Love | S2E3 | Men's Round Table | A Black Love Series
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2023
- EPISODE 3: LOVE
On this episode of Men’s Roundtable, Enitan Bereola, Rodney Rikai, Lawrence Robinson and Karega Bailey join Glen Henry to seek the answer to knowing when they are in love, and opposingly how to process heartache when love fails.
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This conversation was amazing kings. As a woman I loved hearing men talk on this level about love and life. So proud of this work!
You and me both
It’s so refreshing
I can listen all day
I totally agree. Men don't open up and talk or show this level of transparency often....especially on a public platform like this. So when they do I definitely have to tune in and listen to what they have to say.
Because this made men’s look weak this is weak men’s things a real men’s don’t do this. They only. Do it on close doors this ones are doing UA-cam business simple as that and that’s ok. But ……,
@@thatkatia sak pasé Zoe’s in the house 😂😂
“Romance is the low hanging fruit of love.” - Damn.
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Right! Dropping gems from the start.💫
That is the truth
"Love doesn't hurt. People hurt. Love is pure. Love is perfect. We channel it. It's traveling through a flawed system...Like water traveling through a dirty pipe."
Yea, he ate that.
Powerful Breathtaking comment...,
Good coment and i am learning .👍🏿
The age of the woman definitely plays a part in dating. When I was 22 years-old I had a different mindset than I did when I was 38 years-old.
@kay Jay,
He might be referring to how she was raised. In her culture they may be raised to get married early. She does have a 7 year old do she might be looking for a father for her child.
I do agree with you. I graduated from college at 24 and was living my best life. Marriage and children were the last thing on my mind. Traveling and dating was what I was enjoying back then.
True 🔥🔥🔥
As a black woman listening to this conversation......I am speechless....wow God bless you all for being so open
THIS
I only disagreed with one part. The young man who said he had to leave a good woman because he wasn’t ready was right to do. The point another man made was something along the lines of holding on to good people for dear life. If you know you aren’t good for a person, let them go so they can be good on their own or with someone else. It’s not fair to hurt good people especially when you’re doing it intentionally, because you don’t want to let them go. That’s selfish. But, this was a great conversation!
Yes, my son was going through this. I told him to get himself together 1st. Then he can have a better way of seeing what he needs and can give another person. It isn't fair to the other person. This is a great conversation.
😪Why not hold on to that???? Love is so hard to find you have to save it
“love is the greatest investment to transform the quality of life” ♥️
Beleaf is the perfect person to lead these conversations
I love Beleaf he is such a good example.
He really is!
Agreed!
"You deserve to be invested in"- I so love that. That's a new affirmation for me. I deserve to be invested in through love.💜
I really wish this was longer. It seemed like they were just getting into it when it ended. But I’m so grateful for this conversation, Rodney’s story actually helped me put into perspective a relationship that I had with a guy with similar feelings. He wasn’t at a point where he could express this the way Rodney did. As a black woman I want to listen more to what the black men in our community are thinking and feeling.
THIS IS THE POCKET!!! These round table of men and women SEPARATELY should happen more here. Men talk waaaayyyyy more honestly when women not around and in the BLACK community we need our men to take action! So maybe more like this black men can heal
These are the conversations that heal whatever this rift is that’s growing between black men and women. Thank you all for being present and authentic. It’s medicine!
Said that perfectly. Completely completely agree.
“The start is actually just practicing love, you don’t get ready you just get in it.” A WORD.
“Love doesn’t hurt, people hurt”
It’s the Gems for me!
I love that Black Love is connected to these wise, honest, Black men (and women) who share their experiences for our benefit.
The guy in the white has a very strong point---- at a certain time (age) in a woman's life, she seeks men who have a solid economic foundation. It doesn't mean that they're not willing to build something with the man, it just makes the man a more suitable option for immediate partnership.
And this is pretty rational. You'd expect adults to have some form of stability in their lives.
I'm still bafgled that in the black american community, this has to be explained. Men provide, it's standard no if or no but. In other communities, you will be shamed for wanting to debate such a basic issue.
@Pesi Belau that's not what's baffling. For me it's how black women only view men as means of extracting resources. You can tell most black women did not grow up with a loving supportive father. The only thing a man can do is pay their bills and give them sex. No support, no protection, no wisdom, no love. This is the issue because when you make relationships transactional but somehow still expect empathy and compassion it will always fail. Most black women legitimately have no clue what a solid partner looks like, so they learn from media (Bags, Benz's and the Bahamas are the gauge of love and stability for black women).
