Men, stop questioning why they pulled away, start questioning why you care so much about it. If you love yourself enough, you wouldn’t allow these mind games and tests to bother you in the slightest.
Be true to yourself and when you meet the right person be true to her. Don't chase. No need for that. I'm in my 50s and I saw girls chasing my son. He just gets turned off by them. One particular lady was really nice but he's about his focus so he ignored her even though her families came knocking 😂 Guess what, that young lady didn't give a flying fig about the dozen boys chasing her
Just let me tell you as a former teacher of rhetoric that your way of speaking is absolutely enjoyable. So, I'm not so much for the content but the structure of speech, pronunciation, pitch and gestures. It is very well done and my best compliments!
I'm amazed at how well you understand and express the exact feelings we experience. You always manage to touch on the right issues at the perfect moment. Thank you.❤
Be careful too, use good judgment. How do you know when she comes back if she’s been sleeping around with other dudes would you take her back? I wouldn’t.
Mine she pulls away then reach out again, she recently asked for break I gave her without any complaint and I started to apply no contact she gets mad and ask me why I’m ignoring her I’m not sure if she forgot that we on break
@levylindokuhle6691 man she's getting her back blown out by someone else and don't want you interrupting her moment with the other dude.. let her ass go for good
I don’t even care anymore, the moment she pulls away. I go get another girl, that will give me her time. Women act like they are special, they act like they are “busy” most of these women are on their phone 95% of the time. If she doesn’t reply, keep her out of your mind. The less you think about her guess what, she will eventually reach out. Women sense when you’re having fun without them. Gentlemen, there’s more women in City than men. Stop chasing and replace them ! Stay up
Yeah and that roster full of men are doing the exact same thing as one another. Chasing her, acting needy and treating her like she’s some rare commodity. She isn’t and she knows it.
I love listening to you so much. We haven’t spoken for a couple of days and yesterday she sent me a meme streak saying “Someone’s son is making me happy” and I was unbothered 😂 Not that I don’t like her but I realized she loves the chase.
I have a situation. I met this amazing girl and I feel deeply in love.. likewise her. Someone spread rumors about me. And we haven't spoken in about a month to be honest. But i have not been chasing her. Because I know that if she really loves me She will come around. Thank you for your advice your my favorite relationship coach. Wish I could talk to you one one . These days.
😂 when she reaches back out to you and ask, how have you been? you tell her “ really really good. The world is a sweet place. I love it !!!so many opportunities and adventures that I’ve been going on.😂
Blokes who are inexperienced in relationships often panic and jump to the wrong conclusion that she has a new guy or get paranoid that she's 2 timing, I've done this myself and double or even triple texted-big mistake but you get wiser with maturity,younger guys can let emotions take over and it often wrecks their chances,you are perfectly correct as usual Jessie,btw you look lovely in the blue 💙 outfit.
I made the mistake with her once. Took her 3 months to come back around. Ever since I haven't chased or reacted when she pulls away. She always comes back around double and triple texting me after she takes her space
Men, women that carry on this way deserve to be alone. Women who are with men that they truly desire will not play these games. If she’s into you, she won’t “pull away” or change her behavior. She’s taking to another man that simple. She isn’t testing your emotional control.
Jessica, you are spot on. She left me and I went on continuing my life now she’s contacting me and telling me she misses me. You have to guys play it cool especially when they’re in the wrong in the relationship. You have to make the woman work to get back into your life otherwise she will continue to keep taking you for granny.
Thanks for your guidance. This is currently happening now. She used to start the calls after I phoned her at first, now all of a sudden she's quiet. I only tried 3 calls to check and I subconsciously chose to apply your method. If she doesnt come back, its life and things can change. Especially with myself
Im using the same tactic on this girl i just met, wish me luck with this one..... I used this method for years... It really works. Confidence is key 🗝️
Folks are just playing games with people's hearts and minds. oh how I dislike people like that! Do you want him/her or not? If you don't, get the heck out of his/her life and stop wasting his/her time? Tired of these games. Crazy generation!
