Hey Alex! Just letting you know the video you used at the beginning was a joke! This person is using an audio from a girl ranting to her Ex on the phone. Many dudes would use this audio as a way to playfully make fun of there possessive girlfriends! It was quite the popular TikTok trend. Here’s the original video! ua-cam.com/video/YlyUyMNP-xE/v-deo.html
These are the women that deserve ocsars. Amazing acting. That being said, I think we need to stop giving women a pass by saying they suffer from trauma. We're at the point in which we hold children to a higher standard than women.
She's an adult, it's her and hers alone, responsibility to work trough her traumas, plus work on her self-improvement. Like it is for us. Sure you supposed to guide, encourage and very important, make her feel safe to do so. I've failed the most, trying to figure out how hard I can push women, I've been in relationship with, in the right direction, without pushing to hard. Reached the point, if she's not well put together when we meet, I can't be bothered to date her, finding another woman instead. Being a "Captain safe a 304" or a "fix a broken woman handyman" ain't worth it anymore already got the experience, projects weren't successful.
That's not acting. They are unhinged and unprepared for the real world, so much, that this is their natural reaction when they finally come face to face with reality, utter animalistic behavior.
If a woman/wife would react this way towards , than i would start to get in action. She needs go to therapy. And if she not want do it, than thats it for me.... There is something so wrong with her. She has obviosly no acceptable and situation adequate comunication ability. She need to adress it. She needs to work on it.
It's probably fake. I mean when you're about to leave home to play a round of golf do you automatically think.... "Hey, I'll get someone to stand at the other side of the room filming my crazy girlfriend bitchin' at me. I'll upload it onto TikTok!" I doubt it. You just get your golf bag and leave. It's all/mostly attention seeking fakery.
Sounds like my Mother yelling at my FATHER and me and my sister's. She would do this about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Then after they divorced after 21 years of Marriage. I just graduated High school. My Dad asked me to live with my Mom to help her out and look after my younger 2 sister's. I did. BIG MISTAKE. She told me. Since my Father is gone. It's my job to take care of her. I left after a yr. And have NEVER been back. And don't care to.
Had a step mother like that. She cheated on my father day one and hated me because I spotted and called it out. I spent years making sure the siblings she gave me were my brothers even going into biology to make sure. She still thinks my younger brother comes from someone else I have the DNA tests to prove my clam blocking worked and she's angry at me for not letting her be a homewrecker. she still left my dad and now lives with her mother sad that the wall is coming
@SHWETABH SANDEEP SUPREMACY Yes. Women who have tantrums when you want to socialize with friends, who then call you a narcissist and an abuser after your breakup is projecting.
My EX wife was like this. That is why she's an ex. I couldn't see my best friend 1x a year without an explosion of crazy. Now she hit the age wall, lives alone, in a country that looks down upon such women (Japan). She has effectively zero chance of finding a man. When with me she didn't need to work. She had a home. She had yearly foreign vacations. I gave her everything. Now she has to work for herself just to survive. Good riddance to bad women. She told me after, "I could have handled things better..". My response was, "It is what it is..". I said nothing else. I've started seeing a woman 12 years younger, military, she's built like a lean body builder, and is a sweetheart. So be it. We reap what we sow in life.
Thanks guys, yes. Shields are up with all women, especially military lol. I grew up in a family where most of us were military.. I think that background helps me a little bit. But as always, eyes and ears open for red flags always.
@@monk4ever true, I've red flagged 3 women so far. One was a psychopath the other two asked me for money when I hardly knew them. Wacky. Insta-dumped them. Two of them keep keep trying to reconnect but I'm not having that sh**. Lol. The man is the prize folks, not the woman :)
I remember Tate saying women will intentionally ruined your good mood when you decide to go outing with friends so that other women won't approach you due to your bad mood. It's a strategy.
The problem of living in a female society is we care too much about what women think. Men of the past did whatever they wanted and women chased them. You need to teach women to respect your goals. If I was him I would go even longer and find another woman if she breaks up.
My ex locked me out of our house and blew up my phone for 3 hours while I was testing out a new set with my friends. Stop justifying women’s behavior; stop being compassionate. These women need to be hospitalized. In fact, if this chick’s name is Nicole, she is probably my ex.
It took me too long to become immune to this kind of behavior (right before I turned 30). Particularly if you aren't married (hopefully you didn't marry one of these). I'd make my kind but assertive statement and just leave and go on with my business. If a woman throws out "we're over" I'll treat it at 'face value' even though I know it's likely just a threat (don't gratify threats... call the bluff). This is another reason to never do cohabitation with a women with the exception of raising your kids with her and the duties of marriage. You have no 'duty' to do cohabitation outside of marriage and family so avoid it (and a situation like this without cohabitation is 'hang up' the phone in the middle of her venting and don't take that abusive garbage from her).
A lot of women don't think you have needs and you exist to service her needs. Unfortunately, this often presents itself once you are comfortably entangled with a woman like that... they feel secure enough to drop the act and show their true selves.
@@ShashankA.C no, never cohabit. If you are not prepared for the enormous risk of modern day marriage then cohabitation is no alternative, as the law treats it the same, at least in most western nations.
so basically we are expected to become literal dads for our girlfriends, but the moment we expect them to just be a little bit caring, loving and affectionate towards us, we are suddenly asking them to be our "mothers". Gigakek. All their genuine love, affection and care is for chad only
@@inconnu4961 I knew this deep down all along. You get exposed to ugly nature/side of girls and women from a young age when you aren't good looking. I look like South-asian version of Jack Ma with really dark brown skin, so you can guess what I have been through lol
With women like this you DO NOT engage that level of emotionality, you set the boundaries, state them thoroughly and then go about your business. If she's gonna leave you for that then good, she saved you the time, otherwise she will change her behavior voluntarily to match your level of reasonableness. I had an ex that learned this early on and she tried everything to make herself a victim in these scenarios. I had set gym times before I ever met her, 5 days a week like clockwork and when I would stay at her place I would tell her "I'm going to the gym at 7pm, if you want to come then be ready because I'm leaving at 630". We would be sitting around all day relaxing, she would be texting her friends, watching shows, etc. 6pm would come and she wasn't dressed or hadn't even began to get her gym stuff ready even though I told her it multiple times throughout the day. 630 hits, I get up to get my shoes on (bagged had been packed since lunch time) and she says "oh yeah I have to get my stuff (which is going to take 10mins minimum) and I say "yeah, you do that" and walk out the door and head to the gym. I'm just finishing warming up and she comes in the gym PISSED and rushes over to me all indignant "wtf is wrong with you, you can't wait 5mins?" and I simply tell her "You're not a child, you've been sitting around all day and I told you the time, you agreed to it but didn't care to pay attention. If my gym time is an issue when I'm over at your place then I simply won't come over on gym days" then went back to my set with my headphones in. It was the first and last time that happened because the next time she was ready or stated ahead of time she wasn't going. Basic boundaries are the most important thing in any relationship or friendship. Never let people manipulate you or waste your time
My problem is now that I am older I approach relationships with indifference, so when I am standing there like that golf guy and she's yelling and threatening breakup, my only response is "okay" and whatever the outcome is, it's fine. I don't think it's necessarily healthy to have such a strong feeling of indifference in a relationship but damn, I have no idea what it is, I just don't have the energy to fight or deal with someone that verbally assaults me the way I would never do to her :/ Any time I encounter that, my level of respect drops and I walk away.
Same, I have some years back when my ex-gf was cheating on me. All I did was pack her things up into a few boxes, and took them to the curb. Amazing how much she cried and she even implicated herself accidentally that she was cheating for the prior 6 months. LMAO. At the first sign of drama/BS, I give her one warning and only one.
It is absolutely true, many women want a 'daddy' partner, but almost no women want to be 'mommy' partners to their men. Assymetry right there. In an utopia, those roles would be balanced depending on who needs support in that moment. But we don't live in an utopia.
True,if a man loses a job you'll see her become very upset with you. However, a woman will quit her job without lining up another one and expect you to carry her.
Zavida, Carlos, and Bruce, based on years of personal experience and many relationships, I say that this is absolutely true. reciprocity is just not in a woman's vocabulary. she'll totally soon need and accept your daddy care, and even take orders. only when you would like or need some care you get contempt. this is not a partner. it's a pet. you're doing an adoption of an adult human. as long as you understand, enjoy. maybe it's better to rent 😎
What happens with a lot of men I know, they are upfront from the start about their needs and in order to establish commitment, the woman pretends to agree to these needs. After commitment, she disagrees to the needs that were always established. Chances are she never liked his golf trips, pretended to be fine with it for a while, and blindsided him. The woman is the more stoic one in these situations, feeling like she's owed one for putting up with his golfing over the years... even though she lied about it not being a big deal, now it's his fault that she lied.
The standards for a gf or wife is so low in this generation, men are shamed for any hint of standards. The sad part is, men can't even get a toxic or fat woman. Signs we are entering a post marriage society. I think "couple temporary contracts" will take the place of marriages.
If this golfing dude shows any push back or backbone, she can always upgrade and replace him, which would be no surprise if she decides to regardless of his response. She is not ready to be in a relationship, she is mentally a child with tantrums. And if he let's it happen, he will be seen as beta nice guy, if he fights back he is seen as toxic, controlling. There is no fixing her.
