This is my first solo video, recorded over six weeks, where I share what's been happening. It was a different experience with me in control of filming, editing, etc. Thank you for being here with us. We can't thank you enough for this community here on UA-cam.
Dear friends! In Russia, the UA-cam platform is currently slowing down; they plan to block it in the fall. This is explained by alleged technical problems with the equipment, as there has been no update for two years. Im sad. 😢
Thank you sharing so openly. I think you’re discovering important things about yourself and what you need in your relationship. Much love to you and Adam. 😘💕❤️. 🇧🇷🏳️🌈🇺🇸 Steven
....My Babies......(10:22).... you've given me so much joy in your Union, but if you need to look after yourselves, it's best to do so....... This One was a toughie, but, you've created "Steps" that MANY can enjoy, when it comes to *REAL LOVE* .....stay Strong, B. ......
So sorry that you two are going through these hard times. My partner and I also faced a rough patch after seven years together in 1978. We decided to give each other private space. I left with a backpack and headed for South America. I wandered for eight months by myself, always missing Bill but grateful for the time to explore myself in the world. When I returned, we realized that we were truly meant for each other. We never separated again until he died two years ago. We were together for 51 amazing years.
I wish the best for the both of you and that everything works out for how it is supposed to be. You guys have given me hope over the time I've followed you that I can one day have that kind of love that you have shown each other and how you have supported each other and kept communication open and civil. Again I wish you both the best and that you find your way back to each other and being the best you can be together for each other. ❤
I met my partner at aged 18, he was 28 at the time. 52 years later I’m 70 in 3 weeks time and he’s just turned 80. If you want a relationship to last, you really have to work at it, you both have to be able to compromise, ultimately be honest and truthful. Big secret, give each other space to breathe.
Bạn nói đúng, chúng ta chỉ sống có một lần và bạn không bao giờ trẻ lại một lần nữa, hãy trung thực và tin tưởng lẫn nhau, tôi rất lấy làm tiếc cho các bạn trước mắt tôi thấy hơi buồn ,(vầng trăng ai xẻ làm đôi, Nửa in gối chiếc nửa soi dặm trường)
Tôi đồng ý với bạn, chúng ta cần phải trung thực và tin tưởng lẫn nhau, bởi vì chúng ta chỉ sống có một lần, và bạn không bao giờ trẻ lại một lần nữa đâu, thấy hơi buồn cho hai em, có ai đã từng nói tình yêu của những người đồng tính không bền vững, tôi nghĩ không phải như thế, ở nam và nữ cũng vậy, tất cả đều ở chúng ta mà thôi, tôi 60 tuổi rồi vẫn độc thân vui vẻ, vậy muốn tìm một người cùng nhau đi hết con đường quả thật là khó? Vậy cứ hy vọng và chờ đợi ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing so much. I’m from USA. I married a Brazilian man in Brazil last year. We’ve been staying in Brazil since my husband has no desire to be in USA. I relate a lot to the feelings you shared here.
Under the emotions you express, I feel there’s a huge relief that you feel being away from your marriage and living in a remote disconnected Oregon. Stay in Brazil for a while, you need it.
Hey Bernardo, my name is Claudio, I’ve been following you and Adam since the beginning. You guys have a very similar life together as me and my husband. Getting even funnier is the fact I am from BH and am also in a relationship with an American, the diference is we are together for about 25 years now and can tell you we went through almost everything you are going through now. You guys life is incredibly inspiring, for me it is also a recap of lots of things that happened with me as well. This note is to tell you, you are not alone on this life journey, believe me, I was very surprised to know you have such similar experience as mine. Hang in there, now is when things will define your life together or not, I am cheering for “together”, cheering for whatever is the best and great for you both…… I will be in Brazil for vacation and visiting family for almost all September, who knows if you still would be there and we can get to know each other, let me know if it is possible! Sincerely…..
HI Bernardo, Like Claudio, my partner and I have been following you from the beginning as well. We pray that all goes well. At times individuals forget who they were prior to being in a relationship. It is important to find yourself again; but at the same time remember when your involved /Married ; 2 individuals must compromise and become one unity. but not losing who they are. Hope this made sense. FYI we understand Machismo mentality being that we are Puerto Rican and Ecuadorian . "Deus Abencoe Sempre"
Everyone needs time apart. time for own self back to roots healing come you guys can work out thru your differences keep positive wishing you a healing journey all the best
Hello Bernado hope that you are doing well as Adam , you guys have so much love for each other and both of you have been through a lot in your relationship, but remember it is your love for each other that has brought you all through some darkest times. Never give up on each other because you to are meant to be together.
Your first solo video was excellent, if not a little sad, Bernardo. Relationships are a constant work in progress. Here's hoping you can find peace with yourself and come to a better place with Adam. Love you!
Bernardo, thank you for giving us a deeper look into your life, and showing us how life isn't always perfect. Your work on this video is amazing, and you have a natural talent for video-making. I hope all goes well for you both, and will always watch your videos.
Bernardo, I cried during part of your beautiful video. I hope with all my heart you and Adam can mend and start a fresh new journey together. Longing for your happiness together 💓
Bernardo...my heart breaks for you, my friend 💔 When you cried 😭 But, you and Adam are strong individuals and I know you care deeply for each other. You and Henry shared a special bond and I know losing him was like losing a child. You're a GIVER Bernardo, and sometimes 'givers' lose themselves in giving to others. Take time, grieve, reflect, and never be afraid to share your emotions. Reach out to family and friends. I pray that you will feel better soon. Sending hugs and love from Canada 🇨🇦 And, your 1st video was great...just so very sad 😢
What an amazing video 😍😍, thank you man !! As a French/moroccan, visited about 20 countries but Brazil is my favourite country in this world !! I love this country. I'm in love with this country.
I respect and appreciate that you are being honest, open and vulnerable!!!!! My heart goes out to the both of you! I lost my brother last year and the grief hasn’t hit me this hard since I had a breakdown at his funeral! It comes in waves! It helped to see you crying because I understood clearly how you were feeling! I hope this time apart brings you both back together stronger than before! You’ve both been through so much and have inspired me and so many others! Stay strong! Keep fighting for your love!!!!
Bernardo, this was a beautiful video although a sad story. But toward the end it sounded so full of healing and therapeutic as you reconnected with your roots. I hope you continue to take the time you need to rediscover who you are and learn more about you that you have yet to discover. You are a beautiful soul and in time you will figure things out about your relationship. I wish you all the best and will keep following you. ❤
Hey Bernardo, I relate to you as a Bi National who spent half my life in France and half in the USA. I used to watch you two alot. I've often found that their seems to be one adult and one child in your relationship. Sometimes it's hard to let go or leave a situation when you are used to it. I was shocked at Adam's sudden revelation of his addiction(s). I also found his physical transformation shocking. Once, at your age I came over from Paris, met a great person and after a while we bought an apartment together in Manhattan and moved in. I later found out he had an addiction problem and other harmful things. Thus I owned an apartment with an unstable person with whom I was unhappy . I left him and our apartment , even as he begged me to stay. I left it to the lawyers to untangle. I went on to find a really stable person brought up in the church who was somebody admirable. I am certain that you and Adam will work things out, and your fans would wish for that. I, however would suggest that healthy relationships do not call for seperate " cool down periods " and you may want to consider if their is not a brighter future for you qui n'est pas avec votre mari. Bon courage.
Bernardo, Do not be hard on yourself. Do what You need to do, and what is best for You. You define who you are and what you want out of life. Do not settle to be in a relationship . If you want in with someone, fight. If you want out , step away. It is better to be alone, at this moment in time, as you reconcile your place in this world than to be with someone who is causing you to become broken. Time does heal as does the Universe.
