Getting rid of everything I own brought up many surprising emotions for me. check out my other channel for meditations www.youtube.com/@MeditationwithConnie
Connie I can relate to the emotional wave of parting with the treasures from the past ..I have moved 44 times in my life abd as you said you think it prepares you to manage the next change .. I feel as we get older our emotions run deeper and make these new decisions bigger ..
I understand you so well. I have done the same. My memories are in my heart and what I need I can fit in a small car. I gave my children the memories they wanted to have an kept the rest of the memorabilia in just one suitcase. Sold my property and rearranged my living situation, buyed a new home that fits my new living situation. So happy that I rearranged everything. A burden is lifted from my shoulders. Ready for the next steps. As the german author Hermann Hesse says in his Poem “Steps”: A magic dwells in each beginning, protecting us, telling us how to live. All the best in your journey!
Three years ago in my early fifties I packed what belongings I wanted into the car and left. I got the British Heart Foundation in to take away all my furniture, tv's, kitchen appliances, decor and everything else for donation. It has been the most free I have felt in years and I have no desire to replace any of it. I still have never missed the television, its a wonderful feeling.
There are so many ways to be minimalist. Each to their own when it comes to minimizing memorabilia. The smell, feel, taste, sound and sight of "stuff" helps us remember the details that are biologically imprinted - sensory data elicits memories. It's part of being human, especially to want to be reminded of the good we've experienced. Yes, it's liberating to get rid of the clutter that weighs us down, but you don't need to inflict trauma on yourself to be free and happy. Again, each to their own!
Well said!!!! As I am getting older and have grandkids, I forget some of the things that were important to me or used when my own kids were little. I love looking in the bin and pulling out a cloth diaper and diaper pin and holding them and thinking back to what lovely moments I had as a mom to my kids. Memories begin to fade as we get older. It's a reminder of what was.
I was just going to say this: as we get older, memories do begin to erode, to evaporate. It is good to have something to retrieve what is getting hazy, to hold on to something that works like a password into a box of personal history.
I'm getting a divorce. Moving out of state. Considering selling everything and recreating my life.....actually...finding out who I am. I love your story.
What about siblings that steal everything from our parents and even their house? Nothing of value or anything left for me. Even all my parent's pictures were taken by the other 2 siblings.
I see she wrapped up things in a baby blanket and shipped them off to Europe. I assume she gave them to her daughter. And hopefully her daughter was in a place to accept them. When my mother was disassembling her house and moving The family to Florida, she was trying to foist off much of her stuff on me, and I was just moving to Boston. I think I was trying to get rid of things too, which is unusual for me. And I definitely did not need her gold colored bathmat. If I had been older and setting up a home of my own, I would probably have appreciated all the stuff she tried to shove at me, But at the time I was 22 and moving in with an established roommate who when I offered towels yelled at me that "the bathroom is yellow!" It would probably be five or six more years before I started to set up a home of my own. I still did end up with various household items. But I really didn't need that bathmat... And nowadays we can put our photos and our music on our computers and not lug around our photo albums and our collection of LPs and 45s (Although it takes time to scan and yes I still have those things) These days I am re-collecting some of the things from my childhood, from eBay. And trying to put the other important things all in one place. Of course if the house burns down it won't make any difference and it will all be gone. In the meantime I seem to have recollected my brother and all of his garbage. Wonderful.... (Honestly it's only the stuff I'm complaining about. I'm thrilled to have my brother. There are very few people on this earth who are that much like me. Other than my mother and of course she's been dead for quite a while now, sadly. I missed her all those years when we were so far apart. My family in Florida and me in Boston. I had three and a half years of having her back and then she was gone. So yes, this way is probably better.)
I sold it all.... moved to Ecuador with one large suitcase and a full backpack. that's it. best move i've ever made. LOVE ECUADOR!! the pace of life is slow and the people friendly
Thank you so much for your honesty. I got very emotiional watching because as a very troubled teenager with Complex PTSD i left my mother's poessions behind. I didnt think about this for years but as Ive got older I have felt heartbroken at the thought of leaving them behind. I felt like Id betrayed my mother. She died when I was a child. I have now realised that I dont need those posessions as I am the most important legacy of my mother. Her blood runs through my veins and I am a part of her.
My daughter always keeps my gifts and even those toys from eggs (has anxiety over throwing it). My biggest wish is for her to get well, not to worry about things anymore. Your mother surely would want you to be happy. A mother is the happiest when her child is happy. Don't worry about things. All the best! 😘
Lizzie, you have found peace in understanding your mother is part of you .. or as you said you are accepting what is... mat I send you my love as support ❤️
I’m 68 and had my back surgeries. I have been getting rid of most of my things so if I leave this world ,I won’t make it hard for my husband. Am enjoying it ,and it makes it so much easier to clean.
This is the most honest videos I have seen on the emotions of minimalism. I could feel your pain as you talked about giving away your most cherished belongings. Something very exciting must be coming on the next page.
I know how to organize the physical process of "getting rid of things." I know how to sell, donate, and recycle. Seeing the emotional component bared is immensely valuable to me. As an immigrant from behind the former Iron Curtain, I struggle against the excesses of having it all. We came here with with two suitcases between the four of us, and America has taught us that life is one giant shopping spree. I don't need to continue in this vein. As I grow older, I see there is no need to have all these things, the *stuff.* I am looking forward to see what's ahead in your future as I learn from your process of how to let go!
People are very naiv.... Believe all what is said in thé vidéos people make Money with..... This Lady lived in another Home Not Longtime ago.....minimalist... !!!! the fourniture, staff you See in thé Corner IS Not hers....
Decluttering, downsizing, and simplifying should be peaceful and freeing. It shouldn't cause pain or apprehension. I've seen so many people do this when forced to, and even when it's a conscious choice. Then they inevitably realize the extreme isn't the answer either. Everyone has to find the right amount they can live with....and not go crazy in the deafening void.
I so much agree with you. At different stages in your life, you need different things. Be very careful to get into a frenzy as lots of these videos get you in a moment where you might regret decisions. What is wrong about feeling emotional about your childrens things etc etc etc. Be very careful to go to the extreme.
Decluttering is not easy for people with hoarding tendencies. She only described her emotions that she went through the process of liberation. But of course you didnt hear what she was actually talking about
@@snezanabogojevic8257 I think they are talking about the process. The sky isn't going to fall if she keeps her flour in grandmother's jar instead of a canister from Walmart. If something is important to you and/or useful, why the pressure to give it all up? It's not necessary. There are a million miles between that and "hoarding." Just my thoughts; YMMV. The video made me sad for her.
That is so sad, I have been decluttering for awhile, but I couldn’t let go of my kids baby clothes etc. and other personal items that could never be replaced. I take comfort in having these things and they give me a peaceful warm feeling when I hold them.☺️
Minimalism is different for everyone. It’s very sad to get rid of the glass jar that your daughters may cherish. Saving a single sentimental box of beautiful family memories for them would have been more meaningful than eliminating everything for your personal comfort. Just my opinion.
@@christinaslocum8761 I have saved a lot of my kids items. I finally got rid of two hard binkys . I came to the conclusion that I am ok with keeping them and looking at them when I want. Its ok.
To give up the things that bring joy and a sense of history to your life isn’t required. That is taking minimal to a fault. You lose what is good about it. The minimalist movement doesn’t need any martyrs. It isn’t a religion that requires sacrifice. ❤️
My baby clothes that my mom saved, have now been worn by my grand daughter. So fun to see that. And I have pics of my sons wearing my dad’s baby clothes from the 1930’s. Just a few outfits. Why get rid of everything?! That’s extreme. But, to each their own
I cried too much while watching this. I’ve started my journey last week and it’s been a mental rollercoaster. It needs to be done. I have accumulated way too much unnecessary things throughout my life and it’s time to take control of my life again. I do not want to be tied down to any materialistic thing anymore. Good luck to everyone that is making this life style change because I know it will be life changing.
