Dr. Mark, You are spot on, these guy going over there and reporting back to their US buddies saying, "I am not paying" are the biggest liers on UA-cam. Oh they're paying in one way or the other. You are spot on. I am retired Military over 20 years, have traveled the world for 20 years, ohhhhhhhhhhh they are paying you can believe it. In Thailand and many other countries, nothing is free, especially if you are expecting that intimacy etc. Listen to this guy....he knows what's he talking about. I travel for P4P and get the hell on to the next country. Not looking for a wife or girlfriend. Just living my best life....
Cheers mate Look again in one way or another guys are giving some type of support.... I honestly don't see anything wrong with it.... Unless .... Unless it's one of these crazy situations where she's 20 and he's 60+ amd she's milking him for everything and he's just too dumb for his own good I see that a lot Sadly I do
If you’re breaching 60 and this amazing girl is willing to jump into bed with you, move in with you, sleep with you on the first night… why would you think this same woman has the self control or self worth to not do that with the first guy she meets that has the same income level or more that’s 20 years younger than you!? If you paid her for her time, at any time, it is a 100% financial relationship. No excuse or “this time was different.” If you’re out of shape, old enough to be her dad (or grandfather) bald, have nothing to offer besides going to the bar, no hobbies, what makes you think this girl in Thailand will like you any more than a girl back at your home? Only difference is it’s socially acceptable to trade time for money. This is one of the best videos you’ve had man. I dig the longer format videos. I know they aren’t easy with a lot of the topics, but well done dude.
First off let me say thank you very much for the incredible compliment this video was a little hard to put together but it is absolutely necessary.... I hope you don't mind but I did pin your comment... And everything you're saying is true 💯 Thank you for your support Cheers mate 🍻 Have a blessed day
Exactly. If these girls had the same income as the guys, they wouldn't be hanging around with men twice (or more) their age. It's just a business for them. Purely transactional. There should be a compulsory dating seminar for guys to attend before they head over to SE Asia lol. 😏
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabeanhappy to add some of my personal knowledge. If it wakes even one man up from the fantasy he’s in, it’s a win. I’ve said this before, your videos taught me so much and likely saved my a$$ some heartbreak and ache. Keep it up Mr Mark
This guy spoke all facts we need more men speaking out how these women get around its not all peaches and cream in these other countries she not yours just your turn 🔥
I agree....travel and enjoy the culture. Correct: she's not you gf....IT'S JUST YOURTURN, smash and move on....everything is for sale in Thailand....been there done that.
After a horrific marriage to an American woman, I decided to go abroad to find a woman with totally different cultural values. AI met my Thai wife on Match dating site. She's well educated in Thailand's Kings Classes and college. In Thailand she had a professional job as a manager of accounting for a large international company, her own office with staff, and her English was quite good when I met her. 23 years later, we have children together, and she makes much more money than I do here in America. Unfortunately for her and I, I've run into some health problems that have left me unable to work, and all of our bills have fallen onto her. Here in the USA she has plenty of Thai friends and a huge beautiful Thai temple just up the street (Wat Nawamintararachutis) that she visits regularly. 20+ years together now, what a wonderful woman she is. She's my Wonder Woman; I don't deserve her.
Having a relationship with a practicing Buddhist Thai lady means their ethical conduct is likely to be far higher than any other people you would ever meet. They would keep the 5 Precepts for their own sake(to avoid making Bad Karma that would hurt them) and everybody around them benefits as a result and therefore u can trust them and feel safe with them. I have spent a lot of time around Thai monasteries mostly abroad but also in Thailand. They are the kindest and most generous people I have ever met. I have also lived in SE Asia for quite a while and the ethical conduct is, on average, often appalling compared to Ireland where I am from. So you hit the jackpot and if others want to meet good people a good place is to find the serious Buddhist meditation monasteries. They are likely to have the best communities around and visiting them. The monks will teach them carefully to not harm, lie, steal, be unfaithful or take drugs & alcohol. People visiting might benefit and learn some useful things too❤️🙏
That's amazing and shows that it is possible as I said ,,,, But let's be honest you and wife are not who this video is for,,,,, It's sadly for the guys coming here and being duped,, Sadly it happens every minute here And guys still don't learn Congratulations on your incredible life ,,, I hope your health improves Thanks for sharing Have a blessed day
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabeanThe definition of a practicing Buddhist is someone who keeps 5 Precepts at all times and very rarely breaks them: 1. No killing, even mosquitos 2. No stealing 3. No sexual misconduct 4. No lying 5. No drugs or alchol And who looks to the Triple Gem for safety Buddha(possibility of enlightenment), Dhamma(reflections on reality), Sangha(monks/nuns who understands Dhamma). So while many people in Thailand are Buddhist you are left with a fraction who practice. That's a standard definition as opposed to Buddhist religious affiliation. I understand the video is for other women farang are likely to meet and think ur videos are great. I just want to point out there are a very significant minority of extraordinarily good people that can be met in Thailand too. Just depends where u hang out to meet them. Its hard to meet totally stable intelligent wholesome women in bars in Ireland too and any other country. Just an option for good guys out their to broaden their horizons i mean and see a good part of Thai culture to help them appreciate the core values of the society as opposed to the tourist traps❤️🙏
Wise strategy I'm serious Get it out of your system before we can thinking about a relationship here,,,, Thanks for watching and commenting Cheers mate 🍻
Wise advise. Love the whole presentation of a stock photo of Phuket and you presenting with sunglasses and cap on. Very retro UA-cam vibe, filled with actual, honest, raw wisdom and not as showy as the current trend of many YT videos are. Maybe I am old, but i find this endearing.
Hey Mate thanks for that I'm really happy that you enjoyed it enough I comment I enjoy these videos and they are not the type to be sitting out vlogging in public Lol Too many crazy looks Cheers 🍻
Here's the trouble with that brother it doesn't matter a lot of the times here in Thailand if you're just friends they still try to fleece you.... You cannot imagine how many girls I have talked to and stuff that will send me messages trying to scam me ME They sat there and told me the scams that they run on people and then when they get desperate for money they try to run those scams on me believe it or not
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Yeah. A seemingly sweet Thai lady I met in Kamala in 2013, nothing romantic or anything like that. She asked me to lend her 4000$ for her daughters tuition feed, and that she would pay me back during high season. After I declined her request, we had zero communication. I don't have 4000$, and if I did I still don't have them.
Well stated ! On point and great down to earth info. Really enjoyed watching this 3 x in a row. Gotta keep your head in the game , don’t get clouded in the bar games .. Thanks Mark . Stay well .
Yo yo Jimmy G Thanks for doing your part to help the algorithm Lol Cheers Mate Hopefully you'll watch the Mike and Mooksie series I am realizing Part I today Cheers mate 🍻
Great advice mate. I think if we go into it with the mindset that it’s like a virtual reality game, it’ll be fantastic. It’s not real. The girls all pretend, we pretend too. But we can have lots of fun also. Cheers 😁👍
Hey mate Thanks for watching and thank you for understanding the point of the video Sadly a lot of people are just not willing to look at and accept the truth of dating in Thailand for MOST guys,,,, Cheers 🍻
Mark, I will lay out what worked well for me as a senior US government official looking for a Thai partner from the United States. I learned conversational Thai.I used Thai Cupid and Thai Friendly to find women I was interested in talking to. I insisted that they download Skype so that we could talk an hour each day. After a month, I visited Thailand to spend two weeks with them. In the first instance I was dating a Thai nursing student, but with my eventual wife who worked for DTAC, I asked her to take two weeks off from work and I reimbursed her for her lost wages . After three iterations of this I brought my eventual wife over on a fiancé visa. With the first girlfriend I was less sure so I tried to bring her over on a student visa for an English language school and the US Embassy would not grant it, which really doomed the relationship because of resentment and loss of face in being denied a visa. If you can find a Thai girl who is willing to invest a lot of time up front in building a relationship where there is no immediate benefit or gratification to either party, it really helps both separate the wheat from the chafe.
See this is the ideal way to go about this Thanks for sharing My fear is that maybe 1 in 10,000 will even put 1/10th the effort,,,,, Have a blessed day
Six years into marriage, I can truly say my Thai wife has never done anything I consider irresponsible. Her father is a hard working farmer who toiled to accumulate as much land in Ubon as he could while living a spartan existaence.
I liked your researching photo, showing your deep meditation and internalizing your thoughts before taping the most awesome video I've seen to date on any youtubers channel on Thailand pitfalls with the opposite sex. Just awesome mark!
very informative. in my corporate career in a headquarters office, different cultures did not naturally mix well. small teams were a combination of a few members frm each nationality, but that was intentional to meet corporate hiring practices. on lunch breaks, the integration disappeared. Filipinos sat in one area, separate from chinese, separate from india. blacks and whites had their own areas.
Yeah, that's a corporation is, an artificial environment similar to a prison.. it's not meant to encourage diversity, it's a kick down, stab in back , dog eat dog .
Hey Donald thanks for watching this one and taking the time to comment on it I truly appreciate all of your support... I'm not so much sure it's that cultures can't mix because I do know some wonderful couples who are mixed culture mixed race even mixed religions and it works out well but again taking their time to get into relationships they're being honest about the differences and they're not in transactional relationships with people half their age
Another great video; thanx. I would add that unconditional love is an illusion and every relationship anywhere around the world is transactional. Poor and unattractive man will wait a lifetime and not just in Thailand. Moreover love does not last forever and frequently turns to hate. So we just have to embrace this reality and have fun realizing that any relationship is like house ownership; it needs maintaining and if necessary a sale.
Hey Michael hopefully you'll catch my upcoming video about Transactional Relationships in Thailand Also yeah unconditional love is a myth Cheers mate 🍻
I couldn’t stop laughing when you said the woman on TF hasn’t been with a farang in 7 years…that’s exactly what the woman I got with said!!! 7 years!!! And her V-J was as big as a house 😅
It's absolutely hilarious like I said there is a freelancer Thai friendly manual that these girls share with each other and everything is exactly the same.....
