Why do you think you know more than anyone else I guarantee you all those guys knew exactly what they were getting into.Its up to them and your wrong everyone knows what’s going on with the women over there and it’s their choice to ignore it or not,and another thing it’s none of your business what another grown man does.If you want to live your life paranoid so be it but believe me your not telling anyone something they don’t already know.Have a good day🤷
Lol What a guy, Buddy let me tell you something you're so far off base it's not even funny so let me destroy your comments,,,,,,,, First off I never claimed to know anything I'm just sharing what I've been told and what I've seen here.... As far as guys knowing what's going on here with the girls you are so obtuse and so naive it's not even funny because 99% of the guys that come here have no clue what's going on.... They truly believe that they're going to come here and these girls are desperate to fall in love with some foreigner and that's just absolute b******* mate... Do you have any idea how many men come here and lose everything including their lives because they don't know what's going on here?????? They have absolutely no idea just how skilled these girls are in draining bank accounts and ruining lives..... And for your information it is my business helping guys thrive and survive living in Thailand I'm Dr Mark F#@king Sabean it's my sole purpose and sole goal in life to help protect my fellow brothers.... Furthermore son I certainly don't live in fear nor am I paranoid I live the best life possible and if you can't accept that I really don't know what to tell you...... If you honestly think that a lot of guys don't know what's going on again you're naive foolish and childish,,,,,,, And trust me I'm not going to have a good day,,,,, I'm going to have a great day.... Typically I end all of my comments with thanks for watching and commenting but for you I'll just say this...... Have a blessed day
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean As difficult as it was to read due to Daniel's broken space bar, other broken sundry punctuation keys and absence of the "you're" contraction versus possessive adjective "your" from his comment, I deduced a significant degree of denialism and defensive posturing with some 'straw men' thrown in for good measure. HE knows they 'love him long time' and it's real, genuine love and affection, and all of her costly family tragedies are real, so the money goes to good causes. Yes, she's always busy on the phone but it's with her stock broker. So there!!! Mr paranoid smarty-pants know-it-all!
If you don't like the advise. Why don't you just piss off. This guy is trying to prevent death. This probably doesn't sink in to you little brain, but the information wasn't for you. again go elswhere. GIVEN THE GRAVITY OF THIS OUT COME. YOU SHOULD REALLY SIT AND REFLECT ON WHO YOU ACTUALLY ARE AND NOT WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE PRESENTLY, GIVEN YOUR ORIGIANL 2 CENTS WORTH.
When I first came to Thailand, I was a romantic, idealistic sentimentalist. Thailand cured me of these conditions, and I am grateful to it for doing so. Bereft of my naivete, I am now, at the great age of 74, able to enjoy the company of Thai bar girls, immune to their persuasive techniques, and my primary feeling toward them is one of sympathy. They are broken women, and I never forget this when it comes time to pay. Most of them are forced by circumstances to do as they do, and were it not for the great income disparity between them and myself, none of those pretty young ladies would spent two minutes with a geezer such as myself. I treat each one with deference and respect, and afterwards, I walk away.
they cant seem to break the cycle and it is sad, but to me they are capable of such destructive behavior, their families are mostly behind it,,,my income isnt so high, its a good thing, as i cant enable them like so many men do here, whic i think doesnt help help society as whole either..
Excellent public service video Mark. The stories are scary. Unfortunately, you haven't really delved deep enough to how dark things really are. Again, I'm an old fart who survived 30 years here. There was a rash of balcony suicides, so many, we called them the Sukhumvit Swan Divers. In case that's too vague, they were tossed over. Then there's the real husbands stalking you like prey on the streets. Also the other tourist "boy friends" at least a fist fight when they accidently meet. One guy committed suicide by stabbing himself 27 times, wink, wink. An American lived with his wife 25 years in America. Came here, the wife talked him into building a housing complex. Upon completion she told him to leave if he wanted to stay alive. They play the long game here. There are some survival strategies though. Accept, and I mean in your bones, that you are a Renter in a foreign land. If you get a hotel, never, ever, take one back there. Take her to another room you rented, or better yet, stick to on site places. These would be the soi6 joints, Gentlemen's Clubs, or the Soapies. In the end, everyone needs to understand the culture here has had PTSD from being abused since the 1960's. They have adapted, and survived, but underneath it all, they Hate our F#cking Guts. That's the reality, and that's what I observed. You people need to Google the epidemic of tourist suicides & deaths in Thailand.
Thank you so much for this because I wanted to get into the truth about what's going on here but I also have to be careful as to not upset UA-cam too much... But you are 100% truthful and everything that you're saying
pretty accurate description, it is a sick place, if you are not careful, lonely etc, it can be very unhealthy here,, i see them for what they are , there are a few exceptions, but overall, they are opportunist, an extreme lack of conscience, critical thinking skills etc exist here...and I treat them accordingly...let them live with the consequences of their own lives and choices,, i dont feel sorry for them,.. you can be happy here, low cost of living, food is good, beautiful country, cheap to travel, but relationships with so most of them i avoid, i dont want more than a hello,,,, same for many farang here, i m weary about,can be abusive as well, and we just dont share same values
I resemble this video. I was 20-years old in the military in Phuket. I fell in love with a Bar Girl. It wasn't the sex, it was the amount of attention, deference and respect she treated me with. I cried like a baby when after 4-days I was forced to leave and the ship pulled away. I can absolutely understand how someone could get taken by these girls.
There is something special about the way these girls know how to treat men. They’re professionals, with lots of practice. Realistically, she probably really liked you as well and it wasn’t an act. They have hardened hearts, but not devoid of the ability to enjoy the man they’re with. They are able to cut it off so fast due to having so many options is the issue. Love isn’t measured with attention or emotion, it is judged by money. The more money, the more love. Sad but true. That’s bar girls, there are genuine girls. I met an Isaan girl that I’m sure I would fall for based on how she is so attentive to everything. But, I’m guarded cause there is still a 10% chance that it’s not real.
Agreed. One of the girls I took out to breakfast the next morning impressed me by serving me and making sure that I had enough. It was a small thing but I noticed it. If she was faking that then she's like a top-level Hollywood actress. I don't believe the girls hate every Foreigner either. But it wouldn't surprise me because isn't it that way anywhere in the world where sex trafficking happens? And I don't believe I had "one of the good ones". I think she's probably a typical Thai girl. Could be I'm just naive and will learn a different lesson in the coming years living there, and I'm sure my opinions and attitudes will change. But if it's so bad there why do so many westerners go there and never leave?
@@portlandGTR I think one of the biggest traps that most foreign men fall into when it comes to thai women, and it's a more addictive trap than anything else is the ego trap. When most foreigners first go to places like Thailand they have never had so much attention and never felt so special in their lives. It's a huge ego boost and it's intoxicating. It's like a drug to these men just like gambling. It's actually very similar to the ego manipulation people are drawn into in relationships with narcissistic personalities and the fraud they play because narcissists idealize you at the start and mirror back to you an idealized image of yourself. When the narcissist's perfect, idealized image of you lines up with your perfect, idealized image of yourself, you feel like you're being seen in a way you were never seen before, and it's very hard to let go of that Narcissists are reacting to a false image of you that they have created in their minds. At no point in the relationship are you seen for who and what you are. Nobody in the relationship is accepting or even seeing the other person for who they really are. In order to truly care about somebody you have to see them for who they really are. in all phases of the cycle of the relationship the narcissistic person sees a fantasy projection of you. when their fantasy projection of you lines up with your idealized self you will believe they are seeing you as you truly are, that's the trap. The idealization that occurs in a healthy relationship is nowhere near as extreme as what happens in narcissistic relationships. The reality of people is not completely different from what you see or what is projected of them. In healthy relationships when people find out that the other person is not as perfect as they thought they were they're able to adjust to that and still have a relationship. This does not happen in relationships with narcissistic people and they will split and start devaluing the other person and often pulling away and ego starving. The narcissist does not even really see you you don't matter to them at all you are a mirror reflecting themselves back to them and when you look into a mirror you don't see the mirror you see yourself. When they seem to be obsessing over you they are really obsessing their own reflection not you. the narcissist and the relationship is an illusion. Your idealized self and who you felt like you were in the relationship is an illusion. It is only the belief in these things that makes them seem real like a placebo.The relationship with the narcissist seems very attractive at the start, but really offers no actual sustenance at all. It's the promise of Something that never comes. People can also become addicted to the drama a chaos of the relationship and not the narcissist per se. Drama and chaos work much the same way in the brain as opiates. Narcissists are also addicted to this. No one is more amazing and no one can sell you a fantasy about them, yourself and the relationship(future faking) better than a narcissists in the idealization honeymoon phase. Narcissists do this as a matter of course and it second nature to them..manipulation is the only way they relate to others. There's no who they really are underneath all the different masks they manipulate people with that can only focus on getting what they want and their needs met, even if it's doing something nice just for the other person to mirror back approval and validation. These masks are very surface level as is their emotions, even though they can be big emotions like a small child there is no depth to them. Their behavior is all reaction based on emotional triggers like a reflex. The pathologically narcissistic person's identity is unstable at the very best and often it is entirely nonexistent. These different personas that they portray are not real personas because usually they are not fully developed and lack any sort of true depth. They are generally one-dimensional, reflecting only one emotional "side" of the narcissistic person and that's it. This is why the victim has such a hard time letting their fantasy of the narcissist go. When the narcissistic person is "good," they are all good. And when they are bad, they are all bad. This is called splitting. The victim - for whatever reason they have of their own - truly wants to believe that the narcissistic person is good. The narcissistic person wants the victim to believe this too, because then there are no threats to their own self-worth. It's true that narcissists misrepresent themselves, but this does not explain why the victim stays in the relationship long after they realize that the narcissist is not who they pretend to be. The victim often intentionally chooses to believe in the narcissist's false self, even after it has been established that this is not who they are. This is because the victim has a fantasy of the narcissistic person that they do not want to let go of. This unwillingness to accept the true nature of the relationship and the narcissist is responsible for most of the pain caused by these types of relationships Of course someone wants to believe the person they care about is a good person and cares about them in return. However, it becomes less simple when we take into consideration that the person may been given evidence that this is not true yet still chooses to believe it. It becomes a question of why. Why is this relationship or what it represents so important that a person will ignore evidence that it is unfair, abusive or unhealthy in order to stay in it? Is there a trauma bond? Is there a issue with the victim's self-worth or past trauma that needs to be addressed? What are you getting or hoping to get out of the relationship and why is it so important? And perhaps the most important question, are you able to accept the reality of the relationship and what that means? The good thing about these kinds of questions is that though they may be painful, people usually know the answers to them and once they start looking, they can see the connection. Usually the root of these relationships is the need for validation from others because of a nagging feeling that the victim is not good enough or not lovable. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved. There is something wrong with not accepting the reality of a situation, especially when it's hurting you. You project those feelings onto the narcissists and believe you have met your soulmate and someone who really see's and values you and you feel like you have never loved someone so much. We project things like empathy and understanding onto them as a matter of course( it happens automatically with most humans) the problem comes when we can see clear evidence that our projections are missing the mark, as we eventually will. We assume these things are there because we have them in us and because we need them to be there in the other person. The problem is they actually are not there, especially in narcissists and beyond our natural basic projected assumption there's often no real evidence that they ever were. When people look back they see that the reality has actually been there the entire time. Regardless of how well narcissists may or may not be able to " talk the talk" there is no actual reason to believe that things like empathy or even a basic understanding that other people exist and matter actually happens for them. Nothing we consistently see from this personality points to this in fact in so many situations. It actually points to the opposite and when we are able to stop projecting and stop normalizing their behavior into regular Frameworks we can generally see this pretty clearly. It's not even really hidden and you'll notice everything is about them. Every situation only matters in so far as to how it affects them. When we remove the filters of denial and projection we can see this so clearly. So many times our innate function of projection blinds us to this long enough for an emotional investment to be created and emotional attachment, then denial and cognitive dissonance take over. Once this happens the projection actually often becomes worse not better. People see what they need to see because to not see it is to have to face unpleasant things about the narcissist, the situation, the relationship and themselves,. Projection distorts reality and when you are dealing with someone who is so selfish and toxic this can be very harmful if you are not seeing someone for who and how they actually are. Not all humans have empathy and compassion. Not all humans will do the right thing. Not all humans have morals or a better nature that you can appeal to. Not all humans care about other people. Instead of assuming or even insisting that these qualities must be in there somewhere we need to accept when we are consistently being shown that a person either does not have these qualities or is not willing to act on them and we need to do this every time we are shown this reality because it's too dangerous to be wrong. This is not to say oh no we should never trust anybody or take a risk. It means take appropriate and calculated risks. Wanting people to be or have something doesn't make it so. The best we can do is be as realistic as possible when dealing with other people, create and enforce boundaries with everyone and learn to trust appropriately. It's hurtful and disappointing to realize that we're not going to get what we want from this person or this relationship or this situation, but it's much less hurtful and disappointing than if we keep trying to get it where there's no real chance of it ever happening at all but we just refuse to accept that. we'll know when this is the case by looking and listening.
I found a woman who was employed as a buyer with a major department store. She was as bad or WORSE than any bar girl. She ran off with a German guy and moved to Germany to marry him. It makes little difference what her employment situation is......she is THAI. The nicest people money can buy. :)
In 2017 I was in Pattaya had a horrible toothache went to a female dentist had the tooth extracted 5 weeks later I was in walking street with a couple friends and who do I see dressed almost like a bar girl ? You guessed it !!! The Female Dentist that pulled out my tooth we made eye contact she surprisingly recognized me then she smiled and yelled out Hey everyone has bills to pay 😂😂😂 So guys like the previous post mentioned I don’t care what profession these women have in this Culture prostitution is okay not frowned upon at all as long as a woman gets paid for sex it’s all OK 👍
I'm 61 and have a Thai girlfriend who is 30 and gorgeous. She has been 100% great. Very loving and not a gold digger. In fact, she's very reluctant to accept anything from me at all. But she's never been anywhere near the bar scene. (She works in a hospital in Bangkok.) So do yourself a favor and stay far away from that.
So Kris,,, your reaffirming everything that I say and every one of my videos.. That it is possible to meet a wonderful woman here just not at a bar or not in a massage parlor or not walking the street picking up hookers Congratulations man that's awesome
You are a good man for creating this content You are literally saving lives by doing this Anybody who badmouths you for telling the truth…which is what you’re doing. Just ignore them.
i get bad mouthed as well, there is something pathological in this culture, they are shameless and rude, i cant believe how some of them that work in businesses get away with being rude to customers, without customers they have no jobs, so brainless
I just got back from 8 months living in Pattaya Thailand. Why didn't I find love? I refused to pay. I went further. I insisted they pay me. The Thai smiles turned to vicious anger....
Thank you very much I really appreciate that this one was a very hard video to make. But honestly it's one that needs to be discussed and it needs to be out in the open so that people understand what is truly going on here... There are too many videos of these guys running around exploiting the bar girls for clicks instead of being honest about what's going on behind the videos..
