Marriage Be Hard Podcast | Chance & Tabitha Brown
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2022
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The way Chance just want to be with Tab...❤️
YES. 🙌🏽😍 That’s the type of love I want.
She told the story of the early days and she use to ask him about marriage and it didn’t happen and she stated she got to a point she didn’t care about asking him about it anymore she “just wanted to be with him.” 🥰Your comment made me think of that. Them just wanting to be with each other is pure and beautiful
I love that !
Chance's perspective on quarantine was hilarious 🤣 "You need a break? Let me go stand in the front yard!" 😂
😂🤣
Right?!! Yes Chance!!!
I was the same way hahaha
Chance is a man of few words, but he be spittin gems.
I can see what she saw in him.
For real for real 🙌🏾
Oh...Kay! Straight up facts 💯 👏🏾👏🏾
You took the words right out of my mouth!
Facts!
I love to hear Chance speak. He only speaks when he has something to say.
A lesson to be studied 💯
@@nicolejames3054 I was just about to say something similar to that...I want to be more like that...
He been a police officer for probably about 15-20 years. He definitely learned skills that studies people.
So important
He’s very much like my father stern in the face , a man of few words but gives the best advice and shares great words of wisdom.
I’m OBSESSED with how still and intentional Tab gets when Chance is speaking. WOW!
A man who is lead by God, who prays for and leads his family to Christ will most definitely have a woman in a daze. It is so beautiful to see it! I agree with you!!!!
I love it. I respect her for that so much ❤
I love this about them. I believe she’s learned this from Chance because he expects her full undivided attention and so she gives it back in return ❤
Yaassss it’s the respect that she is able to have for him❤️
Rigghhhtttttt!!! #RESPECT #KING/QUEEN
What Chance said is so important because if the marriage is not in tack than the house the kids and everything else suffers! Kudos Chance
As a woman that desires to be married and loves love this was EVERYTHING!! I just love watching black people that are positive and not full of drama talk so candidly about their marriage journey. Thank you so much for this!
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'You not going to live with me forever but you can rely on me forever' love it Chance
That part!!!!
Gworl chance made us love him more during this interview chance said forget them kids 🤣😭😭😭🤷🏽♀️ I love that he wants his wife you don’t see most men these days really saying I need my wife 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’m here for chance brown Chile
This!!!
My grandfather was like this. My grandmother, God bless her soul, was his everything. He literally was #teamfuckthemkids but he loved the grandkids (us) though lol.
Chance is legit 25 yrs old lol
Kids grow up and make their own life and family. But a husband and wife is forever. Marriage vows are between the husband and wife. Children are a byproduct of that.
Right
Chance and Tab are a perfect balance. He supported his family as a police, she then supported her husband to help bring his vision to life. Chance is about to blow up also. His vision is needed for our boys.
At that just beautiful and wholesome 🥰😍
Kevin and melissa are an example of a couple who know that marriage is a commitment and work.
Multiple studies have shown that women live happier and healthier lives being single then being married.
Statistically speaking, women are happiest when single and childless in today's times. Also, women can have friends and biological family that they share a life with. We as humans need the presence of other humans in our lives yes. But we can live alone. We don’t need romantic relationships to survive. We do need love and support, but it can be from friends and family. It does not need to be from a romantic partner.
Studies also show that single women are far happier than their married peers, and that married women lose out in career earnings, career trajectory, health, and life expectancy compared to those single peers as well.
Married women tend to age more and have more health problems than single women do, and a lot of that is because of the stress that comes from being in a romantic relationship.
Married women live shorter lives and report lower levels of happiness than women who never marry. Also, according to many studies, women have higher rates of depression when married. Over half of all women today are single, by choice. Statistics indicate that single women tend to have the highest life expectancy on average.
I think Chance gets nervous when Tab comes in the room because she always says, "My husband can do anything and he can be anybody he wants to be." She is so uplifting to him that he doesn't want to let her down...IMO. That is very sweet.
Awwww that is so sweet🥰
My mama has always told me don’t do things in a relationship that you aren’t willing to maintain!
I LOVE when the Fredrick's are interviewing people. Very entertaining and encouraging. Well done. 👏🏾
Especially the Brown's.
@@belindalindsey7056 last Lloyd Webber
Not Choyce causing issues over fixin the plate. 😂 It be your own kids!!!