And again if that's what you're looking for Thailand is fantastic for that but if you're looking for love and hope and fun someone who's going to love you it can be an absolute heart breaking soul crushing nightmare
Why hello there again Dr. Marc…… Your comments about communication and love were spot on…… I don’t understand how men can be with women who they cannot share ideas and feelings lips… it reminds me of this limerick that I am Sharing with you and your watchers…… “There was this strange guy who fell madly in love With his inflatable doll and his glove Though the conversations weren’t great She was a cheap date And on Valentines Day she would be his Deneuve “” Deneuve was Woman’s last name of a French actress who was known for playing roles where she was aloof, laconic, and mysterious……
It would definitely be my advice to someone who's getting out of a long-term relationship back home and coming here hoping to find companionship or a relationship.... Again a lot of guys come here and they've never experienced anything even remotely close to this and they fall for the first person and that person just takes advantage of them so bad and they end up hating Thailand when they should have taken advantage of everything that they can hear and got all of the craziness out of their system....
Being honest doesn’t mean you are an expert. It’s just your opinion gained from your experience and others’ that you have listened to. Like attracts like.
Never once said I was an expert,,,, I'm just telling people the TRUTH.. Sorry but this is from interviewing hundreds of men and women here,,, I'm not pulling it outta my a$$
Half my age + 10 seems to be working.. the sweet spot for me seems to be 35 to 45 year olds. Any younger is for (ST) entertainment purposes only 😁. Agree you will be expected to assist them financially in some way, but the most important skill is the ability to say .. no.
You guys must love communicating with women. When I met my wife. She barely spoke english and was quiet and fun to be with. 28 years later she speaks English well but all the time. I miss the quiet of the days she didn't speak English.
Lol Classic Again as I said that's a fantasy for some But at some point you're gonna need to talk Lol Cheers mate 🍻 One really good way to look at it is this I knew a guy 61 years old had a 22-year-old smoking hot girlfriend and she could not speak a word of English to save her life.... And every time he needed something he would go absolutely berserk trying to explain to her what he needed her to help him with.... Lol
Hey Mike and you know what that's fantastic if that's what you're looking for and that works for you ,,,, I know a couple of older guys that are living dream lives who do exactly that... But again this video is for the guy that is coming here hoping that they're going to find love not a girl to shag a girl to love and to love him.... That's the big difference
Well my friend I am just trying to be the voice of reason.... Lol Look it's crazy but I know a lot of guys that are in the Philippines that are experiencing it just as bad there as the guys are here in Thailand it's just insane.... Sadly when guys come they're looking at one type of girl and one type of girl only and it's just not working... Really appreciate you taking the time to not only watch but comment on my video Cheers mate 🍻
I live in Phuket (not Patong) for the easy island lifestyle and access to a beautiful and abundant cast of non-thai women here. Both the semi-long term stayers as well as the rotating cast of holiday-makers. Many of these ladies are stunners and very interesting to talk to and spend time with. They need 'hugs' before bed like everyone else, and it's good-really good. Maybe I have lived in Thailand for too long and don't find the Thai ladies as attractive as I once did.
LOL. Right on Mark. Do we have the same friends lol? Correct on all five. Sad but true. 1 Phone number in Canada but 99 in BKK, lol. Do we have to tell you to give your head a shake and be honest with yourself. Just like anywhere it takes time, and money is involved no matter the country when dating but being smart and sensible is what most don't do and leads to heartache and sometimes an empty bank account.
Hey Thomas thank you very much man I'm glad you enjoyed the video.... Hopefully it wasn't too long for you I know some people like the longer format some people not so much.... My thing is people are just not being honest with themselves when they're coming here I've been talking to a couple of friends over the last month or so and they're struggling so hard with things.... Because again they're just not being honest with themselves or the situations that they find themselves in here in Thailand Cheers mate 🍻 Truly appreciate your support
100% I agree with you completely but most guys that are coming here are of that age where it's harder to learn things such as a foreign language.... Not only that as someone who can speak both English and Mandarin,,,,, Thai is next to impossible to learn Lol But yes if you are serious about having a real relationship here you should learn Thai and I have mentioned that in many videos thanks for reminding everyone... Cheers 🍻
True honest love is next to impossible in Thailand - Without financial support there is no love - Language barrier - Lack of communication - Jumping relationships with Farangs for money - Building trust takes time - ATM - Overwhelming options - Dr. Sabean, are you saying that most of these young easily accessible, dynamic ladies are heartless?
I'm not saying that they're all heartless I'm not saying that at all what I'm saying is that guys that are coming here have to be cognizant of who they're getting into relationships with.... Listen there's definitely some girls here that will just destroy you financially emotionally you name it they will wreak havoc upon you like you cannot imagine But I also happen to know that there are some really wonderful women here who would love to be an honest caring relationships sadly enough most guys are passing them over for the 20-year-olds.... Lol Cheers mate 🍻 Thanks for watching and commenting
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean You are right. I agree with you. Your videos are to the point and much needed for the gullible guys. Keep it going. Thanks.
What I'm going to do is this, Mike has given me permission to tell his whole story so I'm going to do a series about it they will be coming hopefully once a week.... It's nuts It will blow your mind
Actually mate no I'm not having a hard time at all to be honest with you my life is simple easy and carefree...lol I definitely think if you scroll down through the comments you're going to see that 90% of the people are going to agree with me on this sorry,,,, The men that are coming here are not looking at things the way they should be that's just the truth
Money is ALWAYS a factor. They date foreign men to improve their standard of living in general. Also, ladies over 35 years old have less options.. But the foreign man of any age (with some $$ ) has limitless mind boggling options, compared to USA UK AUSSIE CANADA etc 100% Cheers 🇨🇦
💯 agree But guys need to KNOW this before coming here would you not agree??????????? That's the trouble they come here thinking these sgiels love them Honestly??????? Then they lose everything including their lives in some cases..... That's the truth The brutal truth
Male sexual market value seems to be similar around the world. Status and resources is massively important to females. I'll be in Thailand for a couple of years soon, love your work. Jumping from a solid 5 to an 7 or 8 is going to give alotta dudes imposter syndrome. I'm thinking the golden rule is if you're a bald/balding dude, think back to your cheek slaying 20's self, and resume from there.
You know it's actually funny that you say that because I will tell you this much I probably have far more confidence charisma and game now that I'm in my 50s and balding than I did back on my twenties when I was pretty damn handsome with amazing hair.... True story
I blame the bloggers who are maintaining the lie that these girls don’t care about your looks, age don’t matter and they don’t care about money, key words they want a responsible man, they want someone to support their kids
Hey Timothy..... I agree with you 💯 The actual honest real local girls who are not in the industry but are hoping to find a partner yes they are looking for someone who they are attracted to someone who's going to treat them nice treat them kind etc etc.... But if guys are coming here just looking for a hookup if they're looking for a vacation girlfriend whatever you want to call it the girls don't care what they look like all they care about is how much money they have in the bank brother..... Cheers mate 🍻
I do believe in love- but I have made bad decision because of that. So I'm trying stay away from falling in love. However, Thai women would change my mind LOL @@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
That's so funny because I've said a lot of the times that even the way the girls act here how aggressive they are they could be arrested back in Canada and North America for stocking sexual assault it's crazy....
The biggest risk is hanging out in the girl bars where you are pressured to buy "lady drinks". You can drop serious money as they are trained to extract every dime out of you.
It's true, you really have to be ice cold with those bar girls, I am for sure the most hated person in Kata "Spiderman soi" 2 times I allowed them to "catch me" and drag me to the bar, immediately place a girl next to me, I order "Cola Zero" and pay when I get the drink, no matter how much they say "no no pay later" ... I check in and out of the conversation with the girl they put next to me, if you want to stress them, answer short to every question, "what is your name?" Jack , "first time in Thailand?" yes , "you like thailand?" yes ... the owner of the bar (often a girl here in kata) will tell the girl to me more aggressive in the conversation (she will speak thai to the girl), by that I start replying random chats in my phone and not even looking at the girl next to me.... and she gets super stressed now, she is under a lot of pressure, also that I go early, so I am the only customer there. so we start again with small talk... again.. reply short to every question (just give her bullshit... never use your real name, tell the real place you stay)... she will also notice that I am soon to finish my cola zero and she still not had a chance to ask for a drink, if she ask, I say no in a polite but firm tone in my voice. once I finish my drink I say thanks and kindly leave. I exercise my right to sit in a bar and enjoy my drink (even though it's only a soft drink), I refuse to give in for the bar games or pressure.
If its too good to be true , it probably isnt true. Some guys need to be aware that smart sales girls are in thailand, and compliments are their number 1 selling tool.
Yes could be ! That's why I'm always careful to say I'm not talking about everyone I'm not stereotyping everyone I'm just saying for the most part........ And I think if you watch my upcoming series about Mike and his girlfriend you might agree with me......
Of course you can find love in Thailand. Probably not with a bargirl or freelancer, but there are a lot of other, normal girls in Thailand. I found real love with my husband, he was more than 20 years older than me, a Norwegian. We had a happy marriage for almost two decades, and we found common ground in interests and conversations. Money was not an issue, he was not rich, but we both contributed in our marriage. So yes, it is definitely possible, don`t think otherwise. But love is tricky, finding a good man, with the right intentions coming to Thailand, is also very difficult. Think about that for a second. This goes both ways.
@@Rodderz1 Absolutely! And I will explain to you why. Many Thai men are not taking responsibility for their families. The wives are often left alone most of the time, taking care of the kids, while their Thai husbands are out drinking with friends, or not even in their life. Their family values are different from family values among foreigners. Not all, but most, that is my experience. I would not even consider marrying a Thai man, after learning how Europeans think and live. Western way of thinking attracts me. Their way of seeing the world is very different, and for me really a lot more appealing. I had my own job and money btw, so I never was looking for a money source, or what you call a sponsor. Many Thais actually don't. Their goal is to find love and a good father for their children, and a safe and stable future. Money can help providing that, I'm not saying different, but the importance of money should not be over valued.
