I haven’t lost a parent and know it’ll tear to pieces. My fiance lost his mom a long time ago and recently lost his father.. they were best friends. It’s been so tough to walk with him through this, but I think people don’t want to go to therapy and address the grief because they feel this is how they are supposed to feel forever. Like, there’s a guilt associated with trying to move forward and have some happiness and joy in life without them. It’s so hard.
One of the reasons why therapy is soooo important is so that we can avoid trauma bonds that are disguised as marriage. Unpack your trauma BEFORE you settle down and bring someone else into your baggage.
Miah is so hostile toward him at the dinner table. And if she feels he doesn't listen to her and shuts down, why is she marrying him again? Make it make sense.
That struck me too. He walked straight in, big and bold, no acknowledgment of his mother. And no one checked him. I agree-something crazy seems to be going on there.
That's right but I hope he realizes that it all starts with him. Nobody is coming to save him. Not even his aunties. They're still giving their loss to an extent.
He doesn't know how (to help himself) --- and at this point, looks like he's made his decision to stay the same - he doesn't really want to change/improve.
If you've never lost a parent when you were young, you will never get it!!! I hate the way she casually sped pass that!!! That was the moment his life changed forever!! It doesn't justify his behavior but the way she wants him to get over it is insane.
I'm thinking that he uses his lost for every wrong thing he does. The reality is that he's in a trauma prison and to be with him she has to go in that prison with him. She just needs to let him go until he gets help.
@@psalmxv4188 You're right, but can you blame him. When his mom died people probably figured that he was going to get over it like how they got over it and no one sought him out any type of help. Even though his body is grown up emotionally he still right there when his mother died. I grew up without a mother and ppl took advantage of the situation if they could. Ppl loved me but not as much as they loved their children!
Why rush to get married again when he hasn’t done the work. He has to take accountability for his own trauma. It’s not ok to bleed onto other people because you don’t do the work. As the son said, it hurts more than just her. You can’t just move about the world hurting people.
She doesn't want him to do the work and then go to someone else. I've been that woman. I get that. The problem is he simply isn't the person for you right now and sticking around will only create more bad blood and more trauma to overcome between you. Let go. There are other men who will be an amazing match for you. Bad timing is a thing. If he's truly for you, he'll come back. If he's not, trust me there's somebody 10 times better for you
The son and mom have a distant relationship and so do the groom and his adoptive mom. The son walked in and barely acknowledged the mom or her cheating husband
So not only circling the block, but no one knows about them being engaged and didnt even meet during their marriage. Its a no from me Dawg, a SERIOUS no!!!!!
I’m sorry, this is foolish. To jump right into something new after her first marriage and then divorce him to jump right back in with him again without working on any issues is the definition of insanity!
I've been divorced for ages and single for ages. When I tell you I love my peace and freedom in all aspects of my life - from my money, to my mind to my time. I'm in my mid 40s and no plans to get married. I'm not even dating and I'm not worried. LOL!!. Why you ask...I LOVE MY PEACE!!!
I don't like how they made her seem as if she was the problem for his issues. This man made a choice not to heal from his grief and then continued to use it as a crutch, and she made a choice to ride along both are not acceptable. He needs to take accountability for his healing.
She is in loved with the outside of Christopher but they both have trauma. I don’t even see any kind of connection with her son . They both need to heal from the past built up within themselves
I knew as soon as they brought the Dr. R in that they knew what his disorder is...he's a narcissist and will never change. I hope Miah learns all the signs of each level of narcissism so she won't end up with another one.
It's always a lose lose trying to communicate with people who takes EVERYTHING as an attack. You could cry and whisper and it wouldn't matter.....just walk away!!!
The bride… I don’t like her. She was so in her head about the therapist saying she’s wrong too that she couldn’t even be an emotional support for him during the psychologist counseling session.
Both of them were walking red flags to each other...he met her out while she's getting over an ex...she married this man while healing from an ex and was okay with this person accepting you unhealed
There is so much.....so much love in this family and there are prayer warriors in the mist. Amen and may God continue to love on them as individuals and if it's in his will to great husband and wife to each other.
She’s afraid of being alone and running back to what’s familiar. He isn’t healed or different. Doesn’t provide anything she needs but agreed to an engagement. Crazy
If you have to hide the engagement that is the first issue.I dont understand why people don't take the time to heal and work on themselves before quickly moving on.