LOL. Not true at all. This is the result of men thinking the trashy chick they slept with is good partner material. The problem is that most men don't think about the implications when they expect sex by date #3 or earlier. How many date #3s do you think this chick has had? That is why she somehow thinks that acting like this is okay. Have standards. Stop caring what trashy chicks think about your standards. Take the time to get to know someone who doesn't act like trash and stop aiming for the low hanging fruit. Not everything is about instant gratification.
@@TomNook. marriage was not always about love/pair bonding/emotion/excitment. In fact that's a recent feature. In ancient times and some societies today, marriage was about survival. It was the norm in most places for women to lack rights (property, workers, and mate selection rights). If a woman could not marry or become a widow, it often meant doom for her. Plenty of account from fathers struggling to find a husband for their daughters. Perhaps love came in most cases, but women were forced into marriages or it was their option to survive. But emotional highs were not what marriage was based on. Now it is. Dating has become human shopping. Why is it wrong for anyone to upgrade their lover? In an age of female empowerment, women don't need men, only want men. And thus the few desirable men are the winners with plenty of options. Thus it seems for temporary marriage contracts to be a better fit than outdated life long marriage commitment that don't have consistent rules about divorce or fairness.
You may be right. Or men may get back to refusing to shack-up so women have to 'shape up' for marriage. Only the 'elite' marriageable women will enjoy the benefits of marriage and not shacking up will force single unmarried women to choose a path (aka: denying single unmarried women the 'benefits of marriage' without actually securing that marriage first). Just make sure you get marriage insurance (aka: a prenup, your 'nuclear' option).
High quality women are very hard to find. It's one huge reason why I'm single. I refuse to take care of any woman I'm not related to. Women want to be feminists? Okay, no problem at all. I'll take care of myself, she can do the same for herself. Hey, if your woman wants to sleep with others; and you are not cool with that. End the relationship. She doesn't value you. End it, and help her pack. Find a woman who does value you.
This is so difficult to watch, my mother did the same to my father and my sisters and I when we proceeded to go see our grandparents in Jerusalem for a month, a trip she was completely aware about. The month we were gone (she was home with my youngest sister and my older half sister) she threatened suicide everyday, threatened to cheat on my father, sent my aunt threatening messages online, sent me threatening messages online, sent my siblings threatening messages online and I came home to a mother with a shaved head, a decision she decided to make because she was unwell. Prior to the trip my mom also disclosed that she wanted to drive the car off the road when picking me up from school so I wouldn’t leave. The thing is my mother and I never had a close relationship growing up, she was incredibly neglectful and distant but the moment we leave to only visit our grandparents she clings to me and my siblings as if she loved us.
That's rough for sure.. My aunt damaged all four of her kids and they don't even speak to her and she refuses to apologize. If she repented they probably would at least go to distant contact.
I used to act like this till a decade of therapy has undone my fear of abandonment. I would break things if my husband wants to go somewhere. Honestly, I truly believe that my husband will leave me and not come back. Thinking back then… it’s insane how warped my head was and if you’re curious what I’m diagnosed with. I have a severe case of Borderline Personality Disorder. It was bad that a mere thought of being left alone sent fear deep within me that I’ll cause problems so he won’t go. Anyway, I did the Dialectical Therapy which was highly advised by my doctor to do. It helped tremendously and opened up my eyes how insane I was. I’m happy that I’m at the point in my life admitting that I’m really insane. Who in the world would be sane to stay with me. All in all, hubby and I powered through my emotional turmoil. Married for about a decade now and still going.
Glad that you got the help you deserved ma'am. Yet respectfully & honestly MOST middle to upper class urban/suburban Western womynz(folks in general tbh) like you should be forgiven but not forgotten & actually marked as misfits fools. You aren't a problem, but MOTS are unfit to even continue on as they are. Some even deserve to be euthanized.
This actually explains a lot about my sister. She does very similar things if her bf wants to go do his own thing for a bit. It's honestly annoying to hear how she once again blew things out of proportion.
My late wife; did encourage me to go on a golf trip with my brother, played golf in three states, no real extra cash, until she died she never forgave me for abandoning her and being selfish. Pretzel logic.
Can absolutely confirm that this has been my experience with every woman I've been with. Doesn't matter how much I've sacrificed, how far I've gone to look after them, always taking care of their needs - it has always been taken for granted, expected that I should do so, and never reciprocated. You're absolutely right. As men, it's easy to think "I've done so much for her, surely she sees how well I'm treating her and will want to return the favour" but it never turns out that way. Obviously this is just my experience/anecdotal and there will be exceptions, but this is far too common to be ignored. Hopefully men will take heed of these lessons before finding out the hard way like me 😅 If you haven't already fellas, learn to understand and set boundaries, and make it clear from the start what you expect from the relationship and what you won't accept (women should do this too, obviously - I've just phrased it this way given the target audience).
This is shocking to me because I have never been in a relationship with any woman who has even yelled at me, or cursed at me during a conversation. This is crazy. But I am not American, so possibly this is a cultural thing. This behavior sounds surreal and intolerable to me, it is shocking to imagine that this is the kind of relationship that many men see as a standard.
@@ThinkBeyondOrdinary American women are insane. I just came back to America but am not planning on getting married or having kids here. Just to make some money and then leave
Women like her are unfortunately pretty common and becoming more and more common. She will 100% have a bunch of kids later on and raise them to be exactly the same way as her making the problem worse for the next generation.
damn this basically explained to me I lost my old friend , he was never able to do anything for himself and still isn’t , I’ve been trying to go go karting with him for 2ish years now but every-time I try we have to change the plans to involve his gf every-time , every car he got has been catered to her liking and she hates when he doesn’t do what she wants , I watched him buy multiple Louis Vuitton purses for her and for his bday he got shoes…. He even tried to include her on a boys trip we were trying to make and I just cut him off after that
@@cryptobungus5778 I would agree with you on that , but I’ve made new friends who are in relationships where their girlfriends don’t act like that , I don’t feel like I’m around a ticking time bomb ready to get upset at whatever she can get upset at. I’ve never met a more complaint filled complicated women who’s needs just can never get satisfied. And if her boyfriends needs were satisfied over hers she would throw a legit hissy fit and make him take her home (she is “afraid” to drive so he’s her personal chauffeur basically too…) made me legit believe that this is the only relationship I can get with women
A man should never ultimately put what a woman wants over himself, happy wife happy life is bullshit and a slavery institution. This is what happens in a generation of weak men that are afraid of a woman leaving them.
One buddy of mine got a Russian Gf who was working at a water park for the summer. He totally left us, group of buddies tell she left. I tried telling him that wasn’t healthy. He ignored me, they got matching tattoos, then broke up. Hahaha I never rubbed it in or said told you so but just laughed to myself.
This is one of those videos that would have benefitted me immensely 25 years ago. Everything you said is true. The problem is, we assume, having learned feminine love from our mothers, that it is universally feminine, but, as you said, it is not. Indeed, since women do not love us this way, the question remains: why would we marry them? What benefit do they have for us? 100% a man must communicate his needs and not apologize for them, and never ASK for permission from his girl.
That first clip is meant to be a joke, that audio comes from a different video/TikTok where a girl was screaming over the phone, and the girl’s friend was recording her. That audio gets used in a lot of TikToks now. Thought I would clarify this, as many people in the comments seem to think that golf clip was real. Lol.
@@rymreaper only weaklings do those things. We can’t justify something with absolute violence. At the end of the day, after you killed, you will realize that nothing she can do justifies that. That’s what even scares me, we have this competitive instinct inside us that makes us stronger because when you fight another male you can only win by going all in, yet it can get out of hand so quickly that we become monsters before we realize. You’re weak if you don’t know yourself. Understand why you have the emotions you have, as a competitive male, and make sure you mature your ass to make stronger decisions like having success which is the best vengeance to serve to any female in any culture.
reminds me of that reddit post about a woman wanting to know if she was right to take the first class plane ticket her husband earned at work as a reward for herself and make him fly coach. yep we're here to serve
I've been very lucky that I found a women who I've been married to for 33 years who has wanted me to pursue my interests and hobbies that do not involve her. She is always getting my favorite treats, even when I don't ask for them. We have absolute trust in each other. She has never acted in the way the women at the being of this video acted. If I was that guy I tell her bye, I'm still going on my trip. When I get back don't be here.
That can go both ways. It's very controlling behavior. My ex husband would keep me from seeing my family or going to concerts with or without him 🤬. My grandparents were passionate people with their different things. Grandma went to shooting range, pottery studios, and had various hobbies in the home. Grandpa did play golf and had amazing woodworking carpentry work. It's great to enjoy time together and separate from each other. Together they vacationed, ate out together, cooked together, went to church, and visited their kids/ grandkids.
This controlling behavior does happen both ways but is a lot more common in women, because they're more emotional and unstable than men. And let's be real, women often are very covert and manipulative than men so often they control men without having to scream and yell, just a few words at the right time and with the right delivery and emotional undertone and she gets her way.
It does go both ways but you'll see it a lot more from women, particularly for things like gas lighting, playing the victim and leveraging "love" as a type of currency as to whether you care about them or not due to taking an action that has nothing to do with that (like going golfing with the guys). I've dealt with more emotional labor (for lack of a better term) with every girlfriend I've ever had within a month than I did with all my guy friends combined over the course of a year. Every single thing was always pitted against care, love or "investing time" in some way shape or form but the guys they instantly "got it" or understood when plans would be cancelled or we had to cut time short.