I love my stuff too much. Nothing like wearing jewelry my mom used to wear when she was a teen given to her by her mother. Grandmas blankets and quilts. Comfort. Joy. ♥️ This video made me feel sad. But to each their own. ♥️
I've done this very same thing and we have been living in a 16 foot caravan for over 2 years now. Don't worry, the "stuff" will soon be forgotten once you start your new life. I know the feeling of offloading all the gear and how exhausting it is, and that emotional feeling at the end. I kept one small box of keepsakes and scanned all my photos, I don't have one hard copy and it feels great. I sent all the kids momento's to them so they can store them and scanned any special pictures they drew. In fact now that they are digital, I've looked at them more than when they were stored in tubs. I have only a few pairs of jeans, tops and shorts - and actually still feel like I have too many clothes. Same goes for pantry/food items, bathroom stuff - we have the basics but still feel blessed and comfortable.. and free. It's all very exciting, good on you.
Yea people are getting super extreme about decluttering. A lot is for “likes and look at my channel”, I dislike trends and fads. Like everyone wanting to go gray with there hair. So many like it at first the hate it. Why do it just because everyone else is? One can have beautiful things in there home and be wayyyy more spiritual because they truly understand the meaning of non attatchment even amongst there items.
Right! Is the ultimate goal to have absolutely nothing? 😳 I get not wanting clutter, but this seems like self-deprivation and on the verge of being unhealthy. I would never willingly part with certain irreplaceable sentimental items. I feel that minimalism is only keeping things you love, and letting go of unnecessary things or things you can easily replace. I’m not bashing at all, I just can’t understand the extremism here.
I’ve been been giving and donating a lot of household items , clothes, furniture and I still have a long way to go. It really feels good to have a home where you can feel comfortable and not think of the constant cleaning and decluttering.
This was an especially emotional one Connie...tearing up with you. We've done the same - packed, unpacked and minimized for the last 7 years and still there are those precious items that tether us to our past, yet can keep us from our future. May God bless you in the next chapter.
Help me understand why it is a necessity to get rid of everything. I guess I’ll need to wait for next video. I’m a visual artist. Visuals are important for me without overwhelming clutter. I feel such sadness watching this video. I’m happy and excited for you and can’t wait to hear about your next chapter. Thank you
Minimalism is not about getting rid of everything. I'm minimalist and have furniture. Minimalism is different for each. We shouldn't judge another's way to live.
I’m not a minimalist but I am absolutely strict about not bringing anything into my life that I don’t absolutely love or need. I can’t imagine living with just “stuff” or closets full of “backups and just in case”
I want to do this but it is difficult. I am looking online at Peru. It is twice as easy for you because you are not alone. That makes a very big difference.
I’m a collector of specific vintage things. It is part of who I am. Those items will stay as long as I am clear minded and able bodied. The other stuff is getting purged (donated, sold, trashed, or given away.) I will never be a minimalist. I wish you the best on your journey. We each must do what is right for us.
I don’t think I could give up so much…I believe many things could go, but I love a lot of what I have! So I watched you tonight and realize as much enjoyment I’ve had, I am sick and it’s too much. I’m too sick to sell things properly. So I keep up with cleaning as much as I can and realize I need to hire help. Thank you!
Very touching....I understand the feeling...my wife and I are over 70...we have started to get rid of lots of our souvenirs.... photos albums containing memorable moments.... family, travels....all these articles bought on trips...yes it is a sad part of our lives when we have to think of down sizing ....40 years of memorabilia and things from our parents...it's like whipping ourselves of the map...our boys...adults with children don't think the same way....they don't look forward in preserving my father's medals from the second world war not more for my merits and medals for my police service as a detective....so we turn the page and try to put joy in the decluttering....thank you Connie....
Even though I have been minimalist for a few years now I still struggle with letting some things go. I too am in the process of some major changes and I am a little nervous but this video has inspired me to have faith in myself as I step into the unknown. I appreciate you sharing your vulnerability. Peace and blessings to you Connie.
Can you pass on any heirlooms now - like the glass jars from Connie's granny or the baby blankets going to their owners? I still have a baby quilt from my youngest aged 22, she doesn't want it so it's been the dog's blanket for the past couple of years, and she likes that idea. What's appropriate/helpful to you?
What a brave decision! When I startet decluttering my personal belongings I felt as I slowly disappeared, so I stopped. This must be a really big step towards finding yourself deep within. All the best for you and your family, Connie ❤
Thank you for sharing your honest emotions about attachments to physical things. This is what is the hardest...the memories that the objects evoke, the ties to loved ones and things past that we don't want to lose. Best of luck to you on your next chapter. I can't wait to hear what that will be!
I am so excited for you Connie. Interesting thing for me is I have felt more vulnerable and trapped "with things". I have given everything away 4 times and continually purge when something newer gets purchased, which is very rare. God bless.
Prayers that you have been able to adjust and find another home. This video is depressing. I don't understand the pressure to get rid of everything, including useful items (grandmother's flour jar??) and items that have irreplaceable sentimental value. Everything in moderation.
My granddaughters play with what were my daughter’s favourite toys, and it gives all of us great joy watching them. I don’t have a lot now, but I disagree with you about giving/selling everything. I spent many years out of necessity, working far away from home, in places where many people had very little. And now, what little I have, gives me joy, and comfort. For me there are far more beautiful places I have lived, but they are not where my family and friends are. We all see the world so differently. Good luck on your journey.
I went through this a little over a year ago, and I agree it’s hard to do. I still miss some of my things, and watching your video almost made me cry at the memory of sharing belongings with friends, plus donating to charities. We are traveling the US in our RV now, and I’m still clearing out things I don’t need. I wish you well in your new endeavor … looking forward to your next video.
I feel for her. She is so so sad. This is very hard for her. A huge shift with grieving, while she is getting rid of almost all her belongings. Sending light and love to you and wish you success and that you find what you are looking for and will be happy and content💕💕
Thank you for including us on your journey. I feel I should write this in an email, but here we go. You stirred emotions in me I haven't had in 30 yrs. When I was dating my husband, and I just moved into a rental house near where he was stationed. I only moved my things in, and was gone for the weekend. I came back Sunday and everything was gone. Stolen. I had only the weekend clothes and jewelry I was wearing. A couch was left, and a few random kitchen things. But everything was taken. Clothes, Christmas decorations, grandmothers jewelry, amazing blue suede cowboy boots, furniture that was small. I didn't replace anything but clothes for years. I didn't want that to ever happen again. Today the term Minimalism rolls around and I feel overwhelmed at all the things I have now and have accumulated through many moves and my love of antique shopping. I have been trying to find my way back to simplicity since I have been told that will help me heal some physical things that I am recovering from. It was beautiful to see you CHOOSE to let go of things. Inspiring for me, to step back and see where I need to regroup and what has taken hold of me...again. I am reminded of the need to live with a free heart, to use things we have but not let them own me. To enjoy and appreciate while I have them, but keep that in focus. Your heart is tender now, and I know you did this with thoughtfulness and your husbands' support. Your video speaks so much to all those little things we hold tight. For what? Love is the only thing that survives. Even after we are gone. Love is what we pass on. Love yourself through this and pour out all that love in your heart to your sweet husband and kids. You are a beautiful woman with a caring heart and we appreciate your work on YT. Hugs and a warm cup of Oatstraw tea to you, Dee
AWE, Dee! Thank you so much for your heartfelt, kind words of support. I love what you said, "love is what we pass on." Well said! Thank you for your support as I take on this BIG step into the unknown. Sending you happiness & peace my friend.
AWE, Dee! Thank you so much for your heartfelt, kind words of support. I love what you said, "love is what we pass on." Well said! Thank you for your support as I take on this BIG step into the unknown. Sending you happiness & peace my friend.
That was hard. My emotions were kicking in with thoughts of me saying goodbye to things I'm attached too. At the same time this video has me wanting to do another purge. Things can own us more than we own them. Time to let go.
Thank you, Connie, for sharing this heartfelt video of your journey to minimalism. It touched my heart, especially in this stage of my life when I'm feeling the call to let go of my "things", and even harder, to let go of my sentimental items. My life parallels yours in so many ways....I completely relate to much of what you shared. When you're left with nothing but your authentic self, wow...I can imagine that is scary, yet liberating at the same time. I've not yet made it there....however your video is encouraging me to be brave and be set free! Thank you!
