Just a thought, maybe instead of "acquisitions", you can do a "stash dive" segment when you feel the inspiration to start a new project and have the spoons for sharing with us all. Happy New Year Tazhi!
I'm excited for 2024 Tazhi being true to yourself! I really enjoy these kinds of videos where you're introspective and talk about the ways in which you want to move through the world because it in turn makes me think about what's important to me, too. Chasing joy is 100% the theme of the year. ❤
I love that you are recognizing that you can accept a compliment without justifying yourself. I’m working on this as well. Just say thank you. Brilliant. Fully enjoyed listening to you. Thank you.
Dear youtube, please give me the capability to like this video every time Tazhi says something I agree with. So much of what you are saying resonates so much with me. Yesterday, I was with my bestie, and she very seriously said "I'm 40 this year. I want to be the mum that wears the loud colors, that doesn't care what people think of what I'm wearing. So I'm going to do it" You're giving the same vibe and I'm along for the ride. Let's just feel free to be our true selves and ignore the haters ❤
This is so wonderful! I did make it all the way to the end, and I am here for all of it! So many of the things you shared really resonated with me, and I found myself saying “Yessss!” to the screen so many times. Best wishes on the Ins and Outs for ‘24! See you next time!
Love this video! Everything you talked about….YAS!!! I have learned to find joy and appreciation in things that others have; I don’t HAVE to have it because you do; I can love that you have it. Period.
You do you Tashi you are a wonderful person love that you take time to spend with us please look after yourself since you are beautiful inside and out wear what makes you happy you look wonderful no matter what
Give and receive more compliments! I completely agree and it is lovely to see this as something you are inviting into your life. I am a professor, and I started having students give a compliment to another classmate in the room and I tear up every single semester that this happens - seeing people give and receive compliments is SUCH a huge joy for me.
@@stitchesandstarlight They start it deeply uncomfortable but most open up to the experience and are genuinely excited to see each person give and get a compliment.
I still have to watch vlogmas as I was saving yours to watch when I am spinning and I am finally catching up on your podcast as I am spinning saving the best for last!!!💜🥰
I'm here for all of the things and you are delightful. I just read your recent substack post and it was beautiful ❤️. Here's to 2024 and whatever may come!! 🎉🎉🎉
Omg your "time to plant new seeds" really resonated with me. It's what I've always naturally gravitated towards doing, but I never thought about it in those terms! Thank you for giving me the words that make sense 🥰
Thank you very much for your vlogmas! Even though I was quite worried about you a few times you made it!😊 Thank you also for letting us know you're not going to be podcasting as much just so we know and won't worry. I understand and agree with all you said. I wish you the best on this next leg of your journey. I hope you find peace, contentment, and joy!❤
Feeling your vibe so much, love spending some quiet time knitting listening to your beautiful soothing voice. I think I really need to have a sit down with myself. I resonated with so much of what you were saying. This year I want to change my focus and lean into the things that make me happy and make me feel like me again. Wishing you kindness, love and happiness in 2024 ❤
And! Love the substack plan. The move towards this format feels like late aughts/early 2010s blogspot/blogger and I LOVE it. The maker blogger space was huge for me.
It very much feels that way and I’m really enjoying taking a few moments in the morning with my coffee to read one or two posts. I have a fair bit of impostor syndrome around it but I’m doing it anyway.
Tazhi - we loved you in 2023 but think the you in 2024 will be even more amazing now that you being true to yourself! Up, down or coasting - those of us coming to your channel are here for the real you and so appreciate that you are open to sharing that with us. Sending a big hug for 2024 and beyond.
Ahh, happy new year! Since finding your channel early during Vlogmas last month, I now get a little rush of excitement whenever I see a new video from you. (But please don't read that as pressure to stay on a posting schedule that doesn't work for you -- I'm extra neurospicy too, so fully resonate with and agree with what you're saying about following the seasons and moving in a way that works for you!) So appreciate you laying out your ins and outs for this year -- mine are similar, especially when it comes to disconnecting more. Definitely resonate with the impact doom-scrolling and being "terminally online" can have on folks. Wishing you a fantastic 2024, and so grateful to you for taking us along on the journey!
Thank you for being here, new(ish) friend! I’m so glad you found the channel and enjoyed last month’s chaos enough to stick around 😂😂😂 Wishing you all of the same + lots of fiber joy in your making this year.
LOVE THIS! This was such a positive and affirming way to start the year. I am also one that struggles with “goals” and tracking. Also, I would be here for it if you want to show us your process of stash diving and logging. I can see you have so much yarn-y goodness behind you.
I think a stash logging video could be fun and would actually get me working on it instead of putting it off forever and ever. I’m going to keep this in mind.
I resonate with you sooo much! I have made all the same decisions for self acceptance and care as you and I fully embrace the seasonal journey. Yay for you! I can't wait to see what you make (or don't) :) Edit: rewatched this video. I think I AM you. I'm so grateful for your reflection.
Regarding saying "Thank you" when receiving compliments and not trying to devalue it by pointing out flaws; I taught myself (when I felt like I couldn't just say thank you, because sometimes my brain won't let it just be a complete sentence) I would say like, "Thank you, I really enjoy ". I found that really helped ground me in my making and made accepting the compliments easier because I was able to focus my attention on the positive that I liked and it helped me reinforce that they liked my work too. Really helps with the imposter syndrome too. Happy New Year Tazhi! I hope the year is full of magic and joy for you and your family! 💖
Happy New Year!!! I watched this video while working in my art journal which is one of my intentions for the year, taking breaks from knitting throughout the year so I lessen my chances of overusing my hands.
I love this for you! Happy doodling and painting and sketching and collating and whatever else you do in your journal. I used to have one I worked in regularly and I think I’m being called to pick it back up and play a little.
totally with you on being done with bi-phasic sleep patterns (and/or figuring out how to function when they are happening) and the pandemic of expectations of info should be spoon-fed at all times in unreasonable quantities -- and hooray, yes HOORAY for cardigans, they are the best. glad you're feeling well again, and enjoy this deep winter for what it is.
