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I’m 29, I have been in toxic relationships, unequally yoked relationships, trying to force things.. God is speaking to me not to force things, he is teaching me to enjoy patiently and to work on myself and my faith. It’s difficult when you’re comparing yourself to your friends getting married and you’re here single. I’m done forcing things… I’m surrendering my life to you God 🙏🏼💖
Watching from South Africa.Great topic for all of us. I lost my husband due to heart failure in 2020. I shared this to my daugher and some friends. May God continue to bless your union.
You guys are sooo precious as Christians and as a couple! I also love your gentleness and complete honesty in instruction. When you're preaching Vlad, I've noticed such a love and gentleness that speaks volumes and Lana speaks with such a softness and gentleness. Thank you for all the ways in which you teach and preach on every subject imaginable! God's continued blessings on you both!
When I met my wife , we met at the dentist office there was nothing wrong with me . But all of a sudden my gums went bad like overnight. Not knowing at the time, God put this on me not knowing that God was picking me a wife. Long story short, we or you can say we dated for about a year . Never kissed her or until we got married took her to the church , she got saved an we married in Christ an been married now for 30 years . But a lot more to the story of how God worked in our marriage. But later
It helps me to see the couple together to see how they operate with each other. She really is delicate and intricate in her communication and allows her husband to make a point without interrupting him. They are great together, God did an amazing job ❤️
If you want a future wife import her from overseas. American women are overly demanding and think they are all above average and deserve a high value high earning man. 90% are chasing the top 1% of men.
There are mature guys who wants a 38 year old mature lady out there. Start thanking God because u never know. I wish you all the best. May ua Boaz locate you.
Apply biblical principle to your life in the form of becoming more healthy and fit if you aren't already. I hear a lot of women concerned about never getting married, but then they let themselves go and aren't preparing to be a wife in other ways. Make sure you aren't falling into the camp of laziness, because a good man isn't going to pick a lazy woman.
We are the same age I just turned 38 recently myself I am a Single Mom. I used to Jump from one relationship to the next until 1 year ago when I gave all Relationships to God unless he has other plans. Taking the time with God, My kids and myself I have found a Peace. If God blesses me with a Marriage great if not I am perfectly content with my Relationship with God.
Wow, this is totally amazing. I am so blessed to hear this word. I stopped and went back several times to take notes. I had to break it up and listen since it is so long and I have concentration issues. I got saved at 24. Didn't marry until 49. My husband told me he was saved, he read the Bible and prayed with me. Said he would go to church. We went to Christian counseling before marriage. Married in church. I saw red flags night after marriage. He stopped reading Bible, stopped church, stopped praying. Within a year started heavily drinking alcohol and emotional abusing me. Before I realized it I sunk into a deep depression. It was hard to accept. I finally physically left him at 8 years. Now I've decided to divorce. I suspected him of adultery. I fasted and prayed for 10 years. After his children and grandchildren disrespecting me and using me for money, stealing from me. I'm done. I'm worn out. I'm heartbroken. This made me realize what I did wrong and how I can help others I am mentoring younger women. Hopefully they won't make the mistakes I made.
This was so comprehensive and I love the shoe analogy!. Also you guys are a lovely looking couple!. I really enjoyed the energy, the consistency and the pacing of this message. I actually had a revelation while listening to this video. I was feeling bad because I asked a girl I'm interested in church to be my friend with the intent of dating later. She said no and I was feeling bad thinking about it. Then, an audible voice in my head said "well, hey wait a minute, you've been asking me for a girl who likes mountain biking and back packing in the mountains like yo do, so why do you feel bad?." And then I realized wow god is so right.. why I do even feel bad?. God is so smart he puts a stop to things before they even start because he knows exactly who the right woman he has in store for me. Thanks for this message!.
waw, what an excellent teaching, blessed me soo much. Many things spoke to my heart, i have made the wrong decision to have a unequally yoked relationship, was a set up for failure and i knew it. I had to sacrifice my relationship to get back to a spirit filled relationship with God again. I never regretted this and the Lord healed me. Finally after 13 years being single, i feel ready for a new relationship, based on godly wisdom. Thank you for sharing wisdom, as this is soo needed in our world today. Sending you lots of love and many blessings from the Netherlands
I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot. I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough. I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too.. I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways... But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy. The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things.. And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways. I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways. Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God. I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues... I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves. In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either. Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future. She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best. We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms... Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips... And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary. But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs. -50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old Huge mother issues -Not a father figure -Having lots of guy "friends" -porn -Drugs -alcool -Emotional instability, mood swings -tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues -Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself -Avoiding responsability -Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags. I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her -inteligente -smart -deep talk -understanding -helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable -likes to read I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time... She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes... Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too... And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me. I wonder what Jesus would tell me... "You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that" "Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before" "Leave them both, not good for you" "Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them." Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her. I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt. I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs... But I think its more about I understanding them Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me. I dont know what to do... Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal
I’m currently with a person I dearly love but who does not know Christ as his saviour. He’s not against it, encourages me on my faith but has not opened his heart to God. I’m very conflicted as to what to do. Please God give me the strength to love you more.
Be careful, I have known cases like that and sooner or later things gets very bad. Please don't skip the Bible guidelines, you are in risk of hinder your purpose. It's better to wait and if God really want to put you together, he will know the Lord in a proper way, but don't rush, just wait in God before marriage.
4:30 -4:36 👏 This is important! Love is a verb which means we there is work involved. I’ve been wanting to learn how to love unconditionally, and this may be the answer. Thank you
@ashleymusseau7418 " are not 2nd class daugthers" More FEMINIST impurity preached from the pulpits. Women should be ashamed of the evil they have brought to our Western civilisation but instead of that they still boast with pride. Eve is not dead.
Thank you two for this!! It was really good & you are a beautiful Kingdom couple! I'm so glad Vlad mentioned the importance of receiving inner healing & deliverance prior to marriage! Couples who chose to do this & also learn to maintain their healing & deliverance together In Christ according to the Bible will truly preserve their marriage the Kingdom of God's way!👑❤
This video was awesome! Loved how you used the 👠👠.... I'm 47 and waiting patiently ( 5 yrs single ) Gotta wait for God's best! Thank you so much for the prayers... Just went to the website for the book download, subscribed to you tube & Instagram as well.... God Bless Your marriage & ministry!
Visalia, Ca I’m grateful for the prayer at the end and I receive this wisdom. To God be the glory for your content. 1 single 1 Wednesday evening Widow at 40. Now 44 yrs I am ready and know exactly what type of man of God I’ve been praying for. I’m sorry I didn’t know this was for youth 😊 however I appreciate the prayer and believe for His will in my life. Thank you Vlad and Lana for being a testament to us all.
God bless you and your wife for this video on marriage. I’m separated from my husband and children for 2 years due to financial debts and trust issues in marriage. I’m praying for our reunion soon. Please pray for us.
Thank you for sharing about biblical dating. I’m also from the Pacific Northwest and I recently turned 27 years old. I am so tired of the world’s dating culture.