I used to do that to my mama too, she always made my stepdad plate, I hate it, I was the same way as choyce
That was hilarious😂😂😂
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The comment that Chance made about longevity being the marker for a successful marriage, but not liking the way the longevity looked in the marriages he was witnessing was a "LOUD DOUBLE CLAP and SPEAK THE THING" for me...
Chance doesn't speak often but when he does, you need to listen. I enjoy their balance. Tab is a breath of fresh air.
“You can’t live with me forever but you can rely on me for ever”. I caught the Holy Ghost when I heard that 🙌🏾👏🏾❤
I really hate that it took me 7 months to watch this. This was EVERYTHING! So many gems to pull from here. Come August, I’ll be married 26 years and I can testify 🗣MARRIAGE BE HARD!!!!!!
My husband (late, died January 9, 2006) and I had a marriage made in heaven. We only had one argument. After that we talked out problems. We're married for 19 years. He died from brain cancer. I miss my one and only. Great video 😊!!
God bless that!
That was over 15 years ago
Black families growing beyond generational hindrances and SHOWING love in a healthy environment as well as highlighting the struggle that promoted growth… I am HERE for it!!!!!!!!
Just had this conversation with my daughter at Walmart, she's in college and was shocked I didn't pay for her laundry detergent, etc. Lil girl slide your debit card into the card reader and let's go! Lol!!!
I'm hollering 🤣🤣🤣 Gone ahead and slide your debit card into the card reader 🤣
Very good all kind of relationship nuggets. Hit a rough patch in my marriage of 34 years. Dealing with these aging bodies and communication. Basically I was ready to settle for just being partners, but now I think I'll strive to restore a great marriage. Thanks for your encouragement.
Go for it!! You won't regret putting the work in to not just exist in your marriage but thrive in it again
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Restore your blessing Sis.May God bless you and your union to be what God designed it to be❤
If marriage wasn't hard, why does the traditional vows read: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health...?" Don't this give people a clue that there will be hard times and struggles in marriage?
Lol nah they just looking at that wedding nd being in glam lol
Facts
Exactly
Well said!
For some people they are excited about the wedding and forget that there’s marriage after the wedding day.
Tab and Chance give the BEST interviews!
Think it’s simply due to them just being true to themselves and not worrying about what others think or want to hear. Just sharing their experiences both good & bad. Love to witness it…
I’m an OG fan of Kevin. I remember the first video with Melissa when they did the story of how they met and people were dogging her in the comments saying she didn’t look like she wanted to be there. Lol she probably didn’t 🤣🤣
I know! It's so interesting to go back to Kev's 2013 videos and see how Melissa has just blossomed! 🌸
Yeah it’s so amazing to see her growth. I went back and saw one of those early videos and she was very uncomfortable on camera. Several of those Love Hour videos early on were audio only with a picture of them. I don’t think she really ever wanted to be on camera but with time and experience she’s a pro now. 💪🏾
@@makreviews2146 this is my 1st time seeing their videos, and I'm like she's really good. She must have grown a lot, because she's a pro to me!
Chance's best friend mentality about Tab mirrors my husband's. We've been together since 1999 married since 2000 with no children by choice and we are each other's best friend. It is nice to see another example 💜.
Love.
If I can ask, why did you decide to get married ?
@@thessysasa 1999? Why bother now🤣🤣🤣
I think she forced him to marry him🤣🤣🤣
@@thessysasa I hope you aren't asking that because they don't have children. Plenty of people want marriage without children. It's not a big deal.
@@lisacox3750 I'm not, so no need to assume that ;)
Idk why listening to y’all talk about marriage make me feel at peace that me and my husband are not as bad as I thought. Reminded me to be still, pray and always communicate
David A. Arnold clarified that "it ain't for the weak" relates to anything that is worth doing. HIs marriage/family was worth doing x 10000000000.
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Kev be forgetting all those times he teased Tahir for his mess ups! Now he is reaping what he's sowed! 😂😂
Exactly!!! 😂
The problem is people hate the word "hard" people hear hard and think "if I fail, I'm not perfect" instead of saying "wow, it's not just me that struggled with this". I love when people in this goal space says it wasn't an easy road it makes it easier to not put unnecessary expectation on yourself. I'm loving these Marriage be hard interviews even thou i don't plan to get married legally but do plan on using these tools in the relationship I have.
