Girrrlllll when you spoke on basically inconveniencing ourselves for someone else I had to holler (around the 12:00 mark)! When I realized that was something I was doing I had an epiphany and stopped immediately. We women will be struggling with 10 bags of groceries up the stairs and will try to rush to drop them if our phone rings meanwhile a man can be sitting at home chilling and will look at you calling his phone and decide he’s just not in the mood to talk. I have adapted that same energy. If it’s not an immediate yes, then it’s a no for me and either they respect it or keep it moving. This goes for men, women, friends, family- you should NOT always be available for anyone (unless that person gives you the same energy) that’s how you quickly become less important and taken advantage of.
Yes we do, and it’s soo unfortunate, and yes girl, I’m happy you made that change ☺️ and I’m also glad you could resonate with some of the points in this video 🥰
Love this! Just discovered you! I'm a woman who has overall done well for myself, but right now I've run into some financial issues and am in the process of getting back on my feet and back to the wonderful financial freedom in used to. But I'm now dating a GREAT guy and I'm just so unsure of myself because I've never felt low like this (money, living situation etc) while dating and i don't know how to be my best self in the dating.... any ideas?
Ohh I’m soo sorry to hear this, the first thing is to make sure to always put effort in your look, always be put together it’ll make you feel a little better about yourself if you’re feeling low, number two is to definitely make your finances your main focus because as women we deserve to live in ease, and smas for the guy, my only point is a man’s purpose in your life is to add value just, make sure all decisions you make are in your best interest 😊
Focus on yourself and keep grinding. There is no guarantee that he will stick around and you’ll be sorry he stolen your time that you could’ve had your own bag (from experience). Good luck!
@@angellydiaofficial very, very true. Lol, that's part of the problem people tend to think I "look" like money so it feels crazy when I'm starting over financially. People make comments and assumptions while I'm struggling in reality. And since I work in sales and the finance industry (insurance) , appearance is VERY important. And you're right I have to focus on building instead of what his opinions might be that I don't have a certain amount in my savings and retirement at this age (30+). I want to have an open convo with him about me currently rebuilding, my focus being on me and my goals (which honestly include him, I believe he's my husband girl) while still being feminine and vulnerable enough for him to know to add to what I'm doing...
@angellydia9185 very, very true. Lol, that's part of the problem people tend to think I "look" like money so it feels crazy when I'm starting over financially. People make comments and assumptions while I'm struggling in reality. And since I work in sales and the finance industry (insurance) , appearance is VERY important. And you're right I have to focus on building instead of what his opinions might be that I don't have a certain amount in my savings and retirement at this age (30+). I want to have an open convo with him about me currently rebuilding, my focus being on me and my goals (which honestly include him, I believe he's my husband girl) while still being feminine and vulnerable enough for him to know to add to what I'm doing...
@@angellydiaofficial @angellydia9185 very, very true. Lol, that's part of the problem people tend to think I "look" like money so it feels depressing at times. People make comments and assumptions while I'm struggling in reality. And since I work in sales/ the finance industry (insurance) , appearance is important. And you're right I have to focus on building instead of what his opinions might be that I don't have a certain amount in my savings and retirement at this age (30+). I want to have an open convo with him about me currently rebuilding, my focus being on me and my goals (which honestly include him, I believe he's my husband girl) while still being feminine and vulnerable enough for him to know to add to what I'm doing...
Don't become the b to get the guy. I am a guy that is the dumest advice. You got have a good attitude and be a good person to attract the guy. When you become the b you repel the guy. Your only going to get guys with low self esteem. A guy with a high self esteem is out of here if your a b. Believe me
But the B-Word is not something you should use. THIS IS WHAT ALL F-BOYS BELIEVE AS a man these are all the things i believe and men like me believe. WE are doing the same thing. WE AS MEN ARE ALWAYS SELF IMPROVING TO BE PLAYS. We dont chase, We Replace. what one woman won't do 7 others will. YES YES i been saying and experiencing this for over 20 years. All these young guys who dont have this knowledge need to apply every thing you said to themselves. i have to share this video with other men, men need this confidence. it helps me so much when i was teen. Women spoil me and buy me gifts too.
