tomorrow. After taking him to the vet yesterday, we already felt that it was time and she confirmed it for us. Can't say that I am looking forward to tomorrow but I know it is in our pet's best interest at this point and stage of his life. He lived a great life and brought tremendous joy to our family for the past 17 years. We will definitely miss him but NEVER forget him! Farewell, old friend! Luv always! 😭
@@OurPetsHealth Thanks! My pooch actually passed a few hours before he was scheduled to be euthanized. He passed comfortably on our couch in a blanket around family. Doesn't make it any easier witnessing him take his last breath but we knew it was time. We'll miss that fella for sure. We already do! 😥😢😭
Thank you for helping me with making such a difficult decision. My dog (Siberian husky) is 12yo, and he has a late stage of nasal cancer. I scheduled in-home euthanasia to end his suffering. I still have no idea how I'll be able to cope with this loss but I find it a bit comforting to know that I'm going to be there for him until the very end, and that he'll know he's not alone.
thank you so much for this.I had to say goodbye to my boy this morning. he was diagnosed with kidney failure the beginning of this year. we got him stabilised for a few months(with pate food and metacam) but he had a siezure last night,and we had to make the call. we'd made the decision that his time was up last night and i was going to take him to the vet for the last rites at lunchtime. I checked on him before I went to work this morning and managed to get a couple of drops of metacam into him.By the time I came back from work to do his last mile he had passed on...a bit stiff in the legs but still warm..maybe gone for an hour. it's such a horrible situation to be in,but I hope he was as comfortable as we could make him for those last minutes.
Tomorrow, my darling Flat-Coated Retriever, Julie, is crossing over to heaven. She has been my dear companion for 15 years. I knew this day was coming for weeks now. And she is now completely immobile, incontinent and the pain med is not effective. I've given her so many treats today, and she's laying near the wood-stove. All the memories are coming back. I do not know how I am going to bear this. This video helped me to know that I am doing the right thing. I am going to miss her so much..
Thank you. We had just made the decision to let go of our Bailey ( 16 ) girl but I’ve been struggling with feeling guilty. She has a collapsed trachea that she’s been struggling with for the past three years and it’s gotten worse. So we made the decision today to let her go. Your video just affirmed what everyone’s been telling us that it’s better to let her go before she reaches a point where she’s suffering more than she already is. Again thank you for this timely video.
I totally agree with this video, just remember in nature animals have their lives cut short quickly and violently, you, the pet owner making such a hard decision is already a much better thing to do even though it doesn’t feel like it.
Well, your pet is not out in nature, and modern medicine has lots of end of life medications available to manage symptoms. Humans have been using them forever, they are cheap and easy. I think you humans are doing this because it's easier for YOU and talking yourself into thinking it's such a good thing.
Just got back from having our 13year old golden retriever put to sleep. He had arthritis in his hips and rear legs. We have helped him for several weeks getting up but the last few days he lost his ability to stand and do body functions. He was still sharp as a tack otherwise. Really a rough decision to put your best friend and companion down after all them wonderful years with him. Rest In Peace BUCK, we will always love you and we already miss you. Thanks for all the wonderful times.
Thank you so much for this video. I had to put my sweet kitty down Sunday. Even though I know he was in a bad place, thankfully for a couple short days, I believe, I'm still having difficulties coming to terms with it. Several of the things you've mentioned here are the very reasons I went through with it, but I was still questioning myself. You've helped put me come to a somewhat more peaceful place. Thank you.
Sorry you've had to go through this. I'm pleased to have been able to help in a small way. It's a challenging time so be kind to yourself and don't expect to be back to "normal" straight away
Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.Thank you for this video. I've had my dog since 2.5yrs old her name is rollie she is now 16.5yrs old we watched each other grow up and I've realized a number of things that she's struggling with. She is still a happy dog but has struggles that are getting worse. When you said a week too early is better then a day too late it made sense. I Will be there with her till the end no matter how difficult it is.
Thank you so much! This video has helped a great deal. We had to euthanize our beloved 13 year old German Shepherd on the 8th of June. It was a sad and horrible decision to make but he was indeed suffering due to arthritis in both hips. We had him since he was 6 weeks old. He will be missed for the rest of our lives.
First off that was a very compassionate and helpful video that really clarified so much, thank you! Secondly any heartless pathetic human being who would give him a thumbs down should be ashamed and disgusted at themselves-though I’m sure if this is their behavior others are probably disgusted with them anyway!! Thank you again and you can see you really care about the information you speak about. This video was very helpful in a most difficult time. I am having a home euthanasia for my 13.5 year old dog who’s has the strongest will and the biggest heart. She was born with a rare generic disease “NCL” with the onset at 3 years old. It’s not a painful disease but one that is degenerative and I have given her the best life I think I could possibly give her. Made every adaptation to my home, and always made her life enjoyable including her favorite past time swimming. As I watched her condition get worse, she was always a happy and strong willed dog enjoyed life and her family. She never realized from what I can see that she was different from other dogs. She would attempt to do everything and would succeed to her fullest. It has been a rough road, but always made sure she wasn’t suffering and was happy. Until recently her quality of life has gotten worse and made the hardest decision going back and forth “she still loves to eat delicious home cooked meals, still loves her treats, still snores peacefully, still happy to see her family daily” until the last week, everything drastically got worse and my instinct kicked in...”but will this bad patch pass??” So many uncertainties but realized I was being selfish because I don’t want to let go and now it was time to do what’s best for her! So as these last days/hours I have left I spend every moment telling her she was one of a kind, the greatest Best-friend most loving dog and I thank her for giving me the opportunity to be a part of her life. I will love you forever Stella, enjoy peace and the fun times you have been missing..swim all day, sun yourself and remember you were loved beyond what you could even imagine....
Thank you for this video.. two months of pain, fear, anger... many bad feelings for him...zero quality of life. When you see your loving friend suffering like is heartbreaking...it happend today and I m soo sad...
Well I just put my rescue down. He was old. I rescued him three years ago and spoiled him rotten every day I knew this day would come and told him first day. I will not allow you to suffer. And I kept my word. This video assures me I did the right thing. God I miss him. Thanks !
Thank you so much for this video. I had to make the most heart breaking decision today to euthanize my dachshund Apollo😭 he was paralyzed from the back legs down. He soiled himself and couldn't walk. I was blessed with 8 wonderful years with Apollo💔 my heart hurts so much and I can't stop crying, but seeing him not happy and healthy broke me. Thank you so very much for this video Dr, I truly needed to hear it.
Thank you for posting this video. You’ve helped me make a decision. My little darling Tonkinese cat is 14 years almost 15 years old and is dying from kidney failure. I am worried he is suffering silently even though he eats and drinks and wees. He sleeps a lot. I’ll be calling my vet today. He deserves a peaceful end.
Thank you as your video has helped many and I had to release my dog today because of an extreme health issue, and this video helped me reassure me that I did the best thing for him. Thanks
My heart is breaking even though I know it's the best thing for him. He has no use of one of his hind legs hip dysplasia and severe arthritis in his spine. He's only 10 yrs old. Still wants to play but can't, this decision is soul destroying.
Thank you for this video. A month ago I had to put to sleep my beloved companion Tzoker. Despite my deep sorrow, I would like to help other dog/cat/any pet owners in taking this difficult decision. My dog had lymphoma, he was old and having arthritis. Our last days together were very difficult but manageable. One day before he had a head stroke and a heart attack. I couldn’t believe that I would be counting the hours to put him out of his misery. He lost his sight, he couldn’t walk and eat and he was having seizures… I was also in deep pain seeing him like that. The decision was very clear to me after having done literally anything I could to provide him a perfect life. Just let me add one more point to this video. Despite the pain, be by the side of your friend until his/her last breath. It’s the greatest and ultimate act of love and respect to your loyal friend who shared a life with you and brought you happiness and unconditional true love. Never let them go alone and believe me, despite your grief you will have peace at heart ❤️
I hear back from the vets tomorrow from the blood result. I am shitting myself and havnt stopped crying since I got back. I'm sorry for anyone that is going through this pain of losing something or someone they love my thoughts are with u all x
Thank you so much for making this video. I had to put my dog down 2 years ago. He was 16 years old and he was my baby and still is. I still think about him all the time and I always felt bad about making that decision. He was in pain and he had something that couldn't be cured. I know it was something that I had to do but I always got upset with myself for doing it. After watching your video I know I made the right decision. I still feel upset about it but not as much as I did before. Thank you.
I'm sorry you are still struggling with the decision you made, but it is because of this that I have no doubt it was the right one and a decision made in love. Take care
Thank you very much for making this video. You did a VERY good job of communicating some very big and difficult questions. And you did so, with a Grace and Kindness that, I really connected with. It honestly felt like you were holding my hand and guiding me through making sense of the entire experience I just went through. And there was something very comforting about that. Don't get me wrong, I was literally sobbing through this entire video. But you brought me some comfort, understanding and perspective when I needed it. So thank you very much for that. It's only been a week since putting my Baby Boy, Snowy to sleep. He was an 8-year-old German Shepherd, and from the moment he and I met, we both knew, that this, was something special. But he developed Degenerative Myelopathy (among other chronic lifelong problems he had) and a lot of what you said made so much sense when I heard it, especially for this disease. It's much easier (though still VERY Difficult) to make the decision if your pet is visibly suffering and in pain. But DM is insidious in its painlessness. And it made making the decision....so much more difficult. And when you said the part about the Guilt. My God, the Guilt. It's unbearable and it's crushing. And using their appetite as the only judge of whether your pet is okay or not? That was so important to hear! Because Snowy would always get so excited for food! And seeing the excitement in his eyes made me second guess myself countless times and just added/adds to the guilt. But as you said, we HAVE to look at other things, and I knew that the decision I had to make, was the right one. By far the hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life btw. Lastly, your 3 personal beliefs you shared, REALLY helped too. "There is clearly something significant going on that is making you seriously think about Euthanasia", and "Euthanasia may be the last final act of kindness you can show a sick pet by ending their suffering". I often forget this when the waves of Grief and Guilt hit. Especially the Guilt. But after the tears and sobs I just shed, I feel better. So thank you for giving me that. I feel like now I'll be able to find my way back up to the surface when those waves hit again. Thank you for the comfort, understanding and perspective you just blessed me with. I wish I found you sooner! I'm finally, truly, starting to think like I might be okay again, one day. Keep up the GREAT WORK!
I’m pleased I could help in a small way. Snowy sounds like he truly was a special soul. Take care of yourself, and I’m so sorry you had to go through this loss
Thank you very much for this video! I had to come to this decision today for my beloved Basset Hound; he was 13. He had an oral tumour that ulcerated which started bleeding…I saw a real difference in him the last couple days and finally called the vet. I could of went in that day but I delayed it a day so I could be with him and have him a nice warm meal and bath. After watching this video I feel like I did the right thing; however much it hurts my heart. I will miss you forever Frank.
