Why Married Women Have A Backburner Relationship Dr. Romie on FOX 35 News Orlando
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- 1. What is a back-burner relationship?
• Simply put, humans have always had back-up relationships
• These back up relationships may be friends to whom they’re attracted, ex’s that still linger, unrequited crushes that have been buried for years.
• But these days, we now have the capacity to easily keep in touch with these people
• Back-up is likely to be an old friend who has always had feelings for them
• Other candidates include ex-boyfriend/husband, colleague or gym buddy
2. Who is more likely to have one men or women?
• Married women are more likely have a Plan B in the background
• The survey of 1,000 women also found Plan B is also likely to be someone whom she has known for around seven years, who will be 'ready and waiting' because of 'unfinished business'.
3. Why is it easy to keep a back-burner relationship these days?
• Another study, looked at behaviors of both men and women online. The average age was 21.
• This group of young people used text messages, Facebook, and sometimes cell phones to maintain contact with their back burners.
• As a group they reported having an average of five-and-a-half back burners, more of whom they communicated with in a platonic rather than romantic way.
4. How is it detrimental to relationships to keep a back-burner option?
• When we are keep someone as a “back-up plan” we are creating a mindset that our current relationship is going to fail.
• The key is to examine why you think you need a back-up plan? Is it that in your gut you know the current person you are with is not an ideal mate?
• More likely the situation is that people are not taught coping skills how to manage effective communication in a relationship or how to navigate through challenges that all relationships will fail.
• Mindset matters in a relationship, if you expect a healthy committed relationship, you have to be honest with your own feelings and behaviors.
Romila "Dr. Romie" Mushtaq, MD, ABIHM is a traditionally trained neurologist specializing in mind-body medicine. As a national mindful living expert, she speaks in the media and around the country on the neuroscience behind mindfulness.
A personal health and wellness life coach, Dr. Romie heals clients from around the country at the Center for Natural and Integrative Medicine in Orlando, Florida. Particularly sensitive to the effects of career burnout, Dr. Romie focuses on healing individuals with her unique “Mindset Matters” program.
A personal health and wellness life coach, Dr. Romie heals clients from around the country at the Center for Natural and Integrative Medicine in Orlando, Florida. She also travels around the country teaching about the scientific and medical evidence behind mindful living.
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Now you know why 60 to 80% of all divorce is started by women. It's because they already have back plans and have been thinking about leaving the whole time.
amen
The 60% of divorces are filed by women is a broad-spectrum statistic that includes highly succesful men, too.
It is more around 75-80% divorce rate with 75-80% of the divorces filed by women, middle class and below.
(So, 85 ~ 90% of all people that get married, basically)
The best part is that the grass is NOT greener, and they find this out once their currency is gone. Also poached partners are gonna get poached again. It all seems so 3rd grade to me, however, I have incredible discernment.
*Realism:* Most modern women have been plotting their course of actions (read: _d!v0rce_ …) years ahead, already well before they even come to know their future husband.
@@arsenelupiniii8040 *The grass is always the most green on the very side, it's get mothered the most!*
Apart from that, you're right: It's usually that people quickly realise that they all have to acknowledge the fact, that _the grass on the other side just _*_looked_*_ greener from afar …_
Yet in reality, the green area alongside the track is usually, where people often step into poo, because that's where dogs are let go to pee …
Men marry who they're "in love" with, while women just settle for who can provide. Then cheat on the side while the husband is blindly in love.
😂😂😂😂😂
😢that's true👍
The "Dr" is an idiot. She is just trying to sell her expertise. Married women don't have another man on the back burner "just in case" and they need to pay for counselling to fix this. They have the man on the back burner "just in case" they are no longer happy and getting everything they want from the man they settled for in marriage. Its used as blackmail to extort more resources and happiness from the existing husband as an OR ELSE!!!!
Sad but very true. That's why so many women are enjoying the heartaches and rejection they asked for and deserve.
women cheat or fuck multiple guys in any regard doesnt matter if u marry or not anymore they cheat anyway
Fellas.....if your girl or wife has guy male friends.