Whew! I see myself in Miah. The fixer and the overcompensator and the loving someone in a way i hope they observe and love me back. I hope she finds her peace before pursuing another relationship.
The fact that they got engaged a 2nd time and are on this show means they do love each other but just need help to make the marriage work a 2nd time. Marriage is no ball in the park. It takes work!!!
I’m sorry, for her son to walk in and not acknowledge them is weird behavior. If there’s something deep, then either talk about it on the show, or he shouldn’t have been the one to come! That was disrespectful
Watching these episodes shows me why divorce rate is so high. Also the slow pace im taking for marriage. These people should not be getting married. None of them so far
"No one's a different person. We're all the same people" that's a reeeeead... Love Tracy! She keeps it 💯🥰
right there, she made me say, "umph" 🤔LOL
As a married woman, I am so thankful for these shows. It really shows you how you show up in your own situation at times.
Yes, Same here! Self awareness and accountability !!
I'm in a healthy marriage but I use these as my personal assistance. I love this show.
Same here!! ❤
"Grief will always find you. You cannot outrun it."
OMG! Sooo heartbreakingly true. 😭💔
I haven’t lost a parent and know it’ll tear to pieces. My fiance lost his mom a long time ago and recently lost his father.. they were best friends. It’s been so tough to walk with him through this, but I think people don’t want to go to therapy and address the grief because they feel this is how they are supposed to feel forever. Like, there’s a guilt associated with trying to move forward and have some happiness and joy in life without them. It’s so hard.
The son's body language is so telling! He is such a wise young man; I'm impressed with his communication skills!
Yes, he has to be cause his mother not doing it.
Never go back to broken marriage imagine resigning from your work and going back after few months to apply the same work🤯
Lol 😂 I know someone that did that with his job.
💯🎯
I know people crazy enough to do that. 😮
Not the same
The son is more emotionally mature than the couple. Oh no😮
Hesham see things that even the other family sees....like he has the experience what his mum went through during her 1 divorce.....
One of the reasons why therapy is soooo important is so that we can avoid trauma bonds that are disguised as marriage. Unpack your trauma BEFORE you settle down and bring someone else into your baggage.
This show let's me c y divorce rate is so high. So many unresolved issues expected to b fixed by going up an isle. The desperation level is so high
That part- you end up taking it out on your spouse instead of actually resolving the underlying issues ..
This if people actually did the work their would be less marriages
Mental illness 101
EXACTLY
I feel that it is (willful) ignorance and overall immaturity.
Chris always looks like a dear in head lights but at the same 😂ready to bolt
Miah is so hostile toward him at the dinner table. And if she feels he doesn't listen to her and shuts down, why is she marrying him again? Make it make sense.
She doesn’t want to be alone
She feels that she has to be a conqueror.
Shes still angry with him for hiw he treated her in the first marriage.
She didn't even try to console him. That's why it's not going to work. He's a broken man.
Grief ain't no joke 😢 it will have you mad at the world.
💯
True
Real
Truth And I Believe I’m Still Mad 😡 As Hell! 😂😂 😂
Yeap 💯
That young boi came in ignored that man ,
Oh ignored his mom too--- something deep there .
I came looking for this comment!!! He walked right in and no hugs or nothing!
That struck me too. He walked straight in, big and bold, no acknowledgment of his mother. And no one checked him. I agree-something crazy seems to be going on there.
He may feel some way towards her for taking him back and some way towards him for, well, you know.
I noticed that as well. It was strange.
“I can fix him”
No you can’t, he isn’t ready to be fixed.
I’m sorry but that update at the end had me laughing😂😂. It went from them going to work on themselves to boot him & block him🤣
Dam this is a mess right from the beginning, the host wasn't ready 😅😅
I wasn’t ready either 😭💀
😂😂😂
She called it from the very beginning
Are they ever 🤣🤣
@@thebarbieinvestor5428 When the mama or mama figure says her son ain't right, RUUUUNNNNNN
Sometimes getting back together is a way of breaking up properly.
Never thought of it that way!!
Omg it's like opened up the curtain, but not visually, in terms of understanding a different perspective gud work .
Interesting.... I don't know why but, I like.
Interesting
COME ON SOMEBODY 👏🏾
Some people can’t be alone. They rather by their n a toxic relationship. Misery loves company .
Until he gets the therapy he needs from past tramas he will never be the husband she wants.
E v e r
An actual danger to any woman.