Thanks for being candid and sharing this personal experience of digging deep inwards! ❤ Education is what remains after we forget what we l have learned in school. The same is true in finding our true selves: we start the journey of discovering our authentic selves only after letting go of everything which we didn’t bring entering this wonderful human existence!
So beautiful, Connie. I'm not sure if there is anything wrong with having some things that are special or remind us of precious memories... I'm looking forward to hearing your why next time!
😢 This video just breaks my heart💔I am trying to become a minimalist little by little but I don’t know if I could ever get to just the bear bones of it without feeling like a homeless person. I am looking forward to what this new adventure could be! Blessings to you and whatever life brings!
No one has to give up so much. If they choose to, they can give up some just what they really don’t need or , what they don’t think it’s beautiful anymore or gives them happiness.
I don't see a need to get rid of some of those things. Why??? It seems like self-deprivation, not "decluttering." There's a big difference. This video is depressing.
Connie - This was an amazing video. I pray all good things for you and your husband. I'm excited to see what's next on your journey. Thank you for sharing it with us!
This was such a bittersweet post. My heart ached for your tough decisions, but at the same time, after having moved my parents to what is now just one room, there seemed to be so much wasted energy and time accumulating so much only to wrench it away later. It seemed better to not get attached to begin with. I can’t wait to see what’s next for you! A dear friend says “always make sure you are moving toward something, not just away from something”. Thank you for your videos!
What an emotional video! The melancholy is so obvious on your face. I really wish you all the best and I trust that you will certainly shine again in the new chapter of your life. I'll be waiting for the next video to hear all the exciting news! Stay healthy and everything will find its own way... I'm sending you lots of love from Greece❤❤
Simply amazing. I've been on my minimalist journey for about 10 yrs now, I live in a studio apt with more plants than other belongings and watching this brought up a lot for me. I'm also feeling that I'm at a precipice of a big change in my life though I'm still trying to figure out what that is and how I can bring my plants along! 💕🌿
The emotion you convey about the difficulty letting some things go helps me know it isn't just me who has a hard time with some things. I thought something was just wrong with me for a long time on that. I still don't know how I will overcome the sadness when I see certain items, but I'm also choking on so much stuff within a very tiny place in which we live. Something has to give. Looking forward to hearing your big adventure in your next video, Connie. 🥰
When we acquire things we often forget that we're making permanent space for them in a temporary existence. Why hold on to things we don't see on a regular basis? They're just there filling space. I have found that the older I get the less I want to be responsible for. Memories are strong but not all memories are good ones. Having less means it's easier to move forward more quickly if or when necessary. It's less to mourn over if it's lost. I'm getting ready to do a major clean out of my stored items. I found this video very inspiring. Thank you.
You and your family are so brave. You live the life that most people just dream about. Sending prayers and warm thoughts to soothe you. Best wishes on your next adventure!
Thank you for this video, I think this is what I needed to finally convince my wife to do the same. I wanna get rid of everything now that my daughter has graduated and starts her life with a PhD. My son has his own house and lives with his girlfriend too. I wanna travel in Europe but can't do that and maintain an empty house in NJ, you know taxes and utilities are ridiculously expensive. I have already been donating and throwing out most of my "stuff" but my wife is having a problem even though she now says she's ready. I just stumbled onto your channel but I'm a subscriber now and I'm going to play this video to my wife for inspiration.
I was tearing up. I have so many sentimental items like that, but I’ve recently been thinking of letting some of it go. Can’t wait to see your next video.
Can't wait to see what's next. :) I just subscribed and have enjoyed watching a few of your videos. i can't imagine getting rid of all my 'stuff', but I'm sure it would be liberating somehow. One day maybe.
What you did took so much bravery! I was tearing up just watching your emotion with some of those cherished items. And the suspense of your next chapter is too much lol!!! Cannot wait to hear!!
This was SO touching. I was doing the dishes while listening to you and suddenly a tear was falling on my cheek... I feel you. I've moved 10 times in my whole life (I'm 29) and it's not easy. I think having emotional attachment towards some things makes us human. Even if the memories are not fully in these things... Sometimes it helps to remind us the speed of time. So don't feel guilty about keeping a few things. I believe to some degree it's actually healthy. ❤ Can't wait for the next video !
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Aski. I agree, keeping the things that have good memories and bring joy into your life is defiantly worth keeping.
Congratulations! Huge achievement. I've downsized through three long-distance moves, and fifteen years on, am again drowning under excess stuff. I've been de-cluttering daily for months, and it is emotionally exhausting. Looking forward to seeing your "Next Chapter"!
Your video brought me to tears, Connie. This is such an honest and meaningful video. I could see the tears in your eyes when describing how difficult it was for you to discard the items that you had had for so long. But, as you said, these things do not define us. You are brave and will move on to great and better things. Mostly peace and contentment.
This is one of the best minimalist videos I have ever seen on You Tube. It made me get a lump in my throat several times and I don't consider myself to be that sentimental about things. I cannot wait to see your next video.
When you say “liberating” I know exactly what it is and how it feels even though I am not quite a minimalist yet. I feel encouraged that I will not be alone in this journey to my authentic self with little (I don’t dare to say “no”) attachment to creatures. Thank you for the video.
Connie, this video is very inspiring for me. I have been living in India for 17 years (15 of which were spent taking care of my mom), but now would like to consider other options. However, my possessions and papers, and especially my books and journals, have been a hindrance to making new choices of where I live. You give me added courage to strongly consider getting rid of most of my stuff, so that I am free to choose to travel and to live in new places. Thank you ever so much. 🙏🙏🙏
I hope you aren't going to extremes. Moderation is a good thing. Decluttering should make you feel happier and not be a self-deprivation thing, which this seems to be.
This was so emotionally beautiful; and for reasons I cannot even explain. I felt your heart in this one, Connie. I cannot wait to see where your life is about to bring you. Wherever that is…..I know it will be amazing. ♥️🙏🏼
Thanks for this, I will never be someone to get rid of my grandmas cookie jar, or the special memory box with the dog collars ....but I am glad you have found your "happy" we truly all have our own journey
Having accumulated so much stuff over the years. I've learned it's just stuff! When I was young I had nothing. Having exceeded my own expectations in life it's not what you have but what you do for others!
Connie what a beautiful presentation. You're right, downsizing the family photos and my grown children's baby items has been really tough. I've been downsizing since 2019. Have made tremendous progress but there's always "more" us moms hold onto! Thank you for your encouragement and inspiration
I've told this story before on a decluttering channel. My daughter is 32. I recently went through the boxes I've saved for her. She was completely grossed out by her lost tooth collection complete with the letters she wrote to the tooth fairy. So I tossed them. About two days later I woke in a panic and considered digging through the trash. When do they collect it? What day was it? I made it through the night. Several days later I came across her little curl from her first haircut. I did keep that. 😊
What an emotional, yet inspiring video, Connie! Emotional: letting go of sentimental items especially your children's clothes, blankets, and toys. You're a brave woman and I hope to someday be this brave. I have a VERY long way left to go. I'm in the beginning stages of decluttering and still have so many things to go through. Thanks for your thoughts, openness, and love to us all. May God guide and bless you on your minimalist journey. Cannot wait to see the next video!!! Take good care of yourself.
Just the music playing, was making me want to cry!😢 I just went through my childhood things the other day, since I recently moved, and I just can’t let them go. I can’t comprehend doing what you did, but I can’t wait to see your new adventure!🎉
Oh Connie such an emotional video. I think it’s not the material things we are attached to so much it’s more the memories that they stir up inside us. Of course the memories live on with or without the items. I think what Marie Kondo suggests is really helpful for letting go of items. She says to thank the item for its service or the happiness etc it brought us and then wish it well for the next person who is going to enjoy it. That way you are actually emotionally saying goodbye to something and accepting it. It’s only when we get rid of something and view it as losing something then it becomes extra hard. I think it was really brave of you to get rid of so much. However, I’m sure it was well worth it for your next adventure. ❤
Knowing someone else will generate their own happy memories with a donated item does help. I gave away my beautiful wedding dress after finally deciding it was wrong to keep it wrapped in plastic tucked away in a closet when someone else might love it and appreciate wearing it on their special day. It was hard, but once it was gone ... it really didn't matter that I no longer owned it. I am not there on the selected baby items I keep. They are still too cherished to give away ...
