How To Handle The Grief When Someone You Loved Died | Buddhism In English
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Hewagama, Kaduwela, Sri Lanka.
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My mother died 15 hour ago 😢😢😢 in accident and I can't handle this situation in 17th age 😢 love you so much my mom 😭😭😭😭😭
Tc😢
Hope you get through this hard time
❤ you will feel much pain but let love and blessings in also.. It hurts but mom is sending you love and holds you in her arms❤
Stay calm dear 😢her blessings are always with you❤
Today I had a hard long cry as i felt so sad about my son who passed 7 months ago. Crying hard, loud is needed sometimes. But often am feeling so happy to have had him in my life and gratefull. One day i laid on the mother earth and screamed his name crying and calling him. Feel your feelings. You can do this❤
Well for me it worked somehow. My mother died after having suffered a most horrible cancer for a long time, and the last thing she heard was the dhammacakkappavattana sutta which I facilitated her via earphones. Anicca is one of the three absolute and undeniable realities, there is no way to circunvent them as there is no way to live without breathing. Thanks for the compassionate advice!
I lost my grandmother 7 days ago.I cannot forgot this.I cried a lot.Before she died I had spent my whole time with my grandmother.I really missed her. Love you lot my grandmother❤. Her last days was very hard.I wish I want to see her...she always supported me.I never forget her. I want to spend my day with you again🥹.Rest in peace.
Lost my dad in 2017 and my mum 6 month ago...my mum and I were extremely close and I miss her every day I still grieve everyday
Yes I know it's very worst phase in life... It's very hard time to cope with... But trust me just leave on the time... You will be fine... Take care...
I know that this situation is very suffering but you have to forget and start a new life ❤❤❤
I can relate to it ,it leaves a void , that's never filled !
It happens with me too
It's so bad 😞😔
My father passed on January 1, 2024 from stage 4 lung cancer. Although I experienced grief & continue to, it’s not as bad. I was able to spend his last moments with him, to care for him, pray for him, sit with him, laugh with him. I am forever grateful for those last moments ❤ When my mother passed in 2016 suddenly, that was much worse for me! I didn’t get to say goodbye. Any experiencing loss & grief, take it one moment at a time. Think about the good memories! Honor them forever ♾️
For those who lost the love ones and are in suffering. It's painful because you love them, honor that. At the same time, aware that it's the truth in life, embrace and let go. They just go back to where they were. Don't hang on to the grief, but keep the good memories and forgive yourself to move on. They will always have a special place in your heart, you aren't forgetting them.
This is how I handle the lost of all my family members. Hope this helps.
May Buddha Bless Everyone Especially Those Who Are Having Difficulty In Thier Lives🙏
yes bro life is a game try to play without sadness and sorrw
Everything must be left behind. Namo Buddhaya 🙏
An elephant named Arjuna died in wild elephant capture operation it has caused me so much grief i had never met him in real but the whole karnataka state people are sad i don't how to forget the pain its hurting me inside 😫🥺
We lost our beautiful cat Jett today, one of 8 but she touched our lives in the 6 years we rescued her and saved her from several illnesses, sadly this illness we couldn’t beat. We are so happy to see your video tonight and as we cry we incorporated joy and laughter and happy memories she left us. Thank you for your timely video.
ohh,,,
Jett will born again somewhere very good and joyful, ❤️
I lost my dog a week ago after having her for 10 years. It's hard, but the joy a pet brings your life is so vast! Jett must've had such a great life because of you :)
Losing a pet is one of the most difficult things we have to experience in life. My heartfelt condolences ❤ Jett was one lucky cat to have you in his life 🤗
Sorry to hear of your loss. There is a song written by Brian May from Queen about his cat, you should take a listen, name of the song:
All dead, All dead
It’s a soothing song
"For whom passion is abundant, suffering is abundant,
For whom passion is little, suffering is little." ❤
I lost my mom in 2017....I was in shock for 1 year but then I realized this is the toughest reality we must face everytime
Same! 🥺
I lost my dearest one my husband due to COVID two years ago. Only the individual can feel the deepest. I am still feeling the lost till today. Even though practise meditation, being busy with choas, very close to the creator and the universe, at some gap sadness is always there. 😢
That's TRUE I lost my mom due to covid but the pain is same since I lost her it never fade every one around me but I feel the loneliness deeply
That's very wholesome. Nobody wants to see their loved ones sad. Especially after their death b'cos then their passing away is the cause of your sadness. That’s being very unselfish. I want to live like that. Namo buddhaya 🙏
𝙰𝚖𝚎𝚗
I had a strange sensation when my most beloved dog, Mika, passed on. I was filled with a sensation of bliss. I spent the last few months of her life caring for her with utmost love. I gave her all I could, even the last evening till the last moment, I was there for her. I was very sad to lose this lovely being as I loved her the most. What helped me the most were the memories of how we spent the last few months together when I knew she had late-stage kidney failure. She died before she reached 4 years of age. We all grieve differently, as attachment varies with our relationship with the being that is dying. I have lost one parent, but my grief for Mika was very different. I agree that we must love the dying with care, kindness and compassion, as their time with us is short. That act gives us great solace.