Yay for reckless and rebellious cast ons! I'm all in. I'm someone who doesn't know, I think can't know, if I'm going to love a knitting project until I really touch and feel it and interact with it. I'm cool with swatching but it doesn't let me know if I've got the emotional investment in the idea to see it through. I've realised there's no really no other way than trying things with with intention and seeing what flows for me. I tried to be better at selecting by knitting loads of swatches and evaluating them. But I just ended up with loads of swatches, indecision and over thinking. 2024 a year of doing by doing (not doing what I think I ought be be doing)! X
I am cheering you on so much here, though I know I am stranger to you. In January of 2023 I declared it my Year of Chasing Joy. I decided I would do the things I needed to do and with the rest of my time I would chase joy without worrying about what I should be doing, or what other people thought of me. And it was wonderful. I am so much happier, creative, and filled with joy than I was a year ago. And the joy I was starting to lose (in my writing mostly) has returned and I even ended the year with more publications that I'd had in ages. I learned how to knit, I learned how to spin, I processed my first fleece, I sewed garments, I fell down every rabbit hole that looked enticing and didn't fault myself for crawling back out again if things down there didn't look so great and it was glorious. My life is so much better now than it was then, even though this year brought my new PTSD diagnosis to go along with my long-time bipolar diagnosis. So I'm cheering you on and I hope your Year of Chasing Joy brings you more good things than you could even imagine.
"Ethereal bubble of sunshine" 🥰❤️❤️❤️ I love this. Thank you for your encouragement last month. I'm knitting my first handspun project and it's bringing me so much joy! It's the chickadee cowl on Ravelry. Love your authenticity.
Your sentiments are resonating so hard. Re no buy especially, hard same, in general, and especially with fiber art related purchases. I don't exist in absolutes. What I find moderately successful with purchasing is taking a time out. If I l o v e whatever "it" is, and I n e e d it, I'll let it simmer for at least 24 hours before I go for it, and it's cut down on emotional purchases more than I expected. Here's to being surrounded by the people we're for, and who are for us. ❤
I’m going to add this to my list of strategies to help me remain in line with my intentions - a timeout sounds like a really actionable way to decrease impulse spending.
"Harkening to a LiveJournal blogging days" was a reference that hit me like a two by four to the face. Wow, it's been a second since I thought about that website. However, I have staggered over to substack and subscribed, and I'm looking forward to your posts there!
Thanks for sharing all your thoughts with us. I am sitting here nodding in agreement! Your podcasts will make this year a lot better for me, with your knowledge, your enthusiasm, your joy, and your realness. Thank you!!!!
Happy New Year! Thank you for sharing your Ins and Outs; the concept (and your list) sounds very much contemplative and reflective instead of goal oriented. While I listened, I was thinking of words like space and grace and authenticity. It was quite beautiful. Wishing you a year of space to reflect what is giving you spoons, grace to care for yourself and listen to what calls you, and authenticity to be the full rad human that you are.
I recently gathered all the projects together on my sofa, where I already had yarn and pattern idea/plan, and then numbered them with a post-it in each bag. Then I wrote a list on a white board. I have 33 projects already of interest! I was gobsmacked at that number-but it also helped keep realize why I’m feeling overwhelmed with so many ideas floating in my head. Now I reshelved them (kind of) in number order so I can actually access whatever feels most joyful and interesting all the time! Wow I’m feeling good to have that done, looking forward to using stash and loving what I’m making this year. Sounds like we’re on the same wavelength. ❤. And we are never “too much,” though I totally get that, being effusive, talkative and smart too! Like you, encouraging words are my love language. I can so relate girl. It’s all good.
Oh I love the idea of a yarn/pattern project board! I’m going to have to try that - I love having things written down where I can see it and be inspired by it.
Sorry to hear you were ill during the holidays. I have been having similar sleep disturbances too. I think I need too take vitamins B12 and D. They are my go-to fix for brain/mental health. I look forward to reading you in Substack.
Not only do I want to see your stash, I'd love to see you pick yarn for a project and your thought process. Stash shopping is so fun!! And TBH sometimes when I see UA-camrs show off all their new acquisitions it makes me feel poor, and makes me want to buy more like I need to have what they have. You could even just highlight something from your stash each week, which I think lots of people would love to see.
This is a really helpful suggestion and I’m going to add it to the list of ongoing ideas I have for future videos! I think a shop my stash segment and even separate videos could be fine and also add some life back into this collection.
One of my best music teachers, a new England/quebecois fiddle player said - "when someone comes to hear you perform, they have chosen to come sit in your living room and listen to you. They want to be there. After that I didn't really get stage fright." 🥰🤩
I love all of this! Yes to sewing slower with intention, yes to having a living, breathing collection, yes to being an amorphous blob wrapped in fabric especially, yes to chasing joy, and yes to substack! Can’t wait to read your essay on raw wool! P.S. do u know Jessica Faith Cooper on UA-cam? She just came out with an ins and outs of knitting for 2024 also. If you don’t know her yet I feel like you’d love her!
Thank you for touching on your last two "out list" items; I personally struggle with feeling like my hand knits are too precious to wear and feel like very few people talk about this? So, I appreciate your acknowledgement of it and look forward to your thoughts :3 Secondly, yeah... Know you have a sister-in-starlight who is also struggling with crushing the wanton spending that was a hurricane through 2023 and will also be saying "no, our stash is beautiful use that" to themselves!
I definitely appreciate a new year this-is-what-im-not-doing going forward kind of vibe. Mine is actually the opposite of one of yours in that, I'm going to try to read LESS in 2024, as I've been pretty compulsively reading and listening to audiobooks for the past few years. Gonna try to limit myself to 36 books 😂 Hopping over to check out Sub Stack now!
