Trust in God in those moments, and whatever you feel is the correct way to go or lead. Just remember to never react emotionally either anger or frustration take a time out yourself before you react give everyone a moment to understand the situation and after you are calm and took that moment you can trust you will make the right decision. The hardest part is taking a moment to get out of the emotional part first before reacting.
@DarcyRie Yes when we are all frustrated nothing good can come out of it. We as parents first have to get out of the emotional part first either anger, frustrated or hurt. Once we feel calm and back ready to take charge is when we can do our best to find a solution that will work for everyone. Kids also have the same issue, only they don't know how to take time to calm down, so they just react on emotions. The big thing about doing this is kids see and learn behavior from parents. So if they start to see the parent not rush to anger or emotional response and instead calm everyone down take a min to start at a better perspective kids will start to learn they can do that as well. So in life when they are sad, angry or frustrated they will lean back on something they have seen many times before.
Great video Darcy! I think parenting is hard, there’s no real right or wrong way. I feel all kids are different and need different ways of being taught.
@@R1se-inspire thanks David. It is hard and the world doesn’t make it any easier with all the styles of parenting suggested. People just gotta figure out what works for them and their kids
Hey Darcy I hope your Saturday is going well. I believe that how we were brought up in our homes has a lot to do with how we perceive parenting should be or shouldn’t be. If someone was brought up in a broken home I believe the kids tend to either say that I won’t raise my kids in this way or they just see this brokenness as normal. Growing up I had friends that didn’t have both parents at home which I thought was not normal. My friends seemed to have more freedom and liberty on how they treated the “parent”. There was a lot of disrespect. In my home growing up I had both parents but was still disfunctional in the fact that my mom took more of the leadership role than my dad. They were both great parents and they raised us well. I just didn’t learn from my dad that I should be the leader of the home, that’s what I brought into my marriage which didn’t go well. My wife on the other hand grew up within a divorced family and didn’t have a full time dad there. I believe her mom did the best that she could raising her kids but raising them with resentment and bitterness towards her husband. Thus bringing into her previous marriage and then into our marriage. I believe that we did the best that we could as parents but I believe the back and forth struggles with who and how we should parent caused a lot of strain in the marriage. We didn’t let God ultimately lead us in parenting. My kids are amazing and I believe in the later years really helped shape who they are today. I pray covering over them all daily and I tell them to not leave God out and that when they start doing things their way and not His way it usually doesn’t turn out well. Thank you Darcy!
@@robertnonaka8701 hey Robert! It was a good day, hope yours was also!! I agree with so much of what you’ve said. Growing up I had my mom and several step dads and drugs were involved and I wished so bad for a normal family with both my parents married and happy. It affected me well into my first marriage and how I related to men. But my mom and grandma and even great grandma had some dysfunction in their childhood raising dynamic as well. It probably fell apart somewhere in the 70s further validating what John said in his book, and truly showing our need for God as the center of our families. I’m glad your children have your wisdom and leading to keep close to God, that’s all we can do is try to show them and tell them about the better way. Thank you so much for sharing your experience!!
@@DarcyRie Thank you Darcy for sharing your experience as well. I believe that generational curses can be broken with God’s help and if we surrender it to Him. It’s the holding onto the hurt and our own pride and believing the lies of the enemy that keeps the generational curse going. It’s sad but often true. I pray that people like you Darcy, standing up for what God wants and dying to self daily will help others be encouraged to do the same. This is a fallen world and my own personal experience in this life makes it very hard to die to self and completely surrender to His will for my life. I believe that your kids will see and help them know that you are doing your best to show them how God wants you to live. Often trying to do the right thing and being an example makes for very isolated and lonely moments going through your own brokenness. That’s when you see His blessings in and through your kids. You’re doing a good thing Darcy and I encourage you to keep going. God is good!
@@robertnonaka8701 I believe the same Robert, generational curses are real. I don’t know if people really see that or not but when we truly take a look at what’s gone on in our families we can notice patterns. I am trying to break the curses in my family, I thought I had done that with my marriage and having kids after marrying, but I missed the most important thing… God’s plan and not mine. You’re right though, the dying to ourself and surrendering is very hard, but no matter what we’ve been through it’s freeing to surrender. He sees our end and He knows what we need far more than we do. 🙏 thank you for sharing again Robert! Have a blessed Sunday!