Brothers - there IS NO SUCH thing as an Ideal relationship. You both have a love for each other that, in its core is beautiful. The life goal is interdependence - that goal comes with lots of growing pains. Blessings.
I really wish that I could speak to you both. I'm an older man. I've been through two long term relationships and would kill to have what you have. Relationships change with time, that's normal. Don't give up. If you break up, the next relationship might be the same. If you love each other, fix it. All the best for whatever you choose to do.
Hi Bernardo, thanks for sharing. I hope you enjoy being home and your soul searching is exactly what you need. Life is certainly not for the faint hearted but how lucky are well all! Stay true to yourselves. ❤️🌹what a beautiful and authentic place Brazil is.
Thank you for sharing your story and your beautiful hometown. May both you and Adam have peace, ease, and insight as you navigate this moment in your lives.
Thanks Bernardo for sharing. I live in the UK and my Brazilian husband is currently in BH and it was so nice to see all the places he has been telling me about. I live BH and hope to visit again soon. Stay well, losing Henry is a trauma in itself and I have experienced that loss and what it brings up in one’s relationship xx
Love and light to you and Adam. You are the first couple that made me realize that i'm not asking for too much when it comes to love and relationships, that it's possible to love and have that love reciprocated just as much. Through this trying time, keep the vows and lean on each other more. Let this time remind you of all that you've conquered together. You are not alone. We're here rooting for you as the Steps family. With love, from Africa💌
Love to you Bernardo. You will be fine and stronger on the other side of this life altering process. Keep loving life and remain true to yourself. You are a beautiful and kind soul.
I really felt this. I hope when you and Adam reconnect again you're able to show the affection you desire to show him. It has felt like, for a while, that you hold back to make his family more comfortable with your relationship and I've never liked that. You deserve to show your affection for each other the way that makes you happy. Give each other a passionate kiss, hold each other when you want, cuddle up, all the things. I hope you guys get to that point again soon. 💛💛💛
Hi Bernardo nice video. When you were crying my heart was breaking for you and wanted to tell you that you will find peace within yourself. Once you do that just remember what you told Adam in your wedding vows you said when you are in darkness I will bring you to the light. The same goes for him and you will bring each other to the light. I'm praying for you both that you both will find peace and come back together as one true love. Take care and know that you both are loved. Angelo
I have seen u supressing your feeling or more precise your authentic self ,i never wanted to say tht now through these clips i see some true feelings coming out , all we want is authentic Bernardo and not pretentious one . We all know things will get better . ❤❤
❤❤Here's to healing for both of you and realizing that this separation isn't forever. You deserve one another, meant for one another. Time is what you both need. Just don't let time slip away from this great relationship. Peace to you both.
Oh dear, this is so sad to see. I have been following you guys for so many years and you have been through so much together. I understand you needing your own space, my fear is that the longer this goes on the more acclimatised you will become to living separate lives. Finding a shared middle ground and a way forward is very difficult from two different countries so far apart. I wish you guys all the very best and I really hope you manage to work it all out, together. God bless xx
I imagine they would almost have to reconnect my dating again, rather than going right back to married life. Or maybe Adam can visit Bernardo in Brazil and see how that goes. They will figure things out in time
Bernardo Só o fato de vc estar olhando pra dentro , e encontrando seus medos, já vai te transformar. Já tenho 65 anos e ao longo da vida descobri que quando vc se basta na solidão, nada vem do outro; tudo está em nós, o que acontece fora foi vc que criou dentro. Segue teu coração e encontre o teu centro, daí por diante o Adam não vai ser um complemento da tua existência, vão ser uma expansão e se tornaram um relacionamento ainda maior. Amo muito vcs juntos e torço para que o melhor chegue a vcs. Beijo Grande
Bernardo, great video! I too lost my soul dog of 14 years this past April. She gave me purpose in life. I have struggled immensely since. I can totally relate to what you are dealing with on many levels. I lift both you and Adam up during these rough times. Just know we are behind you both, love you both wrapping my arms around you both. You will get through this, you are a strong person ❤
So much love to you, Bernardo. Thank you for being so open and honest; that takes bravery. As I see things, there’s only one “side” for anyone outside your marriage to choose: supportive of your health and happiness (both of you) … or not. I certainly know where I stand, and it’s in the same place I always have. ♥️ May you achieve the goals you’ve set during this time, find healing and new hope, and extend grace to yourselves and each other.
So sorry to here about this devastating news Barnardo !! We 🙏🙏🙏 for you and your family !!! May God be with you in this time !!! All our love !❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏
Bernardo! I always love you and you will get through this! I always felt you were trying to make Adam more happy than yourself but I feel that you should take time for yourself and than pleasing others from what I saw! You got this Bernardo! Rooting for you! ❤
Bernardo, I am so sorry you and Adam are going through difficult times! I hope everything is resolved soon. I appreciate your willingness to share your thoughts. Opening up to others, especially online, takes enormous courage and I don’t think I could do it. Watching this video was difficult because I hate to see people hurting, but I finally made it to the end. Brazil is beautiful. I loved seeing all the cultural diversity. Thank you for sharing your home country with us. Take care and I hope your marital situation is improving. I love watching your (you and Adam) videos. ❤❤❤❤❤
Every relationship always seems to go through difficult times just please don’t give up on one another. You guys make me see exactly what I want. You guys the perfect relationship you get there a little time of heart at times but your love and your heart will never change each other. You have a strong family and Adam has a very strong and supportive family. Keep your heads up. We are all here for you. Hope to chat with you soon.
Bernardo...so glad to see you are taking care of yourself and finding your center again. You did a great job with the video and I am sure you will find your way on life's journey!!!
Hey there Bernardo, this was truly an awesome video. Gives an insight about yourself, your personality. Usually you are in the background....but now, it is time to tell your story. I enjoyed watching this especially with snippets of Brazil, as it is. I truly feel for the emotions you are going through, really makes your true self shine, of how wonderful and loving nature that you have. It always gets hard before it gets better...Keep on going Bernardo...all the way from New Zealand sending love.
Life is not a straight line. It is a challenging rocky terrains with mountains to climb, oceans to swim, paths to discover. This is just a bump on the path. You’ve got this !
Thanks for sharing. Relationships aren’t easy but you both seem to have the fortitude to move forward and put in the work. This video helped me put perspective on my relationship and how to move forward. Thank you. I wish you both the best.
Bernardo, thank you for a wonderful, heartfelt video. It is my hope that you and Adam will reach the right point where you will be able to get back together and live a peaceful, loving life.
Wow what a powerful honest sharing of your emotions and life! Thank you for letting us in. ❤ The romantic topic aside, I have never been to Brazil and it was so fun and interesting to see and get a glimpse into living there!! I loved this!
You did a great job putting together the video, Bernardo!! Having said that, it was very hard to watch!! I'm so sorry that both you and Adam are going through this pain in your relationship!! To see you crying broke my heart!! Love and Peace to both of you as navigate through this situation!! Prayers, 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤❤❤
Bernardo, so good to see you on the video. Sorry you and Adam are apart now, hoping you will find your way back to each other ! God Bless You and keep you strong
Excellent job on the video. Sometimes the trauma is just too great to overcome. I think you staying in Brazil for that long, your mind and body are telling you something. Your are a beautiful are loving person and I understand the need for the cuddling and body contact, being the same and an Italiano, I yearn for this as well.. Will continue to follow you.