I am a widow for more than 2 years. My late husband and I were missionaries for many years. When I was still single I only asked God to give me a husband who can bring me closer to Him. He was a missionary in Malaysia and his partner in the ministry brought me to him. Almost like the story of Isaac and Rebekah in the Bible. I believed that our spirit connected immediately. I like watching you both and learning new things regarding this next chapter of my life. Thank you! Your ministry is a blessing to many.❤
Thank you so much for talking about not expecting 2nd best and fighting demonic thoughts abt your past. This truly blessed me. I’ve been struggling in this area. I have been living for Jesus for over 2 yrs but overwhelmed w/ guilt that I haven’t served him my whole life and don’t deserve anything. I won’t date because of this but this message is healing.
I’m 30 and turning 31 this year, also not yet married. Thank you for the powerful words and fresh revelation, even though I watched it a bit late but I believe that God led me here for a good reason, I thank God for you Pastor Vlad and Lana. this video is actually a pipeline of blessings, it made me realize many things. When we are in love, sometimes we are blind to see the truth, we are blind to see what’s missing and even though it’s obvious, even though lots of people around are noticing it and giving you good advices, usually we jump to it because it makes us happy, but only temporarily, and in the middle of the night you’ll have questions, am I doing the right thing, is this the will of God? One thing for sure I need the word of God and thank you for the powerful message. ❤ Love love
Just because they fit on paper doesn’t mean they are a spiritual fit. There was a guy where our families were pushing us together. But he was one who assume he was perfect and I needed to change. No balance in respect or appreciation. God will let a person know if they are a fit or not.
1...I'm so glad I came across your message. I'm single but not desperate. I'm patiently waiting for God to send the right one to find me. Blessings to you.❤ It doesn't matter what time, I will be tuning in.
Love is a covenantal commitment of one’s soul, heart, mind and time to another. You can respect a person you hate. Real gangsters respect real gangsters, even if they’re enemies. However, you can’t love someone and not respect them. Love and respect goes hand in hand.
"You would be better off single (and lonely) rather than marrying someone who doesn't understand where you are coming from and doesn't carry your faith and your values." That's so true and needed to hear for the singles out there. Understanding and matching values is so important for a marriage partnership, it's a long term warfare that takes many forms and seasons, and it's totally necessary to be on the same page. You can have fun and go on dates, but if you want to have that committed relationship, that comes with a whole other level of devotion and sacrifice. Dealing with that loneliness in singleness is important, because it may be rooted in insecurities that could be carried into your marriage if you aren't careful and deal with them before you make that decision with somebody. You will face loneliness in marriage, too. It's not limited to just being single. Dealing with the loneliness with the Lord is a sure foundation that will sustain you through the hard times, married or otherwise.
Agreed. I think it’s selfish for someone just to jump into a relationship for the reason you stated. It’s counterproductive for both parties, which is why I believe a lot of relationships don’t work out.
@ bucketspree4952 " You would be better off single " Yeah sure .. how about doing what the BIBLE teaches and getting married for avoiding fornication ?1 Corinthians 7:4 /5 Where have the teachings of the Bible gone ? " You can have fun and go on dates" No you can't precisely. You can't go around fornicating . That's why you have to get married with no delay if you burn. Whatever you say or think is nothing compared to the sexual urges God created us with. All our rants are useless and vain. The West has pôstponed and ruined marriage . Now debauchery is going full swing. The so called church has done exactly the same . Now debauchery is also going full swing. TO AVOID FORNICATION , let every man have his wife(...) 1 Co 7:4 I've heard tons of marriage sermons on YT and I've also read books on the topic. NOT one quoted the Bible , yet they claim to be God breathed. How evil.
I have been married six times, also lived with a guy that I had a child with. I have a loving Christian husband now but I wish I had waited for God's best when I was younger because all my marriages & relationships brought disillusionment and left me feeling fragmented.
I am one, who married a non Christian, I was lukewarm then and Lana is right about everything. Heartaches, pain, brokenness, too much work and all demons that come with his habits and idols. It’s really love long suffering. I should have listened to this 5 years ago. I am stuck here.
Praying for Gods great mercy and peace to be upon you. We've all sinned- fell short. But God forgives us for the asking. And I'm praying for wisdom for you, and even for God to supernaturally work on the heart of your spouse. Nothing is impossible for God. Forgive yourself, and continue to ask the Father to intervene in your life- and show Himself strong on your behalf. 💜🙏
@@Corrinthian_ thanks dear, why I say I am stuck is I have prayed and fasted for him but the more I pray and fast, the more distant he gets, the more he cheats, the more crazier he gets for his co-worker mistress. Now all I can do is let go and let God because I am exhausted.
Fasting nd praying is not what u need now,what u need to have close relationship with Jesus,tell Jesus to teach his ways,by so doing,u have peace,joy,love,when u begin to experience this things,u character will change,u will love,u will be to see life in the marriage,ND u faith in Christ u will begin to change him,your holy life u live in Christ, will be making ways for u, your confidence will Christ,the moment u cry to Jesus, before u cry God answer,he will begins to hate sin,ND run away from sin, Jesus loves u sister,wake with,he will help you,u have to know him ND believe in him ND keep on believing even when nothing is happening, Jesus never fair's
I'm a lot older than you guys and I'm still not married. God is taught me a lot over the years when my friends were getting married it was really hard for me, and I had to really get closer to God and tell him how I felt to heal because I felt left out. This experience drew me closer to God, as time went by I drew closer to God and became more secure knowing that he was my husband and my friend and the lover of My soul. I would still like to be married but only the Lord can meet my needs and I learned even when I dated somebody that there's no perfect person. God taught me a lot about the right person. I really struggled with finding the right person and learned over the years that the right person is not what I should be seeking because none of us are exactly right all the time. My perception of wright was my ideal of what the right person was which was not God's ideal. I had to learn that my ideas are ideal was different than what God's idea was, now I've learned. I think that all of us have to learn some things first and have foundation like you said and then the right person is the right decision when you find a mate. It's not our own idea what we think is right, it's whether it's right because you're making a decision that's biblical, someone you can be equally yoked together with.
I really like what you said if your reading this just know you just helped me with what you said about there is no right person all the time. Thanks again
Nice to read your comment. I'm 45 and unmarried so it applies. A buddy of mine got married last week and I must say I was a little envious. Oh well, nothing to do but keep making myself better, for God, and if someone becomes my wife along the way then so be it. If not, then so be it as well. 🩶👍
😊 thank you all for your encouraging replies. I don't always share a really long testimony like that but, it just kind of came out, it was an honor if I was able to bless somebody.
in complete love with this video! the dont date a Christian segment i was weak!! you will become a project everybody gonna be praying for you to get saved
Lord I am ready to meet my future husband. I ask God that this year will be the Last year of being single amen. Lord I am not asking for a specific person. I will accept whoever you will give me. That will accept me for who I am, and will love me for what I am. Amen Today is my birthday March 05 Happy birthday to me. And all who is my birthmonth
@@OnyejelemAmarachi yes it is but unfortunately but fortunately you replied and not her. It is weird how things work though and the mysterious ways that the Lord works in our lives huh?