Connie you are all of us that follow your channel. This video brought tears to my eyes and best of everything to you & your husband on your new journey.
This brought tears to my eyes. Ive struggled with getting rid of things at times, although other times I have also given away alot. I'm ready to start a new chapter in my life as well and need to also gain the courage to get rid of perhaps 85-90% of my things.
Hi Connie: Wow! That took a lot of courage to do. Even though we can't take our material things when we die, it's still difficult to let them go. You are fully embracing simplicity and I sense you are about to embark on a new spiritual chapter in your life. I wish you well on your journey. Peace and Namaste, Jenny ☮🕉❤🙏
Oh my, thank you for sharing your vulnerable feelings. I was tearing up along with you. I'm pretty new to your channel and appreciate you so very much.
My husband and I did exactly the very same thing. Many people stay put for various reasons, kids, aging parents or job etc.. I cannot believe how freeing it was. About 15 years ago we were camping with our children and a couple had just so ld Everything! They were going to journey across the states. At that poi t I imagined that but said to myself you going to have to wait. Like Connie I have children in different parts of the states. As they began to move to other parts of the states we too sold Everthring. What little we did hang onto was washed away in the past hurricane. Almost as if the the universe was saying -em you stated you wanted to be a minimalist so here ya go. In an instant we e were really starting over from scratch. IMO IAN happened FOR me and not To me. Now we are living our best life [still in the US] however, we are transitioning into very tiny living. ❤️ in which I love. I basically have zero responsibility except for ourselves. We shop and eat local 😋 We are currently doing research now to even take nomadic living to the next level. Every day the canvas is wide open to paint a new picture and I can't even begin to tell you how much fun it truly is. ✌️ ☮️ peace and light to all
I have the impression that your external exercise that you are going through is ongoing preparation for ascension! Congratulations on becoming your true authentic self!❤I am so grateful for your honesty and inspiring us to become truthful to ourselves and others!🙏🏻
I have packed and moved so many times in my life! After having read Marie Kondo's book and "Goodbye Things" and Karen Kingston's book about decluttering, I have been through many iterations of "downsizing." Now I live in a cabin that is exactly the right size for me, with furniture that I got second-hand (some free, some for minimal cost), and very little from my past life except photos and a few things that are useful or do have some sentimental attachment that take up very little space. That said, having grown up with very little, and having never had much money, I do enjoy acquiring certain things that I really, really like that are free or very low cost. But I'm not so attached to them that when their time comes they can't go too. I continue to pare down, but I really like the idea that some day most of this will be gone too!
I was tearing up, halfway through the video. It really resonates with me. I would love to just get rid of stuff and I have a travelers heart but I'm just stuck for now. Wanting to get rid of most of my possessions but I would cry. I've been on my minimal journey since 2021 and I'm getting there. Shifting my mindset habits. Thank you for posting this video, I cannot wait to hear about your new chapter, new adventures 🥰⚘
Dear Connie, I don't know where to start... this video has made me cry and think a lot , you always open your heart and say what you feel, I admire you and appreciate you Thank you for so much, kisses and hugs 🥰😘🤗
Connie and family, what an emotional video. Thank you for making such a raw and beautiful video. We are trying to go as minimalist as we can for the first time. I write this as there’s boxes around me. I teared up when I saw your grandmas jar and your daughters baby blanket being packed up. What a wonderful thought that you’ve given someone else an opportunity to love on them and cherish them💕 during the video I couldn’t help but wonder if you are moving to where your grand baby is☺️☺️
Wow this video was a little depressing, especially with the somber music. I can’t believe you got rid of your grandmother’s antique jars! I always loved seeing them when you cooked. I hope the next video comes out soon. I am hoping it will be more uplifting! 😢
Thank you for this real insight Connie. Just the video I have been waiting for. I have got rid of about 70% of my posessions and it has changd my life. Im ready to go further. The memories of the past are valid but they become burdensome. Looking through the comments, I am stunned how this video has triggered so many people. We werent meant to have so much stuff. Think about other life vocations. What if someone joined religious life - they too would have to leave all of their possesions behind. What about your children? I would say that THEY are our most treasured - but we dont stop them from forging their own path and creating their own life. When I feel things creeping back into my home, I think of Miss Havisham, alone, surrounded by all of her possesions covered in dust and motheaten. This has been such an inspiring video. Thank you again for creating it. Blessings to you for the year ahead.
I’m the youngest of four girls and have two brothers and grew up in the 70s and 80s. I was like you and got lots of hand me downs. Like you, I cherished the things that did come my way. I’ve been on a minimalist journey for quite a few years but still have a way to go. Sentimental things are definitely the hardest. A couple of years ago I gave away my cherished dolls. Occasionally I get the thought that I wish I still had them but then I realise if I did, they’d be in my drawer taking up space but never played with. It’s important to live in the present but can be so hard to let go of some things from the past. It must be so freeing not to have lots of possessions to manage, I’m so excited to learn about your next adventure. 💕
I love this as I'm always on the lookout for extreme minimalism advice and videos, and this is one of the most emotional yet much needed videos on decluttering sentimental I've ever seen.
Getting rid of everything I own brought up many surprising emotions for me.
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Connie I can relate to the emotional wave of parting with the treasures from the past ..I have moved 44 times in my life abd as you said you think it prepares you to manage the next change .. I feel as we get older our emotions run deeper and make these new decisions bigger ..
I understand you so well. I have done the same. My memories are in my heart and what I need I can fit in a small car. I gave my children the memories they wanted to have an kept the rest of the memorabilia in just one suitcase. Sold my property and rearranged my living situation, buyed a new home that fits my new living situation. So happy that I rearranged everything. A burden is lifted from my shoulders. Ready for the next steps. As the german author Hermann Hesse says in his Poem “Steps”: A magic dwells in each beginning, protecting us, telling us how to live.
All the best in your journey!
Wow how did you do it?
Connie you need help.
Three years ago in my early fifties I packed what belongings I wanted into the car and left. I got the British Heart Foundation in to take away all my furniture, tv's, kitchen appliances, decor and everything else for donation. It has been the most free I have felt in years and I have no desire to replace any of it. I still have never missed the television, its a wonderful feeling.
Amazing story! Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience with us.
You don't need television when you have UA-cam.
Where did you go?
There are so many ways to be minimalist. Each to their own when it comes to minimizing memorabilia. The smell, feel, taste, sound and sight of "stuff" helps us remember the details that are biologically imprinted - sensory data elicits memories. It's part of being human, especially to want to be reminded of the good we've experienced. Yes, it's liberating to get rid of the clutter that weighs us down, but you don't need to inflict trauma on yourself to be free and happy. Again, each to their own!
Well said!!!! As I am getting older and have grandkids, I forget some of the things that were important to me or used when my own kids were little. I love looking in the bin and pulling out a cloth diaper and diaper pin and holding them and thinking back to what lovely moments I had as a mom to my kids. Memories begin to fade as we get older. It's a reminder of what was.
I was just going to say this: as we get older, memories do begin to erode, to evaporate. It is good to have something to retrieve what is getting hazy, to hold on to something that works like a password into a box of personal history.
This makes me sad.
They want us to own nothing and be happy
My "MOTTO".." TO EACH THEIR OWN"~
I'm getting a divorce. Moving out of state. Considering selling everything and recreating my life.....actually...finding out who I am. I love your story.
Did you end up doing it? I hope you are ok 🙏
I think it's important when decluttering, to first check with family members if they want anything. Especially keepsakes and deceased relatives items.
What about siblings that steal everything from our parents and even their house? Nothing of value or anything left for me. Even all my parent's pictures were taken by the other 2 siblings.
