2 Things You Can Do Today to Make Your EX More Attracted to You | Changing Your EXs Mind Quickly
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- 2 Things You Can Do Today to Make Your EX More Attracted to You
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Coach can you link that book about andrew i cant seem to find it anywere not sure if am spelling it wrong
1. Increase your value.
2. Decrease your neediness.
My ex don't have social media. We met online- don't run in the same circles. He will never know what I'm doing now &, can't see if i leveled up or not. He won't reach out and neither will I....and life will go on. We gotta learn to leave people alone when they leave. BYE!
@@Photo-ms1mo where do you live cause the numbers don't lie. Very few people actually make over $100k in the US. So either you're lying or you belong to an environment where wealthiness is the norm. But it's certainly not the norm for regular every day people.
@@Photo-ms1mo Idk where you were in southern Cali, but we ain't hurting for attractive women out here. Not in LA, San Diego, or even up north. Actual wealthy people aren't the norm in my experience. Most people here are working class.
Coach Black,
I appreciated and enjoyed this video so much. As someone who was in no contact with my ex for 6 months, he finally reached out and we gradually started texting again, mostly me just responding. We finally met up in a large group 2 months after he reached out. The attraction is there. Of course. But now he’s coming towards me, asking me questions about my life. I continue to lower my expectations, be patient, act neutral, keep emotional and physical distance and to be friends on the surface level. It’s going slow but it’s happening. I have changed in no contact. It was amazing to finally see him again though! ❤️ I do want him back. But in the right way of course. From the position of value. He has to earn me back/prove he is worthy.
I love this for you ❤
6 months of emotional pain. God fuckin dam
@@BigBadWolfGang99 Well, it was 6 months of regrowth for me. Building myself and redefining my worth, rediscovering my passions and exerting my independence.
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how is the situtation now? i am experiencing the same things now.
@@heematara27
Yes, thats true.
Even if you are working on all that things, its Allways a choice, the other person also need to prove there willingness to make a effort.
If not, we deserve better.
I got fat like gained 50lbs during my 5 year relationship, and haven’t had real job for like 2 years the my partner dumped me … I lost 50 lbs after a year of breakup, and now re building my career from scratch ….
That personal health is key for attraction!
Your videos keep helping me remain in no contact, thank you!, need all the help I can get.
Man.. i just need to find a way to get over the heartbreak. She is gone.. family broken.. years of memories tormenting me every day.. nothing helps
how are you now ?
Can you do a video about depression/grief and antidepressants effect on relationships. The pull back and emotional blunting and low libido the medication causes and does that effect their ability to recognize your value? She started the meds in Jan. Friday, she communicated to me she felt like she was drowning in sorrow (her grandma passed away on Mon.) and needed to heal by herself. This is a 180 degree turn from the beginning. And here l am.
Thank you so much. My mentality is changing a lot seeing your videos
I have no contact since 1 month, just civil when it comes to our baby before I used to look for him I used to think the worst had to have him and fix things that made me beg him I noticed he never beg me he was ok with the breakup so I just left it alone now Im just doing me
THANK- you! NO Contact IS the new super power/best self-respect move! Great content on you channel, regarding human psychology and and break up dynamics!
I sware every video I see calms my mind more and more when I start thinking heavily about my ex
LISTEN TO COACH BLAC..... FOCUS ON YOURSELF....GO NO CONTACT....YOU WILL GET YOUR ENERGY BACK....AND BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE.... I'VE BEEN IN NO CONTACT SINCE JANUARY....MY EX IS IN THERAPY BECAUSE THEY CANNOT STOP THINKING ABOUT ME....LONG STORY SHORT A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN CAME TO ME AND SAID ITS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT AND WANTS TO GET TO KNOW ME....TRUST....EITHER YOUR EX WILL COME BACK OR SOMEONE NEW WILL.
Best explanation on attraction I’ve heard. Others are very vague on this subject. 😊
I had went NC for 20 days she reached out then went cold again saying she doesn’t see a future etc etc yet when she reached out she cried and was jealous I was doing stuff that’s fun without her so it’s just really confusing I’m going back to NC because I was doing well.