@@godfreyduffus6567 This is not necessarily true.. Sometimes they want to know if you are in control or if they are in control of the relationship. To her, your response is a microcosm of the world as her danger most of the time will be domestic, and so if you can handle the problem within, she knows you can handle the problems outside. They actually mold you into a born winner whether we like it or not! They are the test of your psychological manhood!
@@RevealedFilmsTrue, but you can't be worrying about the other dudes out there. Focus on you and what you and her have going on. If you're that dude to her, that's a wrap. You have to give a woman the option to choose you
Hypergamy is just another term that describes promiscuous behavior, the sad truth is that even if you find someone who’s values, morals and goals around life align with yours, it’s only short term, people change, life changes, nothing is permanent. Stop wasting your time, fix your own emotional baggage, make a plan for your life and go for it. As for women, it’s just a numbers game, never get emotionally attached to a specific woman, if something doesn’t work out move on and do it fast. If you find yourself fixating on a specific person it means that you have a lot of work to do with yourself. Detach, do the work and get better, yourself is the only person you can and should be investing in.
don't say anything. replace her. immediately. expeditiously. women treat men poorly & become bad people when they overestimate their own sexual market value. its what women do. show her how easily she can be replaced to make her have to re-evaluate her own value. the literal second things don't work out with the other guy she ghosted you for, she will think about you. she will try to monkeybranch back down to you from the guy she felt was an upgrade, but make her go lower than you by making yourself unavailable. make her have to get a guy lesser than you. then she will see your value & see that you were always above her value wise. no contact fixes women's narcissism & solipsism real quick.
We were supposed to go out, and she says if this goes right.... Then, messages xyz didn't go right the next morning. I already told her about communicating correctly. I haven't text her back.
I have a simple but very powerful answer for all your questions: WALK AWAY and don’t look back, live the best life ever and the right girl will find her way to your life! God blessed everyone!
just went through this with a woman that's older than me but the thing is that she did this to me during my time of mourning being that i had a death in my family smh
All this will be effective if you have lot of options. She Pulling away won’t hurt if u got options. If u don’t have options and she pulls away, u might be tempted to reach out on several occasions. So guys don’t date one 😉
Someone can give me some strong good advice, my girl always tell me I’m busy and always hang out with her friends and I’m here always thinking about her? What should I do ?
@kingsleychinaza5152 I think it depends on you if you really want let her get back. For me, I don’t play mind games. Most young women do, though. It’s often seen for those under 25-30, because as they are getting older, they are slowly losing the luxury of picking up among potential life partners.
Hi Jessica, so are you saying that even if my girlfriend is seeing someone else which I suspect, would the silence from me make her start to wonder what’s going on with me ? and by giving her space I will become powerful and make her miss me
Men, stop questioning why they pulled away, start questioning why you care so much about it. If you love yourself enough, you wouldn’t allow these mind games and tests to bother you in the slightest.
Bingo
It’s human psychology/ behavior.
Be true to yourself and when you meet the right person be true to her. Don't chase. No need for that. I'm in my 50s and I saw girls chasing my son. He just gets turned off by them. One particular lady was really nice but he's about his focus so he ignored her even though her families came knocking 😂
Guess what, that young lady didn't give a flying fig about the dozen boys chasing her
Silence is golden...
That is the TRUTH.
This video came at the right time. Thank you 🙏🏾
@@Andy-wp6lj keep your head up! If she pulls away, give her space. Match and mirror her. Be strong :)
After you go through it a few times, it doesn't even phase you anymore. You actually start to enjoy it and you can focus on your own things.
@@philipramsden4975 exactly!
Who has time for all these mind games ? The next guy can have her
@@franciszico828 😂😂😂
Dude. You have to play these games.
Just have money that's all @@Connor4x4
😂😂😂 good question
Women play more mind games than Professor X and wonder why they have so many "X men"
Jessica, I like you! You tell the truth!! What is Crazier is, if she said she needs space, men should tell them, I’m feeling the same.. lol.
Just let me tell you as a former teacher of rhetoric that your way of speaking is absolutely enjoyable. So, I'm not so much for the content but the structure of speech, pronunciation, pitch and gestures. It is very well done and my best compliments!
Glad someone shares my sentiments.