@@OnyejelemAmarachi yes it is but unfortunately but fortunately you replied and not her. It is weird how things work though and the mysterious ways that the Lord works in our lives huh?
@@ponchi123 for sure you are not serving the Lord together. And if your relationship is based on you guys and not in Christ, it's just a earthly marriage, basically it's idolatry. I hope that this is just a temporarily situation and things can be different in a future
Wow , thank you man of God for this Spirit filled messages, I started following your videos and I really feels that the Spirit of God really leads me to watch your video it's really a blessing to me always feels like am being directed by your messages by God. Thank you
This was so good. Never heard of you until this morning. I just stumbled upon this video through another one of your videos about memorizing the Bible. Do you have another video somewhere like this one that is directed more towards older, never-married singles, like in their young 30s? Especially, for Christian guys who are still waiting on the Lord and discouraged.
Excellent teachings! I'm praying for all of my children to walk in these principles and to walk closely with the LORD and wait to reveal "that one" within His will and His purposes.
That's a good word, " values" I'm glad you brought that up. I remember years ago God was speaking to my heart about values and how important it was to have the same values. I've seen people get divorced because they didn't have the same values from the very beginning and that should be an open discussion before they get married. Ask some questions to the person, what do you value?
Watching this just bought me to tears. I 100% agree that love is not a feeling, its a will, its our decision to love and care of someone we chose to love. Now that i am married to the man i chose to love, i see the sense of this everything. As was said, there will be circumstances that somehow could pull us away from each other, but thats the point of Godly Marriage, you learn to love, you learn to forgive, you learn to apologize, and you learn to admit that you did wrong, qll because you put God in the center of your marriage. Thats how "Christian Marriages" always work. Christian marriages have very solid foundation, which is godly Love. Thank you so much guys, you guys rock! Prayer for all of the people who are in godly Marriage. Having God in your marriage is no joke seriously important, trust me for this. (Husbands & Wives equally have the same responsibilities to make the marriage/relationship work, and it all through God)
@ TiaraMIKAEL Turning marriage into just a "love" thing is the heresy of the Western world. Marriage is first and foremost a sin fix (1 corinthians 7:4/5) and a way to grow and multiply Psalm 127/128. The way marriage has been turned into some emotional stupidity just makes me sick to the bones.
PRAYER REQUEST, for "HEALING" in ASPECTS of my LIFE, in ALL CIRCUMSTANCES of my LIFE, UPHEAVALS, STRUGGLES, TRIALS, COMFORT, STRENGTH, WISDOM, GUIDANCE, in AFFLICTION, PROTECTION, DELIVERANCE, etc.
Omg the shoes 😂 👞 👠 I love this teaching! Thank you Lord for pastor Vlad and Lana. May God bless you guys. These videos bring so much insight and wisdom to my life.
@ sybilwickhham9015 I guess if we ask the Lord to never be hungry or thirsty anymore , he will just pray our hunger or thirst away as well ? The way basic bodily needs are denied is scary and totally insane.
I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot. I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough. I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too.. I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways... But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy. The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things.. And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways. I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways. Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God. I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues... I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves. In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either. Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future. She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best. We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms... Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips... And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary. But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs. -50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old Huge mother issues -Not a father figure -Having lots of guy "friends" -porn -Drugs -alcool -Emotional instability, mood swings -tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues -Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself -Avoiding responsability -Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags. I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her -inteligente -smart -deep talk -understanding -helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable -likes to read I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time... She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes... Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too... And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me. I wonder what Jesus would tell me... "You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that" "Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before" "Leave them both, not good for you" "Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them." Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her. I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt. I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs... But I think its more about I understanding them Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me. I dont know what to do... Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal
Your wife is so cute. She seems so calm and loving. I really like this video. You do want to have deal breakers and Jesus and his love and relationship is number one. I like the fact that you guys talked about manipulation. I have left a lot of guys because I see the manipulation in 1 to 3 months. I run and they still try and chase, apologize and come back to me. I say to myself heck no! I started tearing up when you guys were speaking how if a man is telling you if you love me you will do this. Well, I'm going to say this, I've been manipulated and it wasn't even about sex. It was "I tested you to see how you were going to act to start an argument and you passed the test". So you tried to start an argument with me to get me upset to see how I am going to act? Also another instance is a Christian man told me that I talk about God to much and that I am like a sister from the church. He then apologized to me the next day but a few weeks later he told me that I was immature in my faith and that I never had an experience with the power of the holy spirit speaking in tounges. Then he apologized again the next morning. The dude was saying very disrespectful things then he would apologize so after the 2nd time I knew he wasn't the one for me. Just like you guys touched on this topic if they do one thing then keep doing it over and over and apologizing then they aren't really sorry . To me that is another form of manipulation as well. So, since I saw this trend I picked up myself and walked away from that situation. These men are just silly out here, very immature, prideful and what was so funny is that the holy spirit was showing me signs the whole time because it would always rain and thunderstorm hard on his side of town then my side of town. This guy would always complain about how it is foggy, raining and lightening in his area. He lived in the Mount Vernon, NY and I live in Astoria Queens It was only a 20 minute ride, yet he experiences all this rainfall and would always complain as to why I never saw the rain or lightening as much as he did. I left change my phone number and never turned back to that guy. I accepted his apology and said goodbye. I will never settle for less. Being a woman of God I'm so glad that you basically hit every factor that I have had with these men and I know that I am making the right decision because I know what a man of God is suppose to act like and walking in the spirit with Christ. Until a man can show some respect, love and bare the fruits of the spirit I'm not settling for any of this non sense. Like Vlad said send them back to their momma. The lack of integrity and immaturity issues they can keep it.
5:13 “ based on what you know about yourself, would you marry you?” I say, yes, except for it would be helpful if I work on my emotional maturity and get back on my track again. Feel like God is teaching me right now to depend on him, so therefore, I am still single for a little little more longer.
Thank you so much for this🥺 It has been so insightful and encouraging for us, those who wait in the phase of singleness. Thank you for your prayers as well. God bless you❤️
To be honest, trying to marry or date a Christian woman is the most difficult task I believe. I believe in Jesus Christ and try to improve my faith in him but then I see Christian woman and they are all out Christian like a level that scares me mentally. Then you talk to them and they are cold, stay away from you and always careful which is a good thing but, still it just makes me want to date someone from outside church who is way nicer and I have a potential with.
Honestly you should try the missions field. I have known countless people who met their spouses there. You are both out of your comfort zones and both of you are looking for something bigger or you wouldn't be there. I have known few people who were successful in local churches.
Thank you Pastor/brother & sister for this very helpful advice!!! I’ve been listening to a lot of dating advice-mostly secular advice, but yours is simpler, straight, & follows the will of God, which makes it effective & true. God Bless your marriage and your ministry.
I discovered that the Bible, the Corinthians books especially, is a operating manual of how to function as designed and when we do that, it makes one perform at their best in their lives and relationships with others. It truly does make even our burdens light and our peace and joy abundant.