I see she wrapped up things in a baby blanket and shipped them off to Europe. I assume she gave them to her daughter. And hopefully her daughter was in a place to accept them. When my mother was disassembling her house and moving The family to Florida, she was trying to foist off much of her stuff on me, and I was just moving to Boston. I think I was trying to get rid of things too, which is unusual for me. And I definitely did not need her gold colored bathmat. If I had been older and setting up a home of my own, I would probably have appreciated all the stuff she tried to shove at me, But at the time I was 22 and moving in with an established roommate who when I offered towels yelled at me that "the bathroom is yellow!" It would probably be five or six more years before I started to set up a home of my own. I still did end up with various household items. But I really didn't need that bathmat...
And nowadays we can put our photos and our music on our computers and not lug around our photo albums and our collection of LPs and 45s (Although it takes time to scan and yes I still have those things)
These days I am re-collecting some of the things from my childhood, from eBay. And trying to put the other important things all in one place. Of course if the house burns down it won't make any difference and it will all be gone. In the meantime I seem to have recollected my brother and all of his garbage. Wonderful.... (Honestly it's only the stuff I'm complaining about. I'm thrilled to have my brother. There are very few people on this earth who are that much like me. Other than my mother and of course she's been dead for quite a while now, sadly. I missed her all those years when we were so far apart. My family in Florida and me in Boston. I had three and a half years of having her back and then she was gone. So yes, this way is probably better.)
I agree, MJ.
I sold it all....
moved to Ecuador with one large suitcase and a full backpack. that's it.
best move i've ever made. LOVE ECUADOR!! the pace of life is slow and the people friendly
Incredible! Good for you!
Thank you so much for your honesty. I got very emotiional watching because as a very troubled teenager with Complex PTSD i left my mother's poessions behind. I didnt think about this for years but as Ive got older I have felt heartbroken at the thought of leaving them behind. I felt like Id betrayed my mother. She died when I was a child. I have now realised that I dont need those posessions as I am the most important legacy of my mother. Her blood runs through my veins and I am a part of her.
Lizzie H ❤️👍🥹
My daughter always keeps my gifts and even those toys from eggs (has anxiety over throwing it). My biggest wish is for her to get well, not to worry about things anymore. Your mother surely would want you to be happy. A mother is the happiest when her child is happy. Don't worry about things. All the best! 😘
Lizzie, you have found peace in understanding your mother is part of you .. or as you said you are accepting what is... mat I send you my love as support ❤️
I’m 68 and had my back surgeries. I have been getting rid of most of my things so if I leave this world ,I won’t make it hard for my husband. Am enjoying it ,and it makes it so much easier to clean.
This is the most honest videos I have seen on the emotions of minimalism. I could feel your pain as you talked about giving away your most cherished belongings. Something very exciting must be coming on the next page.
It sparked many emotions in me.
Yes..
I know how to organize the physical process of "getting rid of things." I know how to sell, donate, and recycle. Seeing the emotional component bared is immensely valuable to me. As an immigrant from behind the former Iron Curtain, I struggle against the excesses of having it all. We came here with with two suitcases between the four of us, and America has taught us that life is one giant shopping spree. I don't need to continue in this vein. As I grow older, I see there is no need to have all these things, the *stuff.* I am looking forward to see what's ahead in your future as I learn from your process of how to let go!
People are very naiv.... Believe all what is said in thé vidéos people make Money with.....
This Lady lived in another Home Not Longtime ago.....minimalist... !!!!
the fourniture, staff you See in thé Corner IS Not hers....
You are so right!
It’s a way to make money!
Decluttering, downsizing, and simplifying should be peaceful and freeing. It shouldn't cause pain or apprehension. I've seen so many people do this when forced to, and even when it's a conscious choice. Then they inevitably realize the extreme isn't the answer either. Everyone has to find the right amount they can live with....and not go crazy in the deafening void.
I so much agree with you. At different stages in your life, you need different things. Be very careful to get into a frenzy as lots of these videos get you in a moment where you might regret decisions. What is wrong about feeling emotional about your childrens things etc etc etc. Be very careful to go to the extreme.
Decluttering is not easy for people with hoarding tendencies. She only described her emotions that she went through the process of liberation. But of course you didnt hear what she was actually talking about
As they say "everything is good in MODERATION".... Darn, they are right
@@snezanabogojevic8257 I think they are talking about the process. The sky isn't going to fall if she keeps her flour in grandmother's jar instead of a canister from Walmart. If something is important to you and/or useful, why the pressure to give it all up? It's not necessary. There are a million miles between that and "hoarding." Just my thoughts; YMMV. The video made me sad for her.
@@waiki8223 Yes, moderation is a good thing. This video is depressing!
That is so sad, I have been decluttering for awhile, but I couldn’t let go of my kids baby clothes etc. and other personal items that could never be replaced. I take comfort in having these things and they give me a peaceful warm feeling when I hold them.☺️
Minimalism is different for everyone. It’s very sad to get rid of the glass jar that your daughters may cherish. Saving a single sentimental box of beautiful family memories for them would have been more meaningful than eliminating everything for your personal comfort. Just my opinion.
@@christinaslocum8761 I have saved a lot of my kids items. I finally got rid of two hard binkys . I came to the conclusion that I am ok with keeping them and looking at them when I want. Its ok.
To give up the things that bring joy and a sense of history to your life isn’t required. That is taking minimal to a fault. You lose what is good about it. The minimalist movement doesn’t need any martyrs. It isn’t a religion that requires sacrifice. ❤️
Minimalism is just not for me. I genuinely can't understand living with so little. I practically have a library and art gallery at home lol 😂❤
My baby clothes that my mom saved, have now been worn by my grand daughter. So fun to see that. And I have pics of my sons wearing my dad’s baby clothes from the 1930’s. Just a few outfits. Why get rid of everything?! That’s extreme. But, to each their own
I cried too much while watching this. I’ve started my journey last week and it’s been a mental rollercoaster. It needs to be done. I have accumulated way too much unnecessary things throughout my life and it’s time to take control of my life again. I do not want to be tied down to any materialistic thing anymore. Good luck to everyone that is making this life style change because I know it will be life changing.
I love my stuff too much. Nothing like wearing jewelry my mom used to wear when she was a teen given to her by her mother. Grandmas blankets and quilts. Comfort. Joy. ♥️ This video made me feel sad. But to each their own. ♥️
It made me sad, too. Why does she feel the pressure to give up cherished and even useful things? I don't understand it.
I've done this very same thing and we have been living in a 16 foot caravan for over 2 years now. Don't worry, the "stuff" will soon be forgotten once you start your new life. I know the feeling of offloading all the gear and how exhausting it is, and that emotional feeling at the end. I kept one small box of keepsakes and scanned all my photos, I don't have one hard copy and it feels great. I sent all the kids momento's to them so they can store them and scanned any special pictures they drew. In fact now that they are digital, I've looked at them more than when they were stored in tubs. I have only a few pairs of jeans, tops and shorts - and actually still feel like I have too many clothes. Same goes for pantry/food items, bathroom stuff - we have the basics but still feel blessed and comfortable.. and free. It's all very exciting, good on you.
interesting story, thanks for sharing the insight to your experience
I could not do this nor desire to do so. Scale back, yes but 98% gone, no. Can't wait to hear about your next chapter. Wish you all the best!
Yea people are getting super extreme about decluttering. A lot is for “likes and look at my channel”, I dislike trends and fads. Like everyone wanting to go gray with there hair. So many like it at first the hate it. Why do it just because everyone else is? One can have beautiful things in there home and be wayyyy more spiritual because they truly understand the meaning of non attatchment even amongst there items.
Right! Is the ultimate goal to have absolutely nothing? 😳 I get not wanting clutter, but this seems like self-deprivation and on the verge of being unhealthy. I would never willingly part with certain irreplaceable sentimental items. I feel that minimalism is only keeping things you love, and letting go of unnecessary things or things you can easily replace. I’m not bashing at all, I just can’t understand the extremism here.
@@NikkiB7598 I don't understand the extremism, either. She doesn't seem very happy with it. But it's getting lots of comments.
I’ve been been giving and donating a lot of household items , clothes, furniture and I still have a long way to go. It really feels good to have a home where you can feel comfortable and not think of the constant cleaning and decluttering.