I'm amazed at how well you understand and express the exact feelings we experience. You always manage to touch on the right issues at the perfect moment. Thank you.❤
My pleasure!
Great advice, I think Jessica is the best dating coach for men on Africa UA-cam that I have seen so far.
I can't miss this, I always rush here after the notification. Thanks Jess
Hope you enjoyed it!
@@JessicaOS Yeah, I did, I am going through challenging phase in my relationship, but you usually guide me in your teachings. Thanks once again.
This the First Lady I’ve came across that tells the truth.
Jessica this is what currently happening in my relationship 😢 my girl has pulled away thanks for your informative content,,, you comforted my heart 🙏
Be careful too, use good judgment. How do you know when she comes back if she’s been sleeping around with other dudes would you take her back? I wouldn’t.
Mine she pulls away then reach out again, she recently asked for break I gave her without any complaint and I started to apply no contact she gets mad and ask me why I’m ignoring her I’m not sure if she forgot that we on break
Smh. You shouldn't allow her to play games
On a break. Shes exploring another guy….move on
Move on. Never entertain a woman who tries to play power games with you. This will teach her to respect you. Just casually ignore her and move on.
@levylindokuhle6691 man she's getting her back blown out by someone else and don't want you interrupting her moment with the other dude.. let her ass go for good
I did this to one girl a couple months back, and she came back apologising and telling me how sorry she is. Guys....it works like magic.
Me too 😅
You accepted her back, meaning you forgave her!
So expect her to repeat the cycle again!😌
@@rogue_spirit she wasn't my girlfriend. Just someone I was getting know.
Yup and I guarantee she won’t do it again.
@@gabrieltetteh9830 I’m in the works hopefully she come back.
You are the best Auntie Jess, Blessings.
I love your advice!!!! It's very very awesome keep up the great work you are doing.
Appreciate you Jessica all way from South Pacific. Your videos are helpful.
Happy to help!
If More guys listen to your advice i CAn tell you there lives would be better. I love your honesty and how you explain the Truth thank you again
I don’t even care anymore, the moment she pulls away. I go get another girl, that will give me her time. Women act like they are special, they act like they are “busy” most of these women are on their phone 95% of the time. If she doesn’t reply, keep her out of your mind. The less you think about her guess what, she will eventually reach out. Women sense when you’re having fun without them. Gentlemen, there’s more women in City than men. Stop chasing and replace them ! Stay up
*”Oneitis”* is a serious condition that too many men suffer from. 😑🤦🏾♂️
And this is working 🤪🤘🤙🤙
I am voting for u
m gone forever with my pride and dignity intact.. I don't have time for mind games.
💯✅
Always fulled of wisdom God bless you with more wisdom You are doing a great job. Thank you
So nice of you
Pure Gold!!! Good game!!
This only works if she's interested... if she has a roster full of men then this is a game of survivor...may the best man on the island win
Yeah and that roster full of men are doing the exact same thing as one another. Chasing her, acting needy and treating her like she’s some rare commodity. She isn’t and she knows it.
I love listening to you so much. We haven’t spoken for a couple of days and yesterday she sent me a meme streak saying “Someone’s son is making me happy” and I was unbothered 😂 Not that I don’t like her but I realized she loves the chase.
I have a situation. I met this amazing girl and I feel deeply in love.. likewise her. Someone spread rumors about me. And we haven't spoken in about a month to be honest. But i have not been chasing her. Because I know that if she really loves me
She will come around. Thank you for your advice your my favorite relationship coach. Wish I could talk to you one one . These days.
Keep building you man. Don’t chase a thing, value your time :)
😂 when she reaches back out to you and ask, how have you been? you tell her “ really really good. The world is a sweet place. I love it !!!so many opportunities and adventures that I’ve been going on.😂
Blokes who are inexperienced in relationships often panic and jump to the wrong conclusion that she has a new guy or get paranoid that she's 2 timing, I've done this myself and double or even triple texted-big mistake but you get wiser with maturity,younger guys can let emotions take over and it often wrecks their chances,you are perfectly correct as usual Jessie,btw you look lovely in the blue 💙 outfit.
