Being a parent now. I don’t know why so many people “stuck around for the kids”.. even if my husband and I have a small argument, the kids notice. I can’t imagine living in a household with unhappy parents. Very sad but glad she chose to leave! Marriage should be for life but sometimes there are special circumstances
The entire reason the divorce rate is so high is because of repeat offenders. Most people can make it work, some people can’t make it work with anyone. My wife and I have had some major issues; we work through all of it because that’s what a marriage is. In general if you’re the type of person who feels you shouldn’t stay together for the sake of your children, you’re probably too selfish to make a marriage work anyway.
@mr.doctorcaptain1124 hey, let's stop with the marriage bashing. If you are unhappy more than happy. Leave. You being happy will translate to the kids. Don't train your child to live in a toxic environment like it's OK and everyone does that. Nah star, life is toooo short to be in a unhappy life. Get out and get happy
@@mr.doctorcaptain1124Great that worked for you. Sure try not giving up entirely and trying therapy and such, but to stay just for your kids is ridiculous! My uncle did that, now he’s in his 70’s he will die alone. My uncle’s spouse did cheat on him. But he didn’t leave because well the kid. Now the kid is grown up, what is the excuse? They don’t even sleep in the same room!? Don’t stay together just for statistics, stay because you love that person! I wouldn’t want to be in a loveless relationship, it’s not a way to live! But yes try at first, but if both people are done then it’s ok to move on for yourself and for your kid! Tbh I think it’s more selfish to stay because of the kid, seems like an excuse to me. Plus the kid knows, they aren’t dumb! Best
there's a ton of new data that shows the divorce reduces positive outcomes for kids across every life measurement. Children of divorced parents under all circumstances have much higher rates of adult anxiety, depression, and anger issues and most have lower incomes
I wished for my parents to get divorced so much when I was young. Growing up in a household with loud verbal abuse and items being smashed terrified me. Caused me so much anxiety then and now
Same. Add to that physical and emotional abuse to the mom and the kids. It got so bad that when I was 17 and finally had a car, I heard the smashing and beating begin one night and I came downstairs and told my mother I was leaving and that anyone that wanted to come be ready to go NOW! He came at me and two of my brothers backed me up. We left that night, me, my mom, and 4 of my 5 siblings. Terrifying stuff. Luckily my aunt (bless her soul and tiny house) took us in and the divorce started soon after. There were six children and all of us have been a mess in one or more ways for all of our lives. Two managed to work steady and maintain a semblance of a career. None of us has maintained a stable relationship or family structure - multiple marriages, estranged children, etc. My sister has been institutionalized since 12 years old. She's 57 now. There has been one suicide, all have had bouts with drugs and alcoholism, and two are self-isolated conspiracy theorists living on disability. PTSD, depression, anxiety, and bipolar diagnosis seem to be the common thread. Knowing where we came from, I'm proud that we have been able to hold it together even as poorly as we have and that we haven't done more damage to our own children - except my brother, the one who committed suicide. Me, I just keep trying to get stuff outta my head and make it to another day without giving up. I will never be able to forgive my mom for staying with him and having more kids with him knowing what he was. The only good thing is that he killed himself as well a few years after the divorce. Needless to say, family reunions are pretty much nonexistent. No good parent would put their kids through that and unfortunately to be a parent you don't have to be good at it, or even competent. If parenting were piloting, no one would take a chance on flying.
@@gregf4416I'm so sorry for what you went through. I was reading the comments and feeling lousy. So many of them say to stay married for the kids and be selfless. I left an abusive marriage, and my 2 kids are with me (single mom) most of the time. They don't see their dad as much. My 9-year-old son gets so sad about it, but I follow my instinct, keep the custody schedule as is, and give him lots of hugs. He has a counselor, but it's not the same as more time with his dad. You took on a lot standing up to someone who, no matter how old you were, was the adult when you were the kid. You're right. Your mom should have protected you so that you didn't have to be the kid protecting the family.
That's a fine line. Be careful of using that rationalization because I can tell you children of divorce can be really messed up and sometimes blame themselves for what happened ...not fair to them at all. Abusive is one thing. But "unhappy" is just a part of being alive and having a range of emotions. Sometimes that sucks. Welcome to life. MOST relationships -not all - but often if you put in the work you will find you can create a kind of true happiness that feels rewarding and fulfilling. Expecting to feel over the moon "in love" forever is not to be expected. Gosh I am glad my relationship doesn't have the added pressure of fame ...
Yup yup! One of my friends, can’t stand her hubby, everything he does bothers her. But she won’t leave. Her excuse she doesn’t want to upset her son. He also avoids her as well and stays out a lot. Another friend asked my spouse, how do you still like her because my husband hates me. I suggested therapy, her solution, have more kids, last I heard from her she was on number 5. 🤦🏻♀️
@@luciaeleccocould I expand on that a little to say, if you _pursue_ happiness, it will elude you, but if you pursue selflessness, paradoxically, you will find happiness:-)
I’m middle aged and all the marriages I’ve seen that are 60+ years going all admit they literally hated each other for at least a decade but they stuck it out and grew back together into a content and happy marriages. A decade is a long time to wait it out for some. I remember my best friend coming to us twice in childhood saying her parents were divorcing (they never did) and they are so happy they stuck through because they came back together. But divorce is absolutely the right choice for some. It depends on the individuals. Abuse should always be divorced
The fact that this comment has 3 likes and all of the others that are saying "don't stay in an unhappy marriage" are getting 100's is truly sad and shows why marriages are not valued or seen as a lifetime commitment.
Life is how you create it. Some people stay together regardless of the obstacles they face and some don't and choose a better path for themselves by moving on as in being single or with a partner. So it's ok to have had an experience in marriage with someone and it's ok to move on from that as well and be happy about it and knowing that you still have to live your life just the way you want to while you're still alive😊 Either way being single or partnered, you still have to live your life the way you want and love & appreciate yourself so you'll have a happy life this time round.😊
It's a gamble and if you are putting in the effort and working on yourself but your partner is not or isn't interested, then you're essentially betting on potential and wasting your life. I've seen people wait it out for years and years decades without any improvement or connection. They are married in name only. That's a pity. Marriage is an important part of life for who are married but it is only one part. Truth is very few marriages 'grow back together into a content and happy marriages'. Most just drag it out for the sake of children, religious conditioning, social status etc.
Even Michelle Obama said she hated Barack for a decade. Lol. People need to know that happiness doesn't come from others. It comes from within. The more you work on yourself, the better others show up and that is true in so many environments...even marriage. Don't give someone the power to "take your happiness".
Yeah, but what I find is that it’s the women who have to do the vast majority of the sacrificing. She’s the one who was worked like a mule. She tries to get a divorce but then he promises to be better until he doesn’t. . At some point the women just give up because they think it’s too late to start over. Stop romanticizing.