Im a minor-pro disc golfer and I play at least every Sat and Sun AM during the season and play tournaments away from my hometown where I have to stay in another city/town for the weekend 3-4 times a season as well and my wife is very supportive and happy Im having fun, getting exercise, being part of a good community and not just sitting in the basement. I cant fathom having a woman like this in my life.
I'm always grateful I discovered your channel. It's really helpful knowing why women behave certain ways even if some seem unreasonable. Getting into a relationship with practically 0 knowledge might be a disaster for me lol
That speaks to the quality of women you have been dating. Most normal chicks are happy to just have the house to ourselves for a few hours so we can clean the kitchen or whatever without being interrupted. My husband went to the gun range last weekend and I worked from home so I wouldn't have as much to do this week.
EXactly. I am sure thats not the first time. You never should allow that she is acting like that towards you. Stop this right when it occurse at first time.
In my experience this is extreme jealousy. He is doing something without her, he is having fun without her. She has no plans of things to do now and normally his job is to keep her happy right? Its the complete dehumanization of your partner which tends to happen in women who normally gets everything she wants from everyone. She never graduated into adulthood, she went from parents taking care of her to men taking care of her. Never had to grow up, so she still has these kinds of tamper tantrums, like a red-faced toddler screeching and banging their fists on the floor.
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All too familiar. Almost identical to my borderline personality disorder ex. Guys, these types of women will destroy you, or you might wake up with a knife in your chest. Tattoos, body piercings and colored hair. Beware...you have been warned. I got lucky, and escaped.
I dont know its BPD but there is defintly something very wrong with her. If this is my wife there 2 options, she get counseling and realy working at her problems and personality or there is directly a divorce/seperation. If you just meet a girl, than leave her with a letter to tell her exactly why you did it and that she need get help. But leave!!!
I like how all the smooth brains saying the video is fake are missing the point. If this was a woman being yelled at, even if it was so obviously staged, women would still use it to rip on men and not say "ThIs iS fAkE" Im so happy that these feminists are becoming sad and lonely. While im happy and still making more money than them on the dollar 🤣
My uncle seemingly does everything you say without watching any of your videos. Like the housecleaning = sex video the point of that was to show that if you do the more masculine things around the house and do general housework the more sex you should receive. He also says exactly how he feels and says what he needs like when he comes home from work he’ll say “I need a beer” (usually) and then he’ll say what kind of a day he had and then ask my auntie the same thing. He’s the most masculine man I know. He’s confident, extremely charismatic can basically make any awkward situation not awkward, he’s funny, very intelligent, has a very successful business in architectural model making, they live in London, he does his own projects to the house like one day he told be to smash a hole in the wall under the stair case just so that he could make a shoe cubby. He finished it in one day. And he’s just generally “the man of the house” he takes charge of everything and provides for the family (not that my auntie doesn’t have a say in it of course) and yet i think my auntie is withdrawing sex from him? Like when I was in my last relationship he would always joke about having sex and “how he misses those days” I’m not saying that my auntie is a bad person. She cooks and cleans and doesn’t mind doing the shopping with my cousin while he stays at home. She was like a mother to me even more so than my real mum. Their relationship is really strong and I could never imagine them being apart from one another. But I can’t help but feel sorry for my uncle because he makes sure that my family lives a pretty wealthy lifestyle and gets whatever they want and does all the right things that I see in theses videos and yet I can tell that all my uncle wants in his life is some intimacy again like he used to have. I can tell that he hasn’t talked about it to my auntie yet and that he’s just hoping that she’s finally “come to her senses”. I think that Even if you do all the right things she still probably won’t oblige. I think in the end you really do just have to ask and tell your significant other what you want. I just hope that my uncle isn’t putting it off because he knows what the answer is and he’s just trying to work harder and give theses hints at sex so that he one day might get it. It just makes me sad not only because it generally just is sad to see but also because it gives me no hope for myself in a relationship. My uncle is literally one of the highest status guys you’ll ever meet who literally does everything right in the relationship and yet I can still see that he’s not as satisfied in his relationship as he would like to be. I may never even get the chance to marry in my generation with the recent divorce rates and the way hypergamy has exploded. If my uncle who’s literally the best at everything can’t be satisfied then what chances do I have in my future?
Your uncle does seem like a cool and down to earth guy. I do think it's a little weird knowing about his imtimacy life but, maybe you should talk to him about it. He needs to put his foot down. I'm not trying to put it like he's not a masculine man. He may just need a little talk so he can put his foot down. You say "if my uncle who’s literally the best at everything can’t be satisfied then what chances do I have in my future?". I don't know that much, but I do know is that having an attitude and negative mindset like that will not help you. It's easier said than done, you need to build confidence and get into the gym and work on yourself.
@@toxicg6710 I only know about my uncles intimacy life because he used to mention it a lot and make jokes about it. I think he’s just open about it .I also used to live with my uncle. I know that he needs to put his foot down I’m just afraid that he won’t because he thinks it won’t change anything. And with me I honestly think I might be done with relationships….well at least for a while. I want to move out of my dads house and get a place with my best friend so that we can make some real money together.
Maybe that tik tok clip was staged. But there is a certain percentage of female pipulation that do feel like that. Probably ranks high in cluster B personality traits ( narcissism, sociopathy). Think back to that one time where your girlfriend started a fight because you wanted to hang out with friends.
Feel free to take responsibility whenever its convenient for you! LOL I hate to be honest with you, but men do NOT care what women think! Everytime we do you say stupid stuff like this!
This looks like the guy is just standing in front of an open door and put a voiceover to make it seem as if the girl is in the room but she isn't. You got duped Alex!
Is it too painful for you to even entertain the idea that women behave like that so not having to address the matter, you can just call it fake and move on?
@@Ounouh Women do behave like that but it doesn't mean this was real. It may or may not be but I'd take everything on Tik Tok with a huge pinch of salt. There are tonnes of faked vids on there.
@@ChrisLee-yr7tz Nice job on missing the point. Its about raising awareness and the fact that nobody is showing support for men's abuse, even if it was obviously fake, there would be supporters if this was a woman being yelled at instead of a man. Nice job on diverting awareness to the biggest ignored issue, again.
A funny story: My ex bf is not good at planning events and told me like a few days before he was going on a weekend fishing trip with his dad. I was just happy he was getting out of the house tbh. I stayed home and cleaned the house and when he came back home I wanted to surprise him by being in a small simple dress (ONLY) but I didn’t expect his dad to also be with him so I had to play it off like I wasn’t trying to be sneaky sexy lol
They expect to be catered to, but if you treat her like a queen, she will treat you like a peasant. Remember the saying "Do not care for her, she will never care for you." This, in addition to their own self-debasement on the internet, is why women are treated like sex objects. And women act so damn surprised when they receive this treatment! They work so damn hard to make themselves so damn unattractive to us as long-term relationship partners, and then they whine and cry so damn loud, demanding to be treated like a rare prize anyway, when they act like they are worthless!
I don't like the fact that in this video, even if it is not directly stated, it gives off the idea that it's normal for women to place responsibility their joy and happiness on someone else. It might be very common, but it is unhealthy and is part of a dependent relationship not a co-dependent one.
My wife bought some sausage 🌭 and she bought 2 , I was so happy lol Also she buys stuff for me I don't even request for (foods, clothes and stuff) and I swear I teared up sometimes that she thinks of me. She does care about me and talks very good about me with others. She's the one , never had a better one and couldn't imagine a better wife. There are exceptions , they exist and I don't say u are wrong (prob. Most woman are like this) but such woman I wouldn't want
i firmly believe women are inherently greedy/selfish and men inherently protective... when women go out of their way to give up for you its proof of how much they consider you important for their survival... we are both very lucky my brother... i hope our other brothers eventually find a good woman themselves... i believe men and women bring the best out of each other...
If you have to ask her to go golfing, your relationship is set up to fail from the jump. Prioritize yourself over women and they will respect you. If you don't they will look at you as weak and resent you and walk all over you. This is the exact dynamic that is playing out here.