Bernardo, my heart goes to you and wish for only the best for you and Adam. It’s really hurt my feelings knowing that you both are not together for the time being. But I really really hope that everything will be ok and you guys will be back together soon. I’ve always ALWAYS on your side and wish for the happiness to you both. Sending love & support from far away…💕💕💕💕💕
i am missing them already holding each other love kissing yes tapping Bernardo on his butt i love that it means he is still madly in love with each other showing love in the public that means it is still there do not give up on each other i am still supporting both of you and Bernardo and Adam
Life can be messy at times, and grieving for Henry, who was part of you and your family, is a process. There is only one thing that will ease the pain, and that is time. Give that to yourself; you deserve it and you will come out on the other side the better for it and a new version of you. Seeing you cry for your loss made me actually hurt, I could feel your pain. Just remember that you are not alone. Wishing you both the very best .
I hope that the two of you are able to work through your differences. I know that there is a lot of information that we do not know about the 2 of you as there should be, but with that said, I hope you decide that the relationship is worth saving. I started watching your videos from the beginning when you 2 were chasing waterfalls. It just scares me that you've been gone this long and I do not see an end in sight. I wish you all the love in the world...
It's not just a relationship, it's a marriage, and that commitment should give an extra nudge to trying to figure out how to be a better married couple. But it ultimately has to be a healthy marriage of course. We noticed too that this separation is getting very long. When Bernardo said it was time to leave that apartment, we thought he was going to return home, but then he said he wanted to get a better furnished apartment, so that is definitely a step towards more independence. Anyway, it's a journey so many ppl have to go through, and everyone deserves to be authentic and happy.
@@jonwiley2592true, and in addition to legal rights, marriage also includes a public pledge to lifelong commitment, which gives it more weight than a casual relationship
Hello Bernardo!! Thank you for showing use you. Thank you for sharing your feelings and your emotions. I hope both of you guys found a piece and the love within yourself because y’all are both magical. I’ve been with y’all for a long time, I have enjoyed every video that y’all have put out. I just want to say I love you guys and I hope everything works out, and you always have each other for the rest of your lives.
Bernardo, it’s difficult to see yall go through this. Sending big hugs. I’m sure yall will find the best outcome for your situation. Just glad you’re taking care of yourself, and finding yourself. Your videos of Brazil make me want to move there (except I don’t speak Portuguese. 😎 PS - please don’t feel obligated to post videos but you’re missed when we don’t see them. 💜
Good luck for you both. When my husband, 26 years now, had our biggest falling out ever, we decided that no matter what, we know we always want to be together. For the rest of our lives. As you said; you have a strong foundation and that’ll really help. My heart goes out to you both and be strong.
Marriage is probably the hardest job you have. It's a lot of work. Just don't give up. Some time alone will help. Keep talking and keep the communication open. Hoping and wishing you both the very best. Love 💘you both.
Thank you for sharing what you's having been going through. I hope things get better for the both of you's! Also, you did really well on the filming and editing, i can't wait to see more from you's separately and together. 💕
Bernardo, sorry to see you like that, don't stay on your own for long I'm sure you willbe back together soon. Text if you need to talk to someone. You are always welcome here in England to help sort things out, Take care my friend. . X
Bernardo, absolutamente tudo tem seu tempo. Por isso, pode ter certeza de que o melhor para vocês acabará acontecendo e se mostrando. Geralmente não sou de comentar nos vídeos do UA-cam de nenhum canal, mas dessa vez não tive outra escolha. Assisti seu vídeo com lágrimas nos olhos. Primeiro porque me importo demais com você e com o Adam, mas, além disso, tudo o que você filmou me trouxe uma nostalgia de como fui feliz em BH. Os melhores e os piores momentos da minha vida passei por aí. Se não fosse o emprego já teria voltado para BH certamente. Morando tão longe só consigo sentir saudades de como é morar em uma cidade viva, com pessoas caminhando nas calçadas, frequentando bares, ver as manifestações culturais com música, além da diversidade de pessoas. As vezes o barulho incomoda? Certamente. Contudo, os pequenos ruídos (de pessoas conversando na rua, do carro da pamonha passando, de cachorros aprontando, ou mesmo de festas ocorrendo na vizinhança) me fazem uma tremenda falta. Sentir que a cidade está viva, que há pessoas além de mim, saber que não estou sozinho naquele ambiente, é algo que me acalenta (não sei explicar muito bem, o que me provoca esse sentimento). Enfim, é uma cidade que tem meu coração. Uma zona urbana tão grande, mas que conta com uma Serra do Curral tão imponente, com parques e mirantes tão belos. Hoje em dia vejo fotos da região da divisa de Nova Lima com BH e também fico surpreso ao ver o crescimento vertical. Além disso, meus amigos falam que muita coisa mudou nesses últimos 15 anos. O preconceito ainda existe, claro, mas no geral é uma cidade que tem se tornado muito mais receptiva para a população LGBT. Parte disso acaba sendo justificado pelas novas gerações, que vão crescendo com mentes mais abertas para outras possibilidades de manifestações do amor. Só a questão dos homens héteros se chamarem de “viado” que é algo que eu ainda não consigo conceber, mas que acaba sendo certo vício de linguagem. Se cuide por aí, respeite seu tempo e fique com minha torcida para que tudo se resolva. Todo amor do mundo para você e para o Adam.
I enjoyed this gift from you so much, sweet Bernardo! I was sad when it was over, and can’t wait to see where you go next. Wherever life takes you, know that we will always be in your heart, as you are in ours. Adam, as well of course. Life is a long time for the fortunate; the good Lord meant for us to live it to the fullest and to find others to enjoy it with. You and Adam are so lucky; some people live their whole life never finding their “one”. You are very different people from such different cultures. You have both learned and shown the Steps Family that we are really all very similar in wants and needs no matter where we live. You’ll decide what matters the most to you; what you need to be happy and fulfilled. I’m so glad you took this time to yourself to try to sort out these issues. Two big recent losses have occurred to complicate things. I feel like this trip home has helped you deal with your grief. You seem lighter, less stressed to me. Being around family and friends has been obviously so good for you. Take all the time you need. You and Adam will figure it out together. He misses and loves you so much and I know you feel the same about him. I wish you the best for the remainder of your trip, and I wish you and Adam peace and joy in your lives going forward. Love and big hugs, sugar. I loved seeing your vibrant hometown! Get a bed, Bro!😁🤗❤️Harriet
dear bernardo, i know how difficult trauma and loss can be. been with you since the inception of your channel. you said during your emotional release, "sometimes it feels like a lot." it HAS been alot. from your father during covid, to your niece, then henry to now you and adam's relationship. it IS a lot. continue allowing yourself to grieve and treat yourself well during the process like you always have. need to take time to heal and get strong before life throws another curveball. allowing ourselves to grieve and process makes us stronger for what is to come. hang in there and stay safe and blessed. love and prayers from a loyal viewer 0:020:02
Adding up … I got married 4 months ago and the country I come from, it doesn’t allow gay marriages which means I had to leave the country in order to get married & guess what I did that, I came to the US, left my life behind, my family, home, gave up my 18 years of career from the aviation industry and I was well established and I thank god for giving me all of this and my husband was with me in all tough times where we both were in 2 different countries, However our problems started almost immediately after the marriage and I and my husband we both started getting depressed to a point that I can’t write here. “I know there is always a sunrise” but being a different country and having to feel left alone at home physically, emotionally and mentally kills me Every minute and there is no one to talk and cry. I sensed your pain resonated with mine in some way and I always wish you both luck to be together soon. My journey of being left alone is just started and I still love my husband because I can’t help myself from not loving him😥😥😥 Request your viewers for prayers towards our marriage and for my husbands emotional wellness Please
Very good video Bernardo. I really appreciate your sharing it. I love that you guys have stepped back and are evaluating where you are in your relationship and where you want to be. Your hometown in Brazil looks awesome! Connecting with your true self is definitely the path to successfully navigating through where you find yourself. I look forward to seeing your continued growth and however to decide to proceed. Godspeed! 💌
Relationships are full of ups and downs. Please give each other some grace. I hope you both can eventually come back together. Love is more rare than we realize. I'm rooting for your love.