Lost alot of male friends cause of that. Turned them all down cause it made me feel so gross. It was honestly heckin creepy. Like they were waiting in the bushes for my marriage to fail. Gross.
Most of them are just trying to capitalize on a perceived vulnerability for momentary gain. Most guys aren't willing to sign up for baggage willingly like that
I found a new love before some of my male friends knew I was getting divorced, and two of them are still mad. It's been thirteen years and I've been married to that new love for eleven. Wild.
Ali Wong’s Netflix special is the best one on currently…I laughed out loud more than Chappelle’s many recent shows combined. She’s absolutely hilarious and she’s a beast live! If she’s ever in your city GO!!! Run!!!!
When I said I was getting a divorce, my mom said "well it makes me really sad, but marriages are like this, it can't always be good.". 15 minutes later she called my ex husband to say she was devastated, but that he shouldn't worry because I was "impulse and immature", but if he felt any sad, he could always count on her, because she loved him. Never asked how I was feeling. Never said I could count on her. It's been four years since that decision that changed my life and put me in a much better place, but still I can't completely forget my mom's sympathy and love for him and complete lack of support and validation for me.
I'm sorry your mom wasn't supportive. That was just wrong. My mom was like that, chastising me about my breakup with my HS boyfriend. Years later, we somehow got to talking about it and I said, "When J broke up with me..." My mom said, "Wait, what? I thought you broke up with him!" All that time she thought I had carelessly discarded him; maybe because I put on a brave face and didn't fall to pieces. We were going off to different colleges, so I figured that it would've been difficult to keep the relationship going and perhaps it was best that we move on. I'm glad to hear you're doing better. Keep living your best life!
@@healer81 Haha. Reminds me of a work situation I had many years ago. I was telling a friend about the difficulties I was having with certain individuals and she said, "Well, what did YOU do?" It infuriated me b/c I spent hours listening to HER complaints without a shred of judgment. I told a co-worker about the exchange (she felt similarly about our workplace) and she said, "OMG, that's like asking the Jews what they did to make the Nazis want to stuff them in ovens!" Sometimes all the bad IS on one side -- just sayin'. Regardless of who was at fault, it was crappy of @helenavitorino6252's mom to so blatantly side with the ex instead of her own daughter.
@@SarahRenz59 the Jews were taken against their own will so it’s not even a comparison but if you want to go down that rabbit hole minorities typically stick with their own and don’t integrate with the country they move into. I know this because my family are immigrants. The Jews tend to stick together and not integrate wherever they are. It was the case in Germany. You don’t know the mother’s side of the story or the ex husbands. In every case someone had done me wrong I’ve look back on it and acknowledge my role in it. That’s the point I’m making. Take responsibility for what ever situation you are in. The greatest people in history have owned responsibility that should not be theirs but do because it’s the right thing to do. Rosa parks could have said it’s the white mans fault but she didn’t and stood her ground.
2 words come to mind- no contact. Let’s see if that same ex-husband or boyfriend is taking care of her in old age, calling her and nurturing their relationship. 😂😂 The minute some woman shows up that will meet his needs she’ll never see or hear from him again. Ur mom chose him over her own flesh and blood. We are in the age where women who sabotage other women WILL experience the hurt they hv inflicted on other women. Loneliness and abandonment. To u I say be well ❤ and thrive. You will encounter other mother figures in the world who will treat you well. U r worthy!
As someone who's parents stayed together and forced a marriage for way too long "for the children" - don't. Get the divorce... its the right thing to do.
The people I know who are children of divorce had/have a really hard time coping with life. Divorce is not always the answer. But if abuse is present of course get a divorce.
@@Jcakiiiii I think it completely depends on the situation for sure...but if there is fighting, yelling or physical altercations then divorce is the answer. For people who had a hard time coping with their parents divorcing....it's likely it wasn't the divorce itself, it's how their parents handled it both as parents and individuals after. If the parents obviously don't love each other anymore and fight or are distant etc. that's not what you want your kids growing up to think marriage is like. In most cases divorce is a better option than forcing the marriage and setting the wrong example for your children.
@@Jcakiiiii But I have no doubt it's not always the answer as you said. I was lucky enough to be old enough to understand what was happening, some aren't so fortunate.
@@Jcakiiiii See I feel way more messed up by watching my parents live in misery with each other my entire adolescence than my youngest brother was watching my parents finally get divorced when he was still in the house. Staying together for the sake of the kids isn’t great when two people are so clearly unhappy with each other. Seeing my mom in her second marriage has truly healed something in me from my childhood because she’s the absolute best and deserves to be happy.
about singing: I had a boyfriend who sent recordings of himself singing love songs. Then I found out it was a mass mailing. I think he was the original Mail Chimp
Listen to J Kristnamurti Urgency of change, and finaly find yourself by learning about self knowledge or know thy self, I strongly sense this will help you find all the love within you
Never...I repeat never stay in a marriage for the kids,because if you do they will need therapy the rest of their lives,and everyone involved is miserable...just saying.
Not many comedians can hold my attention and be amusing for a whole special but I was surprised I enjoyed Ali Wong's special from beginning to end. One of the best in the last few years. I'm a Chappelle fan but this was equally as good as his last few and even more outrageous in places without going too far.
I hate this song. My ex used to sing it in my ear and dance to it with me and I always liked it that (I thought) she was singing it to me. Now it makes me sick.
"I wanna dance with you in the ocean..." 😂 It's great to know I'm not the only one who butchers song lyrics this badly! 😆 Even professionals do it! For those of you who didn't recognize Kelly Clarkson's rendition of that song, that was Savage Garden's "Truly Madly Deeply". 🤭
What's weird is how happy Ali sounded about her marriage when she was married. Listen to her on Marc Maron's podcast. She was raving about her husband. How did it go so bad?
I remember watching Ali's specials and thinking she loved her husband but part of her missed being single and sleeping with other guys. Seems like I was right. Hope the part about having a prenup that she mentioned in one of her specials is true. She said his family insisted on it because he had money. If so, the jokes on them because now she's the one with the money. 😂
I got the impression not that she missed “sleeping with other guys” but that she was upset at her husband for lying to her about his finances and hiding his debt from her, even though he made her feel like she was the “poor” one with the prenup. But clearly she loved him enough to not leave him immediately when she found out about his lies.
I think you're on the money with that assessment, that's what I thought as well. Her third special where she talked about wanting to f*ck some dude made it seem like she doesn't want to be in a marriage. She should've not gotten married then.
My grandma is the exact same. Whenever we have a family gathering, she always asks how’s everything going on with every family, and try to help them to work things out. And she always ends up saying: Never think of getting a divorce when I’m still around. Otherwise, you’re not my child anymore. This family does not condone divorce. And she DID abandon one of my uncles for daring to divorce his wife with 2 sons. He’s not a part of our family anymore, at least for now. 😅 And I think my mother is showing signs of being a younger version of my grandma when it comes to this problem. 😅
I was married To My Ex Husband For 5 Years when we separated. My mom was ok with me getting divorced, plus my situation with my ex and the father of my daughters was different.