@@sarlina1good to see your viewpoint. A lot of course is what you (the farang) projects and what he wants to manifest. Just spent 60 days Thailand. 4 weeks north east, then bangkok, then wonnapha beach. I wanted to get a sense of the pulse of Thailand. I suppose if you choose to walk phuket to the point of girls offering you free service then you have exposed your intent. My conclusion with now only 150 days total, i found the dharma is the pulse. I furthered my appreciation and exposure to thai that follow the Dharma and I am sad to say I think many farang only use Thailand as a commodity. Then again, I have been a Buddhist for over 30 years so I treat thai this way. I was not in the tourist areas so cannot speak to that. I am not worried about it, however believe I will find a thai lady. There is way too much analysis on this subject. Follow your heart, follow the dharma, she will appear. You sound very good hearted. Prayers and wishes you find what you are looking for ❤🙏
Hi Sarlina yes but again this video is not focused on people like you and your husband,,,,. It's about men coming here who are not looking for girls like you,,,,. Or they're not finding them for these exact reasons,,,,,,
@@Rodderz1 I was born in Indonesia, but am a Thai national and citizen 😊 But I do speak Mandarin too though, so you were close 😀 You might find those ladies with similar values, but it takes some effort. You most likely won't find them at the most common places foreigners visit, bars and such 👍🙏
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean True, but it is a common mistake to think that we don't exist. We certainly do. And the comment sections on youtube on this matter are flooding over with comments like it's impossible, we are all the same, and so on. You know the drill 😊
Looking forward to the M&M series… What I’m hearing you discuss here is something I see that is simply natural everywhere and that is the hypergamous nature of females. Sure there are outliers, females that don’t need nor desire a male but the simple truth globally is that females are far more security and resource minded because that’s their biological programming. So yes, women (biological females) have a biological bias that makes stronger, smarter, richer men (biological males) naturally attractive to them. Think about it, are men attracted to stronger, smarter, richer women who are physically 1’s, 2’s, 3’s, etc ? I dare say not, as men are attracted to qualities related to successful reproduction and will readily accept lower status women into our lives but women are attracted to qualities related to successful offspring and are typically far more concerned with improving their social status. Once I understood this basic truth, my life fundamentally changed for the better in my relationships with women. Men are the protectors and providers and biologically programmed to spread their seed. I’m not saying this is true in all cases because it most definitely is not and there is plenty of variation in this biological programming in both sexes. In some societies that biological programming is more pronounced but the fundamental nature is always there and people that don’t understand that are typically headed for relationship related problems. Marriage is an arrangement best understood as a business transaction in my humble opinion. It’s exceptionally naive to think a woman will stay with you and you not provide financial security for her and that is true everywhere but I do get your point about unrealistic expectations of many expats. I’ve observed the very same thing in the Philippines and other places abroad that makes these men, easy targets. It sounds as if female hypergamy is far more pronounced in Thailand and you are dispensing some great advice. I plan to be in Thailand by mid-April this year and I’m certainly looking forward to the visit. Take care and please keep making these videos, your content is great, you’re one of the few that I watch…
Another great video Doctor .I totally agree with you when you say that the majority of bar girls , messages girls dancers English is very fluent.i come to pukhet 4 to 5 times a year and i personally know the owner of some agogo in soi Bangla ,every time I come and speak to girls their English is very fluent, they use the grammar property with a lot of vocabulary .Once I was leaving pukhet and i was flying from pukhet to Doha and one girl knew the time the plane takes off because she took that plane many times before when she was called by old men to go to their countries. I am 25 and I can see that whenever you come to a bar or agogo the girls have a scoring system on you , if you are white skin just arrived from the airport with a wallet in your hands they will tell you you are the most handsome man they met and you will be ending spending a lot in lady drinks if you are younger and in good shape they can choose you to do short time or long time . I noticed that the younger you are the less money they will ask you after the date ,I am 25 and if course my budget is not as as one who worked many years and therefore they already know they can not expect much. Thanks for the video Doctor can not wait to see the next one, greetings from Shanghai 🎉🎉
If you go to Phuket that often why are you not able to spell it correctly? Just curious… someone that’s been there once would know the spelling even if they aren’t a fluent Thai or English speaker as it is on every ticket, every map, every tourist shop, everywhere
I agree with you completely You are totally correct Where in Shanghai are you? I was just there yesterday..... Don't worry about your spelling this isn't grammar school it's UA-cam and I appreciate your support and effort Cheers mate 🥂
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean thanks so much Doctor I am located near jing an area near jing an temple, I am so happy the weather is getting better ad last weekend in the nearby of Shanghai city it even snowed
Sad part, and the real part of this is that most dudes think that they go up 5 points out of 10 the moment that blast of hot, wet air hits them when they walk off the plane at BKK.
For me it's more the age thing than it is the so-called value because you can find some incredibly beautiful women here in their 40s I personally think that one of the most attractive women I have ever met in my entire life is a lady that lives in southern Phuket and she is now 54 years old and I think she is absolutely perfect..... And she's older than I am.... Cheers mate 🍻
LEAVE YOUR HEART AT THE AIRPORT !!! SUCCESSFUL THAI MEN GET THE BEST THAI WOMEN THE FOREIGN MEN GET THE THAI WOMEN THEY DONT WANT ! THEY BEEN MARRIED BEFORE, HAVE KIDS OR TO OLD OR TO DARK SKIN FOR THEM!! UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE A FARANG WALKING ATM FORGET LOVE
Sadly this is how a lot of guys feel here because again they're not being honest about what is going on Thanks for watching and commenting Cheers mate 🍻
Yes I've heard this many times However I've also talked to a bunch of subscribers you tell me point blank that although the girls can speak English they really don't understand as much as you would think or hope that they do..... That could be wrong but that's what I'm being told Cheers mate 🍻 Thanks for watching and commenting
Its their second language which they don't use among themselves+its their mentality, simple minded Filipinos are not sharpest tools..and lets say you won't be attracting upper class and intellectual types. But still miles ahead of Thais when it comes to comms
You have to pay for it! It’s different than having someone throw themself at you. And let’s be clear. Even prostitutes don’t go with just anyone, they are also selective. Just try getting a date in Pattaya. It isn’t happening
Hi Mark! Great video mate. Why on earth people look for love in a brothel I will never understand. Accept for FFS, you're mixing with bar girls, freelancers etc. Call them what you will, its a eupphormism for a prostitute. Accept that, be polite and treat them with respect, and enjoy! At my age, I'm happy getting twice a week and paying 1000 thb a go. £ 40 with no additional costs, not even a motorcycle taxi home. I don't even want to wake up with them. B...s drained, close the door on the way out please. I personally don't want all that relationship shit.😊
Amd that works for you Bro Sadly it doesn't for a lot of guys here For whatever reason they can't be alone for 5 minutes These are the guys this video was for Cheers mate 🍻
lets be honest love is none of your business. because every single woman on this planet is a potential lover. it doesnt matter the amount of money you've got, it doesnt matter the muscles you got, it doesnt matter the the skin color, it doesnt matter your beautiful face, it doesnt matter your nice looking clothes, it doesnt matter your expensive car, not even your mansion. none of it. you are looking for the women that crave money, there is no love in money, its called greed, turns people to monsters, get off the city, and find a simple woman, one that doesnt ask you $200 usd a day to throw on her makeup, spa and finest foods.
Sadly bud this is the reality of men coming here to Thailand,,,, I'm just telling you the truth,,, Deny it all you wish but this is the reality for aoy of men coming here... Sorry but it's true Thanks for watching and commenting Cheers 🍻
I agree to disagree. I use to date a Vietnamese Lady back in Seattle Wa.and she Barley spoke English.I dated her for 3 years.I was prepair when I travel to Thailand somewhat.and yes it was no different.I date too nice Thai ladies that are not Bar Girls.and no money involved. But I take them with me to Hua hin of course.
Could very well be,,,,, but at least with a real girlfriend there is the possibility she's gonna care about you,,,, Hopefully you'll catch my upcoming video about Transactional Relationships in Thailand.... Eye-opening Cheers mate 🍻 Thanks for watching and commenting
Or put a little effort I to learning some Thai Lol There's definitely different subtleties to the Philippines and Thailand that make the dating scenes different but I think most guys would prefer Thailand over the Philippines just my own personal thoughts on that..... Thank you for watching and commenting Cheers mate 🍻
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabeanNot worth it to me because: 1. I'm more attracted to Filipinas 2. They already speak and understand English fluently 3. There's a VA hospital in Metro Manila where I can get free health care for life due to me being retired Army
I'm for a new girlfriend every month.... and honestly doesn't sound any different than the USA.... just a lot easier to find that new monthly girlfriend every month.... pay them off and off to the next one...
Yeah if that's what you're looking for then Thailand would be ideal But a lot of guys are not looking for that A lot of them come in hopes of finding an actual relationship But they don't know how the game works here And they end up in a lot of trouble Thanks for watching and commenting Cheers mate 🍻
I give support 4000 baht now it was 3000 she pays utilities out of that we have air conditioning food 70% me her 30% we go out eat restaurant she only 100 baht pork chop I'll have steak t bone 250 baht she works she buy me things I speak Thai Lao isan 😅😅😅korat
That's fantastic Paul perhaps maybe sometime you would allow me to do an interview with you when you were girlfriend so that we can actually share a winning story for a change instead of dread......
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean yes when I'm down that way will be happy too just your in the wrong place Phuket how far your wallet different types of women you understand I think
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean had my Dar share of horror story as well I with one lady I got her pregnant so I put air conditioning tiles fix up house a bit then 6 months in the pregnancy she kill baby in her stomach just for house to be fix up true story I have few
I'm in Phuket now and it's sad as fc compared to 4 years ago,bars are mostly gone as the girls all old fat ugly left in Phuket anything else has become stuck up and they don't put in any effort anymore, maybe going to issan area is a option i don't know
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean I’m not on dating apps and I’m not looking for any one Maybe I’m that dumb that I don’t notice but actually no I don’t notice anything 😂🤷🏿♀️
I disagree completely. My marriage was great as my wife was very quiet and barely spoke English. Now she knows engliash and won't shut her mouth. I het no peace whatsoever.
Well like I said it is a fantasy situation for some.... Lol So here's how I look at it If you need her to help you with something and you can't explain to the point that she understands,,, how frustrating is that When you need to talk about something but again she can't understand and you can't express yourself..... The frustration level is crazy
Question: if you aren't there to go to bars, if you aren't there to go there for bar girls, and if you can't find love WHY are you in Thailand? And why is every youtuber white as snow and I'm the only one who will admit to a life of women, wine and song?