RUN!!! I've learned from experience....they're always potential lovers.
Or you may even catch all them spit roasting her in the yard!!
They just waiting their turn 😂
Exactly the dudes are sticking around for the possibility of smashing
Of course. Don't fall for the ... we're just friends or he's no threat !
That means just the opposite.
If you allow this you're no man
I'm 24, and I knew this already. If she's attractive she has a couple of "Bros". "He's like a brother to me. I don't even like him". Lol marriage is beneath me.
KingTim25 congrats on being 10-20 years ahead of most men.
Marriage is more similar to prostitution than any of us care to admit.
@@rjkubr I knew this since 22, still unmarried and enjoying myself. These h*es never cease to amaze me. Seen more bs and have an even harder view on marriage than before. It’s literally like going into a casino with your life savings and hoping to win the jackpot. Good luck!
@@rjkubr It’s like going to the casino with your life savings and hoping to win the jackpot. The same success rate lol. One guy may slip through the cracks or he never catches his wife cheating and they last forever but for that one it’s hundreds that will perish.
Who should be more offended and insulted? The boyfriend/husband or the "I'm only gonna be with you because the real man whom I desire more dumped me" guy?
There was a married co-worker at my work who gave me her number, now I know why.
I threw it away.
I never mess with married women.
You should have told her husband
THANK U.
@@mnomad9173 That fish still won't be good to eat.
Guys - If you are young and want to get laid quickly, just put a wedding ring on your finger. Because women know that you're already taken, and they just want to have fun.
It goes for both male and female.
@FCain-mf4tf I have always thought this. It's very sad that a wedding ring will work like that
I see ZERO reasons for a man to ever get married.
I see ZERO reasons for any woman to get married these days.
@@RG-hf4etbecause you brainwashed but you gonna find out the reasons later on in life. That's sure to come
To provide the foundation of a stable family unit for the raising of child or children.
@@RG-hf4ethalf
Yes . Later lin life a woman will need a man. But a man does not need a woman.
Men, this is the perfect reason why you should not get married.
Facts!!
For real it is taking me times 2 to realize, a bad deal
Who should be more offended and insulted? The boyfriend/husband or the "I'm only gonna be with you because the real man whom I desire more dumped me" guy?
Indeed. It shows that the only "fuck" you get by marrying a wahman is "fuck all" as in "you are a SIMP - fuck off or my lawyers will fuck you up." :D
This is why all men should also keep a few “friends” on standby. Take her power away by letting her know that you can also move on and walk away at a moment’s notice. Women don’t like it when the playing field is even. They want to have their cake and eat it too
dread game
Facts!!
Even the playing field 😮
Sounds good, but with divorce, men start off in a financial hole. Especially if there are children.
I can walk away without having someone on standby. Easy
I was shocked when a coworker I first met, in one breath, was talking about her partner and then said how cute I was and gave me her number without asking .
No, I threw it away.
I'm no womans plan B.
Straight BITCH
I am the woman (just kidding)
Whether you're with a man or a woman, that "friend" they claim is just platonic, never is.
I learned this the hard way with the whore I was with.
Some honorable men can be trusted to have platonic friends of the opposite sex. This is never true with a woman. It's not if it'll happen, but when, and she has already started it through emotional cheating. It's all about the emotions with women, so if they are having an alternative relationship already, then it has already begun. Women are much less moral overall, exceedingly less mature, and they are easily swayed by any man's opinions. It's why women used to be kept in the home. People had more common sense and wisdom back then. Society gave into feminism and invited its own destruction.
This is why I prefer more money rather than a woman! :D
Having money and having a wahman are mutually exclusive :)
Dude thinking about his wife and all the odd shit she's been doing lately now. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The problem isn't social media. The problem is women who don't control the worst of their instincts.
100%!!! Most operate on hypergamy and don't even know they do.