This. As someone who is getting married & someone who hasn’t had a great example, I look at them like my aunts and uncles with the good marriage. I like that their friends all show how multi-faceted a marriage can be and that it’s truly not a “one-size fits all”.
The vegan life is good to the Browns! Chance over there looking like a whole Gen-Z kid! Benjamin Button thangs! I love these two couples! I love how my favorite black couples are friends in real life…y’all gotta get the Nwigwe’s and the Perry’s on next!😅🥰
Yess the nwigwe’s!
Yuppp
Yes!!! Both of those couples would be great.
I JUST watched a Love Hour episode of them as I do every few months. NO WORK will be done tomorrow until this is over. I MEAN THAT!!!
I second this! It’s Fri-Yaaaay anyway. I didn’t clock in to work. 😂
@@Love_intentionally_ Listen...I am sitting here refreshing every few seconds like we don't have an entire 15 minutes to go. They might come on early and I don't wanna be caught in work related activity and miss ANYTHING
Same and same! 😂
@@chicenalee4459 Is that a live?
That doggone Tab and Chance know they be teaching and reaching the people! I must’ve hit rewind so many times 😂 amazing as always Kev and Lis…love this platform
I wish I could click “like” more than once. This conversation is and was everything. Thank you!♥️
Let me get me a Chance. His personality is everything
Yo did no once else hear how much chance loves tab. He said about 100 times like I don’t wanna be with nobody else! Although tab is a beautiful spirit and hard not to love. 👌🏽☺️ Love them
Listen yall!!!! As a single person, listening to discourse like this helps me in preparation to be the wife I want to be. I want to thank both couples for your candor and example. So many nuggets in this interview from both couples! Thanks again for this!
MY EXACT SAME FEELINGS🙌🏾❣️
THE PREPARING🙌🏾
Yes, they are a great couple to learn from. I love them.
The fact that they kept Kev’s blooper in the beginning 😂😂😂😂😂 Marriage Be Hard and so does Podcasting lol love y’all!
I’m screaming at Choyce being the DRAMA 😂😂
Chance is a solid dude. Love you both.
The story about making Chance's plate. I'm dyingggg.
But for real. I'm here for the wisdom. I loved this.
I got married young - we're 7 years in and have 3 kids. When they said "I got married young so you don't have too" I felt that. I think getting married young has worked for us but I don't think I'd advise my kids to do it. Yes, go figure out yourself and come into yourself first.
Wow Chance..."You can't always live with me, but you can always rely on me. But I'm not a bail out."
I LOVE the wisdom, the perfect combination of truth & grace!
I love everything about this episode. From Chances openness, to the way Tab looks at him while he speaks. Beautiful example of honest loving marriages ❤
That plate fixing though 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I actually love fixing my husband's plate but with all these kids we've had back to back, he's lovingly fixed my plate numerous times too 💗
I’m Tab & Kev on being the dreamer in my marriage HOWEVER I’m team Liss and Chance in demeanor! I’m observing everything, I don’t trust NOBODY & I got words and hands!
This the one! I feel seen sis!
We see each other 😉
Yessss!!!
I’m on year 11 married and 19 together!! Marriage definitely “be hard”! It’s literally a decision to do life with a person unconditionally!
“Unconditionally”? 🤔 I’m on my 27th year and marriage definitely be hard. But it’s a daily choice for us both. I know for sure there are conditions for me to continually make that decision though.
Just to name a few, respect, loyalty, emotional intelligence/availability, maturity, and commitment. Nothing in my life has been unconditional except for the love I have in my heart for the children I bore from my uterus.
I completely understand that all marriages are absolutely not the same, but I don’t understand having no conditions on maintaining it in general.
You are absolutely right. Maybe unconditional was not the correct term because there are definitely conditions. I mean…deciding to love someone in spite of their imperfections and when it’s hard to.
@@theprofitpenthouse Thanks for the reply. I understand and completely agree.
I enjoyed quarantine too. My husband and sons being home all of the time was bliss.
I ❤️ when these two power couples get together!!! ❤️🖤💚
I LOVED their episode on The Love Hour (I cry everytime 🥲) and I can't wait to watch this!!!
❤❤😍😍🥰🥰
It was one of the best ones.