I would bet on it that there’s someone else in the picture she hasn’t told you about. when it isn’t going well with him, she reaches out to you.. but when they’re good, she’s ghosting you. She’ll reach out again to keep you holding on until she figures out who she wants. I say move on and level up. Wishing you the best!
@@sunflower15273 Completely agree with that this person said. She is bread-crumbing you(and using your good energy) even tho she is moving on, don't give her the satisfaction, detach completely, move on, and protect your peace.
Bro always ask people what they want when they contact you. Chop through the bullshit and small talk. Get to the heart of what it is. If she doesn't want to fix things, then she needs to quit talking to you. I'm not in the business of letting women cry on my shoulder when the dude they want is acting up or not showing them attention. Put yourself FIRST and if that pisses them off, then fuck them. You certainly don't owe anyone, and especially someone who left you anything. Not your time, emotional labor, etc.
Coach Black is God really. When I follow his advice they work like magic ❤
I haven’t watched this video yet but I’m at the point where I just don’t care anymore. Screw him. I changed my number. After he threatened to call the police on me when I didn’t even do anything days a lot. So I’m over him I deserve so much more.
I subbed to you, I definitely see you quoting the coach Corey Wayne's 😅
Great video coach you are truly an inspiration!!
Coach you always on time ,thank you
you can be the most attractive person in the world but if they don't love you anymore nothing will help. They just might want something else and constant improving yourself will not help (of course it;s good to improve yourself if you should, but let us not forget that it's easy to fall into the role "I'm never good enough" which is not true).My point is that for ex. your ex prefers tall people while you are short. Just a simple example. Or they can't see your value despite you having it. For ex. you have a PhD and your ex prefers people without PhD. Would you say it's not attractive enough and you should work on yourself? Of course not.
THANK YOU COACH BLAC! YOUR THE MAN
10 months since break up and its still hard...
Harder for me that she call my bestfriend every week...
But I will stay strong...
Brother you gotta stop talking to her. Don’t be rude abt it and don’t straight up tell her that you’re not gonna talk to her, just do it naturally and if she texts you, keep it as short as possible. Do this for a while and I bet things will change
@@Jakuboooooooooo You missunderstand...
I have no contact..
We do not talk, write or something else and I deleted her number but I know she call him.
Why she talking to ur best friend Even if it's about u ? U need to check ur friend , tell him to stop answer her calls and messages
if he didn't cut him too my guy
Ur mental health is important u need peace..
@@xXxPhoenixxXx17 ohhhh yea I thought you were saying that she calls you her best friend
@@mohammedazhari6245 My friend is married and I trust him. But yeah - at the end everything is possible.
We havnt talked the last 3 weeks cause Im really busy and thats good for me but last time he told me "she still ask about me..."
Meanwhile I told him not to answer any questions about me , cause if she wanna know anything - she should ask me and no one else. If it´s not important enough for her, she dont need to know how Im doing.
Thank you brother 🙏🏽
Please coach make a video on accused of cheating when you didn’t even cheat or near to it . We guys broke up and had no contact for 3 months , in those 3 months I created new memories to suppress the old ones , and now he says why did you spoke to that guy or any other after breakup , you cheated on me ! Like how ? If I cheated on him I would never go back to my boyfriend to talk and sort the breakup ! What to do coach need help on this
I've been in no contact since the day he said he wasn't going on vacation. It's 4 weeks now. No real explanation just decided after a stupid argument he wasn't going. He expects me to chase as normal, not this time. I'm tempted but staying strong. I don't have an official break up or closure and I don't use social media only for recipes We don't follow each other anyway after 3 years . I don't even have a picture. Just wondering what to do now?
Kinda sounds like you are better off without this person... The best thing you could do in this situation is level up, focus on yourself and as time goes on, all the things that align with you will fall into place.
hey you may want to see what kind of attachment he has so you will have some clue what to do next. It’s really suck when you have no closure or official breakup. I went through a breakup few days ago and went no contact immediate. As I understand about my case, there is nothing like he would reach out to me, the reason he broke up with me is also vague. You can also write a letter everything you want to say with him but don’t send it to him. It will help you ease a bit although it can be very emotional.
oh right and mg ex also like your ex that they want us to chase them like always. i have done with that
Perfect video, perfect time. Thanks G !