I’ve been single now for over five years going through the wilderness of healing, transformation, and allowing God to do for me what I can never do for myself I believe the Lord has someone very special for me at the right time. I’ll meet her according to God‘s will in his perfect timing for his perfect purpose, I’m a firm believer in kingdom marriage as far as marriages goes there’s more than just falling in love with your future spouse it’s about two people coming together as Christ is the head serving the Lord together to further his kingdom marriage a godly marriage is a representation of the marriage, we have in Christ Jesus
@ MrGuitarshred777 " serving the Lord together" No man needs to be married to serve the Lord. No man needs a woman to serve the Lord. But a man needs to get married because of his urges 1 Co 7:4/5 and to have his quiver full Psalms 127/128 The over spiritualisation of marriage has done so much harm to the church that sexual urges has been put on the back burner and as such marriage has become everything but the sin fix it was supposed to be.
Hello, how are y’all doing? I just discovered the channel and I had a lot of questions concerning the dating according to the Lord and I just want to say I love y’all so much and I am so glad I came across this channel because I want to tell you ma’am. He just told me how to wait on God concerning a wife put the feelings to sleep and seek God I feel that I am 1,000,000% with that you’re breaking this down so much for me thank y’all so much God bless I’m still currently watching your channel right now and I’m soaking all the information all in
Blessings to you and your wife ! I never heard an explanation like the one you provided on Adam and Eve before, it gave me so much insight and opened my eyes to see my current situation in a brand new way. Thank you, God bless you !
This is such good solid Godly advice! I wish I would have followed this type of advice when I was single. Now I know better! Focus on my relationship with God first and He will bring my husband who is ideal for me and fits me!
Please pray for me so that I can be independent first by getting the job that could give me a good paycheck where I could start to invest in something for future financial stability and then I will try to find someone where I can start to make a family.
The longer you wait is best but not too long either, also virginity is a huge factor especially when a person is committed to God as you mentioned pastor Vlad uniquely joked does not fit and that includes virginity. Unclean women marrying a Christian man or vice versa do not fit.
I think Christianity Today came out with a study that said that your chances of finding a Christian woman in her 30's who is single and not had multiple sexual partners (let alone being a virgin) is basically the same as getting struck by a meteorite.
@ normaescamilla7531 "The longer you wait is best" Where on earth does the Bible teach that ? The Bible urges people to get married if they burn with desire 1 Corinthians 7:4.
My husband asked to marry me, he asked 4x before I accepted. We weren't ready but we were living and acting like we were. 19 years and 3 children later we are still "not ready". We are always learning, changing and growing together. This video is an amazing way to converse with our children as they are in college, working and starting to date. Marriage is honorable, precious, sacred and is worth fighting for. Thank you both for this wonderful, biblical and honest conversation
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And women don’t chase date married men and have sex with a married man and don’t move in with him and cheat on ur partner for that guy.yikes
Beautiful couple inside out, powerful message, i like Lana's shoe 😆
When the shoe fits, wear it & praise the Lord🙌
let your will be done,
Lord🙏
This is a very important topic, especially for youngsters..
What is much more interesting? Mating according to the Bible.
I’m 29, I have been in toxic relationships, unequally yoked relationships, trying to force things.. God is speaking to me not to force things, he is teaching me to enjoy patiently and to work on myself and my faith. It’s difficult when you’re comparing yourself to your friends getting married and you’re here single. I’m done forcing things… I’m surrendering my life to you God 🙏🏼💖
Same situation
Hey just a question Do you never talk to men online as a single woman?
@@Mindsetolympics i did that last year, and I dont want to now..
I'm 32 , single and I'm hanging onto the word of God 🔥
Me too next month I'll turn 33
Look for it in a church.
25 Ugly and Single from India 🇮🇳
@@L.K.P_ we are fearfully and wonderfully made, we are created in the image and likeness of God. Hold on to the Truth that is in the Word.
Same here will turn 33 in Nov. Praying to God for patience & discernment 🙏
Watching from South Africa.Great topic for all of us. I lost my husband due to heart failure in 2020. I shared this to my daugher and some friends. May God continue to bless your union.
Hello fellow South African, may God bless you.
I'm sorry for your loss @Cindy Kotze, may God continue to bless you!
@@melissah170 thank you so much sis.🙏💖
I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for your family. Love can happen again for you too! When you and God are ready for it.
As an Indian Christian I have a doubt Can a widow remarry again ?
You guys are sooo precious as Christians and as a couple! I also love your gentleness and complete honesty in instruction. When you're preaching Vlad, I've noticed such a love and gentleness that speaks volumes and Lana speaks with such a softness and gentleness. Thank you for all the ways in which you teach and preach on every subject imaginable! God's continued blessings on you both!
Amen.
When I met my wife , we met at the dentist office there was nothing wrong with me . But all of a sudden my gums went bad like overnight. Not knowing at the time, God put this on me not knowing that God was picking me a wife. Long story short, we or you can say we dated for about a year . Never kissed her or until we got married took her to the church , she got saved an we married in Christ an been married now for 30 years . But a lot more to the story of how God worked in our marriage. But later
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Malayalee aano? @@annbabu6331
It helps me to see the couple together to see how they operate with each other. She really is delicate and intricate in her communication and allows her husband to make a point without interrupting him. They are great together, God did an amazing job ❤️
Been single for 2 years and focused on Abba. Age 31 and praying for my future wife.
With God everything is possible
If you want a future wife import her from overseas. American women are overly demanding and think they are all above average and deserve a high value high earning man. 90% are chasing the top 1% of men.
Don’t pray for her. Pray to be such a Godly man that she comes to you
Me too
Best season for Praying and Working on yourself 🙏🏼
I’m 38 and ready to marry but it’s hard to believe that I will ever be marry please pray that I will not lose heart.
There are mature guys who wants a 38 year old mature lady out there. Start thanking God because u never know. I wish you all the best. May ua Boaz locate you.
Apply biblical principle to your life in the form of becoming more healthy and fit if you aren't already. I hear a lot of women concerned about never getting married, but then they let themselves go and aren't preparing to be a wife in other ways. Make sure you aren't falling into the camp of laziness, because a good man isn't going to pick a lazy woman.
Ask God to fill you with his love and delight in him, He will honor that desire in due time.
We are the same age I just turned 38 recently myself I am a Single Mom. I used to Jump from one relationship to the next until 1 year ago when I gave all Relationships to God unless he has other plans. Taking the time with God, My kids and myself I have found a Peace. If God blesses me with a Marriage great if not I am perfectly content with my Relationship with God.