Yep being single be hard, life is hard but living in each season of life is worthed! If I have a married season I’m sure it will be hard, and I’m sure it will be sexy! Thanks for sharing some of you all gems of marriage, parenting, and Life! God bless
The way Melissa slapped Kev’s phone 😂
❤️ Married for 25 years and together for 33 years here 💯 it’s not easy but it is definitely worth every moment!
Chance and Tabitha the most real and genuine couple on the face of the earth. I love how they don’t try to impress people. Just being who they are is very impressing!❤️
"My foundation is me and her."
--Chance ❤🙌🏽
I’ve been loving these Marriage and Hard conversations!
Can we get a marriage be hard comedy show?
dont push them... tryna pile too much into one thing. they already talk about the stress of having to do that in so many other areas. let's just appreciate this gift they gave the way they gave it✨
@@jck_777 I know it’s unlikely. But it’s wishful thinking.
I support everything tab does and has going on!!! She's a class act
I love love love both of these couples because they keep it real. They don't pretend to be perfect like these other couples
I love how Tab said people say "marriage goals, couples goals...but she asks you sho?"....
Wise!
I love Fridays with Tab and chance. It should be a talk show.
When my son was a kid he was sweet, then he became a meanager, then he graduated and I cried because I didn’t want my baby to leave, Covid hit and he came back hm, but what I learned through all of it is to always cast my cares on the Lord. God cares about the things I care about and He knows I’m not strong enough to handle something happening to my child. So I gave both of my kids to God and left them there. There are no hands safer than His. Now they go and come as they plz. Stay for days or weeks away from hm and I just pray, keep them covered, cover whoever they are with or wherever they are and let go and let God.
Omg I am Choyce and I need to apologize to my parents 🤣 🤣
In my single season and taking all the notes. These conversations are necessary and important. Thank you.
I thoroughly enjoyed watching this. I liked Tabitha because she’s just sunshine. Her husband is the perfect complement. It’s educational to see how other ppl navigate their marriage successfully.
When Chance said he and Melissa are alike it reminds me of tank and angel because tank will be on the chance and Melissa side and angel is on the tab and kev side. It’s a really nice friendship dynamic. Very rare.
My husband and I got married at an older age but still had sooo many problems but for us it was because we fell in lust and lust don't last especially when one spouse gets sick, we also didn't talk about important things that are lasting.
That's the key at any age.....talking things out.
Absolutely loved this interview. I’ll be married 10 years on Feb 1. Got married at 18, now 28. We are still learning but I feel like we’re almost at that stage where like Chance said, things are established. I have 5 kids ages 9,6,3,2,&1 😅 I’m nervous for when they hit teenage years 😩😂 I have 2 girls and 3 boys. Pray for me haha
This was a MARVELOUS conversation. It WARMS my heart to see BOTH couples RELISHING the relationships you have nurtured and cultivated. #MarriageBeHard #MarriageBeDelicious #MeetTheBrowns #MeetTheFredericks #BlackLove
We need a part two honestly
That quarantine was a blessing to me and my family. We strategized, loved, and enjoyed each other and did not skip a beat monetarily. Even when I got COVID, God covered me. I remember YEARS ago saying "I just want everything to stop!" I felt like I was on a continuous merry go round and I wanted to get off because I was so busy. I felt like God did that for me lol
Yes, this right here! God answered, and gave you a reset.
@@lalalittle3900 Amen!! He really did.
You speak facts. My husband and I are introverted and really did need the time together. God, gave the world a chance to literally stop, smell the roses and look at whats happening and been happening around you.
@@pmccray551 Yes he did! I'm glad you and your husband had the chance to refresh as well!
Chance! With the nail 🔨 on the head! Just because your examples have been together decade, doesn't mean it's great! I want to LIKE my husband in the end! This is soooo good! Kev and Melissa, I got my book! We "aren't just gonna be married" Kev! Yessss! THAT part! Lawd, that last nugget from Chance-ACTIONS!
MELISSA AND CHANCE PERSONALITY IS JUST LIKE MINE…..I’M OBSERVANT TO EVERYTHING…… BE BLESSED KINGS & QUEENS
Baby!! This interview was everything! If you married or getting married this is a must watch!
