Keep in mind that the bride and her ex are in their mid-20’s so most of her friends probably are too. People that age, like the bride, don’t always know how to stand up for themselves and just fold like a deck chair. Their advice was bad but not meant, I think, with any malicious intent.
Its incredible how you turned this awful situation into a positive one. Donating the dress and ring, taking your sister on the trip... youre an inspiration.
Its easy to get caught up in the fairytale idea of a wedding, but its important to remember that marriage is about building a life together, not pleasing your in-laws.
I could understand if it was say OP grandmothers dress or mothers dress and she wanted to wear it but make some changes to make it suit her taste, but never in a million years should the ex push her to wear his mothers dress.
I feel so sorry you had to go through that. No one should deal with such a toxic mother-in-law and a fiancé without a spine. You deserve so much better. Proud of you for standing your ground.
Reading this whole saga has been a wild ride. Im so relieved you got out of that toxic dynamic. Sending you strength and positive vibes for your healing journey.
his ‘mothers toxicity’ not his ABUSIVE character. Please blame men for their own shit. In laws can be shit, but if your husband is willing to hit you , then he is the problem
You handled this with so much grace, even after all their manipulative tactics. Going on the honeymoon with your sister instead? That’s such a boss move.
This whole story was a rollercoaster, but your decision to prioritize your happiness is so empowering. More people need to hear stories like this and know their worth.
Facing challenges in relationships is part of the journey, but there’s always a way forward. My marriage encountered significant issues, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to overcome them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are attainable if you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate. Keep your hope-solutions are out there.
I’m facing major problems in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her greatly and am prepared to do whatever is necessary to have her return. I’d be deeply grateful for any advice or guidance you can offer.
Moving away from someone you hold close is invariably tough, but in my particular situation, I was supported by a spiritual counselor who prevented the unraveling of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
“Solutions are out there” may be true for some relationships, but the one with this MIL, who is so deeply flawed & hateful, is NOT one where any sensible person can do anything but run, far, far away! In this “relationship” with that MIL, she would have been held hostage!
I got physical with her ,there is no way that relationship is salvagable . Never got back together with a man who hurt you ,it will only escalate further !
I can’t believe the nerve of his mom acting like she had control over your wedding. And the fact he just went along with it? That’s insane. It’s your special day, not hers.
Putting mother's wishes above anything else is one but slapping ans intimidating someone so your mom can get her way... Girl I hope you ran instead of walking away.
TY for that! Having been someone who “settled” & ended up precariously close to bankruptcy? I can affirm that escaping by the skin of your teeth is perfectly ok! 👍♥
her family doesn't believe in wearing the same dress since some families pass down a wedding dress you need to find out if her family believes in that.
Even though we might never meet, my best wishes are with everyone who reads this. I wish you happiness, success, and prosperity in every aspect of your life.
--- Did OP go to the police and file assault charges? Tell your ex future MIL where she can go and how to get there. Ex-fiance will never have any luck finding or keeping a partner unless it's a mommy's princess. The two MIL's will be so involved in competing with each other on which one has control of the newlyweds, that the couple will be able to make their own decisions. Glad OP got off the crazy train.
OP dodged a megaton bomb imagine the other women who will dump when they find out what a momma's boy, he is & how controlling his mom is he'll be alone until he hits his 60s.
He really thought you’d be okay with wearing his mom’s old wedding dress? I’m starting to think he never actually respected your choices from the beginning.
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The fact that your friends were like "just wear the dress to keep the peace" blows my mind. Not real friends.
Keep in mind that the bride and her ex are in their mid-20’s so most of her friends probably are too. People that age, like the bride, don’t always know how to stand up for themselves and just fold like a deck chair. Their advice was bad but not meant, I think, with any malicious intent.
Its incredible how you turned this awful situation into a positive one. Donating the dress and ring, taking your sister on the trip... youre an inspiration.
Its easy to get caught up in the fairytale idea of a wedding, but its important to remember that marriage is about building a life together, not pleasing your in-laws.
Good on you for walking away. The physical abuse just shows how bad it was going to get.
This story resonates with so many people whove dealt with toxic family dynamics. Its a reminder that were not alone.
Youre a warrior, OP. Keep shining bright and never let anyone dull your sparkle.
Who in their right mind thinks someone should wear a 30-year-old dress without even being asked first?
I could understand if it was say OP grandmothers dress or mothers dress and she wanted to wear it but make some changes to make it suit her taste, but never in a million years should the ex push her to wear his mothers dress.
Im so emotionally invested in this saga. OP, youre a fantastic storyteller. I cant wait to hear about your solo trip!
Good on you for filing that restraining order. Always protect yourself, no matter what.