Listen to the Dr guy's he knows what he is talking about. I've done the buying motorbike, car, land and built the house in Thailand. I'm in the UK with my wife and I caught seeing someone else, so threw her out. So now not only have I lost everything in Thailand, she is also going for 50% of my assets here in the divorce settlement, I own my house plus a few rental properties, so now I'm just waiting to see how much more the courts will tell me to give her. And yes guess what, my one was different!!!
Hey Clifford listen man thank you for sharing your story it really sucks but if you would like to please send me direct message I'd love to hear more about your story so that hopefully I can more in others about the pitfalls... You can direct message me on Facebook Mark Sabean Line Travelguy1844 Or email tastytravels4u@gmail.com If you want. Cheers Mate 🍺
@@ma3stro681 I've done that it cost me a fortune, but if she can prove financial hardship the courts can over rule this. At the end of the day the courts will decide what they think is best for both Parties. The company that set the trust up told me it's protected, but solicitor says different. I will just have to wait and see. Bottom line of all this is never have a Amphur wedding with your Thai partner.
You can shout from the roof tops on telling men how to deal with women, but there will be men that think between their legs and not their brain. Currently been with a Thai lady for 3 years, she’s 42 and loving and mature, she has one son who’s 18 and working. Met all her family and I think that’s important to do. It gives you more understanding of her upbringing and lifestyle, so far so good, I always tell her I’am poor living on a small pension, I give her a small allowance, she also works and has her own budget. It’s working so far, nothing is for certain and am very content! My daughter came to Thailand and spent time with us, even she was happy with my relationship. But if it all went south I always have a back up plan, nothing lasts forever!
Hey Roy that's awesome man thank you for sharing your experience I'm going to guess that your girlfriend is not a working girl in the sense as I'm talking about usually... From the sounds of it anyway she is not so that is fantastic for you and definitely helps in the long-term stability and viability of a relationship.. It's also great that yes you did meet her family and understand her upbringing and stuff.. Cheers Mate 🍺
Hey Todd Thanks for watching man I truly appreciate that this one was a really hard one to make because I tried so hard to talk to Mike I really did... I don't think people understand how many guys are reaching out to me on a weekly basis It's just staggering and it's always the same story always the same story...
I want to throw in another quote "You want to hear an ultimate truth? You cannot make someone see clarity when they find comfort within their fog" Your video is again spot on and I hope it gets out but reality is, no matter what you say some can't hear what your saying.
Hey Markus The sad thing is brother men just don't listen they really don't.... As I said I don't understand why we're so stupid when it comes to this but for some strange reason we just won't listen we won't admit the truth we won't allow reality to guide us....
Am C And I don't know why a man F G C Search for himself in his lover's eyes Am C No I don't know why a man G Gsus4 G Sees the truth but needs the lies from Slow Dancing, U2
"she is going to take your heart of gold and melt it down to a bracelet which she wears when she is out with 7-8 different guys". You are spot on, harsh truth, that saying explains her business strategy, because it is not personal, just business....
Wow! I just stumbled on to your channel while doing research on my 1st visit to Thailand. I am SO THANKFUL for the way you deliver your content! It really hit home with me coming through a 13yr marriage that is on its way out. Your video really gave me a lot to think about. Although my interest in Thailand isn’t to become a “Sexpat” some of the insights you provide in this video really made me self evaluate my mental and emotional health before I make definite plans to visit. Many many thanks for your content and delivery. Your concern for your viewers really shines through. I’d like to buy you a beer if I make it over there! Subscribed!
Hey man thank you very much and welcome to the channel I hope that I am able to help you on your journey and that you get even one piece of advice from me that you can use to make your life just a little bit better. I promise you man Thailand can be your own personal Utopia or it can be a living help It's up to you and how you mentally are when you get here and how you treat yourself. Remember that you do have self-worth that you do have value and I know it's hard coming out of a divorce I know life beats us men down but we are worthy of caring about ourselves not just women. Definitely send me a DM email me anything you want anytime I'm always here for anyone like yourself to talk to if you need. Facebook Mark Sabean Email tastytravels4u@gmail.com
Thank you so much for making this video. My wife passed away not long ago and so I was looking into coming to Thailand because, of course, I’m lonely. I have a job where I can work from anywhere because I work remote, and I even talked to my boss about me moving to Thailand and working from there. Hearing the facts and knowing what I’m up against has immediately changed my perspective, and may well have made all the difference in whether I make a wise decision or a mistake.
Hey Barry listen I would not allow that to stop you from coming here and at least trying it... The premise behind my videos is so that guys know what to expect they know how to conduct themselves here they know what's going to happen so that they're not blindsided I'm very sorry to hear about your Wi-Fi can't imagine how terrible that must be my friend but I would not give up on Thailand completely.. If you know how to handle yourself and if you can realize that you have value and you are important then you can come here and thrive trust me Take care my friend
Great video thank you. Without tarring everyone with the same brush, In general, women get married for security and men get married because of their own insecurity. Regards to everyone, Paul (Uk)
You know Paul that is extremely well said... However here I'm going to tell you something man it's just brutal nobody's really talking about it. It upsets me because these UA-camrs are coming and they're doing these videos they're showing all the pretty girls and they're essentially exploiting the girls in their videos for clicks and kicks... Nobody is telling guys how it honestly truly is Yes if you're a young kid good looking the girls going to fall over you of course they are. Don't have fun with you they'll shag you etc etc but they've got to get their money somewhere and they're getting it from the guys that have big hearts that are fools when it comes to love and women
This is so true as a Thai, Chinese myself I would never think about dating in Thailand. Once you get into a relationship with a women in Thailand you have no rights, she’ll own your house because you can’t purchase property if you’re not a Thai citizen meaning that if things went south you’ll literally be kicked out of your own house you paid for and everything will be lost
My Thai girl friend in. Working I n uae been with her 6 years she ask to marry first year I say. No but after 6 years she build a house with gran ma and daughter she automatically got me to pay £300 month for new build
Hi Mark! Firstly, sorry to hear the sad news of your friends death. Secondly, another great video which guys, really should watch and absorb the great advice and information you provide. Thirdly, you can take the girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl. Finally, if guy's are looking for long-term relationships, I would suggest that looking through beer goggles at a bar girl is the wrong place. Try shopping centres, supermarkets, etc.
Exactly Nigel and I'm preaching that like I'm in the choir but nobody is listening to me at all.. I don't understand how guys can't see it they just can't. Cheers Mate 🍺
Hi Doc! I absolutely agree with everything you said. Your video must be shown inside the plane to everyone who's on their way to Thailand. I'm 59 y/o and i have done both Bangkok & Pattaya and I'm proud to say that i came out unscathed 😂😅😂
Hey mate thanks for watching and commenting I truly appreciate that.... I'm doing a video this week about a guy that is right around your age you might want to check that one out... Cheers mate 🍻
Dearest Doc, I’m so saddened to hear of the tragic circumstances your dear friend Mike passed away. Highlighting the absolute predatory side of Thailand in particular will hopefully get through to the boys going there. As a sister of 4 brothers I’ve seen it happen in Aussie but this seems entrenched and a extremely vicious cycle that happens to thousands of guys a year in Thailand who take their lives for a woman who has sent them broke financially as well as emotionally on the false pretence of true love. Trust your instincts and protect yourself especially if you are with someone who uses you as their own ATM. Always keep $ private and a back up so you have the freedom to get out of dodge and have a home. Please Talk to your mates and don’t be shy or embarrassed. Choose life guys. Absolutely nobody is ever worth taking your own life. Sending you all XO’s and my sincere condolences again to Mike’s family and friends.
Hey Juju Welcome back listen it is a shame and there are so many men that have died since I've been here guys that I know personally that have ended their lives because of the manipulation and the lies... We all struggle with our own personal issues and demons but when you have someone that takes advantage of your situation and praise upon your insecurities and demons it makes it 10 times worse.. I hope your brothers are well and thank you again for all of your support I truly appreciate you 🥂
Hey Anthony I'll be honest with you man I'm doing all I can because I've lost too many subscribers and a couple of friends actual real friends in the past year to this s*** and somebody needs to talk about it somebody needs to show people what honestly happens here.. Look I get it a lot of the young UA-camrs come and they're doing these videos they're showing the pretty girls at the bars they're essentially exploiting them for clicks and stuff but they're not showing their reality of everything and guys come here and they think that their life is going to be like that and it's not..
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean may I recommend to your viewers the book, PRIVATE DANCER: A novel of love, betrayal and death in Thailand, by Stephen Leather? It can be found in various formats, including e-book, on the web. It certainly does resonate with what you've been teaching. And I think it's a MUST-READ for any man planning to travel to Thailand for pleasure.
I have very high self-esteem and was going to skip this video but I decided to watch it anyway. I'm glad I did. Your advice is spot on and everyone (including me) must heed it. You, sir, are providing a valuable service. Thank you a thousand times 👍
Well listen I'm really happy and quite honestly proud that you did take the time to watch it and even more so that you felt compelled to comment. Thank you Be kind to yourself
I’ve seen smart guys from farang land go absolutely stupid and loose everything!!! I got so many stories. From the 80’s 90’ and now. Nothing has changed
I try my best to help people understand the realities of living here Yes it can be paradise but it can also be devastating... Thanks for watching and commenting
My condolences to you Dr. Mark and your friend's family and friends. I don't have a self-esteem problem. I believe I have learned valuable information through your videos to have reasonable expectations regarding relationships with Tai bar girls or freelancers. AINT GONNA HAPPEN!. Sure it's great to be able to find a quick shag. But finding the love of your life? AINT GONNA HAPPEN! Unfortunately, some men will never learn and will destroy their own lives by making the wrong choices. THAT'S A FACT! A dark but very necessary video Dr. Mark. Keep em coming, and again, my condolences.
Brother I certainly hope it doesn't happen to you.. Sadly so many men come here with the bravado and the pumped up feeling that not me can't possibly happen to me yet it happens every day to guys here.. This was a video that needed to be made and sadly enough it is what it is. Cheers Mate Take care
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Believe me Dr. Mark. I have been around long enough to know better. There are plenty of beautiful, older Tai women who are educated and don't need to be supported by expats. As you stated in your videos, you just have to go out and meet people away from the bar and nightlife scene. Hope to meet you soon in the near future. Love to have you show me the ropes although I'm trying to soak up as much info and wisdom from your videos.
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend Doc!! When you fall in love with a bar girl & all she cares about is what she can get from you, its gotta be hard. I can tell that this has really affected you my friend. I personally don't understand how these guys get sucked in by them but, I guess thats just me. I spent years back at home picking up girls in the bars but, I just slept with them & took them home the next day!!
Hey Dale the problem is like I said a lot of these guys just don't have any self-esteem they also have no sense of self-worth. They've been beaten down in life either by women or by their jobs their situations and stuff like this and they truly believe that coming here they're going to find someone that's going to love them and take care of them for money .. All these women are going to do is take them for their money That's it... And yes this one did hit hard it really did and then I've got some f****** idiot like the guy that says they should have no sympathy but scorn,,,,,. A$$hole Sorry but that guy is just an ignorant a$$hole Dale as you know I always appreciate you watching and commenting especially on this one again thank you my friend
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean I have friends that if they came here would have the same problems. I've never been married & don't have any kids. My life has been about having a good time & working hard. I always tell people that I've had more fun than any 3 people deserve to have in their entire lives. Low self esteem has never been my problem but, those who have it this isn't the place to play around. Pro girls know how to read a man in about 2 minutes. I'd just laugh at them & wrap my shit before I even let them blow me. But again, that's me!! Again, very sorry about your friend & fuck that guy who said shit to you like that. Theres a lot to be said about the old adage, if ya can't say something nice... Have a couple Leo's & get some sleep my friend.
It's all very easy saying you would never fall under a bar girl's spell sitting behind your computer in the cold hard light of day but when your in her world of smoke and mirrors.......
Sadly enough people will watch it but they won't listen they won't comprehend they won't retain it they won't understand it . Because remember it'll never happen to them because their girl is different,,,, Thanks for watching and commenting
Im really sorry to hear what happened to your friend, and I know this was undoubtedly a really hard video to make, but it is so important for people to see, and im sure it will help save people. Keep up the good fight and enjoy all the positive things thailand offers.
Hey Justin thanks for watching and commenting This was a brutal one to make because Mike was the last person that deserved this fate.. Not that anyone does, but especially Mike I felt it important enough to open up about the dangers Because there are too many Take care and be kind
This isn't a problem with Thailand or bar girls. It's a problem with the men it's happening to. You can call it self esteem or ego or whatever you want but at the end of the day, I just call it stupid.
Hey Christopher thanks for watching this was a very difficult video to make... And I'll be honest if you've been watching my channel for long you'll notice that I haven't made any videos like this one in a while... The reason for that is I have so many people who are in Mike's situation so many people that I have lost trying to help... It's becoming a drain on me to be honest with you mentally and emotionally...
unprotected really? unbelievable. Great content, congrats and thank you. Have had such relationships in the past mainly in Singapore. Now my honeymoons are strictly reduced to 3 hours, not days.
You would not believe the amount of guys to come here and have unprotected sex I have talked to probably 300 to 400 different working girls whatever you want to call them and every single one of them will tell you the same thing they get offered extra money all the time for unprotected sex and they pretty much take it 90% of the time There are a couple of girls that are not full-time freelancers or full-time prostitutes they will refuse and most of the time the guy will move on to the next victim instead of hiring her It's absolutely scary when you think about it Thanks for watching and commenting
Hi Peter thats great!! Can you tell me something? If I book a stay in Pattaya how far away are the airports and if I can't get a flight to Pattaya then which ones are nearest? Thanks Again!
Hey man the airport is about 1.5 hours from Pattaya You are best to fly into Bangkok and take the taxi/van to Pattaya A Taxi is around 1500 Baht The van is around 200 Baht... How this helps
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Hiya Pal thanks so much for this and shall be looking for some cheap flights! Other than on Kayak where have you managed to get the best rates and at which times of the year are best do you think? Thanks again Pal!
Hey Ricky all I can hope is that you get something out of it and that it hopes whatever situation that you find yourself in. Cheers Mate 🍻 Thanks for watching and commenting I truly appreciate that
Sincere and respectful post Doc,it's an ugly truth that has to be addressed. Most people say that a mortgage is the biggest decision you make in your life, I'd say it's which partner you choose to live with, with 2 european divorces under my belt, the second one almost gave me lasting mental health issues. Guys take a step back, spend some time on your own, appreciate what you have as an independent individual before you walk through the Thai girlfriend minefield, If your paying for it your halfway to screwing yourself don't go the extra mile an make it long term. Wasn't it buddha that said personal attachment and the constant wanting of material things is the cause of personal suffering. Listen to the buddha guys and take notice of the Doc he's on point yet again.
Hey Roger really sorry to hear man that you've been through two divorces that really sucks.. You are right 99% of your happiness comes down to who you choose to spend your time with. I will see this much so few guys come here with the realization that they need to work on themselves they don't need to jump into bed with some 20-year-old right off the hop They need to come and figure out who they are and what they're about not just come and chase tail....
