I have really come to love this guy's professional wisdom. His live TV show does not justice for his actual ability to educate and coach people. I love this format WAY better!
This man is literally why I’m still breathing. He’s so insightful and supportive. I can’t count how many therapists I’ve paid in the past where I feel It was such a waste of time. Not with Dr. Phil. Every time I listen to him, there is always a positive take away!
Totally agree. I've wasted much money in my lifetime, to counsellors who have been off little or no benefit. I love Dr Phil because he's so wise, experienced, ethical and honest. Very straight and highly caring. He's such a good mentor.
Agreed. He is fantastic. Not every professional is the best. I imagine like any profession, only the top of the class are worth a damn. I’ve experienced a string of lousy therapists too. The baiters and I love that term! The baiters are one by one being blocked. Not many people left lol.
Hello. When Dr. Phil said that all you need to do is to relax, does he mean have a designated time and place to practice relaxation like being home alone, or does he mean to learn to stay relaxed in stressful situations like being around your toxic family?
My wife asked what I was watching, and I said it was about how to organise the garage to go discipline myself in it. She just giggled. She called out ten minutes later after watching the first part herself, saying she would slip into something more uncomfortable to come out and help. One of my rules is to never place trust in someone who seeks to undermine your trust in yourself. While it stands to reason, it's important because the world is full of people who think being related to someone gives them a free pass, and a sweeping set of entitlements.
Loved your Theodore Quote! Lie to a liar, for lies are his coin, steal from a thief, for that is easy, lay a trap for a trickster and catch him at first attempt, but beware of an honest man.
I’ve had a lot of problems my whole life with relationships and boundaries. Like a lot of commenters on here I agree that I haven’t ever come across any video or help that was as spot on and life changing . Dr. Phil is a very special person and does have wisdom and knowledge like very few . He’s very appreciated wether he knows it or not . Thank you dr. Phil
This is so important and just packed full of wisdom. I’ve been watching the podcasts and I really feel how Dr. Phil cares about people, has a mastery of the topics and he also just says it like it is. I’d rather see more of these podcasts and less of the TV show. This is where you show us who you are, Dr. Phil. And I like this version of you very, very much!
Thank you Dr Phil. I first saw you on Oprah’s show, then read your book “Life Matters”. It was at a difficult time in my life after I’d been in a motor vehicle accident & had sustained a serious spinal fracture. I had been told that I would never work again. I became depressed. I was solely responsible for my three sons whose father had abandoned them physically, financially & emotionally. I was in a relationship with a narcissist who took advantage of my vulnerability. Your book saved me!!! Over a period of years I got myself out of the hole I was in; recovered from the injury enough to return to Nursing (a “no lift” policy had come into force in Australian hospitals) & regained financial independence. My GP was astounded. She wanted to know how I had done it. And I told her about your book & your TV programs. She said that I was one of a few to get back in to work after such circumstances. I inspired my GP & I was very proud of myself. As scary as it was to start over, I had all of your inspirations to reflect upon to give me courage. Thank you! Thank you a million times over Dr Phil. xx
This has been so helpful, and the timing is impeccable. I had some major life changes that had me doing so many tasks for survival. It is time to slow my mind, to be intentional, to move from survival mode into thriving. Thank you for the series, for your service to the public and contribution to improving my mental health. So very appreciative.
This series has truly helped to validate some steps I knew I had to take to rid myself of 2 people in my life who were sucking me dry. In the past 10 months I ended a very toxic friendship with a woman who is borderline personality disorder and set boundaries with an older cousin who is a covert narcissist. That relationship ended when she exploded at my attempt to set my boundaries. I pray both of those women get the help they need and I wish them well, but I could no longer allow them to drag me down. Dr Phil, thank you so much for this series. I’m going to tell my daughters about it as I believe it will help them too. ❤️
Thank you for this warm and personal episode. So much of what you said resonated with where I am in my life now. It's taken me 61 years so far but I'm getting there!
I have very strong passions! I love being a mom to my 10 yr old daughter. I love horses, skiing, and animals. I love gardening, traveling, the beach, lakes, and mountains. I love nature and children. I love creating art and was a designer for 2o years but left the industry burnt out. Got my masters in education but did not like working in rigid school. Was not for me. Dr. Phil, my passions cost me money and don't make me money. I've seriously tried. I need money. I need to find a way to make money off my passions. Just feeling stuck but I won't give up.
I love Phil in the Blanks so much, it is really helping get through dealing with my ex who I do believe based of the baiter and what else I have listened to is a sociopath, I dealt with narcissist before and thats bad enough, but this what I am experiencing now is a little bit extra than that, like nothing I have ever seen and my therapist confirmed it, he is a dangerous person and he good looking, charming and charismatic when you first meet him, but seeks to destroy your life once he has got you.. This series has helped me get through in what is still looming around, but hopefully will be over soon.. I love your passion Dr Phil to help others. You're a legend
I love how Dr.Phil shares this insight with the world and doesn’t charge a penny! He could easily keep it to himself, he is one of the most famous psychiatrists in the world, but he takes the time to go into detail and share and help. This stuff is truly helpful, and it feels like it’s coming from a good friend. Love it!
@@verovill987 To be a psychiatrist one need to be a MD too, otherwise it’s just a psychologist. But I agreed that Dr Phil is way better than most official psychiatrists.