It's difficult to be a spouse or partner of someone with chronic mental or physical health issues, especially if you have a caretaker personality. Compound that with broadcasting your life online and the loss of loved ones, and life can get overwhelming. It doesn't mean you love them any less to take a break.
Dear Bernardo, your first solo video left me very inspired! You are so brave to embark on this solo adventure to find yourself! As a stranger I’m proud of you; you are very honest and raw in this video and I enjoyed being part of your journey and at the same time you motivated me to be brave myself. Sometimes we have to jump into the deep and dark water and hope that we come out alive better and stronger ❤ I wish you all the best and I’m certain that you and Adam will find back to each other ❤
It's refreshing to read a comment like this. I'm one of those who still believes in the sacredness of marriage, and a strong belief with vows between a couple. Vows are one of the guiding principles the help couples ground themselves and believe their 'why' in their marriage, in their partnership.
Sending you lots of hugs Bernardo! Take time for yourself to ground and heal and work things out inside yourself. Everybody needs that sometimes and you took the right step, even if it feels very hard. Hope you and Adam can embrace each other very soon again! ❤
i think it is only temporary Bernardo wants to see his family and friends Adam and Bernardo still love one another it is not going to die down anytime soon
Bernardo, wishing you peace, strength and love as you continue to look deep into your soul and navigate this journey you are on. You have such a good heart and deserve so much joy and happiness in your life! ❤❤
When we are in mourning, whether for the past or something we are still living through, it's important to allow the tears to flow, because they are a form of release. They help us process the pain, so that we can find clarity and understand that, even in the midst of darkness, life goes on and brings new paths. Giving time to a relationship is an opportunity to regain your strength, to take a closer look at yourself, and to realize what truly matters. We all carry scars, and each one tells a story of survival, but we cannot let those marks define our future. I hope this time away brings healing for you, so that you can return stronger and with a lighter heart. Love is a journey, and sometimes, taking a pause is what allows us to move forward with more wisdom.
Excellent video Bernardo! It is good to see "Y💛U" Your vulnerability is beautiful and endearing You and Adam hold such individual uniqueness Stay strong as individuals and you marriage will continually strengthen Much love and peace...
Bernardo, I love you and Adam both as a couple and individuals. Thank you so much for sharing when you didn't have to. I hope both of you find some more inner peace. You're sacrificing now for a better future. Keep working at it and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. All the best!
This is for you both(Bernardo and Adam)...GOD brought you two together as a couple don't allow any one or any thing to break that, including family/friends/personal feelings that does not accommodate the growth of you two as one. Y'all need to get back to what y'all enjoyed together, get back to when y'all where in Brazil and dating, get back to the happy times...but this time do it without the help of negative medication. As a family member on the outside looking in over the past 7 years, I believe y'all need to get away from where y'all live(honestly the states might not be for y'all)...Move to a place where it is easy for y'all too travel and work, get to water(Oceans, Beaches, Lakes, and Waterfalls)...Get back to the things that bring y'all bought joy and happiness as a couple...also get back to the relationship like y'all once had which was one full of affection and love, since y'all have been here in the states y'all have gotten away from that a lot...But take a little more time apart and then get back to work on fixing the broken pieces of the relationship which "can not be done individually"...Remember you can work on being one together while also working on yourself as an individual but you can't keep separating and running away. Love Y'all ❤ and let's get back to work **A&B 4eva and Always**
Thank you for sharing your story, Bernardo ❤ I have been a subscriber on this channel since December 2020, and I must say that I always felt that you need to be more open and vocal (as far as is comfortable for you, of course). You are one of those sweet souls who keeps on giving until you are depleted. You keep on bending yourself over backward to support and please those around you. Over the last 2 years, you have improved a lot in being able to put yourself first. This is great. Keep on working on that. All the best to you on your journey. Lotsa love ❤
I already commented on Patreon but I would like to add something. For me there is no doubt that the two of you belong together. Going through a tough time in a relationship is quite normal. I know I've been there a few times in my 25 year relationship and marriage with my husband. Please don't give up on each other and Even though I'm repeating myself from previous posts, don't forget your wedding vows. Marriage is also about compromises without losing yourself. Love you guys.
Foreigners not in step, maybe the name of this particular video. As a casual and only occasional observer of your projected world, I have noticed a vibrancy from 8 years ago slowly dim over the trials of life. My only exhortation I encourage is "what is the sound of your own voice?" What makes you feel vibrant and where do you feel most vibrant?
Bernardo estamos contigo ❤ Espero que você consiga encontrar a paz e a si mesmo nessa volta ao Lar, pois o Brasil sempre será sua casa ❤ Sei que é difícil esse processo ainda mais estando junto de alguém por muitos anos sem ninguém perto e isso eu digo de ciclo social, mas continue firme que as coisas vão melhorar e talvez seja bom fazer terapia com alguém brasileiro, pois talvez a conexão com o idioma materno ajuda em você se soltar e conseguir dizer tudo o que sente
Loved the video Bernardo. Wish nothing but health and happiness for you and Adam. It really moved me when you talked about being an affectonate passionate person and having to alter this part of you in the relationship or reach common ground with your partner. I can relate. Try to get that part back and make no apologies for it I say ❤
This is my first solo video, recorded over six weeks, where I share what's been happening. It was a different experience with me in control of filming, editing, etc. Thank you for being here with us. We can't thank you enough for this community here on UA-cam.
Dear friends! In Russia, the UA-cam platform is currently slowing down; they plan to block it in the fall. This is explained by alleged technical problems with the equipment, as there has been no update for two years. Im sad. 😢
Thank you sharing so openly. I think you’re discovering important things about yourself and what you need in your relationship. Much love to you and Adam.
😘💕❤️. 🇧🇷🏳️🌈🇺🇸
Steven
....My Babies......(10:22).... you've given me so much joy in your Union, but if you need to look after yourselves, it's best to do so....... This One was a toughie, but, you've created "Steps" that MANY can enjoy, when it comes to *REAL LOVE* .....stay Strong, B. ......
It’s hard for me either because I feel my friends are pushing me away from their life ❤😊
Bernardo, you and Adam are in my heart and thoughts as you go through this evolution in your relationship. Love you.❤
So sorry that you two are going through these hard times.
My partner and I also faced a rough patch after seven years together in 1978. We decided to give each other private space. I left with a backpack and headed for South America. I wandered for eight months by myself, always missing Bill but grateful for the time to explore myself in the world.
When I returned, we realized that we were truly meant for each other. We never separated again until he died two years ago. We were together for 51 amazing years.
I wish the best for the both of you and that everything works out for how it is supposed to be. You guys have given me hope over the time I've followed you that I can one day have that kind of love that you have shown each other and how you have supported each other and kept communication open and civil.
Again I wish you both the best and that you find your way back to each other and being the best you can be together for each other. ❤
Awesome story. Be well. 🙏✌️
Wow. Great story. I hope you felling Good.
Wow
I really love hearing from people who have been in very long-term relationships. Your perspectives are so valuable.
I met my partner at aged 18, he was 28 at the time. 52 years later I’m 70 in 3 weeks time and he’s just turned 80. If you want a relationship to last, you really have to work at it, you both have to be able to compromise, ultimately be honest and truthful. Big secret, give each other space to breathe.