@@ma3stro681 it was a long time ago, I'll take responsibility for the first but not the second, I took a hefty financial hit but managed to recover, it ain't happening again, no way!
Really enjoy your channel. Am I being naïve though to believe that Thai women who are professionally trained and certified in massage are not necessarily out to scam men?
Perhaps Look most of the massage girls take training, it's hard to know who's a scammer and who's not... Maybe add me to Facebook Messenger and we can chat easier there.... Mark Sabean
This, is a very real problem. I wish more vloggers would be talking about it regularly. And let's not talk about all those guys that figured out the scam early. Its happening everywhere I guess.
Neil thank you for watching and commenting and trust me I will be talking about this on a regular basis I'll be exposing more and more truth so that men are fully educated before they get here!!! It's a hard lesson to learn but if you are aware of it before you get here hopefully it won't be so devastating.. Cheers Mate 🍺
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean i was lucky. Before i set foot in Pattaya a friend sat me down and coached me. I still made mistakes but they were relatively cheap but valuable lessons. I broke the 3 night rule and dodged a bullet for sure.
My condolences gor your friend. I witnessed this behavior from girls when I visited Thailand last. They are masters at making you feel good! Guys should be self-aware and recognize what the relationship actually is, not what you want it to be. I'm sure there are plenty of good women in Thailand, but it's unlikely that they work in that industry. Be safe, everyone!
Hey Ricepaddy That's the sad thing about it guys know what it is, they just won't accept it. Also there are tons of amazing women, they're just not sex workers Thanks for watching and commenting
Thank you soo much for warning these unsuspecting men. I'm so very sorry about your poor friend. I'll say a prayer for him Such a tragic, unnecessary loss.
Hi Rosemary thank you for your very kind comment. I am honestly just trying to help guys understand that Thailand is not the perfect paradise that they think it is. They need to be prepared and educated for what happens here because sadly enough a lot of men just don't get it. Thank you for watching and commenting Take care
You hit it right on the head mate, you'll never find true with a bargirl, freelancer etc. I met my wife here in Australia and have been married 10 years, a genuine keeper.
Im so sorry for your friends loss its good you are telling this information so others can know what not to do. I have lived in pattaya now for almost 18 years and have been there and made lots of mistakes costing alot and, married to a thai lady and divorced. Im very lucky now have found a great lady who works 6 days a week and never asked for money and lives with me now for 4 years and pays half of all bills and food.
Hey David congratulations first off for making it through 18 years of living there... Sorry to hear about the divorce but as you know it's likely going to happen your first time getting married to a Thai woman.. It's awesome that you found one that obviously works a real job and is an actual partner Cheers Mate 🍺
Well that's awesome to hear brother I hope you have a wonderful time here trust me it truly is Paradise and you're going to have the best time of your life
I am sorry for the loss of your friend and hope your truth can save one person from the same fate. I hope you opened at lot of peoples eyes as much as you did for me! thank you so much.
Mark, that is terrible what happened to your friend. The sad thing is 99% of these women over there are so evil and narcissistic that they do not not one second of sleep. With all the info that yours and other channels ( but yours is the best). You are right that if you are double their age and quite frankly not to easy on the eyes, these younger girls are not attracted to you. With all the info available these guys should never fall for this. As you know I am American happily married who would never go to Thailand even if I was single ( because I am totally not into Asian chicks at all). Again Mark great public service announcement and sorry about your friend. Hope more of these guys learn how evil these girls are before it is too late. And lastly, having sex with girls that have had 1000- 2000 partners? Yuckkkkkkkk!!!
Hey man listen thank you for watching and supporting my channel I truly appreciate that.. The worst part is men are just not getting it they're watching these videos and they're so broken that they don't believe that it can happen to them you need healthy self-esteem to understand that you're not perfect... As far as a girl with a thousand or 2,000 partners brother that's only how many they've slept with in a year think about over a 5 to 7 or 10 year career in the sex industry You're talking over 10,000 men Yeah
I our Thai girl friend 7 years first year she keep asking to Marry this was a no to me as I from Northern Ireland twice biting twice shy ,I but pay £300 for new house in chumphon, but my name not on it ,my girlfriend still working in. UAE she Thai ,I feel. house not my name it's not mine ,she automatically got. Me to pay for £300 UK month for house in our side chumphon
Hey Joe Finding company here is easy if that's what you're looking for sadly a lot of guys come here looking for someone that they can love and in return love them.... Sad
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean that's not at all what I'm looking for but I want to burn these videos into my brain. These girls seem to be the world champs in manipulation. I dont really blame them. I would do the same to help my family. I just need to keep my ego in check. I'm not a handsome man to anyone under 40.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, Sir. I like what you are doing with your Channel... Us gentlemen do need to prepare if and when we decide to visit these areas
Thanks bro I appreciate that And yes I'm trying to make sure that guys understand the realities of living here.. Yes the girls are beautiful yes they are plentiful but you have to be so careful... Cheers Mate 🥂
Hi Dr Mark I'm so sorry about your friend but you did so well to highlight issues in this video. First time in Thailand in 1 week so good to know what to look out for. I am not interested in the bar girls, I would prefer to meet girls on tinder as Im still pretty young would you suggest bringing your tinder date back to your hotel or could this be as dangerous as a bar girl? What are you thoughts on tinder dates vs paid bar girls Thanks and love the content
First off brother let me tell you something and most places that you're going in Thailand , Tinder is pretty much a brothel. It's loaded with freelancers ladyboys etc etc... If you're down on Phuket if you're in Pattaya trust me dude it's just a brothel... Give it a shot try Thai Friendly as well, but understand that most of the girls on there if you're in one of these tourist areas are working girls.. Myself personally no man I probably wouldn't bring one back to my own hotel room I would rent a room for the night and go there... The last thing you want to do is let anybody know how you're living where you're living what type of stuff you have etc etc. Be careful man Enjoy yourself but be careful
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Hey Mark thanks so much for the indepth reply! I appreciate your complete honesty, Now i understand. I will give thai friendly a try but I will be as cautious as I can be. Great points it makes sense to just keep any business away from the hotel. Many thanks mark, love the channel and wish you all the best!
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Hey Dr Mark, after now returning back from Thailand I cannot stress enough how spot on every single one of your videos are, I thought to myself that there is no way I cant meet a normal girl and have a somewhat normal experience while there for 3 weeks. How wrong I was... After using Tinder and Thai Friendly it was about impossible to find someone that wouldn't tell you the price straight away of St and Lt. I ended up caving after 2 weeks of on and off trying, the last week I just had to pay. I did bring a girl back to my hotel after the staff told me that they want to check her ID and made me feel more comfortable. Before she arrived I packed every single item I had into my 2 suitcases, shut my lock on them too and stored them out of sight in the closet. I also made sure to leave the exact amount of money I was going to pay her in my wallet and I locked everything else away for safekeeping. As she left I got a phone call from the front desk making sure everything was okay which again made me feel as secure as you can be I guess. I did see her one more time and she tried the "I'm dying in 6 months" move on me. Her heart was racing I could see it before she said it. I played it off like I didn't hear and I repeated "what did you say" a few times. She said ohh dont worry it was nothing, then saying it was just a joke. I sat there looking at the ceiling and I said outloud this is not something you joke about, why are you saying this to me? She knew my mood had sunk and she jumped on me kissing me about 100 times repeatedly and I just didnt respond. "Ill give you time them", I waited a few mins to compose myself, gave her a hug and asked her to leave the room. As she was walking right out the door I said "I have read many stories online about this and it makes me sad that you did this to me" Softly confronting the situation and not letting it just pass by like I'm stupid was definitely in hindsight a more dangerous approach but I wanted her to know that I know what is going on and I am upset by it. I told her I was leaving in 2 days but I was leaving the next morning back home. She was actually very honesty in messages as we were going back and forth after our first time seeing each other, telling me that "I am only a business women" and for some reason also mentioning that "I am not a good person" ... I guess the pussy was too strong because all the obvious warning signs were there and I still let them go over my head. In what type of areas do you think I would have more success with non freelance bar girls? Somewhere like Hua Hin? Or even apps like Thai Flirting? Thanks for the content and please do keep it up, It may not always seem like it but your saving peoples lives each and every day. All the best!
Yes you can for sure The trouble becomes when guys honestly believe that they're in a real relationship rather than a transaction... These women are so good at it It's crazy
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Problem is western man in TH tend to date straight up pros from Isaan, poorest province. What can possibly go wrong? How many falangs date pharmacist, doctors, teachers, office women, biz owner...? For relationship to work its best to date closer to ur age and in same socio economic class.
Hey man I'm glad you like this video take care of yourself and Bangkok I'm sure you'll have a fantastic time. Definitely check out Chinatown it is one of the most incredible experiences you'll have.. Cheers Mate 🥂
I started having a thing with a 40 year old Filipino woman In toronto. She is the cutest little thing . So funny . She is a PSW and works so hard . Has 2 kids and a nice home. I can kind of understand how guys fall for them over there . We men must always be on guard. ( I'm still going to Thailand next year ) lol
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean yes. You may remember I just turned 65 . She is the friend of my friends wife . ( he and his wife are Filipino ) he is a fellow watch collector.
Sorry about your friend, it's terrible when it ends like that :-( those girls are stone hearted, they don't really care for anything else than money. You have to put them down when they try to play tricks or get you hooked. I had good expirience using the phase "What makes you so special" or talking about prices... "I can get another girl just like that" (snapping my fingers), don't make those girls believe that they are special at all or have any power what so ever. (I know it can be easier said than done)
The term you should have used is narcissists Mark. You don’t need to have low self-esteem or any kind of mental illness/ disorder. Anyone and everyone is susceptible to these working girls who’re professional master manipulators. That’s the truth.
*You just need to have the knowledge and wisdom so you do not get romantically involved with any of them. So, thank you for spreading the awareness. Many lives do get destroyed by these heartless soulless creatures.
Honestly it's more the guys with the low self-esteem and the codependency issues Guys that know their worth and feel good about themselves, guys that can spend 5 minutes alone are typically not getting fleeced .. Cheers Mate Appreciate your support
Hey Carlos,,,, Lol Yeah I can promise you this much The doctors never going to pass for a pastor Lol I'm pretty much beyond redemption at this point at least that's what I like to tell the Jehovah witnesses that stop by once in awhile. Lol Cheers Mate 🍺 Thanks for watching and commenting
This is exactly a self esteem issue. Too many guy's place to much value on a stranger and yet non on themselves. Now it could be from lack of experience or lonliness.. Or maybe the ego boost that comes from all the attention of being a foreigner but men need to think critically for a moment. Yes, Thai girls are beautiful, do you think they are ignorant to that fact? Besides tourism, what is the second largest industry in Thailand? It's sex. It's everywhere. So as a middle aged man, you're coming to Thailand to find a faithhful and honest partner at a bar or massage parlor no less? In what reality does this make sense? Would you date a stripper or working girl back home and expect a lasting relationship? No? Probably not. These girls arent malicious.. But they are exploiting men, just as men are exploiting them. As an older man you cannot travel to a foreign country and expect a beautiful young girl to fall in love with you. You know nothing about the culture, the social economic hardship these girls face, you can't speak or understand the language so your personality isnt going to shine through.. Thailand is a beautiful country with beautiful people. If you can take the blinder's off and not act out in desperation I imagine it would be paradise, but if you think youre going to export your western romanticism and try to "save" these girls, you're the one that's going to need saving.
I've seen it with my own eyes. Just sit down, and take a look at the surroundings. A bar girl I hit it off with even told me that If I paid her 30 000 THB a month, she would only work in the bar earning from lady drinks. If I paid her 15, she would not be sexually loyal. I told her: Kha, your intentions are very clear and I'm declining your offer. I stoically walked away. There are men ending their lives because of the wrong woman. 99 out of 100 there are no winners with these women long term. It's like the American rock band Hooters sang in their song "Johnny B". It's a sleepless night, she's callin' your name It's a lonely ride, I know how you want her Again and again, you're chasin' a dream yeah But Johnny my friend, she's not what she seems Johnny B, how much there is to see Just open your eyes and listen to me Straight ahead, a green light turns to red Oh why can't you see, oh Johnny B
Isn't that amazing that she actually wanted 30,000 baht yet she was still going to go to the bar and work for lady drinks... 15,000 for what???? The sad thing is so many guys fall into it...
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Exactly. In Thailand, and everywhere else too trust is earned. Strippers, bar girls, freelancers and porn stars etc are in environments infested with damaged women. Daddy issues, personality disorders (bipolar, narcissism and you name it), traumatic childhood experiences, women with a ton of debt.. she could be trafficked. They have to deal with a lot of crazy freaks. In fact, I feel sorry for what these women sometimes go through. One girl I slept with even cried and said: You're a good man! You not like other farang! She cried a tear, and hugged me. And no, I paid nothing! I used my charm..
I'm definitely not disputing the fact that a lot of these girls are abused traffic is s*** that goes on is horrific... I'm talking about the girls that are intentionally trying to destroy men here. Thanks for communicating everything you say is true
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean These types of women should do time in prison. Nothing justifies her actions or is a valid excuse for what she is doing. Playing with men's hearts and draining their wallets is unacceptable. Hopefully some men are able to save themselves the trouble by understanding who these women are, and what their intentions are.
That's a very good way to put it because these guys are coming and they just don't understand how the world works outside of their little isolated towns... They're simply not prepared for someone who has the ability to manipulate them the way that these girls do... Thanks for watching and commenting
Another great video, I particularly enjoy your passionate presentations. Low self esteem plays part in these sad stories but there are other factors involved as most of these guys have been successful at work, business, sports and other areas of life. I believe deep down we are looking for love trying to recreate relationship with our mother who loved and cered of us unconditionally in the womb we felt warm and safe and when born into this cold world mother put us to her warm breast and fed us not expecting anything back, When it comes to carnal activities with entertainment professionals we have to focus on the following. It is not LOVE, it is BUSINESS. She is providing pleasurable experiences and you are paying for it, not unlike paying to see your favorite band or going to a fine restaurant. If she is a good businesswoman she will try to entice you to buy more, such as sponsoring her, helping her family, buing her presents etc, The girls are not bad people , they are just trying to make money by extracting every last cent out of you just like if you go to a sports stadiom whrre they will sell you overpriced food, sports merchandise etc. I am convinced if you keep few things in mind you will not get burned. Would you want to date a prostitute who likely had sex with 1000 or more men? Look in the mirror and ask yourself if a beautifil girl half you age could fall in love with you instantly? Try not to pay her and see what happens. Why tie yoursef to one girl when you can have another one tonorrow? And if she asks for money outside of the agreed upon amount just tell her politely and with a smile that you cannot afford it and that you are already married and trying to just have some fun on vacation. I almost guarantee that will work. And if you want a long term relationship do not date adult entertainment workers, meet women of similar values and intetests and with similar education. You can do that anywhere in the world but sadly your chance of long term success is less than 50% given the rates of divorce and unhappoy relationships all around us.
as someone living here for more than 10 years, speak, read write thai; just dont take those girls seriously and that goes for high % on dating sites especially thai friendly. they are not there because of enjoying time together with you, there because of money. it is just a business. their loyalty is to money and next their family. can be entertaining to go to a disco and play dumb and when the girl uses mobile google translate typing in thai "lets go home together" and i read out loud the thai she is typing. some of their faces shocked, and some hate me.