Well again I absolutely love Thailand I love the temples I love the freedom that it gives me all of the fact that it is an unbelievably affordable country... I'm really big into motorbikes so driving through the country for me is fantastic.... I'm white because I'm white what can I tell you.... I've also been away from Thailand for about 2 months and just getting back tomorrow so I will be ready for a while and then Brown again.... Lol Cheers mate 🍻 Thailand doesn't have to be all about bars and bar girls.... But believe me my life has definitely been wine women and song all three of them have destroyed me at one point in my life
I'm not so much sure that they have an obsession with relationships as there are a lot of men who have dependency issues and they just can't be alone with themselves for more than 5 minutes I am working on a video about this but believe me it's not just a simple and easy as coming and boom boom boom for a lot of guys.... If it was Thailand would not be like it is today I can promise you that much
Hey Glen I've covered this at least 100 times in previous videos Not a DR. it comes from a paradu video I did years ago on Facebook and it went viral People starting asking for more videos from The Dr and it just stuck,,,, Thanks for watching and commenting Cheers mate 🍻
We are all traders, Thailand is no different than the west, look what an unattractive multi millionaire can date in the US compared to Joe Six Pack. Within the bounds of that trading relationship, money for youth and beauty, I think you can can find compatibility, happiness, and love here and a more traditional kind of woman who does not have the hang ups of the woke western world.
That's interesting, your take on this. Yes I will.agree men with money have saying easier,,, But here unless you've been here and experienced it for yourself you would not quite grasp the differences Thanks for watching and commenting Cheers mate 🍻
Hello Mark, i have subscribed and i like your videos. Im hoping to get your input on my situation. 2 months ago i swipt right on a 51 year old thai woman on tinder. I am in the usa, im 61, she is in pathum thani. We have been messaging and video calls on fb messenger. We havnt missed a day, at least one video call every day and many messages daily. She is a kindergarten teacher at a private school. At this point it seems like she is legit. Of course she is very sweet and fun to talk to. She started calling me panda a few weeks ago, and then she sends me a video of her students saying "hi panda" . It was pretty touching for me that she did that. As i said, she seems legit, shortly after she sent me the hi panda video, she called me on a video call while at school, i see the students, i see her in the same outfit that she had on in the video. Since then, i have received many video calls and vidoes of school activities from her both at school and from home. She really does seem to be on the level, the only red flag i see is that it seems too good to be true and she is there and im here. Maybe im a blind fool, but id like to think im not, lol. She seems to go out of her way to show me that she is real, and she cares about me. The language barrier sucks, the translator app sucks too. Always mixing up words and mis translations. She is learning english and is getting better. She seems to be putting in a lot of effort. She wants me to come to Thailand to meet her. I asked her if she will pick me up at the airport, she said yes. I asked her if i would stay with her while im there or if i need a hotel, she said i need a hotel because it is customary that i dont come in her home until i have gained the confidence of her elder brother and sister. She says she will find me a hotel close to her so we can hang out every day before and after school, she says she will take care of me every day. She is a practicing Buddhist, she sent me pictures and a video of her visit to the temple last sunday. She owns a car and claims to own a small plot of land in phitsanulok. We get on video calls and she drives around showing me the sites, some of our video calls are up to 2 hours long. She does talk about marrage and our possable future together if after meeting in person we still like eachother. She is taking and paying for a english refresher course, she said she was taught english as a child but forgot most of it. I offered to pay for it but she says she cant eccept it. We talk about me living with her in Thailand and the possibility of her moving here with me. She has 2 children and a grandchild. I could go on and on for hours about all the seemingly positive excpieriances. I hate to admit it, but i am falling for her, the hi panda video from her and her students is what really made that happen. She stays up too late every night talking to me, and i do the same on my end. She acts and seems like a good girl, if i talk about kissing her, she gets shy and reminds me of her shyness often. I have offered to by her plane ticket and cover her excpences to come her and meet me, she wont e except money from me, at least at this point, lol. She doesnt seem to be in a hurry to leave her job and life in Thailand but she is open to talking about it. She says her goal is to find love and get married. Maybe i move there, maybe she moves here, she seems sincere but....how do you know? The only time she talks about money is when we talk about marrage and her moving here with me, she told me that if she leaves her career as a teacher to come here, that i would be responsible for her until she finds a job here, seems like thats what she really wants, but how do you know? So,, yesterday i saw one of your videos from one year ago about how much it costs to have a thai girlfriend. First time i saw any of your videos and ill admit, it was a little depressing to watch, but very interesting. So after watching that video of yours, i decided to ask her what would be required of me for her to be my girlfriend? How much salary? Oh man, she was mad and hurt, or at least thats the claim. She said she is not a professional hunter and this is why she doesnt like forieners , all they want is sex and she hates bar girls and prostitutes, and many other things. It took a few hours to smooth things out and settle her down. I excplained to her that i am just trying to learn about thai culture and so on. After watching a few of your videos i am back where i was during the first 2 weeks of talking to her, waiting to figure out if she is a scammer or whatever. Now im all paranoid and wondering if i should block her or keep going. I dont want to sound like a fool, but from what i can see she seems legit. Mark, i wish i could talk to you. If she is half as nice in real life as she seems, she could be the best thing to ever happen to me. I have told her im not a rich man, she says that is ok, she has talked to rich men, all they want is to talk dirty and buy dirty pictures. She says they are not nice like i am. I live in a modest nothing special home in the country, she says she would be perfectly happy living in this small house. Soory for the length of this post. If ot is possible, id love your input, better yet talk to you. Thanks for your time Mark, have a great day
MEN FALLING “ IN LOVE “ it’s a joke …..WE KNOW WHAT “ LOVE MEANS TO ANY “ MAN” ……I HAVE TO SAY THIS TO ALL MEN IN THIS CHAT ….LOVE DOES NOT EQUAL SEX 👽🫵🏻….SPEAKING MANY LANGUAGES IS NOT BECAUSE THE WOMAN WAS WITH MANY FOREIGNERS , IS BECAUSE SHE IS INTELLIGENT ….CAN “ men “ IMAGINE THIS ???👽🫵🏻
Insane to disagree with you,,,, not all men think this way Yes sadly enough a lot do and I am working on a video about this But it's not all men! Also I in no was diminishing the intelligence level of the girls ,,,,, I am talking about a specific girl in a specific industry,,,,, sorry but that's the "Norm" here how the girls in that industry learn English,,,, Sorry but that is accurate Again I agree with you to a degree,,,, just not totally Cheers Thanks for watching and commenting
Quite honestly if you watch some of my upcoming videos you're going to see exactly what is so difficult about saying NO for a lot of the guys that come here to Thailand looking for love.....
Dr. Mark,
You are spot on, these guy going over there and reporting back to their US buddies saying, "I am not paying" are the biggest liers on UA-cam. Oh they're paying in one way or the other. You are spot on. I am retired Military over 20 years, have traveled the world for 20 years, ohhhhhhhhhhh they are paying you can believe it. In Thailand and many other countries, nothing is free, especially if you are expecting that intimacy etc. Listen to this guy....he knows what's he talking about. I travel for P4P and get the hell on to the next country. Not looking for a wife or girlfriend. Just living my best life....
Cheers mate
Look again in one way or another guys are giving some type of support....
I honestly don't see anything wrong with it....
Unless ....
Unless it's one of these crazy situations where she's 20 and he's 60+ amd she's milking him for everything and he's just too dumb for his own good
I see that a lot
Sadly I do
If you’re breaching 60 and this amazing girl is willing to jump into bed with you, move in with you, sleep with you on the first night… why would you think this same woman has the self control or self worth to not do that with the first guy she meets that has the same income level or more that’s 20 years younger than you!?
If you paid her for her time, at any time, it is a 100% financial relationship. No excuse or “this time was different.”
If you’re out of shape, old enough to be her dad (or grandfather) bald, have nothing to offer besides going to the bar, no hobbies, what makes you think this girl in Thailand will like you any more than a girl back at your home? Only difference is it’s socially acceptable to trade time for money.
This is one of the best videos you’ve had man. I dig the longer format videos. I know they aren’t easy with a lot of the topics, but well done dude.
First off let me say thank you very much for the incredible compliment this video was a little hard to put together but it is absolutely necessary....
I hope you don't mind but I did pin your comment...
And everything you're saying is true 💯
Thank you for your support
Cheers mate 🍻
Have a blessed day
Exactly. If these girls had the same income as the guys, they wouldn't be hanging around with men twice (or more) their age. It's just a business for them. Purely transactional. There should be a compulsory dating seminar for guys to attend before they head over to SE Asia lol. 😏
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabeanhappy to add some of my personal knowledge. If it wakes even one man up from the fantasy he’s in, it’s a win. I’ve said this before, your videos taught me so much and likely saved my a$$ some heartbreak and ache. Keep it up Mr Mark
This guy spoke all facts we need more men speaking out how these women get around its not all peaches and cream in these other countries she not yours just your turn 🔥
Hey mate thanks for watching
Truly appreciate that
Have a blessed day
I agree....travel and enjoy the culture. Correct: she's not you gf....IT'S JUST YOURTURN, smash and move on....everything is for sale in Thailand....been there done that.
Every man watching needs to thank this Master Yoda. Don't hate the player, and do not hate the game. Enjoy it all. Live your life and love yourself.
Cheers mate 🍻
Thanks for the ultimate compliment!
Have a blessed day
Thanks for the insightful information it's good to know.
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
After a horrific marriage to an American woman, I decided to go abroad to find a woman with totally different cultural values. AI met my Thai wife on Match dating site. She's well educated in Thailand's Kings Classes and college. In Thailand she had a professional job as a manager of accounting for a large international company, her own office with staff, and her English was quite good when I met her. 23 years later, we have children together, and she makes much more money than I do here in America. Unfortunately for her and I, I've run into some health problems that have left me unable to work, and all of our bills have fallen onto her. Here in the USA she has plenty of Thai friends and a huge beautiful Thai temple just up the street (Wat Nawamintararachutis) that she visits regularly. 20+ years together now, what a wonderful woman she is. She's my Wonder Woman; I don't deserve her.
Having a relationship with a practicing Buddhist Thai lady means their ethical conduct is likely to be far higher than any other people you would ever meet. They would keep the 5 Precepts for their own sake(to avoid making Bad Karma that would hurt them) and everybody around them benefits as a result and therefore u can trust them and feel safe with them. I have spent a lot of time around Thai monasteries mostly abroad but also in Thailand. They are the kindest and most generous people I have ever met. I have also lived in SE Asia for quite a while and the ethical conduct is, on average, often appalling compared to Ireland where I am from. So you hit the jackpot and if others want to meet good people a good place is to find the serious Buddhist meditation monasteries. They are likely to have the best communities around and visiting them. The monks will teach them carefully to not harm, lie, steal, be unfaithful or take drugs & alcohol. People visiting might benefit and learn some useful things too❤️🙏
That's amazing and shows that it is possible as I said ,,,,
But let's be honest you and wife are not who this video is for,,,,,
It's sadly for the guys coming here and being duped,,
Sadly it happens every minute here
And guys still don't learn
Congratulations on your incredible life ,,, I hope your health improves
Thanks for sharing
Have a blessed day
The truth to that is I know toms of bargirls/ freelancers who are fully practising Buddhist,,,,,,
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabeanThe definition of a practicing Buddhist is someone who keeps 5 Precepts at all times and very rarely breaks them:
1. No killing, even mosquitos
2. No stealing
3. No sexual misconduct
4. No lying
5. No drugs or alchol
And who looks to the Triple Gem for safety Buddha(possibility of enlightenment), Dhamma(reflections on reality), Sangha(monks/nuns who understands Dhamma).
