I’ve actually cut a kid I was considering because of their parent. The mother approached me after tryouts giving me all these reasons why her kid should play etc. etc. etc…. In the back of my mind, I’m thinking “I don’t want to deal with this parent all season.” Honestly, if I took the kid, she most likely would not have gotten a lot of playing time, but I did not want the parent contacting me and complaining after every other game. Been there, done that, it’s not fun.
Sometimes it’s better to be transparent with parents about what the reality of their child are they advanced , intermediate or a beginner. So many parents and players don’t understand the process. Basketball is a skill sport that requires a lot of work outside team practices and I let parents know this upfront. Only the kids that put in the work will play.
Disagree. Edit: Can't always have your parents hold you hand man. Parents invest in their kids but these kids need to learn to invest in themselves first. How badly do they want it. You want it bad then show it. Nobody wants to hear parents vouch for their kid, put in a good word, and sugarcoat things. Players have to show it, learn to grow up, and speak for themselves to the Coaches. Coaches have hundreds of parents saying the same thing about their kid. They get it all the time. Show it through work ethic. Based on your comment, you're a parent Akoro. Think about it.
Coaches don’t want to avoid parents. Coaches are the captain of the ship, so to speak, and families have to make sacrifices for their athletes in order for him/her to participate or be aboard the ship. Often parents get angry over issues such as playing time, practice times or when they feel their child has been treated unfairly. Well if a player has a bad game, or if that player is not improving as he should and others are playing ahead of them, then that issue should be dealt with by the player, not by a parent. It is the player who does or does not put in extra practice and it is the player who gets on the court or field and performs in the games and practices. The coach tells the player what to do but it comes down to the player performing at the level demanded by the coach, the ships captain. Players that don’t reach that level are gonna get pushed hard, often times players take this action personally. When substitutions are made, players take offense for they feel the coach is angry with them for some reason, which is not the case.. Also, in recent years videos have surfaced showing altercations between parents and coaches, referees and even opposing teams or fans. In light of this uptick in violence it is best that parents leave coaching to the coaches and playing to the players. Parents should not demand that coaches bend to their will, just to make their child happy. Coaches need supportive parents to help build up their athlete and help the ship run smoothly. Coaches appreciate supportive parents! Never confront a coach immediately after a game.
I Coach 7th& 8th grade basketball. It’s not that we want to avoid parents, I enjoy talking to the parents I have this season, but we want to put the responsibility on the players. It is more impactful when the player approaches the coach with questions and concerns. I’ve had players ask me “how can I get more playing time”, or “what can I improve on to get better?” I’ve had some even ask if they can stay in the gym an extra 30min after practice to work on free throw shooting or whatever. When I see players putting in the effort because THEY want it, and not because their parents told them to, those players are rewarded with either more playing time, or opportunities to lead in a drill or exercise. Or just simply recognizing and praising their effort in front of the team. It’ll help that player grow in the long run.
I’ve actually cut a kid I was considering because of their parent. The mother approached me after tryouts giving me all these reasons why her kid should play etc. etc. etc…. In the back of my mind, I’m thinking “I don’t want to deal with this parent all season.”
Honestly, if I took the kid, she most likely would not have gotten a lot of playing time, but I did not want the parent contacting me and complaining after every other game. Been there, done that, it’s not fun.
Sometimes it’s better to be transparent with parents about what the reality of their child are they advanced , intermediate or a beginner. So many parents and players don’t understand the process. Basketball is a skill sport that requires a lot of work outside team practices and I let parents know this upfront. Only the kids that put in the work will play.
Why are coaches avoiding the parents? Everything should be transparent as parents are investing in these kids.
Disagree. Edit: Can't always have your parents hold you hand man. Parents invest in their kids but these kids need to learn to invest in themselves first. How badly do they want it.
You want it bad then show it. Nobody wants to hear parents vouch for their kid, put in a good word, and sugarcoat things. Players have to show it, learn to grow up, and speak for themselves to the Coaches. Coaches have hundreds of parents saying the same thing about their kid. They get it all the time. Show it through work ethic. Based on your comment, you're a parent Akoro. Think about it.
Coaches don’t want to avoid parents. Coaches are the captain of the ship, so to speak, and families have to make sacrifices for their athletes in order for him/her to participate or be aboard the ship. Often parents get angry over issues such as playing time, practice times or when they feel their child has been treated unfairly. Well if a player has a bad game, or if that player is not improving as he should and others are playing ahead of them, then that issue should be dealt with by the player, not by a parent. It is the player who does or does not put in extra practice and it is the player who gets on the court or field and performs in the games and practices. The coach tells the player what to do but it comes down to the player performing at the level demanded by the coach, the ships captain. Players that don’t reach that level are gonna get pushed hard, often times players take this action personally. When substitutions are made, players take offense for they feel the coach is angry with them for some reason, which is not the case..
Also, in recent years videos have surfaced showing altercations between parents and coaches, referees and even opposing teams or fans. In light of this uptick in violence it is best that parents leave coaching to the coaches and playing to the players. Parents should not demand that coaches bend to their will, just to make their child happy. Coaches need supportive parents to help build up their athlete and help the ship run smoothly. Coaches appreciate supportive parents! Never confront a coach immediately after a game.
I Coach 7th& 8th grade basketball. It’s not that we want to avoid parents, I enjoy talking to the parents I have this season, but we want to put the responsibility on the players. It is more impactful when the player approaches the coach with questions and concerns.
I’ve had players ask me “how can I get more playing time”, or “what can I improve on to get better?” I’ve had some even ask if they can stay in the gym an extra 30min after practice to work on free throw shooting or whatever.
When I see players putting in the effort because THEY want it, and not because their parents told them to, those players are rewarded with either more playing time, or opportunities to lead in a drill or exercise. Or just simply recognizing and praising their effort in front of the team.
It’ll help that player grow in the long run.
Parents are concerned about one athlete, coaches are concerned about them all.