But that means you putting responsibility on women! no, no! its social media thats the problem! Oh, the poor OPPRESSED women!
No, the problem is social media. I doubt that women in the past would have done this crap before social media.
They absolutely cannot control those instincts. That is the problem. It is why they must be controlled by men instead. The men have to man-up again and set some rules, and that means fathers too. I think it is beginning to happen again with the growth of movements such as MGTOW and the Red Pill. It may be too late to save our civilization though.
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I was told me that if you have a plan B then you will almost ALWAYS fail at Plan A
Yeah, it's idiotic to be planning to fail. People who even accept divorce are 100% guaranteed to get one. The only people who actually are steady are the ones who don't accept nor consider it.
Thats why the divorce rate is so high!
Please dont say you're surprised ...
So shocking I need to tell my ex and the guy she find suddenly two days after we split up ….
This is where the 70 percent divorce rate comes from
It sounds like married women are more prone to infidelity than married men since its being called a plan and all.
Right trust I know sadly
@Amanda Huganquiss the headassery women come up with excuses to justify cheating. Lmaooo women have no guilt.
It's always been that way.
100 % YES. IT is because men have everything to lose and the wahmen have everything to gain even if they are the ones doing the cheating. There is one solution: do not marry and do not co-habitate (cucky govs have pushed for common-law marriage in hopes of getting the divorce bucks in tax revenue). Scummy af
There was a secret (anonymous) sociological survey done back in the 80s. 75% of the people who were unfaithful were married women. That was a better time, when half the women were housewives. Imagine what the number is now.
I used to work at att for 8yrs with over 100 women and about 30 men, let me tell you, the women all dated dudes from work and the husbands never found out. The sad reality gentlemen, if you think shes loyal and in love with you 😂, i feel sorry for u.
lol
all these broads is for the streets
Decisions made based on emotion often lead to disaster.
Very true
When the team manager is thinking about replacing the pitcher, he sends another pitcher into the bullpen to warm him up. These women are just warming up their next pitchers.
Even the best pitchers can't go the distance all the time
The backup is all those she be chatting and texting on Facebook and all apps. Once they end up with someone they have the other guy already prepped. I've seen it myself and I myself been one back burner I noticed 😀
I was the backburner guy once but it didn't go anywhere and it really fucked me up for a while.
Good way to get yourself fucked up in a much different way too if the wrong husband or bf finds out. Some guys don’t politely step aside and let her go with the backup no consequences
I have flat out refused to be Mr. Backburner and any man who didn't is not a real man.
@@HateBear-real There is a video called "Backburner Blues" by Terrence Popp / Redonkulas about this thing. Look it up. His videos are savage, mathematical and hilarious.
You could try living honorably to avoid that pain in the future.
Because they are monumental hypocrites. That's why.
50 percent of women are string some guy along and will leave you as soon as you don't have a pay check
I see it at work married women flirting with men
Imagine how these people interact whenever they're together outside of work.
Good men need to stop offerring themselves as an option for attached women.
The bro code!
When this trend is over the half, it is pretty much everyone. Wahmen hide their nature until the marriage contract is finalized, so counting on vetting is not going to work. You just have to leave funding these 304s for the SIMPs hopped up on Jordan B. Peterson and A. Tate talking points.
So, when she's in the white dress, promising to love you forever in front of all she holds sacred and everyone she loves - SHE"S LYING.
They commit blasphemy against our Pagan Gods--most noteably Hel, and curse their ancestors with that behavior.
If she wants somebody else then go. But then you and the new guy get have my money too??
That’s the bullshit that has to change
Most of them be chatting and texting their possible spare tires, while married. 👎👎
00:40 more than half of HAPPILY married women have a back up plan.
Back up plan = an old friend who never made it to the “dating” category.