Very helpful. I've listened to it numerous times. My dog had a good death. A few problems finding the vein, but he had "old man veins." He went to sleep, was snoring, then the vet administered the OD. 13 years he loved me and I loved him.
Sorry for your loss. You're right, what better way to go though than simply falling asleep. If we love them, letting them go like this when it's their time is a great kindness, however difficult it is for us. Take care
I'm due to put my dog down in 3 days. I've really been struggling with this. After watching this, there is no doubt that it's best for him. Watching him struggle every day has just become unbearable. Thank you so much for sharing this YT.
I'm sorry you and your dog are going through this, it really is a difficult time but you at least now know it is the kindest decision for you to make. Take care
I am needed some strength, my dog I have had 11 yrs and I swear it doesn’t seem that long. I have a son that passed away in 2013 and he is the one who gave her to me as a gift.. I love her as if she was my other child. Everyday for 11 yrs she made me smile! Her face has one tooth that sticks out. Some say she is so cute, so ugly or strange looking she is cute, her bottom jaw comes out a little bit more than the top does. My son said I knew you’d love her because others wouldn’t.. I said thanks what are u saying he said u just have that kind of heart and u fix those that seem broken. And I heard a song clay walker samg called she loves the broken ones and I hear it and it reminds me of how my son saw me and it is a compliment that he saw me this way. Well u see how hard this is going to be. She is a beautiful little dog had a soul of an Angel. And she has lymphoma and I can’t help her. All lymph’s are so big already. I took her to vet years ago spent 1200 to find out she had polycystic arthritis causing her to walk in pain so medication helped and she got better then she started having itching that wouldn’t go away. I now am told this and I can’t afford chemotherapy if it is just going to cause her to be more sick. I love her and she is a tie to my beautiful son. God help me to do this
I've had to deal with this TOO many times!!!! I love my babies but I'm so sick of this part!!!! As many animals as i"ve had, I've never had to NOT put one down!!! I'm glad I was there for them however!!! I would NEVER leave them alone!!! btw,,,,this guy is great!!!
I am losing my 14 year old dog today, she has stopped eating and can barely walk, she drinks water but we don't want her suffering without food. Thank you for the video.
My dog is being euthanized this Monday and I can’t stand it I don’t wanna lose my dog he isn’t a dog to me tho he is family I have never euthanized any of my pets before so I’m not prepared for this he will be put down while I’m at school and I am in a bad depression right now because of this but you have helped me and my mom cope with this better thank you
I’ve only had my whippet for less than a year (she turned one last month), and I am already contemplating how will I say good bye to this little angel, when that day comes (and I pray that the day gets delayed forever). I cried through this vid and agree with what you said about showing them the last act of kindness. I want my baby to leave knowing she is deeply loved, that there will be no more suffering, and that she can depart with peace and dignity. Thank you for providing the insights and tips about this whole process. You are appreciated.
Rodney Dechiara because it isn’t the only thing on my mind. I simply had to think this through. It’s not about just me enjoying her, but how can I give her the quality of life throughout each stage including the last.
Been struggling with this decision as well, my 13 year old Weimaraner has been my best friend. Making it even more difficult is my wife passed away just over 3 years ago....😢😢 One week early or a day late 🤔 I don't want to let him go.... Thank you.
It's been 3 weeks since I had to put my baby bear to sleep. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make in my life he was 16 and he was much more than a pet to me. I swear he knew what I was thinking. I miss him so much. I feel guilty for having to put him to sleep but I knew it was the right thing to do I cry everyday.
I'm preparing to let my 13.5 year old golden go this month. I think she held on as long as she can and we've treated her well. I'm hoping not to have any regrets as I feel right now that I'm doing the right thing for her. It's August now and there's no way she'll ever make it through another winter. I'm going through the anticipatory grief now and will be both devastated and relieved to lose one of my very best friends in the world. She brought me though some of the most difficult times in my life between the ages of 47 and now over 60. What a journey we have had together. I will always love her.😥
I’ve been watching several videos and this is one of the best videos I’ve viewed so far to help me cope with my loss. I made the difficult decision to let my Zack go two weeks ago. He was eating and drinking but wasn’t the same. He had brain cancer and rapidly declined.
Please help me!!!! My dog has a brain tumor and we are putting her down in two days and I am not sure to do it or not, my dos is 18 years old and also eating and drinking water! What makes you decide to let your baby go?? Please I need some light
@@angiesubiaolivo1972 My Zack was 14yrs and he declined really fast. In a matter of two weeks. It started with a tumor in his mouth then it effected his eye. He went blind and then he started having multiple seizures. My vet told me his blood results turned out elevated white blood count and anemia. My boy wasn’t the same. It was the hardest thing I had to do. I miss him so much. I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s so hard.
@@bernadettec8456 thank you very very much for sharing your experience with me, I can’t stop crying, I was in total denial until yesterday! I’m so sorry for your loss too :(
thanks for making this video, I had to put my sweet boy down about a month and a half ago, he was 15.5 years old.. even though he was terminally ill, and his symptoms were getting increasingly worse, it's so hard to emotionally accept that it was the right thing to do, the existential pain is so difficult even though logically I know, he was not going to get better. He died in my arms wrapped in a blanket while I rocked him in the hammock while I had an at home service vet do the procedure, even though it was the most perfect circumstance possible it still never feels like I did enough.
Think about it this way: I’d say to them ‘you’re just going for a sleep,’ when it’s time or I would have an amazing last few hours with your pet. Try not to be upset, your dog or cat might notice you are bothered and be slightly scared that something will happen or has happened. Try to stay calm and happy. Most vets say it is a very good idea to ‘stay by your pet’s side while they are being put to sleep,’ this is true and it really helps your pet feel comfortable and less stressed and frightened of the situation they are in
Agreed, I heard that crying can make it feel to your pet as if you’re upset. Remember, it’s about your pet in those last moments and it needs to feel comfortable. Cry afterwards if possible.
my kiddo has been sick since January. she’s lost over 5 lbs and she’s very small. she doesn’t eat well even though she’s on three medications, she can barely walk, isn’t able to get on my bed anymore, and can’t hold her pee or poo well. she’s suffering and I think I may have to have her put down Sunday. I’m sobbing thinking about holding her little body as they push the medication to put her to sleep but I’ll be right there with her the whole time. she’s given me 10 years of happiness and comfort, and deserves the same. I’ll plan on the day of her euthanasia taking her to a park and let her sit in the sun and eat a nice cheeseburger and some ice cream. I just want her to enjoy her last days.
Thank you for this. Mon Sept 20th 2021 I had to make the decision to put my almost 17yr old boy to rest. He had kidney disease, early dementia, severe arthritis, cataracts, has had Prancreatice and Gastrointestinal problems. Could remember to tell me he had to go potty but would come into the house to poop. He was in pain with his arthritis even tho I had him on a pain shot, wobbled to walk and sometimes fell. I struggled to make the decision because he ate very good, he drank alot of water but I know it was because of his kidneys. He started walking around in a circle thru the house, from the kitchen thru the dining room, and living room back thru the kitchen. I couldn't take him for a walk outside but he could do that in the house practically non stop! My struggle was he was eating good, he doesn't have a voice on the choice, we as humans don't even get to end our struggle even if we want too, but we can end theirs in 2 seconds! I'm still feeling guilty at my loss, and decision to end his pain and confusion! My sweet boy was my Trucker dog since he was 11 mos old! Almost made it to 17 yrs. Longest pet I've ever had! I knew one or the other problems he was suffering would get worse before the other and he was suffering each of them in some way. But its hard to deal with the guilt of am I selfish that maybe he doesn't want to go yet? That ending his life is just easier to stop the daily care of his needs? I Love Him. We get to hang on and suffer till God takes us, but we can end an animal with no problem! Thats my minds dilemma! Did I do the right thing? I'm still not sure, but I'm mourning and can't think, but its too late now. All I can say is I'm sorry my boy, I'm sorry Theodore mommy loves you, don't be mad at me. Rest in Peace and run like you did as a puppy. 😢💔✝️🛐😔
I am going through the same and I know exactly how you feel. I had to put my beloved dog down 2 days ago. He was with me for almost 14 years. He's been I'll since He was 8 (DCM, heart problems) but still outlived all his siblings. It was getting worse and worse with his health and I finally made the decision to put him to sleep forever, before something really bad happens and he bleeds internally or something like that. I did a at-home euthanization and I was with him till the very last second. And know I am dying of guilt, shame and grief. Was ist too early? Did we miss something? Could he lived longer? Was it painful for him to get the injection? And all these question eating up my mind and soul... It will get better by time, but right now I am in a very bad place.
@@DasYpsilon I wonder if doing the right thing ever feels right in the mind or heart. My Theodore might have had a few more months, maybe, but I'm not sure sometimes. Animals have no voice to tell us when its time. I think it will take my mind a long time to not feel guilty. I'm just learning to live with it and make peace
I do think that animals live in the moment and they're fine with what happens and just trust us. I do believe that, you and me, made the right decision. It was a love-decision.
I think that's only natural, but by thinking of it in advance you can be better prepared when the time comes and unfortunately our pet's lives are so much shorter than our own
@@OurPetsHealth it was the first time and i had a hard time dealing with the fact that we can allow our pets to pass peacefully but who wouldnt want that! Hes chasing cinnamonbuns in heaven now ♡ now i got another senior dog so i guess ill have to get used to it
Thank you so much for this video. Our golden retriever has been gagging over the last few weeks and then very rapidly lost strength in her back legs. Five days ago we took her to the vet and x-rays revealed she is over come with cancer. She is unable to get up and we have to help her get up to go to the bathroom. My 12 year old daughter is heartbroken and doesn't understand why we need to put her down when she wags her tail so much when we talk to her. We've made the appointment for tomorrow and this will be a great video to watch with her beforehand.
Sorry you and your poor dog are going through this. It is always very upsetting even when you know it's the right decision to make for your dog and you should expect your daughter (and yourselves) to grieve just as for any other family member. Take care
Thanks for your help I love my Springer spaniel Ross 18 years old he is perfectly healthy with an absolute heart of gold but mobility is gone and urinary control is failing I want this dog in my life for ever but I do not want him to suffer this will be a hard weekend of thinking thanks for your comments cheers Declan from Ireland 👍👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I went through this today. Find a vet who will work with you to make the experience as peaceful as possible. I spent several days helping my elderly mom's nearly 16 year old dog dealing with seizures and convincing mom to let go. That said, I would agree with the idea of sending a pet off a day earlier than later. The last two days were really tough as I helped a great little dog deal with seizures and loss of physical control, while convincing my elderly mother to let her go. The clinic was great, with a quiet room, explaining every moment, so I could be with Maggie until the end.
