The ending made me laugh a lot, that unexpected "om".😂 Excellent the idea of this video especially the image of the bubble. 👍🏼It is something we all struggle with and fail with; not just people with OCPD. everyone can relate as human beings😊
How do I explain this isn't on purpose even if I have every excuse in the book when I don't perform perfectly? For example. Partner works hard. Want him to have good meal when home. Rice wasn't perfect, I tried again, wasn't perfect, hard in center. Even after 30 min on low, I said not giving up and started a new batch. Haven't had this rice issue since my teens. Tell partner dinner is no good u may want to grab dinner. He comes home says rice is edible. Not perfect but edible. And now says he doesn't know what's worse the rice not being perfect in my eyes or the fact that I think it is the end of the meal that the rice didn't turn out. This rice is not good enough .... I know what decent rice is and this wasn't even that... I didn't call him at work to worry him, just to tell him to buy dinner I don't know how to explain this isn't to get out of dinner. It isn't bc I didn't complete it. I tried a few times I feel I'm gonna end up institutionalized
Gigi Marie I very much can empathize with your frustration. However, I do not think we need to jump to the idea of institutionalization. As cliche as it sounds, we are constantly associating our self worth to the outcomes of seemingly innocuous tasks. We feel as though if we can't get the simple or small things right, that there is no hope for the bigger picture. There of course can be other cognitions at play, but this is one of the more likely reasons we feel extreme frustration and anxiety. I think that speaking to a mental health professional is in your best interest. You can absolutely get through to the other side of these issues. And it would probably be in your best interest to have an honest discussion with your partner about how your thinking patterns are causing you to have a lower quality of life at the moment.
@@EclecticG I myself have spent time at mental health facilities. There is an undeserved stigma when it comes to these sorts of places. Sometimes we need to go where the help is most persistent. But I think there's a lot of options out there before considering that as a solution.
hey! as someone who is genetically predisposed to be OCPD but very self-conscious about it, your channel is a great discovery to me, and still the only thing like that out there! there's virtually no self-help for OCPD folx among the sea of pathologisation and help for victims. and it's not right. I am a very verbal person who would probably need subtitles for life; lists are viable ways for me to control the changing environment that I cannot handle as flexibly as others. I've noticed this cognitive pattern among other OCPD folx, too, and many occupy positions that are tied to high responsibility, and do so, well, you guessed, responsibly. as long as I don't start fishing in trash like my Dad does (and it drives me crazy), I'll consider myself mild lol.
drzeworyj thanks for sharing some of your story. I would suggest checking out Eden V on UA-cam as well for a little bit more content. But you are right, there is not much out there. I'm working behind the scenes right now to hopefully make some changes to that in the coming months. Thanks for watching!
For people who are too restless or have really heavy emotions, mindfulness and meditation can be really hard! But I think your inclusion of exercise is so important. Exercises like biking or rollerskating or dancing can also be very meditative but involve more movement and can be quite a helpful alternative until people can calm down to be mindful. Also, what a great episode! This is such a great technique and I can see myself putting it to use immediately. Thank you!
capoeiristachik1 thank you so much for your comment and feedback. I think that it's important to also address the fact that exercising is moving. Lately I've been struggling, but instead of giving up, I've continued to force myself to take a 30 minute walk everyday. Even just that can work wonders.
@@OCPD_support right, also congratulations lol, such a wise use of will power. I feel like many of our symptoms overlap with adhd (or maybe I just also have adhd lmao) and the adhd advice for expecting inconsistency has eased me. My dog forces me to move though 😂 and as frustrated as I get sometimes, I have to be grateful that she’s kept me in motion too.
Martial art ist GREAT ! Also, it involves quite a lot of control and let go, as you say there are moments for this and moments for that. A great balance of and for me who is not a sportswoman at all, it wasn't exhausting.
@@OCPD_supportI was lucky... I tried jiujitsu at a place with very understanding people... They brought a boy with a handicaps to be the most gracious champion. In the beginning, that boy couldn't even stand on his legs !