Guys, you know the common trope where the boyfriend says "tell me what you want!" for the woman to respond with "I don't know." Well, this works the other way too, except she wont ask, and you DO know what you want. She wants to give you what you want, but she will never ask what it is. Tell her what you want and she will be happy to deliver it to you, just as you would be happy to give her what she wants (if she knew what that was, lol)
I bet he "gave up" going golfing to spend time with her (probably at her demand), and so his going back to playing golf is a STEP BACKWARDS for her plans for their relationship. She feels used and betrayed, whereas he is just going back to a hobby he enjoys/enjoyed now that he has the time (probably because she stopped wanting to spend that time with HIM). This is the moment when a man goes "monk mode" in his relationship. He starts getting back in touch with who he is and what he wants to do, instead of sacrificing his enjoyment for her wants/needs. It means that the relationship has stagnated for HIM and she is no longer giving him the attention she used to. She might even be deliberately ignoring him, as punishment, or so she can spend more time focusing on herself (going "monk mode" herself), or just stopped caring to spend that weekend day with him any more. He is right to do what he wants and should just leave and do it. He can deal with the fallout later and see how much of her drama was real, and how much was put on to get her way. Relationships require arguments to resolve issues (often deep-seated issues) and he should see where this leads them - he can always call it quits if she goes overboard (if she doesn't call it quits herself). That she thinks throwing a fit will stop him doing it shows how little attention she pays to HIM. Step into your masculinity, dude, and let her deal with it. She might even appreciate some of what you do and say "the spark is back in your relationship" like my missus of 23yrs did when I went "monk mode" 10 years ago and started taking time for myself by dropping some of my missus' ridiculous demands of me. If she wants to join you in your hobbies she's more than welcome, or if she wants to distract you from your path by meeting other needs you have... well that's a win for both of you! 😉
I’m a single woman by the way. But, she’s crying like that over him going to golf?! What the hell? Come on. Let the poor guy have some time for himself. I mean I understand that she wants to spend time with him but everyone needs some time to be alone and get away from each other. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her. He’s not cheating on her. If he’s going to late night parties and suddenly getting dressed and being secretive of his phone, that’s when you should be worried.
this first clip reminds me of the GF: "Babe please! You're not Tiger Woods!" BF: "Hahaha, Golfball goes Bonk, career goes Stonks." Meme and I think its hillarious.
I think it's important for married men to keep their male friends. I hang out with a former coworker who immigrated to Canada in 2018. He only has a wife and is 38 years old. I'm 10 years younger than him. However, he told me that his wife encourages him to go out with friends. That was very insightful as too many guys have their World revolve around their spouse and coworkers. His wife seems like a great women, so all credit.
I don’t entirely agree with this. I think there’s many women who want to meet the needs of their man without being asked to. My girlfriend is Thai and she is literally always looking after me and making sure that I’m happy. She actively tries to make my life better as I do for her. Western women like this do exist although they’re harder to find.
Surely this is fake? Why? Well, why is the phone set up to film him going to play golf? Do you ever say "I'm going out but I'll just film myself talking to my girlfriend!" Er... probably not. *It's clearly a set up camera shot.* Not some random "quick, start filming this!" moment. That's why it's fake just to get views to monetize the TikTok channel.
Another clue why it's fake or a very high probability it's fake... we don't see her at all. Her voice can be added in post production. Just edit her voice into clip. He could be looking at noone. The woman's audio could be from a film or TV show. You just add it to the audio. Unless we see her before this clip starts - and we don't - then zero proof any woman is there.
I'm 24 years old I helped someone go through abuse in her family and cancer She fell in love with me, and I politely refused back then. But eventually I gave in. Her family chose another dude for her (aka forced) and she agreed and left me. These days now I think that she was just getting help from me and didn't care much about my needs. She was sweet and all, but you are right. All of this is really hurtful, I won't lie but I'm glad I got to know this at a fairly young age. As a result I'm breaking out of my wrong perceptions. It kinda sucks to know that I will never get what I wished for (the care that I expected) but it's not all bad. I now know to be very selfish and I will do that. The only people who will genuinely take care of my needs are my parents, and brother. I will do the same for them too.
I wonder why nobody asks how this got filmed … and how convenient, he was standing exactly at the right spot at the right time with his golf bag and his „I have no clue what’s wrong“ posture, when she threw a tantrum. If this is no proof that women are toxic, then what?!
I had a woman just recently that did put my needs first. Unfortunately, due to her serious mental health issues it lasted only 8 months. I want a woman like her without baggage like three very serious traumas. Please. Once in a lifetime.
Once you come to the harsh realization that a female can never Love and/or care for you the way you do for her, life becomes easier and much more fulfilling on your own. Stop chasing the ever moving unattainable goal posts of women. Exercise & grown stronger every day, learn physical combat skills, read a range of diverse topics (particularly business operations/philosophy), become better at game and spin a few plates in medium rotation, cultivate a handful of quality friendships (you are the average of the 5 people you hang around most), learn to cook/clean or hire a housekeeping service if necessary. Civilize the mind and make savage the body.
Alexander that tik tok video at the beginning isn't the original audio. If I recall the audio is from a girl telling off her boyfriend who cheated on her.
I'm going to go from a bit of a different angle here - we men can feel very frustrated (and rightly so) about the perceived need to read the minds of women - so why should we expect women to read our minds? Shouldn't we explicitly (tactfully but nevertheless fairly explicitly) express our needs and desires to women without hoping that they might read any subtle hints? Now if a man does express his needs and desires to a woman and she doesn't care about them then that is a different story - and if she throws a tantrum then that is unfathomable - she may not necessarily reply with an enthusiastic yes but she should at least be able to talk things out maturely. However the main point I am getting at is that Men and Women aren't mind readers - it is their onus to make sure that their partner understands what they want and not just hope that they will have to decode a mental maze of subtle hints.
Mike Tyson said, and I'm paraphrasing... "Everything your mother did for you was for YOUR survival. Everything your girl does for you is for HER survival". Men have to understand that. If you want her to treat you like your mother did, then SHE will be looking at YOU like a child, and that isn't attractive.
This seems pretty cringe.. How much information do we actually have on the context? She's clearly throwing a tantrum, but there seems to be more to it than just a golf trip (also the person filming, she must be aware..). The beginning sounds like "so you can just ____ her", could be the couple has terrible communication and the woman has been resenting this trip as something the man is using as an excuse to have an affair. I wouldn't put it past the man framing the caption this way to get more views. Still absolutely doesn't make what she's doing right, but you're going hard on the 'women will never think about you' angle. To me it sounds like she's in fight or flight with their relationship and is pushing him away in a very toxic manner, possibly from fear of abandonment. Doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't care about his golf trips
Again a TikTok that's probably staged. I mean the woman is filming right? The only way it gets posted with that title is that the guy took that phone and posted the video himself. Pretty uncertain.
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Hey Alex! Just letting you know the video you used at the beginning was a joke! This person is using an audio from a girl ranting to her Ex on the phone. Many dudes would use this audio as a way to playfully make fun of there possessive girlfriends! It was quite the popular TikTok trend. Here’s the original video!
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@@Monkeydfitzy wow i thought i was the only one noticing it, i saw the original like 2 years ago
These are the women that deserve ocsars. Amazing acting. That being said, I think we need to stop giving women a pass by saying they suffer from trauma. We're at the point in which we hold children to a higher standard than women.
Very good point sir 👍
Yes, who among us hasn't experience trauma in our lives? Doesn't give us a pass to act like rabid animals.
She's an adult, it's her and hers alone, responsibility to work trough her traumas, plus work on her self-improvement. Like it is for us. Sure you supposed to guide, encourage and very important, make her feel safe to do so.
I've failed the most, trying to figure out how hard I can push women, I've been in relationship with, in the right direction, without pushing to hard.
Reached the point, if she's not well put together when we meet, I can't be bothered to date her, finding another woman instead.
Being a "Captain safe a 304" or a "fix a broken woman handyman" ain't worth it anymore already got the experience, projects weren't successful.
@@chazzmccloud36 Lots of people haven't. You would be surprised.
That's not acting. They are unhinged and unprepared for the real world, so much, that this is their natural reaction when they finally come face to face with reality, utter animalistic behavior.
She basically ruined his mood before even he got to get in the mood.
that was probably her plan, brimg him down emotionally and try and make him stay home instead of having fun.
He was dead inside long before She even started
If a woman/wife would react this way towards , than i would start to get in action. She needs go to therapy. And if she not want do it, than thats it for me....
There is something so wrong with her. She has obviosly no acceptable and situation adequate comunication ability. She need to adress it. She needs to work on it.
It's probably fake. I mean when you're about to leave home to play a round of golf do you automatically think....
"Hey, I'll get someone to stand at the other side of the room filming my crazy girlfriend bitchin' at me. I'll upload it onto TikTok!"
I doubt it. You just get your golf bag and leave. It's all/mostly attention seeking fakery.
So that next time he'll think twice. What a B.
Sounds like my Mother yelling at my FATHER and me and my sister's. She would do this about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Then after they divorced after 21 years of Marriage. I just graduated High school. My Dad asked me to live with my Mom to help her out and look after my younger 2 sister's. I did. BIG MISTAKE.
She told me. Since my Father is gone. It's my job to take care of her. I left after a yr. And have NEVER been back. And don't care to.
Glad you had the backbone and moved on. Sounds terrible having a narcissist mother like that
Had a step mother like that. She cheated on my father day one and hated me because I spotted and called it out. I spent years making sure the siblings she gave me were my brothers even going into biology to make sure. She still thinks my younger brother comes from someone else I have the DNA tests to prove my clam blocking worked and she's angry at me for not letting her be a homewrecker. she still left my dad and now lives with her mother sad that the wall is coming
im in that sitaution right now
Good For You Brother. I feel your pain buddy.
Let me guess, after the break up she will say: He was an abuser and a narcissist
Oh, always. But never in front of him.
as always, 98% women are like this
Projection at it's finest
@SHWETABH SANDEEP SUPREMACY Yes.
Women who have tantrums when you want to socialize with friends, who then call you a narcissist and an abuser after your breakup is projecting.
lol.
Not even 10 seconds into the video and you can tell that she's fatherless
This video is fake, it's a shame Alexander did video about tik tok which is not true
@@johnbean3878 despite it being scripted I think we’ve all had the one sided screaming match from a scorned laaaaady.