I’m sorry for your families loss but pleased to hear the process was made as easy as possible by your vet. If you could let them know how much you valued their care too I know it would mean a lot to them as it can be a really emotional time for veterinary staff as well as. I hope your mum is getting over her loss too.
I’m facing this decision. My sweet pup is on medication for pain, and while she’s having some good days, I am keenly aware that this may be short lived. I’ve seen her suffer, and I don’t want her to devolve into anything that will cause her pain or discomfort. It’s so hard.
This has been so helpful... It's been a week since we said goodbye to Lucas... our sweet 14 year old Cocker Spaniel. It wasn't an easy decision at all. Lucas loved life and up until the last 2 weeks, seemed happy and still had a good quality of life in spite of being deaf, having two bad hind legs and having a large tumor in his lung. He still love to walk, and play ball albeit much less than in younger years. Two weeks prior to saying goodbye, he was having significant trouble breathing and was in deep distress. We took him to an all night vet and they recommended putting him down. A chest xray revealed that his airway/lungs were significantly blocked. We asked to see him before making a decision. He was in an oxygen chamber and when he saw us, began pawing for us. He looked like the same old Lucas. Hours later, we took him home. The next 2 weeks were tough and we hung on to him too long. He had a seizure last Tuesday May 21st and that's when we knew it was time but still I had extreme difficulty making the call. I was out of town and flew home to be with Lucas and my wife. Thursday night, he had an attack and couldn't breathe well. We were giving him gabapentin which calmed him down and basically kept him sleeping most of the time. We couldn't keep medicating him and we couldn't stand to see him suffer anymore. Friday, May 24th, Lucas died at home with the assistance of a caring vet. I've been struggling with my decision and have been haunted by replaying him dying while we held and loved on him. That's what lead me to this video. We're still mourning and experiencing a lot of grief but every day, it gets less painful. Watching this video brings me to two conclusions. 1) We waited too long and caused Lucas a lot of suffering. 2) We did the right thing in the end. My thoughts go out to all of you who are also dealing with losing a furry family member.
Don't be too hard on yourself. It's an incredibly difficult time and it's easy to look back with the benefit of hindsight. Let yourself grieve and try to remember all of the good times. Take care
Thank you, this video helped greatly. The closer the matter of fact comes the more you reach out for some comfort and reassurance. This video gave that to me. Thank you.
Had to put my dog to sleep last Sunday and on that day a beautiful rainbow came and hopefully he went over that rainbow to say goodbye and now that he's happy he was only 8 years old bless him
Our girl is 14 she has cyst that won’t heal and she’s not sleeping and seems to moan a lot. But still is very affectionate and sweet. Most of the time she sleeps and falls.
This is the best advice and information I have found we had to put my girl to rest last week and I have been struggling with if we did the right thing my husband was certain that we did but I just wanted to hold on to her. I can say after watching this that we helped end her suffering . My heart is broken and trying to go forward without her but it is so hard. She was my best friend she was loving ,loyal she relaxed me and I her I will cherish the life we had together .
thank you.... you made me realize that i may have prolonged her pain. but it's still better to do it before she's completely not able to walk or relieve herself completely. thanks for explaining this process in details much appreciated
Thank you so much for this. We had our lovely girl put to sleep today and in our hearts we knew it was right, but i was ready to change my mind right up until her heart stopped. And after felt like I'd made the wrong decision because she was walking around and alert. But she had been vomiting regularly, pooing in her sleep and had bad arthritis. Then last Sunday stopped eating and had only taken water through a syringe in her mouth and refused that from yesterday. And she was so sad. 😩 but she'd perk up for visitors and still gave cuddles. But she was 14 and so stiff . After watching this i feel at peace with our decision. But it hurts so much. I miss my Bellbells. I hope she wasn't scared 🐶😢❤️
It definitely sounds like you made the best decision for your lovely girl and she is now at peace and free from pain. It is never an easy decision to make even when you know it is the right one. Take care
Thank you for this video, it helps. I am watching a lot of these sort of videos as my old dog is declining, as sad as it is it helps to listen to some different vets talk about this end of life quandary. Thanks again.
Thank You, I needed that. I notice my dog wasn't eating much but was very thirsty, then he night before last she suddenly was panting, hiding her face in the corners of the house, legs gave out and could not walk, muscle spasms and trembling in stomach and was listless. When I got her to the Animal Hospital in the morning she started vomiting and almost had a seizure, her blood pressure was low and she had a fever. I have no idea what was wrong with her and it's driving me crazy not knowing what it was because I didn't have tests done, I just euthanized her to put her out of her misery instead of finding out to see if she could be saved. When you mentioned Arthritis which she had, I now know that I made the right decision not bothering with the tests. Still wish I knew what caused all that as it was all so sudden and she was fine earlier in the day other than not having an appetite.
Lost my 16 years old jack Russel this Tuesday she was declining in health struggling to breath and walk... Had her since 6 weeks old so sad atleast she can rest in piece...
I remember that my rabbit died, but it didn't get euthanized. The vets didn't know exactly for whatever reason it died. Also, I heard from my mom that she euthanized her dog long before I was born, that she couldn't handle all that pain.
Thanks for your guidance. I just got back from the clinic and I am sure it was a good, if emotional, decision. Thank God that the doctor on night duty is one I know and I respect his work. He has good bedside manner, too. It is so important that pet owners have guidance like this so they reach a clear conclusion.
Has anyone had a bad experience with euthanasia? My 17 year old cat well I’m making the appointment tomorrow it’s time. The thing that scares me is when he was neutered as kitten they gave me drugs like they did all my other animals when they were spayed or neutered for pain which made them sleep. Well not him I had to put him in a carrier to make sure he didn’t hurt himself. He was running around chewing things like a plastic cat ball he shattered in his mouth he was digging in the cat box like not going just doing like he was out of his mind was a nightmare. He even chewed on the bars of the carrier. I was afraid he’d break his teeth but I mean he was going for electrical wires it was like the drugs made him crazy. Next day I did NOT give him the pain medicine and he slept the entire day peacefully on my chest. So I’m afraid he has some opposite effect to sedation and what if it don’t work and he’s still awake and fights it. Even now he’s been so sick just peeing and pooping himself but since I’ve made the decision he’s crying a lot being hyper he can’t really walk much it’s become too much actually it’s been too much too long I cannot do this anymore but I’m afraid this thing that happened when he was neutered will happen when he’s given the drugs to sleep it’s making this SO incredible harder and it’s making it hard I think he senses I’ve finally made this decision and why he’s acting out so much today but it cannot go on like this I thought I could ride it out maybe he’d pass on his own or he’d be calm knowing it coming to an end instead I feel like he’s begging me not to it’s gonna be traumatizing.
Thank you. My 16 year old black Pomeranian has not been doing very well lately and my parents decided to put her down today. This made me feel much better.
I am thinking about my baby who is only 8 years old. She has had 4 surgeries both hind legs acl and patella. She is always in pain, is a fearful dog and now is faced with huge tumor in her lung which is also causing fever every day. Her eyes are bloodshot red and she is now not eating well. She still wants to walk but can’t still decide. This is hard.
I was advised by my vet it would be best to put my cat to sleep a week ago. He was 18-1/2, had lost a lot of weight, his back snd hi d kegs were all bony. I was told he most likely had diabetes because he was always eating and never putting on weight. He would drink a lot and pee often. He had a hard time walking most days but occasionally would still jump off my bed which made me so scared he would break a leg! I had him since he was 8 weeks old. I picked him out of the litter. He was my best friend and helped me get through y Dad passing away a few years ago. My heart is broken and I feel so guilty. I keep asking myself if I did the right thing. 😭💔 I've never gone through this before and because of covid I had to do it alone. I just miss him and his cuddles so much. He was the sweetest pet Ive ever had.
Just took this decision with my family. Our cat Miley had a good 16 1/2 years Sie was always the first one to come to eat. she stopped eating and drinking. My daughter did not want her to suffer so we went to get an examination and we ended up to have her put to sleep the same day. They explained everything just like this video. We could stay with her in a comfortable room with calming music and give some last minute of our ❤and good bye. It was super sad 😞 but we think so too, it was the best for her. She will always be in our ❤ RIP Miley
My 14 year old male schnauzer has had stomach issues aniexty he was in stage 2 kidney failure he was on medications then he started falling over falling out of bed seizures was told he had k9 dementia he would get up at night and pace the floor and get lost in our room behind things he stopped wanting to eat and drink then he had a bad seizure so I made the decision and took him in August 26 2.00 and set him free I tried to stay calm didn't want him upset he went very peacefully it broke my heart into a million pieces but it was the right thing the vet said he was dehydrated and had chronic kidney failure knowing he isnt in pain or afraid any more brings my heart peace rest in peace my little buddy Jarvis 💙🐾🐾💙
I’m struggling with this with my 12 year old rabbit. He hasn’t been about to move since last Tuesday so I scheduled for him to transition tomorrow. I took him to the park today for one last great day and of course he’s eating now, walking, so now I’m second guessing my decision. He has arthritis and is limping. But man, he had a great day at the park. Got to feel the wind on his face, grass on his feet since he’s an indoor rabbit, met a lot of new people who petted him, got to sniff at flowers, got to see a lake, boats, people on bikes, and so much more. And all night he’s been walking around, limping still, but walking vs being unable to move all week, making me question my decision.
That's a hard subject to hear it's not easy letting go I've always been a sentimental person. I hope my dog Bigfoot cancer goes into remission.. he is really lucky because my vet said he should have passed away over a year ago and he is still going but having some difficulty but I'm trying to work it out and hopefully get through it. Thanks Dr Alex 👍
It's not an easy topic to listen to but an important one none-the-less so that we are all prepared when the time does come. Hopefully it's still some time away
It's such a difficult decision as well as a stressful and upsetting time. Make sure you reach out to those around you if you are struggling. If you have any questions I'll try my best to help
Our Pets Health I’m watching my old boy go down hill from arthritis and bad hips. He’s been laying down and barely gets up. He will get up when we make him go to poop but hesitantly. He is not incontinent He is panting a lot but has been for years. My concern is that although he has had arthritis for a while I think he must have fallen or for hurt more suddenly because he got real worse real fast and I’m not sure why. This is what makes me hesitant to euthanize. I want to make sure I give him time and the benefit of the doubt. It has been 7 days so far and I don’t see any improvement. I have a home vet and she says it’s up to us because w know him better. Like I said I’m torn because of how fast it got worse. Have you seen this happen before?