I think your Godzilla parable was a bit too elusive.. maybe a couple more concrete examples that are not as recent/painful might help. I'll rewatch and try to ask a better question.. I like the idea of trying to deploy a philosophical approach to some of our (unusual) behaviours/reactions to events both big and small.
Ross Geography I completely understand. I can give you a recent painful example. I'm building a Foundation for OCPD. I'm using my own personal funds. While starting work on the project I invested the money because it wasn't enough for what I was trying to do. I made a bad investment. I had done my research, I had asked others more knowledgeable than me, but even with all of the precautions I took, I lost most of my money. It just so happens that while in the depths of despair I went to get a coffee to sit and think about my next move. I took my coffee to the park, sat down, and immediately spilled my entire coffee. For a minute, it felt like the entire world had collapsed in on me. And maybe it had. But I made decisions, they had consequences I didn't like and if I chose to wallow in them, I would only continue the pattern of self-doubt, self-hatred, and depression. And in that moment I decided I was going to immediately put everything behind me as if it had never happened. I couldn't do anything to change it. All I can do is use my consciousness and awareness to create new ideas to improve my situation moving forward.
@@OCPD_support wow ok that's a moment of philosophical/stoic clarity all right, kinda like the serenity prayer: (Lord/Your God/Higher Power/True Self) grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
@@OCPD_support even so... Doesn't matter... I'm often the only one who is amused with my quirks... Until I share them on some network 🙂 There'll always be people who understand and people who don't 😅
The ending made me laugh a lot, that unexpected "om".😂
Excellent the idea of this video especially the image of the bubble. 👍🏼It is something we all struggle with and fail with; not just people with OCPD. everyone can relate as human beings😊
Esse thank you so much for the personal feedback. I enjoyed your comment. :)
How do I explain this isn't on purpose even if I have every excuse in the book when I don't perform perfectly? For example. Partner works hard. Want him to have good meal when home. Rice wasn't perfect, I tried again, wasn't perfect, hard in center. Even after 30 min on low, I said not giving up and started a new batch. Haven't had this rice issue since my teens. Tell partner dinner is no good u may want to grab dinner. He comes home says rice is edible. Not perfect but edible. And now says he doesn't know what's worse the rice not being perfect in my eyes or the fact that I think it is the end of the meal that the rice didn't turn out. This rice is not good enough ....
I know what decent rice is and this wasn't even that... I didn't call him at work to worry him, just to tell him to buy dinner
I don't know how to explain this isn't to get out of dinner. It isn't bc I didn't complete it. I tried a few times
I feel I'm gonna end up institutionalized
Again
Gigi Marie I very much can empathize with your frustration. However, I do not think we need to jump to the idea of institutionalization.
As cliche as it sounds, we are constantly associating our self worth to the outcomes of seemingly innocuous tasks. We feel as though if we can't get the simple or small things right, that there is no hope for the bigger picture. There of course can be other cognitions at play, but this is one of the more likely reasons we feel extreme frustration and anxiety.
I think that speaking to a mental health professional is in your best interest. You can absolutely get through to the other side of these issues. And it would probably be in your best interest to have an honest discussion with your partner about how your thinking patterns are causing you to have a lower quality of life at the moment.
@@EclecticG I myself have spent time at mental health facilities. There is an undeserved stigma when it comes to these sorts of places. Sometimes we need to go where the help is most persistent. But I think there's a lot of options out there before considering that as a solution.
Hi, I wanna let you know that your videos really give me a chance to reflect and work on my ocpd issue. Thank you!
@user-lh7rb2lc2t thank you so much for sharing that feedback. It is always nice to know when the information is well received.
hey! as someone who is genetically predisposed to be OCPD but very self-conscious about it, your channel is a great discovery to me, and still the only thing like that out there! there's virtually no self-help for OCPD folx among the sea of pathologisation and help for victims. and it's not right.
