I like this little INFP corner you’ve created. I feel that you guys are some of the only people who know what being completely alienated in the world feels like. I hope you make more videos :)
This has had both advantageous and disadvanteous moments for me. I've found myself daydreaming even when I should be working. It's made me waste an insane amount of time when I should be productive (ex: revising for exams, working on a project or even daydreaming in the middle of a class or conversation with someone). At the same time, it makes us the most patient people in the world? For example: a line at the post office isn't that annoying. My brother always gets anxious and annoyed while wating in lines. Always saying things like: why is it taking so long, and stuff like that. I'm usually very relaxed and just zone out while waiting. Long trips in a car, train or on a plane are actually quite enjoyable, as I can just go into my head and make myself a story. I don't even need to bring a book, phone or computer with me. My own imagination is enough of a source of entertainment. So a very developed imagination has advantages and disadvantages. We are easily distracted and far less productive than most other personality types, but we also have great creative potential.
Quick update: My short story became a semi long story. I felt hopeful. A day later my motivation disappeared, like magic. I felt tricked. Like my mind was like: Hocus pocus, be gone thine focus 🌟✨ One day I will finish that book. And the moment will be beautiful with birds singing and the orchestra playing as if heaven itself shall send angels to receive it. Then I will wake up and forget about what I wrote in that damn dream. Sitting behind my laptop and realize I did no more than SpongeBob on that essay. Alright, gonna cry myself to sleep now. Looking forward to a new video though! Maybe the difference between INFP-A and INFP-T? Apparently I'm a turbulent mediator, but I'm still a noob when it comes down to this. Thanks for reading my short rant. If you didn't manage to read it all, no problem, I wouldn't be able to do so either 👍 Cheers and peace all😎🤗
Agreed!! I have found spending time with my partner, who’s an ENTJ, is helping to strengthen my Te which definitely helps a little bit. But yeah - it’s a struggle!! Thank you for watching 🥰
INFP Male here, i have had alot hobbies which i stoped perssue. The Reason for that i think its not Lazynies, its our Natre we tend to dig deeper to what realy makes us HAPPY ! and i by my 40-yo, still searching for that one Hobby or Task that i totaly can put me in to it. We also tent to have a realy hard inner judg, we need to strain him a bit and be happy with ourself not to punish us every single move we take. Happy Creating !
We definitely can have a hard time adjusting to it, but there’s a power (in my opinion) to admitting what we struggle with and embracing and loving ourselves anyway ❤️🥰
I agree. We live in an STJ/STP kind of world. That's why we tend to feel like misfits. I keep trying to connect with others, but it seldom works out. After 60+ years, I've accepted that I'll probably always be a loner wolf.
I think that the worst thing and main struggle of us, INFP's, is that this society is literally built to piss us off...just think about it, the main goal is the end result and not the journey which invalidates anyone's feelings. Glad I could find a little piece of this world to find comfort in, thanks.
I can't help but wonder if male INFPs may have have a harder time than female INFPs. The characteristics of this personality trait seem to be somewhat feminine and passive to the world at large and this may make male INFPs feel even more awkward than they already are.
I actually have a video planned talking about this, you’ve hit the nail on the head, our traits are quite often feminine and soft - which I know from speaking to male INFP friends can be a lot harder to navigate
Also many males tend to have logical mindsets due to biology. After some research I’ve found that us females have an advantage in emotional intelligence and mature physically and mentally faster than males, which explains a lot about why I grew up seeing boys my age a certain way with the way they act 😁😶 Male infps being apart of a sex that has a biological advantage in logic can be a disadvantage in society because they’re expected to be something they’re not. That’s why we see so many boy bands catering to this “feeler” and “soft” image that girls go crazy over because irl there aren’t many guys like that. Since we’re more emotionally intelligent, we tend to be more attracted to people’s personalities whether that’s making friends or finding someone. For males it’s quite the opposite, since they have a physical advantage (testosterone) they tend to be attracted to looks and make friends based off of that basis too (not entirely tho cuz making friends and finding someone is different). It kinda explains why males tend to feel pressured to get muscles and all that because other males are pressuring them. That being said, the male infp definitely struggles more and sometimes has to prove himself to society with these standards set by other males who are most likely thinkers.
I was about to comment this exact same thing. ... I don't take this label super seriously, but I got it on the test and it really resonated with me. Also, I'm a gay bottom. And also, pretty much a virgin at age 37. It has always been hard for me to accept, and I still feel more romantic toward girls than guys. Idk, just thought it might relate, haha. INFPs crave intimacy and almost love to sacrifice themselves for others... but idk, it might not necessarily correlate with sexuality...
@@Oaisisshjsjssausuusj wait if all males are biologically hardwired towards logic, why would male INFPs somehow subvert that? The only way it would make sense is if a male INFP’s brain chemistry or structure is analogous to female brains.
@@atmodlee Female and male infps differ due to biological differences...there are many female thinkers even though I've just mentioned their emotional intelligence Researching about the biological differences between both sexes can help but sometimes it can get confusing since many people assume females can't be thinkers or males can't be feelers. It's not that simple but for sure male infps are still males.
Bruh this is so relatable, especially the part about the “shiny object syndrome”. I get obsessed and so motivated over one thing- then it eventually goes downhill.... and I always get carried away by new ideas which results me into never finishing anything 😤
Me too. I have started so many things and hardly kept at any of them. This doesn't just include what I have purchased but also my time spent researching, and watching YT videos. I do have a few things I keep rotating through and growing in skill but man, what a lot of wasted money! Lol
As an infp I constantly see representation in the media most probably because we’re the most intuitive and imaginative meaning we write a lot of stories. I’m proud to be an infp but seeing so many people idolize infp fictional characters/people but being the same ones who treat us differently reminds me of how hard it is being unique in this world... I’m not necessarily saying I’m unique in a “special” way for being an infp, what I mean is we’re unique in the sense of our personality is really different and because of that we’re misunderstood. Being a minority in the majority of common personality types feels exhausting. Most of the times I have to stay grounded because there have been moments where I’ve clapped back but felt so bad and energy drained afterwards knowing that’s not me.
I’m 27 and changed my path so much, recently discovered I’m an INFP, and I’m so worried that we are low money earners, I’m extremely creative, I graduated last year with a first in illustration and animation but a lot of this work requires alone working and I struggle being alone all day, I’m introverted but crave the company of others. I’m really struggling with this :( . . I’ve tried sharing a studio space but it got too expensive, I’m taking a course in stop motion to try and give myself a better working environment, working as part of a team and feeling helpful/useful, but I still feel annoyed at myself that I can’t just be happy.. *smh*
it's very real to acknowledge that you have basic needs, and feeling part of a team or having social interactions is definitely a very real need for many, especially us INFP's, who get a lot of our purpose and meaning from relationships with those around us! I hope you find some balance! well done for harnessing all that creativity into something you can enjoy though - and don't feel bad for not having it all figured out, I definitely don't either! xx
I am 43 and I can tell you it does get easier to figure out what you need, and then decide to do it. Easier. Not easy. I agree with your assessment that we tend to be low income earners because we value the process and the things we tend to enjoy doing are creative and those take time before earning money happens. I think many of us are entrepreneurs too, if we are able to be. Knowing the balance between needing connections and needing alone time is important. For me, if it's working on my art skills of any kind, I can not do it with others. But if I was in a restaurant business as I dream if, I obviously need others. So for me right now, I prefer the connections to be made outside of creative time, and based on things we have in common, and that's usually spiritual for me.
The basic infp mould haha..spot on🙂. As a sensitive and intuitive person iv always felt that larger social groups are chaotic to me. As an empathic person all the egos can be overwhelming and as such naturally feel more comfortable in smaller selective groups or ideally 1 or 2 people. This is so i can focus better and feel less bombarded by others mental narratives. I can also be more myself and can thrive and feel quite extroverted in smaller groups, which for anyone not just infp i think is essential from time to time for self understanding and self confidence. Thankyou for the video.🙏🏼
You are so right! Excelling in small groups and one-on-one conversations can be really energising and uplifting, definitely get more value from those times than large group interactions, mostly for the reasons you describe! Thank you for being here!! 🥰❤️
I’ve found it helpful to mentally split the large group I’m in into smaller groups, this allows me to actually feel energized in a normally draining setting. I’ll literally be running moving from small group to small group and meeting much of the larger group. Gives people the impression I’m extroverted even though I’m definitely not.
no they fucking cant go to hell man ( i am terribly sorry right now im mad at this fcking mbti i just need to behave as a hater. stillwhat you said is bullshit infp cant do that ) @@bethanycreativeside4326
INFP-T often feels like ADHD... seriously! I watched once a video of a ADHD diagnosed person and his story was almost 1:1 like my INFP-T journey (now I'm INFP-A and know how to use my stenghts and set boundries)
I definitely resonate with the awkward point. I'm so awkward to most people because I know we will not connect deeply. I just don't know what questions to ask or how to continue a conversation! Also, my job right now includes customer service, so I dread talking to customers because I just know my social awkwardness will show. Anyway, have a great day, my amazing INFPs!