This was an especially emotional one Connie...tearing up with you. We've done the same - packed, unpacked and minimized for the last 7 years and still there are those precious items that tether us to our past, yet can keep us from our future. May God bless you in the next chapter.
It brought up many unexpected emotions. Thanks for your good wishes!
Help me understand why it is a necessity to get rid of everything. I guess I’ll need to wait for next video. I’m a visual artist. Visuals are important for me without overwhelming clutter.
I feel such sadness watching this video. I’m happy and excited for you and can’t wait to hear about your next chapter. Thank you
Yeah the empty house and grey dull walls and floors, make me sad
Minimalism is not about getting rid of everything. I'm minimalist and have furniture. Minimalism is different for each. We shouldn't judge another's way to live.
I’m not a minimalist but I am absolutely strict about not bringing anything into my life that I don’t absolutely love or need. I can’t imagine living with just “stuff” or closets full of “backups and just in case”
I want to do this but it is difficult. I am looking online at Peru. It is twice as easy for you because you are not alone. That makes a very big difference.
I’m a collector of specific vintage things. It is part of who I am. Those items will stay as long as I am clear minded and able bodied. The other stuff is getting purged (donated, sold, trashed, or given away.) I will never be a minimalist. I wish you the best on your journey. We each must do what is right for us.
I don’t think I could give up so much…I believe many things could go, but I love a lot of what I have!
So I watched you tonight and realize as much enjoyment I’ve had, I am sick and it’s too much.
I’m too sick to sell things properly. So I keep up with cleaning as much as I can and realize I need to hire help. Thank you!
You could hire help to sell…
Very touching....I understand the feeling...my wife and I are over 70...we have started to get rid of lots of our souvenirs.... photos albums containing memorable moments.... family, travels....all these articles bought on trips...yes it is a sad part of our lives when we have to think of down sizing ....40 years of memorabilia and things from our parents...it's like whipping ourselves of the map...our boys...adults with children don't think the same way....they don't look forward in preserving my father's medals from the second world war not more for my merits and medals for my police service as a detective....so we turn the page and try to put joy in the decluttering....thank you Connie....
I like your energy, so soft and peace and calm. ❤
She doesn't seem very peaceful to me. The video was sad to me and several other commenters. I wish the best for her.
Even though I have been minimalist for a few years now I still struggle with letting some things go. I too am in the process of some major changes and I am a little nervous but this video has inspired me to have faith in myself as I step into the unknown. I appreciate you sharing your vulnerability. Peace and blessings to you Connie.
Embrace the change, William. The unknown is scary but also thrilling.
Can you pass on any heirlooms now - like the glass jars from Connie's granny or the baby blankets going to their owners? I still have a baby quilt from my youngest aged 22, she doesn't want it so it's been the dog's blanket for the past couple of years, and she likes that idea. What's appropriate/helpful to you?
What a brave decision! When I startet decluttering my personal belongings I felt as I slowly disappeared, so I stopped.
This must be a really big step towards finding yourself deep within.
All the best for you and your family, Connie ❤
It is amazing how much of ourselves we put into our things. There is no right way to declutter. Go slow and honor where you are at today.
Connie, we’re in a similar place you and I. I’m so hoping you find that where you’re going is exactly what’s needed. Take care, Grace
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.
Thank you for sharing your honest emotions about attachments to physical things. This is what is the hardest...the memories that the objects evoke, the ties to loved ones and things past that we don't want to lose. Best of luck to you on your next chapter. I can't wait to hear what that will be!
Thanks so much!
I am so excited for you Connie. Interesting thing for me is I have felt more vulnerable and trapped "with things". I have given everything away 4 times and continually purge when something newer gets purchased, which is very rare. God bless.
This brought me to tears! You are so strong inside,that you do not need things from outside.
Thanks for sharing. I sold my home of 45 years for no good reason. And I am devastated
Prayers that you have been able to adjust and find another home. This video is depressing. I don't understand the pressure to get rid of everything, including useful items (grandmother's flour jar??) and items that have irreplaceable sentimental value. Everything in moderation.
My granddaughters play with what were my daughter’s favourite toys, and it gives all of us great joy watching them. I don’t have a lot now, but I disagree with you about giving/selling everything. I spent many years out of necessity, working far away from home, in places where many people had very little. And now, what little I have, gives me joy, and comfort. For me there are far more beautiful places I have lived, but they are not where my family and friends are. We all see the world so differently. Good luck on your journey.
I went through this a little over a year ago, and I agree it’s hard to do. I still miss some of my things, and watching your video almost made me cry at the memory of sharing belongings with friends, plus donating to charities. We are traveling the US in our RV now, and I’m still clearing out things I don’t need. I wish you well in your new endeavor … looking forward to your next video.
RV living is the BEST! We did full=time RV living for 18 months, creating some pretty amazing memories along the way.
I feel for her. She is so so sad. This is very hard for her. A huge shift with grieving, while she is getting rid of almost all her belongings. Sending light and love to you and wish you success and that you find what you are looking for and will be happy and content💕💕
Thank you for including us on your journey. I feel I should write this in an email, but here we go. You stirred emotions in me I haven't had in 30 yrs. When I was dating my husband, and I just moved into a rental house near where he was stationed. I only moved my things in, and was gone for the weekend. I came back Sunday and everything was gone. Stolen. I had only the weekend clothes and jewelry I was wearing. A couch was left, and a few random kitchen things. But everything was taken. Clothes, Christmas decorations, grandmothers jewelry, amazing blue suede cowboy boots, furniture that was small.
I didn't replace anything but clothes for years. I didn't want that to ever happen again. Today the term Minimalism rolls around and I feel overwhelmed at all the things I have now and have accumulated through many moves and my love of antique shopping. I have been trying to find my way back to simplicity since I have been told that will help me heal some physical things that I am recovering from.
It was beautiful to see you CHOOSE to let go of things. Inspiring for me, to step back and see where I need to regroup and what has taken hold of me...again.
I am reminded of the need to live with a free heart, to use things we have but not let them own me. To enjoy and appreciate while I have them, but keep that in focus.
Your heart is tender now, and I know you did this with thoughtfulness and your husbands' support. Your video speaks so much to all those little things we hold tight. For what? Love is the only thing that survives. Even after we are gone. Love is what we pass on.
Love yourself through this and pour out all that love in your heart to your sweet husband and kids. You are a beautiful woman with a caring heart and we appreciate your work on YT. Hugs and a warm cup of Oatstraw tea to you, Dee
AWE, Dee! Thank you so much for your heartfelt, kind words of support. I love what you said, "love is what we pass on." Well said! Thank you for your support as I take on this BIG step into the unknown.
Sending you happiness & peace my friend.
AWE, Dee! Thank you so much for your heartfelt, kind words of support. I love what you said, "love is what we pass on." Well said! Thank you for your support as I take on this BIG step into the unknown.
Sending you happiness & peace my friend.
Beautiful post ...so heartfelt and loving ❤️
You are inspiring! Wonderful to see you share this journey. Looking forward to seeing your next adventure!
Big adventures on the horizon!
Wow, what a vulnerable video. I can’t even imagine that nostalgia you felt.When packing everything up. Good luck on the next chapter!
Thank you for such an honest, emotional and beautiful video ❤
That was hard. My emotions were kicking in with thoughts of me saying goodbye to things I'm attached too. At the same time this video has me wanting to do another purge. Things can own us more than we own them. Time to let go.
Well said, "things own us more than we own them."
Thank you, Connie, for sharing this heartfelt video of your journey to minimalism. It touched my heart, especially in this stage of my life when I'm feeling the call to let go of my "things", and even harder, to let go of my sentimental items. My life parallels yours in so many ways....I completely relate to much of what you shared. When you're left with nothing but your authentic self, wow...I can imagine that is scary, yet liberating at the same time. I've not yet made it there....however your video is encouraging me to be brave and be set free! Thank you!
Thanks for being candid and sharing this personal experience of digging deep inwards! ❤
Education is what remains after we forget what we l have learned in school.
The same is true in finding our true selves: we start the journey of discovering our authentic selves only after letting go of everything which we didn’t bring entering this wonderful human existence!