Sorry to hear your old boy's going through this. I often find that with any chronic disease the body can put up with so much but once a tipping point is reached our senior pets go downhill quickly. 7 days is long enough generally to expect to see some improvement so if no other treatments or investigations that have a realistic chance of making a difference are open to you it sounds like it may well be time.
If your pet is coming to the end of their life for any reason but euthanasia is not yet needed then appropriate palliative care is something to seriously think about and a topic I discuss in detail here: ua-cam.com/video/DeGnBMeYRy8/v-deo.html
I’ve done this twice, it sucks at the moment but it’s a relief at the end of it. Your loved pet is not suffering anymore. Remember you gave your loved pet a happy home for many years.
a lovely message, thanks for sharing
I just had to put my max down less then 4 hrs ago your comment just helped me a bit.
Your comment has helped my wife and I deal with what we just did to our Chloe. Thanks.
Thank you for your message.
Thank you very much for this, as it's helped me a lot. I had my 14 year old dog euthanized last weekend and it was the hardest thing ever, but your video has put my mind at rest. She was suffering, couldn't walk without collapsing and could barely get up without help. She had lost all her vitality and love of life. I was with her, which I am glad about, as she had no anxiety or fear. It was a beautiful, peaceful death actually, but so hard.
It definitely sounds like you made the best decision for her so she could be at peace. Take care
Same experience. My roommate's dog was euthanized last night. He was suffering for a really long time, almost no vitality, flinch in pain at almost any touch, no ability to control his bowels, back legs didn't work, covered in tumors, collapsing most to the time when he tried getting up, falling down stairs, regularly collapsing into and not being able to get out of puddles of water and urine, and every symptom of CCD, plus the owner getting ready to leave him behind at the house for 3-4 weeks. My roommate said once the drugs started to kick in, it was the first time he looked really happy and peaceful in months. It's difficult but also a relief not to see him suffer so much every day.
It sounds like he is in a better place now and at peace. Take care
If you are happy to watch your pet suffer with no chance of improvement despite trying to make them as comfortable as possible then I feel sorry for your pet and personally believe that is the cruel thing to do. And throwing the accusation of murder as replies to comments like this is also cruel. Shame on you
@@OurPetsHealth Thank you Dr.,, my Wife and I have been struggling with this most difficult decision for a week or so. Our little pet is suffering, we feel so badly for her and do not want to lay her to rest but listening to your video and reading other pet lovers comments are helping us as we struggle with this. We have an appointment with her vet tomorrow morning. I feel we must allow her a graceful departure from our lives. We're in our 70's, she's a rescue and has been our friend for the last 10 of her 14 years. We will miss her most likely the rest of our lives but for her, I believe we must. Thank you for your response to the person who does not agree with euthanasia.
I had my dog of 14.5 years down 4 days ago. I have an enormous amount of guilt that I did it to early, I clicked on this video for reassurance that I did was the right decision.
I got Jerry as a puppy 3months old and right after I did I broke both of my legs and became homeless with him, we have been through a lot together and I miss him so much. I know I made the right decision.
I'm so sorry for your loss Paulie
What kind of society let’s you become Homeless after you break your legs? There is something seriously wrong with human beings nowadays, I feel that I belong on another planet. Some years ago I took a homeless girl in with her cats and she stayed eighteen months, got educated and found a good home. She just needed a new start. It wasn’t too difficult and so worthwhile. I hope your are in a lovely home now. If not go to Lewis Howes utube and watch his,interview with Rhonda Byrne, author of The Secret and The Greatest Secret. She has some good ideas that worked for her and many of her readers! Namaste 🙏
I absolutely hate the fact that I had to watch this video, I am heartbroken.
I am on my way now to the Vet to say goodbye 😭
But your video really helped me to know its for the best.
THANK YOU 😭
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Take care of yourself and let yourself grieve while also trying to remember all the good times
I made the decision 2 weeks ago. My dog had most of the symptons described in several videos. I hated saying goodbye. He was an old foster mix. I took him in in 2010. At that time he was about 5 or 6. I had him for almost 10 years. He was never adopted so I formally adopted him in 2016. I miss him now.
Sorry for your loss. :(
I am very sorry ! Lots of love & virtual hugs are being sent to you from me in L.A. I am Japanese. 💜💜💜💜💜🥁🎵🐉🎤🎶💖💕💞😭
@@christianbrother4724 So sorry for your loss .💜💜💜💜🥁🎵🐉🎤🎶💖💕💞And thank you for adopting your dog !👍
I don’t wanna let her go 🥺🥺😫😫😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔
It's never easy even when deep down you know it's the right decision. Do what's in your pets best interest and take care of yourself
I’m feeling the same way. I don’t want to not ever be able to see him again. This hurts so much. 😭
My heart is breaking just to think that day is coming soon. Diagnosed with lymphoma yesterday.
I’m so sorry 😞
I will say in my experience waking up and finding them gone has been so much harder.
I had my 9 yr old doggie put to sleep two days ago and was very difficult. She was a larger breed, highly trained, and my best friend. She slipped a disc and although had a good prognosis she quickly fell into body paralysis, stopped eating, stopped drinking, and would hardly take take water from a syringe. She then started bleeding profusely from her backside, and have hours of body tremors.
Laying next to her one night I knew it was time and she was having such a hard time hanging on.
When we got to the emergency vet I spend a few hours with her and there was a calming feeling, she took a nap for the first time in three days..
During the procedure I held her looked into her eyes and told her I loved her and that it was alright, and I thanked her for everything.
Afterwards when she was picked up blood gushed from her backside, I've only seen this much blood from a battlefield femoral artery injury.
I was told "I'm sorry for your loss" and I said I'm glad I could give my best friend a death that was respectful, clean, and quiet not one based around suffering and my own ego.
Ill miss my baby but maybe when I die the rainbow bridge won't be far off.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You made the impossible decision for her and should take great comfort in letting her ease out of this life. I'm sure she'll be waiting for you on the other side. Take care of yourself
I barely like anyone I shed a tear reading this... my deepest condolences to you and your loss of your beloved best friend 💕🌹
That was an aweful & very traumatic experience ! So sorry for your dog & you had to go through w/ that !!! I do have many traumatic experiences in my life including loss of my dogs & cats in very very hard ways . One was poisoned by my family friend . Many misdiagnoses in my dogs's/ cats's lives . One w/ domino organ failures at the end ,she had a hip disc issue as well. My cat ,my true bestfriend with suffocation w/ his own tail furs which was also misdiagnosed, I once saved him by giving him CPR, so on myself ! The other cat w/ kidney failure from lower urinary tract disease went to an extended bladder ,then a kidney failure ,then a heart attack & died in my arms ! I regret so many . So, I can relate to your experience. You seem like you are in a medical field ,or you had been to a war zone ,so , might be a soldier ? Facing to our beloved animal friends's deaths never get easy ! Lots of love & hugs to you from L.A. 💜💜💜💜🥁🎵🐉🎤🎶💖💕💞
I have to put my golden retriever down. This is the hardest thing I've ever faced. 😥
Yesterday was my last day with my dog and it was so heart wrenching cause of how quick they it was. If felt like I didn't get to say bye in time and see him scared killed me so much. But I really do hope I get to see you again Tanner. I love you so much
Tanner 5/3/22
@Three Aces my dog was still eating too but knowing he was in pain was the reason we made the decision. I'm sure it was right decision. I'm sorry for your Missy
Thank you for this video. I’ve been struggling with my decision to call the vet to set a time to go in to let my baby go. I keep doubting myself and thinking that it’s too early and he still has time but this video really helped. The part where you say a week too early is better than a day too late really helped my heart. Thank you thank you thank you for this video.
I'm happy I could help a little at this difficult time. Take care
I’m destroyed. I’ve never loved another being so much in my life and I’m watching him fade away right in from me. My heart can’t take it…
@@AJ.Rafael I have had to do this before and now a second time. 💔😭
As I read your comment I sure hope you're doing better today or maybe found another little heart to love.
Thank you for this video. I really loved your three things to remember. You have helped me and I know I’m doing the right thing….. However, I still can’t stop crying.
Doing the right thing doesn't always make it easier I'm afraid, but it will allow to look back and remember all the good memories knowing you made the best decision possible. I'm sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry if you’re at this point with you pet. It’s tough to grieve,but be easy on yourself and carry their light through the world as they watch over you ❤️
I am currently facing this decision, thank you so much for your kindness and consideration
Are dear sweet golden Toby (15) had a good last day, collapsed, was not really lucid and we took her in. I don't think after she collapsed that she recognized us, but we spoke loving words into her ear until she passed gently. We always hoped she'd "let us know", and she did. Healing from this loss is going to take a long time. So much love given and received.
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A week too early than a day too late, that's a perfect statement thank you makes me feel better about my decision I made.
Hmmpf! Not when it's it you, lady. It might have been a good week. Let the dog and God decide not some human playing God.
@@scoobydadog246 as if I need to explain to someone my circumstances but here we are listen lady, my pup was not having the quality of life she deserved, she fell down a flight of stairs and almost injured herself bad, not to mention prior instances. So before you go attacking someone for their decision think about the struggle. Shame on you for even bringing this up as if it didn't hurt bad enough. This world has become so hateful 😔 I mean read these stories its heartbreaking 💔
@@NAMASTEONELOVE I'm no lady, I'm a dude.. and when people get old, what you call "quality of life changes".. You are in public group chat. The point is there are other options Life changes as humans and dogs age. Now it is not the same for you when you are 80, as when you are 20 . I haven't euthanized any relatives who have a history of falling, stairs or not. Why now get a baby gate to block off the stairs. We can make adjustments for our senior dogs. You don't have to be hateful if you don't want to be! The vet industry for a long time only knew about killing older and chronically ill dogs. I'm sorry if you feel guilty, but don't blame me for simply pointing out to others who are reading that there are other options.
And who are you do determine what is an acceptable quality of life. I haven't been able to do a full flight of stairs for years now. I've got a great life!
@@scoobydadog246 first of all dude..how are you even going to act like you knew what I did to prevent this from happening unbelievable, she had a gate and knocked it down, but why im explaining this to you i have no idea, so tired of nebby people like you get a life and let others do what they want stay out of mine.
Don't try and deflect shit on to me quit responding to my comments.
Who do you think you are telling someone about their own pet have some respect! not only was this post a year old but she also still grieves her beloved dog.
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear all of this. My dog is 13 and a half, she has reached her end stages of life. I’m crushed, but I know now it is my last act of kindness to give to her.
I'm sorry for your loss
This video has helped me come to terms with the recent euthanasia of one of our cats. Thank you.