Social skills can definitely be learnt! Unfortunately they may not be our natural skill-set but the more you practice them through your jobs you will definitely get better at this!! So well done for putting yourself out of your comfort zone and into the growth-zone! Good luck and remember you are wonderful as you are! 💕😘
Male INFP type 9 here. One of the biggest things that helped me with social anxiety is a meditation technique in which you count your exhalations up to ten then start over again. Really saved my life!!!!!!!
As an INFP, I always like the “idea” of things. Like the idea of mushrooms and spiders, or the idea of being productive with a routine but I typically don’t like or do these things in real life 😂
Like a typically INFP, after seeing this video I'm in love with you! Hahahh You explained exactly the struggles I suffered all my entire life. I'm studying MBTI and Jung for 4 months and today I realized that definitely I'm a INFP and your video is the final proof! Thank you so much for sharing your life with us! Xoxo 🇧🇷
Totally agree that it takes a long time to find our place in this strange world. Many decades in my case. But now I feel blessed to be me. Not sure if I'm weird or most of the world is.
I’m in high school and I’m extremely introverted due to past trauma, like I won’t talk to anybody outside of my friend group. All my friends and me are in band so that’s easily my favorite thing about high school. It’s insanely hard being an INFP in school, for me at least.
Hey there! I remember how difficult school could feel. Try to be open to opening yourself up and getting yourself out of your comfort zone, little by little. Don’t rush yourself though, you’ve got a long way to go and as you mature and grow things will get easier for you as the years pass by! Promise ❤️
School really doesn't matter. If you don't want to be a slave the rest of your life, you'll have to run your own business(es), so it's best to get started as soon as possible. And be careful about spending too much time on things that don't make a lot of money.
Was there with you a few years ago buddy. I had the "perfect family" growing up and "nothing toooo tooo bad" happened to me because "others have it worse" but that trauma i feel stems from simply realizing someone you cared for so much not actually understanding it. This strong feeling of "How do u not know me after all this time?" you speak to yourself after some specific event happens that they might not even notice. Its borderline insulting and makes you not want to even attempt that ever again. Without giving you the INFP rambling session lets just say I do have flashbacks of certain events but mostly due to a "close friend" 's (Lol how dumb I was) reaction to them despite the obvious response that should have happened. I feel a lot of our pain comes from people not seeing things our way or dismissing our thoughts entirely.
3:08 omg!! about the feeling deeply for music and nature thing.. infps please tell me if any of y‘all relate😭 as a teenager music was literally my drug and there was nothing better to me than listening to music. i couldn‘t get myself to focus on homework when i could listen to my favorite songs instead … the homework felt so cold and pointless and the music felt so right. it was literally painful to stop myself from consuming it😂 every morning in the schoolbus i dreaded the moment we arrived at school and i had to take off my headphones and i looked forward to the moment i could go on the bus and listen to music again after school. while i would listen to the music i would feel euphoric and like i could do anything but i always knew that feeling wouldn‘t last throughout the day. it became a lot less intense over the years like when i was 15 i could listen to a song and i almost felt like i was living in the song idk how to describe it. at night i used to lay in bed and literally listen to music for like 2 or 3 hours just staring at the ceiling being completely immersed in the songs. there was nothing better to me. i have some friends that also love music a lot but i always felt alone in the way i was obsessed with it. i also feel such a deep love for nature. we have forests where i live and it brings me so much joy. i love the mystical vibe i get from it and it feels like a magical world to me. i feel so happy when i‘m on a field or in forest where i feel like there‘s nothing but nature around me. i feel so at home idk how to describe it. this was also even stronger when i was younger. tbh i‘m glad i don‘t feel these things AS strong anymore because it felt kinda isolating but i‘m also scared i will completely lose this 'dreamy' part of my mind as i get older. the same with close relationships. if there is a person that i felt a connection to and felt like could become a great friendship i would prioritize them at all times. i would stay up until 4am talking to them even when i had an exam the next day. it just felt so meaningful and fullfilling to me and school felt meaningless in comparison . but at this point i also feel like i can never be a invested in a person ever again like i was when i met my best friend at 17. it was a whole other level of wanting to connect so deeply. i‘m scared i‘ll never feel that with anyone ever again.
Yes! When you talked about not fairing well in group settings, especially when there are a lot of people there, and everyone is talking, I felt that in my soul. I have come to the conclusion that the carrying capacity for a good conversation where everyone feels like they are heard is 2-3 persons. Anything over that is overload, especially to an INFP that perhaps wants to talk, but doesn't feel like what they say will be heard or validated.
You really point out exactly the most difficult things being an infp. Seriously, its tiring. Altho i love our good values, but sometimes its really hard. I wish we could make an island just for us infp.. so we can chill, no deadlines, no forced interactions, and we can love deeply. But reality hit us hard.
Oh wow I bet, I’m glad you came to finding the enneagram though to at least offer you some explanation of why this was! It’s good to know you’re not alone ❤️
You nailed it! As an INFP divorced middle aged dad just getting back into the dating scene (unsuccessfully, of course, because I am INFP and too picky when it comes to dating) I am finding that my INFP-ness is more glaringly obvious than it used to be.
We are picky! But only cos we’re super good at filtering out what isn’t right for us, wishing you all the success with dating again!! 🤞🏼 I have often wondered if male INFPs have it harder in this department, due to stereotypes about masculinity/femininity etc!
@@theimperfectinfp A built-in "filter"! I like that; it is a good way to look at it. Yes, I have struggled (unconsciously at first) with the male "masculine" role. I am as straight as can be and yet I would prefer to walk in the woods and study nature and write a poem next to a stream rather than go to a football game. But I still love sports; I just prefer quieter things. And sunflowers! I am learning to just be me and to be OK with that.
@@jimspelman8538 well that sounds like an absolute dream to me 🥰 happy that you can embrace yourself! The world needs more of us INFPs to be ourselves fully and wholly, instead of masking what makes us, us! Thank you for watching Jim :)
5:24 i can relate this totaly, as a male. Being in LOVE with Women, we must be sure that we don't get HURT ! as an INFP i can say if we are in usafe place and not totaly independent, a breakup can hurt us very much. Having a Plan B, C, D ...is a total MUST for every INFP ! Especialy for a MALE (as we tent to be more Vulnarable in society, as we have to have alot expectations, look, money, influence etc. just to meet a avarage Women) Sound harsh, but its reality, image INFP women is cute ! But INFP Male, wow, its ackwarck at least ! And along with this you have also to deliver every single expectations sosciety puts on Male today.
I can appreciate this, I’ve often thought typical INFP traits are stereotypically very feminine and therefore acceptable for women to display, much more so than for men. Sending you lots of love!! You got this ❤️
The filter is both my most caring friend and most annoying enemy at the same time😭like why can’t i just be around people without being so spiky or weird
It's been hell going through middle and high school as an INFP not knowing the term as I was led to think I was wrong for feeling too much too deeply. This made me accept that I was different from others and no one was willing to stay with me. 'Feel less, it's not that deep are you crazy?' 'Don't cry!' Don't cry is the worst, it made me way sadder cause I didn't know why I was like that they screamed at me that not knowing how to stop makes me the wrong one. I can't lie, I can't hide what I'm feeling. I had really hellish times with myself and I really feel alone as an INFP in the world. The whole point is that we can feel when we have superficial friendships and these kind are what is considered normal to others, but we only feel connected with true ones, the fact that they're so rare makes me feel so alone
My lovely, I feeeel you!! I wish I had had the framework of personality to make sense of myself more back during school too. It can be a lonely place. It isn’t all bad though - you will find people as you grow older who appreciate you authentically for yourself. I’m so grateful you know that you aren’t alone in feeling the way you do - brighter times are ahead, for sure! 💘❤️
Izzy, never mind the editing skills, I'm proud of you for having a YT channel in the first place. I'm looking forward to more videos from you. 😊 ( A fellow INFP 4w5)
INFJs are awesome, it was in fact an INFJ girl who (as a very first person in the world) managed to really see through my 'outer shell', understand what I'm going through and pull me out, helping me find a reason to live, really helped me with my life in general. ISFJs are also good at this. :-)
@@KubiG1000 Yes it's sort of natural for us. The big surprise for us is why doesn't everyone do that. Why can't everyone see this or that??? Why why why? Lol. BUT what I'm learning is that this insite isn't something everyone has. I did not know that! Constantly learning. 💡
I wish I could say this gets easier with age. I'm pushing 50, and I went into the bathroom and wept the other day because one of my daughters got a party invitation and the younger and more socially awkward one didn't. Now I'm haunted by this idea that I've foisted my own shortcomings onto the next generation.