I LOVE what you learned from Vlogmas. And what you showed us. When you’re authentic, the people who show up are in sync with YOU. Happy 2024 Tazhi!! 🎉. And “dopamine dressing” is awesome! Go for it.
Slowly catching up after all the things. Looking forward to whatever you put out in the future. I really like the idea of just being yourself. I am sure that you are aware that there are many levels of self that are truly you, or you could call them facets, I suppose. It seems that vloggers (or whatever they are called) feel that they always have to be up and excited. Well, that is not real life, sorry sweeties. Just you be you and I'll be me, and we can accept that. If we don't fit then we go our separate ways without recrimination. I do plan on staying.
Hi Tazhi, long time lurker, I just want to say thank you so much for making this video, and for saying out loud a lot of the things I have been doing and will be putting into practice in the new year. I too am so very tired of the code switching, giving too much of myself, in my case it's community work, and leaning ALL YHE WAY IN to who I am and how I move in this world. I am a new subscriber and will interact with you whenever and however you choose to do that. Happy 2024, and enjoy the ride ❤
Happy New Year! I come from a family of 'splainers and often have to remind myself that I don't have to jump into every info request. Sometimes you take time to carefully craft a detailed explanation and don't even get a simple thank you. So I understand your need to pull back.
Happy New Year Tazhi! Glad you're feeling better. I'm not allowed (self imposed) to pick up a book after 6pm because if I do either the book will be finished or the sun will be coming up and I have to get ready for the day. Even if it is a lousy book. I will not put it down until one of those two things happens. Also, "Thank you" IS a full sentence and boundaries are healthy (Yes, I'm aware you know this, but it can't hurt to have the confirmation. 😉) If you share your authentic self, some people will fall away. And that's OK because those aren't your people. Let them go. Not that my opinion matters, but I think you are on the right track. Grins T-rouble
Hey, it’s helpful to hear when my intentions are lining up with people who see the world in a similar way. I’ve done my fair share of staying up all night and reading so this definitely seems like a useful goal to have to preserve your sleep and your wellness.
Thanks for talking about Airtable. I went back to watch the vlogmas and you are light years ahead of me in functionality. I was excited to link my yarns to projects. Now, I’m anxious to dive deeper and use it more effectively. Thank you! You are a great teacher!
Something I’ve really had to examine was lookin at the value of all my clothes. When my handmade feel so precious and my store bought feel meh, then I really need to look at why I own the store bought and what I’m wearing. I want all of my clothes to feel great and make me happy and feel valuable.
I'm so excited about your Substack!! Also, I'm so glad that you're taking steps to better take care of your needs. Thanks for taking the time to share your life with us, it was great to spend some time with you this afternoon! xoxox
Hi Tashi! Thanks for sharing your outlook for 2024. Love the " in and out" concept. It's refreshing not to impose strict criteria for arbitrary periods of time. I'm also taking stock of my stash and will be shopping from it more when I start new projects. 2024 will be a year of centering on respecting myself, boundaries and spooooons! ❤ Wishing you the best as we navigate one more revolution through the stars ✨
"that is a capitalist term and we don't want that!" I come for the creativity, I stay for the political awareness. love you Tazhi. also wanted to say, i've also had trouble with removing impulse purchases from my life. these days i get my dopamine fix from actually using the stuff i already have in a way that gives me something out of it relatively quickly (so basically cast on something small or its weaving time baby!)
Such a wonderful video! I love your idea of an Ins and Outs list for 2024. One thing I am going to do during Lent 2024, I am not going to give up anything. I am going to take 40 days to knit hats and mittens for school children. All the best to you in 2024!
First time viewer and enjoyed your ins and outs! I think the getting up in the middle of the night thing is very much a woman thing and perhaps hormonally related? I find as I've aged it has stopped and I'm sleeping beautifully again. But I always used the hour I was up as a found hour to read. And reading enabled me to shut off my brain and eventually relax back to sleep. I find your body will get what sleep it needs and I also noticed that I tended to sleep decently every third night, which is what the body probably needs. Go with it, it might not go away for a while! Try to enjoy happy time with your book.
Welcome to the wool chaos and fiber joy - I’m so happy you’re here! You’re actually not the first person to suggest that it just might be what my body does normally which is both reassuring and frustrating 😂😂😂 but I’m going to try to find some medium where I listen to my body and rest when I can.
I totally feel you on de-connecting. At midnight on January 1 I deleted TikTok. I allowed it to absolutely monopolize my time even though it wasn’t adding any value to my life. There were times I’d be scrolling even though I could feel I wanted to stop!
Oooooh the Point of unnecesary Labour hits hard. I feel like a lot of people have this attitude ''you put yourself on the internet, so now you are obliged all my questions privately. I have so much issues with people sliding in my DMs with questions, but as a (recovering) People pleaser I still answer it, while feeling so frustrated about myself.
I feel all of this deeply and as a recovering people pleaser, I find it imperative to set that boundary and enforce it just to protect my peace. I think we’re all on our own journey but if you need someone to say it out loud, it’s more than okay to ignore those questions when you don’t have the spoons or you don’t want to. You don’t owe anyone anything and you already share so much.
I'm always thinking about my next project. But I rarely start a new project until the old one is done and blocked. So I'm always 'window' shopping yarn and patterns online so when I am done I have inforamtion overload and can't decide what I want to do.
I feel this deeply - that and the constant influx of new designs I want to make makes it really hard to start and stick with a project. I don’t have any answers, just want you to know that I’m in a similar boat.