Good timing, Coach. Thank you
How would they notice your improvement (gym,therapy, etc) if they don’t follow you and you have no mutuals? Also if you were the one who messed up in the relationship (no cheating) what are the chances they will reach out during or after no contract?
Curiosity will make them come find you some how
You messed up .. u should reach out with good changes in urself..
@@mswr3351 can you elaborate on the second part? How should I reach out? I’m not sure how I should go about it or even start? I’ve apologized in the past already so I feel like that might not be a good idea to do again. A lot of people are like “you should ask her to meet at this cafe or for dinner etc etc” but I’m like why would she even agree to that when I messed up and made her extremely upset during the break up with my negative behavior.
@@JMNID shudnt rly reach out until a bit, also u can't make it seem like ur needy, also u cud reach out by naming somewhere u went like a question about it or something that reminds them of a good memory you both had together :). But after all of these vids I've seen NC is very effective
@@dankie2046 I have question for you. What of it your the opposite sex, and they blocked you. What would you advice?
What if you have chronic health problems and can't do things like go to the gym and get fit? 🙁
very helpful, thank you!
What are your thoughts on removing or keeping images of you and your ex on instagram?
Exactly text equals wait, call equals wait. They don’t want this no more, yo go no contact. I sent a text to the lady I love 2 days ago. I’ve recently had texts from her and she’s telling me she misses me and thinks about me and is looking at dates for us to go away for a night. She’s still not making me her priority so until she does then she doesn’t get me fully
it would be strange not to communicate
So how the hell am I supposed to raise attraction ? Can anybody tell me I’d be grateful
This is gonna sound counterintuitive but u have to truly be willing to loose them to be strong enough to be attractive to them. U cant fake it . And if u are really in that place you've already won. If it works out you'll be strong and know exactly what to do. Like meeting your ex is just a new person. And if it doesn't ur already healed so fuck it. Go meet a new person. Real talk.
What if she broke up with you cause of neglect
We started communicating. Having open convo about everything and agreed to start fresh and keep it light.
No contact worked .. so How often should I reach out now that we are speaking again?
@Coach Blac - Blacademic, Since the break up with my ex, it's now been 7 months. I believe he came to my house on the 5th month, 2 mornings in a row, but I couldn't tell if it was him because the car was different and I couldn't see his face clearly. No one answered the door because it was a family situation we were going through at the time and we didn't trust any unknown person that came knocking on the door.
1. Should I Call Him to find out if it was him, even though he asked me never to contact him again?
2. Would I Be Breaking No Contact If I Do? 😢😢
2 months no contact and now a date this weekend
Steak house fellas
I need your personal conversation with you,but i don't know how to arrange that,im working on it,atthe moment I have a cheap phone
thank you ❤
I recently been dumped from my ex and we were together for 6 years. In the beginning she was asking for space and I didn’t understand it so I begged and told her how much I love her but she didn’t seem to care. She then told me I think we should end things and that she wants to see other people. Days later yesterday on Mother’s Day I texted happy mothers and she responded I still expressed my feelings on how much I love her but then she said something different to me she said I will always love and I told you I need a little bit of space. I told her I’m confuse because you said space and then you also said I think we should end things and i wanna see other people. Now she said space again. Her response was I’m always gonna love no matter what I hope you know that. I’m confuse on what she’s trying to do can somebody help.
Go no contact. At least 3 months unless she texts you first. Restart her attraction for you. Stop the chase. She walked away let her win you back. If she doesn’t then you move on. Keep yourself busy. Gym, work, new hobby. Don’t fight the urge to reach out.
Trust me I was the same.
5 year relationship where I got left because “ she wanted time “.
I was reaching out first all the time and begging at times.’ This was last year and broke up around January 2022. Around September i went cold no contact. She started reaching out first now all the time and is now the pursuit. In time I developed new hobbies, lost 60lbs, met other woman.
@@tmgtrz are you guys back together and stronger?
@@yoYnR no we aren’t together but that decision is truly up to you whether or not by the end of no contact you wanna get back with her or not. I could’ve got back but the time I spent on myself was enough for me to wanna just be single and love me life & if you wanna just be friends with her that is also only up to you. We aren’t friends that talk everyday but maybe once a month and that fine with me.