Not at all. Your daughter will have her own journey of growth and self development to go on, and she’ll bring beautiful gifts to the world that others (perhaps those without social unease/awkwardness) don’t possess altogether. You sound like a wonderfully caring parent, please watch my previous video (why I love being an INFP) for why despite our awkwardness, we have so much to offer!!
Thank you for making this video. It was reassuring to hear someone else talk about the same struggles I experience. I was also excited to hear that you're from the UK as well aha. x
Definitely not!! I’ve always felt this way - like the conversations are much less intimate and authentic because it becomes more performative, but maybe that’s just me!
Oh nooo this is so so so true 🙈 it really sucks being an INFP in this world, but at least we know we only really care about meaningful things and human connection, and are always kind and wanting to help others
you know what this is soooo true and it only gets stronger as I get older. I actually think it is a gift to live so authentically, with pure and honest hearts whilst caring deeply for people - we are amazing! 😆🥰
I also come across as very awkward in certain situations 😆 do you find you build close/intimate connections very easily though with a very small number of people?
I strongly resonate with all of the points you raise. Also, the reasoning behind makes total sense to me. It's a relief to see that is more to do with our type, as one I feel is just me or I'm disfunctional. Somehow, knowing this I can find more productive ways to deal with it.
As a Infp My Whole Life I Agree With You I Studied The Cognitive Functions And I Read Abt What Type Suits Me The Most And I Ended Up Being A INFP It's Truly An Amazing Type It's The Best One For Me
@@theimperfectinfp One more thing that I find sucks as an INFP is we keep getting hurt by others but we cannot bear to give them a taste of their own medicine. Hurting others (who are close to us) would again hurt ourselves, and so we just choose the one-way hurt. Is it common with other INFPs too or just me? 😅
@@diparatisen I can definitely see this, though I think I have a lower tolerance for people who’ll hurt me, so I can usually avoid! What is your enneagram type out of interest? I know 9’s that struggle with this a lot!
Hope you are okay my fellow INFP!! I post a little more regularly on my Instagram but sending you lots of love to get through this time (whatever you are going through, you got this) 💞
I do care for people, but I'm not forcing people to be cared. If this made much sense to you. We encourage ourselves to still care to people. We have the Individualistic side of ourselves, we also have the Collective side of ourselves.
Yes yes and yes 😆 strengthening our Te is a great way of getting better at this! And also finding goals that really align with our values and excite us! But yeah, I’m still lazy with boring things, for sure hahaha
I never knew what having a best friend meant until this lockdown, one of my classmate (now best friend) started talking to me because we shared same taste in music, we knew each other for 4 years but we used to talk just because of her being so funny and social, she is so kind, funny and one of the popular kid in my class, other students used to dislike her before, but now everyone in my class says she is really good, and she makes other very comfortable and helps other a lot, i am proud of her🥺, she once asked me to choose a colour to describe her and i chose white ( because white lights is combination of 7 other colors and she really resonates with it, she is kind, funny, savage, emotional, dramatic queen 😂, intelligent, sometimes dumb, understandable all together) now because of her i started expressing myself a little better, and now there is at least one more person who can listen what i am talking for hours😭( my mother is also one). I wrote it twice, 😶 i have Hyperhidrosis so, first time i accidentally delete everything.
Good discussion. I'm a 75-year-old INFP (4w5) in Michigan. Lots of insecurities growing up and while in the Navy. I really began looking inward in my mid-20s. Always enjoyed in-depth conversations. My mother always said to have more depth than rainwater on the sidewalk, not be an inch deep and a mile wide. HI! Full of books and portable radios for music. Cats for company much of the time. Mostly women friends over the years. Not into one-upmanship, materialism, and keeping up with the Jones's. Over the years, I have become more and more confident and secure in my thoughts and actions. I don't much care whether people accept me, I really like myself and I don't envy any social climbers. As someone since aid, "95% of people spend 75% of their time trying to impress people they don't even like." I've often tried to impress various cats. Don't you know that balloon didn't travel far. Be nice to yourself. If you won't be you, who will be? Life is often a tear and a smile. I lost my only child, Josh (36 y/o) in 2014. Trust me, life can be tough but you will make it. Whenever my son would have a bad day I would say, "Come on Josh, it's time for a John Candy movie." Get lots of laughter and try to laugh at yourself every day. The mirror is a good place to start...
I just wanted to say a huge thank you for sharing so much of yourself in this comment, I really appreciate you for being you and I can't imagine what you've been through losing your son Josh. I'm glad that you exist and it's somewhat comforting knowing there are others out there experiencing the world in a similar way. Hope you are well ❤️
Thank you for your kind thoughts. To fill the void my son left, I 'fathered' on a small level many young people at the coffee shop. Many young people love a father figure. A few compliments and they soar!
I have a bit of a different explanation for the "INFP's tend to not do very well in group socialising situations". I've tried to observe people when they're in groups of 6-8 people aroud a table and talking. Most of the time, people will pair in 2s or 3s in that group and talk about a certain subject, and another pair of 2 or 3 people will talk about something completely different. For myself, I take a while to close a box (box being a complicated subject) and opening another (this is also the most exhausting part of the socialisation), so when you're in a situation where you're in a pair that's talking about a certain complicated subject, and all of a sudden, you're asked a question and invited into another conversation, with a completely different subject, you're forced to either close the first box and open another, or try to have two boxes open at once, which is very difficult. Both these scenarios are exhausting and difficult. As an INFP, if you're in a group of friends or colleagues that composes of more than 2-3 people, and you're sitting around a rectacular table, I'd recommend sitting at one of the 2 poles of the table so that you only have 2 adjacent people to easily talk to, thus meaning that you'll probably only be involved in one conversation at a time (aka only need to open one box). If you sit in the middle of the rectangular table, you'll likely be talked to by both poles of the table, and be pulled into 2 conversations at once and you'll be stuck in the 2 boxs open scenario or the quick successive closing and opening of boxes scenario (both being exhausting scenarios and difficult to keep up with both conversations). I have a theory that what mainly leads to exhaustion in social gatherings is the quick closing and opening of boxes or having multiple boxes open at once. I think this because I wouldn't be as exhausted by socialising if i'm only involved in one conversation and subject (when, for example, i'm sitting at one pole of the table) at a time. But if i'm involved in a situation that makes me change subjects many times and very quickly, it leaves me very exhausted. This has even happened when I spoke to only one person. I have a friend that likes to change subjects very quickly during long conversations, it's hard to really stick to one subject at a time. Even only talking to this one person would leave me exhausted very quickly. For this reason, I don't think it's the actual socialising that exhausts us, but rather the amount of boxes openned in a given time (either by having many opened at the same time, or the quick closing and opening of boxes). If you had the patience to read this small thesis of mine, I wish you a great day!
🥺🥺 appreciate you!! I actually spotted when I had 777 subscribers and screenshotted it because it felt significant 😆 thank you for watching, I’m planning a video actually on the specific experience of male INFPs vs female INFPs!
I may not be an INFP myself, but I am an ENTP and my fiancée is my special unicorn that I will take a bullet for, stoke her fires of self-confidence, and intentionally wave shiny objects in front of!
Loneliness is real. So is the urge to stop doing something. The great thing is that I always get the urge to start again! So maybe it takes me half a decade to write a novel. I did it, and am nearly done with my second in 1/3 the time. Once we find our, "calling," we can build the self-motivation that people pleasing tends to hinder.
The point you make about hobbies, oh Yes thats so me.. and i kind of hate that also, it makes me feel less enthousiastic about starting new things because i know somewhere in my head that its going to bore me sooner or later. Stil trying to find a way of using my creativity and enery in a good way without a lots of boredom/feelings of dragging me to the end of the task.
46. No college degree. Lost in life. Working service jobs. Makes me want to die at times. Other times, I'm just in my head being freely me in my own world.
Hey Dana, are you okay? I’ve just seen this comment so apologies for such a late reply. Feel free to DM me on my Instagram (@the.imperfect.infp) if you wanted to chat but sending you so much love.
@@theimperfectinfp not okay. I'm burned out. I go above and beyond on every job, caring more than everyone. Only to be disrespected in every way and left poor. At this time I have exhausted all options. Had I had a different life.... that didn't make me live my adult life feeling worthless and all alone.... I wish I could be free. Free to be who I am. Free to do what I was meant. How could such a good, genuine, honest, caring, playful person be trampled? Pushed to fight. Pushed to flight. Pushed to mere survival my whole life.