Most usually happens through social media which has made it too easy for women to have a back up man
And as a woman that hits hard ,we are so weak,that is why i don't need my ex to be close to me , these folks it's not about love but destruction 💔
@@CathyMalandakatsoka-gv6lz I'm going to tell you the whole truth why this happens. Who you allowed your self to have sex with when you was a virgin is going to bite you later on in that marriage or divorced Courts. Because your comparing Partners and how they hit your wall. This is exactly why many women are not satisfied in their marriage because some men who broke you years ago put almost a lust spell on you by also getting into your ears so his soul is attached to your body emotionally just like you feel like running away when the proper man is not the problem but you Are the problem. Men can do this too, men can cheat on women because of the variety factor of hypergamy but this is why the dating world is so messed up.
Nobody wants to be committed anymore because of social media. We all see something better…someone who looks better…someone whose life looks better. No one is satisfied with anything or anyone anymore.
Bitter truth i guess we have been screwed up big time too much wickedness
Well said, DeCurtaRican, you are sadly correct.
No, it is a lack of commitment and honor, period.
I know two married women who have backups. I was shocked to find out but I guess it’s more common.
Wow!!!
Sadly, it's not just common. It's normal. The decent thing for you to do is to inform the husbands.
A broken woman cannot be fixed.
Explain please.
@@gboates Most women are S-o L-oving U-nder T-he S-heets....
I'll answer for him. No need to explain...bye
apparently atleast half are this way
"I can break her" :)
Any guy getting married today has got to be out of his mind . Marriage today is all risk without any reward for men .
Women are never fully single. EVER!
aint that the truth!
The grass is always greener over the septic tank.
These are their male friends they told you was no big deal!
No way I'm signing up to the pain of dating and marriage
Tragically, so many of these flawed women are operating with such selfish and unreasonable expectations of marriage. They have no real commitment to their vows, and see no problem throwing away a good marriage in search for "the perfect one". They lack the requisite relationship or communication skills for a successful marriage. They initiate 70% of divorces in 1st marriages. It must not be working very well, since there is a 65% and 76% failure rate in 2nd and 3rd marriages. The chaos brought about by blowing up the marriage includes: sabotage of the family finances, kids shuttling between 2 households, blended family dynamics and conflicts, etc. Well, at least the divorce attorneys get to make a good living.
And you later find out that you are far better than the perfect one
The reason why most marriages fail is because they shouldn't have been married in the first place.
The problem is that they did find the perfect one before you thought she was your perfect one. It's either she'll go back to Chad or find a man with Chad's personality.
The scientists refer to the cheating as "the search for better genes", though it is pure childish lust in practice. All the genes they care about involve a thick bratwurst going through a damp tunnel. :D
Social media is a blight
"Monkey Branching" is a term thats being going around in mens circles for over the last 30 years. I think its about time it becomes mainstream. Also the BBD, women always on the lookout for the Bigger Better Deal
He and she need to stop "Acting" so shocked.
This is nothing new.
Been going on for centuries.
They'll never stop "Acting" as if women are not manipulators and don't marry for love.
Fr lmao women been tricking out beta males for centuries
but without social media, the chances that married women gonna see other guys are very limited..
@@vg0o
Social media has them on fantasy island.
They cannot and are not capable of anything real in real life so they go to their online resthaven where they feel like celebrities.
Other men exist in the workplace, duh 🙄!
The fuck? 50 percent?!?! I am shocked too!!! I never realized that so many people had backburner people on check, what the hell?!?! They are not acting shocked silly, they genuinely are shocked, like me!!!
I dont care if your a man or woman, if you feel the need to keep a "back up plan" on the side, your current relationship is already doomed to fail.
You never a complete mature man until your learn women psychology..
Simply put, women sleep around and destroy their ability to pair bond. Hence why they are ready to jump ship at the first signs of rough seas.
Red Pill awakening overload alert. This message will self destruct faster than my gf cheating on me when I'm working to pay the bills.
No, it's a lack of commitment. You should have the skills before you get married, ladies. Period. I don't care what Oprah says.
Man this really pissed me off.
😂😂😂😭😭
Finally, someone normal.