Hola ! Yo estoy soltero también . Tengo 46 and feel the same way ..please pray for me to
Wow, this is totally amazing. I am so blessed to hear this word. I stopped and went back several times to take notes. I had to break it up and listen since it is so long and I have concentration issues. I got saved at 24. Didn't marry until 49. My husband told me he was saved, he read the Bible and prayed with me. Said he would go to church. We went to Christian counseling before marriage. Married in church. I saw red flags night after marriage. He stopped reading Bible, stopped church, stopped praying. Within a year started heavily drinking alcohol and emotional abusing me. Before I realized it I sunk into a deep depression. It was hard to accept. I finally physically left him at 8 years. Now I've decided to divorce. I suspected him of adultery. I fasted and prayed for 10 years. After his children and grandchildren disrespecting me and using me for money, stealing from me. I'm done. I'm worn out. I'm heartbroken. This made me realize what I did wrong and how I can help others I am mentoring younger women. Hopefully they won't make the mistakes I made.
powerful testimony.
Keep fighting the good fight, sister.
How did you go from 24 to 49 without finding a Godly man ? Did you fellowship? Serve in church ?
Sounds like someone with narcissist trauma
Please teach us ma..
What are the lessons you learnt? Can you share a bit more?
Dang I better stay away from marriage.
You guys move with such grace and sharpness at the same time, thank you for this❤ 🇹🇹
This was so comprehensive and I love the shoe analogy!. Also you guys are a lovely looking couple!. I really enjoyed the energy, the consistency and the pacing of this message. I actually had a revelation while listening to this video. I was feeling bad because I asked a girl I'm interested in church to be my friend with the intent of dating later. She said no and I was feeling bad thinking about it. Then, an audible voice in my head said "well, hey wait a minute, you've been asking me for a girl who likes mountain biking and back packing in the mountains like yo do, so why do you feel bad?." And then I realized wow god is so right.. why I do even feel bad?. God is so smart he puts a stop to things before they even start because he knows exactly who the right woman he has in store for me. Thanks for this message!.
Watching from Cameroun , i believe the lord is going to help me choose the right partner ☺️
waw, what an excellent teaching, blessed me soo much. Many things spoke to my heart, i have made the wrong decision to have a unequally yoked relationship, was a set up for failure and i knew it. I had to sacrifice my relationship to get back to a spirit filled relationship with God again. I never regretted this and the Lord healed me. Finally after 13 years being single, i feel ready for a new relationship, based on godly wisdom. Thank you for sharing wisdom, as this is soo needed in our world today. Sending you lots of love and many blessings from the Netherlands
Hello Anita I hope you good 👍?
I'm glad you feel ready for a new relationship while men moved on and got wives.
Thank you, every believer who is serious in their walk with God should hear this and pay close attention.
I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot.
I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough.
I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too..
I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith
We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her
Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality
I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways...
But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not
And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy.
The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things..
And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl
I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways.
I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways.
Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God.
I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues...
I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves.
In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either.
Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future.
She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best.
We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms...
Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips...
And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary.
But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs.
-50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old
Huge mother issues
-Not a father figure
-Having lots of guy "friends"
-porn
-Drugs
-alcool
-Emotional instability, mood swings
-tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues
-Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself
-Avoiding responsability
-Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view
Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags.
I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her
-inteligente
-smart
-deep talk
-understanding
-helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable
-likes to read
I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time...
She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes...
Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too...
And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me.
I wonder what Jesus would tell me...
"You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that"
"Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before"
"Leave them both, not good for you"
"Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them."
Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up
I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her.
I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world
I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt.
I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life
I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs...
But I think its more about I understanding them
Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me.
I dont know what to do...
Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal
@@jocampos7002 I’m going to pray for you brother Jo
@@blairspeas5343 Thank you, sincerelly 💪
This isn't a believer issue. This is an American woman mentality issue. They all are average and refuse to settle for average men.
@@dman7668 I believe God gave us all a free will.
True love is not a fleeting feeling but a choice an action a commitment and hard work.
I like how you both give each other a chance to speak and interact with one another. Thank you for sharing this video.
😊♥️👍 👞👠
I am watching you two from Canada 🇨🇦.
Your ministry has been very helpful thank you.
I’m currently with a person I dearly love but who does not know Christ as his saviour. He’s not against it, encourages me on my faith but has not opened his heart to God.
I’m very conflicted as to what to do. Please God give me the strength to love you more.
If you are not married, break up. He needs to come to the Lord before you should marry him. God doesn't change His word.
Be careful, I have known cases like that and sooner or later things gets very bad. Please don't skip the Bible guidelines, you are in risk of hinder your purpose. It's better to wait and if God really want to put you together, he will know the Lord in a proper way, but don't rush, just wait in God before marriage.
@@OscarLveragreat advice!
4:30 -4:36 👏
This is important! Love is a verb which means we there is work involved. I’ve been wanting to learn how to love unconditionally, and this may be the answer. Thank you
Thank you, Lana for speaking that we as women ot men are not 2nd class daughters. That hit me right in the feels
@ashleymusseau7418
" are not 2nd class daugthers"
More FEMINIST impurity preached from the pulpits.
Women should be ashamed of the evil they have brought to our Western civilisation but instead of that they still boast with pride.
Eve is not dead.
Thank you two for this!! It was really good & you are a beautiful Kingdom couple! I'm so glad Vlad mentioned the importance of receiving inner healing & deliverance prior to marriage! Couples who chose to do this & also learn to maintain their healing & deliverance together In Christ according to the Bible will truly preserve their marriage the Kingdom of God's way!👑❤
This video was awesome! Loved how you used the 👠👠.... I'm 47 and waiting patiently ( 5 yrs single ) Gotta wait for God's best! Thank you so much for the prayers... Just went to the website for the book download, subscribed to you tube & Instagram as well.... God Bless Your marriage & ministry!
Visalia, Ca
I’m grateful for the prayer at the end and I receive this wisdom. To God be the glory for your content.
1 single
1 Wednesday evening
Widow at 40. Now 44 yrs I am ready and know exactly what type of man of God I’ve been praying for. I’m sorry I didn’t know this was for youth 😊 however I appreciate the prayer and believe for His will in my life. Thank you Vlad and Lana for being a testament to us all.
God bless you and your wife for this video on marriage. I’m separated from my husband and children for 2 years due to financial debts and trust issues in marriage. I’m praying for our reunion soon. Please pray for us.
Praying
@@heydude2232 thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing about biblical dating. I’m also from the Pacific Northwest and I recently turned 27 years old. I am so tired of the world’s dating culture.
You better hurry, you are hitting close to that scary 30 for women which is definitely a red zone. You need to be going on frequent dates quickly.
I am a widow for more than 2 years. My late husband and I were missionaries for many years. When I was still single I only asked God to give me a husband who can bring me closer to Him. He was a missionary in Malaysia and his partner in the ministry brought me to him. Almost like the story of Isaac and Rebekah in the Bible. I believed that our spirit connected immediately. I like watching you both and learning new things regarding this next chapter of my life. Thank you! Your ministry is a blessing to many.❤
Woa. What a beautiful story I am still waiting❤but now I feel afraid😢
Such a beautiful story 🩷🙏🏻 I’m sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much for talking about not expecting 2nd best and fighting demonic thoughts abt your past. This truly blessed me. I’ve been struggling in this area. I have been living for Jesus for over 2 yrs but overwhelmed w/ guilt that I haven’t served him my whole life and don’t deserve anything. I won’t date because of this but this message is healing.