To illustrate what Dr. Phil is saying toward the end about passion...: Once a long time ago, we had bought a small piece of land. I would wake up while it was still dark and stare at the window in eager anticipation for the first light of day (like a little kid waiting for Santa on Christmas), so I could get outside and take care of our little hobby farm. Nobody in my family understood my passion... Years later I had the same kind of passion for a business I wanted to start and I couldn't wait for daybreak and I'd run downstairs to start working arranging flowers. I'd have to FORCE myself to take breaks. *Anyway, passions are wonderful!
6 minutes in, and I already know this will be good! Thank you so much for delivering the truth and not just simply saying what people want to hear. Relaxation is the hardest thing ever after a lifetime of toxic personalities but very necessary! Edit: This felt like a warm hug. Thank you for all that you do! This was essential. If folks apply this, they'll definitely see the positive results!
I don't leave many comments but this is so amazing I have to say thank you. This is one of the best episodes ever. (in 22 years). I am 72 years young and in the throes of yet another narcissistic relationship. It seems to be a life long curse for me. This helped. Love and blessings to you Dr. Phil
I Love that Dr. Phil quoted Teddy Roosevelt. So inspiring. Don't listen to the Naysayers. Toxic People have No Place in Your Life. Say Goodbye. Live your Life.... Enjoy Yourself ❤❤❤❤❤.
PS. Hey Dr Phil. Just to add to what I wrote earlier; you gave me the tools to save myself. I went back to Nursing; got a fantastic job in a Cardiac Unit which I absolutely loved!! It was the best time because I learned so much & grew so much; I was on a high!! I was passionate and happy & successful & was surrounded by people who were supportive & encouraging. Eventually the relationship with the narcissist ended, but that was the worst time in my life because of how these people tend to behave. xx
I'm guilty of thinking about things someone said to me that I should have responded to. Like tell them that is rude an don't talk to me that way. Instead I get silent . I do this because I am usually shocked someone is so clueless. Then it eats at me for not punching back. Working on getting better at that.
I also did that, & later it ate me up inside, I wish I did more back then, I know better now, I speak up for myself, especially with my family, hurt people really do hurt people God bless
I think as well Coco, that if you're the type of person who wouldn't say something hurtful to someone else, you're absolutely stunned when they say something hurtful to you. That's what freezes you. We're all wonderful at thinking of replies later in the day! lol! You're not alone!
I've wasted much money and time, in my lifetime, to counsellors who have been of little or no benefit. I love Dr Phil because he's so wise, experienced, ethical and honest. Very straight and highly caring. He's such a good mentor.
Thank you, I was so alone in my thoughts and life. Couldn’t understand the cycle I’ve been subjected to so I kept on the ride. I got the insight from you to save myself
The best video you have ever done and I’ve followed, Fill in the Blanks. I will listen to this everyday until I have every word memorized. I have got to fix my life!! Thanks for this Dr. Phil. I greatly appreciate your work.
To YOU, I would take a knee. Please don't stop anytime soon. The world desperately needs what you are sharing. Writing things down rather than ruminate on them will be life changing. I recenly terminated old toxic friendships and my cluttered rooms are next because you're right...fresh air..alpine- fresh air.
Hey you, clean up your mind, don't carry the guilt trips, aknowledge and change them. What you give power to will have power over you. Social circle CLEAN UP.. STOP NEEDING PEOPLE WHO DON'T NEED YOU!!!! I'd rather be healthy alone then sick with someone else. The right one won't run away from you. Quit chasing them. Have faith in yourself and then trust in those who earn it. Thanks Dr.Phil Here's to a great 2022
I'm in my 60s and I'm happy to be called a girl. I've always referred to the staff in my office as 'the girls'. No one has ever taken offence thus far. Probably because my whole attitude is one of care, respect, love and support to others. In my experience people often focus on the wrong things. They let bullies and manipulative people get away with some really bad stuff, but then get wound up with a particularly word. More focus should be put on people's actual behaviour, than what they say. Love to everyone reading this. ❤️
This was very insightful and helped me a great deal.... ive never watched or heard of this podcast but it found me at the perfect time. wishing all reading strength and love in hard times
I recognize how much effort you put into this Dr Phil. I needed the information because I have been timid and afraid of failing. I have had a serious problem making a durable decision to leave a toxic relationship. I recognize that I have been fence straddled by me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for doing this series!!! I had lost my vision and purpose through becoming separated from my husband of 50 years, 54 years this year, because of physiological abuse. This has helped to reignite the passion that I had for the Word of God. Nothing ever gave me greater joy than to share the goodness and mercy of God to people. I didn't think I could ever find my way back. Blessings to you and your family!❤
Loved it. Loved all of it. I've been really working on this for the past 2 and a 1/2 years all of what you've been talking about. I had to cut out most friends because they were toxic. I had to cut off relationships with both parents and most of my family. My brother I keep in touch with. I got a good therapist.
I think one needs to be cautious when making themself indispensable. You will wind up with another group of narcissists saddling up to ride you again unless you learn to create and enforce boundaries first.
That is so sad to read. I am so sorry. I hope you can motivate her to get the help she needs. People do not understand the power.of.psychological abuse. It's far worse than the physical abuse. Again, so very sorry.