100%. Have to keep your cool and be unbothered, give her your space and keep focusing on you. :)
I almost fell for it
I made the mistake with her once. Took her 3 months to come back around. Ever since I haven't chased or reacted when she pulls away. She always comes back around double and triple texting me after she takes her space
@@philipramsden4975 understanding the difference between masculine and feminine energy is a beautiful thing
Men, women that carry on this way deserve to be alone. Women who are with men that they truly desire will not play these games. If she’s into you, she won’t “pull away” or change her behavior. She’s taking to another man that simple. She isn’t testing your emotional control.
💯
Mine is her dad! But she’s a strong girl any moment she gets she’s calling or texting! We’re teens tho lol 😅
I needed this today. Thank you!
Youre very beautiful and charismatic. Thank you for advice appreciate it.
Spot on!
Thank you Jess!
Great insight...i love this.
Jessica, you are spot on. She left me and I went on continuing my life now she’s contacting me and telling me she misses me. You have to guys play it cool especially when they’re in the wrong in the relationship. You have to make the woman work to get back into your life otherwise she will continue to keep taking you for granny.
Happened to me b4 and I have a regret, I wish I see this video b4, thank you for sharing life learning
Great advice. Much to be applied and watch as your experience paves the way to n u developmenta. Just believe.
Thanks a lot jes...I really needed this it came at the right time 💯
Madam Jess🥰🥰 always The Teacher💙💙
Love You Ma'am 💪💪
Thanks for your guidance. This is currently happening now.
She used to start the calls after I phoned her at first, now all of a sudden she's quiet.
I only tried 3 calls to check and I subconsciously chose to apply your method.
If she doesnt come back, its life and things can change. Especially with myself
Brief and powerful. Wow!, this is wisdom, thank you.
Im using the same tactic on this girl i just met, wish me luck with this one..... I used this method for years... It really works. Confidence is key 🗝️
Folks are just playing games with people's hearts and minds. oh how I dislike people like that! Do you want him/her or not? If you don't, get the heck out of his/her life and stop wasting his/her time? Tired of these games. Crazy generation!
Seems like good old fashioned communication face to face has been thrown out of the window. 🤷🏿
It’s not a game. It’s a subconscious behaviour.
Very good.
It’s really stupid the games people play now.
Great content ses
The background sound is so suiting🎉🎉🎉✨️✨️♥️
all this is true,,she hit me back after silence mode,,thank u Jessica Os❤
Jessica my favourite relationship coach🎉
On time video. Thank you
Shalom my divine sister, great to see you
Thanks
You know the best part ....we don't even give a shit ...we just grind and get those Capital "P"s fam💯
Hi Jessica, keep the good work, i like your "older sister" advice in every video you post 🙂❤️.
I’m going to try all what you have said on this video Jessica
Good luck
Been a while since I have listened to your posts. I have been busy. This post is awesome. 😊😊😊
this format of videos suits me a lot
Thank you Jessica ❤
She won’t reach out if she has someone else in mind
@@godfreyduffus6567 it's better atleast you won't waste your time
@@godfreyduffus6567 This is not necessarily true.. Sometimes they want to know if you are in control or if they are in control of the relationship. To her, your response is a microcosm of the world as her danger most of the time will be domestic, and so if you can handle the problem within, she knows you can handle the problems outside. They actually mold you into a born winner whether we like it or not! They are the test of your psychological manhood!
@@fitforlifepft1 This is valid
@@fitforlifepft1cute but let’s not pretend there’s not other options also in the mix. It’s 2024
@@RevealedFilmsTrue, but you can't be worrying about the other dudes out there. Focus on you and what you and her have going on. If you're that dude to her, that's a wrap. You have to give a woman the option to choose you
Welldone Jessica
You are the best coach
I needed this
Your too good 😘 thank you
Its true! 100%
Great vid! Appreciate what you do :)
Just have money, the rest na Story, they can never pull away
Thank you am in this situation right she is baby mama and lately she is pulling away
Jessy sometimes is not easy oo she will hurt you, pull back and again and it will be difficult to erase what she did oo
True 😂😂😂
Hypergamy is just another term that describes promiscuous behavior, the sad truth is that even if you find someone who’s values, morals and goals around life align with yours, it’s only short term, people change, life changes, nothing is permanent. Stop wasting your time, fix your own emotional baggage, make a plan for your life and go for it. As for women, it’s just a numbers game, never get emotionally attached to a specific woman, if something doesn’t work out move on and do it fast. If you find yourself fixating on a specific person it means that you have a lot of work to do with yourself. Detach, do the work and get better, yourself is the only person you can and should be investing in.