He does and most people think that's fair. I wouldn't concern myself with the opinions of women I have no interest in dating but many women seem to be held handicap by men they deem insufficient. If you don't like him, of course he's going to have a rebuttal. It's almost like you want him to accept your perception of his own value. If he's not for you, why does his opinion of your preferences matter?
Love how they all directly and indirectly dished out advice for Rodney like he was their lil brother.
🤦🏾♂️ that's why we fail as black men, most of us are loners & don't have a village of men that we can trust
I’m still pursuing her…20yrs later
Ik that’s right
These conversations should definitely be longer. Love to see our men in this light. 🖤
Gratitude to these brothers for their openness and vulnerability. I love hearing men’s perspectives on love and relationships. 🙏🏽
The very single gentleman is not wrong. . . I am 36 and don't have children... I am all for building, but at this point, there is a certain expectation that you have certain things figured out.
I like green sweaters honesty and transparency. No bullshitting.
I really get tired of people attaching maturity to age, like are y’all really still doing that? Have y’all not seen that age doesn’t equate to maturity by now ? There are ppl who are older & still move as if they are in middle school | high school. Stop making it seem like younger women can’t possibly have the mindset of wanting to settle down, if anything you men are the one’s who love to still act “ Young” the older you get, still be trying to hang with the younger population & go out with them. Just let people be who they are without attaching age to everything. There are women who are married at a young age & is doing well. Just as much as men who are married & is doing well. It has nothing to do with age, it’s about your mindset & how you carry yourself. Wisdom doesn’t come with just age, wisdom also comes with experiences & things you just naturally understand because you already have been born with the gift of gab. Y’all men be the most immature mfs out here & wanna bring age into it when it’s a older dude dating a younger woman. Keep dating your older women & let that man date his. Sometimes you don’t even purposely date a certain age, you can meet a person and they just so different then when you find out their age it’s just that. It’s nothing more to that. You shouldn’t allow yourself to stop from connecting because of someone being younger than you.
“Im a hard person to love, but i love real hard”👏🏽
Can we have a longer conversation pls...maybe 60 mins per episode?? This is soul food for men.
and women
@@tinaa3459 amen
Went to high school with Rodney. Had a feeling he would move on to do great things. Proud of him!
I agree with Rodney. I'm 37. I don't have time for you to get yourself together and I'm not interested in anyone's "potential." Come correct or don't come at all.
They way he's speaking of Love is Biblical, this podcast is real nice!!!!!Keep it up my brothas!!!!!!
“The love we co-create together is Deeper than I ever thought I would experience with any woman” Powerfull Statment Kerega
The right woman will help build what you don't have. She will strengthen your weaknesses just as you will hers.
I might have to clone myself to get all dat, 😂😂
@The few The proud 🤣🤣🤣
This was really good and also Rodney looks like Romeo Miller is it me?
Fact!! When “she’s solid, she’s solid.”🤷🏾♀️ I’ll rather build because we’re going to look back on our journey and see how far we’ve come.
Modern black women really bother me, because since the beginning of time black people have always survived together.....Grandmomma & Grandaddy met each other in the gutter and climbed out of the mud hand-in-hand......
Modern women love to scoffe at that level of committment and call it struggle love and see it as beneath them to help a man build a 🏰 and instead they feel that they're the 👸🏽 Princess who should be able to simply move in.
When the man in the blue hat touched on the topic of grief in connection to love. I really resonated with that. I see parts of myself in the man in the white jacket…. I am so afraid to love again solely because of the pain I felt previously, but now realizing the connection between love and grief….. the fact that even after all the grief I experienced I still choose to believe in love is truly profound and I should be proud of that. Love exists because we do. It just sucks that sometimes we don’t appreciate it until it’s gone. It will come again… but only if we are brave enough to let it in. Thank you for this! ❤
You don't even know anything about a person until you've witnessed them lose someone
This was so so so so good. The guy in the white jacket is being vulnerable and knows exactly where he is but he needs to be healed inwardly spiritually.
The guy in the blue Jacket is so wise and articulated love at the greatest way possible bc I can tell he had an illumination and an experience with Jesus.