I feel so sorry you had to go through that. No one should deal with such a toxic mother-in-law and a fiancé without a spine. You deserve so much better. Proud of you for standing your ground.
Reading this whole saga has been a wild ride. Im so relieved you got out of that toxic dynamic. Sending you strength and positive vibes for your healing journey.
Good for you for calling it off! That's not a marriage, it's a hostage situation with his mother as the warden.
OP, I admire your strength and resilience. This experience will shape you into an even more amazing person.
Youre so brave for sharing your story. It will undoubtedly help others recognize red flags and find the strength to leave toxic relationships.
His mom's wedding dress probably has shoulder pads and a giant bow. Fashion nightmare!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I wouldn't be surprised if mommie dearest was planning to wear a long white (not yellowed with age) dress to the now canceled wedding.
I bet his mom still has her hair in a perm and wears blue eyeshadow. Bless her heart.
Had to laugh @ the “bless her heart.” Its such a lovely slam, & no one more deserving!👍
Its heartbreaking to see how his mothers toxicity destroyed your relationship. I hope she realizes the damage shes caused.
his ‘mothers toxicity’ not his ABUSIVE character. Please blame men for their own shit. In laws can be shit, but if your husband is willing to hit you , then he is the problem
@@iamshakuri Damn right!
You handled this with so much grace, even after all their manipulative tactics. Going on the honeymoon with your sister instead? That’s such a boss move.
OP, you are SO strong. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself and walking away from that toxic situation.
It takes courage to walk away from a toxic relationship. You did the right thing.
I’m so sorry you went through this. At least you got out before the wedding. That’s strength.
This story is a rollercoaster of emotions. I'm angry, sad, and relieved all at the same time.
Donating your dress was such a beautiful thing to do after everything. You’ve got class.
This whole story was a rollercoaster, but your decision to prioritize your happiness is so empowering. More people need to hear stories like this and know their worth.
Im rooting for you, OP. Please keep us updated on your solo trip and your healing process.
Selling the ring and donating the money? That's such a classy move. Kudos.
OP, youre a queen for standing up to them. Dont let them get away with this.
This story hits close to home. I'm glad you found the strength to leave.
This is why its important to set boundaries early in a relationship. Glad you got out!
Girl, turning that honeymoon into a sister trip was the BEST move. Bali sounds like a dream.
It takes courage to walk away from a toxic situation, even when it's hard.
Its good that youre setting boundaries with his family. Dont let them guilt-trip you.
Bali with your sister sounds amazing! Enjoy every moment of your freedom!
Sometimes the hardest decisions are the best ones. You chose yourself, and thats something to be proud of.
not really a hard decision she thought she was marrying her ex, not his mother.
I'm so invested in this story. OP, please keep us updated!
Turning the wedding venue into a birthday party is genius! Celebrate your freedom!
Ive been there, done that. Its not easy to break free, but its so worth it in the end. Youll find happiness again.
OP, you deserve so much better than that toxic family.
It’s so sad how you gave five years to someone who never fully had your back. I hope you find someone who truly values and supports you.
This story is a reminder that we should never compromise our self-worth for anyone.
You're going to come out of this stronger and wiser. Keep your head up!
OP, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I know how painful it can be.
OP, you dodged a bullet and a fashion faux pas. Win-win!
👍♥🤣♥😁♥👍
A mutual no-contact order was the best thing for you. Keep those boundaries strong.
OP, youre so strong for standing up for yourself. Sending you virtual hugs!
FINALY! A Woman with a backbone… good for OP! She dodged a bullet!
Thank you
Slapping you proves he was never going to have your back in life. Run, girl, and don’t look back.
It proves he’s a domestic abuser.
Im so proud of you for prioritizing your own happiness. You go, girl!
His dad apologizing was unexpected, but at least one person in that family has some sense.
Im glad youre taking legal action. They need to face consequences for their actions.
This story is a powerful reminder that love isnt enough to sustain a healthy relationship. Respect, communication, and shared values are crucial.
OP, you're better off single than married to a dude who can't even pick out his own socks.
Facing challenges in relationships is part of the journey, but there’s always a way forward. My marriage encountered significant issues, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to overcome them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are attainable if you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate. Keep your hope-solutions are out there.
I’m facing major problems in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her greatly and am prepared to do whatever is necessary to have her return. I’d be deeply grateful for any advice or guidance you can offer.
Moving away from someone you hold close is invariably tough, but in my particular situation, I was supported by a spiritual counselor who prevented the unraveling of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
@@EllyzGoodwill Thanks alot. I will check her out on-line
“Solutions are out there” may be true for some relationships, but the one with this MIL, who is so deeply flawed & hateful, is NOT one where any sensible person can do anything but run, far, far away! In this “relationship” with that MIL, she would have been held hostage!