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Yup LOL. the other technique is to ask them in english "how much" when they reply just hold your hand out and tell them "OK but you must pay me in advance" (all in thai) my primary motivation to go to a club is live music. to keep the bulk of them away i wear 99 baht Big C plastic sandals, works just like mosquito repellent
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean 555 i wear Adda brand but damn you outclassed me in Gambol. plus they prevent me from being admitted to BKK Nana hoe diskos; they are really a badge of honor LOL
am from UK Years ago I met a Thai guy who asked me for help replying to love letters from girls who had hooked a guy have read many of them and heard the stories the best one was from a Chinese guy he did write it he drew it in cartoon form he was projected as a plane leaving thailand and it was crying very well creating The tales he shared with me as I looked at hundreds of letters its a game which you lose sadly the girl also lose many had Had Aids and had short time to work before they died so you guys unprotected be advise The brothel closed and believe it or not became a American missionary to god They thought they could change people by giving them a free radio Its a game which you have to know you will lose alway have a get out plan or even 3 Thais are nice people just enjoy that done get beyond that I've sadly had a friend suicide recently its a sad thing my thoughts where why even his wife was didn't know why
Hey Geoff And thanks for sharing your experiences with us and I actually know some guys that have written extremely long essays about this subject... I also know guys in Thailand that help these girls write their boyfriends these long loving letters and it's just so sad to see..
Hope I won´t come in to this situation. Anyway, your advice is as a good friend, that´s one of the reasons I like you. Maybe we can meet up personally, I'll be in Patong last week of Oct.
You should check out the passport bros here in Thailand on UA-cam pimping out their “ girlfriends” for click bait 😂 one even married her after meeting her on Tinder in Pattaya 🙏
I know all about them I ignore them to be honest with you... I have no interest in exploiting someone to further my UA-cam channel. It is what it is Cheers Mate 🍺
It's like going to Vegas...you will never not be able to spend a few dollars....you have to budget....set your limit and then turn off the tap....most are driven by need not love
Sorry Ron I have to disagree on that if you're talking about a normal relationship between a man and a woman in North America or Europe because nobody that I know is in some b******* transactional relationship back home nobody Yes there are suckers that try to hold on to gold diggers and allow themselves to be walked all over but for the most part everyone that I know that's in a relationship is any stable normal 50/50 relationship
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean People start relationships based on expectations, hence: "What can you do for me instead of what can I do for you". They all have certain conditions too, job, money, outlooks etc., If the conditions are met the deal is done.
Ya I had to learn this lesson the hard way, but luckily it didn't cost me much money. I did do her a favor that was not much money but she had been doing all kinds of things for me at the time in return, and I don't mean just the sex. I am not someone who can't get women, but I am 46 and a little overweight. So I was probably too confident with this 25 year old beautiful Thai girl who seemed like a regular girl with a job thinking she actually liked me for me. I fell quick and hard, but luckily I'm not stupid and noticed how her behavior changed after she thought she had me. That's when I noticed text messages on phone, she stopped responding as quick as she did at first, and other signs. It hurt my ego mostly I think, but I did really like this girl. Even after I broke it off with her because of the lies she came back and tired saying she was pregnant. These girls are good at what they do. I believe she has several men who live overseas sending her money to be her boyfriend, while she continues to do what she does here while you are gone. If anyone comes across a girl named Beauty on tinder, fuck her and that's it. She will suck your soul dry if you let her. lol
Yes Dan That's exactly how they operate.. The manipulate you into believing that they care about you and then once they have you hooked as you say everything changes and it just starts to become their turning the taps on trying to drain everything they can from you.. Then when you have the courage and the capacity the saying no then they come at you and try to con you scam you with fake pregnancies or HIV and all of this stuff... It's true You my friend are one of the lucky ones
Very helpful information. Thank you for the eye opener. I'm sure you'll see the same scams in all third world countries. Whether you're in Morocco, Thailand, Indonesia, Philippines etc The majority will try and scam money out of you for pleasure.
No not like this I'm sorry if I offend you with this response but I'm going to give you my honest take on this... I do not feel that marriage as we know it back in North America is transactional Yes there are some guys that are stupid and they're walking around with a trophy wife or they've got some gold digging b****... But for the most part there are hundreds of thousands of marriages that are honest 50/50 relationships My brothers are both in fantastic marriages all the people that I know back in Canada are in honest marriages where it is 50/50... It might not be 50/50 financially because one person makes more than the other but it's a 50-50 balance of sharing caring trust and effort. What I'm talking about transactional relationships is you come to Thailand as a man you find some young piece of meat and you negotiate a fee for her to be your girlfriend you pay her a certain amount of money each month to f*** you suck you and hopefully not f****** suck other guys... You then on top of that pay for every single meal that she has with you because you don't want her going out by herself for dinner because she will be doing short time sex with other men. You will also end up taking her shopping etc etc. Also that she will have sex with you and you only. The only reason this girl is with you is because you are paying her to be with you. Yes again I realized that there are some relationships in North America where guys are desperately trying to hold on to a woman but it's not every single one Where is here every single relationship is transactional
A tragic thing indeed but I find it very hard to muster empathy beyond sympathy with people who would buy things like houses in someone else's name or think they are Captain Save-A-Ho..Not in 2023, there simply is no excuse for being that ignorant or that level of naivité. These guys were able to function in society and make enough money to go to Thailand, you would expect they are not straight up mentally impaired. The Valentine's Day story made me laugh hard. You know you are down the rabbit hole if you even think about Valentine's Day with a working girl LOL the very idea is absurde. I do think, to be serious and to add to understanding the phenomenon, that for most men, sex without feelings is not the same or even what we are looking for. These men in these traps want to have the feeling-aspect on top of the sex. In cases of low self-esteem, the men want to feel special enough to be desired or, dare I say it, loved. A sad thing indeed, but they are eating poison for medicine and have been told plenty. Btw, love the chan, you are doing the good Lord's work, my man :D
Hey Will I agree with many of your points in this comment I took a few days to reply to it and I do apologize for that but I wanted to really think about it before I hit send... Sadly enough a lot of guys come here and they do get convinced to build houses buy houses stuff like this in a girl's name because they get manipulated they're lied to It's a sad story man but it really happens... I do know that there are some guys that come here with the Savior complex and they wind up getting decimated... But to say that these guys functioned in normal society made money any monkey can make money to be honest with you... The majority of men that are coming here are broken they are they have issues that you cannot possibly imagine that have self-esteem issues they have mental health issues they have a diction issues and the majority of them believe it or not have codependency issues... A lot of people talk about the fact that all men think about is what their small little heads That's sometimes the case but not always especially here a lot of these guys think with their hearts And the problem is the girls know that and they play into it and they are absolute master manipulators.. I'm trying very hard to show people the reality of living here because there's too many guys that are running around with cameras filming pretty girls and laughing and joking with the bar girls and not showing the true reality of what happens here... I honestly appreciate your comment and again I wanted to reply to it openly so again thank you very much. Cheers Mate 🍺
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Thank you for your kind and thoughtful reply. It is to my shame, perhaps, that I allow myself to be cynical from the safety of my arm chair. I guess it can seem strange to us, here at home, to think that the guys who 'made the dream come true' and retired in paradise aren't actually savvy, smart or mature enough to handle it. I do have a natural sympathy for these poor souls and I am happy that they at least have people like you who cares to at least try to help men avoid the life-changing disasters. Thumbs up to you and cheers from Denmark!
The problem is that someone with low self-esteem doesn’t know they have low self-esteem. My older brother was severely overweight, had poor hygiene and low self-esteem. A Russian woman online, convinced him to fly over there and marry her, promising him that they would be intimate when she got back to the US but not before. He embezzled $50,000 From his ex-wife to pay for a lavish wedding, give her money, a $10,000 diamond ring and blew through the entire money in a month. He did not speak Russian, and she did not speak English. Before the immigration process was finished for her to come here he was caught regarding the embezzlement and was facing civil and possibly criminal charges. His stress level went through the roof, and he died of a heart attack at the age of 58.
I'm so sorry for your loss,,,,. I know stories just like this one,,, It is so sad when you see what happens to men who have low self-esteem or other mental health issues... It is so sad Again I am truly sorry for your loss,,,, I have watched too many guys here fall apart.....
No sympathy for farangs who get involved with bar girls, freelancers, etc. My Thai gf is college educated, has a decent job, her own house and car. If you want a girl from Issan good luck to you. You're going to need it.
I'll be honest with your brother it's getting harder and harder and harder to have sympathy for a lot of these guys because most of them are doing it to themselves it's true.... Congratulations on finding your ideal partner here in Thailand hats off to you mate.... Cheers 🍻
c'mon Mark you gotta get on the ball and start put out a couple stories every week. I'm having to rewatched videos just to feed my addiction to the channel and they're still just as entertaining as the first watch. As least it's an addiction that's not costing me anything, I just listen to the vids in the background while I work.
If you really want some of these stories I will start doing them... I'm going to be perfectly honest with you I find them a little depressing so it takes a little bit to do these stories.... I have lots of guys that are asking me to tell their stories... So okay I will get back to giving you guys hopefully one of these stories a week how's that sound? Thanks for your support Cheers mate 🍻
Hey John thank you for the compliment I truly appreciate that. It's hard because right now you're right there's nobody talking about the honest realities of living here and what it's doing to a lot of guys. You've got a bunch of young UA-camrs running around acting like frat boys showing the girls and making jokes about everything and essentially exploiting the girls for clicks!! I'm more interested in helping guys come here and enjoy their life
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean you are spending countless hours into making those videos and to add all for free. Many others UA-camrs would maybe charge their followers for such advice. Keep up with the good work Dr. Mark
Yes a lot of people have suggested I start a patreon page and all of this stuff and accept money from the subscribers and I just can't get on board with that
Tnx for sharing this , i met a girl in Thailand , i must say she works in a factory and never asked for money , i know her for almost 4 years now , but i know there are girls out there only for money
Good Job Doc!!! I'm kinda in the middle of the whole syndrome. Mine is a little different story... but whi knows - maybe not. Perhaps I'll buy you a beer or two when I'm back in Patong for a few days in March...
sadly enough she had her hooks into him so bad and he just couldn't get away from her and she knew it so she did everything she could to take advantage of him and bleed everything out of him until there was nothing left
Why do you think you know more than anyone else I guarantee you all those guys knew exactly what they were getting into.Its up to them and your wrong everyone knows what’s going on with the women over there and it’s their choice to ignore it or not,and another thing it’s none of your business what another grown man does.If you want to live your life paranoid so be it but believe me your not telling anyone something they don’t already know.Have a good day🤷
Lol
What a guy,
Buddy let me tell you something you're so far off base it's not even funny so let me destroy your comments,,,,,,,,
First off I never claimed to know anything I'm just sharing what I've been told and what I've seen here....
As far as guys knowing what's going on here with the girls you are so obtuse and so naive it's not even funny because 99% of the guys that come here have no clue what's going on....
They truly believe that they're going to come here and these girls are desperate to fall in love with some foreigner and that's just absolute b******* mate...
Do you have any idea how many men come here and lose everything including their lives because they don't know what's going on here??????
They have absolutely no idea just how skilled these girls are in draining bank accounts and ruining lives.....
And for your information it is my business helping guys thrive and survive living in Thailand I'm Dr Mark F#@king Sabean it's my sole purpose and sole goal in life to help protect my fellow brothers....
Furthermore son I certainly don't live in fear nor am I paranoid I live the best life possible and if you can't accept that I really don't know what to tell you......
If you honestly think that a lot of guys don't know what's going on again you're naive foolish and childish,,,,,,,
And trust me I'm not going to have a good day,,,,, I'm going to have a great day....
Typically I end all of my comments with thanks for watching and commenting but for you I'll just say this......
Have a blessed day
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean As difficult as it was to read due to Daniel's broken space bar, other broken sundry punctuation keys and absence of the "you're" contraction versus possessive adjective "your" from his comment, I deduced a significant degree of denialism and defensive posturing with some 'straw men' thrown in for good measure. HE knows they 'love him long time' and it's real, genuine love and affection, and all of her costly family tragedies are real, so the money goes to good causes. Yes, she's always busy on the phone but it's with her stock broker. So there!!! Mr paranoid smarty-pants know-it-all!
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Love the
YOUR right!!!!
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I loved YOU'RE comment
If you don't like the advise. Why don't you just piss off. This guy is trying to prevent death. This probably doesn't sink in to you little brain, but the information wasn't for you. again go elswhere.
GIVEN THE GRAVITY OF THIS OUT COME. YOU SHOULD REALLY SIT AND REFLECT ON WHO YOU ACTUALLY ARE AND NOT WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE PRESENTLY, GIVEN YOUR ORIGIANL 2 CENTS WORTH.
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Fact
When I first came to Thailand, I was a romantic, idealistic sentimentalist. Thailand cured me of these conditions, and I am grateful to it for doing so. Bereft of my naivete, I am now, at the great age of 74, able to enjoy the company of Thai bar girls, immune to their persuasive techniques, and my primary feeling toward them is one of sympathy. They are broken women, and I never forget this when it comes time to pay. Most of them are forced by circumstances to do as they do, and were it not for the great income disparity between them and myself, none of those pretty young ladies would spent two minutes with a geezer such as myself. I treat each one with deference and respect, and afterwards, I walk away.
Thanks for sharing Bruce
You're my kinda guy!
Beer some day?
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean just found your channel. You are a rescue buoy in a ship of drowning souls
I hope I can make it to Thailand before I'm 70.
they cant seem to break the cycle and it is sad, but to me they are capable of such destructive behavior, their families are mostly behind it,,,my income isnt so high, its a good thing, as i cant enable them like so many men do here, whic i think doesnt help help society as whole either..
Being a geezer pleaser ain't easy.
Excellent public service video Mark. The stories are scary. Unfortunately, you haven't really delved deep enough to how dark things really are. Again, I'm an old fart who survived 30 years here. There was a rash of balcony suicides, so many, we called them the Sukhumvit Swan Divers. In case that's too vague, they were tossed over. Then there's the real husbands stalking you like prey on the streets. Also the other tourist "boy friends" at least a fist fight when they accidently meet. One guy committed suicide by stabbing himself 27 times, wink, wink. An American lived with his wife 25 years in America. Came here, the wife talked him into building a housing complex. Upon completion she told him to leave if he wanted to stay alive. They play the long game here. There are some survival strategies though. Accept, and I mean in your bones, that you are a Renter in a foreign land. If you get a hotel, never, ever, take one back there. Take her to another room you rented, or better yet, stick to on site places. These would be the soi6 joints, Gentlemen's Clubs, or the Soapies. In the end, everyone needs to understand the culture here has had PTSD from being abused since the 1960's. They have adapted, and survived, but underneath it all, they Hate our F#cking Guts. That's the reality, and that's what I observed. You people need to Google the epidemic of tourist suicides & deaths in Thailand.