The practice:
1) know that it is the truth, that you are going to lose the people you live
2) Treasure them, in the limited time you have with them, treat them with kindness.
3) dont make a dead loved one the source of your pain. Cos your loved one wont want that.
Even with practice, we will still feel the pain with a loved one dies.
Simple and practical that can handle one of the most difficulties situation in our lives. Treating others with kindness is so powerful. I very much appreciate for sharing words of the Buddha. 🙏
Love them unconditionally while we are here .Resolve unkind feelings and any situation that might have come up while they are here. Forgiveness is key.
I was never ready to face losing my Mother 😢 i miss her immensely 😔💞
We have to let it go, no matter how hard it is. Thanks for sharing this
"Dont make your source of happiness, the source of your pain." Thank you for this sage and compassionate advice ❤. I looked after my parents' every need when they were alive and love them very dearly. But I am now "making them the source of my pain" as you put it. Thank you for putting it into perspective for me. I will work on myself and try to accept that this was bound to happen one day and now I should cherish their memories and be grateful for the 55+ years that I got to be with them❤
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat,known suffering,known struggle,known loss and have found their way out of the depths.These persons have an appreciation,a sensitivity,and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness,and a deep loving concern.Beautiful people do not just happen.
(Elisabeth Kubler-Ross)
Don’t make the dead one become the source of your pain. Make people around you become the source of happiness ❤❤❤
Thank you for beautiful teachings
Namo Buddhaya!
My grandfather passed away on 04/04/2024....could not cope up with it.I could not speak last words with him.He was a really good human being. Rest in Peace Babuji 💐🙏
That is so kind and loving. Even though it hurts you you can still smile for the good memories created together❤❤THANK YOU😊❤
Lost my partner for 3 yrs now. Still miss him so much😢😢😢
Two days ago, Wednesday morning around 11:30am my male lovebird gomu passed away. I tried giving him cpr and mouth to beak. Sprayed water and gave him water but still he didn't survive. He was the kindest. He loved me more I could ever love him. Ii couldn't sleep and cried a lot. I did take him to hospital but it was too late. Vet were not avian expert. I really wish I could have saved him. He's presence mattered to us. My wife is pregnant and she's been sad and crying. Life is ruthless. Why do we get attached even though we know that it's gonna hurt us someday. I was very practical amd tough person but when my gomu the LoveBird died. Only then I realised what softie I am inside. I even cried at office at home, morning. It felt like world ended for me. You're right they have to go. Today or tomorrow. That's truth we have accept. Indeed, lil bird taught me a lesson to love unconditionally everyone because we never know when's the last day.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful, yet painful story. I do completely understand. My beautiful baby, an 8 year old blonde, green-eyed Chihuahua passed suddenly without warning 9-1-22 and has left me devastated. Not one hug from my very abusive spouse on paper only. He got me a new puppy ONE WEEK after the worst loss of my life (and I’ve lost so many friends & family, all very prematurely, too, yet handled each loss with so much grace)
He got me a new pup so I wouldn’t cry on his shoulder. How absolutely cruel to do to both, me and that new baby. One week??? I was still in shock. Shock, not denial. I’m a Nurse; I know all about the stages of grief.
Not one hug, to this day. When I’m crying over Bruiser I’m told, “Get over it!!!” Or, “Oh, not this again.”
Heartless. Most cruel.
I’m trapped, financially, which is why I couldn’t leave such a toxic environment. I’ve added another baby and both are almost 2 years old; so different from my Bruiser, as they should be, but it’s been so hard. Bruiser went viral because he could actually speak human words and phrases and it stunned the World. I taught all tricks & commands in 3 languages (English, Hungarian, and Sign Language just for fun), he was so smart, sweet, nurturing, and filled with gratitude over the littlest of things, such as thanking me simply for putting out a fresh pee pee pad. What dog does that?!! He loved everyone he met and loved ALL animals. He was gentle and so kind. Whenever I looked into his gorgeous green eyes, I could 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 our creator! He was the purest form of Love I’d ever known. Better, in my opinion, of any romantic kind between humans. I don’t honestly know how I’ve made it almost 2 years without him. I go on for the new babies, but it’s so hard. So very hard. A lot of people do not understand that our animals are like our children. I’m unable to carry full term; miscarriages. So he was absolutely my child. I now feel so utterly alone in this world, yet I’m grateful for the new puppies, even if one came a week after Bruiser’s sudden passing. I will never be ok or feel the joy & happiness I once felt when I had him and I’m so grateful & blessed for having him just a short while.