So while many people in Thailand are Buddhist you are left with a fraction who practice. That's a standard definition as opposed to Buddhist religious affiliation. I understand the video is for other women farang are likely to meet and think ur videos are great. I just want to point out there are a very significant minority of extraordinarily good people that can be met in Thailand too. Just depends where u hang out to meet them. Its hard to meet totally stable intelligent wholesome women in bars in Ireland too and any other country. Just an option for good guys out their to broaden their horizons i mean and see a good part of Thai culture to help them appreciate the core values of the society as opposed to the tourist traps❤️🙏
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean toms?
I am quite a recluse so my strategy is live regional and butterfly into the hot spots once in a while. Basically saving on airfares from my homeland.
Wise strategy
I'm serious
Get it out of your system before we can thinking about a relationship here,,,,
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
Wise advise.
Love the whole presentation of a stock photo of Phuket and you presenting with sunglasses and cap on. Very retro UA-cam vibe, filled with actual, honest, raw wisdom and not as showy as the current trend of many YT videos are. Maybe I am old, but i find this endearing.
Hey Mate thanks for that
I'm really happy that you enjoyed it enough I comment
I enjoy these videos and they are not the type to be sitting out vlogging in public
Lol
Too many crazy looks
Cheers 🍻
Sage advice Mark. Very nicely done.
Thank you kindly
Truly appreciate your taking the time to watch and comment
Cheers mate 🍻
Nice insight appreciated.
Hopefully you got something out of this video....
Cheers mate 🍻
I've said this a million times:
YOU BETTER OFF
BEING A FRIEND!!!
If not, you have a 90%+ chance of being fleeced!!
Here's the trouble with that brother it doesn't matter a lot of the times here in Thailand if you're just friends they still try to fleece you....
You cannot imagine how many girls I have talked to and stuff that will send me messages trying to scam me
ME
They sat there and told me the scams that they run on people and then when they get desperate for money they try to run those scams on me believe it or not
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean Yeah. A seemingly sweet Thai lady I met in Kamala in 2013, nothing romantic or anything like that. She asked me to lend her 4000$ for her daughters tuition feed, and that she would pay me back during high season. After I declined her request, we had zero communication. I don't have 4000$, and if I did I still don't have them.
Yup
All the time
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
They can pound sand until the water buffalo can fly.
Lol
Great Video. Reminded me of the classic song from Steel Panther, „Just like Tiger Woods“😂. Can‘t wait for the series. Cheers
Hey brother thank you very much for watching and commenting as always truly appreciate your support...
Cheers mate 🍻
Well stated !
On point and great down to earth info.
Really enjoyed watching this 3 x in a row.
Gotta keep your head in the game , don’t get clouded in the bar games ..
Thanks Mark .
Stay well .
Yo yo Jimmy G
Thanks for doing your part to help the algorithm
Lol
Cheers Mate
Hopefully you'll watch the Mike and Mooksie series
I am realizing Part I today
Cheers mate 🍻
Looking forward to the vid.
P.P = Pattaya Prkchop 😂
You a trend setter Doc !
Hey hey Jimmy G
Thanks bro
Great advice mate. I think if we go into it with the mindset that it’s like a virtual reality game, it’ll be fantastic. It’s not real. The girls all pretend, we pretend too. But we can have lots of fun also. Cheers 😁👍
Hey mate
Thanks for watching and thank you for understanding the point of the video
Sadly a lot of people are just not willing to look at and accept the truth of dating in Thailand for MOST guys,,,,
Cheers 🍻
Been in TL, this is 100%.
Yes that it is
Cheers mate 🥂
Can't wait for the M+M series Mark - sounds REAL interesting Doc! Don't make us wait months though brother! 🤜
I promise the Mike and Mooksie series is coming up each week
I'll be relaxing a new episode each week!!!!!
Cheers mate 🍻
HOLD ME TO IT!!!!!
Good Video Doc 😊.
Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💕 🙏 🙏
Thank you, I will
Cheers Ricky
Take care mate 🍻
Mark, I will lay out what worked well for me as a senior US government official looking for a Thai partner from the United States. I learned conversational Thai.I used Thai Cupid and Thai Friendly to find women I was interested in talking to. I insisted that they download Skype so that we could talk an hour each day. After a month, I visited Thailand to spend two weeks with them. In the first instance I was dating a Thai nursing student, but with my eventual wife who worked for DTAC, I asked her to take two weeks off from work and I reimbursed her for her lost wages . After three iterations of this I brought my eventual wife over on a fiancé visa. With the first girlfriend I was less sure so I tried to bring her over on a student visa for an English language school and the US Embassy would not grant it, which really doomed the relationship because of resentment and loss of face in being denied a visa. If you can find a Thai girl who is willing to invest a lot of time up front in building a relationship where there is no immediate benefit or gratification to either party, it really helps both separate the wheat from the chafe.
See this is the ideal way to go about this
Thanks for sharing
My fear is that maybe 1 in 10,000 will even put 1/10th the effort,,,,,
Have a blessed day
Six years into marriage, I can truly say my Thai wife has never done anything I consider irresponsible. Her father is a hard working farmer who toiled to accumulate as much land in Ubon as he could while living a spartan existaence.
Bloody classic mark, straight up truth! Good on ya👍
Yup
It really is just the truth
No one wants to admit it
Sadly
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
I liked your researching photo, showing your deep meditation and internalizing your thoughts before taping the most awesome video I've seen to date on any youtubers channel on Thailand pitfalls with the opposite sex. Just awesome mark!
Even though I started out joking over the photo, I do think it's #1 video and awesome
I quite seriously put a lot of thought and time into these vlogs,,,,,,,,
Thanks Mate
Truly appreciate your support
Cheers 🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂
wow thank you very much for reaffirming what i believed as well. cheers Doc
Cheers mate
It's sad but true
Have a blessed day
very informative. in my corporate career in a headquarters office, different cultures did not naturally mix well. small teams were a combination of a few members frm each nationality, but that was intentional to meet corporate hiring practices. on lunch breaks, the integration disappeared. Filipinos sat in one area, separate from chinese, separate from india. blacks and whites had their own areas.
Exactly like it is in prison
Yeah, that's a corporation is, an artificial environment similar to a prison.. it's not meant to encourage diversity, it's a kick down, stab in back , dog eat dog .
Hey Donald thanks for watching this one and taking the time to comment on it I truly appreciate all of your support...
I'm not so much sure it's that cultures can't mix because I do know some wonderful couples who are mixed culture mixed race even mixed religions and it works out well but again taking their time to get into relationships they're being honest about the differences and they're not in transactional relationships with people half their age
OMG! Math lesson included! You are the Man!
Lol
It's mind blowing
Wait until you see this video about the cost,,,
It's crazy
Another great video; thanx. I would add that unconditional love is an illusion and every relationship anywhere around the world is transactional. Poor and unattractive man will wait a lifetime and not just in Thailand. Moreover love does not last forever and frequently turns to hate. So we just have to embrace this reality and have fun realizing that any relationship is like house ownership; it needs maintaining and if necessary a sale.
Hey Michael hopefully you'll catch my upcoming video about Transactional Relationships in Thailand
Also yeah unconditional love is a myth
Cheers mate 🍻
I couldn’t stop laughing when you said the woman on TF hasn’t been with a farang in 7 years…that’s exactly what the woman I got with said!!! 7 years!!! And her V-J was as big as a house 😅
It's absolutely hilarious like I said there is a freelancer Thai friendly manual that these girls share with each other and everything is exactly the same.....
What a joke, do guys really believe....I have so many to tell me they love me after a dinner or a couple drinks.....LOL
Thanks Mark. If I come to Thailand for holiday I will just pay a nice lady for ST or LT with no strings attached.💃
And again if that's what you're looking for Thailand is fantastic for that but if you're looking for love and hope and fun someone who's going to love you it can be an absolute heart breaking soul crushing nightmare
Why hello there again Dr. Marc…… Your comments about communication and love were spot on…… I don’t understand how men can be with women who they cannot share ideas and feelings lips… it reminds me of this limerick that I am Sharing with you and your watchers……
“There was this strange guy who fell madly in love
With his inflatable doll and his glove
Though the conversations weren’t great
She was a cheap date
And on Valentines Day she would be his Deneuve “”
Deneuve was Woman’s last name of a French actress who was known for playing roles where she was aloof, laconic, and mysterious……
You are the best Jazzzzzz
Mark's Rule - "Be a butterfly for one full year before thinking about serious relationship". well taken, Thanks
It would definitely be my advice to someone who's getting out of a long-term relationship back home and coming here hoping to find companionship or a relationship....
Again a lot of guys come here and they've never experienced anything even remotely close to this and they fall for the first person and that person just takes advantage of them so bad and they end up hating Thailand when they should have taken advantage of everything that they can hear and got all of the craziness out of their system....
100% spot on again
Cheers mate 🍻
Thanks for watching and commenting
Have a blessed day
The PI seems like a much better option for an expat. Everything you are saying is correct. Every single girl in Phuket is for sale in some way.
I'm quite honestly not sure if it's better in the Philippines or not but I hate to say it you're 100% right when it comes to the girls on Phuket......
Pretty much yup
Being honest doesn’t mean you are an expert. It’s just your opinion gained from your experience and others’ that you have listened to. Like attracts like.
Never once said I was an expert,,,, I'm just telling people the TRUTH..
Sorry but this is from interviewing hundreds of men and women here,,,
I'm not pulling it outta my a$$
Half my age + 10 seems to be working.. the sweet spot for me seems to be 35 to 45 year olds. Any younger is for (ST) entertainment purposes only 😁. Agree you will be expected to assist them financially in some way, but the most important skill is the ability to say .. no.
It's the best formula for sure,,,,
And let's be honest about it a little help doesn't hurt
ALL human interactions are transactional....EVERYWHERE.