So many m3n make up a big story in their head about a relationship they IMAGINE, and then they dive right in like it's already happened in real life. They don't want to take the STEPS and do the interpersonal WORK and put in the TIME to reach the "I'm going to send you this video song and you're going to love it" stage. They just want ONE BIG GESTURE, feel heroic about it, and not the day-to-day. YIKES.
What shackles. She married a Harvard medical graduate, then became successful and believed she is now better than him. Then she divorced and became highly promicous again. Perfect example why men should not marry.
I'm a mom of an adult daughter. She has just broken up with her partner. I'm tired of getting to know and like the partner, then she breaks up with them. It's tiring.😅
This lady already admitted she only married her husband because he made more money. When she became the breadwinner she divorced him. I’m glad she set him free so he could find someone who actually loves him
I'm an adult now but was a kid of parents who divorced later when we were all 18. I can say that although we appreciated my parents sucking it up until we got old enough, I wished they had gotten divorced earlier when we were younger and they were younger. It was never a broken home compared to others, but we knew our parents weren't always happy. We all turned 18(i, youngest), oldest was 23, we had all moved out, and my parents decided to divorce. We all suported but knew which parent would have gotten the short end of the stick. We all applauded them for sticking it out this long. My parents were both trying to date around, and you just see how limited their options are. My dad passed shortly after the divorce due to previous health issues. My mom is only 47, but shes a traditional and conservative little asian lady but is very independent and still craves for companionship because that's what humans yearn for eventually when they get older. A part of me always wonders if my parents' lives would've been different if they had just been a little selfish and divorced earlier. They both might've found someone and been happier, and maybe my dad may not have passed away. I've always wondered about those stuff. I recently got married and I always jokingly tell my husband, I dont plan on getting married ever again but if we cant make this work or if we're unhappy, you bet ill be leaving your butt. Because i damn well would prefer being old, single but happy with my dog than always fighting and being miserable as we grow old together. I'd like to say he has taken my advice quite well so far, lol.
@michellen.4037 , Unfortunately, we all know too many people who are in those situations. I used to be those friends or family members who questioned why but, I've come to realize that questioning someone else's reasoning won't fix or make anything easier for them. I'm sure they are tired of hearing about other people's opinion. So what I do now is ask, "what can I do to help? If i can't help, when you do need help, I'm here." Just so that I don't stress myself with other people's issues. Control what you can and just support your loved ones. ❤
I’m 35 and now learning that myself this year - it’s better to not get so stressed over what you can’t control in other lives. I definitely used to be TOO emotionally involved in friends situations and it made me not want to be around their partners but now I learned to let them live their lives Also sorry to hear about your father!
@@kathrynparker9790 that was sweet of u to say☺️💜thought was funny bc Btwn the daughters we all have the same opinion but between our mothers everyone has different answer , a contrast wasn’t it lol
My question for people who divorce : Is it because of a red flag you ignored, or was it something new that happened after marriage like your partner changed or cheated?
It can be both, and doesn't matter which at the end of the day. Very few people ignore red flags on purpose, no one wants to be divorced. You weren't perfect, neither were they. But from this point on, both of you have to grow. You can't be the only one putting in the effort and working on themselves indefinitely. It takes two to tango.
@@rpaafourever7908 I think red flags are red flags for a reason. But I completely understand that people are just desperate to have a relationship or they're in love that they ignore it completely.
I wouldn't say there were any red flags I ignored or that anyone really changed. I married a guy who was like a "best friend" with very little chemistry and thought that was a normal adult relationship. I thought it was unrealistic to expect fireworks. Then after 9+ yrs we were both tired of that situation. Super happy to have moved on and know that fireworks in a 10 yr marriage of healthy fortysomethings is awesome and attainable!
Eh, I could tell from her very first stand up special that she would end up divorced. She didn't seem like she even liked her husband, she just liked flexing her mom and wife status for the material. Just like I don't care for male comedians whose material is complaining about their wives. Idk, I just didn't find it funny, even as a mom and wife myself. But everyone else seems to think she's hilarious. Humor is subjective. 🤷♀️ Her work in movies is better though IMO.
I didn't find it hilarious. Her netflix special she spent most of the time talking about sleeping with all these different men after her divorce. She joked she had a really low bar to sleep with them. Is that funny? I find it sad.
My parents were ALWAYS treating to divorce each other, since I was like 3, but they stayed in a crappy relationship (till this day 🙄) and one day my mom said “maybe if I’d left this toxic relationship I’d just jump into one even more toxic “, because she doesn’t believe in being happy by yourself 🙄 it is DEF a generational thing, just look at the “so… any boy/girlfriend?” Aunties… all 50+ yo in a reeeeeeally crappy marriage
Honestly, I think marriage can't survive fame. She claims her ex-husband is her best friend, yet her stand-up was centered around her wanting to cheat. I feel bad that her girls will have to grow up and hear all that.
Yeah, after i saw her last special, or 2nd to last.... i lost respect for her. Im all for offensive comedy, love Gervais, but to disrespect your husband down to that, it's more telling of Ali and i didnt think it was funny at all.... making fun of someone vs. talking down to someone are 2 different things.... like Gervais, he makes fun of his partner all the time, but never disrespects her.
I think some of it was her processing the discovery that he had been lying to her about his finances and hiding thousands of dollars in debt from her. I was kind of surprised that she didn’t leave him sooner because that is a huge betrayal, but she talked about it a few years before she actually divorced him
The way yall are mom shaming is wild. Go see a therapist and stop projecting. You have no idea what really happened so stay in your struggle and let her live.
On one hand, the "stick around for the kids" mentality is finally waning. On the other hand, couples don't acknowledge the amount of work required nor do they take responsibility for their part in maintaining a healthy relationship. Divorce rates are *insane*. I'm not talking about abuse, etc. Just your everyday married couples not doing enough, early enough, to keep a marriage in a well-functioning state. It isn't easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is.
what bothered me is her entire comedy bit was about only being with him for his status and money in case comedy didn't work out. Most of her show was her talking about how she was miserable being with him. Alas, comedy worked out, and she left him almost right after her second (?) special. She says he's a good dude and at least for a while after the split he still supported her by selling her merch at her shows. I honestly feel bad for him.