@@LoveyLand if she's saying she's lost then as her mother she clearly knows her daughters regular pattern of behavior enough to recognize something is amiss. Why must people be so condescending about situations they aren't totally privy to
@@Myglowupisinsideout gurrrl or maybe her moms a crackhead. We can play guessing game but news flash. Parents do not own their adult children. And parents can b bad people too lololol
Thank you Dr Phill! Your words…..your messages … are profound! I need this video constantly looping through out my day. I’ve been like this for 51 years and it’s going to take a lot time and effort to truly change my way of thinking.🥺. BUT… that’s what I have to do,if I want to change! Btw this was one of my favorite videos! I downloaded it for easy access and as a reminder of what I need to do. Again, thank you 🙏 for sharing and caring! YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!
I never had someone to talk about things when young,interested in keeping us sheltered ,thanks for the direction ,the conversation, the insight, in my life people do the same thing for a lifetime,died of emphaseyma , died an alcoholic, was angry and ungrateful till the day they died never challenged themselves or lived in denial, your conversation has woken me up,god bless
I just discovered your podcast, and its now my best friend while I drive to/from work. Its so great. You are so great! Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom 🙏🏻
I am blown away by this series which I recently came across while listening to other videos on Narcissism. I used to watch Dr. Phil’s show for entertainment as few of the subjects resonated personally with me. They seemed too extreme usually. But this series SPEAKS directly to me as one who has endured many decades of relationships with toxic family members and friends …many of whom I felt obliged to remain close to. And now with grown daughters who are reeling with the same as they find out who they are and what they want their lives to look like. Presently, my own 43 year old daughter is in the process of ending her marriage to a toxic narcissist, a man we all came to love and treat as a son , while being fooled by his quick, glib , controlling ways. Suddenly, the truth is staring us all in the face. We all feel betrayed. We all feel duped. But now , listening to this series with REAL solutions, is so mind-freeing and pivotal to moving ahead without only sadness or anger filling us up. Thank you SO MUCH Dr. Phil. I think this is truly the best work you have done and most certainly the BEST advice and explanation I have EVER HEARD (having had numerous counsellors, groups over the decades) on the subject of toxic people and relationships. I shall share this as widely as possible and I shall re-listen to each part as daily therapy. Thankfully, my daughter has latched onto the gravity of your wisdom also. All the best. Shawn Freeman Craig (age 75 , mother, grandmother, wife, 55 years a Physiotherapist)
Dr Phil I know a few people who don't like you at all but the more I listen to you the more I like you. You've got great advice and you make a whole lot of SENSE! Thank you for all you do. 👍 You're cool! 😎
Dr Phil you're truly an inspiration to me. Each morning I start listening to your talks. It's powerfully empowering. Decluttering my mind for a better future
I've journaled and written my list for years. I don't need to remember those things because they're on the paper. I proudly cross things off as they are taken care of. The busyness of my mind is calmed so much. ❤
I had my passion for over 40 yrs. I blocked it out when personal trauma bombarded me and I blamed that passion for missing time where others thought I should be. I've recently taken steps to reengage with that passion
Thank you for this series. I have recently stopped a toxic person from sharing my life. I can’t be involved with him. He’s in it for himself. I can’t solve his problems. He was bringing me down. It’s very difficult to cut someone you love off. But I have to give myself permission to do this. I deserve someone who really loves me. I need someone in my life who values me. It can’t be one sided. I choose not to dislike this person. But that doesn’t mean I want them in my life anymore.
❤I just want to thank you. You have no idea how you have helped me. I drop my husband off to work at 4am Monday - Friday. I Bluetooth my phone to my car radio. I listen all the way home everyday ❤
How do you stop needing people who don't need you? My son in law is a malignant covert narcissist that has systematically turned our daughter against every member of our family through his lies and manipulation and has her isolated from all of us. Do we just walk away and pretend we never had a daughter? How can we help her? His lies already cost her her first child and now she is expecting another. Just keep letting him get away with it? Dr Phil, please address how the parents of children who are caught in one of these dangerous relationships. Its heartbreaking and I can't find anything about this. I know we are not the only parents in this situation. Please help.
Amazing for me to listening this Dr Phill, I feel You are talking to me! I will apply what you saying, I promise. Thank you so much. God continue blessing you and you family!!!
Listening to Dr Phil has made me to realize I have been bullied and controlled put down disrespected all of my life by my sister who is only 1 year older than me I knew she had some kind of mental disorder but I didn’t know what it was until Dr Phil explained about the narcissist my sister has been a burden to our whole family her own daughters can’t get along with her no one can smh
Same experience here. I kept up a semblance of a relationship for my mother's sake. When she passed away, that was the end. If I don't tolerate bad behavior from my friends, then why should I from a relative?
Thank you Dr.Phil. I wrote down many things and these 4 questions are food for thought. I really appreciate everything that you do. It is fortunate that you exist. You bring a lot to the plate (of life). I wish you all the best, to you, your beautiful wife and family.
That’s a great start. I quit in 2021. You can do it. First couple weeks the worst- it gets easier. Just gotta hang on. My bf did it with Chantix and will power last year as well. A good while before me. I did when I was ready, I guess. I honestly still can’t believe I finally did it. I pretty much was vaping and smoking regular cigarettes. I miss it but there are many things about it I don’t miss at all and those are outweighing my fleeting cravings (happening very seldom now- almost never). Anyway- good luck. You’ll get it when you’re ready and you really can do it!!!!