Thailand is simply MORE HONEST and upfront about it.
I'll agree with that to a degree,,,
And yes Thailand is way more open and upfront about it
Cheers mate 🍻
Thumbs up 👍 Mark
Hey mango 🥭
Hope you're well
Have a blessed day
You guys must love communicating with women. When I met my wife. She barely spoke english and was quiet and fun to be with. 28 years later she speaks English well but all the time. I miss the quiet of the days she didn't speak English.
Lol
Classic
Again as I said that's a fantasy for some
But at some point you're gonna need to talk
Lol
Cheers mate 🍻
One really good way to look at it is this I knew a guy 61 years old had a 22-year-old smoking hot girlfriend and she could not speak a word of English to save her life....
And every time he needed something he would go absolutely berserk trying to explain to her what he needed her to help him with....
Lol
Silence is golden!
I just enjoyed riding the motorbike. Street food. Khao yai jungle. Koh larn island. Then at night just grab a freelancer if you want.
Hey Mike and you know what that's fantastic if that's what you're looking for and that works for you ,,,,
I know a couple of older guys that are living dream lives who do exactly that...
But again this video is for the guy that is coming here hoping that they're going to find love not a girl to shag a girl to love and to love him....
That's the big difference
I can see why a lotta guys are choosing the Phils over Thailand for "love". This is great Mark. Reality is always nice to see, and rare these days.
Well my friend I am just trying to be the voice of reason....
Lol
Look it's crazy but I know a lot of guys that are in the Philippines that are experiencing it just as bad there as the guys are here in Thailand it's just insane....
Sadly when guys come they're looking at one type of girl and one type of girl only and it's just not working...
Really appreciate you taking the time to not only watch but comment on my video
Cheers mate 🍻
I live in Phuket (not Patong) for the easy island lifestyle and access to a beautiful and abundant cast of non-thai women here. Both the semi-long term stayers as well as the rotating cast of holiday-makers. Many of these ladies are stunners and very interesting to talk to and spend time with. They need 'hugs' before bed like everyone else, and it's good-really good. Maybe I have lived in Thailand for too long and don't find the Thai ladies as attractive as I once did.
Interesting take
I've had a few other long term guys say the same
Hmmmmm
Thoughts????
Cheers mate 🍻
LOL. Right on Mark. Do we have the same friends lol? Correct on all five. Sad but true. 1 Phone number in Canada but 99 in BKK, lol. Do we have to tell you to give your head a shake and be honest with yourself. Just like anywhere it takes time, and money is involved no matter the country when dating but being smart and sensible is what most don't do and leads to heartache and sometimes an empty bank account.
Hey Thomas thank you very much man I'm glad you enjoyed the video....
Hopefully it wasn't too long for you I know some people like the longer format some people not so much....
My thing is people are just not being honest with themselves when they're coming here I've been talking to a couple of friends over the last month or so and they're struggling so hard with things....
Because again they're just not being honest with themselves or the situations that they find themselves in here in Thailand
Cheers mate 🍻
Truly appreciate your support
About the communication thing…why not learn Thai?
100% I agree with you completely but most guys that are coming here are of that age where it's harder to learn things such as a foreign language....
Not only that as someone who can speak both English and Mandarin,,,,, Thai is next to impossible to learn
Lol
But yes if you are serious about having a real relationship here you should learn Thai and I have mentioned that in many videos thanks for reminding everyone...
Cheers 🍻
True honest love is next to impossible in Thailand - Without financial support there is no love - Language barrier - Lack of communication - Jumping relationships with Farangs for money - Building trust takes time - ATM - Overwhelming options - Dr. Sabean, are you saying that most of these young easily accessible, dynamic ladies are heartless?
I'm not saying that they're all heartless I'm not saying that at all what I'm saying is that guys that are coming here have to be cognizant of who they're getting into relationships with....
Listen there's definitely some girls here that will just destroy you financially emotionally you name it they will wreak havoc upon you like you cannot imagine
But I also happen to know that there are some really wonderful women here who would love to be an honest caring relationships sadly enough most guys are passing them over for the 20-year-olds....
Lol
Cheers mate 🍻
Thanks for watching and commenting
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean You are right. I agree with you. Your videos are to the point and much needed for the gullible guys. Keep it going. Thanks.
3:15 It sounds like a lot of things has a price. Or “Everyone Has A Price”. Million Dollar Man Ted DiBiase from WWE wrestler.
Pretty much yeah
Cheers mate 🍻
Well done Mark…100% Truth.
Thanks Steve
Hope you're having a blessed day......
So did you say you’re going to start a series with this Mike guy?
What I'm going to do is this, Mike has given me permission to tell his whole story so I'm going to do a series about it they will be coming hopefully once a week....
It's nuts
It will blow your mind
Actually I think it might be impossible for some people apparently you have a hard time but I guarantee easy for most
Actually mate no I'm not having a hard time at all to be honest with you my life is simple easy and carefree...lol
I definitely think if you scroll down through the comments you're going to see that 90% of the people are going to agree with me on this sorry,,,,
The men that are coming here are not looking at things the way they should be that's just the truth
"it helps with the algorithmn", LOL. Man, you Thailand Farangs are a laugh and a half!
Lol
If I can't take piss and laugh about it who can???
Obviously some people take themselves way too seriously which I definitely don't....
Great episode, but I did loose you on the George Clooney minus Tiger Woods divided by two plus a water buffalo squared.
Lol
Cheers Mike
🍻
Money is ALWAYS a factor. They date foreign men to improve their standard of living in general. Also, ladies over 35 years old have less options.. But the foreign man of any age (with some $$ ) has limitless mind boggling options, compared to USA UK AUSSIE CANADA etc 100% Cheers 🇨🇦
💯 agree
But guys need to KNOW this before coming here would you not agree???????????
That's the trouble they come here thinking these sgiels love them
Honestly???????
Then they lose everything including their lives in some cases.....
That's the truth
The brutal truth
Male sexual market value seems to be similar around the world. Status and resources is massively important to females.
I'll be in Thailand for a couple of years soon, love your work. Jumping from a solid 5 to an 7 or 8 is going to give alotta dudes imposter syndrome. I'm thinking the golden rule is if you're a bald/balding dude, think back to your cheek slaying 20's self, and resume from there.
You know it's actually funny that you say that because I will tell you this much I probably have far more confidence charisma and game now that I'm in my 50s and balding than I did back on my twenties when I was pretty damn handsome with amazing hair....
True story
Markisms - "At some point you will gonna want to speak to your Thai girlfriend". 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol
It's true
It's truly sad yet completely totally inevitable that it's going to happen...
Lol
Cheers mate 🍻
You can for sure , but it’s not simple or straightforward… 😅
Yes you can,,,,, but not if you're not honest with yourself.....
I blame the bloggers who are maintaining the lie that these girls don’t care about your looks, age don’t matter and they don’t care about money, key words they want a responsible man, they want someone to support their kids
Hey Timothy.....
I agree with you 💯
The actual honest real local girls who are not in the industry but are hoping to find a partner yes they are looking for someone who they are attracted to someone who's going to treat them nice treat them kind etc etc....
But if guys are coming here just looking for a hookup if they're looking for a vacation girlfriend whatever you want to call it the girls don't care what they look like all they care about is how much money they have in the bank brother.....
Cheers mate 🍻
Looking for a partner not a wife cos I don't believe in love anymore. Nice watch as usual.
Isn't that a sad statement huh!!!!!
But man I hear ya....
Have a blessed day
Cheers mate 🍻
I do believe in love- but I have made bad decision because of that. So I'm trying stay away from falling in love. However, Thai women would change my mind LOL
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
Ironic this vid came out today after our conversation😂😂
Lol
Honestly Rusty just a complete coincidence brother
Try Vancouver , ask for a number and you could end up dealing with the police !
That's so funny because I've said a lot of the times that even the way the girls act here how aggressive they are they could be arrested back in Canada and North America for stocking sexual assault it's crazy....
The biggest risk is hanging out in the girl bars where you are pressured to buy "lady drinks". You can drop serious money as they are trained to extract every dime out of you.
It's true, you really have to be ice cold with those bar girls, I am for sure the most hated person in Kata "Spiderman soi" 2 times I allowed them to "catch me" and drag me to the bar, immediately place a girl next to me, I order "Cola Zero" and pay when I get the drink, no matter how much they say "no no pay later" ... I check in and out of the conversation with the girl they put next to me, if you want to stress them, answer short to every question, "what is your name?" Jack , "first time in Thailand?" yes , "you like thailand?" yes ... the owner of the bar (often a girl here in kata) will tell the girl to me more aggressive in the conversation (she will speak thai to the girl), by that I start replying random chats in my phone and not even looking at the girl next to me.... and she gets super stressed now, she is under a lot of pressure, also that I go early, so I am the only customer there. so we start again with small talk... again.. reply short to every question (just give her bullshit... never use your real name, tell the real place you stay)... she will also notice that I am soon to finish my cola zero and she still not had a chance to ask for a drink, if she ask, I say no in a polite but firm tone in my voice. once I finish my drink I say thanks and kindly leave. I exercise my right to sit in a bar and enjoy my drink (even though it's only a soft drink), I refuse to give in for the bar games or pressure.
I can’t stand lady drinks. They’re a joke
Every single thing here is geared to taking as much money out of our pockets as possible....
Yup
Jesper you are the man
If its too good to be true , it probably isnt true. Some guys need to be aware that smart sales girls are in thailand, and compliments are their number 1 selling tool.
Sadly the guys coming here don't know this
They really don't know shit if you want to know the truth,,,,,,
Ok the speaking English could be she worked at a resort or hotel or other tourist related business not at a bar .
Yes could be !
That's why I'm always careful to say I'm not talking about everyone I'm not stereotyping everyone I'm just saying for the most part........
And I think if you watch my upcoming series about Mike and his girlfriend you might agree with me......
Of course you can find love in Thailand. Probably not with a bargirl or freelancer, but there are a lot of other, normal girls in Thailand. I found real love with my husband, he was more than 20 years older than me, a Norwegian. We had a happy marriage for almost two decades, and we found common ground in interests and conversations. Money was not an issue, he was not rich, but we both contributed in our marriage.
So yes, it is definitely possible, don`t think otherwise. But love is tricky, finding a good man, with the right intentions coming to Thailand, is also very difficult. Think about that for a second. This goes both ways.