@NEWWYSDOM i don't know how much say he had in that. The way she tells it, his family forced a prenup so that loss is on them not him. Based on his career he's not hurting either way
Absolutely the entire thing was that he was a financial and status failsafe and the moment she had both independent of him she proved her jokes were honest and dumped his simpin @$$ ... I feel bad for the dude and find how transactional she is hilarious; She doesn't give good person at all, gives really bad person
she explains he wanted a prenuptial that favoured him never thinking she would ever be the one who was worth as almost as much or more than him.. he underestimated her and that's sad.. he always thought she would always be worth less than him so I see why she ended up divorcing him. True he came from a wealthy family and he did the stay at home dad thing but he still didn't expect her to do so well. I think underestimatint her says a lot about why they got divorced 🤷♀️ there might have been other reasons too but this couldn't have helped... Go Ali to be honest and only the two of them truly know what happened.. she also said she oked all her jokes with him beforehand so he was in on her jokes and fine with them..
Basically if the girl liked you everything you do is cute and if they don't whatever you do is not enough borderline cringe, so you might as well do nothing
When i found out how she met her husband and where i was like thats a good way. Then her comedy career came out of no where after her kids were born etc, she started thinking she was better than her husband she wanted to leave him. If you listen to one of her comedy special she did, she explains it like her husband was just something to do. Ali seems nice and those dudes in her inbox and close to her just wanna smash lets be honest here
I was shocked they got divorced. The way she talked about him in her shows just made them seem like a great couple. But he's an Ivy League overachiever and she's a comedian. Maybe they're just too different after all.
^Divorce is great! Why treat it like such a tragedy. Like in the olden days it was very hard for a woman to get a divorce. But if two people aren’t happy together then why stay? And if u got kids why show them staying in a relationship without being happy. Makes zero sense.
@@squiggs1002 Marriage is what you make of it. We don't know what the karmic connection is between two people. Not everyone gets married in a religious ceremony anyhow. If you are putting in the effort but your partner is not over a period of time, then it's ok to leave. Maybe you leaving is really the kick up the backside they needed to work on themselves.
@@rpaafourever7908 if the bar to leave a marriage is that low especially if you have kids together, there is not point in getting married with the financial and emotional trauma so high.
I see people praising her in the comments but SHE is the problem. Her stand up was about wanting to cheat on her husband / only wanting him when he made more money than her. Here she is mocking another man who showed her affection publicly. She will be in alot of failed relationships with men until she changes.
Well other comments are saying he lied about being in a shit ton of debt after making her sign a prenup and feel bad about making less money than him when they first met. Sooooo if that’s true I think he kind of deserved it a little bit.
@@kaymitchell6143 Have you ever seen her standup?!?! You can find it on UA-cam. He never lied about his wealth and he wasn't in debt. She has an entire routine where she says that if she knew then how much money she would make she would have asked him for the pre-nup! And mocking your spouses and potential love interests publicly shows that you are broken inside!
@@Frey-DohBill Hader is super underrated, so funny and he was really hot in Barry. And if he’s the one that sent the flowers from her special I could see this lasting. Love both of them.
@@emily4gov so she monkey branched from a “trapped” Harvard guy to a very rich comedian. Definitely not an incentive for her to climb up the social economic ladder.
Ali’s glasses are constantly amazing. Whenever I need new glasses hand over heart I swear I just copy her.
Those are an 80's throwback style.
She really needs to have her own line. I would definitely purchsse
She was the reason I felt great in my wedding while wearing glasses ❤ she proves glasses are so cool every single time
I once read that she uses sunglasses frames.
Get eyeglasses that suit the shape of your face, not hers.
Being a parent now. I don’t know why so many people “stuck around for the kids”.. even if my husband and I have a small argument, the kids notice. I can’t imagine living in a household with unhappy parents. Very sad but glad she chose to leave! Marriage should be for life but sometimes there are special circumstances
The entire reason the divorce rate is so high is because of repeat offenders. Most people can make it work, some people can’t make it work with anyone.
My wife and I have had some major issues; we work through all of it because that’s what a marriage is. In general if you’re the type of person who feels you shouldn’t stay together for the sake of your children, you’re probably too selfish to make a marriage work anyway.
@mr.doctorcaptain1124 hey, let's stop with the marriage bashing. If you are unhappy more than happy. Leave. You being happy will translate to the kids. Don't train your child to live in a toxic environment like it's OK and everyone does that. Nah star, life is toooo short to be in a unhappy life.
Get out and get happy
@@mr.doctorcaptain1124Great that worked for you. Sure try not giving up entirely and trying therapy and such, but to stay just for your kids is ridiculous! My uncle did that, now he’s in his 70’s he will die alone. My uncle’s spouse did cheat on him. But he didn’t leave because well the kid. Now the kid is grown up, what is the excuse? They don’t even sleep in the same room!? Don’t stay together just for statistics, stay because you love that person! I wouldn’t want to be in a loveless relationship, it’s not a way to live! But yes try at first, but if both people are done then it’s ok to move on for yourself and for your kid! Tbh I think it’s more selfish to stay because of the kid, seems like an excuse to me. Plus the kid knows, they aren’t dumb! Best
Just fuckin leave, it's ok to be me to, self centered it's all to hard! Get some toys and live happily ever after I say.
there's a ton of new data that shows the divorce reduces positive outcomes for kids across every life measurement. Children of divorced parents under all circumstances have much higher rates of adult anxiety, depression, and anger issues and most have lower incomes
I wished for my parents to get divorced so much when I was young. Growing up in a household with loud verbal abuse and items being smashed terrified me. Caused me so much anxiety then and now
Same. Add to that physical and emotional abuse to the mom and the kids. It got so bad that when I was 17 and finally had a car, I heard the smashing and beating begin one night and I came downstairs and told my mother I was leaving and that anyone that wanted to come be ready to go NOW! He came at me and two of my brothers backed me up. We left that night, me, my mom, and 4 of my 5 siblings. Terrifying stuff. Luckily my aunt (bless her soul and tiny house) took us in and the divorce started soon after. There were six children and all of us have been a mess in one or more ways for all of our lives. Two managed to work steady and maintain a semblance of a career. None of us has maintained a stable relationship or family structure - multiple marriages, estranged children, etc. My sister has been institutionalized since 12 years old. She's 57 now. There has been one suicide, all have had bouts with drugs and alcoholism, and two are self-isolated conspiracy theorists living on disability. PTSD, depression, anxiety, and bipolar diagnosis seem to be the common thread. Knowing where we came from, I'm proud that we have been able to hold it together even as poorly as we have and that we haven't done more damage to our own children - except my brother, the one who committed suicide. Me, I just keep trying to get stuff outta my head and make it to another day without giving up. I will never be able to forgive my mom for staying with him and having more kids with him knowing what he was. The only good thing is that he killed himself as well a few years after the divorce. Needless to say, family reunions are pretty much nonexistent. No good parent would put their kids through that and unfortunately to be a parent you don't have to be good at it, or even competent. If parenting were piloting, no one would take a chance on flying.