Love your videos, as an INFP I can relate to all of things you mentioned😊 Looking forward to watching your next videos! And you look so beautiful (can't help being enchanted by that haha) 🥰
Every other type either looks down on, pities or just doesn't een consider INFP's existence. What on earth is the point of any INFP to even bother anymore? We fully and deeply understand every other type and actively support them in every nuanced way... but we mean nothing to them. I hate being an INFP. I hate it so very much. 😭
I won't lie...this hit deep lol. You're right - I do feel like I try so hard to understand every individual in my life and be thoughtful to their needs, why they are the way they are, appreciate their strengths, uplift them etc. and when it (usually) isn't reciprocated. That hurts. It's tiring lol
I can totally relate to what you have discussed, as a grown up INFP, I find these topics humorous hahahaha, thank you, and mayde you could discuss INFPs being humble, hahaha keep making videos, thank you again 😊
I think the real struggle for an INFP.....is that, in many ways, modern human society is itself....ESTJ. It's like the "vibe" of the whole world is "Hey everyone! Let's all put our heads together and make pedantic value judgments about specific things that don't conform to the status quo." Whereas the INFP "vibe" is more like "Hey....me. Let's get inspired by melting into the ocean of reality. And then let's create a painting or write a poem about the experience..."
Love your videos! Your explanations are very clear as well. Next time can you make a video about fi-si loop of infp? Being or feeling stuck in the past is a problem infps including myself have so I was wondering if you could talk about this? If it's possible of course
Yes yes yessss, there were honestly so many other things I wanted to speak about after I’d finished recording and this is one of them! I’ll let you know when I make one talking about it ❤️
I was typed ISFP by my sister but I relate to the shiny object syndrome. Im a very creative person and new in the illustrator field. I'm particularly interested in the art licensing field, the only problem is that there's so many different ways to go about it and I lack to focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes it's the idea that's more exciting than just doing it and making it happen. It's like I collect these ideas because they excite me but then whe. It comes to narrowing it down I struggle alot because I want to focus on everything. Part of it is because of my anxiet too. I don't want to invest so much of my time doing one thing because I'm going to lose track of my other ideas.😂 I also want to change my career and restart my etsy shop but I don't know where to start. Like you, I also have many hobbies. I take screenshot of crafts that I want to do in the future but it's the idea of that excites me. I bought a huge box of air dry clay back in october and I've only made a couple of projects so far. I also have a huge stash of embroidery supplies. I've made some embroidery and even sold some of my work on etsy. I just can't to stick to one thing because I get bored so easily. It's like my mind is searching for the new shiny thing.
Great job, Izzy! I just found your site, and very much connected with your descriptions. I was originally typed at a #1 but after talking with many people (including myself - lol) and additional reading,, I feel resonate with #4 type. RE: procrastination I'm a champion procrastinator. Regardless, I really enjoyed your video. :)
Hello kitt!! Sorry I’ve just seen your comment - interestingly type 4’s tend to imitate or look like type 1’s in growth - so that makes sense! Thank you for watching and for your lovely comments - I really appreciate them :) ❤️
What would be the world like, when INFP's would make the main social life ... What about the so called "procrastinating". If everyone did this, cooperation would be so exciting, spontaneous, ..... 💕 ....social interaction would feel so natural .....free, easy and fun.....
@@theimperfectinfp thank you for your understanding of the male infp dilemma. Being afraid of being yourself in fear of being rejected and looked as an inferior man for being an introverted feeler is a dilemma in every infp male life im sure 100% Thats why im a musician, its the only place i feel safe to be emotional. But maybe i just havent met the right people... im from iceland there arent many people living in iceland and i have never met a male infp ever in my life :')
For me i like stuff like talkativeness assertivness ect about me but what i dont like is tht im rlly forgetful.. and tend to think that i dont wanna be seen as incompetent...
I’ve just noticed this comment - and wow!! Yes I’m super forgetful too, I think my head is always a little bit scrambled. So quick thinking or recalling facts/figures can be hard. Thank you for watching though - focus on your positives too! 😆🥰
@@choco-ps7rk my Instagram DM’s are always open if you wanted to chat about anything! Sending you love though, nothing in nature blooms all year round!
i always find myself inner thinking : omygod i hate routine i want to do manythings and ect and when life surprised me with a whole new experience , i die from stress and dont know how to control things
For all you INFPs out there.....I highly recommend looking up the video "AURORA the INFP Fairy." Aurora is a Norwegian singer/songwriter, one of my favorite humans to have ever humaned, and very very INFP. And she's probably the most self-actualized, healthy, thriving version of what an INFP is capable of achieving, let alone any human being of any MB type. But for INFPs in particular....she's hugely inspiring as to what is possible....
I like this little INFP corner you’ve created. I feel that you guys are some of the only people who know what being completely alienated in the world feels like. I hope you make more videos :)
Yessss we know that feeling!! Thank you so much for watching!! Appreciate you ❤️🥰What’s your type out of interest?
The INFP's favorite mode of procrastinatong is fantasizing and daydreaming.
I just can’t stop it 😆
OMG?????? yes
At this point I just what someone to ask about my ideas a write them down for me.
For real, thinking about that final paper for months just to start writing the week or day it’s due lol
This has had both advantageous and disadvanteous moments for me. I've found myself daydreaming even when I should be working. It's made me waste an insane amount of time when I should be productive (ex: revising for exams, working on a project or even daydreaming in the middle of a class or conversation with someone). At the same time, it makes us the most patient people in the world? For example: a line at the post office isn't that annoying. My brother always gets anxious and annoyed while wating in lines. Always saying things like: why is it taking so long, and stuff like that. I'm usually very relaxed and just zone out while waiting. Long trips in a car, train or on a plane are actually quite enjoyable, as I can just go into my head and make myself a story. I don't even need to bring a book, phone or computer with me. My own imagination is enough of a source of entertainment. So a very developed imagination has advantages and disadvantages. We are easily distracted and far less productive than most other personality types, but we also have great creative potential.
When you're so INFP that you decided to write short stories, because there's no patience left to write full books 🙋
Hahaha relatable, I’ll just think about writing the stories though so you’re a step ahead of me 😆
nice idea, i will give this a try
Quick update: My short story became a semi long story. I felt hopeful. A day later my motivation disappeared, like magic. I felt tricked. Like my mind was like:
Hocus pocus, be gone thine focus 🌟✨
One day I will finish that book. And the moment will be beautiful with birds singing and the orchestra playing as if heaven itself shall send angels to receive it.
Then I will wake up and forget about what I wrote in that damn dream. Sitting behind my laptop and realize I did no more than SpongeBob on that essay.
Alright, gonna cry myself to sleep now. Looking forward to a new video though! Maybe the difference between INFP-A and INFP-T? Apparently I'm a turbulent mediator, but I'm still a noob when it comes down to this.
Thanks for reading my short rant. If you didn't manage to read it all, no problem, I wouldn't be able to do so either 👍
Cheers and peace all😎🤗
@@theimperfectinfp Glad you can finish your UA-cam videos though 👍
One day I will finish that story, hopefully 😂
@@gurpreetkaur6939 Yes! Apparently INFP's are really good writers, singers, poets, actors, etc. Anything creative is our jam.
You can do it 👍
The worst thing about being an INFP for me is the whole 'staring something and never finishing it' mentality😭 Nice vid!
Agreed!! I have found spending time with my partner, who’s an ENTJ, is helping to strengthen my Te which definitely helps a little bit. But yeah - it’s a struggle!! Thank you for watching 🥰
so accurate, it is like i know a-lot of things but i have never mastered it fully, which is of honestly no use.
INFP Male here, i have had alot hobbies which i stoped perssue. The Reason for that i think its not Lazynies, its our Natre we tend to dig deeper to what realy makes us HAPPY ! and i by my 40-yo, still searching for that one Hobby or Task that i totaly can put me in to it. We also tent to have a realy hard inner judg, we need to strain him a bit and be happy with ourself not to punish us every single move we take.
Happy Creating !
I'm like that but I'm also Autistic and have ADHD!😅
For Me It's Changing And Improving
As much as I love being an INFP, it’s also so hard for us to live in this cruel world😣💖🙌🏻
We definitely can have a hard time adjusting to it, but there’s a power (in my opinion) to admitting what we struggle with and embracing and loving ourselves anyway ❤️🥰
I agree. We live in an STJ/STP kind of world. That's why we tend to feel like misfits. I keep trying to connect with others, but it seldom works out. After 60+ years, I've accepted that I'll probably always be a loner wolf.
We Better At Day Dreaming
I think that the worst thing and main struggle of us, INFP's, is that this society is literally built to piss us off...just think about it, the main goal is the end result and not the journey which invalidates anyone's feelings. Glad I could find a little piece of this world to find comfort in, thanks.
thank you for watching lovely, it can be very hard for sure!
I can't help but wonder if male INFPs may have have a harder time than female INFPs. The characteristics of this personality trait seem to be somewhat feminine and passive to the world at large and this may make male INFPs feel even more awkward than they already are.