All men brought value to the table. I learned somethings watching and so honored to be a watcher of these men sharing their hearts. Thank you!
Why do you say the man in the white is unhealed?
Very well said. White jacket knows where he is but it’s almost like he uses it like a crutch or excuse. Heal so that you can love yourself, your family dynamic, and someone’s daughter the way they should be. He has to get out of his own way 🫶🏾
i haven’t even watched the whole video yet they just introduced themselves and i love their tone of voices .. calm, relaxed, and in control .
“Nothing does what Love does.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
A HEALTHY male discussion about today’s relationships and love! THIS is it.
"She's 27 years old but she's African" 😂😅- as a 27 year old African lady, this is relatable and hilarious
Y’all are more mature and this is from 26 year old Nigerian men
He is probably doing very well already by her standards so totally makes sense.
I love hearing a man’s perspective on relationships and love❤
A round table of KINGS. Thank you all for allowing us to hear your perspectives!
Rodney spoke on not trusting himself with love…I could/can relate to that… I started reading a book called “Trust” by Iyanla Vanzant. I recommend that book to anyone with the same struggle. It will open your eyes and heart.💙
"When she solid, she gonna be solid!" Love it!!!
I absolutely love seeing Black Men come together to have difficult conversations such as this. Thank you for your honesty kings . ❤
Difficult HONEST VULNERABLE conversations. Some things ARE JUST HARD to talk about!!!!
"Love travels through a flawed system, getting rid of any residue..." 📌 This is a very liberating perspective. I have been blessed enough to experience the purity of love and the strength of its power to heal. You don't need to be perfect, perfect love casts out all fear. 🙂
“You don’t get ready, you just get in it” 🔥🔥
I thought Karega was maxxin in his introduction until I had to pause and hold back tears at 10:12 describing his losses facilitated the greatness of his black love experience. That was BEAUTIFUL!!
“Cocreating a new world” with someone sounds amazing I love how he worded that
ABSOLUTELY AMAZING CONVERSATION! Karega, is Peace! His spirit….I’m convinced he is an Angel walking amongst us! My God! Wish this could have been longer! Just as they were pouring into that brother, it was over! Part two please! ❤❤
I totally understand what the guy in the white jacket is saying. I am 44 years old and if I date you, you would have to be stable at this point in life we can build upon what we have stabilized on our own but I can’t start with somebody fresh and not having anything at all established.
It is so refreshing to see Black men this vulnerable. Thank you. I love you Black man!
Wow, that was powerful. The guy with the white jacket on. I’m glad he recognized that. he’s not ready to get another relationship is great. Thanks for sharing fellas.🤴🏾🤴🏾🤴🏾🤴🏾💜
Omg this was so refreshing to see attractive black men having intelligent and thought provoking conversation. And millennial men at that! This just gave me so much hope because these dating streets can be rough lol many blessings to you all 💕
It's 12:11 AM and am watching and listening 🎧 to each of these men speak out their inner thoughts and heart ❤️❤️💕🌹🌹🌹 insecurities are real in relationships so waiting on the Lord Almighty is wisdom
Glad to know that black men still want and need love from us
This was beautiful & so powerful. We need a part 2 please! This conversation needs to continue. So many layers to continue to unfold.
Dang it! The conversation always ends when it's getting good! I love love love love love yall's transparency and vulnerability. These episodes need to be longer.
Dating a woman in her 20’s and a woman in her 30’s and 40’s mindsets are not the same no matter how much he want to make her sound more mature. She is still 27 and typically have more grace than a woman in her late 30’s in comparison
I appreciate this young gentleman for their openness and their courage. I believe some love lessons are generational, environmental, mental and emotional maturity level.
Black Love Practitioner 🤯
It's so refreshing to see black men be honest and talk about love.
I love the conversation and I just had to jump in and comment on one thing: it doesn't matter the age, if the woman is the one for you, she will build with you. The idea that because she is older, she expects that you must have the house, the car the everything already in place isn't the reality for most women.
Wow, 30 min definitely isn’t long enough! I love & appreciate being able to listen to conversations between men like this.