We were camping and his breathing became slightly increased. So slightly, that nobody else would have ever thought to seek treatment. I called his Vet. She said she doesn’t have oxygen. No oxygen? How does she perform routine spays & neuters? I had to drive hour and a half to an animal hospital. He was completely fine. We get inside & as soon as we reach front desk, he collapsed in my arms where I put his entire snout in my mouth to give him breath. They whisked him away but when they brought me into a room, I just knew it wasn’t good. Doctor comes in to say they revived him 3x and the relief washed over me but she said, “No. it’s not good.”
I went into complete shock the moment another doctor came in and just bowed her head. I didn’t cry. My world just stopped. They were so concerned for me. Then they brought him to me. He was gone. My entire world ended that day.
I’m so glad you & your wife have each other during that time. I had no-one. 💔
Yes... be kind to everyone... you never know when or if you will see them again.
This is great ,I try to always live by this, but it is not easy
Sure ain't easy , good days n bad days !🌹
Really Really needed of this & you came😊Thank you so much Dearest Bhanteji 😊😌❤️🙏Namo Buddhay 😊😌❤️🙏
නමස්කාර වේවා ගරු ස්වාමින්වහන්ස .🎉
Your last one minute was the most powerful -
I have been watching you for three years and now I have so many things to scatter away among the people surrounding me.
Really because we love someone ..that people die we cannot control ❤❤
Thanks for your advice.Really appreciate it..thats why i try not to cry too much and feel the pain cos it will keep coming back and we must understand that if we dont accept the truth, the pain will be in us forever and that is not what their wishes, we must respect them and believe in the care and happiness they have given to us is priceless, we must always remember they are still living in our hearts though they physically left us, just be positive and start to pick yourself up again and life still have to go on, be strong and get up to be a happy person for them as they have begun their lives in a better place , try to leave the shadow of their death and surrender all yourself in God's hands.🙏
Tqvm for Sharing.. Sometimes we are really very Sad over the Loved ones passing away..But we Still f to move on in Life without them...Noting is permanent..
One Day we too disappear from this world..We leave behind our Sweet memories.. Always be kind , Speak politely n Happy with everyone.. Namobudaya 🙏❤️🙏
My sweet cat Harley passed away this year. He was very lovely and friendly. We all miss him. ❤
This is very hard to go through, my sincere condolences. Harley will always have a special place in your heart, this love will never die ❤
@@halcyon-cg2eb Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
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Yes your video gives me strength i just lost my beloved husband one and half month back. I cant get over it. Pls do more of this type of video
Sifu, thank you for this powerful wisdom. It has helped me on this day! Namo amitofu ☸️!
“Don’t make the source of your happiness become the source of your pain.” Thank you for these words.
Yes 🤍💛🧡 Feeling Love to them & being Thankful to them 🤍💚💙 no big pain 💜💙💗 Love & Thank & Nature 😘☘️ Thank you!!!
I lost my husband feb 18,2024..so much pain😢😢but now i listen to u..im trying to be okay..
Thank you for kindly and respectfully sharing truth with us.
You are a guide for me 🙏 thank you 💔❤️
You are such an amazing person. I am so grateful that I have gotten to know you. ❤ ❤😊😊
My favorite channel ❤ thank you very much 🙏
This video is very practical and useful, my my elder brother was died before 22 years. He treated me as my father he taken pain in my education, even he was ill. I extended my four is at this moment again. I remember him oftenly in my lifeI am grateful for his dedication.
Vandami Bhante ji and Namo Buddhay!
This is really for me the best advice. I ❤️ ever listened too.I have my son that will be gone soon because of his own behavior. Its really bad.And i do expspect it very soon. ❤❤❤Thank you so much for this video. It will give me some thing to hold on too.I have bad panic attacks and thats a bad fear.❤❤❤
Ur speech is simply relaxing so immensely, really when we hear ur speech, truly getting some divine feeling in your TRUE words. Pls keep motivating us. 🙏
So beautiful. Thank you. Namo Buddhaya 🙏💖
Your videos give me strength ❤
My mother died 7months ago,a week before my engagement.its a really hard to face that pain but i faced,she is my best friend she is the most loving person in my life but i have to face that much of pain.My only wish is for her soul to rest in peace as a tribute to the one who raised me and brought me to where I am today.
Namo buddhaya.
Thank you dear for your nice advises, nice blessings
Worldly Buddhist advice of this nature is an urgent necessity today.
Thank you so much! My brother died two months ago, and I am so grateful for all the good talks we had about life, wisdom etc. while he was ill. I knew it was over when he got too tired to talk. Now I am grateful for these years. 🙏
Beautiful advise. Thank you ❤
Very wise words.🙏🏻
Wow I needed this. Thank you.