@@Rodderz1 Absolutely! And I will explain to you why. Many Thai men are not taking responsibility for their families. The wives are often left alone most of the time, taking care of the kids, while their Thai husbands are out drinking with friends, or not even in their life. Their family values are different from family values among foreigners. Not all, but most, that is my experience. I would not even consider marrying a Thai man, after learning how Europeans think and live.
Western way of thinking attracts me. Their way of seeing the world is very different, and for me really a lot more appealing. I had my own job and money btw, so I never was looking for a money source, or what you call a sponsor. Many Thais actually don't. Their goal is to find love and a good father for their children, and a safe and stable future. Money can help providing that, I'm not saying different, but the importance of money should not be over valued.
@@sarlina1good to see your viewpoint. A lot of course is what you (the farang) projects and what he wants to manifest.
Just spent 60 days Thailand. 4 weeks north east, then bangkok, then wonnapha beach. I wanted to get a sense of the pulse of Thailand. I suppose if you choose to walk phuket to the point of girls offering you free service then you have exposed your intent.
My conclusion with now only 150 days total, i found the dharma is the pulse. I furthered my appreciation and exposure to thai that follow the Dharma and I am sad to say I think many farang only use Thailand as a commodity. Then again, I have been a Buddhist for over 30 years so I treat thai this way.
I was not in the tourist areas so cannot speak to that.
I am not worried about it, however believe I will find a thai lady. There is way too much analysis on this subject. Follow your heart, follow the dharma, she will appear.
You sound very good hearted. Prayers and wishes you find what you are looking for ❤🙏
Hi Sarlina yes but again this video is not focused on people like you and your husband,,,,.
It's about men coming here who are not looking for girls like you,,,,.
Or they're not finding them for these exact reasons,,,,,,
@@Rodderz1 I was born in Indonesia, but am a Thai national and citizen 😊 But I do speak Mandarin too though, so you were close 😀 You might find those ladies with similar values, but it takes some effort. You most likely won't find them at the most common places foreigners visit, bars and such 👍🙏
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean True, but it is a common mistake to think that we don't exist. We certainly do. And the comment sections on youtube on this matter are flooding over with comments like it's impossible, we are all the same, and so on. You know the drill 😊
Looking forward to Mike & Moosie 😅
It's nuts
Will blow your mind
Completely totally blow your mind
Cheers mate 🍻
Looking forward to the M&M series…
What I’m hearing you discuss here is something I see that is simply natural everywhere and that is the hypergamous nature of females. Sure there are outliers, females that don’t need nor desire a male but the simple truth globally is that females are far more security and resource minded because that’s their biological programming. So yes, women (biological females) have a biological bias that makes stronger, smarter, richer men (biological males) naturally attractive to them. Think about it, are men attracted to stronger, smarter, richer women who are physically 1’s, 2’s, 3’s, etc ? I dare say not, as men are attracted to qualities related to successful reproduction and will readily accept lower status women into our lives but women are attracted to qualities related to successful offspring and are typically far more concerned with improving their social status. Once I understood this basic truth, my life fundamentally changed for the better in my relationships with women.
Men are the protectors and providers and biologically programmed to spread their seed. I’m not saying this is true in all cases because it most definitely is not and there is plenty of variation in this biological programming in both sexes. In some societies that biological programming is more pronounced but the fundamental nature is always there and people that don’t understand that are typically headed for relationship related problems.
Marriage is an arrangement best understood as a business transaction in my humble opinion. It’s exceptionally naive to think a woman will stay with you and you not provide financial security for her and that is true everywhere but I do get your point about unrealistic expectations of many expats. I’ve observed the very same thing in the Philippines and other places abroad that makes these men, easy targets.
It sounds as if female hypergamy is far more pronounced in Thailand and you are dispensing some great advice. I plan to be in Thailand by mid-April this year and I’m certainly looking forward to the visit. Take care and please keep making these videos, your content is great, you’re one of the few that I watch…
Learning Thai
Best thing ya can do bro!!!!
Cheers mate
Life your best life possible
😂😂😂😂😂 pork chop
Lol
It's true
We convince ourselves of the most insane crap,,,
Another great video Doctor .I totally agree with you when you say that the majority of bar girls , messages girls dancers English is very fluent.i come to pukhet 4 to 5 times a year and i personally know the owner of some agogo in soi Bangla ,every time I come and speak to girls their English is very fluent, they use the grammar property with a lot of vocabulary .Once I was leaving pukhet and i was flying from pukhet to Doha and one girl knew the time the plane takes off because she took that plane many times before when she was called by old men to go to their countries. I am 25 and I can see that whenever you come to a bar or agogo the girls have a scoring system on you , if you are white skin just arrived from the airport with a wallet in your hands they will tell you you are the most handsome man they met and you will be ending spending a lot in lady drinks if you are younger and in good shape they can choose you to do short time or long time .
I noticed that the younger you are the less money they will ask you after the date ,I am 25 and if course my budget is not as as one who worked many years and therefore they already know they can not expect much.
Thanks for the video Doctor can not wait to see the next one, greetings from Shanghai 🎉🎉
If you go to Phuket that often why are you not able to spell it correctly? Just curious… someone that’s been there once would know the spelling even if they aren’t a fluent Thai or English speaker as it is on every ticket, every map, every tourist shop, everywhere
@@portlandGTR I missspelled d the name sorry but what do you think of content I wrote
I agree with you completely
You are totally correct
Where in Shanghai are you?
I was just there yesterday.....
Don't worry about your spelling this isn't grammar school it's UA-cam and I appreciate your support and effort
Cheers mate 🥂
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean thanks so much Doctor I am located near jing an area near jing an temple, I am so happy the weather is getting better ad last weekend in the nearby of Shanghai city it even snowed
no money, no honey !!!
True
So so true ....
I couldn’t agree more. Date within your value and age range and be honest with yourself
Sad part, and the real part of this is that most dudes think that they go up 5 points out of 10 the moment that blast of hot, wet air hits them when they walk off the plane at BKK.
For me it's more the age thing than it is the so-called value because you can find some incredibly beautiful women here in their 40s I personally think that one of the most attractive women I have ever met in my entire life is a lady that lives in southern Phuket and she is now 54 years old and I think she is absolutely perfect.....
And she's older than I am....
Cheers mate 🍻
Screw age range,Date within your budget.
LEAVE YOUR HEART AT THE AIRPORT !!! SUCCESSFUL THAI MEN GET THE BEST THAI WOMEN THE FOREIGN MEN GET THE THAI WOMEN THEY DONT WANT ! THEY BEEN MARRIED BEFORE, HAVE KIDS OR TO OLD OR TO DARK SKIN FOR THEM!! UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE A FARANG WALKING ATM FORGET LOVE
Sadly this is how a lot of guys feel here because again they're not being honest about what is going on
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
That's why I love the Phillipines over Thailand. No language barrier.
Yes I've heard this many times
However I've also talked to a bunch of subscribers you tell me point blank that although the girls can speak English they really don't understand as much as you would think or hope that they do.....
That could be wrong but that's what I'm being told
Cheers mate 🍻
Thanks for watching and commenting
Its their second language which they don't use among themselves+its their mentality, simple minded Filipinos are not sharpest tools..and lets say you won't be attracting upper class and intellectual types.
But still miles ahead of Thais when it comes to comms
You have to pay for it!
It’s different than having someone throw themself at you.
And let’s be clear. Even prostitutes don’t go with just anyone, they are also selective.
Just try getting a date in Pattaya. It isn’t happening
I don't know
I've found getting a date is simple and easy ,,,,
However I've not been to Pattaya so I can't comment on that.
Cheers mate 🍻
Let me tell u something: there's absolutely nothing wrong w a stranger that travels 1,000km to go live w a guy....completely normal 🤯
Yeah nothing odd at all
Lol
Have a blessed day
Cheers 🍷
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean u too brutha! We need: "5 things a guy should say to a bar girl to keep his wallet"
I'm on that one
Cheers 🥂
😂
Hi Mark!
Great video mate.
Why on earth people look for love in a brothel I will never understand.
Accept for FFS, you're mixing with bar girls, freelancers etc. Call them what you will, its a eupphormism for a prostitute. Accept that, be polite and treat them with respect, and enjoy! At my age, I'm happy getting twice a week and paying 1000 thb a go. £ 40 with no additional costs, not even a motorcycle taxi home. I don't even want to wake up with them. B...s drained, close the door on the way out please. I personally don't want all that relationship shit.😊
Amd that works for you Bro
Sadly it doesn't for a lot of guys here
For whatever reason they can't be alone for 5 minutes
These are the guys this video was for
Cheers mate 🍻
Fair point my friend.
lets be honest love is none of your business. because every single woman on this planet is a potential lover. it doesnt matter the amount of money you've got, it doesnt matter the muscles you got, it doesnt matter the the skin color, it doesnt matter your beautiful face, it doesnt matter your nice looking clothes, it doesnt matter your expensive car, not even your mansion. none of it. you are looking for the women that crave money, there is no love in money, its called greed, turns people to monsters, get off the city, and find a simple woman, one that doesnt ask you $200 usd a day to throw on her makeup, spa and finest foods.
Sadly bud this is the reality of men coming here to Thailand,,,,
I'm just telling you the truth,,,
Deny it all you wish but this is the reality for aoy of men coming here...
Sorry but it's true
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers 🍻
I agree to disagree. I use to date a Vietnamese Lady back in Seattle Wa.and she Barley spoke English.I dated her for 3 years.I was prepair when I travel to Thailand somewhat.and yes it was no different.I date too nice Thai ladies that are not Bar Girls.and no money involved. But I take them with me to Hua hin of course.
Ok
That's wonderful
Ok.haopy that your experience was different
That's wonderful
Cheers mate 🍻
A real gf may be more expensive than someone who you know what you’re paying for
Could very well be,,,,, but at least with a real girlfriend there is the possibility she's gonna care about you,,,,
Hopefully you'll catch my upcoming video about Transactional Relationships in Thailand....
Eye-opening
Cheers mate 🍻
Thanks for watching and commenting
Love them enjoy them LEAVE THEM. Sorry. It's cold. But as a dude. Have to protect my brain
Hey Terence 💯 mate
Have a blessed day
Communication. Communication. Go to the Phillipines. They all speak fluent English.
Or put a little effort I to learning some Thai
Lol
There's definitely different subtleties to the Philippines and Thailand that make the dating scenes different but I think most guys would prefer Thailand over the Philippines just my own personal thoughts on that.....