I actually have a video planned talking about this, you’ve hit the nail on the head, our traits are quite often feminine and soft - which I know from speaking to male INFP friends can be a lot harder to navigate
Also many males tend to have logical mindsets due to biology. After some research I’ve found that us females have an advantage in emotional intelligence and mature physically and mentally faster than males, which explains a lot about why I grew up seeing boys my age a certain way with the way they act 😁😶
Male infps being apart of a sex that has a biological advantage in logic can be a disadvantage in society because they’re expected to be something they’re not. That’s why we see so many boy bands catering to this “feeler” and “soft” image that girls go crazy over because irl there aren’t many guys like that. Since we’re more emotionally intelligent, we tend to be more attracted to people’s personalities whether that’s making friends or finding someone. For males it’s quite the opposite, since they have a physical advantage (testosterone) they tend to be attracted to looks and make friends based off of that basis too (not entirely tho cuz making friends and finding someone is different). It kinda explains why males tend to feel pressured to get muscles and all that because other males are pressuring them.
That being said, the male infp definitely struggles more and sometimes has to prove himself to society with these standards set by other males who are most likely thinkers.
I was about to comment this exact same thing. ... I don't take this label super seriously, but I got it on the test and it really resonated with me. Also, I'm a gay bottom. And also, pretty much a virgin at age 37. It has always been hard for me to accept, and I still feel more romantic toward girls than guys. Idk, just thought it might relate, haha. INFPs crave intimacy and almost love to sacrifice themselves for others... but idk, it might not necessarily correlate with sexuality...
@@Oaisisshjsjssausuusj wait if all males are biologically hardwired towards logic, why would male INFPs somehow subvert that? The only way it would make sense is if a male INFP’s brain chemistry or structure is analogous to female brains.
@@atmodlee Female and male infps differ due to biological differences...there are many female thinkers even though I've just mentioned their emotional intelligence
Researching about the biological differences between both sexes can help but sometimes it can get confusing since many people assume females can't be thinkers or males can't be feelers. It's not that simple but for sure male infps are still males.
Bruh this is so relatable, especially the part about the “shiny object syndrome”. I get obsessed and so motivated over one thing- then it eventually goes downhill.... and I always get carried away by new ideas which results me into never finishing anything 😤
the cycle of liiiiife, me too so often 😂thank you for watching!!
Do you have any solution for this?
Me too. I have started so many things and hardly kept at any of them. This doesn't just include what I have purchased but also my time spent researching, and watching YT videos. I do have a few things I keep rotating through and growing in skill but man, what a lot of wasted money! Lol
As an infp I constantly see representation in the media most probably because we’re the most intuitive and imaginative meaning we write a lot of stories. I’m proud to be an infp but seeing so many people idolize infp fictional characters/people but being the same ones who treat us differently reminds me of how hard it is being unique in this world...
I’m not necessarily saying I’m unique in a “special” way for being an infp, what I mean is we’re unique in the sense of our personality is really different and because of that we’re misunderstood. Being a minority in the majority of common personality types feels exhausting. Most of the times I have to stay grounded because there have been moments where I’ve clapped back but felt so bad and energy drained afterwards knowing that’s not me.
I feel this! Keep doing you ❤️
I’m 27 and changed my path so much, recently discovered I’m an INFP, and I’m so worried that we are low money earners, I’m extremely creative, I graduated last year with a first in illustration and animation but a lot of this work requires alone working and I struggle being alone all day, I’m introverted but crave the company of others. I’m really struggling with this :(
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I’ve tried sharing a studio space but it got too expensive, I’m taking a course in stop motion to try and give myself a better working environment, working as part of a team and feeling helpful/useful, but I still feel annoyed at myself that I can’t just be happy.. *smh*
it's very real to acknowledge that you have basic needs, and feeling part of a team or having social interactions is definitely a very real need for many, especially us INFP's, who get a lot of our purpose and meaning from relationships with those around us!
I hope you find some balance! well done for harnessing all that creativity into something you can enjoy though - and don't feel bad for not having it all figured out, I definitely don't either! xx
I’m in introvert but I crave the company of others really resonated with me. You’re not alone, stay strong and keep going to figure out your balance.
I am 43 and I can tell you it does get easier to figure out what you need, and then decide to do it. Easier. Not easy. I agree with your assessment that we tend to be low income earners because we value the process and the things we tend to enjoy doing are creative and those take time before earning money happens. I think many of us are entrepreneurs too, if we are able to be. Knowing the balance between needing connections and needing alone time is important. For me, if it's working on my art skills of any kind, I can not do it with others. But if I was in a restaurant business as I dream if, I obviously need others. So for me right now, I prefer the connections to be made outside of creative time, and based on things we have in common, and that's usually spiritual for me.
The basic infp mould haha..spot on🙂. As a sensitive and intuitive person iv always felt that larger social groups are chaotic to me. As an empathic person all the egos can be overwhelming and as such naturally feel more comfortable in smaller selective groups or ideally 1 or 2 people. This is so i can focus better and feel less bombarded by others mental narratives. I can also be more myself and can thrive and feel quite extroverted in smaller groups, which for anyone not just infp i think is essential from time to time for self understanding and self confidence. Thankyou for the video.🙏🏼
You are so right! Excelling in small groups and one-on-one conversations can be really energising and uplifting, definitely get more value from those times than large group interactions, mostly for the reasons you describe! Thank you for being here!! 🥰❤️
I’ve found it helpful to mentally split the large group I’m in into smaller groups, this allows me to actually feel energized in a normally draining setting. I’ll literally be running moving from small group to small group and meeting much of the larger group. Gives people the impression I’m extroverted even though I’m definitely not.
WOW! You just described me perfectly…jaw on the floor! I appreciate your spot-on, insightful INFP soul attributes. Thank you ❤
I'm an INFP. The shiny object syndrome absolutely hit the nail on the head for me! That's 1000000% EXACTLY ME! I never knew there was a term for it!
Sounds like ADHD
I am sure you can have both
INFP can stay focused if they want
no they fucking cant go to hell man
( i am terribly sorry right now im mad at this fcking mbti i just need to behave as a hater. stillwhat you said is bullshit infp cant do that ) @@bethanycreativeside4326
INFP-T often feels like ADHD... seriously! I watched once a video of a ADHD diagnosed person and his story was almost 1:1 like my INFP-T journey (now I'm INFP-A and know how to use my stenghts and set boundries)
I definitely resonate with the awkward point. I'm so awkward to most people because I know we will not connect deeply. I just don't know what questions to ask or how to continue a conversation! Also, my job right now includes customer service, so I dread talking to customers because I just know my social awkwardness will show. Anyway, have a great day, my amazing INFPs!
Social skills can definitely be learnt! Unfortunately they may not be our natural skill-set but the more you practice them through your jobs you will definitely get better at this!! So well done for putting yourself out of your comfort zone and into the growth-zone!
Good luck and remember you are wonderful as you are! 💕😘
Male INFP type 9 here. One of the biggest things that helped me with social anxiety is a meditation technique in which you count your exhalations up to ten then start over again. Really saved my life!!!!!!!
@@hunterkarr5618i appreciate it 😊
I love infps so much! i dont understand why you dont love yourselves? but also you do at the same time
~infj
i love infjs
We do love ourselves and I also love INFJs, i dont think ive met one irl but online i see them and we always get along well :)
@@mesrsmoonywormtailpadfootandpr i have an infp bestie of over a decade and one online infp bestie also
I’m that one person who’ll start cleaning my room and not be done until 8 hours later, since half of the time I was zoning out
hahaha yesss, too busy vibing to music and nostalgia for cleaning
As an INFP, I always like the “idea” of things. Like the idea of mushrooms and spiders, or the idea of being productive with a routine but I typically don’t like or do these things in real life 😂
Like a typically INFP, after seeing this video I'm in love with you! Hahahh You explained exactly the struggles I suffered all my entire life. I'm studying MBTI and Jung for 4 months and today I realized that definitely I'm a INFP and your video is the final proof! Thank you so much for sharing your life with us! Xoxo 🇧🇷
That IS a very INFP thing hahaha, true romantics and idealists 😆 thank you for watching! Glad it helped in your typing journey!! 🥰
BRAZILLLLL REPRESENT
@@weareallinthis3668 É nois! ✌️
Totally agree that it takes a long time to find our place in this strange world. Many decades in my case. But now I feel blessed to be me. Not sure if I'm weird or most of the world is.
I’m in high school and I’m extremely introverted due to past trauma, like I won’t talk to anybody outside of my friend group. All my friends and me are in band so that’s easily my favorite thing about high school. It’s insanely hard being an INFP in school, for me at least.
Hey there! I remember how difficult school could feel. Try to be open to opening yourself up and getting yourself out of your comfort zone, little by little. Don’t rush yourself though, you’ve got a long way to go and as you mature and grow things will get easier for you as the years pass by! Promise ❤️
School really doesn't matter. If you don't want to be a slave the rest of your life, you'll have to run your own business(es), so it's best to get started as soon as possible. And be careful about spending too much time on things that don't make a lot of money.