Congratulations guys 🎉❤
Yes! ❤ the secret of sharing a life together!
Bạn nói đúng, chúng ta chỉ sống có một lần và bạn không bao giờ trẻ lại một lần nữa, hãy trung thực và tin tưởng lẫn nhau, tôi rất lấy làm tiếc cho các bạn trước mắt tôi thấy hơi buồn ,(vầng trăng ai xẻ làm đôi,
Nửa in gối chiếc nửa soi dặm trường)
Tôi đồng ý với bạn, chúng ta cần phải trung thực và tin tưởng lẫn nhau, bởi vì chúng ta chỉ sống có một lần, và bạn không bao giờ trẻ lại một lần nữa đâu, thấy hơi buồn cho hai em, có ai đã từng nói tình yêu của những người đồng tính không bền vững, tôi nghĩ không phải như thế, ở nam và nữ cũng vậy, tất cả đều ở chúng ta mà thôi, tôi 60 tuổi rồi vẫn độc thân vui vẻ, vậy muốn tìm một người cùng nhau đi hết con đường quả thật là khó? Vậy cứ hy vọng và chờ đợi ❤❤❤
The space part if vital, always together is okay but each of them should have their personal space
Thank you for sharing so much. I’m from USA. I married a Brazilian man in Brazil last year. We’ve been staying in Brazil since my husband has no desire to be in USA. I relate a lot to the feelings you shared here.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I so appreciate your vulnerability and honesty. Sending you both positive thoughts.
Under the emotions you express, I feel there’s a huge relief that you feel being away from your marriage and living in a remote disconnected Oregon.
Stay in Brazil for a while, you need it.
Hey Bernardo, my name is Claudio, I’ve been following you and Adam since the beginning. You guys have a very similar life together as me and my husband. Getting even funnier is the fact I am from BH and am also in a relationship with an American, the diference is we are together for about 25 years now and can tell you we went through almost everything you are going through now. You guys life is incredibly inspiring, for me it is also a recap of lots of things that happened with me as well. This note is to tell you, you are not alone on this life journey, believe me, I was very surprised to know you have such similar experience as mine. Hang in there, now is when things will define your life together or not, I am cheering for “together”, cheering for whatever is the best and great for you both…… I will be in Brazil for vacation and visiting family for almost all September, who knows if you still would be there and we can get to know each other, let me know if it is possible! Sincerely…..
HI Bernardo, Like Claudio, my partner and I have been following you from the beginning as well. We pray that all goes well. At times individuals forget who they were prior to being in a relationship. It is important to find yourself again; but at the same time remember when your involved /Married ; 2 individuals must compromise and become one unity. but not losing who they are. Hope this made sense. FYI we understand Machismo mentality being that we are Puerto Rican and Ecuadorian . "Deus Abencoe Sempre"
Same my family very homophobies
Everyone needs time apart. time for own self back to roots healing come you guys can work out thru your differences keep positive wishing you a healing journey all the best
Bernardo stay true to yourself, first❤
Hello Bernado hope that you are doing well as Adam , you guys have so much love for each other and both of you have been through a lot in your relationship, but remember it is your love for each other that has brought you all through some darkest times. Never give up on each other because you to are meant to be together.
Your first solo video was excellent, if not a little sad, Bernardo. Relationships are a constant work in progress. Here's hoping you can find peace with yourself and come to a better place with Adam. Love you!
Bernardo, thank you for giving us a deeper look into your life, and showing us how life isn't always perfect. Your work on this video is amazing, and you have a natural talent for video-making. I hope all goes well for you both, and will always watch your videos.
I agree with you, he's a solid storyteller. The editing and voiceovers were very well done. 🙂
You are both loved and embraced by your community., ❤
Stay strong Bernardo, you are an awesome person. Love and happiness will follow you, take care!❤
Bernardo,
I cried during part of your beautiful video.
I hope with all my heart you and Adam can mend and start a fresh new journey together.
Longing for your happiness together 💓
Bernardo...my heart breaks for you, my friend 💔 When you cried 😭 But, you and Adam are strong individuals and I know you care deeply for each other. You and Henry shared a special bond and I know losing him was like losing a child. You're a GIVER Bernardo, and sometimes 'givers' lose themselves in giving to others. Take time, grieve, reflect, and never be afraid to share your emotions. Reach out to family and friends. I pray that you will feel better soon. Sending hugs and love from Canada 🇨🇦 And, your 1st video was great...just so very sad 😢
What an amazing video 😍😍, thank you man !!
As a French/moroccan, visited about 20 countries but Brazil is my favourite country in this world !!
I love this country.
I'm in love with this country.
Grief sometimes makes reevaluate many things. It’s a good time to figure what matters. Thinking positive thoughts for both of you❤
I respect and appreciate that you are being honest, open and vulnerable!!!!! My heart goes out to the both of you! I lost my brother last year and the grief hasn’t hit me this hard since I had a breakdown at his funeral! It comes in waves! It helped to see you crying because I understood clearly how you were feeling! I hope this time apart brings you both back together stronger than before! You’ve both been through so much and have inspired me and so many others! Stay strong! Keep fighting for your love!!!!
❤❤❤
Bernardo, this was a beautiful video although a sad story. But toward the end it sounded so full of healing and therapeutic as you reconnected with your roots. I hope you continue to take the time you need to rediscover who you are and learn more about you that you have yet to discover. You are a beautiful soul and in time you will figure things out about your relationship. I wish you all the best and will keep following you. ❤
Hey Bernardo, I relate to you as a Bi National who spent half my life in France and half in the USA. I used to watch you two alot. I've often found that their seems to be one adult and one child in your relationship.
Sometimes it's hard to let go or leave a situation when you are used to it. I was shocked at Adam's sudden revelation of his addiction(s). I also found his physical transformation shocking.
Once, at your age I came over from Paris, met a great person and after a while we bought an apartment together in Manhattan and moved in. I later found out he had an addiction problem and other harmful things. Thus I owned an apartment with an unstable person with whom I was unhappy . I left him and our apartment , even as he begged me to stay. I left it to the lawyers to untangle.
I went on to find a really stable person brought up in the church who was somebody admirable.
I am certain that you and Adam will work things out, and your fans would wish for that. I, however would suggest that healthy relationships do not call for seperate " cool down periods " and you may want to consider if their is not a brighter future for you qui n'est pas avec votre mari. Bon courage.
Bernardo, Do not be hard on yourself. Do what You need to do, and what is best for You. You define who you are and what you want out of life. Do not settle to be in a relationship . If you want in with someone, fight. If you want out , step away. It is better to be alone, at this moment in time, as you reconcile your place in this world than to be with someone who is causing you to become broken. Time does heal as does the Universe.
Brothers - there IS NO SUCH thing as an Ideal relationship. You both have a love for each other that, in its core is beautiful. The life goal is interdependence - that goal comes with lots of growing pains. Blessings.
Don't forget we also be with you guys no matter what
I really wish that I could speak to you both. I'm an older man. I've been through two long term relationships and would kill to have what you have. Relationships change with time, that's normal. Don't give up. If you break up, the next relationship might be the same. If you love each other, fix it. All the best for whatever you choose to do.
Thank you for sharing so openly, Bernardo. Do what you need to find joy, contentment, and value in your life. You have the strength to do it.
Hi Bernardo, thanks for sharing. I hope you enjoy being home and your soul searching is exactly what you need. Life is certainly not for the faint hearted but how lucky are well all! Stay true to yourselves. ❤️🌹what a beautiful and authentic place Brazil is.