I am also a serial starter; I just like the idea of the project, or learning a new stitch, or thinking about wearing something with natural fiber. I have a lot of WIPs, and sure .. maybe I am running out of space, BUT, I have a lot of things to chose from, once I start switching hyperfocus! I'm old enough now to know how my brain works, and if that means jumping from one project to another, then I'm going to do that. I also do (gently) challenge the idea of ND folks as being lazy- if my FOs look and function the same with out the arguably TORTUROUS steps of finishing... I'm not going to do them. I don't like it, they serve no purpose for me, and as long as the project is not for someone else? It's done when I say it's done. I may go back to the object later on and do the 'real finishing' later, but as long as it doesn't unravel or whatever, it's fine. I'm also just going to admit that I never swatch. Sure, I've had to rip back some projects, but somehow that's less annoying to me. Absolutely backwards, sure, but I'm not gonna question it lol I guess I just look at it as a practice run if that happens. I have never been happy trying to measure my successes or the ways I internally process things to other folks (it still happens sometimes, to be sure) but I also decided (read: gaslit myself into believing) that I'm not the 'weird' one/different one, they are! Things are so much more interesting when people are different, anyway. Keep doing what you're doing; you ARE a cool person with some amazing insight and skills.
I’m in for the foreseeable I wish more people in general (& I include myself) could just say I need to focus on what makes me happy and that’s that. Your welcome to stay and add to my joy, but also it’s fine if you don’t. You’ve inspired me to try and pull back, and not be afraid to say no when I can’t. thank you x
Oh, Tazhi, I am thrilled to hear about your Substack! You have so much hard won truth to share about how to be real and true to yourself, and how to live with joy and authenticity in a world that wants us to have neither. As your speaking goes straight to my heart, so does your writing. I'm on an IG break so I'm so glad you announced it here. I’m off to subscribe and dive in to more joy. ❤️ harpingJanet
I have a bit of impostor syndrome around the whole thing but I am doing what scares me and relentlessly chasing the things that fill me up with starlight and this writing adventure feels really good right now. It is very helpful to have someone like you rooting for me.
Bravo bravo!!!! I cannot wait to read your sub stack 😍. I totally feel you on the dressing how we love to dress. I have started sewing again and already people say “oh why are you dressed up?” And I ripped apart a dress to redo because I thought there were tooooo many gathers for my body shape. I will totally be working hard along side you to get those outside pressures out of my head!! Thanks for letting us see your true self so we know we aren’t the only ones out here 🥰🥰
That's Where I'm At... I've Been Wearing Victorian Clothes For The Last 6 Months. I Need The Little Bits Of Joy And Dignity That Dressing Like A Woman Brings Me. I Have Plans, I Don't Do Them. I Let The Urge Manifest When It Shall.
Damn Girl, You Sound Just Like Me. Sleep, Compliments, Complimenting Others. I Made Some Changes. I'm Still Working On The Sleep, I Just Changed My Work Schedule. Did A $4k Yarn Donate To Someone Who Could Use It.
Yes I Feel That Spoon-feeding. Preach! Being Authentic Is Easier, And You Don't Need To Please, Teach, And Brighten Others At The Cost Of Yourself. You're A Ball Of Sunlight, And Don't Allow Those Clouds To Obscure You.
My whole family got sick last month, so I missed most of Vlogmas. Ugh! But now that I feel better, I’ve got lots and lots of content to keep me company while I get back to knitting.
hi Tazhi! let me start this with, I love your videos :) I love listening to you and seeing what you make and your experiences. there's just one thing...the music in the background while you're talking is making it really really difficult for me to listen to you. I already knit while I listen and do some other adaptive stuff to make it possible for me to have enough attention to listen to you. but the music, well, every time those louder bits come along, I completely lose track of what you're saying and end up rewinding a bit to try to pick it up again. it makes me sad because I do really love your channel. just putting that out there. I know this is your space and you do whatever you want with it, and if you'd like me to delete this comment later so it's not here forever I'll do that.
This is really useful and constructive and I’m glad you shared it! I haven’t received this feedback yet so it never occurred to me but I’m sure you’re not the only person who feels this way. I can’t fix it for this one but I will definitely be mindful of the volume and tempo of music I choose for background going forward - I don’t want this to be prohibitive for anyone who wants to enjoy the videos.
Tazhi, your mindset about goals/guilt and treating intentions more like friends you’re inviting in was SO IMPORTANT FOR ME TO HEAR! Gonna go erase “goals” from my project idea list and pick a gentler word. Thanks from a fellow hobbit.
Thank you for being open and honest about wanting to do what is good for you! Too many content creators don't give that as much emphasis as they should. 🧶🧶🧶
Thank you for allowing us to peek into your awesomeness Tazhi! May you continuously bathe in starlight as you continue to chase joy.
Just a thought, maybe instead of "acquisitions", you can do a "stash dive" segment when you feel the inspiration to start a new project and have the spoons for sharing with us all. Happy New Year Tazhi!
This is an excellent idea and I’m going to save that for this year.
I'm excited for 2024 Tazhi being true to yourself! I really enjoy these kinds of videos where you're introspective and talk about the ways in which you want to move through the world because it in turn makes me think about what's important to me, too. Chasing joy is 100% the theme of the year. ❤
I love that you are recognizing that you can accept a compliment without justifying yourself. I’m working on this as well. Just say thank you. Brilliant. Fully enjoyed listening to you. Thank you.
You are a treasure. Thank you for keeping it real!
Dear youtube, please give me the capability to like this video every time Tazhi says something I agree with.
So much of what you are saying resonates so much with me.
Yesterday, I was with my bestie, and she very seriously said "I'm 40 this year. I want to be the mum that wears the loud colors, that doesn't care what people think of what I'm wearing. So I'm going to do it"
You're giving the same vibe and I'm along for the ride. Let's just feel free to be our true selves and ignore the haters ❤
Here. For. All. Of. This. Thank you for articulating all of this, so much resonates...
I am so happy for you! It is wonderful to have this insight at this point in your life. All the best
Love your videos and the energy you bring to 💖.
This all really resonates with me. It was great listening to someone I can relate to so much. Great video.
Yay to not worrying about finishing a project before starting!!🎉
Best video of the New Year. Everything you said resonates so deeply 🖤🖤
This is so wonderful! I did make it all the way to the end, and I am here for all of it! So many of the things you shared really resonated with me, and I found myself saying “Yessss!” to the screen so many times. Best wishes on the Ins and Outs for ‘24! See you next time!