Thank you so much, Dr. Phil, for this video. I am aware of what you have said in this video, but now I am going to continue to do what I love and get away from people who want me to do what they think I should do. Their idea of success is not mine. My idea of success is enjoying my days doing what I love, not worrying about whether or not I am saving the world.
I am 63 and I never been married and I live in a nursing home I'm disabled as nd have many illnesses I listen to you always you are a good man. Keep talking and you are funny. I take lots of pills. To fill better. You keep makinge happy. Thank you.
Stop needing people that don't need you. I have three daughters late 20s and 30s, unmarried, no children. They no longer need me my oldest daughter and I barely speak. I need them, all my thoughts are for them. I can't stop needing them, I shouldn't have too, right?
Let your relationships with them be the cherry on top of your life! Follow your passions and have your own life. They do still need their mother, just in different ways- and that’s okay. You obviously adore your daughters and you spent many years in a care taker role as their mother - it’s hard to adjust to life changing- so give yourself a break and some time for things to fall into place and adjust.
I enjoyed this today and perhaps it's the one that I connected with out of all your content.. I needed to hear this today thank you so much for the time you put into your informative content, Sir. It's amazing how something you hear can wake you up from demolishing your life.
Yes, no TV! I didn’t watch TV for many years and only took courses and learned to make myself a better version of myself and how to manage my time etc…It is a process and there are relapse times until there aren’t anymore. That’s a great way to stop a bad habit! Yes, you give your power away and you are in bad news! Take your power back! Yes, a bully hurt them and they allowed them to continue to have power over them and their body image for life until some end up passing away! This is such a shame and I work in radiology and I see so much death and those who survive and don’t give your power away! Yes, you are my new hero Dr. Phil! This is exactly what I’ve been saying to others in my area and on line to try to help others understand how to heal and move forward to live a better life. A happy life, to love life again, before they stopped loving it! 😁❤️ I’ve been watching certain shows lately that most are watching so I can try to help them relate to a certain situation that might apply to them that they can see the negative behavior or positive behavior as well as with music. A bully is sharing with you how they really feel about themselves which is very negative, so that is key to teaching children so they can immediately walk away with no harm!
Im from Hk and really thanks to Dr Phil and your teammates. You inspire me much and teach me lots. Watch your video is my habit now. I love you Dr. Phil. Thank you.
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I have really come to love this guy's professional wisdom. His live TV show does not justice for his actual ability to educate and coach people. I love this format WAY better!
totally agree with you!
Same here.
Absolutely agree.
I agree. I like the personal touch. And the transparency.
I love him too . I know a lot of people hate him and think he’s taking advantage of ill people for views 🤷🏽♀️.
Thank you so much Dr Phil👏 God bless you 🙏
Dr. Phil, you have NO IDEA how much you help people when you talk. You have silenced so many voices inside my head. Thank you so much. You're amazing.
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This is a life-changing session for an entire society that really, really needs it.
Gotta Luv Dr Phil.
This man is literally why I’m still breathing. He’s so insightful and supportive. I can’t count how many therapists I’ve paid in the past where I feel It was such a waste of time. Not with Dr. Phil. Every time I listen to him, there is always a positive take away!
Totally agree. I've wasted much money in my lifetime, to counsellors who have been off little or no benefit.
I love Dr Phil because he's so wise, experienced, ethical and honest. Very straight and highly caring.
He's such a good mentor.
Agreed. He is fantastic. Not every professional is the best. I imagine like any profession, only the top of the class are worth a damn. I’ve experienced a string of lousy therapists too.
The baiters and I love that term! The baiters are one by one being blocked. Not many people left lol.
Who’s listening in 2023? This man is Godsend.
Just discovered this podcast it's quite enlightening!
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Intently listening to understand where I'm at and how to be me ❤
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I am a retired clinical psychologist & I have given many people the same advice; wonderful advice 😘
Hello.
When Dr. Phil said that all you need to do is to relax, does he mean have a designated time and place to practice relaxation like being home alone, or does he mean to learn to stay relaxed in stressful situations like being around your toxic family?
"Stop needing people that don't need you"!
That's a good one for me to remember!! I also like the words, "being you on purpose"!!
Thank you Dr. Phil.
Dr. Phil. I used to watch you when you first came out 20 years ago. I am so glad to find you on You Tube. Thank you for helping us.
I love this, listening while at work. This has so much integrity.
Tegridy!
A rare multi-tasker
Same!!! ♥️
Very good one word description of the man👍
My wife asked what I was watching, and I said it was about how to organise the garage to go discipline myself in it. She just giggled. She called out ten minutes later after watching the first part herself, saying she would slip into something more uncomfortable to come out and help.
One of my rules is to never place trust in someone who seeks to undermine your trust in yourself. While it stands to reason, it's important because the world is full of people who think being related to someone gives them a free pass, and a sweeping set of entitlements.
Exactly
I would invest in helping our youth.
Trusting my daughter
My children paying the price for their criminal ways.
Better alone than being with toxic person/s.🥰
You feel at peace! 😌
This is the reason why Oprah was drawn to Dr. Phil and why he can't be invalidated by his critics. This talk is loaded with important wisdom
Loved your Theodore Quote!
Lie to a liar, for lies are his coin, steal from a thief, for that is easy, lay a trap for a trickster and catch him at first attempt, but beware of an honest man.