Thank you for sharing your story and your beautiful hometown. May both you and Adam have peace, ease, and insight as you navigate this moment in your lives.
Thanks Bernardo for sharing. I live in the UK and my Brazilian husband is currently in BH and it was so nice to see all the places he has been telling me about. I live BH and hope to visit again soon. Stay well, losing Henry is a trauma in itself and I have experienced that loss and what it brings up in one’s relationship xx
Love and light to you and Adam. You are the first couple that made me realize that i'm not asking for too much when it comes to love and relationships, that it's possible to love and have that love reciprocated just as much. Through this trying time, keep the vows and lean on each other more. Let this time remind you of all that you've conquered together. You are not alone. We're here rooting for you as the Steps family. With love, from Africa💌
Love to you Bernardo. You will be fine and stronger on the other side of this life altering process. Keep loving life and remain true to yourself. You are a beautiful and kind soul.
I really felt this. I hope when you and Adam reconnect again you're able to show the affection you desire to show him. It has felt like, for a while, that you hold back to make his family more comfortable with your relationship and I've never liked that. You deserve to show your affection for each other the way that makes you happy. Give each other a passionate kiss, hold each other when you want, cuddle up, all the things. I hope you guys get to that point again soon. 💛💛💛
Hi Bernardo nice video. When you were crying my heart was breaking for you and wanted to tell you that you will find peace within yourself. Once you do that just remember what you told Adam in your wedding vows you said when you are in darkness I will bring you to the light. The same goes for him and you will bring each other to the light. I'm praying for you both that you both will find peace and come back together as one true love. Take care and know that you both are loved. Angelo
I have seen u supressing your feeling or more precise your authentic self ,i never wanted to say tht now through these clips i see some true feelings coming out , all we want is authentic Bernardo and not pretentious one . We all know things will get better . ❤❤
❤❤Here's to healing for both of you and realizing that this separation isn't forever. You deserve one another, meant for one another. Time is what you both need. Just don't let time slip away from this great relationship.
Peace to you both.
Oh dear, this is so sad to see. I have been following you guys for so many years and you have been through so much together. I understand you needing your own space, my fear is that the longer this goes on the more acclimatised you will become to living separate lives. Finding a shared middle ground and a way forward is very difficult from two different countries so far apart. I wish you guys all the very best and I really hope you manage to work it all out, together. God bless xx
I imagine they would almost have to reconnect my dating again, rather than going right back to married life. Or maybe Adam can visit Bernardo in Brazil and see how that goes. They will figure things out in time
You have such a Beautiful soul, I'm sure you and Adam can reconcile what ever is happening and have a beautiful future ahead.
Bernardo
Só o fato de vc estar olhando pra dentro , e encontrando seus medos, já vai te transformar. Já tenho 65 anos e ao longo da vida descobri que quando vc se basta na solidão, nada vem do outro; tudo está em nós, o que acontece fora foi vc que criou dentro. Segue teu coração e encontre o teu centro, daí por diante o Adam não vai ser um complemento da tua existência, vão ser uma expansão e se tornaram um relacionamento ainda maior. Amo muito vcs juntos e torço para que o melhor chegue a vcs. Beijo Grande
Vc já teve um relacionamento longo?
Bernardo, great video! I too lost my soul dog of 14 years this past April. She gave me purpose in life. I have struggled immensely since. I can totally relate to what you are dealing with on many levels. I lift both you and Adam up during these rough times. Just know we are behind you both, love you both wrapping my arms around you both. You will get through this, you are a strong person ❤
So much love to you, Bernardo. Thank you for being so open and honest; that takes bravery. As I see things, there’s only one “side” for anyone outside your marriage to choose: supportive of your health and happiness (both of you) … or not. I certainly know where I stand, and it’s in the same place I always have. ♥️
May you achieve the goals you’ve set during this time, find healing and new hope, and extend grace to yourselves and each other.
I'm with you. I support them both on their journey together.
So sorry to here about this devastating news Barnardo !! We 🙏🙏🙏 for you and your family !!! May God be with you in this time !!! All our love !❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏
Bernardo! I always love you and you will get through this! I always felt you were trying to make Adam more happy than yourself but I feel that you should take time for yourself and than pleasing others from what I saw! You got this Bernardo! Rooting for you! ❤
Bernardo, I am so sorry you and Adam are going through difficult times! I hope everything is resolved soon. I appreciate your willingness to share your thoughts. Opening up to others, especially online, takes enormous courage and I don’t think I could do it. Watching this video was difficult because I hate to see people hurting, but I finally made it to the end.
Brazil is beautiful. I loved seeing all the cultural diversity. Thank you for sharing your home country with us.
Take care and I hope your marital situation is improving. I love watching your (you and Adam) videos. ❤❤❤❤❤
You are amazing! Thank you for a beautiful, honest video!
Every relationship always seems to go through difficult times just please don’t give up on one another. You guys make me see exactly what I want. You guys the perfect relationship you get there a little time of heart at times but your love and your heart will never change each other. You have a strong family and Adam has a very strong and supportive family. Keep your heads up. We are all here for you. Hope to chat with you soon.
Bernardo...so glad to see you are taking care of yourself and finding your center again. You did a great job with the video and I am sure you will find your way on life's journey!!!
Hey there Bernardo, this was truly an awesome video. Gives an insight about yourself, your personality. Usually you are in the background....but now, it is time to tell your story.
I enjoyed watching this especially with snippets of Brazil, as it is. I truly feel for the emotions you are going through, really makes your true self shine, of how wonderful and loving nature that you have. It always gets hard before it gets better...Keep on going Bernardo...all the way from New Zealand sending love.
Life is not a straight line. It is a challenging rocky terrains with mountains to climb, oceans to swim, paths to discover. This is just a bump on the path. You’ve got this !
Yeah I wish they can just see this like a stone that they need to move away to keep going :D
But there’s no point swimming if the current is going to drown you. Stop being a pair of queens and break up, already 🤗
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Thanks for sharing.
Relationships aren’t easy but you both seem to have the fortitude to move forward and put in the work.
This video helped me put perspective on my relationship and how to move forward.
Thank you.
I wish you both the best.
It's great you're exploring your options, testing your comfort zones. Your bravery is admirable.
Bernardo, thank you for a wonderful, heartfelt video. It is my hope that you and Adam will reach the right point where you will be able to get back together and live a peaceful, loving life.
Wow what a powerful honest sharing of your emotions and life! Thank you for letting us in. ❤
The romantic topic aside, I have never been to Brazil and it was so fun and interesting to see and get a glimpse into living there!! I loved this!
You did a great job putting together the video, Bernardo!! Having said that, it was very hard to watch!! I'm so sorry that both you and Adam are going through this pain in your relationship!! To see you crying broke my heart!! Love and Peace to both of you as navigate through this situation!! Prayers, 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤❤❤
You two are strong and will get through this together sending love from Tampa Bay Florida 😘
Bernardo, so good to see you on the video. Sorry you and Adam are apart now, hoping you will find your way back to each other ! God Bless You and keep you strong
Excellent job on the video. Sometimes the trauma is just too great to overcome. I think you staying in Brazil for that long, your mind and body are telling you something. Your are a beautiful are loving person and I understand the need for the cuddling and body contact, being the same and an Italiano, I yearn for this as well.. Will continue to follow you.
Watched your video and Adam's. It's obvious you care for each other deeply. I'm rooting for both of you. Hugs.
Much love to you Bernardo .. live to Adam as well. The best to you both and strength for the path(s) ahead for each of you. ❤
Thanks for sharing. I see that you 2 really love one another. Hope that it all works out for the both of you!!