Love this video! Everything you talked about….YAS!!!
I have learned to find joy and appreciation in things that others have; I don’t HAVE to have it because you do; I can love that you have it. Period.
You do you Tashi you are a wonderful person love that you take time to spend with us please look after yourself since you are beautiful inside and out wear what makes you happy you look wonderful no matter what
Give and receive more compliments! I completely agree and it is lovely to see this as something you are inviting into your life. I am a professor, and I started having students give a compliment to another classmate in the room and I tear up every single semester that this happens - seeing people give and receive compliments is SUCH a huge joy for me.
I love this exercise and I hope the students enjoy this as well - the world would be so much nicer if we were all a bit more generous and kind.
@@stitchesandstarlight They start it deeply uncomfortable but most open up to the experience and are genuinely excited to see each person give and get a compliment.
I still have to watch vlogmas as I was saving yours to watch when I am spinning and I am finally catching up on your podcast as I am spinning saving the best for last!!!💜🥰
I'm here for all of the things and you are delightful. I just read your recent substack post and it was beautiful ❤️. Here's to 2024 and whatever may come!! 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you so much, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! It was a real treat to write.
Omg your "time to plant new seeds" really resonated with me. It's what I've always naturally gravitated towards doing, but I never thought about it in those terms! Thank you for giving me the words that make sense 🥰
Thank you very much for your vlogmas! Even though I was quite worried about you a few times you made it!😊 Thank you also for letting us know you're not going to be podcasting as much just so we know and won't worry. I understand and agree with all you said. I wish you the best on this next leg of your journey. I hope you find peace, contentment, and joy!❤
Feeling your vibe so much, love spending some quiet time knitting listening to your beautiful soothing voice.
I think I really need to have a sit down with myself. I resonated with so much of what you were saying. This year I want to change my focus and lean into the things that make me happy and make me feel like me again. Wishing you kindness, love and happiness in 2024 ❤
Same to you! Thank you so much for the kind and thoughtful blessing.
Love the framing of ins and outs. It feels like choosing some vibes and living our lives.
And! Love the substack plan. The move towards this format feels like late aughts/early 2010s blogspot/blogger and I LOVE it. The maker blogger space was huge for me.
It very much feels that way and I’m really enjoying taking a few moments in the morning with my coffee to read one or two posts. I have a fair bit of impostor syndrome around it but I’m doing it anyway.
Well done you!
ride or die,friend. i'm in.
thank you for doing it for us. something shifted for me over vlogmas...
Tazhi - we loved you in 2023 but think the you in 2024 will be even more amazing now that you being true to yourself! Up, down or coasting - those of us coming to your channel are here for the real you and so appreciate that you are open to sharing that with us. Sending a big hug for 2024 and beyond.
This is such a kind thing to say - thank you so much for this and for your presence here.
Ahh, happy new year! Since finding your channel early during Vlogmas last month, I now get a little rush of excitement whenever I see a new video from you. (But please don't read that as pressure to stay on a posting schedule that doesn't work for you -- I'm extra neurospicy too, so fully resonate with and agree with what you're saying about following the seasons and moving in a way that works for you!) So appreciate you laying out your ins and outs for this year -- mine are similar, especially when it comes to disconnecting more. Definitely resonate with the impact doom-scrolling and being "terminally online" can have on folks. Wishing you a fantastic 2024, and so grateful to you for taking us along on the journey!
Thank you for being here, new(ish) friend! I’m so glad you found the channel and enjoyed last month’s chaos enough to stick around 😂😂😂 Wishing you all of the same + lots of fiber joy in your making this year.
LOVE THIS! This was such a positive and affirming way to start the year. I am also one that struggles with “goals” and tracking. Also, I would be here for it if you want to show us your process of stash diving and logging. I can see you have so much yarn-y goodness behind you.
I think a stash logging video could be fun and would actually get me working on it instead of putting it off forever and ever. I’m going to keep this in mind.
Really enjoyed watching your Vlogmas videos. Was great to get to know you virtually and love that you keep it real!
I resonate with you sooo much! I have made all the same decisions for self acceptance and care as you and I fully embrace the seasonal journey. Yay for you! I can't wait to see what you make (or don't) :) Edit: rewatched this video. I think I AM you. I'm so grateful for your reflection.
I’m so glad you found a mirror here, sometimes all we want is to be seen and known.
Regarding saying "Thank you" when receiving compliments and not trying to devalue it by pointing out flaws; I taught myself (when I felt like I couldn't just say thank you, because sometimes my brain won't let it just be a complete sentence) I would say like, "Thank you, I really enjoy ". I found that really helped ground me in my making and made accepting the compliments easier because I was able to focus my attention on the positive that I liked and it helped me reinforce that they liked my work too. Really helps with the imposter syndrome too. Happy New Year Tazhi! I hope the year is full of magic and joy for you and your family! 💖
This is brilliant reframing, thank you so much for sharing. I’m going to add this to my arsenal.
Happy New Year!!! I watched this video while working in my art journal which is one of my intentions for the year, taking breaks from knitting throughout the year so I lessen my chances of overusing my hands.
I love this for you! Happy doodling and painting and sketching and collating and whatever else you do in your journal. I used to have one I worked in regularly and I think I’m being called to pick it back up and play a little.
@@stitchesandstarlight it's fun to play and not be perfect, enjoy
totally with you on being done with bi-phasic sleep patterns (and/or figuring out how to function when they are happening) and the pandemic of expectations of info should be spoon-fed at all times in unreasonable quantities -- and hooray, yes HOORAY for cardigans, they are the best. glad you're feeling well again, and enjoy this deep winter for what it is.
I really appreciate the real you.