I got physical with her ,there is no way that relationship is salvagable . Never got back together with a man who hurt you ,it will only escalate further !
You dodged a bullet! Nobody deserves to be treated like that, especially not by someone who's supposed to love and respect you.
I cant imagine going through something like this. Sending you love and strength.
Youre an inspiration to anyone whos ever been in a controlling relationship.
Dont let this experience define you. Youre strong and resilient, and youll come out of this even stronger.
Your story is a reminder that we cant change other people. We can only control our own actions.
Im disgusted by his behavior. A real man would stand up for his partner, not cower behind his mommys skirt.
This is what happens when people dont set boundaries. Your ex-fiancé and his mother needed a reality check, and you gave it to them. You go, girl!
Yeah, she did set boundaries. Unfortunately, fiance’ & MIL don’t know what those are.
The fact that she’s trying to guilt your family now just shows how manipulative she is. Stay strong.
I can’t believe the nerve of his mom acting like she had control over your wedding. And the fact he just went along with it? That’s insane. It’s your special day, not hers.
My heart breaks for you, OP. This must be so painful.
Im so glad youre focusing on your career and personal growth. Youve got this!
Him running back to his mom every time things got hard says it all. You were never his priority.
Putting mother's wishes above anything else is one but slapping ans intimidating someone so your mom can get her way... Girl I hope you ran instead of walking away.
Im amazed by your resilience and sense of humor. Youre going to conquer the world, OP!
He only liked your dress because he thought it’s what you wanted? What a cop-out.
I am so terribly horrified by this. I'm so happy you're not with him. Have fun with the rest of your life.
Wishing you all the best as you move forward and embrace new opportunities in life!
This is a reminder that we should never settle for less than we deserve in a relationship.
TY for that! Having been someone who “settled” & ended up precariously close to bankruptcy? I can affirm that escaping by the skin of your teeth is perfectly ok! 👍♥
The fact that he slapped you is horrifying. Please never look back. That’s pure abuse.
Dont rush into dating again. Take time to heal and rediscover yourself.
This story is a reminder that abuse can happen to anyone. Stay strong, OP.
This whole thing feels like one big red flag after another. Glad you saw it before it was too late.
I hope the restraining order goes through. You need protection from those psychos.
If its a "stupid dress" then why do you care what she wears
her family doesn't believe in wearing the same dress since some families pass down a wedding dress you need to find out if her family believes in that.
This is why I'm never getting married. Too much drama!
Im so sorry your fiancé turned out to be such a disappointment.
This story is heartbreaking but inspiring. You're going to find someone who truly deserves you, OP.
OP, you might want to consider talking to a lawyer about the slap. Thats assault.
Even though we might never meet, my best wishes are with everyone who reads this. I wish you happiness, success, and prosperity in every aspect of your life.
Same to you.
You really turned lemons into lemonade with that birthday party. Way to turn things around.
Im going to share this story with all my friends. Its a must-read for anyone considering marriage.
I feel sorry for your ex in a way. Hes clearly been brainwashed by his mother, but hes also an adult who needs to take accountability for his actions.
--- Did OP go to the police and file assault charges? Tell your ex future MIL where she can go and how to get there. Ex-fiance will never have any luck finding or keeping a partner unless it's a mommy's princess. The two MIL's will be so involved in competing with each other on which one has control of the newlyweds, that the couple will be able to make their own decisions. Glad OP got off the crazy train.
It’s not just the dress; it’s about him showing you he doesn’t respect your choices. Huge red flag.
OP dodged a megaton bomb imagine the other women who will dump when they find out what a momma's boy, he is & how controlling his mom is he'll be alone until he hits his 60s.
If OP recognized these red flags early, it might save her a lot of heartache in the long run
This story is wild! I can't believe people like this exist.
Yep. But they do.
This story highlights the importance of setting boundaries early in a relationship.
You’re better off without that whole family. A lifetime of drama would’ve come with the wedding.
Im raising a glass to you tonight, OP. Cheers to new beginnings and a brighter future!
This story brought back so many memories of my own toxic ex-mother-in-law. Im so glad you got out before it was too late.
This story makes my blood boil. OP, please dont ever let anyone treat you like that again. You are worthy of love and respect.
Continue focusing on your own growth and happiness. You deserve a life filled with joy and fulfillment.
Youre not alone in this. Many people have experienced similar situations.
He’s acting like YOU ruined the wedding when his entire family made it impossible for you. Wild.
Why are so many guys mama's boys? You deserve better, and I’m glad you got out. Good for you.
I don’t get how he thought siding with his mom and disrespecting you would turn out okay for him. Like, what did he honestly think would happen?
He really thought you’d be okay with wearing his mom’s old wedding dress? I’m starting to think he never actually respected your choices from the beginning.