I’ve had a lot of problems my whole life with relationships and boundaries. Like a lot of commenters on here I agree that I haven’t ever come across any video or help that was as spot on and life changing . Dr. Phil is a very special person and does have wisdom and knowledge like very few . He’s very appreciated wether he knows it or not . Thank you dr. Phil
This is so important and just packed full of wisdom. I’ve been watching the podcasts and I really feel how Dr. Phil cares about people, has a mastery of the topics and he also just says it like it is. I’d rather see more of these podcasts and less of the TV show. This is where you show us who you are, Dr. Phil. And I like this version of you very, very much!
These series is a blessing to the universe. Thank you Dr. Phil.
Thank you Dr Phil. I first saw you on Oprah’s show, then read your book “Life Matters”. It was at a difficult time in my life after I’d been in a motor vehicle accident & had sustained a serious spinal fracture. I had been told that I would never work again. I became depressed. I was solely responsible for my three sons whose father had abandoned them physically, financially & emotionally. I was in a relationship with a narcissist who took advantage of my vulnerability. Your book saved me!!! Over a period of years I got myself out of the hole I was in; recovered from the injury enough to return to Nursing (a “no lift” policy had come into force in Australian hospitals) & regained financial independence. My GP was astounded. She wanted to know how I had done it. And I told her about your book & your TV programs. She said that I was one of a few to get back in to work after such circumstances. I inspired my GP & I was very proud of myself. As scary as it was to start over, I had all of your inspirations to reflect upon to give me courage. Thank you! Thank you a million times over Dr Phil. xx
Never listened to dr Phil but I know this was no mistake clicking here. Thank you
Thank you. It's a shame that a narcissist doesn't feel much guilt.
I know right
Well then they wouldn't be a narc would they durrr!!!
Because they are "justified" in their choices. You either serve their purpose or you don't matter. 😞
Anne Perry, you sound like a narcissist yourself.
I release all the burdens off of me & I give myself permission to live & be happy again!!!
This has been so helpful, and the timing is impeccable. I had some major life changes that had me doing so many tasks for survival. It is time to slow my mind, to be intentional, to move from survival mode into thriving. Thank you for the series, for your service to the public and contribution to improving my mental health. So very appreciative.
Excellent. You and Jesus has set me freeeeee
This series has truly helped to validate some steps I knew I had to take to rid myself of 2 people in my life who were sucking me dry. In the past 10 months I ended a very toxic friendship with a woman who is borderline personality disorder and set boundaries with an older cousin who is a covert narcissist. That relationship ended when she exploded at my attempt to set my boundaries. I pray both of those women get the help they need and I wish them well, but I could no longer allow them to drag me down. Dr Phil, thank you so much for this series. I’m going to tell my daughters about it as I believe it will help them too. ❤️
Well done 👏🏻. It ain't easy.
Thank you for this warm and personal episode. So much of what you said resonated with where I am in my life now. It's taken me 61 years so far but I'm getting there!
I have very strong passions! I love being a mom to my 10 yr old daughter. I love horses, skiing, and animals. I love gardening, traveling, the beach, lakes, and mountains. I love nature and children. I love creating art and was a designer for 2o years but left the industry burnt out. Got my masters in education but did not like working in rigid school. Was not for me. Dr. Phil, my passions cost me money and don't make me money. I've seriously tried. I need money. I need to find a way to make money off my passions. Just feeling stuck but I won't give up.
I love Phil in the Blanks so much, it is really helping get through dealing with my ex who I do believe based of the baiter and what else I have listened to is a sociopath, I dealt with narcissist before and thats bad enough, but this what I am experiencing now is a little bit extra than that, like nothing I have ever seen and my therapist confirmed it, he is a dangerous person and he good looking, charming and charismatic when you first meet him, but seeks to destroy your life once he has got you.. This series has helped me get through in what is still looming around, but hopefully will be over soon.. I love your passion Dr Phil to help others. You're a legend
I love how Dr.Phil shares this insight with the world and doesn’t charge a penny! He could easily keep it to himself, he is one of the most famous psychiatrists in the world, but he takes the time to go into detail and share and help. This stuff is truly helpful, and it feels like it’s coming from a good friend. Love it!
He’s not an MD. He’s a Ph.D.
@@tundrawomansays5067 Yes…I know…That’s why I said “psychiatrist”…not “doctor”….Not sure why you replied that…I’m a bit confused.🤷🏻♀️🙂
@@verovill987 To be a psychiatrist one need to be a MD too, otherwise it’s just a psychologist. But I agreed that Dr Phil is way better than most official psychiatrists.
To illustrate what Dr. Phil is saying toward the end about passion...: Once a long time ago, we had bought a small piece of land. I would wake up while it was still dark and stare at the window in eager anticipation for the first light of day (like a little kid waiting for Santa on Christmas), so I could get outside and take care of our little hobby farm. Nobody in my family understood my passion... Years later I had the same kind of passion for a business I wanted to start and I couldn't wait for daybreak and I'd run downstairs to start working arranging flowers. I'd have to FORCE myself to take breaks. *Anyway, passions are wonderful!
6 minutes in, and I already know this will be good! Thank you so much for delivering the truth and not just simply saying what people want to hear. Relaxation is the hardest thing ever after a lifetime of toxic personalities but very necessary!
