IS THIS A DEAL BREAKER? 40 SINGLE and NO KIDS

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  • Today we chat about deal breakers in relationships. 40 single and no kids.
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  • @annca
    @annca 3 місяці тому +116

    If you want kids, I say don't make this compromise.

    • @heck4984
      @heck4984 3 місяці тому +10

      I agree. Its simple.

    • @TheRealAngelGrace
      @TheRealAngelGrace 3 місяці тому +8

      10000% agree you're guy who wants kids is out there

    • @UteGoldkuhle
      @UteGoldkuhle 3 місяці тому +4

      Totally agree! It’s a serious issue in a relationship! You both want to and need to be seriously and compassionately serious about it within your heart.

    • @warmbreeze43
      @warmbreeze43 3 місяці тому +8

      I’m the one at 30 years old that didn’t want kids. The guy I was dating wanted them. We got married had two kids! Only married 14 years. He discovered he didn’t want kids! Now ex husband for the last 24+ years has never been in their lives! I HAD TO RAISE THEM. I don’t regret the kids. I regret I thought if I let go of my dreams for him we’d be fabulous together!
      Do NOT do NOT compromise on you wanting your own children. I have my two grown kids. My daughter has 3 sons. So I’m a grandma. My son never married and still up my butt 😂. The “sperm donor” no where around. I doubt he knows my daughter has 3 boys. Had I hadn’t felt compelled to appease him, my life would have looked totally different. Again I guess I was the blessed one out of this. I love being a mom and grandmom. So I let go of the feeling of that dirty bastard attitude.

    • @jillr759
      @jillr759 3 місяці тому +1

      @@warmbreeze43wow what a story. He will probably die alone. You will be blessed with family your whole life.

  • @SugarCookie1957
    @SugarCookie1957 3 місяці тому +54

    Deal breaker.
    Please, please, please don't settle.
    Said with love and respect, but coming from experience.

  • @loritahl1523
    @loritahl1523 3 місяці тому +54

    Absolute deal breaker, don't give up your dream of having children, you will regret it. Love all your videos!💜

  • @sandiedrew4086
    @sandiedrew4086 3 місяці тому +57

    I like the natural hair decision. ❤🎉😊

    • @susandusenbury6352
      @susandusenbury6352 3 місяці тому +6

      I agree, it looks stunning. It makes you look younger!

    • @user-cs1xz
      @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +2

      it looks sooo much better. she looks way younger and modern

    • @nicolegolczynski
      @nicolegolczynski 3 місяці тому +1

      I came to say the same thing!

  • @AdriennesChannel
    @AdriennesChannel 3 місяці тому +46

    All I ever wanted was children. My own children. If they don't want any, they're not right for you.

  • @Heather037
    @Heather037 3 місяці тому +25

    A compromise is meeting in the middle on home decor. Children are not a compromise. You're heart will be forever broken if you do not follow it.

    • @user-cs1xz
      @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +1

      exactly this. it's not compromise. kids or no kids is a non-negotiable, for both sides.

  • @user-cs1xz
    @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +9

    omg danna BURN your extensions!! you look incredible in this with your natural hair! totally elevates your look. you look so much younger, fresher, and like a gorgeous expensive betch. seriously. im obsessed with your look in this. fire

  • @janet-leecomeau8035
    @janet-leecomeau8035 3 місяці тому +25

    Your real hair is so nice.

    • @montanadanna
      @montanadanna  3 місяці тому +2

      @@janet-leecomeau8035 oh, thank you so much, Janet. Hope you’re having a great week.

  • @missymyers7043
    @missymyers7043 3 місяці тому +21

    You talked it out on screen and answered your own question. Don’t compromise and stick to wanting to be a mom. Move on to the next Steve or Kevin. 😊 Your true love, baby daddy is out there!

    • @jillr759
      @jillr759 3 місяці тому +3

      Yep settling leads to resentful life.

  • @MeganThomasInc
    @MeganThomasInc 3 місяці тому +27

    Your future child/children WILL be the loves of your life. Envision them as you make life decisions. I believe you will meet them in the near future and will be the most amazing mother. 💕

  • @tammydialgray2835
    @tammydialgray2835 3 місяці тому +20

    Your hair is beautiful!! It's so full and long. Your eyes might be strained from all that editing. The not wanting kids thing is a definite deal breaker. You know where your heart is on this. I enjoy your music!!!