@@johnbean3878 All of tiktok is fake
@@johnbean3878 Still raises awareness because its huge reality thatpeople are ignoring.
I have heard women who acted in very similar ways who had fathers who loved them. It is not so cut and dried.
My EX wife was like this. That is why she's an ex. I couldn't see my best friend 1x a year without an explosion of crazy. Now she hit the age wall, lives alone, in a country that looks down upon such women (Japan). She has effectively zero chance of finding a man.
When with me she didn't need to work. She had a home. She had yearly foreign vacations. I gave her everything. Now she has to work for herself just to survive.
Good riddance to bad women.
She told me after, "I could have handled things better..". My response was, "It is what it is..". I said nothing else.
I've started seeing a woman 12 years younger, military, she's built like a lean body builder, and is a sweetheart. So be it. We reap what we sow in life.
Be careful. Remember what they so about women in the military. Good luck.
not you say military woman, you just escaped from a crocodile but here you are trapped with a tiger lol
Thanks guys, yes. Shields are up with all women, especially military lol. I grew up in a family where most of us were military.. I think that background helps me a little bit. But as always, eyes and ears open for red flags always.
Give it time. You'll find out your new sweetheart is a monster in disguise.
@@monk4ever true, I've red flagged 3 women so far. One was a psychopath the other two asked me for money when I hardly knew them. Wacky. Insta-dumped them. Two of them keep keep trying to reconnect but I'm not having that sh**. Lol. The man is the prize folks, not the woman :)
I remember Tate saying women will intentionally ruined your good mood when you decide to go outing with friends so that other women won't approach you due to your bad mood. It's a strategy.
He is right
yep.
The problem of living in a female society is we care too much about what women think. Men of the past did whatever they wanted and women chased them. You need to teach women to respect your goals. If I was him I would go even longer and find another woman if she breaks up.
i would 🤜the sense into her
@@urlauburlaub2222 I'll need some dressing to eat your unappetizing word salad
@@luisdetomaso867 unga boonga me no enlgish to u
Do whatever you want and women will chase you
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My ex locked me out of our house and blew up my phone for 3 hours while I was testing out a new set with my friends.
Stop justifying women’s behavior; stop being compassionate. These women need to be hospitalized.
In fact, if this chick’s name is Nicole, she is probably my ex.
It took me too long to become immune to this kind of behavior (right before I turned 30). Particularly if you aren't married (hopefully you didn't marry one of these). I'd make my kind but assertive statement and just leave and go on with my business. If a woman throws out "we're over" I'll treat it at 'face value' even though I know it's likely just a threat (don't gratify threats... call the bluff). This is another reason to never do cohabitation with a women with the exception of raising your kids with her and the duties of marriage. You have no 'duty' to do cohabitation outside of marriage and family so avoid it (and a situation like this without cohabitation is 'hang up' the phone in the middle of her venting and don't take that abusive garbage from her).
A lot of women don't think you have needs and you exist to service her needs. Unfortunately, this often presents itself once you are comfortably entangled with a woman like that... they feel secure enough to drop the act and show their true selves.
Don't you think cohabitation is also a test to check for compatibility?
Chad.
@@ShashankA.C no, never cohabit. If you are not prepared for the enormous risk of modern day marriage then cohabitation is no alternative, as the law treats it the same, at least in most western nations.
@@ShashankA.C But the divorce rate for co-habitating before marriage is the same rate as those who did not! so what does it achieve in real terms?
so basically we are expected to become literal dads for our girlfriends, but the moment we expect them to just be a little bit caring, loving and affectionate towards us, we are suddenly asking them to be our "mothers". Gigakek. All their genuine love, affection and care is for chad only
You got it! They are nuts, arent they!
@@inconnu4961 I knew this deep down all along. You get exposed to ugly nature/side of girls and women from a young age when you aren't good looking. I look like South-asian version of Jack Ma with really dark brown skin, so you can guess what I have been through lol
With women like this you DO NOT engage that level of emotionality, you set the boundaries, state them thoroughly and then go about your business. If she's gonna leave you for that then good, she saved you the time, otherwise she will change her behavior voluntarily to match your level of reasonableness.
I had an ex that learned this early on and she tried everything to make herself a victim in these scenarios. I had set gym times before I ever met her, 5 days a week like clockwork and when I would stay at her place I would tell her "I'm going to the gym at 7pm, if you want to come then be ready because I'm leaving at 630". We would be sitting around all day relaxing, she would be texting her friends, watching shows, etc. 6pm would come and she wasn't dressed or hadn't even began to get her gym stuff ready even though I told her it multiple times throughout the day. 630 hits, I get up to get my shoes on (bagged had been packed since lunch time) and she says "oh yeah I have to get my stuff (which is going to take 10mins minimum) and I say "yeah, you do that" and walk out the door and head to the gym. I'm just finishing warming up and she comes in the gym PISSED and rushes over to me all indignant "wtf is wrong with you, you can't wait 5mins?" and I simply tell her "You're not a child, you've been sitting around all day and I told you the time, you agreed to it but didn't care to pay attention. If my gym time is an issue when I'm over at your place then I simply won't come over on gym days" then went back to my set with my headphones in. It was the first and last time that happened because the next time she was ready or stated ahead of time she wasn't going.
Basic boundaries are the most important thing in any relationship or friendship. Never let people manipulate you or waste your time
My problem is now that I am older I approach relationships with indifference, so when I am standing there like that golf guy and she's yelling and threatening breakup, my only response is "okay" and whatever the outcome is, it's fine. I don't think it's necessarily healthy to have such a strong feeling of indifference in a relationship but damn, I have no idea what it is, I just don't have the energy to fight or deal with someone that verbally assaults me the way I would never do to her :/ Any time I encounter that, my level of respect drops and I walk away.
You are right, it is NOT healthy! That would be considered 'stonewalling' according to Dr. John Gottman's 4 horsemen of relationships.
... same for me😁... i would like more seggs but most women are so boring or stressful. I spend my time better with friends or hobbies
Same, I have some years back when my ex-gf was cheating on me. All I did was pack her things up into a few boxes, and took them to the curb. Amazing how much she cried and she even implicated herself accidentally that she was cheating for the prior 6 months. LMAO. At the first sign of drama/BS, I give her one warning and only one.
The older you get, the less BS you are willing to put up with.
@@KAMFP facts this why i go for younger.
It is absolutely true, many women want a 'daddy' partner, but almost no women want to be 'mommy' partners to their men. Assymetry right there. In an utopia, those roles would be balanced depending on who needs support in that moment. But we don't live in an utopia.
Does mommy want a spanking. Has mommy been naughty.
So why should we care about what they want ?
True,if a man loses a job you'll see her become very upset with you. However, a woman will quit her job without lining up another one and expect you to carry her.
Zavida, Carlos, and Bruce,
based on years of personal experience and many relationships, I say that this is absolutely true. reciprocity is just not in a woman's vocabulary. she'll totally soon need and accept your daddy care, and even take orders. only when you would like or need some care you get contempt. this is not a partner. it's a pet. you're doing an adoption of an adult human. as long as you understand, enjoy. maybe it's better to rent 😎
@@carlospita6442 Because of the chick in the video! They have melt downs, and everyone sympathizes with them! LOL
What happens with a lot of men I know, they are upfront from the start about their needs and in order to establish commitment, the woman pretends to agree to these needs. After commitment, she disagrees to the needs that were always established. Chances are she never liked his golf trips, pretended to be fine with it for a while, and blindsided him. The woman is the more stoic one in these situations, feeling like she's owed one for putting up with his golfing over the years... even though she lied about it not being a big deal, now it's his fault that she lied.
The standards for a gf or wife is so low in this generation, men are shamed for any hint of standards. The sad part is, men can't even get a toxic or fat woman. Signs we are entering a post marriage society. I think "couple temporary contracts" will take the place of marriages.
If this golfing dude shows any push back or backbone, she can always upgrade and replace him, which would be no surprise if she decides to regardless of his response. She is not ready to be in a relationship, she is mentally a child with tantrums. And if he let's it happen, he will be seen as beta nice guy, if he fights back he is seen as toxic, controlling. There is no fixing her.
Really interesting prediction 👍
LOL. Not true at all. This is the result of men thinking the trashy chick they slept with is good partner material. The problem is that most men don't think about the implications when they expect sex by date #3 or earlier. How many date #3s do you think this chick has had? That is why she somehow thinks that acting like this is okay.
Have standards. Stop caring what trashy chicks think about your standards. Take the time to get to know someone who doesn't act like trash and stop aiming for the low hanging fruit. Not everything is about instant gratification.
@@TomNook. marriage was not always about love/pair bonding/emotion/excitment. In fact that's a recent feature.
In ancient times and some societies today, marriage was about survival. It was the norm in most places for women to lack rights (property, workers, and mate selection rights). If a woman could not marry or become a widow, it often meant doom for her. Plenty of account from fathers struggling to find a husband for their daughters. Perhaps love came in most cases, but women were forced into marriages or it was their option to survive. But emotional highs were not what marriage was based on. Now it is. Dating has become human shopping. Why is it wrong for anyone to upgrade their lover? In an age of female empowerment, women don't need men, only want men. And thus the few desirable men are the winners with plenty of options. Thus it seems for temporary marriage contracts to be a better fit than outdated life long marriage commitment that don't have consistent rules about divorce or fairness.