Yay for reckless and rebellious cast ons! I'm all in. I'm someone who doesn't know, I think can't know, if I'm going to love a knitting project until I really touch and feel it and interact with it. I'm cool with swatching but it doesn't let me know if I've got the emotional investment in the idea to see it through. I've realised there's no really no other way than trying things with with intention and seeing what flows for me. I tried to be better at selecting by knitting loads of swatches and evaluating them. But I just ended up with loads of swatches, indecision and over thinking. 2024 a year of doing by doing (not doing what I think I ought be be doing)! X
You communicate extremely well.
I am cheering you on so much here, though I know I am stranger to you. In January of 2023 I declared it my Year of Chasing Joy. I decided I would do the things I needed to do and with the rest of my time I would chase joy without worrying about what I should be doing, or what other people thought of me. And it was wonderful. I am so much happier, creative, and filled with joy than I was a year ago. And the joy I was starting to lose (in my writing mostly) has returned and I even ended the year with more publications that I'd had in ages. I learned how to knit, I learned how to spin, I processed my first fleece, I sewed garments, I fell down every rabbit hole that looked enticing and didn't fault myself for crawling back out again if things down there didn't look so great and it was glorious. My life is so much better now than it was then, even though this year brought my new PTSD diagnosis to go along with my long-time bipolar diagnosis. So I'm cheering you on and I hope your Year of Chasing Joy brings you more good things than you could even imagine.
Let’s have coffee! Love your new life! Your enthusiasm is contagious!! Happy New Year to you Christinayonovich59!!
This is a delightful story and I am so grateful you shared it, and even more glad you had such a wonderful year centered on your own care and joy.
"Ethereal bubble of sunshine" 🥰❤️❤️❤️ I love this. Thank you for your encouragement last month. I'm knitting my first handspun project and it's bringing me so much joy! It's the chickadee cowl on Ravelry. Love your authenticity.
Happy making and happy loving your yarn a second time - isn’t working with handspun delightful?
@stitchesandstarlight yes, yes it is ❤
Your sentiments are resonating so hard. Re no buy especially, hard same, in general, and especially with fiber art related purchases. I don't exist in absolutes. What I find moderately successful with purchasing is taking a time out. If I l o v e whatever "it" is, and I n e e d it, I'll let it simmer for at least 24 hours before I go for it, and it's cut down on emotional purchases more than I expected. Here's to being surrounded by the people we're for, and who are for us. ❤
I’m going to add this to my list of strategies to help me remain in line with my intentions - a timeout sounds like a really actionable way to decrease impulse spending.
"Harkening to a LiveJournal blogging days" was a reference that hit me like a two by four to the face. Wow, it's been a second since I thought about that website. However, I have staggered over to substack and subscribed, and I'm looking forward to your posts there!
I definitely dated myself with that reference but it was the only thing I could think of that would explain my enthusiasm to write and share.
Thanks for sharing all your thoughts with us. I am sitting here nodding in agreement! Your podcasts will make this year a lot better for me, with your knowledge, your enthusiasm, your joy, and your realness. Thank you!!!!
Thank you for being here!
Happy New Year! Thank you for sharing your Ins and Outs; the concept (and your list) sounds very much contemplative and reflective instead of goal oriented. While I listened, I was thinking of words like space and grace and authenticity. It was quite beautiful. Wishing you a year of space to reflect what is giving you spoons, grace to care for yourself and listen to what calls you, and authenticity to be the full rad human that you are.
Thank you so much for such a thoughtful blessing - I really appreciate it.
I recently gathered all the projects together on my sofa, where I already had yarn and pattern idea/plan, and then numbered them with a post-it in each bag. Then I wrote a list on a white board. I have 33 projects already of interest! I was gobsmacked at that number-but it also helped keep realize why I’m feeling overwhelmed with so many ideas floating in my head. Now I reshelved them (kind of) in number order so I can actually access whatever feels most joyful and interesting all the time! Wow I’m feeling good to have that done, looking forward to using stash and loving what I’m making this year. Sounds like we’re on the same wavelength. ❤. And we are never “too much,” though I totally get that, being effusive, talkative and smart too! Like you, encouraging words are my love language. I can so relate girl. It’s all good.
Oh I love the idea of a yarn/pattern project board! I’m going to have to try that - I love having things written down where I can see it and be inspired by it.
Sorry to hear you were ill during the holidays. I have been having similar sleep disturbances too. I think I need too take vitamins B12 and D. They are my go-to fix for brain/mental health. I look forward to reading you in Substack.
Not only do I want to see your stash, I'd love to see you pick yarn for a project and your thought process. Stash shopping is so fun!!
And TBH sometimes when I see UA-camrs show off all their new acquisitions it makes me feel poor, and makes me want to buy more like I need to have what they have. You could even just highlight something from your stash each week, which I think lots of people would love to see.
This is a really helpful suggestion and I’m going to add it to the list of ongoing ideas I have for future videos! I think a shop my stash segment and even separate videos could be fine and also add some life back into this collection.
What a great life affirming and inspirational podcast. Thank you❤
Ah, how realistic and grounded and refreshing your Ins and Outs are!
One of my best music teachers, a new England/quebecois fiddle player said - "when someone comes to hear you perform, they have chosen to come sit in your living room and listen to you. They want to be there. After that I didn't really get stage fright." 🥰🤩
I love all of this! Yes to sewing slower with intention, yes to having a living, breathing collection, yes to being an amorphous blob wrapped in fabric especially, yes to chasing joy, and yes to substack! Can’t wait to read your essay on raw wool!
P.S. do u know Jessica Faith Cooper on UA-cam? She just came out with an ins and outs of knitting for 2024 also. If you don’t know her yet I feel like you’d love her!
I will add it to my watch list the next time I need some company for a bit of spinning or knitting. Thanks for the recommendation.
Thank you for touching on your last two "out list" items; I personally struggle with feeling like my hand knits are too precious to wear and feel like very few people talk about this? So, I appreciate your acknowledgement of it and look forward to your thoughts :3
Secondly, yeah... Know you have a sister-in-starlight who is also struggling with crushing the wanton spending that was a hurricane through 2023 and will also be saying "no, our stash is beautiful use that" to themselves!