  • @angieengel714
    @angieengel714 3 місяці тому +6

    I would sell the trailer. It feels like you’re over full time van life and if you wanted an adventure, your suburban could work! Love your videos…all of them! Maybe to help with editing, keep them shorter? I just look forward to any video from you every day! 😊❤️

  • @akafit2802
    @akafit2802 3 місяці тому +6

    I’m a new subscriber and loving your content and energy! I am 42, single and never married so I REALLY relate. Dating at this age is awful. As someone who also wanted kids I would encourage you to meet with a fertility doctor if you haven’t already and just go over all your options and get your hormones checked, etc. I went at 39 and ultimately ended up doing 3 IVF rounds using a donor because Mr Right still hasn’t shown up. Sadly it was unsuccessful for me even though I’m healthy and in shape. By no means is that meant to be discouragement, but there was just a lot about fertility that I was never taught about. Also check out the book It Starts With The Egg. Some good info in there. Hope you don’t mind the unsolicited advice, but knowledge is power!

  • @LilyBecca
    @LilyBecca 3 місяці тому +11

    Having children is the most wonderful, amazing experience for anyome that wants them. I would not compromise. ❤

  • @PhD_Author
    @PhD_Author 3 місяці тому +7

    I suspected that was one of the issues with Skylar. As a father of 7, five of them under 5 years, he’d find it difficult to have several more children.

    • @marieneu264
      @marieneu264 3 місяці тому

      I’ve wondered if that was a contributing factor in their breakup. They seemed so happy and in love and then it just quickly ended.

  • @cookieisacutie
    @cookieisacutie 3 місяці тому +7

    Your natural hair is beautiful!!!! You have always wanted children. Do not settle. You will regret it.

  • @nancystevens6820
    @nancystevens6820 3 місяці тому +8

    Do not compromise on wanting children. Someday, you will end up very bitter towards your partner. Just my opinion

  • @susanczajka6327
    @susanczajka6327 3 місяці тому +7

    Love that song!!!!! You don't need a husband to have a baby! But first, get your finances in line. You still have time to have a baby... You can always adopt down the road. You are too talented to settle right now... Get all your talents making you some steady income....

  • @aimeepeterson4301
    @aimeepeterson4301 3 місяці тому +13

    If you truly want kids and he doesn’t then don’t settle. You won’t be happy in the long run

  • @milenaivanova9269
    @milenaivanova9269 3 місяці тому +11

    For me having kids is an absolute deal breaker. Don't give it up. It will hurt your soul if you do.

  • @lauriecailteux9451
    @lauriecailteux9451 3 місяці тому +7

    I would not compromise!! I can tell you really want to have kids. Make sure you let the guy know right away before it gets too serious.

  • @shepherdLoki
    @shepherdLoki 3 місяці тому +11

    You really are a great singer and song writer. Don't give up your dream of being a mum. X

  • @glee105
    @glee105 3 місяці тому +8

    Regret and resentment will creep in. Don’t give up your dream .

  • @afrey361
    @afrey361 3 місяці тому +3

    I loved the song at the end. Your voice is beautiful!
    Do you just want to have children or is being a mother something you cannot live without?
    I wanted children at some point earlier in life but fell deeply in love with a man who didn’t. I realized that i wanted the kids but couldn’t live without the love of my life. We’ve been together 15 years and we both feel very happy and fulfilled…no resentments. I have never regretted this decision. This isn’t to say it would be the same for everyone; it’s just my personal experience. To each their own.

  • @russellfamilyfunnyfarm
    @russellfamilyfunnyfarm 3 місяці тому +9

    Yes, that was a deal breaker for me. I was friends with a great guy who was head over heels for me but I refused to date him because he was 100% positive that he didn't want kids. The ONLY thing I knew I wanted my whole life was to be a mom. We're still friends, & his wife begged him to have kids for years. Finally he caved in, but found out she couldn't conceive even after IVF. They ended up adopting a newborn baby boy who is now 6. He's a great Dad. Sometimes people change their minds, but I never wanted to force a guy to want kids. I married someone who told me on day one that he wanted to be a Dad. We now have 3 kids, but also battled infertility for 10 years.❤

  • @jacquieberry3397
    @jacquieberry3397 3 місяці тому +6

    I’m a mom and stepmom. Let me tell you, being a stepmom has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced

    • @jacquieberry3397
      @jacquieberry3397 3 місяці тому +1

      With that bn said, I wouldn’t change a thing. Definitely, a deal breaker, if he doesn’t want children and you do

  • @IShallNotBeSilent
    @IShallNotBeSilent 3 місяці тому +12

    Don't settle for anything less than what your hearts desires are. You have always said you wanted to have children and to be a mom.