Thank you so much for this because I wanted to get into the truth about what's going on here but I also have to be careful as to not upset UA-cam too much...
But you are 100% truthful and everything that you're saying
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean I want to emphasize I am only talking about the Sexpats. But thanks.
@dmp would that include the man that built the housing complex?
We're the guys allegedly jumping expats or do I get impression sexpats.
pretty accurate description, it is a sick place, if you are not careful, lonely etc, it can be very unhealthy here,, i see them for what they are , there are a few exceptions, but overall, they are opportunist, an extreme lack of conscience, critical thinking skills etc exist here...and I treat them accordingly...let them live with the consequences of their own lives and choices,,
i dont feel sorry for them,.. you can be happy here, low cost of living, food is good, beautiful country, cheap to travel, but relationships with so most of them i avoid, i dont want more than a hello,,,, same for many farang here, i m weary about,can be abusive as well, and we just dont share same values
Man, this is the real-real. I'm glad someone finally addressed it in a straight forward, no bs way. Great stuff!
Hey Tony
For watching and commenting I truly appreciate that and yes someone had to make everyone aware of what is truly going on here......
I resemble this video. I was 20-years old in the military in Phuket. I fell in love with a Bar Girl. It wasn't the sex, it was the amount of attention, deference and respect she treated me with. I cried like a baby when after 4-days I was forced to leave and the ship pulled away. I can absolutely understand how someone could get taken by these girls.
Brother it happens to everyone Believe me every single guy is in love with a Thai girl somewhere in the world....
There is something special about the way these girls know how to treat men. They’re professionals, with lots of practice. Realistically, she probably really liked you as well and it wasn’t an act. They have hardened hearts, but not devoid of the ability to enjoy the man they’re with. They are able to cut it off so fast due to having so many options is the issue. Love isn’t measured with attention or emotion, it is judged by money. The more money, the more love. Sad but true. That’s bar girls, there are genuine girls. I met an Isaan girl that I’m sure I would fall for based on how she is so attentive to everything. But, I’m guarded cause there is still a 10% chance that it’s not real.
Agreed. One of the girls I took out to breakfast the next morning impressed me by serving me and making sure that I had enough. It was a small thing but I noticed it. If she was faking that then she's like a top-level Hollywood actress. I don't believe the girls hate every Foreigner either. But it wouldn't surprise me because isn't it that way anywhere in the world where sex trafficking happens? And I don't believe I had "one of the good ones". I think she's probably a typical Thai girl. Could be I'm just naive and will learn a different lesson in the coming years living there, and I'm sure my opinions and attitudes will change.
But if it's so bad there why do so many westerners go there and never leave?
It happened similar here too. They've got a knack and know just what to say.
@@portlandGTR I think one of the biggest traps that most foreign men fall into when it comes to thai women, and it's a more addictive trap than anything else is the ego trap. When most foreigners first go to places like Thailand they have never had so much attention and never felt so special in their lives. It's a huge ego boost and it's intoxicating. It's like a drug to these men just like gambling. It's actually very similar to the ego manipulation people are drawn into in relationships with narcissistic personalities and the fraud they play because narcissists idealize you at the start and mirror back to you an idealized image of yourself. When the narcissist's perfect, idealized image of you lines up with your perfect, idealized image of yourself, you feel like you're being seen in a way you were never seen before, and it's very hard to let go of that
Narcissists are reacting to a false image of you that they have created in their minds. At no point in the relationship are you seen for who and what you are. Nobody in the relationship is accepting or even seeing the other person for who they really are. In order to truly care about somebody you have to see them for who they really are. in all phases of the cycle of the relationship the narcissistic person sees a fantasy projection of you. when their fantasy projection of you lines up with your idealized self you will believe they are seeing you as you truly are, that's the trap. The idealization that occurs in a healthy relationship is nowhere near as extreme as what happens in narcissistic relationships. The reality of people is not completely different from what you see or what is projected of them. In healthy relationships when people find out that the other person is not as perfect as they thought they were they're able to adjust to that and still have a relationship. This does not happen in relationships with narcissistic people and they will split and start devaluing the other person and often pulling away and ego starving.
The narcissist does not even really see you you don't matter to them at all you are a mirror reflecting themselves back to them and when you look into a mirror you don't see the mirror you see yourself. When they seem to be obsessing over you they are really obsessing their own reflection not you. the narcissist and the relationship is an illusion. Your idealized self and who you felt like you were in the relationship is an illusion. It is only the belief in these things that makes them seem real like a placebo.The relationship with the narcissist seems very attractive at the start, but really offers no actual sustenance at all. It's the promise of Something that never comes.
People can also become addicted to the drama a chaos of the relationship and not the narcissist per se. Drama and chaos work much the same way in the brain as opiates. Narcissists are also addicted to this.
No one is more amazing and no one can sell you a fantasy about them, yourself and the relationship(future faking) better than a narcissists in the idealization honeymoon phase. Narcissists do this as a matter of course and it second nature to them..manipulation is the only way they relate to others. There's no who they really are underneath all the different masks they manipulate people with that can only focus on getting what they want and their needs met, even if it's doing something nice just for the other person to mirror back approval and validation. These masks are very surface level as is their emotions, even though they can be big emotions like a small child there is no depth to them. Their behavior is all reaction based on emotional triggers like a reflex. The pathologically narcissistic person's identity is unstable at the very best and often it is entirely nonexistent. These different personas that they portray are not real personas because usually they are not fully developed and lack any sort of true depth. They are generally one-dimensional, reflecting only one emotional "side" of the narcissistic person and that's it.
This is why the victim has such a hard time letting their fantasy of the narcissist go. When the narcissistic person is "good," they are all good. And when they are bad, they are all bad. This is called splitting. The victim - for whatever reason they have of their own - truly wants to believe that the narcissistic person is good. The narcissistic person wants the victim to believe this too, because then there are no threats to their own self-worth. It's true that narcissists misrepresent themselves, but this does not explain why the victim stays in the relationship long after they realize that the narcissist is not who they pretend to be. The victim often intentionally chooses to believe in the narcissist's false self, even after it has been established that this is not who they are. This is because the victim has a fantasy of the narcissistic person that they do not want to let go of. This unwillingness to accept the true nature of the relationship and the narcissist is responsible for most of the pain caused by these types of relationships
Of course someone wants to believe the person they care about is a good person and cares about them in return. However, it becomes less simple when we take into consideration that the person may been given evidence that this is not true yet still chooses to believe it. It becomes a question of why. Why is this relationship or what it represents so important that a person will ignore evidence that it is unfair, abusive or unhealthy in order to stay in it? Is there a trauma bond? Is there a issue with the victim's self-worth or past trauma that needs to be addressed? What are you getting or hoping to get out of the relationship and why is it so important? And perhaps the most important question, are you able to accept the reality of the relationship and what that means? The good thing about these kinds of questions is that though they may be painful, people usually know the answers to them and once they start looking, they can see the connection. Usually the root of these relationships is the need for validation from others because of a nagging feeling that the victim is not good enough or not lovable. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved. There is something wrong with not accepting the reality of a situation, especially when it's hurting you.
You project those feelings onto the narcissists and believe you have met your soulmate and someone who really see's and values you and you feel like you have never loved someone so much. We project things like empathy and understanding onto them as a matter of course( it happens automatically with most humans) the problem comes when we can see clear evidence that our projections are missing the mark, as we eventually will. We assume these things are there because we have them in us and because we need them to be there in the other person. The problem is they actually are not there, especially in narcissists and beyond our natural basic projected assumption there's often no real evidence that they ever were. When people look back they see that the reality has actually been there the entire time.
Regardless of how well narcissists may or may not be able to " talk the talk" there is no actual reason to believe that things like empathy or even a basic understanding that other people exist and matter actually happens for them. Nothing we consistently see from this personality points to this in fact in so many situations. It actually points to the opposite and when we are able to stop projecting and stop normalizing their behavior into regular Frameworks we can generally see this pretty clearly. It's not even really hidden and you'll notice everything is about them. Every situation only matters in so far as to how it affects them. When we remove the filters of denial and projection we can see this so clearly.
So many times our innate function of projection blinds us to this long enough for an emotional investment to be created and emotional attachment, then denial and cognitive dissonance take over. Once this happens the projection actually often becomes worse not better. People see what they need to see because to not see it is to have to face unpleasant things about the narcissist, the situation, the relationship and themselves,.
Projection distorts reality and when you are dealing with someone who is so selfish and toxic this can be very harmful if you are not seeing someone for who and how they actually are. Not all humans have empathy and compassion. Not all humans will do the right thing. Not all humans have morals or a better nature that you can appeal to. Not all humans care about other people. Instead of assuming or even insisting that these qualities must be in there somewhere we need to accept when we are consistently being shown that a person either does not have these qualities or is not willing to act on them and we need to do this every time we are shown this reality because it's too dangerous to be wrong.
This is not to say oh no we should never trust anybody or take a risk. It means take appropriate and calculated risks. Wanting people to be or have something doesn't make it so. The best we can do is be as realistic as possible when dealing with other people, create and enforce boundaries with everyone and learn to trust appropriately. It's hurtful and disappointing to realize that we're not going to get what we want from this person or this relationship or this situation, but it's much less hurtful and disappointing than if we keep trying to get it where there's no real chance of it ever happening at all but we just refuse to accept that. we'll know when this is the case by looking and listening.
I found a woman who was employed as a buyer with a major department store. She was as bad or WORSE than any bar girl. She ran off with a German guy and moved to Germany to marry him. It makes little difference what her employment situation is......she is THAI. The nicest people money can buy. :)
Fred man that sucks
Sorry bro
In 2017 I was in Pattaya had a horrible toothache went to a female dentist had the tooth extracted 5 weeks later I was in walking street with a couple friends and who do I see dressed almost like a bar girl ? You guessed it !!! The Female Dentist that pulled out my tooth we made eye contact she surprisingly recognized me then she smiled and yelled out Hey everyone has bills to pay 😂😂😂 So guys like the previous post mentioned I don’t care what profession these women have in this Culture prostitution is okay not frowned upon at all as long as a woman gets paid for sex it’s all OK 👍
I'm 61 and have a Thai girlfriend who is 30 and gorgeous. She has been 100% great. Very loving and not a gold digger. In fact, she's very reluctant to accept anything from me at all. But she's never been anywhere near the bar scene. (She works in a hospital in Bangkok.) So do yourself a favor and stay far away from that.
So Kris,,, your reaffirming everything that I say and every one of my videos..
That it is possible to meet a wonderful woman here just not at a bar or not in a massage parlor or not walking the street picking up hookers
Congratulations man that's awesome
Any update?
I'm a Crossfit athlete, so, no that doesn't apply to me. @@zenmachine50
Doing great! She is in the last stage of getting her fiancée visa and should be in the US middle or end of April. @@williamdieffenbach3264
@@williamdieffenbach3264 He is doing well, less one kidney
You are a good man for creating this content
You are literally saving lives by doing this
Anybody who badmouths you for telling the truth…which is what you’re doing. Just ignore them.
Thanks Mate
I appreciate your support
Cheers 🥂
i get bad mouthed as well, there is something pathological in this culture, they are shameless and rude, i cant believe how some of them that work in businesses get away with being rude to customers, without customers they have no jobs, so brainless
I just got back from 8 months living in Pattaya Thailand.
Why didn't I find love?
I refused to pay.
I went further. I insisted they pay me.
The Thai smiles turned to vicious anger....
that's awesome
Cheers Mate
Losing strategy
Pattaya is not the right place to find a good girl in Thailand
@@ThePretender did you give love?
You really nail everything with this video. Thank you Mark. I’ve watched this video a dozen times
Thank you very much I really appreciate that this one was a very hard video to make.
But honestly it's one that needs to be discussed and it needs to be out in the open so that people understand what is truly going on here...
There are too many videos of these guys running around exploiting the bar girls for clicks instead of being honest about what's going on behind the videos..
Listen to the Dr guy's he knows what he is talking about.
I've done the buying motorbike, car, land and built the house in Thailand.
I'm in the UK with my wife and I caught seeing someone else, so threw her out.
So now not only have I lost everything in Thailand, she is also going for 50% of my assets here in the divorce settlement, I own my house plus a few rental properties, so now I'm just waiting to see how much more the courts will tell me to give her.
And yes guess what, my one was different!!!
Hey Clifford listen man thank you for sharing your story it really sucks but if you would like to please send me direct message I'd love to hear more about your story so that hopefully I can more in others about the pitfalls...
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If you want.
Cheers Mate 🍺
You should have had a pre nuptial agreement on your UK assets.
Of course. They’re all “different”. You better read Private Dancer and protect your remaining assets in a trust or something similar ...
@@MP-uo6qd Told by a solicitor that prenuptial will be taken into consideration but can be over ruled by the courts.
@@ma3stro681 I've done that it cost me a fortune, but if she can prove financial hardship the courts can over rule this. At the end of the day the courts will decide what they think is best for both Parties.
The company that set the trust up told me it's protected, but solicitor says different.
I will just have to wait and see.
Bottom line of all this is never have a Amphur wedding with your Thai partner.
You can shout from the roof tops on telling men how to deal with women, but there will be men that think between their legs and not their brain. Currently been with a Thai lady for 3 years, she’s 42 and loving and mature, she has one son who’s 18 and working. Met all her family and I think that’s important to do. It gives you more understanding of her upbringing and lifestyle, so far so good, I always tell her I’am poor living on a small pension, I give her a small allowance, she also works and has her own budget. It’s working so far, nothing is for certain and am very content! My daughter came to Thailand and spent time with us, even she was happy with my relationship. But if it all went south I always have a back up plan, nothing lasts forever!
Hey Roy that's awesome man thank you for sharing your experience I'm going to guess that your girlfriend is not a working girl in the sense as I'm talking about usually...
From the sounds of it anyway she is not so that is fantastic for you and definitely helps in the long-term stability and viability of a relationship..
It's also great that yes you did meet her family and understand her upbringing and stuff..
Cheers Mate 🍺
OMG Mark, I am so sorry to hear this. Thanks for posting and making us aware.
Hey Todd
Thanks for watching man I truly appreciate that this one was a really hard one to make because I tried so hard to talk to Mike I really did...
I don't think people understand how many guys are reaching out to me on a weekly basis It's just staggering and it's always the same story always the same story...
I want to throw in another quote "You want to hear
an ultimate truth?
You cannot make
someone see clarity
when they find comfort
within their fog" Your video is again spot on and I hope it gets out but reality is, no matter what you say some can't hear what your saying.
Hey Markus
The sad thing is brother men just don't listen they really don't....
As I said I don't understand why we're so stupid when it comes to this but for some strange reason we just won't listen we won't admit the truth we won't allow reality to guide us....
Well said
@@gene_retire thanks
I thought you wrote frog 🐸. But fog is more profound….my bad. Cleared that up for me thanks.
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from Slow Dancing, U2
"she is going to take your heart of gold and melt it down to a bracelet which she wears when she is out with 7-8 different guys".