@@gregf4416I'm so sorry for what you went through. I was reading the comments and feeling lousy. So many of them say to stay married for the kids and be selfless. I left an abusive marriage, and my 2 kids are with me (single mom) most of the time. They don't see their dad as much. My 9-year-old son gets so sad about it, but I follow my instinct, keep the custody schedule as is, and give him lots of hugs. He has a counselor, but it's not the same as more time with his dad. You took on a lot standing up to someone who, no matter how old you were, was the adult when you were the kid. You're right. Your mom should have protected you so that you didn't have to be the kid protecting the family.
Wow is the most accurate response you could give to that 😂
99% chance that they never mention that ever again....
Do not stay in an unhappy marriage. It’s not good for your kids and they do know better!
Happier the parents, happier the kids
That's a fine line. Be careful of using that rationalization because I can tell you children of divorce can be really messed up and sometimes blame themselves for what happened ...not fair to them at all.
Abusive is one thing. But "unhappy" is just a part of being alive and having a range of emotions. Sometimes that sucks. Welcome to life. MOST relationships -not all - but often if you put in the work you will find you can create a kind of true happiness that feels rewarding and fulfilling. Expecting to feel over the moon "in love" forever is not to be expected.
Gosh I am glad my relationship doesn't have the added pressure of fame ...
Yup yup! One of my friends, can’t stand her hubby, everything he does bothers her. But she won’t leave. Her excuse she doesn’t want to upset her son. He also avoids her as well and stays out a lot. Another friend asked my spouse, how do you still like her because my husband hates me. I suggested therapy, her solution, have more kids, last I heard from her she was on number 5. 🤦🏻♀️
Marriage is not about happiness:) it’s about selflessness
@@luciaeleccocould I expand on that a little to say, if you _pursue_ happiness, it will elude you, but if you pursue selflessness, paradoxically, you will find happiness:-)
“Just wait until I die.”
Which could be 10 to 40 year!
I'm so glad she did this!! I divorced two years ago too and a single mom and hearing other women speak and laugh about it makes me feel less alone
There is nothing genuine about the laughing. 2 years you should be extremely happy. Isn’t that that whole point?
I’m middle aged and all the marriages I’ve seen that are 60+ years going all admit they literally hated each other for at least a decade but they stuck it out and grew back together into a content and happy marriages. A decade is a long time to wait it out for some. I remember my best friend coming to us twice in childhood saying her parents were divorcing (they never did) and they are so happy they stuck through because they came back together. But divorce is absolutely the right choice for some. It depends on the individuals. Abuse should always be divorced
The fact that this comment has 3 likes and all of the others that are saying "don't stay in an unhappy marriage" are getting 100's is truly sad and shows why marriages are not valued or seen as a lifetime commitment.
Life is how you create it. Some people stay together regardless of the obstacles they face and some don't and choose a better path for themselves by moving on as in being single or with a partner. So it's ok to have had an experience in marriage with someone and it's ok to move on from that as well and be happy about it and knowing that you still have to live your life just the way you want to while you're still alive😊 Either way being single or partnered, you still have to live your life the way you want and love & appreciate yourself so you'll have a happy life this time round.😊
It's a gamble and if you are putting in the effort and working on yourself but your partner is not or isn't interested, then you're essentially betting on potential and wasting your life. I've seen people wait it out for years and years decades without any improvement or connection. They are married in name only. That's a pity. Marriage is an important part of life for who are married but it is only one part. Truth is very few marriages 'grow back together into a content and happy marriages'. Most just drag it out for the sake of children, religious conditioning, social status etc.
Even Michelle Obama said she hated Barack for a decade. Lol. People need to know that happiness doesn't come from others. It comes from within. The more you work on yourself, the better others show up and that is true in so many environments...even marriage. Don't give someone the power to "take your happiness".
Yeah, but what I find is that it’s the women who have to do the vast majority of the sacrificing. She’s the one who was worked like a mule. She tries to get a divorce but then he promises to be better until he doesn’t. . At some point the women just give up because they think it’s too late to start over. Stop romanticizing.
I love how they get along and how much fun they’re both having in this interview!
The amount of male friends that come out of the wood work once you are divorced who see you in a way you don’t see them in is WILD
Lost alot of male friends cause of that. Turned them all down cause it made me feel so gross. It was honestly heckin creepy. Like they were waiting in the bushes for my marriage to fail. Gross.
You aren’t lying!
Most of them are just trying to capitalize on a perceived vulnerability for momentary gain. Most guys aren't willing to sign up for baggage willingly like that
women often keep men as backups and it’s unspoken. shut up.
I found a new love before some of my male friends knew I was getting divorced, and two of them are still mad. It's been thirteen years and I've been married to that new love for eleven. Wild.
Ali Wong’s Netflix special is the best one on currently…I laughed out loud more than Chappelle’s many recent shows combined. She’s absolutely hilarious and she’s a beast live! If she’s ever in your city GO!!! Run!!!!
She's remarkably unfunny.
When I said I was getting a divorce, my mom said "well it makes me really sad, but marriages are like this, it can't always be good.". 15 minutes later she called my ex husband to say she was devastated, but that he shouldn't worry because I was "impulse and immature", but if he felt any sad, he could always count on her, because she loved him.
Never asked how I was feeling. Never said I could count on her.
It's been four years since that decision that changed my life and put me in a much better place, but still I can't completely forget my mom's sympathy and love for him and complete lack of support and validation for me.
I'm sorry your mom wasn't supportive. That was just wrong. My mom was like that, chastising me about my breakup with my HS boyfriend. Years later, we somehow got to talking about it and I said, "When J broke up with me..." My mom said, "Wait, what? I thought you broke up with him!" All that time she thought I had carelessly discarded him; maybe because I put on a brave face and didn't fall to pieces. We were going off to different colleges, so I figured that it would've been difficult to keep the relationship going and perhaps it was best that we move on. I'm glad to hear you're doing better. Keep living your best life!
@@healer81 Yeah, 'cause it's always the woman's fault, right? /s
@@healer81 Haha. Reminds me of a work situation I had many years ago. I was telling a friend about the difficulties I was having with certain individuals and she said, "Well, what did YOU do?" It infuriated me b/c I spent hours listening to HER complaints without a shred of judgment. I told a co-worker about the exchange (she felt similarly about our workplace) and she said, "OMG, that's like asking the Jews what they did to make the Nazis want to stuff them in ovens!" Sometimes all the bad IS on one side -- just sayin'. Regardless of who was at fault, it was crappy of @helenavitorino6252's mom to so blatantly side with the ex instead of her own daughter.
@@SarahRenz59 the Jews were taken against their own will so it’s not even a comparison but if you want to go down that rabbit hole minorities typically stick with their own and don’t integrate with the country they move into. I know this because my family are immigrants. The Jews tend to stick together and not integrate wherever they are. It was the case in Germany.