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I definitely appreciate a new year this-is-what-im-not-doing going forward kind of vibe. Mine is actually the opposite of one of yours in that, I'm going to try to read LESS in 2024, as I've been pretty compulsively reading and listening to audiobooks for the past few years. Gonna try to limit myself to 36 books 😂
Hopping over to check out Sub Stack now!
I LOVE what you learned from Vlogmas. And what you showed us. When you’re authentic, the people who show up are in sync with YOU. Happy 2024 Tazhi!! 🎉. And “dopamine dressing” is awesome! Go for it.
Slowly catching up after all the things. Looking forward to whatever you put out in the future. I really like the idea of just being yourself. I am sure that you are aware that there are many levels of self that are truly you, or you could call them facets, I suppose. It seems that vloggers (or whatever they are called) feel that they always have to be up and excited. Well, that is not real life, sorry sweeties. Just you be you and I'll be me, and we can accept that. If we don't fit then we go our separate ways without recrimination. I do plan on staying.
Hi Tazhi, long time lurker, I just want to say thank you so much for making this video, and for saying out loud a lot of the things I have been doing and will be putting into practice in the new year.
I too am so very tired of the code switching, giving too much of myself, in my case it's community work, and leaning ALL YHE WAY IN to who I am and how I move in this world.
I am a new subscriber and will interact with you whenever and however you choose to do that. Happy 2024, and enjoy the ride ❤
Happy New Year! I come from a family of 'splainers and often have to remind myself that I don't have to jump into every info request. Sometimes you take time to carefully craft a detailed explanation and don't even get a simple thank you. So I understand your need to pull back.
Yes, exactly this. I don’t think I ever thought about my need to explain but I definitely think it contributed to my burnout.
People pleasing can be difficult to combat. I just have to keep reminding myself that I am people too.
Happy New Year Tazhi! Glad you're feeling better. I'm not allowed (self imposed) to pick up a book after 6pm because if I do either the book will be finished or the sun will be coming up and I have to get ready for the day. Even if it is a lousy book. I will not put it down until one of those two things happens. Also, "Thank you" IS a full sentence and boundaries are healthy (Yes, I'm aware you know this, but it can't hurt to have the confirmation. 😉) If you share your authentic self, some people will fall away. And that's OK because those aren't your people. Let them go. Not that my opinion matters, but I think you are on the right track. Grins T-rouble
Hey, it’s helpful to hear when my intentions are lining up with people who see the world in a similar way. I’ve done my fair share of staying up all night and reading so this definitely seems like a useful goal to have to preserve your sleep and your wellness.
Thanks for talking about Airtable. I went back to watch the vlogmas and you are light years ahead of me in functionality. I was excited to link my yarns to projects. Now, I’m anxious to dive deeper and use it more effectively. Thank you! You are a great teacher!
I absolutely LOVED this episode and LOVE your ins and out for 2024- especially the unnecessary labor!! 😂 OMG it’s SOOOO TRUE! ❤
Happy new year god’s blessings to you and your family 😍😍
Hello and happy New Year! 🎉
Something I’ve really had to examine was lookin at the value of all my clothes. When my handmade feel so precious and my store bought feel meh, then I really need to look at why I own the store bought and what I’m wearing. I want all of my clothes to feel great and make me happy and feel valuable.
that is my same sleep pattern.
is hard to get used to
I'm so excited about your Substack!! Also, I'm so glad that you're taking steps to better take care of your needs. Thanks for taking the time to share your life with us, it was great to spend some time with you this afternoon! xoxox
Thank you so much for such a kind comment, Vivian, and for always being a source of inspiration to me.
Hi Tashi! Thanks for sharing your outlook for 2024.
Love the " in and out" concept. It's refreshing not to impose strict criteria for arbitrary periods of time.
I'm also taking stock of my stash and will be shopping from it more when I start new projects.
2024 will be a year of centering on respecting myself, boundaries and spooooons! ❤
Wishing you the best as we navigate one more revolution through the stars ✨
"that is a capitalist term and we don't want that!" I come for the creativity, I stay for the political awareness. love you Tazhi. also wanted to say, i've also had trouble with removing impulse purchases from my life. these days i get my dopamine fix from actually using the stuff i already have in a way that gives me something out of it relatively quickly (so basically cast on something small or its weaving time baby!)
I’m hoping shopping my stash helps with the fomo and the rush to go shopping - I have so much on the wall behind me that just needs a big of love.
Such a wonderful video! I love your idea of an Ins and Outs list for 2024. One thing I am going to do during Lent 2024, I am not going to give up anything. I am going to take 40 days to knit hats and mittens for school children. All the best to you in 2024!
First time viewer and enjoyed your ins and outs! I think the getting up in the middle of the night thing is very much a woman thing and perhaps hormonally related? I find as I've aged it has stopped and I'm sleeping beautifully again. But I always used the hour I was up as a found hour to read. And reading enabled me to shut off my brain and eventually relax back to sleep. I find your body will get what sleep it needs and I also noticed that I tended to sleep decently every third night, which is what the body probably needs. Go with it, it might not go away for a while! Try to enjoy happy time with your book.
Welcome to the wool chaos and fiber joy - I’m so happy you’re here! You’re actually not the first person to suggest that it just might be what my body does normally which is both reassuring and frustrating 😂😂😂 but I’m going to try to find some medium where I listen to my body and rest when I can.
I totally feel you on de-connecting. At midnight on January 1 I deleted TikTok. I allowed it to absolutely monopolize my time even though it wasn’t adding any value to my life. There were times I’d be scrolling even though I could feel I wanted to stop!
Oooooh the Point of unnecesary Labour hits hard. I feel like a lot of people have this attitude ''you put yourself on the internet, so now you are obliged all my questions privately. I have so much issues with people sliding in my DMs with questions, but as a (recovering) People pleaser I still answer it, while feeling so frustrated about myself.