So beautiful, Connie. I'm not sure if there is anything wrong with having some things that are special or remind us of precious memories... I'm looking forward to hearing your why next time!
I agree! We take comfort in the things that bring us joy and evoke happy memories. I think it is a human experience.
😢 This video just breaks my heart💔I am trying to become a minimalist little by little but I don’t know if I could ever get to just the bear bones of it without feeling like a homeless person. I am looking forward to what this new adventure could be! Blessings to you and whatever life brings!
No one has to give up so much. If they choose to, they can give up some just what they really don’t need or , what they don’t think it’s beautiful anymore or gives them happiness.
It's perfectly fine to own things that you enjoy owning.
I don't see a need to get rid of some of those things. Why??? It seems like self-deprivation, not "decluttering." There's a big difference. This video is depressing.
I've been procrastinating over the packing for our move, this is the inspiration I needed, thank you. I'm intrigued to see what comes next for you
Connie - This was an amazing video. I pray all good things for you and your husband. I'm excited to see what's next on your journey. Thank you for sharing it with us!
Thank you for your positive thoughts and kind words.
This was such a bittersweet post. My heart ached for your tough decisions, but at the same time, after having moved my parents to what is now just one room, there seemed to be so much wasted energy and time accumulating so much only to wrench it away later. It seemed better to not get attached to begin with.
I can’t wait to see what’s next for you! A dear friend says “always make sure you are moving toward something, not just away from something”.
Thank you for your videos!
What an emotional video! The melancholy is so obvious on your face. I really wish you all the best and I trust that you will certainly shine again in the new chapter of your life. I'll be waiting for the next video to hear all the exciting news! Stay healthy and everything will find its own way... I'm sending you lots of love from Greece❤❤
Simply amazing. I've been on my minimalist journey for about 10 yrs now, I live in a studio apt with more plants than other belongings and watching this brought up a lot for me. I'm also feeling that I'm at a precipice of a big change in my life though I'm still trying to figure out what that is and how I can bring my plants along! 💕🌿
The emotion you convey about the difficulty letting some things go helps me know it isn't just me who has a hard time with some things. I thought something was just wrong with me for a long time on that. I still don't know how I will overcome the sadness when I see certain items, but I'm also choking on so much stuff within a very tiny place in which we live. Something has to give. Looking forward to hearing your big adventure in your next video, Connie. 🥰
You are not alone! We all put our feeling into our things. I think this is a natural human experience. Thanks for watching!
When we acquire things we often forget that we're making permanent space for them in a temporary existence. Why hold on to things we don't see on a regular basis? They're just there filling space. I have found that the older I get the less I want to be responsible for. Memories are strong but not all memories are good ones. Having less means it's easier to move forward more quickly if or when necessary. It's less to mourn over if it's lost. I'm getting ready to do a major clean out of my stored items. I found this video very inspiring. Thank you.
Wow Connie! You are my hero (I am excited to know the next chapter) Good luck!
This is your most authentic and moving video ever. Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us.
You and your family are so brave. You live the life that most people just dream about. Sending prayers and warm thoughts to soothe you. Best wishes on your next adventure!
Thank you so much!
Thank you for this video, I think this is what I needed to finally convince my wife to do the same. I wanna get rid of everything now that my daughter has graduated and starts her life with a PhD. My son has his own house and lives with his girlfriend too. I wanna travel in Europe but can't do that and maintain an empty house in NJ, you know taxes and utilities are ridiculously expensive. I have already been donating and throwing out most of my "stuff" but my wife is having a problem even though she now says she's ready. I just stumbled onto your channel but I'm a subscriber now and I'm going to play this video to my wife for inspiration.
Thank you Connie, this was very special. So sad but yet so uplifting! ❤
Thanks, Jana
Thanks, Connie. It takes a lot of courage to bare your soul like this. I appreciate the emotional honesty in this video. Keep searching...
I was tearing up. I have so many sentimental items like that, but I’ve recently been thinking of letting some of it go. Can’t wait to see your next video.
Can't wait to see what's next. :) I just subscribed and have enjoyed watching a few of your videos. i can't imagine getting rid of all my 'stuff', but I'm sure it would be liberating somehow. One day maybe.
What you did took so much bravery! I was tearing up just watching your emotion with some of those cherished items.
And the suspense of your next chapter is too much lol!!!
Cannot wait to hear!!
This was SO touching. I was doing the dishes while listening to you and suddenly a tear was falling on my cheek... I feel you. I've moved 10 times in my whole life (I'm 29) and it's not easy.
I think having emotional attachment towards some things makes us human. Even if the memories are not fully in these things... Sometimes it helps to remind us the speed of time.
So don't feel guilty about keeping a few things. I believe to some degree it's actually healthy.
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Can't wait for the next video !
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Aski. I agree, keeping the things that have good memories and bring joy into your life is defiantly worth keeping.
Congratulations! Huge achievement. I've downsized through three long-distance moves, and fifteen years on, am again drowning under excess stuff. I've been de-cluttering daily for months, and it is emotionally exhausting. Looking forward to seeing your "Next Chapter"!
Yes, sometimes we allow things to own us, but concepts and labels can own us too, even minimalism. It’s hard to live without labels.
You are so bold taking that step to freedom, especially since you expressed how you treasured so much of what you did own.
OMG I cannot wait to hear about your next chapter!!!!!!! Bravo Connie...my favorite "influencer"!!!!
Thanks so much, Gail! I'm so glad you enjoy my content and support my channel!
Thank you for your moving and emotional revelation of coming home to yourself. I wish you peace.
Your video brought me to tears, Connie. This is such an honest and meaningful video. I could see the tears in your eyes when describing how difficult it was for you to discard the items that you had had for so long. But, as you said, these things do not define us. You are brave and will move on to great and better things. Mostly peace and contentment.
It was very emotional for me. But, new adventures are worth big changes. Thanks for your support!
This is one of the best minimalist videos I have ever seen on You Tube. It made me get a lump in my throat several times and I don't consider myself to be that sentimental about things. I cannot wait to see your next video.
Congratulations on your next journey, whatever it may be! I hope you are getting a tiny house or living in an RV full time! That is my dream!
When you say “liberating” I know exactly what it is and how it feels even though I am not quite a minimalist yet. I feel encouraged that I will not be alone in this journey to my authentic self with little (I don’t dare to say “no”) attachment to creatures. Thank you for the video.
Connie, this video is very inspiring for me. I have been living in India for 17 years (15 of which were spent taking care of my mom), but now would like to consider other options. However, my possessions and papers, and especially my books and journals, have been a hindrance to making new choices of where I live. You give me added courage to strongly consider getting rid of most of my stuff, so that I am free to choose to travel and to live in new places. Thank you ever so much. 🙏🙏🙏
I am very proud of you. Pray for me I am desperately decluttering now
I hope you aren't going to extremes. Moderation is a good thing. Decluttering should make you feel happier and not be a self-deprivation thing, which this seems to be.
This was so emotionally beautiful; and for reasons I cannot even explain. I felt your heart in this one, Connie.
I cannot wait to see where your life is about to bring you. Wherever that is…..I know it will be amazing. ♥️🙏🏼
AWE! Thank you
Thanks for this, I will never be someone to get rid of my grandmas cookie jar, or the special memory box with the dog collars ....but I am glad you have found your "happy" we truly all have our own journey
Oh my goodness I’m stunned and sitting wide mouthed! Looking forward to the new chapter because, wow, this takes bravery to a new level.
AWE! Thanks so much, Sharon.
Having accumulated so much stuff over the years. I've learned it's just stuff! When I was young I had nothing. Having exceeded my own expectations in life it's not what you have but what you do for others!
Connie what a beautiful presentation. You're right, downsizing the family photos and my grown children's baby items has been really tough. I've been downsizing since 2019. Have made tremendous progress but there's always "more" us moms hold onto! Thank you for your encouragement and inspiration
Thank you for watching! The pictures, baby clothes, and Christmas decor were the toughest things to part with.