  • @BettyYatesSouth
    @BettyYatesSouth 3 місяці тому +7

    I love your natural hair so much

  • @chrisjenkins4035
    @chrisjenkins4035 3 місяці тому +6

    I love your natural length hair! It's so pretty without the extensions!

  • @penelopelanevirginiarosecase
    @penelopelanevirginiarosecase 2 місяці тому +1

    I’m 41, single, & divorced, & childless. I understand your journey. Thank you for being an inspiration to women in their 40’s that would still love a lil family. We aren’t grandmas yet. ❤😊

  • @liz4581
    @liz4581 3 місяці тому +15

    My deal-breaker is you have to love pets and animals.

    • @ewright7274
      @ewright7274 3 місяці тому +5

      My dealbreaker is you cannot have any pets or animals😂

    • @liz4581
      @liz4581 3 місяці тому

      @@ewright7274 😄😂😅

    • @BoomBubbleBustRepeat
      @BoomBubbleBustRepeat 3 місяці тому

      I love my Chia PET!!!

  • @butterfly-kb4cn
    @butterfly-kb4cn 3 місяці тому +1

    From experience just No, don’t compromise any of your desires. If a man truly loves you everything you desire would matter to him. Also shouldn’t a man desire to conceive a child with the woman he loves and wants to spend his life with. With that being said there could always be issues getting pregnant but life should be with the person who will give their all in the relationship. Follow your instincts and let God guide your life! ❤

  • @danamackafee6456
    @danamackafee6456 3 місяці тому +5

    He definitely watched your videos. He bought you bath salts.

  • @health4lifecooking
    @health4lifecooking 3 місяці тому +6

    That longing for kids runs deep. Don't give that up. My nephew got divorced because of this issue.

  • @Elizabethmoonlightchild
    @Elizabethmoonlightchild 3 місяці тому +2

    Find someone who wants a baby! Don't compromise on that!
    All my kids are grown and I want to date a guy who has 4 kids, oldest being 13 the youngest 2.
    I was head strong on not dating someone with Littles as I've been a empty nester for 2yrs.
    But he's pretty amazing!
    I know completely opposite of yours, but I get & understand the dynamics & mental struggle it brings on.

  • @christine0418
    @christine0418 3 місяці тому +2

    To be honest, I don’t know how you are single and never been married. You are the whole package and any man that gets to marry you is lucky. It’s hard for me to speak on the deal breaker. I’ve known my husband since 2 grade, he’s the only man I’ve ever been with and we been married 32 years and have 2 adult kids. We are grandparents now to our rainbow 🌈 grandson. So I can’t speak on a situation I know nothing about but like I said you are an amazing woman. You deserve true love and happily ever after ❤️. Sending lots of hugs from Florida 😘🤗

  • @angelatarnowski5620
    @angelatarnowski5620 2 місяці тому +1

    That is absolutely a deal breaker!!! I know for me I have always wanted kids since I was very young and if someone told me they didn't want kids even if I was in love with them it would have to be a no future for us kind of thing!

  • @larissaromonouski4870
    @larissaromonouski4870 3 місяці тому +7

    Can’t say enough how AMAZINGLY TALENTED you are❤❤.

  • @renealynnmn
    @renealynnmn 3 місяці тому +3

    Move on.. RIGHT AWAY! Don't drag it out. Don't think you'll change their mind. That will end badly and end regardless. You know what you want. There are men out there your age that don't have kids and want them. Just date A LOT and be up front from the beginning.

  • @kimberlyy6209
    @kimberlyy6209 3 місяці тому +5

    I love you girl I do, but as a gentleman he should’ve came to your house you shouldn’t have had to undo your trailer and drive to his house.... I don’t care if he’s tired if he wanted to see you, he would see you. I do love you though…. 😁 and I’m so glad you found a place.. I’m happy for you.. 😊

    • @user-cs1xz
      @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +3

      totally agree...i notice she over-gives in dating. in these very new stages it's best to sit back and observe.