Was there with you a few years ago buddy. I had the "perfect family" growing up and "nothing toooo tooo bad" happened to me because "others have it worse" but that trauma i feel stems from simply realizing someone you cared for so much not actually understanding it. This strong feeling of "How do u not know me after all this time?" you speak to yourself after some specific event happens that they might not even notice. Its borderline insulting and makes you not want to even attempt that ever again. Without giving you the INFP rambling session lets just say I do have flashbacks of certain events but mostly due to a "close friend" 's (Lol how dumb I was) reaction to them despite the obvious response that should have happened. I feel a lot of our pain comes from people not seeing things our way or dismissing our thoughts entirely.
3:08 omg!! about the feeling deeply for music and nature thing.. infps please tell me if any of y‘all relate😭
as a teenager music was literally my drug and there was nothing better to me than listening to music. i couldn‘t get myself to focus on homework when i could listen to my favorite songs instead … the homework felt so cold and pointless and the music felt so right. it was literally painful to stop myself from consuming it😂 every morning in the schoolbus i dreaded the moment we arrived at school and i had to take off my headphones and i looked forward to the moment i could go on the bus and listen to music again after school.
while i would listen to the music i would feel euphoric and like i could do anything but i always knew that feeling wouldn‘t last throughout the day. it became a lot less intense over the years like when i was 15 i could listen to a song and i almost felt like i was living in the song idk how to describe it.
at night i used to lay in bed and literally listen to music for like 2 or 3 hours just staring at the ceiling being completely immersed in the songs. there was nothing better to me.
i have some friends that also love music a lot but i always felt alone in the way i was obsessed with it.
i also feel such a deep love for nature. we have forests where i live and it brings me so much joy. i love the mystical vibe i get from it and it feels like a magical world to me. i feel so happy when i‘m on a field or in forest where i feel like there‘s nothing but nature around me. i feel so at home idk how to describe it. this was also even stronger when i was younger. tbh i‘m glad i don‘t feel these things AS strong anymore because it felt kinda isolating but i‘m also scared i will completely lose this 'dreamy' part of my mind as i get older.
the same with close relationships. if there is a person that i felt a connection to and felt like could become a great friendship i would prioritize them at all times. i would stay up until 4am talking to them even when i had an exam the next day. it just felt so meaningful and fullfilling to me and school felt meaningless in comparison . but at this point i also feel like i can never be a invested in a person ever again like i was when i met my best friend at 17. it was a whole other level of wanting to connect so deeply. i‘m scared i‘ll never feel that with anyone ever again.
You literally just described me😂😂 I live for music, nature, books and my closest friends
Yes! When you talked about not fairing well in group settings, especially when there are a lot of people there, and everyone is talking, I felt that in my soul. I have come to the conclusion that the carrying capacity for a good conversation where everyone feels like they are heard is 2-3 persons. Anything over that is overload, especially to an INFP that perhaps wants to talk, but doesn't feel like what they say will be heard or validated.
relatable
You really point out exactly the most difficult things being an infp. Seriously, its tiring. Altho i love our good values, but sometimes its really hard. I wish we could make an island just for us infp.. so we can chill, no deadlines, no forced interactions, and we can love deeply. But reality hit us hard.
Being An INFP for me personally sucks!
I hate it!
It's like my brain is two Rams bucking their horns and then becoming stuck together 😮💨
But i feel like infp as deep feeler feels like an angel to me. You are an angel. Pure innocent soul.
Being an INFP 4w5 man growing up in the midwest was tough.
Oh wow I bet, I’m glad you came to finding the enneagram though to at least offer you some explanation of why this was! It’s good to know you’re not alone ❤️
You nailed it! As an INFP divorced middle aged dad just getting back into the dating scene (unsuccessfully, of course, because I am INFP and too picky when it comes to dating) I am finding that my INFP-ness is more glaringly obvious than it used to be.
We are picky! But only cos we’re super good at filtering out what isn’t right for us, wishing you all the success with dating again!! 🤞🏼
I have often wondered if male INFPs have it harder in this department, due to stereotypes about masculinity/femininity etc!
@@theimperfectinfp A built-in "filter"! I like that; it is a good way to look at it. Yes, I have struggled (unconsciously at first) with the male "masculine" role. I am as straight as can be and yet I would prefer to walk in the woods and study nature and write a poem next to a stream rather than go to a football game. But I still love sports; I just prefer quieter things. And sunflowers! I am learning to just be me and to be OK with that.
@@jimspelman8538 well that sounds like an absolute dream to me 🥰 happy that you can embrace yourself! The world needs more of us INFPs to be ourselves fully and wholly, instead of masking what makes us, us! Thank you for watching Jim :)
5:24 i can relate this totaly, as a male. Being in LOVE with Women, we must be sure that we don't get HURT ! as an INFP i can say if we are in usafe place and not totaly independent, a breakup can hurt us very much. Having a Plan B, C, D ...is a total MUST for every INFP ! Especialy for a MALE (as we tent to be more Vulnarable in society, as we have to have alot expectations, look, money, influence etc. just to meet a avarage Women)
Sound harsh, but its reality, image INFP women is cute ! But INFP Male, wow, its ackwarck at least ! And along with this you have also to deliver every single expectations sosciety puts on Male today.
I can appreciate this, I’ve often thought typical INFP traits are stereotypically very feminine and therefore acceptable for women to display, much more so than for men. Sending you lots of love!! You got this ❤️
The filter is both my most caring friend and most annoying enemy at the same time😭like why can’t i just be around people without being so spiky or weird
I can add the 6 thing - being a male infp... Hello from Russia) 😊
i love your video! as an INFP, i really struggle with these! and i love the comment section, INFPs are the cutest ! 🥰
aww comments like this make me really happy, thank you for watching and being here ❤️ appreciate u!! 🥰
I am an INFP and it sucks to feel things deeply. I am an extrovert and now I have become a hermit.
It's been hell going through middle and high school as an INFP not knowing the term as I was led to think I was wrong for feeling too much too deeply. This made me accept that I was different from others and no one was willing to stay with me. 'Feel less, it's not that deep are you crazy?' 'Don't cry!' Don't cry is the worst, it made me way sadder cause I didn't know why I was like that they screamed at me that not knowing how to stop makes me the wrong one. I can't lie, I can't hide what I'm feeling. I had really hellish times with myself and I really feel alone as an INFP in the world. The whole point is that we can feel when we have superficial friendships and these kind are what is considered normal to others, but we only feel connected with true ones, the fact that they're so rare makes me feel so alone
My lovely, I feeeel you!! I wish I had had the framework of personality to make sense of myself more back during school too. It can be a lonely place.
It isn’t all bad though - you will find people as you grow older who appreciate you authentically for yourself. I’m so grateful you know that you aren’t alone in feeling the way you do - brighter times are ahead, for sure! 💘❤️
@@theimperfectinfp thank you so much, sending positive energy!🥰
I love the cat sticker on the thumbnail
Hahaha it seemed like a very INFP mood
This is why everybody should hang out with an extrovert. We can help with all these ;)
Hahahah appreciate you Phil 😆🥰
Not being able to express your emotion and getting misunderstood by others also aucks as an infp
Izzy: Why I love being an INFP
Also Izzy: Why being an INFP sucks
Izzy: I'm simply playing both sides so I always come out on the top
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Izzy, never mind the editing skills, I'm proud of you for having a YT channel in the first place. I'm looking forward to more videos from you. 😊 ( A fellow INFP 4w5)
my heart when I read this !!!! thank you so much Emese, what a lovely thing to say!! Appreciate you !! ❤️
Na, you guys are great. I've met a few. INFJ here.
My best friend is an INFJ and she da best 🥰🥰
@@theimperfectinfp Ya, I'm a fan!
INFJs are awesome, it was in fact an INFJ girl who (as a very first person in the world) managed to really see through my 'outer shell', understand what I'm going through and pull me out, helping me find a reason to live, really helped me with my life in general. ISFJs are also good at this. :-)
@@KubiG1000 Yes it's sort of natural for us. The big surprise for us is why doesn't everyone do that. Why can't everyone see this or that??? Why why why? Lol. BUT what I'm learning is that this insite isn't something everyone has. I did not know that! Constantly learning. 💡
I wish I could say this gets easier with age. I'm pushing 50, and I went into the bathroom and wept the other day because one of my daughters got a party invitation and the younger and more socially awkward one didn't. Now I'm haunted by this idea that I've foisted my own shortcomings onto the next generation.
Not at all. Your daughter will have her own journey of growth and self development to go on, and she’ll bring beautiful gifts to the world that others (perhaps those without social unease/awkwardness) don’t possess altogether. You sound like a wonderfully caring parent, please watch my previous video (why I love being an INFP) for why despite our awkwardness, we have so much to offer!!
There's more to life than some simple parties. Best of luck!