Youre absolutely right, we reap what we sow when we remove God from our decision-making in every area of our lives. Our Heavenly Father truly knows best❤ Great insight youve shared. Thank you and Jesus bless you.
thank you for this great reminder, He always knows best, His ways are perfect.. and He gave us these children after all so He would definitely know how best to raise them, according to His plans and purposes for them. We are just the vessels in which He's entrusted to carry that plan out. Jesus bless you and yours as well!!
I raised my four as a single parent, using an intuitive approach that worked brilliantly. Every single one has grown up walking successfully in their God-given design. They were amazing to raise, and I loved every minute of it. We did not have power struggles because everyone treated each other as human beings created in God's image.
@@DarcyRie When my kids’ dad left 15 years ago, he took all our assets, declared bankruptcy, and moved 2000 miles away, leaving me as the sole parent and provider for our 3, 5, 7, and 12-year-olds. I had no supportive family and was completely on my own. I was finishing my undergrad while caring for my father, who had just suffered his second major stroke. Overwhelmed, I realized I was parenting out of fear-fear of failure, judgment, and not being enough. That’s when I made a radical shift, fully leaning on John 14:26, where Jesus promised the Holy Spirit would teach us all things. I stepped away from the church community at the time, as it added to my sense of victimhood (my kid's dad had been a local pastor) and focused entirely on listening to the Holy Spirit for guidance in parenting and rebuilding my life. I call this 'intuitive' because it requires really paying attention to how my intuition is interfacing with the Holy Spirit and discerning its guidance. I taught my kids to do the same-trust the Spirit's leading in their lives. The biggest challenge was to completely trust the Holy Spirit's leading in my kids' lives and not step in and 'correct' it with my own perspectives. Every time, the Holy Spirit proved faithful. This approach taught me there’s no universal parenting formula; only God knows what each family needs. This Spirit-led, intuitive journey taught me to honor my children’s unique gifts, humanity and their God-given human spirit. They thrived in incredible ways: two became national champions in athletics, all became bilingual, and each pursued their passions through college with scholarships. The Holy Spirit truly taught me all things, just as Jesus promised.
Darcy, thank you for once again covering a tough topic so well. You are sincerely pointing parents towards the Bible which is the way to go. I have failed before in many ways and try to parent according to the Bible as much as I can. Be assured that by default you are their mom and they know that you are their “supreme authority”. Russ
@@TheRussRyde thank you for sharing your experience here Russ, we all fall short at times. It’s a blessing to realize it and have the strength to correct course and humble ourselves. I’m definitely depending on the Lord to see me and my children through. God bless you Russ!
@@karenbarth-vt7of in what area? I’m trying to remember the verse about honoring your mother and father. So when my daughters are disrespectful or question beyond reason when I tell them to do something, I remind them of their responsibility as children in the family and mine as the authority in the house, they don’t have to agree or like or even understand what I’ve expected but they will need to do it. In the same way as we as Gods children must do also. I hope that answered your question. I’m still learning how to apply these principles myself.
@@DarcyRie So, basically, a biblical parenting style is "because I said so, and I'm your mother." This leads to kids hiding things from you as soon as they understand whether you will approve or not.
@@karenbarth-vt7of I can see how those ways may lead to them hiding things but (my thoughts, I haven’t finished the book yet) if the children respect their parents authority and have a good understanding of what right and wrong is then they should be able to comply whether they like it or not. If they decide to do whatever it is anyways and get found out there will be consequences for the disobedience. Eventually the truth comes out and eventually they will have to be accountable for their behavior.
Trust in God in those moments, and whatever you feel is the correct way to go or lead. Just remember to never react emotionally either anger or frustration take a time out yourself before you react give everyone a moment to understand the situation and after you are calm and took that moment you can trust you will make the right decision. The hardest part is taking a moment to get out of the emotional part first before reacting.