Amen!
I loved seeing you two together last night! Thanks for those pointers and may God bless you and your family!
Pastor Vlad & Lana thank you for providing accessible content and literature for us all♥️ your ministry is a blessing
Merci pour ces bon conseils. Soyez bénis 🙌
I’m 30 and turning 31 this year, also not yet married. Thank you for the powerful words and fresh revelation, even though I watched it a bit late but I believe that God led me here for a good reason, I thank God for you Pastor Vlad and Lana. this video is actually a pipeline of blessings, it made me realize many things. When we are in love, sometimes we are blind to see the truth, we are blind to see what’s missing and even though it’s obvious, even though lots of people around are noticing it and giving you good advices, usually we jump to it because it makes us happy, but only temporarily, and in the middle of the night you’ll have questions, am I doing the right thing, is this the will of God? One thing for sure I need the word of God and thank you for the powerful message. ❤ Love love
Just because they fit on paper doesn’t mean they are a spiritual fit. There was a guy where our families were pushing us together. But he was one who assume he was perfect and I needed to change. No balance in respect or appreciation. God will let a person know if they are a fit or not.
1...I'm so glad I came across your message. I'm single but not desperate. I'm patiently waiting for God to send the right one to find me. Blessings to you.❤
It doesn't matter what time, I will be tuning in.
Love is a covenantal commitment of one’s soul, heart, mind and time to another.
You can respect a person you hate. Real gangsters respect real gangsters, even if they’re enemies. However, you can’t love someone and not respect them. Love and respect goes hand in hand.
Thanks for sharing the true word of God Pastor Vlad & Lana... I came to watch this again.
I'm so happy for my testimony.
"You would be better off single (and lonely) rather than marrying someone who doesn't understand where you are coming from and doesn't carry your faith and your values."
That's so true and needed to hear for the singles out there. Understanding and matching values is so important for a marriage partnership, it's a long term warfare that takes many forms and seasons, and it's totally necessary to be on the same page.
You can have fun and go on dates, but if you want to have that committed relationship, that comes with a whole other level of devotion and sacrifice.
Dealing with that loneliness in singleness is important, because it may be rooted in insecurities that could be carried into your marriage if you aren't careful and deal with them before you make that decision with somebody. You will face loneliness in marriage, too. It's not limited to just being single. Dealing with the loneliness with the Lord is a sure foundation that will sustain you through the hard times, married or otherwise.
Agreed. I think it’s selfish for someone just to jump into a relationship for the reason you stated. It’s counterproductive for both parties, which is why I believe a lot of relationships don’t work out.
@ bucketspree4952
" You would be better off single "
Yeah sure .. how about doing what the BIBLE teaches and getting married for avoiding fornication ?1 Corinthians 7:4 /5
Where have the teachings of the Bible gone ?
" You can have fun and go on dates"
No you can't precisely. You can't go around fornicating . That's why you have to get married with no delay if you burn.
Whatever you say or think is nothing compared to the sexual urges God created us with. All our rants are useless and vain.
The West has pôstponed and ruined marriage . Now debauchery is going full swing.
The so called church has done exactly the same . Now debauchery is also going full swing.
TO AVOID FORNICATION , let every man have his wife(...) 1 Co 7:4
I've heard tons of marriage sermons on YT and I've also read books on the topic. NOT one quoted the Bible , yet they claim to be God breathed.
How evil.
I'm so blessed. Thank you so much for this video. God bless you two in your ministry.
I have been married six times, also lived with a guy that I had a child with. I have a loving Christian husband now but I wish I had waited for God's best when I was younger because all my marriages & relationships brought disillusionment and left me feeling fragmented.
I am one, who married a non Christian, I was lukewarm then and Lana is right about everything. Heartaches, pain, brokenness, too much work and all demons that come with his habits and idols. It’s really love long suffering. I should have listened to this 5 years ago. I am stuck here.
Praying for Gods great mercy and peace to be upon you. We've all sinned- fell short. But God forgives us for the asking. And I'm praying for wisdom for you, and even for God to supernaturally work on the heart of your spouse. Nothing is impossible for God. Forgive yourself, and continue to ask the Father to intervene in your life- and show Himself strong on your behalf. 💜🙏
@@theresalingeman8162 thanks Therese, I really need to stay strong, my heart bleeds for my boys.
@@peaced7184 don't ever say you're "stuck."
God always provides.
@@Corrinthian_ thanks dear, why I say I am stuck is I have prayed and fasted for him but the more I pray and fast, the more distant he gets, the more he cheats, the more crazier he gets for his co-worker mistress. Now all I can do is let go and let God because I am exhausted.
Fasting nd praying is not what u need now,what u need to have close relationship with Jesus,tell Jesus to teach his ways,by so doing,u have peace,joy,love,when u begin to experience this things,u character will change,u will love,u will be to see life in the marriage,ND u faith in Christ u will begin to change him,your holy life u live in Christ, will be making ways for u, your confidence will Christ,the moment u cry to Jesus, before u cry God answer,he will begins to hate sin,ND run away from sin, Jesus loves u sister,wake with,he will help you,u have to know him ND believe in him ND keep on believing even when nothing is happening, Jesus never fair's
Awesome to see a great marriage in Christ amen God bless you guys and your ministry
This is so good. I’m young just turned 18. I really appreciate this guys!!! Looking towards the future with optimism!
I'm a lot older than you guys and I'm still not married. God is taught me a lot over the years when my friends were getting married it was really hard for me, and I had to really get closer to God and tell him how I felt to heal because I felt left out. This experience drew me closer to God, as time went by I drew closer to God and became more secure knowing that he was my husband and my friend and the lover of My soul. I would still like to be married but only the Lord can meet my needs and I learned even when I dated somebody that there's no perfect person. God taught me a lot about the right person. I really struggled with finding the right person and learned over the years that the right person is not what I should be seeking because none of us are exactly right all the time. My perception of wright was my ideal of what the right person was which was not God's ideal. I had to learn that my ideas are ideal was different than what God's idea was, now I've learned. I think that all of us have to learn some things first and have foundation like you said and then the right person is the right decision when you find a mate. It's not our own idea what we think is right, it's whether it's right because you're making a decision that's biblical, someone you can be equally yoked together with.
I really like what you said if your reading this just know you just helped me with what you said about there is no right person all the time. Thanks again
Nice to read your comment. I'm 45 and unmarried so it applies. A buddy of mine got married last week and I must say I was a little envious. Oh well, nothing to do but keep making myself better, for God, and if someone becomes my wife along the way then so be it. If not, then so be it as well. 🩶👍
Great comment fr Kim💙
😊 thank you all for your encouraging replies. I don't always share a really long testimony like that but, it just kind of came out, it was an honor if I was able to bless somebody.
@@patientlywatching7775 Lots of girls in Church! Keep looking! Lots of older girls as well!