Ty
Your feelings changing or lack of attraction. In a marriage the contract should be honored to it's end nothing else
EXACTLY!!!!! When a marriage is involved, that's something totally different!! We made vows and commitments! Through good and bad times sickness and health!! There was alot of days I was unhappy and just flat out didn't like my wife! But I always prayed and hope for the best and that things change!! I too realized that I needed to work on me, set the tone and take the lead!! Its a work in progress but it does work!! You have to commit to being better every single day!!!!
@@LEOBOI-79 this has to apply to both genders. The women are given too much leeway. You don't get the right not to honor or uphold your end of the contract just cause your feelings change. Even if someone cheats & is physical. If they are changing allow them to change & ride off into the sunset. If either persons behavior is on going & consistent over a long period of time then that's different but it there is actual change then stay married.
How does the future look for the next generation when everyone teaches leave as soon as your feelings are hurt?
@Amandla Awethu 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 TOTALLY AGREE!!!!! My feelings were/are hurt but everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect! We all know right from wrong!! If its not ment to be I feel that God will let me know!!
@@LEOBOI-79 I as a man even though I know we as men hurt women in all aspects. You never throw away your mate cause the echo chamber says it's a good thing. I am a nation builder. We are at war with everything & everyone. You cannot secure a place for our future children & generations if you continue to split money, residents, bills, family teachings. Our nation is split. I'm tired of bitter loud mouth unpicked unkept unwanted women giving bad advice. I'm tired of pandering as men saying I'll love you better, grass is greener. Why not teach the next generation make your own grass greener. Why not make where you pay your hear your paradise. Stop teaching start over.
Congratulations on your marriage & hold her tight (don't simp, don't pander) be a man. Move in honor dignity & respect.
Take her out to dinner, 🥰 peace
@Amandla Awethu Thanks for the kind and true words bro!!!!💪🏾💪🏾 Im working on it!!!🤣
No contact goes on for along time 😫
Hello
Blackademic haha funny
Nice
Hey coach, My ex of 3 years broke up with me in Dec. and right away started dating someone form work. is this still a rebound? Or are they serious?
It’s a rebound. When you are emotionally devastated from losing a long relationship like that feeling that intimacy again feels amazing.
I dated a woman after a long relationship and I thought it wasn’t a rebound, but looking back on it a few years later it absolutely was.
hi how about the ex going right back to dating app. it’s so toxic i know i also going back to dating app so i noticed he unmatched me and stopped checking my story too. i did NC for a week already
@@quincy-2000 how long does it usually last? I feel like my ex is addicted to toxic relationships, she stayed in one for 7 years before me. She alway told me I was best person she’s ever been with.
@@ariellethomas-be1qz Some people are serial monogamous, meaning they cannot exist as a single person as must always be dating or talking to someone.
I know a girl who jumped into a relationship immediately after breaking up with my friend and they were together for two years. She’s still with the man 3 years later to the present day.
He was a rebound, but he was also a lost love interest from the past so they have stayed together and live together.
My most recent ex cheated on me with my gym partner and they were only together for about a month and a half before she admitted to me she had a lapse of judgment being attracted to him.
It really varies.
@@quincy-2000 thanks for that! That’s exactly how she is can’t be single and would rather be with someone who is not for her.. She’s admitted to me she has deep self esteem issues and before I went NC she even admitted that her rebound was toxic. It sucks because I care about her and see from afar she’s just hurting herself..
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My ex has officially BLOCKED me on IG. This is in light of some changes I made with my schedule at work since we work together, but I had to do what was best and remove myself from her presence. Being around her and not being allowed to speak practically makes me suffocate. 2022 was the best year because I met her and one of the things that I prayed for was a "bittersweet" relationship, not knowing that I should have phrased it differently. I was genuinely granted this but now I have to suffer through the bitter aftertaste.
All this to say, I am living forward and moving forward as best as I can, but even if she wanted to break NC, she can't because I am now BLOCKED. 😡😡😡😡😡
Thats just validation that you are doing whats right for you, keep going.