@@Thread_Storm that’s so true, remembering in those moments to stop and think or calm down is tough. But doable the more we practice it. Thanks Danny!
@DarcyRie Yes when we are all frustrated nothing good can come out of it. We as parents first have to get out of the emotional part first either anger, frustrated or hurt. Once we feel calm and back ready to take charge is when we can do our best to find a solution that will work for everyone. Kids also have the same issue, only they don't know how to take time to calm down, so they just react on emotions. The big thing about doing this is kids see and learn behavior from parents. So if they start to see the parent not rush to anger or emotional response and instead calm everyone down take a min to start at a better perspective kids will start to learn they can do that as well. So in life when they are sad, angry or frustrated they will lean back on something they have seen many times before.
@ absolutely true Danny! I’ve noticed the difference when waiting to calm down before addressing anything. These darn emotions must be conquered 💪
Great video Darcy! I think parenting is hard, there’s no real right or wrong way. I feel all kids are different and need different ways of being taught.
@@R1se-inspire thanks David. It is hard and the world doesn’t make it any easier with all the styles of parenting suggested. People just gotta figure out what works for them and their kids
Hey Darcy I hope your Saturday is going well. I believe that how we were brought up in our homes has a lot to do with how we perceive parenting should be or shouldn’t be. If someone was brought up in a broken home I believe the kids tend to either say that I won’t raise my kids in this way or they just see this brokenness as normal. Growing up I had friends that didn’t have both parents at home which I thought was not normal. My friends seemed to have more freedom and liberty on how they treated the “parent”. There was a lot of disrespect. In my home growing up I had both parents but was still disfunctional in the fact that my mom took more of the leadership role than my dad. They were both great parents and they raised us well. I just didn’t learn from my dad that I should be the leader of the home, that’s what I brought into my marriage which didn’t go well. My wife on the other hand grew up within a divorced family and didn’t have a full time dad there. I believe her mom did the best that she could raising her kids but raising them with resentment and bitterness towards her husband. Thus bringing into her previous marriage and then into our marriage. I believe that we did the best that we could as parents but I believe the back and forth struggles with who and how we should parent caused a lot of strain in the marriage. We didn’t let God ultimately lead us in parenting. My kids are amazing and I believe in the later years really helped shape who they are today. I pray covering over them all daily and I tell them to not leave God out and that when they start doing things their way and not His way it usually doesn’t turn out well. Thank you Darcy!
@@robertnonaka8701 hey Robert! It was a good day, hope yours was also!! I agree with so much of what you’ve said. Growing up I had my mom and several step dads and drugs were involved and I wished so bad for a normal family with both my parents married and happy. It affected me well into my first marriage and how I related to men. But my mom and grandma and even great grandma had some dysfunction in their childhood raising dynamic as well. It probably fell apart somewhere in the 70s further validating what John said in his book, and truly showing our need for God as the center of our families. I’m glad your children have your wisdom and leading to keep close to God, that’s all we can do is try to show them and tell them about the better way. Thank you so much for sharing your experience!!
@@DarcyRie Thank you Darcy for sharing your experience as well. I believe that generational curses can be broken with God’s help and if we surrender it to Him. It’s the holding onto the hurt and our own pride and believing the lies of the enemy that keeps the generational curse going. It’s sad but often true. I pray that people like you Darcy, standing up for what God wants and dying to self daily will help others be encouraged to do the same. This is a fallen world and my own personal experience in this life makes it very hard to die to self and completely surrender to His will for my life. I believe that your kids will see and help them know that you are doing your best to show them how God wants you to live. Often trying to do the right thing and being an example makes for very isolated and lonely moments going through your own brokenness. That’s when you see His blessings in and through your kids. You’re doing a good thing Darcy and I encourage you to keep going. God is good!
@@robertnonaka8701 I believe the same Robert, generational curses are real. I don’t know if people really see that or not but when we truly take a look at what’s gone on in our families we can notice patterns. I am trying to break the curses in my family, I thought I had done that with my marriage and having kids after marrying, but I missed the most important thing… God’s plan and not mine. You’re right though, the dying to ourself and surrendering is very hard, but no matter what we’ve been through it’s freeing to surrender. He sees our end and He knows what we need far more than we do. 🙏 thank you for sharing again Robert! Have a blessed Sunday!