I’m a guy and I have 3-5 different women on back burner just in case
Lol He's all like "Get out of town!" lol 😂😂😂😂
This was the early 90s, so pre-Web, but a coworker (female) had one of those mini-posters that we all had up around our cubicles that read, "Men are like computer programs -- smart women keep a back-up." Even back then, I think a guy would be eviscerated for having anything remotely similar on his wall.
Then you wonder why your relationship fail. Men dont have backburners cause men marry who they love. Women settle however.
Women think they “settle”. They have redefined settling as anything that is not perfection.
@@freudianslip2192 damn tht hit hard
Definitely my second choice husband. Met a better option after honeymoon.
I agree.believe it or not if you go into Quora and ask do you love your partner or did you settle MOST women admitted that they settled
Statistically men cheat more and don't see infidelity as an issue so really both men and women need to be mature when they make the decision to marry and be clear on what fidelity means to them
Narcissists always keep a lil somethin on the side just in case it's in the textbooks page 1...
So if you factor in a lower percentage for women over 65 that means that women under that age have an over 50% back burner option. My last ex wife had one that she tried to lite up. Good riddance, apparently the back up also failed to ignite. I be upgrading😊
This sounded like a commercial for Dr. Romie. We don’t need more therapy after the fact, rather relationship training when we are in high school and college. If we trained airline pilots like we prepare people for relationships, we’d have a plane crashing every day.
It would decimate the business model for divorce attorneys so you won't see it...
Thats why parents are here.
Men, go #MGTOW and escape the prison!
@Josh Brey In denial of what?
Mgtow is just an incel organisation
Back up plan meaning she is not his GF or wife. It’s just his turn.
Guest promotes her profession despite being shocked by the study.
When you think of women you need to think of them like THE ALIEN QUEEN in ALIENS.
they instinctively prey on stability.
Once you understand that, everything else makes sense.
I’ve been saying this for years....now who’s “paranoid “ nah...just aware.
This isn’t a surprise. These stats are consistent with my relationship history.
That’s why you don’t commit to women who have social media
THIS is required viewing for ALL MEN!! Avoid marriage, avoid relationships and stay MGTOW. She is never yours, it's just your turn.
My brothers. Its the true ,the problem is not them its us. Because we like assholes that we are. We want to prove to them that we are the men paying the bills.doing shit in the house.taking the kids to school etc. In the mean time they are on facebook looking for high school crush.to see how he looks now
Yes marriage is not only about responsibilities its showing love to each other making the other feel desired surrendering yourself nurture eachother then no way anybody wants to cheat unless u are a scumbag. Controlling and narcissistic mentalities in partners are forcing good people to cheat
was waiting for the reporters to start 69ing on air..... oh well....hopefully backstage
“AND JUST WHEN U THOUGHT U WERE SAFE.” -PRINCE ROGERS NELSON, 2016
Ah, it's social media that has done that stuff, that explains it. Very good video by the way, thank you Dr. Romie 🙂
I see why divorce has become so easy !!! Than I already have being dispose by two ladies!!! Hopefully the 3rd one works !!! 🤣🤣🤣
_Unwin also stated "In the past, too, the greatest energy has been displayed only by those societies which have reduced their sexual opportunity to a minimum by the adoption of absolute monogamy (para. 168). _*_In every case the women and children were reduced to the level of legal nonentities, sometimes also to the level of chattels, always to the level of mere appendages of the male estate._*_ Eventually they were freed from their disadvantages, but at the same time the sexual opportunity of the society was extended. Sexual desires could then be satisfied in a direct or perverted manner... _*_So the energy of the society decreased, and then disappeared."_*_ He points out that "No society has yet to succeeded in regulating the relations between the sexes in such a Way as to enable sexual opportunity to remain at a minimum for an extended period." - _*_and thus all societies have collapsed._*
- J. D. Unwin, _Sex and Culture_ circa 1930s 💊
They not deeply into men like we was taught deep in those hearts they don’t want it
Unfortunately I'm one of the back burner guys we might be on the back burner indefinitely you never know.