You don’t know the mother’s side of the story or the ex husbands. In every case someone had done me wrong I’ve look back on it and acknowledge my role in it. That’s the point I’m making. Take responsibility for what ever situation you are in. The greatest people in history have owned responsibility that should not be theirs but do because it’s the right thing to do. Rosa parks could have said it’s the white mans fault but she didn’t and stood her ground.
2 words come to mind- no contact. Let’s see if that same ex-husband or boyfriend is taking care of her in old age, calling her and nurturing their relationship. 😂😂 The minute some woman shows up that will meet his needs she’ll never see or hear from him again. Ur mom chose him over her own flesh and blood. We are in the age where women who sabotage other women WILL experience the hurt they hv inflicted on other women. Loneliness and abandonment. To u I say be well ❤ and thrive. You will encounter other mother figures in the world who will treat you well. U r worthy!
As someone who's parents stayed together and forced a marriage for way too long "for the children" - don't. Get the divorce... its the right thing to do.
The people I know who are children of divorce had/have a really hard time coping with life. Divorce is not always the answer. But if abuse is present of course get a divorce.
@@Jcakiiiii I think it completely depends on the situation for sure...but if there is fighting, yelling or physical altercations then divorce is the answer. For people who had a hard time coping with their parents divorcing....it's likely it wasn't the divorce itself, it's how their parents handled it both as parents and individuals after. If the parents obviously don't love each other anymore and fight or are distant etc. that's not what you want your kids growing up to think marriage is like. In most cases divorce is a better option than forcing the marriage and setting the wrong example for your children.
@@bigamigo4863 that’s a great point!
@@Jcakiiiii But I have no doubt it's not always the answer as you said. I was lucky enough to be old enough to understand what was happening, some aren't so fortunate.
@@Jcakiiiii See I feel way more messed up by watching my parents live in misery with each other my entire adolescence than my youngest brother was watching my parents finally get divorced when he was still in the house. Staying together for the sake of the kids isn’t great when two people are so clearly unhappy with each other. Seeing my mom in her second marriage has truly healed something in me from my childhood because she’s the absolute best and deserves to be happy.
I wish I had a supportive mother… or just anybody to lean on
hope you find peace and positive energy again 🙏
hope you are doing well now
❤❤❤
I am not surprised men started showing up when Ali got divorced, she is funny AF and smoking.
about singing: I had a boyfriend who sent recordings of himself singing love songs. Then I found out it was a mass mailing. I think he was the original Mail Chimp
I hope he steps on a lego.
More like mail chump😂
Who knew? Turns out, Mail Chimp was an actual real guy!
hahaha now I want Kelly singing that Savage Garden song!
I'd absolutely love to, but Kelly just mentioned she'll never forget that song, in a bad way, I guess 😔.
I’m trying to figure out how she missed that song, it was HUGE
Kelly needs to sing Truly, Madly, Deeply by Savage Garden!
YES 🥹❤️
I love that song. Yes.
Ali is with Bill freakin Hader right now. Her mom should be thrilled lol
Whhyyyy is my mama more distraught about me being single than me!!! Baby get your own business !!!! 😂😂
Listen to J Kristnamurti Urgency of change, and finaly find yourself by learning about self knowledge or know thy self, I strongly sense this will help you find all the love within you
Never...I repeat never stay in a marriage for the kids,because if you do they will need therapy the rest of their lives,and everyone involved is miserable...just saying.
True!
Can confirm with first hand real world data.
Yep! Done people in the comment section are posting false narratives that marriage at all cost is better.,. It s not
Not many comedians can hold my attention and be amusing for a whole special but I was surprised I enjoyed Ali Wong's special from beginning to end. One of the best in the last few years. I'm a Chappelle fan but this was equally as good as his last few and even more outrageous in places without going too far.
I was drowning. I feel the exact same way in my marriage.
Silent prayers for those stuck and can’t seem to get out. Its not as easy as it seems esp in third world countries 💔💔💔💔
It's "Truly Madly Deeply" by Savage Garden, great song!!!!!!!
Savage Garden "Truly, Madly, Deeply"
GOD I HATE THAT SONG 🤮🤮🤮
@@CLB30ROX I LOVE that song! I wanna stand with you on a mountain, I wanna bathe with you in the sea… 🎵 😅
@@IsThisThePrizeIveWaitedFor corniest song ON EARTH 🤮🤮🤮🤮
Love it! Never gets old! ❤❤
I hate this song. My ex used to sing it in my ear and dance to it with me and I always liked it that (I thought) she was singing it to me. Now it makes me sick.
"I wanna dance with you in the ocean..." 😂 It's great to know I'm not the only one who butchers song lyrics this badly! 😆 Even professionals do it!
For those of you who didn't recognize Kelly Clarkson's rendition of that song, that was Savage Garden's "Truly Madly Deeply". 🤭
"Just wait until I die."
How old is Ali's mom? These days that could be a heckuva long time!
Don’t feel bad about the reviews. I think you’re great and honest.
What's weird is how happy Ali sounded about her marriage when she was married. Listen to her on Marc Maron's podcast. She was raving about her husband. How did it go so bad?
I heard he came out. Which I could believe because she even says in her latest standup special that she and her ex husband are best friends.
@@9melissal Source? I can't find it.
Its pretty simple. She got her own money, plus fame, so she didn't need him anymore.
@@dlmsarge8329 If that's true, then why is she still dating? Why risk getting hurt? We all know how tough it is to date nowadays.
I swear i love, this Ali Wong my favorite actress , comedian
I love Ali Wong. She has my total support. It's a shame that so many people are willing to manipulate others to stay in a horrible marriage.
Thanks for this laugh it’s not an decision but life does go on 💕
That prenup ended coming in handy
This is all I kept thinking but they might have dove a post-nup cause she doesn’t ever mention it anymore
I remember watching Ali's specials and thinking she loved her husband but part of her missed being single and sleeping with other guys. Seems like I was right. Hope the part about having a prenup that she mentioned in one of her specials is true. She said his family insisted on it because he had money. If so, the jokes on them because now she's the one with the money. 😂
I got the impression not that she missed “sleeping with other guys” but that she was upset at her husband for lying to her about his finances and hiding his debt from her, even though he made her feel like she was the “poor” one with the prenup. But clearly she loved him enough to not leave him immediately when she found out about his lies.
I think you're on the money with that assessment, that's what I thought as well. Her third special where she talked about wanting to f*ck some dude made it seem like she doesn't want to be in a marriage. She should've not gotten married then.
@bebop2523 oh, I thought maybe the reason why they broke up was coz he was gay. Interesting.
@@BWT599 That's not true, she wanted to sleep with other guys, she's pretty up front about it in her third special
@@JS-cr5fnif that’s true, that’s pretty brutal.