Sorry for your loss
I had to make this horrible decision about a month ago. My cat who was my constant companion for the past 12 years just started losing weight rapidly and then he'd go through phases where he'd stop eating all together and then start getting better and spring back I tried all types of different foods and he responded well and put some weight back on and he had a bout with fleas and we got rid of the fleas and he was finally starting to look better but the last 6 months or so he started declining again and I couldn't get him to eat and I took him to the vet and he told me that I had to either treat him with all these expensive treatments or put him to sleep... I thought about his future and his wellbeing..... I thought about how hard it would be on him and they were not even 100% certain that's what it was and I just wanted him to die with dignity and not end up coming home from work and seeing him dead... Even after all the treatments. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make by myself. I had nobody there to tell me what to do. I just had to give him the act of kindness and relieve him of the suffering that he was starting to go through. I felt like an executioner and I felt guilty and horrible but I was put in an impossible position and I miss him so much. I cry for him even a month later... but I know in my heart I did the right thing... If I held on it would only be for MY sake and he wouldn't be happy nor would he be the same. I gave him the chance to leave this world with comfort abnd love........ The last thing that he heard was me whispering in his ear how much I loved him and how uch I was going to miss him. I don't think I'll ever get another cat ever again....... I can't go through this again. I've lost other cats before but this time was so different.. So I completely understand what you're going through. It's hard but you have to look at the good times you spent with them and not let the last moment be the sum total of the cat's life. I remember all the fun and good times rather than the end... I know it's hard.... but God gave me comfort in knowing I did the right thing...
@@bobbyewing311 thank you for writing that i lost my cat yesterday and our stories are very similar... thank you.
My puppy was put down today...
It's was hard, but this video helped me with the terrible experience.
It was an act of kindness and compassion... Thanks for the guidance.
I'm really sorry for your loss
Had to do this yesterday to Dexter, my 12yr old Pointer. Mentally he was fine, but his back legs were just collapsing underneath him. He could get about, but only just. His front end was fine, but it was like his back end was a staggering drunk. It was obvious he had to go, but the fact that he was mentally sound made the decision just that little bit harder. I rang the vets on the Tuesday and booked him in for the Thursday. I cried after I'd booked him in, but knew it was the kindest thing I could do for him. Wednesday night was awful, as I knew what was coming the next morning. I spent the night on the sofa with him that night and cooked him a big steak for his last tea. The morning came and I felt physically sick. Took him to the vets and fortunately the vet let me come in with him (corvid restrictions were being slackened, but still in place). The catheter was already in his front leg when I was allowed in, and the vet had put an extension onto the tube so that he could distance himself from me. I sat Dexter down in front of me and sat on the floor with him, cuddling him the whole time. The vet let me know that he'd started with the process, and within seconds I could feel Dexters' head starting to go heavy on my arm so I laid him down in front of me, stroking him and talking to him the whole time. I put my hand on his chest and could feel that his heartbeat had stopped (obviously the vet did his own checks). The vet then said I could spend as long as I wanted to say my goodbyes, so I gave him a final stroke and a kiss on the head and stroked his eyes shut. Yes, it was a horrible experience, but it was also a relief both for Dexter and for me. He doesn't have to drag himself round any more, and I don't have to feel sorry for what was once such a proud and athletic dog having to struggle to stand up. The process was over in a matter of seconds, and very peaceful. It's the day after now, and whilst I'm still sad while I write this, I know that Dexter will have thanked me for helping him on his way.
A small part of me went away with Dexter yesterday, but an even bigger part of him will be staying with me. Thanks for the good times Dexter. Gonna miss you.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your loss but you certainly did the best for your Dexter. Take care
I just balled reading this. I am sorry for your loss
@@Rae-lh7ex Thanks. It's an awful thing to go through, but I just wanted to reassure other people out there having to make this awful decision is more than likely the best for both parties and how quick and painless (physically) the procedure is.
May God always bless you both. I’m doing this in a few days and I’m sick over it daily
I took our 14 year little staffy Ellie yesterday and it was one of the most heart breaking things to have to do. She had almost lost all hearing, eyes were becoming milky, constantly shaking, hadn’t eaten for two days and night before she had a terrible fit and vomited, it was time. Her quality of life wasn’t there anymore and she wasn’t enjoying anything day to day. She had a brilliant life with long walks, played with other dogs and loved absolutely everyone. I’m in pain today but what gives me comfort is knowing I was able to stop the suffering and be there with her as she went
Just lost my 19yr old jack Russell girl,it's the most devastating thing ever.we were hoping she made xmas then we hoped for new year which she just managed but she was very tired and quiet,went off her food and never got out of bed when my son walked in the room as she would normally mug him for sausages she couldn't even do this in the end and slept a lot. On the 3rd of Jan she lay and spent the whole day just staring at me not closing her eyes once.i knew what needed to be done but still prayed for more time but that look was like she was trying to get into my head to say now is the time.i think she new and needed me to know more. Her breathing started to go funny within an hour and rushed her to vet and sent her to rainbow Bridge calmly. I've sent her away to be cremated and I'm now waiting for her coming home. My heart is so broken right now I feel losing a pet is harder to understand than a person I don't know why but it does.
Goodnight and godbless my baby girl hollie- bouch we will love you for eternity 💗 😭xxx
Thank you for posting this, I had to make the decision today to put my dog of 15 years to sleep. She was one of the sweetest, most loving friends you could have. I found your video and while it was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make, your "three simple statements" @ 06:54 helped me keep some perspective. The vet was very supportive, but seemed more interested in giving her drugs to "make her comfortable" to prolong the inevitable with the only potential solution having more side effects, risks and potential pain then I was willing to put her through.
I urge you to please stay with them until the end, you'll be able to comfort them so they don't feel scared or unsure of what's happening. The most important thing is how they feel leading up to that moment. They've been with you through so many things, it's the least you can do, no matter how you feel.
If it's available in your area, I highly recommend you find a vet that will perform the service in you and your pets home. In my case, she was on her favorite chair laying under her favorite blanket when she went. I know she felt right at home as she was sleeping on her own right up until it was time. Its hard enough, I can't imagine having to go through this at a vets office.
Thank you for your advice. My dog is at his last months but not suffering yet, still happy. But he has an ulcer and is 14 years. He's always so anxious at the vet's office. I hadn't even thought about this so I will discuss it with her to do it at his most safe place at home on the couch lying next to me🙏💗
Thank you so much for this. My little Jess Fox terrier has had a lump and stones removed from her bladder in February. Turns out the lump was Cancer and will return, probably around 6 months. I need to be strong and think only of her going forward.. she is loving life right now but I know that as soon as I see her struggling to pee.. that is the time I need to do what's right. As you so rightly say.. a week too early is better than a day too late.
This video was very informative. Thanks for your sensitivity in explaining the process of making the difficult decision to say goodbye to our pet. My family is doing so tomorrow. After taking him to the vet yesterday, we already felt that it was time and she confirmed it for us. Can't say that I am looking forward to tomorrow but I know it is in our pet's best interest at this point and stage of his life. He lived a great life and brought tremendous joy to our family for the past 17 years. We will definitely miss him but NEVER forget him! Farewell, old friend! Luv always! 😭
I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you'll be able to remember all the good times you shared over those 17 years
@@OurPetsHealth Thanks! My pooch actually passed a few hours before he was scheduled to be euthanized. He passed comfortably on our couch in a blanket around family. Doesn't make it any easier witnessing him take his last breath but we knew it was time. We'll miss that fella for sure. We already do! 😥😢😭
Thank you for helping me with making such a difficult decision. My dog (Siberian husky) is 12yo, and he has a late stage of nasal cancer. I scheduled in-home euthanasia to end his suffering. I still have no idea how I'll be able to cope with this loss but I find it a bit comforting to know that I'm going to be there for him until the very end, and that he'll know he's not alone.
I'm sorry you are both going through such a difficult time
thank you so much for this.I had to say goodbye to my boy this morning. he was diagnosed with kidney failure the beginning of this year. we got him stabilised for a few months(with pate food and metacam) but he had a siezure last night,and we had to make the call.
we'd made the decision that his time was up last night and i was going to take him to the vet for the last rites at lunchtime.
I checked on him before I went to work this morning and managed to get a couple of drops of metacam into him.By the time I came back from work to do his last mile he had passed on...a bit stiff in the legs but still warm..maybe gone for an hour.
it's such a horrible situation to be in,but I hope he was as comfortable as we could make him for those last minutes.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you were doing everything you could
Tomorrow, my darling Flat-Coated Retriever, Julie, is crossing over to heaven. She has been my dear companion for 15 years. I knew this day was coming for weeks now. And she is now completely immobile, incontinent and the pain med is not effective. I've given her so many treats today, and she's laying near the wood-stove. All the memories are coming back. I do not know how I am going to bear this. This video helped me to know that I am doing the right thing. I am going to miss her so much..
I'm so sorry for your loss
It's always heartbreaking, but I had 15 wonderful years with my Tilley❤
Thank you. We had just made the decision to let go of our Bailey ( 16 ) girl but I’ve been struggling with feeling guilty. She has a collapsed trachea that she’s been struggling with for the past three years and it’s gotten worse. So we made the decision today to let her go. Your video just affirmed what everyone’s been telling us that it’s better to let her go before she reaches a point where she’s suffering more than she already is. Again thank you for this timely video.
I'm very sorry for your loss
I totally agree with this video, just remember in nature animals have their lives cut short quickly and violently, you, the pet owner making such a hard decision is already a much better thing to do even though it doesn’t feel like it.
Well, your pet is not out in nature, and modern medicine has lots of end of life medications available to manage symptoms. Humans have been using them forever, they are cheap and easy. I think you humans are doing this because it's easier for YOU and talking yourself into thinking it's such a good thing.
Just got back from having our 13year old golden retriever put to sleep. He had arthritis in his hips and rear legs. We have helped him for several weeks getting up but the last few days he lost his ability to stand and do body functions. He was still sharp as a tack otherwise. Really a rough decision to put your best friend and companion down after all them wonderful years with him. Rest In Peace BUCK, we will always love you and we already miss you. Thanks for all the wonderful times.
We had to do the same for our 13 1/2 year-old dog last Friday. So sorry for your loss.
@@davidcooper1680 =Thank you David. We are sorry you lost yours as well. They are hard to lose.
Thank you so much for this video. I had to put my sweet kitty down Sunday. Even though I know he was in a bad place, thankfully for a couple short days, I believe, I'm still having difficulties coming to terms with it. Several of the things you've mentioned here are the very reasons I went through with it, but I was still questioning myself. You've helped put me come to a somewhat more peaceful place. Thank you.
Sorry you've had to go through this. I'm pleased to have been able to help in a small way. It's a challenging time so be kind to yourself and don't expect to be back to "normal" straight away
@@OurPetsHealth thank you.
Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.Thank you for this video. I've had my dog since 2.5yrs old her name is rollie she is now 16.5yrs old we watched each other grow up and I've realized a number of things that she's struggling with. She is still a happy dog but has struggles that are getting worse. When you said a week too early is better then a day too late it made sense. I Will be there with her till the end no matter how difficult it is.
Thank you so much! This video has helped a great deal. We had to euthanize our beloved 13 year old German Shepherd on the 8th of June. It was a sad and horrible decision to make but he was indeed suffering due to arthritis in both hips. We had him since he was 6 weeks old. He will be missed for the rest of our lives.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourselves as you grieve
First off that was a very compassionate and helpful video that really clarified so much, thank you! Secondly any heartless pathetic human being who would give him a thumbs down should be ashamed and disgusted at themselves-though I’m sure if this is their behavior others are probably disgusted with them anyway!! Thank you again and you can see you really care about the information you speak about. This video was very helpful in a most difficult time. I am having a home euthanasia for my 13.5 year old dog who’s has the strongest will and the biggest heart. She was born with a rare generic disease “NCL” with the onset at 3 years old. It’s not a painful disease but one that is degenerative and I have given her the best life I think I could possibly give her. Made every adaptation to my home, and always made her life enjoyable including her favorite past time swimming. As I watched her condition get worse, she was always a happy and strong willed dog enjoyed life and her family. She never realized from what I can see that she was different from other dogs. She would attempt to do everything and would succeed to her fullest. It has been a rough road, but always made sure she wasn’t suffering and was happy. Until recently her quality of life has gotten worse and made the hardest decision going back and forth “she still loves to eat delicious home cooked meals, still loves her treats, still snores peacefully, still happy to see her family daily” until the last week, everything drastically got worse and my instinct kicked in...”but will this bad patch pass??” So many uncertainties but realized I was being selfish because I don’t want to let go and now it was time to do what’s best for her! So as these last days/hours I have left I spend every moment telling her she was one of a kind, the greatest Best-friend most loving dog and I thank her for giving me the opportunity to be a part of her life. I will love you forever Stella, enjoy peace and the fun times you have been missing..swim all day, sun yourself and remember you were loved beyond what you could even imagine....
What a lovely tribute to Stella. I'm sorry you are going through this and hope you can continue to remember all the good times you shared together
Thank you for this video.. two months of pain, fear, anger... many bad feelings for him...zero quality of life. When you see your loving friend suffering like is heartbreaking...it happend today and I m soo sad...
I’m sorry for your loss
Well I just put my rescue down. He was old. I rescued him three years ago and spoiled him rotten every day I knew this day would come and told him first day. I will not allow you to suffer. And I kept my word. This video assures me I did the right thing. God I miss him. Thanks !
It sounds like his last 3 years were really special
Thank you so much for this video. I had to make the most heart breaking decision today to euthanize my dachshund Apollo😭 he was paralyzed from the back legs down. He soiled himself and couldn't walk. I was blessed with 8 wonderful years with Apollo💔 my heart hurts so much and I can't stop crying, but seeing him not happy and healthy broke me. Thank you so very much for this video Dr, I truly needed to hear it.
I'm so sorry for your loss
@@OurPetsHealth thank you🐾
Thk you ... brilliant understanding
Thank you for posting this video. You’ve helped me make a decision. My little darling Tonkinese cat is 14 years almost 15 years old and is dying from kidney failure. I am worried he is suffering silently even though he eats and drinks and wees. He sleeps a lot. I’ll be calling my vet today. He deserves a peaceful end.
Thank you. You have helped me with my decision.
Thank you as your video has helped many and I had to release my dog today because of an extreme health issue, and this video helped me reassure me that I did the best thing for him. Thanks
I'm pleased I could help a little at such a difficult time. Take care of yourself
My heart is breaking even though I know it's the best thing for him. He has no use of one of his hind legs hip dysplasia and severe arthritis in his spine. He's only 10 yrs old. Still wants to play but can't, this decision is soul destroying.
I'm sorry for your loss
Same with mine had to put him down to day
Thank you for this video. A month ago I had to put to sleep my beloved companion Tzoker. Despite my deep sorrow, I would like to help other dog/cat/any pet owners in taking this difficult decision. My dog had lymphoma, he was old and having arthritis. Our last days together were very difficult but manageable. One day before he had a head stroke and a heart attack. I couldn’t believe that I would be counting the hours to put him out of his misery. He lost his sight, he couldn’t walk and eat and he was having seizures… I was also in deep pain seeing him like that. The decision was very clear to me after having done literally anything I could to provide him a perfect life. Just let me add one more point to this video. Despite the pain, be by the side of your friend until his/her last breath. It’s the greatest and ultimate act of love and respect to your loyal friend who shared a life with you and brought you happiness and unconditional true love. Never let them go alone and believe me, despite your grief you will have peace at heart ❤️
I hear back from the vets tomorrow from the blood result.
I am shitting myself and havnt stopped crying since I got back.
I'm sorry for anyone that is going through this pain of losing something or someone they love my thoughts are with u all x
Good luck, I hope the results are better than you expect. Take care of yourself too
@@OurPetsHealth thank you x
Thank you so much for making this video. I had to put my dog down 2 years ago. He was 16 years old and he was my baby and still is. I still think about him all the time and I always felt bad about making that decision. He was in pain and he had something that couldn't be cured. I know it was something that I had to do but I always got upset with myself for doing it. After watching your video I know I made the right decision. I still feel upset about it but not as much as I did before. Thank you.
I'm sorry you are still struggling with the decision you made, but it is because of this that I have no doubt it was the right one and a decision made in love. Take care
Thank you very much for making this video. You did a VERY good job of communicating some very big and difficult questions. And you did so, with a Grace and Kindness that, I really connected with. It honestly felt like you were holding my hand and guiding me through making sense of the entire experience I just went through. And there was something very comforting about that. Don't get me wrong, I was literally sobbing through this entire video. But you brought me some comfort, understanding and perspective when I needed it. So thank you very much for that. It's only been a week since putting my Baby Boy, Snowy to sleep. He was an 8-year-old German Shepherd, and from the moment he and I met, we both knew, that this, was something special. But he developed Degenerative Myelopathy (among other chronic lifelong problems he had) and a lot of what you said made so much sense when I heard it, especially for this disease. It's much easier (though still VERY Difficult) to make the decision if your pet is visibly suffering and in pain. But DM is insidious in its painlessness. And it made making the decision....so much more difficult. And when you said the part about the Guilt. My God, the Guilt. It's unbearable and it's crushing. And using their appetite as the only judge of whether your pet is okay or not? That was so important to hear! Because Snowy would always get so excited for food! And seeing the excitement in his eyes made me second guess myself countless times and just added/adds to the guilt. But as you said, we HAVE to look at other things, and I knew that the decision I had to make, was the right one. By far the hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life btw. Lastly, your 3 personal beliefs you shared, REALLY helped too. "There is clearly something significant going on that is making you seriously think about Euthanasia", and "Euthanasia may be the last final act of kindness you can show a sick pet by ending their suffering". I often forget this when the waves of Grief and Guilt hit. Especially the Guilt. But after the tears and sobs I just shed, I feel better. So thank you for giving me that. I feel like now I'll be able to find my way back up to the surface when those waves hit again. Thank you for the comfort, understanding and perspective you just blessed me with. I wish I found you sooner! I'm finally, truly, starting to think like I might be okay again, one day. Keep up the GREAT WORK!
I’m pleased I could help in a small way. Snowy sounds like he truly was a special soul. Take care of yourself, and I’m so sorry you had to go through this loss
@@OurPetsHealth , thank you so much Dr. Alex! 🙏🏼
Thank you very much for this video!
I had to come to this decision today for my beloved Basset Hound; he was 13. He had an oral tumour that ulcerated which started bleeding…I saw a real difference in him the last couple days and finally called the vet. I could of went in that day but I delayed it a day so I could be with him and have him a nice warm meal and bath. After watching this video I feel like I did the right thing; however much it hurts my heart. I will miss you forever Frank.
I'mreally sorry for your loss 💔
Very helpful. I've listened to it numerous times. My dog had a good death. A few problems finding the vein, but he had "old man veins." He went to sleep, was snoring, then the vet administered the OD. 13 years he loved me and I loved him.
Sorry for your loss. You're right, what better way to go though than simply falling asleep. If we love them, letting them go like this when it's their time is a great kindness, however difficult it is for us. Take care
I'm due to put my dog down in 3 days. I've really been struggling with this. After watching this, there is no doubt that it's best for him. Watching him struggle every day has just become unbearable. Thank you so much for sharing this YT.
I'm sorry you and your dog are going through this, it really is a difficult time but you at least now know it is the kindest decision for you to make. Take care
I am needed some strength, my dog I have had 11 yrs and I swear it doesn’t seem that long.
I have a son that passed away in 2013 and he is the one who gave her to me as a gift.. I love her as if she was my other child. Everyday for 11 yrs she made me smile! Her face has one tooth that sticks out. Some say she is so cute, so ugly or strange looking she is cute, her bottom jaw comes out a little bit more than the top does. My son said I knew you’d love her because others wouldn’t.. I said thanks what are u saying he said u just have that kind of heart and u fix those that seem broken. And I heard a song clay walker samg called she loves the broken ones and I hear it and it reminds me of how my son saw me and it is a compliment that he saw me this way. Well u see how hard this is going to be. She is a beautiful little dog had a soul of an Angel. And she has lymphoma and I can’t help her. All lymph’s are so big already. I took her to vet years ago spent 1200 to find out she had polycystic arthritis causing her to walk in pain so medication helped and she got better then she started having itching that wouldn’t go away. I now am told this and I can’t afford chemotherapy if it is just going to cause her to be more sick. I love her and she is a tie to my beautiful son. God help me to do this
I'm so sorry you are in such a heartbreaking situation
Aww I wish I could hug you !! You sound like an amazing mother I wish my mom cared this much !! 🥺🥺 … I know you’re son is watching over you !!
I've had to deal with this TOO many times!!!! I love my babies but I'm so sick of this part!!!! As many animals as i"ve had, I've never had to NOT put one down!!! I'm glad I was there for them however!!! I would NEVER leave them alone!!! btw,,,,this guy is great!!!
I am losing my 14 year old dog today, she has stopped eating and can barely walk, she drinks water but we don't want her suffering without food. Thank you for the video.