  • @debrar9512
    @debrar9512 3 місяці тому +1

    We all know that it is harder to fall pregnant from your late 30's so before you make any decisions get your fertility checked out and if all ok see if you can freeze your eggs maybe ❤❤

  • @judiewagner6473
    @judiewagner6473 3 місяці тому +9

    You are almost to 72K! 👏🎉💪

  • @denisehollich4462
    @denisehollich4462 3 місяці тому +3

    I love your new song! You have a beautiful voice. I married a 50 year old man when I was 37, second marriages for both of us. He had a 15 year old and I had none. He said he would do one more kid because it would be a shame for me not to be a mom. I remember thinking that even if we couldn’t get pregnant I would be happy to have a life with him. He was enough. I did have a daughter. That was 21 years ago. I love my daughter and am so glad she is here. It was a rough go with her, depression and Crohn’s disease. Being a parent is tough not that I would say not to do it. Just giving you my perspective from my life. I just really hope it all works out for you. Keep singing and being you! You have so many talents!

  • @imurhuckleberry5793
    @imurhuckleberry5793 3 місяці тому +2

    I think you know the answer to your own question on this one, a hard No. I feel like you are on the path to finding the right guy that will be your fit, you are sure doing your part to become your best self ready for the undertaking. Proud of your progress and happily celebrate your achievements along side of you. For me, deal breakers would be a lack of daily humor, not backing my goals and no passion for music. We must remember though, each of us has 10 good things and 10 bad things about ourselves. As long as we are working on improvement in our weak areas and our basic needs of safety and acknowledgement are being met, the rest are little things that could easily be otherwise be our personal button pushing pet peeves.

  • @jennajoyce4662
    @jennajoyce4662 3 місяці тому +6

    Love your natural hair!

  • @Rosegardener-12
    @Rosegardener-12 3 місяці тому +3

    Your tired. How can you make a decision like that when exhausted. Take a break and time and then you’ll know what to do.

  • @hopper345
    @hopper345 3 місяці тому +6

    There's that talented danna I have been watching for four years and what ever you choose should be your choice 😊 have a great day danna 😊

  • @joleneharper9036
    @joleneharper9036 3 місяці тому +2

    I love these videos ..I can't have kids my uterus tried to kill me so i evicted it ...but I had that conversation about kids on our first date with my now husband

  • @spunkycat6144
    @spunkycat6144 3 місяці тому +2

    I wanted 3 kids, got married to a guy I had only known for 6 months, found out he was not at all what he seemed like pre marriage. I was his 3rd wife, but I was young (23) and naive and thought I had won his heart. He just wanted arm candy. I was tall, blonde, fit, etc. He even said so, and this became a common theme in pretty much all my reading relationships. They just wanted to be seen with me. I knew I could not raise 3 humans into that relationship. I gave up and the 30s were just around the corner. I should also say that my culture is very into marriage before you know what...so no guy wanted to go out once they found out that I didn't play. My 40s broke this spell bevause I passed an entire decade and then some without getting some😅. I decided that my southern religious beliefs was dumb. But then i was in my 40s and in the exact same spot. I had married for 1 year, left because of bruises, throat punched, arm candy guy, who would not give me any closet space, to meeting guy who had already been milked by girls when they were younger and were already broke from alimony and child support. I met lots of guys who were looking for housing and free meals, I got no actual dates, I met broken guys who had been taken advantage of financially by women. I guess it was just bad decade for men. I am now a decade older and the guys, well I haven't dated. I don't drink or do drugs, so that narrows out pretty much every guy. I don't know where the guys are hiding, but in my 30s I thought I was going to lose my mind, I wanted a baby so bad. I have fought guys off, I just think all they want is S. I do like being single but I feel, as a creator, that I messed up somewhere. Timing seems to be everything.

  • @jennytravis6247
    @jennytravis6247 3 місяці тому +3

    I LOVE ALL of the cleaning videos. I love cleaning & organization videos

  • @cathy2142
    @cathy2142 3 місяці тому +2

    My deal breakers:
    Drug user
    Alcoholic
    Addict
    Ex-con
    Violent
    Pedophile
    Animal abuser
    Cheater
    Atheist
    Has STD
    Unemployed
    Living with parents
    Mean to anyone
    Married 21 years. ❤. Happy stay at home mama. Living the dream being cared for loving God and my family🙌

  • @Cecille_the_one
    @Cecille_the_one 3 місяці тому +8

    Danna you being able to hit the moth with a hanger and still stay on camera is a talent🤣 always love the fun!