You are spot on, harsh truth, that saying explains her business strategy, because it is not personal, just business....
It's always business... never personal
Nino Brown • New Jack City
Wow!
I just stumbled on to your channel while doing research on my 1st visit to Thailand.
I am SO THANKFUL for the way you deliver your content! It really hit home with me coming through a 13yr marriage that is on its way out. Your video really gave me a lot to think about. Although my interest in Thailand isn’t to become a “Sexpat” some of the insights you provide in this video really made me self evaluate my mental and emotional health before I make definite plans to visit.
Many many thanks for your content and delivery. Your concern for your viewers really shines through. I’d like to buy you a beer if I make it over there! Subscribed!
Hey man thank you very much and welcome to the channel I hope that I am able to help you on your journey and that you get even one piece of advice from me that you can use to make your life just a little bit better.
I promise you man Thailand can be your own personal Utopia or it can be a living help It's up to you and how you mentally are when you get here and how you treat yourself.
Remember that you do have self-worth that you do have value and I know it's hard coming out of a divorce I know life beats us men down but we are worthy of caring about ourselves not just women.
Definitely send me a DM email me anything you want anytime I'm always here for anyone like yourself to talk to if you need.
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Thank you so much for making this video. My wife passed away not long ago and so I was looking into coming to Thailand because, of course, I’m lonely. I have a job where I can work from anywhere because I work remote, and I even talked to my boss about me moving to Thailand and working from there. Hearing the facts and knowing what I’m up against has immediately changed my perspective, and may well have made all the difference in whether I make a wise decision or a mistake.
Hey Barry listen I would not allow that to stop you from coming here and at least trying it...
The premise behind my videos is so that guys know what to expect they know how to conduct themselves here they know what's going to happen so that they're not blindsided
I'm very sorry to hear about your Wi-Fi can't imagine how terrible that must be my friend but I would not give up on Thailand completely..
If you know how to handle yourself and if you can realize that you have value and you are important then you can come here and thrive trust me
Take care my friend
Great video thank you. Without tarring everyone with the same brush, In general, women get married for security and men get married because of their own insecurity. Regards to everyone, Paul (Uk)
You know Paul that is extremely well said...
However here I'm going to tell you something man it's just brutal nobody's really talking about it.
It upsets me because these UA-camrs are coming and they're doing these videos they're showing all the pretty girls and they're essentially exploiting the girls in their videos for clicks and kicks...
Nobody is telling guys how it honestly truly is
Yes if you're a young kid good looking the girls going to fall over you of course they are.
Don't have fun with you they'll shag you etc etc but they've got to get their money somewhere and they're getting it from the guys that have big hearts that are fools when it comes to love and women
This is so true as a Thai, Chinese myself I would never think about dating in Thailand. Once you get into a relationship with a women in Thailand you have no rights, she’ll own your house because you can’t purchase property if you’re not a Thai citizen meaning that if things went south you’ll literally be kicked out of your own house you paid for and everything will be lost
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It's insane yet men allow it to happen to them every day here
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍺
I think you can open a company and let your company own the house?
@@raunholt1234 That's rather missing the point though......
My Thai girl friend in. Working I n uae been with her 6 years she ask to marry first year I say. No but after 6 years she build a house with gran ma and daughter she automatically got me to pay £300 month for new build
Thank you brother my girlfriend massage in UAE
Hi Mark!
Firstly, sorry to hear the sad news of your friends death.
Secondly, another great video which guys, really should watch and absorb the great advice and information you provide.
Thirdly, you can take the girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl.
Finally, if guy's are looking for long-term relationships, I would suggest that looking through beer goggles at a bar girl is the wrong place. Try shopping centres, supermarkets, etc.
Exactly Nigel and I'm preaching that like I'm in the choir but nobody is listening to me at all..
I don't understand how guys can't see it they just can't.
Cheers Mate 🍺
Hi Doc! I absolutely agree with everything you said. Your video must be shown inside the plane to everyone who's on their way to Thailand. I'm 59 y/o and i have done both Bangkok & Pattaya and I'm proud to say that i came out unscathed 😂😅😂
Hey mate thanks for watching and commenting I truly appreciate that....
I'm doing a video this week about a guy that is right around your age you might want to check that one out...
Cheers mate 🍻
Dearest Doc, I’m so saddened to hear of the tragic circumstances your dear friend Mike passed away. Highlighting the absolute predatory side of Thailand in particular will hopefully get through to the boys going there. As a sister of 4 brothers I’ve seen it happen in Aussie but this seems entrenched and a extremely vicious cycle that happens to thousands of guys a year in Thailand who take their lives for a woman who has sent them broke financially as well as emotionally on the false pretence of true love. Trust your instincts and protect yourself especially if you are with someone who uses you as their own ATM. Always keep $ private and a back up so you have the freedom to get out of dodge and have a home. Please Talk to your mates and don’t be shy or embarrassed. Choose life guys. Absolutely nobody is ever worth taking your own life. Sending you all XO’s and my sincere condolences again to Mike’s family and friends.
Hey Juju
Welcome back listen it is a shame and there are so many men that have died since I've been here guys that I know personally that have ended their lives because of the manipulation and the lies...
We all struggle with our own personal issues and demons but when you have someone that takes advantage of your situation and praise upon your insecurities and demons it makes it 10 times worse..
I hope your brothers are well and thank you again for all of your support I truly appreciate you
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@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean No problem. Here anytime for you and the lads. I’ll adopt you all as my brothers in Thailand. 💔
Thanks
You're the best
You're saving MANY lives in MANY ways. Keep it up. God bless you for your work.
Hey Anthony I'll be honest with you man I'm doing all I can because I've lost too many subscribers and a couple of friends actual real friends in the past year to this s*** and somebody needs to talk about it somebody needs to show people what honestly happens here..
Look I get it a lot of the young UA-camrs come and they're doing these videos they're showing the pretty girls at the bars they're essentially exploiting them for clicks and stuff but they're not showing their reality of everything and guys come here and they think that their life is going to be like that and it's not..
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean may I recommend to your viewers the book, PRIVATE DANCER: A novel of love, betrayal and death in Thailand, by Stephen Leather? It can be found in various formats, including e-book, on the web. It certainly does resonate with what you've been teaching. And I think it's a MUST-READ for any man planning to travel to Thailand for pleasure.
You always put out great content! Keep up the great work 👍🏽.
Thank you for the compliment and for commenting
I truly appreciate that
Take care and be kind....
I have to say that you are absolutely spot on, you say it as it is. Excellent advice for every man who goes to Thailand.
Hey Anthony thanks mate I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment
Cheers mate 🍻
I have very high self-esteem and was going to skip this video but I decided to watch it anyway. I'm glad I did. Your advice is spot on and everyone (including me) must heed it. You, sir, are providing a valuable service. Thank you a thousand times 👍
Well listen I'm really happy and quite honestly proud that you did take the time to watch it and even more so that you felt compelled to comment.
Thank you
Be kind to yourself
But, you won’t Fuckimg heed his advice will you
I’ve seen smart guys from farang land go absolutely stupid and loose everything!!! I got so many stories. From the 80’s 90’ and now. Nothing has changed
Sad isnt it
Nothing has changed at all
Cheers mate 🍻.
Thanks for watching and commenting
Thank you mate.
You saved a lot of men a lot of money and lives too
I try my best to help people understand the realities of living here Yes it can be paradise but it can also be devastating...
Thanks for watching and commenting
My condolences to you Dr. Mark and your friend's family and friends. I don't have a self-esteem problem. I believe I have learned valuable information through your videos to have reasonable expectations regarding relationships with Tai bar girls or freelancers. AINT GONNA HAPPEN!. Sure it's great to be able to find a quick shag. But finding the love of your life? AINT GONNA HAPPEN! Unfortunately, some men will never learn and will destroy their own lives by making the wrong choices. THAT'S A FACT! A dark but very necessary video Dr. Mark. Keep em coming, and again, my condolences.
Brother I certainly hope it doesn't happen to you..
Sadly so many men come here with the bravado and the pumped up feeling that not me can't possibly happen to me yet it happens every day to guys here..
This was a video that needed to be made and sadly enough it is what it is.
Cheers Mate
Take care
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Believe me Dr. Mark. I have been around long enough to know better. There are plenty of beautiful, older Tai women who are educated and don't need to be supported by expats. As you stated in your videos, you just have to go out and meet people away from the bar and nightlife scene. Hope to meet you soon in the near future. Love to have you show me the ropes although I'm trying to soak up as much info and wisdom from your videos.
@@csmelen cheers Mate 🍺
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend Doc!! When you fall in love with a bar girl & all she cares about is what she can get from you, its gotta be hard. I can tell that this has really affected you my friend. I personally don't understand how these guys get sucked in by them but, I guess thats just me. I spent years back at home picking up girls in the bars but, I just slept with them & took them home the next day!!
Hey Dale the problem is like I said a lot of these guys just don't have any self-esteem they also have no sense of self-worth.
They've been beaten down in life either by women or by their jobs their situations and stuff like this and they truly believe that coming here they're going to find someone that's going to love them and take care of them for money ..
All these women are going to do is take them for their money That's it...
And yes this one did hit hard it really did and then I've got some f****** idiot like the guy that says they should have no sympathy but scorn,,,,,.
A$$hole
Sorry but that guy is just an ignorant a$$hole
Dale as you know I always appreciate you watching and commenting especially on this one again thank you my friend
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean I have friends that if they came here would have the same problems. I've never been married & don't have any kids. My life has been about having a good time & working hard. I always tell people that I've had more fun than any 3 people deserve to have in their entire lives. Low self esteem has never been my problem but, those who have it this isn't the place to play around. Pro girls know how to read a man in about 2 minutes. I'd just laugh at them & wrap my shit before I even let them blow me. But again, that's me!! Again, very sorry about your friend & fuck that guy who said shit to you like that. Theres a lot to be said about the old adage, if ya can't say something nice... Have a couple Leo's & get some sleep my friend.
Thanks for sharing man
And yeah they can size you up faster than you can determine if they're a ladyboy or not
It's all very easy saying you would never fall under a bar girl's spell sitting behind your computer in the cold hard light of day but when your in her world of smoke and mirrors.......
@@lennifrost2006 Really?? Why would you ever believe them. You know they're lying!!
This man knows of what he speaks. LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN... don't do a transactional relationship.
Sadly enough people will watch it but they won't listen they won't comprehend they won't retain it they won't understand it .
Because remember it'll never happen to them because their girl is different,,,,
Thanks for watching and commenting
Im really sorry to hear what happened to your friend, and I know this was undoubtedly a really hard video to make, but it is so important for people to see, and im sure it will help save people. Keep up the good fight and enjoy all the positive things thailand offers.
Hey Justin thanks for watching and commenting
This was a brutal one to make because Mike was the last person that deserved this fate..
Not that anyone does, but especially Mike
I felt it important enough to open up about the dangers
Because there are too many
Take care and be kind
This isn't a problem with Thailand or bar girls. It's a problem with the men it's happening to. You can call it self esteem or ego or whatever you want but at the end of the day, I just call it stupid.
💯
And I'll be covering this in an upcoming video
Cheers mate 🍻
Sorry to hear about your friend. Thank you for making such a difficult video. You could very well tell it was from the heart.
Hey Christopher thanks for watching this was a very difficult video to make...
And I'll be honest if you've been watching my channel for long you'll notice that I haven't made any videos like this one in a while...
The reason for that is I have so many people who are in Mike's situation so many people that I have lost trying to help...
It's becoming a drain on me to be honest with you mentally and emotionally...
unprotected really? unbelievable. Great content, congrats and thank you. Have had such relationships in the past mainly in Singapore. Now my honeymoons are strictly reduced to 3 hours, not days.
You would not believe the amount of guys to come here and have unprotected sex I have talked to probably 300 to 400 different working girls whatever you want to call them and every single one of them will tell you the same thing they get offered extra money all the time for unprotected sex and they pretty much take it 90% of the time
There are a couple of girls that are not full-time freelancers or full-time prostitutes they will refuse and most of the time the guy will move on to the next victim instead of hiring her
It's absolutely scary when you think about it
Thanks for watching and commenting
Hi Peter thats great!! Can you tell me something? If I book a stay in Pattaya how far away are the airports and if I can't get a flight to Pattaya then which ones are nearest? Thanks Again!
Hey man the airport is about 1.5 hours from Pattaya
You are best to fly into Bangkok and take the taxi/van to Pattaya
A Taxi is around 1500 Baht
The van is around 200 Baht...
How this helps
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Hiya Pal thanks so much for this and shall be looking for some cheap flights! Other than on Kayak where have you managed to get the best rates and at which times of the year are best do you think? Thanks again Pal!
Great video. Telling the truth is not too common.
Sadly enough the common truth is much like common sense.....
It's not that common
Hey Doc good Video 😊. Second time listening to this particular video. Good advice 👍.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Hey Ricky all I can hope is that you get something out of it and that it hopes whatever situation that you find yourself in.
Cheers Mate 🍻
Thanks for watching and commenting I truly appreciate that
Sincere and respectful post Doc,it's an ugly truth that has to be addressed.
Most people say that a mortgage is the biggest decision you make in your life, I'd say it's which partner you choose to live with, with 2 european divorces under my belt, the second one almost gave me lasting mental health issues.
Guys take a step back, spend some time on your own, appreciate what you have as an independent individual before you walk through the Thai girlfriend minefield,
If your paying for it your halfway to screwing yourself don't go the extra mile an make it long term.
Wasn't it buddha that said personal attachment and the constant wanting of material things is the cause of personal suffering.
Listen to the buddha guys and take notice of the Doc he's on point yet again.
Hey Roger really sorry to hear man that you've been through two divorces that really sucks..
You are right 99% of your happiness comes down to who you choose to spend your time with.
I will see this much so few guys come here with the realization that they need to work on themselves they don't need to jump into bed with some 20-year-old right off the hop
They need to come and figure out who they are and what they're about not just come and chase tail....
Bachelor life is be$t. I hope you finally realise this now ...
@@ma3stro681 it was a long time ago, I'll take responsibility for the first but not the second, I took a hefty financial hit but managed to recover, it ain't happening again, no way!
Really enjoy your channel. Am I being naïve though to believe that Thai women who are professionally trained and certified in massage are not necessarily out to scam men?
Perhaps
Look most of the massage girls take training, it's hard to know who's a scammer and who's not...
Maybe add me to Facebook Messenger and we can chat easier there....
Mark Sabean
This, is a very real problem. I wish more vloggers would be talking about it regularly. And let's not talk about all those guys that figured out the scam early. Its happening everywhere I guess.
Neil thank you for watching and commenting and trust me I will be talking about this on a regular basis I'll be exposing more and more truth so that men are fully educated before they get here!!!
It's a hard lesson to learn but if you are aware of it before you get here hopefully it won't be so devastating..
Cheers Mate 🍺
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean i was lucky. Before i set foot in Pattaya a friend sat me down and coached me. I still made mistakes but they were relatively cheap but valuable lessons. I broke the 3 night rule and dodged a bullet for sure.