Unity is only achieved through the same faith and belief. Bc we live through our beliefs. Make all decisions by our beliefs.
in complete love with this video! the dont date a Christian segment i was weak!! you will become a project everybody gonna be praying for you to get saved
Thank you Pastor Vlad and Lana for this video. Truly some great advice and revelation on this topic. God bless you both and the ministry
Lord I am ready to meet my future husband. I ask God that this year will be the Last year of being single amen.
Lord I am not asking for a specific person. I will accept whoever you will give me. That will accept me for who I am, and will love me for what I am. Amen
Today is my birthday March 05 Happy birthday to me. And all who is my birthmonth
I’m here now I can’t believe it’s taken this long
Make sure to be the woman that the man you want requires. Dont just expect what you arent. This goes for men and women🤝🤝.
@@petarecox1 this is how it all begins! ❤
@@OnyejelemAmarachi yes it is but unfortunately but fortunately you replied and not her. It is weird how things work though and the mysterious ways that the Lord works in our lives huh?
@@OnyejelemAmarachi yes it is but unfortunately but fortunately you replied and not her. It is weird how things work though and the mysterious ways that the Lord works in our lives huh?
I needed this. Thanks guys, God bless you two! ❤❤
This is a 💯 true! You're deliberation on this subject is amazing! Very helpful!Thank you! May God richly bless you both in your lives and ministry!
I love the advice in these videos from the both of you. God bless you and your marriage. 💕
I had a crush on a Muslim girl and today I was taught that we should not be unequally yorked so I because we did not share the same faith I let it go
good for you, brother.
keep walking the straight and narrow.
@@ponchi123 I wonder if a woman has ever said the same; "Christian" woman with a Muslim man...
hmm...🤔
@@ponchi123 for sure you are not serving the Lord together. And if your relationship is based on you guys and not in Christ, it's just a earthly marriage, basically it's idolatry. I hope that this is just a temporarily situation and things can be different in a future
Wow , thank you man of God for this Spirit filled messages, I started following your videos and I really feels that the Spirit of God really leads me to watch your video it's really a blessing to me always feels like am being directed by your messages by God. Thank you
That's right and good👍 you're absolutely correct.. bcoz the after effects will be severe,..let it go and move forward.. don't turn back..
Praise the Lord! This is so powerful! The Lord you both! Amen! ☺
This was so good. Never heard of you until this morning. I just stumbled upon this video through another one of your videos about memorizing the Bible. Do you have another video somewhere like this one that is directed more towards older, never-married singles, like in their young 30s? Especially, for Christian guys who are still waiting on the Lord and discouraged.
Excellent teachings! I'm praying for all of my children to walk in these principles and to walk closely with the LORD and wait to reveal "that one" within His will and His purposes.
What is much more interesting? Mating according to the Bible.
That's a good word, " values" I'm glad you brought that up.
I remember years ago God was speaking to my heart about values and how important it was to have the same values. I've seen people get divorced because they didn't have the same values from the very beginning and that should be an open discussion before they get married. Ask some questions to the person, what do you value?
May God bless your heart and family, brother 🙏✝️☦️
Yes Pastor Vlad we need to respect the body of the Holy Spirit 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you for this. God bless!
Watching this just bought me to tears. I 100% agree that love is not a feeling, its a will, its our decision to love and care of someone we chose to love. Now that i am married to the man i chose to love, i see the sense of this everything. As was said, there will be circumstances that somehow could pull us away from each other, but thats the point of Godly Marriage, you learn to love, you learn to forgive, you learn to apologize, and you learn to admit that you did wrong, qll because you put God in the center of your marriage. Thats how "Christian Marriages" always work. Christian marriages have very solid foundation, which is godly Love. Thank you so much guys, you guys rock! Prayer for all of the people who are in godly Marriage. Having God in your marriage is no joke seriously important, trust me for this. (Husbands & Wives equally have the same responsibilities to make the marriage/relationship work, and it all through God)
Love is a commitment to give and sacrifice to someone you love.
@ TiaraMIKAEL
Turning marriage into just a "love" thing is the heresy of the Western world.
Marriage is first and foremost a sin fix (1 corinthians 7:4/5) and a way to grow and multiply Psalm 127/128.
The way marriage has been turned into some emotional stupidity just makes me sick to the bones.
PRAYER REQUEST, for "HEALING" in ASPECTS of my LIFE, in ALL CIRCUMSTANCES of my LIFE, UPHEAVALS, STRUGGLES, TRIALS, COMFORT, STRENGTH, WISDOM, GUIDANCE, in AFFLICTION, PROTECTION, DELIVERANCE, etc.
This video was truly a blessing! Thank you so much! ..❤
1… m 33 and waiting on God for my spouse and this message was indeed so much help
Omg the shoes 😂 👞 👠
I love this teaching! Thank you Lord for pastor Vlad and Lana. May God bless you guys. These videos bring so much insight and wisdom to my life.
Same to you pastor, me and my husband we too meet through Facebook, nice to see you together 👍👍👍
Purity comes from within! The Lord is able to keep us pure!
@ sybilwickhham9015
I guess if we ask the Lord to never be hungry or thirsty anymore , he will just pray our hunger or thirst away as well ?
The way basic bodily needs are denied is scary and totally insane.
Thank you so much for this.
I pray that the Lord gives us the grace to apply what had been taught 🙏🙏🙏.
Pursue purity and virginity.
I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot.
I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough.
I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too..
I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith
We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her
Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality
I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways...
But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not
And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy.
The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things..
And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl
I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways.
I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways.
Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God.
I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues...
I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves.
In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either.
Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future.
She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best.
We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms...
Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips...
And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary.
But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs.
-50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old
Huge mother issues
-Not a father figure
-Having lots of guy "friends"
-porn
-Drugs
-alcool
-Emotional instability, mood swings
-tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues
-Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself
-Avoiding responsability
-Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view
Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags.
I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her
-inteligente
-smart
-deep talk
-understanding
-helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable
-likes to read
I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time...
She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes...
Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too...
And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me.
I wonder what Jesus would tell me...
"You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that"
"Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before"
"Leave them both, not good for you"
"Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them."
Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up
I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her.
I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world
I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt.
I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life
I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs...
But I think its more about I understanding them
Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me.
I dont know what to do...
Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal
This was so good pastors🙌🏽 I wish I lived where your church is located. Thank you both for teaching this and GOD bless you both and your ministry.