She moved too fast
Yup currently living with one
Leave my baby@@littlecrowders7089
I feel for Chris 😢 Trauma and grief is so real so exhausting so draining and so heavy! I pray he gets the peace and lightness he deserves
That's right but I hope he realizes that it all starts with him. Nobody is coming to save him. Not even his aunties. They're still giving their loss to an extent.
These families are adorable. Supportive, expressive, honest...
Girllllll....take your time...why get marry so fast again.😢
The moment she said I was at the bar celebrating my break up I knew mi
another honest episode. It is so good seeing families be authentic in their relationships.
The brides mother looks amazing for 60
Anytime I see Dr. Rami my heart smiles 🥰
I agree, why say yes a 2nd time?😮
Hesham (the son) is very wise for just 19
Chris stop looking for someone to save you. Take the first step brother. Help yourself ...
He doesn't know how (to help himself) --- and at this point, looks like he's made his decision to stay the same - he doesn't really want to change/improve.
If you've never lost a parent when you were young, you will never get it!!! I hate the way she casually sped pass that!!! That was the moment his life changed forever!! It doesn't justify his behavior but the way she wants him to get over it is insane.
She still has a mom. And until you lose one, you really, really don't get it!
I'm thinking that he uses his lost for every wrong thing he does. The reality is that he's in a trauma prison and to be with him she has to go in that prison with him. She just needs to let him go until he gets help.
@@psalmxv4188 You're right, but can you blame him. When his mom died people probably figured that he was going to get over it like how they got over it and no one sought him out any type of help. Even though his body is grown up emotionally he still right there when his mother died. I grew up without a mother and ppl took advantage of the situation if they could. Ppl loved me but not as much as they loved their children!
Why rush to get married again when he hasn’t done the work. He has to take accountability for his own trauma. It’s not ok to bleed onto other people because you don’t do the work. As the son said, it hurts more than just her. You can’t just move about the world hurting people.
Having the same issues she had with him when they were together the first time. Why even go back?
This is HER fault! It’s annoying
They may share a trauma that has bonded them. In other words some can't help themselves.
She doesn't want him to do the work and then go to someone else. I've been that woman. I get that. The problem is he simply isn't the person for you right now and sticking around will only create more bad blood and more trauma to overcome between you. Let go. There are other men who will be an amazing match for you. Bad timing is a thing. If he's truly for you, he'll come back. If he's not, trust me there's somebody 10 times better for you
Am I the only woman that get cheated on and I'm one& done 😮 you will not tell me twice you don't care about me
nope not you alone. there are no second chances with me.
If I even hear cheating rumors I'm out it's the ultimate form of disrespect
💯💅
The son and mom have a distant relationship and so do the groom and his adoptive mom. The son walked in and barely acknowledged the mom or her cheating husband
I wonder if it is because he was upset to see his mom with the ex- husband
When someone put glue on the repeat 🔁 button.. now both your fingers stuck!!!🥴..Dang!!!
So not only circling the block, but no one knows about them being engaged and didnt even meet during their marriage.
Its a no from me Dawg, a SERIOUS no!!!!!
I’m sorry, this is foolish. To jump right into something new after her first marriage and then divorce him to jump right back in with him again without working on any issues is the definition of insanity!
I've been divorced for ages and single for ages. When I tell you I love my peace and freedom in all aspects of my life - from my money, to my mind to my time. I'm in my mid 40s and no plans to get married. I'm not even dating and I'm not worried. LOL!!. Why you ask...I LOVE MY PEACE!!!
She didn’t even hug her own son when he came in
I don't like how they made her seem as if she was the problem for his issues. This man made a choice not to heal from his grief and then continued to use it as a crutch, and she made a choice to ride along both are not acceptable. He needs to take accountability for his healing.
He probably uses his brokenness to attract women.
Right
"i had a problem reaching out to past friends and what not" lol. Your exes and other chix
Is real love when you meet somebody and forget your standards ? Whew 😮💨
👏🏽 ❤
This is a cute couple, but a mess.
He invited family he aint see for years? He never took this seriously. He dosent care about their opioion
multiple entanglements are a bridge he uses when the grief gets to much...he does need to grieve and love someone else like he loved his momma
She is in loved with the outside of Christopher but they both have trauma. I don’t even see any kind of connection with her son . They both need to heal from the past built up within themselves
She shouldn’t marry him.
Why is she allowing him to destroy her kids again?
She's the one destroying her own kids
She’s a pick me
Those after show updates be WILD! 😳
The son has more sense than both of them put together 😂
Chris body language is a whole red flag. The eye rolling he does says that he is very immature.