Men are already doing this naturally I think, it’s us women that are very sensitive and need to have the knowledge and confidence to know that men that don’t treat you right are disposable and replaceable 😊😊
@@angellydiaofficial Men arent doing this naturally, Its learned actually. To be honest i was sucker for love until i was 16 and got hurt, i did every right, In hindsight my biggest mistakes was listening to older people, Who said certain things that sounds good but didnt fit me. Case and Point; every thing that looks good aint good, They use to say go for average looking girl because they will treat you better. The first and last time i got hurt is when i chased an average gurl. But from messing with her i begin to see all women are just like her, it depends on how much they feeling the guy. But it was a woman who taught me how to be a playa. an older girl showed mercy on me when she saw how hurt i was from this younger chick, she taught me the game, how to be a thug and how to be a womanizer. Pretty Girls always like me, But i had heard so much how pretty girls were bad, i went to chasing below average girls. When i was approach them they would asked me"am i really your type." the girl who hurt me, i dealt with her for 6 months. She use to tell me, that was too good for her, an i deserve better than her. Sometimes she would be nice to me, an other times she would be mean, she literally put me in the friendzone an told me about other guys she was sleeping with. she had a great body but facially she was 3/10. i figured if an less attracive girl acts that way all you do. she a had a friend that was a snow bunny, she introduce us, an the becky was trying to sleep with me infront of her, i had to wrestle that girl off me several times, she made several attempts. The sista who was in friendzone with literally said lets have 3sum. At that moment i Lost all respect for women. I realize then how i viewed women was delusional. I was No virgin and wanted to have SXXX with her, but because i was too nice she would let me penetrate. I Use to be faithfu to a fault. even though we wasnt sleeping together for months i held out hope of being with her. She said often times she saw a future with me, an wanted to be married. i know this is called love bombing now. But what made me realize it, is this, Her cousins and relatives all had my phone number and other home girls she had my number too. But they thought i was too nice. The wyte girl who was facially better looking just saw me as hot, she was like omg your so handsome. an she tried to sleep with me right away infront of her. Eventually after a few days i gave in, see he girl i was trying to be with gave the snow bunny my number an that girl blew my phone up an i tired one last ditch effort with old girl an the becky was at her house like lets go fxxxk. So for the next six months i messed with the becky until this redbone approached me. learning to not care: WE AS MEN ARE INNATELY SIMPS. We are naturally nice guys. But this is a turn off to sistas. You take kindness for weakness. You take a man liking you, giving you his all, ignoring other women who approach him. an only having eyes for you as weak or a turn off intially. What i discovered is women really want a playa, but she wants him change an become a faithful man after she falls inlove with him, but we as men can feel love at first sight. We cant change who we are just like that, I had to learn to be playa, its not something i can turn on and off like a light switch. It has to be emotionally ingrained us. i digress, i asked this girl who was 19 years old, how can i get girls to sleep with me, she said your too nice, and they take kindness for weakness. She told me how to dress, how to talk, because being a black guy speaking proper english was a turn off to sistas, i use profanity, slang and talked hood, i stop using so many big words an started dumbing it down, i changed my hair cut, my shoes, my clothes. i stop treating women like i wanted anything more than just SXXXX i use to want love and relationship. That ship as sailed.. I stop asking for a relationship since 1994. I only asked for SXXX an if girl wants more ill let her think what she wants. I tell women what they want to hear. All i want is ONE thing. I have a rotation of 5 women now. An 3 eventually found out about the other women, but they are still here. One going on 15 years, and one going on 5 years and one who is on and off since 2001. The other women i mess with know nothing
@@angellydiaofficial Men get hurt and become playas. Men are natrually faithful suckers for love, ie nice guys. We get that knocked out of us when we are young by you all. We learn the hard way being our true selves is looked upon as unattractive. i get more women to chase me with passion marks on my neck or a wedding ring than i do when i appear single. i literally had women approach me when i with one of my girlfriends or my ex wife. Even my ex wife wanted us to do polygnyny but all the girls she kept picking were overweight, like i told her, thick chicks are for one night stands, if you want to move a woman into our home she has to look like you, you wear a size 3 in girls. an have small feet. so any woman you pick should be a size 3/4 like you. i can get a bbw from anywhere. get a girl like you. You have to totally change the way you think to be a playa. Its hard to do.
@ebonyeverything2751 lmao not mad.. just amused that a woman's solution is to become a problem thus creating more problems thus creating a never ending cycle 🚲. But like I said real and non toxic men will simply block 🚫 or ghost a woman who does this. But by all means be his headache instead. Sure it's worked out for you. Grown people don't do this..my relationship is fine.