  • @susandusenbury6352
    @susandusenbury6352 3 місяці тому +12

    Love the moth content! Next time get a hand towel and, holding one hand, whip the other up. Much more likely to make contact.😂

  • @Dropsofknowledge365
    @Dropsofknowledge365 3 місяці тому +5

    Definitely have kids if you want them! No compromise!

  • @rhonah2255
    @rhonah2255 3 місяці тому +2

    Maybe you should do some lives of you singing and telling us whats going on. I assume that saves you editing time.

  • @jillr759
    @jillr759 3 місяці тому +3

    The hair is everything!!!! You know what you want. After a very long struggle with infertility we adopted. At 41 I do feel since I also got cancer I would have been ok to without kids but that’s me. It’s blissful most of the time. Not always. The up and go life absolutely changes something to consider. How would Danna be in one place? Once they are in school you can’t pull them out unless you home school. Which by the way is a very good option.
    Deal breakers: loud chewing, allergies, sniffling, soft hands, hairy, untrustworthy, narcissism, mama”s boy, out of shape, not a nature lover, lack of respect, gawker, lack of love for music, disrespect.

  • @corky_cork
    @corky_cork 3 місяці тому +3

    There is nothing tough about it l If you want your own children do not marry a man who doesn’t want children . You will regret it for the rest of your life. You are young , beautiful, fantastic sense of humour, good person Do not settle but maybe you should freeze some of your eggs.

    • @user-cs1xz
      @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +1

      well said to all. and yes danna freeze your eggs!! asap. it will make things easier down the road.

  • @jodischoolcraft9188
    @jodischoolcraft9188 3 місяці тому +9

    One of my best friends didn’t want kids and the guy she was dating did want kids so they briefly broke up and he showed up one day and said he’d rather have a life with her and no kids than a life without her with kids… They are still blissfully happily married

    • @tdonnell99
      @tdonnell99 3 місяці тому +2

      sad for him though

    • @jodischoolcraft9188
      @jodischoolcraft9188 3 місяці тому +1

      Nope ! He’s never regretted for one second

    • @tdonnell99
      @tdonnell99 3 місяці тому

      @@jodischoolcraft9188 well he had to compromise on the best thing in life. i think that's sad, but i'm happy for your friend and him both. glad he does not regret it. seems like danna is steadfast that she was meant to be a mother so i believe she would regret it

    • @jodischoolcraft9188
      @jodischoolcraft9188 3 місяці тому +2

      Not the best thing in life for some
      He did realize with nieces and nephews and god kids - kids weren’t for him after all
      Life was and is full
      I have two kids - one hates me so there’s that

    • @tdonnell99
      @tdonnell99 3 місяці тому

      @@jodischoolcraft9188 i understand kids aren't for everyone, but Danna thinks they are for her, so I don't want her to compromise. good to hear another perspective, though.

  • @ginnyleedays
    @ginnyleedays 3 місяці тому +2

    Sister sounds crazy but pray, God will send you the perfect person when you least expect it!!! Stop worrying and Trust he’s got you💜

  • @kimlhelzy
    @kimlhelzy 3 місяці тому +4

    If you want kids I would not compromise.

  • @LovinLifeAtHome
    @LovinLifeAtHome 3 місяці тому +2

    First, love your new song! Kids or not - that would need to be discussed thoroughly before committing to a long term relationship. Friends of mine agreed before marriage to no kids however she later changed her mind and wanted kids. He said "I wanted a truck, I got a truck, I take care of my truck. You want a baby, you take care of it." Yikes - they ended up divorced, she married his best friend and they have 2 kids, lol.

  • @Yellowstoners
    @Yellowstoners 3 місяці тому +3

    I had kids young but can’t imagine having them now in my early 40s. I am not sure if people can grasp what a lifestyle change it is, but I understand wanting them, so might be a deal breaker… that resentment is real. I’d stop entertaining anyone not on the same page since it is what you truly want. I’m just glad I got it done bc they are so much better as adults that care for and support themselves 😂

  • @pianogirl3870
    @pianogirl3870 3 місяці тому +3

    Definitely a deal breaker if you want kids and he doesn't....grieve the loss of him now rather than later, in my humble opinion.....