Should you still 😂 text your ex happy birthday
This doesn't mean that I wish he wouldn't come back- of course Ibdo, but the reality is NC doesn't work in every situation and on everyone. It's been a week and he's already back on dating aps
Only a week 😂 no love give it atleast 4 months
My gf of a 1.4 years broke up with me 5 days ago not giving me much reasoning or agreeing to talk in person due to it being to emotional. I kept chasing and asking for a second chance got her $100 flowers none of it worked. I went 2 days no contact took her off everything we had shared Life360,UA-cam tv etc. Then hung out with a old friend who’s a girl posted a pic of my shoes and the girls purse was in background. My gf saw it and un followed me on everything I texted her about it and she was very mean and said we been done and she doesn’t want me to text her and she’s packing my stuff up I wanted so bad and she’ll let me know a day I can pick it up. Why did she get so mad coach black after she said I don’t owe her loyalty anymore and she dumped me? Do you think she will be back in months or weeks of no contact ?
She also went out to a fancy bar and drank and posted a picture with her butt poked out in a dress with her girl friends and didn’t get home until 2. How can she post something like that but be mad I hung out with a girl during my no contact?
@@jflexztv immediately starting affirming everyday “she is in love with me and doesn’t want to let me go”
@@Iamonthepedestal I don’t even know if I want her back anymore I’m just so hurt and miss our daily routines and hanging with her.
@@jflexztv cause people have audacity bro. You honestly shouldn't care if she comes back or not, because why care if someone had the nerve to leave you and then expect you to still treat them as if you owe them loyalty. Nah if you want me to stay away from other people, you shouldn't have left.
@@jflexztv go no contact it will help you
Hello, somebody can help me? I dont know i made a mistake or it's alright?
So she broke up with my 1 month and 1 week ago. I begged to her that day when she broke up. Then i came back to home.. 1 week no contact. The next week she deleted me everywhere i texted her to sorry and if its better for her to delete me just do it.. And the next week she sent messages to me like how bad i was etc.. And i just replied her after a week.. (i was calm, she wasn't..)
1 week later i sent her a message like i really want to speak and do something for us because i love her. She told me no i never change and she does'nt even care about my emotions. She was angry like i didnt ask her like how she was, just told her my emotions... We spoke a bit(but ye she is still not my friend on any social media).
Okay after 3 days later i ask her how are you? Nothing happened so then i sent her a video message like i would like to speak face to face if its possible. I can do everything, because i really want to be with her again and i try everything, but the moment doesnt matter what i want. So i asked her what she wants and she told me she loves me like a friend and a human but thats all and sorry. Its just doesnt work.. Okay i told her i got it.. Have a nice life so i left the chat.. She told me "you too". (so i didnt check any messages after this)..
After 30 mins she sent me another message like she doesn't understand what kind of attempt I'm talking about, because it's all one-sided again, but okay have a nice life it was good to see you...etc
So this happened 1 week ago last monday.. I still doesnt oppened the text after i left.. Ofc i love her, i think i tried everything. Should i open the message? Or just go on focus myself and if she really wants me after this still can reach out me?
This is my question and i dont know why she sent me these kind of messages after told me doesnt want anything... Any help or advice? Open it and just leave it like that or doesnt open(maybe i destroy her ego, idk maybe i cant and she doesnt even care)
Thanks!
Go No CONTACT NOW.!!
@@Carmen-kd6bh okay, so dont open the message what she sent me 1 weeks ago? Or just open it and leave it like that?
@@LiveTo100_Official NO DO NOT OPEN.!! I DON'T KNOW WHY BUT I FEEL AS THOUGH SHE'S TOYING WITH YOU NO HUMAN BEING SHOULD HAVE TO GO THROUGH THAT.
There are a lot of mistakes I can see.... Detach completely from this person, stop messaging, stop stalking(i know, its difficult, but do it), Focus on yourself and let her reach out. DO NOT send another desperate message, I think opening that message if fine(turn off read messages for this person, they don't need to know that anymore) but I don't believe it will need a response... if you do, remember, not everything needs an immediate response and that is totally your boundary. Also, let's be real, you do not want her as a friend, you want more from this situation, if she can't offer it then its time to move forward for your own sake. Give her what she asked for when she broke up with you, space and a lack of you in her life.
@@Carmen-kd6bhokay, thank you so much! Ill try to be strong!
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