Cheers Mate 🍺
All woemen scam weak men everywhere ...
nice advice and totally true, true, but what else am i going to do there?
There's so much here to do my friend but do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day....
My condolences gor your friend. I witnessed this behavior from girls when I visited Thailand last. They are masters at making you feel good! Guys should be self-aware and recognize what the relationship actually is, not what you want it to be. I'm sure there are plenty of good women in Thailand, but it's unlikely that they work in that industry. Be safe, everyone!
Hey Ricepaddy
That's the sad thing about it guys know what it is, they just won't accept it.
Also there are tons of amazing women, they're just not sex workers
Thanks for watching and commenting
Thank you for revealing all these facts. Sharing experiences will definitely safe someone's life. God bless you.
Thank you very much for watching and that is the goal of these videos is to try and help guys protect themselves usually from themselves.....
Thank you soo much for warning these unsuspecting men. I'm so very sorry about your poor friend. I'll say a prayer for him
Such a tragic, unnecessary loss.
Hi Rosemary thank you for your very kind comment.
I am honestly just trying to help guys understand that Thailand is not the perfect paradise that they think it is.
They need to be prepared and educated for what happens here because sadly enough a lot of men just don't get it.
Thank you for watching and commenting
Take care
You hit it right on the head mate, you'll never find true with a bargirl, freelancer etc.
I met my wife here in Australia and have been married 10 years, a genuine keeper.
Thanks for watching
And congrats on 10 years mate
That's awesome
Im so sorry for your friends loss its good you are telling this information so others can know what not to do.
I have lived in pattaya now for almost 18 years and have been there and made lots of mistakes costing alot and, married to a thai lady and divorced. Im very lucky now have found a great lady who works 6 days a week and never asked for money and lives with me now for 4 years and pays half of all bills and food.
Hey David congratulations first off for making it through 18 years of living there...
Sorry to hear about the divorce but as you know it's likely going to happen your first time getting married to a Thai woman..
It's awesome that you found one that obviously works a real job and is an actual partner
Cheers Mate 🍺
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean yes im very lucky it like one in 100.000
Thank you sooo muuch! Going to thailand in a month! And you have learned me ALOT! Love from Norway
Well that's awesome to hear brother I hope you have a wonderful time here trust me it truly is Paradise and you're going to have the best time of your life
I am sorry for the loss of your friend and hope your truth can save one person from the same fate. I hope you opened at lot of peoples eyes as much as you did for me! thank you so much.
That's the hope.
I'll be going deeper into this subject
Cheers Mate 🍺
Thanks for watching and commenting
Great comment.!!! You are right from the first to the last word. Cheers from Jomtiens. Keep telling the truth.
Hey Mate thanks for the awesome compliment
Truly appreciate that
Have a blessed day
Cheers 🍻
Mark, that is terrible what happened to your friend. The sad thing is 99% of these women over there are so evil and narcissistic that they do not not one second of sleep. With all the info that yours and other channels ( but yours is the best). You are right that if you are double their age and quite frankly not to easy on the eyes, these younger girls are not attracted to you. With all the info available these guys should never fall for this. As you know I am American happily married who would never go to Thailand even if I was single ( because I am totally not into Asian chicks at all). Again Mark great public service announcement and sorry about your friend. Hope more of these guys learn how evil these girls are before it is too late. And lastly, having sex with girls that have had 1000- 2000 partners? Yuckkkkkkkk!!!
Hey man listen thank you for watching and supporting my channel I truly appreciate that..
The worst part is men are just not getting it they're watching these videos and they're so broken that they don't believe that it can happen to them you need healthy self-esteem to understand that you're not perfect...
As far as a girl with a thousand or 2,000 partners brother that's only how many they've slept with in a year think about over a 5 to 7 or 10 year career in the sex industry You're talking over 10,000 men
Yeah
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean That is insane, And aren't these guys afraid of getting HIV?
I our Thai girl friend 7 years first year she keep asking to Marry this was a no to me as I from Northern Ireland twice biting twice shy ,I but pay £300 for new house in chumphon, but my name not on it ,my girlfriend still working in. UAE she Thai ,I feel. house not my name it's not mine ,she automatically got. Me to pay for £300 UK month for house in our side chumphon
And she's working in the UAE???
Doing what?
I've ran into a few females like this in the usa. I'm now in my 50's and I really dont want a girlfriend but I may want some company at times.
Hey Joe
Finding company here is easy if that's what you're looking for sadly a lot of guys come here looking for someone that they can love and in return love them....
Sad
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean that's not at all what I'm looking for but I want to burn these videos into my brain. These girls seem to be the world champs in manipulation. I dont really blame them. I would do the same to help my family. I just need to keep my ego in check. I'm not a handsome man to anyone under 40.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, Sir. I like what you are doing with your Channel... Us gentlemen do need to prepare if and when we decide to visit these areas
Thanks bro
I appreciate that
And yes I'm trying to make sure that guys understand the realities of living here..
Yes the girls are beautiful yes they are plentiful but you have to be so careful...
Cheers Mate 🥂
Hi Dr Mark I'm so sorry about your friend but you did so well to highlight issues in this video. First time in Thailand in 1 week so good to know what to look out for. I am not interested in the bar girls, I would prefer to meet girls on tinder as Im still pretty young would you suggest bringing your tinder date back to your hotel or could this be as dangerous as a bar girl? What are you thoughts on tinder dates vs paid bar girls Thanks and love the content
First off brother let me tell you something and most places that you're going in Thailand , Tinder is pretty much a brothel.
It's loaded with freelancers ladyboys etc etc...
If you're down on Phuket if you're in Pattaya trust me dude it's just a brothel...
Give it a shot try Thai Friendly as well, but understand that most of the girls on there if you're in one of these tourist areas are working girls..
Myself personally no man I probably wouldn't bring one back to my own hotel room I would rent a room for the night and go there...
The last thing you want to do is let anybody know how you're living where you're living what type of stuff you have etc etc.
Be careful man
Enjoy yourself but be careful
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Hey Mark thanks so much for the indepth reply! I appreciate your complete honesty, Now i understand. I will give thai friendly a try but I will be as cautious as I can be. Great points it makes sense to just keep any business away from the hotel. Many thanks mark, love the channel and wish you all the best!
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
Hey Dr Mark, after now returning back from Thailand I cannot stress enough how spot on every single one of your videos are,
I thought to myself that there is no way I cant meet a normal girl and have a somewhat normal experience while there for 3 weeks. How wrong I was...
After using Tinder and Thai Friendly it was about impossible to find someone that wouldn't tell you the price straight away of St and Lt. I ended up caving after 2 weeks of on and off trying, the last week I just had to pay.
I did bring a girl back to my hotel after the staff told me that they want to check her ID and made me feel more comfortable. Before she arrived I packed every single item I had into my 2 suitcases, shut my lock on them too and stored them out of sight in the closet. I also made sure to leave the exact amount of money I was going to pay her in my wallet and I locked everything else away for safekeeping.
As she left I got a phone call from the front desk making sure everything was okay which again made me feel as secure as you can be I guess.
I did see her one more time and she tried the "I'm dying in 6 months" move on me. Her heart was racing I could see it before she said it. I played it off like I didn't hear and I repeated "what did you say" a few times. She said ohh dont worry it was nothing, then saying it was just a joke.
I sat there looking at the ceiling and I said outloud this is not something you joke about, why are you saying this to me? She knew my mood had sunk and she jumped on me kissing me about 100 times repeatedly and I just didnt respond. "Ill give you time them", I waited a few mins to compose myself, gave her a hug and asked her to leave the room. As she was walking right out the door I said "I have read many stories online about this and it makes me sad that you did this to me"
Softly confronting the situation and not letting it just pass by like I'm stupid was definitely in hindsight a more dangerous approach but I wanted her to know that I know what is going on and I am upset by it. I told her I was leaving in 2 days but I was leaving the next morning back home.
She was actually very honesty in messages as we were going back and forth after our first time seeing each other, telling me that "I am only a business women" and for some reason also mentioning that "I am not a good person" ... I guess the pussy was too strong because all the obvious warning signs were there and I still let them go over my head.
In what type of areas do you think I would have more success with non freelance bar girls? Somewhere like Hua Hin? Or even apps like Thai Flirting?
Thanks for the content and please do keep it up, It may not always seem like it but your saving peoples lives each and every day. All the best!
Thanks for the pep talk. Headed there in 2 weeks
Take care my friend
Protect yourself
Be kind
Cheers Mate 🍺
You can find some of these transactional relationships in the Philippines, too. Or anywhere else there are sizable socio-economic disparities.
Yes you can for sure
The trouble becomes when guys honestly believe that they're in a real relationship rather than a transaction...
These women are so good at it
It's crazy
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Problem is western man in TH tend to date straight up pros from Isaan, poorest province. What can possibly go wrong?
How many falangs date pharmacist, doctors, teachers, office women, biz owner...?
For relationship to work its best to date closer to ur age and in same socio economic class.
And this is exactly what I tell all the guys that reach out to me stop dating them go find a real girl
All relationships with woemen are transactional, everywhere in the world, not just Thailand. Ask any married or divorced men in the West ...
You are a legend man, flying to Bangkok In a few weeks, this is just what I needed.
Hey man I'm glad you like this video take care of yourself and Bangkok I'm sure you'll have a fantastic time.
Definitely check out Chinatown it is one of the most incredible experiences you'll have..
Cheers Mate 🥂
I started having a thing with a 40 year old Filipino woman In toronto. She is the cutest little thing . So funny . She is a PSW and works so hard . Has 2 kids and a nice home. I can kind of understand how guys fall for them over there . We men must always be on guard. ( I'm still going to Thailand next year ) lol
Awesome bro
Have fun
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean yes. You may remember I just turned 65 . She is the friend of my friends wife . ( he and his wife are Filipino ) he is a fellow watch collector.
Dont forget to bring the heart of stone 😎
This video is instant legend material. Bravo! “Take care.” 🙏🏼
Hey mate thanks for watching and commenting
Truly appreciate that
Cheers 🍻
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Chok dee 🍺
Sorry about your friend, it's terrible when it ends like that :-( those girls are stone hearted, they don't really care for anything else than money. You have to put them down when they try to play tricks or get you hooked. I had good expirience using the phase "What makes you so special" or talking about prices... "I can get another girl just like that" (snapping my fingers), don't make those girls believe that they are special at all or have any power what so ever. (I know it can be easier said than done)
Brother it is so sad,,
There's guys come here and they have no clue,no idea,,,
They can't comprehend how manipulative the girls truly are
That is exactly correct. I have used that method in the US many times
Same goes for all woemen, not just Thai h00ker$ ...
Sociopaths
Guy from my city took his life there too few months back. Gotta be 10 steps ahead all the time with them. Great video
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍺
The term you should have used is narcissists Mark. You don’t need to have low self-esteem or any kind of mental illness/ disorder. Anyone and everyone is susceptible to these working girls who’re professional master manipulators. That’s the truth.
*You just need to have the knowledge and wisdom so you do not get romantically involved with any of them. So, thank you for spreading the awareness. Many lives do get destroyed by these heartless soulless creatures.
Honestly it's more the guys with the low self-esteem and the codependency issues
Guys that know their worth and feel good about themselves, guys that can spend 5 minutes alone are typically not getting fleeced ..
Cheers Mate
Appreciate your support
Thanks pastor, you might not consider yourself one, but you are giving us a great word of warning.
Hey Carlos,,,,
Lol
Yeah I can promise you this much The doctors never going to pass for a pastor
Lol
I'm pretty much beyond redemption at this point at least that's what I like to tell the Jehovah witnesses that stop by once in awhile.
Lol
Cheers Mate 🍺
Thanks for watching and commenting
She's not yours, its just your turn.
Ain't that the truth here!!!
Cheers Mate 🥂
This is exactly a self esteem issue. Too many guy's place to much value on a stranger and yet non on themselves. Now it could be from lack of experience or lonliness.. Or maybe the ego boost that comes from all the attention of being a foreigner but men need to think critically for a moment. Yes, Thai girls are beautiful, do you think they are ignorant to that fact? Besides tourism, what is the second largest industry in Thailand? It's sex. It's everywhere. So as a middle aged man, you're coming to Thailand to find a faithhful and honest partner at a bar or massage parlor no less? In what reality does this make sense? Would you date a stripper or working girl back home and expect a lasting relationship? No? Probably not. These girls arent malicious.. But they are exploiting men, just as men are exploiting them. As an older man you cannot travel to a foreign country and expect a beautiful young girl to fall in love with you. You know nothing about the culture, the social economic hardship these girls face, you can't speak or understand the language so your personality isnt going to shine through.. Thailand is a beautiful country with beautiful people. If you can take the blinder's off and not act out in desperation I imagine it would be paradise, but if you think youre going to export your western romanticism and try to "save" these girls, you're the one that's going to need saving.
I've seen it with my own eyes. Just sit down, and take a look at the surroundings. A bar girl I hit it off with even told me that If I paid her 30 000 THB a month, she would only work in the bar earning from lady drinks. If I paid her 15, she would not be sexually loyal. I told her: Kha, your intentions are very clear and I'm declining your offer. I stoically walked away. There are men ending their lives because of the wrong woman. 99 out of 100 there are no winners with these women long term. It's like the American rock band Hooters sang in their song "Johnny B".
It's a sleepless night, she's callin' your name
It's a lonely ride, I know how you want her
Again and again, you're chasin' a dream yeah
But Johnny my friend, she's not what she seems
Johnny B, how much there is to see
Just open your eyes and listen to me
Straight ahead, a green light turns to red
Oh why can't you see, oh Johnny B
Isn't that amazing that she actually wanted 30,000 baht yet she was still going to go to the bar and work for lady drinks...
15,000 for what????
The sad thing is so many guys fall into it...
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Exactly. In Thailand, and everywhere else too trust is earned. Strippers, bar girls, freelancers and porn stars etc are in environments infested with damaged women. Daddy issues, personality disorders (bipolar, narcissism and you name it), traumatic childhood experiences, women with a ton of debt.. she could be trafficked. They have to deal with a lot of crazy freaks. In fact, I feel sorry for what these women sometimes go through. One girl I slept with even cried and said: You're a good man! You not like other farang! She cried a tear, and hugged me. And no, I paid nothing! I used my charm..
I'm definitely not disputing the fact that a lot of these girls are abused traffic is s*** that goes on is horrific...
I'm talking about the girls that are intentionally trying to destroy men here.
Thanks for communicating everything you say is true
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean These types of women should do time in prison. Nothing justifies her actions or is a valid excuse for what she is doing. Playing with men's hearts and draining their wallets is unacceptable. Hopefully some men are able to save themselves the trouble by understanding who these women are, and what their intentions are.
Too many guys come to Thailand wanting Fantasy Island and it turns into Nightmare on Walking Street.
That's a very good way to put it because these guys are coming and they just don't understand how the world works outside of their little isolated towns...
They're simply not prepared for someone who has the ability to manipulate them the way that these girls do...