  • @clairevagonis1873
    @clairevagonis1873 3 місяці тому +2

    I was 38 when I’m going through fertility when I finally had my son and it took six years before that . And that was with the fertility doctor u got to get checked out first. I hate to tell you that, but that’s just the way it is. I never thought I would have a problem but I did and I lost 5 miscarriages and one at five months.

    • @Bigt69692
      @Bigt69692 3 місяці тому +2

      So sorry to hear that, congrats on persevering

  • @Sunflowers36
    @Sunflowers36 3 місяці тому +2

    No kids would be a deal breaker. Maybe bike path crush is an option as he’d likely want kids? Nothing wrong with dating and marrying a younger man.

  • @OhDarling1982
    @OhDarling1982 3 місяці тому +2

    Deal breaker for sure. I honestly wish you lived in a big city, just for the sole reason that there are a lot more eligible bachelors in their 40s looking to settle down and start a family. I'm in this age demographic, in a big city, and know several guys in my own friends groups like this. They focused on their careers, travel, fun, and now looking to find a wife and start having kids in their 40s. I really feel like smaller conservative towns are filled with men who married young, had children young, as there is no need to focus on career and travel, and also for religious obligations. And then by the time they are 40, they are over it. Meanwhile in the big cities, most couples don't start having children til their 30s and 40s! (myself included!). St George looks soo beautiful, but I imagine the dating pool is so small and challenging 😭 You are such a catch, Danna. I hope you find your man soon. I just worry he's not in St George 😢 BTW, your natural hair in this vlog is FIRE! 🔥 Holy voluminousness! Hair goals! 🙌

    • @Bigt69692
      @Bigt69692 3 місяці тому +1

      Are those guys looking to find a 25-32 year old woman or a 40yr old? Tbh the only guys I've seen like that worked a ton and want a young trophy wife who is hot and will be a stay at home mom

    • @OhDarling1982
      @OhDarling1982 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@Bigt69692 trophy wife and stay at home mom... In this economy???? I'm thinking you may be older than me and/or located in a city with a population under 2million people?? 😬

  • @koreensanders4281
    @koreensanders4281 3 місяці тому +5

    I’d say a deal breaker. You want kids period.

  • @neenee_marie77
    @neenee_marie77 3 місяці тому +2

    Kids are the one area that definitely shouldn't be compromised imo.
    I had a guy lie to me too when we first met. He said he always wanted a daughter (only had a son). Then months into dating he said he was too old for more kids.

    • @Bigt69692
      @Bigt69692 3 місяці тому +1

      Devil's advocate, some people change their mind. Kids are a fun thought until you see a baby and remember all the hell it was raising them

  • @mill7433
    @mill7433 3 місяці тому +2

    Don't compromise on having kids. You will regret it. It's obvious how much you want children. Be true to yourself

  • @dandycreates
    @dandycreates 3 місяці тому +1

    Where is the best place to buy the cold brew tea? I will be traveling to the US and would like to pick some up. Thanks!

  • @positivejean
    @positivejean 3 місяці тому +2

    For sure don't compromise on wanting kids and don't settle just to be in a relationship. Love your videos! Long time fan from back in the Cali days!

  • @patriciabarnhart1886
    @patriciabarnhart1886 3 місяці тому +2

    Call me crazy, but I more enjoy your natural voice, and I’m generally a fan of the theatre……at a theatre😂❤️😂
    You have more to offer in your natural state than you give yourself credit for.
    Most guys these days don’t want kids, so short dating cycles suit them best.
    You would have to find a guy who ticked so many other boxes for you in order for you to give up on your dream of children. Love your singing voice. Could you get a little singing gig at a hotel for extra money? Also a chance to meet men!

  • @LilyBecca
    @LilyBecca 3 місяці тому +2

    I love your song! You have a beautiful, soulful voice

  • @RebrushedByMaddison
    @RebrushedByMaddison 3 місяці тому

    No personally I would not compromise, you talk about wanting kids so often I feel like it’s something you see in your future, whether you do that on your own or with a partner! if that person doesn’t want children I would end it now before more feelings start brewing!

  • @normagrainger5091
    @normagrainger5091 3 місяці тому +1

    Love your natural hair and love your song. Get your broom out to get that pesky moth! I think you might want to find a guy who wants kids. I'm afraid you'll end up resenting this guy and end up regretting your decision to stay with him.