I've told this story before on a decluttering channel. My daughter is 32. I recently went through the boxes I've saved for her. She was completely grossed out by her lost tooth collection complete with the letters she wrote to the tooth fairy. So I tossed them. About two days later I woke in a panic and considered digging through the trash. When do they collect it? What day was it? I made it through the night. Several days later I came across her little curl from her first haircut. I did keep that. 😊
You are just the voice I was looking for before I faced my wardrobe. Thank you!
What an emotional, yet inspiring video, Connie! Emotional: letting go of sentimental items especially your children's clothes, blankets, and toys. You're a brave woman and I hope to someday be this brave. I have a VERY long way left to go. I'm in the beginning stages of decluttering and still have so many things to go through. Thanks for your thoughts, openness, and love to us all. May God guide and bless you on your minimalist journey. Cannot wait to see the next video!!! Take good care of yourself.
OH! Thank you so much
Just the music playing, was making me want to cry!😢 I just went through my childhood things the other day, since I recently moved, and I just can’t let them go. I can’t comprehend doing what you did, but I can’t wait to see your new adventure!🎉
Your video inspires me to continue my minimalism journey. Nobody gets my journey, and that's ok.
It's YOUR journey. No one else needs to get it.
Blessings and joy to you on it :)
Your life choices are not for others. They are to bring you joy and peace in your life.
You have liberated yourself and have inspired me on giving up on materialistic possessions so thank you
Oh Connie such an emotional video. I think it’s not the material things we are attached to so much it’s more the memories that they stir up inside us. Of course the memories live on with or without the items. I think what Marie Kondo suggests is really helpful for letting go of items. She says to thank the item for its service or the happiness etc it brought us and then wish it well for the next person who is going to enjoy it. That way you are actually emotionally saying goodbye to something and accepting it. It’s only when we get rid of something and view it as losing something then it becomes extra hard. I think it was really brave of you to get rid of so much. However, I’m sure it was well worth it for your next adventure. ❤
Knowing someone else will generate their own happy memories with a donated item does help. I gave away my beautiful wedding dress after finally deciding it was wrong to keep it wrapped in plastic tucked away in a closet when someone else might love it and appreciate wearing it on their special day. It was hard, but once it was gone ... it really didn't matter that I no longer owned it. I am not there on the selected baby items I keep. They are still too cherished to give away ...
Thank for your support. Great idea! Send the item gratitude and let it be a gift to someone else.
Connie you are all of us that follow your channel. This video brought tears to my eyes and best of everything to you & your husband on your new journey.
You really inspire me and a whole lot of other people, you’ve changed us all for the better. Sorry to hear of the tough times you’ve had Connie xx
OH, thanks Eileen.
This brought tears to my eyes. Ive struggled with getting rid of things at times, although other times I have also given away alot. I'm ready to start a new chapter in my life as well and need to also gain the courage to get rid of perhaps 85-90% of my things.
Hi Connie: Wow! That took a lot of courage to do. Even though we can't take our material things when we die, it's still difficult to let them go. You are fully embracing simplicity and I sense you are about to embark on a new spiritual chapter in your life. I wish you well on your journey. Peace and Namaste, Jenny ☮🕉❤🙏
Thank you for your well wishes and encouragement! Happiness & peace my friend
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Oh my, thank you for sharing your vulnerable feelings. I was tearing up along with you. I'm pretty new to your channel and appreciate you so very much.
My husband and I did exactly the very same thing.
Many people stay put for various reasons, kids, aging parents or job etc..
I cannot believe how freeing it was.
About 15 years ago we were camping with our children and a couple had just so ld Everything! They were going to journey across the states. At that poi t I imagined that but said to myself you going to have to wait.
Like Connie I have children in different parts of the states. As they began to move to other parts of the states we too sold Everthring.
What little we did hang onto was washed away in the past hurricane. Almost as if the the universe was saying -em you stated you wanted to be a minimalist so here ya go. In an instant we e were really starting over from scratch. IMO IAN happened FOR me and not To me.
Now we are living our best life [still in the US] however, we are transitioning into very tiny living. ❤️ in which I love.
I basically have zero responsibility except for ourselves. We shop and eat local 😋
We are currently doing research now to even take nomadic living to the next level.
Every day the canvas is wide open to paint a new picture and I can't even begin to tell you how much fun it truly is.
✌️ ☮️ peace and light to all
I have the impression that your external exercise that you are going through is ongoing preparation for ascension! Congratulations on becoming your true authentic self!❤I am so grateful for your honesty and inspiring us to become truthful to ourselves and others!🙏🏻
I have packed and moved so many times in my life! After having read Marie Kondo's book
and "Goodbye Things" and Karen Kingston's book about decluttering, I have been through many iterations of "downsizing." Now I live in a cabin that is exactly the right size for me, with furniture that I got second-hand (some free, some for minimal cost), and very little from my past life except photos and a few things that are useful or do have some sentimental attachment that take up very little space. That said, having grown up with very little, and having never had much money, I do enjoy acquiring certain things that I really, really like that are free or very low cost. But I'm not so attached to them that when their time comes they can't go too. I continue to pare down, but I really like the idea that some day most of this will be gone too!
I was tearing up, halfway through the video. It really resonates with me. I would love to just get rid of stuff and I have a travelers heart but I'm just stuck for now. Wanting to get rid of most of my possessions but I would cry. I've been on my minimal journey since 2021 and I'm getting there. Shifting my mindset habits. Thank you for posting this video, I cannot wait to hear about your new chapter, new adventures 🥰⚘
Can you please go ahead and post the next video like…. RIGHT NOW? 😂
Duan. Laughing. ha ha .. AGREE !!!!! :-)))))
Yes please! This is a cliff hanger!
Very interested too 😊
I'm glad you are excited to see it!
Yes please 🙏 😊
Dear Connie, I don't know where to start... this video has made me cry and think a lot , you always open your heart and say what you feel, I admire you and appreciate you Thank you for so much, kisses and hugs 🥰😘🤗
Connie and family, what an emotional video. Thank you for making such a raw and beautiful video. We are trying to go as minimalist as we can for the first time. I write this as there’s boxes around me. I teared up when I saw your grandmas jar and your daughters baby blanket being packed up. What a wonderful thought that you’ve given someone else an opportunity to love on them and cherish them💕 during the video I couldn’t help but wonder if you are moving to where your grand baby is☺️☺️
Thank you for your kind words. Each of my girls got one of the glass jars. The legacy of Great-Great- Grandma's jars lives on with my daughters.
Your authentic self is astonishingly beautiful. Congratulations 🎉 and thank you
Wow this video was a little depressing, especially with the somber music. I can’t believe you got rid of your grandmother’s antique jars! I always loved seeing them when you cooked. I hope the next video comes out soon. I am hoping it will be more uplifting! 😢
Thank you for this real insight Connie. Just the video I have been waiting for. I have got rid of about 70% of my posessions and it has changd my life. Im ready to go further. The memories of the past are valid but they become burdensome. Looking through the comments, I am stunned how this video has triggered so many people. We werent meant to have so much stuff. Think about other life vocations. What if someone joined religious life - they too would have to leave all of their possesions behind. What about your children? I would say that THEY are our most treasured - but we dont stop them from forging their own path and creating their own life. When I feel things creeping back into my home, I think of Miss Havisham, alone, surrounded by all of her possesions covered in dust and motheaten. This has been such an inspiring video. Thank you again for creating it. Blessings to you for the year ahead.
Can't wait to hear what the next chapter will be
I’m the youngest of four girls and have two brothers and grew up in the 70s and 80s. I was like you and got lots of hand me downs. Like you, I cherished the things that did come my way. I’ve been on a minimalist journey for quite a few years but still have a way to go. Sentimental things are definitely the hardest. A couple of years ago I gave away my cherished dolls. Occasionally I get the thought that I wish I still had them but then I realise if I did, they’d be in my drawer taking up space but never played with. It’s important to live in the present but can be so hard to let go of some things from the past. It must be so freeing not to have lots of possessions to manage, I’m so excited to learn about your next adventure. 💕
I love this as I'm always on the lookout for extreme minimalism advice and videos, and this is one of the most emotional yet much needed videos on decluttering sentimental I've ever seen.
I'm glad it resonated with you!