You may be right. Or men may get back to refusing to shack-up so women have to 'shape up' for marriage. Only the 'elite' marriageable women will enjoy the benefits of marriage and not shacking up will force single unmarried women to choose a path (aka: denying single unmarried women the 'benefits of marriage' without actually securing that marriage first). Just make sure you get marriage insurance (aka: a prenup, your 'nuclear' option).
High quality women are very hard to find. It's one huge reason why I'm single. I refuse to take care of any woman I'm not related to. Women want to be feminists? Okay, no problem at all. I'll take care of myself, she can do the same for herself.
Hey, if your woman wants to sleep with others; and you are not cool with that. End the relationship. She doesn't value you. End it, and help her pack. Find a woman who does value you.
yeeeaah... naaah... I would still make her pack herself - I couldn't bother that much to help her.
Only a low-value man allows her to sleep around.
This is so difficult to watch, my mother did the same to my father and my sisters and I when we proceeded to go see our grandparents in Jerusalem for a month, a trip she was completely aware about. The month we were gone (she was home with my youngest sister and my older half sister) she threatened suicide everyday, threatened to cheat on my father, sent my aunt threatening messages online, sent me threatening messages online, sent my siblings threatening messages online and I came home to a mother with a shaved head, a decision she decided to make because she was unwell. Prior to the trip my mom also disclosed that she wanted to drive the car off the road when picking me up from school so I wouldn’t leave. The thing is my mother and I never had a close relationship growing up, she was incredibly neglectful and distant but the moment we leave to only visit our grandparents she clings to me and my siblings as if she loved us.
I think she is literally mental case.
That's rough for sure.. My aunt damaged all four of her kids and they don't even speak to her and she refuses to apologize. If she repented they probably would at least go to distant contact.
a woman views anything that takes a mans attention away as competition: family, friends, hobbies, work
I used to act like this till a decade of therapy has undone my fear of abandonment. I would break things if my husband wants to go somewhere. Honestly, I truly believe that my husband will leave me and not come back. Thinking back then… it’s insane how warped my head was and if you’re curious what I’m diagnosed with. I have a severe case of Borderline Personality Disorder. It was bad that a mere thought of being left alone sent fear deep within me that I’ll cause problems so he won’t go. Anyway, I did the Dialectical Therapy which was highly advised by my doctor to do. It helped tremendously and opened up my eyes how insane I was. I’m happy that I’m at the point in my life admitting that I’m really insane. Who in the world would be sane to stay with me. All in all, hubby and I powered through my emotional turmoil. Married for about a decade now and still going.
Glad that you got the help you deserved ma'am. Yet respectfully & honestly MOST middle to upper class urban/suburban Western womynz(folks in general tbh) like you should be forgiven but not forgotten & actually marked as misfits fools. You aren't a problem, but MOTS are unfit to even continue on as they are. Some even deserve to be euthanized.
This actually explains a lot about my sister. She does very similar things if her bf wants to go do his own thing for a bit. It's honestly annoying to hear how she once again blew things out of proportion.
“When I think of a woman I think of a man. And I take away reason and accountability “. Jack Nicholson in “As Good As It Gets. “
That's not a relationship, it's a hostage situation.
My late wife; did encourage me to go on a golf trip with my brother, played golf in three states, no real extra cash, until she died she never forgave me for abandoning her and being selfish. Pretzel logic.
And whenever she happily allowed you to go play golf... 9 months later she got another baby😈
You might wanna get DNA tests.
3:50 this is why we never skip leg day boys
mwahahahahahahahah! thanks for pointing that out!
Haha... looks like photoshopped
Can absolutely confirm that this has been my experience with every woman I've been with. Doesn't matter how much I've sacrificed, how far I've gone to look after them, always taking care of their needs - it has always been taken for granted, expected that I should do so, and never reciprocated.
You're absolutely right. As men, it's easy to think "I've done so much for her, surely she sees how well I'm treating her and will want to return the favour" but it never turns out that way.
Obviously this is just my experience/anecdotal and there will be exceptions, but this is far too common to be ignored. Hopefully men will take heed of these lessons before finding out the hard way like me 😅
If you haven't already fellas, learn to understand and set boundaries, and make it clear from the start what you expect from the relationship and what you won't accept (women should do this too, obviously - I've just phrased it this way given the target audience).
This is shocking to me because I have never been in a relationship with any woman who has even yelled at me, or cursed at me during a conversation. This is crazy.
But I am not American, so possibly this is a cultural thing. This behavior sounds surreal and intolerable to me, it is shocking to imagine that this is the kind of relationship that many men see as a standard.
@@ThinkBeyondOrdinary He spoke about being taken for granted, not being yelled at.
Single mothers are even worse at lacking gratitude.
You got really unlucky or u need to filter them well. Every female is crazy, some are crazier.
@@ThinkBeyondOrdinary American women are insane. I just came back to America but am not planning on getting married or having kids here. Just to make some money and then leave
Women like her are unfortunately pretty common and becoming more and more common.
She will 100% have a bunch of kids later on and raise them to be exactly the same way as her making the problem worse for the next generation.
Set hard boundaries men. Your boundaries are more important than any relationship.
damn this basically explained to me I lost my old friend , he was never able to do anything for himself and still isn’t , I’ve been trying to go go karting with him for 2ish years now but every-time I try we have to change the plans to involve his gf every-time , every car he got has been catered to her liking and she hates when he doesn’t do what she wants , I watched him buy multiple Louis Vuitton purses for her and for his bday he got shoes…. He even tried to include her on a boys trip we were trying to make and I just cut him off after that
wow that guy is so weak. good for you for cutting him off
Yep the classic "friend gets a girlfriend" situation. It's a very strange one.
@@cryptobungus5778 I would agree with you on that , but I’ve made new friends who are in relationships where their girlfriends don’t act like that , I don’t feel like I’m around a ticking time bomb ready to get upset at whatever she can get upset at. I’ve never met a more complaint filled complicated women who’s needs just can never get satisfied. And if her boyfriends needs were satisfied over hers she would throw a legit hissy fit and make him take her home (she is “afraid” to drive so he’s her personal chauffeur basically too…) made me legit believe that this is the only relationship I can get with women
A man should never ultimately put what a woman wants over himself, happy wife happy life is bullshit and a slavery institution. This is what happens in a generation of weak men that are afraid of a woman leaving them.
@@TehMrRoflz can you clarify your last sentence for me?
One buddy of mine got a Russian Gf who was working at a water park for the summer. He totally left us, group of buddies tell she left. I tried telling him that wasn’t healthy. He ignored me, they got matching tattoos, then broke up. Hahaha I never rubbed it in or said told you so but just laughed to myself.
And that's another reason why most men stay single.
These are called "covert contracts" in the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," by Robert Glover.
Great book
This is one of those videos that would have benefitted me immensely 25 years ago. Everything you said is true. The problem is, we assume, having learned feminine love from our mothers, that it is universally feminine, but, as you said, it is not. Indeed, since women do not love us this way, the question remains: why would we marry them? What benefit do they have for us?
100% a man must communicate his needs and not apologize for them, and never ASK for permission from his girl.
That first clip is meant to be a joke, that audio comes from a different video/TikTok where a girl was screaming over the phone, and the girl’s friend was recording her. That audio gets used in a lot of TikToks now. Thought I would clarify this, as many people in the comments seem to think that golf clip was real. Lol.
link?
Men, never forget your instinct.
Listen the woman but do what your heart says.
Heart?
My hear says "kiII kiII kiII"
@@Rampart.X your question is?
@@rymreaper listen to your heart 😃
@@rymreaper only weaklings do those things. We can’t justify something with absolute violence. At the end of the day, after you killed, you will realize that nothing she can do justifies that. That’s what even scares me, we have this competitive instinct inside us that makes us stronger because when you fight another male you can only win by going all in, yet it can get out of hand so quickly that we become monsters before we realize.
You’re weak if you don’t know yourself. Understand why you have the emotions you have, as a competitive male, and make sure you mature your ass to make stronger decisions like having success which is the best vengeance to serve to any female in any culture.
That’s definitely severe pathological behaviour!! Run boy!!!
reminds me of that reddit post about a woman wanting to know if she was right to take the first class plane ticket her husband earned at work as a reward for herself and make him fly coach. yep we're here to serve
I hope he is / has walked away from that "thing"
I've been very lucky that I found a women who I've been married to for 33 years who has wanted me to pursue my interests and hobbies that do not involve her. She is always getting my favorite treats, even when I don't ask for them. We have absolute trust in each other. She has never acted in the way the women at the being of this video acted. If I was that guy I tell her bye, I'm still going on my trip. When I get back don't be here.
Imagine it was a guy yelling at his wife this way for wanting to go see friends. He would be labeled toxic, Narcissist, and probably lose his job.
That can go both ways. It's very controlling behavior. My ex husband would keep me from seeing my family or going to concerts with or without him 🤬.
My grandparents were passionate people with their different things. Grandma went to shooting range, pottery studios, and had various hobbies in the home. Grandpa did play golf and had amazing woodworking carpentry work. It's great to enjoy time together and separate from each other.
Together they vacationed, ate out together, cooked together, went to church, and visited their kids/ grandkids.
Because they where adults, this chicks a child.