  • @donanusca
    @donanusca 3 місяці тому +1

    I know you have an holistic approach to the way you see Life. I do too. are you questioning Life's wisdom? let it flow. you have to decide if you want a partnership or kids. seems the pattern repeats too much and you keep giving up on good partnerships. I'm sorry but you're being stubborn, love. Life is always right. I have a friend who decided that if when she was 40 she still didn't have kids she would do it alone with medical assistance. and now she have twins and she wrote a book about being a single mother of two girls the way she did. and the girls already know how they were conceived. I'm sorry but my opinion is that you're being stubborn and keep losing good partners. no it's not a deal breakers. listen to the patterns in your life and let it flow. love you really so much shining star 🌟

  • @sunnyblonde93
    @sunnyblonde93 3 місяці тому +1

    I know it’s so unromantic, but I treat prospective partners as friendly acquaintances until I know we align on our core values. Only then will I consider opening my heart to them to see if we can connect that way. Chemistry is wonderful and it feels so good to feel at first, but that’s supposed to be the easy part. You don’t have to work for it. It’s just there. So I don’t allow myself to get there until I know they’re worthwhile. Easier said than done buuuuuut still I attempt to embrace it.

  • @arielmcgillacuddy6640
    @arielmcgillacuddy6640 3 місяці тому +2

    If you want kids and I believe you do and I haven’t been following that long but you do then it is a deal breaker and I am saying this with love you don’t have time to waste unless you have your eggs frozen and waiting and who has the $ for that. But good for him for being honest and not stringing you a long.

  • @angelaclausing5565
    @angelaclausing5565 3 місяці тому +1

    You not having kids isn't something you should ever give up on. I promise you that you will most definitely not be completely happy I'm that relationship because it's so important to you. Don't settle for less then you deserve, no matter how wonderful he may be

  • @Donna-jz2ft
    @Donna-jz2ft 3 місяці тому +2

    LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE the natural hair (just moisturize it more ) Maybe pull an oil like you use on your scalp gently through it ? That color top is gorgeous on you. You do NOT need extensions, false eyelashes or a lot of extra makeup. You have a beautiful Summer glow Just add a little mascara and lip gloss !!!!!!!!!!

  • @TexasGirl1633
    @TexasGirl1633 3 місяці тому +1

    Think what would happen if you settled and then years down the line you get divorced. I think you would be devastated if you gave up on your dream.

  • @mrskeppers1
    @mrskeppers1 17 днів тому

    BTW, it isn't always easy having kids in your 40s. We waited because? I had 2 later losses. People don't realize that is probably more likely than birth defects. It can be rough in a relationship relationship, the difficulties. But I did have 2 beautiful children in my 40s.

  • @arielmcgillacuddy6640
    @arielmcgillacuddy6640 3 місяці тому +2

    I can understand why Skylar didn’t want more but you need to keep looking.

  • @user-cs1xz
    @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +1

    also not wise to be getting into rships knowing you and the person aren't on the same page on kids....imo. it's nothing to do with compromise. no one should ever compromise on wanting or not wanting children. that's a serious life plan difference

  • @TaraAK907
    @TaraAK907 3 місяці тому +1

    If you're being true to yourself, then the decision to NOT have kids because of who you are with, will ruin you and your relationship. It was a dealbreaker for me when I started dating after my divorce and the guy I was with told me he wanted kids etc etc. Later found out that he was "fixed" and never wanted to have more kids in the first place. I was devastated and confused and I foolishly decided that I wanted to be with him anyways because by that time I already started my life with him (building a house, paid for him to go thru school etc) and then it ended 5 months later. I was 80lbs heavier and so depressed. I'm gonna be 42 in August and still dont have any kids, but Im in a very healthy relationship with a man with 2 kids. Its def not the same as having my own kids, but it is the little family that I've always wanted. Im cheering you on from Alaska. Hope you find the true love you've been looking for and you keep posting videos!