I feel all of this deeply and as a recovering people pleaser, I find it imperative to set that boundary and enforce it just to protect my peace. I think we’re all on our own journey but if you need someone to say it out loud, it’s more than okay to ignore those questions when you don’t have the spoons or you don’t want to. You don’t owe anyone anything and you already share so much.
I'm always thinking about my next project. But I rarely start a new project until the old one is done and blocked. So I'm always 'window' shopping yarn and patterns online so when I am done I have inforamtion overload and can't decide what I want to do.
I feel this deeply - that and the constant influx of new designs I want to make makes it really hard to start and stick with a project. I don’t have any answers, just want you to know that I’m in a similar boat.
This conversation really resonates with me. Happy New Year. Have a wonderful week.
I am also a serial starter; I just like the idea of the project, or learning a new stitch, or thinking about wearing something with natural fiber. I have a lot of WIPs, and sure .. maybe I am running out of space, BUT, I have a lot of things to chose from, once I start switching hyperfocus! I'm old enough now to know how my brain works, and if that means jumping from one project to another, then I'm going to do that.
I also do (gently) challenge the idea of ND folks as being lazy- if my FOs look and function the same with out the arguably TORTUROUS steps of finishing... I'm not going to do them. I don't like it, they serve no purpose for me, and as long as the project is not for someone else? It's done when I say it's done. I may go back to the object later on and do the 'real finishing' later, but as long as it doesn't unravel or whatever, it's fine.
I'm also just going to admit that I never swatch. Sure, I've had to rip back some projects, but somehow that's less annoying to me. Absolutely backwards, sure, but I'm not gonna question it lol I guess I just look at it as a practice run if that happens. I have never been happy trying to measure my successes or the ways I internally process things to other folks (it still happens sometimes, to be sure) but I also decided (read: gaslit myself into believing) that I'm not the 'weird' one/different one, they are! Things are so much more interesting when people are different, anyway.
Keep doing what you're doing; you ARE a cool person with some amazing insight and skills.
I’m in for the foreseeable I wish more people in general (& I include myself) could just say I need to focus on what makes me happy and that’s that. Your welcome to stay and add to my joy, but also it’s fine if you don’t. You’ve inspired me to try and pull back, and not be afraid to say no when I can’t. thank you x
Oh, Tazhi, I am thrilled to hear about your Substack! You have so much hard won truth to share about how to be real and true to yourself, and how to live with joy and authenticity in a world that wants us to have neither. As your speaking goes straight to my heart, so does your writing. I'm on an IG break so I'm so glad you announced it here. I’m off to subscribe and dive in to more joy. ❤️ harpingJanet
I have a bit of impostor syndrome around the whole thing but I am doing what scares me and relentlessly chasing the things that fill me up with starlight and this writing adventure feels really good right now. It is very helpful to have someone like you rooting for me.
@@stitchesandstarlight You honestly deserve ALL my rooting for you! There’s no imposters in sight.
Just an FYI, you are a Rad human. I enjoy your perspective.
Thank you so much for saying so! I’m so glad you enjoyed the video.
Bravo bravo!!!! I cannot wait to read your sub stack 😍. I totally feel you on the dressing how we love to dress. I have started sewing again and already people say “oh why are you dressed up?” And I ripped apart a dress to redo because I thought there were tooooo many gathers for my body shape. I will totally be working hard along side you to get those outside pressures out of my head!! Thanks for letting us see your true self so we know we aren’t the only ones out here 🥰🥰
That's Where I'm At... I've Been Wearing Victorian Clothes For The Last 6 Months. I Need The Little Bits Of Joy And Dignity That Dressing Like A Woman Brings Me. I Have Plans, I Don't Do Them. I Let The Urge Manifest When It Shall.
Damn Girl, You Sound Just Like Me. Sleep, Compliments, Complimenting Others. I Made Some Changes. I'm Still Working On The Sleep, I Just Changed My Work Schedule. Did A $4k Yarn Donate To Someone Who Could Use It.
Yes I Feel That Spoon-feeding. Preach! Being Authentic Is Easier, And You Don't Need To Please, Teach, And Brighten Others At The Cost Of Yourself. You're A Ball Of Sunlight, And Don't Allow Those Clouds To Obscure You.
2024 is the year of the Hobbit!
My whole family got sick last month, so I missed most of Vlogmas. Ugh! But now that I feel better, I’ve got lots and lots of content to keep me company while I get back to knitting.
hi Tazhi! let me start this with, I love your videos :) I love listening to you and seeing what you make and your experiences. there's just one thing...the music in the background while you're talking is making it really really difficult for me to listen to you. I already knit while I listen and do some other adaptive stuff to make it possible for me to have enough attention to listen to you. but the music, well, every time those louder bits come along, I completely lose track of what you're saying and end up rewinding a bit to try to pick it up again. it makes me sad because I do really love your channel. just putting that out there. I know this is your space and you do whatever you want with it, and if you'd like me to delete this comment later so it's not here forever I'll do that.
This is really useful and constructive and I’m glad you shared it! I haven’t received this feedback yet so it never occurred to me but I’m sure you’re not the only person who feels this way. I can’t fix it for this one but I will definitely be mindful of the volume and tempo of music I choose for background going forward - I don’t want this to be prohibitive for anyone who wants to enjoy the videos.
@@stitchesandstarlight thank you so much! ❤️
Tazhi, your mindset about goals/guilt and treating intentions more like friends you’re inviting in was SO IMPORTANT FOR ME TO HEAR! Gonna go erase “goals” from my project idea list and pick a gentler word. Thanks from a fellow hobbit.
Heck yes, I love this for you. Gentler words for gentle making and gentle joys.
Thank you for being open and honest about wanting to do what is good for you! Too many content creators don't give that as much emphasis as they should. 🧶🧶🧶