Let me keep watching, though
I knew as soon as they brought the Dr. R in that they knew what his disorder is...he's a narcissist and will never change. I hope Miah learns all the signs of each level of narcissism so she won't end up with another one.
Never remarry your ex.
He's not connected. He is not showing her any pda. I hope he gets help too
I’m old school and that hat would NOT be at my dinner table.
Ok
😊
Wait, did the son just walk past them without greeting or hugging them 😮😢
He saw what was up and said nope 😂
Wait! How do you marry someone but have never met their family
It's always a lose lose trying to communicate with people who takes EVERYTHING as an attack. You could cry and whisper and it wouldn't matter.....just walk away!!!
The trauma explains the behavior
it is the eyes 🤣🤣🤣🤣
He has crazy eyes bump the color.
That man is in turmoil by his grief
People take a good look. This was a raw look at Trauma Bonding as a Couple.
I hate when people try to make up excuses for a cheater😢
She stuck too she needs self esteem boosters because she knows how bad this man is for her but she still trying to save him! No work on you first!!!
I don’t think they should be getting married.They have already been married and they just need to see how they get along more.
Chris is so handsome. He needs to take time to process his mother's death. Praying for his journey❤
Wow....healing and wholeness is needed!
I love the outcome. Anything is possible when we are willing to do the work.❤
She is so beautiful
The bride… I don’t like her. She was so in her head about the therapist saying she’s wrong too that she couldn’t even be an emotional support for him during the psychologist counseling session.
5 min. in and I'm already seeing tears not a good start😢
Both of them were walking red flags to each other...he met her out while she's getting over an ex...she married this man while healing from an ex and was okay with this person accepting you unhealed
There is so much.....so much love in this family and there are prayer warriors in the mist. Amen and may God continue to love on them as individuals and if it's in his will to great husband and wife to each other.
She’s afraid of being alone and running back to what’s familiar. He isn’t healed or different. Doesn’t provide anything she needs but agreed to an engagement. Crazy
This is a lesson that its not always the man in the relationship that causes issues...women has things to work on as well...
Damn he looks like Pastor Toure Robert’s. Wow 😳
Knew I wasn’t trippin
He's a cheater like Touré, too!
this is a hot mess
PLEASE UPDATE ME WITH THEM I LOVED THIS EPISODE 😢❤
They ended up breaking up. She is now married to someone else.
Update was at the end of the show
If you have to hide the engagement that is the first issue.I dont understand why people don't take the time to heal and work on themselves before quickly moving on.
Best decision, so courageous of both of them 💕
😂😂😂😂 bro just give up and move tf on
So she met him while celebrating her divorce??? Let me be easy, this is hardly worth any other energy, what a mess.
Glad she was smart enough not to remarry him.😊
let's acknowledge the actual ending of this episode. he went right back to cheating and ignoring his grief. smh
Chris’ lights are on but nobody’s home
Whew! I see myself in Miah. The fixer and the overcompensator and the loving someone in a way i hope they observe and love me back. I hope she finds her peace before pursuing another relationship.
That man hasn’t addressed his grief & childhood trauma in therapy so he will never be a good husband
Come whole healed and healthy before getting into a relationship. Work on yourself. Be accountable ❤
Define whole…. Cause who knows when they are whole
Girl walk away
10 mins in and I'm out .. lady stop the foolishness. Y oh y do people put themselves through such bs
Never return to the thing that broke you in the first place
Yeah this whole situation is crazy
This one is the best one I’ve seen!
The fact that they got engaged a 2nd time and are on this show means they do love each other but just need help to make the marriage work a 2nd time. Marriage is no ball in the park. It takes work!!!
Sometimes you just gotta let it go! Health is more important✌🏼
I’m sorry, for her son to walk in and not acknowledge them is weird behavior. If there’s something deep, then either talk about it on the show, or he shouldn’t have been the one to come! That was disrespectful
WHY CHRIS, WHY?!!!! At first I thought their decision was for the best but wow after reading the update.
Watching these episodes shows me why divorce rate is so high. Also the slow pace im taking for marriage. These people should not be getting married. None of them so far
They both needs therapy for the pass traumas
Red flags . I'm separated now because of how husband didn't know how to communicate and just shuts down even when I was crying
? Why go back to a once broken relationship! They both must like it torture
How does one that operate in the ability to improve relationships believe that people are the same? Questionable show.