Thank you for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabeanNot worth it to me because:
1. I'm more attracted to Filipinas
2. They already speak and understand English fluently
3. There's a VA hospital in Metro Manila where I can get free health care for life due to me being retired Army
Sounds ideal for ya
Cheers mate 🍻
I'm for a new girlfriend every month.... and honestly doesn't sound any different than the USA.... just a lot easier to find that new monthly girlfriend every month.... pay them off and off to the next one...
Yeah if that's what you're looking for then Thailand would be ideal
But a lot of guys are not looking for that
A lot of them come in hopes of finding an actual relationship
But they don't know how the game works here
And they end up in a lot of trouble
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
I give support 4000 baht now it was 3000 she pays utilities out of that we have air conditioning food 70% me her 30% we go out eat restaurant she only 100 baht pork chop I'll have steak t bone 250 baht she works she buy me things I speak Thai Lao isan 😅😅😅korat
That's fantastic Paul perhaps maybe sometime you would allow me to do an interview with you when you were girlfriend so that we can actually share a winning story for a change instead of dread......
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean yes when I'm down that way will be happy too just your in the wrong place Phuket how far your wallet different types of women you understand I think
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean had my Dar share of horror story as well I with one lady I got her pregnant so I put air conditioning tiles fix up house a bit then 6 months in the pregnancy she kill baby in her stomach just for house to be fix up true story I have few
I'm in Phuket now and it's sad as fc compared to 4 years ago,bars are mostly gone as the girls all old fat ugly left in Phuket anything else has become stuck up and they don't put in any effort anymore, maybe going to issan area is a option i don't know
Issan os always a great place to go ,,,
Perhaps Hua Hin???
Givd it a try
Or Ao Nang,,,,,
Cheers mate 🍻
Try the Phillipines, my brother. Been to both Thailand and the Phillipines. The lack of language barrier in the Phillipines is the difference.
@@thebighousencaaattendancer478 been there 20 years ago not a fan, maybe i will try again one day or Vietnam
@@brettchun38That was 20 years ago. Try going these days.
@@thebighousencaaattendancer478 what areas you think are good?
I disagree unless I go into a bar girls are not throwing themselves at me 😂
I find the hard to believe bro
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean I’m not on dating apps and I’m not looking for any one
Maybe I’m that dumb that I don’t notice but actually no I don’t notice anything 😂🤷🏿♀️
Hmmmmm
Interesting
Where do you live?
Yeah that’s complicated
😂😂😂
Mainly Bangkok
I disagree completely. My marriage was great as my wife was very quiet and barely spoke English. Now she knows engliash and won't shut her mouth. I het no peace whatsoever.
Well like I said it is a fantasy situation for some....
Lol
So here's how I look at it
If you need her to help you with something and you can't explain to the point that she understands,,, how frustrating is that
When you need to talk about something but again she can't understand and you can't express yourself.....
The frustration level is crazy
Question: if you aren't there to go to bars, if you aren't there to go there for bar girls, and if you can't find love WHY are you in Thailand? And why is every youtuber white as snow and I'm the only one who will admit to a life of women, wine and song?
Well again I absolutely love Thailand I love the temples I love the freedom that it gives me all of the fact that it is an unbelievably affordable country...
I'm really big into motorbikes so driving through the country for me is fantastic....
I'm white because I'm white what can I tell you....
I've also been away from Thailand for about 2 months and just getting back tomorrow so I will be ready for a while and then Brown again....
Lol
Cheers mate 🍻
Thailand doesn't have to be all about bars and bar girls....
But believe me my life has definitely been wine women and song all three of them have destroyed me at one point in my life
I don't get the obsession men have with relationships or even marriage.
Leave your feelings and wallet out of it.
Just boom boom danm it!!
😂
I'm not so much sure that they have an obsession with relationships as there are a lot of men who have dependency issues and they just can't be alone with themselves for more than 5 minutes I am working on a video about this but believe me it's not just a simple and easy as coming and boom boom boom for a lot of guys....
If it was Thailand would not be like it is today I can promise you that much
@@whyhellotherewithdrmarksabean
Exactly they should leave their feelings=loneliness out of it.
you call yourself doctor, so are you either a real medical doctor or you have a PHD? If you have a PHD in what field of study?
Hey Glen
I've covered this at least 100 times in previous videos
Not a DR. it comes from a paradu video I did years ago on Facebook and it went viral
People starting asking for more videos from The Dr and it just stuck,,,,
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
Thailand - - - where is so many shallow people live near the deep sea.
Sadly yeah you're right
😞 "Promo sm"
Sorry mate I don't understand?
We are all traders, Thailand is no different than the west, look what an unattractive multi millionaire can date in the US compared to Joe Six Pack. Within the bounds of that trading relationship, money for youth and beauty, I think you can can find compatibility, happiness, and love here and a more traditional kind of woman who does not have the hang ups of the woke western world.
That's interesting, your take on this.
Yes I will.agree men with money have saying easier,,,
But here unless you've been here and experienced it for yourself you would not quite grasp the differences
Thanks for watching and commenting
Cheers mate 🍻
Jesus get to the point
It's a VLOG,,,,,
You get that right?
You need context
Lol
Have a blessed day
Hello Mark, i have subscribed and i like your videos.
Im hoping to get your input on my situation. 2 months ago i swipt right on a 51 year old thai woman on tinder. I am in the usa, im 61, she is in pathum thani. We have been messaging and video calls on fb messenger. We havnt missed a day, at least one video call every day and many messages daily. She is a kindergarten teacher at a private school. At this point it seems like she is legit. Of course she is very sweet and fun to talk to. She started calling me panda a few weeks ago, and then she sends me a video of her students saying "hi panda" . It was pretty touching for me that she did that.
As i said, she seems legit, shortly after she sent me the hi panda video, she called me on a video call while at school, i see the students, i see her in the same outfit that she had on in the video. Since then, i have received many video calls and vidoes of school activities from her both at school and from home. She really does seem to be on the level, the only red flag i see is that it seems too good to be true and she is there and im here.
Maybe im a blind fool, but id like to think im not, lol.
She seems to go out of her way to show me that she is real, and she cares about me. The language barrier sucks, the translator app sucks too. Always mixing up words and mis translations. She is learning english and is getting better. She seems to be putting in a lot of effort. She wants me to come to Thailand to meet her. I asked her if she will pick me up at the airport, she said yes. I asked her if i would stay with her while im there or if i need a hotel, she said i need a hotel because it is customary that i dont come in her home until i have gained the confidence of her elder brother and sister. She says she will find me a hotel close to her so we can hang out every day before and after school, she says she will take care of me every day. She is a practicing Buddhist, she sent me pictures and a video of her visit to the temple last sunday. She owns a car and claims to own a small plot of land in phitsanulok. We get on video calls and she drives around showing me the sites, some of our video calls are up to 2 hours long.
She does talk about marrage and our possable future together if after meeting in person we still like eachother. She is taking and paying for a english refresher course, she said she was taught english as a child but forgot most of it. I offered to pay for it but she says she cant eccept it. We talk about me living with her in Thailand and the possibility of her moving here with me. She has 2 children and a grandchild. I could go on and on for hours about all the seemingly positive excpieriances. I hate to admit it, but i am falling for her, the hi panda video from her and her students is what really made that happen. She stays up too late every night talking to me, and i do the same on my end. She acts and seems like a good girl, if i talk about kissing her, she gets shy and reminds me of her shyness often. I have offered to by her plane ticket and cover her excpences to come her and meet me, she wont e except money from me, at least at this point, lol. She doesnt seem to be in a hurry to leave her job and life in Thailand but she is open to talking about it. She says her goal is to find love and get married. Maybe i move there, maybe she moves here, she seems sincere but....how do you know? The only time she talks about money is when we talk about marrage and her moving here with me, she told me that if she leaves her career as a teacher to come here, that i would be responsible for her until she finds a job here, seems like thats what she really wants, but how do you know?
So,, yesterday i saw one of your videos from one year ago about how much it costs to have a thai girlfriend. First time i saw any of your videos and ill admit, it was a little depressing to watch, but very interesting. So after watching that video of yours, i decided to ask her what would be required of me for her to be my girlfriend? How much salary?
Oh man, she was mad and hurt, or at least thats the claim. She said she is not a professional hunter and this is why she doesnt like forieners , all they want is sex and she hates bar girls and prostitutes, and many other things. It took a few hours to smooth things out and settle her down.
I excplained to her that i am just trying to learn about thai culture and so on.
After watching a few of your videos i am back where i was during the first 2 weeks of talking to her, waiting to figure out if she is a scammer or whatever. Now im all paranoid and wondering if i should block her or keep going. I dont want to sound like a fool, but from what i can see she seems legit. Mark, i wish i could talk to you. If she is half as nice in real life as she seems, she could be the best thing to ever happen to me. I have told her im not a rich man, she says that is ok, she has talked to rich men, all they want is to talk dirty and buy dirty pictures. She says they are not nice like i am.
I live in a modest nothing special home in the country, she says she would be perfectly happy living in this small house.
Soory for the length of this post.
If ot is possible, id love your input, better yet talk to you.
Thanks for your time Mark, have a great day
Hey mate please reach out to me through Facebook Messenger.....
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MEN FALLING “ IN LOVE “ it’s a joke …..WE KNOW WHAT “ LOVE MEANS TO ANY “ MAN” ……I HAVE TO SAY THIS TO ALL MEN IN THIS CHAT ….LOVE DOES NOT EQUAL SEX 👽🫵🏻….SPEAKING MANY LANGUAGES IS NOT BECAUSE THE WOMAN WAS WITH MANY FOREIGNERS , IS BECAUSE SHE IS INTELLIGENT ….CAN “ men “ IMAGINE THIS ???👽🫵🏻
Insane to disagree with you,,,, not all men think this way
Yes sadly enough a lot do and I am working on a video about this
But it's not all men!
Also I in no was diminishing the intelligence level of the girls ,,,,, I am talking about a specific girl in a specific industry,,,,, sorry but that's the "Norm" here how the girls in that industry learn English,,,,
Sorry but that is accurate
Again I agree with you to a degree,,,, just not totally
Cheers
Thanks for watching and commenting
What part of "no💰no 🦫" is so difficult to understand???🤣
Quite honestly if you watch some of my upcoming videos you're going to see exactly what is so difficult about saying NO for a lot of the guys that come here to Thailand looking for love.....