Beautiful advice ❤
Merci pour ces conseils de sagesse .
L impermanence ,le depart de nos etres aimés est cependant tres difficile à accepter .
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Beautiful, many blessings ,🙏
Thank you for this video!
Thank you for your wise words.
Thanks God n universe angels and thank you so much thero❤
දෙවි පිහිටයි හමුදුරැවනෙ❤❤❤❤
Wow! This is profound!
Thank you. I just lost the lamp of my soul, my mother. I'm devastated. The holidays are over me. On top of that they terminated me from work Wednesday because of my grief. Now what???? Pls pray for me
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When they come to bury you, remember that you are a seed. Move forward.
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I faced the same last year mum then dad passed away and I lost job
@@twinklevangie7604 I hope all is well now and you're done with the dark night of the soul. ❤️
My mother died 2013. When I was coming to be with her for one month, unfortunately she has died 20 minute before I have landed to the airport. When I went to see and touch body was cold and left this world. My world is shattered. But I am thankful that she is no longer suffering. RIP mum 🙏🙏🙏
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Thank you ❤❤❤
Namo Buddhaya❤❤❤
Namo buddhaya great advice🙏🙏🙏
Send the flowers to the ones you love now, not after they pass... great message, love them now, I did treat my love ones with love while they were alive, n have to remember that, trying to not let them be the source o my pain n grief missing them is the hard part tho :(.. esp losing your spouse of 13 yrs in 3 mths to unexpected cancer 8 1 23 .. but yeah, many thanks
My fiancée passed away last month. It is one of the hardest pains ever. But I am still strong and our memories together will live with me forever. I am moving forward following my goals with all the good I learned from her and I will make her proud one day. Namo Buddhaya!
me too, my fiancee passed away at 24 jan. i miss him so much, we wanna get married in 3 months💔💔 such a painfull heartbreak ever in this year😭😭❤️🩹❤️🩹
@@uprcxious7248 loss my wife of 13 yrs in 3 mths to unexpected cancer 8 1 23 :( just now able to sleep if i relax enough n - ''everything is alright everything will be ok the lord is in control'' is my motto
Thanks thero.l follow your videos.l wish to meet you in Sri Lanka 🙏🏻🌸
Yesterday i lost my best friend my girlfriend my love she was everything to me she was suffering from so much pain but i am happy for her that now baby is resting in peace and i also know that her soul will never die only physically she is not here and one day i will name my daughter on her name her soul will always be with me i will always love her i will always be attached with her and one day in afterlife i will meet her and hug her
We have little time this people
Namo budhaya 🙏🏼 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Great guidance sir
Thank you
Celebrate the life... Makes sense.
Everything we see is left behind🎉
Hello watching and listening from 🇲🇴
Thank you so much for teaching beautifull thoughts guruji.
Namau Budhaya each moment i feel very unhappy painful for my elder RaginiLata died in 46yrs aleft two young child
we are spritual question god Why Ithank you master for
Your great lesson many thanks
Theruwan sarana from Italy.
Mom dies6whwn i was 4years old. Papa died 6 months acter i left my country to study abroad, (he died when i was 21years) now i am 23years old ...it still feels very new...i feel broken when i think of him.... I just Love him like nothing else and I'll always love him till i die ....
Nice speech🎉🎉🎉
Thanks to your video , I learn a lot from you 🙏🙏🙏❤️
Thanks to Buldda 🙏🙏🙏❤️
It's really great thought... But not easy. Thank you Sir 🙏🙏🙏
I agree. My wife is experiencing a serious illness right now and it is very challenging to deal with this in a loving and detached way.
❤❤❤namo Buddha 🙏🏻
Thank for download becouse no network at home , I can watch many time
Thank you my dear😊
Thank you❤❤❤
Bhante, please provide us with a guided impermanence meditation. 🙏
I lost my mother... I lost from last two years...but I am trying to complete her wish and dreams... I am trying very hard but I am not able to achieve... I am so sad and broken...😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I have the same situation like yours.only difference is I didn't lose hope and keep on working on her wishes and dreams about me, no matter what life throughs at me. Take baby steps to reach your goal. But don't stop yourself just because you face difficulties in your life. That's the mantra to achieve anything in life
Namo Budhaaya... 🙏🙏🙏
The last part made my day
Lost my mom this past Saturday the 16th. I'm going to miss her so much
She’s with you , next to you !! You just seeing her physically but she is with you
😢😢cry as much as you can and try to be strong
Time changes everything ✨🌍❤️
Namo buddhaya ✨💙
Tq very much sir 😊
Namo Buddhay 💙
Namo Buddhaya 🙏 ❤
Namo buddhaya❤🙏