Edit: This felt like a warm hug. Thank you for all that you do! This was essential. If folks apply this, they'll definitely see the positive results!
God bless you for this FREE life-changing counselling service!
I don't leave many comments but this is so amazing I have to say thank you. This is one of the best episodes ever. (in 22 years). I am 72 years young and in the throes of yet another narcissistic relationship. It seems to be a life long curse for me. This helped. Love and blessings to you Dr. Phil
I Love that Dr. Phil quoted Teddy Roosevelt. So inspiring. Don't listen to the Naysayers. Toxic People have No Place in Your Life. Say Goodbye. Live your Life.... Enjoy Yourself
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You definitely discibed me 100%, it brought tears to my eyes. Thank-you Dr. Phil
PS. Hey Dr Phil. Just to add to what I wrote earlier; you gave me the tools to save myself. I went back to Nursing; got a fantastic job in a Cardiac Unit which I absolutely loved!! It was the best time because I learned so much & grew so much; I was on a high!! I was passionate and happy & successful & was surrounded by people who were supportive & encouraging. Eventually the relationship with the narcissist ended, but that was the worst time in my life because of how these people tend to behave. xx
I'm guilty of thinking about things someone said to me that I should have responded to. Like tell them that is rude an don't talk to me that way. Instead I get silent . I do this because I am usually shocked someone is so clueless. Then it eats at me for not punching back. Working on getting better at that.
I also did that, & later it ate me up inside, I wish I did more back then, I know better now, I speak up for myself, especially with my family, hurt people really do hurt people God bless
Sometimes you’re just in shock, because you would never be that rude . Live and learn , don’t blame yourself.
I think as well Coco, that if you're the type of person who wouldn't say something hurtful to someone else, you're absolutely stunned when they say something hurtful to you. That's what freezes you. We're all wonderful at thinking of replies later in the day! lol! You're not alone!
@@laughingallthetime50 Thank you for that kind message. I needed it!
Me too
I've wasted much money and time, in my lifetime, to counsellors who have been of little or no benefit.
I love Dr Phil because he's so wise, experienced, ethical and honest. Very straight and highly caring.
He's such a good mentor.
Thank you, I was so alone in my thoughts and life. Couldn’t understand the cycle I’ve been subjected to so I kept on the ride. I got the insight from you to save myself
The best video you have ever done and I’ve followed, Fill in the Blanks. I will listen to this everyday until I have every word memorized. I have got to fix my life!!
Thanks for this Dr. Phil. I greatly appreciate your work.
To YOU, I would take a knee. Please don't stop anytime soon. The world desperately needs what you are sharing. Writing things down rather than ruminate on them will be life changing. I recenly terminated old toxic friendships and my cluttered rooms are next because you're right...fresh air..alpine- fresh air.
Hey you, clean up your mind, don't carry the guilt trips, aknowledge and change them. What you give power to will have power over you.
Social circle CLEAN UP.. STOP NEEDING PEOPLE WHO DON'T NEED YOU!!!! I'd rather be healthy alone then sick with someone else.
The right one won't run away from you. Quit chasing them.
Have faith in yourself and then trust in those who earn it.
Thanks Dr.Phil
Here's to a great 2022
Best quote ever!
I need this! I’m hoping this will help me into this year with toxic people around me
It hurts stalked 24/7 people recording your voice crazy tracking....on hole family...harm for no reason sickness to all levels
Dr. Phil, I am applying what you teach me regarding relationships. Thank you!
This is such a treasure!
Writing things down has always helped me out
Challenge accepted, no more multitasking. So true😊 I really appreciate your work Dr. Phil!🌷 Kind regards from Germany
I'm in my 60s and I'm happy to be called a girl. I've always referred to the staff in my office as 'the girls'. No one has ever taken offence thus far.
Probably because my whole attitude is one of care, respect, love and support to others.
In my experience people often focus on the wrong things. They let bullies and manipulative people get away with some really bad stuff, but then get wound up with a particularly word.
More focus should be put on people's actual behaviour, than what they say.
Love to everyone reading this. ❤️
This is better information than you will get in most therapist's offices! Dr. Phil has come to be a wise man! Thank you!🎉
This was very insightful and helped me a great deal.... ive never watched or heard of this podcast but it found me at the perfect time. wishing all reading strength and love in hard times
Dr Phil McGraw, you uplift me, you make me buzz and make me want to be the best 👌 I can be. Thank 😊 🙏 you. You reign.
EUREKA! Pure GOLD.🔑 Thank you @DrPhil💛
Waw, wise words on so many levels. A keeper, so that I can relisten, and get reminded to let go and ignore toxic people
I recognize how much effort you put into this Dr Phil. I needed the information because I have been timid and afraid of failing. I have had a serious problem making a durable decision to leave a toxic relationship. I recognize that I have been fence straddled by me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for doing this series!!! I had lost my vision and purpose through becoming separated from my husband of 50 years, 54 years this year, because of physiological abuse. This has helped to reignite the passion that I had for the Word of God. Nothing ever gave me greater joy than to share the goodness and mercy of God to people. I didn't think I could ever find my way back. Blessings to you and your family!❤
Dr Phil
I like and need these conversations better than your show
Thank you❤️
Thank YOU ,Dr.Phil .