Bernardo, my heart goes to you and wish for only the best for you and Adam. It’s really hurt my feelings knowing that you both are not together for the time being. But I really really hope that everything will be ok and you guys will be back together soon. I’ve always ALWAYS on your side and wish for the happiness to you both. Sending love & support from far away…💕💕💕💕💕
i am missing them already holding each other love kissing yes tapping Bernardo on his butt i love that it means he is still madly in love with each other showing love in the public that means it is still there do not give up on each other i am still supporting both of you and Bernardo and Adam
@@kevinmansell8746 that time when patting on the butt is just not enough ~~ they need to become independent and individuals~~
Life can be messy at times, and grieving for Henry, who was part of you and your family, is a process.
There is only one thing that will ease the pain, and that is time. Give that to yourself; you deserve it and you will come out on the other side the better for it and a new version of you.
Seeing you cry for your loss made me actually hurt, I could feel your pain. Just remember that you are not alone.
Wishing you both the very best .
I hope that the two of you are able to work through your differences. I know that there is a lot of information that we do not know about the 2 of you as there should be, but with that said, I hope you decide that the relationship is worth saving. I started watching your videos from the beginning when you 2 were chasing waterfalls. It just scares me that you've been gone this long and I do not see an end in sight. I wish you all the love in the world...
It's not just a relationship, it's a marriage, and that commitment should give an extra nudge to trying to figure out how to be a better married couple. But it ultimately has to be a healthy marriage of course. We noticed too that this separation is getting very long. When Bernardo said it was time to leave that apartment, we thought he was going to return home, but then he said he wanted to get a better furnished apartment, so that is definitely a step towards more independence. Anyway, it's a journey so many ppl have to go through, and everyone deserves to be authentic and happy.
@@tstieber A marriage is still a type of relationship, just with legal sanction.
@@jonwiley2592true, and in addition to legal rights, marriage also includes a public pledge to lifelong commitment, which gives it more weight than a casual relationship
Hello Bernardo!! Thank you for showing use you. Thank you for sharing your feelings and your emotions. I hope both of you guys found a piece and the love within yourself because y’all are both magical. I’ve been with y’all for a long time, I have enjoyed every video that y’all have put out. I just want to say I love you guys and I hope everything works out, and you always have each other for the rest of your lives.
Bernardo, it’s difficult to see yall go through this. Sending big hugs. I’m sure yall will find the best outcome for your situation. Just glad you’re taking care of yourself, and finding yourself. Your videos of Brazil make me want to move there (except I don’t speak Portuguese. 😎
PS - please don’t feel obligated to post videos but you’re missed when we don’t see them. 💜
The more you guys open up the more relatable you are to us .
Past is past. Future is never here. See what you have today in your life that makes you smile and never let it go...❤
Sending hugs Bernardo. You have been through A LOT and have been a MAJOR force and support in your relationship. I'm rooting for the best. xoxo
Good luck for you both. When my husband, 26 years now, had our biggest falling out ever, we decided that no matter what, we know we always want to be together. For the rest of our lives. As you said; you have a strong foundation and that’ll really help. My heart goes out to you both and be strong.
Marriage is probably the hardest job you have. It's a lot of work. Just don't give up. Some time alone will help. Keep talking and keep the communication open. Hoping and wishing you both the very best. Love 💘you both.
Thank you for sharing what you's having been going through. I hope things get better for the both of you's!
Also, you did really well on the filming and editing, i can't wait to see more from you's separately and together. 💕
Wishing you all the best and that the best solution comes forward.
Bernardo, sorry to see you like that, don't stay on your own for long I'm sure you willbe back together soon. Text if you need to talk to someone. You are always welcome here in England to help sort things out, Take care my friend. . X
Bernardo, absolutamente tudo tem seu tempo. Por isso, pode ter certeza de que o melhor para vocês acabará acontecendo e se mostrando.
Geralmente não sou de comentar nos vídeos do UA-cam de nenhum canal, mas dessa vez não tive outra escolha.
Assisti seu vídeo com lágrimas nos olhos. Primeiro porque me importo demais com você e com o Adam, mas, além disso, tudo o que você filmou me trouxe uma nostalgia de como fui feliz em BH. Os melhores e os piores momentos da minha vida passei por aí.
Se não fosse o emprego já teria voltado para BH certamente. Morando tão longe só consigo sentir saudades de como é morar em uma cidade viva, com pessoas caminhando nas calçadas, frequentando bares, ver as manifestações culturais com música, além da diversidade de pessoas.
As vezes o barulho incomoda? Certamente.
Contudo, os pequenos ruídos (de pessoas conversando na rua, do carro da pamonha passando, de cachorros aprontando, ou mesmo de festas ocorrendo na vizinhança) me fazem uma tremenda falta. Sentir que a cidade está viva, que há pessoas além de mim, saber que não estou sozinho naquele ambiente, é algo que me acalenta (não sei explicar muito bem, o que me provoca esse sentimento).
Enfim, é uma cidade que tem meu coração. Uma zona urbana tão grande, mas que conta com uma Serra do Curral tão imponente, com parques e mirantes tão belos. Hoje em dia vejo fotos da região da divisa de Nova Lima com BH e também fico surpreso ao ver o crescimento vertical.
Além disso, meus amigos falam que muita coisa mudou nesses últimos 15 anos. O preconceito ainda existe, claro, mas no geral é uma cidade que tem se tornado muito mais receptiva para a população LGBT. Parte disso acaba sendo justificado pelas novas gerações, que vão crescendo com mentes mais abertas para outras possibilidades de manifestações do amor. Só a questão dos homens héteros se chamarem de “viado” que é algo que eu ainda não consigo conceber, mas que acaba sendo certo vício de linguagem.
Se cuide por aí, respeite seu tempo e fique com minha torcida para que tudo se resolva. Todo amor do mundo para você e para o Adam.
I enjoyed this gift from you so much, sweet Bernardo! I was sad when it was over, and can’t wait to see where you go next. Wherever life takes you, know that we will always be in your heart, as you are in ours. Adam, as well of course. Life is a long time for the fortunate; the good Lord meant for us to live it to the fullest and to find others to enjoy it with. You and Adam are so lucky; some people live their whole life never finding their “one”. You are very different people from such different cultures. You have both learned and shown the Steps Family that we are really all very similar in wants and needs no matter where we live. You’ll decide what matters the most to you; what you need to be happy and fulfilled. I’m so glad you took this time to yourself to try to sort out these issues. Two big recent losses have occurred to complicate things. I feel like this trip home has helped you deal with your grief. You seem lighter, less stressed to me. Being around family and friends has been obviously so good for you. Take all the time you need. You and Adam will figure it out together. He misses and loves you so much and I know you feel the same about him. I wish you the best for the remainder of your trip, and I wish you and Adam peace and joy in your lives going forward. Love and big hugs, sugar. I loved seeing your vibrant hometown! Get a bed, Bro!😁🤗❤️Harriet
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dear bernardo, i know how difficult trauma and loss can be. been with you since the inception of your channel. you said during your emotional release, "sometimes it feels like a lot." it HAS been alot. from your father during covid, to your niece, then henry to now you and adam's relationship. it IS a lot. continue allowing yourself to grieve and treat yourself well during the process like you always have. need to take time to heal and get strong before life throws another curveball. allowing ourselves to grieve and process makes us stronger for what is to come. hang in there and stay safe and blessed. love and prayers from a loyal viewer 0:02 0:02
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Sending prayers for both of you. Nothing is permanent be it good days or bad days. For now cherish the memories. Good times will come again
Adding up … I got married 4 months ago and the country I come from, it doesn’t allow gay marriages which means I had to leave the country in order to get married & guess what I did that, I came to the US, left my life behind, my family, home, gave up my 18 years of career from the aviation industry and I was well established and I thank god for giving me all of this and my husband was with me in all tough times where we both were in 2 different countries, However our problems started almost immediately after the marriage and I and my husband we both started getting depressed to a point that I can’t write here. “I know there is always a sunrise” but being a different country and having to feel left alone at home physically, emotionally and mentally kills me Every minute and there is no one to talk and cry. I sensed your pain resonated with mine in some way and I always wish you both luck to be together soon. My journey of being left alone is just started and I still love my husband because I can’t help myself from not loving him😥😥😥 Request your viewers for prayers towards our marriage and for my husbands emotional wellness Please
WOW,WOW,WOW, great clip! Thanks Bernardo for your openness and being just you!