My grandma is the exact same. Whenever we have a family gathering, she always asks how’s everything going on with every family, and try to help them to work things out. And she always ends up saying: Never think of getting a divorce when I’m still around. Otherwise, you’re not my child anymore. This family does not condone divorce. And she DID abandon one of my uncles for daring to divorce his wife with 2 sons. He’s not a part of our family anymore, at least for now. 😅 And I think my mother is showing signs of being a younger version of my grandma when it comes to this problem. 😅
Both these ladies are so amazing, I would sing them each a million terrible songs 😂
Gotta say that Kelly looks so good. Divorce definitely agrees with her.
That and the semiglutides
Not the divorce
I was married To My Ex Husband For 5 Years when we separated. My mom was ok with me getting divorced, plus my situation with my ex and the father of my daughters was different.
The song Kelly Clarkson was trying to recall is likely “Truly Madly Deeply” by Savage Garden
The ozempic got kelly too
So many m3n make up a big story in their head about a relationship they IMAGINE, and then they dive right in like it's already happened in real life. They don't want to take the STEPS and do the interpersonal WORK and put in the TIME to reach the "I'm going to send you this video song and you're going to love it" stage. They just want ONE BIG GESTURE, feel heroic about it, and not the day-to-day. YIKES.
omg i love Ali Wong😂😂😂
I'm so happy Ali is finally free from her shackles. Ali is glowing!
What shackles. She married a Harvard medical graduate, then became successful and believed she is now better than him. Then she divorced and became highly promicous again. Perfect example why men should not marry.
@dagda3000 She was always better than him. And Harvard hands out degrees to the highest bidders. Her ex is a loser.
That is so typical Asian mom
I'm a mom of an adult daughter. She has just broken up with her partner. I'm tired of getting to know and like the partner, then she breaks up with them. It's tiring.😅
This lady already admitted she only married her husband because he made more money. When she became the breadwinner she divorced him. I’m glad she set him free so he could find someone who actually loves him
I'm an adult now but was a kid of parents who divorced later when we were all 18. I can say that although we appreciated my parents sucking it up until we got old enough, I wished they had gotten divorced earlier when we were younger and they were younger. It was never a broken home compared to others, but we knew our parents weren't always happy. We all turned 18(i, youngest), oldest was 23, we had all moved out, and my parents decided to divorce. We all suported but knew which parent would have gotten the short end of the stick. We all applauded them for sticking it out this long. My parents were both trying to date around, and you just see how limited their options are. My dad passed shortly after the divorce due to previous health issues. My mom is only 47, but shes a traditional and conservative little asian lady but is very independent and still craves for companionship because that's what humans yearn for eventually when they get older. A part of me always wonders if my parents' lives would've been different if they had just been a little selfish and divorced earlier. They both might've found someone and been happier, and maybe my dad may not have passed away. I've always wondered about those stuff. I recently got married and I always jokingly tell my husband, I dont plan on getting married ever again but if we cant make this work or if we're unhappy, you bet ill be leaving your butt. Because i damn well would prefer being old, single but happy with my dog than always fighting and being miserable as we grow old together. I'd like to say he has taken my advice quite well so far, lol.
Thanks for sharing! I wish more people followed that advice. I know a few mom friends staying for the sake of the kids and not happy 🤦🏻♀️
@michellen.4037 , Unfortunately, we all know too many people who are in those situations. I used to be those friends or family members who questioned why but, I've come to realize that questioning someone else's reasoning won't fix or make anything easier for them. I'm sure they are tired of hearing about other people's opinion. So what I do now is ask, "what can I do to help? If i can't help, when you do need help, I'm here." Just so that I don't stress myself with other people's issues. Control what you can and just support your loved ones. ❤
I’m 35 and now learning that myself this year - it’s better to not get so stressed over what you can’t control in other lives. I definitely used to be TOO emotionally involved in friends situations and it made me not want to be around their partners but now I learned to let them live their lives
Also sorry to hear about your father!
Amazing my mom told me stay literally said u did him before do him again. Talk about soul reaper
Im sorry you didnt have the support you needed ❤❤❤🥰
@@kathrynparker9790 that was sweet of u to say☺️💜thought was funny bc Btwn the daughters we all have the same opinion but between our mothers everyone has different answer , a contrast wasn’t it lol
🙄wtf woman
She’s 42?! She looks AMAZING
42 isn’t old
03:05 The band name is savage garden
Love her in America House wife
We love ali Wong and kelly clarkson
“Staying for the kids” damn near always messes with the kids. They can see and feel the dysfunction.
My question for people who divorce : Is it because of a red flag you ignored, or was it something new that happened after marriage like your partner changed or cheated?
It can be both, and doesn't matter which at the end of the day. Very few people ignore red flags on purpose, no one wants to be divorced. You weren't perfect, neither were they. But from this point on, both of you have to grow. You can't be the only one putting in the effort and working on themselves indefinitely. It takes two to tango.
@@rpaafourever7908 I think red flags are red flags for a reason. But I completely understand that people are just desperate to have a relationship or they're in love that they ignore it completely.
I wouldn't say there were any red flags I ignored or that anyone really changed. I married a guy who was like a "best friend" with very little chemistry and thought that was a normal adult relationship. I thought it was unrealistic to expect fireworks. Then after 9+ yrs we were both tired of that situation. Super happy to have moved on and know that fireworks in a 10 yr marriage of healthy fortysomethings is awesome and attainable!
Eh, I could tell from her very first stand up special that she would end up divorced. She didn't seem like she even liked her husband, she just liked flexing her mom and wife status for the material. Just like I don't care for male comedians whose material is complaining about their wives. Idk, I just didn't find it funny, even as a mom and wife myself.
But everyone else seems to think she's hilarious. Humor is subjective. 🤷♀️ Her work in movies is better though IMO.
I didn't find it hilarious. Her netflix special she spent most of the time talking about sleeping with all these different men after her divorce. She joked she had a really low bar to sleep with them. Is that funny? I find it sad.
Is this press tour for her to promote her special or promote her divorce
Pretty much the same thing for her...
Ali Wong Shares Mom's Brutally Honest Divorce Reaction
That would be Savage Garden's Truly Madly Deeply.
My parents were ALWAYS treating to divorce each other, since I was like 3, but they stayed in a crappy relationship (till this day 🙄) and one day my mom said “maybe if I’d left this toxic relationship I’d just jump into one even more toxic “, because she doesn’t believe in being happy by yourself 🙄 it is DEF a generational thing, just look at the “so… any boy/girlfriend?” Aunties… all 50+ yo in a reeeeeeally crappy marriage
Not Kelly not remembering Savage Garden!
I love Ali ❤
Honestly, I think marriage can't survive fame. She claims her ex-husband is her best friend, yet her stand-up was centered around her wanting to cheat. I feel bad that her girls will have to grow up and hear all that.