I needed this series especially the last one thank you for sharing your wisdom to the public sector, Happy New Year 🎉💛🌞✌
I really like Dr. Phil. And he's right, we need to learn how to really relax.
Loved it. Loved all of it.
I've been really working on this for the past 2 and a 1/2 years all of what you've been talking about.
I had to cut out most friends because they were toxic. I had to cut off relationships with both parents and most of my family. My brother I keep in touch with.
I got a good therapist.
This has to be the best video that I have ever heard. It is life changing.!!!
I think one needs to be cautious when making themself indispensable. You will wind up with another group of narcissists saddling up to ride you again unless you learn to create and enforce boundaries first.
I am sending this to my daughter. Her man has made her into a lost woman. She doesn't even leave the house anymore.
We are in a pandemic Linda. Maybe she just likes hanging out w her man
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That is so sad to read. I am so sorry. I hope you can motivate her to get the help she needs. People do not understand the power.of.psychological abuse. It's far worse than the physical abuse. Again, so very sorry.
@@LoveyLand if she's saying she's lost then as her mother she clearly knows her daughters regular pattern of behavior enough to recognize something is amiss. Why must people be so condescending about situations they aren't totally privy to
@@Myglowupisinsideout gurrrl or maybe her moms a crackhead. We can play guessing game but news flash. Parents do not own their adult children. And parents can b bad people too lololol
Thank you Dr Phill! Your words…..your messages … are profound! I need this video constantly looping through out my day. I’ve been like this for 51 years and it’s going to take a lot time and effort to truly change my way of thinking.🥺. BUT… that’s what I have to do,if I want to change!
Btw this was one of my favorite videos! I downloaded it for easy access and as a reminder of what I need to do. Again, thank you 🙏 for sharing and caring! YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!
I never had someone to talk about things when young,interested in keeping us sheltered ,thanks for the direction ,the conversation, the insight, in my life people do the same thing for a lifetime,died of emphaseyma , died an alcoholic, was angry and ungrateful till the day they died never challenged themselves or lived in denial, your conversation has woken me up,god bless
There's only one Dr. Phil. No need a pill.
Solid healthy words
I just discovered your podcast, and its now my best friend while I drive to/from work. Its so great. You are so great! Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom 🙏🏻
I really needed to hear this!! Now to apply it!
I am blown away by this series which I recently came across while listening to other videos on Narcissism.
I used to watch Dr. Phil’s show for entertainment as few of the subjects resonated personally with me. They seemed too extreme usually.
But this series SPEAKS directly to me as one who has endured many decades of relationships with toxic family members and friends …many of whom I felt obliged to remain close to.
And now with grown daughters who are reeling with the same as they find out who they are and what they want their lives to look like.
Presently, my own 43 year old daughter is in the process of ending her marriage to a toxic narcissist, a man we all came to love and treat as a son , while being fooled by his quick, glib , controlling ways.
Suddenly, the truth is staring us all in the face. We all feel betrayed. We all feel duped. But now , listening to this series with REAL solutions, is so mind-freeing and pivotal to moving ahead without only sadness or anger filling us up.
Thank you SO MUCH Dr. Phil. I think this is truly the best work you have done and most certainly the BEST advice and explanation I have EVER HEARD (having had numerous counsellors, groups over the decades) on the subject of toxic people and relationships.
I shall share this as widely as possible and I shall re-listen to each part as daily therapy.
Thankfully, my daughter has latched onto the gravity of your wisdom also.
All the best.
Shawn Freeman Craig (age 75 , mother, grandmother, wife, 55 years a Physiotherapist)
Dr Phil I know a few people who don't like you at all but the more I listen to you the more I like you. You've got great advice and you make a whole lot of SENSE! Thank you for all you do. 👍 You're cool! 😎
We all grow & I only keep folks in my life that want and do grow with me ! Trust Dr Phil - you’ll be a much happier you & your life will flourish!
Dr Phil you're truly an inspiration to me. Each morning I start listening to your talks. It's powerfully empowering. Decluttering my mind for a better future
I've journaled and written my list for years. I don't need to remember those things because they're on the paper. I proudly cross things off as they are taken care of. The busyness of my mind is calmed so much. ❤
Stop talking about my garage!!! 😂 Some of this is so relatable!!!
I had my passion for over 40 yrs. I blocked it out when personal trauma bombarded me and I blamed that passion for missing time where others thought I should be. I've recently taken steps to reengage with that passion
Thank you for this series. I have recently stopped a toxic person from sharing my life. I can’t be involved with him. He’s in it for himself. I can’t solve his problems. He was bringing me down. It’s very difficult to cut someone you love off. But I have to give myself permission to do this. I deserve someone who really loves me. I need someone in my life who values me. It can’t be one sided. I choose not to dislike this person. But that doesn’t mean I want them in my life anymore.
Thank you so much Dr Phil.
Started watching your shows at age 21, now 40, still a fan ad always learn a lot..
I need Dr Phil as my cognitive behavioural therapist he's so on point love him
❤I just want to thank you. You have no idea how you have helped me. I drop my husband off to work at 4am Monday - Friday. I Bluetooth my phone to my car radio. I listen all the way home everyday ❤
How do you stop needing people who don't need you? My son in law is a malignant covert narcissist that has systematically turned our daughter against every member of our family through his lies and manipulation and has her isolated from all of us. Do we just walk away and pretend we never had a daughter? How can we help her? His lies already cost her her first child and now she is expecting another. Just keep letting him get away with it? Dr Phil, please address how the parents of children who are caught in one of these dangerous relationships. Its heartbreaking and I can't find anything about this. I know we are not the only parents in this situation. Please help.