I am a very verbal person who would probably need subtitles for life; lists are viable ways for me to control the changing environment that I cannot handle as flexibly as others. I've noticed this cognitive pattern among other OCPD folx, too, and many occupy positions that are tied to high responsibility, and do so, well, you guessed, responsibly.
as long as I don't start fishing in trash like my Dad does (and it drives me crazy), I'll consider myself mild lol.
drzeworyj thanks for sharing some of your story. I would suggest checking out Eden V on UA-cam as well for a little bit more content. But you are right, there is not much out there. I'm working behind the scenes right now to hopefully make some changes to that in the coming months. Thanks for watching!
For people who are too restless or have really heavy emotions, mindfulness and meditation can be really hard! But I think your inclusion of exercise is so important. Exercises like biking or rollerskating or dancing can also be very meditative but involve more movement and can be quite a helpful alternative until people can calm down to be mindful.
Also, what a great episode! This is such a great technique and I can see myself putting it to use immediately. Thank you!
capoeiristachik1 thank you so much for your comment and feedback. I think that it's important to also address the fact that exercising is moving. Lately I've been struggling, but instead of giving up, I've continued to force myself to take a 30 minute walk everyday. Even just that can work wonders.
@@OCPD_support right, also congratulations lol, such a wise use of will power. I feel like many of our symptoms overlap with adhd (or maybe I just also have adhd lmao) and the adhd advice for expecting inconsistency has eased me. My dog forces me to move though 😂 and as frustrated as I get sometimes, I have to be grateful that she’s kept me in motion too.
@@capoeiristachik1 the dog is a good hack.
Martial art ist GREAT !
Also, it involves quite a lot of control and let go, as you say there are moments for this and moments for that. A great balance of and for me who is not a sportswoman at all, it wasn't exhausting.
Karine Roumache that's something I've considered a lot. I may still make the decision to try. I did try Muay Thai and all I felt was uncoordinated.
@@OCPD_supportI was lucky... I tried jiujitsu at a place with very understanding people... They brought a boy with a handicaps to be the most gracious champion. In the beginning, that boy couldn't even stand on his legs !
Love this
Malakai Riker thanks my man. Hope all is good with you. Would love to catch up sometime.
You are so amazing. I’m so glad I found your channel. ❤️
Rochelle Chiappetta that is so kind. Thank you very much!
I think your Godzilla parable was a bit too elusive.. maybe a couple more concrete examples that are not as recent/painful might help. I'll rewatch and try to ask a better question.. I like the idea of trying to deploy a philosophical approach to some of our (unusual) behaviours/reactions to events both big and small.
Ross Geography I completely understand. I can give you a recent painful example. I'm building a Foundation for OCPD. I'm using my own personal funds. While starting work on the project I invested the money because it wasn't enough for what I was trying to do. I made a bad investment. I had done my research, I had asked others more knowledgeable than me, but even with all of the precautions I took, I lost most of my money. It just so happens that while in the depths of despair I went to get a coffee to sit and think about my next move. I took my coffee to the park, sat down, and immediately spilled my entire coffee.
For a minute, it felt like the entire world had collapsed in on me. And maybe it had. But I made decisions, they had consequences I didn't like and if I chose to wallow in them, I would only continue the pattern of self-doubt, self-hatred, and depression. And in that moment I decided I was going to immediately put everything behind me as if it had never happened. I couldn't do anything to change it. All I can do is use my consciousness and awareness to create new ideas to improve my situation moving forward.
@@OCPD_support wow ok that's a moment of philosophical/stoic clarity all right, kinda like the serenity prayer: (Lord/Your God/Higher Power/True Self) grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
@@rossgeography I think that story would have been more impactful, but I didn't want it to seem like I was trying to elicit sympathy. 🤷🏻♂️
"When I tried to work with a house in Wuhan to bring masks back into fashion".
Made my day 🤣
Karine Roumache I never know if my jokes will land or if I'm the only one that thinks they're funny.
@@OCPD_support even so... Doesn't matter... I'm often the only one who is amused with my quirks... Until I share them on some network 🙂
There'll always be people who understand and people who don't 😅