Very good video Bernardo. I really appreciate your sharing it. I love that you guys have stepped back and are evaluating where you are in your relationship and where you want to be. Your hometown in Brazil looks awesome! Connecting with your true self is definitely the path to successfully navigating through where you find yourself. I look forward to seeing your continued growth and however to decide to proceed. Godspeed! 💌
Relationships are full of ups and downs. Please give each other some grace. I hope you both can eventually come back together. Love is more rare than we realize. I'm rooting for your love.
Sometimes, alone time can help reset your mind and heart. I am praying for the both of you because you belong together.
You,r Both so sweet and sensitive. Hold on guys. Things will get better. Been there. Trust me. Love is everything.
It's difficult to be a spouse or partner of someone with chronic mental or physical health issues, especially if you have a caretaker personality. Compound that with broadcasting your life online and the loss of loved ones, and life can get overwhelming. It doesn't mean you love them any less to take a break.
One of the best videos on this channel. Bernando you are really an amazing guy. Adam too, but you are something special.
Bernardo ! You are now happy back in Brazil ! Sometimes it doesn’t work out and best to move on! ❤
8 years married. Thats a long time.
@@murray1759yeah but didn’t workout out ! Move on ! 🏳️🌈
Dear Bernardo, your first solo video left me very inspired! You are so brave to embark on this solo adventure to find yourself! As a stranger I’m proud of you; you are very honest and raw in this video and I enjoyed being part of your journey and at the same time you motivated me to be brave myself. Sometimes we have to jump into the deep and dark water and hope that we come out alive better and stronger ❤ I wish you all the best and I’m certain that you and Adam will find back to each other ❤
stay strong, rooting for you both
I wish you and Adam the best, hopefully together but even if not we will always “ship” you both!!!
Remember your vows and how you felt getting married. It's a LONG commitment and take a LOT of work.
This is what I came here to say. And, you don’t work on your relationship from 2 different continents!
It's refreshing to read a comment like this. I'm one of those who still believes in the sacredness of marriage, and a strong belief with vows between a couple. Vows are one of the guiding principles the help couples ground themselves and believe their 'why' in their marriage, in their partnership.
Sending you lots of hugs Bernardo! Take time for yourself to ground and heal and work things out inside yourself. Everybody needs that sometimes and you took the right step, even if it feels very hard. Hope you and Adam can embrace each other very soon again! ❤
Don't fret guys you'll be fine. a relationship will never be perfect..hard work and compromise is key.
i think it is only temporary Bernardo wants to see his family and friends Adam and Bernardo still love one another it is not going to die down anytime soon
It’s also fine if it doesn’t work out. What’s important is being happy and healthy.
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Bernardo, wishing you peace, strength and love as you continue to look deep into your soul and navigate this journey you are on. You have such a good heart and deserve so much joy and happiness in your life! ❤❤
When we are in mourning, whether for the past or something we are still living through, it's important to allow the tears to flow, because they are a form of release. They help us process the pain, so that we can find clarity and understand that, even in the midst of darkness, life goes on and brings new paths. Giving time to a relationship is an opportunity to regain your strength, to take a closer look at yourself, and to realize what truly matters. We all carry scars, and each one tells a story of survival, but we cannot let those marks define our future. I hope this time away brings healing for you, so that you can return stronger and with a lighter heart. Love is a journey, and sometimes, taking a pause is what allows us to move forward with more wisdom.
Excellent video Bernardo! It is good to see "Y💛U"
Your vulnerability is beautiful and endearing
You and Adam hold such individual uniqueness
Stay strong as individuals and you marriage will continually strengthen
Much love and peace...
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Love you more. Don't give up. Be kind to yourself. Bernardo be kind to Adam as well.
Bernardo, I love you and Adam both as a couple and individuals. Thank you so much for sharing when you didn't have to. I hope both of you find some more inner peace. You're sacrificing now for a better future. Keep working at it and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. All the best!
This is for you both(Bernardo and Adam)...GOD brought you two together as a couple don't allow any one or any thing to break that, including family/friends/personal feelings that does not accommodate the growth of you two as one. Y'all need to get back to what y'all enjoyed together, get back to when y'all where in Brazil and dating, get back to the happy times...but this time do it without the help of negative medication. As a family member on the outside looking in over the past 7 years, I believe y'all need to get away from where y'all live(honestly the states might not be for y'all)...Move to a place where it is easy for y'all too travel and work, get to water(Oceans, Beaches, Lakes, and Waterfalls)...Get back to the things that bring y'all bought joy and happiness as a couple...also get back to the relationship like y'all once had which was one full of affection and love, since y'all have been here in the states y'all have gotten away from that a lot...But take a little more time apart and then get back to work on fixing the broken pieces of the relationship which "can not be done individually"...Remember you can work on being one together while also working on yourself as an individual but you can't keep separating and running away. Love Y'all ❤ and let's get back to work **A&B 4eva and Always**
Thank you for sharing your story, Bernardo ❤
I have been a subscriber on this channel since December 2020, and I must say that I always felt that you need to be more open and vocal (as far as is comfortable for you, of course).
You are one of those sweet souls who keeps on giving until you are depleted. You keep on bending yourself over backward to support and please those around you. Over the last 2 years, you have improved a lot in being able to put yourself first. This is great. Keep on working on that.
All the best to you on your journey.
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Oh no 😢 I hope you guys get through this. My prayers goes out to you guys.
I already commented on Patreon but I would like to add something. For me there is no doubt that the two of you belong together. Going through a tough time in a relationship is quite normal. I know I've been there a few times in my 25 year relationship and marriage with my husband. Please don't give up on each other and Even though I'm repeating myself from previous posts, don't forget your wedding vows. Marriage is also about compromises without losing yourself. Love you guys.
Foreigners not in step, maybe the name of this particular video. As a casual and only occasional observer of your projected world, I have noticed a vibrancy from 8 years ago slowly dim over the trials of life. My only exhortation I encourage is "what is the sound of your own voice?" What makes you feel vibrant and where do you feel most vibrant?
You and Adam have such a strong foundation. Keep working on it and your love for each other will eventually win out.
Bernardo estamos contigo ❤ Espero que você consiga encontrar a paz e a si mesmo nessa volta ao Lar, pois o Brasil sempre será sua casa ❤ Sei que é difícil esse processo ainda mais estando junto de alguém por muitos anos sem ninguém perto e isso eu digo de ciclo social, mas continue firme que as coisas vão melhorar e talvez seja bom fazer terapia com alguém brasileiro, pois talvez a conexão com o idioma materno ajuda em você se soltar e conseguir dizer tudo o que sente
Loved the video Bernardo. Wish nothing but health and happiness for you and Adam. It really moved me when you talked about being an affectonate passionate person and having to alter this part of you in the relationship or reach common ground with your partner. I can relate. Try to get that part back and make no apologies for it I say ❤