Finally someone who understands. 😊
Thank you for making this video. It was reassuring to hear someone else talk about the same struggles I experience. I was also excited to hear that you're from the UK as well aha. x
Aww thank you so much lovely!! Really appreciate you watching❤️❤️ and hahaha my accent is a dead giveaway, Yorkshire through and through 😆
Oh god you guys we really need to love ourselves and believe in ourselves more 💖💕
Thanks for mentioning about this sensation of people competing to say something funny in group conversations. Now I know I am not crazy.
Definitely not!! I’ve always felt this way - like the conversations are much less intimate and authentic because it becomes more performative, but maybe that’s just me!
Oh nooo this is so so so true 🙈 it really sucks being an INFP in this world, but at least we know we only really care about meaningful things and human connection, and are always kind and wanting to help others
you know what this is soooo true and it only gets stronger as I get older. I actually think it is a gift to live so authentically, with pure and honest hearts whilst caring deeply for people - we are amazing! 😆🥰
As an infp i love self-sabotaging and i really come of as awkward. I will prolly die alone but i have to listen to a good playlist while dying 🥹😭
I also come across as very awkward in certain situations 😆 do you find you build close/intimate connections very easily though with a very small number of people?
INFP (6w5) here. I was called out by this video especially the "shiny syndrome"
I strongly resonate with all of the points you raise. Also, the reasoning behind makes total sense to me. It's a relief to see that is more to do with our type, as one I feel is just me or I'm disfunctional. Somehow, knowing this I can find more productive ways to deal with it.
As a Infp My Whole Life I Agree With You I Studied The Cognitive Functions And I Read Abt What Type Suits Me The Most And I Ended Up Being A INFP It's Truly An Amazing Type It's The Best One For Me
Point no. 4 and the one-on-one vs group thing have my heart ❤️
Thank you so much for watching again my lovely, appreciate u sooo much 🥰
@@theimperfectinfp One more thing that I find sucks as an INFP is we keep getting hurt by others but we cannot bear to give them a taste of their own medicine. Hurting others (who are close to us) would again hurt ourselves, and so we just choose the one-way hurt. Is it common with other INFPs too or just me? 😅
@@diparatisen I can definitely see this, though I think I have a lower tolerance for people who’ll hurt me, so I can usually avoid! What is your enneagram type out of interest? I know 9’s that struggle with this a lot!
@@theimperfectinfp You're amazing - yes, I'm a nine. 🙈
@@diparatisen that makes so much sense!! 😆 it’s very interesting how the enneagram influences the MBTI type!
I can relate a lot. Thank you for sharing your depth with the world!
Fellow INFP/4w5 here! 👋🏻
Just found your channel, and so far your content really speaks to me - at a much needed time. Subscribing! ❤
Hope you are okay my fellow INFP!! I post a little more regularly on my Instagram but sending you lots of love to get through this time (whatever you are going through, you got this) 💞
I do care for people, but I'm not forcing people to be cared.
If this made much sense to you. We encourage ourselves to still care to people. We have the Individualistic side of ourselves, we also have the Collective side of ourselves.
Finding out how one receive and process info is the fist step of mastering ones self good job
Very very true! Thank you for watching :)
Are any of y'all super lazy? I'm a infp and i get lazy with everythingggg and i loveee comfort.
Yes yes and yes 😆 strengthening our Te is a great way of getting better at this! And also finding goals that really align with our values and excite us! But yeah, I’m still lazy with boring things, for sure hahaha
yes, super lazy. 97% of my time is spent laying down. it's bad.
INTP here. I feel like we are INFPs on the inside.
Hahaha, I always have great chats with INTPs, you guys are cool!
same here, I'm kind of beginning to question whether or not I'm even an INTP, lol
@@etch3084 I love INTP’s so much but it is always unrequited appreciation 😆
I never knew what having a best friend meant until this lockdown, one of my classmate (now best friend) started talking to me because we shared same taste in music, we knew each other for 4 years but we used to talk just because of her being so funny and social, she is so kind, funny and one of the popular kid in my class, other students used to dislike her before, but now everyone in my class says she is really good, and she makes other very comfortable and helps other a lot, i am proud of her🥺, she once asked me to choose a colour to describe her and i chose white ( because white lights is combination of 7 other colors and she really resonates with it, she is kind, funny, savage, emotional, dramatic queen 😂, intelligent, sometimes dumb, understandable all together) now because of her i started expressing myself a little better, and now there is at least one more person who can listen what i am talking for hours😭( my mother is also one).
I wrote it twice, 😶 i have Hyperhidrosis so, first time i accidentally delete everything.
Great video. Very true. I just wanted to add that I really like the balloon picture.
Me too! Thank you!! :)
Each and every word of that is true....I feel exposed 😂😂
I am the dreamer, procrastinator,reader and in love with fantasy.
Good discussion. I'm a 75-year-old INFP (4w5) in Michigan. Lots of insecurities growing up and while in the Navy. I really began looking inward in my mid-20s. Always enjoyed in-depth conversations. My mother always said to have more depth than rainwater on the sidewalk, not be an inch deep and a mile wide. HI! Full of books and portable radios for music. Cats for company much of the time. Mostly women friends over the years. Not into one-upmanship, materialism, and keeping up with the Jones's. Over the years, I have become more and more confident and secure in my thoughts and actions. I don't much care whether people accept me, I really like myself and I don't envy any social climbers. As someone since aid, "95% of people spend 75% of their time trying to impress people they don't even like." I've often tried to impress various cats. Don't you know that balloon didn't travel far. Be nice to yourself. If you won't be you, who will be? Life is often a tear and a smile. I lost my only child, Josh (36 y/o) in 2014. Trust me, life can be tough but you will make it. Whenever my son would have a bad day I would say, "Come on Josh, it's time for a John Candy movie." Get lots of laughter and try to laugh at yourself every day. The mirror is a good place to start...
I just wanted to say a huge thank you for sharing so much of yourself in this comment, I really appreciate you for being you and I can't imagine what you've been through losing your son Josh. I'm glad that you exist and it's somewhat comforting knowing there are others out there experiencing the world in a similar way. Hope you are well ❤️
Thank you for your kind thoughts. To fill the void my son left, I 'fathered' on a small level many young people at the coffee shop. Many young people love a father figure. A few compliments and they soar!
I have a bit of a different explanation for the "INFP's tend to not do very well in group socialising situations". I've tried to observe people when they're in groups of 6-8 people aroud a table and talking. Most of the time, people will pair in 2s or 3s in that group and talk about a certain subject, and another pair of 2 or 3 people will talk about something completely different. For myself, I take a while to close a box (box being a complicated subject) and opening another (this is also the most exhausting part of the socialisation), so when you're in a situation where you're in a pair that's talking about a certain complicated subject, and all of a sudden, you're asked a question and invited into another conversation, with a completely different subject, you're forced to either close the first box and open another, or try to have two boxes open at once, which is very difficult. Both these scenarios are exhausting and difficult. As an INFP, if you're in a group of friends or colleagues that composes of more than 2-3 people, and you're sitting around a rectacular table, I'd recommend sitting at one of the 2 poles of the table so that you only have 2 adjacent people to easily talk to, thus meaning that you'll probably only be involved in one conversation at a time (aka only need to open one box). If you sit in the middle of the rectangular table, you'll likely be talked to by both poles of the table, and be pulled into 2 conversations at once and you'll be stuck in the 2 boxs open scenario or the quick successive closing and opening of boxes scenario (both being exhausting scenarios and difficult to keep up with both conversations).
I have a theory that what mainly leads to exhaustion in social gatherings is the quick closing and opening of boxes or having multiple boxes open at once. I think this because I wouldn't be as exhausted by socialising if i'm only involved in one conversation and subject (when, for example, i'm sitting at one pole of the table) at a time. But if i'm involved in a situation that makes me change subjects many times and very quickly, it leaves me very exhausted. This has even happened when I spoke to only one person. I have a friend that likes to change subjects very quickly during long conversations, it's hard to really stick to one subject at a time. Even only talking to this one person would leave me exhausted very quickly. For this reason, I don't think it's the actual socialising that exhausts us, but rather the amount of boxes openned in a given time (either by having many opened at the same time, or the quick closing and opening of boxes). If you had the patience to read this small thesis of mine, I wish you a great day!
I'm glad that I found this channel😊 thank you for the video! As an infp I totally agree with your words
It’s so nice having so many INFPs in one place!! 😆 thank you for being here lovely 💕
777th sub!!! An INFP Male myself I found your video validating and comforting
🥺🥺 appreciate you!! I actually spotted when I had 777 subscribers and screenshotted it because it felt significant 😆 thank you for watching, I’m planning a video actually on the specific experience of male INFPs vs female INFPs!
So eloquent. Nice summary of the trials of being an introverted people person!
thank you Ed! :)
I may not be an INFP myself, but I am an ENTP and my fiancée is my special unicorn that I will take a bullet for, stoke her fires of self-confidence, and intentionally wave shiny objects in front of!