This was very insightful, and deep. I thank you young men for having the courage to be transparent and real..... This is so necessary to keep conversations ongoing about love and relationship with one another and how it evolves as we evolve. I wish those of us over the age of 50 would allow ourselves to be vunerable and transparent to open up to heal past hurts and experiences to heal and be truly available to love deeply again. Blessings Kings
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This conversation was dope. I absolutely love how the gentlemen (brethren) spoke to the young man about his fears. 🖤🖤
So many gems dropped this episode!!! Please make these conversations longer.
What a great vulnerable conversation with diverse backgrounds and perspectives. I wish there was a pt. 2.
I wish they did it weekly
this was indeed amazing my inner child is defiantly crying tears of joy as he and I have listened to this conversation thank you and continue to love
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Mind blowing conversation. Y’all should do more of these. Respectful. Compassionate. Authentic.
“Nothing does what love does.” “What you lack….give.” “[Submitting to love is scary]” [The right person will help you build your life]
Resistance- avoidant attachment style is what the single man is describing his self
"What we think is required to be loved, the start is actually just practicing love."
Praying for Rodney, that he would see Christ as the lover of his soul. That he would press into God's love and be affirmed in that first. That he may heal completely from the experiences he has had that have shaped his current mindset. He can and will be renewed!
Nice episode. It's important to have guests who actually know what they are talking about where Black men and love are concerned. Particularly glad that Rodney eventually admits how jaded he is compared to the panel. What Rodney doesn't realise is that he is in love with a 'television woman' which is not real Women and that's the struggle right there.
I needed more, I love hearing black men have open conversation COMFORTABLY!
LOVE HEARING BLACK MEN SPEAK FROM THEIR HEART AND THEIR TRUTH
14:52 has me wanting to cry cause as a woman, I relate to Rodney.
This was an amazing conversation. I used to be scared to love. But God is love. So I decided to put myself in His hand and trust that God won’t let anyone hurt me.
Love to see black men talk so positive black Love is Everything I'm so happy I found this channel to subscribe
Great conversation.....the open transparency & vulnerability from a man's perspective is much needed & greatly appreciated.
I love how y’all help space for each others differences. Thank you for sharing!
Wow! Loved this! Really appreciated Rodney’s authenticity…This is inspiring!
To the melinated GODS that gave their time and worth to this round table discussion, thank you.
I agree, I wish that it could have gone longer, but I am grateful for the openness of you all and the gems that you shared.
I believe that all of you are LOVE and it shines brightly within each of you. You all are great gifts of generosity because you didn't have to do this. Again, thank you and I hope there are sequels to this discussion. Namaste
She's 27 and she's AFRICAN! I love it!!
Thank you our Black men for having these conversations! It helps us women understand you guys!
This definitely should have been 1hr. at minimum. I was low key mad it ended. 😂
Hearing black men share their experiences like this was beautiful
I see KINGS only.
This is so DEEP.
PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!
19:43 the way he affirmed that he is indeed worthy of a love that invests in him was so beautiful
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When you said my wife was operating at 40 percent i felt that wholeheartedly. I have two kids and with each one i lost myself. Last February my mental health was at an all time low. I’m now in therapy and we’re in counseling and we’re thriving. I’m back at myself again it took baby steps
So good. Deserves an OWN show
Thank you Kings. The transparency is very much appreciated 🙏🏾
Love Love these authentically real conversations. Thank you all ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I thought Rodney was married and now that I know he's single I'm interested. Hey Rodney
Talk about a cliff hanger lol that was an abrupt closing to such an empowering conversation. I hope to hear more from this group. It’s truly impactful to hear men speak from their hearts instead of ego or what they think is “okay” to say.
These conversations are powerful!!!
My dude keep this series going!!! These convos get me through life frfr 💯. Much needed in our culture
Wow, I love the transparency shared. To hear and also see how our brothers talked about and are mirroring love is encouraging to watch. Keep advocating for love.
I love how these men are opening up and sharing their experiences, this is beautiful!!!
This was an amazing conversation amongst 5 grown a** men. I LOVE to see it. Pure love and light ✨
I love seeing black men come together and have conversations of substance; rooted in authenticity and vulnerability ❤
Honestly, this was EPIC! The level of maturity and to hear you all support one another. This was amazing! I pray that more men watch this and choose to have these conversations of their own.
This was so informative, ooh my God!!! How can they be so wise and open like this, I was actually going back every minute through the video just to capture each word spoken. Well done Boys!!!💯💯