Chance talking about those back to back stressful conversations had me singing “Every time i see you, I get a bad vibe..” 😭😂 Chance is that guy! Just learned so much from this guy about how I can pivot in my own relationship to stay grounded. These convos are absolutely necessary! #BringBackTheLoveHour
I love Tab and Chance. This was the interview I didn’t know I needed, so many gems dropped.
My momma got married at 29/30 and she’s not a fan of people getting married yoing either. She encourages us to live!!
Also, love that these couple are actually friends
You and I gotta have the same mom then, bc she told me the exact same thing 💀
My husband and I went through the same thing. He told me to stop calling my grandaddy for everything
Longevity doesn't equal happiness. Love that part. I too desire a marriage where I have a friend in my mate where we are able to communicate in both good and hard times. GREAT INTERVIEW!!!
Tab and Chance are such great guest. I can't seem to commit to full episodes but i was this time. I'm always surprised when Chance talk and realized he is NOT Mr. Tabitha Brown. Together, they are great entertainment
When Tab said Chance don't trust the kids cuz he ain't known them that long 😂😂😂😂😂 BIG OL FACTS 💯
I’m not gone lie… I Love Kev and his wife and I LOVE Tab and how she is with her husband. This was amazing!!!!
Hahahhaa oh my goodness Chance reminds me of my husband "why are you recording? Why you got people looking in our home?" Or "Chance doesn't trust anyone, he barely trusts our kids. He hasn't known them that long"
Wow God really does pair us with our opposites.
This series on “Marriage Be Hard” is everything ‼️‼️‼️ Thank you 🙏🏽
These interviews are such gems! I don't think couples have been given the permission to be this honest to the public, and that's because of the safe space the Fredricks have built. This is such a labor of love that will help millions along their marital journeys.❤️
I'm so glad y'all started off the discussion with the responsibility to also show the upside of marriage. Outside of the social media highlights, most marriage discussions these days don't make marriage seem desirable AT ALL. As Melissa said, the effort to be honest, or simply to vent 🤷🏿♀️, is definitely becoming a deterrent to those of us that are unmarried. I think at this point we all get that 'Marriage be Hard', but surely the good outweighs the bad or else no one would do it. God wouldn't have blessed and ordained it. Right? As a single person, I can say more balanced discussion on the joys of marriage, and its challenges, would be appreciated. All that to say, this discussion, and this series, is GREAT!!!!!! 🤗
That's funny about Tab making Chance plate. When I first got married I used to wait until my husband came to the table to eat then he started doing everything when the food was ready to eat and the food would get cold, now I eat once food ready and he eats at his own time. And he washes the dishes most of the time after he finishes.
I'm late seeing this but loved it! My daughter is 25, working a real job, living in another city and I'm ALWAYS like....Where is she? Is she ok?".....lol!
I haven’t even watched the full episode and I already love it. Also… Melissa and these HATS!!! YEEEAAAASSSSSSS!!!!! I absolutely love it!
I felt that in my spirit! My mom told me the same thing! Tabitha verbatim, that was me . Been married 31 yrs and this maybe happened 5 yrs ago! Loved it
I love when Tab talks about knowing each other and that being a weakness for others in quarantine. The blessing and beast of marriage is definitely knowing the good and bad of the other person and I think successful relationships fall on wanting to be friends with your spouse.
This was an amazingly awesome show...I will be 56 in July and currently ready to really be in a committed relationship with Marriage being the forefront of the conversation. The Browns have given me hope to stay encouraged.
You can't live with me forever, but you can rely on me forever. 😊" Chance Brown
I like the idea of the notebook and I think it would be a great idea for Chance to write a book on managing time in your life and relationship. #Team Chance 🙏🏽
Respect to Chance for not relying on Tabithas Father
This entire conversation is TOO good! Soaking in alll this wisdom 😊
Choyce triggering the plate confrontation has me crying. 😭
Thoroughly enjoyed this!!! Love all of them!!
Well said!! I love this!!! 4 of my FAVs in the building together ❤️
Yessss, I absolutely LOVED everything about the conversations in this episode!!
I love these conversations. Just brought the book yesterday!
Great interview! I really enjoyed it and can definitely relate. I was literally laughing out loud.
Marriage is a learning journey. It has its up’s& downs but most importantly keeping God the for front in your marriage is very very important. Communication , trust & teamwork also helps. I’ve been married going on 22 years& babyyyyyyyyyy it’s been an adventure