  • @jenniferflores925
    @jenniferflores925 3 місяці тому +3

    Your hair today 👩‍🍳💋

  • @pattir2408
    @pattir2408 3 місяці тому +2

    You crack me up Montaña Dana!!! I’m 60 this year and have never married and didn’t have a desire for children. It’s taken me this long to realize that my life has been meaningful even when I don’t believe it most of the time.
    You do you……. You’re extremely talented and any good man will be wiping your feet/or massage them 😂.
    I will trip you out a bit with my one and only love story!
    I wanted a loving companion in my life….. So I said a mantra for 45 days and that was in May! 🌈 I let my mantra go and continued on with life. I went to a non-denominational church named Unity! A bunch of us became friends and had gatherings at each other’s homes for great conversations. August 1, my good friend was having the get together at her place. I get there and several people were already there. I walk into the kitchen and 💥 💥 Bam there he was! I knew the moment we met it was meant to be. He was a Pisces and they are deep thinkers. We could talk or not talk, either way, we felt right.
    I made a vision board with my Love “ Sal” and everything came true, even the hot tub on the balcony. 💗😜🌈🤣💕

  • @trudyyurina5473
    @trudyyurina5473 3 місяці тому +1

    You have a wonderful voice. I liked your new song and I also like your hair without the extensions.

  • @sheilavanduynfote5539
    @sheilavanduynfote5539 3 місяці тому +2

    Absolutely a deal breaker, if you want children you don’t need a man that doesn’t want them. You will definitely be able to meet the right man for you.

  • @thesimplefarmgirl
    @thesimplefarmgirl 3 місяці тому +3

    Definitely don’t compromise on your desire to have bio kids. Like you said, you will end up resenting him if you give that up. I feel for ya! Love the song!! 💗

    • @spunkycat6144
      @spunkycat6144 3 місяці тому

      Omgawdddd. That song is radio worthy ❤

  • @theresadiana8894
    @theresadiana8894 3 місяці тому +6

    Loving your new song!

  • @angel_existential
    @angel_existential 3 місяці тому +2

    Not all moths eat clothes. It's only particular moths. That stinker was probably just admiring your wardrobe. 🤷‍♀️

  • @lesakingsbury1612
    @lesakingsbury1612 3 місяці тому

    Bl##dy hell KEVIN 😂 get your act together and do your “manly” duties and get rid of the MOTH
    especially those beautiful summer dresses 👗 the dresses must be saved 😅
    And YES we (I) care about your hair, I think you hair looks GORGEOUS 🤩🤩 (I am losing my hair due too chemotherapy, so I am hoping for nicer hair when it grows back…… who knows hey but I can live in hope). Please don’t stop your humour Danna, that is what makes you YOU and why you have built this community that loves your videos and seeing what you are up to. Sending you thanks 🙏🏻 and love 🥰 from Australia 🇦🇺🫶🏻🧡🫶🏻🧡

  • @lesakingsbury1612
    @lesakingsbury1612 3 місяці тому

    Bl##dy hell KEVIN 😂 get your act together and do your “manly” duties and get rid of the MOTH
    especially those beautiful summer dresses 👗 the dresses must be saved 😅
    And YES we (I) care about your hair, I think you hair looks GORGEOUS 🤩🤩 (I am losing my hair due too chemotherapy, so I am hoping for nicer hair when it grows back…… who knows hey but I can live in hope). Please don’t stop your humour Danna, that is what makes you YOU and why you have built this community that loves your videos and seeing what you are up to. Sending you thanks 🙏🏻 and love 🥰 from Australia 🇦🇺🫶🏻🧡🫶🏻🧡

  • @myearthlytreasures3
    @myearthlytreasures3 3 місяці тому +1

    You need a fly swatter! You look lovely with your hair natural or with hair extensions. You should think long and hard about kids, you seem like you really want them and would be a great Mom. I am sure your soul mate is out there and would love to have kids with you. It will happen, you will see!

  • @CindyinArizona
    @CindyinArizona 3 місяці тому +1

    My niece just had a baby 2 weeks ago, she's 38 and decided now was the time to have a child. She's single....need I say more?

  • @lindasartore3303
    @lindasartore3303 3 місяці тому

    I LOVED your song. Your songs are from your heart, so I think you would be best served by listening to yourself when making these difficult decisions. Just saying….😜
    Oh, by the way..you can use a towel to swat at bugs. Flip it like trying to smack someone in the a- -!😂

  • @vickierabovsky9166
    @vickierabovsky9166 3 місяці тому +2

    I love your hair like this natural ❤❤

  • @user-cs1xz
    @user-cs1xz 3 місяці тому +1

    yes that is a massive, non-negotiable deal breaker. wanting or not wanting kids. no one should comprise on this on either side.

  • @annalisahamlett1334
    @annalisahamlett1334 3 місяці тому

    Have you watched "Ladies and Tangents" they just did an episode/podcast on UA-cam about "Future Faking" I think you'd like the topic and those ladies.