I’m very sorry for your loss
My dog is being euthanized this Monday and I can’t stand it I don’t wanna lose my dog he isn’t a dog to me tho he is family I have never euthanized any of my pets before so I’m not prepared for this he will be put down while I’m at school and I am in a bad depression right now because of this but you have helped me and my mom cope with this better thank you
I’m so sorry for your loss
I’m taking the sweetest boy ever for his last car ride today. It’s breaking my heart....but he has lived a long and happy life
I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you can remember the good times
@@OurPetsHealth Thank you. It was peaceful and sweet. He is chasing balls again and I have a lifetime of memories
I’ve only had my whippet for less than a year (she turned one last month), and I am already contemplating how will I say good bye to this little angel, when that day comes (and I pray that the day gets delayed forever). I cried through this vid and agree with what you said about showing them the last act of kindness. I want my baby to leave knowing she is deeply loved, that there will be no more suffering, and that she can depart with peace and dignity. Thank you for providing the insights and tips about this whole process. You are appreciated.
I hope you're spared going through this for a long time yet!
are you serious ? you are worried now. How can you enjoy the dog with this mindset.
Rodney Dechiara because it isn’t the only thing on my mind. I simply had to think this through. It’s not about just me enjoying her, but how can I give her the quality of life throughout each stage including the last.
Been struggling with this decision as well, my 13 year old Weimaraner has been my best friend. Making it even more difficult is my wife passed away just over 3 years ago....😢😢
One week early or a day late 🤔
I don't want to let him go....
Thank you.
It's been 3 weeks since I had to put my baby bear to sleep. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make in my life he was 16 and he was much more than a pet to me. I swear he knew what I was thinking. I miss him so much. I feel guilty for having to put him to sleep but I knew it was the right thing to do I cry everyday.
I'm so sorry for your loss
RIP Axke. 2007 to 2021. You were " once in a lifetime" I'll always 💘 u. Goodbye good boy. 😢
I'm preparing to let my 13.5 year old golden go this month. I think she held on as long as she can and we've treated her well. I'm hoping not to have any regrets as I feel right now that I'm doing the right thing for her. It's August now and there's no way she'll ever make it through another winter. I'm going through the anticipatory grief now and will be both devastated and relieved to lose one of my very best friends in the world. She brought me though some of the most difficult times in my life between the ages of 47 and now over 60. What a journey we have had together. I will always love her.😥
This is so difficult.
Today is the hardest day of my life. I love you forever Zack and we will be together in our hearts and soul.
I’ve been watching several videos and this is one of the best videos I’ve viewed so far to help me cope with my loss. I made the difficult decision to let my Zack go two weeks ago. He was eating and drinking but wasn’t the same. He had brain cancer and rapidly declined.
I'm glad I could help just a little during such a difficult time
Please help me!!!! My dog has a brain tumor and we are putting her down in two days and I am not sure to do it or not, my dos is 18 years old and also eating and drinking water! What makes you decide to let your baby go?? Please I need some light
@@angiesubiaolivo1972 My Zack was 14yrs and he declined really fast. In a matter of two weeks. It started with a tumor in his mouth then it effected his eye. He went blind and then he started having multiple seizures. My vet told me his blood results turned out elevated white blood count and anemia. My boy wasn’t the same. It was the hardest thing I had to do. I miss him so much. I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s so hard.
@@bernadettec8456 thank you very very much for sharing your experience with me, I can’t stop crying, I was in total denial until yesterday! I’m so sorry for your loss too :(
@@angiesubiaolivo1972 You’re welcome. Your pet has had much love and well taken care of to be an amazing 18yrs.
thanks for making this video, I had to put my sweet boy down about a month and a half ago, he was 15.5 years old.. even though he was terminally ill, and his symptoms were getting increasingly worse, it's so hard to emotionally accept that it was the right thing to do, the existential pain is so difficult even though logically I know, he was not going to get better. He died in my arms wrapped in a blanket while I rocked him in the hammock while I had an at home service vet do the procedure, even though it was the most perfect circumstance possible it still never feels like I did enough.
Think about it this way:
I’d say to them ‘you’re just going for a sleep,’ when it’s time or I would have an amazing last few hours with your pet. Try not to be upset, your dog or cat might notice you are bothered and be slightly scared that something will happen or has happened. Try to stay calm and happy. Most vets say it is a very good idea to ‘stay by your pet’s side while they are being put to sleep,’ this is true and it really helps your pet feel comfortable and less stressed and frightened of the situation they are in
Agreed, I heard that crying can make it feel to your pet as if you’re upset. Remember, it’s about your pet in those last moments and it needs to feel comfortable. Cry afterwards if possible.
my kiddo has been sick since January. she’s lost over 5 lbs and she’s very small. she doesn’t eat well even though she’s on three medications, she can barely walk, isn’t able to get on my bed anymore, and can’t hold her pee or poo well. she’s suffering and I think I may have to have her put down Sunday. I’m sobbing thinking about holding her little body as they push the medication to put her to sleep but I’ll be right there with her the whole time. she’s given me 10 years of happiness and comfort, and deserves the same. I’ll plan on the day of her euthanasia taking her to a park and let her sit in the sun and eat a nice cheeseburger and some ice cream. I just want her to enjoy her last days.
Thank you for this. Mon Sept 20th 2021 I had to make the decision to put my almost 17yr old boy to rest. He had kidney disease, early dementia, severe arthritis, cataracts, has had Prancreatice and Gastrointestinal problems. Could remember to tell me he had to go potty but would come into the house to poop. He was in pain with his arthritis even tho I had him on a pain shot, wobbled to walk and sometimes fell. I struggled to make the decision because he ate very good, he drank alot of water but I know it was because of his kidneys. He started walking around in a circle thru the house, from the kitchen thru the dining room, and living room back thru the kitchen. I couldn't take him for a walk outside but he could do that in the house practically non stop! My struggle was he was eating good, he doesn't have a voice on the choice, we as humans don't even get to end our struggle even if we want too, but we can end theirs in 2 seconds! I'm still feeling guilty at my loss, and decision to end his pain and confusion! My sweet boy was my Trucker dog since he was 11 mos old! Almost made it to 17 yrs. Longest pet I've ever had! I knew one or the other problems he was suffering would get worse before the other and he was suffering each of them in some way. But its hard to deal with the guilt of am I selfish that maybe he doesn't want to go yet? That ending his life is just easier to stop the daily care of his needs? I Love Him. We get to hang on and suffer till God takes us, but we can end an animal with no problem! Thats my minds dilemma! Did I do the right thing? I'm still not sure, but I'm mourning and can't think, but its too late now. All I can say is I'm sorry my boy, I'm sorry Theodore mommy loves you, don't be mad at me. Rest in Peace and run like you did as a puppy. 😢💔✝️🛐😔
I am going through the same and I know exactly how you feel. I had to put my beloved dog down 2 days ago. He was with me for almost 14 years. He's been I'll since He was 8 (DCM, heart problems) but still outlived all his siblings. It was getting worse and worse with his health and I finally made the decision to put him to sleep forever, before something really bad happens and he bleeds internally or something like that. I did a at-home euthanization and I was with him till the very last second. And know I am dying of guilt, shame and grief. Was ist too early? Did we miss something? Could he lived longer? Was it painful for him to get the injection? And all these question eating up my mind and soul... It will get better by time, but right now I am in a very bad place.
@@DasYpsilon I wonder if doing the right thing ever feels right in the mind or heart. My Theodore might have had a few more months, maybe, but I'm not sure sometimes. Animals have no voice to tell us when its time. I think it will take my mind a long time to not feel guilty. I'm just learning to live with it and make peace
I do think that animals live in the moment and they're fine with what happens and just trust us. I do believe that, you and me, made the right decision. It was a love-decision.
@@DasYpsilon yes it was. But still hurts.
I feel like a lot of us who are here aren't ready for the day to come when we have to say goodbye
I think that's only natural, but by thinking of it in advance you can be better prepared when the time comes and unfortunately our pet's lives are so much shorter than our own
Burried my baby yesterday, best 15 years of my life.
I'm really sorry for your loss but hopefully you will be able to remember all of the amazing times you spent together in those 15 years
@@OurPetsHealth it was the first time and i had a hard time dealing with the fact that we can allow our pets to pass peacefully but who wouldnt want that! Hes chasing cinnamonbuns in heaven now ♡ now i got another senior dog so i guess ill have to get used to it
Thank you for giving another senior a happy home in their last years!
@@OurPetsHealth ofc! It only hurts because they give so much love, its worth it :/
Thank you so much for this video. Our golden retriever has been gagging over the last few weeks and then very rapidly lost strength in her back legs. Five days ago we took her to the vet and x-rays revealed she is over come with cancer. She is unable to get up and we have to help her get up to go to the bathroom. My 12 year old daughter is heartbroken and doesn't understand why we need to put her down when she wags her tail so much when we talk to her. We've made the appointment for tomorrow and this will be a great video to watch with her beforehand.
Sorry you and your poor dog are going through this. It is always very upsetting even when you know it's the right decision to make for your dog and you should expect your daughter (and yourselves) to grieve just as for any other family member. Take care
Thanks for your help I love my Springer spaniel Ross 18 years old he is perfectly healthy with an absolute heart of gold but mobility is gone and urinary control is failing I want this dog in my life for ever but I do not want him to suffer this will be a hard weekend of thinking thanks for your comments cheers Declan from Ireland 👍👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I went through this today. Find a vet who will work with you to make the experience as peaceful as possible. I spent several days helping my elderly mom's nearly 16 year old dog dealing with seizures and convincing mom to let go. That said, I would agree with the idea of sending a pet off a day earlier than later. The last two days were really tough as I helped a great little dog deal with seizures and loss of physical control, while convincing my elderly mother to let her go. The clinic was great, with a quiet room, explaining every moment, so I could be with Maggie until the end.
I’m sorry for your families loss but pleased to hear the process was made as easy as possible by your vet. If you could let them know how much you valued their care too I know it would mean a lot to them as it can be a really emotional time for veterinary staff as well as. I hope your mum is getting over her loss too.
I’m facing this decision. My sweet pup is on medication for pain, and while she’s having some good days, I am keenly aware that this may be short lived. I’ve seen her suffer, and I don’t want her to devolve into anything that will cause her pain or discomfort. It’s so hard.
This has been so helpful... It's been a week since we said goodbye to Lucas... our sweet 14 year old Cocker Spaniel. It wasn't an easy decision at all. Lucas loved life and up until the last 2 weeks, seemed happy and still had a good quality of life in spite of being deaf, having two bad hind legs and having a large tumor in his lung. He still love to walk, and play ball albeit much less than in younger years.