This controlling behavior does happen both ways but is a lot more common in women, because they're more emotional and unstable than men. And let's be real, women often are very covert and manipulative than men so often they control men without having to scream and yell, just a few words at the right time and with the right delivery and emotional undertone and she gets her way.
It does go both ways but you'll see it a lot more from women, particularly for things like gas lighting, playing the victim and leveraging "love" as a type of currency as to whether you care about them or not due to taking an action that has nothing to do with that (like going golfing with the guys).
I've dealt with more emotional labor (for lack of a better term) with every girlfriend I've ever had within a month than I did with all my guy friends combined over the course of a year. Every single thing was always pitted against care, love or "investing time" in some way shape or form but the guys they instantly "got it" or understood when plans would be cancelled or we had to cut time short.
You know its far more common with women. Stop playing oppression olympics.
Im a minor-pro disc golfer and I play at least every Sat and Sun AM during the season and play tournaments away from my hometown where I have to stay in another city/town for the weekend 3-4 times a season as well and my wife is very supportive and happy Im having fun, getting exercise, being part of a good community and not just sitting in the basement. I cant fathom having a woman like this in my life.
I'm always grateful I discovered your channel. It's really helpful knowing why women behave certain ways even if some seem unreasonable. Getting into a relationship with practically 0 knowledge might be a disaster for me lol
These days it seems if your woman suggests you should "go on that trip" it's more likely she wants you out of the house so she can bring a dude over.
That speaks to the quality of women you have been dating. Most normal chicks are happy to just have the house to ourselves for a few hours so we can clean the kitchen or whatever without being interrupted. My husband went to the gun range last weekend and I worked from home so I wouldn't have as much to do this week.
Lmao why would you ever tolerate something like that. Or even get together with someone who throws tantrums like that in the first place.
EXactly. I am sure thats not the first time. You never should allow that she is acting like that towards you. Stop this right when it occurse at first time.
It creeps up slowly and evolves to this over some time.
The power of the hairy triangle.
Grateful simps.
They're called low-value simps.
This isn't the original audio for this video
In my experience this is extreme jealousy.
He is doing something without her, he is having fun without her.
She has no plans of things to do now and normally his job is to keep her happy right?
Its the complete dehumanization of your partner which tends to happen in women who normally gets everything she wants from everyone.
She never graduated into adulthood, she went from parents taking care of her to men taking care of her.
Never had to grow up, so she still has these kinds of tamper tantrums, like a red-faced toddler screeching and banging their fists on the floor.
I would love to get into the crypto market but it's expensive with the gas price alone, something could cost $18 but the gas could be over $400
1 week I've spent 1eth on gas
That's why I'm only interested in crypto trading and i have been making massive profit since then
I want to get into the NFT market but i don't really know how it works, I think cryptocurrency is more better
That won't bother you if you trade with an expert like Charlotte Jones' I've been trading with her💯
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It looks like so called narcissistic rage. I would strongly advice to search for the term.
Yeah like a child having a tantrum.
All too familiar. Almost identical to my borderline personality disorder ex. Guys, these types of women will destroy you, or you might wake up with a knife in your chest. Tattoos, body piercings and colored hair. Beware...you have been warned. I got lucky, and escaped.
I dont know its BPD but there is defintly something very wrong with her. If this is my wife there 2 options, she get counseling and realy working at her problems and personality or there is directly a divorce/seperation. If you just meet a girl, than leave her with a letter to tell her exactly why you did it and that she need get help. But leave!!!
BPD came to mind when I saw this as well.
My ex wife had this, It's pure hell. I second what Rusty says, Stay away from these women. That relationship red pilled me.
I like how all the smooth brains saying the video is fake are missing the point.
If this was a woman being yelled at, even if it was so obviously staged, women would still use it to rip on men and not say "ThIs iS fAkE"
Im so happy that these feminists are becoming sad and lonely. While im happy and still making more money than them on the dollar 🤣
My uncle seemingly does everything you say without watching any of your videos. Like the housecleaning = sex video the point of that was to show that if you do the more masculine things around the house and do general housework the more sex you should receive. He also says exactly how he feels and says what he needs like when he comes home from work he’ll say “I need a beer” (usually) and then he’ll say what kind of a day he had and then ask my auntie the same thing. He’s the most masculine man I know. He’s confident, extremely charismatic can basically make any awkward situation not awkward, he’s funny, very intelligent, has a very successful business in architectural model making, they live in London, he does his own projects to the house like one day he told be to smash a hole in the wall under the stair case just so that he could make a shoe cubby. He finished it in one day. And he’s just generally “the man of the house” he takes charge of everything and provides for the family (not that my auntie doesn’t have a say in it of course) and yet i think my auntie is withdrawing sex from him? Like when I was in my last relationship he would always joke about having sex and “how he misses those days” I’m not saying that my auntie is a bad person. She cooks and cleans and doesn’t mind doing the shopping with my cousin while he stays at home. She was like a mother to me even more so than my real mum. Their relationship is really strong and I could never imagine them being apart from one another. But I can’t help but feel sorry for my uncle because he makes sure that my family lives a pretty wealthy lifestyle and gets whatever they want and does all the right things that I see in theses videos and yet I can tell that all my uncle wants in his life is some intimacy again like he used to have. I can tell that he hasn’t talked about it to my auntie yet and that he’s just hoping that she’s finally “come to her senses”. I think that Even if you do all the right things she still probably won’t oblige. I think in the end you really do just have to ask and tell your significant other what you want. I just hope that my uncle isn’t putting it off because he knows what the answer is and he’s just trying to work harder and give theses hints at sex so that he one day might get it. It just makes me sad not only because it generally just is sad to see but also because it gives me no hope for myself in a relationship. My uncle is literally one of the highest status guys you’ll ever meet who literally does everything right in the relationship and yet I can still see that he’s not as satisfied in his relationship as he would like to be. I may never even get the chance to marry in my generation with the recent divorce rates and the way hypergamy has exploded. If my uncle who’s literally the best at everything can’t be satisfied then what chances do I have in my future?
Your uncle does seem like a cool and down to earth guy. I do think it's a little weird knowing about his imtimacy life but, maybe you should talk to him about it. He needs to put his foot down. I'm not trying to put it like he's not a masculine man. He may just need a little talk so he can put his foot down. You say "if my uncle who’s literally the best at everything can’t be satisfied then what chances do I have in my future?". I don't know that much, but I do know is that having an attitude and negative mindset like that will not help you. It's easier said than done, you need to build confidence and get into the gym and work on yourself.
@@toxicg6710 I only know about my uncles intimacy life because he used to mention it a lot and make jokes about it. I think he’s just open about it .I also used to live with my uncle. I know that he needs to put his foot down I’m just afraid that he won’t because he thinks it won’t change anything. And with me I honestly think I might be done with relationships….well at least for a while. I want to move out of my dads house and get a place with my best friend so that we can make some real money together.
Nothing will ever be good enough for some women.
Maybe that tik tok clip was staged. But there is a certain percentage of female pipulation that do feel like that. Probably ranks high in cluster B personality traits ( narcissism, sociopathy). Think back to that one time where your girlfriend started a fight because you wanted to hang out with friends.
Certainly impossible for women to romantically love men who don’t love themselves.
That’s not a woman, it’s a little girl. No adult can act like this.
Feel free to take responsibility whenever its convenient for you! LOL I hate to be honest with you, but men do NOT care what women think! Everytime we do you say stupid stuff like this!
Women don’t love men they’re incapable
The audio from this video was taken from another video. This video is fake...
This looks like the guy is just standing in front of an open door and put a voiceover to make it seem as if the girl is in the room but she isn't. You got duped Alex!
Is it too painful for you to even entertain the idea that women behave like that so not having to address the matter, you can just call it fake and move on?
@@Ounouh Women do behave like that but it doesn't mean this was real. It may or may not be but I'd take everything on Tik Tok with a huge pinch of salt. There are tonnes of faked vids on there.
@@Ounouh ...and hey presto...thanks to someone else in the comments...
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@@Ounouh I know that women can behave like this. I was just surprised to see that Alex seems to think this clip is real.
@@ChrisLee-yr7tz Nice job on missing the point.
Its about raising awareness and the fact that nobody is showing support for men's abuse, even if it was obviously fake, there would be supporters if this was a woman being yelled at instead of a man.
Nice job on diverting awareness to the biggest ignored issue, again.
A funny story: My ex bf is not good at planning events and told me like a few days before he was going on a weekend fishing trip with his dad. I was just happy he was getting out of the house tbh. I stayed home and cleaned the house and when he came back home I wanted to surprise him by being in a small simple dress (ONLY) but I didn’t expect his dad to also be with him so I had to play it off like I wasn’t trying to be sneaky sexy lol
Got to love that "Home" sign on the wall.
When you tolerate bad behavior , you inadvertently Enable it.
They expect to be catered to, but if you treat her like a queen, she will treat you like a peasant. Remember the saying "Do not care for her, she will never care for you."
This, in addition to their own self-debasement on the internet, is why women are treated like sex objects. And women act so damn surprised when they receive this treatment!
They work so damn hard to make themselves so damn unattractive to us as long-term relationship partners, and then they whine and cry so damn loud, demanding to be treated like a rare prize anyway, when they act like they are worthless!