You the best ❤️
These mind games bring stress more than break up 😅
Thank you 🙏🏻
you got a new sub
Appreciate the support 🙏🏾
don't say anything. replace her. immediately. expeditiously. women treat men poorly & become bad people when they overestimate their own sexual market value. its what women do. show her how easily she can be replaced to make her have to re-evaluate her own value. the literal second things don't work out with the other guy she ghosted you for, she will think about you. she will try to monkeybranch back down to you from the guy she felt was an upgrade, but make her go lower than you by making yourself unavailable. make her have to get a guy lesser than you. then she will see your value & see that you were always above her value wise. no contact fixes women's narcissism & solipsism real quick.
Question 🙋🏾♂️? Do we have to do this with mature women too?
Tell her goodbye 👋 Become Ritch.Simple❤
We were supposed to go out, and she says if this goes right.... Then, messages xyz didn't go right the next morning. I already told her about communicating correctly. I haven't text her back.
I have a simple but very powerful answer for all your questions: WALK AWAY and don’t look back, live the best life ever and the right girl will find her way to your life! God blessed everyone!
Sometimes dealing with some women is just a headache
Hey Jess...you hit the right notes these dayz...who told you about me...🤔
😅😅
you're my favorite content creator love
Thanks
just went through this with a woman that's older than me but the thing is that she did this to me during my time of mourning being that i had a death in my family smh
I got a question. What if she asks, “Why didn’t you even bother to check up on me”.
As a guy, what’s the best response?
This is her admitting her absence was an attention grab… Shameful! lol.. Kiss her and say, you have my attention now.. lol
Had this before. Just switch the focus…”been focused on X, you good?”
"oh I assumed you were a fully funcitoning adult"
@@RevealedFilms That’s hard man 😅
I fu ck up everything on that subject
Sorry
What if she blocked your calls and all your socials
@@Capableconciliator you won then
What to do when she comes back ???
All this will be effective if you have lot of options.
She Pulling away won’t hurt if u got options. If u don’t have options and she pulls away, u might be tempted to reach out on several occasions.
So guys don’t date one 😉
Someone can give me some strong good advice, my girl always tell me I’m busy and always hang out with her friends and I’m here always thinking about her? What should I do ?
Hi @jessica What happens when she comes back with a random text and you read the message and ignore it with no response, please is that a good spot?
Depends what the random text is. But no, you shouldn't ignore her when she reaches out
@kingsleychinaza5152 I think it depends on you if you really want let her get back. For me, I don’t play mind games. Most young women do, though. It’s often seen for those under 25-30, because as they are getting older, they are slowly losing the luxury of picking up among potential life partners.
Exactly why the girl you don’t like, chases you:)
Learning female psychology and why these things happen should be told after the birds and bees
Let her go........of all the problems in your life her gone will solve the others....Believe me....😊
Great advice and it really works
Nonchalant behaviours, Masculinity and emotional regulation is so hard for many old and young youth in this generation 😎😎
Hi Jessica, so are you saying that even if my girlfriend is seeing someone else which I suspect, would the silence from me make her start to wonder what’s going on with me ? and by giving her space I will become powerful and make her miss me
Ok so I give her space and let her feel my silence. But what if she has another guy in mind what happens to my silence and will she miss me ?
Let's keep it cool , guys ..dankos Sis J.. what a message .. 🤟🏾
👐
Bro these type of women she talking about end up lonely asf. Men BUILD not wait
Gems !!!
Ma'am, may I have your contact information? I need guidance on a pressing matter.🙏🙏🙏
Hi Jessica, would this also work in a six year relationship ?
This is really a million dollars worth of game
What if she said u don't love her u don't value her. And she start pulling out what are you going to do?
What if she played mind games and we failed them. Yet she supposedly found someone new but still reaches out time to time