I know😂
Your wife is so cute. She seems so calm and loving. I really like this video. You do want to have deal breakers and Jesus and his love and relationship is number one. I like the fact that you guys talked about manipulation. I have left a lot of guys because I see the manipulation in 1 to 3 months. I run and they still try and chase, apologize and come back to me. I say to myself heck no! I started tearing up when you guys were speaking how if a man is telling you if you love me you will do this. Well, I'm going to say this, I've been manipulated and it wasn't even about sex. It was "I tested you to see how you were going to act to start an argument and you passed the test". So you tried to start an argument with me to get me upset to see how I am going to act? Also another instance is a Christian man told me that I talk about God to much and that I am like a sister from the church. He then apologized to me the next day but a few weeks later he told me that I was immature in my faith and that I never had an experience with the power of the holy spirit speaking in tounges. Then he apologized again the next morning. The dude was saying very disrespectful things then he would apologize so after the 2nd time I knew he wasn't the one for me. Just like you guys touched on this topic if they do one thing then keep doing it over and over and apologizing then they aren't really sorry . To me that is another form of manipulation as well. So, since I saw this trend I picked up myself and walked away from that situation. These men are just silly out here, very immature, prideful and what was so funny is that the holy spirit was showing me signs the whole time because it would always rain and thunderstorm hard on his side of town then my side of town. This guy would always complain about how it is foggy, raining and lightening in his area. He lived in the Mount Vernon, NY and I live in Astoria Queens It was only a 20 minute ride, yet he experiences all this rainfall and would always complain as to why I never saw the rain or lightening as much as he did. I left change my phone number and never turned back to that guy. I accepted his apology and said goodbye. I will never settle for less. Being a woman of God I'm so glad that you basically hit every factor that I have had with these men and I know that I am making the right decision because I know what a man of God is suppose to act like and walking in the spirit with Christ. Until a man can show some respect, love and bare the fruits of the spirit I'm not settling for any of this non sense. Like Vlad said send them back to their momma. The lack of integrity and immaturity issues they can keep it.
Till I am good to God, an not good for any child of God God is the standard ❤. Learning on. Thank you 🙏🙏
Also, how they treat servers (waiters, waitresses, tellers, etc.)
5:13 “ based on what you know about yourself, would you marry you?”
I say, yes, except for it would be helpful if I work on my emotional maturity and get back on my track again. Feel like God is teaching me right now to depend on him, so therefore, I am still single for a little little more longer.
Idk, if my partner where to cheat on me I would want a divorce cuz I really wouldn't want to touch them anymore
Thank you so much for this🥺
It has been so insightful and encouraging for us, those who wait in the phase of singleness. Thank you for your prayers as well. God bless you❤️
Lana is so beautiful!!!!! 😭💕💕💕
Where are you from
To be honest, trying to marry or date a Christian woman is the most difficult task I believe. I believe in Jesus Christ and try to improve my faith in him but then I see Christian woman and they are all out Christian like a level that scares me mentally. Then you talk to them and they are cold, stay away from you and always careful which is a good thing but, still it just makes me want to date someone from outside church who is way nicer and I have a potential with.
I would also rather date someone nevertheless their faith, because its very hard to find someone compatible+ Christian today
Maybe you are looking in the wrong church 🤷🏻♂️
Honestly you should try the missions field. I have known countless people who met their spouses there. You are both out of your comfort zones and both of you are looking for something bigger or you wouldn't be there. I have known few people who were successful in local churches.
Thank you Pastor/brother & sister for this very helpful advice!!! I’ve been listening to a lot of dating advice-mostly secular advice, but yours is simpler, straight, & follows the will of God, which makes it effective & true. God Bless your marriage and your ministry.
I discovered that the Bible, the Corinthians books especially, is a operating manual of how to function as designed and when we do that, it makes one perform at their best in their lives and relationships with others. It truly does make even our burdens light and our peace and joy abundant.
from facebook, got here already. God bless to your family Ptr. Declaring holistic blessings upon your life. 🤍✨
I’ve been single now for over five years going through the wilderness of healing, transformation, and allowing God to do for me what I can never do for myself I believe the Lord has someone very special for me at the right time. I’ll meet her according to God‘s will in his perfect timing for his perfect purpose, I’m a firm believer in kingdom marriage as far as marriages goes there’s more than just falling in love with your future spouse it’s about two people coming together as Christ is the head serving the Lord together to further his kingdom marriage a godly marriage is a representation of the marriage, we have in Christ Jesus
AMEN
Amen
@ MrGuitarshred777
" serving the Lord together"
No man needs to be married to serve the Lord. No man needs a woman to serve the Lord. But a man needs to get married because of his urges 1 Co 7:4/5 and to have his quiver full Psalms 127/128
The over spiritualisation of marriage has done so much harm to the church that sexual urges has been put on the back burner and as such marriage has become everything but the sin fix it was supposed to be.
Amen🙌.thank you so much for the prayer.this message was so blessing to me.Nay God Bless You Both More and More.from 🇲🇾
Lana you're so so beautiful.
God bless you both.
Guys, it’s so nice to see you and have you. Please except my wishes for your love be guarded and guided by God forever.
Single and waiting on God for the right partner 🙏
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Hello, how are y’all doing? I just discovered the channel and I had a lot of questions concerning the dating according to the Lord and I just want to say I love y’all so much and I am so glad I came across this channel because I want to tell you ma’am. He just told me how to wait on God concerning a wife put the feelings to sleep and seek God I feel that I am 1,000,000% with that you’re breaking this down so much for me thank y’all so much God bless I’m still currently watching your channel right now and I’m soaking all the information all in
If you knew you the way you know you, would you marry you?
My parent's anniversary is also August 21st, good video!
🤣🤣🤣 “if you don’t wanna get converted and you wanna go to hell don’t date a Christian!” Cmon somebody! Love Pastor Vlad for this one haha!!
Watching from Winnipeg Manitoba Canada 👋🏿 Trust is everything. I love you two!❤
Blessings to you and your wife !
I never heard an explanation like the one you provided on Adam and Eve before, it gave me so much insight and opened my eyes to see my current situation in a brand new way.
Thank you, God bless you !
not even halfway thru and this has already blessed me. Yahuah bless you and keep you both!
Please pray for me to have a Godly husband.
This is such good solid Godly advice! I wish I would have followed this type of advice when I was single. Now I know better! Focus on my relationship with God first and He will bring my husband who is ideal for me and fits me!
Please pray for me so that I can be independent first by getting the job that could give me a good paycheck where I could start to invest in something for future financial stability and then I will try to find someone where I can start to make a family.
This is so good 🔥🔥. God bless you Pastor Vlad and Pastor Lana
The longer you wait is best but not too long either, also virginity is a huge factor especially when a person is committed to God as you mentioned pastor Vlad uniquely joked does not fit and that includes virginity. Unclean women marrying a Christian man or vice versa do not fit.
I think Christianity Today came out with a study that said that your chances of finding a Christian woman in her 30's who is single and not had multiple sexual partners (let alone being a virgin) is basically the same as getting struck by a meteorite.
@ normaescamilla7531
"The longer you wait is best"
Where on earth does the Bible teach that ? The Bible urges people to get married if they burn with desire 1 Corinthians 7:4.
Blessings to you and your family brother
BUT GOD ☺️🥰
My husband asked to marry me, he asked 4x before I accepted. We weren't ready but we were living and acting like we were. 19 years and 3 children later we are still "not ready". We are always learning, changing and growing together. This video is an amazing way to converse with our children as they are in college, working and starting to date. Marriage is honorable, precious, sacred and is worth fighting for. Thank you both for this wonderful, biblical and honest conversation
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