The only time a women would suggest you go and enjoy your self is if she wants you out of the way so she can " enjoy " her self
No marriage. No kids. No cohabitation. Period.
One of the best videos 😎. Certified Top G 👑
That moment when you realize your $10k golf club has even better uses than pushing a small ball a couple of feet down the grass
💀
Dark lol
You have a good point
I don't like the fact that in this video, even if it is not directly stated, it gives off the idea that it's normal for women to place responsibility their joy and happiness on someone else. It might be very common, but it is unhealthy and is part of a dependent relationship not a co-dependent one.
just in case, you know this is not the original audio right?
My wife bought some sausage 🌭 and she bought 2 , I was so happy lol
Also she buys stuff for me I don't even request for (foods, clothes and stuff) and I swear I teared up sometimes that she thinks of me. She does care about me and talks very good about me with others. She's the one , never had a better one and couldn't imagine a better wife.
There are exceptions , they exist and I don't say u are wrong (prob. Most woman are like this) but such woman I wouldn't want
i firmly believe women are inherently greedy/selfish and men inherently protective... when women go out of their way to give up for you its proof of how much they consider you important for their survival... we are both very lucky my brother... i hope our other brothers eventually find a good woman themselves... i believe men and women bring the best out of each other...
She did that out of thin air. It absolutely had nothing to do with something this guy did previously in their relationship. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Saving this one for the men's group I'll be starting.
If you have to ask her to go golfing, your relationship is set up to fail from the jump. Prioritize yourself over women and they will respect you. If you don't they will look at you as weak and resent you and walk all over you. This is the exact dynamic that is playing out here.
Guys, you know the common trope where the boyfriend says "tell me what you want!" for the woman to respond with "I don't know."
Well, this works the other way too, except she wont ask, and you DO know what you want. She wants to give you what you want, but she will never ask what it is. Tell her what you want and she will be happy to deliver it to you, just as you would be happy to give her what she wants (if she knew what that was, lol)
Thank you.
Based and empathypilled.
I bet he "gave up" going golfing to spend time with her (probably at her demand), and so his going back to playing golf is a STEP BACKWARDS for her plans for their relationship.
She feels used and betrayed, whereas he is just going back to a hobby he enjoys/enjoyed now that he has the time (probably because she stopped wanting to spend that time with HIM).
This is the moment when a man goes "monk mode" in his relationship.
He starts getting back in touch with who he is and what he wants to do, instead of sacrificing his enjoyment for her wants/needs.
It means that the relationship has stagnated for HIM and she is no longer giving him the attention she used to.
She might even be deliberately ignoring him, as punishment, or so she can spend more time focusing on herself (going "monk mode" herself), or just stopped caring to spend that weekend day with him any more.
He is right to do what he wants and should just leave and do it.
He can deal with the fallout later and see how much of her drama was real, and how much was put on to get her way.
Relationships require arguments to resolve issues (often deep-seated issues) and he should see where this leads them - he can always call it quits if she goes overboard (if she doesn't call it quits herself).
That she thinks throwing a fit will stop him doing it shows how little attention she pays to HIM.
Step into your masculinity, dude, and let her deal with it.
She might even appreciate some of what you do and say "the spark is back in your relationship" like my missus of 23yrs did when I went "monk mode" 10 years ago and started taking time for myself by dropping some of my missus' ridiculous demands of me.
If she wants to join you in your hobbies she's more than welcome, or if she wants to distract you from your path by meeting other needs you have... well that's a win for both of you! 😉
I’m a single woman by the way. But, she’s crying like that over him going to golf?! What the hell? Come on. Let the poor guy have some time for himself. I mean I understand that she wants to spend time with him but everyone needs some time to be alone and get away from each other. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her. He’s not cheating on her. If he’s going to late night parties and suddenly getting dressed and being secretive of his phone, that’s when you should be worried.
this first clip reminds me of the
GF: "Babe please! You're not Tiger Woods!"
BF: "Hahaha, Golfball goes Bonk, career goes Stonks."
Meme and I think its hillarious.
I think it's important for married men to keep their male friends. I hang out with a former coworker who immigrated to Canada in 2018. He only has a wife and is 38 years old. I'm 10 years younger than him. However, he told me that his wife encourages him to go out with friends. That was very insightful as too many guys have their World revolve around their spouse and coworkers. His wife seems like a great women, so all credit.
I don’t entirely agree with this. I think there’s many women who want to meet the needs of their man without being asked to. My girlfriend is Thai and she is literally always looking after me and making sure that I’m happy. She actively tries to make my life better as I do for her. Western women like this do exist although they’re harder to find.
Surely this is fake?
Why?
Well, why is the phone set up to film him going to play golf? Do you ever say "I'm going out but I'll just film myself talking to my girlfriend!"
Er... probably not.
*It's clearly a set up camera shot.* Not some random "quick, start filming this!" moment. That's why it's fake just to get views to monetize the TikTok channel.
Another clue why it's fake or a very high probability it's fake... we don't see her at all. Her voice can be added in post production. Just edit her voice into clip. He could be looking at noone.
The woman's audio could be from a film or TV show. You just add it to the audio.
Unless we see her before this clip starts - and we don't - then zero proof any woman is there.
I'm 24 years old
I helped someone go through abuse in her family and cancer
She fell in love with me, and I politely refused back then. But eventually I gave in.
Her family chose another dude for her (aka forced) and she agreed and left me.
These days now I think that she was just getting help from me and didn't care much about my needs.
She was sweet and all, but you are right.
All of this is really hurtful, I won't lie but I'm glad I got to know this at a fairly young age. As a result I'm breaking out of my wrong perceptions.
It kinda sucks to know that I will never get what I wished for (the care that I expected) but it's not all bad. I now know to be very selfish and I will do that.
The only people who will genuinely take care of my needs are my parents, and brother. I will do the same for them too.
I wonder why nobody asks how this got filmed … and how convenient, he was standing exactly at the right spot at the right time with his golf bag and his „I have no clue what’s wrong“ posture, when she threw a tantrum. If this is no proof that women are toxic, then what?!
woman: you're going golfing? @#$@#$@#$@
man: so that's a yes?
I had a woman just recently that did put my needs first. Unfortunately, due to her serious mental health issues it lasted only 8 months.
I want a woman like her without baggage like three very serious traumas. Please. Once in a lifetime.
Once you come to the harsh realization that a female can never Love and/or care for you the way you do for her, life becomes easier and much more fulfilling on your own. Stop chasing the ever moving unattainable goal posts of women.
Exercise & grown stronger every day, learn physical combat skills, read a range of diverse topics (particularly business operations/philosophy), become better at game and spin a few plates in medium rotation, cultivate a handful of quality friendships (you are the average of the 5 people you hang around most), learn to cook/clean or hire a housekeeping service if necessary.
Civilize the mind and make savage the body.
At last, Alexander is also using the word “flow” to describe the unidirectionality of empathy I postulated in my “L model of life and love”. 😎
Thank you for telling Inconvenient truth.
Alexander that tik tok video at the beginning isn't the original audio. If I recall the audio is from a girl telling off her boyfriend who cheated on her.
I'm going to go from a bit of a different angle here - we men can feel very frustrated (and rightly so) about the perceived need to read the minds of women - so why should we expect women to read our minds? Shouldn't we explicitly (tactfully but nevertheless fairly explicitly) express our needs and desires to women without hoping that they might read any subtle hints?
Now if a man does express his needs and desires to a woman and she doesn't care about them then that is a different story - and if she throws a tantrum then that is unfathomable - she may not necessarily reply with an enthusiastic yes but she should at least be able to talk things out maturely. However the main point I am getting at is that Men and Women aren't mind readers - it is their onus to make sure that their partner understands what they want and not just hope that they will have to decode a mental maze of subtle hints.
Love your channel, you're a better bro than my own brother man. Thank you for everything 💪
although i have seen this in a marriage and from a relative who has massive anger issues. it still just seems so unreal.
yup, its real... real CRAZY
Starting @7:23 is totally true btw! If I only knew in my early 20's...
She's probably borderline. Run dude, run away as fast as you can.
Mike Tyson said, and I'm paraphrasing... "Everything your mother did for you was for YOUR survival. Everything your girl does for you is for HER survival". Men have to understand that. If you want her to treat you like your mother did, then SHE will be looking at YOU like a child, and that isn't attractive.
GUYS IT'S FAKE. It is a sound that has been taken from another video.
This channel should be on rumble too
This seems pretty cringe.. How much information do we actually have on the context? She's clearly throwing a tantrum, but there seems to be more to it than just a golf trip (also the person filming, she must be aware..). The beginning sounds like "so you can just ____ her", could be the couple has terrible communication and the woman has been resenting this trip as something the man is using as an excuse to have an affair. I wouldn't put it past the man framing the caption this way to get more views. Still absolutely doesn't make what she's doing right, but you're going hard on the 'women will never think about you' angle. To me it sounds like she's in fight or flight with their relationship and is pushing him away in a very toxic manner, possibly from fear of abandonment. Doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't care about his golf trips
Hes right, if i know what i knew now i would not have got married. Stay single men.
That's when you date a BPD (or BPD like) woman and she realizes she doesn't have you under her control.
Again a TikTok that's probably staged. I mean the woman is filming right? The only way it gets posted with that title is that the guy took that phone and posted the video himself. Pretty uncertain.