Grow a fucking spine and get away from that evil harpy.
Emotional cheating is worse than sex in my opinion
This video sound more like an ad for her services.
Saving this one to my truth pill playlist. This type of information is a must have for any young man like myself (27) to have. It's sad tbh, ik a chick who i used to like back in middle school who tried to hit me up at 11pm. I left her ass on read because she's literally married and has a family. 😂😂💀💯
I have a similar playlist of my own
@@Kamal_AL-Hinai Good to know that there are other men who do this lol. Anytime I find information like this I have to keep it saved. 💯🔥🔥💪🏿
This is true my neighbors who moved away who i had a crush on his wife , he left her for a month we were just friends , but we carried a conversation on social media , but she cut me off. Than told me to use whats app we carried on talking there.
I don't believe this. If someone is happy, she isn't looking for other men. Maybe if a woman is thinking of a divorce, she may line up someone new/backburner.
50% admit it...
True
Women love aspects and traits they admire that a man embodies, not the man that embodies them. You will do well to remember that.
This is why I said "Goodbye Orlando" a long time ago!
“I was shocked.” No. You weren’t.
LMAO
I was shocked too, and they are shocked.
@@ArranVid if anyone is shocked about anything, it’s women being shocked that their secret is out and they’ve been caught. It hasn’t really been a secret.
Also stop incentivizing this by changing fsmily laws: (1) Abolish Alimony / spousal support no exceptions. Period. (2) Require proof of infidelity or physical abuse to access community property in a divorce and (3) Mandate independent monthly audits of child support spending.
The fact that men don't realize this shows how men do not LOOK(behavior. character.) at women. Many of these signs are obvious.
I don't have any such thing as a "back burner" when I'm out, I'm fucking out. I want nothing to do with go damned women anymore except for sex.
Correct yourself. You've always only wanted women for sex. BTW- Men have had mistresses on the side, since the beginning of time, so don't start thinking that this is a "woman only" thing. LOL
Kat it is a woman only thing, its also a woman thing to bring up the past to justify the present! Women are emotional, emotions are irrational, when a woman has someone on the "back burner", its more of an emotional affair as it is physical, for men its pure lust, not condoning it at all, but its way easier for women to have a "back burner", while men have to make efforts to gain a "back burner", women simply have to exist to have one.
“There's no reason to have a plan B because it distracts from plan A.” - Will Smith
What about a married female coworker that has me on the back burner. Does that count, too...?
Im one of those too
Yes. If you're a person with morals, you should make it clear that you are not interested and cut it off immediately. Just imagine how it would make you feel if your wife had one of your friends as backup.
yes
As a guy who gets hit on by much younger married women, I can attest to this
I can’t believe you’re just realizing this all the Mens grooves have been saying this for the last five years. Where have you been?
Monogamy doesn't work.
It does work, it's just that some people are selfish losers who cannot stand monogamy so they cheat.
*It's a cold world out here*
Yes men are bitter about this . And they should be
This is why if she wants to be in a relationship with you or get married you tell her you don't get involved in a serious way with girls who have guys friends or post themselves on social media.
This has to be said BEFORE you get into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
If she doesn't agree, she doesn't like you all that much, and you're more of a placeholder, where she's open to monkey branching.
If she's doesn't agree no worries, find someone else who does.
Who should be more offended and insulted? The boyfriend/husband or the "I'm only gonna be with you because the real man whom I desire more dumped me" guy?
Society is broken
Go to show that these women ain't shit.
Happens to both women and males. I think if u are a spouse, do u only pay attention to your spouse if he or she is preoccupied with other people? Or do you make sure to appreciate your spouse when he or she is actually focused on you?
How on earth do children go unscathed from these situations? They DON"T!
Those idiots who are the “backups” all need to step up ASAP and collect their winnings!
where is the study...?? i wanna read it...!!