So true fellow INFP... nice to see another English INFP here!
Aww happy to have you here!!
Loneliness is real. So is the urge to stop doing something. The great thing is that I always get the urge to start again! So maybe it takes me half a decade to write a novel. I did it, and am nearly done with my second in 1/3 the time. Once we find our, "calling," we can build the self-motivation that people pleasing tends to hinder.
The point you make about hobbies, oh Yes thats so me.. and i kind of hate that also, it makes me feel less enthousiastic about starting new things because i know somewhere in my head that its going to bore me sooner or later. Stil trying to find a way of using my creativity and enery in a good way without a lots of boredom/feelings of dragging me to the end of the task.
You and me both!! I’ll let you know when I’ve cracked that one 😭
46. No college degree. Lost in life. Working service jobs. Makes me want to die at times. Other times, I'm just in my head being freely me in my own world.
Hey Dana, are you okay? I’ve just seen this comment so apologies for such a late reply. Feel free to DM me on my Instagram (@the.imperfect.infp) if you wanted to chat but sending you so much love.
@@theimperfectinfp not okay. I'm burned out. I go above and beyond on every job, caring more than everyone. Only to be disrespected in every way and left poor. At this time I have exhausted all options. Had I had a different life.... that didn't make me live my adult life feeling worthless and all alone.... I wish I could be free. Free to be who I am. Free to do what I was meant. How could such a good, genuine, honest, caring, playful person be trampled? Pushed to fight. Pushed to flight. Pushed to mere survival my whole life.
Love the explanations being so clear!
Me tryin to ask a girl out: ...
Girl:...
My mind: then we have kids and live happily ever after!
Love your videos, as an INFP I can relate to all of things you mentioned😊 Looking forward to watching your next videos! And you look so beautiful (can't help being enchanted by that haha) 🥰
Aww thank you my lovely!! You’re very kind 😆🥰 big love and thank you for watching me ramble!!
Every other type either looks down on, pities or just doesn't een consider INFP's existence. What on earth is the point of any INFP to even bother anymore? We fully and deeply understand every other type and actively support them in every nuanced way... but we mean nothing to them. I hate being an INFP. I hate it so very much. 😭
I won't lie...this hit deep lol. You're right - I do feel like I try so hard to understand every individual in my life and be thoughtful to their needs, why they are the way they are, appreciate their strengths, uplift them etc. and when it (usually) isn't reciprocated. That hurts. It's tiring lol
I love this ❤️
Everything you said!!! So true!
I can totally relate to what you have discussed, as a grown up INFP, I find these topics humorous hahahaha, thank you, and mayde you could discuss INFPs being humble, hahaha keep making videos, thank you again 😊
I'm glad you enjoyed it! I think being an INFP defffinitely gets easier as we grow up haha!
Because of this video I remembered an appointment I have, I completely forgot 😂
Hahahah cannot tell you how often I do this, next step: getting there on time 😂
I think the real struggle for an INFP.....is that, in many ways, modern human society is itself....ESTJ.
It's like the "vibe" of the whole world is "Hey everyone! Let's all put our heads together and make pedantic value judgments about specific things that don't conform to the status quo." Whereas the INFP "vibe" is more like "Hey....me. Let's get inspired by melting into the ocean of reality. And then let's create a painting or write a poem about the experience..."
do not blame other types please.
Love your videos! Your explanations are very clear as well. Next time can you make a video about fi-si loop of infp? Being or feeling stuck in the past is a problem infps including myself have so I was wondering if you could talk about this? If it's possible of course
Yes yes yessss, there were honestly so many other things I wanted to speak about after I’d finished recording and this is one of them! I’ll let you know when I make one talking about it ❤️
@@theimperfectinfp ohh great! Thank you very much !! 💕
I was typed ISFP by my sister but I relate to the shiny object syndrome. Im a very creative person and new in the illustrator field. I'm particularly interested in the art licensing field, the only problem is that there's so many different ways to go about it and I lack to focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes it's the idea that's more exciting than just doing it and making it happen. It's like I collect these ideas because they excite me but then whe. It comes to narrowing it down I struggle alot because I want to focus on everything. Part of it is because of my anxiet too. I don't want to invest so much of my time doing one thing because I'm going to lose track of my other ideas.😂 I also want to change my career and restart my etsy shop but I don't know where to start.
Like you, I also have many hobbies. I take screenshot of crafts that I want to do in the future but it's the idea of that excites me. I bought a huge box of air dry clay back in october and I've only made a couple of projects so far. I also have a huge stash of embroidery supplies. I've made some embroidery and even sold some of my work on etsy. I just can't to stick to one thing because I get bored so easily. It's like my mind is searching for the new shiny thing.
I love your video so much!! the information you have provided so far is very helpful in getting to know myself better, thank you!!
You're so welcome!! Thank you for watching!! :)
I absolutely love being an INFP
Spot on!!! 😄♥️
It’s reassuring that I ain’t alone in these struggles 😆
Apart from the new hobbies (am interested in so many things but do not even start ...) everything applies to me (INFP-T / 4w5)
Great job, Izzy! I just found your site, and very much connected with your descriptions. I was originally typed at a #1 but after talking with many people (including myself - lol) and additional reading,, I feel resonate with #4 type. RE: procrastination I'm a champion procrastinator. Regardless, I really enjoyed your video. :)
Hello kitt!! Sorry I’ve just seen your comment - interestingly type 4’s tend to imitate or look like type 1’s in growth - so that makes sense! Thank you for watching and for your lovely comments - I really appreciate them :) ❤️
im an infp and i sooo resonate with our content!
aww thank you for being here and watching 🥰💘
@@theimperfectinfp no problem!…it feels so good to watch infp content I feel like I’ve found my people in this world ….😂
If I ever had any doubt about being an INFP I surely don't now. That's definitely me !😂😂😂
hahahah love that :) at least we ain't alone!!
Unfortunately I have to disappoint you lol. INFP 4w5 here, and all of those absolutely apply to me...
Oh no 😂 at least we’re not alone in the struggles hahah
@@theimperfectinfp lol, right? It's a selfish comfort to know that there are more of us out there though lol
So well articulated ! truly resonate w this so thanks🥰
Aww thank you!! Grateful to have you here 🥰
This video sums me up 100%
At least we ain’t alone in the struggles!!
I just struggle too much in deadlines, productivity, trying to focus. I just don't have any energy for these type of stuff
I feel you on this one friend, I really am the same!
What would be the world like, when INFP's would make the main social life ... What about the so called "procrastinating". If everyone did this, cooperation would be so exciting, spontaneous, ..... 💕 ....social interaction would feel so natural .....free, easy and fun.....
As a 38 year old male infp ive been an alien all my life.... thats the hardest thing
🥺 feeling a very similar sort of melancholy feeling tonight, I do imagine it’s only harder for men
@@theimperfectinfp thank you for your understanding of the male infp dilemma.
Being afraid of being yourself in fear of being rejected and looked as an inferior man for being an introverted feeler is a dilemma in every infp male life im sure 100%
Thats why im a musician, its the only place i feel safe to be emotional.
But maybe i just havent met the right people... im from iceland there arent many people living in iceland and i have never met a male infp ever in my life :')
For me i like stuff like talkativeness assertivness ect about me but what i dont like is tht im rlly forgetful.. and tend to think that i dont wanna be seen as incompetent...
I’ve just noticed this comment - and wow!! Yes I’m super forgetful too, I think my head is always a little bit scrambled. So quick thinking or recalling facts/figures can be hard. Thank you for watching though - focus on your positives too! 😆🥰
@@theimperfectinfp haha glad tht u relate :) , yeah i try to focus on the better side of myself but right now its a bit hard
@@choco-ps7rk my Instagram DM’s are always open if you wanted to chat about anything! Sending you love though, nothing in nature blooms all year round!
I think I need to make the cat in a blanket my Facebook profile picture 🫥🥺😭
I don't know why i'm here
-INFJ
Hahaha I’m glad you’re here, my best friend is an INFJ and she’s amazing 🥰
i always find myself inner thinking : omygod i hate routine i want to do manythings and ect and when life surprised me with a whole new experience , i die from stress and dont know how to control things
this is meee lol, structure is a no but so are spontaneous surprises hahaha
I think it must be a lot more pleasant and easier being an INFP female than male.
Relatable, nice vid ;)
Thanks Ali! 🥰
For all you INFPs out there.....I highly recommend looking up the video "AURORA the INFP Fairy."
Aurora is a Norwegian singer/songwriter, one of my favorite humans to have ever humaned, and very very INFP.
And she's probably the most self-actualized, healthy, thriving version of what an INFP is capable of achieving, let alone any human being of any MB type. But for INFPs in particular....she's hugely inspiring as to what is possible....