Yeah, after i saw her last special, or 2nd to last.... i lost respect for her. Im all for offensive comedy, love Gervais, but to disrespect your husband down to that, it's more telling of Ali and i didnt think it was funny at all.... making fun of someone vs. talking down to someone are 2 different things.... like Gervais, he makes fun of his partner all the time, but never disrespects her.
Finaly someone that understands what's actually happening, spead the word please!
I think some of it was her processing the discovery that he had been lying to her about his finances and hiding thousands of dollars in debt from her. I was kind of surprised that she didn’t leave him sooner because that is a huge betrayal, but she talked about it a few years before she actually divorced him
The way yall are mom shaming is wild. Go see a therapist and stop projecting. You have no idea what really happened so stay in your struggle and let her live.
My new response to people….WOW 😂
Kelly and her look so good
Haven't seen Kelly C for a while. Wow, she sure slimmed down.
On one hand, the "stick around for the kids" mentality is finally waning. On the other hand, couples don't acknowledge the amount of work required nor do they take responsibility for their part in maintaining a healthy relationship. Divorce rates are *insane*.
I'm not talking about abuse, etc. Just your everyday married couples not doing enough, early enough, to keep a marriage in a well-functioning state. It isn't easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is.
what bothered me is her entire comedy bit was about only being with him for his status and money in case comedy didn't work out. Most of her show was her talking about how she was miserable being with him. Alas, comedy worked out, and she left him almost right after her second (?) special. She says he's a good dude and at least for a while after the split he still supported her by selling her merch at her shows. I honestly feel bad for him.
One thousand percent. Her entire comedy bit despicable.
He wanted a prenup..😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂..trick no good..let them watch!!!!
@NEWWYSDOM i don't know how much say he had in that. The way she tells it, his family forced a prenup so that loss is on them not him. Based on his career he's not hurting either way
Absolutely the entire thing was that he was a financial and status failsafe and the moment she had both independent of him she proved her jokes were honest and dumped his simpin @$$ ... I feel bad for the dude and find how transactional she is hilarious; She doesn't give good person at all, gives really bad person
she explains he wanted a prenuptial that favoured him never thinking she would ever be the one who was worth as almost as much or more than him.. he underestimated her and that's sad.. he always thought she would always be worth less than him so I see why she ended up divorcing him. True he came from a wealthy family and he did the stay at home dad thing but he still didn't expect her to do so well. I think underestimatint her says a lot about why they got divorced 🤷♀️ there might have been other reasons too but this couldn't have helped... Go Ali to be honest and only the two of them truly know what happened.. she also said she oked all her jokes with him beforehand so he was in on her jokes and fine with them..
Her stand up right before the divorce leaves a pretty bad look on her.
I think Ali's mom is an evil comedy genius, and Ali doesn't know it 😂
Savage Garden Kelly haha Australian Band. Artist is Daren Hayes
Genial
Basically if the girl liked you everything you do is cute and if they don't whatever you do is not enough borderline cringe, so you might as well do nothing
When i found out how she met her husband and where i was like thats a good way. Then her comedy career came out of no where after her kids were born etc, she started thinking she was better than her husband she wanted to leave him. If you listen to one of her comedy special she did, she explains it like her husband was just something to do. Ali seems nice and those dudes in her inbox and close to her just wanna smash lets be honest here
Really sad. Bet they were a great pair.
Unacceptable to treat marriage like next level dating.
Having seen Ali Wong's comedy act, I can understand why she got divorced.
I was shocked they got divorced. The way she talked about him in her shows just made them seem like a great couple. But he's an Ivy League overachiever and she's a comedian. Maybe they're just too different after all.
She wasn't comedian when they met. Her career came about later.
It's pretty simple. She got her own money, and fame, and she just didn't need him anymore. I think the word is "discarded".
KC looks amazing
My aunt legit waited until my grandma died to get divorced😢
^Divorce is great! Why treat it like such a tragedy. Like in the olden days it was very hard for a woman to get a divorce. But if two people aren’t happy together then why stay? And if u got kids why show them staying in a relationship without being happy. Makes zero sense.
Don't get married then? Don't take marriage vows - just have kids with another person.
@@squiggs1002 Marriage is what you make of it. We don't know what the karmic connection is between two people. Not everyone gets married in a religious ceremony anyhow. If you are putting in the effort but your partner is not over a period of time, then it's ok to leave. Maybe you leaving is really the kick up the backside they needed to work on themselves.
@@rpaafourever7908 if the bar to leave a marriage is that low especially if you have kids together, there is not point in getting married with the financial and emotional trauma so high.
She's screwed with that response, since in a previous standup special she mentioned how "Asian's don't die" 😂😂😂
Who would have thought she would be repulsed by the guy in the FRIEND ZONE!
This sounds like her show beef on Netflix!
Ali and Bill Hader have been a couole for a while now (both divorced with kids) and it seems to be going well.
If you watched any of her comedy specials when she talked about her husband this was the most predictable thing ever
huh new insight about divorcees gaining attention after the split. Maybe thats the incentive.
I'm such a fan of her work. Lemme go see when she's back in my city touring
Marriage is not for the husband and wife. It's for the children
I see people praising her in the comments but SHE is the problem. Her stand up was about wanting to cheat on her husband / only wanting him when he made more money than her. Here she is mocking another man who showed her affection publicly. She will be in alot of failed relationships with men until she changes.
Well other comments are saying he lied about being in a shit ton of debt after making her sign a prenup and feel bad about making less money than him when they first met. Sooooo if that’s true I think he kind of deserved it a little bit.
@@kaymitchell6143 Have you ever seen her standup?!?! You can find it on UA-cam. He never lied about his wealth and he wasn't in debt. She has an entire routine where she says that if she knew then how much money she would make she would have asked him for the pre-nup! And mocking your spouses and potential love interests publicly shows that you are broken inside!
So you stand in a church and say till death do us part then leave when you are unhappy 😂😂😂.
Ali will aways be my maybe.
She divorced the Harvard guy?
Yup
she’ll never settle with anyone less than that. If he wasn’t enough, no one will ever be good enough for her.
@@Frey-Dohfor real tho
@@Frey-DohBill Hader is super underrated, so funny and he was really hot in Barry. And if he’s the one that sent the flowers from her special I could see this lasting. Love both of them.
@@emily4gov so she monkey branched from a “trapped” Harvard guy to a very rich comedian. Definitely not an incentive for her to climb up the social economic ladder.
Kelly please sing this song, it's my childhood song😅
Her divorce was only a second of the special...
Everyone on ozempic looks like a vampire...
Who doesn’t know savage garden? Jesus Kelly. How could you? 😂
Wow
Why is this such a shocker? It happens all the time. It's not like man gets killed by Polar Bear ......................in NY. 😂😂
Oh Ali Wong got divorced, shocker there.
UHS!
People don’t believe it, but they spend so much money on marriage when half of them in America end in divorce