Girrrlllll when you spoke on basically inconveniencing ourselves for someone else I had to holler (around the 12:00 mark)! When I realized that was something I was doing I had an epiphany and stopped immediately. We women will be struggling with 10 bags of groceries up the stairs and will try to rush to drop them if our phone rings meanwhile a man can be sitting at home chilling and will look at you calling his phone and decide he’s just not in the mood to talk. I have adapted that same energy. If it’s not an immediate yes, then it’s a no for me and either they respect it or keep it moving. This goes for men, women, friends, family- you should NOT always be available for anyone (unless that person gives you the same energy) that’s how you quickly become less important and taken advantage of.
Yes we do, and it’s soo unfortunate, and yes girl, I’m happy you made that change ☺️ and I’m also glad you could resonate with some of the points in this video 🥰
Girl, you made my day! God bless you ❤
I’m so glad, God bless you as well 🥰
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Love this! Just discovered you! I'm a woman who has overall done well for myself, but right now I've run into some financial issues and am in the process of getting back on my feet and back to the wonderful financial freedom in used to. But I'm now dating a GREAT guy and I'm just so unsure of myself because I've never felt low like this (money, living situation etc) while dating and i don't know how to be my best self in the dating.... any ideas?
Ohh I’m soo sorry to hear this, the first thing is to make sure to always put effort in your look, always be put together it’ll make you feel a little better about yourself if you’re feeling low, number two is to definitely make your finances your main focus because as women we deserve to live in ease, and smas for the guy, my only point is a man’s purpose in your life is to add value just, make sure all decisions you make are in your best interest 😊
Focus on yourself and keep grinding. There is no guarantee that he will stick around and you’ll be sorry he stolen your time that you could’ve had your own bag (from experience). Good luck!
@@angellydiaofficial very, very true. Lol, that's part of the problem people tend to think I "look" like money so it feels crazy when I'm starting over financially. People make comments and assumptions while I'm struggling in reality. And since I work in sales and the finance industry (insurance) , appearance is VERY important. And you're right I have to focus on building instead of what his opinions might be that I don't have a certain amount in my savings and retirement at this age (30+). I want to have an open convo with him about me currently rebuilding, my focus being on me and my goals (which honestly include him, I believe he's my husband girl) while still being feminine and vulnerable enough for him to know to add to what I'm doing...
@angellydia9185 very, very true. Lol, that's part of the problem people tend to think I "look" like money so it feels crazy when I'm starting over financially. People make comments and assumptions while I'm struggling in reality. And since I work in sales and the finance industry (insurance) , appearance is VERY important. And you're right I have to focus on building instead of what his opinions might be that I don't have a certain amount in my savings and retirement at this age (30+). I want to have an open convo with him about me currently rebuilding, my focus being on me and my goals (which honestly include him, I believe he's my husband girl) while still being feminine and vulnerable enough for him to know to add to what I'm doing...
@@angellydiaofficial @angellydia9185 very, very true. Lol, that's part of the problem people tend to think I "look" like money so it feels depressing at times. People make comments and assumptions while I'm struggling in reality. And since I work in sales/ the finance industry (insurance) , appearance is important. And you're right I have to focus on building instead of what his opinions might be that I don't have a certain amount in my savings and retirement at this age (30+). I want to have an open convo with him about me currently rebuilding, my focus being on me and my goals (which honestly include him, I believe he's my husband girl) while still being feminine and vulnerable enough for him to know to add to what I'm doing...
Don't become the b to get the guy. I am a guy that is the dumest advice. You got have a good attitude and be a good person to attract the guy. When you become the b you repel the guy. Your only going to get guys with low self esteem. A guy with a high self esteem is out of here if your a b. Believe me
I disagree 😊
@@angellydiaofficial then you will attract submissive men.
But the B-Word is not something you should use. THIS IS WHAT ALL F-BOYS BELIEVE
AS a man these are all the things i believe and men like me believe.
WE are doing the same thing. WE AS MEN ARE ALWAYS SELF IMPROVING TO BE PLAYS.
We dont chase, We Replace.
what one woman won't do 7 others will.
YES YES i been saying and experiencing this for over 20 years.
All these young guys who dont have this knowledge need to apply every thing you said to themselves.
i have to share this video with other men, men need this confidence. it helps me so much when i was teen.
Women spoil me and buy me gifts too.
Men are already doing this naturally I think, it’s us women that are very sensitive and need to have the knowledge and confidence to know that men that don’t treat you right are disposable and replaceable 😊😊
@@angellydiaofficial Men arent doing this naturally, Its learned actually. To be honest i was sucker for love until i was 16 and got hurt, i did every right, In hindsight my biggest mistakes was listening to older people, Who said certain things that sounds good but didnt fit me.