Two weeks prior to saying goodbye, he was having significant trouble breathing and was in deep distress. We took him to an all night vet and they recommended putting him down. A chest xray revealed that his airway/lungs were significantly blocked. We asked to see him before making a decision. He was in an oxygen chamber and when he saw us, began pawing for us. He looked like the same old Lucas. Hours later, we took him home. The next 2 weeks were tough and we hung on to him too long. He had a seizure last Tuesday May 21st and that's when we knew it was time but still I had extreme difficulty making the call. I was out of town and flew home to be with Lucas and my wife. Thursday night, he had an attack and couldn't breathe well. We were giving him gabapentin which calmed him down and basically kept him sleeping most of the time. We couldn't keep medicating him and we couldn't stand to see him suffer anymore. Friday, May 24th, Lucas died at home with the assistance of a caring vet.
I've been struggling with my decision and have been haunted by replaying him dying while we held and loved on him. That's what lead me to this video. We're still mourning and experiencing a lot of grief but every day, it gets less painful. Watching this video brings me to two conclusions. 1) We waited too long and caused Lucas a lot of suffering. 2) We did the right thing in the end.
My thoughts go out to all of you who are also dealing with losing a furry family member.
Don't be too hard on yourself. It's an incredibly difficult time and it's easy to look back with the benefit of hindsight. Let yourself grieve and try to remember all of the good times. Take care
Thank you, this video helped greatly. The closer the matter of fact comes the more you reach out for some comfort and reassurance. This video gave that to me.
Thank you.
It's a very difficult time for sure. Take care
I don’t wanna do it but I have to! He has to be in peace even though leaves me grieving😭😭😭😭😭😭
Had to put my dog to sleep last Sunday and on that day a beautiful rainbow came and hopefully he went over that rainbow to say goodbye and now that he's happy he was only 8 years old bless him
Our girl is 14 she has cyst that won’t heal and she’s not sleeping and seems to moan a lot.
But still is very affectionate and sweet.
Most of the time she sleeps and falls.
This is the best advice and information I have found we had to put my girl to rest last week and I have been struggling with if we did the right thing my husband was certain that we did but I just wanted to hold on to her. I can say after watching this that we helped end her suffering . My heart is broken and trying to go forward without her but it is so hard. She was my best friend she was loving ,loyal she relaxed me and I her I will cherish the life we had together .
I'm very sorry for your loss
thank you.... you made me realize that i may have prolonged her pain. but it's still better to do it before she's completely not able to walk or relieve herself completely. thanks for explaining this process in details much appreciated
I still feel rotten for letting go. RIP Charlie. My little beast.
I’m really sorry for your loss
Thank you so much for this. We had our lovely girl put to sleep today and in our hearts we knew it was right, but i was ready to change my mind right up until her heart stopped. And after felt like I'd made the wrong decision because she was walking around and alert. But she had been vomiting regularly, pooing in her sleep and had bad arthritis. Then last Sunday stopped eating and had only taken water through a syringe in her mouth and refused that from yesterday. And she was so sad. 😩 but she'd perk up for visitors and still gave cuddles. But she was 14 and so stiff . After watching this i feel at peace with our decision. But it hurts so much. I miss my Bellbells. I hope she wasn't scared 🐶😢❤️
It definitely sounds like you made the best decision for your lovely girl and she is now at peace and free from pain. It is never an easy decision to make even when you know it is the right one. Take care
Our Pets Health thank you. I hope so. She deserved it. She was a loving and loyal friend. I miss her 😩🐶
My mother had arthritis and she begged for death. We can help our animals.
Thank you for this video, it helps. I am watching a lot of these sort of videos as my old dog is declining, as sad as it is it helps to listen to some different vets talk about this end of life quandary. Thanks again.
Sorry to hear you're going through this
Thank You, I needed that. I notice my dog wasn't eating much but was very thirsty, then he night before last she suddenly was panting, hiding her face in the corners of the house, legs gave out and could not walk, muscle spasms and trembling in stomach and was listless. When I got her to the Animal Hospital in the morning she started vomiting and almost had a seizure, her blood pressure was low and she had a fever. I have no idea what was wrong with her and it's driving me crazy not knowing what it was because I didn't have tests done, I just euthanized her to put her out of her misery instead of finding out to see if she could be saved. When you mentioned Arthritis which she had, I now know that I made the right decision not bothering with the tests. Still wish I knew what caused all that as it was all so sudden and she was fine earlier in the day other than not having an appetite.
Lost my 16 years old jack Russel this Tuesday she was declining in health struggling to breath and walk... Had her since 6 weeks old so sad atleast she can rest in piece...
I’m so sorry for your loss
I remember that my rabbit died, but it didn't get euthanized. The vets didn't know exactly for whatever reason it died. Also, I heard from my mom that she euthanized her dog long before I was born, that she couldn't handle all that pain.
I appreciate your video very much, thank you for posting this
What an outstanding video. It's very thorough and informative, and has given my heart a lot of comfort tonight. I am so grateful for you.
I'm pleased I could help a little at such a difficult time
@@OurPetsHealth wow!!! ty
Thanks for your guidance. I just got back from the clinic and I am sure it was a good, if emotional, decision. Thank God that the doctor on night duty is one I know and I respect his work. He has good bedside manner, too. It is so important that pet owners have guidance like this so they reach a clear conclusion.
I'm sorry for your loss
Has anyone had a bad experience with euthanasia? My 17 year old cat well I’m making the appointment tomorrow it’s time. The thing that scares me is when he was neutered as kitten they gave me drugs like they did all my other animals when they were spayed or neutered for pain which made them sleep. Well not him I had to put him in a carrier to make sure he didn’t hurt himself. He was running around chewing things like a plastic cat ball he shattered in his mouth he was digging in the cat box like not going just doing like he was out of his mind was a nightmare. He even chewed on the bars of the carrier. I was afraid he’d break his teeth but I mean he was going for electrical wires it was like the drugs made him crazy. Next day I did NOT give him the pain medicine and he slept the entire day peacefully on my chest. So I’m afraid he has some opposite effect to sedation and what if it don’t work and he’s still awake and fights it. Even now he’s been so sick just peeing and pooping himself but since I’ve made the decision he’s crying a lot being hyper he can’t really walk much it’s become too much actually it’s been too much too long I cannot do this anymore but I’m afraid this thing that happened when he was neutered will happen when he’s given the drugs to sleep it’s making this SO incredible harder and it’s making it hard I think he senses I’ve finally made this decision and why he’s acting out so much today but it cannot go on like this I thought I could ride it out maybe he’d pass on his own or he’d be calm knowing it coming to an end instead I feel like he’s begging me not to it’s gonna be traumatizing.
Thank you. My 16 year old black Pomeranian has not been doing very well lately and my parents decided to put her down today. This made me feel much better.
I'm sorry for your loss 😢
I am thinking about my baby who is only 8 years old. She has had 4 surgeries both hind legs acl and patella. She is always in pain, is a fearful dog and now is faced with huge tumor in her lung which is also causing fever every day. Her eyes are bloodshot red and she is now not eating well. She still wants to walk but can’t still decide. This is hard.
I was advised by my vet it would be best to put my cat to sleep a week ago. He was 18-1/2, had lost a lot of weight, his back snd hi d kegs were all bony. I was told he most likely had diabetes because he was always eating and never putting on weight. He would drink a lot and pee often. He had a hard time walking most days but occasionally would still jump off my bed which made me so scared he would break a leg! I had him since he was 8 weeks old. I picked him out of the litter. He was my best friend and helped me get through y Dad passing away a few years ago. My heart is broken and I feel so guilty. I keep asking myself if I did the right thing. 😭💔 I've never gone through this before and because of covid I had to do it alone. I just miss him and his cuddles so much. He was the sweetest pet Ive ever had.
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔
Just took this decision with my family.
Our cat Miley had a good 16 1/2 years
Sie was always the first one to come to eat.
she stopped eating and drinking. My daughter did not want her to suffer so we went to get an examination and we ended up to have her put to sleep the same day.
They explained everything just like this video. We could stay with her in a comfortable room with calming music and give some last minute of our ❤and good bye. It was super sad 😞 but we think so too, it was the best for her.
She will always be in our ❤
RIP Miley
I'm very sorry for your loss
My 14 year old male schnauzer has had stomach issues aniexty he was in stage 2 kidney failure he was on medications then he started falling over falling out of bed seizures was told he had k9 dementia he would get up at night and pace the floor and get lost in our room behind things he stopped wanting to eat and drink then he had a bad seizure so I made the decision and took him in August 26 2.00 and set him free I tried to stay calm didn't want him upset he went very peacefully it broke my heart into a million pieces but it was the right thing the vet said he was dehydrated and had chronic kidney failure knowing he isnt in pain or afraid any more brings my heart peace rest in peace my little buddy Jarvis 💙🐾🐾💙
I wish we could be put down at this point. Why do we have to suffer for years.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear all of this.
I’m struggling with this with my 12 year old rabbit. He hasn’t been about to move since last Tuesday so I scheduled for him to transition tomorrow. I took him to the park today for one last great day and of course he’s eating now, walking, so now I’m second guessing my decision. He has arthritis and is limping. But man, he had a great day at the park. Got to feel the wind on his face, grass on his feet since he’s an indoor rabbit, met a lot of new people who petted him, got to sniff at flowers, got to see a lake, boats, people on bikes, and so much more. And all night he’s been walking around, limping still, but walking vs being unable to move all week, making me question my decision.
That's a hard subject to hear it's not easy letting go I've always been a sentimental person. I hope my dog Bigfoot cancer goes into remission.. he is really lucky because my vet said he should have passed away over a year ago and he is still going but having some difficulty but I'm trying to work it out and hopefully get through it. Thanks Dr Alex 👍
It's not an easy topic to listen to but an important one none-the-less so that we are all prepared when the time does come. Hopefully it's still some time away
It's such a difficult decision as well as a stressful and upsetting time. Make sure you reach out to those around you if you are struggling. If you have any questions I'll try my best to help
Our Pets Health thanks for your great content..very helpful
Our Pets Health I’m watching my old boy go down hill from arthritis and bad hips. He’s been laying down and barely gets up. He will get up when we make him go to poop but hesitantly. He is not incontinent He is panting a lot but has been for years. My concern is that although he has had arthritis for a while I think he must have fallen or for hurt more suddenly because he got real worse real fast and I’m not sure why. This is what makes me hesitant to euthanize. I want to make sure I give him time and the benefit of the doubt. It has been 7 days so far and I don’t see any improvement. I have a home vet and she says it’s up to us because w know him better. Like I said I’m torn because of how fast it got worse. Have you seen this happen before?
Sorry to hear your old boy's going through this. I often find that with any chronic disease the body can put up with so much but once a tipping point is reached our senior pets go downhill quickly. 7 days is long enough generally to expect to see some improvement so if no other treatments or investigations that have a realistic chance of making a difference are open to you it sounds like it may well be time.
It's so overwhelming I'm not sure what to do mu 6 yo lulu has acute kidney failure my heart aches
Grief is love that has nowhere to go.😢