Amazing for me to listening this Dr Phill, I feel You are talking to me! I will apply what you saying, I promise. Thank you so much. God continue blessing you and you family!!!
Listening to Dr Phil has made me to realize I have been bullied and controlled put down disrespected all of my life by my sister who is only 1 year older than me I knew she had some kind of mental disorder but I didn’t know what it was until Dr Phil explained about the narcissist my sister has been a burden to our whole family her own daughters can’t get along with her no one can smh
Same, I have a sister that did the same to me. No contact for over 30 years.
Same experience here. I kept up a semblance of a relationship for my mother's sake. When she passed away, that was the end. If I don't tolerate bad behavior from my friends, then why should I from a relative?
Thank you Dr.Phil. I wrote down many things and these 4 questions are food for thought. I really appreciate everything that you do. It is fortunate that you exist. You bring a lot to the plate (of life). I wish you all the best, to you, your beautiful wife and family.
I set a New Year's resolution, but it is based on goals. I plan to be a non-smoker by 2023. I started be setting boundaries with smoking...
That’s a great start. I quit in 2021. You can do it. First couple weeks the worst- it gets easier. Just gotta hang on. My bf did it with Chantix and will power last year as well. A good while before me. I did when I was ready, I guess. I honestly still can’t believe I finally did it. I pretty much was vaping and smoking regular cigarettes. I miss it but there are many things about it I don’t miss at all and those are outweighing my fleeting cravings (happening very seldom now- almost never). Anyway- good luck. You’ll get it when you’re ready and you really can do it!!!!
@@phoebeb.332 Thank you. And congratulations to you and your bf.
Brilliant! Bold! Blessed! Bulletproof!
Writing helps ease emotional distress. Helps concentration. Start w a list. or song lyrics.
Thanks Dr. Phil. Fantastic!!! Shared this with my sister.
i really respect this person... he really does good public service, to the WORLD
Thank you Dr Phil! I would much rather be alone than in a bad friendship or relationship. That includes family too!!
Thank you so much, Dr. Phil, for this video. I am aware of what you have said in this video, but now I am going to continue to do what I love and get away from people who want me to do what they think I should do. Their idea of success is not mine. My idea of success is enjoying my days doing what I love, not worrying about whether or not I am saving the world.
I am 63 and I never been married and I live in a nursing home I'm disabled as nd have many illnesses I listen to you always you are a good man. Keep talking and you are funny. I take lots of pills. To fill better. You keep makinge happy. Thank you.
This is the BEST video I have ever seen.
Phil is the greatest. Thank giving and Easter is not the time solve family problems.
Thank you so much Dr. Phil for everything you do.
You are the voice of reason to so many, in This Very unreasonable world.
Best video you have ever done! I will listen to this daily. Thanks Dr. Phil.
Now I know, thanks Dr.Phil. Am enjoying my rise to a higher level, have learned so much from your teachings.
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I love to relax. I also am a workaholic. I relax and mediate for a short time each day before falling asleep.
Stop needing people that don't need you. I have three daughters late 20s and 30s, unmarried, no children. They no longer need me my oldest daughter and I barely speak. I need them, all my thoughts are for them. I can't stop needing them, I shouldn't have too, right?
Let your relationships with them be the cherry on top of your life! Follow your passions and have your own life. They do still need their mother, just in different ways- and that’s okay. You obviously adore your daughters and you spent many years in a care taker role as their mother - it’s hard to adjust to life changing- so give yourself a break and some time for things to fall into place and adjust.
I enjoyed this today and perhaps it's the one that I connected with out of all your content.. I needed to hear this today thank you so much for the time you put into your informative content, Sir. It's amazing how something you hear can wake you up from demolishing your life.
Dr. Phil is simply amazing with the ability to transform people. There is only one time I disagreed with his direction, but nobody is perfect.
Love this, this will be my new podcast before bed.
Yes, no TV! I didn’t watch TV for many years and only took courses and learned to make myself a better version of myself and how to manage my time etc…It is a process and there are relapse times until there aren’t anymore. That’s a great way to stop a bad habit! Yes, you give your power away and you are in bad news! Take your power back! Yes, a bully hurt them and they allowed them to continue to have power over them and their body image for life until some end up passing away! This is such a shame and I work in radiology and I see so much death and those who survive and don’t give your power away! Yes, you are my new hero Dr. Phil! This is exactly what I’ve been saying to others in my area and on line to try to help others understand how to heal and move forward to live a better life. A happy life, to love life again, before they stopped loving it! 😁❤️ I’ve been watching certain shows lately that most are watching so I can try to help them relate to a certain situation that might apply to them that they can see the negative behavior or positive behavior as well as with music. A bully is sharing with you how they really feel about themselves which is very negative, so that is key to teaching children so they can immediately walk away with no harm!
Thank you Dr Phil I have found this series 2 years later but I have learned a lot. Thank you for caring. You are the best.
Im from Hk and really thanks to Dr Phil and your teammates. You inspire me much and teach me lots. Watch your video is my habit now. I love you Dr. Phil.
Thank you.