@@DarcyRie Thanks Darcy! Enjoy your family today!!
Youre absolutely right, we reap what we sow when we remove God from our decision-making in every area of our lives. Our Heavenly Father truly knows best❤ Great insight youve shared. Thank you and Jesus bless you.
thank you for this great reminder, He always knows best, His ways are perfect.. and He gave us these children after all so He would definitely know how best to raise them, according to His plans and purposes for them. We are just the vessels in which He's entrusted to carry that plan out. Jesus bless you and yours as well!!
I raised my four as a single parent, using an intuitive approach that worked brilliantly. Every single one has grown up walking successfully in their God-given design. They were amazing to raise, and I loved every minute of it. We did not have power struggles because everyone treated each other as human beings created in God's image.
@@michellerakowski2429 please share your intuitive approach?
@@DarcyRie When my kids’ dad left 15 years ago, he took all our assets, declared bankruptcy, and moved 2000 miles away, leaving me as the sole parent and provider for our 3, 5, 7, and 12-year-olds. I had no supportive family and was completely on my own. I was finishing my undergrad while caring for my father, who had just suffered his second major stroke. Overwhelmed, I realized I was parenting out of fear-fear of failure, judgment, and not being enough.
That’s when I made a radical shift, fully leaning on John 14:26, where Jesus promised the Holy Spirit would teach us all things. I stepped away from the church community at the time, as it added to my sense of victimhood (my kid's dad had been a local pastor) and focused entirely on listening to the Holy Spirit for guidance in parenting and rebuilding my life. I call this 'intuitive' because it requires really paying attention to how my intuition is interfacing with the Holy Spirit and discerning its guidance.
I taught my kids to do the same-trust the Spirit's leading in their lives. The biggest challenge was to completely trust the Holy Spirit's leading in my kids' lives and not step in and 'correct' it with my own perspectives. Every time, the Holy Spirit proved faithful. This approach taught me there’s no universal parenting formula; only God knows what each family needs.
This Spirit-led, intuitive journey taught me to honor my children’s unique gifts, humanity and their God-given human spirit. They thrived in incredible ways: two became national champions in athletics, all became bilingual, and each pursued their passions through college with scholarships. The Holy Spirit truly taught me all things, just as Jesus promised.
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Darcy, thank you for once again covering a tough topic so well. You are sincerely pointing parents towards the Bible which is the way to go. I have failed before in many ways and try to parent according to the Bible as much as I can. Be assured that by default you are their mom and they know that you are their “supreme authority”. Russ
@@TheRussRyde thank you for sharing your experience here Russ, we all fall short at times. It’s a blessing to realize it and have the strength to correct course and humble ourselves. I’m definitely depending on the Lord to see me and my children through. God bless you Russ!
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Thank you for sharing your wise and biblical views ❤
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Thanks for the recommendation. I'll read it this week.
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What would be an example of biblical parenting?
@@karenbarth-vt7of in what area?
I’m trying to remember the verse about honoring your mother and father. So when my daughters are disrespectful or question beyond reason when I tell them to do something, I remind them of their responsibility as children in the family and mine as the authority in the house, they don’t have to agree or like or even understand what I’ve expected but they will need to do it. In the same way as we as Gods children must do also.
I hope that answered your question. I’m still learning how to apply these principles myself.
@@DarcyRie So, basically, a biblical parenting style is "because I said so, and I'm your mother." This leads to kids hiding things from you as soon as they understand whether you will approve or not.
@@karenbarth-vt7of I can see how those ways may lead to them hiding things but (my thoughts, I haven’t finished the book yet) if the children respect their parents authority and have a good understanding of what right and wrong is then they should be able to comply whether they like it or not. If they decide to do whatever it is anyways and get found out there will be consequences for the disobedience. Eventually the truth comes out and eventually they will have to be accountable for their behavior.
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