Thanks for watching and commenting
Like I read somewhere
1) No provinces girls
2) Have a University or College Degree
3) It is not the main breadwinner or her family
Yeah
Pretty close
Cheers mate 🍻
Another great video, I particularly enjoy your passionate presentations. Low self esteem plays part in these sad stories but there are other factors involved as most of these guys have been successful at work, business, sports and other areas of life. I believe deep down we are looking for love trying to recreate relationship with our mother who loved and cered of us unconditionally in the womb we felt warm and safe and when born into this cold world mother put us to her warm breast and fed us not expecting anything back,
When it comes to carnal activities with entertainment professionals we have to focus on the following. It is not LOVE, it is BUSINESS. She is providing pleasurable experiences and you are paying for it, not unlike paying to see your favorite band or going to a fine restaurant. If she is a good businesswoman she will try to entice you to buy more, such as sponsoring her, helping her family, buing her presents etc, The girls are not bad people , they are just trying to make money by extracting every last cent out of you just like if you go to a sports stadiom whrre they will sell you overpriced food, sports merchandise etc.
I am convinced if you keep few things in mind you will not get burned. Would you want to date a prostitute who likely had sex with 1000 or more men? Look in the mirror and ask yourself if a beautifil girl half you age could fall in love with you instantly? Try not to pay her and see what happens. Why tie yoursef to one girl when you can have another one tonorrow? And if she asks for money outside of the agreed upon amount just tell her politely and with a smile that you cannot afford it and that you are already married and trying to just have some fun on vacation. I almost guarantee that will work.
And if you want a long term relationship do not date adult entertainment workers, meet women of similar values and intetests and with similar education. You can do that anywhere in the world but sadly your chance of long term success is less than 50% given the rates of divorce and unhappoy relationships all around us.
Extremely well spoken
Thank you
Being blue pilled will de$troy most men ...
as someone living here for more than 10 years, speak, read write thai; just dont take those girls seriously and that goes for high % on dating sites especially thai friendly. they are not there because of enjoying time together with you, there because of money. it is just a business. their loyalty is to money and next their family. can be entertaining to go to a disco and play dumb and when the girl uses mobile google translate typing in thai "lets go home together" and i read out loud the thai she is typing. some of their faces shocked, and some hate me.
That's awesome
I'll bet it shocks the s#it outta them
Lol
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@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Yup LOL. the other technique is to ask them in english "how much" when they reply just hold your hand out and tell them "OK but you must pay me in advance" (all in thai) my primary motivation to go to a club is live music. to keep the bulk of them away i wear 99 baht Big C plastic sandals, works just like mosquito repellent
Lol
I wear the same Gambol Sandals
Lol
Love them!!!
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean 555 i wear Adda brand but damn you outclassed me in Gambol. plus they prevent me from being admitted to BKK Nana hoe diskos; they are really a badge of honor LOL
Private Dancer….EVERYONE LISTEN TO THE AUDIOBOOK
Yup
It is a great video and content..thank you so much
Thanks
It needs to be out in the open
Dark as it is
am from UK Years ago I met a Thai guy who asked me for help replying to love letters from girls who had hooked a guy have read many of them
and heard the stories the best one was from a Chinese guy
he did write it he drew it in cartoon form he was projected as a plane leaving thailand and it was crying very well creating
The tales he shared with me as I looked at hundreds of letters
its a game which you lose
sadly the girl also lose many had Had Aids and had short time to work before they died
so you guys unprotected be advise The brothel closed and believe it or not became a American missionary to god
They thought they could change people by giving them a free radio Its a game which you have to know you will lose alway have a get out plan or even 3 Thais are nice people
just enjoy that done get beyond that I've sadly had a friend suicide recently its a sad thing my thoughts where why
even his wife was didn't know why
Hey Geoff
And thanks for sharing your experiences with us and I actually know some guys that have written extremely long essays about this subject...
I also know guys in Thailand that help these girls write their boyfriends these long loving letters and it's just so sad to see..
Hope I won´t come in to this situation. Anyway, your advice is as a good friend, that´s one of the reasons I like you. Maybe we can meet up personally, I'll be in Patong last week of Oct.
Hey Peter so will I,,,,
Add me to Facebook
Mark Sabean
Cheers mate 🍻
You should check out the passport bros here in Thailand on UA-cam pimping out their “ girlfriends” for click bait 😂 one even married her after meeting her on Tinder in Pattaya 🙏
I know all about them I ignore them to be honest with you...
I have no interest in exploiting someone to further my UA-cam channel.
It is what it is
Cheers Mate 🍺
It's like going to Vegas...you will never not be able to spend a few dollars....you have to budget....set your limit and then turn off the tap....most are driven by need not love
Great advice
Cheers mate
All relationships are transactions......where ever you go.
Sorry Ron I have to disagree on that if you're talking about a normal relationship between a man and a woman in North America or Europe because nobody that I know is in some b******* transactional relationship back home nobody Yes there are suckers that try to hold on to gold diggers and allow themselves to be walked all over but for the most part everyone that I know that's in a relationship is any stable normal 50/50 relationship
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
People start relationships based on expectations, hence: "What can you do for me instead of what can I do for you".
They all have certain conditions too, job, money, outlooks etc.,
If the conditions are met the deal is done.
Thank you, Mark, useful video. Thanks.
Thanks for your compliment.
Truly appreciate that
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Ya I had to learn this lesson the hard way, but luckily it didn't cost me much money. I did do her a favor that was not much money but she had been doing all kinds of things for me at the time in return, and I don't mean just the sex. I am not someone who can't get women, but I am 46 and a little overweight. So I was probably too confident with this 25 year old beautiful Thai girl who seemed like a regular girl with a job thinking she actually liked me for me. I fell quick and hard, but luckily I'm not stupid and noticed how her behavior changed after she thought she had me. That's when I noticed text messages on phone, she stopped responding as quick as she did at first, and other signs. It hurt my ego mostly I think, but I did really like this girl. Even after I broke it off with her because of the lies she came back and tired saying she was pregnant. These girls are good at what they do. I believe she has several men who live overseas sending her money to be her boyfriend, while she continues to do what she does here while you are gone. If anyone comes across a girl named Beauty on tinder, fuck her and that's it. She will suck your soul dry if you let her. lol
Yes Dan
That's exactly how they operate..
The manipulate you into believing that they care about you and then once they have you hooked as you say everything changes and it just starts to become their turning the taps on trying to drain everything they can from you..
Then when you have the courage and the capacity the saying no then they come at you and try to con you scam you with fake pregnancies or HIV and all of this stuff...
It's true
You my friend are one of the lucky ones
Very helpful information. Thank you for the eye opener. I'm sure you'll see the same scams in all third world countries. Whether you're in Morocco, Thailand, Indonesia, Philippines etc The majority will try and scam money out of you for pleasure.
Oh yes I have no question that these scams are being run all over the world...
Cheers Mate
Thanks for watching and commenting
Isn't marriage transactional!
No not like this
I'm sorry if I offend you with this response but I'm going to give you my honest take on this...
I do not feel that marriage as we know it back in North America is transactional Yes there are some guys that are stupid and they're walking around with a trophy wife or they've got some gold digging b****...
But for the most part there are hundreds of thousands of marriages that are honest 50/50 relationships My brothers are both in fantastic marriages all the people that I know back in Canada are in honest marriages where it is 50/50...
It might not be 50/50 financially because one person makes more than the other but it's a 50-50 balance of sharing caring trust and effort.
What I'm talking about transactional relationships is you come to Thailand as a man you find some young piece of meat and you negotiate a fee for her to be your girlfriend you pay her a certain amount of money each month to f*** you suck you and hopefully not f****** suck other guys...
You then on top of that pay for every single meal that she has with you because you don't want her going out by herself for dinner because she will be doing short time sex with other men.
You will also end up taking her shopping etc etc.
Also that she will have sex with you and you only.
The only reason this girl is with you is because you are paying her to be with you.
Yes again I realized that there are some relationships in North America where guys are desperately trying to hold on to a woman but it's not every single one
Where is here every single relationship is transactional
My CONDOLENCES Mark. Good Video 📹 👍.
Stay Safe ❤️ 💙 🙏 🙏
Thanks Ricky
Take care
Cheers Mate 🍺
A tragic thing indeed but I find it very hard to muster empathy beyond sympathy with people who would buy things like houses in someone else's name or think they are Captain Save-A-Ho..Not in 2023, there simply is no excuse for being that ignorant or that level of naivité. These guys were able to function in society and make enough money to go to Thailand, you would expect they are not straight up mentally impaired. The Valentine's Day story made me laugh hard. You know you are down the rabbit hole if you even think about Valentine's Day with a working girl LOL the very idea is absurde. I do think, to be serious and to add to understanding the phenomenon, that for most men, sex without feelings is not the same or even what we are looking for. These men in these traps want to have the feeling-aspect on top of the sex. In cases of low self-esteem, the men want to feel special enough to be desired or, dare I say it, loved. A sad thing indeed, but they are eating poison for medicine and have been told plenty. Btw, love the chan, you are doing the good Lord's work, my man :D
Agreed. 100%. Educate yourself. They're great actors because it pays more.
Hey Will I agree with many of your points in this comment I took a few days to reply to it and I do apologize for that but I wanted to really think about it before I hit send...
Sadly enough a lot of guys come here and they do get convinced to build houses buy houses stuff like this in a girl's name because they get manipulated they're lied to It's a sad story man but it really happens...
I do know that there are some guys that come here with the Savior complex and they wind up getting decimated...
But to say that these guys functioned in normal society made money any monkey can make money to be honest with you...
The majority of men that are coming here are broken they are they have issues that you cannot possibly imagine that have self-esteem issues they have mental health issues they have a diction issues and the majority of them believe it or not have codependency issues...
A lot of people talk about the fact that all men think about is what their small little heads That's sometimes the case but not always especially here a lot of these guys think with their hearts
And the problem is the girls know that and they play into it and they are absolute master manipulators..
I'm trying very hard to show people the reality of living here because there's too many guys that are running around with cameras filming pretty girls and laughing and joking with the bar girls and not showing the true reality of what happens here...
I honestly appreciate your comment and again I wanted to reply to it openly so again thank you very much.
Cheers Mate 🍺
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Thank you for your kind and thoughtful reply. It is to my shame, perhaps, that I allow myself to be cynical from the safety of my arm chair. I guess it can seem strange to us, here at home, to think that the guys who 'made the dream come true' and retired in paradise aren't actually savvy, smart or mature enough to handle it. I do have a natural sympathy for these poor souls and I am happy that they at least have people like you who cares to at least try to help men avoid the life-changing disasters. Thumbs up to you and cheers from Denmark!
Oh God - I love the opening advice!
Cheers mate
Have a blessed day
Cheers mate ..... Believe me it's great advice....
Great advice! Subscribed!! 🤝🏼
Hey mate thanks for subscribing,,,, well to the trainwreck that is my life....
Cheers mate 🍻
Thanks Mate...
The problem is that someone with low self-esteem doesn’t know they have low self-esteem. My older brother was severely overweight, had poor hygiene and low self-esteem. A Russian woman online, convinced him to fly over there and marry her, promising him that they would be intimate when she got back to the US but not before. He embezzled $50,000 From his ex-wife to pay for a lavish wedding, give her money, a $10,000 diamond ring and blew through the entire money in a month. He did not speak Russian, and she did not speak English. Before the immigration process was finished for her to come here he was caught regarding the embezzlement and was facing civil and possibly criminal charges. His stress level went through the roof, and he died of a heart attack at the age of 58.
I'm so sorry for your loss,,,,.
I know stories just like this one,,,
It is so sad when you see what happens to men who have low self-esteem or other mental health issues...
It is so sad
Again I am truly sorry for your loss,,,,
I have watched too many guys here fall apart.....
This video has some good advice. Thanks for informing the greenhorns.
Hey mate thanks for taking time to watch and comment
Cheers 🍺🍺🍺🍺
Sure.😃@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
Great video brother. Hopefully men will listen
They won't
I talked to Mike until I was blue in the face......
They won't listen
No sympathy for farangs who get involved with bar girls, freelancers, etc. My Thai gf is college educated, has a decent job, her own house and car. If you want a girl from Issan good luck to you. You're going to need it.
I'll be honest with your brother it's getting harder and harder and harder to have sympathy for a lot of these guys because most of them are doing it to themselves it's true....
Congratulations on finding your ideal partner here in Thailand hats off to you mate....
Cheers 🍻
c'mon Mark you gotta get on the ball and start put out a couple stories every week. I'm having to rewatched videos just to feed my addiction to the channel and they're still just as entertaining as the first watch. As least it's an addiction that's not costing me anything, I just listen to the vids in the background while I work.
If you really want some of these stories I will start doing them...
I'm going to be perfectly honest with you I find them a little depressing so it takes a little bit to do these stories....
I have lots of guys that are asking me to tell their stories...
So okay I will get back to giving you guys hopefully one of these stories a week how's that sound?
Thanks for your support
Cheers mate 🍻
Good video Mark. 👍👍 Thanks for sharing this subject.
Thanks for watching and commenting
Take care
Nice speech. Sounds Canadian 🇨🇦. Been to Toronto before and I had a good time but it has gone down in recent years.
Extremely EH!!!!!!
Lol
Cheers mate 🍻
Perhaps the first channel saying complete truth I've seen on this subject. Well done mate
Hey John thank you for the compliment I truly appreciate that.
It's hard because right now you're right there's nobody talking about the honest realities of living here and what it's doing to a lot of guys.
You've got a bunch of young UA-camrs running around acting like frat boys showing the girls and making jokes about everything and essentially exploiting the girls for clicks!!
I'm more interested in helping guys come here and enjoy their life
Thank you Dr. Mark for giving so much value to many men.
Welcome brother I'm just trying to help educate boys so that they don't get hammered..
Cheers Mate
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean you are spending countless hours into making those videos and to add all for free. Many others UA-camrs would maybe charge their followers for such advice.
Keep up with the good work Dr. Mark
Yes a lot of people have suggested I start a patreon page and all of this stuff and accept money from the subscribers and I just can't get on board with that
Tnx for sharing this , i met a girl in Thailand , i must say she works in a factory and never asked for money , i know her for almost 4 years now , but i know there are girls out there only for money
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If you are lucky enough to meet a girl that works in a factory or a hotel don't let her go you're so fortunate and so lucky..
Cheers mate 🍺
I have been here 15 years, great honest video... can honestly say been there done that. Sorry about your friend..
Thanks John, yeah it was an unnecessary loss that's for sure .
Thanks for watching and commenting
Good Job Doc!!! I'm kinda in the middle of the whole syndrome. Mine is a little different story... but whi knows - maybe not. Perhaps I'll buy you a beer or two when I'm back in Patong for a few days in March...
Sounds awesome bro
Cheers Mate 🍺
Sorry to hear about your friend and thanks sharing this, you are bang on.
Thanks Mate
Take care
Great video, firstly I am very sorry to hear what happened to your friend, the motto I live by is never chase, just replace..
sadly enough she had her hooks into him so bad and he just couldn't get away from her and she knew it so she did everything she could to take advantage of him and bleed everything out of him until there was nothing left