Case and Point; every thing that looks good aint good, They use to say go for average looking girl because they will treat you better. The first and last time i got hurt is when i chased an average gurl. But from messing with her i begin to see all women are just like her, it depends on how much they feeling the guy. But it was a woman who taught me how to be a playa. an older girl showed mercy on me when she saw how hurt i was from this younger chick, she taught me the game, how to be a thug and how to be a womanizer.
Pretty Girls always like me, But i had heard so much how pretty girls were bad, i went to chasing below average girls. When i was approach them they would asked me"am i really your type." the girl who hurt me, i dealt with her for 6 months. She use to tell me, that was too good for her, an i deserve better than her. Sometimes she would be nice to me, an other times she would be mean, she literally put me in the friendzone an told me about other guys she was sleeping with. she had a great body but facially she was 3/10. i figured if an less attracive girl acts that way all you do.
she a had a friend that was a snow bunny, she introduce us, an the becky was trying to sleep with me infront of her, i had to wrestle that girl off me several times, she made several attempts.
The sista who was in friendzone with literally said lets have 3sum. At that moment i Lost all respect for women. I realize then how i viewed women was delusional. I was No virgin and wanted to have SXXX with her, but because i was too nice she would let me penetrate. I Use to be faithfu to a fault. even though we wasnt sleeping together for months i held out hope of being with her. She said often times she saw a future with me, an wanted to be married. i know this is called love bombing now.
But what made me realize it, is this, Her cousins and relatives all had my phone number and other home girls she had my number too. But they thought i was too nice.
The wyte girl who was facially better looking just saw me as hot, she was like omg your so handsome. an she tried to sleep with me right away infront of her. Eventually after a few days i gave in, see he girl i was trying to be with gave the snow bunny my number an that girl blew my phone up an i tired one last ditch effort with old girl an the becky was at her house like lets go fxxxk. So for the next six months i messed with the becky until this redbone approached me.
learning to not care: WE AS MEN ARE INNATELY SIMPS. We are naturally nice guys. But this is a turn off to sistas. You take kindness for weakness. You take a man liking you, giving you his all, ignoring other women who approach him. an only having eyes for you as weak or a turn off intially.
What i discovered is women really want a playa, but she wants him change an become a faithful man after she falls inlove with him, but we as men can feel love at first sight.
We cant change who we are just like that, I had to learn to be playa, its not something i can turn on and off like a light switch. It has to be emotionally ingrained us.
i digress, i asked this girl who was 19 years old, how can i get girls to sleep with me, she said your too nice, and they take kindness for weakness. She told me how to dress, how to talk, because being a black guy speaking proper english was a turn off to sistas, i use profanity, slang and talked hood, i stop using so many big words an started dumbing it down, i changed my hair cut, my shoes, my clothes. i stop treating women like i wanted anything more than just SXXXX i use to want love and relationship. That ship as sailed.. I stop asking for a relationship since 1994. I only asked for SXXX an if girl wants more ill let her think what she wants. I tell women what they want to hear. All i want is ONE thing.
I have a rotation of 5 women now. An 3 eventually found out about the other women, but they are still here. One going on 15 years, and one going on 5 years and one who is on and off since 2001. The other women i mess with know nothing
@@angellydiaofficial Men get hurt and become playas. Men are natrually faithful suckers for love, ie nice guys.
We get that knocked out of us when we are young by you all. We learn the hard way being our true selves is looked upon as unattractive.
i get more women to chase me with passion marks on my neck or a wedding ring than i do when i appear single.
i literally had women approach me when i with one of my girlfriends or my ex wife. Even my ex wife wanted us to do polygnyny but all the girls she kept picking were overweight, like i told her, thick chicks are for one night stands, if you want to move a woman into our home she has to look like you, you wear a size 3 in girls. an have small feet. so any woman you pick should be a size 3/4 like you. i can get a bbw from anywhere. get a girl like you.
You have to totally change the way you think to be a playa. Its hard to do.
No we don't... not even a little bit.. that gets you blocked 🚫 and moving on.
I would disagree 😊
@angellydia9185 that's your toxic choices.. not the standard
@@JohnB-dd4cm.....🤔 u seem mad hun.....
@ebonyeverything2751 lmao not mad.. just amused that a woman's solution is to become a problem thus creating more problems thus creating a never ending cycle 🚲. But like I said real and non toxic men will simply block 🚫 or ghost a woman who does this. But by all means be his headache instead. Sure it's worked out for you. Grown people don't do this..my relationship is fine.
Instead of accepting his viewpoint you resort to typical 'shaming' tactic(s).
Your young and you lack wisdom and maturity.